Being an INTJ adult who has full control on his life; if I’m forced to extrovert, two things would happen. 1. I’d be unnecessarily rude towards people I’m being forced to extrovert with 2. At the end of the day yes, I’ll be super drained but I’ll not recharge myself by hitting the bed right away but by spending more time with my own self alone. It’ll not help me sleep earlier. At all.
It's not our fault either.. I had to "waste" time going to a party the other day, by the time I got home it had been a long day but I was going to be very angry if I went to bed if all I did that day was work and party..
The INxJ slogan: “The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.” You want sleep? Strengthen your flesh. Go to the gym. There will be no more anxiety when you are picking up heavy things to work it off every day.
Absolutely no lies or misinformation here. Just wishing I had all this information when I was younger. All I can say is if you are young, listening to this video AND absolutely positive you are an IN*J, please take these tips into account. You’ll be glad you did. Sometimes we do need to have our choices taken away and our arrogance (thinking we know better) kicked down a few notches for our own benefit.
introverts gain energy from being alone extroverts gain energy from being around ppl so you have to do the opposite & lose energy to become tired enough to go to bed. meaning introverts need to be around other ppl & become tired. thank you chase yet again
The vigil shall cost one their youth, however, it brings one to see, that wisdom of the elders, as has been promised, in the writings of sacred scriptures! 🙏☸️⚔️ ☦️🕎✝️
@Duggo What an intuitive answer! You need to touch grass? I have a feeling you're referring to allowing your skin to touch Earth and not marijuana to your lips? Or is it both?
INTJ here - It wasn't until I hit my 40s I learned the value of good sleep. I used to get sick all the time as my body was so run down from lack of sleep. I thought I was invincible, and I could 'will' myself through the day on 3 to 4 hours of sleep. Now I stick to a very regular bedtime and wake time and get 7 to 8 hours of sleep. I rarely get sick now and I feel more evenly balanced throughout the day.
Thanks CSJ. I’ve been following your work since 2018 and you have certainly come a very long way since then. Happy for you because it seems like you’re able to make a living doing what you absolutely love and that’s rare to see for me. As an INFJ, I can never get a solid sleeping schedule going. Every. Single. Time. It fails miserably. My body feels tired, so I lay in bed and try to rest, but the god damn brain and thoughts in my head just will not shut up. It gets to a point of utter annoyance that I just give up and stare at my phone for a couple hours until my body cannot take it anymore. This awful sleeping pattern has ruined so many good jobs that I have held in the past because I wasn’t responsible enough to literally just GET SLEEP.
I could never sleep when I was younger, bed time was almost torture. Into my teenage years I loved sleeping because I was able to lucid dream and it fascinated me. These days I have no issue falling asleep but staying asleep is a problem. This is a good one, awesome work.
I mainly go to bed late not because I feel invincible, or have countless worries, but mainly because I am reading a lot and do a lot of researching for satisfying all my curiosities. --INTP
The key is to act on that sleepiness after extroverting. Don't go home and chill alone reenergizing. And once in that sleepy state, stay away from things that get that ni/te amped up again (like consuming media). Just go straight to actual sleep!
I agree with you, but a recurring problem-admittedly, a rather specific one-I have, is my main mode of extroverting is playing team sports, which does tire me out. However, when I drive home, as well as when I shower afterwards, my Ni and I, like Chase pointed out, rapidly recharge. I haven’t figured out a sustainable solution to this yet. 😂😭 I used to go straight to bed, but I’d feel disgusting the next morning. Not to mention I’d have to switch out my bedding quite frequently. It wasn’t ideal. TMI, I know, but this is a real problem for me. 🙉🙈
@@HoytoHoyto Ever take a quick wash off shower and then soak in a warm bath? Really different experience and more calming. Also, just for me I try not to workout too close to night time. Those endorphins will pep me up and I'll be up till 2 or 3 am. (And I'm 53!) Been a lifelong thing. Better for me to do anything like that earlier. Then the physical tiredness of workout plus active day can kick in by bedtime. Just my experience. If I'm having trouble shutting my brain off, I sometimes make my brain bored with things. At night I'll start reading a book I know I don't find that interesting. Hard to find, but they exist I've even been known to threaten my brain with menial tasks (folding socks, organizing kitchen pans). Usually my brain taps out to avoid those chores. Lol. But getting older has really helped with that too.
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Accepting the fact that a day only has limited amount of hours and giving myself an hour of reading and prayer/meditation in bed before I fall asleep helps immensely. It is difficult to uphold that routine especially when I'm obsessed with a new topic, but it is doable. The acceptance part - "it's ok, the day is over. There'll be another one tomorrow" - is crucial and painful though.
I think INFJ’s, (can’t speak for INTJ’s, I’ve only deeply studied half the types) need the world to be quiet. And yes, that Ni drive. Starting at age 36, I started being unable to sleep past 7:30am even if I went to bed at 3am. This is the case with a lot of middle age people and elderly people, and started early for me. The grouchy in the morning part chase spoke about, it could just be grouchy over unrestful sleep and bad sleep habits. If my sleep isn’t good, I’m extremely grouchy! My daughter says I can’t handle sleep deprivation at all. I use to Ni the heck out of my nights as a child and into my 20’s. Now I Ni the heck out of my mornings. Once your life mellows out, you aren’t so easily amused, you’re past the exploration phase, you begin to really cherish the simple things. Taking care of yourself, family, home. You cherish bedtime too. I just love crawling into bed at 9pm, knowing my morning is going to be amazing. I love sleeping nude and my very comfortable bed and that’s a strong draw, a luxury. I nearly spring out of bed at around 6:30am at the latest, excited because I get my best work done when my energy is the most refreshed and the world is still quit. I love the crisp morning air. I laugh when I’ve done so much by 9, when some people are waking up. It didn’t use to be this way. Regularly getting my goals met and self care took a lot of time to develop. It’s as if the best way to truly change your habits is to go through a lot of pain and discomfort until you’ve really had it. I am amazing at self care now, but it took me 35 years to develop. I think because I was so lacking for so long, it’s the most important thing to me now and gives me the most pleasure. My family, my kids, my home, my body. My life revolves are all the necessary things and I am the most at peace. Any time I’ve had a healthy person around me, I totally mirror their habits! I have long gotten the losers out of my life. That helped immensely.
i’m gonna be completely honest, i slept at 8am today. i never sleep this late, but i do consistently go to bed past 2am - i’m a infj although i got a lot of great work done staying up & learned so much lol. bc all my NI wants to do is collect a bunch of information & keep learning. i need to extrovert
I exactly do as you said but everytime I get tired being in an extraverted environnement and I go back home, I start wandering, doing my things alone, gaining energy by myself and I'm not tired anymore so it's still difficult for me to go to bed. Yes, I should go to bed immediately after coming back home but it ain't easy. Good analysis tho.
I'm an INTJ. Being diagnosed with sleep apnea and getting a CPAP made me focus on sleep. The nightly humidifier/mask/mouth tape ritual is Si in nature too and it's interesting to make the sleep interventions (adjusting my machine and sleep positions, etc.) that have Si ramifications on my bodily functions. I also sleep earthed using a wire attached to a copper rod outside my window.
Fascinating! My ESFP son (8) can be really grumpy in the morning. I have the opposite sleep problem with him - if we've been out with friends all day he just wants to keep going! It does not tire him out, even tho people say 'he'll sleep well tonight...' I've found he needs to introvert (although never defined it as such before) and read a book and be in bed alone or just me before he's ready to sleep.
Thank you CSJoseph. Perhaps now INTPs can win the contest for biggest hermit. I bet you guys can’t do it Ni Heroes. I challenge you to prove me wrong Se inferiors. On a separate note, I’ve been procrastinating for hours and hearing about all the energy that INxJs have has motivated me to grab my laptop. Thank you CSJoseph and clearly scatterbrained INxJ’s. P.S. I hope that social engineering experiment used the right keywords. If anyone is mad at me, then it was all a prank bros. Please don’t come pay me a visit because you know, I am an introvert. It will take 3 to tango for your sleep anyway. …”Now hush up developing Ne parent.“ - INTP
Oh my God, this is just a precious life lesson which I might be learned after 10 other years of my life-never looked at it from this angle! And yes, that's truly the key: extraverting properly and not barely Fun fact that I'm exactly 23 years old; is there a specific reason you mentioned that age? :) Good news Sir CS Joseph (I hope so), I've tried A LOT CONSISTENTLY as an INFJ and FINALLY I'm able to sleep on time and be an early bird (even in the summer)! It took me MONTHS to be able to consolidate that discipline for myself, but it worked! And what was the reason? You are the very special one who taught me self-respect, how to know my worth, and the value of being efficient in a wise way. I cannot say how much I thank and love you from the bottom of my heart for teaching me self-love… Here you have it, I just woke up at 4:30 a.m. (Iran) and started my day with this precious lecture of yours. Thanks, man, thanks… I promise to myself and to you, my dear teacher, to be the useful INFJ who makes the world a better place…
WOW this makes so much sense, I amazed that I did not realize this, I have only lived with this my whole life, after watching this and thinking about my past this is so true, Thank You for doing this
I’m an INFJ but didn’t realize how much I did this until now. I’ll stay up on my phone while by body is telling me I’m sleepy, but I’ll stay up on my phone because it grabs my attention. Eventually my Si will win however and I’ll have to sleep of course, but it can be a problem. This is why, on several occasions in my life, my sleeping schedule has become absolutely atrocious. I remember one time not all that long ago I was staying up to 4-5 AM and sleeping until like 1 PM 🤣
This is a really cool concept! I feel like there's many other possibilities that are opened up with just this key nugget of info. For example, I wonder if it's possible to "fake" an extroverted situation by watching a podcast with a lot of people in it or something. Or how about solo aspirational activities like exercise or practicing for a performance? Maybe the secret is to tap out our Se function so the Si demon can finally have a say. Since the extroverted / introverted functions are tied together on an axis, maybe if you overuse one side, the other side will finally surface to fix the balance. The main problem seems to be that our Si demon's voice is getting drowned out by our Ni hero and Se inferior's distractions. Once we clear these 2 functions out of the way (by tiring them out), the Si demon should finally be able to hold some sway. Anyway good stuff as always! Much appreciated to chase and the person who asked this question.
"For example, I wonder if it's possible to "fake" an extroverted situation by watching a podcast with a lot of people in it or something. " I haven't tried it, but it shouldn't be possible if you think about it. People's energy gets transmitted by virtue of them being really there in front of you.
So another thing I learned (infj), extroverting, going out to places. I really enjoy going out to places and with people but am always exhausted afterwards. Grocery shopping for example tho, I do it alone and find it kinda tedious but when I go I get a coffee or a tea from the local coffee shop there and do my shopping and I don’t gain energy from it but I find it relaxes me even tho it’s tedious. So I kinda learned to like it over time. The best way I think to relax is finding the joy in the things I hate. Things that are just everyday life it’s become a love hate relationship with the world mostly because I have bad extroverted sensing and I’m kinda forcing myself to develop that weakness. It’s brought a certain balance to my life that I’m still perfecting.
It's so crazy how accurate this is. It's like pulling teeth to get me out of the house tho :( I loveeeeee being an INFJ, but this is definitely a downfall, lol.
That explains why I never related to the INJ not falling asleep. As a kid I played competitive hockey which in addition to my social life at school, wore me out and I actually got sleep.
Wow, this was very helpful. I am always alone at my job and at home, I have had no time to extrovert. Since I've had this schedule/routine I have been going to sleep at around 2-3am every day, and often fight my alarm to wake up. I used to sleep at 10-11pm and wake up at 5-6am. I don't think I've ever realized the effect of extrovert environments on my body. Thank you!
I have found when I internalize my pain it stops my sleep as well. After my mom died I didn't sleep for 3 months and had to be put on medication just to be able to. My childhood illness requiring removal of my tonsils, adenoids, and ear tube insertion caused me to sleep for an entire year at about the age 10. @C.S.Joseph You have hit the sleep nail right on the head, you couldn't be more right! -INTP
This conceptualization of the dynamic between introversion and extroversion sounds far more compelling than any other I have heard before. Too much of either can have dramatic consequences that not only hurt just themselves but others around them as well. Thank you for the lecture, very interesting and insightful.
Lol I feel so called out. I always resist the urge to sleep because there’s so many better and fun things I want to do instead no matter how tired I am. It’s so weird. 😅
same here. one time actually multiple times actually maybe all the time, where i will myself to force my body to not go to sleep even though it is evident that my body is sleepy.
Love this! So true, if I’m alone I have endless energy. So cool you showed understanding and empathy towards your partner’s mothering dynamics. 🙌✨ I seriously appreciate that. I really struggled to parent my firstborn ESFP and I know I would have loved feeling that much empathy from my partner back then.
I never had the energy, not even as a child. I was always burned out but kept going anyway, trying to keep up with the demands of life as I understood them! Tired all the time! Window blinds, sleep masks, earplugs, and waking up when I have slept enough without alarm. Letting myself wake up slowly, sometimes even meditating then and there in bed. Now it makes sense why I do that. And if I will meditate before the bedtime. I won't get to sleep for the next few hours. Many public personalities INxJ are proponents of 1-2 hours of meditation in the morning. It creates the energy to face the day.
Yes, I always have had problems with sleeping since I was young. Yes, I don't know before but I realised while you are talking. After socializing, my energy is pretty low, I can sleep well that night. Especially, when coming from outside or on a trip, my eyes just want to close. Right now I start to work so I need to socialise a lot, it is good for my sleeping right now. INFJ
can't believe I always had this desire of working on my laptop late night at random coffee shop but i never noticed that could help me get better sleep at night .. thank you so much for the information
Wooow, absolutely!! You nailed! Amazing. Especially INFJ with their Fe and Se (I think), we need people, even if we get so exhausted by result! My mom is an INFP and she gets annoyed if I interfere with her sleep routine.
Very intensely spot on here. So true. I find when I have been on a family holiday I sleep like I have never slept before. I wake up, but my brain seems to be in shut down mode, so I drift back off. I go almost into a semi coma state which is probably normal for some types. I am a 5 a.m riser due to starting work at 6 a.m, so I am forced into being the early bird rather than the night owl. I was as a child the same though. I always got up 2 hours before school. I feel so much more productive at the start of the day and it has kind of stayed with me. My work is a very extraverted environment of around 20, so I pretty much sleep well most nights. What tops it though is a family party and some alcohol. There is no waking me up after that situation. Was lovely to hear your sons progress. He sounds adoreable. I have an INTJ nephew who is 18. I advised him to watch your INTJ video to discover himself. Now he is an avid fan of yours. Cannot wait for your next upload.
Infj here. I have prioritized sleep for many years probably partly because I am a female and absolutely love sleep. I have tracked my sleep like I have tracked my diet and bodybuilding. Sleep is insanely important for health hormones and brain functioning. I want my brain on high gears as much as possible. It’s how we recover in every way. I’ve always been a night owl though and didn’t make it a priority until I got into fitness hardcore. Sore muscles definitely slowed me down and I had to get sleep to recover better. 🎉 great lecture. I’ll actually listen to it now.
I've been working early mornings for 23 years, it was a tough transition, but it was worth it. Don't do the multiple alarm clock thing, it's bad enough waking up once, why would one want to keep waking up multiple times in the same day?! I wake up happy every morning, even if it's a bitch to go to sleep in time.
You talk about how INxJ's need to make friends in this video. I have been thinking that instead of focusing on making friends, it's better to focus on extending your social network. It's a better movement approach. If an Ni hero is saying "I will go find a friend now", than they will end up looking for perfection and artificially force relationships into existence. I think it's better to consciously focus on surrounding ourselves with more (good) people and getting to know them. You can also think about what kind of environment will bring the right people in your network for example. The friendship part will happen organically along the way. This may also work for sexual relationships.
@@CSJoseph sure, I can eleborate if you don't understand yet 😋 First of all let me make sure we use the same definitions. Your social network is everybody that you know, also called acquaintances. Friends are people within your social network that you have a special something with. Some level of rapport, a connection in any form or shared habit/experience (basically someone you spent a lot of time with). To say it simply, the difference is that that the pressure is taken away to create something special with people. You aren't looking for the right people to connect with, you let the connection happen to you simply by being around people. Perhaps you don't see the necessity for the distinction from the perspective of your psyche, because for you it's much more easy to receive. But for Ni hero that tries to force things into existence by will it is big.
Yeah so true, at the age of 23 I used to go to sleep at 07hr00 in the morning when everyone is waking up. And yep when waking up no one should talk to me 'cause I'm always angry in the morning 😅 Thank God this has changed. Now my ESTJ coach is helping me with developing a healthy lifestyle and I have to take sunbaths everyday in order to sleep at night and it works 🙂
When I got my first job, I would go to bed at 9pm. I worked front desk at a hotel. I would talk to 100 people a day. I recently was fired so now I’m always up till 4am to even later sometimes till 8. Ik it’s so bad. But I need to get a job again. It’s the only way. -infj
Some stuff that help me get better sleep: - do something productive for yourself where you can say you did something today - fix your sleeping place, a good bed does wonders or a less shitty one - change the direction your sleeping towards to (north sphere of earth, sleep to the east. south sphere of earth, sleep to the west), sounds stupid, but it help me sleep better - get your sleeping place a away from water pipes or electrical cables in the wall - get up the same time every day, even if it is the weekend and get up early and get a morning routine - dont eat stuff after 6 PM - read a not too entertaining book before going to bed - get out into the sun Every time I'm in an interesting conversation I forget about my own body and it feels like I'm a floating mind :D After that I realize that I have a body and I think shit, what do I look like? My sister woke me up once. As revenge, I farted. It smelled so bad that she had to run out and throw up. Revenge of the Shit Lords. Dont wake me or my ass up ever again! Me in a group... Dead within an hour of being with them. Me 10 seconds alone... Unlimited power!
I have 5 alarms spanning over 1 hr every 15 mins for waking up for work. I just hate waking up and I hate going to sleep. My mind is super active at night. But you are right, if I extrovert i will fall asleep fast that day. May be I'll try chatting up with multiple people over group chat for extroverting right before sleep.
Force our opposites not long before bedtime? Brilliant -- thank you!!! Yes, 1.5 hours later, my INxJs are still sleeping because they're completely exhausted...
I hate sleep since some month. I rather be awake and do stuff. I have struggle sleeping well because i cant wait to stand up again and do stuff. Mostly because there is so much to do especially beauty wise, because i destroyed so much of my beauty. I am a morning person tho. Always was. Years ago i liked to go to bed early enough cause i love waking up at 7 or 8 am
Sleep feels like an obstacle sometimes. But once we're asleep.. we wish we could just wake up whenever our body feels like it so we feel rested enough to continue with our shenanigans.
I have always had this issue. But like you said, this lifestyle is not sustainable at this stage in my life. I have recently put myself on a sleep schedule, and have already experienced positive results. I have no problem getting out and being around people,... Well, being out and about at least 😁 I know that I do have the tendency to "binge introvert ", but at some point that tends to make me neurotic.
This helps get a good overview. I didnt know much about my si so thank you again. I appreciate your input on this. Great job. You always explain very well. I also agree with what you have said. All your points are very accurate. this helps a ton. i had no idea. that explaines a lot in my life. thank you.
Jung links introversion and extroversion with the object of the desire. so if one in relation with the object of the desire feels closer to the the interior point of desire or the external object of the desire is rather introvert or extrovert.
Ohhhhhhh, noooooooo -- INTP wife of INFJ, mom of INTJ (both asleep right now...)... Laughing wayyyy too hard to keep watching this right now (stopping at 11:30 into this video! Yep, beating up, yelling at the alarm clock, I see it daily... I hope to watch the rest of this later to get help!
My INJ hubby certainly doesn’t suck up my energy. It’s more like it is me that is often getting annoyed at me than the other way around. He often get annoyed at me over explaining things
I absolutely love this video. Go out, make some friends = draine your energy. Thanks for a great piece of advice, I never saw it from that perspective.
This is an interesting take. I do find now that I spend more of my time doing extroverted activities that sleep better. My current job requires me to spend more time with people, I interact more in my colIege courses, and I've been forcing myself to talk to people more when im out. Instead of ingoring everyone. I thought I was sleeping better because my plate if more full, but what he was talking about may be what's happening. My mom said when I was an infant I slept like 20hrs a day, and as a child I needed 8-12 hrs asleep. When I would wake up I'd be extremely slow paced and super cranky. I would nod off throughout the day. I would sleep walk, and my mom said I would get up in the middle of the night, come into her room, and have conversations with her while I was asleep. Though, after i woke up properly, and when I was alone playing I would have tons of energy. As an adult (around the age of 24) I found out, in a sleep study, that I don't fall asleep all of the way. I would blow up on people when they woke me up from my sleep at any age throughout my life, but even though I'm almost always tired, I hate to go to sleep. I've been over compensating by drinking coffee, and using marijuana to help me relax and sleep (melatonin stopped working years ago). I don't want to drink caffeine or smoke pot anymore, so I'm going to experiment more with this idea.
That makes sense, because I’m an INTP, and I very rarely converse with even with no more than one person. The odd time I will converse with a small group oof 2 INTP’s and one INFJ in a 1-hour group chat; and we’ll all have very deep intellectual-type conversations.
As an intj i feel very drain if energy when i come home from work but i don.t go to sleep ... i stay alone and doing stuf and i don.t feel to go to sleep anymore
Thank you very much for this! I'm an infp who has NEVER slept well. And, I too, love choosing what times I get up in the morning. I know you stated inj's are the worst as far as sleeping goes. But I wonder how close an infp would be because of their SE trickster, you know? Because I very often find myself unaware of my body's actual needs and that does surprise me because I am always so outcome driven, if that makes sense? I always like to know everything ahead, especially in regards to something that does affect my comfort levels. I'm curious as to why or how an infp finds themselves neglectful in this area? Thank you, again.
I’m laughing because it’s true specially the body thing… I’m 25 and trying my best to work with my body after 24 years of fighting with my body. There are ways I use my NI to trick myself to doing the things I don’t want to do like take care of my body… meh
INTP here. Exact same problem. But what if after extraverting your mind non stop analyses your interactions and it seems so difficult to stop it doing so.
Hmm.. my hubby is an INTJ, and he goes to bed every night at 9:30 pm sharp and not a minute late; whilst me the INTP is a chronic night owl and almost never goes to bed before 12 am. My INFJ oldest brother always went to bed before 10 pm as well.
Watching this video after 2 days of no sleep. I'm an infj, it's scary how accurate some of the things they can know about me, that I'm not a morning person that I'm angry in the morning. Realizing that other people drain me and may be required for me to sleep. Really interesting. I'll work on making new friends. It's just that everyone in this world is an asshole
Wow , as an istp , no wonder I sleep everyday like 7 am or something but when we have guests I go to bed at 7 PM literally 😂 and when I was young I would always be the one getting tired and very sleepy the first when we go out and want to go home .
I've been delivering pizzas and struggling to sleep for years, and now you're telling me the solution is to GO TO BED RIGHT AFTER WORK?! We've reached levels of awkward previously thought impossible...
Show yourself friendly...such simple words and so hard to enact. RBF makes everyone think I'm angry at all times when I never am. Try to imitate my isfj daughter and constant smile. (So tiring)
I am an INFJ and I sleep deep at night even I do lucid dreaming often since my child hood to the point where I control my night mares too and will not wakeup until I finish the demon in my dream (so weird haha) and if I do wake up in the middle of the dream I can continue my dream from the place it was broken . It does not matter how disturb I am, I sleep really sound and can completely forget about my troubles where I do not dream about my problems. Dream state is like a sanctuary to me and I love to sleep as a reality escape and sometime I do not want to wake up from my dreams into reality and yes I hate to sleep alone. I would like to share a strange experience that happened to me years ago once I was laying on bed in my mother's house at night and suddenly I felt sleep paralysis where I couldn't been able to move my body an inch at that time, I was awake and my eyes were closed. At that moment in my mind I saw that a huge, a very fat, heavy demon was sitting on me on my stomach just like we sit on sofa and because of it , I was not being able to move and my stomach was hurting like a very heavy weight was crushing it. At that moment in my mind I grew large claws sat up and started to tears apart the demon with them and when ever I was putting my claw into her jet black skin a strange light was coming through from her body upon each cut and she was trying to heal those wounds ASAP but I kept doing that and kept saying in my mind "How dare you attacked me? don't you know I am one of the believers of Imam Ali a.s"" and she got so astonished upon listening to that and got brutality injured by my claws that she stood up at once leaving my body and started to run away from me lumping. At that time I felt an imidiate relief as my body became normal as before but I did not open my eyes and continued following that thing in my mind and I saw all the dogs barking in the street on her as she was going away than I opened my eyes and I heard tons of dogs barking outside , just as I saw in my mind. So I think we INFJs have tremendous power untaped given inside to us by God Almighty and we should enhance our spiritual side. Only GOD Almighty knows how much?
I needed this.. I have PTSD and I literally couldn't sleep because of it. It doesn't happen much . Although at times I stay up to make music or watch Hella documentaries. I'm a morning person🤣 . I'm in the electricians union so I wake up before 6am
I am watching this video at 3 am and I can pinpoint with 100% accuracy that what make me sleep deprived is actually anxiety and stress that comes from constant focus on wants, like career or relationships and often these wants are above my standards. Fortunately I was raised by an istj mom who thought me to sleep early and wake up early. Now I am 25 I have trouble sleeping but due to my habit of waking up early, I still wake up early at 4-6 am even if I slept an hour or 2 earlier.
Would explain there was a comfort in social sleeping. I could easily fall asleep while people were visiting my wife and I needed a nap before overnight shift.
This is funny , I would argue with my mom that she gets louder and louder when she's with my enfj brother. It's like they are feeding each other energy and my energy gets completely zapped. If my dad and me and my mom is in the background he gets louder and louder. Then I run off.
For me - follow Robin Sharma, get into "5 am" club, at the earliest you have the most motivation, plus nice having quiet/no people around as it enables you to have total, near absolute focus on your work I got eye issues from zero sleep schedule, you do not want to worry that you will be blind as 100% consequence of your own actions, learn from my mistakes, you can be smarter than me
Being an INTJ adult who has full control on his life; if I’m forced to extrovert, two things would happen.
1. I’d be unnecessarily rude towards people I’m being forced to extrovert with
2. At the end of the day yes, I’ll be super drained but I’ll not recharge myself by hitting the bed right away but by spending more time with my own self alone.
It’ll not help me sleep earlier. At all.
100% agree with you on that
It's not our fault either.. I had to "waste" time going to a party the other day, by the time I got home it had been a long day but I was going to be very angry if I went to bed if all I did that day was work and party..
So fcking true ... not going to bed even if i.m drain just doing alone stuf to feel like a nice day but after it i no loneger want to sleep
"the type most likely to have health problems", he says as he lights that cigar!
Nice ignorance you got there.
@@CSJosephNot sure how it’s ignorant to say that cigars aren’t really healthy for you.
@@BloomingFireHeart Are you aware that people don't inhale the cigars smoke?
The INxJ slogan: “The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”
You want sleep? Strengthen your flesh. Go to the gym. There will be no more anxiety when you are picking up heavy things to work it off every day.
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My ex INTJ husband used to say "I will sleep when I die."
Absolutely no lies or misinformation here. Just wishing I had all this information when I was younger. All I can say is if you are young, listening to this video AND absolutely positive you are an IN*J, please take these tips into account. You’ll be glad you did. Sometimes we do need to have our choices taken away and our arrogance (thinking we know better) kicked down a few notches for our own benefit.
introverts gain energy from being alone
extroverts gain energy from being around ppl
so you have to do the opposite & lose energy to become tired enough to go to bed. meaning introverts need to be around other ppl & become tired. thank you chase yet again
You're so right about energy. Burnout has really been killing me lately. I need to touch grass. Thank you for the lecture.
Omg
try touching grass with other people, like 3 people situation, see what happens.
The vigil shall cost one their youth, however, it brings one to see, that wisdom of the elders, as has been promised, in the writings of sacred scriptures!
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@Duggo What an intuitive answer! You need to touch grass? I have a feeling you're referring to allowing your skin to touch Earth and not marijuana to your lips? Or is it both?
@@trollingspecialist554 I don't understand do you mean literally standing on grass no socks no shoes?
Forgetting to drink water too ..
Hey CS. Can you do a video on ESFP women? Are they feminine? How men see them?
INTJ here - It wasn't until I hit my 40s I learned the value of good sleep. I used to get sick all the time as my body was so run down from lack of sleep. I thought I was invincible, and I could 'will' myself through the day on 3 to 4 hours of sleep. Now I stick to a very regular bedtime and wake time and get 7 to 8 hours of sleep. I rarely get sick now and I feel more evenly balanced throughout the day.
Thanks CSJ. I’ve been following your work since 2018 and you have certainly come a very long way since then. Happy for you because it seems like you’re able to make a living doing what you absolutely love and that’s rare to see for me.
As an INFJ, I can never get a solid sleeping schedule going. Every. Single. Time. It fails miserably. My body feels tired, so I lay in bed and try to rest, but the god damn brain and thoughts in my head just will not shut up. It gets to a point of utter annoyance that I just give up and stare at my phone for a couple hours until my body cannot take it anymore.
This awful sleeping pattern has ruined so many good jobs that I have held in the past because I wasn’t responsible enough to literally just GET SLEEP.
Do what I say then
I could never sleep when I was younger, bed time was almost torture. Into my teenage years I loved sleeping because I was able to lucid dream and it fascinated me. These days I have no issue falling asleep but staying asleep is a problem. This is a good one, awesome work.
I mainly go to bed late not because I feel invincible, or have countless worries, but mainly because I am reading a lot and do a lot of researching for satisfying all my curiosities. --INTP
Not to mention these late times seem to allow for the most peace and quiet to do introvert activities
The key is to act on that sleepiness after extroverting. Don't go home and chill alone reenergizing. And once in that sleepy state, stay away from things that get that ni/te amped up again (like consuming media). Just go straight to actual sleep!
I agree with you, but a recurring problem-admittedly, a rather specific one-I have, is my main mode of extroverting is playing team sports, which does tire me out. However, when I drive home, as well as when I shower afterwards, my Ni and I, like Chase pointed out, rapidly recharge. I haven’t figured out a sustainable solution to this yet. 😂😭 I used to go straight to bed, but I’d feel disgusting the next morning. Not to mention I’d have to switch out my bedding quite frequently. It wasn’t ideal. TMI, I know, but this is a real problem for me. 🙉🙈
@@HoytoHoyto Ever take a quick wash off shower and then soak in a warm bath? Really different experience and more calming.
Also, just for me I try not to workout too close to night time. Those endorphins will pep me up and I'll be up till 2 or 3 am. (And I'm 53!)
Been a lifelong thing.
Better for me to do anything like that earlier. Then the physical tiredness of workout plus active day can kick in by bedtime. Just my experience.
If I'm having trouble shutting my brain off, I sometimes make my brain bored with things. At night I'll start reading a book I know I don't find that interesting. Hard to find, but they exist
I've even been known to threaten my brain with menial tasks (folding socks, organizing kitchen pans). Usually my brain taps out to avoid those chores. Lol. But getting older has really helped with that too.
True 😂😂😂😂
Actually I want to tell you what I'll be doing. It is my goal to utilize and spread the knowledge of Jungian Analytical Psychology here in my country. I was a purposeless person who majored in English literature for BA, but when I found out what a treasure lies here in your channel, I got motivated as fire, finally finished my BA (after 6 years instead of 4 because I was giving up), and Now I'm about to continue my education for MA in the Clinical Psychology. I wish I could talk to you in person and share my ideas to take your advice for that path. Nonetheless, your content has been "the" turning point in my life which transitioned me from purposelessness to motivation. 🖤
Wher you from?
@@FFakiha Iran
Accepting the fact that a day only has limited amount of hours and giving myself an hour of reading and prayer/meditation in bed before I fall asleep helps immensely. It is difficult to uphold that routine especially when I'm obsessed with a new topic, but it is doable. The acceptance part - "it's ok, the day is over. There'll be another one tomorrow" - is crucial and painful though.
I think INFJ’s, (can’t speak for INTJ’s, I’ve only deeply studied half the types) need the world to be quiet. And yes, that Ni drive.
Starting at age 36, I started being unable to sleep past 7:30am even if I went to bed at 3am. This is the case with a lot of middle age people and elderly people, and started early for me.
The grouchy in the morning part chase spoke about, it could just be grouchy over unrestful sleep and bad sleep habits. If my sleep isn’t good, I’m extremely grouchy! My daughter says I can’t handle sleep deprivation at all.
I use to Ni the heck out of my nights as a child and into my 20’s. Now I Ni the heck out of my mornings. Once your life mellows out, you aren’t so easily amused, you’re past the exploration phase, you begin to really cherish the simple things. Taking care of yourself, family, home.
You cherish bedtime too. I just love crawling into bed at 9pm, knowing my morning is going to be amazing. I love sleeping nude and my very comfortable bed and that’s a strong draw, a luxury.
I nearly spring out of bed at around 6:30am at the latest, excited because I get my best work done when my energy is the most refreshed and the world is still quit. I love the crisp morning air. I laugh when I’ve done so much by 9, when some people are waking up.
It didn’t use to be this way. Regularly getting my goals met and self care took a lot of time to develop. It’s as if the best way to truly change your habits is to go through a lot of pain and discomfort until you’ve really had it.
I am amazing at self care now, but it took me 35 years to develop. I think because I was so lacking for so long, it’s the most important thing to me now and gives me the most pleasure.
My family, my kids, my home, my body. My life revolves are all the necessary things and I am the most at peace.
Any time I’ve had a healthy person around me, I totally mirror their habits! I have long gotten the losers out of my life. That helped immensely.
i’m gonna be completely honest, i slept at 8am today. i never sleep this late, but i do consistently go to bed past 2am - i’m a infj
although i got a lot of great work done staying up & learned so much lol. bc all my NI wants to do is collect a bunch of information & keep learning. i need to extrovert
I exactly do as you said but everytime I get tired being in an extraverted environnement and I go back home, I start wandering, doing my things alone, gaining energy by myself and I'm not tired anymore so it's still difficult for me to go to bed. Yes, I should go to bed immediately after coming back home but it ain't easy. Good analysis tho.
I'm an INTJ. Being diagnosed with sleep apnea and getting a CPAP made me focus on sleep. The nightly humidifier/mask/mouth tape ritual is Si in nature too and it's interesting to make the sleep interventions (adjusting my machine and sleep positions, etc.) that have Si ramifications on my bodily functions.
I also sleep earthed using a wire attached to a copper rod outside my window.
Fascinating! My ESFP son (8) can be really grumpy in the morning.
I have the opposite sleep problem with him - if we've been out with friends all day he just wants to keep going! It does not tire him out, even tho people say 'he'll sleep well tonight...'
I've found he needs to introvert (although never defined it as such before) and read a book and be in bed alone or just me before he's ready to sleep.
I married an ESTJ and end up going to bed when he does and love it! 😊
Thank you CSJoseph. Perhaps now INTPs can win the contest for biggest hermit.
I bet you guys can’t do it Ni Heroes. I challenge you to prove me wrong Se inferiors.
On a separate note, I’ve been procrastinating for hours and hearing about all the energy that INxJs have has motivated me to grab my laptop. Thank you CSJoseph and clearly scatterbrained INxJ’s.
P.S. I hope that social engineering experiment used the right keywords. If anyone is mad at me, then it was all a prank bros. Please don’t come pay me a visit because you know, I am an introvert. It will take 3 to tango for your sleep anyway.
…”Now hush up developing Ne parent.“
- INTP
Oh my God, this is just a precious life lesson which I might be learned after 10 other years of my life-never looked at it from this angle!
And yes, that's truly the key: extraverting properly and not barely
Fun fact that I'm exactly 23 years old; is there a specific reason you mentioned that age? :)
Good news Sir CS Joseph (I hope so), I've tried A LOT CONSISTENTLY as an INFJ and FINALLY I'm able to sleep on time and be an early bird (even in the summer)! It took me MONTHS to be able to consolidate that discipline for myself, but it worked!
And what was the reason? You are the very special one who taught me self-respect, how to know my worth, and the value of being efficient in a wise way. I cannot say how much I thank and love you from the bottom of my heart for teaching me self-love…
Here you have it, I just woke up at 4:30 a.m. (Iran) and started my day with this precious lecture of yours. Thanks, man, thanks…
I promise to myself and to you, my dear teacher, to be the useful INFJ who makes the world a better place…
WOW this makes so much sense, I amazed that I did not realize this, I have only lived with this my whole life, after watching this and thinking about my past this is so true,
Thank You for doing this
I’m an INFJ but didn’t realize how much I did this until now. I’ll stay up on my phone while by body is telling me I’m sleepy, but I’ll stay up on my phone because it grabs my attention. Eventually my Si will win however and I’ll have to sleep of course, but it can be a problem. This is why, on several occasions in my life, my sleeping schedule has become absolutely atrocious. I remember one time not all that long ago I was staying up to 4-5 AM and sleeping until like 1 PM 🤣
This is a really cool concept! I feel like there's many other possibilities that are opened up with just this key nugget of info.
For example, I wonder if it's possible to "fake" an extroverted situation by watching a podcast with a lot of people in it or something.
Or how about solo aspirational activities like exercise or practicing for a performance?
Maybe the secret is to tap out our Se function so the Si demon can finally have a say.
Since the extroverted / introverted functions are tied together on an axis, maybe if you overuse one side, the other side will finally surface to fix the balance. The main problem seems to be that our Si demon's voice is getting drowned out by our Ni hero and Se inferior's distractions. Once we clear these 2 functions out of the way (by tiring them out), the Si demon should finally be able to hold some sway.
Anyway good stuff as always! Much appreciated to chase and the person who asked this question.
"For example, I wonder if it's possible to "fake" an extroverted situation by watching a podcast with a lot of people in it or something. "
I haven't tried it, but it shouldn't be possible if you think about it. People's energy gets transmitted by virtue of them being really there in front of you.
So another thing I learned (infj), extroverting, going out to places. I really enjoy going out to places and with people but am always exhausted afterwards. Grocery shopping for example tho, I do it alone and find it kinda tedious but when I go I get a coffee or a tea from the local coffee shop there and do my shopping and I don’t gain energy from it but I find it relaxes me even tho it’s tedious. So I kinda learned to like it over time. The best way I think to relax is finding the joy in the things I hate. Things that are just everyday life it’s become a love hate relationship with the world mostly because I have bad extroverted sensing and I’m kinda forcing myself to develop that weakness. It’s brought a certain balance to my life that I’m still perfecting.
It's so crazy how accurate this is. It's like pulling teeth to get me out of the house tho :( I loveeeeee being an INFJ, but this is definitely a downfall, lol.
That explains why I never related to the INJ not falling asleep. As a kid I played competitive hockey which in addition to my social life at school, wore me out and I actually got sleep.
Wow, this was very helpful. I am always alone at my job and at home, I have had no time to extrovert. Since I've had this schedule/routine I have been going to sleep at around 2-3am every day, and often fight my alarm to wake up. I used to sleep at 10-11pm and wake up at 5-6am. I don't think I've ever realized the effect of extrovert environments on my body. Thank you!
thank you for fighting us for us!
I have found when I internalize my pain it stops my sleep as well. After my mom died I didn't sleep for 3 months and had to be put on medication just to be able to. My childhood illness requiring removal of my tonsils, adenoids, and ear tube insertion caused me to sleep for an entire year at about the age 10. @C.S.Joseph You have hit the sleep nail right on the head, you couldn't be more right! -INTP
This conceptualization of the dynamic between introversion and extroversion sounds far more compelling than any other I have heard before. Too much of either can have dramatic consequences that not only hurt just themselves but others around them as well. Thank you for the lecture, very interesting and insightful.
Lol I feel so called out. I always resist the urge to sleep because there’s so many better and fun things I want to do instead no matter how tired I am. It’s so weird. 😅
same here. one time actually multiple times actually maybe all the time, where i will myself to force my body to not go to sleep even though it is evident that my body is sleepy.
Love this! So true, if I’m alone I have endless energy.
So cool you showed understanding and empathy towards your partner’s mothering dynamics. 🙌✨ I seriously appreciate that.
I really struggled to parent my firstborn ESFP and I know I would have loved feeling that much empathy from my partner back then.
I never had the energy, not even as a child. I was always burned out but kept going anyway, trying to keep up with the demands of life as I understood them! Tired all the time!
Window blinds, sleep masks, earplugs, and waking up when I have slept enough without alarm.
Letting myself wake up slowly, sometimes even meditating then and there in bed.
Now it makes sense why I do that.
And if I will meditate before the bedtime. I won't get to sleep for the next few hours.
Many public personalities INxJ are proponents of 1-2 hours of meditation in the morning. It creates the energy to face the day.
Yes, I always have had problems with sleeping since I was young. Yes, I don't know before but I realised while you are talking. After socializing, my energy is pretty low, I can sleep well that night. Especially, when coming from outside or on a trip, my eyes just want to close. Right now I start to work so I need to socialise a lot, it is good for my sleeping right now. INFJ
can't believe I always had this desire of working on my laptop late night at random coffee shop but i never noticed that could help me get better sleep at night ..
thank you so much for the information
Wooow, absolutely!! You nailed! Amazing. Especially INFJ with their Fe and Se (I think), we need people, even if we get so exhausted by result! My mom is an INFP and she gets annoyed if I interfere with her sleep routine.
Very intensely spot on here. So true. I find when I have been on a family holiday I sleep like I have never slept before. I wake up, but my brain seems to be in shut down mode, so I drift back off. I go almost into a semi coma state which is probably normal for some types. I am a 5 a.m riser due to starting work at 6 a.m, so I am forced into being the early bird rather than the night owl. I was as a child the same though. I always got up 2 hours before school. I feel so much more productive at the start of the day and it has kind of stayed with me. My work is a very extraverted environment of around 20, so I pretty much sleep well most nights. What tops it though is a family party and some alcohol. There is no waking me up after that situation. Was lovely to hear your sons progress. He sounds adoreable. I have an INTJ nephew who is 18. I advised him to watch your INTJ video to discover himself. Now he is an avid fan of yours. Cannot wait for your next upload.
Infj here. I have prioritized sleep for many years probably partly because I am a female and absolutely love sleep. I have tracked my sleep like I have tracked my diet and bodybuilding. Sleep is insanely important for health hormones and brain functioning. I want my brain on high gears as much as possible. It’s how we recover in every way. I’ve always been a night owl though and didn’t make it a priority until I got into fitness hardcore. Sore muscles definitely slowed me down and I had to get sleep to recover better. 🎉 great lecture. I’ll actually listen to it now.
This explains why I feel like going to sleep when I come home from school, but I’m full of energy when I’m alone.
This is the most accurate description of Ni with the body, it’s a constantly battle.
I've been working early mornings for 23 years, it was a tough transition, but it was worth it. Don't do the multiple alarm clock thing, it's bad enough waking up once, why would one want to keep waking up multiple times in the same day?! I wake up happy every morning, even if it's a bitch to go to sleep in time.
You talk about how INxJ's need to make friends in this video.
I have been thinking that instead of focusing on making friends, it's better to focus on extending your social network. It's a better movement approach. If an Ni hero is saying "I will go find a friend now", than they will end up looking for perfection and artificially force relationships into existence. I think it's better to consciously focus on surrounding ourselves with more (good) people and getting to know them. You can also think about what kind of environment will bring the right people in your network for example. The friendship part will happen organically along the way.
This may also work for sexual relationships.
What’s the difference Te trickster?
@@CSJoseph sure, I can eleborate if you don't understand yet 😋 First of all let me make sure we use the same definitions. Your social network is everybody that you know, also called acquaintances. Friends are people within your social network that you have a special something with. Some level of rapport, a connection in any form or shared habit/experience (basically someone you spent a lot of time with).
To say it simply, the difference is that that the pressure is taken away to create something special with people. You aren't looking for the right people to connect with, you let the connection happen to you simply by being around people.
Perhaps you don't see the necessity for the distinction from the perspective of your psyche, because for you it's much more easy to receive. But for Ni hero that tries to force things into existence by will it is big.
@@CSJoseph I have myself willed friendships into existence and I can say it didn't work
Yeah so true, at the age of 23 I used to go to sleep at 07hr00 in the morning when everyone is waking up. And yep when waking up no one should talk to me 'cause I'm always angry in the morning 😅 Thank God this has changed. Now my ESTJ coach is helping me with developing a healthy lifestyle and I have to take sunbaths everyday in order to sleep at night and it works 🙂
When I feel stressed, I take melatonin and it really helps keep my sleep cycle on track. I typically sleep 9-10 hours a day.
Love your user name, Blah. :D
How much mg?
@@FFakiha 5-8mg
@@LittleMew133 thank you, i'll be starting from 3mg, when do you take it?
@@FFakiha Bottle instructs 30 min prior to bed time. For me, it takes effects fast so once I take it I have to hop into bed immediately.
When I got my first job, I would go to bed at 9pm. I worked front desk at a hotel. I would talk to 100 people a day.
I recently was fired so now I’m always up till 4am to even later sometimes till 8. Ik it’s so bad. But I need to get a job again. It’s the only way. -infj
Some stuff that help me get better sleep:
- do something productive for yourself where you can say you did something today
- fix your sleeping place, a good bed does wonders or a less shitty one
- change the direction your sleeping towards to (north sphere of earth, sleep to the east. south sphere of earth, sleep to the west), sounds stupid, but it help me sleep better
- get your sleeping place a away from water pipes or electrical cables in the wall
- get up the same time every day, even if it is the weekend and get up early and get a morning routine
- dont eat stuff after 6 PM
- read a not too entertaining book before going to bed
- get out into the sun
Every time I'm in an interesting conversation I forget about my own body and it feels like I'm a floating mind :D After that I realize that I have a body and I think shit, what do I look like?
My sister woke me up once. As revenge, I farted. It smelled so bad that she had to run out and throw up. Revenge of the Shit Lords.
Dont wake me or my ass up ever again!
Me in a group... Dead within an hour of being with them.
Me 10 seconds alone... Unlimited power!
I have 5 alarms spanning over 1 hr every 15 mins for waking up for work. I just hate waking up and I hate going to sleep. My mind is super active at night. But you are right, if I extrovert i will fall asleep fast that day.
May be I'll try chatting up with multiple people over group chat for extroverting right before sleep.
Force our opposites not long before bedtime? Brilliant -- thank you!!! Yes, 1.5 hours later, my INxJs are still sleeping because they're completely exhausted...
I hate sleep since some month. I rather be awake and do stuff. I have struggle sleeping well because i cant wait to stand up again and do stuff. Mostly because there is so much to do especially beauty wise, because i destroyed so much of my beauty. I am a morning person tho. Always was. Years ago i liked to go to bed early enough cause i love waking up at 7 or 8 am
watching this at 3:29 AM. this is good timing.
Sleep feels like an obstacle sometimes. But once we're asleep.. we wish we could just wake up whenever our body feels like it so we feel rested enough to continue with our shenanigans.
I have always had this issue. But like you said, this lifestyle is not sustainable at this stage in my life.
I have recently put myself on a sleep schedule, and have already experienced positive results.
I have no problem getting out and being around people,... Well, being out and about at least 😁
I know that I do have the tendency to "binge introvert ", but at some point that tends to make me neurotic.
Advice begins at 17:55. You’re welcome.
Eye-opening. Simple but important 👌🏻
I'm just about to watch it, very timely after not having had proper sleep for about a week, and more so for months.
Thank you!
So true! I often think I can wake up without a body at all and not even realize it until I see people's reactions to me are non-existent.
Sooo grateful for this tip, Chase ❤
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This helps get a good overview. I didnt know much about my si so thank you again. I appreciate your input on this. Great job. You always explain very well. I also agree with what you have said. All your points are very accurate. this helps a ton. i had no idea. that explaines a lot in my life. thank you.
Oh my....Chase's big reveal just slammed into my chest.
Jung links introversion and extroversion with the object of the desire. so if one in relation with the object of the desire feels closer to the the interior point of desire or the external object of the desire is rather introvert or extrovert.
Ohhhhhhh, noooooooo -- INTP wife of INFJ, mom of INTJ (both asleep right now...)... Laughing wayyyy too hard to keep watching this right now (stopping at 11:30 into this video! Yep, beating up, yelling at the alarm clock, I see it daily... I hope to watch the rest of this later to get help!
My INJ hubby certainly doesn’t suck up my energy. It’s more like it is me that is often getting annoyed at me than the other way around. He often get annoyed at me over explaining things
Think of sleep as an investment for tomorrow.
Even if your day was to only one percent improve, that would make a huge difference.
As an INTJ I don't like this video because it is true
xD
I absolutely love this video. Go out, make some friends = draine your energy. Thanks for a great piece of advice, I never saw it from that perspective.
I stay up to recharge tho because of people. - INFJ
This is an interesting take. I do find now that I spend more of my time doing extroverted activities that sleep better. My current job requires me to spend more time with people, I interact more in my colIege courses, and I've been forcing myself to talk to people more when im out. Instead of ingoring everyone. I thought I was sleeping better because my plate if more full, but what he was talking about may be what's happening.
My mom said when I was an infant I slept like 20hrs a day, and as a child I needed 8-12 hrs asleep. When I would wake up I'd be extremely slow paced and super cranky. I would nod off throughout the day. I would sleep walk, and my mom said I would get up in the middle of the night, come into her room, and have conversations with her while I was asleep. Though, after i woke up properly, and when I was alone playing I would have tons of energy. As an adult (around the age of 24) I found out, in a sleep study, that I don't fall asleep all of the way. I would blow up on people when they woke me up from my sleep at any age throughout my life, but even though I'm almost always tired, I hate to go to sleep. I've been over compensating by drinking coffee, and using marijuana to help me relax and sleep (melatonin stopped working years ago). I don't want to drink caffeine or smoke pot anymore, so I'm going to experiment more with this idea.
That makes sense, because I’m an INTP, and I very rarely converse with even with no more than one person. The odd time I will converse with a small group oof 2 INTP’s and one INFJ in a 1-hour group chat; and we’ll all have very deep intellectual-type conversations.
As an intj i feel very drain if energy when i come home from work but i don.t go to sleep ... i stay alone and doing stuf and i don.t feel to go to sleep anymore
Currently hearing this at 2 am as a background noise while i am working
Thank you very much for this! I'm an infp who has NEVER slept well. And, I too, love choosing what times I get up in the morning. I know you stated inj's are the worst as far as sleeping goes. But I wonder how close an infp would be because of their SE trickster, you know? Because I very often find myself unaware of my body's actual needs and that does surprise me because I am always so outcome driven, if that makes sense? I always like to know everything ahead, especially in regards to something that does affect my comfort levels. I'm curious as to why or how an infp finds themselves neglectful in this area? Thank you, again.
Omg thats so true!! So shocking - infj
I’m laughing because it’s true specially the body thing… I’m 25 and trying my best to work with my body after 24 years of fighting with my body. There are ways I use my NI to trick myself to doing the things I don’t want to do like take care of my body… meh
INTP here. Exact same problem. But what if after extraverting your mind non stop analyses your interactions and it seems so difficult to stop it doing so.
Hmm.. my hubby is an INTJ, and he goes to bed every night at 9:30 pm sharp and not a minute late; whilst me the INTP is a chronic night owl and almost never goes to bed before 12 am. My INFJ oldest brother always went to bed before 10 pm as well.
Watching this video after 2 days of no sleep. I'm an infj, it's scary how accurate some of the things they can know about me, that I'm not a morning person that I'm angry in the morning. Realizing that other people drain me and may be required for me to sleep. Really interesting. I'll work on making new friends. It's just that everyone in this world is an asshole
Wow , as an istp , no wonder I sleep everyday like 7 am or something but when we have guests I go to bed at 7 PM literally 😂 and when I was young I would always be the one getting tired and very sleepy the first when we go out and want to go home .
I've been delivering pizzas and struggling to sleep for years, and now you're telling me the solution is to GO TO BED RIGHT AFTER WORK?!
We've reached levels of awkward previously thought impossible...
Show yourself friendly...such simple words and so hard to enact.
RBF makes everyone think I'm angry at all times when I never am. Try to imitate my isfj daughter and constant smile. (So tiring)
I'm an infp that struggles with this too
I am an INFJ and I sleep deep at night even I do lucid dreaming often since my child hood to the point where I control my night mares too and will not wakeup until I finish the demon in my dream (so weird haha) and if I do wake up in the middle of the dream I can continue my dream from the place it was broken . It does not matter how disturb I am, I sleep really sound and can completely forget about my troubles where I do not dream about my problems. Dream state is like a sanctuary to me and I love to sleep as a reality escape and sometime I do not want to wake up from my dreams into reality and yes I hate to sleep alone.
I would like to share a strange experience that happened to me years ago once I was laying on bed in my mother's house at night and suddenly I felt sleep paralysis where I couldn't been able to move my body an inch at that time, I was awake and my eyes were closed. At that moment in my mind I saw that a huge, a very fat, heavy demon was sitting on me on my stomach just like we sit on sofa and because of it , I was not being able to move and my stomach was hurting like a very heavy weight was crushing it. At that moment in my mind I grew large claws sat up and started to tears apart the demon with them and when ever I was putting my claw into her jet black skin a strange light was coming through from her body upon each cut and she was trying to heal those wounds ASAP but I kept doing that and kept saying in my mind
"How dare you attacked me? don't you know I am one of the believers of Imam Ali a.s"" and she got so astonished upon listening to that and got brutality injured by my claws that she stood up at once leaving my body and started to run away from me lumping. At that time I felt an imidiate relief as my body became normal as before but I did not open my eyes and continued following that thing in my mind and I saw all the dogs barking in the street on her as she was going away than I opened my eyes and I heard tons of dogs barking outside , just as I saw in my mind. So I think we INFJs have tremendous power untaped given inside to us by God Almighty and we should enhance our spiritual side. Only GOD Almighty knows how much?
Shia?
@@SS-bu8ez A Muslim and Momin yes Shia Alhamdulilah.
I appreciate your brutal honesty.
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Yes I agree with all of this. This is all true
Chase you are a good man. Thanks for the info you provide
I needed this.. I have PTSD and I literally couldn't sleep because of it. It doesn't happen much . Although at times I stay up to make music or watch Hella documentaries.
I'm a morning person🤣 . I'm in the electricians union so I wake up before 6am
I have a question: Let's say are hanging out with 2 people, online. Does it still counted as extroverting?
thank you for this video lol been so long since i’ve seen a infj video
Thanks. Taking notes.
C.S's Cigars, just keep getting longer and longer! lol
You haven’t seen the longest one yet
I am watching this video at 3 am and I can pinpoint with 100% accuracy that what make me sleep deprived is actually anxiety and stress that comes from constant focus on wants, like career or relationships and often these wants are above my standards. Fortunately I was raised by an istj mom who thought me to sleep early and wake up early. Now I am 25 I have trouble sleeping but due to my habit of waking up early, I still wake up early at 4-6 am even if I slept an hour or 2 earlier.
Would explain there was a comfort in social sleeping. I could easily fall asleep while people were visiting my wife and I needed a nap before overnight shift.
for INXJs who are struggling with sleep, get meltonin 5mg every night, the side effects and minimal less damaing then staying up late.
This is funny , I would argue with my mom that she gets louder and louder when she's with my enfj brother. It's like they are feeding each other energy and my energy gets completely zapped. If my dad and me and my mom is in the background he gets louder and louder. Then I run off.
Now I do remember that I just to go to bed easier when I used to work at customer services, and being forced to talk to people. Lol
So 1 to 2 persons is introversion, 3 or more is extroversion and sleep is the universal energy gathering activity?
For me - follow Robin Sharma, get into "5 am" club, at the earliest you have the most motivation, plus nice having quiet/no people around as it enables you to have total, near absolute focus on your work
I got eye issues from zero sleep schedule, you do not want to worry that you will be blind as 100% consequence of your own actions, learn from my mistakes, you can be smarter than me
Yeah tried that but that didn't really work in the city where life revolves around 11-19
Really interesting...how would an extrovert be able to sleep better? I'm an enfj, should I be alone as night time approaches?