This is the most diplomatic, compassionate, well explained, straightforward way to approach such a sensitive but important topic. I don't want to speak for God, but I can't see Him anything less than proud on how this topic was carried out.👏 God bless.
Before I was saved, I was modest in dressed everywhere except when I was in a relationship. I would feel the need to show a little more than usual. Looking back now, with the knowledge and Spirit I realise that I was in a relationship with the wrong person because he desired that and I always felt that I had to in a way compete with whatever else was drawing his attention. I never wanted attention from anyone else, only my partner but it was because of this insecurity. I was not secure in Christ at the time. I have grown and am growing. I'm so thankful to God for washing me continuously. So thankful for grace. I am content even to be alone than to go back to where I come from. ❤
I have noticed some attempts at being sexually alluring are actually disgusting. There is a point at which the more you reveal the less attractive you become. It's not that your body is ugly, it is that you are not being mindful of your body.
@amadeagottlieb I have 2 co-workers who pour themselves into leggings and I don't think they look in a mirror before leaving their homes to come to the office. They are not slender and some leggings are so tight you can clearly see the outline of their underwear. Yikes. If they only knew how unattractive this is. I am embarrassed for them, and I am a female. Nancy Lee Demoss Wolgemuth has a great book called "The Look: Does God Really Care What I Wear?" It's a great reference on modesty.
I absolutely agree! I'm truly passionate about this topic and wholeheartedly wish it was embraced within my church community. Unfortunately, I've observed a trend where modesty seems to be lacking, particularly among the youth group of teens. Last Sunday, during the service, I couldn't help but notice a young lady wearing a dress with a very low-cut neckline and thigh length cut. What caught my attention even more was how frequently she kept adjusting the straps of her dress, almost every minute or so. Now that summer has started, I've noticed a few other young ladies wearing short shorts to church too. While I don't know them personally, I'm left wondering how I could approach this matter respectfully if we were to cross paths. When discussing modesty with the older women in our church, I believe it's important to address this topic from time to time, as many women, both young and old, may have never been taught about it. Since September, I have been part of the women's Bible study. Most of the ladies there are older women, but so far, the topic of modesty has not been discussed.
I've been told about my dress being too short before in church so I realized I either need to get rid of it or get leggings for the dress and I accept that, although it hurt my ego at first cannot lie but 3 different people told me about myself so I see it as a blessing and I don't really wanna wear leggings with it so I will probably donate the dress
Excellent topic, normally we don’t hear in church. This end times era the enemy is using spirit of lust of the eyes, flesh an Jezebel. Thank you for reminding us our bodies belong to God an are temple of the Holy Spirit . So much appreciate. Glad I saw this today. Thank you
Honestly, this applies to men too, in my experience. If a man is not dressed in respectful way it makes one wonder. Especially if pants hang very low and too much is shown when he bends over or sits. Or he takes of his shirt in public. I my self started doubting a man I was developing feeling towards as he took of his shirt in a public park. It felt arrogant. Basically he was half naked already. On a beach or when going swimming it's a totalky different story. But that was a place where other people were dressed up properly. So I think in general it's good to avoid making others feel uncomfortable by making them watch too private things. It's a distraction.
Exactly! I do prefer men who dress modestly. I am grossed out when they don’t. Context is everything, but even at the pool or lake, there are men who dress more modestly for swimming and those who don’t.
YES!!! It’s also very immodest for men to use name brand and expensive clothing/accessories as a way to show off. Instead of looking to show their worth through actions they are doing it through expensive watches, chains, and brands. It’s sad to see that most people forget that that’s immodest too. The lady’s in the church of Ephesus in 1 Timothy weren’t said to be wearing revealing clothing they were said to be wearing elaborate hairstyles and expensive clothes with the intention of gaining attention/praise for that instead of a Godly character. Modesty is about intention not just how much clothing you are wearing/skin you are covering up. Of course you should cover yourself in order to not make your brother or sister in Christ stumble but you can be covered head to toe and still be immodest if your hearts in the wrong place.
@@lapris7380 Men do lust and stumble even over fully clothed women. What we wear as women won’t change that. We do need to honor God with what we wear though as well with our hearts, whether man or woman.
Great video, especially point #3! The Holy Spirit has definitely convicted me to dress more modestly…… and I feel good knowing that I am not seeking to garner lustful attention from men anymore.
Great video. It goes over everything that I would tell a Christian woman who asked me of my opinion on the topic. Clothing is the first thing you see when you meet someone and tells you a lot about who they really are.
I agree, although some adjustments must be made because the clothing on those very slender actresses won't be the same on your average American female, who will probably be heavier.
@@joannm5981 True, and she has the advantage of being very slim. However, before she married and when a newlywed, she was known for doing some immodest stunts, which are now concealed by the monarchy.
I recently started taking ballet classes. The ballerinas wear leotards for class. What's interesting is that before and after class they wear oversized "junk". They are super fit yet confident enough to wear modest clothes.
I think it's very important for a woman to take care of her appearance and to look as beautiful as she possibly can. To dress for sexual attention is a definite no, but to just present in a beautiful and elegant way is sorely lacking in todays lazy, sloppy, casual culture.
Beauty will fade. She will get wrinkles and lose her body and face over time but she who fears the Lord and has character is something to behold. Beauty is common but spirit and character is what attracts me.
I find this to be such a hot button topic. Great job Pastor! You covered much of what would be brought up in these kinds of conversations. I find that teen girls and boys are struggling the most right now. Not that other age groups aren't struggling, but because of the developmental stage that teens are in, they have a harder hill to climb. Please keep our youth in prayer, as well as those discipling them. God bless!
After finding God my whole wardrobe naturally changed , although it doesn't match my wallet ,so its either two things I do, not go anywhere or I just look through what I have that looks decent enough, hopefully I can get a new wardrobe soon
My biggest concern when choosing my clothing is My Safety which isn’t something women typically think of, but I’ve been followed around, chased into stores, had guys walk right up to me to stare me up and down, had guys park next to my vehicle and wait for me while shopping for hours in a state that has a serious trafficking problem, and when women think they’re not responsible for a man’s sin, they instead should really should be thinking about how that man’s sin might endanger them. A lot of encounters I’ve had were while I was fully dressed, and though I occasionally wear shorts in public my safety always gives me pause. Also, women know what they’re doing when they bend over. They shouldn’t be drawing attention to certain areas when doing so. Equally, I think we should be conscientious of the married men that are watching.
Bermuda almost to the knee shorts are fine as long as theyre not thin material and skin tight, in public. nothing else shd b skin tight of light thin material, of course.
sounds like u need to tone down your hair n makeup n clothes if this is happening, or move out of that city, for sure. thin line between looking and kidnapping....oh my....
I work out at home, (problem solved for me,) and although I love yoga shorts and pants I would never wear that to work out around a bunch of men or ….gasp….wear a yoga bra in public. Apart from that, I don’t agree with this whole list, and frumpy isn’t my look. That said, I am more apt to completely cover up, because the attention I sometimes receive makes me feel unsafe.
I actually have a question about this, so I appreciate you saying this! As a man, what is "more modest clothing" for the gym in your opinion? For me, wearing shorts and a sports bra is way too immodest, but long leggings and a full coverage sports bra or tank top or t-shirt feels more modest to me. I focus more on strength training, so it's helpful (and motivating) for me to be able to see my muscles engaging during my workout. So fitted clothing that doesn't show too much flesh is my preference. However, you may think differently, so I'm curious to know what modest gym attire is to you from your male perspective!
@@photographyenthusiast9941 I’ve heard people argue about wanting to “look how I want” but people forget that in the past and throughout the centuries women dressed modestly not just to be modest but to not attract attention as men without morals can be quite cruel to beautiful women. Having a home gym certainly helps to not have to worry about unwanted attention and I hope to have room to make my own one day to lift in peace. God bless!
@@charisse_xo In my opinion nothing too tight, short, or revealing. Most decent guys are there to workout in peace and when women dress immodestly it can cause men that struggle to have lustful thoughts. I believe men and women should both dress modestly in the gym. I usually wear gym shorts and a sleeveless shirt. For modest women, in my mind baggier clothing is best rather than skin tight. I’m a man with no experience with women so I’m sorry but I don’t know the terms women use for their clothes. The best thing to do is pray and let the Holy Spirit convict you and obey His urging of what to or not to wear. Thank you for your question. May God bless you and guide you in Yeshua’s Mighty Name!
Mark, I’m always impressed how well you express these hard triggering topic in this climate. There is always going to be that certain type of person who triggered by everything because of a spirit of offense, but I feel like for those who have ears to hear, and eyes to see you make biblically correct and fair statements.
This is something I struggle with due to my body shape. A simple dress may look decent, even classy on a petite woman but when you are "curvy" it takes on a whole different meaning. How can curvy women look classy without having to resort to wearing baggy clothes? ESPECIALLY when its hot.
It can be done. I'm extremely curvy and when I sense i dont want to be stared down by certain people (guys), most definitely I cover up, even if it's just halfway covered up. I haven't always been this way, just now that I'm smarter and observant. You dont have to be so much when youre with your bf/ husband accompanying you
I get what you mean. When you are curvy everything makes you feel exposed. I used to wear coverups during winter, but now it is too hot. Funny thing is I was in denial about being curvy until last week and now everything I have makes me sad to leave the house.
It's hard for me because I have super curvy body (naturally hourglass) and since I'm overweight it's MORE exaggerated :/ ... so no matter what I wear (say a straight dress) it comes out curvy. I know that wearing TIGHT clothes or too small isn't great. But in this case, you have to be aware and pick things that don't show off cleavage (for example) or very very minimal. Bodycon dresses for example come off as super short, tight but to me are not right to church or weddings, even though they are popular. Cheaply made clothes I realize are too small in the bust area for me, so I've decidedly upped my clothing and bought clothes that are true to size and consistency. Correct fitting undergarments help. I tend to go for clothes that don't fit EXACTLY (tight) but maybe 1 size up. Not all clothing is created equally as we all know. For an event and I'm wearing a dress (which is where I have tendency to have my issues), if I think I will have more exposure, I bring a backup shawl or scarf just in case (something light and breezy) since it can be hot in California.
I can say for sure that God doesn't have a problem with my dressing in something that makes me feel beautiful and good about myself. He dresses the flowers beautifully, and I love to wear flowery prints. There's a difference in dressing ladylike and dressing trampy, and I'm quite aware of the difference. Also, Just because someone is dressing in modest clothing, it doesn't necessarily mean that they are a virtuous person. God is more concerned with the condition of our hearts than what we wear, and no I'm not saying the outward appearance is irrelevant.
I liked this topic and your use of scripture. I think it was timely for the summer season. I also think that women’s sports will be in the buff in my lifetime. They will spin it like back to Greek origins or something stupid. Why don’t parents and young women stand up for themselves? So, that’s a warning for watching the upcoming summer Olympics. If anyone thinks that is a shocking statement: check out the college version of the sport and or walk around a college campus today.
Our society is built on Everything sexual . When as women we comprise in our dress code we become part of it..Sisters stand strong.. e in the world..but not of the world..especially in our dress
This is a difficult one for me. I grew up in a religion with an extremely strict dress code. My shoulders were sinful. My legs were sinful. Having more than one ear piercing was sinful. When I left that religion, I made choices that deliberately went against them just because I finally could. I got in abusive relationships where how I dressed was influenced and controlled yet again. Taking back my style and my body was part of my therapy and healing process. Obviously, I now have a relationship with God and want to honor him. But I also want to feel like me while I do it. I don’t want those parts of me controlled or stolen again.
Even as a conservative dresser, I feel very convicted by this video. I used to dress for my church and parents because they thought certain clothing is alluring while I didn't have the same personal conviction. So, now, I wear what I feel doesn't have provocative association on top of what I am spiritually at peace to wear to feel classy and elegant. I am not my clothing, but my clothing choices do send a vibe and message to others.
Agree with you wholeheartedly but the fact is if your joy stands out in a crowd even if you wear a sackcloth you will still have difficulty with attracting a godly man. I wear simple blue or black nice Lauren t-shirts and boot cut jeans or non-clinging pants so I don't fit the criteria of a fancy woman looking like a girl trying to impress or attract attention from men. Funny thing is wearing this attire I am still complimented by women and men alike, and it’s just a nicer t-shirt and nice jeans 👖 that I am wearing. When at work I dress in a similar fashion… but work attire appropriate and comfortable but not to attract attention from others. Even at times when minimum people are in the office jeans and t-shirt are okay too. Foolish people are in every auditorium of life and those men who think 🤔 about women in inappropriate ways evaluate women in an entirely sinful manner. Trust knowing that Joy is the attraction and love for others will always shine ✨ brightly in a dimly lit room; the sinful man who has no intention of living a Christian lifestyle is always watching out for himself rather than being a man of Faith. The driving force behind any person’s inner desires will always surface in a short period of time speaking with a man, and their desires will become known and identifiable by a woman who has discernment in her. Here’s a picture of the difference between a real life in Christ maneuvering rather than a robot image of the characters in the cultures comic strip series of dating scenes. David looked at Bathsheba and decided to proceed with his sinful approach to having what he wanted; sex. Joseph on the other hand when Potiphar’s wife kept nagging him and finally got to the point where she removed all her servants from her house and tried forcing Joseph to take advantage of the situation, he chose to fight back against satanic events and eventually by refusing with a Godly flee he was blessed to fulfill the Promises of God written in his own life. The best way to describe a man of God rather than a foolish decision by a person who thinks he’s a genius abusing the grace of God. Women have to remember the importance of being with godly friends rather than giddy friendships who don’t know what this little share means…. Joseph was clearly using the power of the spirit to help him flee from the grasp of darkness and evil and women who say they are Christian’s are to fight against evil in the same manner.. run 🏃♀️ away from him, and without any worry if you’re going to hurt his feelings. Good grace doesn’t mean you take upon yourself a Good Grief Charlie Brown charlatan character.
Do not wear anything that you are "afraid" to run into your Pastor or an elder in the church. For me the hardest is finding bathing suits and cloths for working out.
I like the way you explained this, I think it was very close to how God wants women to look, however, the first one I don’t think is biblical. There are examples of God purposely making things beautiful, one example could be when there is a description of the King of Tyre in the Bible (describing, actually, a guardian cherub who was in Eden), it says that in Eden, every precious stone “adorned” him, and his settings and mountings were made of gold, on the day he was created they were prepared (meaning God purposely adorned him to make him beautiful). “You were the seal of perfection, full of wisdom and perfect in beauty” (Ezekiel 28:13-) Something similar can be found in Ezekiel 16: 11-13. God purposely gave Israel jewelry when they left Egypt, and He is now saying that He “adorned” them with it, with gold and silver, and costly fabric. We know that afterwards, these jewels and precious stones were used in the tabernacle and the priests were adorned with them. Obviously, God wanted it to mimic or imitate the tabernacle in Heaven, that’s why He was so specific with everything. Truly, wanting to look beautiful is not a sin- BUT a woman shouldn’t take pride on her beauty and corrupt her wisdom because of it. Please note that in both cases, it is God who’s talking. It is His direct word. Now, when Paul and Peter are talking about pearls, gold, elaborate hairstyles, expensive clothes- let’s think for a moment why they chose to talk about these things specifically and not, perhaps, flowers in their hair, or painting their eyes (like in Ezekiel 23:40). Pearls, gold, elaborated hairstyles and expensive clothes were all tied to flaunting wealth (in fact, most of us these days still can’t afford real pearls, gold, elaborated hairstyles made a professional or even expensive clothes). The people that could afford these things were very rich, so they are both warning you about your intentions when you put on those expensive items, are you putting them on because you want others to see you? Because you want to flaunt about what you have? Rather, be modest and decent, and adorn yourself with good deeds, which you also wouldn’t want to do because you want others to see, or flaunt about them either. Hope this helps! God bless you all, beautiful women
Great message and Eloquently articulated. When we are truly saved the Holy Spirit transforms us, hence the old us is gone. That transformation includes how we conduct and dress ourselves.
The thing is men can put all these rules and pressure on women about how to dress but lust is still an entirely separate issue they have to deal with and take accountability for. I’m a woman who sees an attractive man and will lust over him, too. Is that his fault or mine? His boobs aren’t hanging out, so clearly it’s mine. Lust has nothing to do with what a person is wearing. If a man has a lust problem, it will persist no matter what a woman is wearing.
Well, as someone who needs to work on this myself and repents of this quite often, it does seem that how a woman thinks (ie, lusting after a man) dictates the way she dresses. In short, if a woman is thinking about attractive men and lusting after them , of course she's going to dress in kind (i.e. seductively to attract that attractive guy). And, one can say "women are controlled by men" and such like, but this is a heart issue, and a matter of self control. And, well, men are the leadership in the Bible, according to 1 Corinthians 11, 1 Timothy 2:12-15, Ephesians 5, and the like.
Hey everyone I came on here to say that I used to watch this channel all the time but after a few years God showed me the man He has for me and we got married that same year. Pretty crazy cool. Stay in prayer and desire the kingdom of heaven. God is going ro bless with you with everything that He has foe you in His timing
??? What verse tells us that? I agree that we shouldn’t wear revealing clothing but the bible verses I’ve seen about modest are in regards to intention. Like if you are wearing elaborate hairstyles or expensive clothing with the purpose of finding your value in that, getting people to like you for that, or attracting people then you are being immodest. For example if a man wear a lot of name brands clothing and expensive watches, chains, and other jewelry with the Intention of being liked, seen as better, or just to get attention then he is being immodest. If he is wearing something with the intention of attracting women sexually or causing them to sin then it doesn’t matter if he’s covered from head to toe, he is being immodest. The same goes for women. If our intention is in the wrong place and we are using our outward appearance to create worth rather than our actions and relationship with God even if we aren’t showing skin we are being immodest. It’s about intention. Hence why God says elaborate hairstyles can be immodest. Not because they cause people to sin but because the women were doing them in order to attract others and gain some time of respect honor and or praise because of it. Here are some bible verses for that because I think as Christians we should back up what we say with the bible. 1 Timothy 2:9-10 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 1 Peter 3:3-4 Proverbs 11:22 1 Samuel 16:7
I'm a naturist, so I expected to disagree with a lot of this video, I was watching with a "how bad is it going to be?" type attitude. And I was pleasantly surprised. I agreed with almost all of it. Well done 😊
You did very well. When I was younger my mom and my grandma would always make sure that we wore slips under our dresses I never really understood but now that I am older I understand.
Great video. I will say, I have certain super conservative Christian friends who only wear skirts, no jewelry of any kind, no regular swimsuits (always it must be a swim skirt, or else boy board shorts that go down to the knee).. and so.. lol, I do have certain clothes for my "regular Christian friends and everyone in the world, even unsaved" but then when I go swimming with my super conservative friends, I tend to cover up more than I would going to the beach with my family & in laws. My in laws wear regular swimsuits. I dunno, I wish you would've addressed hanging w/the pentacostals verses the non denominational types, lol
My grey area is I live in the south with high humidity. I wear mini dresses all the time when I know Ill be in the heat, but I dress more conservatively when it church because we have ac. I dont wear this to draw attention to me, in fact, I truly dont like doing that for the most part... but I dont want to draw attention to myself sweating like a hog on a hot summers day either. I wear yoga pants to do certain physical work, but would NEVER wear it to bible study. I wear them to amusement parks when I have a jacket that covers my backside. I wear shorter shorts and tanks to amusement parks on hotter days, but dress more conservatively on cooler days. I absolutely agree with you, but I get really hot and sometimes sweaty, which is not cute at all. For me it dependa on activity, function and outside temp.
Why is it always the women who are policed in the way they dress? God sent us to this earth naked- I am not ashamed of my body and I won’t let any men tell me otherwise. My personal choice is to dress modestly, but I decide what to wear and what not. Not Peter, who was jealous of women close to Jesus.
We were sent here naked before Adam and Eve are the forbidden fruit. Also it was only Adam and Eve that were naked which is basically husband and wife.
Yet Jesus chose Peter to be the rock of his church. Peter had traditional ideas of the culture at the time. At the feet of the Messiah, he learned differently, albeit slowly. 😅 If nudity was cool, why didn't Jesus walk around naked on a regular basis?
@@Kingdl351 Jesus did not give a dress code to women. And, last time I checked, women don’t walk around naked either. Why don’t you just trust women to make their own choices? Or are you „holier than thou“?
@sandywichmann9292 I am a woman. A natural born one. I try to follow the example of Christ, but I fall short. I am a sinner. I am not alone. There are a lot of women showing their junk for all the world to see. As a follower of Christ, I read and believe his Word from front to back. He is in the volume of the Book. I don't claim to understand it all. I do know that the temple of God is inside of us. I choose not to desecrate his temple by wearing reveling things. I choose to be set apart, working on holy. I get that today's modern feminism has tainted the minds of many in this world of "do what thou wilt," but that's not what Christ is about according to all of his Word. It's not about me. It's about HIM.
@@Kingdl351 Well, I am a narural born woman (crazy that one has to clarify that today), too and an old-fashioned feminist. I do believe that men and women should have equal rights and equal responsibilities. Since Jesus taught men and women, I believe that men don’t have more weight or authority over women. Those women who wear extremely revealing clothes are usually not practicing Christians. Once you truly come to the Lord, you change yourself and your style automatically. Christian women don’t need to be given a dress code- we should leave that to Islam.
I've learned that if a woman focuses on being feminine and classy it's reflected in her choices similar to being a masculine man and this naturally starting to wear 5.11s and cargo pants and shirts and gun belts. The internal will show in the external.
I like your emphasis on walking in relationship with God. Sabbath was made for man, not man for Sabbath. Walk in relationship with God in this area as you are meant to with all areas of your life. It’s truly not about making a rule like “if you have to ask, it’s probably too short” etc. It’s about talking with Dad. Every journey is unique and there are so many grey areas like this. God bless 💛🤙🏽⚡️
Not as the depravity of the mind wants but just on point if Christians will be true to their consciences and ultimately to GOD ALMIGHTY who wants us wise. God bless you Pastor Mark. More grace to you
I agree with everything except the red heels. Heels can really dress up an outfit. Look at Melanija Trump. She dressed classy modestly and always wore heels!
@@leilawilliams8175You don't have to wear heels all the time. Once a week for two hours I think it's fine. And if an emergency occurs, just take them off, it is that simple!
Will you do the man version for this type of video, too? Please help out your brothers, too! I always feel awkward to see hairy muscle legs outdoor, some male shorts can be too short or too tight 😢. And we all might need the swimwear video version, too!😅
amen. However, there is a balance because you can't actually make him sin. And he could lust after you regardless of what you wear. But yes, you certainly should avoid clothing that is worn with the motive of making him lust after you
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallengerI agree but people rarely talk about the fact that men are visual mostly creatures. If women walked around with floating heads, none would be married 😂😂. So just be mindful sisters.
I have seen horrible comments in Christian channels where grown men are lusting over modest women because they find it more attractive, that “innocence”. I actually believe that some women dress a certain “modern” way because, paradoxically, is a way of not getting too much attention. I have worn some very modest dresses that would stand out, exactly, because I was modestly dressed. It is a very subtle topic. Although I don’t feel comfortable in certain revealing clothes, I also don’t feel comfortable in judging any women wearing them.
Good message! I have been thinking about some of the stuff in my closet lately. I seem ti go for a while with a decent wardrobe but gradually incorporate more questionable things. Time to clean up shop! 🙂 thank you for this video Mark!
On a side note, I do try to wear a top that will (mostly) cover the behind when I wear jeans. (Idk who invented leggings and the like, but I feel that they are totally out of question for my wardrobe!)
Just dress according to the seasons, or based on the activities you are doing. I get dressed everyday and I don't put so much thought into it. I wear what I feel comfortable in. Period.
I wish godly men would ask a woman direct "What do you think about this/that?" instead of bellyaching and complaining like children about how women dress. One of my relationship rules is "don't tell me what I can or can't wear". I've known men who take their leadership role into a dictatorial domineering overbearing attitude and I'm beyond over that. It doesn't communicate love or cherishing at all. This was good quality content in my opinion. Modesty and freedom.
I can understand your bad experience with men. But some question: Is it bad to dress to impress your husband? A man may say their opinion, but in lovely manner, like "that, what you wear, bothers me. Can you change it, please?" To tell her to dress revealing is false and a man has sinned. Before he leads her wife, he must submit to Christ and love his wife. If a man won't change his preferences, he is not compactible to you. But I hear, that you are not humil to let him lead. In the marriage and as a Christian, neither husband nor wife can dress, whatever they want. It is not like feminism with "strong independent woman", who she gets her pants on and she is unsatisfied, although her husband may nothing. Let God heal your heart. Pray for wisdom and humility. God bless you! On all men: Set in the beginning before marriage boundaries. That cause much less hurt. Before you marry, one of the spouses can leave.
@@danielreich5799 All due respect, humility is a virtue specifically oriented to recognizing the difference between oneself and God. To assert that a woman is not humble because she holds strong convictions before a man suggests a potentially erroneous understanding of what humility is and the One to Whom it is rightly oriented. I appreciate the effort you put in to responding and your thoughtfulness in your response. Especially your asserting that a man must submit to Christ before he leads a wife - my Godmother told me similarly. (I would add that he also needs to lead himself well, be self-disciplined in fundamental virtues, not be a slave to his passions.) Had you used voice-to-text, or is English not your primary language? I'm having some difficulty understanding some of the sentences, but hope I am getting the jist of what you're trying to get across.
It's horrible to feel that we can't just be instead of competing with everything else in life. I was competing against women performing in porn, comic book characters, fan fiction characters as well as nearly every woman that was walking, standing, sitting, or dancing around my last intimate relationship. I did everything I could to save my relationship only to have him sit in the council of the ungodly and now that relationship is gone. I want none other and dress to keep eyes off me and away from any appearance of desires. God is my husband and I want to please Him
You right, the flesh wants to be on the throne. The flesh wants to set it out, this area is where a saved sista has to be on guard....Daily! We are not to be IGNUTT of Satan's devices.
This approach to the subject of attire and modesty is so respectiful and refeshing. Compared to the bashing approach I have seen on youtube. I think that christian women need to help are children who are being sexualised by the fashion industry. Even when i was not a christian. I took a ruler to my teenage daughter shorts and explained the difference between knicker and shorts on a hot day. I was very explit about the fact that women are walking around in clothes that present them as naked and that the cat walk is no place to get your fashion idea now. Her classy and edgy young women, rather than doing the naked exposure style where you have to close your eyes in shock at the level of nudity on our street I choose to wear low V necks but I wear cami tops or lace inserts so my cleaverage is not on display given that I am busty. This is something new as a christian I dont want the male sexual attention that I would normally get with low revealing tops. There are small modesty adjustments which means i can still express my character, personality love of fashion. It definately a heart matter and my heart is changed.
Does dressing for your body type go against #3? For example I have a 'athletic' or 'rectangular' body. So I wear skirts/dresses that flair at my waist to highlight my waist. The length always reaches below my knee or further. Always modest.
Agree. I've noticed ever since tattoos became more mainstream during the mid 90s, even more Christians are finding it acceptable to use them, mainly in the west though. I even heard excuses of some Christians saying they use their tattoos as a witnessing tool. I think as time passed, more Christians started finding it more acceptable instead of questioning their popularity like I did. And it's mostly women who get these tattoos when it used to be mainly men in certain groups. Even one woman who I used to date for a short time years ago, it bothered her when she was excited to show me her large cross tattoo on her leg and I didn't care that much and was slightly bothered by it. The artwork didn't even look that good either. While she may have been proud of it, her other lifestyle choices were questionable, especially since she was a pastors daughter.
I just wanna say that maybe not be so quick to judge people with tattoos. I got saved later on in life back in 2018 and unfortunately I had already had tattoos on my body… this use to make me feel so shameful and like an outsider when I first started going to church because people would stare or children would ask questions and it was really uncomfortable. I now am better at realizing that my tattoos don’t define me and I can now use them as a testimony to who I use to be vs who I am now. That is something only the Holy Spirit can convict a person on. I remember asking my pastor what he thought ? And he was so gentle and loving and told me he thought it was something I should go to the Lord in prayer and ask Him about lol. And God has convicted me, I don’t feel like God would approve of me getting more tattoos so I don’t. I even came to the point to where I was obsessing over should I get the removed? And read about how you have to have multiple sessions and they’re just burning layers of your skin off and then have to stitch it back together and it’s so expensive and I had to stop and think okay, am I seeking man’s approval or Gods? Because I’ve already been forgiven. If God told me to remove them then I would and I know he’d provide the funds and means to do so. Please I urge you to just be gentle when looking at people and making assumptions. None of us know exactly what God is doing in someone’s life and we should want to always be loving and gentle towards others. Pray for God to speak to them and be at work in their hearts and remember you aren’t their judge.
When you are in the kingdom, you abide by the rule of the kingdom. Modesty is our way in the kingdom of our Lord Jesus. When i received the Holy Spirit, the First thing he spoke to me about was my dressing after Prayer though. Weldone Mark
For me personally, I have had situations where I glimpsed at a girl in church, not on purpose, and then when I closed my eyes in worship or in prayer. The image was still in my mind when I was trying to stay in the mindset of being in God's presence. I approach an older woman who is a mother or grandmother type and gently ask them if they could have a word with the girl. As it wouldn't be appropriate for me to ask. But the point I'm making is the image that stays in my mind, and godly women should help our tendency as men, who are naturally visual!
Women are also visual. That's not unique to men. You getting distracted at church is not someone else's fault. That could happen no matter what she is wearing.
@ashleydanielson3222 true for both men and woman. But the bible does say that woman should be modest in appearance. But I did pull up a male pastor once that he wanted to make a fashion statement by having his jeans hanging down showing his but. Yes woman and men have visual difficulties for there is neither male nor female but a new creation!
As a modestly dressed follower of Jesus. We must never dress modest to attract men but out of obedience to Christ. Seek God for a spouse because you can attract someone that's pretending to be a godly partner. May Jesus bless anyone reading.
It applies to men too, but I'll be addressing the specifics for men differently in another video as it does get expressed differently for men and women in most cases
I am enjoying fashion, I love to dress up, and I love to feel pretty, but I still find my inner values much more important. Am I wrong? Is loving nice dresses a sin?
I had to start wearing loose baggy shirts at the gym. I have a fabulous body and have worked very hard on it. But I don’t like to be looked at lustfully and don’t want to cause a man to sin.
The scriptures he’s reading are referring to married women. It says wives. Which yes wives shouldn’t wear certain things. And a single woman shouldn’t expect a righteous man by dressing scandalous. But women in general should be to express themselves.
If she's naturally good looking the wife will get the extra attention, even if she isn't trying much. A very jealous or insecure man might be better off with a "5" instead of a "9"--less worry and conflict.
Yes, it's terrible. It makes me so angry. No wonder, why stationary shops of well-known brands are in decline. You must buy online, self-made or in a special boutique to find a good one
Personally, I prefer shopping online rather than in stores these days. I've found some lovely modest dresses from brands like Inherit, which is run by a Christian couple dedicated to modest clothing. Recently, I got a beautiful dress for summer church services, but it sold out quickly! I also like browsing Roolee and Nothing But Fits; although they're not specifically focused on modesty, they do have some beautiful pieces for modest ladies. And don't forget, Amazon also offers a wide range of modest selections too!
Yeah even with online stores. I get something thinking it’ll be long and when it comes it looks like they cut what I bought in half. I just want a long shirt that looks nice and is comfortable not a crop top that’s almost the length of my bra lol.
I might have to pray about this. Cause one thing I love to wear is yoga pants. I don’t do it to reveal my butt. In fact when I attracted my husband it was with a t shirt and jeans. I do it cause they’re just so comfortable. Also I would feel embarrassed to wear them in church, but that doesn’t make it easier to never wear them at all. Cause I’m perfectly comfortable wearing them everywhere else. Even around other Christian’s outside of church. Just not when I’m in church.
For those who are having trouble dressing her body in a tasteful, modest fashion. Im sure there are hundreds of YT creators that help with learning how to fit their bodies. Remember the show, "What Not to Wear"?
I love wearing dense material (really good quality) exercise leggings in my home and yard, but I don't feel fully comfortable wearing them grocery shopping. These leggings trip up even the nicest men and I don't want that.
Modesty and humility is beautiful. 😊
as a christian woman i always ask myself when dressing for any kind of event "do i feel proper, comfortable and graceful?"
Thanks for sharing!
Add self -respecting
@@VictoriaRodriguez-by3fs i believe proper imply self respect too :)
I like that..... I'm taking that 🤙🏼👏🏼
If you’ve got to ask is it too short too tight or too revealing then the answer is probably yes ! 😊
God bless!
Luv your answer.
So true..when women ask that question..they already know the answer..
haha yeah
This is the most diplomatic, compassionate, well explained, straightforward way to approach such a sensitive but important topic. I don't want to speak for God, but I can't see Him anything less than proud on how this topic was carried out.👏 God bless.
I agree! Mark is such a blessing 💕
Before I was saved, I was modest in dressed everywhere except when I was in a relationship. I would feel the need to show a little more than usual. Looking back now, with the knowledge and Spirit I realise that I was in a relationship with the wrong person because he desired that and I always felt that I had to in a way compete with whatever else was drawing his attention. I never wanted attention from anyone else, only my partner but it was because of this insecurity. I was not secure in Christ at the time. I have grown and am growing. I'm so thankful to God for washing me continuously. So thankful for grace. I am content even to be alone than to go back to where I come from. ❤
I have noticed some attempts at being sexually alluring are actually disgusting. There is a point at which the more you reveal the less attractive you become. It's not that your body is ugly, it is that you are not being mindful of your body.
@amadeagottliebwonder too. Don’t they have a mirror???!
Every woman knows what’s she’s wearing
Facts
@amadeagottlieb I have 2 co-workers who pour themselves into leggings and I don't think they look in a mirror before leaving their homes to come to the office. They are not slender and some leggings are so tight you can clearly see the outline of their underwear. Yikes. If they only knew how unattractive this is. I am embarrassed for them, and I am a female. Nancy Lee Demoss Wolgemuth has a great book called "The Look: Does God Really Care What I Wear?" It's a great reference on modesty.
A Christian woman should not comment on another woman's body or in a gossiping spirit.
Repent.
You’re a brave man, Mark! And I applaud you for speaking up on this!
More women leaders in the church need to disciple our sisters in this. ❤️
I absolutely agree! I'm truly passionate about this topic and wholeheartedly wish it was embraced within my church community. Unfortunately, I've observed a trend where modesty seems to be lacking, particularly among the youth group of teens. Last Sunday, during the service, I couldn't help but notice a young lady wearing a dress with a very low-cut neckline and thigh length cut. What caught my attention even more was how frequently she kept adjusting the straps of her dress, almost every minute or so. Now that summer has started, I've noticed a few other young ladies wearing short shorts to church too. While I don't know them personally, I'm left wondering how I could approach this matter respectfully if we were to cross paths.
When discussing modesty with the older women in our church, I believe it's important to address this topic from time to time, as many women, both young and old, may have never been taught about it. Since September, I have been part of the women's Bible study. Most of the ladies there are older women, but so far, the topic of modesty has not been discussed.
I've been told about my dress being too short before in church so I realized I either need to get rid of it or get leggings for the dress and I accept that, although it hurt my ego at first cannot lie but 3 different people told me about myself so I see it as a blessing and I don't really wanna wear leggings with it so I will probably donate the dress
Facts 💪🏿
Excellent topic, normally we don’t hear in church. This end times era the enemy is using spirit of lust of the eyes, flesh an Jezebel. Thank you for reminding us our bodies belong to God an are temple of the Holy Spirit . So much appreciate. Glad I saw this today. Thank you
God bless you too!
Amen well said. .
@@JesusistheOnlyWay222 thank you be blessed and highly favored. Live for Jesus
Another great list as Christians we should be counter-cultural
God bless!
We participate in the world, but do not need to be part of the world's lunacy or ungodly UnTRUTHS.
Classy message!
God bless!
Honestly, this applies to men too, in my experience. If a man is not dressed in respectful way it makes one wonder. Especially if pants hang very low and too much is shown when he bends over or sits. Or he takes of his shirt in public. I my self started doubting a man I was developing feeling towards as he took of his shirt in a public park. It felt arrogant. Basically he was half naked already. On a beach or when going swimming it's a totalky different story. But that was a place where other people were dressed up properly. So I think in general it's good to avoid making others feel uncomfortable by making them watch too private things. It's a distraction.
Yep! Men need this talk just as much as the women.
Exactly! I do prefer men who dress modestly. I am grossed out when they don’t. Context is everything, but even at the pool or lake, there are men who dress more modestly for swimming and those who don’t.
YES!!! It’s also very immodest for men to use name brand and expensive clothing/accessories as a way to show off. Instead of looking to show their worth through actions they are doing it through expensive watches, chains, and brands. It’s sad to see that most people forget that that’s immodest too. The lady’s in the church of Ephesus in 1 Timothy weren’t said to be wearing revealing clothing they were said to be wearing elaborate hairstyles and expensive clothes with the intention of gaining attention/praise for that instead of a Godly character. Modesty is about intention not just how much clothing you are wearing/skin you are covering up. Of course you should cover yourself in order to not make your brother or sister in Christ stumble but you can be covered head to toe and still be immodest if your hearts in the wrong place.
@@lapris7380 Men do lust and stumble even over fully clothed women. What we wear as women won’t change that. We do need to honor God with what we wear though as well with our hearts, whether man or woman.
@@lapris7380so many good points!!!
As a woman I agree with all you said. Amen 🙏🏻❤️
Great video, especially point #3! The Holy Spirit has definitely convicted me to dress more modestly…… and I feel good knowing that I am not seeking to garner lustful attention from men anymore.
Me too, I'm so thankful for this.
Great video. It goes over everything that I would tell a Christian woman who asked me of my opinion on the topic. Clothing is the first thing you see when you meet someone and tells you a lot about who they really are.
God bless!
An example would be dressing like they do in Hallmark movies. Classy, attractive, but modest. 🤗
Love it! I think some of the Disney princesses could be another example too
I agree, although some adjustments must be made because the clothing on those very slender actresses won't be the same on your average American female, who will probably be heavier.
Kate Middleton dresses modest & great too!
@@joannm5981 True, and she has the advantage of being very slim. However, before she married and when a newlywed, she was known for doing some immodest stunts, which are now concealed by the monarchy.
@@joannm5981 Yes! I actually was going to mention her too as an example, but decided to keep it simple. 😁
I recently started taking ballet classes. The ballerinas wear leotards for class. What's interesting is that before and after class they wear oversized "junk". They are super fit yet confident enough to wear modest clothes.
I literally don’t even know how you kept a straight face during this. I was cracking up lol! You’re 10000000 percent right
I think it's very important for a woman to take care of her appearance and to look as beautiful as she possibly can. To dress for sexual attention is a definite no, but to just present in a beautiful and elegant way is sorely lacking in todays lazy, sloppy, casual culture.
I totally agree 💯
I'm with you. Women are created for beauty and to complete the men
You don't live in the Pacific Northwest, do you?
Beauty will fade. She will get wrinkles and lose her body and face over time but she who fears the Lord and has character is something to behold. Beauty is common but spirit and character is what attracts me.
So true!!!
I find this to be such a hot button topic. Great job Pastor! You covered much of what would be brought up in these kinds of conversations. I find that teen girls and boys are struggling the most right now. Not that other age groups aren't struggling, but because of the developmental stage that teens are in, they have a harder hill to climb. Please keep our youth in prayer, as well as those discipling them. God bless!
Thank you Mark for being straightforward from a man’s perspective
So glad it was helpful! God bless!
After finding God my whole wardrobe naturally changed , although it doesn't match my wallet ,so its either two things I do, not go anywhere or I just look through what I have that looks decent enough, hopefully I can get a new wardrobe soon
Thank you some much Mark for publishing a thorough video for women
Very helpful Mark! You are such a blessing to the body of Christ. 😊 Thank you for all your wisdom and advice.
My biggest concern when choosing my clothing is My Safety which isn’t something women typically think of, but I’ve been followed around, chased into stores, had guys walk right up to me to stare me up and down, had guys park next to my vehicle and wait for me while shopping for hours in a state that has a serious trafficking problem, and when women think they’re not responsible for a man’s sin, they instead should really should be thinking about how that man’s sin might endanger them. A lot of encounters I’ve had were while I was fully dressed, and though I occasionally wear shorts in public my safety always gives me pause. Also, women know what they’re doing when they bend over. They shouldn’t be drawing attention to certain areas when doing so. Equally, I think we should be conscientious of the married men that are watching.
Bermuda almost to the knee shorts are fine as long as theyre not thin material and skin tight, in public. nothing else shd b skin tight of light thin material, of course.
sounds like u need to tone down your hair n makeup n clothes if this is happening, or move out of that city, for sure. thin line between looking and kidnapping....oh my....
@@Lauren-vd4qe I did say fully dressed, and it's not about anything I've done but rather what society has devolved into.
@@photographyenthusiast9941 what city do u live in
I wish that Christian women who go the gym would wear more modest clothing as it is hard to tell them apart from the worldly women. God bless.
I work out at home, (problem solved for me,) and although I love yoga shorts and pants I would never wear that to work out around a bunch of men or ….gasp….wear a yoga bra in public. Apart from that, I don’t agree with this whole list, and frumpy isn’t my look. That said, I am more apt to completely cover up, because the attention I sometimes receive makes me feel unsafe.
I actually have a question about this, so I appreciate you saying this! As a man, what is "more modest clothing" for the gym in your opinion? For me, wearing shorts and a sports bra is way too immodest, but long leggings and a full coverage sports bra or tank top or t-shirt feels more modest to me. I focus more on strength training, so it's helpful (and motivating) for me to be able to see my muscles engaging during my workout. So fitted clothing that doesn't show too much flesh is my preference. However, you may think differently, so I'm curious to know what modest gym attire is to you from your male perspective!
@@photographyenthusiast9941 I’ve heard people argue about wanting to “look how I want” but people forget that in the past and throughout the centuries women dressed modestly not just to be modest but to not attract attention as men without morals can be quite cruel to beautiful women. Having a home gym certainly helps to not have to worry about unwanted attention and I hope to have room to make my own one day to lift in peace. God bless!
Amen..
@@charisse_xo In my opinion nothing too tight, short, or revealing. Most decent guys are there to workout in peace and when women dress immodestly it can cause men that struggle to have lustful thoughts. I believe men and women should both dress modestly in the gym. I usually wear gym shorts and a sleeveless shirt. For modest women, in my mind baggier clothing is best rather than skin tight. I’m a man with no experience with women so I’m sorry but I don’t know the terms women use for their clothes. The best thing to do is pray and let the Holy Spirit convict you and obey His urging of what to or not to wear. Thank you for your question. May God bless you and guide you in Yeshua’s Mighty Name!
Mark, I’m always impressed how well you express these hard triggering topic in this climate. There is always going to be that certain type of person who triggered by everything because of a spirit of offense, but I feel like for those who have ears to hear, and eyes to see you make biblically correct and fair statements.
This is something I struggle with due to my body shape. A simple dress may look decent, even classy on a petite woman but when you are "curvy" it takes on a whole different meaning. How can curvy women look classy without having to resort to wearing baggy clothes? ESPECIALLY when its hot.
Oh no. I'm thin and petite and can't pull off a loose dress. Those dresses are made for the tall and slender.
It can be done. I'm extremely curvy and when I sense i dont want to be stared down by certain people (guys), most definitely I cover up, even if it's just halfway covered up. I haven't always been this way, just now that I'm smarter and observant. You dont have to be so much when youre with your bf/ husband accompanying you
I get what you mean. When you are curvy everything makes you feel exposed. I used to wear coverups during winter, but now it is too hot. Funny thing is I was in denial about being curvy until last week and now everything I have makes me sad to leave the house.
I'm curvy also & decided to try a dress or 2 sizes up and it worked, hopefully this suggestion helps.
It's hard for me because I have super curvy body (naturally hourglass) and since I'm overweight it's MORE exaggerated :/ ... so no matter what I wear (say a straight dress) it comes out curvy. I know that wearing TIGHT clothes or too small isn't great. But in this case, you have to be aware and pick things that don't show off cleavage (for example) or very very minimal. Bodycon dresses for example come off as super short, tight but to me are not right to church or weddings, even though they are popular. Cheaply made clothes I realize are too small in the bust area for me, so I've decidedly upped my clothing and bought clothes that are true to size and consistency. Correct fitting undergarments help. I tend to go for clothes that don't fit EXACTLY (tight) but maybe 1 size up. Not all clothing is created equally as we all know. For an event and I'm wearing a dress (which is where I have tendency to have my issues), if I think I will have more exposure, I bring a backup shawl or scarf just in case (something light and breezy) since it can be hot in California.
I applied #2 to my choice in music. If I wouldn't play it around my parents, I shouldn't be playing it when they are not around.
God bless you for speaking the truth Mark!!!
I can say for sure that God doesn't have a problem with my dressing in something that makes me feel beautiful and good about myself. He dresses the flowers beautifully, and I love to wear flowery prints. There's a difference in dressing ladylike and dressing trampy, and I'm quite aware of the difference. Also, Just because someone is dressing in modest clothing, it doesn't necessarily mean that they are a virtuous person. God is more concerned with the condition of our hearts than what we wear, and no I'm not saying the outward appearance is irrelevant.
Amen. You handled that very well and I agree. As a godly woman, I think as you propose. Well done.
I liked this topic and your use of scripture. I think it was timely for the summer season.
I also think that women’s sports will be in the buff in my lifetime. They will spin it like back to Greek origins or something stupid. Why don’t parents and young women stand up for themselves? So, that’s a warning for watching the upcoming summer Olympics.
If anyone thinks that is a shocking statement: check out the college version of the sport and or walk around a college campus today.
3 things I need in clothes: comfort, modesty and femininity
@@Stillpril it’s important to be beautiful for a woman. Nothing at all wrong with that unless we make that our idol.
Great video brother. Very attractive when a woman decides to dress with modesty as opposed to showing everything
Wonderful message, Thank GOD for you!!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Our society is built on Everything sexual .
When as women we comprise in our dress code we become part of it..Sisters stand strong.. e in the world..but not of the world..especially in our dress
This is a difficult one for me. I grew up in a religion with an extremely strict dress code. My shoulders were sinful. My legs were sinful. Having more than one ear piercing was sinful. When I left that religion, I made choices that deliberately went against them just because I finally could. I got in abusive relationships where how I dressed was influenced and controlled yet again. Taking back my style and my body was part of my therapy and healing process. Obviously, I now have a relationship with God and want to honor him. But I also want to feel like me while I do it. I don’t want those parts of me controlled or stolen again.
Even as a conservative dresser, I feel very convicted by this video. I used to dress for my church and parents because they thought certain clothing is alluring while I didn't have the same personal conviction. So, now, I wear what I feel doesn't have provocative association on top of what I am spiritually at peace to wear to feel classy and elegant. I am not my clothing, but my clothing choices do send a vibe and message to others.
Agree with you wholeheartedly but the fact is if your joy stands out in a crowd even if you wear a sackcloth you will still have difficulty with attracting a godly man.
I wear simple blue or black nice Lauren t-shirts and boot cut jeans or non-clinging pants so I don't fit the criteria of a fancy woman looking like a girl trying to impress or attract attention from men. Funny thing is wearing this attire I am still complimented by women and men alike, and it’s just a nicer t-shirt and nice jeans 👖 that I am wearing. When at work I dress in a similar fashion… but work attire appropriate and comfortable but not to attract attention from others. Even at times when minimum people are in the office jeans and t-shirt are okay too.
Foolish people are in every auditorium of life and those men who think 🤔 about women in inappropriate ways evaluate women in an entirely sinful manner.
Trust knowing that Joy is the attraction and love for others will always shine ✨ brightly in a dimly lit room; the sinful man who has no intention of living a Christian lifestyle is always watching out for himself rather than being a man of Faith. The driving force behind any person’s inner desires will always surface in a short period of time speaking with a man, and their desires will become known and identifiable by a woman who has discernment in her.
Here’s a picture of the difference between a real life in Christ maneuvering rather than a robot image of the characters in the cultures comic strip series of dating scenes.
David looked at Bathsheba and decided to proceed with his sinful approach to having what he wanted; sex.
Joseph on the other hand when Potiphar’s wife kept nagging him and finally got to the point where she removed all her servants from her house and tried forcing Joseph to take advantage of the situation, he chose to fight back against satanic events and eventually by refusing with a Godly flee he was blessed to fulfill the Promises of God written in his own life.
The best way to describe a man of God rather than a foolish decision by a person who thinks he’s a genius abusing the grace of God.
Women have to remember the importance of being with godly friends rather than giddy friendships who don’t know what this little share means…. Joseph was clearly using the power of the spirit to help him flee from the grasp of darkness and evil and women who say they are Christian’s are to fight against evil in the same manner.. run 🏃♀️ away from him, and without any worry if you’re going to hurt his feelings. Good grace doesn’t mean you take upon yourself a Good Grief Charlie Brown charlatan character.
Really balanced video Mark. Thankyou brother 😊
Do not wear anything that you are "afraid" to run into your Pastor or an elder in the church. For me the hardest is finding bathing suits and cloths for working out.
I like the way you explained this, I think it was very close to how God wants women to look, however, the first one I don’t think is biblical. There are examples of God purposely making things beautiful, one example could be when there is a description of the King of Tyre in the Bible (describing, actually, a guardian cherub who was in Eden), it says that in Eden, every precious stone “adorned” him, and his settings and mountings were made of gold, on the day he was created they were prepared (meaning God purposely adorned him to make him beautiful). “You were the seal of perfection, full of wisdom and perfect in beauty” (Ezekiel 28:13-)
Something similar can be found in Ezekiel 16: 11-13. God purposely gave Israel jewelry when they left Egypt, and He is now saying that He “adorned” them with it, with gold and silver, and costly fabric. We know that afterwards, these jewels and precious stones were used in the tabernacle and the priests were adorned with them. Obviously, God wanted it to mimic or imitate the tabernacle in Heaven, that’s why He was so specific with everything. Truly, wanting to look beautiful is not a sin- BUT a woman shouldn’t take pride on her beauty and corrupt her wisdom because of it.
Please note that in both cases, it is God who’s talking. It is His direct word.
Now, when Paul and Peter are talking about pearls, gold, elaborate hairstyles, expensive clothes- let’s think for a moment why they chose to talk about these things specifically and not, perhaps, flowers in their hair, or painting their eyes (like in Ezekiel 23:40). Pearls, gold, elaborated hairstyles and expensive clothes were all tied to flaunting wealth (in fact, most of us these days still can’t afford real pearls, gold, elaborated hairstyles made a professional or even expensive clothes). The people that could afford these things were very rich, so they are both warning you about your intentions when you put on those expensive items, are you putting them on because you want others to see you? Because you want to flaunt about what you have? Rather, be modest and decent, and adorn yourself with good deeds, which you also wouldn’t want to do because you want others to see, or flaunt about them either. Hope this helps! God bless you all, beautiful women
How sad that you have to apologize throughout because of the prevailing sinful attitude. Ty, Brother, great words.
Great message and Eloquently articulated. When we are truly saved the Holy Spirit transforms us, hence the old us is gone. That transformation includes how we conduct and dress ourselves.
The thing is men can put all these rules and pressure on women about how to dress but lust is still an entirely separate issue they have to deal with and take accountability for. I’m a woman who sees an attractive man and will lust over him, too. Is that his fault or mine? His boobs aren’t hanging out, so clearly it’s mine. Lust has nothing to do with what a person is wearing. If a man has a lust problem, it will persist no matter what a woman is wearing.
Well, as someone who needs to work on this myself and repents of this quite often, it does seem that how a woman thinks (ie, lusting after a man) dictates the way she dresses. In short, if a woman is thinking about attractive men and lusting after them , of course she's going to dress in kind (i.e. seductively to attract that attractive guy). And, one can say "women are controlled by men" and such like, but this is a heart issue, and a matter of self control. And, well, men are the leadership in the Bible, according to 1 Corinthians 11, 1 Timothy 2:12-15, Ephesians 5, and the like.
I agree with you.❤You approached this topic with respect and integrity.
Hey everyone I came on here to say that I used to watch this channel all the time but after a few years God showed me the man He has for me and we got married that same year. Pretty crazy cool. Stay in prayer and desire the kingdom of heaven. God is going ro bless with you with everything that He has foe you in His timing
Struggling to believe that down deep. But determined to live by God's will. I'm very happy for you, though 😊
I will dress myself to look pretty, no matter what! And yes, I am beautiful the way I am.
Your value isn't based on what you wear.❤
@@laollamede I know, at the same time I don't want to look like grandma!
@@mysterygirl2881 I totally understand!
The Bible doesn't tell us what to wear, it tells us what needs to be covered.
??? What verse tells us that? I agree that we shouldn’t wear revealing clothing but the bible verses I’ve seen about modest are in regards to intention. Like if you are wearing elaborate hairstyles or expensive clothing with the purpose of finding your value in that, getting people to like you for that, or attracting people then you are being immodest. For example if a man wear a lot of name brands clothing and expensive watches, chains, and other jewelry with the Intention of being liked, seen as better, or just to get attention then he is being immodest. If he is wearing something with the intention of attracting women sexually or causing them to sin then it doesn’t matter if he’s covered from head to toe, he is being immodest. The same goes for women. If our intention is in the wrong place and we are using our outward appearance to create worth rather than our actions and relationship with God even if we aren’t showing skin we are being immodest. It’s about intention. Hence why God says elaborate hairstyles can be immodest. Not because they cause people to sin but because the women were doing them in order to attract others and gain some time of respect honor and or praise because of it. Here are some bible verses for that because I think as Christians we should back up what we say with the bible.
1 Timothy 2:9-10
1 Corinthians 6:19-20
1 Peter 3:3-4
Proverbs 11:22
1 Samuel 16:7
I'm a naturist, so I expected to disagree with a lot of this video, I was watching with a "how bad is it going to be?" type attitude. And I was pleasantly surprised. I agreed with almost all of it. Well done 😊
You did very well. When I was younger my mom and my grandma would always make sure that we wore slips under our dresses I never really understood but now that I am older I understand.
Great video. I will say, I have certain super conservative Christian friends who only wear skirts, no jewelry of any kind, no regular swimsuits (always it must be a swim skirt, or else boy board shorts that go down to the knee).. and so.. lol, I do have certain clothes for my "regular Christian friends and everyone in the world, even unsaved" but then when I go swimming with my super conservative friends, I tend to cover up more than I would going to the beach with my family & in laws. My in laws wear regular swimsuits. I dunno, I wish you would've addressed hanging w/the pentacostals verses the non denominational types, lol
One young woman at my church was wearing a top that was sooo revealing big on top. Needs to be addressed
I’m happy to report she came to church with a very loose top on and was on her knees in the front of the church praying
also, ask your fellow sisters in Christ or your family if an outfit is appropriate or not
yes, getting other's opinion can be helpful
My grey area is I live in the south with high humidity. I wear mini dresses all the time when I know Ill be in the heat, but I dress more conservatively when it church because we have ac. I dont wear this to draw attention to me, in fact, I truly dont like doing that for the most part... but I dont want to draw attention to myself sweating like a hog on a hot summers day either. I wear yoga pants to do certain physical work, but would NEVER wear it to bible study. I wear them to amusement parks when I have a jacket that covers my backside. I wear shorter shorts and tanks to amusement parks on hotter days, but dress more conservatively on cooler days. I absolutely agree with you, but I get really hot and sometimes sweaty, which is not cute at all. For me it dependa on activity, function and outside temp.
All great points. The key is that your conscience is clear and you feel you are honoring the Lord, which it sounds like you are there :)
Why is it always the women who are policed in the way they dress? God sent us to this earth naked- I am not ashamed of my body and I won’t let any men tell me otherwise. My personal choice is to dress modestly, but I decide what to wear and what not. Not Peter, who was jealous of women close to Jesus.
We were sent here naked before Adam and Eve are the forbidden fruit. Also it was only Adam and Eve that were naked which is basically husband and wife.
Yet Jesus chose Peter to be the rock of his church. Peter had traditional ideas of the culture at the time. At the feet of the Messiah, he learned differently, albeit slowly. 😅
If nudity was cool, why didn't Jesus walk around naked on a regular basis?
@@Kingdl351 Jesus did not give a dress code to women. And, last time I checked, women don’t walk around naked either. Why don’t you just trust women to make their own choices? Or are you „holier than thou“?
@sandywichmann9292 I am a woman. A natural born one. I try to follow the example of Christ, but I fall short. I am a sinner. I am not alone. There are a lot of women showing their junk for all the world to see. As a follower of Christ, I read and believe his Word from front to back. He is in the volume of the Book. I don't claim to understand it all. I do know that the temple of God is inside of us. I choose not to desecrate his temple by wearing reveling things. I choose to be set apart, working on holy.
I get that today's modern feminism has tainted the minds of many in this world of "do what thou wilt," but that's not what Christ is about according to all of his Word. It's not about me. It's about HIM.
@@Kingdl351 Well, I am a narural born woman (crazy that one has to clarify that today), too and an old-fashioned feminist. I do believe that men and women should have equal rights and equal responsibilities. Since Jesus taught men and women, I believe that men don’t have more weight or authority over women. Those women who wear extremely revealing clothes are usually not practicing Christians. Once you truly come to the Lord, you change yourself and your style automatically. Christian women don’t need to be given a dress code- we should leave that to Islam.
Thank you so much now I understand better what the Lord was trying to tell me by I should throw clothes ❤❤❤
This was a super well balanced video and both convicting and encouraging for me. Thank you!
I've learned that if a woman focuses on being feminine and classy it's reflected in her choices similar to being a masculine man and this naturally starting to wear 5.11s and cargo pants and shirts and gun belts. The internal will show in the external.
I like your emphasis on walking in relationship with God. Sabbath was made for man, not man for Sabbath. Walk in relationship with God in this area as you are meant to with all areas of your life. It’s truly not about making a rule like “if you have to ask, it’s probably too short” etc. It’s about talking with Dad. Every journey is unique and there are so many grey areas like this. God bless 💛🤙🏽⚡️
Not as the depravity of the mind wants but just on point if Christians will be true to their consciences and ultimately to GOD ALMIGHTY who wants us wise.
God bless you Pastor Mark. More grace to you
I agree with everything except the red heels. Heels can really dress up an outfit. Look at Melanija Trump. She dressed classy modestly and always wore heels!
They are unhealthy because they force an unnatural posture, though, and make it easy to fall and difficult to run in an emergency.
@@leilawilliams8175You don't have to wear heels all the time. Once a week for two hours I think it's fine. And if an emergency occurs, just take them off, it is that simple!
This guy needs 1 samuel 16. "God doesn't judge by the outward appearance like man does he judges the heart"
Will you do the man version for this type of video, too? Please help out your brothers, too! I always feel awkward to see hairy muscle legs outdoor, some male shorts can be too short or too tight 😢. And we all might need the swimwear video version, too!😅
The Bible does gives us a dress code!
In the New Testament, the Bible says women are supposed to be modest and not adorned in riches.
If you love your Christian brother, why would u want to cause him to possibly sin.
amen. However, there is a balance because you can't actually make him sin. And he could lust after you regardless of what you wear. But yes, you certainly should avoid clothing that is worn with the motive of making him lust after you
Nobody can make anybody sin, Everyone Is responsible for their own choices.
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallengerI agree but people rarely talk about the fact that men are visual mostly creatures. If women walked around with floating heads, none would be married 😂😂. So just be mindful sisters.
I have seen horrible comments in Christian channels where grown men are lusting over modest women because they find it more attractive, that “innocence”. I actually believe that some women dress a certain “modern” way because, paradoxically, is a way of not getting too much attention. I have worn some very modest dresses that would stand out, exactly, because I was modestly dressed. It is a very subtle topic. Although I don’t feel comfortable in certain revealing clothes, I also don’t feel comfortable in judging any women wearing them.
@@12Messengerwomen are also visual. This isn't unique to men.
Good message! I have been thinking about some of the stuff in my closet lately. I seem ti go for a while with a decent wardrobe but gradually incorporate more questionable things. Time to clean up shop! 🙂 thank you for this video Mark!
On a side note, I do try to wear a top that will (mostly) cover the behind when I wear jeans. (Idk who invented leggings and the like, but I feel that they are totally out of question for my wardrobe!)
Just dress according to the seasons, or based on the activities you are doing. I get dressed everyday and I don't put so much thought into it. I wear what I feel comfortable in. Period.
I wish godly men would ask a woman direct "What do you think about this/that?" instead of bellyaching and complaining like children about how women dress. One of my relationship rules is "don't tell me what I can or can't wear". I've known men who take their leadership role into a dictatorial domineering overbearing attitude and I'm beyond over that. It doesn't communicate love or cherishing at all.
This was good quality content in my opinion. Modesty and freedom.
I can understand your bad experience with men. But some question: Is it bad to dress to impress your husband? A man may say their opinion, but in lovely manner, like "that, what you wear, bothers me. Can you change it, please?" To tell her to dress revealing is false and a man has sinned. Before he leads her wife, he must submit to Christ and love his wife. If a man won't change his preferences, he is not compactible to you. But I hear, that you are not humil to let him lead. In the marriage and as a Christian, neither husband nor wife can dress, whatever they want. It is not like feminism with "strong independent woman", who she gets her pants on and she is unsatisfied, although her husband may nothing. Let God heal your heart. Pray for wisdom and humility.
God bless you!
On all men: Set in the beginning before marriage boundaries. That cause much less hurt. Before you marry, one of the spouses can leave.
@@danielreich5799 All due respect, humility is a virtue specifically oriented to recognizing the difference between oneself and God. To assert that a woman is not humble because she holds strong convictions before a man suggests a potentially erroneous understanding of what humility is and the One to Whom it is rightly oriented.
I appreciate the effort you put in to responding and your thoughtfulness in your response. Especially your asserting that a man must submit to Christ before he leads a wife - my Godmother told me similarly. (I would add that he also needs to lead himself well, be self-disciplined in fundamental virtues, not be a slave to his passions.)
Had you used voice-to-text, or is English not your primary language? I'm having some difficulty understanding some of the sentences, but hope I am getting the jist of what you're trying to get across.
@@aperta7525 I am not from the US. In Western Europe is much more difficult to be Christian
I am German
It's horrible to feel that we can't just be instead of competing with everything else in life. I was competing against women performing in porn, comic book characters, fan fiction characters as well as nearly every woman that was walking, standing, sitting, or dancing around my last intimate relationship. I did everything I could to save my relationship only to have him sit in the council of the ungodly and now that relationship is gone. I want none other and dress to keep eyes off me and away from any appearance of desires. God is my husband and I want to please Him
You right, the flesh wants to be on the throne. The flesh wants to set it out, this area is where a saved sista has to be on guard....Daily! We are not to be IGNUTT of Satan's devices.
This approach to the subject of attire and modesty is so respectiful and refeshing. Compared to the bashing approach I have seen on youtube.
I think that christian women need to help are children who are being sexualised by the fashion industry.
Even when i was not a christian. I took a ruler to my teenage daughter shorts and explained the difference between knicker and shorts on a hot day. I was very explit about the fact that women are walking around in clothes that present them as naked and that the cat walk is no place to get your fashion idea now. Her classy and edgy young women, rather than doing the naked exposure style where you have to close your eyes in shock at the level of nudity on our street
I choose to wear low V necks but I wear cami tops or lace inserts so my cleaverage is not on display given that I am busty. This is something new as a christian I dont want the male sexual attention that I would normally get with low revealing tops.
There are small modesty adjustments which means i can still express my character, personality love of fashion. It definately a heart matter and my heart is changed.
Such wholesome helpful advice Mark ❤
Does dressing for your body type go against #3? For example I have a 'athletic' or 'rectangular' body. So I wear skirts/dresses that flair at my waist to highlight my waist. The length always reaches below my knee or further. Always modest.
I love backless dresses but had to let go of them. He’s more than worth it though.
You should do a video about tattoos. I’ve seen many Christian people with tattoos. But doing what everyone else is doing doesn’t make it right.
Agree. I've noticed ever since tattoos became more mainstream during the mid 90s, even more Christians are finding it acceptable to use them, mainly in the west though. I even heard excuses of some Christians saying they use their tattoos as a witnessing tool. I think as time passed, more Christians started finding it more acceptable instead of questioning their popularity like I did. And it's mostly women who get these tattoos when it used to be mainly men in certain groups.
Even one woman who I used to date for a short time years ago, it bothered her when she was excited to show me her large cross tattoo on her leg and I didn't care that much and was slightly bothered by it. The artwork didn't even look that good either. While she may have been proud of it, her other lifestyle choices were questionable, especially since she was a pastors daughter.
I just wanna say that maybe not be so quick to judge people with tattoos. I got saved later on in life back in 2018 and unfortunately I had already had tattoos on my body… this use to make me feel so shameful and like an outsider when I first started going to church because people would stare or children would ask questions and it was really uncomfortable. I now am better at realizing that my tattoos don’t define me and I can now use them as a testimony to who I use to be vs who I am now. That is something only the Holy Spirit can convict a person on. I remember asking my pastor what he thought ? And he was so gentle and loving and told me he thought it was something I should go to the Lord in prayer and ask Him about lol. And God has convicted me, I don’t feel like God would approve of me getting more tattoos so I don’t. I even came to the point to where I was obsessing over should I get the removed? And read about how you have to have multiple sessions and they’re just burning layers of your skin off and then have to stitch it back together and it’s so expensive and I had to stop and think okay, am I seeking man’s approval or Gods? Because I’ve already been forgiven. If God told me to remove them then I would and I know he’d provide the funds and means to do so. Please I urge you to just be gentle when looking at people and making assumptions. None of us know exactly what God is doing in someone’s life and we should want to always be loving and gentle towards others. Pray for God to speak to them and be at work in their hearts and remember you aren’t their judge.
I needed this message. God bless!
All glory to God!
Great points! Thank you!
When you are in the kingdom, you abide by the rule of the kingdom. Modesty is our way in the kingdom of our Lord Jesus.
When i received the Holy Spirit, the First thing he spoke to me about was my dressing after Prayer though.
Weldone Mark
For me personally, I have had situations where I glimpsed at a girl in church, not on purpose, and then when I closed my eyes in worship or in prayer. The image was still in my mind when I was trying to stay in the mindset of being in God's presence.
I approach an older woman who is a mother or grandmother type and gently ask them if they could have a word with the girl. As it wouldn't be appropriate for me to ask.
But the point I'm making is the image that stays in my mind, and godly women should help our tendency as men, who are naturally visual!
Women are also visual. That's not unique to men. You getting distracted at church is not someone else's fault. That could happen no matter what she is wearing.
@ashleydanielson3222 true for both men and woman.
But the bible does say that woman should be modest in appearance.
But I did pull up a male pastor once that he wanted to make a fashion statement by having his jeans hanging down showing his but.
Yes woman and men have visual difficulties for there is neither male nor female but a new creation!
As a modestly dressed follower of Jesus. We must never dress modest to attract men but out of obedience to Christ. Seek God for a spouse because you can attract someone that's pretending to be a godly partner. May Jesus bless anyone reading.
This goes for men too but less so I guess
It applies to men too, but I'll be addressing the specifics for men differently in another video as it does get expressed differently for men and women in most cases
Especially online. Men thirst traps on social media is weird to me.
I am enjoying fashion, I love to dress up, and I love to feel pretty, but I still find my inner values much more important. Am I wrong? Is loving nice dresses a sin?
Same here. I wear what makes me feel pretty and look good. No, it's not a sin to love nice clothes!
I’ve seen a beautiful woman In the church wear nothing but tight dresses long story short she’s engaged and I’m not 😩
Thank you for this. I don’t want the type single man who lusts after my body and doesn’t love me because of my relationship with the Lord.
I can't afford to dress the way I want, and Yah tells us not to worry about what we wear so... this is worldly talk
I had to start wearing loose baggy shirts at the gym. I have a fabulous body and have worked very hard on it. But I don’t like to be looked at lustfully and don’t want to cause a man to sin.
The scriptures he’s reading are referring to married women. It says wives. Which yes wives shouldn’t wear certain things. And a single woman shouldn’t expect a righteous man by dressing scandalous. But women in general should be to express themselves.
Master i will be waiting for you still
Deuteromy chapter 22 verse Number 5 .
If she is dressing for other mens attention and she is your wife then you and her are in trouble.
yup, that's a different topic but that is certainly an issue
If she's naturally good looking the wife will get the extra attention, even if she isn't trying much. A very jealous or insecure man might be better off with a "5" instead of a "9"--less worry and conflict.
Yes it’s Proverbs 31 Family
God bless!
Yessssssssss ✨️✨️✨️
Have yall noticed how difficult is to buy women's clothing lately?
I just went shopping today and all you see in stores is crop tops. 🤦🏻♀️
Don't forget yoga pants, sundresses, short shorts.
Yes, it's terrible. It makes me so angry. No wonder, why stationary shops of well-known brands are in decline. You must buy online, self-made or in a special boutique to find a good one
Personally, I prefer shopping online rather than in stores these days. I've found some lovely modest dresses from brands like Inherit, which is run by a Christian couple dedicated to modest clothing. Recently, I got a beautiful dress for summer church services, but it sold out quickly! I also like browsing Roolee and Nothing But Fits; although they're not specifically focused on modesty, they do have some beautiful pieces for modest ladies. And don't forget, Amazon also offers a wide range of modest selections too!
Yes! it's sooo frustrating...I've seen baby shirts longer than some crop tops made for adults😫
Yeah even with online stores. I get something thinking it’ll be long and when it comes it looks like they cut what I bought in half. I just want a long shirt that looks nice and is comfortable not a crop top that’s almost the length of my bra lol.
I'm very very busty. Its hard to hide that no matter how I cover up. This is a great video. No need for disclaimers, Mark. Your on point.
I might have to pray about this. Cause one thing I love to wear is yoga pants. I don’t do it to reveal my butt. In fact when I attracted my husband it was with a t shirt and jeans. I do it cause they’re just so comfortable. Also I would feel embarrassed to wear them in church, but that doesn’t make it easier to never wear them at all. Cause I’m perfectly comfortable wearing them everywhere else. Even around other Christian’s outside of church. Just not when I’m in church.
It works great to wear short dresses over yoga pants.
Amen 🙏
God bless!
For those who are having trouble dressing her body in a tasteful, modest fashion. Im sure there are hundreds of YT creators that help with learning how to fit their bodies.
Remember the show, "What Not to Wear"?
I love wearing dense material (really good quality) exercise leggings in my home and yard, but I don't feel fully comfortable wearing them grocery shopping. These leggings trip up even the nicest men and I don't want that.
Well said
Every time I’m getting ready for the day I ask God, what should I wear today Lord?