I love the drama triangle. It is such a powerful mental model to help understand what's going on in dysfunctional communication. And it always goes down really well when I teach it - especially in the context of leading change and handling resistance.
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It's not a part of the Games model, which is based on Parent-Child interactions. However, in terms of the Parent-Adult-Child model, it is true both that Adult State doesn't play Games and that the way off the Drama Triangle is to recover Adult State. Game Analysis and the Drama Triangle are two different but complementary ways to understand what's going on. I find that some situations lend themselves more readily to analysis with one model and some with the other.
Hi Mike, useful tips as usual. please clear my doubt, what if a victim is an employee reporting to me and the tringle apparently needs my intervention ?
It sound like you want to step onto the triangle as rescuer. Don't. Rather, invite both parties ff the triangle, and invite them to start the dialogue afresh. Or suggest your colleague steps off the triangle. However, remember that simple bullying, with an aggressor bullying someone else may not be an example of the drama triangle. You won't see any switches in that case. So, here, you must step in and both offer your support to the one who is being bullied and also stand up against the bully as an ally to the person suffering. Or, if you have the authority, deal with the bully directly as well as supporting their victim.
I love the drama triangle. It is such a powerful mental model to help understand what's going on in dysfunctional communication. And it always goes down really well when I teach it - especially in the context of leading change and handling resistance.
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Great video, and the first time I came across the suggestion and method to "get off the drama triangle". "Objectively & Respectfully" Super words
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Great idea to cover this topic in a project management course!
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Awsome. Always good learning.
Glad you think so!
Hi! Finally understood it. Thanks Mike. I had a quick question, is it part of the game analysis in TA?
It's not a part of the Games model, which is based on Parent-Child interactions. However, in terms of the Parent-Adult-Child model, it is true both that Adult State doesn't play Games and that the way off the Drama Triangle is to recover Adult State. Game Analysis and the Drama Triangle are two different but complementary ways to understand what's going on. I find that some situations lend themselves more readily to analysis with one model and some with the other.
Hi Mike, useful tips as usual. please clear my doubt, what if a victim is an employee reporting to me and the tringle apparently needs my intervention ?
It sound like you want to step onto the triangle as rescuer. Don't. Rather, invite both parties ff the triangle, and invite them to start the dialogue afresh. Or suggest your colleague steps off the triangle.
However, remember that simple bullying, with an aggressor bullying someone else may not be an example of the drama triangle. You won't see any switches in that case. So, here, you must step in and both offer your support to the one who is being bullied and also stand up against the bully as an ally to the person suffering. Or, if you have the authority, deal with the bully directly as well as supporting their victim.
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this is project management on an altruistic level.
Thank you, Thembelihle.