I think allowing your kid to truly be a kid is more valuable than people realize. I admire you for prioritizing that over perfection (while still teaching responsibility) it will serve her better in the long run. I’m still trying as an adult to overcome the perfectionist standards that were required in my home growing up.
My mum let me do that and I'm a slob 😂😂😂 and I have 2 kids myself now amd I still just won't clean up after myself...I wish my mum was a but more strict with me being more thoughtful of my mess ...not obsessive obv but more mindful
Your daughters room reminds me of my own when I was her age. Lol. Thankfully I’m not this messy anymore but throwing things for me as a child was very difficult because I was and still am so sentimental. Great job mama ❤
I’m loving this real mess and how you help your daughter to clean it. Sooo motivational ! I want to go tackle my boys room now too! Thanks for posting this and being so loving and positive about it and not putting her down for her messy room
My toddler who just turned 4 just started 4k on wed. He was so ready and excited to go and has loved it! On the first day when I picked him up I asked him if he was sad when I left and he said yeah I cried. Then he said “mommy I love you hard, I love you hard right here” and pointer to his heart. Omg I cried!!! He is so sweet sometimes.
My oldest son was always messy, too. And he is an adult now in his own house, and he is still messy! But. He is very kind, hard working, has a huge heart, and has a good career. To me, that is the most important. He always had chores too and knows how to clean, at least! ❤
Hi I don't usually comment but I just wanted to say in my opinion you are a great mum. Love watching your channel and also I've been married 50 years, just celebrated our golden wedding anniversary. Enjoy every minute with your family babe because all too soon the kids are all grown up and flown the nest, time really does fly. My love to you and yours Sue xx
Mann I feel this !! Some people bashed their children because they’re messy and I grew up a messy kid and as I get older, I realize that I just don’t understand organizing and giving things a designated spot. I truly appreciate you as a mother you’re healing my inner child❤
Oh wow! You transformed her room into a little sanctuary! It’s beautiful!! I’m sure she is absolutely in love with it. I loved seeing you guys jumping on the bed😂 I used to do that with my kids!! Adrienne did an amazing job decluttering her animals and stuff. I’m sure it wasn’t easy for her. Props to you Adrienne! You are a mini if your mama. So sweet and kind and a hard worker❤
Awe thank you!! 🥰 You’re too sweet!! I’m so proud how far Adrienne has come with her Decluttering and her room is actually staying clean for once!! 🙌🏼💕
Thanks for being so kind to your daughter about her room. My family always made me feel TERRIBLE about it. Im in my own apartment now and i am still cluttered, but its more organized chaos lol. And my floors are clear and i keep up on the trash!
I know when you’re on RUclips there’s a lot of people that give you a lot of negative feedback, but how we raise our children and how we want to do parenting is our business. It’s Your business how you want to do your parenting and there is nothing wrong at all with the way that you parent I think it is so sweet of you as a mom to go in your daughters bedroom and help her out by redoing it and giving her a new space, I’m just like you I’ve clean my kids room a lot. I add my touch to it and there is nothing wrong with that at all and people should keep comments negative comments to themselves anyways, you’re doing a great job as a mom don’t let anybody ever ever tell you differently you do you that is good enough
Amazing job! Feel like I'm watching myself. I live the same with my kids. Try to get them to do their garbage, laundry and dishes. Try to get them to tidy toys and organize but eventually their rooms turn out like a tornado hit it. Then I'll go in do a full deep clean and organize for them and start over.
First time seeing your channel, but I feel so good after watching this. My daughters room looks just like this no matter how many times we clean it. She to is creative and wants to hold on to every piece of paper. Glad to see other moms going through this and having such a positive outlook
I swear the before and after when you clean your daughters room is always so satisfying and I swear when you’re cleaning her room it’s like you’re cleaning my daughters room. Stuffed animals, pieces of paper everywhere, right down to the ink stain on her sheets! So awesome! Great video! ❤
We fix things the same way with a butter knife I love it also this is definitely how my kids rooms look this gave me a lot motivation yay I'm ready to clean 🫶🏼
Ashley my daughter is the exact same way. She's 9 almost 10. Just last night I took out 3 trash bags of papers, toys she didn't want, some stuffed animals. It's such a relief once it's done. Good job mama! Love your videos ❤ and OMG those push pins. I found about 20!
Thanks for sharing in under the age of 18 and after my grandparents passed I started hoarding toys or anything that reminded me of them I’m currently on the way of letting go and getting my life back together
One thing I’ll say is that it’s such a good sign that she wants your help and welcomes it bc true hoarders don’t want anyone touching their space or cleaning it. My niece’s room is AWFUL, like no one even goes in there it’s that bad. She gets so upset if anyone even mentions cleaning it out. It’s hard. These mom cleans are a great way to show you love your kids (acts of service). It can be overwhelming for kids, but like I said-I love that she welcomes these cleans/declutters with open arms. Edit to add: Thank you for answering my question. 😊♥️ My husband was the oldest of the bunch, and he thrived (September baby). My 4 year old just turned 4 in May, so I’m keeping her but she loves to learn, too. I agree, she has the next 2 decades to be in school so I’m going to enjoy our last year together. 🥲
This is the first video I found yours and the first thing I thought "oh it's not just my daughter". Ours got the nickname Hurricane as soon as she was old enough to walk because of how she leaves a room. She's now eight and her room is on going headache for her as well as us; plus an ever growing horde of Squishmallows! After watching so many other motherhood vlogs over the years, it was comforting to see another child's room like this.
Happy anniversary! The room looks great. No judgement here. My son's room was always a mess. As a teenager I just left it alone. The only thing I asked was to keep food out of his room, because we had a mouse in there once. When he felt like cleaning his room, he did a great job.
When you said hoarder and then broke out the bag I got worried, but I love that you're open to respecting their space & not coming from a place of frustration. :) My grandma was a hoarder and my mom was the opposite who never wants to be attached to anything. I was like your daughter. Growing up between the two I can see how hoarding tendencies are & also how good some of those decluttering skills become as I get older. I found the channel A Hoarders Heart & her journey & I love the way she approaches her own hoarding with her kids. It all comes down to communication & making sure that what ppl see as trash isn't just tossed since it may mean stuff to us & if we feel it's going to be removed when we're gone, it's easy to start getting anxious & stashing things. Having her involved is super awesome! Maybe having a home for those paper scraps would be good so when they do their clean it's more about putting it away instead of just putting it down or having to get rid of it. She still has control & it's easier to visually manage when it starts to need attention. Great work & love how empathetic you treat your family!
I can definitely see how it could only hurt a person by not respecting what they value! That’s why I never get upset with her room.. although it is exhausting haha but I really do think it made a huge difference by having her help. And she’s been keeping her room so much tidier now! 😊 Thank you!! 🥰
Oh my goodness!!! I thought my daughter was the only one with a messy cluttery room! I'm so happy I came across your video as I have been overwhelmed on where to even start. Your video was very helpful and encouraging. Thank you!!!!
Her room looks amazing after this huge transformation. You and Adrian did a fantastic job with getting rid of things and moving things around. Thanks for all of the cleaning motivation! I hope that you and your family have had a wonderful week and have a wonderful weekend ahead 😊❤
You seem like a great mom and your kids look very happy, which is super important. I just wanted to pass on some tips I used as a kid to keep things tidy, because habits we form as kids will follow us into adulthood, and you can imagine a person having a whole house that looks like the before shot of her room (just watch the show Hoarders, many of them started out as messy kids with lots of sentimental attachments to items and then when something traumatic happened in their life, it pushed them into full blown hoarding). People with houses that messy/dirty are more likely to have issues with landlords and pests and illnesses. I’ve seen it time and again. So while her being happy is super important, she also needs to understand that keeping her surroundings clean and neat is important too, not only for her physical health but also for her mental health. If she’s ever at a point in her life where she has to deal with depression (or maybe her future spouse has depression) then keeping a clean home will be extremely hard for her. So if she can learn as a child to build habits that keep her surroundings neat and clean (doesn’t have to be perfect) then she’ll be avoiding a lot of stress as an adult. Since she has a problem with trash, why not put a trash can in her room? Also a clothes hamper. That way those items are contained and not all over the floor. I love these to go by: There’s a place for every thing and everything has its place. When you’re finished with something, put it back in its home before you do anything else. If you don’t make a mess, there’s no mess to clean. Working/playing/living in a way that doesn’t create a mess to begin with is a huge time saver. For example, a friend of mine had me help deep clean her house and we found a huge pile of toe nail clippings under the couch because her husband clipped his nails there and always shoved them between the seat cushions. So not only was that super gross, but we also had to spend time vacuuming it up. I clip mine over a small trash can. Since they go straight into the trash, I don’t have to vacuum them! Because I didn’t make a mess, there was no mess for me to have to clean up! 😄 That same logic can be applied in almost everything we do. The less you have, the less you have to clean (I love this one since I can’t stand dusting Knick knacks 🤣). Take five minutes once per day to speed-tidy the whole room. And that doesn’t mean shoving stuff under the bed. It should include getting stuff out from under furniture if there happens to be anything under there. You mentioned you guys like DIY stuff. Is there a way you could block off under her bed so she doesn’t even have the option of shoving stuff under it? I she gets in the habit of 1) putting trash in her trash can, 2) dirty clothes in her hamper, 3) toys back in their place, and 5) does the “5 minute tidy up” every day, then you’ll never have to do this six hour marathon in her room again and she’ll be building cleanliness habits that will protect her from a lot of crap in her future. It’s so much easier to build good habits as a child than it is to tear down old habits and rebuild new ones as an adult ❤️ No judgement, I know everyone is different, I’m just hoping to help her and any other kids that are messy get ahold on it now so their future is brighter and mom’s life now is easier 😜
That was the bestest, most satisfying before and after! Great job Momma and great job to Adrian for sticking with you and making some hard choices in decluttering. My girls always found that so difficult when they were her age as well.
THIS IS SOOOOOOO! My daughter says my granddaughter has to clean her room today after homework. THAT MEANS NANIE HAS WORK TO DO! 🥶🥶. Her room looked JUST LIKE THIS ! Amazing. I have to think of this till she gets home! 😭😭😭 May update you after. Thank you for this ! Love way you vacuumed and threw things back in closet! Not closet day. My granddaughters closet is ANOTHER DISASTER, TOO!
Hey there!! Let me just say I love both of your channels. I've gotten behind on videos this summer though. It's been a rough one for our family. So yesterday and today I have been playing catch up on your videos. My daughter's room looked almost just like that before I cleaned it out today. She also loves making and creating things with paper. That was most of the mess in her room. You will get no judgement from me on any mess in your house. You are so relatable and that's why I love your channel so much. ❤❤
It will take time. It has taken me 2 1/2 years to get to where I am at today in my decluttering journey. You will get there! You are doing great with four kids!
My daughter is the exact same way! She loves making things as well so trash accumulates so fast. I clean it and its back the same way within a few days! Its gotten bad again and im trying to work up the energy to tackle it again 😅 this is giving me the motivation to get after it, so thank you❤
Hi Ashley! I have twin 10 year old girls and their room right now looks like this…lol. This video came out just in time cause I’m about to go in and tackle their room this weekend! So thank u so much for this video. It’s exactly what I need to get prepared to clean n de clutter their room.❤😊
My bedroom is organized, meaning it's not cluttered. Many years ago, I had way too many empty squeeze bottles in my bedroom for example. I constantly downsized to 10 bottles that I still play with. I hope the problem was solved by having Adrienne's bedroom decluttered. I still love the round condiment squeeze bottles and round water squeeze bottles.
You are so right about kids being all different...im the youngest of 3 siblings...growing up my older brother was fairly tidy and minimal, my sister was the messiest imaginable and still is to this day, and im the neat freak 😂😂😂
My daughter was exactly like her. I think it's because she was artistic and moved to the sound of her own drum. I embraced those years because now she is grown and out on her own and I miss the chaos of hose days. 😢😢😢
Thank you. You help me want to get the mastered bedroom done. I had to move my office in there. Our mother n law took my office. So i am still trying to figure out how to make it a bedroom and office. I want it to look nice. Not cluttered. So thanks for the motivation I put my cleaning videos on the projector in my room and I watch and clean. It helps a lot. Kinda fun. too.
Hi Ashley I hope you and your family are all ok. I love watching your videos. I have some cleaning to do that I don't know where to start, but when I watch your video is so relaxing.
My daughter was my messy child as well, when we moved she got a larger room and she helped set it up she is now a lot better about cleaning it but I do still help her with bigger jobs but well done the bedroom looks great.
That’s awesome she is getting better about cleaning it!! Adrienne said she will try her hardest to keep hers just as clean for now on. 🥰 we will see haha Thank you!!
I would recommend to make your daughter room more cozy. Hanging fake plants on walls perhaps and not shut windows with curtains. They tend to mess it up less when it looks nicer.
Well said, Ashley!!!! To all of you out there that might not agree, just remember we are not perfect. Do not judge or condemn. He room turned out amazing. You're doing a great job. Keep up the great work❤❤. My 13 yr. old grandson of 3 that I raise is definitely this very same way. It's not just girls it's boys too!! Just thought I would add that in!
What an AWESOME MOM!!!! Kids grow and change along the way - you just went with the flow!! Kids don't always know that sometimes "Change" is for the better - and you showed her the way!!! I truly enjoyed this video!!!
my middle daughter's room is the same way and I'm a super clean freak so I break down and do this every couple of weeks sometimes I last a month LOL her clean and mom's clean are for sure NOT the same!
Omg I had a good chuckle watching your daughters room. My granddaughter is the same way. They are young and enjoying life. She cleans but not as often as she should. They only young for a little while. 😂❤
My daughter is 19 and still needs an occasional helping hand with her room. I can always tell when she is getting stressed about school or work by the state of her room. I know then I need to step in and help her out.
Hey Ashley, the before & after shots always get me! I love them all the time! The process of even cleaning for 6 hours is insane! I'm so glad that I had gotten 3 loads of laundry folded and put away today! ❤❤❤
Adhd to the T! I feel this. Deep down she probably wants it perfect but the brain just won't let her. This was me as a kid and still me to this day. Girls especially don't always show physical hyperactivity, its mental and suppressed inside. I feel her so much! 😢
Ashley, the room looks great. The before and after is incredible. I'm just like you. Extremely independent and I'll move a mountain myself before I ask for help. It's definitely an Aries thing plus growing up with an independent single mom, it's just in my genes 😊 6 hours, what workout 💪🏽The mattress sounds like a great choice. I recently bought a new hybrid cooling mattress from a different brand, and now I'm thinking the lull might have been better. 👍🏽💪🏽🙌🏽🛏
SORRY FOR THE LONG COMMENT 🥺 I legitimately cried watching this video. I'm going to be very real and transparent with you, this video made me cry for many reasons... 1. The patience you had to not just to decide to do this, but also to finish this task. 2. Because you had your children helping you with the decluttering process. 3. You made it look so effortless. 4. I have a lot on my mind and alot on my plate all while I'm suffering with recently losing six close people to me and processing a traumatic event I endured recently also. I suffer with; Major Depressive Disorder, Panic Disorders, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and my children have; Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Tourettes and Severe ADHD and I have to constantly remind them just throw a piece of trash away and be careful how I ask so it doesn't start a argument. Doing the simplest things for most are very challenging for me as I was never taught how to do this for myself, so I'm teaching myself through videos like this. Also, I'm struggling all the more since I had a major surgery recently and still am expected to maintain the household responsibilities and chores with little to no support or help from my family. I wish I had a friend like you that could help me or at least sit and talk to me while I did what I have to do without getting so overwhelmed. You did an amazing job with this room. I'm going to be watching it for a third time and try and get some more motivation for myself. Love your channel, just subscribed to it today. I look forward to seeing more videos of yours. You're very inspiring to me. Keep up the great work! 🥹👍
My daughter is the exact same way! One thing that has been an absolute game changer is having a garbage can in my child's room - no, she doesn't always use it, but it certainly helps. Also, we use labeled bins that help with picking up. It has taken A LOT of time and practice, but the difference in her ability to manage inventory is huge! Maybe these suggestions can help? Great transformation!
My kids' room needs a huge decluttering, too! I had to face the reality that part of the problem is buying all the things that contribute to the mess! Im definitely not going to buy so much stuff anymore!
We had the same problem with paint so what we’ve done in the past is taking a piece from a closet that cannot be seen and we take it into Home Depot and they can match it and we’ve never had a problem with the matching it. Just FYI in case you wanted to try that. And her room looks fabulous.
Hallo Ashley... Jouw schoonmaak van jou dochter doet me denken aan mijn oudste zoon. 1per maand deed ik ook mijn zoon Bart kamer schoonmaken. Dat was net zo. Ik legde zijn spulletjes aan de kant die hij uit moest zoeken. De rest ruimde ik op. Dan deed alles lekker soppen . Bart kwam dan thuis , hij vond dat geweldig, vooral het schone geur van zijn kamer. De rest van de maand moest hij zelf bijhouden van zijn kamer , stoffen en zuigen . Ik voor de zonen (2) had ik een wasmand op hun kamer gezet. Dan konden ze als ik mijn wasdag had bij de wasmachine neerzetten. En dat deden ze trouw, als dat niet deden dan hadden ze geen schone was . De wasmachine staat bij mij op zolder en Bart zijn kamer was ook op zolder dus het was een kleine moeite. Later toen hij ouder werd en in het leger was kreeg ik heel wat meer kleding van hem . Ik weide mijn hele weekend aan om zijn kleding gewassen en gestreken in de pleun tas hebben , dan kon hij maandag met schone kleding naar het karzerne gaan. Hij is tot zijn 27 jaar thuis gebleven. Heel gezellige hoor, maar ze hebben wel hoge eisen met alles . Toen hij uit huis was gegaan dat is net of een deel van mijn lijf kwijt was. Natuurlijk is ook normaal dat hij zijn eigen leven ging leiden. Nu woont hij in Dublin en hij is 37 jaar en mis hem elke dag. Lang leven de beeldtelefoon. Ik vind het kamertje prachtig geworden . Ik denk ook voor je dochter makkelijker om netjes te houden. Onthoudt het wel eenmaal een rommelkont blijft een rommelkont. Haha😅. Fijne avond en groetjes van Kitty uit Nederland 🇳🇱👋👋😘
Ciao Ashley, la camera di Adrienne rispecchia la sua personalità, è creativa e soprattutto è una ragazza serena e felice.Grazie a voi genitori e a te che sei sempre presente nella vita della famiglia. Bel lavoro Ashley.Saluti a voi tutti 💌
I have a 2yr old and it can get messy at times. What is working for us is having limited toys, books and clothes. I also taught him that when he is taking off his clothes and shoes put it where it is supposed to be. I have to remind him sometimes but repetition works.
I love both of your Channels. Congratulations on your 15 years! My husband and I have been together for 10 years in December. We're going to have our 1 year wedding Anniversary on August 12th and we're going to have our second baby in February.
I think allowing your kid to truly be a kid is more valuable than people realize. I admire you for prioritizing that over perfection (while still teaching responsibility) it will serve her better in the long run. I’m still trying as an adult to overcome the perfectionist standards that were required in my home growing up.
My mum let me do that and I'm a slob 😂😂😂 and I have 2 kids myself now amd I still just won't clean up after myself...I wish my mum was a but more strict with me being more thoughtful of my mess ...not obsessive obv but more mindful
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Your daughters room reminds me of my own when I was her age. Lol. Thankfully I’m not this messy anymore but throwing things for me as a child was very difficult because I was and still am so sentimental. Great job mama ❤
I’m loving this real mess and how you help your daughter to clean it. Sooo motivational ! I want to go tackle my boys room now too! Thanks for posting this and being so loving and positive about it and not putting her down for her messy room
Thank you!! 💜 I know she means well and doesn’t do it on purpose, she’s still learning! 😊
best of luck tackling your boys room!!
Love your videos
My toddler who just turned 4 just started 4k on wed. He was so ready and excited to go and has loved it! On the first day when I picked him up I asked him if he was sad when I left and he said yeah I cried. Then he said “mommy I love you hard, I love you hard right here” and pointer to his heart. Omg I cried!!! He is so sweet sometimes.
Omg!! I’m tearing up reading that!! 🥺 that’s so sweet!!! 💕
My oldest son was always messy, too. And he is an adult now in his own house, and he is still messy! But. He is very kind, hard working, has a huge heart, and has a good career. To me, that is the most important. He always had chores too and knows how to clean, at least! ❤
Hi I don't usually comment but I just wanted to say in my opinion you are a great mum. Love watching your channel and also I've been married 50 years, just celebrated our golden wedding anniversary. Enjoy every minute with your family babe because all too soon the kids are all grown up and flown the nest, time really does fly. My love to you and yours Sue xx
Mann I feel this !! Some people bashed their children because they’re messy and I grew up a messy kid and as I get older, I realize that I just don’t understand organizing and giving things a designated spot. I truly appreciate you as a mother you’re healing my inner child❤
Oh wow! You transformed her room into a little sanctuary! It’s beautiful!! I’m sure she is absolutely in love with it. I loved seeing you guys jumping on the bed😂 I used to do that with my kids!!
Adrienne did an amazing job decluttering her animals and stuff. I’m sure it wasn’t easy for her. Props to you Adrienne! You are a mini if your mama. So sweet and kind and a hard worker❤
Awe thank you!! 🥰 You’re too sweet!! I’m so proud how far Adrienne has come with her Decluttering and her room is actually staying clean for once!! 🙌🏼💕
Thanks for being so kind to your daughter about her room. My family always made me feel TERRIBLE about it. Im in my own apartment now and i am still cluttered, but its more organized chaos lol. And my floors are clear and i keep up on the trash!
Looks amazing. You are so right each of our children are different as parents we embrace that and love them just the way they are.
Absolutely!!! 🥰💕
You did a wonderful job, Ashley. It looks great and I know that your daughter appreciates you so much help and her with her room.
Thank you!! She was so excited to have her room spotless again 🥰
I know when you’re on RUclips there’s a lot of people that give you a lot of negative feedback, but how we raise our children and how we want to do parenting is our business. It’s Your business how you want to do your parenting and there is nothing wrong at all with the way that you parent I think it is so sweet of you as a mom to go in your daughters bedroom and help her out by redoing it and giving her a new space, I’m just like you I’ve clean my kids room a lot. I add my touch to it and there is nothing wrong with that at all and people should keep comments negative comments to themselves anyways, you’re doing a great job as a mom don’t let anybody ever ever tell you differently you do you that is good enough
Amazing job! Feel like I'm watching myself. I live the same with my kids. Try to get them to do their garbage, laundry and dishes. Try to get them to tidy toys and organize but eventually their rooms turn out like a tornado hit it. Then I'll go in do a full deep clean and organize for them and start over.
First time seeing your channel, but I feel so good after watching this. My daughters room looks just like this no matter how many times we clean it. She to is creative and wants to hold on to every piece of paper. Glad to see other moms going through this and having such a positive outlook
Thank you!! 💕 it’s always nice knowing we aren’t alone! Some kids are just a bit more creative & messy than others! 😅
I swear the before and after when you clean your daughters room is always so satisfying and I swear when you’re cleaning her room it’s like you’re cleaning my daughters room. Stuffed animals, pieces of paper everywhere, right down to the ink stain on her sheets! So awesome! Great video! ❤
Your video has been by far the most informative and most effectively demonstrative as you give great tips❣️🥰
Wow, I loved your video. That was the most helpful when I watched. Thank you so much and the most realistic when I watched.❤
Thank you so much!! 💜
We fix things the same way with a butter knife I love it also this is definitely how my kids rooms look this gave me a lot motivation yay I'm ready to clean 🫶🏼
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Yay!! Love to hear that!! 💕
Hey Ashley!!! I’ve been waiting for this one! Her room is always the best transformation!
Thank you!! 🥰 haha yes 🙌🏼
Same here ❤
Ashley my daughter is the exact same way. She's 9 almost 10. Just last night I took out 3 trash bags of papers, toys she didn't want, some stuffed animals. It's such a relief once it's done. Good job mama! Love your videos ❤ and OMG those push pins. I found about 20!
I hope your daughter was fine with letting That things go. Otherwise you just added to the problem. Hoarders are made by powerless loss of their stuff
Thanks for sharing in under the age of 18 and after my grandparents passed I started hoarding toys or anything that reminded me of them I’m currently on the way of letting go and getting my life back together
Oh my gosh!!! That was by far the best video you’ve done. I love it when you do Adrienne’s room. I bet she just loves it ❤
Thank you so much!! She was so appreciative 🥰
Great Job - enjoyed the video and remembering when my girls were little.
One thing I’ll say is that it’s such a good sign that she wants your help and welcomes it bc true hoarders don’t want anyone touching their space or cleaning it. My niece’s room is AWFUL, like no one even goes in there it’s that bad. She gets so upset if anyone even mentions cleaning it out. It’s hard. These mom cleans are a great way to show you love your kids (acts of service). It can be overwhelming for kids, but like I said-I love that she welcomes these cleans/declutters with open arms.
Edit to add: Thank you for answering my question. 😊♥️ My husband was the oldest of the bunch, and he thrived (September baby). My 4 year old just turned 4 in May, so I’m keeping her but she loves to learn, too. I agree, she has the next 2 decades to be in school so I’m going to enjoy our last year together. 🥲
This is the first video I found yours and the first thing I thought "oh it's not just my daughter".
Ours got the nickname Hurricane as soon as she was old enough to walk because of how she leaves a room.
She's now eight and her room is on going headache for her as well as us; plus an ever growing horde of Squishmallows!
After watching so many other motherhood vlogs over the years, it was comforting to see another child's room like this.
Happy anniversary! The room looks great. No judgement here. My son's room was always a mess. As a teenager I just left it alone. The only thing I asked was to keep food out of his room, because we had a mouse in there once. When he felt like cleaning his room, he did a great job.
Thank you so much!! ❤ oh yes good rule on the food! I would freak if I found a mouse haha
So true girl it isn't anyones bussiness I love it the way you say things so true .....
When you said hoarder and then broke out the bag I got worried, but I love that you're open to respecting their space & not coming from a place of frustration. :)
My grandma was a hoarder and my mom was the opposite who never wants to be attached to anything. I was like your daughter. Growing up between the two I can see how hoarding tendencies are & also how good some of those decluttering skills become as I get older. I found the channel A Hoarders Heart & her journey & I love the way she approaches her own hoarding with her kids. It all comes down to communication & making sure that what ppl see as trash isn't just tossed since it may mean stuff to us & if we feel it's going to be removed when we're gone, it's easy to start getting anxious & stashing things. Having her involved is super awesome! Maybe having a home for those paper scraps would be good so when they do their clean it's more about putting it away instead of just putting it down or having to get rid of it. She still has control & it's easier to visually manage when it starts to need attention.
Great work & love how empathetic you treat your family!
I can definitely see how it could only hurt a person by not respecting what they value! That’s why I never get upset with her room.. although it is exhausting haha but I really do think it made a huge difference by having her help. And she’s been keeping her room so much tidier now! 😊
Thank you!! 🥰
Oh my goodness!!! I thought my daughter was the only one with a messy cluttery room! I'm so happy I came across your video as I have been overwhelmed on where to even start. Your video was very helpful and encouraging. Thank you!!!!
Her room looks amazing after this huge transformation. You and Adrian did a fantastic job with getting rid of things and moving things around. Thanks for all of the cleaning motivation! I hope that you and your family have had a wonderful week and have a wonderful weekend ahead 😊❤
You seem like a great mom and your kids look very happy, which is super important. I just wanted to pass on some tips I used as a kid to keep things tidy, because habits we form as kids will follow us into adulthood, and you can imagine a person having a whole house that looks like the before shot of her room (just watch the show Hoarders, many of them started out as messy kids with lots of sentimental attachments to items and then when something traumatic happened in their life, it pushed them into full blown hoarding). People with houses that messy/dirty are more likely to have issues with landlords and pests and illnesses. I’ve seen it time and again. So while her being happy is super important, she also needs to understand that keeping her surroundings clean and neat is important too, not only for her physical health but also for her mental health. If she’s ever at a point in her life where she has to deal with depression (or maybe her future spouse has depression) then keeping a clean home will be extremely hard for her. So if she can learn as a child to build habits that keep her surroundings neat and clean (doesn’t have to be perfect) then she’ll be avoiding a lot of stress as an adult. Since she has a problem with trash, why not put a trash can in her room? Also a clothes hamper. That way those items are contained and not all over the floor.
I love these to go by:
There’s a place for every thing and everything has its place. When you’re finished with something, put it back in its home before you do anything else.
If you don’t make a mess, there’s no mess to clean. Working/playing/living in a way that doesn’t create a mess to begin with is a huge time saver. For example, a friend of mine had me help deep clean her house and we found a huge pile of toe nail clippings under the couch because her husband clipped his nails there and always shoved them between the seat cushions. So not only was that super gross, but we also had to spend time vacuuming it up. I clip mine over a small trash can. Since they go straight into the trash, I don’t have to vacuum them! Because I didn’t make a mess, there was no mess for me to have to clean up! 😄 That same logic can be applied in almost everything we do.
The less you have, the less you have to clean (I love this one since I can’t stand dusting Knick knacks 🤣).
Take five minutes once per day to speed-tidy the whole room. And that doesn’t mean shoving stuff under the bed. It should include getting stuff out from under furniture if there happens to be anything under there. You mentioned you guys like DIY stuff. Is there a way you could block off under her bed so she doesn’t even have the option of shoving stuff under it?
I she gets in the habit of 1) putting trash in her trash can, 2) dirty clothes in her hamper, 3) toys back in their place, and 5) does the “5 minute tidy up” every day, then you’ll never have to do this six hour marathon in her room again and she’ll be building cleanliness habits that will protect her from a lot of crap in her future. It’s so much easier to build good habits as a child than it is to tear down old habits and rebuild new ones as an adult ❤️
No judgement, I know everyone is different, I’m just hoping to help her and any other kids that are messy get ahold on it now so their future is brighter and mom’s life now is easier 😜
I love when you clean her room. Thank you for sharing ❤️
Hey Ashley, wow what a great transformation. Thanks for sharing this with us. The room looks amazing. Great work. Have a good day and take care 🤗
Happy Anniversary! Today is mine as well, 11 years with my amazing husband. ❤
That was the bestest, most satisfying before and after! Great job Momma and great job to Adrian for sticking with you and making some hard choices in decluttering. My girls always found that so difficult when they were her age as well.
Thank you so much!!! ❤ I was so proud of her!!
THIS IS SOOOOOOO! My daughter says my granddaughter has to clean her room today after homework. THAT MEANS NANIE HAS WORK TO DO! 🥶🥶. Her room looked JUST LIKE THIS ! Amazing. I have to think of this till she gets home! 😭😭😭
May update you after.
Thank you for this !
Love way you vacuumed and threw things back in closet! Not closet day. My granddaughters closet is ANOTHER DISASTER, TOO!
My kids rooms used to get like that think it is just part of growing up lol. Take care and stay safe.❤❤❤❤❤❤
Hey there!! Let me just say I love both of your channels. I've gotten behind on videos this summer though. It's been a rough one for our family. So yesterday and today I have been playing catch up on your videos. My daughter's room looked almost just like that before I cleaned it out today. She also loves making and creating things with paper. That was most of the mess in her room. You will get no judgement from me on any mess in your house. You are so relatable and that's why I love your channel so much. ❤❤
I’ve moved furniture this same way, 😂😂 same DIY attitude. Great job- looks so much better!
Haha love it!! 🙌🏼 we get it done. ❤️
Wow awesome job!!❤ Adrian did an incredible job decluttering her stuff!! Her room is beautiful! 🥰🙏🏻
Thank you so much!!! 💕💕
I used to save so much as a kid! It took me decades to become neater. I do much better with less. Happy Anniversary!
Thank you!! 💕
I agree less is so much less tress. But I’m still trying to get better at it myself! 😅
It will take time. It has taken me 2 1/2 years to get to where I am at today in my decluttering journey. You will get there! You are doing great with four kids!
My daughter is the exact same way! She loves making things as well so trash accumulates so fast. I clean it and its back the same way within a few days! Its gotten bad again and im trying to work up the energy to tackle it again 😅 this is giving me the motivation to get after it, so thank you❤
You should definitely keep the night stand....I personally think it looks great in her room. Awesome declutter by the way! ❤
Hi Ashley! I have twin 10 year old girls and their room right now looks like this…lol. This video came out just in time cause I’m about to go in and tackle their room this weekend! So thank u so much for this video. It’s exactly what I need to get prepared to clean n de clutter their room.❤😊
Hi Patricia!! Good luck cleaning your twins bedroom! You got this 💕
My bedroom is organized, meaning it's not cluttered. Many years ago, I had way too many empty squeeze bottles in my bedroom for example. I constantly downsized to 10 bottles that I still play with. I hope the problem was solved by having Adrienne's bedroom decluttered. I still love the round condiment squeeze bottles and round water squeeze bottles.
You are so right about kids being all different...im the youngest of 3 siblings...growing up my older brother was fairly tidy and minimal, my sister was the messiest imaginable and still is to this day, and im the neat freak 😂😂😂
My daughter was exactly like her. I think it's because she was artistic and moved to the sound of her own drum. I embraced those years because now she is grown and out on her own and I miss the chaos of hose days. 😢😢😢
Thank you. You help me want to get the mastered bedroom done. I had to move my office in there. Our mother n law took my office. So i am still trying to figure out how to make it a bedroom and office. I want it to look nice. Not cluttered. So thanks for the motivation I put my cleaning videos on the projector in my room and I watch and clean. It helps a lot. Kinda fun. too.
Hi Ashley I hope you and your family are all ok. I love watching your videos. I have some cleaning to do that I don't know where to start, but when I watch your video is so relaxing.
I love your videos they are the best cleaning videos on earth so could you please make a video of moving your boys room around
Thank you so much!! Maybe that will be the next room rearrangement I do! 😊
@@ashleyforbes thanks your the best
My daughter was my messy child as well, when we moved she got a larger room and she helped set it up she is now a lot better about cleaning it but I do still help her with bigger jobs but well done the bedroom looks great.
That’s awesome she is getting better about cleaning it!!
Adrienne said she will try her hardest to keep hers just as clean for now on. 🥰 we will see haha
Thank you!!
I love your videos this was the most satisfying I really enjoy your channel you did such an amazing job beautiful transformation ❤️
I would recommend to make your daughter room more cozy. Hanging fake plants on walls perhaps and not shut windows with curtains. They tend to mess it up less when it looks nicer.
I have 4 and two are supper clean and the other two kids rooms look exactly like this! I get it!❤
Crazy how different each child can be 💕
Well said, Ashley!!!! To all of you out there that might not agree, just remember we are not perfect. Do not judge or condemn. He room turned out amazing. You're doing a great job. Keep up the great work❤❤. My 13 yr. old grandson of 3 that I raise is definitely this very same way. It's not just girls it's boys too!! Just thought I would add that in!
Thank you so much!! 🥰🥰
What an AWESOME MOM!!!! Kids grow and change along the way - you just went with the flow!! Kids don't always know that sometimes "Change" is for the better - and you showed her the way!!! I truly enjoyed this video!!!
Absolutely fantastic video. Love when you do bedroom. One very lucky lady.
Happy Anniversary for tomorrow ❤
my middle daughter's room is the same way and I'm a super clean freak so I break down and do this every couple of weeks sometimes I last a month LOL her clean and mom's clean are for sure NOT the same!
I hope you don‘t do it without her permission
Adrienne's room looks so good!! 💗
Happy anniversary! 🥂
I always seem to fall in love with the runt of the litter too.
The rings are the best!! 🥰🥰
Thank you!! 🩵
Omg I had a good chuckle watching your daughters room. My granddaughter is the same way. They are young and enjoying life. She cleans but not as often as she should. They only young for a little while. 😂❤
Love the before and after look u guys did amazing job on the room
Wow 🤩 such an amazing transformation 🤩So glad she was able to let go of so much stuff 👍I loved this video 😀The closet is great too!
Thank you 🤗
Aloha Ashley you and Adrian did an amazing job on her bedroom!!!
Thank you so much! 💕
Hi Ashley I’m sure Adrienne was so pleased with her room transformation it looks so nice well done very pretty room I hope you have a great weekend ❤
Great transformation have an amazing weekend my beautiful friend ❤️ 😢
Ashley and kids awesome job decluttering and cleaning 👍🏼❤️😉🇨🇦 her bedroom looks so so so much better ❤️
Thank you so much!! 🥰💕
I love the furniture arrangement it looks awesome great job Ashley!
My daughter is 19 and still needs an occasional helping hand with her room. I can always tell when she is getting stressed about school or work by the state of her room. I know then I need to step in and help her out.
Girl what cracked me up is when that bowl came out from under that bed!!! We have all been there!!!😂😂😂
The transformation is amazing!! You all did a great job!!❤❤
My 8 yr old girl is the same way. And I let it be. It's her space and if she likes it that way it's fine. I do deep cleans once a month or so.
This turned out amazing, I can definitely relate, my oldest daughter is just like this she just turned 13
happy anniversary my friend i hope you have a great day with your hubby
Its great to have her do it with you!
Does she ever find that the state of her room effects her thinking or she doesn’t see it, doesnt bother her?
Hey Ashley, the before & after shots always get me! I love them all the time! The process of even cleaning for 6 hours is insane! I'm so glad that I had gotten 3 loads of laundry folded and put away today! ❤❤❤
Adhd to the T! I feel this. Deep down she probably wants it perfect but the brain just won't let her. This was me as a kid and still me to this day. Girls especially don't always show physical hyperactivity, its mental and suppressed inside. I feel her so much! 😢
Fantastic transformation Ashley it looks great 😊
Thank you!! 😊
Adrian's room looks great. You did a wonderful job cleaning her room up you are a great mother. 👍 see 👀 you next time ⏲ 😊😅
Great transformation. Have a great day, Ashley.
Mother's touch❤❤..... and
worth watching... I am ready to clean my Messy space....😊😊
YAYY!! Happy cleaning! 🥰
My granddaughter bedroom gets messy too. She's only 17. It was really bad when she was alot younger. It took me 2 days to do. Clean and organized it.
Ashley, the room looks great. The before and after is incredible. I'm just like you. Extremely independent and I'll move a mountain myself before I ask for help. It's definitely an Aries thing plus growing up with an independent single mom, it's just in my genes 😊 6 hours, what workout 💪🏽The mattress sounds like a great choice. I recently bought a new hybrid cooling mattress from a different brand, and now I'm thinking the lull might have been better. 👍🏽💪🏽🙌🏽🛏
SORRY FOR THE LONG COMMENT 🥺
I legitimately cried watching this video.
I'm going to be very real and transparent with you, this video made me cry for many reasons...
1. The patience you had to not just to decide to do this, but also to finish this task.
2. Because you had your children helping you with the decluttering process.
3. You made it look so effortless.
4. I have a lot on my mind and alot on my plate all while I'm suffering with recently losing six close people to me and processing a traumatic event I endured recently also.
I suffer with; Major Depressive Disorder, Panic Disorders, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and my children have; Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Tourettes and Severe ADHD and I have to constantly remind them just throw a piece of trash away and be careful how I ask so it doesn't start a argument.
Doing the simplest things for most are very challenging for me as I was never taught how to do this for myself, so I'm teaching myself through videos like this. Also, I'm struggling all the more since I had a major surgery recently and still am expected to maintain the household responsibilities and chores with little to no support or help from my family.
I wish I had a friend like you that could help me or at least sit and talk to me while I did what I have to do without getting so overwhelmed.
You did an amazing job with this room. I'm going to be watching it for a third time and try and get some more motivation for myself.
Love your channel, just subscribed to it today. I look forward to seeing more videos of yours. You're very inspiring to me. Keep up the great work! 🥹👍
Happy anniversary!💗✨
My daughter is the exact same way! One thing that has been an absolute game changer is having a garbage can in my child's room - no, she doesn't always use it, but it certainly helps. Also, we use labeled bins that help with picking up. It has taken A LOT of time and practice, but the difference in her ability to manage inventory is huge! Maybe these suggestions can help? Great transformation!
My kids' room needs a huge decluttering, too! I had to face the reality that part of the problem is buying all the things that contribute to the mess! Im definitely not going to buy so much stuff anymore!
We had the same problem with paint so what we’ve done in the past is taking a piece from a closet that cannot be seen and we take it into Home Depot and they can match it and we’ve never had a problem with the matching it. Just FYI in case you wanted to try that. And her room looks fabulous.
Fantastic transformation, Ashley!
Hallo Ashley... Jouw schoonmaak van jou dochter doet me denken aan mijn oudste zoon. 1per maand deed ik ook mijn zoon Bart kamer schoonmaken. Dat was net zo. Ik legde zijn spulletjes aan de kant die hij uit moest zoeken. De rest ruimde ik op. Dan deed alles lekker soppen . Bart kwam dan thuis , hij vond dat geweldig, vooral het schone geur van zijn kamer. De rest van de maand moest hij zelf bijhouden van zijn kamer , stoffen en zuigen . Ik voor de zonen (2) had ik een wasmand op hun kamer gezet. Dan konden ze als ik mijn wasdag had bij de wasmachine neerzetten. En dat deden ze trouw, als dat niet deden dan hadden ze geen schone was . De wasmachine staat bij mij op zolder en Bart zijn kamer was ook op zolder dus het was een kleine moeite. Later toen hij ouder werd en in het leger was kreeg ik heel wat meer kleding van hem . Ik weide mijn hele weekend aan om zijn kleding gewassen en gestreken in de pleun tas hebben , dan kon hij maandag met schone kleding naar het karzerne gaan. Hij is tot zijn 27 jaar thuis gebleven. Heel gezellige hoor, maar ze hebben wel hoge eisen met alles . Toen hij uit huis was gegaan dat is net of een deel van mijn lijf kwijt was. Natuurlijk is ook normaal dat hij zijn eigen leven ging leiden. Nu woont hij in Dublin en hij is 37 jaar en mis hem elke dag. Lang leven de beeldtelefoon. Ik vind het kamertje prachtig geworden . Ik denk ook voor je dochter makkelijker om netjes te houden. Onthoudt het wel eenmaal een rommelkont blijft een rommelkont. Haha😅. Fijne avond en groetjes van Kitty uit Nederland 🇳🇱👋👋😘
Hi, it’s me! I was that child and so is my 7yo. I go in about every couple months to get a good clean. I’ve given up on specific bins for things lol
Ah can’t believe your daughter finally got rid of the sloth 😅 he’s very cool but very very big ! Very proud of her ! You are an awesome mom !
Thank you so much!! 💕 I know I couldn’t believe she got rid of it either !! 🙌🏼
Ciao Ashley, la camera di Adrienne rispecchia la sua personalità, è creativa e soprattutto è una ragazza serena e felice.Grazie a voi genitori e a te che sei sempre presente nella vita della famiglia. Bel lavoro Ashley.Saluti a voi tutti 💌
I have a 2yr old and it can get messy at times. What is working for us is having limited toys, books and clothes. I also taught him that when he is taking off his clothes and shoes put it where it is supposed to be. I have to remind him sometimes but repetition works.
I think your a really good mom!!!!!
Thank you so much!! Best compliment I could get 🩷🩷
Ashley your not aloneon the messy child front my 13yr is the SAME way. You did an amazing job & was a bug reminder to get going on my messy child 😂❤
Her room looks amazing. She will sleep so well. Pls, Where did you get the white bedside, tray table ? I love it!!❤
I so loved this video!! Great as always but this type of video is my number 1 ❤
Thank you so much!! 🥰
You need original sliders I found mine at Walmart.A 4 yr was able to move a dresser 1 handed.They have been a big help
awesome video the room looks great hun!
Thank you so much!
I love both of your Channels. Congratulations on your 15 years! My husband and I have been together for 10 years in December. We're going to have our 1 year wedding Anniversary on August 12th and we're going to have our second baby in February.
Congrats to y’all!! That’s so exciting!! 🥰💕 our anniversary’s are so close together!!
Thank you!! I know that's pretty cool how they are close.
Hi ashley thankyou for this very awesome and motivating video the after is very awesome and comfy looking bedroom have a great day to u ❤️😍
Thank you!! 😊 Hope you have a wonderful day as well! 💕