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I saw a shorts video of someone who's like "How to get a glow up when your 10!" 10 years old. That is how bad this has gotten. We DO NOT need to change ANYTHING about ourselves.
it's crazy how like 6-9 year olds are getting into skincare, idc if you like it blah blah blah but imo at that age you are so young you don't need it, and if you have been doing that since you how 8 or whatever, ofc your going to have good skin but it's going to start to feel like you aren't complete without it. you shouldn't use it unless you need to.
The worrying thing is that this is also seems like a way to normalize peds. They lose the visual stigma of going after a young girl because that girl is dressing up as a 22 yo and it sometimes is convincing. That is scary to think about.
That clip of Kim Kardashian saying that she looks the way she does because she wakes up every day and puts in the work makes me irrationally angry. It makes it seems like it's feasible for every woman to look like her, and that if you don't, you're just not working hard enough. Let's not pretend that there aren't thousands of dollars involved.
Also for a „normal“ woman with a regular desk job and maybe kids at home, that has to do cooking, groceries, cleaning and watching the kids, it isn‘t really realistic to put one hour at the gym on top on all of that. Kim Kardashian should really check her privilege.
nothing about that anger is irrational; it’s 100% reasonable and deserved. she’s conning every woman into thinking they’re lazy, when really they just aren’t pumped with silicone once a week.
Literally. And tbh I don't even find her that attractive. These days is more like popular = attractive and everyone wants to look like that certain person. For me the average natural girl ist prettier than her.
Something my dad said when I was younger has always stuck with me. I was picking on myself for being short and having a weirdly proportioned waist, and he said to me, "Your legs are long enough to reach the ground, right? Your body holds your organs in correctly? Then they're perfect for you." That should be the standard people hold themselves to. We should value our bodies being functional and doing what's necessary, rather than valuing a butt so much we risk dying doing surgery to get it. The butt is not functional and it's not necessary. And in 2021 we should not be reducing a whole person to their butt, we should be seeing them as a person.
And I don't even think that he lied to you just to make you feel better. It's very true that most people are born with the most perfect balance for their bodies to function properly. However imo it doesn't stop at how the body functions. It actually extends to aesthetics as well. Most people already have their own balance that if they try to "fix" something, they can easily mess up that balance and end up looking worse than before or wanting more plastic surgery to restore that balance. So if it's not broken, don't fix it. Most of the time it's not worth going under the knife just to mess up that balance.
this trend of young girls doing really mature makeup, dressing "sexy", and generally aiming for a polished-over-normal-teen look started to hit a few years after I graduated from high school and it was so weird to see people I *knew* were children look older than me. I'm so glad I got to be messy and bizarre at fifteen. these girls deserve that🦆
I just view this as the beauty arms race. Marketing is so heavily towards making someone attractive and it works especially well with woman. You have seen it trying to pop up in males spaces but have never really gotten much traction as most guys have a default look that makes them easily identified. It should be hell trying to compare with photoshop and surgery at such a young age. At the very least with guys we can say if we just go to the gym we can get those nice bodies and or cheat by steroids.
the scary thing about the internet is that you see all of these “perfect” people to the point where it seems like everyone in the world is perfect except you, but then you go out in public and realize that at least 90% of people don’t actually look like that. and it doesn’t help that we’ve basically had to self isolate for the past year.
We really need to foster an “anti-trend” and “body neutrality” movement, where we promote an indifferent take to our own bodies that doesn’t focus on being “beautiful” and also promote the idea that not following trends isn’t “uncool”. Being authentically yourself should be the most celebrated thing today
This was amazing! I’m a 58 year old grandmother of 3 beautiful girls. 17, 13, 12. I see the pressures they are under to be acceptable, your message is so important and thank you for bringing this to light.😊
@@lunakey2033 It is not capitalism. It is corporatism. Two completely different things. Capitalism doesn't exist anymore. That started dying in the 80s when corporatism took over.
I myself am a young girl. Society has so differently shaped young girls and their standards of beauty and their standards of what is not beauty or what is not accepted. It frickin sucks that people cant wear things they like bcs its " childish" or "weird". Theres been an over-sexualisation of teenage and even younger girls.
As a younger girl absolutely yes, the insecurity that me and many of my friends have because of the toxic and unrealistic beauty standards is kinda scary. Ik so many people that have developed eating disorders because of tik tok, including myself. I know fully well that most of these bodies I see are not natural and it unrealistic of me to try to achieve it, but the damage is already done. Lol kinda sad but ig this is the world we live in 🎺
i would absolutely hate to be a young girl rn. i remember when i was younger i was SO insecure.. and social media rly wasn’t much of a thing. yeah we had myspace and then facebook and in HS instagram began to be a thing but we all had like razor phones or ENV3’s. then in HS iphones and such but it wasn’t at allllll what it’s like today. i feel so terrible for the younger generation growing up and developing their self awareness and self love during this time 😕
as a brazilian woman, i really need to say that most of us doesn't even look like this, i can't find the "inspiration" that they say it's from us bc we have NORMAL bodies, with so many types around, like any part of the world, it's so crazy how society lies about everything just for women feels bad abt themselves.
I don't think it's based on brazilian women but really named after the "Brazilian" plastic surgeon Ivo Pitanguy. But the rest of your comment is really relevant, most women don't look that curvy and we do need to start normalizing regular bodies.
I get what y’all are saying, but foreigners do have this image of us I understand it wasn’t named after Brazilian women, but they have been objectified like that one image of bbl for as long as I can remember
@@SleepingDreamer16 that surgery took brazil as an "inspiration" since here we have this body shape as a type of "perfect body" and the 1st surgery was here too, so yeah... That's so sad bc we have a lot of diversity here and most of us aren't even curvy like that.
I dont know actually, I'm brazilian so I do actually know as well, but most people I've seen here have wider hips like all my aunts and sister (Even tho we're white), but of course it's not like the BBL which is extreme. What I'm trying to say is that this trend pushes the common bodytype to an extreme, yet I don't see much people who are flat, since most of us are mixed and have indigenous or black people in our families.
Im a Woman. Ive been through all of the self consciousness, the awkwardness, the wanting to be liked/attractive. I DO "understand". As a 45 year old wizened old lady, lemme tell you young girls something solid. never hold yourself to trends. the people who actually, truly love you, will love you for who is inside, not what you look like.. So basically, worry more about whether you're a mean asshole, and less about if your ass/hair/clothes are trendy. 🦆
17:33 this “preteens don’t exist anymore” section really gave me whiplash, especially the part about young girls being terrified of looking their age. my little sister is 14 atm, but she was 13 when she first told me she wants to get lip fillers and an eyebrow lift. she can hardly stand even leaving the house without having makeup on. let me reiterate, she hasn’t even started high school yet; it’s so flat out disgusting and disheartening to see her so young and already so dissatisfied with her body and obsessed with not looking like she’s 14. i’m turning 18 in october and look more like a 14 year old than she does. society really needs to do better and realize how blatantly harmful normalizing all of these unrealistic expectations for women’s beauty truly is. it’s affecting kids who haven’t even finished going through puberty, and that’s just flat out disturbing 🦆
I worry about this once my daughter starts high school. She’s 14 but very kid like bc we do not allow social media. She just got a phone last year abd we monitor he app usages. Absolutely no Instagram or Snapchat or anything like that bc that crap just encourages horrible stuff. I am worried about her being bullied, I’m trying really hard to make her strong and opinionated and stern on her decisions.
@@yaderincrimin2973 I'm 16, and my parents still don't let me have Instagram and Snapchat- and I'm glad they don't. I don't think using those apps at any age would be good for a person's mental health and it was easier for me to accept it once I understood how much those apps could affect me. Starting high school and seeing all the other girls my age look like they're in their 20s made me question if there was something wrong with me, but becoming friends with like-minded people who looked our age sort of solved that problem.
@@yaderincrimin2973 that’s amazing actually, if you don’t mind, i suggest you tell her to take her stance and not let anyone belittle her just because she’s not doing something generic
@@yaderincrimin2973 my parents did the same thing with me, (smartphones & social media was just barely starting out) and they were pretty strict with that sorta thing. But my one way of expressing myself that they encouraged was allowing me to dye my hair. And that alone was enough to make me happy and expressive. So instead of being “the kid with no social media” I was “that guy with cool hair” I’m not a girl so maybe it’s a bit different, but I’m now 21 and have been styling/dying hair for about 10 years now. So from someone who had really strict parents, if she finds passion in something make sure to be supportive :) I wish her luck!
I agree and when older people call out these teens for acting like this people say they are jealous because they didn’t look this way or dress this way when they were teens and it’s honestly sad that people are trying to justify this behavior because these kids will grow up regretting the way they acted and wish they had just acted like kids
As time goes by, she will have more plastic surgery to correct how this plastic surgery drops and gets worse, heavily missing her natural body I predict.
Well, it's actually not that surprising or crazy really when you you take into account that she also still tries to convince the world that her family is the only females in existence that don't take sh*ts or pass gas ever! That family in general is a major part of the body issues females deal with nowadays thinking they're not pretty enough or skinny enough in the waist or big enough in the rear or full enough in the lips etc. yet people keep tuning into their show to watch the circus they call a family and they keep getting richer for it!!! "Keeping Up With The Kardashians" has never been a more realistic statement/title than it is right now since that exactly what all these people are trying so hard to do! It's sick that that family is all smiles (all be it fake smiles but smiles nonetheless) meanwhile knowingly encouraging young girls to hate themselves because they don't resemble them!!!
They're delusional. that stuff worked years ago when BBLs weren't as common. But now everyone and their mom has it that it's honselty shameful to even lie about it, just check the look on their face once they get asked if they had anything done.
I’m 14 and being in quarantine has warped my mind about how real skin looks. Everyone on social media has a filter on, airbrushed. I watched some tiktoks reminding how skin looks irl/natural lighting and I felt normal again.
I'm really glad people made a thing of showing off their "real skin" tbh. Your skin is an organ, and the way the flesh on your head folds doesn't really matter :) (except in terms of medical problems)
Had the same thing and I'm 21 years old.. I'm really glad videos like that exist. I recommend staying off of Instagram,,, at least that helped me lot because I didn't compare myself that much anymore
I totally agree with you. When I see people reminding how social media really warps your mind, it’s crazy how you have to take a step back into reality remembering we don’t look airbrushed all the time, and it’s normal to have texture! :)
Literally same!!! Same age and my skin isn't the greatest but l learned to be comfortable with it and starting high school in less than a month the insecurity is kinda coming back🙂
There was something beautiful about the preteen era. I wasn't afraid to be weird or express myself in unconventional ways. I had no sense of fashion but didn't care. I was a huge nerd and was in ten different fandoms. Looking back now, that era defined what kind of adult I turned into. The whole point of being a preteen for me was self discovery. Nowadays, people in the preteen age want to skip this crucial area by placing themself in this box created by beauty standards. It's like stunting your growth, not physically but mentally.
The whole pre-teen/teenage awkward stage is why I actually really liked the visco girl aesthetic. It was so simple and easy and childish. Much better than a lot of other trends these days.
And it was cheap too. It just requires the use of oversized tshirts, running shorts and big scrunchies. But ofc teen girls got made fun of for doing it because they were having fun at their own expense.
The trend of pre-teens/early teens "disappearing" is SO TRUE. I remember me and my friends looked like oily lil dumplings when we were 11-15, yet now I see students this age range wearing a full face of makeup everyday both in real life and social media. I'm not saying this is inherently bad, I would have done that if it was allowed back then. I'm just worried that girls aren't even allowed to be kids anymore. The moment they start bleeding they have to look tiktok ready. Their "glowup" is not makeup and clothes anymore, but glutathione drips and full body laser treatments. Is plastic surgery going to be the necessary next step? Scary.
I really pity today’s kids. We got to look like slugs rolled in moss and the only proof left are gloriously awful yearbook photos. Today kids are on camera always, of course they become self-conscious as soon as their brains are capable of such a thing.
I'm probably younger than you....I literally only wore makeup when I was 13-14 because of the crazy pressure to look a certain way. Now I'm so disgusted that we were sexualized at such a young age, I noticed it starting around 11-12 in my day but for some girls it could have started earlier.
I can also worry a little bit for my classmates. It isn’t fair that this is a world girls have to grow up in, being taught how they should look to appeal to boys from a very young age. Truth is, boys don’t care, but they’ve also been taught that if they see girls doing this it’s attention seeking and sl^tty. (At least my male classmates do this, a pair of them has yelled “cheap” at one of the girls after school hours)
"When we joke about something, we slowly start to normalize it," is exactly why "it's just a joke" will never be a valid excuse for "joking" about situations and traumas that aren't yours to joke about. Well said, great video!
I agree!! That's y I hate stand up comedy (cause many comedians do that) and dark humor and will always hate those things And Im done a long time ago trying to understand y some of my friends enjoy it so much Idc if I'm labeled as not having a sense of humor At least I'm not joking with serious issues and offending some ppl
not really.. humans use comedy as a relief from the bad reality. so, just because you make a joke about a certain topic, it doesn't necessarily mean that you are normalizing that..
Crazy thing is how if you find a good partner, you'll notice that the body trends don't matter to them. You're a person, not an advertisement!! Good partners who are attracted to you won't suddenly stop if the current trend doesn't suit you!!
🦆 as a 17 year old girl, I'm so grateful that you are talking about how toxic trends on social media are being normalised. Personally I think that we need to all accept the way we look...natural is beautiful and our authentic selves :)
I agree. I’m a girl and I’m in 8th grade right now and- Can’t we just love ourselves for who we are? When I look at someone I don’t think about the things they need to change about themselves, and I wish people wouldn’t do that to themselves either. If people want to strive for beauty then good for them, but if their doing it because it’s a trend or because it’s what other people want then that just toxic- I wish people would just stop what their doing, look in the mirror, and say “you know what? I look good as hell today, and I don’t need to change the way I look”
I agree that we should all love ourselves. That being said, if you really really are uncomfortable with your body then I believe that you should be able to hav plastic surgery. I do NOT agree that trends should be forced and kinda brainwashing kids into thinking plastic surgery is supposed to make other people think youre hotter. Or you’ll be more attractive if you get plastic surgery, instead of feeling better about yourself. The trends like these in this video are disgusting. Sorry if I don’t make sense I’m really bad at conveying my beliefs and opinions haha! Have a wonderful day! ❤️
Body acceptance is also accepting and understanding that people have free will and the right to do what they want to their bodies, without judgment or, the expectation of needing an explanation of the reasons behind their actions. I think that people need to sit their kids down and explain how much work goes into a photo that is meant for marketing. There is lighting, make up, padding, spanks, corsets, tights, high heels, camera tricks and if all else fails, photo shop and filters. Not everyone discusses how much those photos are fluffed.
I'm sick of people acting like changing your whole being in order to fit into a mold is empowering. It's not. It's messed up. I saw a quote on tumblr which pretty much hits the nail. "If beauty is pain WE NEED TO HEAL"
More like we need to excise the tumor that is body type trends and insane "beauty standards". Reject them. I flipped the middle finger to the computer screen so many times while she was talking, and that's how we should treat this pressure and messages about the ideal body type and all that crap.
This is not fitting in the society, coz society is made of real good peoples wearing descent and modest clothing to work and school, not that image the elites ( who mostly live out of mom and dad wealth and internet, modeling or influancing income or Sug.Dads money ) want to portrait as day to day life image, but i rather stick with my non make up face, chemicals spotless and wrinkleless face and my sweat pants and over baggy shirts and caps, at least i feel good and i don't have sores or blisters on my feet for wearing heels and wierd shoes
I agree 100% with you. This is why I love seeing people with average/usual body types in social media. People with scars, acne, stretch marks, cellulite… not the Instagram “perfect skin” type. I literally unfollowed so many people during 2020 that only made me feel bad about myself. I didn’t need that kind of energy during a worldwide pandemic.
@@_fussyfangs good for you, we don't need fake BS... let that naturel beauty shine... real body positivity is accepting our flaws while taking care of the inside... BE YOUR HEALTHY SELF ...🥰👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
We should really start teaching kids self love instead of exposing them to toxic beauty standards, because people out here dying for a look that won't be in style 10 years from now...
it frustrates me so much when people try to spin plastic surgery as "i'm fixing an insecurity therefore it's empowering" when you need to take into consideration where that insecurity is coming from--racism, xenophobia, the patriarchy, or all of the above lmao 🦆
agreed !! a lot of the time when people say they’re getting surgeries for themselves, they actually mean that they think a part of their body doesn’t fit the beauty standard so they want to change it so they appear more attractive. this isn’t said for everybody obviously but a good 99%
this is why I dislike the "lipgloss-girlboss 💅✨" type of feminism. It doesn't really focus on empowering women and protecting them, especially WOC and trans women, it literally grooms them to imitate those unrealistic body standards created by patriarchy, racism, xenophobia, and anti-semitism but because of "I'm doing this for me not for men or someone else!1!1!" a lot of people don't even try to dig a bit further into this topic because those who criticize these very unethical procedures are considered to be "pick-me" when it's completely not the case 😐
When I was very young, I asked my mom, why all the models on TV were so thin (it was in 00s). She told me, that it was easier to make clothes for thinner women and the amount of cloth needed is less. So it's cheeper to have very thin girls when there should be a lot of clothes changing. It made so much sense for me, that I never was following that exessive thinness standard. Thx, mom!
Ooh nice explanation! I don't know if it's actually true, but I quite like it, because it doesn't make you feel bad for not looking like the the models
Honestly, that's kind of a sweet explanation. It shows good parenting if you're willing to protect your child from beauty standards, reminds me a lot of my mom, actually. Since she would usually make up a logical explanation for me, so I could avoid believing something true, yet dangerous. I also like the idea that it does partially teach an economic lesson. "Even large companies don't have infinite money."
I can attest for at least 99% of guys. We don’t expect girls to harm themselves or risk their lives. Don’t settle for the few that would have you do it.
@@phantomfreeman283 there's a lot of guys that would rather have a woman risk her life just to look the way he wants her to. im glad that you're trying to send a positive message but you haven't seen the media at all ig.
As someone who has a natural hourglass, and being AFAB, the amount of people who have sexualised me over the years over just my body has made me learn to dislike my own body. I don’t understand why people are willingly get body types like mine when the repercussions societal wise are terrible.
Same, I’m in an European country but I have the same body bc of genes but I’m the only person in the class and the only one in my family with that body and it just makes me even more insecure..😅
Because we're taught that cis mens attention is the pinnacle for us, that we won't get a good partner, job, won't be loved even platonically etc unless we meet that standard, and yet, when we actually do we also get told we have to give up our autonomy, no matter what, we don't win.
As someone with a natural hourglass and a cute face it's actually an asset especially when seeking a partner. I've experienced sexual harassment but so have my female friends and acquaintances across age groups and irrespective of their body type. I haven't experienced more sexual harassment than the next petite girl even if she's boxy. So anecdotally I disagree with you and believe it's our gender that invites the harassment. Not necessarily body type. There's no escaping it as a woman.
I appreciate you sharing your experience, but this honestly comes across as an intentionally obtuse humblebrag. Are you actually unaware of the fact that there are beauty trends and that the hourglass figure has been prized for decades? There's no way you're so confused. Women's bodies are sexualized and those are your secondary sexual characteristics.
@@sinch4044why is this a humblebrag, the video is about this topic. As someone in a similar boat, to receive sexual comments is damaging to your self esteem, especially if those genes kick in at an impressionable age. Maybe not all struggles are equal but there is just as much valid struggle that comes from being sexualized for your looks as there is from being shamed for other traits.
normalize just looking like yourself. society makes us think that we have to look a certain way to feel beautiful and loved when in reality it’s the complete opposite. People love others who are genuine and aren’t afraid to express that about themselves. its so empowering to see people embrace their insecurities hence inspiring others to do so too! it’s sad how out of touch modern beauty standards have become and how it’s affecting women who feel less beautiful because of it. our insecurities are beautiful, it’s what makes us human in the first place.
Daaamm,well f***ing said!!! **#agreed** I'm ashamed,embarrassed&disgusted to b a female nowadays!!! Its all that&more for other females BC all they do is bash&put down other females BC they don't look like they're "supposed to"! U supposed to look like u not a dam plastic freak!! **#loveurself**. Women should encourage&be kind to other females BC at the end of the day, there's so much more we go thru &have to deal w&get criticized,by other women, just puts that push that leads to self harm&suicide!!!! So,stop it u cruel ass cu**s!! U don't know sh** about anyone else&what they go thru on a day to day bases! Do u really wanna b that bi*** that says that one word to make a girl kill herself BC she's not what U think she should look like?? R u really that much of a cu** that u want that on ur conscience!!?? I know I sure don't!! Ladies, smile at one another!! Compliment one another!!! TRUST ME,IT GOES ALOOOONG WAY!! #ucouldsavealife #bekind #BEREALREAL P.S. this narrator has ASMR voice!!! Its so satisfying! Lol #subcribed
I don't have an issue with famous people getting surgery, and I don't think they by default have to disclose those surgeries, but if you are selling BEAUTY AND FITNESS PRODUCTS and someone straight up asks, I think think there's almost a legal obligation to not lie about it
The fact is, beauty standards are all about the riches. In eastern asia, the beauty standard was to be pale and small, to look fragile, why? Because only the royals(back then) and the rich have the privilege to just laze around under the shade, not working out in the field under the sun, thus not developing darker skin(tan) and more muscle. In some poorer countries, being plump is a beauty standard cause it means ur rich enough to eat more and not starve yourself. A couple years ago, being skinny and tan was considered pretty in the western, because only the rich have the privilege to go to the tropicals and tan under the sun. And since food is already taken for granted for most people in the developed countries, being thin by eating healthier, eating less, working out, is a privilege for those who can afford the time and money. Today, the unnatural beauty standard is something only the rich and the privileged can afford. The normal working class wouldn’t have the money to go get a surgery or the time to do both the surgery and the recovery time needed to heal. Long story short, these beauty standards are set by rich people because they want to be different. You dont have to look like them. As long as you’re healthy, I think that’s enough. Why bother going to such length for a trend that will eventually shift? Living is already hard, dont make it even harder for yourself.
The european standard just turned into black women body shapes that black women don't get love for. Like how black women be shaped like this forever and nobody showed love until that dumbie Kim went and manufactured an ass
It is even more complicated: what you describe is the norm for the rich, not for the independently rich and powerful. If you are rich enough, you can look whatever you like again. Nobody will judge you.
"Body neutrality is far more important than body positivity." Well said, salem. Figured it out when i was a teen, still struggling to get the body hair off the right places, the lipstick exactly the right color, and the clothing perfectly disguising every part of my body that i didnt love. I could never do enough, so I guess i was forced to love myself.
body neutrality comes before body positivity. body positivity was meant for the plus size bodies- and other women with features that don't fit a beauty standard. i totally agree with you so don't take this wrongly. just thought this would be a good add for the convo.
Interesting how 'body neutrality' versus 'body positivity' regarding physical health can be paralleled with 'acute self-awareness' versus 'self-indifference' regarding mental health. I understand and agree that body positivity has been helpful to push back against the stigma of female beauty standards; I just find it interesting how, when we start to delve more into the psychology of the issue of increasing obesity rates, there's a consensus that 'indifference' is the ultimate goal to escape societal standards and attain true healthiness, whether it be regarding physical appearance or our social selves.
I’ve never worn makeup and I don’t intend on it It alters how I really look and I really like how I really look I’ll never get any type of plastic surgery Because I need to work out and make an effort to get the shape I want I’m me and no weird disgusting substance will change that
Something that I find important to mention about the Victorian era of fashion: yes the thin waist was the fashionable figure, but very few women actually tight-laced their corset at the time. The silouhette was created with an optical illusion: with a well fitted corset and an ample skirt, the waist appears thinner without needing to actually reduce its circumference to the point that it became painfull, or even harmfull for the health. At the time, the beauty standards were a lot more achievable by a wide variety of women because those standards were in the clothes, not in the body type.
Yup,im a huge history and fashion history nerd so when i see people talking about corsets as if they were torture devices i get very angry.And before anyone brings up the fashion plates or portraits or photos where women have extremely small waists,photo retouching was a thing and for portraits there was a filter called "i payed you for this painting",just as we today photoshop ourselves to look thinner,curvier,flawless and overall to fit the standards,victorian would do things to seem like they were flawless and perfect
This is why I love Dr Youn. He actively discourages these procedures and warns people of the dangers, discourages casual sexism, and encourages people to love and take care of themselves first and not worry so much about how they look.
Dr. Youn has mentioned that he has colleagues that he trusts with BBLs specifically. He DOES warn that even if they may be good at it, there's still dangers!
My literal 9 year old (female) cousin is so obsessed with being skinny and beautiful, she constantly worries about what she eats and if her face is oily or dirty. And though I try to explain to her that none of that matters because she is just a child, she keeps worrying and obsessing over the way she looks. It makes me feel so sad, that beauty standards are even affecting a kid that shouldn't have to be thinking of all that stuff at all!! :( edit: Thanks for the advice to everyone who replied! I will see if I can talk to her more in depth this weekend about this type of stuff. She's such a sweet girl and I would hate if she developed problems as time went by!
@@jingbahurfavboobah6748 right. im 14 now but up until last year I'd never cared that much about my body. it's really upsetting kids so young have unrestricted access to the internet. im terrified of not being pretty enough and it's so toxic
My favourite vine goes: "I love myself even though I look like a burnt chicken nugget I still love myself" and baby I live by those wise words everyday. Love yourself beautiful nuggets 💙💙
The fact that there’s no more room for preteens in modern society is horrifying, everybody needs to have that awkward phase where you figure out who you are!! It’s part of life, thank you for bringing this up 🦆🦆 💖💖
The idea of barely being an adult or even still being a teen and literally modifying your body for a trend that will go away in less than a decade is asinine to me. For many, it doesn’t lessen the insecurity. I’m small for a 14 year old (5’2 with almost no curves). My spine curves more than my body because of scoliosis lol. It almost feels like not being content with my body is an expectation. I’d rather work out and bring the body I was born with to its full potential than to risk my health for an insecurity. I don’t wanna be sexy. I don’t even want to be attractive. I just wanna be ME.
I stopped growing in the 4th grade. I'm under 5'2" and an not curvy either. It's embarrassing being 33 years old without them, but that's the way I'm built. Working out to gain a booty has helped, but no matter what our bodies are sexualized :/. It is difficult being happy with yourself and wanting to fit in with standards. Just know you are not the only one with your body type, and you're still changing so in the next 5 years you may still be slim or more filled out. Either way, you're a perfect version of YOU.
🦆 It’s a horrible cycle. Surround yourself with women who empower you to be the best version of yourself from the inside out. Thank you for bringing this subject to light.
Honestly, it's exhausting to always be pushed to be the best version of myself. I've lost friends who just wouldn't leave me to exist in peace and mediocrity when I felt like it. I'd rather surround myself with women who take me at face value and if i want to get up off my ass and do something then they support me, but if I want to spend my day sleeping then they support that too. You don't have to be the best version of yourself, you just have to be.
@@jaggerra7 Glad you mentioned this, it's important, cause otherwise it just gives off pressured vibes. "Best selves" means living your truth! Enjoying, being in good spaces mentally/emotionally/spiritually. The people around you reflect a genuine love and understand life happens! Who doesn't wanna sleep and have a lovely day or two inside x
Honestly, if older women and their voices weren't so often erased, maybe us younger women would have people to look up to and listen to, and someone's confidence to feed off of. Seeing and interacting with older, positive female role models always does way more for me than a pinterest quote or infographic. The erasure of older women is by design, and has effects further reaching than insecurity about appearance.
"Beauty is pain." "But it doesn't have to be." THIS IS WHY I LOVE YOU,Literally facts.Keep on doing what your doing bc I appreciate you sm and look up to you♡ BTW your so fabulous😭🩷
My ex husband pressured me to get a BBL and other surgeries. I'm so happy I didn't. Sadly from the relationship, I have severe body dysmorphia to the point sometimes I can't even leave the house. I'm slowly learning to love myself. But I'm glad I didn't let a toxic man try to change me.
Because you KNEW that what he was trying to get you to do is BS and you chose YOURSELF over HIM. Idk you but I’m so proud you found the dignity in yourself to distance yourself from him to work on yourself. You’ll be healed in no time, I’m sure. God bless and NEVER change for ANYBODY but YOURSELF.
As a 12 year old, my mom told me to watch this to learn on how to love your bodies and not to change them. Thank you and you really helped me learn more on the "bbl effect" on tiktok and the info about it
I’ve never liked my flat chest and the unattainable goal of loving it only pushed me further from accepting my body. It was only recently that I started looking in the mirror and saying “ah, I have a flat chest. Cool. Anyway…” that I’ve actually been able to get away from self-hatred. I don’t know if I’ll ever “love” my flat chest (seems a bit vain), but I recognize it as a functioning part of my anatomy that I don’t hate anymore, and that’s enough.
i refuse to use tiktok because i already know what i would find there, but i still find it entertaining and interesting to listen to you talk about it.
If only we could go back to the trend of using clothes to alter our shape to fit what's in style (corset padding, petticoats, etc) instead of literally altering bodies to fit what's in style.
Corsets were also really useful for the vertebral column and prevented bad posture, which can cause diseases. So yeah, we should bring back corsets. Not for beauty standards, but for their utility :3 Edit: I said that they "were" because now we obviously have better methods to cure vertebral column diseases (and I EDIT again because I just noticed that I called "vertebral column problems" the problems caused by having big breasts, I'm sorry for this error I'm not this fluent in English and I don't know medical therms etc) and pls don't wear corsets tight-laced or everyday Bye stay safe~
@@cronekat4876 physical therapist assistant here - no, corsets are absolutely not good for the body and do not help with posture in the long run. By forcing "good" posture, they make it so that a person doesn't have to use their postural muscles to hold themselves up, which can cause atrophy/extreme weakness which will actually make their posture much worse. They may be useful for people with conditions that cause abdominal/postural weakness, but even in that case, a brace is a much better option. Corsets (edit: I specifically mean older-style corsets, not properly fitting modern ones) may also impair breathing ability which can cause long-term damage (it's theorized that this may have contributed to women fainting easily back when items like corsets were popular wear). And if they're too tight, they can literally compress your internal organs and alter the shape of your ribs (which - again - impairs your ability to breathe). They definitely should not be brought back.
when you said “i’m sick of being told its empowering”... god, i felt that so hard. they shove so much stuff in our faces and tell us it’s “empowering” when really they just want us to be insecure so we spend more trying to look perfect
Why is sexualizing yourself (and spending money on that ofc) considered empowering if you're a woman? What actually gives you power is financial independence and stability, education, confidence, and knowing how to defend yourself.
Body neutrality. YES. Something in me as a child recognized that I had no interest in being found desirable or beautiful to men. It was freeing. And you know what? My husband is so attracted to me because of who I am. So despite what my father told me, I attracted my soul mate without bowing down to society's fickle opinion of my outward beauty.
That sounds like my life too haha. It's so great. My man loves me and finds me extremely attractive and I don't even try - we just love each other for who we are.
as a brazilian I think it's terrible, not only the unrealistic standards, but the sexualization of brazilian women around the world, honestly, there is so many racism and sexism on our on country, and the rest of the world have a wrong and sexualized image of our bodies, it's exausting. (sorry if i made a grammar mistake or anything)
Nss, ss mano! Tipo, eu lembro que um dia eu contei pra um cara estadunidense que eu era brasileira e a primeira coisa que ele fez foi falar de como ele achava que era o corpo das mulheres brasileiras e tals.. mano, a gente tinha uns 12 anos kk
@@yenivah.4986 Not only about that, but the latina's bodys is sexualized a lot, and also brazilian women is know its mostly know about the bbl and brazilian wax.
@@sallytimko866 yeah she is actually explaining how this whole thing rose to prominence unlike some other videos who just put down the people who got the procedure done.
I’m nearly 18 and people always say I look younger than I am. I don’t, people are just used to literal children dressing up as adults to the point where if somebody doesn’t have a full face of makeup, very on trend clothes etc then they are perceived as young, innocent etc
Promise , looking younger then what you really are is a blessing in your older years I use to feel the same way as you when I was younger and would get offended.
It was always such a trip to work the Dominican Republic flights back when I was a flight attendant. We always called for several wheelchairs ahead of time because we knew we would have a BBL line. It was insane
Not just surgery, but access to the best trainers, dermatologists, chefs that can make them healthy food, daily makeup artists etc. Like sure lots of “work” goes into that, but it’s difficult when you’re whole job is to look good. The average person has to do actual work and then try to live up to those standards with less time and money
@@RG-jf5ep they also perpetuate the lie that all they do is go to the gym, where their waist trainers and drink that nasty flat tummy tea and you can look exactly like that like that's all that goes into it like they don't have a team that works together to help them look like that
I think that as a 13 years old, being told that I dress childish is genuinely annoying to me. Yeah. I dress childish. I'm a child. All of the girls around me want to look more than their age, and because of that I feel like I'm dressing up like a crybaby when really, it's just what I am as a 13 years old. Some people in my school tell me that I dress like a child, but I /am/ one. I've been told by my mom so many times to not dress too childish, but I /am/ a child, how do you want that to not happen ? I'm not gonna try to look like a sixteen years old girl. edit : thank you all for the kind replies!
I was 13 in a time where dressing like a child was normal, I’m sorry you have pressure to dress differently, please don’t let people get in your head. Your body is your temple protect it.
I can’t imagine getting a BBL only for others to say “damn, her ass is big”. The price tag (the money, the threat it has to my life, AND the physical pain) is definitely not worth the cheap compliments for me. It’s just sad that some of these women are so hooked up on acceptance from others that they begin to lose themselves.
i think a huge issue is ppl don't know how dangerous it is like i did research bc i wanted it but even if you go to a great surgeon it can be deadly and i saw the surgery done and its so brutal
Yea I have a naturally huge ass and believe me having men comment on your body parts every time you leave the house is annoying at best. Some days it’s really scary
@@bariatric-parasite A lot of ppl copy what they see because they saw someone else with it. They have commercials coming on promoting it! However nobody is talking a what happens when you get it done. How long it lasts, what has to be fixed down the line and how much touch up and maintenance goes along with it! The BBL isn't just a one and done surgery.
I've been feeling down on my body lately after being sick for a long time. I cried at rhe end of this video, no lie. I was never considering plastic surgery but I needed that message. And thank you for bringing light to the harm in calling this "empowering"
“The more that we come to self acceptance the more that we erase that stupid quote ‘ beauty is pain’ but it doesn’t have to be.” - Salem Tovar You did that!!!!👏🏿🦆
One thing abt the kardasians that I will never understand is the fact that they sat there and lied about putting out unattainable beauty standards when we all know they got plastic surgery and I don’t have a problem with plastic surgery my problem is when people don’t admit to it that’s when you put out these unrealistic beauty standards
Frrrr like at least be honest and open about it. i don't think it's bad to get plastic surgery, but don't pretend like y'all are natural 💀 that's hella toxic
You have to remember that they themselves most likely have body dysmorphia. And I know I know, "poor little rich girls", but mental health issues don't pick and choose who they affect.
Not a woman, but “you are more than your body” made me tear up. That’s the exact thing Ive needed to hear for over a year. It’s got nothing to do with body image but rather r*pe. I’ve been told since it happened that my body’s not mine anymore. But those six words are exactly what I needed to hear.
Just because that happened, doesn’t mean your body isn’t yours! I know what you mean though. Regardless, it’s true, you are more than your body. I wish you the best of luck for your recovery and health. Take your time, it’s in reach 💖
i remember once in health class back in middle school, they taught us about people doing plastic surgery and teaching that our bodies are fine the way they are. The articles we read made me so uncomfortable that someone would chose to provedurally change their body made me cry in the middle of class
🦆As a 14 year old who has had insecurities about myself, this video changed SO much for me and I appreciate everything these ladies said and explained, because its all very true. I agree that normal bodies should be normalized and loved just the same as everybody else's bodies. About the people pretending to be different races, that is just crazy and needs to stop. Thanks for this video 💞
Keep your head up and that attitude in mind. Never put the "ideal" ahead of your health and safety. I truly hope you can learn to fully care for your body as the vessel that carries your soul. ❤️ Nourish it, feed it, adorn it, and exercise it in ways that benefit your emotional and physical health. ❤️
so glad to hear hunny 💗 when I was 14, I too was so insecure, and I felt like I was never enough. Seven years later, I have grown a courage to be myself and follow my heart, and my perspective on beauty has changed so much. Trust me, girl, beauty is all within, and all about being bold enough to be YOU! Own who you are and you will be deeply loved and respected!
The whole “I do it for myself” thing is a copout so you don’t have to admit you’ve been heavily pressured by society. Whether it’s subconscious or conscious. 🦆
I’m positive there are legit people out there who do do certain things “for themselves”, but it seems like it would be hard to tell the difference between doing what you genuinely want to do regardless of what you are pressured to do versus being convinced you want something by others/your insecurities. It’s kinda scary thinking about how many decisions aren’t entirely your own, huh?
Right, they “do it for yourself” then talk about it all the time, make hundreds of posts about it. How about instead of plastic surgery for yourself, practice self love and meditation for yourself
@@wistfuloptimist1238 the only way to tell if a person is doing it for themselves is if they don’t consume any media promoting beauty standards, aren’t comparing their bodies with anyone and also aren’t teased by anyone to look a certain way
If it’s “truly” done for yourself, I feel you’d be happy to get it without the need to ever post about it (photos, status, etc). Then yes, because you wouldn’t be looking for any external validation, only what you see with your own eyes
Now thin is ‘in’ again and Kim got her implants downsized and everybody’s got Ozempic face. It really is so true that our bodies themselves are the trend. “Oh honey hands are soooo last season. Drop those and maybe we’ll talk.” *Model gets hands amputated* Next season: “Oh girl, why’d you ever lose those beautiful hands?! We’re going to need you to get those back.”
As someone who's old enough to remember the 90s, and seeing a lot of 90s and early 2000s trends coming back around again - I seriously worry for the inevitable moment in which this ideal shape begins to shrink again and all these girls seriously regret these extreme surgeries. And when it comes to history, the fashionable "shape" had far more to do with the shape of your clothing than the body beneath it. Corsets were not commonly tight-laced up until the late 1800s, but padded in certain areas and then tighter in others to create a dress silhouette. And even when tighter corsets did come in, they ONLY tightened at the waist, while everything else was quite loose or padded to create a sort of curvature. Now your actual body is expected to change versus your clothes.
Yes 90's and early 2000's was all about being skinny and full of anorexia. Some women were naturally that way though. The problem is that these are super unnatural standards today that almost nobody can attain w/out plastic surgery.
It was extremely rare for somebody to tight-lace their corset. Even when it became more common to rely a little more on the reduction caused by the corset, it wouldn't be tight-laced to a dangerous extent. As you said, They mainly relied on padding in other areas, alongside larger skirts and sleeves, to create an illusion of whatever the fashionable silhouette was at the time.
I remember *really* hoping it would happen because I hated Tik Tok. It does a lot more harm than good, but sadly it stayed. I'm nervous that it'll continue and influence the new generation in a negative way (I've already seen it already a LOT)
what you said about body neutrality over body positivity is so important because saying that every body is beautiful is feeding into the societal narrative that beauty is all that matters because our body’s aren’t built to be beautiful they’re built to keep us alive and that is OKAY
I had this argument with my sister as well and I was like, why do we have to set a standard for beauty why can't we just take a person as they are and call them beautiful.... Eh idk, I'm not concrete on this opinion myself so...
I really like how you mentioned that once we joke about a topic long enough it gets normalized because 11 year old me never thought saying "im gonna k-word myself" at any minor problem was wrong because everyone around me was doing the same thing. Now that I'm 17 I realized how effed up and wrong it is to joke about sensitive topics like that and that I was unknowingly part of the problem
Not to mention if you say it enough you can make it your reality. I took EDs as a theme for my diploma when I was 16 and decided to check if it's possible to foster them in a chubby child such as myself over the course of summer break. And I did. So well in fact that a decade later I can't find a way out.
ive always known that. imagine saying "kys" in an effort to be funny. like sorry to be that person but you never know whats going on with someone. especially in this time frame (where theres a lot of things going on in the world) its actually sick..
i work in hospitality and it’s something you’ll hear someone say on a daily basis. i also live in england where the phrase is pretty common. it’s definitely insensitive however as someone who was suicidal i honestly don’t really care who says it lol.
@@vwoom4861 dont got no problems w ur opinion. its just my take on it. i find it so weird that its just a regular thing now. no offense fr.. but most people who even use "kys" or "kms" usually arent able to make real jokes and throw that word around instead. "kys" = unfunny + no humor + no 🤷♀️ again if thats how u feel abt it then alr. i respect it
Being “flat” is not an issue and should never be an issue. People are seriously stupid for valuing a woman’s breasts and ass over her features that should already be seen as good enough.. It is the worst to see young women believe they are not good enough just because their bra sizes aren’t bigger than a B cup. We see women especially suffer from eating disorders all because of people’s opinions on how they look, how they should eat, and how much they should weigh. Be happy with who you are becoming and live in the moment. When you’re 70 you’ll look back on all those times and question why you ever payed attention to those who judged you. If finding that confidence takes you to wear some crazy costume or playing groovy tunes then DO IT! You are perfect with all of your “imperfections” the Universe has given you. They are yours and nobody else’s, and that is what makes you special.
I actually used to be upset with my body when I was 14 or 15. I still had the internet, but dang them promoting this stuff makes it so much worse. My solution to not having a flat stomach was to hold my stomach and tell myself there are organs in there. Its upsetting that some children would think the solution is surgery.
As a black girl teased about my full lips and hips growing up only for it to become a trend and have everyone pretty much look like me but not naturally it’s maddening lol but great video!
it’s horrible how white people/non black are getting surgery to mimic black features but would hate 2 b treated as a black person in society, and how black features are so fetishised by non black people :(
I remember my mom telling me about how when she was younger and had full lips, her classmates would call her "n-word lips" but saying the actual word. I can't imagine how it feels to see something you got bullied for become a trend.
Crazy to know what the desperation to be seen as attractive for the sake of society’s beauty standards and men can have women doing, right? The same girls/women who hated our features have switched tf up as soon as they realise that our features are considered sexually attractive to a large majority of men, moreso when they’re on non-black women. They’re willing to look like the people they talked down to and projected all types of hate onto because they’ve realised that looking like us is actually trendy now. It’s a very wild and twisted thing that’s happened.
@@응응-r6s I got made fun of as a black girl for those same features but now everyone wants to look like us I just don't understand why TwT. Every race is so pretty we should embrace our differences and appreciate our cool features :D
I'm so glad I came across this video I'm quite literally an emotional mess watching these flat-out toxic and unrealistic standards. Being raised with these pictures in magazines and Instagram/ Tiktok filters has taken a toll on my self-worth and views of how I should look what I should eat the sports I should play and how often I go to the gym. Thank you for calling people out on the misinformation being spread around the globe.
“And then when women with real, untouched bodies buy their outfits or their clothing, they’re severely disappointed because their clothing isn’t meant for people with normal bodies. They’re meant for women who have the perfect Instagram body” Yes! It feels like so much clothing is just not made for certain body types. It’s so hard to find clothes if you have an unusual body size.
Also that most clothing has a basic rectangle cut to make sewing easy while the clothing is altered to the model's measurements which makes it look more flattering than it is. Clips are also used to hide exess fabric so while the description says the model wear a S its not actually how the piece will look on costumers.
Ikr, every clothing shop in my zone have clothes meant for skinny, tall and flat women. Like, I don't have any problem with clothes for that specific body, but bruh, out there exists an enormous amount of patterns for every body type. Obviously they prioritice resources and money. I almost feel OBLIGATED to buy online rather than buying in a physic shop.
It's horrible that we are teaching men not to objectify women, but then we objectify our bodies through trends. It's really just a constant and exhausting cycle
@@nyumyu4265 I really don’t think they are. If I were to treat my body like an object, so much to the point where I am willing to literally get cut open and have all types of silicone and whatever else put into my body for the sake of wanting to sexually appeal to men (because let’s face it, that’s the real reason for doing such drastic things to follow trends. Women aren’t truly getting BBLs and all sorts for the sake of themselves or what other women think are they?) then I’d be altering my physical body according to men’s beauty standards and their expectations of women. I can’t really scream about how men shouldn’t objectify women but then objectify my own body as if it’s play dough that I should just be able to mould to each and every trend. It’s internalised misogyny in a way, and it’s manifesting in women’s actions in such a drastic way to the point where a lot of women are willing to die under the knife for the sake of it, or risk mutilating their bodies. Men’s objectification of our bodies is linked with everything to do with how we objectify ourselves.
"The worst beauty trend was when the corset was forced inside the body rather than out" I will say one important thing, as a historical fashion enthusiast who stumbled upon this video, historical clothing that included corsets and stays inherently had an advantage over modern standards of beauty: If your body didn't meet the expected ideal, you could use your clothes to fake it Pad out the wider parts and you still get to keep your corset comfortable (tight lacing was a very small practise, usually only done by 18-24 year old elite women who didn't have much else to do). The waist sizes were then exactly as they are today, with similar population spreads, but more people could achieve the silhouette desired because you could use your clothes to make up the difference But, as we became more industrialised, lost respect for the clothing we wore, and started paring down our layers to barely 2, you couldn't use your clothes to make up for the silhouette anymore. So the corset moved inside the body... And that's the saddest thing
I've been re-enacting my whole life. I've been studying historical clothing for as long as I can remember and I have never thought of it like that before. What a revelation!
As I got closer to 40, I started to feel like I was disappearing: I’d been treated one way my whole life and it felt like I had lost all value. I understand intellectually that this perception is not accurate, but it gets harder to resist the temptation to throw money at the problem via lasers and surgery etc.
The irony for me is that I had the perfect “slim thick” body as a teenager and was horribly shamed about it because it was the era of size 0. Now, I’ve got a mom bod and dysmorphia 🤷🏼♀️
Same! I’ve always had a big butt- even though I was underweight from extreme dieting as a teen. I hated my butt and got teased for it- a lot of my peers thought I was “easy” just because my butt was big. Now I’m old and thick all over and I’m still fighting disordered eating. Trends suck.
I find it so interesting because I was always told how skinny I was. As a young high schooler I was min size 3 and by the time I was an adult I was size 5. I just had a high metabolism, so I was super skinny up until I had kids. But I was always complimented on my bodacious hips. So I was always proud of the size of my hips and it's weird to hear about others growing up around the same time with the exact opposite experience.
@@cj48 interesting, I'm 5'9.5", so I'm not even that much taller than you either. In fact I have a sister who has the same body shape, but is probably closer to your height, but I know any of her body discomfort came from not wanting to draw attention to herself and she was called skinny just as often as me. So 🤷
I remember being 9 years old and my peers already dressing up “older” and moving on from toys to technology. I felt like I was the only one still being a child. It kind of led me to growing up too fast and abandoning the rest of my childhood. Even in high school, I didn’t get a “glow up”. I had bad makeup skills and was made fun of for having a smaller body (even though no one knew I was struggling with it). It’s sad how there are beauty standards set and instead of people embracing differences, it’s the opposite. Bullying and pressure happen :/
Yea I understand that for me it was a little later because in 2011 I was 12 and everyone started getting mice iphones and I was really poor and had a shitty government phone with minutes that was supposed to be used to contact my mom. I was still playing pokemon (honestly I still do) and playing with littlest pet shop and I was just seen as a loser when everyone else had phones and was playing with makeup when I wore none.
I remember being in 6th grade and being made fun of for playing with dolls and still saying "play date" and for not having a phone or being able to use social media. Wow this video made me think a lot more than I thought it would...
Honestly same but I didn’t really “grow up to be more mature like them” I just hid my likes and interests. Still watched Cartoons and played in puddles and mud at like 14 😐 Didn’t get my first phone till end of Grade ten!
I found this video at the right time. I just got done exercising for that "ideal" butt. I'm on a huge journey to improve myself and love myself, and watching this video is making me reflect on my criteria/standards and where they come from. All this to say , thanks for making this video. I truly appreciate it and it'll be in my head rent free whenever I have bad days.
one beauty standard thing that always annoys me is seeing how it affected my friends. Like now whenever we have like a sleepover or go on a trip and they remove or havent applied their makeup yet, they apologise for not wearing any??? ive known all of them since we were little kids, they look just as well without it yet they feel the need to say sorry? i also think they dont realise saying sorry to me is also kind of a slap in the face , seeing as i dont wear makeup at all and never have. (wearing makeup is completely fine btw, i just get upset that they seem to feel not wearing any is wrong)
Right? When my friend stays the night at my place she never takes off all of her makeup. She leaves on her eyeliner and then does the rest of her makeup again first thing in the morning
Honestly, I feel as if makeup needs to be grouped in as a toxic trend too. It's basically quick surgery and I'm at the point where I can't defend the use of it anymore. I still believe it's an amazing art form and I definitely applaud artist's skills, but it's getting to the point where it's seen as a necessity and I just can't support that anymore. If you can't even go to the grocery store without "fixing" your face, are you really still doing it for yourself or have the trends gotten to you? This is of course my opinion and Im still in awe at all of the things that can be achieved with it and I can still respect that. I just have a love/hate relationship with makeup....
@@EuphoriaInBloom one of the times one of my friends said sorry for not wearing makeup was while we were on a trip. we were in a private cabin....on a mountain....far away from anyone....like....who cares what you look like here? the deer? the only people there were her, me and our 2 friends, all people she'd known and been close friends with for YEARS. makes me sad that she felt the need to say sorry
@@maebunny5298 make up is never going to be grouped as a trend because it's always been a thing, even since before common era in some societies. there's some certain make up trends but it itself is not a trend. for make up as a whole to be grouped as a toxic trend would bring down people who do use it as an art form as well. i know that when i use make up in the future, it'll always be for costume and cosplay. though i do see the toxicity make up trends bring, that's the fault of beauty standards.
I find this really fascinating. Even after people have gotten the body type they wanted, they still get body dysmorphia. No matter how you look, you will still feel ashamed of yourself in society. :(
So I work for a plastic surgeon and he actually told me once that 2 weeks is all it takes for peoples brains to forget what they looked like before surgery which is why people always want more. They get all this work done and then they just nitpick it to death finding new flaws.
@@PerfumeCognac after 2 weeks? It sounds like an addiction to just want more plastic surgery. But like you said, it’s because they pick themselves apart. Omg!
@@geo6235 honestly that would be sad, but good for the plastic surgeons since they could keep profiting off people’s insecurities. I wonder if someone has ever went to far to the point where it has gotten really bad. Also I see the Kardashins, but I wonder how that surgery impacts you when you age and I’m guessing they edit that, so no one really gets to see how they actually look
She most likely had it prior to the procedures most with BD turn to surgery ..she is still trying to like herself ..I have bd but im rational enough now to know surgery wont help
@@chocobun4879 i heard some people says that a good plastic surgeons always remind their patients to not doing it just because they want to looks like someone or risk their live for beauty (Sorry for bad grammar)
I was actually scheduled for a bbl this month. I decided to cancel. I ultimately felt like I wasn’t really doing it for me but for this image of perfection. I’ve since refocused my energy into loving my self not my image but who I am. It’s hard I still struggle with self image and even doing or getting things for the sake of my image but I’m getting there slow and steady. Thank you for this video it really helped me validate what I was ultimately feeling in the end
The best move I made in accepting my body was shifting from critical to neutral. My body doesn’t have to look “perfect”. It doesn’t need to please anyone else. It needs to be alive and get me where I need to go. That’s all it needs to do. It can be so hard to accept your body when you don’t fit a certain mold.
I’m pro doing whatever makes you feel good. I’ve had some friends really love their BBL results. But the dangers are REAL and there needs to be more attention on that. It’s wild that celebrities choose to deny having had plastic surgery at this point. I really hope that we are headed in a direction where normal real bodies become a “trend” again. The pressure that we all feel to fit this mold is actually crazy.
Lol anything that makes you happy We have young woman starving themselves We have young woman eating themselves to death so being ok with something as long as that person is HAPPY is ridiculous
@@jenniferstewart9012 i think you missed the point she made. She isn't talking about starving and other harmful things we sadly encounter. It might be not obvious to you but she just said that we should be aware of consequences if our actions and possible danger. Your point is really important and i agree with you but no one said here that starving is acceptable.
@@iglow9873 I agree! However, that’s kinda the problem with the “pro whatever makes people feel good” mentality. Even things that seem like a mere confidence boost can be extremely harmful mentally and physically. I’m ethnically African, and there is a massive colorism issue in our entertainment industry to the point where young women bleach/lighten their skin to appear more “beautiful”. The bbl trend is just the tip of the iceberg really, and we need to acknowledge when some things people do to make themselves happy aren’t entirely sound.
As a 12 year old I see girls in the bathroom talking about how they want surgery and how they want to lose their V-card and wanting to change themselves in all this way like Bruh what happened to Minecraft
im 18 still a Virgin i don’t wear makeup except for lipgloss, lipstick, chapstick & have 0 Interest in getting plastic surgery & i wish i had enough money to get Minecraft but sadly i am broke due to not having a Job because i am just simply not ready for one yet mentally one day i hope i will be if not then after i move out of where i am then SSI here i come…hopefully that will only be temporarily!!!
I hate how in a rush kids are to lose their v cards. Hunni boys at that age don’t respect you, why not wait until you find someone you feel comfortable with and can trust (which tends to be at an older age anyway bc middle school and high school boys are h*rny little sh*ts). The reason I bring that up is bc boys talk. I remember a boy in high school I made out with (nothing more) started telling other guys my body “wasn’t all that they think it is”. Knowing what boys are like at that age and seeing girls potentially putting themselves in situations for those kinds of experiences is heartbreaking. I wish they would just enjoy the free time they have because after high school thats the one thing you miss the most.
Keep being you. In this day and age it is always good to pray for others. You may not know what someone may be experiencing. Appreciate abstinence and living a righteous life.
Right? Don't be in any hurry to be like them, please, you seem to have a much clearer head on your shoulders than many of those kids so please keep it that way, your awesome for wanting to wait for all that fuss!
as a 14 year old, no one looks their age anymore. and i’m honestly too afraid to try looking my age bc of the girls who look like whole grown adults edit: for all the “be yourself! you dont have to follow trends!” comments, i don’t follow trends lmao i tend to lean more towards alternative/vintage fashion
Honestly for this reason I think JOJO siwwa is a great example of fighting stereotypes, I’m an adult but I think the idea of her embracing childhood in a non creepy way is nice and should be used more as an example of what being a kid should mean
Just be who you are. All bodies are different and deserve to be recognised and respected as such. Changing body trends and treatments can really destroy both your body and mental health. Excellent research and information, thank you. 🐦🦆
Those people have a lot more than that, too. Just like most politicians, they don't like gasoline cars yet they all own private jets. They don't like the 2nd amendment but they are all surrounded by armed gaurds all of the time.
@@abundantambiance991 Going beyond health, I'll like to see what's resting in their coffins a few years after they are interred. Cremating their bodies would create sooo much toxic waste.
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I just feel like bodies shouldn’t be a ‘trend.’ they are bodies.
That deteriorate the older we get. Its definitely a psychological issue
Yesssssss.... Trends are clothing items, hair, nails but the body itself? Like wtf?
Exactly, like our bodies aren't accessories they are vessels to keep us alive.
In the 2000's, beauty standards were just the opposite of nowadays trends. It's super random...
When I realized there was such a thing as "body trends" my entire thought about beauty changed, I want to think for the better
When my mom said "beauty is pain" she was referring to plucking eyebrows. She'd be horrified if I ever expressed interest in plastic surgery.
Tell her her words then and do the procedure. The bbl wasn’t bad.
@@badgirlhollywood9741Read the room ☠️
My mum meant wearing heels. Ah, the nostalgia.
@@badgirlhollywood9741 ain’t nobody cares if you have a fake behind. Mine is natural. Really, nobody cares if you even have a behind. I swear.
@@So-Many-Orphans_.Husky. Then why’d you type a response kiss my ass
The fact that “Kim, there’s people that are dying” works in this context 😭
I literally just now got it because you said it works in this context lmao 😭
Lmao
Lol!!
Oh my god yesss
toxxers man...gotta lovem for entertainment purposes.
I saw a shorts video of someone who's like "How to get a glow up when your 10!"
10 years old. That is how bad this has gotten.
We DO NOT need to change ANYTHING about ourselves.
it's crazy how like 6-9 year olds are getting into skincare, idc if you like it blah blah blah but imo at that age you are so young you don't need it, and if you have been doing that since you how 8 or whatever, ofc your going to have good skin but it's going to start to feel like you aren't complete without it. you shouldn't use it unless you need to.
The worrying thing is that this is also seems like a way to normalize peds. They lose the visual stigma of going after a young girl because that girl is dressing up as a 22 yo and it sometimes is convincing. That is scary to think about.
And theyre not even supposed to ‘glow up’ that young
I do
Nature already has a glow up for 10 year olds, it's called puberty
That clip of Kim Kardashian saying that she looks the way she does because she wakes up every day and puts in the work makes me irrationally angry. It makes it seems like it's feasible for every woman to look like her, and that if you don't, you're just not working hard enough. Let's not pretend that there aren't thousands of dollars involved.
Also for a „normal“ woman with a regular desk job and maybe kids at home, that has to do cooking, groceries, cleaning and watching the kids, it isn‘t really realistic to put one hour at the gym on top on all of that. Kim Kardashian should really check her privilege.
@@sophie9984 she never said that every women should do the same as her though. She's talking about herself only. But I agree with the op
nothing about that anger is irrational; it’s 100% reasonable and deserved. she’s conning every woman into thinking they’re lazy, when really they just aren’t pumped with silicone once a week.
Literally. And tbh I don't even find her that attractive. These days is more like popular = attractive and everyone wants to look like that certain person. For me the average natural girl ist prettier than her.
It’s the insensitivity and ignorance for me
"In a society that profits from your insecurity, liking yourself is an act of rebellion" - Caroline Caldwell.
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Such a powerful sentence
Wow this is awesome!!
WELL SAID👏👏👏👏👏
Something my dad said when I was younger has always stuck with me. I was picking on myself for being short and having a weirdly proportioned waist, and he said to me, "Your legs are long enough to reach the ground, right? Your body holds your organs in correctly? Then they're perfect for you." That should be the standard people hold themselves to. We should value our bodies being functional and doing what's necessary, rather than valuing a butt so much we risk dying doing surgery to get it. The butt is not functional and it's not necessary. And in 2021 we should not be reducing a whole person to their butt, we should be seeing them as a person.
Well said.
yesss morgan tell themm
So well put. Thank you
i needed to read something like this. Thank you
And I don't even think that he lied to you just to make you feel better. It's very true that most people are born with the most perfect balance for their bodies to function properly. However imo it doesn't stop at how the body functions. It actually extends to aesthetics as well. Most people already have their own balance that if they try to "fix" something, they can easily mess up that balance and end up looking worse than before or wanting more plastic surgery to restore that balance. So if it's not broken, don't fix it. Most of the time it's not worth going under the knife just to mess up that balance.
this trend of young girls doing really mature makeup, dressing "sexy", and generally aiming for a polished-over-normal-teen look started to hit a few years after I graduated from high school and it was so weird to see people I *knew* were children look older than me. I'm so glad I got to be messy and bizarre at fifteen. these girls deserve that🦆
@@xoxopreppyemiin the video she said to put a duck in the comments if you watched the whole thing 🦆
I just view this as the beauty arms race. Marketing is so heavily towards making someone attractive and it works especially well with woman. You have seen it trying to pop up in males spaces but have never really gotten much traction as most guys have a default look that makes them easily identified. It should be hell trying to compare with photoshop and surgery at such a young age. At the very least with guys we can say if we just go to the gym we can get those nice bodies and or cheat by steroids.
We need teen shows back
the scary thing about the internet is that you see all of these “perfect” people to the point where it seems like everyone in the world is perfect except you, but then you go out in public and realize that at least 90% of people don’t actually look like that. and it doesn’t help that we’ve basically had to self isolate for the past year.
Ong. I always forget not everyone looks like a supermodel....
Yes!!!! I feel the same too. And I start thinking everyone has flawless skin until I look up close in real life
that makes sense lol
Very true
same goes with all the RACISM BS.
it has taken me 25 years to look at my mother and say "NO, I am not 'naturally thin' I am anorexic and its killing me."
As you should👏👏👏👏
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Oof I got chills reading this. I hope you're doing okay
Girl, I’m with you.
Hug for your courage 💖
We really need to foster an “anti-trend” and “body neutrality” movement, where we promote an indifferent take to our own bodies that doesn’t focus on being “beautiful” and also promote the idea that not following trends isn’t “uncool”. Being authentically yourself should be the most celebrated thing today
Amen! How we look is such a small part of who we are but apps like Instagram make it the focus of our lives
Ok love your statement… but also your profile pic 😤 stunning. What’s it of/from?
@@Pandaboomina agreed....😂😙👌🏿
Yes!!! I don’t have to love my body or how it looks, especially when a lot of “body positivity” is the male gaze repackaged 🙄
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This was amazing! I’m a 58 year old grandmother of 3 beautiful girls. 17, 13, 12. I see the pressures they are under to be acceptable, your message is so important and thank you for bringing this to light.😊
I hope that your granddaughters don't cave into these toxic ideas and learn that they are all beautiful just they way they were born💙
I hope you and your grandkids have a great day
Wow! My grandma doesn't even know what is RUclips 😂😂
“the default should be that we exist and that’s good enough.” That’s everything
Considering the chances are so small I can’t even pronounce the number.. I’d agree with you
This ^^^^
Yeah but we live in a capitalist system where we have to do everything to get money and beauty is very money earning
And it requires constant everyday effort, we all got this ✨
@@lunakey2033 It is not capitalism. It is corporatism. Two completely different things. Capitalism doesn't exist anymore. That started dying in the 80s when corporatism took over.
It's almost crazy how the concept of a woman's body has distorted to unnormal societal norms and how strongly this has influenced younger girls : (
I myself am a young girl. Society has so differently shaped young girls and their standards of beauty and their standards of what is not beauty or what is not accepted. It frickin sucks that people cant wear things they like bcs its " childish" or "weird". Theres been an over-sexualisation of teenage and even younger girls.
It isn't 'almost' crazy, it's absolutely insane and heartbreaking!
As a younger girl absolutely yes, the insecurity that me and many of my friends have because of the toxic and unrealistic beauty standards is kinda scary. Ik so many people that have developed eating disorders because of tik tok, including myself. I know fully well that most of these bodies I see are not natural and it unrealistic of me to try to achieve it, but the damage is already done. Lol kinda sad but ig this is the world we live in 🎺
@@roachiepuss4792 unfortunatly its the world we live in
i would absolutely hate to be a young girl rn. i remember when i was younger i was SO insecure.. and social media rly wasn’t much of a thing. yeah we had myspace and then facebook and in HS instagram began to be a thing but we all had like razor phones or ENV3’s. then in HS iphones and such but it wasn’t at allllll what it’s like today. i feel so terrible for the younger generation growing up and developing their self awareness and self love during this time 😕
as a brazilian woman, i really need to say that most of us doesn't even look like this, i can't find the "inspiration" that they say it's from us bc we have NORMAL bodies, with so many types around, like any part of the world, it's so crazy how society lies about everything just for women feels bad abt themselves.
Its called a bbl since the a Brazilian surgeon was the first to perform the surgery
I don't think it's based on brazilian women but really named after the "Brazilian" plastic surgeon Ivo Pitanguy. But the rest of your comment is really relevant, most women don't look that curvy and we do need to start normalizing regular bodies.
I get what y’all are saying, but foreigners do have this image of us
I understand it wasn’t named after Brazilian women, but they have been objectified like that one image of bbl for as long as I can remember
@@SleepingDreamer16 that surgery took brazil as an "inspiration" since here we have this body shape as a type of "perfect body" and the 1st surgery was here too, so yeah... That's so sad bc we have a lot of diversity here and most of us aren't even curvy like that.
I dont know actually, I'm brazilian so I do actually know as well, but most people I've seen here have wider hips like all my aunts and sister (Even tho we're white), but of course it's not like the BBL which is extreme. What I'm trying to say is that this trend pushes the common bodytype to an extreme, yet I don't see much people who are flat, since most of us are mixed and have indigenous or black people in our families.
Im a Woman.
Ive been through all of the self consciousness, the awkwardness, the wanting to be liked/attractive.
I DO "understand".
As a 45 year old wizened old lady, lemme tell you young girls something solid.
never hold yourself to trends.
the people who actually, truly love you, will love you for who is inside, not what you look like..
So basically, worry more about whether you're a mean asshole, and less about if your ass/hair/clothes are trendy.
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That is great advice❤
That's excellent advice, thank you!!
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As an old 42 who's seen the trends, I heartily agree. Also, keep your clothes, they come back in style. Except for those low rise jeans, trash them!
That's the EXACT advice my parents give. Lol.
BTW, love the duck
17:33 this “preteens don’t exist anymore” section really gave me whiplash, especially the part about young girls being terrified of looking their age. my little sister is 14 atm, but she was 13 when she first told me she wants to get lip fillers and an eyebrow lift. she can hardly stand even leaving the house without having makeup on. let me reiterate, she hasn’t even started high school yet; it’s so flat out disgusting and disheartening to see her so young and already so dissatisfied with her body and obsessed with not looking like she’s 14. i’m turning 18 in october and look more like a 14 year old than she does. society really needs to do better and realize how blatantly harmful normalizing all of these unrealistic expectations for women’s beauty truly is. it’s affecting kids who haven’t even finished going through puberty, and that’s just flat out disturbing 🦆
I worry about this once my daughter starts high school. She’s 14 but very kid like bc we do not allow social media. She just got a phone last year abd we monitor he app usages. Absolutely no Instagram or Snapchat or anything like that bc that crap just encourages horrible stuff.
I am worried about her being bullied, I’m trying really hard to make her strong and opinionated and stern on her decisions.
@@yaderincrimin2973 I'm 16, and my parents still don't let me have Instagram and Snapchat- and I'm glad they don't. I don't think using those apps at any age would be good for a person's mental health and it was easier for me to accept it once I understood how much those apps could affect me. Starting high school and seeing all the other girls my age look like they're in their 20s made me question if there was something wrong with me, but becoming friends with like-minded people who looked our age sort of solved that problem.
@@yaderincrimin2973 that’s amazing actually, if you don’t mind, i suggest you tell her to take her stance and not let anyone belittle her just because she’s not doing something generic
@@yaderincrimin2973 my parents did the same thing with me, (smartphones & social media was just barely starting out) and they were pretty strict with that sorta thing. But my one way of expressing myself that they encouraged was allowing me to dye my hair. And that alone was enough to make me happy and expressive. So instead of being “the kid with no social media” I was “that guy with cool hair” I’m not a girl so maybe it’s a bit different, but I’m now 21 and have been styling/dying hair for about 10 years now. So from someone who had really strict parents, if she finds passion in something make sure to be supportive :) I wish her luck!
I agree and when older people call out these teens for acting like this people say they are jealous because they didn’t look this way or dress this way when they were teens and it’s honestly sad that people are trying to justify this behavior because these kids will grow up regretting the way they acted and wish they had just acted like kids
The fact that Kim is still pretending her body is real is crazy.
As time goes by, she will have more plastic surgery to correct how this plastic surgery drops and gets worse, heavily missing her natural body I predict.
At this point, Kim seems pretty delusional to me. I feel like she has already internalized those lies and convinced herself that she's "all natural"
Well, it's actually not that surprising or crazy really when you you take into account that she also still tries to convince the world that her family is the only females in existence that don't take sh*ts or pass gas ever! That family in general is a major part of the body issues females deal with nowadays thinking they're not pretty enough or skinny enough in the waist or big enough in the rear or full enough in the lips etc. yet people keep tuning into their show to watch the circus they call a family and they keep getting richer for it!!! "Keeping Up With The Kardashians" has never been a more realistic statement/title than it is right now since that exactly what all these people are trying so hard to do! It's sick that that family is all smiles (all be it fake smiles but smiles nonetheless) meanwhile knowingly encouraging young girls to hate themselves because they don't resemble them!!!
All of them are in denial, they need to do that to sell their dumb products
They're delusional. that stuff worked years ago when BBLs weren't as common. But now everyone and their mom has it that it's honselty shameful to even lie about it, just check the look on their face once they get asked if they had anything done.
I’m 14 and being in quarantine has warped my mind about how real skin looks. Everyone on social media has a filter on, airbrushed. I watched some tiktoks reminding how skin looks irl/natural lighting and I felt normal again.
I'm really glad people made a thing of showing off their "real skin" tbh. Your skin is an organ, and the way the flesh on your head folds doesn't really matter :) (except in terms of medical problems)
You are normal honey, and fine just the way you are.
Had the same thing and I'm 21 years old.. I'm really glad videos like that exist. I recommend staying off of Instagram,,, at least that helped me lot because I didn't compare myself that much anymore
I totally agree with you. When I see people reminding how social media really warps your mind, it’s crazy how you have to take a step back into reality remembering we don’t look airbrushed all the time, and it’s normal to have texture! :)
Literally same!!! Same age and my skin isn't the greatest but l learned to be comfortable with it and starting high school in less than a month the insecurity is kinda coming back🙂
There was something beautiful about the preteen era. I wasn't afraid to be weird or express myself in unconventional ways. I had no sense of fashion but didn't care. I was a huge nerd and was in ten different fandoms. Looking back now, that era defined what kind of adult I turned into. The whole point of being a preteen for me was self discovery. Nowadays, people in the preteen age want to skip this crucial area by placing themself in this box created by beauty standards. It's like stunting your growth, not physically but mentally.
The whole pre-teen/teenage awkward stage is why I actually really liked the visco girl aesthetic. It was so simple and easy and childish. Much better than a lot of other trends these days.
And it was cheap too. It just requires the use of oversized tshirts, running shorts and big scrunchies. But ofc teen girls got made fun of for doing it because they were having fun at their own expense.
Same I thought it was safe and fun. It was dumb and silly but that’s being a teenage girl. Wanting to look 27 at 14 ain’t it
My daughters always call me that🤣 but they love this trend too. At least I’m promoting something more positive without realizing it.
Exactly. It was too age-appropriate. It seems pretty peadophilic if you ask me: always wanting young girls to look and act older
yeah, but it gets made fun of a lot sadly
The trend of pre-teens/early teens "disappearing" is SO TRUE. I remember me and my friends looked like oily lil dumplings when we were 11-15, yet now I see students this age range wearing a full face of makeup everyday both in real life and social media.
I'm not saying this is inherently bad, I would have done that if it was allowed back then. I'm just worried that girls aren't even allowed to be kids anymore. The moment they start bleeding they have to look tiktok ready. Their "glowup" is not makeup and clothes anymore, but glutathione drips and full body laser treatments. Is plastic surgery going to be the necessary next step? Scary.
I really pity today’s kids. We got to look like slugs rolled in moss and the only proof left are gloriously awful yearbook photos. Today kids are on camera always, of course they become self-conscious as soon as their brains are capable of such a thing.
I'm probably younger than you....I literally only wore makeup when I was 13-14 because of the crazy pressure to look a certain way. Now I'm so disgusted that we were sexualized at such a young age, I noticed it starting around 11-12 in my day but for some girls it could have started earlier.
@@corinneskitchen yes, for me it started at 10 years old.
I can also worry a little bit for my classmates. It isn’t fair that this is a world girls have to grow up in, being taught how they should look to appeal to boys from a very young age. Truth is, boys don’t care, but they’ve also been taught that if they see girls doing this it’s attention seeking and sl^tty. (At least my male classmates do this, a pair of them has yelled “cheap” at one of the girls after school hours)
I remember parents getting their kids breast implants before they went off to college though
"When we joke about something, we slowly start to normalize it," is exactly why "it's just a joke" will never be a valid excuse for "joking" about situations and traumas that aren't yours to joke about. Well said, great video!
exactly. our bodies don't know the difference so all the negativity we feed ourselves gets absorbed and manifests in several ways
Well said
Exactly, like the “Creepy Uncle” joke. That’s normalizing pedophilia among families.
I agree!! That's y I hate stand up comedy (cause many comedians do that) and dark humor and will always hate those things
And Im done a long time ago trying to understand y some of my friends enjoy it so much
Idc if I'm labeled as not having a sense of humor
At least I'm not joking with serious issues and offending some ppl
not really..
humans use comedy as a relief from the bad reality.
so, just because you make a joke about a certain topic, it doesn't necessarily mean that you are normalizing that..
Crazy thing is how if you find a good partner, you'll notice that the body trends don't matter to them. You're a person, not an advertisement!! Good partners who are attracted to you won't suddenly stop if the current trend doesn't suit you!!
Yes, people tend to confuse sexiness with likeability.
Wow you don't say
🦆 as a 17 year old girl, I'm so grateful that you are talking about how toxic trends on social media are being normalised. Personally I think that we need to all accept the way we look...natural is beautiful and our authentic selves :)
I agree. I’m a girl and I’m in 8th grade right now and-
Can’t we just love ourselves for who we are? When I look at someone I don’t think about the things they need to change about themselves, and I wish people wouldn’t do that to themselves either. If people want to strive for beauty then good for them, but if their doing it because it’s a trend or because it’s what other people want then that just toxic- I wish people would just stop what their doing, look in the mirror, and say “you know what? I look good as hell today, and I don’t need to change the way I look”
Yes girl I agree ☝️
I agree that we should all love ourselves. That being said, if you really really are uncomfortable with your body then I believe that you should be able to hav plastic surgery. I do NOT agree that trends should be forced and kinda brainwashing kids into thinking plastic surgery is supposed to make other people think youre hotter. Or you’ll be more attractive if you get plastic surgery, instead of feeling better about yourself. The trends like these in this video are disgusting.
Sorry if I don’t make sense I’m really bad at conveying my beliefs and opinions haha! Have a wonderful day! ❤️
Body acceptance is also accepting and understanding that people have free will and the right to do what they want to their bodies, without judgment or, the expectation of needing an explanation of the reasons behind their actions.
I think that people need to sit their kids down and explain how much work goes into a photo that is meant for marketing. There is lighting, make up, padding, spanks, corsets, tights, high heels, camera tricks and if all else fails, photo shop and filters. Not everyone discusses how much those photos are fluffed.
Me also a 17 y/0 girl reading this, purrrr agreed
I'm sick of people acting like changing your whole being in order to fit into a mold is empowering. It's not. It's messed up. I saw a quote on tumblr which pretty much hits the nail. "If beauty is pain WE NEED TO HEAL"
More like we need to excise the tumor that is body type trends and insane "beauty standards". Reject them. I flipped the middle finger to the computer screen so many times while she was talking, and that's how we should treat this pressure and messages about the ideal body type and all that crap.
Oooa I am using this one now! That is so powerful!!!!
This is not fitting in the society, coz society is made of real good peoples wearing descent and modest clothing to work and school, not that image the elites ( who mostly live out of mom and dad wealth and internet, modeling or influancing income or Sug.Dads money ) want to portrait as day to day life image, but i rather stick with my non make up face, chemicals spotless and wrinkleless face and my sweat pants and over baggy shirts and caps, at least i feel good and i don't have sores or blisters on my feet for wearing heels and wierd shoes
I agree 100% with you. This is why I love seeing people with average/usual body types in social media. People with scars, acne, stretch marks, cellulite… not the Instagram “perfect skin” type.
I literally unfollowed so many people during 2020 that only made me feel bad about myself. I didn’t need that kind of energy during a worldwide pandemic.
@@_fussyfangs good for you, we don't need fake BS... let that naturel beauty shine... real body positivity is accepting our flaws while taking care of the inside... BE YOUR HEALTHY SELF ...🥰👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
We should really start teaching kids self love instead of exposing them to toxic beauty standards, because people out here dying for a look that won't be in style 10 years from now...
Maybe even a few months from now
THIS
Indeed, if you love yourself you are pretty for yourself and also for everyone 🤍
@@shreyarishi2720 true, things change rapidly.
Scary to think what look will be popular in 10 years...
The fact that BBL’s aren’t even as relevant anymore makes this video even sadder. It came out a year ago…
it frustrates me so much when people try to spin plastic surgery as "i'm fixing an insecurity therefore it's empowering" when you need to take into consideration where that insecurity is coming from--racism, xenophobia, the patriarchy, or all of the above lmao 🦆
THIS!!!! this is exactly right couldn’t have said it better
oh absolutely
agreed !! a lot of the time when people say they’re getting surgeries for themselves, they actually mean that they think a part of their body doesn’t fit the beauty standard so they want to change it so they appear more attractive. this isn’t said for everybody obviously but a good 99%
Exaclty!!!
this is why I dislike the "lipgloss-girlboss 💅✨" type of feminism. It doesn't really focus on empowering women and protecting them, especially WOC and trans women, it literally grooms them to imitate those unrealistic body standards created by patriarchy, racism, xenophobia, and anti-semitism but because of "I'm doing this for me not for men or someone else!1!1!" a lot of people don't even try to dig a bit further into this topic because those who criticize these very unethical procedures are considered to be "pick-me" when it's completely not the case 😐
When I was very young, I asked my mom, why all the models on TV were so thin (it was in 00s). She told me, that it was easier to make clothes for thinner women and the amount of cloth needed is less. So it's cheeper to have very thin girls when there should be a lot of clothes changing.
It made so much sense for me, that I never was following that exessive thinness standard. Thx, mom!
Ooh nice explanation! I don't know if it's actually true, but I quite like it, because it doesn't make you feel bad for not looking like the the models
Honestly, that's kind of a sweet explanation. It shows good parenting if you're willing to protect your child from beauty standards, reminds me a lot of my mom, actually. Since she would usually make up a logical explanation for me, so I could avoid believing something true, yet dangerous. I also like the idea that it does partially teach an economic lesson. "Even large companies don't have infinite money."
Also bc a thin body bends or stretches the garment the least
this is a good explanation, enough so that you don't really lie to your kids, but you protect them from all these horrible beauty standards.
as a fashion design graduate i can validate your comment. it is much cheaper to buy fabric cut for a smaller sized dress form.
🦆 “women’s bodies themselves, the actual thing, is the trend - and we are expecting to be ever changing” wow 🙌🏼
:c
I acidentally read this while she was saying that
I can attest for at least 99% of guys. We don’t expect girls to harm themselves or risk their lives. Don’t settle for the few that would have you do it.
@@phantomfreeman283 there's a lot of guys that would rather have a woman risk her life just to look the way he wants her to. im glad that you're trying to send a positive message but you haven't seen the media at all ig.
@@juiceboxbackup6277 Same lol
As someone who has a natural hourglass, and being AFAB, the amount of people who have sexualised me over the years over just my body has made me learn to dislike my own body. I don’t understand why people are willingly get body types like mine when the repercussions societal wise are terrible.
Same, I’m in an European country but I have the same body bc of genes but I’m the only person in the class and the only one in my family with that body and it just makes me even more insecure..😅
Because we're taught that cis mens attention is the pinnacle for us, that we won't get a good partner, job, won't be loved even platonically etc unless we meet that standard, and yet, when we actually do we also get told we have to give up our autonomy, no matter what, we don't win.
As someone with a natural hourglass and a cute face it's actually an asset especially when seeking a partner. I've experienced sexual harassment but so have my female friends and acquaintances across age groups and irrespective of their body type. I haven't experienced more sexual harassment than the next petite girl even if she's boxy. So anecdotally I disagree with you and believe it's our gender that invites the harassment. Not necessarily body type. There's no escaping it as a woman.
I appreciate you sharing your experience, but this honestly comes across as an intentionally obtuse humblebrag. Are you actually unaware of the fact that there are beauty trends and that the hourglass figure has been prized for decades? There's no way you're so confused. Women's bodies are sexualized and those are your secondary sexual characteristics.
@@sinch4044why is this a humblebrag, the video is about this topic. As someone in a similar boat, to receive sexual comments is damaging to your self esteem, especially if those genes kick in at an impressionable age. Maybe not all struggles are equal but there is just as much valid struggle that comes from being sexualized for your looks as there is from being shamed for other traits.
normalize just looking like yourself. society makes us think that we have to look a certain way to feel beautiful and loved when in reality it’s the complete opposite. People love others who are genuine and aren’t afraid to express that about themselves. its so empowering to see people embrace their insecurities hence inspiring others to do so too! it’s sad how out of touch modern beauty standards have become and how it’s affecting women who feel less beautiful because of it. our insecurities are beautiful, it’s what makes us human in the first place.
Thanks for your words. Although I know you’re a jokester and like making joke (videos) I’m glad I’m hearing this from you too.
never ever follow trends because they will die out and then u might me stuck with something u don't actually like
Daaamm,well f***ing said!!! **#agreed** I'm ashamed,embarrassed&disgusted to b a female nowadays!!! Its all that&more for other females BC all they do is bash&put down other females BC they don't look like they're "supposed to"! U supposed to look like u not a dam plastic freak!! **#loveurself**. Women should encourage&be kind to other females BC at the end of the day, there's so much more we go thru &have to deal w&get criticized,by other women, just puts that push that leads to self harm&suicide!!!! So,stop it u cruel ass cu**s!! U don't know sh** about anyone else&what they go thru on a day to day bases! Do u really wanna b that bi*** that says that one word to make a girl kill herself BC she's not what U think she should look like?? R u really that much of a cu** that u want that on ur conscience!!?? I know I sure don't!! Ladies, smile at one another!! Compliment one another!!! TRUST ME,IT GOES ALOOOONG WAY!! #ucouldsavealife #bekind #BEREALREAL P.S. this narrator has ASMR voice!!! Its so satisfying! Lol #subcribed
I think imma screenshot this and print this comment out ;.;
@@ileahbarnsfather395 😕wow..unloading? Projecting?? Idk, but I'mma screen shot this NFT rn🥲
kylie: “this is all real! no breast implants! 😌✨”
gorl do u really think we’re all stupid and blind? we can clearly see what u did
You may not be blind or stupid but based on this video many are.
@@smartiemartie116 was just gonna say this
We're all like "WE KNOW WHAT YOU DID. YOU CANNOT HIDE BEHIND FEEBLE LIES ANY LONGER!!" XD
I don't have an issue with famous people getting surgery, and I don't think they by default have to disclose those surgeries, but if you are selling BEAUTY AND FITNESS PRODUCTS and someone straight up asks, I think think there's almost a legal obligation to not lie about it
The fact is, beauty standards are all about the riches.
In eastern asia, the beauty standard was to be pale and small, to look fragile, why? Because only the royals(back then) and the rich have the privilege to just laze around under the shade, not working out in the field under the sun, thus not developing darker skin(tan) and more muscle.
In some poorer countries, being plump is a beauty standard cause it means ur rich enough to eat more and not starve yourself.
A couple years ago, being skinny and tan was considered pretty in the western, because only the rich have the privilege to go to the tropicals and tan under the sun. And since food is already taken for granted for most people in the developed countries, being thin by eating healthier, eating less, working out, is a privilege for those who can afford the time and money.
Today, the unnatural beauty standard is something only the rich and the privileged can afford. The normal working class wouldn’t have the money to go get a surgery or the time to do both the surgery and the recovery time needed to heal.
Long story short, these beauty standards are set by rich people because they want to be different. You dont have to look like them. As long as you’re healthy, I think that’s enough. Why bother going to such length for a trend that will eventually shift? Living is already hard, dont make it even harder for yourself.
Omg. This is exactly what I ramble to my friends about articulated to perfection. I 100% agree. Thank you for your comment.
This comment is gold
lotus feet i cant unsee it
The european standard just turned into black women body shapes that black women don't get love for. Like how black women be shaped like this forever and nobody showed love until that dumbie Kim went and manufactured an ass
It is even more complicated: what you describe is the norm for the rich, not for the independently rich and powerful. If you are rich enough, you can look whatever you like again. Nobody will judge you.
Being a woman sounds exhausting honestly, the amount of pressure coming from everywhere is just insane
"Body neutrality is far more important than body positivity." Well said, salem. Figured it out when i was a teen, still struggling to get the body hair off the right places, the lipstick exactly the right color, and the clothing perfectly disguising every part of my body that i didnt love. I could never do enough, so I guess i was forced to love myself.
body neutrality comes before body positivity. body positivity was meant for the plus size bodies- and other women with features that don't fit a beauty standard. i totally agree with you so don't take this wrongly. just thought this would be a good add for the convo.
Interesting how 'body neutrality' versus 'body positivity' regarding physical health can be paralleled with 'acute self-awareness' versus 'self-indifference' regarding mental health. I understand and agree that body positivity has been helpful to push back against the stigma of female beauty standards; I just find it interesting how, when we start to delve more into the psychology of the issue of increasing obesity rates, there's a consensus that 'indifference' is the ultimate goal to escape societal standards and attain true healthiness, whether it be regarding physical appearance or our social selves.
I’ve never worn makeup and I don’t intend on it
It alters how I really look and I really like how I really look
I’ll never get any type of plastic surgery
Because I need to work out and make an effort to get the shape I want
I’m me and no weird disgusting substance will change that
@@nashgraham1491 WORD!
@@nashgraham1491 yup. Good distinction
The kardashian’s ignorance is literally killing people
And people still continue to support them it’s astonishing really
@@unselfishcefamandole6722 Yea, I dislike the Kardashians.
or people’s own ignorance is killing them. gotta learn to take accountability. nobody is forcing anyone under the table to get plastic surgery.
People's ignorance is literally killing them!
@@kjlandon9140 I didn't even know she had surgery. I only know her as Jesse Rutherford's girlfriend
Something that I find important to mention about the Victorian era of fashion: yes the thin waist was the fashionable figure, but very few women actually tight-laced their corset at the time. The silouhette was created with an optical illusion: with a well fitted corset and an ample skirt, the waist appears thinner without needing to actually reduce its circumference to the point that it became painfull, or even harmfull for the health.
At the time, the beauty standards were a lot more achievable by a wide variety of women because those standards were in the clothes, not in the body type.
Yes!!!!!
Yup,im a huge history and fashion history nerd so when i see people talking about corsets as if they were torture devices i get very angry.And before anyone brings up the fashion plates or portraits or photos where women have extremely small waists,photo retouching was a thing and for portraits there was a filter called "i payed you for this painting",just as we today photoshop ourselves to look thinner,curvier,flawless and overall to fit the standards,victorian would do things to seem like they were flawless and perfect
also, not everyone downsized their waist. many made there chest and bottoms bigger
Yeah I wear corsets often
Also, the anti-corset thing was started by men. Karolina Zebrowska did a fantastic video about this.
It feels like people have a natural need to judge, so the problems aren't going anywhere, we just keep changing the standards
This is why I love Dr Youn. He actively discourages these procedures and warns people of the dangers, discourages casual sexism, and encourages people to love and take care of themselves first and not worry so much about how they look.
He is a good'Un
Do I spot an habesha?
Agreed
Dr. Youn has mentioned that he has colleagues that he trusts with BBLs specifically. He DOES warn that even if they may be good at it, there's still dangers!
Yes Dr. Youn
My literal 9 year old (female) cousin is so obsessed with being skinny and beautiful, she constantly worries about what she eats and if her face is oily or dirty. And though I try to explain to her that none of that matters because she is just a child, she keeps worrying and obsessing over the way she looks. It makes me feel so sad, that beauty standards are even affecting a kid that shouldn't have to be thinking of all that stuff at all!! :( edit: Thanks for the advice to everyone who replied! I will see if I can talk to her more in depth this weekend about this type of stuff. She's such a sweet girl and I would hate if she developed problems as time went by!
This. I remember wanting to be skinny so bad in elementary school and feeling guilty when I ate breakfast :(
I was 9 back in 2016 and nobody had these concerns. This whole ordeal has had an uproar since 2018-2019.
@@jingbahurfavboobah6748 right. im 14 now but up until last year I'd never cared that much about my body. it's really upsetting kids so young have unrestricted access to the internet. im terrified of not being pretty enough and it's so toxic
@@fionna294 It’s really scary how body image can change people so much.
i feel like at that point its an ed starting to develop which a lot of times happens independently from social pressures and beauty standards
My favourite vine goes: "I love myself even though I look like a burnt chicken nugget I still love myself" and baby I live by those wise words everyday. Love yourself beautiful nuggets 💙💙
I hope that kid still loving himself to this day 🙏😤💓
Omg yess
I like this! 👍 I'm gonna live my best nugget life
😂🤣like a burnt chicken nugget 😂🤣 omg that’s so freaking adorable cute sounding 😂🤣 I love it 🥰
I can't recall where I remember this fromm
The fact that there’s no more room for preteens in modern society is horrifying, everybody needs to have that awkward phase where you figure out who you are!! It’s part of life, thank you for bringing this up 🦆🦆 💖💖
Well, yea. Without that awkward phase to figure yourself out, that's like one of the many ways to create mal-adjusted adults I think.
The idea of barely being an adult or even still being a teen and literally modifying your body for a trend that will go away in less than a decade is asinine to me. For many, it doesn’t lessen the insecurity. I’m small for a 14 year old (5’2 with almost no curves). My spine curves more than my body because of scoliosis lol. It almost feels like not being content with my body is an expectation. I’d rather work out and bring the body I was born with to its full potential than to risk my health for an insecurity. I don’t wanna be sexy. I don’t even want to be attractive. I just wanna be ME.
Good thinking.
5’2 is small for 14 years old ? Damn 😭 im 4’11
I’m 15 and only 5’0 😕 I wish I was taller tho and I like your point
Lmao I'm 18 and 5'1. Anyway good on you.
I stopped growing in the 4th grade. I'm under 5'2" and an not curvy either. It's embarrassing being 33 years old without them, but that's the way I'm built. Working out to gain a booty has helped, but no matter what our bodies are sexualized :/. It is difficult being happy with yourself and wanting to fit in with standards. Just know you are not the only one with your body type, and you're still changing so in the next 5 years you may still be slim or more filled out. Either way, you're a perfect version of YOU.
🦆 It’s a horrible cycle. Surround yourself with women who empower you to be the best version of yourself from the inside out. Thank you for bringing this subject to light.
Agreed 👏🏽
Surround you with all kinds of people that do good for you
Honestly, it's exhausting to always be pushed to be the best version of myself. I've lost friends who just wouldn't leave me to exist in peace and mediocrity when I felt like it. I'd rather surround myself with women who take me at face value and if i want to get up off my ass and do something then they support me, but if I want to spend my day sleeping then they support that too. You don't have to be the best version of yourself, you just have to be.
@@jaggerra7 Glad you mentioned this, it's important, cause otherwise it just gives off pressured vibes. "Best selves" means living your truth! Enjoying, being in good spaces mentally/emotionally/spiritually. The people around you reflect a genuine love and understand life happens! Who doesn't wanna sleep and have a lovely day or two inside x
Honestly, if older women and their voices weren't so often erased, maybe us younger women would have people to look up to and listen to, and someone's confidence to feed off of.
Seeing and interacting with older, positive female role models always does way more for me than a pinterest quote or infographic. The erasure of older women is by design, and has effects further reaching than insecurity about appearance.
"Beauty is pain." "But it doesn't have to be." THIS IS WHY I LOVE YOU,Literally facts.Keep on doing what your doing bc I appreciate you sm and look up to you♡ BTW your so fabulous😭🩷
My ex husband pressured me to get a BBL and other surgeries. I'm so happy I didn't.
Sadly from the relationship, I have severe body dysmorphia to the point sometimes I can't even leave the house. I'm slowly learning to love myself. But I'm glad I didn't let a toxic man try to change me.
😥
im sorry you had to go thru that, you deserve so much better!! im glad you got out of that toxic marriage 🤍
Drop his socials, sis, we just wanna talk 🙂. Won't hurt him.
Im so glad he is an ex, you deserve so much better
Because you KNEW that what he was trying to get you to do is BS and you chose YOURSELF over HIM. Idk you but I’m so proud you found the dignity in yourself to distance yourself from him to work on yourself. You’ll be healed in no time, I’m sure. God bless and NEVER change for ANYBODY but YOURSELF.
As a 12 year old, my mom told me to watch this to learn on how to love your bodies and not to change them. Thank you and you really helped me learn more on the "bbl effect" on tiktok and the info about it
You are so lucky to have a great mother!
Thank and hug your momma please!!! This is so important and I’m so glad she is showing you that loving your own body is such a beautiful thing!
Awww blessed your moms heart ❤ ♥ 💓
Listen to your mother dear
That's a great mother
Body neutrality 💗
What’s that?
Karen, your Instagram story brought me here! Thank you, your words on your Instagram story really resonated with me and a lot of people
I’ve never liked my flat chest and the unattainable goal of loving it only pushed me further from accepting my body. It was only recently that I started looking in the mirror and saying “ah, I have a flat chest. Cool. Anyway…” that I’ve actually been able to get away from self-hatred. I don’t know if I’ll ever “love” my flat chest (seems a bit vain), but I recognize it as a functioning part of my anatomy that I don’t hate anymore, and that’s enough.
hi karen ily
I agree with u IAMKARENO :•]
i refuse to use tiktok because i already know what i would find there, but i still find it entertaining and interesting to listen to you talk about it.
If only we could go back to the trend of using clothes to alter our shape to fit what's in style (corset padding, petticoats, etc) instead of literally altering bodies to fit what's in style.
that would be better, but in the ideal world we wouldn't see bodies as a trend.
I get your sentiment but global warming has been standing on our necks
it would be better to not have body shapes as trends
Corsets were also really useful for the vertebral column and prevented bad posture, which can cause diseases. So yeah, we should bring back corsets. Not for beauty standards, but for their utility :3
Edit: I said that they "were" because now we obviously have better methods to cure vertebral column diseases (and I EDIT again because I just noticed that I called "vertebral column problems" the problems caused by having big breasts, I'm sorry for this error I'm not this fluent in English and I don't know medical therms etc) and pls don't wear corsets tight-laced or everyday
Bye stay safe~
@@cronekat4876 physical therapist assistant here - no, corsets are absolutely not good for the body and do not help with posture in the long run. By forcing "good" posture, they make it so that a person doesn't have to use their postural muscles to hold themselves up, which can cause atrophy/extreme weakness which will actually make their posture much worse. They may be useful for people with conditions that cause abdominal/postural weakness, but even in that case, a brace is a much better option.
Corsets (edit: I specifically mean older-style corsets, not properly fitting modern ones) may also impair breathing ability which can cause long-term damage (it's theorized that this may have contributed to women fainting easily back when items like corsets were popular wear). And if they're too tight, they can literally compress your internal organs and alter the shape of your ribs (which - again - impairs your ability to breathe). They definitely should not be brought back.
when you said “i’m sick of being told its empowering”... god, i felt that so hard. they shove so much stuff in our faces and tell us it’s “empowering” when really they just want us to be insecure so we spend more trying to look perfect
So true we are basically being hypnotized by each other...the way they have changed the whole meaning of the word empowering is scary....
agreed
Why is sexualizing yourself (and spending money on that ofc) considered empowering if you're a woman? What actually gives you power is financial independence and stability, education, confidence, and knowing how to defend yourself.
@@icedcat4021That's the point. They try to convince us that doing what they want is empowering, so we feel good about falling into line.
God*
Body neutrality. YES. Something in me as a child recognized that I had no interest in being found desirable or beautiful to men. It was freeing. And you know what? My husband is so attracted to me because of who I am. So despite what my father told me, I attracted my soul mate without bowing down to society's fickle opinion of my outward beauty.
Yeah yeah you wish. We talk about it again in 10 years.
Same for me!
That sounds like my life too haha. It's so great. My man loves me and finds me extremely attractive and I don't even try - we just love each other for who we are.
@@angorianka yeah, it's really lucky when one finds a great match like that :)
My girlfriend wants breast implants, even though I find her gorgeous as she is. It's actually heartbreaking.
Bodies 👏 should 👏 never 👏 be 👏 a 👏 trend 👏
as a brazilian I think it's terrible, not only the unrealistic standards, but the sexualization of brazilian women around the world, honestly, there is so many racism and sexism on our on country, and the rest of the world have a wrong and sexualized image of our bodies, it's exausting.
(sorry if i made a grammar mistake or anything)
Don’t apologize, love! Your message is spot on accurate and so is your English 😊
Amg é totalmente isso
Nss, ss mano! Tipo, eu lembro que um dia eu contei pra um cara estadunidense que eu era brasileira e a primeira coisa que ele fez foi falar de como ele achava que era o corpo das mulheres brasileiras e tals.. mano, a gente tinha uns 12 anos kk
@@yenivah.4986 Not only about that, but the latina's bodys is sexualized a lot, and also brazilian women is know its mostly know about the bbl and brazilian wax.
@@yenivah.4986 thanks, i appreciate it a lot
I love how you take on these topics you're not clickbaity and biased
Yes I love her content, it is so nonjudgmental and she focuses on facts
yup! I love her take on these topics.
Same she’s so informative too!
Yeah, i love her!
@@sallytimko866 yeah she is actually explaining how this whole thing rose to prominence unlike some other videos who just put down the people who got the procedure done.
I’m nearly 18 and people always say I look younger than I am. I don’t, people are just used to literal children dressing up as adults to the point where if somebody doesn’t have a full face of makeup, very on trend clothes etc then they are perceived as young, innocent etc
Same. I'm 19 and my hairstylist thought I was 14
Promise , looking younger then what you really are is a blessing in your older years I use to feel the same way as you when I was younger and would get offended.
Same
i feel this
Same, I'm 34 and I can't buy paracetamol without an id. I just don't wear make up when going to the shops.
It was always such a trip to work the Dominican Republic flights back when I was a flight attendant. We always called for several wheelchairs ahead of time because we knew we would have a BBL line. It was insane
I love how it's very clear that the Kardashian/Jenners have clearly had surgery but will sit on camera and say "wE Go TO tHE GyM"
They think ppl are that stupid 😆
Not just surgery, but access to the best trainers, dermatologists, chefs that can make them healthy food, daily makeup artists etc. Like sure lots of “work” goes into that, but it’s difficult when you’re whole job is to look good. The average person has to do actual work and then try to live up to those standards with less time and money
@@RG-jf5ep they also perpetuate the lie that all they do is go to the gym, where their waist trainers and drink that nasty flat tummy tea and you can look exactly like that like that's all that goes into it like they don't have a team that works together to help them look like that
@@rainingopals1439 they go to the gym to maintain but it is obvious they have had work done
They don’t even have the muscle you’d get by going to the gym
I think that as a 13 years old, being told that I dress childish is genuinely annoying to me.
Yeah. I dress childish. I'm a child.
All of the girls around me want to look more than their age, and because of that I feel like I'm dressing up like a crybaby when really, it's just what I am as a 13 years old.
Some people in my school tell me that I dress like a child,
but I /am/ one.
I've been told by my mom so many times to not dress too childish,
but I /am/ a child, how do you want that to not happen ? I'm not gonna try to look like a sixteen years old girl.
edit : thank you all for the kind replies!
I was like that when I was 13 and continue just being yourself because you'll be much happier in life trust me. Dont let anyone pressure you
I was 13 in a time where dressing like a child was normal, I’m sorry you have pressure to dress differently, please don’t let people get in your head. Your body is your temple protect it.
girl I m 18 and still dress childish, do whatever makes you happy and give no f, it's your life
Its sexualizing children ultimately. Its disgusting you be you girl. If you were my daughter I'd be so proud of you
Good ! Be urself SEROIUSLY dont listen to people
I can’t imagine getting a BBL only for others to say “damn, her ass is big”. The price tag (the money, the threat it has to my life, AND the physical pain) is definitely not worth the cheap compliments for me. It’s just sad that some of these women are so hooked up on acceptance from others that they begin to lose themselves.
i think a huge issue is ppl don't know how dangerous it is like i did research bc i wanted it but even if you go to a great surgeon it can be deadly and i saw the surgery done and its so brutal
very nicely said! couldn’t agree with you more!
Yea I have a naturally huge ass and believe me having men comment on your body parts every time you leave the house is annoying at best. Some days it’s really scary
Idk it could be more for themselves not to get complements.
@@bariatric-parasite A lot of ppl copy what they see because they saw someone else with it. They have commercials coming on promoting it! However nobody is talking a what happens when you get it done. How long it lasts, what has to be fixed down the line and how much touch up and maintenance goes along with it! The BBL isn't just a one and done surgery.
I've been feeling down on my body lately after being sick for a long time. I cried at rhe end of this video, no lie. I was never considering plastic surgery but I needed that message. And thank you for bringing light to the harm in calling this "empowering"
“The more that we come to self acceptance the more that we erase that stupid quote ‘ beauty is pain’ but it doesn’t have to be.” - Salem Tovar
You did that!!!!👏🏿🦆
One thing abt the kardasians that I will never understand is the fact that they sat there and lied about putting out unattainable beauty standards when we all know they got plastic surgery and I don’t have a problem with plastic surgery my problem is when people don’t admit to it that’s when you put out these unrealistic beauty standards
Frrrr like at least be honest and open about it. i don't think it's bad to get plastic surgery, but don't pretend like y'all are natural 💀 that's hella toxic
You have to remember that they themselves most likely have body dysmorphia. And I know I know, "poor little rich girls", but mental health issues don't pick and choose who they affect.
@@cantsay2205 true, I agree but I feel they are doing more harm then good either it was with themselves and the generation they influence
well, how else will they convince normal people they're better than everyone else? 😅 by lying, of course. it's honestly sickening
I mean Kylie even built an entire make up brand off of lying about not having her lips done...
Not a woman, but “you are more than your body” made me tear up. That’s the exact thing Ive needed to hear for over a year. It’s got nothing to do with body image but rather r*pe. I’ve been told since it happened that my body’s not mine anymore. But those six words are exactly what I needed to hear.
That’s was beautiful to read. I hope you’re doing better. ❤️💕
I hope you heal. I hope the best for you. And I’m glad you were able to find your way to this video. 🖤🥰
So sorry you went through that! Glad those words inspired you ❤️🥺
🙏🏼🥺
Just because that happened, doesn’t mean your body isn’t yours! I know what you mean though. Regardless, it’s true, you are more than your body. I wish you the best of luck for your recovery and health. Take your time, it’s in reach 💖
i remember once in health class back in middle school, they taught us about people doing plastic surgery and teaching that our bodies are fine the way they are.
The articles we read made me so uncomfortable that someone would chose to provedurally change their body made me cry in the middle of class
I died at "they look like IMVU characters" GIRL that is so accurate and it's so freaking sad
i wouldn't mind looking like an imvu
What is IMVU?
@@this_lee_life5553 a game
🦆As a 14 year old who has had insecurities about myself, this video changed SO much for me and I appreciate everything these ladies said and explained, because its all very true. I agree that normal bodies should be normalized and loved just the same as everybody else's bodies. About the people pretending to be different races, that is just crazy and needs to stop. Thanks for this video 💞
Keep your head up and that attitude in mind. Never put the "ideal" ahead of your health and safety.
I truly hope you can learn to fully care for your body as the vessel that carries your soul. ❤️ Nourish it, feed it, adorn it, and exercise it in ways that benefit your emotional and physical health. ❤️
@@annebeach6630 Thank you I will 💞
so glad to hear hunny 💗 when I was 14, I too was so insecure, and I felt like I was never enough.
Seven years later, I have grown a courage to be myself and follow my heart, and my perspective on beauty has changed so much. Trust me, girl, beauty is all within, and all about being bold enough to be YOU! Own who you are and you will be deeply loved and respected!
@@saramari1957 Thank you so much 🥺💜
im 11 and i agree!
The whole “I do it for myself” thing is a copout so you don’t have to admit you’ve been heavily pressured by society. Whether it’s subconscious or conscious.
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I’m positive there are legit people out there who do do certain things “for themselves”, but it seems like it would be hard to tell the difference between doing what you genuinely want to do regardless of what you are pressured to do versus being convinced you want something by others/your insecurities. It’s kinda scary thinking about how many decisions aren’t entirely your own, huh?
Right, they “do it for yourself” then talk about it all the time, make hundreds of posts about it. How about instead of plastic surgery for yourself, practice self love and meditation for yourself
@@wistfuloptimist1238 the only way to tell if a person is doing it for themselves is if they don’t consume any media promoting beauty standards, aren’t comparing their bodies with anyone and also aren’t teased by anyone to look a certain way
If it’s “truly” done for yourself, I feel you’d be happy to get it without the need to ever post about it (photos, status, etc). Then yes, because you wouldn’t be looking for any external validation, only what you see with your own eyes
Meep yes
Now thin is ‘in’ again and Kim got her implants downsized and everybody’s got Ozempic face. It really is so true that our bodies themselves are the trend.
“Oh honey hands are soooo last season. Drop those and maybe we’ll talk.”
*Model gets hands amputated*
Next season:
“Oh girl, why’d you ever lose those beautiful hands?! We’re going to need you to get those back.”
Mind if I steal "Ozempic face"?
Seriously!! Changing yourself for traditional beauty standards isn’t worth it
As someone who's old enough to remember the 90s, and seeing a lot of 90s and early 2000s trends coming back around again - I seriously worry for the inevitable moment in which this ideal shape begins to shrink again and all these girls seriously regret these extreme surgeries.
And when it comes to history, the fashionable "shape" had far more to do with the shape of your clothing than the body beneath it. Corsets were not commonly tight-laced up until the late 1800s, but padded in certain areas and then tighter in others to create a dress silhouette. And even when tighter corsets did come in, they ONLY tightened at the waist, while everything else was quite loose or padded to create a sort of curvature. Now your actual body is expected to change versus your clothes.
Yes 90's and early 2000's was all about being skinny and full of anorexia. Some women were naturally that way though. The problem is that these are super unnatural standards today that almost nobody can attain w/out plastic surgery.
Yessss
"Now your actual body is expected to change versus your clothes" yeah it’s really messed up :(
I've seen the tiktokers have a corset trend now where they tighten it as much as possible in one go... So messed up.
It was extremely rare for somebody to tight-lace their corset. Even when it became more common to rely a little more on the reduction caused by the corset, it wouldn't be tight-laced to a dangerous extent. As you said, They mainly relied on padding in other areas, alongside larger skirts and sleeves, to create an illusion of whatever the fashionable silhouette was at the time.
As a woman in my 40's, I just wanna say that I'm so happy there are young women like you giving voice to this stuff so eloquently. 🦆
Whats with the duck?💀
@@MOUSEBRAINED_MUSHR00M why the skull
@@MOUSEBRAINED_MUSHR00M What’s with the skull? 🦆
@@r0s3bud the skull mean like funny..what dose the duck even mean-
@@MOUSEBRAINED_MUSHR00M it means duck 🦆
Remember when they almost banned tiktok? I'm remembering that in this moment of seeing this video.
Tik tok is banned in india
@@estelaangeles2346 *I move to India!*
That would be been a good idea...
Why is that?
I remember *really* hoping it would happen because I hated Tik Tok. It does a lot more harm than good, but sadly it stayed. I'm nervous that it'll continue and influence the new generation in a negative way (I've already seen it already a LOT)
I always love watching videos like this and realizing I have no idea of any of it. It feels good to be out and untouched by all these trends
what you said about body neutrality over body positivity is so important because saying that every body is beautiful is feeding into the societal narrative that beauty is all that matters because our body’s aren’t built to be beautiful they’re built to keep us alive and that is OKAY
👏👏👏
@@belladimanno wow you said this so well!!
Fr!
But like ... Idk man saying that existing as you are is beautiful... Isn't that a positive thing?
I had this argument with my sister as well and I was like, why do we have to set a standard for beauty why can't we just take a person as they are and call them beautiful.... Eh idk, I'm not concrete on this opinion myself so...
I really like how you mentioned that once we joke about a topic long enough it gets normalized because 11 year old me never thought saying "im gonna k-word myself" at any minor problem was wrong because everyone around me was doing the same thing. Now that I'm 17 I realized how effed up and wrong it is to joke about sensitive topics like that and that I was unknowingly part of the problem
Not to mention if you say it enough you can make it your reality. I took EDs as a theme for my diploma when I was 16 and decided to check if it's possible to foster them in a chubby child such as myself over the course of summer break.
And I did. So well in fact that a decade later I can't find a way out.
ive always known that. imagine saying "kys" in an effort to be funny. like sorry to be that person but you never know whats going on with someone. especially in this time frame (where theres a lot of things going on in the world) its actually sick..
i work in hospitality and it’s something you’ll hear someone say on a daily basis. i also live in england where the phrase is pretty common. it’s definitely insensitive however as someone who was suicidal i honestly don’t really care who says it lol.
@@sweetest_tae dude, as someone who IS suicidal and makes that joke, it's not that offensive. it's dangerous, but it's not offensive.
@@vwoom4861 dont got no problems w ur opinion. its just my take on it. i find it so weird that its just a regular thing now. no offense fr.. but most people who even use "kys" or "kms" usually arent able to make real jokes and throw that word around instead. "kys" = unfunny + no humor + no 🤷♀️ again if thats how u feel abt it then alr. i respect it
Being “flat” is not an issue and should never be an issue. People are seriously stupid for valuing a woman’s breasts and ass over her features that should already be seen as good enough.. It is the worst to see young women believe they are not good enough just because their bra sizes aren’t bigger than a B cup. We see women especially suffer from eating disorders all because of people’s opinions on how they look, how they should eat, and how much they should weigh.
Be happy with who you are becoming and live in the moment. When you’re 70 you’ll look back on all those times and question why you ever payed attention to those who judged you. If finding that confidence takes you to wear some crazy costume or playing groovy tunes then DO IT! You are perfect with all of your “imperfections” the Universe has given you. They are yours and nobody else’s, and that is what makes you special.
this^
This ^
We’re just apart of the ittie bittie titty club ya know
Me whe wants to be flat: *...eheh, uh-*
Word!
I actually used to be upset with my body when I was 14 or 15. I still had the internet, but dang them promoting this stuff makes it so much worse. My solution to not having a flat stomach was to hold my stomach and tell myself there are organs in there. Its upsetting that some children would think the solution is surgery.
“I don’t wanna be someone else. I just don’t wanna hate myself”
@@morgankozume7390 I ain’t got no fxxking cash
what you know about rolling down in the deep
@@momentomoridaze6410 when your brain goes numb
@M1nty_Em3rald_YT into the thick of it
hands on my knees
As a black girl teased about my full lips and hips growing up only for it to become a trend and have everyone pretty much look like me but not naturally it’s maddening lol but great video!
RIGHT! Girls used to make fun of me for my big lips but those same girls who made fun me use filters to make their lips big like???
it’s horrible how white people/non black are getting surgery to mimic black features but would hate 2 b treated as a black person in society, and how black features are so fetishised by non black people :(
I remember my mom telling me about how when she was younger and had full lips, her classmates would call her "n-word lips" but saying the actual word. I can't imagine how it feels to see something you got bullied for become a trend.
Crazy to know what the desperation to be seen as attractive for the sake of society’s beauty standards and men can have women doing, right? The same girls/women who hated our features have switched tf up as soon as they realise that our features are considered sexually attractive to a large majority of men, moreso when they’re on non-black women. They’re willing to look like the people they talked down to and projected all types of hate onto because they’ve realised that looking like us is actually trendy now. It’s a very wild and twisted thing that’s happened.
@@응응-r6s I got made fun of as a black girl for those same features but now everyone wants to look like us I just don't understand why TwT. Every race is so pretty we should embrace our differences and appreciate our cool features :D
I'm so glad I came across this video I'm quite literally an emotional mess watching these flat-out toxic and unrealistic standards. Being raised with these pictures in magazines and Instagram/ Tiktok filters has taken a toll on my self-worth and views of how I should look what I should eat the sports I should play and how often I go to the gym. Thank you for calling people out on the misinformation being spread around the globe.
“And then when women with real, untouched bodies buy their outfits or their clothing, they’re severely disappointed because their clothing isn’t meant for people with normal bodies. They’re meant for women who have the perfect Instagram body”
Yes! It feels like so much clothing is just not made for certain body types. It’s so hard to find clothes if you have an unusual body size.
Also that most clothing has a basic rectangle cut to make sewing easy while the clothing is altered to the model's measurements which makes it look more flattering than it is. Clips are also used to hide exess fabric so while the description says the model wear a S its not actually how the piece will look on costumers.
I feel like fashionnova wont fit me…
FR
Even with a curvy body ,nothing fits me,as curvy as a body may be it's still doesn't look like instagram bodies
Ikr, every clothing shop in my zone have clothes meant for skinny, tall and flat women. Like, I don't have any problem with clothes for that specific body, but bruh, out there exists an enormous amount of patterns for every body type. Obviously they prioritice resources and money.
I almost feel OBLIGATED to buy online rather than buying in a physic shop.
It's horrible that we are teaching men not to objectify women, but then we objectify our bodies through trends. It's really just a constant and exhausting cycle
yeah, most women have internalized misogny
@@name-ip8ih underrated comment.
Those are two different things that are separate issues
@@nyumyu4265 I really don’t think they are. If I were to treat my body like an object, so much to the point where I am willing to literally get cut open and have all types of silicone and whatever else put into my body for the sake of wanting to sexually appeal to men (because let’s face it, that’s the real reason for doing such drastic things to follow trends. Women aren’t truly getting BBLs and all sorts for the sake of themselves or what other women think are they?) then I’d be altering my physical body according to men’s beauty standards and their expectations of women. I can’t really scream about how men shouldn’t objectify women but then objectify my own body as if it’s play dough that I should just be able to mould to each and every trend.
It’s internalised misogyny in a way, and it’s manifesting in women’s actions in such a drastic way to the point where a lot of women are willing to die under the knife for the sake of it, or risk mutilating their bodies. Men’s objectification of our bodies is linked with everything to do with how we objectify ourselves.
@@nayatarot777 CLEARED !
"The worst beauty trend was when the corset was forced inside the body rather than out"
I will say one important thing, as a historical fashion enthusiast who stumbled upon this video, historical clothing that included corsets and stays inherently had an advantage over modern standards of beauty:
If your body didn't meet the expected ideal, you could use your clothes to fake it
Pad out the wider parts and you still get to keep your corset comfortable (tight lacing was a very small practise, usually only done by 18-24 year old elite women who didn't have much else to do). The waist sizes were then exactly as they are today, with similar population spreads, but more people could achieve the silhouette desired because you could use your clothes to make up the difference
But, as we became more industrialised, lost respect for the clothing we wore, and started paring down our layers to barely 2, you couldn't use your clothes to make up for the silhouette anymore. So the corset moved inside the body...
And that's the saddest thing
I'm glad I read this, learned some things I didn't know. And what an interesting way to put it. :)
Love this comment
I've been re-enacting my whole life. I've been studying historical clothing for as long as I can remember and I have never thought of it like that before. What a revelation!
This is a well put argument. Great perspective!
Yes thank you! I was really hoping someone in the comments would have the truth about corsets.
As I got closer to 40, I started to feel like I was disappearing: I’d been treated one way my whole life and it felt like I had lost all value. I understand intellectually that this perception is not accurate, but it gets harder to resist the temptation to throw money at the problem via lasers and surgery etc.
You have won freedom!!
This video is incredible
omg love u tanya
yeah, it really is
oml hi and you are right
Yeah
Omg! Tanya ilysm and yes this is incredible!
The irony for me is that I had the perfect “slim thick” body as a teenager and was horribly shamed about it because it was the era of size 0. Now, I’ve got a mom bod and dysmorphia 🤷🏼♀️
Same! I’ve always had a big butt- even though I was underweight from extreme dieting as a teen. I hated my butt and got teased for it- a lot of my peers thought I was “easy” just because my butt was big. Now I’m old and thick all over and I’m still fighting disordered eating. Trends suck.
I find it so interesting because I was always told how skinny I was. As a young high schooler I was min size 3 and by the time I was an adult I was size 5. I just had a high metabolism, so I was super skinny up until I had kids. But I was always complimented on my bodacious hips. So I was always proud of the size of my hips and it's weird to hear about others growing up around the same time with the exact opposite experience.
@@ThatOneLadyOverHere I was the same size as you at 5’8” but I was not considered thin (“thunder thighs”).
@@cj48 interesting, I'm 5'9.5", so I'm not even that much taller than you either. In fact I have a sister who has the same body shape, but is probably closer to your height, but I know any of her body discomfort came from not wanting to draw attention to herself and she was called skinny just as often as me. So 🤷
That's like someone hitting a jackpot right after you abandoned the machine
I remember being 9 years old and my peers already dressing up “older” and moving on from toys to technology. I felt like I was the only one still being a child. It kind of led me to growing up too fast and abandoning the rest of my childhood. Even in high school, I didn’t get a “glow up”. I had bad makeup skills and was made fun of for having a smaller body (even though no one knew I was struggling with it). It’s sad how there are beauty standards set and instead of people embracing differences, it’s the opposite. Bullying and pressure happen :/
Yea I understand that for me it was a little later because in 2011 I was 12 and everyone started getting mice iphones and I was really poor and had a shitty government phone with minutes that was supposed to be used to contact my mom. I was still playing pokemon (honestly I still do) and playing with littlest pet shop and I was just seen as a loser when everyone else had phones and was playing with makeup when I wore none.
i can relate when i was eight i got made fun of because i didn't use the internet and because i didn't know cuss words- bullies suck :/
I remember being in 6th grade and being made fun of for playing with dolls and still saying "play date" and for not having a phone or being able to use social media. Wow this video made me think a lot more than I thought it would...
Damn bro I literally didn't have a childhood
Honestly same but I didn’t really “grow up to be more mature like them” I just hid my likes and interests. Still watched Cartoons and played in puddles and mud at like 14 😐 Didn’t get my first phone till end of Grade ten!
I found this video at the right time. I just got done exercising for that "ideal" butt. I'm on a huge journey to improve myself and love myself, and watching this video is making me reflect on my criteria/standards and where they come from. All this to say , thanks for making this video. I truly appreciate it and it'll be in my head rent free whenever I have bad days.
one beauty standard thing that always annoys me is seeing how it affected my friends. Like now whenever we have like a sleepover or go on a trip and they remove or havent applied their makeup yet, they apologise for not wearing any??? ive known all of them since we were little kids, they look just as well without it yet they feel the need to say sorry? i also think they dont realise saying sorry to me is also kind of a slap in the face , seeing as i dont wear makeup at all and never have.
(wearing makeup is completely fine btw, i just get upset that they seem to feel not wearing any is wrong)
SAME. I literally started to get annoyed by them. Its like im a stranger to them and never saw them without makeup
Right? When my friend stays the night at my place she never takes off all of her makeup. She leaves on her eyeliner and then does the rest of her makeup again first thing in the morning
Honestly, I feel as if makeup needs to be grouped in as a toxic trend too. It's basically quick surgery and I'm at the point where I can't defend the use of it anymore. I still believe it's an amazing art form and I definitely applaud artist's skills, but it's getting to the point where it's seen as a necessity and I just can't support that anymore. If you can't even go to the grocery store without "fixing" your face, are you really still doing it for yourself or have the trends gotten to you?
This is of course my opinion and Im still in awe at all of the things that can be achieved with it and I can still respect that. I just have a love/hate relationship with makeup....
@@EuphoriaInBloom one of the times one of my friends said sorry for not wearing makeup was while we were on a trip.
we were in a private cabin....on a mountain....far away from anyone....like....who cares what you look like here? the deer? the only people there were her, me and our 2 friends, all people she'd known and been close friends with for YEARS. makes me sad that she felt the need to say sorry
@@maebunny5298 make up is never going to be grouped as a trend because it's always been a thing, even since before common era in some societies. there's some certain make up trends but it itself is not a trend.
for make up as a whole to be grouped as a toxic trend would bring down people who do use it as an art form as well. i know that when i use make up in the future, it'll always be for costume and cosplay.
though i do see the toxicity make up trends bring, that's the fault of beauty standards.
I find this really fascinating. Even after people have gotten the body type they wanted, they still get body dysmorphia. No matter how you look, you will still feel ashamed of yourself in society. :(
So I work for a plastic surgeon and he actually told me once that 2 weeks is all it takes for peoples brains to forget what they looked like before surgery which is why people always want more. They get all this work done and then they just nitpick it to death finding new flaws.
@@PerfumeCognac after 2 weeks? It sounds like an addiction to just want more plastic surgery. But like you said, it’s because they pick themselves apart. Omg!
@@geo6235 honestly that would be sad, but good for the plastic surgeons since they could keep profiting off people’s insecurities.
I wonder if someone has ever went to far to the point where it has gotten really bad.
Also I see the Kardashins, but I wonder how that surgery impacts you when you age and I’m guessing they edit that, so no one really gets to see how they actually look
She most likely had it prior to the procedures most with BD turn to surgery ..she is still trying to like herself ..I have bd but im rational enough now to know surgery wont help
@@chocobun4879 i heard some people says that a good plastic surgeons always remind their patients to not doing it just because they want to looks like someone or risk their live for beauty
(Sorry for bad grammar)
I was actually scheduled for a bbl this month. I decided to cancel. I ultimately felt like I wasn’t really doing it for me but for this image of perfection. I’ve since refocused my energy into loving my self not my image but who I am. It’s hard I still struggle with self image and even doing or getting things for the sake of my image but I’m getting there slow and steady. Thank you for this video it really helped me validate what I was ultimately feeling in the end
that's great! rooting for you girl💖☺️
@@eggsammich1186 thnx love ❤️
Same. Not the BBL part but focusing on who I truly am and expressing myself not what is "beautiful"
congrats on saving yourself from excruciating pain and potentially dying earlier than you're supposed to
Congrats queen 👑
The best move I made in accepting my body was shifting from critical to neutral. My body doesn’t have to look “perfect”. It doesn’t need to please anyone else. It needs to be alive and get me where I need to go. That’s all it needs to do. It can be so hard to accept your body when you don’t fit a certain mold.
I’m pro doing whatever makes you feel good. I’ve had some friends really love their BBL results. But the dangers are REAL and there needs to be more attention on that. It’s wild that celebrities choose to deny having had plastic surgery at this point. I really hope that we are headed in a direction where normal real bodies become a “trend” again. The pressure that we all feel to fit this mold is actually crazy.
Lol anything that makes you happy
We have young woman starving themselves
We have young woman eating themselves to death so being ok with something as long as that person is HAPPY is ridiculous
@@jenniferstewart9012 i think you missed the point she made. She isn't talking about starving and other harmful things we sadly encounter. It might be not obvious to you but she just said that we should be aware of consequences if our actions and possible danger. Your point is really important and i agree with you but no one said here that starving is acceptable.
@@iglow9873 I agree! However, that’s kinda the problem with the “pro whatever makes people feel good” mentality. Even things that seem like a mere confidence boost can be extremely harmful mentally and physically. I’m ethnically African, and there is a massive colorism issue in our entertainment industry to the point where young women bleach/lighten their skin to appear more “beautiful”. The bbl trend is just the tip of the iceberg really, and we need to acknowledge when some things people do to make themselves happy aren’t entirely sound.
@@Fuzzybunny-yf2lh I agree with you but I find it hypocrital if people who tan there skin, says it not okay to lighten their skin
It's always been that way for a long time in civilization,
As a 12 year old I see girls in the bathroom talking about how they want surgery and how they want to lose their V-card and wanting to change themselves in all this way like Bruh what happened to Minecraft
im 18 still a Virgin i don’t wear makeup except for lipgloss, lipstick, chapstick & have 0 Interest in getting plastic surgery & i wish i had enough money to get Minecraft but sadly i am broke due to not having a Job because i am just simply not ready for one yet mentally one day i hope i will be if not then after i move out of where i am then SSI here i come…hopefully that will only be temporarily!!!
@@_pretty.in.pink_ same but 25 and I have a job 🥲
I hate how in a rush kids are to lose their v cards. Hunni boys at that age don’t respect you, why not wait until you find someone you feel comfortable with and can trust (which tends to be at an older age anyway bc middle school and high school boys are h*rny little sh*ts). The reason I bring that up is bc boys talk. I remember a boy in high school I made out with (nothing more) started telling other guys my body “wasn’t all that they think it is”. Knowing what boys are like at that age and seeing girls potentially putting themselves in situations for those kinds of experiences is heartbreaking. I wish they would just enjoy the free time they have because after high school thats the one thing you miss the most.
Keep being you. In this day and age it is always good to pray for others. You may not know what someone may be experiencing. Appreciate abstinence and living a righteous life.
Right? Don't be in any hurry to be like them, please, you seem to have a much clearer head on your shoulders than many of those kids so please keep it that way, your awesome for wanting to wait for all that fuss!
as a 14 year old, no one looks their age anymore. and i’m honestly too afraid to try looking my age bc of the girls who look like whole grown adults
edit: for all the “be yourself! you dont have to follow trends!” comments, i don’t follow trends lmao i tend to lean more towards alternative/vintage fashion
Right! Even trying to find outfit inspo you're left with very curvy women. What happened to the tween era?
Honestly for this reason I think JOJO siwwa is a great example of fighting stereotypes, I’m an adult but I think the idea of her embracing childhood in a non creepy way is nice and should be used more as an example of what being a kid should mean
It's actually safer for you to dress your age. You look like a whole grown adult when you'll be one. For now, you shiuld look like the child you are.
Just be you
You can only be a child for so long
Don't let anyone stop you from enjoying that
It's because of paedophilic standards. Put out my patriarchy. Combined with sexism and racism and the rest... Well. You get it.
Just be who you are. All bodies are different and deserve to be recognised and respected as such. Changing body trends and treatments can really destroy both your body and mental health. Excellent research and information, thank you. 🐦🦆
"KIM K.- we do all the work?" I would look fantastic too if I had a personal trainer, personal chef, maid, nanny, etc. ,etc.
Those people have a lot more than that, too. Just like most politicians, they don't like gasoline cars yet they all own private jets.
They don't like the 2nd amendment but they are all surrounded by armed gaurds all of the time.
@@abundantambiance991 Going beyond health, I'll like to see what's resting in their coffins a few years after they are interred. Cremating their bodies would create sooo much toxic waste.
ugh I wish I had a chef
Your point? You act like regular everyday people don’t look snatched even without all that….
If you had her genealogy...