Why Are So Many Young Men Celibate?
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As an early 30s man, you absolutely nailed the problems on the head and perfectly described the issues.
Thank you for watching and for taking the time to comment 😀
Glad you enjoyed it 😊
I’m 58. I worked at a corporation that used outside law firms and an attorney (a man) invited me and two men he worked with to dinner. “Karen” heard about it and went to my boss, accusing me of being misogynistic, since I was the department manager, and I didn’t invite her. It wasn’t my invitation. Nonetheless, I was called into the office and written up for being a woman hating misogynist, which is completely false. I was given the choice of signing the document admitting that I was guilty or it would be referred to HR. I was considered guilty before I even walked in the office. I signed the document and left the company eight months later. The workplace is so toxic that even when you do everything correct a woman will make a false allegation and she is believed. I’m now economically independent and don’t work and life is good.
You should not have signed the document and walked out right then …
I understand why you did as you did AND " GOOD FOR YOU"! They are/were wrong!
The guys I know that used to tell me I'm missing out by not having a family have gotten their asses handed to them in divorces. They don't say much about it now.
and got their assets handed to those who loot, injure and humiliate them, including the kidnapping and alienation of children at their expense and false accusations and destruction of reputation.
Lol
And the fact the children are living/influenced by the mother and whomever she has as a partner at any given time.
Years later I have bought broken dudes drinks and thanked them for stealing my woman years earlier. They sure didn't look like "winners" to me. They got the child support and alimony. I got a new vette. Now, that's winning. Lol.
@@jamest2861 that vette tho... ooofffff gotta love the gas guzzling LS engine...
1) the juice isn't worth the squeeze
2) men have few options, women have endless options. A woman can walk down the street and find a boyfriend even if she is unemployed and broke as long as she is not too ugly. To be eligible a man has to have a good job, a place to live, and look handsome.
3) men usually lose a lot in marriage, women usually gain a lot
And online dating favors women, 100 - 1. That has been studied and proven over and over again.
@FindingThumos yes I have emotionally detached from getting involved I only want friends and associates, nothing more. Im strong and busy enough in my own life while still loving and appreciating others for who they are and their hopes and dreams, but I have taken out any hopes for romance unless it is an absolutely genuine encounter, otherwise I'm not chasing or forcing anything. It does seem a little strange and peculiar to be honest but that's where I'm at. It has also taken a while to come to terms with it but anyway here I am lol
“Men have few options”
That’s their own fault though. If they exercised, worked on social skills and worked at their career they’d be very valuable partners to many women. Instead they want to wallow in self pity and how unfair it is
I don’t want to know the amount of time guys spend(or waste) watching this type of content and complaining about the same things over and over
@@BrisLS1so don’t use dating apps then! Why you guys insist on using dating apps when you could just go out and talk to women is beyond me.. it’s so much easier to attract women face to face
@@brianmeen2158 Even men who do all those things have few options compared to a woman who doesn't exercise, doesn't have ssocial skills, and doesn't have a careerr. That's my point.
Most of the younger men working for me believe they were abandoned by their mothers when they were younger and go into a relationship looking for any red flag with the new GF. Most younger men grew up watching thier mothers manipulate guys and trade sex and morals for dinners, vacations, & money just to drop the guy cold and move on or have multiple BFs and continuously rotate through men and not pay attention to the kids. So when they become young men and have a GF do the same thing to them - they begin treating women in the same fashion. They have friends who were screwed over by a wife and the court system and they quickly lose trust in everyone & everything. Add to this the cost of a date night and many younger men would prefer to stay home and play video games. There is no longevity in anything now, relationships, employers, stock investments, cars, nothing. Everything is geared towards short term enjoyment and monthly payments.
That scenario goes both ways. If you go to women's channels bitching about men they have the issues men claim with women.
You can thank the government and the Federal Reserve for that
@@roryteal5940 - of course they do. But who gets screwed the most often in divorce court. I tell my employees to focus on their careers until 35 or 40 & then go to Asia or South America and find a good wife and start a family then. I did and my little Filipina is great!! And the friends I have that did the same thing are just as hapoy today as when they married their foreign girls 15 & 20 years ago.
I was married, a good husband and she left with no explanation. It has become a risk today, not a time to settle and build something with one`s life. Divorce has become so common, that there are more divorces than marriages. Modern women view men as nothing and they have lost their femininity. So, its better to be single and healthy.
Men are not intimidated by high earning women theyre irritated by them...
They aren’t putting the work in because they don’t see women as worth the effort.
That's mostly copium. They don't see the effort as worth it because they have convinced themselves that they cannot succeed even if they try. They fall into the trap of pointing their finger at other people (usually women in this case) instead of looking in the mirror and realizing that that is where their main problem is.
@@sandman1347 Men want families. Promiscuous women are more likely to cheat and divorce their husbands. Modern women aren’t wife material. It’s reality. Traditionalist live in a reality long gone.
@sandman1347 what does "success" look like when living with a woman?
I literally have no idea.
@@JeffCaplan313 I would define it loosely as both people having substantially better lives together than they would have apart.
@@sandman1347yep these guys try their hardest to justify not even trying to meet women so they don’t risk discomfort
Alcohol, gambling, drugs and porn. You described the 4 pillars of my existence.
Haha :p
@@marcusdirectnothing funny about that. It is sad
@@brianmeen2158 welcome to the the 21st century
I saw a few stats the really opened my eyes.
1. In 1970 86% of adults were married. Today it is 32%.
2. The 2020 census showed that for the first time in US history. There are more 30 year old women without kids then with kids.
It's not a mystery. For most men, their dating lives are long periods of relational isolation with absolutely nothing, broken by a short periods of bad relationships with women that just use them as a placeholder until they can monkey branch into a Chads harem. Then he might get a wife or LTR when a post wall woman has no other option but to settle and chooses him. Dating life for average men is absolute hell. It's no wonder so many guys are doing that men going their way thing.
Agreed
I haven’t dated since 2004 when I got divorced
I feel for you.
20 years! Why??
@@frontendzen4852 It could be the location they are located in.
@@frontendzen4852 23 years for me, dated and had relationships after my divorce in 1993 and in the years that followed could not find a good woman just a lot of single mothers who weren't wife material so by 2003 I had enough and just haven't bothered anymore
What he's saying is 100% correct. I'm 34, tall, in shape, own home, never married/no kids and not on the dating market. Just me, my dog, and my hobbies keeping busy outside of work. Unfortunately the juice is no longer worth the squeeze.
That isn't really what he is saying tho, he is kinda just blaming men
How do you get to your biological urges
@@Dober_mon Just get one of those call women if your in the mood.
I pay over $2k monthly to taxes. I'm quite certain there is a women out there and probably a few kids that depend on me... of course they don't need to know that.
Thanks government!
@chrisniner8772 that's right...and that's enough let alone adding more directly to the wallet
I had a wife 10 years, she decided to leave.
I have been married most all my life. Just to different women.
Now, I have girlfriends.
Wow. I got nothing.
The world is overpopulated. It's okay to remain single. Pursue your hobbies, travel, enjoy life.
Thanks Mark for this video. I agree 100 percent what you said. Additionally the family court in most cases is a slaughterhouse for most men here in the West.
@@zigmond7799 slaughter house lol
"Don't get your Meat at the same place you make your Bread."
Marriage is like a tornado , at first there’s a lot of blowing and sucking and then you lose your house
@@ElmwoodParkHulk Good one I’ll use that next time at the Pub…😂✌🏻🍺
Time's have gone to shit tbh
Wahmen have gone to shit
This is the dating world that women have created. Unfortunately long after we’re gone, it’s going to take at least a couple generations for this situation to possibly change.
Things are going to have to get worse before men are motivated to actually change things
It’s not going to change. Time marches on, it does not turn back. It’s like going back to horses after we all have cars already, ain’t happening my guy
@@dmoneydmoney6050 Agreed. So what is the birthrate is zero? If the population of the world drops by 75%, it won't be a big deal. So what?
@@dmoneydmoney6050 "change" doesn't mean going back. It means going to something more functional.
It's a two way street. You can blame technology. It's made less attractive people rendered useless as technology allows everyone to find partners. Many guys my younger age have so many partners all the time. It's just how it is.
🇦🇺😎👍I haven’t been on a date for 16 years. I’ve given up. I haven’t had a girlfriend for 21 years🤣
Same here my friend
I was on a date 3.5 years ago; but I haven’t had a GF since me 2nd wife left me 10 years ago. But I have decided to make my own happiness.
Get a dog or a cat people are overrated
@@nancyamaral5620 Or plushies. FaceTime and work keeps me busy for now.
Wow! And I thought 4 years for me so far was a lot 😂
You dropped this king - 👑
Having a wife and family is very expensive.
the advent of technology ie dating apps IG TikTok etc and the result being .. literally endless options for young to even older women .. combined with hypergamy .. has doomed massive numbers of young men to complete 'invisibility' in the dating world .. as a 50 + year old my heart goes out to them 💔 grateful to have experienced my youth when i did
And that's the bottom line!
Right on buddy, you nailed it better than the video.
@mcp4490
thanks for the acknowledgement
All the problems mentioned were inevitable since feminism amd giving women rights. And this is just yhe beginning.
But also education, better economy and the choise of freedom instead of a relationship. A hundred years ago, women got married becase the needed someone to support them, and starting a family without beeing married first was out the question.
@@Bighand4 yes, education, work, choice of who to marry (or not) are all rights that men have given women. The problem is in all these things they act based on their emotions.
Trying to date and obtain a girl that you really like is exhausting work. And even if you get her, it’s tremendously difficult to keep the relationship going while you juggle everything else in life.
Agreed. And expensive.
It’s always been very difficult to maintain relationships though! It’s only in 2024 do people think it takes too much work lol.. laziness and addiction to comfort has paralyzed many of you
@@brianmeen2158 I’m not saying to give up. I’m just stating how difficult it is. Even when you have a relationship, girls many times cannot sit still and demand non stop attention. It’s not easy. 30 years ago, women were more submissive to becoming wives and girlfriends. They relaxed more.
@@brianmeen2158 Any self-respecting man will realize at a certain point it isn't worth it. The older generation completely bought into the idea that man's role was to maintain women at any cost. Better to invest the effort into one's self.
The positives of living single. At 74, the record is as follows, 40 + cars, 18 motorcycles, 6 yachts, driven buses all over Australia, driven trucks and semi-trailers, with lots of great memories, been in business, ( built about 200 houses),and worked, and lived in many different places , with many great memories. Married once, 5 relationships, and living single with many memories of a great life..😁😁😁
Congratulations 🎊 you've had a wonderful life
Too many young women playing there f****ing mind games. Even saying hello to them can be perceived as a threat.
I have a 40 year old son. 6'2", sparkling green eyes and blonde hair. He works for a law firm in a major US city making 6 figures.
He had girlfriends his whole life. He took two girls to his high school Prom. He was a bartender in a hipster bar through college. His last live-in girlfriend was as he described; abusive.
She looked like a model and made industrial training movies.
She was an alcoholic and was put in resident rehab by her family when she was found incoherent one day.
That was 5 years ago. He went through a deep depression. She tried to contact him when she got out but he blew her off. He hasn't dated since. I think it traumatized him. He doesn't talk about it. Says he would like to have a family but seems afraid to move forward.
Just asking a women out can lead to false allegations.
I got false accusations for simply having a platonic friend That was a female, her co-worker didn't like the Idea of me talking to her so she started spreading rumors.
So you don't even have to have romantic intentions to be lied about.
Facts
Jesus guys there you go with the hysteria. Do you realize how often false allegations are laid out on men that just approached a woman in public?!? It’s much much less than 1% yet you act like it’s common lol.. for your own sake get offline more often as its warping your mind
@@Outlander-wm9cdso are you going to stop living altogether? Are you not going to go out in public because of air born diseases? Would you never dare start a business just because most fail?
Pure hysteria. You guys use the same dumb talking points every time
I'm one of those men who never asked a woman out and almost 30. They want men to leave them alone but also want men to chase them, I'm not playing these games
Yes, I'm glad I grew up when I did.
You got to admit Mark, even the philippino ladies are starting to change, and not for the better. I remember when the internet came out, and said this would be the beginning of the end for the human race. This is the reason for the lack of morals, and responsibility, on both sides. I'm not religious but the lack this has also cause these problems.
You have a valid point. Thank you for watching ☺️
because marriage is resource draining.
young men don't have the resources to drain
Unless you want children, you're a fool to commit to a woman. If you do want kids - god help you. Women today aren't worth the headache and risk. I've been married and have had a wide range of relationships with a wide range of types of women over decades. At 52, I realized I was better off without them and that it would have been better had I realized that YEARS earlier. I was never really hurt by women, but I simply realized that interacting with them was always a net negative for my life. No mas.
*nunca mas
It's a shame you think that. Think of what you are missing out on.
@@bettywith2girlsfeminist
@@bettywith2girls He just wrote four complete lines that he thinks there's nothing to miss out on, lol. Maybe reread his comment.
Men are not intimidated by a woman that make more, women are intimidated at the idea of NOT paying for dinner because they make more than he does which is the fair thing to do.
I was once on the receiving end of a false harassment allegation by some opportunistic co-worker, and I can tell you, it's among one of the most awful feelings in the world. Thankfully, I had a good lawyer who put the kibosh on her and her shady lawyer, and he stopped things from getting really ugly. For a year and a half, I was on the edge of my seat, not knowing what was gong on or if my name was going to get tarnished for no valid reason. It could've been dragged through the courts with my name getting dragged through the mud, but thankfully it did not. It still didn't make the experience any less scary and worrisome. Today's female co-workers -- you can't trust them as far as you can throw them!
That's terrible. I'm glad you got through it. Thank you for watching and for taking the time to share your experience 😊
Such a shame you went thru that. Let me tell you that's not the norm. Common sense tells you that it's not a good idea dating anybody you work with...but there are lots of dating sites and avenues to get potential mates. Don't let this one incident sour you on women in general.
Times have changed and Modern Women are the Reason! Anyone 50 or younger understands that nowadays. The Majority of Younger Filipinas have also changed as well Mark, just Saying you’re just in the Minority with yours…
Truth is women have changed for the better and men have changed for the worse. Men have grown so weak in the past 15 years that they no longer know how to respond to whatever it is they are scared of be it women, work, family. The "I'll stay single" movement is just another characteristic of the zombie epidemic. They would rather sit and do nothing but stare at a 5" screen all day.
A lot of it is internet and social media. SOME women think that they are worth everything a man has no matter how pucked up they are. I was a player back before there was a word for it. If something ever happens to my wife I seriously doubt I would ever get into a relationship again.
Yes but no .
The game is rigged because of culture .
Yeah, he almost gets it, but not really.
@@sunkillsmoon yup
It’s always been rigged. Stop letting it keep from doing things .
As a young guy i didn't realise how important it is in the dating game to have status. Shit job and low pay equals little opportunity. It also affects your confidence. Good news is now im older i don't really give a crap lol.
A simple cost-benefit-risk analysis will usually keep a guy single.
Men who are married live longer and are statistically happier. Look it up.
Women these days are too picky. An average girl, who is a 6 or 7 at best, acts like she is a perfect 10. I had to lower my expectations and date a girl who weighed over 500 lbs.
What you have described is why many dudes say, “Pass”. The situation was far different for the Boomers and early Gen X.
just had to date a 500 pound girl. . . . . . too funny
Well boomers are past their dating prime for sure now
I cross my fingers so you find a 500 pounds girl who is submissive and good potential mother.
I'm a life long single guy now 49. Bottom line, I was never happier when I had a girlfriend than single. Single I have zero stress, I have zero financial issues and I have 100% control over my finances, I have zero risk of loosing half my retirement to a woman or getting thrown outa my home. Remaining single doesn't mean lonely, doesn't mean lack of female companionship, it just means doing what makes me happiest. And the fact that women are now liberated means we no longer have to make any commitment to get the milk for free.
Bottom line, I'd rather go for a motorcycle ride, eat pizza, hang out with buddies and spend an hour or 2 with a lady than move one in and deal with all the headaches. If a young man doesn't want kids with a lady and has hobbies, dog, toys, etc I don't really think moving a modern women in an a serial monogamy western culture has a lot of benefit. And don't even get me started on subsidizing her kids and her lifestyle expenses, baby dad drama, etc. I will not move a Western women in, full stop!
I am 54. Was in a good relationship from the age of 33 to 40, and was in a few shorter relationships. But I am much happier as a single man. I go to bars(in Norway) every weekend and enjoy my freedom. When I meet a girl I like, I still tell her I enjoy my absolute freedom. No wife, no girlfriend, no boss, no mortgage, no kids, no dog, and no cat :-) Just 2 properties and 4 cars :-) I spend 4 month every winter in south east Asia, but have no interest in getting married or get a girlfriend. Most of those I like, think I am too old, or they are gold diggers. Sorry, I am not attrected to women at my own age.
Im a 31yr male minority in America. I have traveled to the Phillipines, Thailand, and a few other countries. Very beautiful women in other countries. However, im still very scared of getting used. Im average looking, slim, and do well for myself Financially. Ive dated a few American women and they had issues i stupidly ignored until coming to my senses. I want real love, respect, etc. Im not a player and attempt to date or even talk to multiple women. I just have too much for myself to risk it all for any woman who can, and do "act" like they love me until a better looking or richer man comes around and she accepts.
Stay strong brother
Believe it or not, women aren't like that. Been married 35 yrs. as of yesterday. Women don't just throw away their "investment" that they gave their youth to....for someone better looking or richer. You're not going to get used. You sound like a nice man; there are nice ladies out there. Why give up the chance of having a family with children just because you are scared. Nothing to be scared of...honestly most women don't act that way. Give it a chance.
@@bettywith2girls in our generation they do. it's different for you boomer
@@bettywith2girlsyou're delusional
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Great post
Thankfully I was born in 1952!
me too ... late 50's
My opinion is younger men have witnessed and or experienced dramatic, unappreciative women with bad attitudes with constant complaints. In some cases it’s enough to turn anyone off. Life is to be filled with as much happiness and enjoyment as possible. Not the constant stress of nagging and the flow of negativity with headaches from a spouse, gf etc. Great conversation subject, Thank you for sharing 👌🏾✌🏾!
Great analysis, thorough, fair, balanced and wise. This is likely going to cause a big depopulation problem for the countries where this occurs. You can plug the gap with migrants for a while, but that will cause issues aswell.
Yeah, they multiply and take over. Then live in squalor and destroy the infrastructure.
I don't see problems. Let women go their own ways earning money.
It is very hard to be objective about this, since I am nearing the age of the vlogger. But in general, the 1960's had dances, the 1950's had sock hops. The 1940's had cotillion. There were institutions that existed for dating. What is the equivalent now? Women have changed, less marrying, more working and making more money. Entertainment has become more difficult in general, think about drunk driving for example. The practice originating in the 1950's I guess, of driving around all night, drinking and socializing at bars, is now illegal as hell. People respond to that with "ride share". It's not the same. The car was part of the courtship, the social pecking order, and man's best friend for those nights where that's all you take home. My generation might say "there is nothing to do", but in reality, some of the same things exist, only we are too old to do them the same way. My generation is the 1980's and sadly, alcohol was a big part of the formula for being "where the women are", and for many of us, that has been killed off due to many factors. Don't know if young people still collect in gathering places at night to drink and people watch, and possibly "hook up". That would be an interesting survey, that would explain some of it, although, people in my generation did exercise a lot of restraint about making a marriage from a bar connection..
Seems like this video makes a case for the Phillipines. Sounds like men are not condemned for, lets say pressuring women in public, over there. If I even look at a women for an extra second, I will get a dirty look from a bystander male, who has no involvement whatsoever. Society just thinks public places are taboo for enjoying the opposite sex. Women go to the gym almost naked, and yet demand "expectation of privacy' even while they film themselves for internet consumption. People have enormous power, wealth, and entitlement here now, and that can interfere with courtship quite easily. Even in my youth, I dated outside of my own school, because that was a safe quiet space to do it. Maybe the Phillipines has become that for American men now. Thanks.
Mark, I understand why so many men these days choose the celibate lifestyle. What I'm less sure about is how we as a society will continue to function with fewer people-- people to care for the elderly, people to fly the airplanes, people to drive the buses, people to operate on patients, people to act in movies etc, etc., If raising children is too expensive, should the government do it (institutionalize it) or should the government offer generous tax incentives to parents for raising children. (Mark, You are a gifted RUclipsr every bit as articulate and well spoken as any of the major network anchors past and present, including Larry King, Richard Maddow, and Chris Wallace. Thanks for all you do.)
A wise man of any age works to develope wisdom.
Youve described a lot of me. I dont date anymore i dont want the drama and the money problems for a whole other person. Sex isnt worth it for me and i definitely dont want kids, financial burden for 28 or more years no thank you.
If their afraid it's good keeps them out of future trouble.
Both younger and older women demand so much yet provide so little!
If a woman is genuinely interested she will let you know don't worry about that.. and if they're not letting you know (which is what's happening to me these days) I'm not bothering, nor playin. I've moved on to more interesting things anyway (keep all my money, invest it and take comfort in the world around me) along with continuing to love women in their own right, but it doesnt necessarilly mean I have to get romantically involved with them... who cares...
Let me add now I've just realised and remembered time spent doting on another individual 24/7 or being doted on, can rob you of many of lifes experiences and interactions outside the relationship that you would have had if it wasn't for wanting to spend time with your partner all the time (it can become quite habitual) probably a nice thing in older age, but as a younger person, there's so much to do out there why tie up your time/life with one other individual?
I think it is such a pedestrian take to just say "guys dont engage girls due to fear of rejection"... so intellectually lazy to just blame the men... is it not valid to say women have unbearable (toxic) behavior most of the time? Can we say that we dont like masculine, "strong, independent, empowered" women without being ostricized?
You forgot "brave" and "stunning"
The reality is, women don't even like being friends with women who are masculine. No one likes masculine women, except downlow men, who want that women to pay for their lifestyle, while they are busy with their "boys".
You forgot that they want the privileges of a woman, the authority of a man, and the accountability of a child. Don't forget the "strong independent boss woman that don't need no man" is also fluid and can identify as any of these based on what serves her best in that moment.
@@TheUnknownUniverse Men and women both need each other. Anyone who claims they are ok alone, is FOS.
But it is true to an extent, many younger guys are terrified of approaching a girl. They have completely warped their mind as to how hard this is when in actuality, it isn’t.. at all .. most girls want to be approached
men have become soft not having a dominant male in the household I grew up around 4 uncles my father was really not in my life. my uncles change my life and gave me true confidence. men need to get in shape stop hiding behind the computer and go have some fun. just see yourself as salesman have your pitch. this man broke it down systematically hes spot on!
Too much wasted energy. I've game. Women need to learn to reciprocate for us to stay in the game.
They do...when they've decided you're the one. We reciprocate all the time. We just don't get the recognition.
You are very wise, mark.
Some of what you,re saying is true but you shed men in a bad light. Weak, broke, low self esteem, etc. Young men are much wiser now with the information on social media. Divorce courts, women with high body counts and single mothers, modern women, unrealistic expectations . What male wants to go through this.Even you Mark got a feminine lady from another country.( if you were young again would you pursue a modern women ?)
My ex-husband used to say; you don’t get your honey where you make your money. Too complicated.
Soooooo...does that mean don't date your co-workers or boss? Good idea, but I can see why he's your ex.
Go back to that 100K Sales Rep. Let's say she finds her "King". Is she happy now? The answer is, NO! She is probably outspending herself, wants to live like a "Princes". In my thirties I had every intention to meet someone and marry. I met someone who I had a four year relationship with. Had money, a new house, took vacations and she was still bitching. Why is it that is always; they don't have the guts or they are not confident enough? Today even if you end up with the woman of your dreams, be ready to put up with some crazy shit. Be ready to have the most pointless and useless arguments and at the same time spending every dollar you have. There is no such thing as "winning" when it comes to relationships.
Why should guys my age even bother trying anymore? Im 26 and i feel like everything just feels like its moving farther and farther from me and its becoming harder to attain or own anything.
I literally have 0 happy, married friends.
Correction: I literally know 0 happy married men.
And the last time I asked a woman a question at work, I got my ass chewed out...
I can't wait for everything to 🔥
I was widowed 5 years ago ( She was a good women and still miss her) but I was joking with my family the other day that I haven't been wrong about anything for 5 years , then it occurred to me that I wasn't actually joking.
most men and women i know who are married are unhappy
You should get out more and meet more people. Statistically, married men live longer than single men, and are happier in general.
@@bettywith2girls Unfortunately, I'm autisticly inclined and not statistically inclined. 😭😭😭
We forgot a huge reason for singledom heavily biased divorce law take it easy see you on the next one
But no one is saying you must get married lol. Why would guys let heavily biased divorce court keep them from casually dating?
You're entitled to your opinion mark I know men that don't have degrees and they're married if a woman likes a guy enough she'll be with him regardless of his status
Very insightful video. Nailed it re: online porn being a HUGE reason young men aren’t pursuing relationships with females anymore.
Absolutely. No effort but couple clicks. 24/7 availability. Millions of women with different body types, age and features, fetishes, genders, fantasies etc.
The more extreme you go the more twisted you get. Also a big cause of ED or being unable to finish.
@kubasniak
i agree .. 'unable to finish' = reach orgasm i take it? how does porn cause that? im not disputing the claim .. just curious as to how that might work?? 🤔
I don't agree. Porn is a poor substitute for someone who can't get the real deal. At least for me, I am pursuing women hard. I turn to porn when I can't get the real thing.
@@paulthurson I'm not sure myself but maybe it's because after seeing supermodels on p*** sites the real thing just doesn't cut the mustard maybe that's what they're referring to
I think pron is a sympton of the problem not a cause of the problem.
Porn has done a lot of damage to our society, and hardly anyone talks about it.
Don’t do this to us now Mark
I think 90% of the problem is caused by online dating especially tinder.
Tinder is good though. It enables me to contact women that I would not otherwise have been able to.
Tinder is toxic, came off those dating apps years ago!
the women that decline offers with men with lower incomes, are they asked to submit their bank account records , pay slips etc? i dont get it!, as anyone can say anything!,, are they summed up according to their clothes, shoes , car, etc..? im on benefits but i can dress a million bucks!,,,,,now what?
Best advice I can give any young man these days is this:
If you are at all mechanically inclined and a tool user, after high school go to a trade school. Many times you will get paid through all or part of your apprenticeship. When you finish your debt to earnings ratio will be quite low. No 6 figure debt for a worthless piece of paper.
Live well below your means in everyway possible. Study about finance and investing.
Start your retirement plan as soon as possible. By the time you are 30 you could be well on your way to being or already financially independent. Spend that 10 years between 20~30 working on yourself. Toast Masters or similar organizations are a good way to learn how to talk to people. Get in shape physically, no need to go overboard. Good nutrition is a must. And perhaps the most important thing is to keep learning. Diversify your knowledge base.
If you start today in 10 years you will be on your way...provided of course the world doesn't get completely flushed down the toilet.
55 year old married guy here, talking to a 32 year old guy at work who lives in a shared house with other single men. I asked him how he meets women nowadays and he looked at me like I'm mad. Turns out he doesn't meet women at all, and more worrying he has no inclination to do so. I'm worried about the younger generations and their future.
40 years of education rewarding the participation instead results , created just people who dont know how to loose , specially men . They are entitled and they wont take any risk of asking girl out , just to prevent himself from possible rejection .
Feminist
I ditched dating (for LTR/marriage) in my early twenties already. The repeating behavioral pattern of women was impossible to ignore. Even ditched casual dating all together later on. They're just too annoying to be around overall, for some quick in and out. And you still have to cover your ass legally on every step. Nah thanks.
Speaking for women everywhere...if what you said is how you really think...it's "Nah thanks" to you too. You should see his video "The Death of Dating...Are Women To Blame or Is It Us?"
if u go on a basic date ,out to dinner, with tip your looking at at least 45 bucks with tip.then u go to the movies after dinner and get both a drink and popcorn.thats about 35 bucks.thats a total of 80 bucks.Young men just can't afford to do that very often.
Men don't do that anymore. They never did. You either get to go out to eat, usually at a mid to low cost restaurant OR you go out to a movie with popcorn OR you go out for one or two drinks...only one of those. And that is reasonable. Women are far less demanding than they say here in the comments...and far more reasonable.
dating in the US is way too expensive, way too time consuming and way too exhausting, women are just too difficult to please and always on the lookout for the better deal and it's easy for them since they don't invest anything in the dating process and are just along for the ride. The last girl I dated even told me straight up that her friends just go out with guys they are not interested in just because they have nothing better to do on a Friday night. That really opened my eyes. Perhaps it is different outside the US, I don't know but the women in the US, forget it... better to stay single and spend the money on yourself.
WOW!!! The desdain is real. Why bother dating all together?
That was not my experience as a girl...at all. I think that was just that one girl you met. Girls never do this...trust me. But if you'd rather stay single...that's your business.
In America I'd never advice not to get married. I wished I'd knew and was given the problems of the red flags early in my life I would have never married . I would have had a good retirement . But in the earlier days it was what you do. . But again I wished I'd never married so I'd ended up with small money living in the Philippine and alone. But in peace.
Hi Mark, I've read many of the comments. Most seem to be from American men who claim to enjoy their freedom from women because of the women. I understand how many 'western' women have become less alluring partly because they mistakenly interpret materialistic fashion as feminity as they try to make themselves attractive. These women mistakenly believe that this attitude is what most men want... whereas most men are hoping to have relationships with less artificiality... with women with less make'up and less fixation on clothes etc etc. The men also need to take a look at themselves, since sometimes they can be selfish too. I am 70 married 20 years to a Filipina 23 years younger than me. Before that I had many pleasant relationships with women but just took a while before deciding to get married. It's sad to read all the 'blame of others' in many of these comments, when sometimes each of us need to reflect on what we could do to be a better partner in a relationship.
Thank you for watching and I agree with you 💯
Feminist
Excellent video, I learned a lot, thank you.
Men these days just got the worst deal in human history.. thanks boomers.
You are more than welcome.
The Meek(s) shall inherit the world. Never get up! 🙏
Some valid points here, but also a lot of blame placed on men. Thank god you touched on female hypergamy and effects of social media toward the end. I'd suggest reading up on those some more. It's women who generally date up to higher status, not men who hold out for prettier girls to get laid.
Why meet trouble halfway.
All by drsign
Not a popular topic..but it needs sorted out. I got married @ 22 yrs old to a beautiful Filipina.
Marriage lasted 12 years, we divorced. 3 years later, I married another Filipina who was 19. I was 36.😊
Again, she was gorgeous. Slim, 5'6", cute! Lasted only 5 years. Have a 24 year relationship with a 3rd Filipina..I'm 24 years older than her. It works.😊
Some Japanese men have a sex toy doll...that they have sex with, take to dinner, ride "it" around in their car!!?? Holy Crap! Goofy, Weird...😮😮😅...at least, no big arguments, fights..😮
You'll never learn
good society report but single is old slang, it's unmarried as married isn't called doubled. when does bachelor"hood" begin for men, 18 25, 30? bachelor is an old days term like gal or dame for women. who says that anymore besides james cagney old movies.
Perhaps the correct terminology to use due to the current context is UNPARNERED AND PARNERED. They are ppl who just live together for more than 2 years without an official contract. And they are ppl who just have intimacy without living together too.
I invested in a TPE mannequin doll for lack of a better word. It was a choice and an investment that worked for me. It will save you a lot of pain, heartache, money, and the benefits outweigh the faults thats how I look at it keep her clean and she’ll last forever.
Thank you for making this excellent video. I enjoyed it very much and I am particularly fascinated by all the comments. It is shocking to see the high level of negativity in the comments. It is natural and biological for men and women to bond and procreate, but in all aspects of life attitude is everything. Relationships are like riding a horse. If you get thrown off get back on. Do not wallow in fear and apprehension. I think men and women are too materialistic and selfish these days. If you are not willing to take risks on a mate you will never reap the joy of a successful relationship. One of the richest men I know went bankrupt three times before becoming hugely successful and super rich. Imagine if he had quit trying after any of his bankruptcies. I am 77 and have made and lost millions during my life. I did not give up after my first big loss and made much more later on. I have had 3 long term relationships that ended but have no hard feelings. Currently I have an outstanding wife 30 years younger than me, and she is the best of all. Imagine if I had quit women because of the failures. My point is NEVER GIVE UP, THINK POSITIVE AND DO NOT DWELL ON THE PAST.
I just had to chime in about your subject of p*** addiction. So this speech to text app censors the word, p0rn? 🙃 I mean, really?
Anyway, this reminds me of my times as a merchant Marine, when our ship entered into the Middle East. Officials came aboard and actually searched our staterooms. One of my shipmates was complaining that they had confiscated his p*** collection. Really? He called it a collection? He had it stashed underneath his mattress! 🤔
8:10.. that’s exactly what it is. Younger guys especially are very risk aversive and they have ability or confidence that’s needed to go up and talk to women. They then binge watch content like this and say tired quotes like “the juice isn’t worth the squeeze” endlessly lol..
Never did I expect to see a generation of men that would refuse to approach women . It’s bizarre to me as I remember in my generation - the nerdiest kid we knew still was brave enough to talk to girls
I am Millennial and pretty good looking 6'2 as well. I won't ever get married. I can find girls easy on Tinder each day. Easy to have a good time.
Interesting. Tender didn't exist in my day: 1970s we had to go into the wild and hunt
@@everymanhasastoryoh yeah for me it's worked well as well as Bumble app too. I am 41 and never had issues finding dates online in Vancouver, BC. The women outnumber guys here consideraby and come from all backgrounds. Being 6'2 and looking younger and fit for my age helps I still get late 20s and 30s and 40s women all wanting to go out for second dates, third ones, etc. Some do pressure for serious relationships, marriage, etc but I am in no motivation because of the options. I prefer my own space and living alone too. I guess I am the reverse of normal society. I am perfectly fine without partners too
This is an interesting topic. I would think of unmentioned factors.
My son goes to college and when asked, why not dating, says that doesn't have time and energy for it. Perhaps it has to do with how postsecondary education work.
1. I have seen young men prepared for jobs that do not exist.
2. Perhaps, postsecondary schools, give student excessive information and skills. Perhaps some of it is either not needed or can be acquired while working on entry level jobs. Thus having less load will give young men more time and energy to seek a compatible person, to initiate, develop and maintain relationships or families.
Second factor. Ever decreasing purchasing parity of sallaries, due to Government policies: excessive immigration and insufficient land development and construction. In my city, Vancouver BC, an appt rental costs 100-120% of a worker's sallary. Young men are forced to live with parents which also limits dating motivation and possibilities.
This is an interesting topic. I would think of unmentioned factors.
My son goes to college and when asked, why not dating, says that doesn't have time and energy for it. Perhaps it has to do with how postsecondary education work.
1. I have seen young men prepared for jobs that do not exist.
2. Perhaps, postsecondary schools, give student excessive information and skills. Perhaps some of it is either not needed or can be acquired while working on entry level jobs. Thus having less load will give young men more time and energy to seek a compatible person, to initiate, develop and maintain relationships or families.
Second factor. Ever decreasing purchasing parity of sallaries, due to Government policies: excessive immigration and insufficient land development and construction. In my city, Vancouver BC, an appt rental costs 100-120% of a worker's sallary. Young men are forced to live with parents which also limits dating motivation and possibilities.
My last relationship was in 2020, i am 23 right now I tried to approach woman at my gym since i spend a LOT of time a the the gym I have a great body I’m confident no problem approaching nor holding a conversation with anybody. But every attempts resulted negatively either she had a boyfriend or ghosted me and I’m not the only one my friends too share the same experiences. I’m done trying to « live up to the standards of woman » I have God almighty my hobbies my video games my friends and my family the gym and my goals of becoming an entrepreneur in E-commerce Dropshipping.Most people I know who deal with woman it’s mostly hook up and they are all broken Inside and struggle with alcohol, I don’t believe in casual sex I believe in God and I protect my body If I die alone well be it I would’ve lived a great life. I think dating in our generation is really doomed. I wish you guys happiness and fulfillment in your life 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
Why give up the possibility of having a family, a life, and children who respect you? You believe in God...do stuff in your church and you'll meet a nice girl, trust me.
No wife ❤ happy life🎉🎉🎉
No fault divorces