The Secret To Overcoming Inner Resistance To Success
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
- Because resistance appears to be everything that’s getting in your way of achieving what you want and creating the life that you want, you try to push it away and bury it. When that doesn’t work, you go to war with it, which is really just going to war with yourself. This only makes your resistance grow stronger so you listen to fake gurus tell you ridiculous things like you have a fear of success. You believe such things even though they’re not true and you chase your tail trying to solve a problem that doesn’t actually exist. Watch this video and find the key to resistance!
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My takeaway: Resistance is a beautiful thing. It shows how much love you have for yourself. "Resistance is giving you the opportunity to make you feel more complete and whole." How amazing.
Replay. I'm dancing with the fact that resistance isn't malicious. The practice of acknowledgement and acceptance and listening to the message brought by that resistant part is so freeing.
My takeaway: stop trying to be perfect. Go after what you want and then address any resistance that comes. Get familiar with it and make it a positive force. What DO you want to happen?
My biggest takeaway was to give the resisting part of me a job, so that I don't need to fight it. I love that these parts of us are always doing a job, and we can just give it a better one!
*REPLAY.*
*THIS EXERCISE IS LIFE-CHANGING.*
*MY BIGGEST TAKE-AWAY: INTEGRATION, BECOMING WHOLE!!!*
Yes!
I just find your channel, i look so much forward to hearing all the information. I have had huge emotional resistance all my life, hope i can move towards freedom
Welcome!
Thank you for doing these lives - it’s much appreciated and valuable to me
Glad you like them.
Replay, I am a resource therapist and this is a great explanation of parts/resources.
Sometimes when the shift doesn't happen for the resistant part may be because it has a protector part with it. Have to speak to that one too.
Also love the computer uograde and the explanation of when you physically get hurt you move away and same goes for emotional hurt.
I have all the answers inside. Huge relief when the resisting part is actually heard. I can feel greater space inside. thank you Damon
You're welcome.
Watching replay. My takeaway: Embrace resistance, listen to resistance. Find the reason why you are resisting, unite and align its values with your conscious mind. Don't ask it why? Ask "What is important to you?" "What is your positive intention for me?" Be aware of what you don't want. Focus on what you want.
Completely feel all your emotions with non judgement
You've got it.
Replay - thanks for your work. I went to therapy...my therapist wanted me to look for joy. Her suggestion was at a time i was feeling some grief around significant loss anniversaries. I felt the resistance to her suggestion and called her out. I could not just focus on joy...bypassing further grief processing.
REPLAY.. Very Insughtful
Life changing video. Big takeway - make a friend of an "enemy" part of your unconscious, then it works for yourself. Then you're whole and in inner peace.
THANK YOU, THIS IS A MASTERPIECE. ❤
You're welcome. Thank you for the kind words.
Replay; my take away: lean into resistance. By leaning into it, I can begin to understand it better. It can provide me important feedback about myself that can lead me to more fulfillment
I am so happy I found this today.❤❤❤
Me too!
Replay- resistance wants the same thing I do: to succeed. Just need to integrate the part that has been locked away for so many years. We are on the same team!
Resistance may not always be seeking to fulfill the value of success. It may be a different value. However, we do know that resistance is seeking to fulfill a value, which means it wants your overall fulfillment. It just needs to be integrated.
Growing up, I had this recurring dream where I would do something silly which caused me to fall out of a hot air balloon. It's been on my mind a lot lately. Thaank you for this teachiing
You're welcome.
listen yourself, every emotion in you and voices in your head are trying to say something.
listen, understand and turn it into positive messages
Yes
Replay. Super helpful Damon. Funnily enough I have started doing something similar in my shadow work: physically writing out the voices of warring parts of myself. Amazing how much energy is discharged when they are listening to one another. I shall try w/ resistance too.
Replay and resistance is there to help you ! Wow
Yeah my resistance comes from thinking that if i get something, I might lose something else. Many people say they look up to me and yet i can't receive that gracefully as i feel a great resistance (like an imposter!).
Thanks for this reminder... the next time, I will invite my resistance to stay with me and still go for it! As not taking up challenges is making me feel worse anyways. So I will tell the resistance, "Lets just to go for it and have fun!".
Looking at my resistance this way was an immediate and instant game changer. I’ve never heard anybody explain dealing with resistance in this way. Really good stuff!! Thank you!
You're welcome.
That was really touching, that my resistance is actually an giant asset
Watching it on Replay: Lessons: When we ignore our resistance, it pushes it into our subconsciousness. Anything in our subconsciousness has more power over us than the things we have in our consciousness. We can't change what we are unaware of. We allow past negative feelings from the past hold us back from growing/moving forward and that causes resistance internally. We create more of what we try to avoid (so true). Becoming/feeling whole seems to be the ultimate goal.
Thank-you Damon.
This is my second replay. I always watched it before going to job.
It made me positive and thinkable.
You're very welcome.
My take away, appreciate and then convince to come and help
Excellent break down of parts integration! Big take-away is the idea that resistance is just old software that needs to be updated. Never thought about it in these terms before. Thanks for the opportunity to follow these lives, hope to catch the next one in person, as this was a replay for me.
Replay
Don’t fight your resistance instead talk to it, find out what is trying to do, identify which of your values it is trying to fulfill, clarify the common value that you and your resistance are trying to fulfill, and recruit it to work with you towards fulfilling the goal that align to the common values that you and your resistance are trying to fulfill. Once you and your “resistance” are working aligned with a common value, the “resistance” will on longer produce a resistance, it will become an ally.
Repeat- I am integrating my protection mode to succeeded and trust myself.
My takeaway: my resistance to doing the REAL work on myself had been not taking the effort of actually writing and taking notes on what I’m consuming in content, instead of just putting it on as a background feel good practice.
So I went back to the first video of this series and re-watched it, taking detailed notes, writing quick reflections throughout, and then I am repeating this for all the videos.
I think my resistance to putting in the effort of writing, digesting, and reflecting on my inner work has been stemming from a part of me that is afraid to put my true feelings down on paper and bring them to life in the physical world. This Troubles the part of me because it means admitting to my bad feelings and negative emotions instead of pushing them down and being the Joy for everyone around me in my personal life. Even as I type this, I can feel some reconnection with the part of me from simply being vulnerable to strangers in a comment section.
I had heard of Parts work a little before the vid, but your interpretation really made it click for me.
I didnt receive the Day1 link. could you pls share. Tx
Let us keep evolving, through love and alone (so I do not take the role away) there was a secondary resistance .
both agree that evolving and should never stop,
Since evolving was motivated from a relationship broken.
My big takeaway is that judgement separates whereas acceptance integrates. By accepting then reintegration, we will free up energy
I actually think a similar model can be applied our interactions with the world. By spending less time judging we can free up more energy.
Thank-you so much. Currently being coached by Henning and it’s transformational!
You're welcome. You're in good hands with Henning.
My takeaway is that my resistance is my clue to my next breakthrough.
ive been studying and working with INTERNAL FAMILY SYSTEMS FOR THE LAST 2 .5 years and its AMAZING this is the therapy youre using here .... well done
Part of NLP was modeled from Family Systems.
@@DamonCartwow i didn’t know that.
I’ve been a remedial therapist for the last 25 years and love working with the mind too. Peoples bodys don’t heal when their brain circuits are off due to stress or trauma. I also studied kinesiology and psych k. Did the journey work with Brandon bays.
Through my own experience I’ve learnt how to very quickly switch a persons electrical circuits back on clear the deeper trauma so that the body skeletal alignment and fascia and all other tissues can actually work correctly and hold the new alignment and changes. So using IFS and psych k it works. I’m now studying meta NLP life coaching here in Australia.
Watching on Replay!
This is Amazing Damon! Even though I am listening to you since the last few years and have heard about the Resistance earlier though I trapped in So-called Guru's words Fear of Success!
Thank you for this series 💝✨
You're welcome. Thank you for the kind words.
My take away on the subject of Resistance is the understanding of what it is trying to do for me. Thanks Damon
You're welcome.
I´m watching it on replay. 👌
Resistance has my highest good in mind. It’s my friend and by letting it be a part of me we can work together to achieve our desires by understanding the values we share.
Replay: Resistance has positive intentions. Asking the subconscious mind what it is trying to achieve so alignment can be formed between the conscious and subconscious with the same value. 😊
Replay. The biggest takeaway is that my restesistance is actually there to help me not hinder me.
Its intention is positive. Instead of judging the resistance as bad, find out what its positive intention is and integrate it.
Thank you, recording. do not fear resistance, it’s letting you know that you want something you’re not comfortable having.
Watching the replay. Thank you for highlighting the truth that there is often a serious lack in deeper insight in the self-help community @ 10:00. I've run into this so many times. EDIT: Biggest takeaway: Resistance can be communicated with--that it is simply part of myself that needs to be non-oppositionally faced and understood.
Watched replay. Resistance is an unconscious part of you that wants to keep you safe from emotional pain even though it may create emotional pain consciously.
Replay.
Thank you for making this. I was looking for an exercise for parts integration other than the traditional way I learned and you delivered. So beautifully.
I'm going to use this for myself first and then my clients.
You're welcome.
Glad you found it.
oh wow. I have often thought this. my "character flaws" believe they're doing something good for me. (not to personify them, just metaphorically) and at one time in my life, maybe they were doing something helpful. but that's not the situation any more, so ...
thanks, DC.
replay. biggest takeaway is not to fight yourself. I had a fear of talking as a child (stammer) at school etc and used self hypnosis to reduce it down later in my twenties. but still it still comes up in periods of stress. Used the parts on that and it was a good experience and fell I have better understanding now what was happening.
Replay and my take away is that resistance is my friend and I just need to be kind and accepting so that we can work together on a common goal. I was trying the swish method and I was picturing my perfect self and it was very vague, and I couldn't get her to be very bright or big and the more I try to imagine my perfect self the harder and less formed she is, I can't even get an image of my perfect self at all. Something is stopping me from even imagining my ideal self.
I haven't studied NLP much at all, I just learned about values elicitation and then I was trying to find ways to integrate the values so I haven't learned anything about language. But as I was typing this I noticed that when I change the word from perfect self to ideal self, I have less resistance to my ideal self than I do to perfect self. I still think there is resistance there though.
Framing it as your perfect self might be the problem. Perfection is usually destructive because it's an impossible standard that you will always fall short of so it tends to make us feel bad when we compare ourselves to a perfect self. Frame it as your ideal self, as in the you who is living your ideals and your values.
Watching replay - 👋 hi, it's me I'm the one crying 😭. Thank you ❤
Edit: My biggest take away is I don't have to always be at war with myself 😢 and that is so damn freeing. Thank you again ❤
I’ve learned not to over exhaust myself on the inner “hunt” of finding every resistance. Integration of the unconscious resistance by finding what’s its purpose and try to find out what’s its positive its trying to do for me. Mine was an immediate overall feeling telling me “I’m trying to make you comfortable” inside it felt like yeah okay that not the worst thing but my intuition knows I don’t progress in comfort.. so my take away is I’m not trying to hurt myself with my successes I’m simply wanting to seek comfort aka lack of growth when i should be focused on just the opposite. Ill watch this again to see what i find out when I’m not stoned
You need a certain amount of comfort to progress, so part of you will try to preserve that comfort. As long as you can assure it that you will maintain a certain level of comfort as you challenge yourself to grow and progress, you will have no limits.
Actually feeling relief, I've been fighting against myself for a long time, I had spent a lot of money trying to get rid of that feeling, and I feel so much more confident about my future, thank you!
You got this.
Oh Damon! I read about this (Re-integration) at the beginning of 2018, but the cost was just prohibitive - so I shelved it. I suppose I wasn't ready back then to be healed. I say that because my finances haven't improved since that time, and yet here I am ... Your work is such a blessing.
Replay. Thanks for the remarkable info. I’m currently facing a lot of resistance in learning new skills, learning to become a hypnotherapist.
Thanks 🙏🏽
Take away?
Sit down and observe my procrastination and perceived “laziness”. Work with it.
You're welcome.
REPLAY - take away full acceptance of self - full and central - not hiding or disguising - full integration - wonderful
Time zones were favourable, life happened. Watching on replay because this is important to me.
Replay. Thank you for this information. It was EXTREMELY helpful and i feel like it was something that i was unconsciously searching for.
Glad it was helpful.
Thanks, been working with parts .. love the giving the part a job.. I haven’t heard that before !
Stop Personalizing. Test/Create. Welcome Resitance.Integrate Resistance. Move intention from negative to positive.
Replay. Thank you so very much, this is amazing! ❤🎉
Glad you enjoyed it.
Hello Damon. Watching feom reply. Understanding that the part has been isolated and therefore doesn't share the knowledge that I now have is explaining a lot about why I logically understand consequences of my bad habbits and behaviours yet it is so difficult to brake them.
The knowledge that there is no part within me that would want me to fail makes me feel very emotional.
I am so grateful for you sharing your knowledge with us. Thank you 🙏
You're very welcome.
Replay 4 days after. Main take away; Its not fear of success, its probally fear of failure one way or another. Likelt from chilhood. Need to get that inner feeling and or voice on your side part of the team.
Very good video
Damon I had to come back and update you!!! I asked the question. What is your positive intention for me? Got the answer later that night. Mind you I spent a couple of days listening to the video to get clear on the approach.
My answer...You never want to be wrong or blamed for someone else's wrong. You avoid responsibility and accountability for others so you never feel like you are at fault for anything.🤯 I immediately knew when things flipped. I thanked resistance and we are on the same team. Thanks my brother.
Best advice and instructions I have ever received!
I dare you to do it 😏
Sounds great.
Make sure to ask that part what would you rather be instead of wrong or blamed for someone else's wrong. What would you rather be than at fault?
You need to get the resistance stated in the positive so that you have a value or desired state to move torward instead of only focusing on moving away from what you don't want.
@@DamonCart thanks man!!!
Appreciate your work. The steps for integration in this video helped me through a tough spot. Still have more work to do and now have another tool to get it done.
Glad it helped.
Watch in replay and does it. feel really useful thank you
You're welcome.
the first step to overcome this resistance is to acknowledge it and rather than fight it, question what it is trying to achieve. By aligning our conscious goals with the positive intention behind our resistance, we can integrate these parts of ourselves into a more holistic strategy for success.
Replay and loving it🎉
replay.
i guess, my takeaway is understanding that there's no parts of me that wouldn't be working for my happiness in any way. that I'm not a mess of completely opposite desires and goals in life. more like the different parts of me can have different approaches. i just need to communicate with them and be the leader who will give each part it's role that will lead us to success that every part wants.
and that I do have everything that's needed for me to get where I want.
Definitely. Integration is the key. Integration happens when you can identify what's most important to you that all parts can support and all parts can recognize that all of the other parts are supporting what's most important.
Replay. Missed it live by 40 mins!
I watched it on replay. Excellent way of explaining resistance and parts integration, I will be sharing this one. Enjoying the videos so far, keep up the great content.
Thank you.
Replay - the more you keep integrating resistance, the more you will be more complete, more alive, more whole!
My take away is to use the resistance to identify specifically the barrier i have been creating. Work with that knowledge toward growing with power rather than resistance
Yes!
I understood that, there is no fear of Success, only fear of change. don't ignore the Inner Resistance. Our resistant part always trying to protect us, or to trying to fulfil us, in some way. so accept all parts, never Judge / Blame / Criticize your other parts.
Invaluable video, one of your best! (replay) Thank you, so beneficial, potent, practical 💯 This is rich content
Glad you enjoyed it.
replay thanks so much
Take away: That resistance is actually good. Till now I saw it as like a monster that must be tamed, or bull-dosed over in order to get through the objective. I now look forward to talking with the resistance and integrated these parts.
Watching on REPLAY thanks so much 😊
You're welcome.
Excellent stuff. I took the weekend class and this is really illuminating.. having done parts work this is very clearly explained and valuable. Thanks.
Replay Gang🙏🏾
Replay. I learn so much from watching your videos. I first heard about NLP yesterday in a movie called "The Living Matrix". To start with i wasn't even looking for this, but for another movie similar to The Matrix. I guess i find it fascinating because what i really want is a positive change in my life. I subscribed and can't wait to see more like this. Thank you 😊
Glad you found me.
This live stream is one of 30 consecutive live streams I did last year. It's part of a series so there's plenty more to watch. In addition, I've made more than 1,000 videos, mostly about NLP, so there's plenty for you to dive into.
Replay. Thanks for sharing!
My pleasure.
Replay - love this perspective. So helpful!
Glad it was helpful.
Very interesting way of going about it! I tried these key questions, it was working and was pretty easy
Thank you for sharing 🙏
Glad it was helpful!
Replay… thank you so much for these videos! 😊
You're welcome.
Thanks a lot !!! I think you have addressed the reasons behind my emotional pain
Replay - January 2024
Thank you for this. I like the explanation, simple and precised.
Glad it was helpful.
Thanks for adding this series to YT ( Replay viewer)
Glad you enjoy it.
Replay:
Thank you so much Damon for such informative video♥️
My pleasure. I really enjoy making these videos and when I get comments like yours it makes it even better.
I m watching replay
20:29 don’t ignore it, accept it.
I value you, you’re a part of me and you’re valid.
What do you want to do for me? What is your positive intention for me when we procrastinate??
(To make sure you’re 100% ready before you use your voice - we want to be ready to limit negative feedback even if it means not shipping - my intention is to protect you from shame, I want you to thrive. But also, work is dreary I want to make sure you get to have fun too bc after you finish this and thrive you’ll only work and always be hustling)
Cool, I want to thrive too and I also do not want to be ridiculed to shame. I also want to have fun too. What would it mean if I thrive but also work with joy and ease?
(It means you’ll achieve this big goal we set out for - you’ll feel so accomplished and content and believe in yourself, and work will feel less onerous!!)
Our values are the same! Ease, joy, contentment, calm confidence. Do you want a job in what I’m doing to make sure I finish this, thrive, be content and confident?
Can you make sure I stay on track but not procrastinate? Can we work steadily but with ease and joy? We can do multiple edits… we can ask for help… but let’s not procrastinate. Can you help me finish? Do the things, time / money expenditure, eat, enjoy, live in ways that help me finish?
(Sigh. Yes, I’ll signal a big discomfort when you’re off track and you’re becoming too boring and pedantic and all work no play - if the ease, joy, flow disappears, fear and resistance will creep in bc we want to enjoy life too! Please don’t bore us to death with insane schedules and burn out.)
Wow. Just wow.
Very nice!
Thank you so much ! It’s was v valuable
You're very welcome.
Replay. Thank you Damon, really interesting and helpful. You speak in a way, that to me, makes lots of sense. I have a few takeaways but I think not fearing the resistance, judging it, and integrating it.
Thank you.
replay
WOW, man
THANK YOU!
You're welcome!
This is so insightful! I already integrated a part that was causing me immense anxiety during this talk. This is such useful advice. Thank you! Oh, and: replay 😊
You're very welcome.
This was so powerful. Thank you Damon!
Replay thanks so much
Big takeaway - underneath my unconscious resistance are good intentions
Hello Mr. Damon! Thank you for these wonderful videos!
I watched the first video last week. The first video was about that we need to clarify what we really want to do in our life and pre-test it in reality. I always wanted to have my own dance studio since I had finished musical school to choreographer. After watching the first video I decided to realize my idea (I do not want to wait anymore that someone will help to live my life, I want do smth that will change and help me to grow and build my build my dream in real) I want to pre-test it. So I found the place where I can do it, I did agreement with the owner and also I prepared the program what kind of dance I want to teach them. I also did little kind of promotion and invited people. So tomorrow I going to do this pre-test, I will see how people will react and how many people will come. I am very worried and have stress but I also feel that I am doing smth very important and very interesting for me. I just want share my feelings because your videos are helped my do not stop. Thank you very much for doing these videos!
You're very welcome.
Sounds great! You're moving closer to your dream.
Learn how to manage the stress. This doesn't have to be stressful. Think of it as an exploration, an adventure. If this try doesn't work, it doesn't say anything bad about you. It just means that what you tried didn't work so try something else. Don't attach your self-worth to it.
Replay with my cat Hamish who has so far managed to skip to the end twice, Cat TV has alot to answer for 😂
Your cat sounds impatient.
Very helpful
Great 👍 Damon....
when you have problems like someone insulted you in the past and part of you still are involved with that and trying to beat that person...and your mind still thinking about and it drains your energy and some space of your brain...how to get rid of that.....many thanks❤❤
You're very welcome.
Replay, Nice one