There's no pain in the world worse than Labour pain. I wish someone had been as honest with me as you have been on here as I would have been better prepared. Thank you for your honesty. - Frances
Kay! You are TOTALLY amazing! Your birth-story is so full of courage, love, and a Woman's endurance! Respect to you! you are a warrior-mama! Your little baby and Dom, are blessed to have you! Love to you all, Sue xxx
Congratulations Kay. Your attitude served you both so well! I remember realising after birth that it starts off feeling like your story and your preferences and soon enough you realise that it’s not about just you any more but also your baby and their story and their needs and then that becomes true of your life from that moment on! You did so well and richly rewarded with a beautiful Bub. X
The human body is an amazing amazing creation. Kay, you are amazing and wonderfully made, by God. Thankful you’re healthy and happy and have a beautiful son. Thank you for sharing your birth story.
Thank you so much for this! I am currently 19 weeks pregnant, and I haven't been watching many labor or birth story related videos or anything, cause I just wanna enjoy where I'm at now and not freak out about birth, like I'm telling my self, when it comes, we will just be able to do it together, it'll be fine. But I knew watching you would help me calm down, cause your energy and calmness and the positivity are such a supportive thing, and it makes me feel like, even if things don't go as planned (which they of course never do), it's okay, and it's an experience, and you will be more you for it. I twill happen as it happens, and that is the most perfect way for it to happen. When I found out I was pregnant, I was just so excited about you coming back when you're ready and telling us about your experiences with your baby and your new family with Dom and the kitties, cause it feels so soothing listening to someone whose philosophy I agree with and support even when I can't reach it, someone I can relate to and whose thoughts ground me, so I just wanted you to know that this type of thing means so much to me, I don't feel scared, I feel even better about it, and thank you for being such a beautiful soul!
Oh bless you! I'm so glad I was able to share in a way that felt calming for you, that's what I hoped for! I didn't want to romanticise it but I also didn't want to only share the hard parts as it was a really incredible, empowering experience. I've never felt so connected to my body! You're going to be amazing & congratulations on your pregnancy ♥
I don’t have any littles yet but what really stood out to me in your story, something I hope to take with me, is your mindset! ‘This is the ideal, but what happens is what was going to happen’ and how you were able to see the good in everything without dismissing the bad. Thank you for sharing!!
Thank goodness for having a health system that includes midwives! They are amazing and you are amazing for coming through this experience and still trying to keep to your ideals of leaning on the positives and enjoying the 'experience' of motherhood as much as you can. I have a rare genetic kidney disease where I pass kidney stones on a semi-regular basis and I learned the hard way that it is easier to control pain if you get on top of it before it reaches its peak.
Hi Kay, watching this brought back memories of my daughter’s birth nearly 40 years ago! I was induced at 42 weeks and it still took 3 days for her to arrive! I also had a retained placenta and had a spinal anaesthetic after delivery to enable a manual removal. That went a bit wrong and I ended up propped up on pillows, pivoting on my bottom with my legs up in stirrups. I have had issues with the nerves in the tops of my legs ever since!😏. I was so sore afterwards having been stitched, unstitched and re stitched and watching what happened really traumatised my poor husband so much he never wanted any more children. I was in hospital for a week as my daughter developed severe jaundice and needed phototherapy. Luckily they put me in a side room and I managed to get some sleep even with the unit lighting up the room. I am very blessed to have had a healthy baby- who turns 40 next Spring!🫣 - and I am so glad that maternity care has moved on. Your midwife sounds amazing! xxx
Thanks Kay so much for sharing this story. I had a difficult birth with my son and there were good bits and bad bits and this has really helped me appreciate the good bits and accept the bad ones ♥️
Thank you for your honesty in sharing your experience. I'm so delighted you had a great midwife who advocated for you when you needed it. I felt like a failure for a while after the birth of my son, as my labour did not go entirely as I had hoped. Your retelling of events was truthful and balanced in its good and bad moments and I for one am grateful that you shared it. Congratulations on your son - enjoy all the moments together x
My labour didn’t go as I had hoped either but I promise you aren’t a failure ❤ as Kay said, it’s going to go how it’s going to go and at the end of the day we’ve actually so little control of it ❤
Wow. What an incredible story. You're an amazingly strong woman. Thank you so much for sharing this with us all. Congratulations on your little miracle. ❤
Thanks for sharing your story, Kay. It was lovely to hear you come through the highs and lows in a very insightful way. I had a traumatic first labour, but I went on to have another 2 babies. Treasure the experiences ❤
Watching this has brought back memories of both my labour experiences, both were completely different and the second time round was definitely a more positive experience. As soon as I got to the hospital both times the first thing I said was I wanted the epidural. Anyone that gives birth without any pain relief, wow that is incredible and I am just in awe. Glad to see you are both healthy and doing well ❤🙏
So glad your second time was a more positive experience, that gives me hope for the future. Good to hear you had a positive experience with the epidural too! x
So lovely to watch this Kay! I first watched your videos when I was trying to conceive last November. Now at 24 weeks myself and so excited for what’s to come. Thank you for such a honest journey so far 🧡
Amazing honesty, every birth is completely different. I've had four. And in all those four I've had a different experience. One birth was absolute agony to the point I'm ashamed I was begging them to put me to sleep. And my last was absolutely amazing. Essential oils. Calm. Strong. Manageable pain. Woman are incredible no matter how their births go either way 💜
Not a birth story but I can empathize with that horrid uncomfortable feeling in hospital after a procedure. I had an ovarian cystectomy this past winter and spent two nights in hospital sleeping on a birthing bed (Christmastime and only the maternity ward was staffed), and it was horrific! Those beds are not for sleeping, and the pain and discomfort was next level. I cannot imagine going through that after the blissful environment of the first room you were in, and wanting to bond with baby. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for your honesty in this video, it’s what us mums to be need before birth so we can have an idea of what to expect. I’m due in less than 16 weeks and find videos like this really help me mentally prepare. Thank you so much 🩷
Oh kay i got so choked up for you, you had everything you wanted then for it to go the way it did, but bless you for stating strong must have been so scary for you all. What an amazing mum, you're body was truely remarkable and your son was out and pefect. Thank you for sharing you story as traumatic as it was for you, women will appreciate the honesty and rawness, the midwife was amazing she literally had you nailed didnt she, she got you. I had a really traumatic birth i was 17 an emergancy c section not planned and no one explained anything to me. That was 25 years ago nearly to the day so the support and guidence you had was priceless. Much love to you all x x
I'm having my first baby in 5 weeks (well around 5 weeks til my due date). I'm really hoping for a water birth so I'm watching back this video. I didn't think of putting in my birth plan that I want to be the first one to hold my baby so I'm definitely including that now.
It is so generous of you to share your experience....and it really brought me back to my two births so, so many years ago. I was lucky to have very quick labors with no time to even consider any pain med...BUT I had a very bad tear with my second. So I really relate to your postpartum incision pain and fatigue and the HORMONES! Giving birth so sacred and magical and empowering and HARD WORK! Congratulations Mama!
Thank you for sharing your story, it sounds quite similar to mine, I had my baby girl 16 days ago and I was not prepared for the intensity and pain of labour and delivery x
You're an absolute hero! Hope you're proud of all you went through and how you all handled it together. Hope you've been enjoying every minute of your little boy - I gave birth to our son on NYE and have just celebrated his 6 month 'birthday'. It's magic. x
Thank you so much for sharing your birth story and being so honest, Kay! It was really helpful to hear a foley balloon experience, had never heard a birth story with it. I’m eight months right now and also hoping for a labor as natural and peaceful as possible, although as you said, we have to let go of the feeling of control and accept that special circumstances may come up. I am so glad you got the medical help needed at that moment ❤
Neither had I, I think it's becoming a bit more common now though. Glad I could share a good experience with it. All you can do is hope for the best and stay as positive as you can whilst also remembering we have no control 🤣♥ Wishing you well lovely x
Love your honesty, I think it’s so helpful for first time mums to hear stories like yours. I had a hemorrhage after my first was born - just like you, following a non medicated birth - and was rushed off to theatre, she had skin to skin with dad like your little boy. General anaesthetic and they removed a mini second placenta which was an early reabsorbed twin. I’d never heard of this! Thanks to modern medicine we live to tell the tale. She’s a healthy 6 yr old now ❤ sending so much love to you Kay, enjoy these precious early years with your son, and thank you for your channel, i always enjoy your videos 😊
I feel you Kay. My entire birth preferences went out the window 🙈 I had my son in 2020 I had planned a home birth and ended up with an emergency c section and haemorrhaged too. My baby and I spent a week in hospital without hubby or any visitors at all because of covid. It was a scary time. Thank you for sharing your birth experience with us all ❤ I’m glad you were both safe and well ❤
Thanks for sharing this. My two babies are now 13 and 16 but listening to you brought so many memories (both good and not so good!) back. I wish I'd heard more birth stories before having mine as my first labour went badly after also being pregnant for 42 weeks like you! With my first I ended up with an emergency c sec after a day of labouring and getting to the pushing stage. But my second baby 3 years later was born just after my due date v quickly and naturally. I wish before I'd had my first I had understood that every birth is different and we definitely shouldn't feel blame or regret for what happens. So nice to see your little family growing and to have you back on RUclips. X
I highly recommend getting the epidural. I got it, slept through the night with a couple of brief interruptions while the nurse checked out my progress dilating, then the next morning at about 11am they woke me up and said that it's time to push the baby out. I had 2 elastic bands on my belly, holding sensors, one for the baby's heart beat and one to monitor my contractions. 15 minutes later she was born. They told me when to push and I pushed with all I had. I was starting to tear a bit so they did a small cut which they sewed back afterwards. The sewing was probably the worst part. Epidurals are wonderful, I was numb from the waist down, but I could go to the bathroom pushing the IV stand, I could walk fine.
Congrats Kay! Thank you for sharing your story. I’m 6 weeks PP and I also had a major post partum haemorrhage due to my placenta not coming either. Lost 2.5 litres of blood and was away from my Son and husband for 3 hours xx
@@Livingthelifeyoulove yeah it was a lot! I felt so much better after the transfusion and some fluids, was like being brought back to life 😂 I’m good thank you. On iron tablets for the foreseeable which is a minor x
Thanks so much for sharing x I've got 4 sons and every birth was different x thanks for your honest and full account , it will be so helpful to other expectant mums xx
Thank you so much for this video. Really appreciate your honesty. I'm 9 weeks now and found you recently from your first 12 weeks video which has brought me so much comfort and reassurance. I have hypermobility like you do, and I also have a fused spine on my lower back following a Scoliosis. Future appointments to be had with doctors and anesthetists. However, I think from doing some research I may need a general anesthic c-section which is scary. But it would be the safest thing for me and baby. That's all that matters in the end. Thank you again for your video ❤
I would absolutely reccoment finding a hypnobirthing practitioner who focuses on c-sections. Will bring you lots of peace and reassurance and remind you to focus on what's in your control and let go of the rest. Congratulations also on your pregnancy!♥ x
Brave strong Kay ❣️ your labour sounds like mine. My first labour of my son was exactly the same. But with my daughter the second labour it was very different. My body take it over with the second one and i had a epiduraal the second time and this makes it beter. Its no spa 😊 we are fighters in labour 🤗 wel done Kay ❣️
Aww Kay, thank you so much for sharing your labour story with us. I understand the hypermobility side of things, I eneded up with spd with my second baby, really painful! He ended up weighing 10 pounds 5 ounces😅Love to you all xxx
Enjoyed your telling of your experience. My first pregnancy was not eventful but it was without timed contractions - it started with timings but it just developed into what seemed a perpetual contraction - however baby was born after 8 hours in labour. And nearly 2 hours in the delivery room - was very painful and delivery was just short of the medical staff taking me to have a section. My next labour however was great - I was a full two weeks late and no one had mentioned anything about inducement - I went into labour naturally and had a textbook labour - stayed at home timing the contractions and went to hospital at about 4 minutes between contractions. Was in hospital and gave birth within 40 minutes. It was still labour and therefore painful but so much more easy than before - and delivery was very quick. Couldn’t have asked for anything better the second time.
Thanks so much for sharing your story! Congratulations on the arrival of your baby boy! I resonated so much with your story! I had my baby boy last summer at a birth centre. Laboring in the water was so peaceful and really helped with the pain. My midwife was monitoring his heartbeat and it started to drop, so we moved onto the bed where things quickly escalated. I pushed him out really quickly, resulting in a very bad tear. I hemorrhaged as well, and had to be taken by ambulance to a nearby hospital. My baby and husband weren't able to come with me in the ambulance and I just remember feeling so many emotions at that time. I was so devastated to be seperated from my baby. I had to go into surgery right away and same as you, my birth was totally natural and unmedicated, and suddenly I was hooked up to an IV, given multiple painkillers and sedation. I just felt so sad, and like I had done something wrong. I tried so hard to give my baby the best start (as we all do), but it felt like that everything I had worked so hard for, was just ripped away so suddenly. It took me a long time to make peace with what happened, but I have a beautiful, healthy and happy baby boy and that is truly all that matters! 💙 thank you for your courage in sharing your story! ❤️
Thank you Kay for sharing your story, I had really hoped you would but equally would have understood had you wanted to keep it private. I too was separated from my baby after birth, he had a forceps delivery and a black eye as a result so had to be given paracetamol and put in an incubator. So I totally get why you were so upset. I had an epidural so I think you’re amazing for enduring the pain and yeah don’t blame you for saying that next time you wouldn’t ( I only had a few contractions without it and that was enough 😂) I’m so happy you had the birth you wanted and glad you are ok after your surgery. Your midwife sounds amazing. Wishing your wee family love and happy vibes xxx
The ballon was just a new thing when I was pregnant with my daughter in 2020 and was asked if I would like to trail it but as a first time mum I declined as I wasn’t sure about it, glad you are both safe and well ❤❤❤❤
@@Karincl7 I haven’t ever heard of it prior and my midwife said it was a fairly new thing they had started, could have been a different type of balloon in the 90s to now I’d imagine.
@@KatyKent haha ok I lied, goodness me I’m only saying this is what I was offered and was told it was something new and wasn’t being offered out much at that time, if this was due to Covid I don’t know. I just know I was told this.
Thank you for sharing, I had a totally different labour and delivery but I did get an epidural, had a haemorrhage and had some seperation from my baby so I totally understand that weird feeling in postnatal, not being able to move a lot and feeling really depleted. It's a journey 😅
Hi. Kay, I'm so glad I watched this,you told everything very well,yes I watched till the end.Its amazing how things have changed from when my daughter was born in 1973...Caroline disposable nappies was 1p a nappy in a pack of 30 ? Looking forward to your next video of you ,Dom,Little One,& Rory & Echo.❤
Hectic story Kay. Gosh I too had a similar experience, these things are totally out of our control. Glad you and baby are fine. I live in Cape Town South Africa and our hospitals are fabulous and not so sticky when it comes to early or latent labour. You are treated like a queen and the food is fabulous. So different to what I hear that side. Your baby gets roomed in but they take care of everything until you are strong enough. Your next baby will probably just fall out 😅
Thank you so much for sharing your experience, it’s so special and important and I’m grateful. I’m 5 weeks pp and on the road to recovery. I relate to everything you said and it made me laugh when you said you’d get an epidural next time (I had a home birth with no pain relief too and asked for the epidural multiple times as a gauge of how far along I was haha - but also because the pain was a lot more intense than I imagined!) I’m finding recovery and breastfeeding a bit difficult right now, if you had any advice or were able to share your experience, I’d appreciate it! All the best
It's such an intense experience isn't it! It's something you really can't ever prepare for. I hope you keep healing and recovering, my main advice is take it slow, ask for all the help and with breast feeding - ask your midwife/health visitor and get them to come out and check your latch as many times as you need! There are also breastfeeding groups you can go to in some children centres, definitely recommend! x
I’ve raised a glass of rose wine to celebrate. That’s my excuse 🤣. You had a bit of a time. I realise I must have been lucky. Ist 3 hour, 2nd 2 hours and 3rd less than 2 labours. No pain relief or stitches.
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us! I also had a water birth with my first baby and although it helped me cope with the pain and speed my labour along after a lengthy 36 hours I didn't have such a great experience more than anything I think down to my midwife ... I wasn't taken seriously about when I said the head was coming so whilst she chatted to the trainee my daughter literally flew out with absolutely no guidance through the pushing resulting in a very nasty tear that landed me in theatre just to be stitched up. Also my daughter was back to back so I stayed on all 4s the whole time and throughout transitioning my bum kept raising up out of the water uncontrollably and the midwife just kept telling me to stop... Turned out that was happening due to my coxix dislocating and despite after birth me explaining that it was unbearable to sit up my coxix hurt that bad they never checked so I was sent home and spent a week left with a dislocated coxix until a visiting midwife finally took me seriously when my lower back swelled like a balloon and i explained my bum raising during transition. Needless to say she was horrified and warned me that if it didn't go back into place on it's own by the end of that week I'd have to go back to hospital (luckily it did) it was an overwhelming experience especially being only 19 years old and refusing any pain relief due to a history of anxiety and panic attacks, I felt happier when I felt some what in control, I couldn't even tolerate the gas and air but I was so grateful me and my girl where both ok. My second birth was sooooo different!! So please don't be put off by the intensity of your first. My second daughter I was able to have at home, I was terrified and convinced it would be another long labour like my first but to my surprise that wasn't the case! My two midwives where incredible, put on a nice girly movie for me, lowered the lights and told me and my husband to cuddle up and share the moment and that they where there when we needed so I laboured with them down stairs for a little while as I wasn't in established labour at that point and I warned them my previous delivery was a very long one... A little while after they came up and insisted I stood up and with that I suddenly felt a need to push, my established labour was just 21 minutes!!! She was born in her waters and they where able to stitch me up at home, she ran me a lovely bath after and kept the whole atmosphere so calm, they where amazing and it was such an incredible experience!! As they say every pregnancy and every labour is different and it's sooo true! Xx
Thank you for sharing Kay. What an amazing birth experience 💕 I was in labour with my second son for less than 20 minutes. Nice and quick, then I had to be taken into theatre due to retained placenta. I think I was in more pain after the birth! 😮😂 X
Wow, Kay, your birth story is litrally THE SAME as mine. The only difference I had is that my midwife lead hospital was separate from the hospital so I was put into an ambulance and taken to a main hospital as my son was stuck too,but everything from the birth, hemorrhaging, theatre,stitches, spinal, tubes, blood loss,litrally everything! In the end, i had vontous as i had nothing left, and he was still stuck.i😂Isn't it so crazy that we can go through it, but our bodies heal! Honestly, we are super heros!!! Thank you for sharing your story❤ it takes me straight back to my birth ❤so hlad you are doing well again x x x
Could you please tell us what was your birth plan in one of your videos? I'm starting to think about it and I really like everything you spoke about in this video. I understand if you do not want to though xx
Fellow Kay-follower from the US here! I think what they call the sweep is what we call stripping the membranes-or, at least, that’s what my midwife called it. Although he was from England originally, heh! I was 42 weeks pregnant and my (very cool male English) midwife encouraged it as a relatively gentle way to encourage the baby to…er, get moving. (BTW that baby is now almost 23!) Sometimes though it may be too gentle, in a manner of speaking, and then I believe induction is often the next move.
I have two sons around your age, my 1st son was born breach, 13 Hour in Labour without pain relief 😳 2nd was fine normal delivery, but after having him was the worst time as I had a trainee nurse doing my stitches, it was horrendous and I was never asked if it was ok for her to do it 😭 🩷💙💙 anyway you🙏did it! Congratulations And now a new home 🏡 XxX
I had my son 32 years ago Kay and my experience of birth was also not pleasant to say the least. I remember the pain, the fear of the unknown, the whole experience was so scary and my husband said afterwards that he would never put me through that again and that it was barbaric. My husband had a vasectomy when our son was 3 months old. I always said I only wanted one child but I could not have gone through another birth. I also didn’t have much pain relief and maybe if I had my experience would have been different and I may have had more children but I am more than happy that I had a beautiful, healthy baby and that was good enough for us ❤
Lovely to listen to your story. My first was so funny as I was expecting lots of pain. I was on time Friday 13th. I spent too long at home wondering if the pain was enough. I almost had the baby in the car but got to the ward they were saying laid back until I made a weird groan. They look my leggings off and it was all systems go and baby born a few minutes later about 15 mins later I was in the shower. 2nd was one day late I was in labour up a mountain (it had a road I just sat looking at view) waters broke. My son was allowed in the labour room I had told him to say don't worry mummy soon be over so when it got painful I looked at him. Again baby came quickly. ,3rd one was in a different hospital my children weren't allowed I was in a dirty room waiting for a bed as 3 weeks early. Midwife was awful so I went and sat outside the hospital. Came back and only 6cm but then I was 10 they wanted me to go in the lift to labour ward I said no. Baby came no pain relief for any of my births. I was incredibly blessed.
Oh Kay that did should horrible. My birth started with pains at 6am and I had my son at 3.13pm that afternoon and no meds whatsoever. I feel incredibly lucky to have experienced such a birth. Thank you for sharing ❤
I'm not sure yet if I will be sharing my breastfeeding journey, i'm still sitting with the idea of sharing my experience as it is a very personal journey x
Did you do hypnobirthing birthing course before labour?...i think that could have helped with the anxiety....although in the moment it's hard ❤ i really wanted a natural birth but had to have a last minute planned c section because i developed pre clampsia at 40 and a half weeks. I am still sad about it 😢 but its just how it was obviously meant to be 💫
I hated everything being pregnant, giving birth (it hurts) and my first night as a mother I said to the nurse to take my kid for the night. Their now in their 20 and love their mum, so everything is relative
@@fionab4483I’m not sure if hers is, but our local nhs midwife led unit is very similar, hotel like rooms with the birthing pools! Sadly never an option for me being high risk but they do look wonderful
Wow.....I know certain parts you explained...I was in labor the firstborn 17.5 hours after my waters broke.....and I remember when I left the ward ...after four days ....with my baby girl ......my midwife said I will see you in two in about two years....I answered with not a chance........😂.....but funny enough two and four months later....but thankfully...my labor took 30 mins in total...three pushes and he was out. .... thank goodness.... nothing like my first....baby boy. X You do forgot the pain to a degree ....and yes in heartbeat ....I would have gone through it all again...well done to yourself....to Dom. And a brilliant midwife and her team... 😊...oh and huge congratulations once again on your baby boy. Xx
Hi Kate , now after have hearing how your sons birth went , we should and can all now understand why you never came back to You Tube for 6 months. Obviously you needed to get all your emotions together and be in a more comfortable state in your body while talking about it all. It is your decision to not put your son on the Internet but perhaps it would help people to stop bugging you to if you put a New Born picture of him on a vlog somewhere. What have you named your son ? Hope you both have a lovely time making memories with him over the future years to come .
If anyone is bugging Kay they should be ashamed. This is her channel and she and her husband are perfectly entitled not to show anything of their son. She shouldn't need to show anything to please anyone x
Nobody needs to scream in childbirth! Ive had 5 vaginal births with no pain relief. I can say that i heard women screaming and there is actually nothing worse as there is just no need for it. The midwives dont take to kindly to screamers as it doesnt actuallt help anybody.
Everyone has their own way of doing things and your judgement or criticism isn't welcome here. Please consider that your way isn't the only way. Best wishes
When you said the midwife cut in and corrected the surgeon on your name, I genuinely felt choked up! How amazing
There's no pain in the world worse than Labour pain. I wish someone had been as honest with me as you have been on here as I would have been better prepared. Thank you for your honesty. - Frances
Sure but no joy in the world better than being a mom ❤
Kay! You are TOTALLY amazing! Your birth-story is so full of courage, love, and a Woman's endurance! Respect to you! you are a warrior-mama! Your little baby and Dom, are blessed to have you! Love to you all, Sue xxx
That midwife deserves a lovely bunch of flowers, she sounded so supportive kay, now enjoy your baby boy ❤
Thank you Kay For This beautiful Birth story You did really great job w everything you went through bless u xxx You made my day
Congratulations Kay. Your attitude served you both so well! I remember realising after birth that it starts off feeling like your story and your preferences and soon enough you realise that it’s not about just you any more but also your baby and their story and their needs and then that becomes true of your life from that moment on! You did so well and richly rewarded with a beautiful Bub. X
Wow what a story Kay. You're You're fighter. So glad you are well 🙏 ❤
The human body is an amazing amazing creation. Kay, you are amazing and wonderfully made, by God. Thankful you’re healthy and happy and have a beautiful son. Thank you for sharing your birth story.
Thank you so much for this! I am currently 19 weeks pregnant, and I haven't been watching many labor or birth story related videos or anything, cause I just wanna enjoy where I'm at now and not freak out about birth, like I'm telling my self, when it comes, we will just be able to do it together, it'll be fine. But I knew watching you would help me calm down, cause your energy and calmness and the positivity are such a supportive thing, and it makes me feel like, even if things don't go as planned (which they of course never do), it's okay, and it's an experience, and you will be more you for it. I twill happen as it happens, and that is the most perfect way for it to happen.
When I found out I was pregnant, I was just so excited about you coming back when you're ready and telling us about your experiences with your baby and your new family with Dom and the kitties, cause it feels so soothing listening to someone whose philosophy I agree with and support even when I can't reach it, someone I can relate to and whose thoughts ground me, so I just wanted you to know that this type of thing means so much to me, I don't feel scared, I feel even better about it, and thank you for being such a beautiful soul!
Oh bless you! I'm so glad I was able to share in a way that felt calming for you, that's what I hoped for! I didn't want to romanticise it but I also didn't want to only share the hard parts as it was a really incredible, empowering experience. I've never felt so connected to my body! You're going to be amazing & congratulations on your pregnancy ♥
I don’t have any littles yet but what really stood out to me in your story, something I hope to take with me, is your mindset! ‘This is the ideal, but what happens is what was going to happen’ and how you were able to see the good in everything without dismissing the bad. Thank you for sharing!!
Thank goodness for having a health system that includes midwives! They are amazing and you are amazing for coming through this experience and still trying to keep to your ideals of leaning on the positives and enjoying the 'experience' of motherhood as much as you can.
I have a rare genetic kidney disease where I pass kidney stones on a semi-regular basis and I learned the hard way that it is easier to control pain if you get on top of it before it reaches its peak.
Hi Kay, watching this brought back memories of my daughter’s birth nearly 40 years ago! I was induced at 42 weeks and it still took 3 days for her to arrive! I also had a retained placenta and had a spinal anaesthetic after delivery to enable a manual removal. That went a bit wrong and I ended up propped up on pillows, pivoting on my bottom with my legs up in stirrups. I have had issues with the nerves in the tops of my legs ever since!😏. I was so sore afterwards having been stitched, unstitched and re stitched and watching what happened really traumatised my poor husband so much he never wanted any more children. I was in hospital for a week as my daughter developed severe jaundice and needed phototherapy. Luckily they put me in a side room and I managed to get some sleep even with the unit lighting up the room. I am very blessed to have had a healthy baby- who turns 40 next Spring!🫣 - and I am so glad that maternity care has moved on. Your midwife sounds amazing! xxx
Thanks Kay so much for sharing this story. I had a difficult birth with my son and there were good bits and bad bits and this has really helped me appreciate the good bits and accept the bad ones ♥️
Thank you for your honesty in sharing your experience. I'm so delighted you had a great midwife who advocated for you when you needed it. I felt like a failure for a while after the birth of my son, as my labour did not go entirely as I had hoped. Your retelling of events was truthful and balanced in its good and bad moments and I for one am grateful that you shared it. Congratulations on your son - enjoy all the moments together x
My labour didn’t go as I had hoped either but I promise you aren’t a failure ❤ as Kay said, it’s going to go how it’s going to go and at the end of the day we’ve actually so little control
of it ❤
Thank you for sharing you story and being so honest about your experience ❤
Wow. What an incredible story. You're an amazingly strong woman. Thank you so much for sharing this with us all. Congratulations on your little miracle. ❤
Thanks for sharing your story, Kay. It was lovely to hear you come through the highs and lows in a very insightful way. I had a traumatic first labour, but I went on to have another 2 babies. Treasure the experiences ❤
Amazing. So happy that you all are doing well.
You are one amazing lady Kay, sending so much love to you ❤ xxx
Watching this has brought back memories of both my labour experiences, both were completely different and the second time round was definitely a more positive experience. As soon as I got to the hospital both times the first thing I said was I wanted the epidural. Anyone that gives birth without any pain relief, wow that is incredible and I am just in awe. Glad to see you are both healthy and doing well ❤🙏
So glad your second time was a more positive experience, that gives me hope for the future. Good to hear you had a positive experience with the epidural too! x
Omg that was great you explain things so well thank goodness your both safe and well,lots of love to you all xx
Thank you lovely! ♥
So lovely to watch this Kay! I first watched your videos when I was trying to conceive last November. Now at 24 weeks myself and so excited for what’s to come. Thank you for such a honest journey so far 🧡
Congratulations Kay & Dom! 💝xx
Amazing honesty, every birth is completely different. I've had four. And in all those four I've had a different experience. One birth was absolute agony to the point I'm ashamed I was begging them to put me to sleep. And my last was absolutely amazing. Essential oils. Calm. Strong. Manageable pain. Woman are incredible no matter how their births go either way 💜
Not a birth story but I can empathize with that horrid uncomfortable feeling in hospital after a procedure. I had an ovarian cystectomy this past winter and spent two nights in hospital sleeping on a birthing bed (Christmastime and only the maternity ward was staffed), and it was horrific! Those beds are not for sleeping, and the pain and discomfort was next level. I cannot imagine going through that after the blissful environment of the first room you were in, and wanting to bond with baby. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you so much Kay for sharing your very private and personal story. So happy you are ok and the baby❤
Thank you for sharing! You and your story are so appericated. Sending love and happiness always!! ❤
Thank you for your honesty in this video, it’s what us mums to be need before birth so we can have an idea of what to expect. I’m due in less than 16 weeks and find videos like this really help me mentally prepare. Thank you so much 🩷
Thanks for sharing your story, your midwife sounds amazing x
Thank you for sharing!! Your first birth is always the hardest, and the next one will be easier. Hugs Kay.
Thank you, that's very encouraging x
You have basically just described my birth story. I hope your recovery wasnt too bad and you have no lasting problems. Sending lots of love ❤️
Me too I ended up in theatre having my placenta manually removed it's really scary
Your just amazing and god bless the nhs staff 🤍 so glad you are all ok and home with a beautiful family 🤍 xx
Oh kay i got so choked up for you, you had everything you wanted then for it to go the way it did, but bless you for stating strong must have been so scary for you all. What an amazing mum, you're body was truely remarkable and your son was out and pefect. Thank you for sharing you story as traumatic as it was for you, women will appreciate the honesty and rawness, the midwife was amazing she literally had you nailed didnt she, she got you.
I had a really traumatic birth i was 17 an emergancy c section not planned and no one explained anything to me. That was 25 years ago nearly to the day so the support and guidence you had was priceless. Much love to you all x x
So good you got home next day after such a critical situation after the birth.
I'm having my first baby in 5 weeks (well around 5 weeks til my due date). I'm really hoping for a water birth so I'm watching back this video. I didn't think of putting in my birth plan that I want to be the first one to hold my baby so I'm definitely including that now.
Aww Congrats!:)
Thanks for sharing, Kay. Sat and listened whilst being cosy with a hot chocolate. I wish you and your family a blessed and beautiful future. ❤😊
Aww this is so lovely to imagine you all cosy watching 🥰 Thank you
It is so generous of you to share your experience....and it really brought me back to my two births so, so many years ago. I was lucky to have very quick labors with no time to even consider any pain med...BUT I had a very bad tear with my second. So I really relate to your postpartum incision pain and fatigue and the HORMONES! Giving birth so sacred and magical and empowering and HARD WORK! Congratulations Mama!
Your midwives sound so lovely and understanding, I hope I have such a positive experience when my time comes ❤
Congratulations Kay and Dom - you are so brave and you have a beautiful baby boy now, so glad everyone is well, sending love ✨
Thank you for sharing your story, it sounds quite similar to mine, I had my baby girl 16 days ago and I was not prepared for the intensity and pain of labour and delivery x
You're an absolute hero! Hope you're proud of all you went through and how you all handled it together. Hope you've been enjoying every minute of your little boy - I gave birth to our son on NYE and have just celebrated his 6 month 'birthday'. It's magic. x
You are amazing, Kay! I absolutely love your positive outlook on your birth experience ❤
❤Thanks so much for sharing your story sweet Kay!! Very happy for you all and so thrilled to be able to share your special time! 🥰🙏🏻❤️❌⭕️🤗
Thank you so much for sharing your birth story and being so honest, Kay! It was really helpful to hear a foley balloon experience, had never heard a birth story with it. I’m eight months right now and also hoping for a labor as natural and peaceful as possible, although as you said, we have to let go of the feeling of control and accept that special circumstances may come up. I am so glad you got the medical help needed at that moment ❤
Neither had I, I think it's becoming a bit more common now though. Glad I could share a good experience with it. All you can do is hope for the best and stay as positive as you can whilst also remembering we have no control 🤣♥ Wishing you well lovely x
Thank your for doing this video and for your honesty Kay 🩷 I am glad at the end it was all good, you are a very strong woman 🩷
Love your honesty, I think it’s so helpful for first time mums to hear stories like yours. I had a hemorrhage after my first was born - just like you, following a non medicated birth - and was rushed off to theatre, she had skin to skin with dad like your little boy. General anaesthetic and they removed a mini second placenta which was an early reabsorbed twin. I’d never heard of this! Thanks to modern medicine we live to tell the tale. She’s a healthy 6 yr old now ❤ sending so much love to you Kay, enjoy these precious early years with your son, and thank you for your channel, i always enjoy your videos 😊
I feel you Kay. My entire birth preferences went out the window 🙈 I had my son in 2020 I had planned a home birth and ended up with an emergency c section and haemorrhaged too. My baby and I spent a week in hospital without hubby or any visitors at all because of covid. It was a scary time. Thank you for sharing your birth experience with us all ❤ I’m glad you were both safe and well ❤
Concrats❤ amazing to hear you tell your story ! ❤️ hope you all are well
Thanks for sharing this. My two babies are now 13 and 16 but listening to you brought so many memories (both good and not so good!) back. I wish I'd heard more birth stories before having mine as my first labour went badly after also being pregnant for 42 weeks like you! With my first I ended up with an emergency c sec after a day of labouring and getting to the pushing stage. But my second baby 3 years later was born just after my due date v quickly and naturally. I wish before I'd had my first I had understood that every birth is different and we definitely shouldn't feel blame or regret for what happens. So nice to see your little family growing and to have you back on RUclips. X
I highly recommend getting the epidural. I got it, slept through the night with a couple of brief interruptions while the nurse checked out my progress dilating, then the next morning at about 11am they woke me up and said that it's time to push the baby out. I had 2 elastic bands on my belly, holding sensors, one for the baby's heart beat and one to monitor my contractions. 15 minutes later she was born. They told me when to push and I pushed with all I had. I was starting to tear a bit so they did a small cut which they sewed back afterwards. The sewing was probably the worst part. Epidurals are wonderful, I was numb from the waist down, but I could go to the bathroom pushing the IV stand, I could walk fine.
Congrats hunni hope you're all doing well x
Congrats Kay! Thank you for sharing your story. I’m 6 weeks PP and I also had a major post partum haemorrhage due to my placenta not coming either. Lost 2.5 litres of blood and was away from my Son and husband for 3 hours xx
Oh bless you! That's a heck of a lot of blood! Are you doing ok now? x
@@Livingthelifeyoulove yeah it was a lot! I felt so much better after the transfusion and some fluids, was like being brought back to life 😂 I’m good thank you. On iron tablets for the foreseeable which is a minor x
So so so glad to see you back
Thank you for sharing your realistic experience! Sending love from NZ
Thanks so much for sharing x I've got 4 sons and every birth was different x thanks for your honest and full account , it will be so helpful to other expectant mums xx
So lovely to hear your story, especially since I quit instagram a few months ago so I have missed so much of your regular posting
Oh God I'm so so so sorry for your miscarriage :( Bless u
Thank you so much for this video. Really appreciate your honesty. I'm 9 weeks now and found you recently from your first 12 weeks video which has brought me so much comfort and reassurance. I have hypermobility like you do, and I also have a fused spine on my lower back following a Scoliosis. Future appointments to be had with doctors and anesthetists. However, I think from doing some research I may need a general anesthic c-section which is scary. But it would be the safest thing for me and baby. That's all that matters in the end. Thank you again for your video ❤
I would absolutely reccoment finding a hypnobirthing practitioner who focuses on c-sections. Will bring you lots of peace and reassurance and remind you to focus on what's in your control and let go of the rest. Congratulations also on your pregnancy!♥ x
Brave strong Kay ❣️ your labour sounds like mine. My first labour of my son was exactly the same. But with my daughter the second labour it was very different. My body take it over with the second one and i had a epiduraal the second time and this makes it beter. Its no spa 😊 we are fighters in labour 🤗 wel done Kay ❣️
It's so crazy how different birth experiences can be isn't it! Thank you lovely, and well done to you too! ♥
Thanks ❤
Aww Kay, thank you so much for sharing your labour story with us. I understand the hypermobility side of things, I eneded up with spd with my second baby, really painful! He ended up weighing 10 pounds 5 ounces😅Love to you all xxx
Massive hugs Kay xx
Thank you lovely xx
So glad you’re all okay. Xx
Thank you xx
Enjoyed your telling of your experience. My first pregnancy was not eventful but it was without timed contractions - it started with timings but it just developed into what seemed a perpetual contraction - however baby was born after 8 hours in labour. And nearly 2 hours in the delivery room - was very painful and delivery was just short of the medical staff taking me to have a section. My next labour however was great - I was a full two weeks late and no one had mentioned anything about inducement - I went into labour naturally and had a textbook labour - stayed at home timing the contractions and went to hospital at about 4 minutes between contractions. Was in hospital and gave birth within 40 minutes. It was still labour and therefore painful but so much more easy than before - and delivery was very quick. Couldn’t have asked for anything better the second time.
Thanks so much for sharing your story! Congratulations on the arrival of your baby boy! I resonated so much with your story! I had my baby boy last summer at a birth centre. Laboring in the water was so peaceful and really helped with the pain. My midwife was monitoring his heartbeat and it started to drop, so we moved onto the bed where things quickly escalated. I pushed him out really quickly, resulting in a very bad tear. I hemorrhaged as well, and had to be taken by ambulance to a nearby hospital. My baby and husband weren't able to come with me in the ambulance and I just remember feeling so many emotions at that time. I was so devastated to be seperated from my baby. I had to go into surgery right away and same as you, my birth was totally natural and unmedicated, and suddenly I was hooked up to an IV, given multiple painkillers and sedation. I just felt so sad, and like I had done something wrong. I tried so hard to give my baby the best start (as we all do), but it felt like that everything I had worked so hard for, was just ripped away so suddenly. It took me a long time to make peace with what happened, but I have a beautiful, healthy and happy baby boy and that is truly all that matters! 💙 thank you for your courage in sharing your story! ❤️
Thank you Kay for sharing your story, I had really hoped you would but equally would have understood had you wanted to keep it private. I too was separated from my baby after birth, he had a forceps delivery and a black eye as a result so had to be given paracetamol and put in an incubator. So I totally get why you were so upset. I had an epidural so I think you’re amazing for enduring the pain and yeah don’t blame you for saying that next time you wouldn’t ( I only had a few contractions without it and that was enough 😂) I’m so happy you had the birth you wanted and glad you are ok after your surgery. Your midwife sounds amazing. Wishing your wee family love and happy vibes xxx
The ballon was just a new thing when I was pregnant with my daughter in 2020 and was asked if I would like to trail it but as a first time mum I declined as I wasn’t sure about it, glad you are both safe and well ❤❤❤❤
I thought i had it in 1996
@@Karincl7 I haven’t ever heard of it prior and my midwife said it was a fairly new thing they had started, could have been a different type of balloon in the 90s to now I’d imagine.
@debbiejohnson3723 I had thr balloon in 2019....
@@KatyKent haha ok I lied, goodness me I’m only saying this is what I was offered and was told it was something new and wasn’t being offered out much at that time, if this was due to Covid I don’t know. I just know I was told this.
Thank you for sharing, I had a totally different labour and delivery but I did get an epidural, had a haemorrhage and had some seperation from my baby so I totally understand that weird feeling in postnatal, not being able to move a lot and feeling really depleted. It's a journey 😅
Oh bless you! I hope you're doing ok now - it sure is a journey! x
Hi. Kay, I'm so glad I watched this,you told everything very well,yes I watched till the end.Its amazing how things have changed from when my daughter was born in 1973...Caroline disposable nappies was 1p a nappy in a pack of 30 ?
Looking forward to your next video of you ,Dom,Little One,& Rory & Echo.❤
Hectic story Kay. Gosh I too had a similar experience, these things are totally out of our control. Glad you and baby are fine. I live in Cape Town South Africa and our hospitals are fabulous and not so sticky when it comes to early or latent labour. You are treated like a queen and the food is fabulous. So different to what I hear that side. Your baby gets roomed in but they take care of everything until you are strong enough. Your next baby will probably just fall out 😅
Thank you so much for sharing your experience, it’s so special and important and I’m grateful. I’m 5 weeks pp and on the road to recovery. I relate to everything you said and it made me laugh when you said you’d get an epidural next time (I had a home birth with no pain relief too and asked for the epidural multiple times as a gauge of how far along I was haha - but also because the pain was a lot more intense than I imagined!) I’m finding recovery and breastfeeding a bit difficult right now, if you had any advice or were able to share your experience, I’d appreciate it! All the best
It's such an intense experience isn't it! It's something you really can't ever prepare for. I hope you keep healing and recovering, my main advice is take it slow, ask for all the help and with breast feeding - ask your midwife/health visitor and get them to come out and check your latch as many times as you need! There are also breastfeeding groups you can go to in some children centres, definitely recommend! x
I’ve raised a glass of rose wine to celebrate. That’s my excuse 🤣. You had a bit of a time. I realise I must have been lucky. Ist 3 hour, 2nd 2 hours and 3rd less than 2 labours. No pain relief or stitches.
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us! I also had a water birth with my first baby and although it helped me cope with the pain and speed my labour along after a lengthy 36 hours I didn't have such a great experience more than anything I think down to my midwife ... I wasn't taken seriously about when I said the head was coming so whilst she chatted to the trainee my daughter literally flew out with absolutely no guidance through the pushing resulting in a very nasty tear that landed me in theatre just to be stitched up. Also my daughter was back to back so I stayed on all 4s the whole time and throughout transitioning my bum kept raising up out of the water uncontrollably and the midwife just kept telling me to stop... Turned out that was happening due to my coxix dislocating and despite after birth me explaining that it was unbearable to sit up my coxix hurt that bad they never checked so I was sent home and spent a week left with a dislocated coxix until a visiting midwife finally took me seriously when my lower back swelled like a balloon and i explained my bum raising during transition. Needless to say she was horrified and warned me that if it didn't go back into place on it's own by the end of that week I'd have to go back to hospital (luckily it did) it was an overwhelming experience especially being only 19 years old and refusing any pain relief due to a history of anxiety and panic attacks, I felt happier when I felt some what in control, I couldn't even tolerate the gas and air but I was so grateful me and my girl where both ok. My second birth was sooooo different!! So please don't be put off by the intensity of your first.
My second daughter I was able to have at home, I was terrified and convinced it would be another long labour like my first but to my surprise that wasn't the case! My two midwives where incredible, put on a nice girly movie for me, lowered the lights and told me and my husband to cuddle up and share the moment and that they where there when we needed so I laboured with them down stairs for a little while as I wasn't in established labour at that point and I warned them my previous delivery was a very long one... A little while after they came up and insisted I stood up and with that I suddenly felt a need to push, my established labour was just 21 minutes!!! She was born in her waters and they where able to stitch me up at home, she ran me a lovely bath after and kept the whole atmosphere so calm, they where amazing and it was such an incredible experience!! As they say every pregnancy and every labour is different and it's sooo true! Xx
Thank you for sharing Kay. What an amazing birth experience 💕
I was in labour with my second son for less than 20 minutes. Nice and quick, then I had to be taken into theatre due to retained placenta. I think I was in more pain after the birth! 😮😂 X
Wow, Kay, your birth story is litrally THE SAME as mine. The only difference I had is that my midwife lead hospital was separate from the hospital so I was put into an ambulance and taken to a main hospital as my son was stuck too,but everything from the birth, hemorrhaging, theatre,stitches, spinal, tubes, blood loss,litrally everything! In the end, i had vontous as i had nothing left, and he was still stuck.i😂Isn't it so crazy that we can go through it, but our bodies heal! Honestly, we are super heros!!! Thank you for sharing your story❤ it takes me straight back to my birth ❤so hlad you are doing well again x x x
Could you please tell us what was your birth plan in one of your videos? I'm starting to think about it and I really like everything you spoke about in this video. I understand if you do not want to though xx
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I'm from USA- Sorry, Kay, but could you explain what a sweep is? Thank you.
Fellow Kay-follower from the US here! I think what they call the sweep is what we call stripping the membranes-or, at least, that’s what my midwife called it. Although he was from England originally, heh! I was 42 weeks pregnant and my (very cool male English) midwife encouraged it as a relatively gentle way to encourage the baby to…er, get moving. (BTW that baby is now almost 23!) Sometimes though it may be too gentle, in a manner of speaking, and then I believe induction is often the next move.
Hi! As mentioned by Ruth below it's a natural way to try to initiate labour but it doesn't always work
I have two sons around your age, my 1st son was born breach, 13 Hour in Labour without pain relief 😳 2nd was fine normal delivery, but after having him was the worst time as I had a trainee nurse doing my stitches, it was horrendous and I was never asked if it was ok for her to do it 😭 🩷💙💙 anyway you🙏did it! Congratulations And now a new home 🏡 XxX
And what the gas and air is
I believe it's known as Nitronox in USA. Also known as Entonox in the UK, it's a mixture of oxygen and nitrous oxide that you breathe in
I had my son 32 years ago Kay and my experience of birth was also not pleasant to say the least. I remember the pain, the fear of the unknown, the whole experience was so scary and my husband said afterwards that he would never put me through that again and that it was barbaric. My husband had a vasectomy when our son was 3 months old. I always said I only wanted one child but I could not have gone through another birth. I also didn’t have much pain relief and maybe if I had my experience would have been different and I may have had more children but I am more than happy that I had a beautiful, healthy baby and that was good enough for us ❤
Lovely to listen to your story. My first was so funny as I was expecting lots of pain. I was on time Friday 13th. I spent too long at home wondering if the pain was enough. I almost had the baby in the car but got to the ward they were saying laid back until I made a weird groan. They look my leggings off and it was all systems go and baby born a few minutes later about 15 mins later I was in the shower. 2nd was one day late I was in labour up a mountain (it had a road I just sat looking at view) waters broke. My son was allowed in the labour room I had told him to say don't worry mummy soon be over so when it got painful I looked at him. Again baby came quickly. ,3rd one was in a different hospital my children weren't allowed I was in a dirty room waiting for a bed as 3 weeks early. Midwife was awful so I went and sat outside the hospital. Came back and only 6cm but then I was 10 they wanted me to go in the lift to labour ward I said no. Baby came no pain relief for any of my births. I was incredibly blessed.
So glad you and baby are well
Oh Kay that did should horrible. My birth started with pains at 6am and I had my son at 3.13pm that afternoon and no meds whatsoever. I feel incredibly lucky to have experienced such a birth. Thank you for sharing ❤
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I'm not sure yet if I will be sharing my breastfeeding journey, i'm still sitting with the idea of sharing my experience as it is a very personal journey x
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Did you do hypnobirthing birthing course before labour?...i think that could have helped with the anxiety....although in the moment it's hard ❤ i really wanted a natural birth but had to have a last minute planned c section because i developed pre clampsia at 40 and a half weeks. I am still sad about it 😢 but its just how it was obviously meant to be 💫
I hated everything being pregnant, giving birth (it hurts) and my first night as a mother I said to the nurse to take my kid for the night. Their now in their 20 and love their mum, so everything is relative
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Is that an nhs hospital?!
Why do you ask?
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Because it looks amazing! And wondering if that's what I can expect for labour
@@fionab4483I’m not sure if hers is, but our local nhs midwife led unit is very similar, hotel like rooms with the birthing pools! Sadly never an option for me being high risk but they do look wonderful
@@fionab4483 hopefully it will be a memorable experience for you too.X
I remember after one of my traumatic births the student midwife came to see me afterwards and told me that id put her off having children oops sorry
Hello Kay .Dom and little man .🩵🩷😸
I hemorrhaged after all three of my births good thing I was in the hospital
Wow.....I know certain parts you explained...I was in labor the firstborn 17.5 hours after my waters broke.....and I remember when I left the ward ...after four days ....with my baby girl ......my midwife said I will see you in two in about two years....I answered with not a chance........😂.....but funny enough two and four months later....but thankfully...my labor took 30 mins in total...three pushes and he was out. .... thank goodness.... nothing like my first....baby boy. X
You do forgot the pain to a degree ....and yes in heartbeat ....I would have gone through it all again...well done to yourself....to Dom. And a brilliant midwife and her team... 😊...oh and huge congratulations once again on your baby boy. Xx
Hi Kate , now after have hearing how your sons birth went , we should and can all now understand why you never came back to You Tube for 6 months.
Obviously you needed to get all your emotions together and be in a more comfortable state in your body while talking about it all.
It is your decision to not put your son on the Internet but perhaps it would help people to stop bugging you to if you put a New Born picture of him on a vlog somewhere. What have you named your son ?
Hope you both have a lovely time making memories with him over the future years to come .
If anyone is bugging Kay they should be ashamed. This is her channel and she and her husband are perfectly entitled not to show anything of their son. She shouldn't need to show anything to please anyone x
@@DonnaRichards-nj4cbI agree Donna that is what I was trying to say in my message on here also.
Nobody needs to scream in childbirth! Ive had 5 vaginal births with no pain relief. I can say that i heard women screaming and there is actually nothing worse as there is just no need for it. The midwives dont take to kindly to screamers as it doesnt actuallt help anybody.
😂😂 you could try and stop me, and actually nobody cared
Everyone has their own way of doing things and your judgement or criticism isn't welcome here. Please consider that your way isn't the only way. Best wishes
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