Yess,it hurts more to know all the effort I put in,just to have my feelings thrown in a garbage 😥,the memories were bittersweet but I'm very thankful for the time I spent with them
Nicole Wilmoth for me it makes no difference at all, my love for my mother will never be the same again for the rest of my days. I don't think I be able to love another person but myself.😖😩😫😞.
its healing because as humans we like to think our experiences and the feelings they arise are unique. they are not. bonnies.courage and willingness to share her pain is amazing.
This is by far one of the saddest song written. It hold so much truth that's hard to face. Loving someone who don't love you is the most painful things the soul can experience. It hurts more than a broken arm. I wouldn't wish this type of pain on my worst enemy.
TheIndplady81 .. I divorced my wife a few years ago and this song reminds me of how I made her feel..I must've ripped her heart out. If I had my crown royal right now which I'm about to go get, I would've probably cried just now
There is pain much greater than loss of love, such as a child dying or disappearing, which has happened. My grandson has been missing for 5 years now. This pain is much worse than not being loved back. Believe me, it can always get worse.
I have always loved this song... but heard it again tonight and for the first time parts of it hit home for me about my two adult children and how the treat me and the feeling I get from them... and the feelings I feel as a result to the way they are towards me....welcome to 2022 and dissolving of the family unit!
The worst pain I have ever experienced was to love someone who didn't love me back. But by being able to accept this, I can start the healing process and move on with my life, and eventually the right person who truly loves me will come into my life!!!!
7 hour trip to beg my husband to leave his mistress and to come home. We spent the night together, loveless. In the morning I gave up, I drove home. It was the most painful thing I've ever done.
@@alexg.9279 one day out of the blue she didn’t come home then she called me and told me she didn’t love me and didn’t want to be with me anymore. I soon found out later she was having an affair with a close cousin of mine that I grew up with. I found dirty videos of them together that were dated 3 months before she left me. She was my high school sweetheart my heart was broke. I did everything for her treated her like a queen Our son was only 12 when this happened back in 2013. I was messed up for a while after then finally got over her with the help of GOD. The funny thing is In 2019 she wanted to get back together with me and I told her no. I told her I deserve better. I will always have a place in my heart for her but I can’t ever trust her again and she didn’t appreciate me. I trust in god that one day I will find someone who really loves and appreciates me and if that never happens then I will be ok.
@@efm2169 wow man, that's some fcked up chit 😱 But again not to beat a damn dead horse, before leading to the day that she told you that she was having an affair, did you do anything to her or the relationship as in not be affectionate and so on for her to deceive you? I'm asking so I can understand who was at blame first. Obviously if you were at fault you didn't deserve her to do that to you she should had told you before proceeding in the affair. And if you didn't do anything to her then honestly she was not meant for you. I know the feeling of a broken heart and unfortunately no matter what woman comes your way beautiful, rich or not it is very hard and almost impossible to trust a woman again 😔
@@alexg.9279 i treated her good our whole marriage. I did anything and everything for her. She seemed happy and never told me anything was wrong before that day. She even kissed me that morning before I left to work. She never told me she was having an affair. She just didn’t come home and when I called her to see if everything was alright that’s when she told me she didn’t love me anymore and that’s she wasn’t coming home and it’s over. I was in shock i never saw it coming. I thought our marriage was fine I was happy she seemed happy. I found the videos a week later on her computer and was devastated. I called my cousin and told him never show his face again or there will be trouble. It’s been 9 years and I’ve never seen or talked to him again and never will.
The beauty & power of this song is sooooo profound. Every Time I hear it I feel the heaviness & lack of love from my own mother. Most people associate this song with heavy hearts from a lifetime partnership standpoint of love but this very song enabled me to understand I really can't make my own mother love me if she doesn't, but no matter what I'll always love her unconditionally. Not sure why I just shared that with a world of strangers but maybe it'll help someone.
+Ms. Perfectly Flawd Reading your post brought tears to my eyes.I can't imagine as a mother not loving her child.I took care of my mom for three years until she passed in my home last July.I felt it was a privilege to take care of her and miss her so much.In life sometimes you need to grieve the loss of the mother you wish you had and love her for who she is.God Bless you.
+Ms. Perfectly Flawd I think of the lack of love from my mother every time I hear this song as well. Its a pain that no one understands unless theyve experienced it.
Hi Ms. Perfectly Flawd. I associate with this song. It is sad, but sometimes the people we expect to love us does not. Jesus said we are perfect and wonderful. He made us in his image and likeness. I experience true love from Jesus. He knew us before we were formed in our mother's womb. He crafted us with his hands. He selected us. No greater love than this.
This song popped into my head as I was heading home today. I decided to play it in my car for nostalgic purposes. The power of music never fails to astonish me. Within the first 6 notes of the song playing my eyes started to sting and by the time the vocals came in my breathing was throttled and I was fighting back tears. Totally blindsided. I tried to sing along, as I somehow innately remembered the lyrics after all these years, coaxed out by each preceding note that played, but my voice would crack from choking back a cascade of memories. That song has been ingrained as a part of my very young childhood as my mom would play it on repeat. Now the lyrics themselves hold a deeper meaning in my life, having experienced the stomach writhing pain of limerence with someone that has ended their chapter of a shared love, when I was still expressing myself seemingly mid-sentence. I adored this wonderful person for who she was; a living diamond. The type of person that I would have given the shirt off my back and the food on my plate to ensure she was well cared for - someone that no longer felt the same for me. These kinds of private experiences are difficult to share with people that I know in person, but writing like this, openly to strangers, is a whole different type of cathartic and uniquely intimate experience. I can seal away this side of me for the most part, but sometimes it will crack the surface in disarming ways. It seems there is a degree of truth that time heals all wounds, but some wounds heal jagged.
You write eloquently. I only hope you will surrender to tears when they come because they are healing in a way nothing else can do. Bless your dear heart!
I'm singing this tomorrow at a variety show & the man I'm in love with (who doesn't love me back) will be there. I'm praying I don't break down in tears while singing this. But I'm trying to accept the fact he'll never feel the love that I feel for him.
To that love I had to walk away from he lied to my heart sent me away i drove back home thru a horrible blizzard of snow & tears he's still alone but love has found me yet again💞
For a ghost man I loved to distraction 30 years ago; and to the man who loved me for 40 years...without my love. This beautiful and true song still makes me tear up...
Was asked by a college kid today a question he was working on for school. He's going for journalism. The question was- what's the meaning of life. 11/5 is my deceased husband bday. He passed on 7/10. We were married 7/11 My answer to this young man was life has meaning because it doesn't go on forever. And I was blessed in this life to have a man who loved me dearly. My heart aches daily. But I hope any of you that may be hurting find someone who values you and your love. Wish you all the best if heartache brought you here. You are not alone. And thank you to that young man for asking me that question. So I'm reminded of this.
This song was based on a real life divorce case when the husband explained to the Judge that he tried but he couldn't make his wife love him again. The song is about a man spending the last night together with his wife before divorce court the next day. It's very profound no matter what we do we can't make a person love us if it's not in their heart. It's a beautiful but equally said song. Thank you Bonnie Raitt for bringing it to life!
I never thought I’d be listening to this as I filed for divorce. He promised to always and forever love me (said it every night and had it inscribed on his ring). I guess always and forever doesn’t mean what I thought it did. Unrequited love in a marriage is the most painful thing I’ve ever felt.
The topic of unrequited love is so universal-who doesn’t experience it?! And yet it’s rarely talked about. I wish there were more gut wrenching and truthful songs like this!! What’s the point of music if it doesn’t dare to express the hurtful truth that so many go through?
My marriage is failing and this song has literally hit home. My heart hurts and I literally feel empty. 10 years invested and he shows no affection at all. It's like walls are put up everywhere. Balling my eyes out
This song is about healing , makes me cry and think of a certain special person out there still searching for the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow while missing the beauty in the rainbow itself.. You know who you are. Love always💘
Many years ago I did this to a Precious Lady who handed me her heart... I have regretted it everyday since. I still Love her. Extra Kudos to the Piano Player and Drummer. Outstanding performance... Ms. Bonnie Raitt was Born to sing this Song
This song drove me crazy because I listened to it and it was like my world was falling apart and yet this song put everything in proper perspective. It tore my heart apart yet it was telling me that she would never love me no matter what I did. Sometimes you have no say in matters of love. You just stand back and watch something precious to you walk out of your life and there is nothing you can do about it...nothing! It was the worst time in my life to try and hide all the hurt I felt in my heart. I won't wish those feelings on no one.
Congratulations, Bonnie Raitt for winning song of the years. Always loved her music. To me her best song was "I can't make you love me." Got me through some dark times in my marriage. Helped me deal with it. Proud of her no one more deserving.
I had a friend that a really loved and cared about. I poured my heart out to her. I toher that I wanted to be more than just friends. She said she was sorry but she didn't feel the same. I was devastated. I went home and cried. She let me down easy but it still hurt. She called me the next day and she said she was sorry and was worried about me. I told her I was okay, just broken hearted. This song reminds me of her.
I agree, it is the saddest song I ever listened to!! I had just been told by the greatest love I ever knew and he told me that her didn't love me anymore!!! Destroyed when he said it -- I haven't been in another relationship and it's been 22 years!!!
this is a good one right here....when you want to drink and cry yourself to sleep....you don't want to hear logic or reason, nobody will understand what you're feeling. We need to go thru this phase to get to the better place.
For me it helps me to accept my rejection instead of hurting more than it is. My heart is bleeding, but this song doesn't open more the wound it just makes me feel it peacefully.
Mike Reid, Bonnie Raitt, Bruce Hornsby, thank you for one of the most relevant songs ever conceived, written, sang, performed, and played. Thank you all for relevant, real, music that regardless of any factor, many have experienced. This is God's music because it's REAL!!
5:30 AM and haven't slept much for a few days. 16 years and nothingness, I pulled the trigger to let her loose to go to the one she is in love with, not me anymore. I can't make her love me, so I did what's right, so true... . Love to all of you out there
It’s very hard to pass through this situation when you’re even doing everything to make that person happy and nothing works, the rejection and coldness, it hurts so much!!!💔
thank you . . .that would be me. Not so much a break down, but a friendship of 27 years . . he comes to see me less and less. I haen't seen him since Valentine's Day . . .he has a lot on his pllate right now . . but i am not one of those things.
What worries me is that 19 people have actually registered a dislike for this record... How can anyone who has the luxury of the gift of hearing fail to be anything but moved to tears by this stunning Nuclear explosion of a song? Although it deals soulfully, honestly and profoundly with the end of a love affair, its true magic is its simplicity and its no-frills approach to human heart break, and that particular emotion is Universal to us all. Bonnie never did or ever will sing so perfectly again. To me personally, this is one of the greatest records ever made.
+Dave Shaw It is weird. Maybe they just didn't like that it made them weep and stirred up memories. Hell, that's why I like it, but my memories are good, in spite of dealing with suicide. Or maybe it was too slow or something. If you really want to worry about humanity, watch some dog rescue videos and witness the high number of dislikes there. Mind blowing!
I was 15 years older than him, he 33 and me 48 and I loved him beyond belief!!! I knew I was too old, I just wanted some time with him -- I got three years!! I told him he would still be young when I was 70 years old (which I am now)!! I never stopped loving him, and I never have had another relationship over the past 23 years!! I still love him, it just doesn't hurt as bad!!!!!!
The piano solo toward the end is pretty, painful and also speaks this sense of accepting what is. Out of all songs Prince wrote that others performed this is my fave. Bonnie really delivered.
The man who wrote it wrote it about an article he read about a man who shot at his girlfriends car while she was fleeing and the judge asked him what he learned after all was said and done and he stated “You can’t make a woman love you if she don’t”. Kind of a dark start to one of the greatest songs ever written lol. I know you made this comment 5 years ago but that’s ok I’m only a little late
An absolutely incredible, passionate, haunting song. I have experienced both sides of what Bonnie is singing about. I have felt the guilt and sadness of telling someone who loved me very much, that I didn't feel the same way. Terrible experience. I have also been very much in love with a beautiful young lady (years ago), and, this time, to my shock and surprise, she didn't feel the same about me. Sadness, crushed dreams, embarassment even. Two very sad days...Thanks always for this song Bonnie!
I always liked Bonnie Rait, but my experience the past ten days has lead me to feel this is truly one of the best songs ever written. It's so comforting to feel we're not alone in our times of sadness, and that we're not the only ones dealing with unrequited love.
Anyone who is not moved by this song has never loved and the love not returned. Some are unable to return love due to closed hearts as a result of trauma of some kind. It talked patience to break through and some of us don't have the patience to wait or cannot handle it do to their own experiences or lack there of.
This song brings back memories of the one woman I truly ever loved in my lifetime. When we first met, the woman I fell in love with loved me back, or at least I thought she did. After a few years I was in deep. I loved her more than anyone before her. Then, she just stopped loving me. The shock of it broke my heart. That was almost 2 years ago. I have still not recovered and likely never will. At 68 I don't hold out much hope that I'll ever meet someone and love again. I guess the old saying is certainly true for me... all good things must come to an end.
taylor12elementvb I reflect that very much as well... As a teenager just graduated from High School, I was smitten by one girl who I was a trusted friend to her, I wanted so badly to tell her I was in Love with her, but I was too afraid to do so. We had to take different paths, she left for college and a new life elsewhere, while I stayed behind to continue to support my parents and siblings. My biggest regret ever in my life was I had a chance to have a life with her, but I blew it because I felt I wasn't good enough for her. My biggest mistake was I never took the opportunity to be with her, instead, I just let her go... Now that choice I had made years ago still haunts me to this very day... I'm sure after what I've done to her, I broke her Heart. Truly, I can't make her love me, ever... What a damn fool I was...
Spice it up in the bedroom or make him his/her favorite dinner. Go out and drive around, walk by the beach together ❤️🙂 Ask her what it will take because you want to see them happy, you want to see that smile on their face again!
The pain of loving someone who doesn't love you in return is so visceral it's something those who have known it never forget. Bonnie Raitt captures it perfectly in this song. But I'm here to tell you that there is hope, there is love out there for you--amazing love. I know it because I've lived both sides of this story. Does the pain ever really fade into nothingness? I don't think so but it eases and you will find that someone who loves you as much if not more than you love them. Your new love will overshadow the pain and you might even find yourself thanking that person who couldn't or wouldn't love you. Thanking them for setting you free to find your true love. Don't give up hope. Never give up hope.
Losing (Him) in 2007. This song was sung for me i think. It's about loss, but it's about being patronised and thought a fool. If you don't love someone, let them go and be honest why. It's much easier to forgive being hurt if you are truthful. No need to look for arguments or put downs.
My love was honest, we only dated for half a year, and it's hard for me to accept and understand my feelings. I stayed up one night and thought about him and wrote down my feelings, and came to the conclusion that I loved him. He broke up with me two or three days later, because he didn't. He said he wanted to be friends, and he felt there was nothing there. We are best friends, but I will always love him.
I was in my early 20s, dating a man I really cared about, but it just wasn’t working out anymore according to him. He came over to my apartment for dinner, we talked, broke up and hugged. He left, I ran to my balcony panicked thinking “what if this doesn’t have to be over?” I saw him walking away. From my balcony and I shouted out his name. “Wait! Just wait!” He didn’t stop, didn’t look back. I’ll never forget watching his back as he walked out of my life forever. It was my first devastating painful breakup ever.
passed this off as total mom-music when I was younger. nothing quite like meeting your soulmate only to realize they’ll never love you to wake you up to how fucking devastating this is. and betond that the production and mixing is 🔥🤯
Going through this right now. Had to walk away from someone I knew would never feel the same way about me as I do for them. Cuts my heart. Crying every time I listen to this song. 😪
I'm still so in love with a man that doesn't belong to me... I still wish him well and hope all of God's best for him... This song is so beautiful and touches the soul of me in this matter. Be well folks and know that you ARE blessed if you have found love. Hold on to it and FIGHT for it!
I remember asking my gym teacher about someone I had a hopeless thing for...way back in HS in the Seventies. "You can't make someone love you," was the reply...I never forgot those words. The sense of them cracked open some otherwise impermeable fortress of disbelief. I still think of that. Still true.
timeless classic song...such..that transcends all time and space... 'cause i cant make you love me...if you dont...'' truer words were never spoke... we love you Bonnie Raitt... thank you!
A man I loved and moved in with completely changed once I moved in. Now I regret every single minute of living here. He can't even talk to me just shouts and is miserable and it hurts I've done everything for him and nothing in return except hate towards me. But I listen to this beautiful song and it helps me somehow...
The best song for the pain and confusion of unrequited love....ahh the 90s. A good learning experience for the qualities you are looking for in a partner, and the ones you aren't looking for, too. Thank the universe after this experience I found my lifelong gentleman, who was healing from his own unrequited love. Always keep the faith in the longer term plan! Everyone deserves true love...and until you find it you must love and respect yourself enough to not let anyone treat you badly. A wise person told me to write a list of all the qualities I was looking for, write a little prayer or meditation at the top, keep it in a safe place, and review it every 4-6 weeks and you will meet that person. After one edit it worked! Visualization is powerful.
This song is dedicated to all the people waking up from unrequited love. It hurts but you gotta let go of people who don't love you.
Yess,it hurts more to know all the effort I put in,just to have my feelings thrown in a garbage 😥,the memories were bittersweet but I'm very thankful for the time I spent with them
💯 !! Doing that, at this very moment... 😭
@@brandongarcia3478 I totally hear you. 👍
@@brandongarcia3478same and it’s a deep hurt.. I feel like a fool 😔
honestly it's a healing song, it's acceptance not hurt.
Both maybe, acceptance AND hurt?
Nicole Wilmoth for me it makes no difference at all, my love for my mother will never be the same again for the rest of my days. I don't think I be able to love another person but myself.😖😩😫😞.
Honestly, once you accept that it's the way it is, it actually hurts the most. The finality of it all is what kills you.
Finally, someone gets it!
its healing because as humans we like to think our experiences and the feelings they arise are unique. they are not. bonnies.courage and willingness to share her pain is amazing.
This is by far one of the saddest song written. It hold so much truth that's hard to face. Loving someone who don't love you is the most painful things the soul can experience. It hurts more than a broken arm. I wouldn't wish this type of pain on my worst enemy.
It's not love, it's neurosis. Love is not one-way; it's shared
TheIndplady81 man it's really does I'm living proof right now 😭😭😭😭😭
TheIndplady81 .. I divorced my wife a few years ago and this song reminds me of how I made her feel..I must've ripped her heart out. If I had my crown royal right now which I'm about to go get, I would've probably cried just now
There is pain much greater than loss of love, such as a child dying or disappearing, which has happened. My grandson has been missing for 5 years now. This pain is much worse than not being loved back. Believe me, it can always get worse.
@@mikenorthern2021 it was nice you realized what she went thru.
Hands down one of the best dramatic songs ever recorded. I real tear jerker.
If a song could be framed and put in a museum, it should be this one.
I'm listening to this as though the Lord Jesus was pleading with a lost world...in these final hours.
Nothing is harder than letting go of someone that you thought would love you back for ever
Indeed💔
I have always loved this song... but heard it again tonight and for the first time parts of it hit home for me about my two adult children and how the treat me and the feeling I get from them... and the feelings I feel as a result to the way they are towards me....welcome to 2022 and dissolving of the family unit!
The worst pain I have ever experienced was to love someone who didn't love me back. But by being able to accept this, I can start the healing process and move on with my life, and eventually the right person who truly loves me will come into my life!!!!
Sherry Wade....that’s called freedom....!
Feel the same way it hurts so bad
💯 !!
This song is dedicated to my mother who doesn’t love me mentally but she put finances before everything…. Heartbreaking 💔 🖤
I dedicate this song to all suffering the pain of heartbreak. May we recover soon.
HER VOICE AND THAT PIANO.IM MELTING OVER HERE!!!
Turn down these voices inside my head.
To me, this is song of maturity being resigned. Not negative, not hateful, just being real. She is taking the high road.
Yes, yes, yes!
She doesn't want to go, but faces the reality, and doesn't want to pretend love
@@richardsteveramirez5538 7
A beautiful,healing song of final acceptance.
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God says if you love me you will keep my commandments. He can't make you love HIM
Finally I found a song that doesn't make not loving someone back sound evil...
not feeling the same for someone as they do for you is perfectly fine. its how you go about it.
+Sarah Fullerton
Only if you're response to their love is is a careless: "OOPS I did it Again!"
: )
Sarah Fullerton lol
@@JokerX126 💯 !!
7 hour trip to beg my husband to leave his mistress and to come home. We spent the night together, loveless. In the morning I gave up, I drove home. It was the most painful thing I've ever done.
You deserve better💜
Hope you're doing better now
I'm so sorry that happened to you, I wish you nothing but love and joy, it will come you deserve it 💕
When she told me"I don't love you I love him"! Heart is still recovering but we're gonna be ok. Sandra keep your chin up!
Damn, idk you but that hurts to hear..i wish you nothing but the best and one day you'll find your happiness
Sorry
I use to listen to this song when my wife left me after 20 years together. She broke my heart but GOD helped me through the tough times.
If I may ask were you to blame or was she most at fault? Just curious and try to be strong🤙🏼
@@alexg.9279 one day out of the blue she didn’t come home then she called me and told me she didn’t love me and didn’t want to be with me anymore. I soon found out later she was having an affair with a close cousin of mine that I grew up with. I found dirty videos of them together that were dated 3 months before she left me. She was my high school sweetheart my heart was broke. I did everything for her treated her like a queen Our son was only 12 when this happened back in 2013. I was messed up for a while after then finally got over her with the help of GOD. The funny thing is In 2019 she wanted to get back together with me and I told her no. I told her I deserve better. I will always have a place in my heart for her but I can’t ever trust her again and she didn’t appreciate me. I trust in god that one day I will find someone who really loves and appreciates me and if that never happens then I will be ok.
@@efm2169 wow man, that's some fcked up chit 😱 But again not to beat a damn dead horse, before leading to the day that she told you that she was having an affair, did you do anything to her or the relationship as in not be affectionate and so on for her to deceive you? I'm asking so I can understand who was at blame first. Obviously if you were at fault you didn't deserve her to do that to you she should had told you before proceeding in the affair. And if you didn't do anything to her then honestly she was not meant for you. I know the feeling of a broken heart and unfortunately no matter what woman comes your way beautiful, rich or not it is very hard and almost impossible to trust a woman again 😔
@@alexg.9279 i treated her good our whole marriage. I did anything and everything for her. She seemed happy and never told me anything was wrong before that day. She even kissed me that morning before I left to work. She never told me she was having an affair. She just didn’t come home and when I called her to see if everything was alright that’s when she told me she didn’t love me anymore and that’s she wasn’t coming home and it’s over. I was in shock i never saw it coming. I thought our marriage was fine I was happy she seemed happy. I found the videos a week later on her computer and was devastated. I called my cousin and told him never show his face again or there will be trouble. It’s been 9 years and I’ve never seen or talked to him again and never will.
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This song stirs the soul like nothing else. Bonnie did an outstanding job.
In my opinion, this is one of the best songs about unrequited love.
The beauty & power of this song is sooooo profound. Every Time I hear it I feel the heaviness & lack of love from my own mother.
Most people associate this song with heavy hearts from a lifetime partnership standpoint of love but this very song enabled me to understand I really can't make my own mother love me if she doesn't, but no matter what I'll always love her unconditionally.
Not sure why I just shared that with a world of strangers but maybe it'll help someone.
+Ms. Perfectly Flawd Reading your post brought tears to my eyes.I can't imagine as a mother not loving her child.I took care of my mom for three years until she passed in my home last July.I felt it was a privilege to take care of her and miss her so much.In life sometimes you need to grieve the loss of the mother you wish you had and love her for who she is.God Bless you.
Tammy Randall
Your words were very kind & profound. Thank u for taking the time to encourage me with such compassion. God bless u
+Ms. Perfectly Flawd I think of the lack of love from my mother every time I hear this song as well. Its a pain that no one understands unless theyve experienced it.
Vcalexan so sad but true
Hi Ms. Perfectly Flawd. I associate with this song. It is sad, but sometimes the people we expect to love us does not. Jesus said we are perfect and wonderful. He made us in his image and likeness. I experience true love from Jesus. He knew us before we were formed in our mother's womb. He crafted us with his hands. He selected us. No greater love than this.
This song popped into my head as I was heading home today. I decided to play it in my car for nostalgic purposes. The power of music never fails to astonish me. Within the first 6 notes of the song playing my eyes started to sting and by the time the vocals came in my breathing was throttled and I was fighting back tears. Totally blindsided. I tried to sing along, as I somehow innately remembered the lyrics after all these years, coaxed out by each preceding note that played, but my voice would crack from choking back a cascade of memories. That song has been ingrained as a part of my very young childhood as my mom would play it on repeat. Now the lyrics themselves hold a deeper meaning in my life, having experienced the stomach writhing pain of limerence with someone that has ended their chapter of a shared love, when I was still expressing myself seemingly mid-sentence. I adored this wonderful person for who she was; a living diamond. The type of person that I would have given the shirt off my back and the food on my plate to ensure she was well cared for - someone that no longer felt the same for me. These kinds of private experiences are difficult to share with people that I know in person, but writing like this, openly to strangers, is a whole different type of cathartic and uniquely intimate experience. I can seal away this side of me for the most part, but sometimes it will crack the surface in disarming ways. It seems there is a degree of truth that time heals all wounds, but some wounds heal jagged.
Dylan, your words are more than beautiful, they're true. I've never been able to put my finger on it as you have...some wounds heal jagged.
You write eloquently. I only hope you will surrender to tears when they come because they are healing in a way nothing else can do. Bless your dear heart!
I hope you're doing better
I could not have expressed these words better.
Heard it this morning on my way to work. It’s been a long time, but still brought tears and memories.
I have never read a song comment or anything else for that matter so we’ll written and expressed. Deep deep feelings behind these words. Thank you.
"I'll close my eyes so I don't see the love you don't feel when you're holding me" 💔
That's the most painful realization...
Thank God she left! No need to waste her time and emotions on the wrong person and feel USED!
I'm singing this tomorrow at a variety show & the man I'm in love with (who doesn't love me back) will be there. I'm praying I don't break down in tears while singing this. But I'm trying to accept the fact he'll never feel the love that I feel for him.
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I hope that worked out ok for you, and I hope love has found you
To that love I had to walk away from he lied to my heart sent me away i drove back home thru a horrible blizzard of snow & tears he's still alone but love has found me yet again💞
🫂💖 Very happy for you, sister!!
For a ghost man I loved to distraction 30 years ago; and to the man who loved me for 40 years...without my love. This beautiful and true song still makes me tear up...
Was asked by a college kid today a question he was working on for school. He's going for journalism. The question was- what's the meaning of life.
11/5 is my deceased husband bday. He passed on 7/10. We were married 7/11
My answer to this young man was life has meaning because it doesn't go on forever. And I was blessed in this life to have a man who loved me dearly. My heart aches daily. But I hope any of you that may be hurting find someone who values you and your love. Wish you all the best if heartache brought you here. You are not alone.
And thank you to that young man for asking me that question. So I'm reminded of this.
The saddest, but most beautiful song EVER recorded.
Yes Ma'am and Bonnie was Born to sing it..I Love Bonnie
Today I was reminded of my love for Bonnie Raitt in an interview of Wynona Judd by John Rich. I thank my sister for gifting me Bonnie and Wynona.
This song was based on a real life divorce case when the husband explained to the Judge that he tried but he couldn't make his wife love him again. The song is about a man spending the last night together with his wife before divorce court the next day. It's very profound no matter what we do we can't make a person love us if it's not in their heart. It's a beautiful but equally said song. Thank you Bonnie Raitt for bringing it to life!
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I never thought I’d be listening to this as I filed for divorce. He promised to always and forever love me (said it every night and had it inscribed on his ring). I guess always and forever doesn’t mean what I thought it did. Unrequited love in a marriage is the most painful thing I’ve ever felt.
The topic of unrequited love is so universal-who doesn’t experience it?! And yet it’s rarely talked about. I wish there were more gut wrenching and truthful songs like this!! What’s the point of music if it doesn’t dare to express the hurtful truth that so many go through?
Been there recently, it's painful, but the words say it all.
My marriage is failing and this song has literally hit home. My heart hurts and I literally feel empty. 10 years invested and he shows no affection at all. It's like walls are put up everywhere. Balling my eyes out
That would be "bawling", not "balling".
Courtney, its a year later. I hope you've found love, peace and happiness
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I hope you've healed. If not I hope things will look up soon ❤️
2022
This song is about healing , makes me cry and think of a certain special person out there still searching for the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow while missing the beauty in the rainbow itself.. You know who you are. Love always💘
Laying in my bed with tears running down my face listening to this song knowing I can relate to ever word. ☹☹
This song is making me cry, because this is exactly how I feel right now :(
I hear ya'
me too :'(
Mikki Ruvinsky ... I hope you got through it ok... hugs
are you ok now ? cause this song is exactly how I feel right now too :(
Unrequited love will make you feel so empty yet desperate and inexplicably lonely. Oh What an awfully beautiful thing it is....
Many years ago I did this to a Precious Lady who handed me her heart... I have regretted it everyday since. I still Love her.
Extra Kudos to the Piano Player and Drummer. Outstanding performance... Ms. Bonnie Raitt was Born to sing this Song
Arguably, one of the best songs ever written. In my humble opinion lol
Agreed
Who in their right mind gave this a thumbs down? Look inside yourselves, this really is an amazing song.
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This song makes sad because it brings back so many memories of when all of my family was still together
My broken heart is decades old, yet this song still brings tears to my eyes.
I understand
it's okay , I mean it's not okay but it's okay..
Thats really sad..im sorry you've been broken hearted for so long
I break down crying at the very beginning of this song.i know this pain. I lived this pain but I'm still standing.
This song drove me crazy because I listened to it and it was like my world was falling apart and yet this song put everything in proper perspective. It tore my heart apart yet it was telling me that she would never love me no matter what I did. Sometimes you have no say in matters of love. You just stand back and watch something precious to you walk out of your life and there is nothing you can do about it...nothing! It was the worst time in my life to try and hide all the hurt I felt in my heart. I won't wish those feelings on no one.
Hang in there fella
Barry always remember this, sometimes something good has to fall apart so that something better can come together.
The best is yet to be. Someone will come along who will truly appreciate you for who you are and what you can offer.
The Power of Art
What is worse is when she goes to somebody that beats her.
Congratulations, Bonnie Raitt for winning song of the years. Always loved her music. To me her best song was "I can't make you love me." Got me through some dark times in my marriage. Helped me deal with it. Proud of her no one more deserving.
The chores just melts my heart. It takes guts to admit someone you love does not live you back.
I had a friend that a really loved and cared about. I poured my heart out to her. I toher that I wanted to be more than just friends. She said she was sorry but she didn't feel the same. I was devastated. I went home and cried. She let me down easy but it still hurt. She called me the next day and she said she was sorry and was worried about me. I told her I was okay, just broken hearted. This song reminds me of her.
I agree, it is the saddest song I ever listened to!! I had just been told by the greatest love I ever knew and he told me that her didn't love me anymore!!! Destroyed when he said it -- I haven't been in another relationship and it's been 22 years!!!
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this is a good one right here....when you want to drink and cry yourself to sleep....you don't want to hear logic or reason, nobody will understand what you're feeling. We need to go thru this phase to get to the better place.
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If this doesn't tear out your heart, you probably don't have one to begin with.
Yes i don't.
Very mature thing to say 😂
For me it helps me to accept my rejection instead of hurting more than it is. My heart is bleeding, but this song doesn't open more the wound it just makes me feel it peacefully.
Mike Reid, Bonnie Raitt, Bruce Hornsby, thank you for one of the most relevant songs ever conceived, written, sang, performed, and played. Thank you all for relevant, real, music that regardless of any factor, many have experienced. This is God's music because it's REAL!!
5:30 AM and haven't slept much for a few days. 16 years and nothingness, I pulled the trigger to let her loose to go to the one she is in love with, not me anymore. I can't make her love me, so I did what's right, so true... . Love to all of you out there
I hear you, brother. 🫂❤️
So heartbreaking 💔💔💔💔💔🥺😢😞 ,,,,,,a beautiful song
It’s very hard to pass through this situation when you’re even doing everything to make that person happy and nothing works, the rejection and coldness, it hurts so much!!!💔
what can I say this song is so sentimental if anyone out there is going through a break down God bless and stay strong
thank you . . .that would be me. Not so much a break down, but a friendship of 27 years . . he comes to see me less and less. I haen't seen him since Valentine's Day . . .he has a lot on his pllate right now . . but i am not one of those things.
What worries me is that 19 people have actually registered a dislike for this record... How can anyone who has the luxury of the gift of hearing fail to be anything but moved to tears by this stunning Nuclear explosion of a song? Although it deals soulfully, honestly and profoundly with the end of a love affair, its true magic is its simplicity and its no-frills approach to human heart break, and that particular emotion is Universal to us all. Bonnie never did or ever will sing so perfectly again. To me personally, this is one of the greatest records ever made.
+Dave Shaw It is weird. Maybe they just didn't like that it made them weep and stirred up memories. Hell, that's why I like it, but my memories are good, in spite of dealing with suicide. Or maybe it was too slow or something. If you really want to worry about humanity, watch some dog rescue videos and witness the high number of dislikes there. Mind blowing!
We think alike, that's all that matters, when a door opens for you WALK THRU IT, if you don't it may close..
I listened to this music and it is beautiful and it does stir up memories. But the past is the past and need to move on. The music remains beautiful.
beautifullly said little angel.
I was 15 years older than him, he 33 and me 48 and I loved him beyond belief!!! I knew I was too old, I just wanted some time with him -- I got three years!! I told him he would still be young when I was 70 years old (which I am now)!! I never stopped loving him, and I never have had another relationship over the past 23 years!! I still love him, it just doesn't hurt as bad!!!!!!
One of thee best songs ever written
The piano solo toward the end is pretty, painful and also speaks this sense of accepting what is. Out of all songs Prince wrote that others performed this is my fave. Bonnie really delivered.
I stand corrected Prince was not the writer but Bonnie had the best delivery.
@@acaldwe1174 Adele is a close second. Bonnie's version is simplistic....great delivery
The man who wrote it wrote it about an article he read about a man who shot at his girlfriends car while she was fleeing and the judge asked him what he learned after all was said and done and he stated “You can’t make a woman love you if she don’t”. Kind of a dark start to one of the greatest songs ever written lol. I know you made this comment 5 years ago but that’s ok I’m only a little late
Omgeee. Her voice, though
When I was a teen I never understood this song. As a grown man, it makes me cry.
I believe we've all been through this experience. Great Song....
Unfortunately.. yes
This is the most beautiful way I've ever heard someone give-up.
An absolutely incredible, passionate, haunting song. I have experienced both sides of what Bonnie is singing about. I have felt the guilt and sadness of telling someone who loved me very much, that I didn't feel the same way. Terrible experience. I have also been very much in love with a beautiful young lady (years ago), and, this time, to my shock and surprise, she didn't feel the same about me. Sadness, crushed dreams, embarassment even. Two very sad days...Thanks always for this song Bonnie!
This song is so cathartic.
I always liked Bonnie Rait, but my experience the past ten days has lead me to feel this is truly one of the best songs ever written. It's so comforting to feel we're not alone in our times of sadness, and that we're not the only ones dealing with unrequited love.
Anyone who is not moved by this song has never loved and the love not returned. Some are unable to return love due to closed hearts as a result of trauma of some kind. It talked patience to break through and some of us don't have the patience to wait or cannot handle it do to their own experiences or lack there of.
So many of us have been in that very moment. The last struggle before giving up. The greatest break-up song ever written, I think
This song brings back memories of the one woman I truly ever loved in my lifetime. When we first met, the woman I fell in love with loved me back, or at least I thought she did. After a few years I was in deep. I loved her more than anyone before her. Then, she just stopped loving me. The shock of it broke my heart. That was almost 2 years ago. I have still not recovered and likely never will. At 68 I don't hold out much hope that I'll ever meet someone and love again. I guess the old saying is certainly true for me... all good things must come to an end.
taylor12elementvb I reflect that very much as well... As a teenager just graduated from High School, I was smitten by one girl who I was a trusted friend to her, I wanted so badly to tell her I was in Love with her, but I was too afraid to do so. We had to take different paths, she left for college and a new life elsewhere, while I stayed behind to continue to support my parents and siblings. My biggest regret ever in my life was I had a chance to have a life with her, but I blew it because I felt I wasn't good enough for her. My biggest mistake was I never took the opportunity to be with her, instead, I just let her go... Now that choice I had made years ago still haunts me to this very day... I'm sure after what I've done to her, I broke her Heart. Truly, I can't make her love me, ever... What a damn fool I was...
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If you're going through what she is this song is unbearably painful to listen to. I was there. Years later I can listen to it. :)
With Bruce Hornsby on piano. Such a great song
2023. Going through unrequited love right now. This hits the soul
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There is beauty in pain, there is beauty in honesty...that's what I get from this song. The pure honesty, but you will get through it
NOBODY does this song like Bonnie, This woman can really blow. So natural. Could listen to it all night.
It is so tragic when your marriage or relationship has gotten to the point that is only one way. This is got to be the saddest song ever written.
Spice it up in the bedroom or make him his/her favorite dinner. Go out and drive around, walk by the beach together ❤️🙂 Ask her what it will take because you want to see them happy, you want to see that smile on their face again!
The pain of loving someone who doesn't love you in return is so visceral it's something those who have known it never forget. Bonnie Raitt captures it perfectly in this song. But I'm here to tell you that there is hope, there is love out there for you--amazing love. I know it because I've lived both sides of this story. Does the pain ever really fade into nothingness? I don't think so but it eases and you will find that someone who loves you as much if not more than you love them. Your new love will overshadow the pain and you might even find yourself thanking that person who couldn't or wouldn't love you. Thanking them for setting you free to find your true love. Don't give up hope. Never give up hope.
Losing (Him) in 2007. This song was sung for me i think. It's about loss, but it's about being patronised and thought a fool. If you don't love someone, let them go and be honest why. It's much easier to forgive being hurt if you are truthful. No need to look for arguments or put downs.
My love was honest, we only dated for half a year, and it's hard for me to accept and understand my feelings. I stayed up one night and thought about him and wrote down my feelings, and came to the conclusion that I loved him. He broke up with me two or three days later, because he didn't. He said he wanted to be friends, and he felt there was nothing there. We are best friends, but I will always love him.
These words ring so true right now.😪
I was in my early 20s, dating a man I really cared about, but it just wasn’t working out anymore according to him. He came over to my apartment for dinner, we talked, broke up and hugged. He left, I ran to my balcony panicked thinking “what if this doesn’t have to be over?” I saw him walking away. From my balcony and I shouted out his name. “Wait! Just wait!” He didn’t stop, didn’t look back. I’ll never forget watching his back as he walked out of my life forever. It was my first devastating painful breakup ever.
Better to be hurt right in the beginning, not when you have kids, a mortgage, memories and a husband who doesn't love you and never did.
I spent 20 years off my life loving a man who used me but never loved me
@@daisymaefrench4041 that point. That has been my life.
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I remember when it hurt to hear this song. Now that he passed away, it still does.
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passed this off as total mom-music when I was younger. nothing quite like meeting your soulmate only to realize they’ll never love you to wake you up to how fucking devastating this is. and betond that the production and mixing is 🔥🤯
I wish it were possible to have the late great John Prine accompany Bonnie Raitt on this song.
Who can forget the Grammy Awards when she said that she couldn't believe that she was even nominated. Then she proceeded to collect multiple Grammy's.
Going through this right now. Had to walk away from someone I knew would never feel the same way about me as I do for them. Cuts my heart. Crying every time I listen to this song. 😪
Wow I'm going through this now...and he's a narsisist.
If I can ever listen to this song without crying, I’ll know I’m truly over my ex or alternatively totally devoid of emotion…
My heart feels so much pain listening to this. Bonnie may not have written it, but she breathed life into it, and made us all feel it to the core.
I cant make anyone love me i just wish they wouldnt lie to me
+angela wong (Angel) You don't have to make *me* Love you. It's already done.
Nah I'd rather here the truth. It feels better whatever it is.
I'm still so in love with a man that doesn't belong to me... I still wish him well and hope all of God's best for him... This song is so beautiful and touches the soul of me in this matter. Be well folks and know that you ARE blessed if you have found love. Hold on to it and FIGHT for it!
I remember asking my gym teacher about someone I had a hopeless thing for...way back in HS in the Seventies. "You can't make someone love you," was the reply...I never forgot those words. The sense of them cracked open some otherwise impermeable fortress of disbelief. I still think of that. Still true.
Beautiful lady feeling how to give her soul 💖! Wow 🥺 I love you 💞
timeless classic song...such..that transcends all time and space... 'cause i cant make you love me...if you dont...'' truer words were never spoke... we love you Bonnie Raitt... thank you!
So it was 1991. I bought CD for this song back then 🏆🔥
A man I loved and moved in with completely changed once I moved in. Now I regret every single minute of living here. He can't even talk to me just shouts and is miserable and it hurts I've done everything for him and nothing in return except hate towards me. But I listen to this beautiful song and it helps me somehow...
This song gave me the courage to actually get the boy of my dreams.
I'll never forget this song, no matter the sad times I had before I got him.
Cookie RoxyPaw HA GOT EEM.012
Some songs you have to had lived them for them to really speak to u. This song is so true and honest.
Michelle Payne @eltorodetres
The best song for the pain and confusion of unrequited love....ahh the 90s. A good learning experience for the qualities you are looking for in a partner, and the ones you aren't looking for, too. Thank the universe after this experience I found my lifelong gentleman, who was healing from his own unrequited love. Always keep the faith in the longer term plan! Everyone deserves true love...and until you find it you must love and respect yourself enough to not let anyone treat you badly. A wise person told me to write a list of all the qualities I was looking for, write a little prayer or meditation at the top, keep it in a safe place, and review it every 4-6 weeks and you will meet that person. After one edit it worked! Visualization is powerful.
I love the contrast between the mellow musical sound with its sad lyrics.
Her voice is perfect for this song.
Absolute perfection
So beautiful and melancholy...sigh! Only she can sing it this way...she totally owns this song !
God, how does a great song like this get ANY dislikes? Great music, thanks!
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Great song mrs Bonnie! 👍🏿
it’s 2020 and still my favorite song
ikr! Whoever likes Bonny Raitt , will hopefully be very sucsesful ! I hope you are having a great day :D
2021 and I still love it
Still love it, it’s Aug 2022
Just Plain Beautiful not any words can say more. To My Sister who I miss listening to this with. Love You Cell
Best song ever? Quite possibly. Best version? Undoubtedly.
This song is so gut wrenching. It makes me cry……