@@guidonunesca1647 this is an tiered argument really. My country cannot build care homes fast enough and they are filled with people who have kids and are not taking care of them
Youre not listening to the real story. FERTILITY RATE is falling, but its still above 2. Meaning the number of humans on EARTH IS STILL INCREASING. Its just increasing at a slower rate. And its hasn't decreased by much for a long, long time. We will be overpopulated long before it falls.
@@halleluyahletuspraiseyahua2521 when population decreases, cost of living will decrease for sure.. then ppl will surely opt to have child.. so it would be a choice at that time.. most of them don't want to have child because of expense and financial problems...
THIS!! They only care about controlling women but as soon as you’re pregnant you’re on your own! It goes from “you’ll die alone” to “you chose to get pregnant” REAL quick and by then you’re stuck with a baby you can’t return
Cool, but if you aren’t having kids… and then you all get old… who is going to pay in to those government programs that you are going to want when you are old? Who is going to keep the infrastructure going when you’re old? Who will grow and raise the food? It takes time to create new humans to hold up a civilization. We don’t have time to wait on you to fix your own stupidity.
It's not only giving birth to a child, it's about giving the child the financial and emotional support which many like me are not capable of! I am not going to ruin a child's mental and emotional state because of some societal pressure. It's a true fact, not everyone is emotionally available or ready to be a mother! Don't shame them for that. P.S. it's the same for men too!
The demand to be shame free is how we got here in the first place, resulting in maladaptive conditions. Those unready will be always unready and will in fact promote such conditions, the rate of medication says it all.
@@chinavirus841 what a convincing argument. Due to your comment most countries who supported India have begun to oppose it. There will now be a war with India. All of this was possible only due to your convincing agruement.
The issue is finding a good partner. You can't take a risk to have a fatherless child or worse having a toxic father/mother, causing psychological torture to the child.
Also it's damn tough to bring up a child properly. Till 25 one works on their issues, studies n starting a career then boom baby comes n next 20 years of your life will be all about that child. People have to manage their career, play the role of a parent etc. When would be she/he get time to be all by herself. This is clearly called being overworked which leads to anxiety depression. Even worse if there's no much understanding or love between husband n wife. These days there a lot of divorces
I think parenting is getting just difficult everyday. Education costs, expenses and many things to take care about like social media, gadgets, adultrated content protection, mental health of the kids, increasing competition and spending time with them. It seems difficult.
Having kids: More mouths to feed More food to buy More working hours No maternity/paternity leave Little to no personal time. Can’t be with the kids? Get caregiver which is expensive. Wages doesn’t increase Houses are expensive Inflation is high Everything is expensive It’s not selfish, it’s smart. Get immigrants to fill in the gap. No Not having kids: Healthy and comfortable living.
It's fine, no everyone wants kids, but becoming a parent was the best thing I ever did - and when I'm old, I have my children to be by my side and I get to see them become adults. When you're old, you'll be living in an old folks home surrounded by others like you with nothing left, other then your comfortable living
I am a working woman who was a latch key kid whose mother was herself a latchkey kid. My daughter is a latchkey kid who is raising her own pair of latch key kids. We all had different professions, worked full-time, got degrees part-time, we all had our difficulties and made a few errors along the way. But the sheer joy of hearing a child's laughter, and the intriguing delight of watching them grow into becoming themselves is an experience I would have hated to miss! Being pregnant isn't fun. Being a mother, even when harried, is weird because you learn so much about yourself along the way. One's heart expands exponentially!
@@kayallen7603 good for you. Kids arent for everyone. They make you happy, they irritate others. Some don't want them because they don't want them in a world like ours. They are a liability to some, a joy to others. Deal with the reality. I would rather a person like you with a child than a pedo, a murderer, a psychopath, etc with a child.
I am a parent with 2 boys who are teenagers . I simply wasn’t ready for being a parent. It was very very stressful and emotionally drained my energy . I appreciate people who consciously decide whether to be parents or not . I love my kids crazy but they also stress me to the core . It is a life long commitment. If you are not ready please don’t bring another life .
true! One should makes sure one is psychologically and economically ready before having a baby..! I am not psychologically nor economically ready even though I am 30 years old. I prefer being childless but my mum wants us to have baby. I would NOT have baby just because my mum wants me to have baby!
@SM- sorry you were kind of bullied into having children. Yes, it is a LIFE LONG commitment. And boys’ prefrontal cortex isn’t fully formed till 25. I hope you make it through the next years with your sanity intact. They are at the age now that they can understand Mom is a person, not their personal servant. Start those conversations now. They need to know you will not always be there
@@vivianjones9749 If you are not ready to work hard for your son or daughter , then do not become a parent throughout your life . World is full of men and women , there is no vacancy for more people ,on earth . Be kind to mother earth . Do never become pregnant ,in your life .Mother earth will bless you .
The 8-hour/day work model is designed when only one parent is working. If governments now want to maintain healthy fertility rate in their countries, they can start by reducing working hours. This can spillover into employing more people too. The mental health of millions of adults and children can be improved.
@@bhupeshthakur90 If both parents work for 4-5 hours a day, that would still mean the same wage, giving both of them the feeling of independence while having the time to raise a child.
When my dad died I became the breadwinner to help my mom raise my siblings, so most of my salary went to them. My youngest sibling graduated when I was 27 and by that time I was physically and mentally exhausted taking care of the family. I need a break and I'm not ready to have kids right now. I just want to spend the next few years fee from responsiblity and just enjoy life for once.
That is one thing I'm also afraid of myself to be honest. I have many other reasons as well for not wanting children, but I considered, what if me or my partner were to die while the child was young? I cannot place that burden on the child. Sure, the child can get adopted or if only one partner goes, they can remarry, but what about the emotional burden of losing a parent? I have MANY and I mean MANY friends around me who are still 19-20 years old who have lost one of their parents, and the entire family had to be working to manage surviving since as students, there's so many hours of work they can do, and the rest goes to studying and school. It is extremely tough
We can't blame the people for not having kids. Imagine spending 21 - 24 years of life in education, who wants to commit themselves to another stressful act of maintaining a family?
@@warriorharry1 i Always hate my parents when they cry about their sacrifice to bring me i never said them to bring me to this world i would be more happy to see them enjoying them r life at best rather than tourturing me for own decisions.
Lol!! If that makes you feel better. I work in an industry where I see first hand how "child free" patients are treated. Covid was a complete nightmare for the "child free" folks. Sure, they were the first to die of Covid but mostly because they were ignored and ultimately died of dehydration. Oh, I also saw a child free person get eaten by their pets after two weeks being dead and no one calling to check in. For all the child free folks....it is definitely for the best and thanks. Oh well, survival of the fittest.
choosing not to have children is something I would describe abortion supporters as well. And staying childless as a result. Like a child who intentionally chooses not to be adopted or to reject having a parent, being parent-less and parent-free.
Narcissistic people believe being in competition with people is the meaning of life. So they need to have kids in order to feed their ego and keep up with the Joneses. Unfortunately the kid suffers.
Some people were so traumatized in childhood they had no desire to bring anyone into this world lest they experience the same thing. That's not selfish.
@@kayallen7603 "just asking"? Sounds more like implying. Fatalistic or not, it's a truth that some people are living. Easy to judge if you're not one of them. Just saying.
@@questions5817 Ist world depend on benefits and welfare and wage to survive in high cost life style , remove two of those components , you will live like a 3rd class citizen in your first world. By the way Question you descended from low class backround (inbred, diseased,unedcuated ,rejected class of Europe).Through Government big spending and higher spending (work less in the west) , you can live a easy life style for a while.
@@questions5817 In one side 1st world countries they complain about immigration and also they don't want to reproduce. You can't have both, it will be an economic disaster for countries. You have to choose between immigration and reproduction.
@@questions5817 People say automation and artificial intelligence is the future but what will happen when you don't have people to consume all those commercial technologies. You still need human workforce. It will be an economic suicide.
In the US, many millennials are dealing with crushing debt from student loans, higher costs of living, low pay but increasingly demanding workload, and difficulty accessing health care, especially child care. Also, many of us American millennials came from dysfunctional homes and knew at least one person whose parents had a nasty divorce. So might be understandable why the idea of kids and marriage doesn't sound appealing.
@@Ollie-qz5qv Abortion is a different issue. Here we are talking about not conceiving kids in the first place. Of course, it's not OK to kill people just because keeping them alive is expensive.
It’s kind of ironic.. a lot of people are having kids just because everyone else is, a lot of them are emotionally unavailable/unstable, financially unstable, not really thinking about the child’s upbringing have more than one kid.. and the people who are responsible and care deeply about the impact of having a child or what the child might have to suffer, have one or no kids at all…
If the world would have a pill that you could die without any pain, it would be more required than covid vaccine. Or a "happy" pill like in the book Brave New World.
I'd add a few points here: - Having children is a LOT of work! Most people are exhausted with their routines already... - Having a job is not an option for women, it's a need... we need the money to sustain ourselves and, even for couples, one salary is not enough to sustain a family (even if the guy is a good husband)
I believe the fact that there are many two-salary couples means the average family income, and thus purchasing power, is being increased, and thus prices go up, particularly for housing, making it more difficult for many one-salary couples to afford it. I suspect (and hope) you really meant "... even if the guy is a good PROVIDER". Some 'good husbands' don't have high earnings, and some wealthy husbands are not necessarily good.
@@bobjacobson858 I meant good husbands, in the sense that he shares the tasks or does not use the fact that he's earning the money to mistreat the wife
It would send us back to the iron age, but ok, win i guess? We are already on the bring of seeing major countries having massive economic problems in the next 20 years with no new work force. Things are going to collapse in your lifetime, and it wont be pretty.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life. John 3:16 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. James 1:5
Yes I know what you mean,seen it and experienced it.Husband was a gambler and play boy with my hard earned working in a factory money ,he used me ,abused me and I had 2 kids,now I have a transgender daughter,and the other one who is childless, is refusing to talk to me because I am helping my trans child now 40 so she does not commit suicide, her sibling, My nerves are a wreck starting with my X for this 40 years now, and my health failing from continues stress,I even care for a grandchild who has high function autism,and people say .......how do you cope???? I just do ,they need me,I am the only stable hitching post they have.But given forsight of this life I would might have chosen no children.But the heart wants what the heart wants,and I wanted my children badly.and I loved their father with all my heart it took my years to get over him when he march out the door to his chickybabe ....who dumped him 12 months later ...ha ha ha kama!🤣
agree. people seem to present it as a problem, but this is a good news actually. each passing day, we have less natural resources - having less people who are using it is actually good. it also help reduces the amount of manmade waste.
Spot on conclusion. If a nation really wants more children produced, support the parents with policies and finances that make it a logical choice. Don't expect people to keep doing crazy things out of tradition.
Yes I support this. My reason is if I were given a chance then I wouldn't have opted to be born in this cruel world. This world is filled with depression and societal pressure. I am 21 years old and i am already exhausted, I don't want my next generation to be as depressed as I am today .
Becoming more than just a reproductive machine, I think this can bring a massive change in the world and especially in India because just see how most of our Indian parents life were, they say that they had many hardships and all they wanted was to get a government job. When there is so much trouble in life, I really don't know from where the question of having so many children come to our grandfather's mind. First of all we should create a supportive and conducive environment for the future generations and then bring them into the world so that they live such a life that we couldn't imagine possible. In India we have grand temples but not good toilets, it time we make the world a great place to live so that going to heaven will be of no value. If this one comment can spread the truth to one guy, I will be fulfilled
@@keshabs.4396 Not just our nation, the whole world is currently very unstable, the uncertainty of diseases, high prices, falling economy, too much scarcity of resources, poor hygiene. I think one child or having no child is nowhere evil at all.
Having kids have become the most toughest job and bringing up them is a huge responsibility. In this competitive world, trying to give them the best becomes expensive , because of which working in a stressful environment also becomes mandatory.
To live in this world is not expensive, hard work doesn't make you rich, but ideas can. Jealousy is the main reason for competition, be humble and think for solution.
There wont be any change but the end of civilization, non enough people for running bussineses, services etc. Something like i legend movie... I wont be nice
People think it will be like a recession when the system crashes lol....the more likely outcome is most of the population dying off....you do not want to be around when this begins believe me!
After facing India's situation of job crisis as a youngster myself I hope population of youngsters in India should decrease so that every person in future atleast get employed, if government don't care about employment of all youngsters then we youngsters too don't care about fertility rate and having enough youngsters in future or anything like that. It's better to have less youngster population than required than having more than enough, I can't see my children struggling like me and being depressed by competition in literally every field
In America, we have a saying, "The world doesn't owe you anything." To which I say cool, I don't owe anything back. That includes children to be beat up and hurt like me.
Simple reason, all females want to control reproduction and by saying these things she eliminate competition for her own kids, thus giving them a better chance of success.
An economy based on endless growth is unsustainable. It's not the populations responsibility to adhere to birthrate demands, it's the world governments responsibility to provide the existing population with a sustainable, fair and flexible economy in which people are free to choose, and adequately supported in either decision.
Very nicely put from a less emotional standpoint but rather a bargaining view, against all the hogwash we are we fed daily, you have 2, you get 3, no five, all the while, they are killing us with high prices, unsafe 'environs' and the list goes on...I can't wait to make my exit...this world 🤷🏻♀️😂
My husband and I are moving with our first child to a super small town, purchased 118 acres which cost us the same amount as an apartment in the city. Cheaper, a good community, less social media presence, fear and pressure. Simplicity. It's a big move but we decided we needed to get back to the basics for our health and sanity. We want our children to be raised with work ethic, manners, community values and basic life skills so they dont have to rely on others. We will grow our own food, raise and respect our animals. City living is just dreadful now. No one cares about their neighbors, everyone runs on fear, trying to keep up with the Jones. No one can tolerate a difference of opinion or have intelligent, cilivilized conversation. It's very sad. It's not working for us so we are changing it. Happiness is out there.
Congragulations! You have taken absolutely right decision. Happiness will be fullfilled in your life. You are living according to nature and You will be happy with family and children. City is a HELL.
@@jonausten8151 well unfortunately less children also equals less working people and more elderly people which is the best formula for an economic catastrophe and not the other way around
I moved from Germany (1,53 reproduction rate) to Netherlands (1,57 reproduction rate) and personally do not have kids but can see that NL has a lot more child friendly policies, while Germany has long struggled to take kids and young families serious. Just 1-2 generations ago a man would spent most of his life working for one company and he would earn enough for his wife to stay at home and raise 2 or more kids but the number of jobs that can actually feed an entire family has gone done and most people have 2-3 jobs to make ends meet. I agree with your female perspective of better education resulting in less kids, but the low wages and constant job changes also lead to great insecurity. A lot of men are not confident enough anymore that they can actually afford a family. And this was before the pandemic.
Better education results in less kids?? She did not said that. The lack of education is the problem. Let's not compare with times or places when and where women had/have no choice, no contraception, rapes, not allowed to work, not allowed to study.
What Palki fails to say over and over again is if you let greedy CEOs sponsor greedy politicians you have a poor society financially incapable of having kids.
@@alifc1082 Indeed there is studies that academics tend to have less. children, that is a fact. The better educated the more knowledge about the difficulties and thus less likely to have kids. Plus career is more important often as well.
people who choose to be lonely now can change it in the future. the world has become a smaller place... much more opportunity to find ways to pass the time
Sometimes one just have to ask oneself; “am I actually fit to be a parent?” And if your answer is no, it is no. Your child is not a mini version of you, they can’t fulfil all your lost aspirations, they are not your possession or toy, they are an autonomous human being. And I have witnessed too many parents not getting that.
I've heard from Steven Pinker that parents don't really have much lasting influence on their children after they leave home... I don't understanding this whole idea of if parents can't be perfect they can't have children.
I laughed too lol. Pope doesn't seriously know how the world economy is heading to. Maybe he lives in his comfortable life so he doesn't know how tough lives of low wage workers are.🤦♂️
The main reason that the pope says to have more children is because he wants more people to believe in his B>>> S... religion so they will give him more money...!!!
Stop blaming the Catholic Church particular Pope Francis, the root cause of this, in reality is the Intrinsic Evil of Contraceptive mentality and when unwanted pregnancies occurs, abortion every single seconds takes place.
Honestly even as a man who was brought up in a broken household with conservative rules I have ptsd about having kids, I would more likely have companion animals and help underprivileged kids who are not fortunate enough. This whole cycle of having kids helps in providing the labour force for a country's economy but the country's policies rarely reflect anything positive for these parents to go through with it
It is degrading human life greatly to see children as mere fuel to run the country's economy. What's the point of minting money for the country when your own children are becoming slaves?
@@she_wizzdom4410 I think there is a lot of research in behavioral economics and implementing the necessary changes that take human factor into consideration is something that needs to be looked into. Often economists are used to demonized when a economic failure occurs but when they warn us about issues when turn a deaf ear to them. So let's start by thinking of economists as strategists and not as prediction machines
I’m an Indian woman and I’ve decided to be childfree- 2 reasons - Environment degradation and personal freedom. I would rather adopt than have a biological one! Was waiting for such a video. It will normalise childfreedom in India 👏
It’s not easy to be a parent. I’m a parent myself and having children is a lifetime responsibility and sometimes it gives you a lot of stress and disappointments. To have or not to have a child is a Choice. It is a couples prerogative.
Even if they are poor or filthy rich they should have a choice! Life is a responsibility no matter what. It used to be that taking on responsibility was honorable. I think we still deep down know this principle to be true.
When I see parents are struggling everywhere in the front of my eyes. I'm asking myself, why would I want that for my life. Then I chose not to have child and that's the best decision I have ever make.
The first time I realized having kids made no sense was when I witnessed my coworkers getting yelled at by supervisors every day for not breast pumping fast enough during their lunch break. The poor women would barely have time to eat their lunch and they would have to breast pump in a nasty bathroom stall that was never cleaned. This was also nightshift, so lunch was at 2 AM. That's when I realized they either had married the wrong husband, or at least should have waited to have the financial luxury of getting away from an employer like that.
Why are you blaming the woman in this? You have no idea why she would be in this situation. You dont know if her husband was laid off, sick, or injured. Also you dont know if they financially were better off but just fell on hard times. It is completely the employers fault for treating her that way. No one should be yelled out for trying to provide milk for their child during their own lunch break.
@@Anni3ization I am not blaming the woman I am just saying she is putting herself in a risky situation because she has a husband that clearly demonstrated that he isn’t able to protect her and she has an employer she was in no position to fight against. Women like that are vulnerable and often become single moms, so it’s always worth thinking ahead of time for women what kind of backup they have before they put themselves in positions like that. The world is a cruel place sadly and a lot of pregnant women are vulnerable to that. A lot of women need to have exceptional resumes and a cushy savings account (that nobody should know about) before deciding to get pregnant. This woman clearly didn’t and she suffered for years after that incident.
We have so much technology and resources than in the past, yet we need to push ourselves like that just to live... Either our expectations are unreasonably high or somebody just keeps cracking their whip and raising the stakes- WORK you hamster!
She will probably have 20 to help the wold recover 😜, … all I know is that responsable people don’t reproduce at the same rate that irresponsible people do and that is a good thing.
If you're the oldest in a single parent family where the parent works, and your sibling is 10 years younger, it takes a childhood to raise a child - yours.
Reasons for not planning the marriage or having children in the present world can be understood as follows: 1. Living has become more uncertain and expensive due to inflation and no control on the rising prices in the market. 2. Unemployment or uncertain employment. 3. Work life balance disturbed. In a day of 24 hours, the number of hours used for work(including travelling) vs number of hours left for living. In some cases husband and wife are living apart under compelling circumstances for their employment/career. 4. The standard of living was brought down by the governments of almost all the countries so that both husband and wife are compelled to work for making a living. 5. Health care - expensive 6. Education - expensive 7. Transportation - expensive 8. Taxation - expensive (multi point taxation) 9. Quality of life - Inferior 10. Quality of products - Inferior 11. Crimes on rise - no control 12. Services are commercial - no more noble. How can anyone think of marrying or having children in such world.
You have put my thoughts into words, yet many will insist that “life is what you make it” but how?? When everything literally has a high price and most jobs don’t even pay a livable wage forcing most to cramp up their homes with too many people as a way to pay the bills. I don’t have privacy in my own home as it is so in my current state I should know better than to bring children to this messed up world.
Exactly! These same politicians who call us selfish also have made life so unaffordable and difficult. They are not acting in our interests, it’s only because they want more cheap labor to make them rich.
Very true.... marriage and babies is not going to be affordable.....being single working person in a family with no pension in future and money being first criteria , it is very difficult to raise kids and to care of them .....
DId you notice that the rich have got super rich. Unfortunately the economy in all countries work in such a way that the middle class works very very hard only to make the rich richer. Most of the wealth in the world is in the hands of a select few billionaires.
Amazing video! I’m American and married, and we have no desire to have kids. It’s a financial issue for us. With the state of the American economy its no wonder our birth rate has dropped significantly. It’s unreasonable to have kids when we can barely afford to take care of our selves.
Very True! World is not a easy place to survive. Cost of living is high, while we as a adult are having challenges, children too go through a lot of competition, child has to learn everything, be best, get better scores and secure a seat at good university! While parents have to work hard and struggle to earn more to full fill child's needs. If either of the child or parents to fail, it's a greater disappoint and during the whole child raising process parents have to go through a lot of mental stress...
@@CasualBiker true competition is killing us. Getting in to top Universities is a nightmare. Students should work for more than 12 hours a day to get into premier institutions. World has become more competitive than ever.
@@mz2535 I see your point. However The cost of living in America is now a factor when it comes to having a family. People are looking at the day to day living expenses and are being very practical. Since everything in America is so expensive from housing to education to healthcare , unfortunately it's not feasible to have children. People simply can't afford it.
Will your career be there for you when you are 70+ and can't take care of yourself anymore? We need balance in life. You ask yourself very hard questions when the company you worked at for 30 years fires you overnight.
If I’m selfish for not having kids, then I wish more people would be selfish in that way. There are a lot of people having kids that have no business having them.
@@nightingalexx4631 I got testicular fortitude to have my own 5 kids. Why bother somebody else's pair. Go tell your sermons to those who create products for adoption factory. Let me see your patience to convince them. You are responsible for creating the adoption factory. You create demand and they supply. Pure evil.
@@glebsokolov2366 The planet is overpopulated and has been basically ruined by humans. Why do people like you still insist on quantity while so many people live a life of suffering, starvation, crime, disease etc?
@@HindiLearnersDiary most of these comments are people who live in good country's as they have internet access so no those things don't apppyl to them.
@@HindiLearnersDiary Russia is underpopulated. For such a huge area, we don’t have many people at all. Having less children will not only remove a lot of youth from cities and villages (which is already happening by the way), it will have a disastrous effect when the older generation gets older. Other countries that have a high population density should remain around 2.1, not much higher. There is more than enough space even in countries like Bangladesh to comfortably fit people on its lands. Countries like Russia, meanwhile, needs at least 3 kids per family to have an adequate population growth for our lands.
At 22, I made the choice earlier this year that I won’t be having kids for personal reasons and honestly I’ve never felt more at ease. No more worrying about “oh god I only have so and so more years until I’m married off and forced to pump out babies I KNOW I won’t be emotionally available for.” Now I can focus on my education in STEM and become a prominent technician 👩🔧 and finally become successful without worrying about “I have to become my highest self before my eggs expire”
That’s amazing!! I’m in the same boat, I’m 25 and I was thinking about how many years I had left to do everything I want to accomplish. I want to get a 2nd degree in another country, become a write, live abroad.there’s so much out there and I noticed that I get more excited for all my goals than picturing myself having children. That was my signal. And now I feel relieved because I’m going to have so much time build a life that I want !
until you reach your mid 30's and start to realize that you want to have kids and it's too late - if that's the path you choose, good for you, and go for it - but look into what comes next, get the details about people who don't have kids, especially women, and look to your future. The option to adopt is there, but most people will never take it But, to all the childless couples out there, remember that when you're old, you'll have no family, only friends, no memories and nothing to drive you to work harder and be better for the generation you could be raising up - and that you're taking from society and not giving back - and as your numbers grow, your decision is simply dooming mankind
15yrs back, if a couple didnt have kids even after 2yrs of marriage, they were continously asked about it by relatives & friends. Not anymore as it has become more of a personal choice
NO! As it has become very clear that it's a terrible thing to bring a child into this crazy mess! There is no point!
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@Serendipity how stupid society is this reflects on the rest.. I am sorry for the girl she should marry somebody better. Faster she divorce better she will be
Whether to marry or not, having kids or no... all depends on each one's discretion so we/the society should abstain from imposing it's opinions and views on others...
It is more than an opinion, as time flows lower birth rates means obviously less and less people are born. Countries care because this affects their ability to be a productive nation, their ability to protect themselves through military. Also more globally it is the species survive. Yes this doesn't effect you or I but as time moves on and the rate continues to decline. So as we see now with older generations that had more children as they age there are more elderly with not enough youth to support the aging population as time goes on it will become more of a problem. The marriage thing is a social issue and not really a factor but the birth rates is an issue. Also due to chemical exposure to the world's population to plastics many women and men can not produce children. So as the number of infertile people grows and the number of people choosing not to have children where does that leave our species
@@aceaplus Throughout the history of a planet there has been hell lot of creations and destruction of species happening... And humans have been always wanting to discover, improvise and invent newer things and technologies that doesn't mean that we're immortal... Humans have evolved in a way that they're at the top of the pyramid - they're animals with emotions and rational thought so unlike other species we cannot jus take things in terms of reproduction rate and the prospect of species continuity... There are a good proportion of the human species willing to reproduce and sustain life on planet and of course if the species is going towards lack of sustainability or regression that is natural too and in case of humans the cause could be a result of a conscious decision not to reproduce... For the sake of species continuity I strongly disagree that we should force people to marry or reproduce. Above all if the human race finds it's end by people choosing not to reproduce then let it... Chill...Evolution will have it's course!
@@macalo80able maria no one is denying yours in not valid. The whole point is its always been viewed as "against the norm" to not have kids. Why do people insert themselves into topics that have nothing to do with them
@@shayanraj7840 I hope so. They are 5 and 10 years old now, and I am pretty healthy. I retired early, so I get to take them to school every morning, and spend loads of time with them. If I would have had them earlier (before retiring), I would have missed a lot because of working.
@@How2BAMan Eh.. The Ideal age for a man to become a Father is 27. My father was almost 40 when I was born (I am a second child) , and I just don't feel a great attachment to my father because of that. Unlike all people in this comment section, I am one of those few folks who do want kids. 3 to be exact. But I do support the population decline.
We accept it. But Boomers are obsessed with bragging about grandkids with their frenemies and bully and emotionally blackmail their children into mindless weddings and procreation. .
I loved the comment that childless women said "We know how hard it is, that's why we decided not to have them" That's so right. I knew it at 12 years old. Having babies never crossed my mind.
Same, I have not wanted kids since I was 13. Im now 34 still no children and have no plans to ever have kids. They are too expensive, education is spotty, politics is entering the education system, and inflation is going crazy. Why on earth would I make my life harder just to have kids? I can barely afford myself I have rehome all my pets and I am single. I have eliminated everything possible to increase my free cash and its not enough. I have no life, I can barely afford gas AND groceries... it would literally be a crime for me to have a child right now. I'd be homeless. I have no sympathy for woman that were stupid and didn't take better care to not get pregnant. Yes I'm shading all those single mothers that got pregnant by their BF and he left. Seriously! Be more careful. I feel for all the divorced mothers but again still don't have much sympathy I saw this crazy world we live in coming way back in 2013... and made sure I wouldn't be anchored down financially by a child. So I'm sorry you have kids but you should have been smarter...
@Susanne Boretsky Agreed that sympathy is difficult but once again you put it all on women. They did NOT get pregnant by immaculate conception. Men with equal responsibility got them pregnant and no one mentions them. They're just as unintelligent and likely even worse people since a lot of them choose to run away from what they did. Women don't get that luxury but take all of the blame.
@@meoct-ow7tu agreed, I can be notherly for a time but to be a full time Mom ong nope I can't even handle a needy dog. I KNOW I'd be a terrible mother I don't want to sacrifice my time. And a child deserves the time of the parents i see electronic parenting even in my own family and I can see the issues it's creating. Xid be a lazy parent and that's not acceptable to me. So I stick to my decision to not have kids, it would not be fair to the poor child because I wouldn't be 100% invested in parenting.
I taught at a college and those young adults did not want to bring a child into the world for fear (mental health issues, bullying, social pressures). Now I did teach in nursing so they might me more aware of those situations and negative consequences, but I found them very articulate. My generation felt the need and desire to have a child for fulfillment. This generation experiences their fulfillment in other ways. I do not think we should impose our beliefs and desires on this generation. My son has said for years (since he was 18) he did not want children. For the first 10 minutes after I found this out, I was devastated. But within 10 minutes - I realized "why would I want something for him that he does not want for himself". I found my belief to be very selfish and I did a 180. I want him happy. We should want everyone happy and it should never be decided because it can provide a stable financial future for our county. That makes for terrible parenting and resulting future generations who are not really wanted. Let them be and decide on their own.
Dude they don’t know what they want they are too emotional if they feel this way why are they still alive taking the risk every single day? You must be really ignorant or a woman why give in too feelings instead of looking at the bigger picture we have a responsibility as humans to repopulate the world and keep our family tree in tact we also have to build a future for other generations after us this selfish way of thinking shows just corrupt this generation is seriously I would never take them seriously they are way too young and have a lot to learn.
My mom raised us and worked. I saw how she struggled taking care of me and my younger brothers. Prices are going up, wages are still low. I helped her with the household because she needed help. This traumatized me, now I am in my 30s, single. In my opinion having children is expensive and divorces are common. I don't want to go this path
As long as you are sure about your choice then it is perfectly fine. I am about to turn 30 also single and currently trying to make a decision but it is not easy when it comes to such important matters. The window of opportunity is always closing due to age and making the wrong choice will most definitely lead to great regret in the future...
Not having children is probably the better choice. I‘ve never met a child-free person that regretted being child-free. A lot of people that have children have loved to regret having to
@@theoschoendube thanks for the reply. For me the decision will depend on whether or not 1, I can provide a good life for the kid. 2, the wife has good motherly instincts/traits . 3, the relationship is rock solid. If those conditions are met I will likely go ahead if not then I wont.. Your point is valid but I know some people who tell themselves and others that they do not want kids even though they would if they had a choice. They say they don't want kids because it makes them feel better about the real reason (life/money/age/lack of partner). Just as an example.. a random woman substitutes having a family with a carrier/ single lifestyle because she thinks it is more fulfilling after a while she realizes that she wants kids but now it is too late because she has hit the wall and is now in her 30s..
I have 1 child and a baby on the way in a few weeks, raising a baby has been difficult, but rewarding. It forced me to get serious about finances, and consumerism. We are now minimalists placing our value on education, travel, and self enrichment instead of hoarding a bunch or consumer items, as well as focusing on being debt free, I don't know if we plan on having a 3rd child, mainly not due to finances, but our ability to give the much needed attention to our two children, and not have to divide up our time too much between so many children. It's rewarding having children, just be smart about it, know your limits, and don't overwhelm yourself with societal pressures. Do what works for you and don't try to keep up with the joneses
someone said to me before, "if you think getting married and having children is just pain, you might have looking it at the wrong way". She said it when someone said he doesn't want to have a child because it cost a lot. hahaha.
That WAS SUCH a nasty thing to call women with FERTILITY issues 'cursed' and 'evil' for something they cant control😒 Would you also call handicapped people 'evil' for being born with a handicap?;? Such a SICK statement 😒
She’s just reporting about the truth, she didn’t call them that herself. Why the need to get offended about the past? The situation isn’t like that anymore.
Let's be real here. The only reason governments are worried about this is that there are fewer people to contribute to pension funds. What did they expect with 14 hour work days, barely any increase in median salary and insanely high property prices?
Then you should notice something. WE ARE INCREASING THE WORLD POPULATION AT AN ALARMING RATE. Yes, fertility is going down, but the world population is going up. Unless we hit fertility 2 or lower, we are INCREASING population. Because we have so many people already, we are STILL INCREASING POPULATION AT A VERY FAST RATE. We add a billion to the population of earth every 8 years. Unless something happens we are doomed to destroy ourselves by overbreeding. The fact is that the uber wealthy want a bigger work force. Governments want more soldiers. But we need less people not more. The problem is, EUROPEANS NEED TO HAVE MORE KIDS. DEVELOPING NATIONS NEED TO HAVE LESS. Otherwise we are replacing the culture that isn't overpopulating with one that is and making things even worse.
I guess people began realizing that having a child is not like buying a new appliance to fit into society. You have children because you want to raise human beings, not as a retirement plan.
lesser kids, lesser consumption, lesser need of income, lesser need of production, lesser need of workforce, lesser need of psychiatrists, lesser need of everything resulting in better climate, better weather and a better planet. Humans, we are too many...just look around
@@BatMan-cq8gq and that was their choice. Some couldn’t even take care if their children because of those difficult times. Let people decide whether or not they want to have kids
Developed countries across the world: Women should work a full time job, get married, have babies, raise the babies with little to no maternity leave, then come home and cook and clean while their husband does a tiny bit of housework and somehow manage to pay for childcare from wages that aren't growing even though rent and food and gas is getting more expensive Women across the world: Hmmm no Developed countries with plummeting birth rates: shocked pikachu face
Actually, Women decided to work. And decided to betray and divorce their husbands. That's their fault. Even gay women divorce each other at twice the rate of gay men. This is a female caused problem
I chose not to have kid's at 17. Retired at 57 debt free and working a part time job I love. A lot of people my age are financially bailing out their adult kid's and/or raising grand kid's. I'm 61 BTW.
I’m from Canada, and honestly pretty ok with this. The economy can’t keep growing forever, and I don’t want it propped up with population growth. With climate change happening, what we need now is less drain on our water and electrical systems, not more. While I’m not against immigration, I don’t believe a steadily increasing population is a good thing for every country, or the world. There are too many of us already.
I am a 40 yrs old women and have no children, and its the best decision I made. I have so much freedom and happiness. All my friends envy my lifestyle because they are all stressed out with their family and kids. Btwy I look alot younger than all of them lol
I am not planning to have a child. I see how others struggles with kids. A friend told me that having a child was her biggest mistake. Can you imagine this? I love being independent and enjoy my life. Some people call me selfish but I say So be it😉
Been in your friends shoes. Had kids young my brother didn't. He had more time more money pretty much more of everything. Now in his 40s his biggest regret is not having kids. I have an amazing time with my kids they all have different interests and personalities and each is it's own journey. Now I wish they were younger so we could have even more quality time together. Kids aren't right for everyone and no guarantee that they will be good. But in 10 years when you have run through most things you want to do and have 40-50 more years to fill I will be filled with endless opportunities to spend my time. I would say think about it a little more. Think of who you were 10 years ago and how drastically your wants, needs, and goals have changed and realize they will drastically change again in another 10 years.
The mindset now is to live for oneself. Having children places a huge financial, emotional, and physical burden on a person. Kudos to people who choose to have them, but don't judge those who choose to live their lives for themselves. That's not being selfish.
It’s an act against humanity. TFR decline impact Will be evident in just 30 years from now, say 2050. It’s forcefull impact is now backfiring China hugely because of its policies.
Not having children does NOT equal living to only oneself. That makes it sound selfish. I don't have my own kids but rescue animals, I decided to simply help the needy that were ALREADY alive. I help my sister with her kids. Some childless people help the world in other ways. I might adopt a couple of preteens or teens later in life. And yes, some childless people are simply honest about not wanting to be bothered with caring for anything extra.
As an elementary school teacher, I see many students struggling with the way society is now: over complicated, especially in this complex age of technology and social media..expenses.. I feel for them because though technology may be helpful in some aspects, it can be detrimental as well.. There are many other factors to consider too. I'd love to have children of my own someday but.. I don't?! I sometimes am afraid of what this world will look like several years from now.
The world is what me make out of it. Children bcoms how society and parents molds them. Society and parents are the products of their parent’s generation and so on. We know that lots of ppl are feed up with lots of things but they do nothing to make it better. We each need to do something today so that the children of today makes better society tomorrow. I would say most of the problems arises from technology which makes ppl lazy, superficial and want instant gratification.
I have secretly decided not to have children,I am happy with my decision because I know I will never meet the right guy or find my perfect match. I am happily single and I’m ok with being single for the rest of my life🥂
That's the way to go. My parents keep reminding me to get married but I never succumb to it . I have yet to do so many things in life. Can't really get bogged down with expenses which aren't aligned with my goals. People may call me selfish but I don't really care , I wasn't given a choice whether to be born , I sure as hell will exercise my choice this time around
Kids are expensive and stressful. Two parents are working to pay their bills. Daycare is a grand a month for one kid for the first 5 years until school age. Kids are sick a lot when they are young, then you have the fun teenage years. Traveling and freedom is gone. Our world is a mess with wars, climate change, pandemics, drugs, poverty. Groceries, rent, utilities, insurance etc. all keeps going up. Who wants to sign up for that?
Well, to be fair our world has always been a mess of wars, changing climate, pandemics, drugs and poverty. Those will never go away. The cost to raise a family though, yeah it’s gotten unaffordable for a lot of people.
Loved your Presentation on this topic. Yes, today having a child is an option. There are thousands of kids in orphanage, adopting is also a good option.
very few think of adoption, cuz no one wants to deal with legal actions incase something goes wrong. also there is also a moment when the adopted kid is not accepting you or living by your set of rules.
Childfree by choice is my best decision so far in life . Being married doesn’t mean bearing a child is automatically associated with it. Like it’s a choice to have a child it’s a choice not to have a child too. My decision was taken a decade before the pandemic and still sticking by and never an iota of doubt in my head about my decision
@@shashankkothari8066 No , I would not want to burden myself with the idea of taking care of a child 24/7. I would rather consider sponsoring a child remotely for education.
@ Susan: My idea is exactly the same .. we got married 4 years back and we decided to live without Children and sponsor studies for 2 kids who are less fortunate .. We are so happy so far .. We get time for our life .. There is only one problem in this .. Our parents get highly disappointed with this plan ..
@@gtr3440 Like children doesn't really amuse you seriously?? Empty home really make you satisfied?? Maan, how you guys even exists? It's beyond my imagination.🙄
@@shishirchitre1945 You may find this weird .. But, honestly we are not at all interested in kids .. Basically, we would love to spend time for ourselves .. We have a plan to take a break from our jobs and travel continuously for a year .. This might seem to weird for many people .. But, we love being like this .. Life is so short and we would like to live the life completely ..
It's not selfish to not have kids ...It's a choice and people have got to keep an open mind about it ...People have the right to decide their own lives , not others’ .
I'm Dutch, married, 51 and we have no children because I didn't want children. I'm happy with this decision because having a child would have been devastating (for both us and the child) because of ongoing health issues. Every choice you make is a selfish one. Whether you choose a child or not, it's because you want it.
@@mo.ka.9661Really? What is so selfless about that? Can you explain it because in my experience the people who have children have them because they want to, for themselves. Not as an act of selflesness.
@@ST-ly8uf Honestly old age homes are a great option, depending on the country you're in some places have whole residential complexes just for old residents. You can buy a flat when you're around 65-70 and stay there (to get used to living in a new place rather than moving over there when you're like 80 - 85). These places have medical facilities, people around your age group, activities for old people. Personally these days children or relatives do not take care of the older generation so what's the point anyways of having children if that's the only reason you're considering having them
One aspect is of the Millennials themselves having trauma, inner child healing issues that were given to them because the caregivers were not well equipped and hence they don't want to pass on those.
They call it selfish to not have kids, I call it selfish to have kids when you can't even afford to take care of yourself.
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Exactly!!
Some are selfish by having kids because they want their kids to take care of them when they get old.
Them calling anything selfish is the greatest irony of all
@@guidonunesca1647 this is an tiered argument really. My country cannot build care homes fast enough and they are filled with people who have kids and are not taking care of them
“Rich words coming from a non-parent” - Give this woman a raise 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
I've never hit the subscribe button so fast in my life.
OMGOSH the SHADEEEE I loved it lol
Youre not listening to the real story. FERTILITY RATE is falling, but its still above 2. Meaning the number of humans on EARTH IS STILL INCREASING. Its just increasing at a slower rate. And its hasn't decreased by much for a long, long time. We will be overpopulated long before it falls.
BAM! ROASTED!
ROASTED !!!!!!😂
Its because people are learning that having a kid is a choice not a requirement.
No, but almost. It's because work disallows. the economy is highly pressured and forces this, including failing relationships due emotional neglect
It'll stop being a choice when 90 % of the world is 75
True
Not in Texas
@@halleluyahletuspraiseyahua2521 when population decreases, cost of living will decrease for sure.. then ppl will surely opt to have child.. so it would be a choice at that time.. most of them don't want to have child because of expense and financial problems...
Dont give a damn about people calling you selfish if you dont have kids. They are not the ones who will be taking care of your kids.
THIS!! They only care about controlling women but as soon as you’re pregnant you’re on your own! It goes from “you’ll die alone” to “you chose to get pregnant” REAL quick and by then you’re stuck with a baby you can’t return
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Indeed.
You can dance naked and society wint bother.
Cool, but if you aren’t having kids… and then you all get old… who is going to pay in to those government programs that you are going to want when you are old? Who is going to keep the infrastructure going when you’re old? Who will grow and raise the food?
It takes time to create new humans to hold up a civilization. We don’t have time to wait on you to fix your own stupidity.
It's not only giving birth to a child, it's about giving the child the financial and emotional support which many like me are not capable of! I am not going to ruin a child's mental and emotional state because of some societal pressure. It's a true fact, not everyone is emotionally available or ready to be a mother!
Don't shame them for that.
P.S. it's the same for men too!
Very true. Having my son had been amazing, but it sure isn’t a walk in the park.
The demand to be shame free is how we got here in the first place, resulting in maladaptive conditions. Those unready will be always unready and will in fact promote such conditions, the rate of medication says it all.
India 💩💩🇮🇳🇮🇳
@@chinavirus841 what a convincing argument. Due to your comment most countries who supported India have begun to oppose it. There will now be a war with India. All of this was possible only due to your convincing agruement.
@@harsh3624 lol, great reply without being abusive👍👍
The issue is finding a good partner. You can't take a risk to have a fatherless child or worse having a toxic father/mother, causing psychological torture to the child.
VERY THIS
Also it's damn tough to bring up a child properly. Till 25 one works on their issues, studies n starting a career then boom baby comes n next 20 years of your life will be all about that child. People have to manage their career, play the role of a parent etc. When would be she/he get time to be all by herself. This is clearly called being overworked which leads to anxiety depression. Even worse if there's no much understanding or love between husband n wife. These days there a lot of divorces
You're right..
Absolutely correct 👍
Define good partner
I think parenting is getting just difficult everyday. Education costs, expenses and many things to take care about like social media, gadgets, adultrated content protection, mental health of the kids, increasing competition and spending time with them. It seems difficult.
No. Real reason is sex is free. No need to marry
Hmmm
@@allarjun956 umm~
I am an only child and I understand
LKG now costs 1 lakh while my entire 20 years of education fees is 1 lakh
Having kids:
More mouths to feed
More food to buy
More working hours
No maternity/paternity leave
Little to no personal time.
Can’t be with the kids? Get caregiver which is expensive.
Wages doesn’t increase
Houses are expensive
Inflation is high
Everything is expensive
It’s not selfish, it’s smart.
Get immigrants to fill in the gap.
No
Not having kids:
Healthy and comfortable living.
It's fine, no everyone wants kids, but becoming a parent was the best thing I ever did - and when I'm old, I have my children to be by my side and I get to see them become adults. When you're old, you'll be living in an old folks home surrounded by others like you with nothing left, other then your comfortable living
@@Bjorick lots of ppl with children wind up in senior homes. Alone. Kids totally forgot about them. Kids are no guarantee of anything whatsoever.
I am a working woman who was a latch key kid whose mother was herself a latchkey kid. My daughter is a latchkey kid who is raising her own pair of latch key kids. We all had different professions, worked full-time, got degrees part-time, we all had our difficulties and made a few errors along the way. But the sheer joy of hearing a child's laughter, and the intriguing delight of watching them grow into becoming themselves is an experience I would have hated to miss! Being pregnant isn't fun. Being a mother, even when harried, is weird because you learn so much about yourself along the way. One's heart expands exponentially!
@@kayallen7603 good for you.
Kids arent for everyone.
They make you happy, they irritate others.
Some don't want them because they don't want them in a world like ours. They are a liability to some, a joy to others.
Deal with the reality.
I would rather a person like you with a child than a pedo, a murderer, a psychopath, etc with a child.
You can stay with those genocidal thoughts and not spread them to your offspring, should you have any.
I am a parent with 2 boys who are teenagers . I simply wasn’t ready for being a parent. It was very very stressful and emotionally drained my energy . I appreciate people who consciously decide whether to be parents or not . I love my kids crazy but they also stress me to the core . It is a life long commitment. If you are not ready please don’t bring another life .
true! One should makes sure one is psychologically and economically ready before having a baby..! I am not psychologically nor economically ready even though I am 30 years old. I prefer being childless but my mum wants us to have baby. I would NOT have baby just because my mum wants me to have baby!
Nothing could have been said so rightly as this one
@SM- sorry you were kind of bullied into having children. Yes, it is a LIFE LONG commitment. And boys’ prefrontal cortex isn’t fully formed till 25.
I hope you make it through the next years with your sanity intact. They are at the age now that they can understand Mom is a person, not their personal servant. Start those conversations now. They need to know you will not always be there
Teach your kids about, having kid is a choice
@@vivianjones9749 If you are not ready to work hard for your son or daughter , then do not become a parent throughout your life .
World is full of men and women , there is no vacancy for more people ,on earth .
Be kind to mother earth . Do never become pregnant ,in your life .Mother earth will bless you .
Excellent decision, unless you are very financially stable, don't. It sucks to be part of the struggling parents group.
Yay
Yup
If yu dont live to fullfill your luxrious desires, then having a child is not that much of a problem ..
@@yaqoobkhan6677 Seems like you don't understand the difference between financially stable and luxurious desires.
@@cyantn1634 exactly. Not everyone can be super wealth and afford luxuries. Materialism has poisoned society.
The 8-hour/day work model is designed when only one parent is working. If governments now want to maintain healthy fertility rate in their countries, they can start by reducing working hours. This can spillover into employing more people too. The mental health of millions of adults and children can be improved.
The 8-hour industrial workday
(with benefits and a living wage)
created stable societies.
Exactly! We should all work to live our lives...
Now we are all living to work
@@bhupeshthakur90 If both parents work for 4-5 hours a day, that would still mean the same wage, giving both of them the feeling of independence while having the time to raise a child.
@@Dhksksjjsjjs exactly but unfortunately many wont understand.
Both have to work to meet the expenses. But reducing working hours is not feasible.
When my dad died I became the breadwinner to help my mom raise my siblings, so most of my salary went to them. My youngest sibling graduated when I was 27 and by that time I was physically and mentally exhausted taking care of the family. I need a break and I'm not ready to have kids right now. I just want to spend the next few years fee from responsiblity and just enjoy life for once.
That is one thing I'm also afraid of myself to be honest. I have many other reasons as well for not wanting children, but I considered, what if me or my partner were to die while the child was young? I cannot place that burden on the child. Sure, the child can get adopted or if only one partner goes, they can remarry, but what about the emotional burden of losing a parent? I have MANY and I mean MANY friends around me who are still 19-20 years old who have lost one of their parents, and the entire family had to be working to manage surviving since as students, there's so many hours of work they can do, and the rest goes to studying and school. It is extremely tough
We can't blame the people for not having kids. Imagine spending 21 - 24 years of life in education, who wants to commit themselves to another stressful act of maintaining a family?
Your parents
@@needname404 Lol no one can change his or her past, but you change your present or future.
Are you glad that your parents didn't give this thought 😁
@@warriorharry1 i Always hate my parents when they cry about their sacrifice to bring me i never said them to bring me to this world i would be more happy to see them enjoying them r life at best rather than tourturing me for own decisions.
@@dmeditz8100 Most of the parents have kids because of the pressure from the society and not their choice from the heart. Its their problem.
If you are choosing not to have children you are NOT “childless”- you are “child free”. There’s a big difference.
Lol!! If that makes you feel better. I work in an industry where I see first hand how "child free" patients are treated. Covid was a complete nightmare for the "child free" folks. Sure, they were the first to die of Covid but mostly because they were ignored and ultimately died of dehydration. Oh, I also saw a child free person get eaten by their pets after two weeks being dead and no one calling to check in. For all the child free folks....it is definitely for the best and thanks. Oh well, survival of the fittest.
You sound very single.
Epic. You are right
Correct
choosing not to have children is something I would describe abortion supporters as well. And staying childless as a result. Like a child who intentionally chooses not to be adopted or to reject having a parent, being parent-less and parent-free.
Problem is that the wrong people are having too many children.
Narcissistic people believe being in competition with people is the meaning of life. So they need to have kids in order to feed their ego and keep up with the Joneses. Unfortunately the kid suffers.
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I’m talking about druggies and the other stupid people of the world.
Peaceful people changing demography
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Peaceful people are being replaced by barbarians.
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Ah, I see what you mean and agree.
Some people were so traumatized in childhood they had no desire to bring anyone into this world lest they experience the same thing. That's not selfish.
That's me.
Very well said.
Right
Fatalism being a 'good thing'? Or have you left your issues unaddressed? Just asking.
@@kayallen7603 "just asking"? Sounds more like implying. Fatalistic or not, it's a truth that some people are living. Easy to judge if you're not one of them. Just saying.
“Rich words from a non parent “ best palki one liner ever
Its what 1st world countries do, thats why they are 1st world. Rich not over populated!!
How about those baby factories in 3rd world countries???
Yes Palki shouldn't have any Children. We all will be very happy. 😂
@@questions5817 Ist world depend on benefits and welfare and wage to survive in high cost life style , remove two of those components , you will live like a 3rd class citizen in your first world. By the way Question you descended from low class backround (inbred, diseased,unedcuated ,rejected class of Europe).Through Government big spending and higher spending (work less in the west) , you can live a easy life style for a while.
@@questions5817 In one side 1st world countries they complain about immigration and also they don't want to reproduce. You can't have both, it will be an economic disaster for countries. You have to choose between immigration and reproduction.
@@questions5817 People say automation and artificial intelligence is the future but what will happen when you don't have people to consume all those commercial technologies. You still need human workforce. It will be an economic suicide.
In the US, many millennials are dealing with crushing debt from student loans, higher costs of living, low pay but increasingly demanding workload, and difficulty accessing health care, especially child care. Also, many of us American millennials came from dysfunctional homes and knew at least one person whose parents had a nasty divorce. So might be understandable why the idea of kids and marriage doesn't sound appealing.
Kids become liabilities not assets
Is this the reason for the big push against abortion in the US right now?
@@Ollie-qz5qv Abortion is a different issue. Here we are talking about not conceiving kids in the first place. Of course, it's not OK to kill people just because keeping them alive is expensive.
@@Ollie-qz5qv I think it is the reason behind it!
Most accurate statement on here
We can't afford to have kids, and the world is so messed up we almost feel guilty for bringing more people into it :(
Only monsters, and stupid people create humans.
@@user-gz4ve8mw9l 😂😂😂 made me laugh
So please migrate to a place where you can afford to have at least 3 kids. What happens when your 48..you will be lonely with no support.
@@samisyed2370 Exactly !
@@samisyed2370 do you know such place?
It’s kind of ironic.. a lot of people are having kids just because everyone else is, a lot of them are emotionally unavailable/unstable, financially unstable, not really thinking about the child’s upbringing have more than one kid.. and the people who are responsible and care deeply about the impact of having a child or what the child might have to suffer, have one or no kids at all…
Based on what evidence, how many children do you have? How many sleepless nights have you endured?
Mormons come to mind LOL
If given an option, many people will choose not to be even born being scared of the challenges life poses.
Relatable
Totally
U stole my words 😂
😂yes why not
If the world would have a pill that you could die without any pain, it would be more required than covid vaccine. Or a "happy" pill like in the book Brave New World.
I'd add a few points here:
- Having children is a LOT of work! Most people are exhausted with their routines already...
- Having a job is not an option for women, it's a need... we need the money to sustain ourselves and, even for couples, one salary is not enough to sustain a family (even if the guy is a good husband)
I believe the fact that there are many two-salary couples means the average family income, and thus purchasing power, is being increased, and thus prices go up, particularly for housing, making it more difficult for many one-salary couples to afford it.
I suspect (and hope) you really meant "... even if the guy is a good PROVIDER". Some 'good husbands' don't have high earnings, and some wealthy husbands are not necessarily good.
@@bobjacobson858 I meant good husbands, in the sense that he shares the tasks or does not use the fact that he's earning the money to mistreat the wife
@@paulaqueirosz Okay, that's great; thanks for clarifying this!
Word! ~ If a man wants a wallet, he can not have a girl friend. 🤣🤣🤣
@@chrisrode8158 He can have both...if he is satisfied carrying a wallet in which four layers of leather have nothing in between them!
"Population may become half by 2100"
I see this as an absolute win.
Would be much better if it halves in the next 3 decades.
Thanos just did in one secons
same
Well that's a lie we are overpopulated and climate change is greeting us
It would send us back to the iron age, but ok, win i guess?
We are already on the bring of seeing major countries having massive economic problems in the next 20 years with no new work force. Things are going to collapse in your lifetime, and it wont be pretty.
I'm already fucked up in my mind with mental illness..I don't want another generation to suffer😅
We can't imagine next generation without depression.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life.
John 3:16
If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.
James 1:5
Extremely good insight, my friend. Most people don't understand how much the mentally ill suffer. Why would you wish that on your children?
True
Yes I know what you mean,seen it and experienced it.Husband was a gambler and play boy with my hard earned working in a factory money ,he used me ,abused me and I had 2 kids,now I have a transgender daughter,and the other one who is childless, is refusing to talk to me because I am helping my trans child now 40 so she does not commit suicide, her sibling, My nerves are a wreck starting with my X for this 40 years now, and my health failing from continues stress,I even care for a grandchild who has high function autism,and people say .......how do you cope???? I just do ,they need me,I am the only stable hitching post they have.But given forsight of this life I would might have chosen no children.But the heart wants what the heart wants,and I wanted my children badly.and I loved their father with all my heart it took my years to get over him when he march out the door to his chickybabe ....who dumped him 12 months later ...ha ha ha kama!🤣
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I am 53 and decided not to have children, I was a weird creature for many. Never have I regretted my decision; thanks for the reporte.
Respect!
Same
You are more sane than you realized.
Respect, I will do the same
I am planning to do the same. I'm just worried how my family reacts.
I like this trend actually. Overpopulation is disastrous for all the right reasons, also affecting Earth badly too.
agree. people seem to present it as a problem, but this is a good news actually. each passing day, we have less natural resources - having less people who are using it is actually good. it also help reduces the amount of manmade waste.
So why not punish the largest countries? Countries with lower populations should be having more.
well then the next generation of old people will not have any young work force to help them survive
STUPID TALK
@@sodea13 they don't need to survive they need to die and move to better place.
Spot on conclusion. If a nation really wants more children produced, support the parents with policies and finances that make it a logical choice. Don't expect people to keep doing crazy things out of tradition.
Absolutely true !
They won't. They just want slave labour to feed their capitalist machine and also reaping benefits from our hard work. Why give them that ?
Yes I support this. My reason is if I were given a chance then I wouldn't have opted to be born in this cruel world. This world is filled with depression and societal pressure. I am 21 years old and i am already exhausted, I don't want my next generation to be as depressed as I am today .
Becoming more than just a reproductive machine, I think this can bring a massive change in the world and especially in India because just see how most of our Indian parents life were, they say that they had many hardships and all they wanted was to get a government job. When there is so much trouble in life, I really don't know from where the question of having so many children come to our grandfather's mind. First of all we should create a supportive and conducive environment for the future generations and then bring them into the world so that they live such a life that we couldn't imagine possible. In India we have grand temples but not good toilets, it time we make the world a great place to live so that going to heaven will be of no value. If this one comment can spread the truth to one guy, I will be fulfilled
@@keshabs.4396 Not just our nation, the whole world is currently very unstable, the uncertainty of diseases, high prices, falling economy, too much scarcity of resources, poor hygiene. I think one child or having no child is nowhere evil at all.
may want to lighten up a bit
Then why are you still here?
I totally feel you.
Having kids have become the most toughest job and bringing up them is a huge responsibility. In this competitive world, trying to give them the best becomes expensive , because of which working in a stressful environment also becomes mandatory.
Giving children the best of everything is not always the solution. Most kids today are spoiled and honestly want shortcuts to money and success.
@@saiyedakhtar3931 ok boomer
@@saiyedakhtar3931 ok boomer
@@saiyedakhtar3931 ok boomer
To live in this world is not expensive, hard work doesn't make you rich, but ideas can. Jealousy is the main reason for competition, be humble and think for solution.
I see this as an absolute win, if our system crashes because people aren't having children, the system should change
There wont be any change but the end of civilization, non enough people for running bussineses, services etc. Something like i legend movie... I wont be nice
@@tomassterancak So What? Who cares? Why is that a problem for you???
@@ThothTheAtlanteanK i care, if you dont you should
People think it will be like a recession when the system crashes lol....the more likely outcome is most of the population dying off....you do not want to be around when this begins believe me!
@@tomassterancak Why should someone care what you think?
After facing India's situation of job crisis as a youngster myself I hope population of youngsters in India should decrease so that every person in future atleast get employed, if government don't care about employment of all youngsters then we youngsters too don't care about fertility rate and having enough youngsters in future or anything like that. It's better to have less youngster population than required than having more than enough, I can't see my children struggling like me and being depressed by competition in literally every field
My exact feeling for about 4 years now.
In America, we have a saying, "The world doesn't owe you anything." To which I say cool, I don't owe anything back. That includes children to be beat up and hurt like me.
Same here, and I am living in an advanced country.
100% agree.
@@manji83 Life is not easy.
Google says Palki is a mother to two children herself and yet she covered this topic with objectivity. Respect.
Simple reason, all females want to control reproduction and by saying these things she eliminate competition for her own kids, thus giving them a better chance of success.
That's because palki is a progressive woman. You can never expect a conservative woman to show decency towards a random child free woman.
Why wouldn't she.
An economy based on endless growth is unsustainable. It's not the populations responsibility to adhere to birthrate demands, it's the world governments responsibility to provide the existing population with a sustainable, fair and flexible economy in which people are free to choose, and adequately supported in either decision.
Best comment on this thread!
Particularly given what is happening with climate change we really cannot keep basing our economies off of continued population growth.
Very nicely put from a less emotional standpoint but rather a bargaining view, against all the hogwash we are we fed daily, you have 2, you get 3, no five, all the while, they are killing us with high prices, unsafe 'environs' and the list goes on...I can't wait to make my exit...this world 🤷🏻♀️😂
Govt. is not a God who can expand the size of earth , increase oxygen and water and reduce pollution .
Your comment is hugely irresponsible .
Exactly. Well said. Spot on.
My husband and I are moving with our first child to a super small town, purchased 118 acres which cost us the same amount as an apartment in the city. Cheaper, a good community, less social media presence, fear and pressure. Simplicity. It's a big move but we decided we needed to get back to the basics for our health and sanity. We want our children to be raised with work ethic, manners, community values and basic life skills so they dont have to rely on others. We will grow our own food, raise and respect our animals. City living is just dreadful now. No one cares about their neighbors, everyone runs on fear, trying to keep up with the Jones. No one can tolerate a difference of opinion or have intelligent, cilivilized conversation. It's very sad. It's not working for us so we are changing it. Happiness is out there.
🙏 Wishing your family to have all the happiness.
Congragulations!
You have taken absolutely right decision.
Happiness will be fullfilled in your life.
You are living according to nature and You will be happy with family and children.
City is a HELL.
@Kelsey Smith How sensible! 👍🏼
And daring too!
But worth the effort! 👌🏼
I wish I could visit your farm someday! 🙂
All the Best! 👍🏼
(From India).
@Michał Lewandowski Ha ha! 😀
Yes! 👍🏼
True!
Respectfully, it's called Childfree not childless.
India should be more concerned about feeding and caring for those alive today. Reducing India over populated cities should be welcomed
Agreed
Well said.
Not one in India disagree
Absolutely right, India should keep to a low birth rate until it gets back to where it was a century ago
@@jonausten8151 well unfortunately less children also equals less working people and more elderly people which is the best formula for an economic catastrophe and not the other way around
Being childless is not a crime....should hv children only if u can raise them the proper way...
Children r a part of life...not the whole life.
True
Couldn't agree more. Things are getting expensive.
expensive and difficult
where u not a child before u grown? everyone must at least have one child to keep the world moving.
Thats why I have one child
I moved from Germany (1,53 reproduction rate) to Netherlands (1,57 reproduction rate) and personally do not have kids but can see that NL has a lot more child friendly policies, while Germany has long struggled to take kids and young families serious. Just 1-2 generations ago a man would spent most of his life working for one company and he would earn enough for his wife to stay at home and raise 2 or more kids but the number of jobs that can actually feed an entire family has gone done and most people have 2-3 jobs to make ends meet. I agree with your female perspective of better education resulting in less kids, but the low wages and constant job changes also lead to great insecurity. A lot of men are not confident enough anymore that they can actually afford a family. And this was before the pandemic.
Better education results in less kids?? She did not said that. The lack of education is the problem. Let's not compare with times or places when and where women had/have no choice, no contraception, rapes, not allowed to work, not allowed to study.
What Palki fails to say over and over again is if you let greedy CEOs sponsor greedy politicians you have a poor society financially incapable of having kids.
@@alifc1082 The more education and contraception that females have the fewer kids they have.
@@alifc1082 Indeed there is studies that academics tend to have less. children, that is a fact. The better educated the more knowledge about the difficulties and thus less likely to have kids. Plus career is more important often as well.
people who choose to be lonely now can change it in the future. the world has become a smaller place... much more opportunity to find ways to pass the time
Sometimes one just have to ask oneself; “am I actually fit to be a parent?” And if your answer is no, it is no. Your child is not a mini version of you, they can’t fulfil all your lost aspirations, they are not your possession or toy, they are an autonomous human being. And I have witnessed too many parents not getting that.
I've heard from Steven Pinker that parents don't really have much lasting influence on their children after they leave home... I don't understanding this whole idea of if parents can't be perfect they can't have children.
When palki said "rich words from a non parent " I almost lost my breathe from laughing 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Its like watching a comedy show
She said rich and it actually is, no sarcasm
Hahaha
I laughed too lol. Pope doesn't seriously know how the world economy is heading to. Maybe he lives in his comfortable life so he doesn't know how tough lives of low wage workers are.🤦♂️
Right 😂😂
Pope Francis : It's selfish to not have children.
Palki: Rich words from non-parent.
Savage AF🔥🔥.
The main reason that the pope says to have more children is because he wants more people to believe in his B>>> S... religion so they will give him more money...!!!
@slugg he wants slaves with souls though.
That's why I like her
Stop blaming the Catholic Church particular Pope Francis, the root cause of this, in reality is the Intrinsic Evil of Contraceptive mentality and when unwanted pregnancies occurs, abortion every single seconds takes place.
Indian : we are going to make babies until we reach 1.6B population
Honestly even as a man who was brought up in a broken household with conservative rules I have ptsd about having kids, I would more likely have companion animals and help underprivileged kids who are not fortunate enough.
This whole cycle of having kids helps in providing the labour force for a country's economy but the country's policies rarely reflect anything positive for these parents to go through with it
It is degrading human life greatly to see children as mere fuel to run the country's economy. What's the point of minting money for the country when your own children are becoming slaves?
@@she_wizzdom4410 I think there is a lot of research in behavioral economics and implementing the necessary changes that take human factor into consideration is something that needs to be looked into.
Often economists are used to demonized when a economic failure occurs but when they warn us about issues when turn a deaf ear to them.
So let's start by thinking of economists as strategists and not as prediction machines
Absolutely agreed.
So relatable.
wat is ptsd can anyone tell plz
My parents were not ready for children, as a result my brother and I suffer for it, even though we are adults now, it leaves scars for life.
It’s not childless, the term is child free. It’s a choice; treat it like one..
then i guess the human race will go incstinct in the future
@@hamzasajjadkhan2558 shut up!
@@hamzasajjadkhan2558 no. We will have fewer burdens on the resources of this planet.
@@hamzasajjadkhan2558 Wonderful! That is the goal. In order to save the planet and the environment.
@@hamzasajjadkhan2558 so be it, you can't control that
I’m an Indian woman and I’ve decided to be childfree- 2 reasons - Environment degradation and personal freedom. I would rather adopt than have a biological one! Was waiting for such a video. It will normalise childfreedom in India 👏
Appreciate the new thoughts
India womenfolk have longer harder way to go
Kudos to you. India is anyway overpopulated.
Tere jaisi gf /wife sbko mile
Same as I wish
@@rnisamgani6451 all the best
It’s not easy to be a parent. I’m a parent myself and having children is a lifetime responsibility and sometimes it gives you a lot of stress and disappointments.
To have or not to have a child is a Choice. It is a couples prerogative.
Even if they are poor or filthy rich they should have a choice! Life is a responsibility no matter what. It used to be that taking on responsibility was honorable. I think we still deep down know this principle to be true.
@MuEsther Well said.
At some point it is not a tabu to understand decision not to have a child, even you have a child or children...
Honestly, that's really sad, no matter what you say....
Actually meant that reply for the commentator below.
I really appreciate those being responsible parents! It is not easy.....
When I see parents are struggling everywhere in the front of my eyes. I'm asking myself, why would I want that for my life. Then I chose not to have child and that's the best decision I have ever make.
The first time I realized having kids made no sense was when I witnessed my coworkers getting yelled at by supervisors every day for not breast pumping fast enough during their lunch break. The poor women would barely have time to eat their lunch and they would have to breast pump in a nasty bathroom stall that was never cleaned. This was also nightshift, so lunch was at 2 AM. That's when I realized they either had married the wrong husband, or at least should have waited to have the financial luxury of getting away from an employer like that.
It's ridiculous that an employer should do that. they would get sued to oblivion today. That company is the problem what an asshole manager.
@@jimbopurple2652 yeah i totally agree, the employer is the problem not the woman.
Why are you blaming the woman in this? You have no idea why she would be in this situation. You dont know if her husband was laid off, sick, or injured. Also you dont know if they financially were better off but just fell on hard times. It is completely the employers fault for treating her that way. No one should be yelled out for trying to provide milk for their child during their own lunch break.
@@Anni3ization I am not blaming the woman I am just saying she is putting herself in a risky situation because she has a husband that clearly demonstrated that he isn’t able to protect her and she has an employer she was in no position to fight against. Women like that are vulnerable and often become single moms, so it’s always worth thinking ahead of time for women what kind of backup they have before they put themselves in positions like that. The world is a cruel place sadly and a lot of pregnant women are vulnerable to that. A lot of women need to have exceptional resumes and a cushy savings account (that nobody should know about) before deciding to get pregnant. This woman clearly didn’t and she suffered for years after that incident.
We have so much technology and resources than in the past, yet we need to push ourselves like that just to live... Either our expectations are unreasonably high or somebody just keeps cracking their whip and raising the stakes- WORK you hamster!
"rich words, for a non-parent"
lmao I wasnt ready for that at all😂😂😂 this lady is on fire
😂😂
Banjh aurat favours having no child.
@@vikash13singh bhai 2 bachhe hain uske
Doesn't make it any less true.
She will probably have 20 to help the wold recover 😜, … all I know is that responsable people don’t reproduce at the same rate that irresponsible people do and that is a good thing.
The old saying tells it all
"It takes a village to raise a child"
Nevertheless this Lady is an awsome commentator
If you're the oldest in a single parent family where the parent works, and your sibling is 10 years younger, it takes a childhood to raise a child - yours.
@@ReturnOfTheJ.D. well actually i m ok with it , really I'll love to host it
True
She’s immensely talented and well informed citizen of the country! Hats of to the reporter!
Child free, single, 39, successful, with a pet dog. NO REGRETS. I'm happy.
What happened to white rhinos it's go to happen to your future.
Happy? Really? Goodluck on your dog when you get old.
Ignore the haters, your fine
@@Melly16yr10 Humans are doomed because of this mentality 😝 oh well
@@616lichking yeah humans are doomed because have mentality like yours.
Reasons for not planning the marriage or having children in the present world can be understood as follows:
1. Living has become more uncertain and expensive due to inflation and no control on the rising prices in the market.
2. Unemployment or uncertain employment.
3. Work life balance disturbed. In a day of 24 hours, the number of hours used for work(including travelling) vs number of hours left for living. In some cases husband and wife are living apart under compelling circumstances for their employment/career.
4. The standard of living was brought down by the governments of almost all the countries so that both husband and wife are compelled to work for making a living.
5. Health care - expensive
6. Education - expensive
7. Transportation - expensive
8. Taxation - expensive (multi point taxation)
9. Quality of life - Inferior
10. Quality of products - Inferior
11. Crimes on rise - no control
12. Services are commercial - no more noble.
How can anyone think of marrying or having children in such world.
You have put my thoughts into words, yet many will insist that “life is what you make it” but how?? When everything literally has a high price and most jobs don’t even pay a livable wage forcing most to cramp up their homes with too many people as a way to pay the bills. I don’t have privacy in my own home as it is so in my current state I should know better than to bring children to this messed up world.
Exactly! These same politicians who call us selfish also have made life so unaffordable and difficult. They are not acting in our interests, it’s only because they want more cheap labor to make them rich.
Very true.... marriage and babies is not going to be affordable.....being single working person in a family with no pension in future and money being first criteria , it is very difficult to raise kids and to care of them .....
DId you notice that the rich have got super rich. Unfortunately the economy in all countries work in such a way that the middle class works very very hard only to make the rich richer. Most of the wealth in the world is in the hands of a select few billionaires.
Marrying is ok, as you need a companion for emotional connection. kids is expensive
Amazing video! I’m American and married, and we have no desire to have kids. It’s a financial issue for us. With the state of the American economy its no wonder our birth rate has dropped significantly. It’s unreasonable to have kids when we can barely afford to take care of our selves.
Funny but the afr i kan families and the abdul families around me are having 5+ kids each.
Very True! World is not a easy place to survive.
Cost of living is high, while we as a adult are having challenges, children too go through a lot of competition, child has to learn everything, be best, get better scores and secure a seat at good university! While parents have to work hard and struggle to earn more to full fill child's needs.
If either of the child or parents to fail, it's a greater disappoint and during the whole child raising process parents have to go through a lot of mental stress...
@@CasualBiker true competition is killing us. Getting in to top Universities is a nightmare. Students should work for more than 12 hours a day to get into premier institutions. World has become more competitive than ever.
And pedigreed dogs cost as much as a child.
@@mz2535 I see your point. However The cost of living in America is now a factor when it comes to having a family. People are looking at the day to day living expenses and are being very practical. Since everything in America is so expensive from housing to education to healthcare , unfortunately it's not feasible to have children. People simply can't afford it.
55 years here. Childfree. Happy AF.
You're an inspiration!! I'm 27 and decided to be childfree
I m 23 and I know Childfree is the way to go 🙈
In that age a Muslim women have 3-4 kids to help islamic takeover of this earth
@@ulala9729 That what uneducated people think. No wonder their thinking is no better than a cult.
@@ulala9729 don't care. You will be dead anyway
So, now I have understood that I'm not the only one who chose career over children. From India🇮🇳 Chill guys finally population is gonna decrease😆
Yaay
@Erelet Kegar yes, solution to the global warming.
Me too 😆
@Erelet Kegar we have to do our part, these will follow automatically
Will your career be there for you when you are 70+ and can't take care of yourself anymore? We need balance in life. You ask yourself very hard questions when the company you worked at for 30 years fires you overnight.
If I’m selfish for not having kids, then I wish more people would be selfish in that way.
There are a lot of people having kids that have no business having them.
Facts
@Maggie Talty what does a science background have to do with her comment?
Who said your selfish; I say you are stupid.
India is a collective culture and making individualistic choice is dangerous.
@@swayambhurashtra why don't you do that instead? or even a better option..ADOPT! You are the one who's being foolish.
@@nightingalexx4631
I got testicular fortitude to have my own 5 kids. Why bother somebody else's pair.
Go tell your sermons to those who create products for adoption factory. Let me see your patience to convince them.
You are responsible for creating the adoption factory. You create demand and they supply. Pure evil.
This is great news. For too long we focused on the quantity of children, now let's focus on the quality of the upbringing.
What a stupid thing to say. Both quantity and quality are possible to achieve.
@@glebsokolov2366 The planet is overpopulated and has been basically ruined by humans. Why do people like you still insist on quantity while so many people live a life of suffering, starvation, crime, disease etc?
@@HindiLearnersDiary most of these comments are people who live in good country's as they have internet access so no those things don't apppyl to them.
@@HindiLearnersDiary Russia is underpopulated. For such a huge area, we don’t have many people at all. Having less children will not only remove a lot of youth from cities and villages (which is already happening by the way), it will have a disastrous effect when the older generation gets older. Other countries that have a high population density should remain around 2.1, not much higher. There is more than enough space even in countries like Bangladesh to comfortably fit people on its lands. Countries like Russia, meanwhile, needs at least 3 kids per family to have an adequate population growth for our lands.
@@glebsokolov2366 Well, lets ask Russianians about the reasons why they are not willing to procreate. There must be a reason, right?
At 22, I made the choice earlier this year that I won’t be having kids for personal reasons and honestly I’ve never felt more at ease. No more worrying about “oh god I only have so and so more years until I’m married off and forced to pump out babies I KNOW I won’t be emotionally available for.” Now I can focus on my education in STEM and become a prominent technician 👩🔧 and finally become successful without worrying about “I have to become my highest self before my eggs expire”
All the best
How's things working out?
That’s amazing!! I’m in the same boat, I’m 25 and I was thinking about how many years I had left to do everything I want to accomplish. I want to get a 2nd degree in another country, become a write, live abroad.there’s so much out there and I noticed that I get more excited for all my goals than picturing myself having children. That was my signal. And now I feel relieved because I’m going to have so much time build a life that I want !
Question. How many mental health diagnoses do you have? Did you grow up with 1 or both parents? DId you suffer a trauma growing up?
until you reach your mid 30's and start to realize that you want to have kids and it's too late - if that's the path you choose, good for you, and go for it - but look into what comes next, get the details about people who don't have kids, especially women, and look to your future. The option to adopt is there, but most people will never take it
But, to all the childless couples out there, remember that when you're old, you'll have no family, only friends, no memories and nothing to drive you to work harder and be better for the generation you could be raising up - and that you're taking from society and not giving back - and as your numbers grow, your decision is simply dooming mankind
15yrs back, if a couple didnt have kids even after 2yrs of marriage, they were continously asked about it by relatives & friends. Not anymore as it has become more of a personal choice
NO! As it has become very clear that it's a terrible thing to bring a child into this crazy mess! There is no point!
@Serendipity how stupid society is this reflects on the rest.. I am sorry for the girl she should marry somebody better. Faster she divorce better she will be
Whether to marry or not, having kids or no... all depends on each one's discretion so we/the society should abstain from imposing it's opinions and views on others...
Society Will remain society😅
We have to decide on such issues...
Agreed, institution must not poke in such sensetive matters.
It is more than an opinion, as time flows lower birth rates means obviously less and less people are born. Countries care because this affects their ability to be a productive nation, their ability to protect themselves through military. Also more globally it is the species survive. Yes this doesn't effect you or I but as time moves on and the rate continues to decline. So as we see now with older generations that had more children as they age there are more elderly with not enough youth to support the aging population as time goes on it will become more of a problem. The marriage thing is a social issue and not really a factor but the birth rates is an issue. Also due to chemical exposure to the world's population to plastics many women and men can not produce children. So as the number of infertile people grows and the number of people choosing not to have children where does that leave our species
@@aceaplus Throughout the history of a planet there has been hell lot of creations and destruction of species happening... And humans have been always wanting to discover, improvise and invent newer things and technologies that doesn't mean that we're immortal... Humans have evolved in a way that they're at the top of the pyramid - they're animals with emotions and rational thought so unlike other species we cannot jus take things in terms of reproduction rate and the prospect of species continuity... There are a good proportion of the human species willing to reproduce and sustain life on planet and of course if the species is going towards lack of sustainability or regression that is natural too and in case of humans the cause could be a result of a conscious decision not to reproduce... For the sake of species continuity I strongly disagree that we should force people to marry or reproduce. Above all if the human race finds it's end by people choosing not to reproduce then let it... Chill...Evolution will have it's course!
Lol
I'm 45, never married. Never had a child. Best decisions of my life!!!
Who cares?
@@parnamsaini4751 😂 true👍
@@macalo80able respect
You will die alone
@@macalo80able maria no one is denying yours in not valid. The whole point is its always been viewed as "against the norm" to not have kids. Why do people insert themselves into topics that have nothing to do with them
I waited until I was 45 to have children. Best experience of my life, because I was financially well off by that point.
That's interesting. My great grandfather waited until he was 40 to marry and have children. I heard he also waited from a financial point of view.
45 ? OMG. Will you be able to see your child's marriage ?
@@shayanraj7840 I hope so. They are 5 and 10 years old now, and I am pretty healthy. I retired early, so I get to take them to school every morning, and spend loads of time with them. If I would have had them earlier (before retiring), I would have missed a lot because of working.
@@How2BAMan You are living a beautiful life. I wish you a longer life. 🙏🙏
@@How2BAMan Eh.. The Ideal age for a man to become a Father is 27. My father was almost 40 when I was born (I am a second child) , and I just don't feel a great attachment to my father because of that.
Unlike all people in this comment section, I am one of those few folks who do want kids. 3 to be exact. But I do support the population decline.
Procreation is a CHOICE not a moral obligation, it’s high time people accept that.
got to be able to feed kids and educate them, just to spawn is not good.
I bet 50% people do it because of peer pressure and then accept their fate
We accept it. But Boomers are obsessed with bragging about grandkids with their frenemies and bully and emotionally blackmail their children into mindless weddings and procreation.
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Seriously, why can't couples just choose for themselves? I dnt want to have kids.
Excuses excuses excuses excuses excuses
I love how clear this lady speaks and gets straight to the point
Yeah, very unbiased. It caught me off guard because it's so different from American news channels
@@PanzaFax It also caught you that she have 2 kids?
@@pflaffik Below the average of 2.1
I loved the comment that childless women said "We know how hard it is, that's why we decided not to have them" That's so right. I knew it at 12 years old. Having babies never crossed my mind.
Same, I have not wanted kids since I was 13. Im now 34 still no children and have no plans to ever have kids.
They are too expensive, education is spotty, politics is entering the education system, and inflation is going crazy. Why on earth would I make my life harder just to have kids? I can barely afford myself I have rehome all my pets and I am single. I have eliminated everything possible to increase my free cash and its not enough. I have no life, I can barely afford gas AND groceries... it would literally be a crime for me to have a child right now. I'd be homeless. I have no sympathy for woman that were stupid and didn't take better care to not get pregnant. Yes I'm shading all those single mothers that got pregnant by their BF and he left. Seriously! Be more careful. I feel for all the divorced mothers but again still don't have much sympathy I saw this crazy world we live in coming way back in 2013... and made sure I wouldn't be anchored down financially by a child. So I'm sorry you have kids but you should have been smarter...
@Susanne Boretsky Agreed that sympathy is difficult but once again you put it all on women. They did NOT get pregnant by immaculate conception. Men with equal responsibility got them pregnant and no one mentions them. They're just as unintelligent and likely even worse people since a lot of them choose to run away from what they did. Women don't get that luxury but take all of the blame.
Happy to find other people with the same sentiments
Never have the patience to have kids never see myself being a mom
@@meoct-ow7tu agreed, I can be notherly for a time but to be a full time Mom ong nope I can't even handle a needy dog. I KNOW I'd be a terrible mother I don't want to sacrifice my time. And a child deserves the time of the parents i see electronic parenting even in my own family and I can see the issues it's creating. Xid be a lazy parent and that's not acceptable to me. So I stick to my decision to not have kids, it would not be fair to the poor child because I wouldn't be 100% invested in parenting.
I'm very glad I never brought an innocent soul into this mess. Some days I wonder what I'm even doing here. Why would I pass that kind of pain on?
very good decision. Same here.
I taught at a college and those young adults did not want to bring a child into the world for fear (mental health issues, bullying, social pressures). Now I did teach in nursing so they might me more aware of those situations and negative consequences, but I found them very articulate. My generation felt the need and desire to have a child for fulfillment. This generation experiences their fulfillment in other ways. I do not think we should impose our beliefs and desires on this generation. My son has said for years (since he was 18) he did not want children. For the first 10 minutes after I found this out, I was devastated. But within 10 minutes - I realized "why would I want something for him that he does not want for himself". I found my belief to be very selfish and I did a 180. I want him happy. We should want everyone happy and it should never be decided because it can provide a stable financial future for our county. That makes for terrible parenting and resulting future generations who are not really wanted. Let them be and decide on their own.
Bravo.
"why would I want something for him that he does not want for himself" that's so true
If everyone was like you and had a parent like you, the world would be a wonderful place. I could even consider having a child then..
Dude they don’t know what they want they are too emotional if they feel this way why are they still alive taking the risk every single day? You must be really ignorant or a woman why give in too feelings instead of looking at the bigger picture we have a responsibility as humans to repopulate the world and keep our family tree in tact we also have to build a future for other generations after us this selfish way of thinking shows just corrupt this generation is seriously I would never take them seriously they are way too young and have a lot to learn.
@@kenshinscott our opinions are very different here but I respect the general idea
My mom raised us and worked. I saw how she struggled taking care of me and my younger brothers. Prices are going up, wages are still low. I helped her with the household because she needed help. This traumatized me, now I am in my 30s, single. In my opinion having children is expensive and divorces are common. I don't want to go this path
As long as you are sure about your choice then it is perfectly fine. I am about to turn 30 also single and currently trying to make a decision but it is not easy when it comes to such important matters. The window of opportunity is always closing due to age and making the wrong choice will most definitely lead to great regret in the future...
Not having children is probably the better choice. I‘ve never met a child-free person that regretted being child-free. A lot of people that have children have loved to regret having to
@@theoschoendube thanks for the reply. For me the decision will depend on whether or not
1, I can provide a good life for the kid.
2, the wife has good motherly instincts/traits .
3, the relationship is rock solid.
If those conditions are met I will likely go ahead if not then I wont.. Your point is valid but I know some people who tell themselves and others that they do not want kids even though they would if they had a choice. They say they don't want kids because it makes them feel better about the real reason (life/money/age/lack of partner). Just as an example.. a random woman substitutes having a family with a carrier/ single lifestyle because she thinks it is more fulfilling after a while she realizes that she wants kids but now it is too late because she has hit the wall and is now in her 30s..
I feel you
@@davidgalea6113 what self respecting woman would ever date a person with such criteria?
I spilled my water when palki said, rich words coming out of a non parent. Savage 😂😂
@Know One she just stated facts from south korea maybe, nonetheless it was funny too 😂
@@derek4412 didn't your parent spent the same on you. İt happens, go with the flow 😎
I have 1 child and a baby on the way in a few weeks, raising a baby has been difficult, but rewarding. It forced me to get serious about finances, and consumerism. We are now minimalists placing our value on education, travel, and self enrichment instead of hoarding a bunch or consumer items, as well as focusing on being debt free, I don't know if we plan on having a 3rd child, mainly not due to finances, but our ability to give the much needed attention to our two children, and not have to divide up our time too much between so many children. It's rewarding having children, just be smart about it, know your limits, and don't overwhelm yourself with societal pressures. Do what works for you and don't try to keep up with the joneses
someone said to me before, "if you think getting married and having children is just pain, you might have looking it at the wrong way". She said it when someone said he doesn't want to have a child because it cost a lot. hahaha.
That WAS SUCH a nasty thing to call women with FERTILITY issues 'cursed' and 'evil' for something they cant control😒 Would you also call handicapped people 'evil' for being born with a handicap?;?
Such a SICK statement 😒
That is nothing compared to actual evil shit that used to be common like 2 hundred years or so back 😂
Unfortunately, people with such shit thinking exist even today.....let there not be children for them..
She’s just reporting about the truth, she didn’t call them that herself. Why the need to get offended about the past? The situation isn’t like that anymore.
Let's be real here. The only reason governments are worried about this is that there are fewer people to contribute to pension funds. What did they expect with 14 hour work days, barely any increase in median salary and insanely high property prices?
Eventually it will lead to aging population which will have knock on effects
Exactly
Then you should notice something. WE ARE INCREASING THE WORLD POPULATION AT AN ALARMING RATE. Yes, fertility is going down, but the world population is going up. Unless we hit fertility 2 or lower, we are INCREASING population. Because we have so many people already, we are STILL INCREASING POPULATION AT A VERY FAST RATE. We add a billion to the population of earth every 8 years. Unless something happens we are doomed to destroy ourselves by overbreeding.
The fact is that the uber wealthy want a bigger work force. Governments want more soldiers. But we need less people not more. The problem is, EUROPEANS NEED TO HAVE MORE KIDS. DEVELOPING NATIONS NEED TO HAVE LESS. Otherwise we are replacing the culture that isn't overpopulating with one that is and making things even worse.
Exactly!!!
@@Чувак-ь5т why not? They worked for you
I guess people began realizing that having a child is not like buying a new appliance to fit into society.
You have children because you want to raise human beings, not as a retirement plan.
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Some assume they will take care of you when old
lesser kids, lesser consumption, lesser need of income, lesser need of production, lesser need of workforce, lesser need of psychiatrists, lesser need of everything resulting in better climate, better weather and a better planet. Humans, we are too many...just look around
rightly put.
We need more people to adpot your mindset brother. Well said 👏.
I have 3 but I understand why most people won't have kids this generation considering pandemic, war, and inflation.
You should have performed better in bed. 3 is an odd number. Not good.
People had kids when times were far more difficult.
@@BatMan-cq8gq and that was their choice. Some couldn’t even take care if their children because of those difficult times. Let people decide whether or not they want to have kids
@@isalisa909 life's so hard wahhhh.
@@BatMan-cq8gq nope! Life is pretty awesome without kids
When she said "Rich words... from a non-parent"; when referring to the pope, I laughed hysterically.
🤣🤣 I paused the video to laugh… and scrolling through comments to see who else found that hilarious… Palki is very sarcastic…
Indian media don't take it seriously
@@pakoochavo8696 here comes the jihadi bot 😂😂😂
Can someone timestamp?
@@lesliesequeira635 6:07
Developed countries across the world: Women should work a full time job, get married, have babies, raise the babies with little to no maternity leave, then come home and cook and clean while their husband does a tiny bit of housework and somehow manage to pay for childcare from wages that aren't growing even though rent and food and gas is getting more expensive
Women across the world: Hmmm no
Developed countries with plummeting birth rates: shocked pikachu face
Actually, Women decided to work. And decided to betray and divorce their husbands. That's their fault. Even gay women divorce each other at twice the rate of gay men.
This is a female caused problem
@@annekai Great. All they have to do is have common sense and use protection or stop having sex unless married.
@@annekai Right? joke's on them, I wasn't really planning on having kids but now I'm REALLY not going to.
@@angrycrypto465 a typical sexually deprived guy spotted
This is exactly it right here. Women are not superhumans, we have limits.
I'm from India, and im greatful to contribute to my already populated economy by going child free
Yes please 🥺
I chose not to have kid's at 17. Retired at 57 debt free and working a part time job I love. A lot of people my age are financially bailing out their adult kid's and/or raising grand kid's. I'm 61 BTW.
Wise move
You must be living life sooo freely
You must feel as such a genetic failure
Love ur life man ..hope I get to live like that
You don't need an apostrophe on "kids"
I’m from Canada, and honestly pretty ok with this. The economy can’t keep growing forever, and I don’t want it propped up with population growth. With climate change happening, what we need now is less drain on our water and electrical systems, not more. While I’m not against immigration, I don’t believe a steadily increasing population is a good thing for every country, or the world. There are too many of us already.
Yeah, everybody says but don't apply in their own lives.
Yea you do know your economy fails without young people, right? Unless you plan on working til you are 88 years old?
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@@broncomcbane6382 exactly. Childless society basically means no retirement
Canada is not that populated anyways.
Rich word from a Non-Parent....this Lady deserve a standing ovation.
That lady has 2 kids
Based queen
I am a 40 yrs old women and have no children, and its the best decision I made. I have so much freedom and happiness. All my friends envy my lifestyle because they are all stressed out with their family and kids. Btwy I look alot younger than all of them lol
Whats your elder age backup plan? Please don’t take it in wrong way
@@Pankaj-4572PRnone of your business.
@@deckhead33 thank you
I am not planning to have a child. I see how others struggles with kids. A friend told me that having a child was her biggest mistake. Can you imagine this?
I love being independent and enjoy my life. Some people call me selfish but I say So be it😉
Many friends told me the same. Some also said that if they could decide again…
Been in your friends shoes. Had kids young my brother didn't. He had more time more money pretty much more of everything. Now in his 40s his biggest regret is not having kids. I have an amazing time with my kids they all have different interests and personalities and each is it's own journey. Now I wish they were younger so we could have even more quality time together. Kids aren't right for everyone and no guarantee that they will be good. But in 10 years when you have run through most things you want to do and have 40-50 more years to fill I will be filled with endless opportunities to spend my time. I would say think about it a little more. Think of who you were 10 years ago and how drastically your wants, needs, and goals have changed and realize they will drastically change again in another 10 years.
@@karolinamackiewicz514 You will feel differently when you get older.I only had one child and I regret it now.
Wtf is wrong with these parents, having children is the greatest gift in life
@@conniesheraw4702 Sorry to hear you have some regrets in your life. I suggest you to focus on solving them than to advise me.
The mindset now is to live for oneself. Having children places a huge financial, emotional, and physical burden on a person. Kudos to people who choose to have them, but don't judge those who choose to live their lives for themselves. That's not being selfish.
It’s an act against humanity.
TFR decline impact Will be evident in just 30 years from now, say 2050.
It’s forcefull impact is now backfiring China hugely because of its policies.
@Nobody Special
'Little shit?' goodness
@Nobody Special Ok, definitely narcissist with mild autism. Too specific, not normal.
Not having children does NOT equal living to only oneself. That makes it sound selfish.
I don't have my own kids but rescue animals, I decided to simply help the needy that were ALREADY alive.
I help my sister with her kids.
Some childless people help the world in other ways.
I might adopt a couple of preteens or teens later in life.
And yes, some childless people are simply honest about not wanting to be bothered with caring for anything extra.
Thing is workers are needed to produce pension for those on retirement. If the population shrinks who's gonna do that?
As an elementary school teacher, I see many students struggling with the way society is now: over complicated, especially in this complex age of technology and social media..expenses.. I feel for them because though technology may be helpful in some aspects, it can be detrimental as well.. There are many other factors to consider too. I'd love to have children of my own someday but.. I don't?! I sometimes am afraid of what this world will look like several years from now.
100%
The world is crazy, but I guess you just hope to instill good values in your children so that they can do the best they can with what they have.
True 🙌
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The world is what me make out of it. Children bcoms how society and parents molds them. Society and parents are the products of their parent’s generation and so on. We know that lots of ppl are feed up with lots of things but they do nothing to make it better.
We each need to do something today so that the children of today makes better society tomorrow.
I would say most of the problems arises from technology which makes ppl lazy, superficial and want instant gratification.
I have secretly decided not to have children,I am happy with my decision because I know I will never meet the right guy or find my perfect match. I am happily single and I’m ok with being single for the rest of my life🥂
That's the way to go. My parents keep reminding me to get married but I never succumb to it . I have yet to do so many things in life. Can't really get bogged down with expenses which aren't aligned with my goals. People may call me selfish but I don't really care , I wasn't given a choice whether to be born , I sure as hell will exercise my choice this time around
Cheers girl! You inspire me!!! ❤❤❤
Which African country are you from? I’m considering if this is the life for me.
Kids are expensive and stressful. Two parents are working to pay their bills. Daycare is a grand a month for one kid for the first 5 years until school age. Kids are sick a lot when they are young, then you have the fun teenage years. Traveling and freedom is gone. Our world is a mess with wars, climate change, pandemics, drugs, poverty. Groceries, rent, utilities, insurance etc. all keeps going up. Who wants to sign up for that?
You are telling all the truths
Preach! So true.
A woman with profound wisdom and awareness! Thank you!
You don't have to buy into all that nonsense. Who says society knows best on everything?
Well, to be fair our world has always been a mess of wars, changing climate, pandemics, drugs and poverty. Those will never go away. The cost to raise a family though, yeah it’s gotten unaffordable for a lot of people.
"The choice to not have children is selfish" Rich words from a non parent😂😂😂😂
Two or three children is being spiritual
Live a spiritual life never to return
The heart full of compassion is the Altar of God 99
I believe in the Religion of Humanity
Pray for merging with God (99)
Loved your Presentation on this topic. Yes, today having a child is an option. There are thousands of kids in orphanage, adopting is also a good option.
Thank You
very few think of adoption, cuz no one wants to deal with legal actions incase something goes wrong. also there is also a moment when the adopted kid is not accepting you or living by your set of rules.
@@AdamantMindset Doesnt sound like love to me. They're prlly better off childless 🤷🏽♀️
@@AdamantMindset Well yeah I gotta agree on the legal part.
One thing I personally feel is, " aajkal apne bacche rule nahi maante 😂"
Funny but the afr i kan families and the abdul families around me are having 5+ kids each.
If govts want us to have kids, then make the country a better place for current & upcoming generations
Childfree by choice is my best decision so far in life . Being married doesn’t mean bearing a child is automatically associated with it. Like it’s a choice to have a child it’s a choice not to have a child too. My decision was taken a decade before the pandemic and still sticking by and never an iota of doubt in my head about my decision
What about adopting?
@@shashankkothari8066 No , I would not want to burden myself with the idea of taking care of a child 24/7. I would rather consider sponsoring a child remotely for education.
@ Susan: My idea is exactly the same .. we got married 4 years back and we decided to live without Children and sponsor studies for 2 kids who are less fortunate .. We are so happy so far .. We get time for our life ..
There is only one problem in this .. Our parents get highly disappointed with this plan ..
@@gtr3440 Like children doesn't really amuse you seriously?? Empty home really make you satisfied?? Maan, how you guys even exists? It's beyond my imagination.🙄
@@shishirchitre1945 You may find this weird .. But, honestly we are not at all interested in kids .. Basically, we would love to spend time for ourselves .. We have a plan to take a break from our jobs and travel continuously for a year .. This might seem to weird for many people .. But, we love being like this .. Life is so short and we would like to live the life completely ..
It's not selfish to not have kids ...It's a choice and people have got to keep an open mind about it ...People have the right to decide their own lives , not others’ .
You are absolutely correct.
Irony
@@kaushikdasgupta67 except when others have to care for you in old age instead of your kids.
You'll be a liability to society
@@cameronbell415 Wrong reason to have children.
@Cameron Bell thats one selfish reason to have children.. haha to make them your private nurse/caregiver.
It’s actually selfish to have kids that you vicariously live through and project all of your unresolved trauma onto 👌
Totally agree 👏
Agreed!!
Best comment in the thread!
Obviously, Alice P! Something conservatives are too stupid to get.
If we all think like that then world world be free from mankind
Who would not choose to be childless right now when 99% of resources are held just by 1% of the population.
Having children is expensive and stressful. That’s why my husband and I are happily childless 🙌🏽
*Child-free
You lie, thers a reproductive problem and you making excuses to convince yourself.
@@pflaffik Judging by the results, it is your parents who have a "reproductive problem."
good for you mam
offtopic but i like how you look. very beautiful :)
I'm Dutch, married, 51 and we have no children because I didn't want children. I'm happy with this decision because having a child would have been devastating (for both us and the child) because of ongoing health issues.
Every choice you make is a selfish one. Whether you choose a child or not, it's because you want it.
Cannot agree more.
Mee eens. Ieder voor zich.
When you have a child it's because you want to be selfless
@@mo.ka.9661Really? What is so selfless about that? Can you explain it because in my experience the people who have children have them because they want to, for themselves. Not as an act of selflesness.
@@roden70 Yes, they want to serve someone other than themself. This is just semantic nonsense.
So glad to be child free at 43, happily married and living my dream life!
Wow
# Goals
Noice
And what is your plan for ages 75-100? Personally, I do not want kids, but how do I keep living at 80?
@@ST-ly8uf Honestly old age homes are a great option, depending on the country you're in some places have whole residential complexes just for old residents. You can buy a flat when you're around 65-70 and stay there (to get used to living in a new place rather than moving over there when you're like 80 - 85). These places have medical facilities, people around your age group, activities for old people. Personally these days children or relatives do not take care of the older generation so what's the point anyways of having children if that's the only reason you're considering having them
One aspect is of the Millennials themselves having trauma, inner child healing issues that were given to them because the caregivers were not well equipped and hence they don't want to pass on those.
That's correct.
THIS!!! Absolutely.
Women are people too and they want a life where they can be free to be themselves and enjoy some of their life ❤️
yes
Couldn't agree more
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That's RIGHT
I love this comment !