An old friend once said to me, do you remember the last problem you had @6mth ago? I replied, no. She said well every chance you'll forget this too in 6mths! So no point in worrying just deal with it 😊. My own I use for my teenage son dealing with S#**s in school, take pity on them because it's those kids that are possibly going home to abuse and neglect, but still stand up for yourself.
The more trolls you get, the more you are both on the right path. The world is full of jealous people who have no happiness in their lives, and they hate to see others happy, we love your channel, keep on smiling
Stoicism I started reading about this many years ago when my Son died and have carried on over many years Stoicism has helped my mental wellbeing and allows me to live a positive happy life and it helped me face things thank you so much for taking us on your walk with you and there is so much nastiness these days and it does not enter my life its there issues and not mine thank you for speaking on this 🙂
Mike from County Durham, i do tend to go with your definition Alan. And i find the comments every bit of value as Jame's content :) Ooop' s not forgetting Helen :) Have a good day.
I'm a firm believer in the saying "If you cant be kind, keep your mouth shut" You simply cant legislate for numpties, trolls and vitriolic jaded human beings who get their jollies trying to bring down people just cos they can. All I can say from following you pretty much since your channel started is we should never feed the trolls and your channel has allowed us to get to know you better and you're better than a negative comment. This video has been really good, James- as all your videos are and I think you have the right attitude. Thank you for the brilliant walk and for just being you. Much respect as always- Kenny
Must have missed seeing this one Janes so really enjoyed watching it 😊 I get too easily offended by what people say / think so will deffo start practicing stoicism..thanks for sharing your beliefs and thoughts 😊
No matter how many trolls you get, you will have many more people who admire what you do and your down to Earth approach to life. Keep up the great videos, you and your better half always brighten my day.
Solvitur ambulando. Solved by walking. Walking solves everything. Keep punching mate, never give in. Don't react to haters, that's what they want. Rise above!
"Traveler, traveler! What you are, I once was; what I am now, you too will be."....I read that many years ago on a gravestone and it's always stayed with me....offers some perspective as you say James. Excellent, thoughtful episode. Cheers 👍
This was exactly what I needed to watch today. I have helped receiving addicts, (I'm one myself), and the teachings and recovery practise are all around gratitude, acceptance and values - doing the right thing, our powelessness over certain things and indeed 99% of what it appears Soicism is. We also have a RUclips channel with around 3K subs - the ego loves the subs; but hates the trolls - Negative comments used to really affect me! THe right way and belief is that they should not matter - It is a practise as you allude to - you have to practise veing indifferent which is hard because we have been so conditioned throughout our lives to behave in e World that largely teaches up to be all out for ourselves. Nice one James
Really interesting stuff, James. found in really enlightening. My Dad (as grumpy an old Yorkshireman as you would ever meet) lived, and brought me up by the phrase "hope for the best, but prepare for the worse, you'll never be disappointed, but you might get some nice surprises." Love your vlogs, both yourself and Helen come across as decent, authentic, good folks, and the love and affection between you is gorgeous to watch.
Great video and good advice - the bonus of aging is the ability to shrug things off and prioritise your own mental health. Keep on doing what you're doing James, leave the trolls and naysayers to fester in their own misery.
Just remember YOU are gorgeous and produce some really good video clips. Unique in that they are just so NORMAL. Not contrived, just life as most of us know it. Don’t stop. You may have some sicko’s putting their 5 penny worth in, but I’m sure you have thousands more giving you a thumbs up👍. I stumbled on your Benidorm video by accident and was hooked. It was refreshing to see normal life brought to us. Life is good, what you & the lovely Helen do is good. You deserve credit +++ Love & best wishes 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
Thank you James for that lovely walk through the countryside complete with birdsong. I would never imagine there would be such beauty outside Rotherham! I too with my husband always look in graveyards,speak their names and mourn their deaths if they died young,like our brave teenage soldiers.,and young men in their twenties.I found your stoicism tips greatly interesting and will start to apply it to myself. As for your trolls and mean minded people just delete them and forget them.Say hello to Helen.😊
James I loved the stoic walk and chat, I've have always wondered why other youtubers got so reactionary about trolls on the Internet... I've always seen them as lonely disfunctional and angry poeple who have nothing positive in there lives. There reaction to everything is negative and insulting as it's the only way they can communicate. I feel sorry for these lonely and angry people . Great video and love the views.
Focus on the 99% positive pal. There’s always doom clouds, doom mongers, negative folk that try to bring you down. “YOU” are just brilliant. A natural on camera and brilliant at what you do. The social media age has sadly given rise to the modern day troll. Faceless commentators whose natural inclination is to bully and “put down”. I think there’s a lot of envy in the mix too pal. You’ve got off you’re arse and started a really fantastic channel. Well done for doing and starting what a lot of people threaten to do but never get around too!! You are genuinely relatable and a friendly voice to others who are maybe lonely or even struggling in some way. We should never under estimate the power of our presence, of our words and of our actions. I love the videos that you do alone. You and Helen are also just beautiful too. The interaction, the banter, the down to earth nature of you both. How a genuine couple should be. Hold on to her pal she’s a keeper!! Thank you for the message and words of wisdom in this video. Best from Liverpool, 🙏❤️.x
I'm into my history and have done abit of urban exploration and photography, also lost both my parents recently and been a carer all my adult life so far. I absolutely agree with what you say, we only here for a short time and if we can each make some sort of a positivity even by just a simple smile to a passer by that's what makes life. Hope this video get out there James, all the best to you and Helen x
Your vids make me homesick for UK! I've been living in Spain the last 10 years, I come to UK 4 times a year to visit family. I love my life here don't get me wrong, but seeing the English countryside tugs at the heart strings. I like the way you just show normal, uncomplicated vids, true to life. Being a sensitive person I couldn't put myself out there as you're doing, so well done at finding ways to deal with negatively. I personally think negative, critical people are in some way unhappy with their own lives and are jealous of yours ! It's quite an eye opener to me to see so many beautiful northern places! I'm a soft southerner, as my old mum used to say. She was a geordie, I'm from beautiful Berkshire originally, so she probably right lol
Your outlook on life James belies your years. Usually philosophy and stoicism only comes with age and knowledge and you are only a young chap, so I admire your outlook and positive thinking.
Brilliant video James. I really enjoyed listening to this philosophy. You learn something new every day. I’d like to see more of your walk & talk videos 😊
It sounds like you're doing the right thing, ignore the trolls because they're just after a reaction and don't believe what they're writing or saying anyway. It's just made up shit and pure nonsense, it's something they'd never say to your face! You're gonna be alright mate, you've got skillz in place to deal with your anxiety. Big up James and Helen! ❤
I appreciated this one. My channel is only starting out and I fear what happens when the trolls arrive. Great advice here, you've handled it like a champ.
I loved this, a good chat while walking, Do this again please. You are a very interesting guy, putting things into prospective it's so very helpful, thank you.xx Lyn & John
As many comments have said below there’s a lot of unhappy people out there , and many jealous as well keep up the good work James you and Helen are a breath of fresh air and make a lot of peoples day so much Brighter 👏👍
What is wrong with a pleasant walk and a chat ……… it puts the world to right ignore negativity Never Force anything Give it your best shot and then let it be. If it’s meant to be. It will be 💞
These words really hit home with me mate. We've had such a tough year and gone through such a lot. Lost my Nan who basically raised me, wife and I have had our fair share of problems, troubles etc and it's been hard. You're right though that when you look at things through the perspective of the limitless vastness of time and the universe then what does it matter? Spend more time in graveyards, you're right. Adversity can be so trying but ultimately you either let it make you or break you. Yes there's something masochistic about imagining the worst case scenario; I do it a lot. I also break out into a sweat far too easily, especially when anxious, even worse in this weather at the moment! But you're right, imagining losing what you've got definitely helps wake you up and makes you appreciate what you have. Thanks James this was a truly helpful video. 👍
@@bythecurb Yes it's rough. I mean you always know it's coming of course particularly when they're so old. She'd just always been so strong and in the end when she did decline it was pretty fast. Mind you she made it to her 90th birthday this past March and I'm really thankful that we were all there with her in the care home to see that. Stay safe out there mate and thanks again.
3:20 I really love the background music you've used. it really fits with what you're talking about which is I'mportant to me. Well done, you great man.
I was working as a security guard at Iceland in Birkenhead (I'm sure the country of Iceland doesn't have shops called Birkenhead) Anyway, when it was really quiet I'd stand at the door,one to see what morons might be mooching towards the shop and for some fresh air A div walking past shouted Baldy ! Was I offended ? Yeah a bit,was I upset Not really I stared him down and he shuffled away The point is I was earning Living very well,had driven across the USA among many adventures and my time in the Royal Navy I was content knowing that man was probably on benefits a real waster and doing nothing but having a crummy life, maybe going to prison, etc Thus, although I remember it,it became nothing, and it didn't affect me in any way So when people scream, they've been offended I think being offended is nothing and it actually is no big deal.
James, you are overthinking things. You are a great guy. You and Helen are proof that there is still hope for the human race! Anyone that gives you negative comments have serious issues themselves and want to vent their own issues on you. I have serious health problems myself, but I would never vent my own anger on someone else.
James, I'm not a very emotional person but you absolutely struck a chord. I never realised you were so articulate or so well read. Best video I've seen in ages, 5 star, epic, don't stop. I'm not trying to blow smoke up your arse, but that moved me.
Trolls will trolls at the end of the day they are just bitter people who ain’t got nothing going for them or they ain’t got a life or if they do they are fed up with their own life so they get satisfaction trying to put others down love your content keep it coming you truly are a great person keep your head up my friend and don’t let any helmet get you down they ain’t worth it 💙
You produce great content and I enjoy watching your videos. Those who mock, criticise or think their negative opinions have any impact will become obsolete much to their own frustration. Those who enjoy your channel will always be here for you.
Don’t take this the wrong way but I really didn’t have you down as a reader! I really enjoyed listening to your philosophy; a real conglomeration of a bunch of famous ones! I do the negative visualisation ( it can only get better) thing and it got me through some tough times! And it did get better. Don’t let the trolls get to you. A very good thing( positive visualisation) about the trolls is that it led to you making this brilliant broadcast! ❤❤❤
It’s easy to say don’t listen to trolls and naysayers but my stoic is if you listen to trolls it what they want so try and ignore them they will eventually leave you alone . I think your doing a great job so just listen to the positive and to hell with the rest 😊
What an interesting chat. I think I'm an unknowing Stoic, everything you've discussed describes me 100%. I must look further into this philosophy, thank you!
I recently stumbled across yours and Helens blogs enjoying benidorm trip and Harrogate vids but then came across this about stoicism and just found myself sat there nodding along with everything you were saying as a 60 year old going through health issues and feeling down due to being on long term sick came away thinking more positive and also learnt don't judge a book by its cover more on philosophy and keep up the good work
I look forward to your videos as they are like a breath of fresh air. You and Helen have a amazing outlook on life. The dynamic you and Helen have is definitely a pleasure to watch !! As for the trolls, I wouldn't take to much notice on what they say. Unfortunately there's allways someone who wants to try and bring you down. You keep doing you fella !!!!!
What a wise and meaningful vlogg James This little talk will help so many people including myself You are absolutley right in everything you say What a great bit of filming too xx
Hi James , I can’t believe you get anyone giving you grief & trolling you . I’m a bit older than you & live in California now . I came across you by accident & joined your site . I love that I can keep in touch with what’s going on back home & how you are so down to earth - Helen & you are a perfect partnership & the banter is just right for your vlogs . There will be 1000’s more who support your channel, so ignore any low-lifes that send you negative vibes . Good luck to you buddy.
Initially I empathised and wanted to support u against these trolls but funnily enough as I watched I found myself nodding as u were already saying things I was gonna say .. my consultant said when he wrote diagnosing my brain tumour that I was very stoic and had great stoicism towards my future which I hadn't realised Yr narrative of this is perfect and also about mortality and humour ... ❤ all that really matters to us in this life is the ones we love and people well some we learn to love some give laughter but in human nature there will always be some that disappoint without fail but that is their journey and for them to learn from this behaviour Yr philosophy is perfect think so then u enjoy what is more ..you and Helen bring so much to so many..me included .. love Yr take on life and people ..and il deffo give that book a read your walk through Wentworth was beautiful thankyou ❤ loved every minute 😊 be strong and stay stoic xx
Chin up mate, just focus your attention on the positive comments. I've watched your channel from the beginning and I feel you are honest; funny and entertaining. Keep up the good work.
Very interesting. I get quite low at times and that is when my head says people are talking about me when they are not, so some great points keep it up.
Came across your vlogs by chance, and now playing catch up, but not in order. I used to think similar to what you said about there have been some really good people who have come and gone over the years, and we will never know who they are! It's true! I never take anything for granted in life, just live and be a good person. I'm retired now, and reflect on my life at times, it could have been better, but by god it could have been worse. Treasure what you have, be happy, and ignore those who mean nothing to you, cus they don't care about you. You are a great couple, and a breath of freshness! I look forward to your vlogs! Cheers both!!🍺🍷
Thank you James I listened to everything you said in this vid and I never thought of these things before you said although I should have. I am going to use them in my life and think about them. Thank you again James.
I know you said you aren’t an expert mate but: Iv been a mental health nurse for nearly 20 years. As a human being and a MH nurse your advise is so so helpful . Thanks mate Ever in derbys I’ll buy you a pint
That's kinda like how I have come to deal with people's poor attitudes like that, "How would I rather spend my time, dealing with rubbish or enjoying (as much as possible) things that make me happy." I know what I'd prefer.
You are bringing a lot of interesting topics and fun footage into peoples homes. You are always going to get people who try to push buttons even just walking down the street these twaddle's are there because they are sad and don't have anything better in their own lives to occupy there own minds. So keep standing tall and keep doing what your doing and watch the numbers grow like you said life is to short . Great watch.
That little Vlog is a tonic. James well said and delivered. Hope to shake your hand one day on my solo van travels and im 77 still have my sense of adventure, where people call me mad. So now i will just say Crimson Pie. They wont no what it means lol nor will I ha ha ha
I have found in life that its really unhappy people that are trolls ect they have no life or the understanding how to be happy as you fella even if they aint happy they definitely need something better to do with their time. Nothing grows off hate only love x
Self doubt compounded by negative comments can be a real kick at times. Like you say Stoicism and self deprecation are great ways to take the load off and stop yourself becoming anxious and negative. People/trolls soon stop when you make a better job of taking the piss out of yourself than they can.
Wow..thankyou for a beautiful walk and info on the buildings..and I've not really thought much about stoicism..but it makes sense and I totally agree with not letting other peoples thoughts /remarks which are unkind get to us. They are usually jealous or needy people and are to be pitied. This was a brilliant video James..thanks again. What a gentle..thoughtful sensitive and nice man you are..keep up these great vlogs please. Hi to Helen ..see you soon. X
Hiya mate ,We walk quite often through our local graveyard in Royston and stand and look at all the old Royston families and people we have known,nice to remember them.nice chat see you soon .
Thanks I really enjoyed this Vlog. Nice Scenery, very calming and a nice outlook on life. I love you’re carefree attitude. Don’t let the haters get to you. You and Helen sitting enjoy a glass of wine and eating dinner by the roadside as cars drove past made me giggle. Love the banter you both have its great. Hope your Channel continues to grow. I’ll check out sone of the Books you’ve linked and look a bit more at Stoicism. 😎👍🏼
Wow 😲 that house was bigger than Chatsworth, I didn't think they came any bigger than that ‼️ It was wonderful 💯 Your talk was a learning curve, with good advice, and I enjoyed the scenery, too. Thanks for an interesting vlog
I can't believe either of you get any negative comments, perhaps they are jealous so it makes them feel better to have a dig. You two come across as the nicest, down to earth people you could hope to meet
I wanted to thank you because I have not heard of Stoicism Before thank you for explaining what it means & yes I will be trying to use it in my life instead of getting upset because of idiots 👍
@@bythecurb thank you so much I appreciate you & Helen thank God I came across your channel you are making a difference keep it up by for now until the next time even though we don't know one another can I call you on here a friends? 🤔👍❤️❤️👍👍
Great conversation James, I enjoyed this. I'll have to hit my library up for some books on the subject. Thanks for the stroll through the cemetery, I'm going to try that, call out their names, I've read them but never have called them out loud. You and Helen have a great week ahead.
Thank you for that video, everyday is a school day, I live in this mindset but had no idea is was called that, I absolutely love the idea of saying out the names on the headstones, I personally adopt the idea of what others think is non of my business and as long walk my time on earth happy and not intentionally harmful I am OK with that, good luck
Sounds like I've been practicing stoicism without even knowing it was a thing. My mum always said ignore negatively and my Dad said don't let the bar stewards grind you down. Trouble is with social media is everyone gets a say and the negative comments stand out..I self deprecate to, say it yourself first funnier than them 😊 Nice walk James, I work around there and there are some beautiful places
James been to Wentworth a few times. Your channel really growing but unfortunately as percentages grow obviously bad comments will grow. Best one heard from a channel yesterday. Always known for saying hope you all ok...but then turned round and said, to all those that don't like me hope you are ok also. Great saying from Liam the terrible.... If nothing nice to say, then don't say it at all,you don't know what damage it will do . Great video really made sense.
Had a lot of trouble as a kid being able to form Friendships and coming over as aloof and ignorant towards others i was diagnosed with autism as an adult which explained a lot ...dealing with negative comments and people who to be fair don't understand that I struggle to deal with life in the same way they Do has got easier as time has gone on ......sense of humour helps and understanding how to be happy in isolation from others
Excellent, thoughtful video. I like how you talk about ways of responding to situations. Responding not reacting gives agency, doesnt it. Also, being harassed, by two bees ... or not two bees 😉
Wonderful stroll through the countryside James! I really enjoyed the content & would love to see more like this😊 you’re handsome & witty as ever, Helen is a very lucky woman 😊
Fellow Stoic here James. When i started reading the philosophy it just seemed to fit me straight away. I found myself just nodding with agreement all the time. For me, it makes you realise just how unimportant most things are. Well done fella.
@@bythecurb Oh don't get me started on that one mate.... I'd love to add a few things to the curriculum. Financial advice, What is credit?, What is a mortgage?, How to start a buisness, Self assessments, to name a few. But we can't educate people too well can we or they might break free.
I cut out negative people in my life. I try to always be nice and love doing random acts of kindness. I hate it when I see someone like yourself get negative comments. I follow a few channels and the owners of them are all saying the same thing. They are fed up of the trolls. What is it with some people? A great walk, at one with nature. 👍
Absoultely cracking video James, I find myself agreeing with you on the topics you spoke about, I'm 59 now, but as a younger man I worried about my 'image' and what others may think of me all the time, but now, I simply don't care, don't get me wrong, I treat everyone I meet with respect and don't go out of my way to offend people, but if, for whatever reason someone takes a dislike to me, then that is their right and therfore their problem as I don't care one iota. And talking of self depravation, I could never in a thousand years be described as a handsome man, in fact, when I was born my incubator had tinted windows and the midwife slapped my Dad!, I'm that ugly even the tide wouldn't take me out...but..I've still managed to find a loving and caring Lady and we;ve been together for 14 happy years now, so that's me 1 The Universe 0...I'm loving this channel and see you and Helen as a couple of mates, mates I'll almost certenly never meet in 'real life' but mates all the same....Go steady our kid ! 😄👍
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“What other people think about us, is none of our business”
Great walk and chat in lovely wentworth
An old friend once said to me, do you remember the last problem you had @6mth ago? I replied, no. She said well every chance you'll forget this too in 6mths! So no point in worrying just deal with it 😊. My own I use for my teenage son dealing with S#**s in school, take pity on them because it's those kids that are possibly going home to abuse and neglect, but still stand up for yourself.
That's true. I knew a boy who was getting bullied for being adopted. Turned out the bully was adopted himself and struggling with it.
Any body who troll this man is a bum hes a nice geniune person great channel keep growing yr channel pal organic as they come
Thank you so much, that is a lovely thing to say! 🙂
The more trolls you get, the more you are both on the right path. The world is full of jealous people who have no happiness in their lives, and they hate to see others happy, we love your channel, keep on smiling
Don't let the buggers get at you you have more positives than there negatives have a great week this week your a legend James keep smiling 😊😊😊😊
Thank you!
Trolls live lives that are essentially empty and devoid of meaning. They are not worth your time. Lovely scenery, by the way!
Stoicism I started reading about this many years ago when my Son died and have carried on over many years Stoicism has helped my mental wellbeing and allows me to live a positive happy life and it helped me face things thank you so much for taking us on your walk with you and there is so much nastiness these days and it does not enter my life its there issues and not mine thank you for speaking on this 🙂
The true definition of stoicism is "a person who can endure pain and hardship WITHOUT showing their feelings OR complaining".
Mike from County Durham, i do tend to go with your definition Alan. And i find the comments every bit of value as Jame's
content :) Ooop' s not forgetting Helen :) Have a good day.
Thank you for this James, everything you said makes sense, wise words indeed. Excellent filming of a beautiful and interesting place too. 😊
I'm a firm believer in the saying "If you cant be kind, keep your mouth shut" You simply cant legislate for numpties, trolls and vitriolic jaded human beings who get their jollies trying to bring down people just cos they can. All I can say from following you pretty much since your channel started is we should never feed the trolls and your channel has allowed us to get to know you better and you're better than a negative comment. This video has been really good, James- as all your videos are and I think you have the right attitude. Thank you for the brilliant walk and for just being you. Much respect as always- Kenny
Well said 👍🏻
Thank you Kenny
@@bythecurb You are very welcome James. much respect- Kenny
As my old man used to say to me as a kid "stick and stones may break your bones, but names will never hurt you" kind of stoicism philosophy.
Smuggler: yes, I think this saying is probably the epitome of stoicism 👍💯
Must have missed seeing this one Janes so really enjoyed watching it 😊 I get too easily offended by what people say / think so will deffo start practicing stoicism..thanks for sharing your beliefs and thoughts 😊
No matter how many trolls you get, you will have many more people who admire what you do and your down to Earth approach to life. Keep up the great videos, you and your better half always brighten my day.
Solvitur ambulando. Solved by walking. Walking solves everything. Keep punching mate, never give in. Don't react to haters, that's what they want. Rise above!
"Traveler, traveler! What you are, I once was; what I am now, you too will be."....I read that many years ago on a gravestone and it's always stayed with me....offers some perspective as you say James. Excellent, thoughtful episode. Cheers 👍
Thank you!
This was exactly what I needed to watch today. I have helped receiving addicts, (I'm one myself), and the teachings and recovery practise are all around gratitude, acceptance and values - doing the right thing, our powelessness over certain things and indeed 99% of what it appears Soicism is. We also have a RUclips channel with around 3K subs - the ego loves the subs; but hates the trolls - Negative comments used to really affect me! THe right way and belief is that they should not matter - It is a practise as you allude to - you have to practise veing indifferent which is hard because we have been so conditioned throughout our lives to behave in e World that largely teaches up to be all out for ourselves. Nice one James
Thanks mate
Really interesting stuff, James. found in really enlightening. My Dad (as grumpy an old Yorkshireman as you would ever meet) lived, and brought me up by the phrase "hope for the best, but prepare for the worse, you'll never be disappointed, but you might get some nice surprises." Love your vlogs, both yourself and Helen come across as decent, authentic, good folks, and the love and affection between you is gorgeous to watch.
To quote that Ellis-Bextor lass, A pessimist, is never disappointed.
Thank you, I love that quote, I even said it in the video but had to cut it out as I said it wrong!! 😂
Great video and good advice - the bonus of aging is the ability to shrug things off and prioritise your own mental health. Keep on doing what you're doing James, leave the trolls and naysayers to fester in their own misery.
Thank you
How can anyone have anything bad to say about this channel, I absolutely love watching your videos mate don't ever stop will ya ❤
Just remember YOU are gorgeous and produce some really good video clips. Unique in that they are just so NORMAL. Not
contrived, just life as most of us know it. Don’t stop. You may have some sicko’s putting their 5 penny worth in, but I’m sure
you have thousands more giving you a thumbs up👍. I stumbled on your Benidorm video by accident and was hooked. It
was refreshing to see normal life brought to us. Life is good, what you & the lovely Helen do is good. You deserve credit +++
Love & best wishes 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
Thank you, glad you like the videos 😊
Thank you James for that lovely walk through the countryside complete with birdsong. I would never imagine there would be such beauty outside Rotherham! I too with my husband always look in graveyards,speak their names and mourn their deaths if they died young,like our brave teenage soldiers.,and young men in their twenties.I found your stoicism tips greatly interesting and will start to apply it to myself. As for your trolls and mean minded people just delete them and forget them.Say hello to Helen.😊
I do the same with my other half . We love our nature walks and old churches graveyards castles ect ect
Thank You, I just said hello to Helen for you!! 😂😂 Really did. 🙂
@@bythecurb Good job! Thanks.
James I loved the stoic walk and chat, I've have always wondered why other youtubers got so reactionary about trolls on the Internet... I've always seen them as lonely disfunctional and angry poeple who have nothing positive in there lives. There reaction to everything is negative and insulting as it's the only way they can communicate. I feel sorry for these lonely and angry people . Great video and love the views.
Thank you
I stayed in DEWSBURY 2 yrs worked in grahams of DEWSBURY garage in batley great time 1971 1973 played darts in bath hotel Halifax road dewsbury
Keep smiling they hate it.They are so brave behind the keyboard. Keep doing what you do.
Focus on the 99% positive pal. There’s always doom clouds, doom mongers, negative folk that try to bring you down. “YOU” are just brilliant. A natural on camera and brilliant at what you do.
The social media age has sadly given rise to the modern day troll. Faceless commentators whose natural inclination is to bully and “put down”. I think there’s a lot of envy in the mix too pal. You’ve got off you’re arse and started a really fantastic channel. Well done for doing and starting what a lot of people threaten to do but never get around too!!
You are genuinely relatable and a friendly voice to others who are maybe lonely or even struggling in some way. We should never under estimate the power of our presence, of our words and of our actions.
I love the videos that you do alone. You and Helen are also just beautiful too. The interaction, the banter, the down to earth nature of you both. How a genuine couple should be. Hold on to her pal she’s a keeper!!
Thank you for the message and words of wisdom in this video.
Best from Liverpool,
🙏❤️.x
I'm into my history and have done abit of urban exploration and photography, also lost both my parents recently and been a carer all my adult life so far. I absolutely agree with what you say, we only here for a short time and if we can each make some sort of a positivity even by just a simple smile to a passer by that's what makes life. Hope this video get out there James, all the best to you and Helen x
Thank you!
Your vids make me homesick for UK! I've been living in Spain the last 10 years, I come to UK 4 times a year to visit family. I love my life here don't get me wrong, but seeing the English countryside tugs at the heart strings. I like the way you just show normal, uncomplicated vids, true to life. Being a sensitive person I couldn't put myself out there as you're doing, so well done at finding ways to deal with negatively. I personally think negative, critical people are in some way unhappy with their own lives and are jealous of yours ! It's quite an eye opener to me to see so many beautiful northern places! I'm a soft southerner, as my old mum used to say. She was a geordie, I'm from beautiful Berkshire originally, so she probably right lol
Thank you for watching, I have some lovely countryside videos coming very soon
All the best with your videos mate, i've watched quite a few of them. You have nothing but support and appreciation from myself 👍
Thanks mate
Your outlook on life James belies your years. Usually philosophy and stoicism only comes with age and knowledge and you are only a young chap, so I admire your outlook and positive thinking.
Thank you!
Brilliant video James. I really enjoyed listening to this philosophy. You learn something new every day. I’d like to see more of your walk & talk videos 😊
You guys are genuine, and it was evident from the first video I watched of yours. Truly enjoying getting to follow along on your adventures.
Thank you so much!
I've watched your videos since the early days, your sincerity and humour with Helen, brightens up mine and many others day. Keep it going and thanks.
Thank you, I appreciate that 🙂
It sounds like you're doing the right thing, ignore the trolls because they're just after a reaction and don't believe what they're writing or saying anyway. It's just made up shit and pure nonsense, it's something they'd never say to your face! You're gonna be alright mate, you've got skillz in place to deal with your anxiety. Big up James and Helen! ❤
I appreciated this one. My channel is only starting out and I fear what happens when the trolls arrive. Great advice here, you've handled it like a champ.
Thanks, it can get to you sometimes
I loved this, a good chat while walking,
Do this again please. You are a very interesting guy, putting things into prospective it's so very helpful, thank you.xx Lyn & John
As many comments have said below there’s a lot of unhappy people out there , and many jealous as well keep up the good work James you and Helen are a breath of fresh air and make a lot of peoples day so much Brighter 👏👍
What is wrong with a pleasant walk and a chat ……… it puts the world to right ignore negativity Never Force anything Give it your best shot and then let it be. If it’s meant to be. It will be 💞
Thank you!
These words really hit home with me mate. We've had such a tough year and gone through such a lot. Lost my Nan who basically raised me, wife and I have had our fair share of problems, troubles etc and it's been hard. You're right though that when you look at things through the perspective of the limitless vastness of time and the universe then what does it matter? Spend more time in graveyards, you're right. Adversity can be so trying but ultimately you either let it make you or break you. Yes there's something masochistic about imagining the worst case scenario; I do it a lot. I also break out into a sweat far too easily, especially when anxious, even worse in this weather at the moment! But you're right, imagining losing what you've got definitely helps wake you up and makes you appreciate what you have. Thanks James this was a truly helpful video. 👍
Thank you, I'm sorry to hear about your Nan. I know how hard it is to lose someone you love so much! ❤
@@bythecurb Yes it's rough. I mean you always know it's coming of course particularly when they're so old. She'd just always been so strong and in the end when she did decline it was pretty fast. Mind you she made it to her 90th birthday this past March and I'm really thankful that we were all there with her in the care home to see that. Stay safe out there mate and thanks again.
Another great video,surprising I haven’t bumped into you yet as we frequent a lot of the same places. Always look on the bright side of life 😊
3:20 I really love the background music you've used. it really fits with what you're talking about which is I'mportant to me. Well done, you great man.
I was working as a security guard at Iceland in Birkenhead
(I'm sure the country of Iceland doesn't have shops called Birkenhead)
Anyway, when it was really quiet I'd stand at the door,one to see what morons might be mooching towards the shop and for some fresh air
A div walking past shouted
Baldy !
Was I offended ?
Yeah a bit,was I upset
Not really
I stared him down and he shuffled away
The point is I was earning
Living very well,had driven across the USA among many adventures and my time in the Royal Navy
I was content knowing that man was probably on benefits a real waster and doing nothing but having a crummy life, maybe going to prison, etc
Thus, although I remember it,it became nothing, and it didn't affect me in any way
So when people scream, they've been offended
I think being offended is nothing and it actually is no big deal.
That's a great story, I think its funny when people shout abuse at someone without knowing a single thing about them.
James, you are overthinking things. You are a great guy. You and Helen are proof that there is still hope for the human race! Anyone that gives you negative comments have serious issues themselves and want to vent their own issues on you. I have serious health problems myself, but I would never vent my own anger on someone else.
Thanks for posting that.. my Son suffers or can suffer with anxiety and it was interesting to hear your way of dealing with it.
Thans again.
James, I'm not a very emotional person but you absolutely struck a chord. I never realised you were so articulate or so well read. Best video I've seen in ages, 5 star, epic, don't stop. I'm not trying to blow smoke up your arse, but that moved me.
Thank you, I'm glad you enjoyed it
Trolls will trolls at the end of the day they are just bitter people who ain’t got nothing going for them or they ain’t got a life or if they do they are fed up with their own life so they get satisfaction trying to put others down love your content keep it coming you truly are a great person keep your head up my friend and don’t let any helmet get you down they ain’t worth it 💙
Rise above the trolls. Best wishes love the Channel.
You produce great content and I enjoy watching your videos. Those who mock, criticise or think their negative opinions have any impact will become obsolete much to their own frustration. Those who enjoy your channel will always be here for you.
Thank you
Brilliant video again James. So inspiring. Thank you for your words. Take care, looking forward to the next one. Caren & Paul x
Thank you!
Don’t take this the wrong way but I really didn’t have you down as a reader! I really enjoyed listening to your philosophy; a real conglomeration of a bunch of famous ones! I do the negative visualisation ( it can only get better) thing and it got me through some tough times! And it did get better. Don’t let the trolls get to you. A very good thing( positive visualisation) about the trolls is that it led to you making this brilliant broadcast! ❤❤❤
I went there when I was about 10, I’m 62 so it’s awhile ago lol.Anyway James there’s always negativity, but your dealing with it, hats off to ya.
Deep and thoughtful ......brilliantly presented...keep on keeping on James
It’s easy to say don’t listen to trolls and naysayers but my stoic is if you listen to trolls it what they want so try and ignore them they will eventually leave you alone . I think your doing a great job so just listen to the positive and to hell with the rest 😊
What an interesting chat. I think I'm an unknowing Stoic, everything you've discussed describes me 100%. I must look further into this philosophy, thank you!
I recently stumbled across yours and Helens blogs enjoying benidorm trip and Harrogate vids but then came across this about stoicism and just found myself sat there nodding along with everything you were saying as a 60 year old going through health issues and feeling down due to being on long term sick came away thinking more positive and also learnt don't judge a book by its cover more on philosophy and keep up the good work
Thank you, glad you like the videos, Im sorry to hear that you've been feeling down and I hope things pick up for you
Love Morrissey , poor Sinead O Conner ❤😢
I look forward to your videos as they are like a breath of fresh air. You and Helen have a amazing outlook on life. The dynamic you and Helen have is definitely a pleasure to watch !! As for the trolls, I wouldn't take to much notice on what they say. Unfortunately there's allways someone who wants to try and bring you down. You keep doing you fella !!!!!
Thank you!
As the saying goes 'what you think of me is none of my business' great video really enjoyed your philosophical tips
What a wise and meaningful vlogg James
This little talk will help so many people including myself
You are absolutley right in everything you say
What a great bit of filming too xx
Thanks Dawn
Living in a van, Getting your exercise everyday, making videos seems pretty stoic to me. Great work.
Hi James , I can’t believe you get anyone giving you grief & trolling you . I’m a bit older than you & live in California now . I came across you by accident & joined your site . I love that I can keep in touch with what’s going on back home & how you are so down to earth - Helen & you are a perfect partnership & the banter is just right for your vlogs . There will be 1000’s more who support your channel, so ignore any low-lifes that send you negative vibes . Good luck to you buddy.
Thank you Richard 🙂❤
Lovely video and interesting chat . Thank you James xx
Initially I empathised and wanted to support u against these trolls but funnily enough as I watched I found myself nodding as u were already saying things I was gonna say .. my consultant said when he wrote diagnosing my brain tumour that I was very stoic and had great stoicism towards my future which I hadn't realised Yr narrative of this is perfect and also about mortality and humour ... ❤ all that really matters to us in this life is the ones we love and people well some we learn to love some give laughter but in human nature there will always be some that disappoint without fail but that is their journey and for them to learn from this behaviour Yr philosophy is perfect think so then u enjoy what is more ..you and Helen bring so much to so many..me included .. love Yr take on life and people ..and il deffo give that book a read your walk through Wentworth was beautiful thankyou ❤ loved every minute 😊 be strong and stay stoic xx
To a fellow Stoic. Thank you! 🙂
I think you’re doing a great job on RUclips mate you’re an amazing man . Keep up the good work .
Chin up mate, just focus your attention on the positive comments. I've watched your channel from the beginning and I feel you are honest; funny and entertaining. Keep up the good work.
Always get trolls, or keyboard warriors. Chin up, keep at it - I love your channel. Have a couple of beers on me!
Thank you so much, I really appreciate that! ❤
Very interesting. I get quite low at times and that is when my head says people are talking about me when they are not, so some great points keep it up.
Came across your vlogs by chance, and now playing catch up, but not in order. I used to think similar to what you said about there have been some really good people who have come and gone over the years, and we will never know who they are! It's true!
I never take anything for granted in life, just live and be a good person. I'm retired now, and reflect on my life at times, it could have been better, but by god it could have been worse. Treasure what you have, be happy, and ignore those who mean nothing to you, cus they don't care about you.
You are a great couple, and a breath of freshness! I look forward to your vlogs! Cheers both!!🍺🍷
Thank you so much. Wise words 🙏
Thank you James I listened to everything you said in this vid and I never thought of these things before you said although I should have. I am going to use them in my life and think about them. Thank you again James.
I know you said you aren’t an expert mate but:
Iv been a mental health nurse for nearly 20 years.
As a human being and a MH nurse your advise is so so helpful .
Thanks mate
Ever in derbys I’ll buy you a pint
The biggest waste of time in your life is being concerned about what everyone else thinks about you. Love the channel James !
ruclips.net/video/d4z5C8G32AY/видео.html The Let Them theory is always a good one to practice too.
That's kinda like how I have come to deal with people's poor attitudes like that, "How would I rather spend my time, dealing with rubbish or enjoying (as much as possible) things that make me happy." I know what I'd prefer.
I love the idea of calling names out. Makes them real. Maybe they will know! I’m going to do that as well now. I often talk to my parents
You are bringing a lot of interesting topics and fun footage into peoples homes. You are always going to get people who try to push buttons even just walking down the street these twaddle's are there because they are sad and don't have anything better in their own lives to occupy there own minds. So keep standing tall and keep doing what your doing and watch the numbers grow like you said life is to short . Great watch.
Thank you!
They are sad and not very interesting people maybe Possibly a sandwich short of a picnic
You keep doing what you're doing. Ignore the trolls concentrate on enjoying your life. You're doing great. Much love. Jan
Right up my street these type of videos... More please... 👍👍👍
Really enjoyed this style of video and talk. Very relevant at this current time.
Thank you.
Some really wise words and things to think about. Looking forward to seeing you and Helen in your next video
Loved the Vid, very helpful for someone that has dark moments in life. Keep up the good work
Thank you
That little Vlog is a tonic. James well said and delivered. Hope to shake your hand one day on my solo van travels and im 77 still have my sense of adventure,
where people call me mad. So now i will just say Crimson Pie. They wont no what it means lol nor will I ha ha ha
Haha thats brilliant, I like that. Be great to see you on the road someday
I have found in life that its really unhappy people that are trolls ect they have no life or the understanding how to be happy as you fella even if they aint happy they definitely need something better to do with their time. Nothing grows off hate only love x
And you are both doing just great now! Onwards and upwards sir!
Self doubt compounded by negative comments can be a real kick at times. Like you say Stoicism and self deprecation are great ways to take the load off and stop yourself becoming anxious and negative. People/trolls soon stop when you make a better job of taking the piss out of yourself than they can.
So true 👍
Wow..thankyou for a beautiful walk and info on the buildings..and I've not really thought much about stoicism..but it makes sense and I totally agree with not letting other peoples thoughts /remarks which are unkind get to us. They are usually jealous or needy people and are to be pitied.
This was a brilliant video James..thanks again. What a gentle..thoughtful sensitive and nice man you are..keep up these great vlogs please. Hi to Helen ..see you soon. X
Thank you Chris, that's very kind of you 🙂
Hiya mate ,We walk quite often through our local graveyard in Royston and stand and look at all the old Royston families and people we have known,nice to remember them.nice chat see you soon .
Thanks I really enjoyed this Vlog. Nice Scenery, very calming and a nice outlook on life. I love you’re carefree attitude. Don’t let the haters get to you. You and Helen sitting enjoy a glass of wine and eating dinner by the roadside as cars drove past made me giggle. Love the banter you both have its great. Hope your Channel continues to grow. I’ll check out sone of the Books you’ve linked and look a bit more at Stoicism. 😎👍🏼
Thank you, hope you like the books :-)
Wow 😲 that house was bigger than Chatsworth, I didn't think they came any bigger than that ‼️ It was wonderful 💯
Your talk was a learning curve, with good advice, and I enjoyed the scenery, too.
Thanks for an interesting vlog
Thank you, its a beauty
"Prepare for the worst!,.. and hope for the best!" Works for me! 😁
Great vid mate!,.. love your channel!! 👍 💚
I can't believe either of you get any negative comments, perhaps they are jealous so it makes them feel better to have a dig. You two come across as the nicest, down to earth people you could hope to meet
Absolutely loved this vlog it actually made me think and taught me loads you are so right I’m really gonna try hard to do this thank you ❤😊
I wanted to thank you because I have not heard of Stoicism Before thank you for explaining what it means & yes I will be trying to use it in my life instead of getting upset because of idiots 👍
You are welcome, it really is a great philosophy to live by
@@bythecurb thank you so much I appreciate you & Helen thank God I came across your channel you are making a difference keep it up by for now until the next time even though we don't know one another can I call you on here a friends? 🤔👍❤️❤️👍👍
Great conversation James, I enjoyed this. I'll have to hit my library up for some books on the subject. Thanks for the stroll through the cemetery, I'm going to try that, call out their names, I've read them but never have called them out loud. You and Helen have a great week ahead.
Thank you
Thank you for that video, everyday is a school day, I live in this mindset but had no idea is was called that, I absolutely love the idea of saying out the names on the headstones, I personally adopt the idea of what others think is non of my business and as long walk my time on earth happy and not intentionally harmful I am OK with that, good luck
Sounds like I've been practicing stoicism without even knowing it was a thing. My mum always said ignore negatively and my Dad said don't let the bar stewards grind you down. Trouble is with social media is everyone gets a say and the negative comments stand out..I self deprecate to, say it yourself first funnier than them 😊
Nice walk James, I work around there and there are some beautiful places
James been to Wentworth a few times. Your channel really growing but unfortunately as percentages grow obviously bad comments will grow.
Best one heard from a channel yesterday.
Always known for saying hope you all ok...but then turned round and said, to all those that don't like me hope you are ok also.
Great saying from Liam the terrible.... If nothing nice to say, then don't say it at all,you don't know what damage it will do .
Great video really made sense.
Had a lot of trouble as a kid being able to form Friendships and coming over as aloof and ignorant towards others i was diagnosed with autism as an adult which explained a lot ...dealing with negative comments and people who to be fair don't understand that I struggle to deal with life in the same way they Do has got easier as time has gone on ......sense of humour helps and understanding how to be happy in isolation from others
Excellent, thoughtful video. I like how you talk about ways of responding to situations. Responding not reacting gives agency, doesnt it.
Also, being harassed, by two bees ... or not two bees 😉
Wonderful stroll through the countryside James! I really enjoyed the content & would love to see more like this😊 you’re handsome & witty as ever, Helen is a very lucky woman 😊
James that was a beautifull walk and very interesting your such a great bloke look forward to your chats🌈🌈
Fellow Stoic here James. When i started reading the philosophy it just seemed to fit me straight away. I found myself just nodding with agreement all the time.
For me, it makes you realise just how unimportant most things are.
Well done fella.
Thank you mate. I think stoicism should be taught at school
@@bythecurb Oh don't get me started on that one mate.... I'd love to add a few things to the curriculum. Financial advice, What is credit?, What is a mortgage?, How to start a buisness, Self assessments, to name a few.
But we can't educate people too well can we or they might break free.
Great video thank you x
I cut out negative people in my life. I try to always be nice and love doing random acts of kindness. I hate it when I see someone like yourself get negative comments. I follow a few channels and the owners of them are all saying the same thing. They are fed up of the trolls. What is it with some people? A great walk, at one with nature. 👍
Absoultely cracking video James, I find myself agreeing with you on the topics you spoke about, I'm 59 now, but as a younger man I worried about my 'image' and what others may think of me all the time, but now, I simply don't care, don't get me wrong, I treat everyone I meet with respect and don't go out of my way to offend people, but if, for whatever reason someone takes a dislike to me, then that is their right and therfore their problem as I don't care one iota. And talking of self depravation, I could never in a thousand years be described as a handsome man, in fact, when I was born my incubator had tinted windows and the midwife slapped my Dad!, I'm that ugly even the tide wouldn't take me out...but..I've still managed to find a loving and caring Lady and we;ve been together for 14 happy years now, so that's me 1 The Universe 0...I'm loving this channel and see you and Helen as a couple of mates, mates I'll almost certenly never meet in 'real life' but mates all the same....Go steady our kid ! 😄👍
Thank you, that is a funny and moving story. We are all mates on here