What are YOUR thoughts on this de-influencing trend? 🤔 Please like this video + subscribe if you want more reality-based minimalism content and get 10 tips to stop impulse buying here: atozenlife.com/how-to-stop-impulse-buying/
I work with low income students, and one of the things I tell them to help them build financial literacy skills is to watch who they watch online. I encourage them to notice if the people they follow help them appreciate what they already have or cause them to want something more. I'm going to ask them next week what they think of the de-influencing trend.
You have so much integrity. I appreciate genuine people like you. I’m all about decluttering, fixing, repurposing, giving away & donating. If I can sell something I do. A lot of people just stick everything in the trash. Very sad.
When I hear people saying the minimalism "trend" is fading. I think a lot of that is people who were following minimalism as a decor trend. I doubt that people who became minimalists, as in changed their lifestyle, are now thinking, "We'll, what's the next lifestyle trend I can follow?"
I completely agree!! Minimalism as a lifestyle is not a trend. My guess is that many people who used it as a decorating aesthetic probably kept much of their possessions in bins and have since dug it all back out for their next decor trend.
@@mwebb3014 or they're just thrilled to have a new reason to shop. I know I enjoy looking at new decor; but I don't feel ANY desire to buy things I don't need.
I know this may sound extreme but minimalism is saving lives, I suffer my anxiety disorder and having enough and having a clean, open space is necessary for my life and I’m sure many others. I value having a my personal space this way. You’re doing a good job, people are still interested in a scaling down and finding joy with the things they have.
This video just made me realize how much money I save by literally not caring about trends or what's "popular." But if de-influencing reduces mindless consumption and therefore reduces how much stuff ends up in landfill, I'm all for it.
And honestly I don't think anyone cares about what someone else is wearing.... People care about themselves. And if they are focused on someone else and insulting them with judgement that is a problem that person has.... Not the person wearing what they want or are comfortable in.
I've been influenced twice to buy things. First was Function of Beauty personalised shampoo & conditioner (influenced by Zoe Sugg) and second was Tropeaka vegan protein powder (influenced by Sarah's Day). Both items were terrible and I've never been influenced to buy anything again. I prefer to go off recommendations from friends who absolutely love a product and aren't being paid to "sell" it to me.
thank you for passing the message! lots of chanels start great and then,greedy or pushed, advertise some dangerous items (vitamines?!) or usless things ....what a sad world.....
Yes Filter your follows! I unsubscribed from many yt channels who were constantly trying to influence me to buy things. I was really falling for it and finally got fed up! I appreciate you not selling selling selling!!
I've always noticed and respected how minimal you are with sponsorships. There would be a disconnect if you preached minimalism in one breath, then urged viewers to buy things in the next breath. I appreciate your integrity, even when there's a financial incentive to sell things. Thank you!
Thank you for influencing me to be mindful of how my surroundings affect me. I have worked to create habits of decluttering and conscious consumerism. Today I opened a drawer in my kitchen, saw the 12 items in there, and smiled. I felt grateful to have useful things easy to identify and grab when I need. That's my minimalist goal and you have helped me get there.
Thank you for your honest videos. Yours is pretty much the only one I watch all the time. My minimalism journey has been in fits and starts, and it’s taking a while, but I’m getting there. It really started over ten years ago when my mother’s husband passed away and my siblings and I spent a week getting rid of the stuff she had hoarded (with him) over the years. (Like a storage rental full of unopened packages from the shopping channel …) I decided I didn’t want to make my children go through the agonizing task of having to get rid of my stuff after I pass away. So I’m deliberately reducing the stuff I own. It’s taken years, but I’m getting there. By the time I leave this earth, they’ll have nothing but a pick-up truck’s worth of quality used goods to take to charity. That’s the goal anyway.
A stand-up desk with a treadmill belt (under the desk treadmill) combo I'd recommend all day for people who have a desk job and want to add movement specifically throughout their work day - I find it to be a mental and physical health benefit.
Thank you for being SO HONEST in your videos. It's honestly very tiring and contradictory for minimalist content creators to be shoving sponsorships down your throat and that sometimes happens. I'm glad to hear that you're making ends meet without resorting to that whatsoever. Best of luck to you and your family :)
I am digging content like this! It’s been 12 days since I haven’t bought anything. I know it’s not a lot but I’ve already learned that there is a big difference between want and need and I realised I really don’t need much! My husband is thrilled haha😂
I had never heard of defluensing, but it sounds like one of many trends that come and go on Tiktok, one week it is minimalism, the next it is cluttercore... I like your down to earth, realistic style of minimalism. Lots of love! 🎉🎉🎉
the crazy thing is some items I wanted for YEARS (for example roller skates) but when I got them I still lost interest fast 😅 somehow I was much more excited anticipating getting the item than when I actually got it. This has lead me to now creating "reward" lists for achieving certain things in my life where I can then buy an item I have wanted for a while. I am generally excited to get that item but by the time the achievement rolls around I usually don't even want it anymore and I saved space and money while still feeling like I allowed myself to purchase the item - I never said I couldn't get it I just made myself wait until I didn't want to 😂
I used to have an “almost” shopping addiction. And “surprise”, nothing I bought really made me happy, and after becoming more minimalist- I love giving most of what I bought away to bless others that need or want these items. I can truly say that very few “things” make me happy, and that is where true joy and freedom are found 💕
Thank you for that! Your channel is so inspiring and calming and I hate watching the minimalist videos that have an ad in the middle of it. I appreciate your integrity
I enjoy your positivity and honesty in your posts, I look forward to each new video. You make me feel confident in the minimal-ish life style I choose and how much better I feel. Thank you.
The mascara gate is so confusing to me because she uses filters every video yet no one is mad about her foundation reviews! It’s like regular social media users can’t even see filters any more.
What a great idea - a bathrobe tie - like the old rag curls! I just look out the window at people walking past on holidays to see what the fashion trends are. Then I “shop” from my own things to find a similar colour or style. Waiting for the day my clothes wear out to sew.
I have never heard of de-influencing (I don’t use SM except YT) so thank you for sharing this new concept. And yes, it basically sounds like minimalism to me. 😆 Like the example, you don’t need 14 blushes, lol. That’s what mini has been saying from the beginning 😂
As a design history enthusiast, I’m so glad you talked about the roots of minimalism from the 60s (it could actually be traced a little earlier to the Bauhaus and their influence). The whole movement started as a rejection of the highly decorative Victorian era. I had not heard of “de-influencing,” but I appreciate your authenticity and for breaking it all down. Things like this are like fashion - it all goes in cycles!
You influence me to live intentionally and to appreciate owning less. I struggle with anxiety/ocd and decluttering + buying less since I found your channel last year is one of the core lifestyle changes that relieves so many of my symptoms. Thank you, friend. =)
I created a RUclips playlist I call channels on hold. I use it to quarantine a channel that I want to remember and watch a few videos of occasionally but I DON’T want the daily deluge in my RUclips subscription feed. It started with my reaction to “vlogmas” that annual deluge that RUclips pushes its creators to pump out but I soon saw that it helped me year round. Now I put a single video in there, saved as a bookmark for that channel and unsubscribe for a while. When I miss them I don’t have to search all over YT for a half forgotten name. I go into my playlist and resubscribe temporarily. Rinse and repeat.
I love your channel, probably because you are very unwavering in your minimalism and it is inspiring. I've learnt a lot from your videos and even though I think I now know enough to unsubscribe (like I do with other channels) I found that I still want to see your new videos! When you're talking it's like meeting up and listening to an old friend. So I stay here as your loyal subscriber! Stay healthy, Marissa!
Honestly, since I started binge watching/listening to minimalism videos, I've been purging like crazy. I have now made up three bags of donations and am going to donate them today. I hadn't realized how many pairs of pants I own, as well as shirts! I have now started using my work pants (I have to wear black pants and have a huge influx of them) on regular days! It sounds strange, but for almost a year my closet door has been squeaking when I open it. I didn't realize it was due to my clothes! Now that I've started going through my stuff, I'm actually getting compliments on how my room looks!
I love your videos. I feel so much less stressed since I started the minimalist journey 4 years ago. I come from an organized hoarder family. Tons of things on the walls, doilies everywhere too!😵💫😵💫
Same here, too! At me parents' house I usually feel overwhelmed when looking around - every cupboard and every surface is full of books and knick knacks, I just want to take it and throw it all out... And then see how much - or little of it- I would put back into those rooms. I've been working on those hoarder genes for many years now, quite successfully, I'd say.
You have so many subscribers because you are a genuine minimalist, and don't bombard us with things we 'need'. Avoid any RUclips channels that advertise products, avoid Instagram and Tik Tok altogether - that's my advice!
This is so right. Lately I have been noticing even podcast have so many ads. Some of my favorite influencers is the minimalist, with Josh, Ryan, TK. They refuse to have ads. They trust their product of living is good enough. I didn’t realize how much I enjoyed videos without ads. Also don’t even get me started on the restocking videos. No ads but it sure is the power of suggestion.
As a senior seniors, we become even more minimal everyday. Although our home is on the spartan side, we create a luxurious veg garden every year. Extra produce goes to neighbors, Food Bank, and the Homeless Center. I also decline the free stuff that would just be clutter.
Somehow was sugggested this video - it should be noted that a creator named Kimberly Clark (drag character/makeup channel of Chris Giarmo) used to do regular video on 'what Im not going to buy' years before de-influening was a word.
For me a minimalistic buy was the Dyson air wrap 😬🙈 I have super frizzy hair and it straightens my hair as no other tool I could buy and saves me so much time and money. But yes, get your idea on deinfluencers.
Didn't even know about that "de-influencing" trend 😁 I try to make more conscious choices and avoid impulsive purchases at all costs. I try to go second-hand whenever possible and do a lot of research before buying if it's a more expensive product.
Fabulous video! We have been practicing 1 in 1 out rule for years. But the 30 day wait is absolutely genius! I have been also getting rid of the things that were my fantasy self. Thanks so much. My hubby is going to be so happy about our spending/not spending because of your influence 😊😊😊
Thank you for this video. Since I don’t have TikTok, instagram I didn’t know about this trend, here on YT I follow just few channels (with yours included) simply because I was influenced constantly to buy more and more stuff which I don’t need + I am a phone addict which I have been fighting for the last two years. I love how real you are :) thank you!
Unrelated to your video, I love your editing style and the typing noise you use. It's always a pleasure sitting down with a cuppa and watch your videos.
I must say, I don't have social media other than RUclips. I generally don't even know what's trending. We live very frugally on my husband's income on a farm in South Africa. I'm happier for it! Years ago we were in debt because I bought so much we didn't need. I'm glad to have moved onto a simple, slow and minimal life thanks to you and other "influencers" who know what we really need - none of the "stuff"!
I´m never ever leaving minimalism it saved my life and my sanity! Like WoW i got a freaking sigh of ahhhhh i feel so calm!! I have stopped shopping i only buy what i need like food and gas and yeah utility. I love this channel and marissa is a genius and so insightful about the topics she´s passionate about!
Haha! I live this! I first heard about the Stanley cup from the Utah Mom spoof and then realised it was everywhere on a lot of the youtubers i subscribe to ( not you of course!) and the dyson air thibg i thought must be some kind of vacuum cleaner, but no - a hair thing for $600 is nuts. All i do with my hair is wash and brush it, but i remember my sister and me, when we were kids, using rages to curl our hair overnight. It's so effective, in fact my sister's hair kind of ended up permed for a while she did it so much! Thanks for triggering this really happy memory for me ☺️
So interesting that you brought this topic up - I don't think I'm anyone's target audience so I don't think influencing has crossed my radar much, but I was doing some searching for cleaning tools and started noticing that a lot of a certain style of accounts were using the same cleaning products and tools - like EVERYONE was using the EXACT same stuff. But then when I looked at accounts that were by professional cleaners, they were using much more simple and non branded products for their videos. It made me think that awareness of the motivation behind the account (are they there to make a pretty video with a lot of "#satisfying" content or are thy there to show you how they clean a dirty bathtub) is helpful in being discerning about which recommendations to take or not.
Amen to everything you said! I appreciate your integrity. When we are so easily influenced, we don't even know who we are. I ditto everything that Candace McGuire said in her comment below. I'm never leaving minimalism. Though it may be a trend for some, it's a way of life!
You always have such great tips on saving money! And this one hits home. My inbox is also full of junk offers and ridiculous products I would never use. I have only taken on 1 sponsor since I started my channel and it was a company I was already using and loving. I have said yes to items in the past for my blog, items I truly loved, and if I didn’t need them, I gave them away, which was fun and felt really good.
Hi! Just started doing the "mins game" to declutter my life and help my stress during my PhD. I have just been influenced... Realized I have bread, peanut butter, and jalapeños so I paused and made a sandwich. I have no regrets from being influenced, it was so good 🥳!
Thank you for this post. 😎Your honesty and vulnerability are always impressive. I have made it a habit to go through the accounts I follow on social media twice a year to unfollow all those which are not relevant to me anymore. Most of the minimalists are indeed (paid) influencer... And I just realised that you are one of the two minimalists I still follow. The other one I really like is Connie Riet. Greetings from Switzerland!
Thanks for the honest Video I unfortunately Got rid of many minimalism Channels in RUclips just because they started sponsoring stuff I dont need, and doing exactly the opposite of what minimalism tries to achieve: the consumerism. And trying to make Money Out of their cool sponsorhips ....It Feels so wrong to me, and i am glad you dont get attracted by this moneymaking buy strategies.... Bleib so wie du bist :)
Gotta love the post modern vibe, I tried to find the name of that style dining room chair it is an old style. But for current searches I found the words “asbury” or “metrocles” or “Magis Chair One” all work for similar types!
That’s exactly what happened to me, I realized over time I got/am addicted to spending spending spending. It was a miracle to come across a channel like this. Instagram is like eating too many chocolate bars in one sitting! I deleted all social media platforms, and started watching your playlist for minimalism + saving money 💰 most of the time, I’ve started buying from Poshmark .. I’m going to do a no spend challenge
I also was very confused by these products, but realistically, I haven’t been motivated to buy something because someone else had it since I was about 14. I guess I’m a bit of an odd duck I would only buy stuff, too much of it that’s true , that I found interesting and worthwhile. Now I know I don’t have to keep anything that was interesting and useful during a season of my life but now isn’t. so now my space is much easier to work in and I know everything I own.
I wait MONTHS and MONTHS before I buy things a lot of the time!!! I've actually wanted the Dyson Airwrap for years and am thinking of putting money aside because I've wanted it for at least 5 years now and I think it might be a useful purchase. However I'm waiting for my regular blowdryer to break first!
Minimalism was so much easier as a kid in the early 70s. We used clean knee-high socks to put curls in our hair when we were kids. 🤣 Love your channel.
The "wait and see" approach never works for me - I just obsess over the thing until I finally buy it. However, making myself wait 30 days might be worthwhile- if nothing else it might space out my unnecessary purchases and lead to fewer in total.
My sister did a lot of research into finding happiness a few years ago (research shows that regret is the emotion statistically most related to shopping). One of the practices she read about for avoiding buying an item you are trying to resist was to pick up the item (if it's online, maybe touch the picture on the screen) and hold it and really think honestly and consciously about the item, where it will be stored, how many other items like it that you have. It's almost like a personal conversation with the item. You go through the full list in your head, then remind yourself that you don't need the item, you likely won't actually use it, and that if you buy the item, you won't feel happy; you'll feel regretful.
I used to have the same problem, stewing over the things on my wait list. But then I found that if I saved the item to a Pinterest wishlist board (that I never looked at) it tricked my brain into feeling as if I had bought the thing and then I would forget about it almost completely! I wouldn’t even register that the “purchase” never arrived because I didn’t actually need it or want it that much. It would break that tension of anticipation that you get when you’re deciding whether to buy. Apparently the happiest part of buying something is the moment after you decide to buy it but before handing over the money. It’s all downhill after because now you’re stuck with the reality of the item, not just the imagined potential.
Peanut butter and jalapenos is an Indonesian product called gado gado. I used to eat it on a sandwich at mij grandmothers house all the time. It was a bit spicy for a chiled so I would put some fresh cucumber slices on top 🙂
Loved this👍....I'm the same as you. I've never heard of these products either🤣..but I am not on Instagram or Tick Tock, I don't "surf shop" and do not do "online shopping"...and I have been minimalistic for years. I recently heard about this "new trend for advertising" from another you tuber who said she wouldn't do it! and said the "de-influencing" gets them more money.. ie because tell you not to buy a product from a competitors company (ie trash that product), but then tell you to buy product X from company Y who they get paid by to promote it. I find the whole thing just ridiculous and crazy.. its shocking to think people waste their life on brainless tick tock stuff...and then are even more stupid to go and buy all the stuff they do not need! Ps minimalism ONLY became "a trend" after the Americans discovered there is an alternative way to live other than consumerism and maximalism after the Americans discovered the "Con Marie" method. But the truth is minimalism has been around forever to differing degrees, in different cultures, for different reasons... it is not a new "way of living" concept at all 🙄.
I think it's also helpful to remember - if you find yourself easily tempted by these trends - that there will ALWAYS be the next big thing. In 2016 with the height of the beauty community, it was makeup - now, it's skin care. A couple of years ago, everyone went crazy over hydroflasks and hoarded them in every size and colour, now it's stanley cups, and so on and so on... It's always a learning curve to try and find what works best for you, and there is nothing wrong with wanting to check out a couple of reviews. Just try to remember that different things have different values for different people - what the influencer you enjoy watching places high value on today, might be gone by tomorrow. That shouldn’t be the case for you. Enjoy the things that work for you, and do so unapologetically 🖤
Love this video. Your points are right on track! Also, gotta say, I adore PB and jalapeño. There's a burger place I adore that offers a burger with PB and jalapeño jam. And, includes BACON, ya'll! The BEST!
De-influencing is just another way to solidify the mindset that which Things you have matters, or which Things you eschew matters. It's just another way to put Stuff at the center of life. I so appreciate watching your videos knowing I am safe from the sponsorship push. No matter how fair we want to be, as soon as we become invested financially we really can't see completely straight. That's not to say "commercials" are bad, just that they always need to be taken with a grain of salt, just like always.
I have not heard of DeInfluencing. . . haha I love your humor in this video by the way. Oh my goodness, one of your skirts (a boho one) I saw in your closet is one I used to have (but I wore it so much it ripped haha). Or at least the same pattern that was on my skirt was used on the skirt you had...Never seen someone with something like it so I smiled! Anyway, I am in agreement with you: buy based off of your interests. I have always been that type, but I am also one who is extremely conscious of where my items come from. I think it is good that you don't promote things you don't need. I appreciate that a lot. When I was a vintage fashion blogger (who did the one in one out type of thing while doing it since I was a minimalist for a few years already then), I was offered SO MANY things to promote. I said "no" to a lot of it, but "yes" to things that I actually still use (13 years later).
I loved that Jalapeño-PB Sandwich! will totally try it 😊 A friend makes Jalapeño jam from her garden and it is just sooo good! Thanks for a really well done and informative video! Happy Spring time!
I like my Ruggable. Because I have it in the foyer by the front door it gets dirty quickly. It’s really easy to toss it in the washer every few weeks. I will say, though, that mine is much smaller than yours so maybe that makes a difference.
I watch a lot of beauty RUclipsrs (though I rarely if ever wear makeup myself nor do I do anything with my hair lol) and the vast majority of them have said the Dyson air wrap is not worth the money. I think there are cheaper dupes for it but I’d never buy it no matter the price so 🤷🏻♀️
Well, that is the good thing about being minimalist, you not only ignore "trends", most of the time one is not even aware of them! Anyway, minimalism is not a trend, it is a way of life.
Didn't know it was a trend just got tired of having all these annoying alerts of content I didn't care about but this is great definitely need it, I also call it declutter the digital life
I need to de-influence myself from listening to influencers who tell me what shoes to wear with what pants with what shirts. I already do not follow them, but I need to stop taking what they say as gospel because all it does is make me discontent with my clothes. I will be wearing my flare jeans with my oversized sweaters with my Ugg boots because I like it and I’m warm in -30 degree weather (Fahrenheit).
What are YOUR thoughts on this de-influencing trend? 🤔 Please like this video + subscribe if you want more reality-based minimalism content and get 10 tips to stop impulse buying here: atozenlife.com/how-to-stop-impulse-buying/
I work with low income students, and one of the things I tell them to help them build financial literacy skills is to watch who they watch online. I encourage them to notice if the people they follow help them appreciate what they already have or cause them to want something more. I'm going to ask them next week what they think of the de-influencing trend.
You have so much integrity. I appreciate genuine people like you. I’m all about decluttering, fixing, repurposing, giving away & donating. If I can sell something I do. A lot of people just stick everything in the trash. Very sad.
Wow. Love the curls trick. You teach us to multi purpose use items in our home therefore owning fewer items to take care of
Omg. The people that make dictionaries must pay you for that word you created
Girl you better get those sponsors. That will pay college for your boys.
When I hear people saying the minimalism "trend" is fading. I think a lot of that is people who were following minimalism as a decor trend. I doubt that people who became minimalists, as in changed their lifestyle, are now thinking, "We'll, what's the next lifestyle trend I can follow?"
I completely agree!! Minimalism as a lifestyle is not a trend. My guess is that many people who used it as a decorating aesthetic probably kept much of their possessions in bins and have since dug it all back out for their next decor trend.
@@mwebb3014 or they're just thrilled to have a new reason to shop. I know I enjoy looking at new decor; but I don't feel ANY desire to buy things I don't need.
I agree!
I agree. There is a night and day difference between the minimal aesthetic and living with only items we love and find useful.
@@thebarky1988 buying useful not only saves a lot of money, but also time saved from shopping, to enjoy the things you really love to do.
I know this may sound extreme but minimalism is saving lives, I suffer my anxiety disorder and having enough and having a clean, open space is necessary for my life and I’m sure many others. I value having a my personal space this way. You’re doing a good job, people are still interested in a scaling down and finding joy with the things they have.
This video just made me realize how much money I save by literally not caring about trends or what's "popular."
But if de-influencing reduces mindless consumption and therefore reduces how much stuff ends up in landfill, I'm all for it.
I wish more people really did not care what others think, especially young people forming spending habits.
Yeah me too.... You think I would be rich though..... 😂 Not so much.
And honestly I don't think anyone cares about what someone else is wearing.... People care about themselves. And if they are focused on someone else and insulting them with judgement that is a problem that person has.... Not the person wearing what they want or are comfortable in.
I've been influenced twice to buy things. First was Function of Beauty personalised shampoo & conditioner (influenced by Zoe Sugg) and second was Tropeaka vegan protein powder (influenced by Sarah's Day). Both items were terrible and I've never been influenced to buy anything again. I prefer to go off recommendations from friends who absolutely love a product and aren't being paid to "sell" it to me.
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That sucks, but you could also look at it as money well spent on a lesson...like some of the crap I bought from Instagram ads 🙃
thank you for passing the message! lots of chanels start great and then,greedy or pushed, advertise some dangerous items (vitamines?!) or usless things ....what a sad world.....
Yes Filter your follows! I unsubscribed from many yt channels who were constantly trying to influence me to buy things. I was really falling for it and finally got fed up! I appreciate you not selling selling selling!!
Thanks Gail and happy to have you here ❤️
I've always noticed and respected how minimal you are with sponsorships. There would be a disconnect if you preached minimalism in one breath, then urged viewers to buy things in the next breath. I appreciate your integrity, even when there's a financial incentive to sell things. Thank you!
LOVED that you called out the Dyson Airwrap. I am so tired of every influencer under the sun recommending it, when it is bloody expensive!
Thank you for influencing me to be mindful of how my surroundings affect me. I have worked to create habits of decluttering and conscious consumerism. Today I opened a drawer in my kitchen, saw the 12 items in there, and smiled. I felt grateful to have useful things easy to identify and grab when I need. That's my minimalist goal and you have helped me get there.
Thank you for your honest videos. Yours is pretty much the only one I watch all the time. My minimalism journey has been in fits and starts, and it’s taking a while, but I’m getting there. It really started over ten years ago when my mother’s husband passed away and my siblings and I spent a week getting rid of the stuff she had hoarded (with him) over the years. (Like a storage rental full of unopened packages from the shopping channel …) I decided I didn’t want to make my children go through the agonizing task of having to get rid of my stuff after I pass away. So I’m deliberately reducing the stuff I own. It’s taken years, but I’m getting there. By the time I leave this earth, they’ll have nothing but a pick-up truck’s worth of quality used goods to take to charity. That’s the goal anyway.
I am clearly a “Non Influenced” person, but I very much enjoy your videos 🙏👏💖
A stand-up desk with a treadmill belt (under the desk treadmill) combo I'd recommend all day for people who have a desk job and want to add movement specifically throughout their work day - I find it to be a mental and physical health benefit.
I’ve been seeing that lately and I’m seriously tempted! 😄
@@AtoZenLife I bought one that sits on top of my existing desk.
Thank you for being SO HONEST in your videos. It's honestly very tiring and contradictory for minimalist content creators to be shoving sponsorships down your throat and that sometimes happens. I'm glad to hear that you're making ends meet without resorting to that whatsoever. Best of luck to you and your family :)
I am digging content like this! It’s been 12 days since I haven’t bought anything. I know it’s not a lot but I’ve already learned that there is a big difference between want and need and I realised I really don’t need much! My husband is thrilled haha😂
That’s a whole 12 days. 🍰
@@amandamadden8641 🥰😘
I had never heard of defluensing, but it sounds like one of many trends that come and go on Tiktok, one week it is minimalism, the next it is cluttercore... I like your down to earth, realistic style of minimalism. Lots of love! 🎉🎉🎉
Thank you for being an honest RUclipsr! I love that you don't try to "influence" us just to make money. I trust you so much more.
Thank you, that means a lot! 🙏
Your channel is such a ✨️breath of fresh air✨️Thank you 🤍
Thanks so much, Kayla 🙏
👌🏻 May I echo that thought 🥰
Yeeeess
Your integrity is so refreshing, thank you for having an uplifting and honest space on the web. They're very rare
This is just one of the things I love about you and your channel. You are so transparent and kinds. It's always a delight to watch!
I've loved your channel for a long time. Thank you for keeping your words true and for showing realism not just minimalism.
Thanks Megan! That’s a huge compliment 🙏
the crazy thing is some items I wanted for YEARS (for example roller skates) but when I got them I still lost interest fast 😅 somehow I was much more excited anticipating getting the item than when I actually got it. This has lead me to now creating "reward" lists for achieving certain things in my life where I can then buy an item I have wanted for a while. I am generally excited to get that item but by the time the achievement rolls around I usually don't even want it anymore and I saved space and money while still feeling like I allowed myself to purchase the item - I never said I couldn't get it I just made myself wait until I didn't want to 😂
I love the idea of reward lists! Roller skates 🛼 seem to really be having a moment right now…I find it very nostalgic 😂
Finally someone is talking about this. Loved how real she is and how she stayed true to her values❤
Thank you for standing your ground, genuinely recommending ideas and life hacks to people. More power to you and your channel 💕
I used to have an “almost” shopping addiction. And “surprise”, nothing I bought really made me happy, and after becoming more minimalist- I love giving most of what I bought away to bless others that need or want these items. I can truly say that very few “things” make me happy, and that is where true joy and freedom are found 💕
Thank you for that! Your channel is so inspiring and calming and I hate watching the minimalist videos that have an ad in the middle of it. I appreciate your integrity
I enjoy your positivity and honesty in your posts, I look forward to each new video. You make me feel confident in the minimal-ish life style I choose and how much better I feel. Thank you.
The mascara gate is so confusing to me because she uses filters every video yet no one is mad about her foundation reviews! It’s like regular social media users can’t even see filters any more.
I love your videos and advice. Thanks for this.
What a great idea - a bathrobe tie - like the old rag curls! I just look out the window at people walking past on holidays to see what the fashion trends are. Then I “shop” from my own things to find a similar colour or style. Waiting for the day my clothes wear out to sew.
I love the way you stand your ground, have integrity and stay true to your own values. That is worth so much and make me enjoy your channel even more!
I have never heard of de-influencing (I don’t use SM except YT) so thank you for sharing this new concept. And yes, it basically sounds like minimalism to me. 😆 Like the example, you don’t need 14 blushes, lol. That’s what mini has been saying from the beginning 😂
Exactly 😁
As a design history enthusiast, I’m so glad you talked about the roots of minimalism from the 60s (it could actually be traced a little earlier to the Bauhaus and their influence). The whole movement started as a rejection of the highly decorative Victorian era. I had not heard of “de-influencing,” but I appreciate your authenticity and for breaking it all down. Things like this are like fashion - it all goes in cycles!
I also instantly thought about the Bauhaus!!
You influence me to live intentionally and to appreciate owning less. I struggle with anxiety/ocd and decluttering + buying less since I found your channel last year is one of the core lifestyle changes that relieves so many of my symptoms. Thank you, friend. =)
I created a RUclips playlist I call channels on hold. I use it to quarantine a channel that I want to remember and watch a few videos of occasionally but I DON’T want the daily deluge in my RUclips subscription feed.
It started with my reaction to “vlogmas” that annual deluge that RUclips pushes its creators to pump out but I soon saw that it helped me year round.
Now I put a single video in there, saved as a bookmark for that channel and unsubscribe for a while. When I miss them I don’t have to search all over YT for a half forgotten name. I go into my playlist and resubscribe temporarily. Rinse and repeat.
WOOOOW!!!! I love your channel! Thank you for your messages! I am trying the 30 day no spend challenge and these concepts are helping me a lot!
Thank you for your sincerity and also for your wise, kind, and heartfelt videos.
I love your channel, probably because you are very unwavering in your minimalism and it is inspiring. I've learnt a lot from your videos and even though I think I now know enough to unsubscribe (like I do with other channels) I found that I still want to see your new videos! When you're talking it's like meeting up and listening to an old friend. So I stay here as your loyal subscriber! Stay healthy, Marissa!
Oh that is so sweet. I appreciate having you here after all this time ❤️
Honestly, since I started binge watching/listening to minimalism videos, I've been purging like crazy. I have now made up three bags of donations and am going to donate them today. I hadn't realized how many pairs of pants I own, as well as shirts!
I have now started using my work pants (I have to wear black pants and have a huge influx of them) on regular days!
It sounds strange, but for almost a year my closet door has been squeaking when I open it. I didn't realize it was due to my clothes! Now that I've started going through my stuff, I'm actually getting compliments on how my room looks!
I love your videos. I feel so much less stressed since I started the minimalist journey 4 years ago. I come from an organized hoarder family. Tons of things on the walls, doilies everywhere too!😵💫😵💫
I’m glad your stress levels are reducing, thanks for watching 🤗
Same here, too! At me parents' house I usually feel overwhelmed when looking around - every cupboard and every surface is full of books and knick knacks, I just want to take it and throw it all out... And then see how much - or little of it- I would put back into those rooms.
I've been working on those hoarder genes for many years now, quite successfully, I'd say.
You have so many subscribers because you are a genuine minimalist, and don't bombard us with things we 'need'. Avoid any RUclips channels that advertise products, avoid Instagram and Tik Tok altogether - that's my advice!
This is so right. Lately I have been noticing even podcast have so many ads. Some of my favorite influencers is the minimalist, with Josh, Ryan, TK. They refuse to have ads. They trust their product of living is good enough.
I didn’t realize how much I enjoyed videos without ads. Also don’t even get me started on the restocking videos. No ads but it sure is the power of suggestion.
What is "their product of living"?
As a senior seniors, we become even more minimal everyday. Although our home is on the spartan side, we create a luxurious veg garden every year. Extra produce goes to neighbors, Food Bank, and the Homeless Center. I also decline the free stuff that would just be clutter.
Somehow was sugggested this video - it should be noted that a creator named Kimberly Clark (drag character/makeup channel of Chris Giarmo) used to do regular video on 'what Im not going to buy' years before de-influening was a word.
For me a minimalistic buy was the Dyson air wrap 😬🙈 I have super frizzy hair and it straightens my hair as no other tool
I could buy and saves me so much time and money. But yes, get your idea on deinfluencers.
Didn't even know about that "de-influencing" trend 😁 I try to make more conscious choices and avoid impulsive purchases at all costs. I try to go second-hand whenever possible and do a lot of research before buying if it's a more expensive product.
Thank you. I had no idea de-influencing was trend. Love your channel.
Fabulous video! We have been practicing 1 in 1 out rule for years. But the 30 day wait is absolutely genius! I have been also getting rid of the things that were my fantasy self.
Thanks so much. My hubby is going to be so happy about our spending/not spending because of your influence 😊😊😊
You are very wise andvhonorable! I admire your integrity. Now you're a true influencer for the good.
Thank you for this video. Since I don’t have TikTok, instagram I didn’t know about this trend, here on YT I follow just few channels (with yours included) simply because I was influenced constantly to buy more and more stuff which I don’t need + I am a phone addict which I have been fighting for the last two years.
I love how real you are :) thank you!
Unrelated to your video, I love your editing style and the typing noise you use. It's always a pleasure sitting down with a cuppa and watch your videos.
Thank you! I put a lot of love and personality into them 🤗
I must say, I don't have social media other than RUclips. I generally don't even know what's trending. We live very frugally on my husband's income on a farm in South Africa. I'm happier for it! Years ago we were in debt because I bought so much we didn't need. I'm glad to have moved onto a simple, slow and minimal life thanks to you and other "influencers" who know what we really need - none of the "stuff"!
LOVE your channel and your honesty!! I do the wait rule also. I put it in the "cart" and then more than likely don't go back for it. 😁
Great hack 👍
That's how I get my shopping fix, lol sometimes I see the cart many weeks or months later and have a giggle
Let’s just take a moment to congratulate Marissa on almost 200K😱🥳🤩 I’ve been here since around 50K and I’m loving this for her 🙏🏻🥰❤️🎈
Thanks so much, Sara! 🎉 I’m so glad to have you here. :)
I´m never ever leaving minimalism it saved my life and my sanity! Like WoW i got a freaking sigh of ahhhhh i feel so calm!! I have stopped shopping i only buy what i need like food and gas and yeah utility. I love this channel and marissa is a genius and so insightful about the topics she´s passionate about!
Love reading this - BRAVO! 👏👏👏
Haha! I live this! I first heard about the Stanley cup from the Utah Mom spoof and then realised it was everywhere on a lot of the youtubers i subscribe to ( not you of course!) and the dyson air thibg i thought must be some kind of vacuum cleaner, but no - a hair thing for $600 is nuts. All i do with my hair is wash and brush it, but i remember my sister and me, when we were kids, using rages to curl our hair overnight. It's so effective, in fact my sister's hair kind of ended up permed for a while she did it so much! Thanks for triggering this really happy memory for me ☺️
Sure thing 😂
Oh I love your humor!!! I giggled so much in this video! Minimalism/intentionalism is definitely here to stay in my life whether it is trendy or not ❤
So interesting that you brought this topic up - I don't think I'm anyone's target audience so I don't think influencing has crossed my radar much, but I was doing some searching for cleaning tools and started noticing that a lot of a certain style of accounts were using the same cleaning products and tools - like EVERYONE was using the EXACT same stuff. But then when I looked at accounts that were by professional cleaners, they were using much more simple and non branded products for their videos. It made me think that awareness of the motivation behind the account (are they there to make a pretty video with a lot of "#satisfying" content or are thy there to show you how they clean a dirty bathtub) is helpful in being discerning about which recommendations to take or not.
Amen to everything you said! I appreciate your integrity. When we are so easily influenced, we don't even know who we are. I ditto everything that Candace McGuire said in her comment below. I'm never leaving minimalism. Though it may be a trend for some, it's a way of life!
I love that carpet! Looks sooooo good at your space
You always have such great tips on saving money! And this one hits home. My inbox is also full of junk offers and ridiculous products I would never use. I have only taken on 1 sponsor since I started my channel and it was a company I was already using and loving. I have said yes to items in the past for my blog, items I truly loved, and if I didn’t need them, I gave them away, which was fun and felt really good.
That’s a good way to handle it ❤️ ☺️
Hi! Just started doing the "mins game" to declutter my life and help my stress during my PhD.
I have just been influenced... Realized I have bread, peanut butter, and jalapeños so I paused and made a sandwich. I have no regrets from being influenced, it was so good 🥳!
Oh yes, beat those high stress levels! 👏 Glad you liked the PB&J 😉
I appreciate your integrity and honesty! ❤
Thank you for this post. 😎Your honesty and vulnerability are always impressive.
I have made it a habit to go through the accounts I follow on social media twice a year to unfollow all those which are not relevant to me anymore. Most of the minimalists are indeed (paid) influencer...
And I just realised that you are one of the two minimalists I still follow. The other one I really like is Connie Riet. Greetings from Switzerland!
Thanks so much for watching ☺️
Oh my gosh! I am here for the curls alone 😍 😁
Thanks for the honest Video
I unfortunately Got rid of many minimalism Channels in RUclips just because they started sponsoring stuff I dont need, and doing exactly the opposite of what minimalism tries to achieve: the consumerism.
And trying to make Money Out of their cool sponsorhips ....It Feels so wrong to me, and i am glad you dont get attracted by this moneymaking buy strategies....
Bleib so wie du bist :)
“It works exactly as a desk should” 😂😂😂 thank you so much for this video
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Thank you for your honesty, I love your channel for this reason
Gotta love the post modern vibe, I tried to find the name of that style dining room chair it is an old style. But for current searches I found the words “asbury” or “metrocles” or “Magis Chair One” all work for similar types!
OMG! The curls trick - I love you! 😍
That’s exactly what happened to me, I realized over time I got/am addicted to spending spending spending.
It was a miracle to come across a channel like this. Instagram is like eating too many chocolate bars in one sitting! I deleted all social media platforms, and started watching your playlist for minimalism + saving money 💰 most of the time, I’ve started buying from Poshmark .. I’m going to do a no spend challenge
It will be great to detox your financial habits 👏
I also was very confused by these products, but realistically, I haven’t been motivated to buy something because someone else had it since I was about 14. I guess I’m a bit of an odd duck I would only buy stuff, too much of it that’s true , that I found interesting and worthwhile. Now I know I don’t have to keep anything that was interesting and useful during a season of my life but now isn’t. so now my space is much easier to work in and I know everything I own.
I wait MONTHS and MONTHS before I buy things a lot of the time!!! I've actually wanted the Dyson Airwrap for years and am thinking of putting money aside because I've wanted it for at least 5 years now and I think it might be a useful purchase. However I'm waiting for my regular blowdryer to break first!
Minimalism was so much easier as a kid in the early 70s. We used clean knee-high socks to put curls in our hair when we were kids. 🤣 Love your channel.
Thank you for your honesty and transparency!
The "wait and see" approach never works for me - I just obsess over the thing until I finally buy it. However, making myself wait 30 days might be worthwhile- if nothing else it might space out my unnecessary purchases and lead to fewer in total.
My sister did a lot of research into finding happiness a few years ago (research shows that regret is the emotion statistically most related to shopping). One of the practices she read about for avoiding buying an item you are trying to resist was to pick up the item (if it's online, maybe touch the picture on the screen) and hold it and really think honestly and consciously about the item, where it will be stored, how many other items like it that you have. It's almost like a personal conversation with the item. You go through the full list in your head, then remind yourself that you don't need the item, you likely won't actually use it, and that if you buy the item, you won't feel happy; you'll feel regretful.
I used to have the same problem, stewing over the things on my wait list. But then I found that if I saved the item to a Pinterest wishlist board (that I never looked at) it tricked my brain into feeling as if I had bought the thing and then I would forget about it almost completely! I wouldn’t even register that the “purchase” never arrived because I didn’t actually need it or want it that much. It would break that tension of anticipation that you get when you’re deciding whether to buy. Apparently the happiest part of buying something is the moment after you decide to buy it but before handing over the money. It’s all downhill after because now you’re stuck with the reality of the item, not just the imagined potential.
Thanks you for the bathrobe curl method. I am doing that since a year now and love it
I use the one month wait in my own life. Like you, I usually don't want or need the item after waiting a month.
Super authentic. Thank you.
‘Didn’t think it was possible, but I ♥️ you even more now. Bless you. ✊❤️🔥
Peanut butter and jalapenos is an Indonesian product called gado gado. I used to eat it on a sandwich at mij grandmothers house all the time. It was a bit spicy for a chiled so I would put some fresh cucumber slices on top 🙂
Loved this👍....I'm the same as you. I've never heard of these products either🤣..but I am not on Instagram or Tick Tock, I don't "surf shop" and do not do "online shopping"...and I have been minimalistic for years.
I recently heard about this "new trend for advertising" from another you tuber who said she wouldn't do it! and said the "de-influencing" gets them more money.. ie because tell you not to buy a product from a competitors company (ie trash that product), but then tell you to buy product X from company Y who they get paid by to promote it.
I find the whole thing just ridiculous and crazy.. its shocking to think people waste their life on brainless tick tock stuff...and then are even more stupid to go and buy all the stuff they do not need!
Ps minimalism ONLY became "a trend" after the Americans discovered there is an alternative way to live other than consumerism and maximalism after the Americans discovered the "Con Marie" method.
But the truth is minimalism has been around forever to differing degrees, in different cultures, for different reasons... it is not a new "way of living" concept at all 🙄.
I think it's also helpful to remember - if you find yourself easily tempted by these trends - that there will ALWAYS be the next big thing. In 2016 with the height of the beauty community, it was makeup - now, it's skin care. A couple of years ago, everyone went crazy over hydroflasks and hoarded them in every size and colour, now it's stanley cups, and so on and so on...
It's always a learning curve to try and find what works best for you, and there is nothing wrong with wanting to check out a couple of reviews. Just try to remember that different things have different values for different people - what the influencer you enjoy watching places high value on today, might be gone by tomorrow. That shouldn’t be the case for you. Enjoy the things that work for you, and do so unapologetically 🖤
Love this video. Your points are right on track! Also, gotta say, I adore PB and jalapeño. There's a burger place I adore that offers a burger with PB and jalapeño jam. And, includes BACON, ya'll! The BEST!
Yum! 😋
I never followed trends and never going to. Life's too short to live like that lol
De-influencing is just another way to solidify the mindset that which Things you have matters, or which Things you eschew matters. It's just another way to put Stuff at the center of life.
I so appreciate watching your videos knowing I am safe from the sponsorship push. No matter how fair we want to be, as soon as we become invested financially we really can't see completely straight. That's not to say "commercials" are bad, just that they always need to be taken with a grain of salt, just like always.
I literally liked and saved this video the second before you said it, because of the deinfluencing about the dyson
I have not heard of DeInfluencing. . .
haha I love your humor in this video by the way.
Oh my goodness, one of your skirts (a boho one) I saw in your closet is one I used to have (but I wore it so much it ripped haha). Or at least the same pattern that was on my skirt was used on the skirt you had...Never seen someone with something like it so I smiled!
Anyway, I am in agreement with you: buy based off of your interests. I have always been that type, but I am also one who is extremely conscious of where my items come from.
I think it is good that you don't promote things you don't need. I appreciate that a lot. When I was a vintage fashion blogger (who did the one in one out type of thing while doing it since I was a minimalist for a few years already then), I was offered SO MANY things to promote. I said "no" to a lot of it, but "yes" to things that I actually still use (13 years later).
You are right on point! Love your content and your down-to- earth personality and tone..lots of love from Germany ☺️🥰
I loved that Jalapeño-PB Sandwich! will totally try it 😊 A friend makes Jalapeño jam from her garden and it is just sooo good! Thanks for a really well done and informative video! Happy Spring time!
Well said,it's saving thousands .great video.
Heck yeah girl! I love your channel.
🙏 Awesome, thanks so much!
I like my Ruggable. Because I have it in the foyer by the front door it gets dirty quickly. It’s really easy to toss it in the washer every few weeks. I will say, though, that mine is much smaller than yours so maybe that makes a difference.
I watch a lot of beauty RUclipsrs (though I rarely if ever wear makeup myself nor do I do anything with my hair lol) and the vast majority of them have said the Dyson air wrap is not worth the money. I think there are cheaper dupes for it but I’d never buy it no matter the price so 🤷🏻♀️
One of my favorite channels! Learning from you! Thank you! 🤗
Well, that is the good thing about being minimalist, you not only ignore "trends", most of the time one is not even aware of them! Anyway, minimalism is not a trend, it is a way of life.
💯 agree!
We have that couch in black and we also LOVE it!
can you share your experience - minimalism in friendship and hosting party/celebration with friends + neighbours as minimalist
Didn't know it was a trend just got tired of having all these annoying alerts of content I didn't care about but this is great definitely need it, I also call it declutter the digital life
I need to de-influence myself from listening to influencers who tell me what shoes to wear with what pants with what shirts. I already do not follow them, but I need to stop taking what they say as gospel because all it does is make me discontent with my clothes. I will be wearing my flare jeans with my oversized sweaters with my Ugg boots because I like it and I’m warm in -30 degree weather (Fahrenheit).
Sistah! But I can't find real flares so I wear my boot cuts. My Uggs are probably 40 years old