Dating in my 30s was one of the most frustrating experiences. All the lying, blatant and by omission ugh! So many guys were vague and had commitment issues that I was not down to play with. 6 months after I gave up online dating, I met my bf because my friend met a guy on bumble who had a friend. All four of us went out one night and the rest is history. Life works in mysterious ways.
What that guy is doing, is called bread-crumbing, giving you the least amount of effort to still keep you there! He is looking for good communication but just not from you. It’s difficult for us ladies to understand but when a man really wants you he will do all the s++t without any asking! That’s why it’s vital we remember our worth and don’t focus on what they say but rather what they do. Good luck to you, you seem like a great person. ❤❤
I’ll never forget the time I showed up to meet a guy I met on Tinder and right after he saw me and we exchanged pleasantries, he said he just needed to run back inside that particular bar to say bye to his friend. After waiting about 10 minutes, I go inside to try and find him and he’s gone. Completely ditched me on the spot. I was so hurt. I ended up matching with another guy, and fast forward 6 years later, we’ve been happily married for 3. Dating does suck but your person is out there. You are lovely and have a beautiful soul. ❤
That’s horrible! That’s disgusting behavior and you did not deserve that what so ever. But I’m so glad you found your ever after! That’s why I don’t give up open them. I know so many people who have met amazing people and I will find it too!
Dating is so tough! It can be an emotional roller coaster. When you first spoke about this guy asking you on a date at the last minute for a Saturday night, I thought “red flag”. It’s a learning process. Let the guy ask you out in advance. No last minute plans, this reminds me that he thinks of me as an afterthought. No judgement here cuz I’m completely guilty of the same behavior in my own dating life back in the day. But of course it’s always easier to see the red flags when they’re not the ones in your own life. Wishing you all the best. Thank you for sharing your experience and being so honest, open, and vulnerable.❤️🙏🏼❤️
God I remember the ghosting on tinder was bonkers for me too and at the time I was on it I was totally down to hookup 😂. I am so sorry you’re going through this, but you seem to be smart and kind and you’re beautiful ❤ I know it’s annoying to hear over and over again, but there’s nothing wrong with you. Interacting in the world is complex and there’s SO much luck involved in finding a partner. It’s not a worthiness problem, it’s a timing problem. You deserve a good thing with a person who will prioritize and adore you. I can’t wait to see the update when you find them 💕 thank you for your vulnerability and I’m so sorry your wine had gone off. That’s the worst LOL
Girl it’s not you - it’s them. Good news but also bad news 😭 I’m also dating I my 30s and I’ve been in your shoes, and the guy that waits until the last minute to make plans or confirm plans with you doesn’t know what he wants and those are the ones that ghost or string you along. My general rule is mixed signals is a no, but I’m also totally in support of doing it for the plot!!
yes of course 😂 didn’t mean to come off like that haha. just refreshing to hear people share realistic experiences rather than everything in life working out perfect 😭
Just come across your channel & so happy I have ❤ So sorry you were ghosted. Dating is absolutely wild, I'm a 41 year old single mama & it's tough so I get you! Sending love & light from the UK ❤️❤️✨
I’m so so sorry you were ghosted. That’s so shitty! I’ve had what I’ve thought were good friends who’ve ghosted as well. Ghosting culture is crazy! I know quite a few people who are dating in their 30s and 40s … and let me tell you… it ain’t you! Ive heard the same issues with dating in this age range. For the record.. I think you’re a super cool chick and any guy would be lucky to have you! Good luck!
Hi Nicole! It's the way is goes sometimes on apps and off them too...but dont loose faith! And what matters is that you see how awesome you are and what you bring.
Guys are psychotic but sometimes if you seem to eager or your into them too much they tend to back off they're strange its all about games with them unfortunately
You're so beautiful, and you know what you want. It's his loss, I know that's easy for me to say, but there is someone out there for you, don't give up on love, you will find it!!❤❤
Just had to say you’re absolutely stunningly beautiful! Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there, there are amazing men out there (even if it doesn’t feel like it) lol ❤
Online dating especially sucks, it's like the same process for going on job interviews, the planning and choosing...it's not personal. I was single my whole life until I met my partner at like 28 and now I have a baby on the way. He's a bit older than me, and it's a blessing that he has the old school mentality and charm of talking to a woman in person. Online dating made me feel yucky cuz it was so consumptive. Not saying Online doesn't work for some, and I definitely got lucky with mine cuz I'm not one to go out and make the initiative...but even with the waiting, more natural ways of meeting people can be healthier and it doesn't leave you in the cycle of anticipation and rejection, or on the other hand having to choose between multiple options, because opportunities arise organically. It does mean being single for longer though if you stay off the apps lol
Check out the Women’s dating and confidence podcast!! I was in the exact same situation as you (dated assholes for all of my 20s and early 30s) and something in the podcast literally changed my brain chemistry as it relates to dating/relationships. I met my current husband about one month into binging this podcast and it was a game changer. Also I did her one on one/group coaching which took my healing journey to the next level but the podcasts alone are life changing
Your video just popped up, so I've never watched you before, but I'm so angry that he made you cry! He is so not worth your tears! Please don't be discouraged because the right person for you is definitely out there.
Girl! I just came across your channel! Love it! Just wanted to tell you don't count out the guys in there 20's !.. I am close to 40 and I have had one of my best relationships with a guy in his 20s .. he was the sweetest and most kind hearted humans I ever met .. and even more emotionally mature then most men in there 30s! 😊
Honestly, I agree. I tried state why I was no longer interested and you basically can only report if they have harassed or done something obscene, nothing else.
I wanna give you a hug!! I'm trying to date at 55. Ugh!!! I wish I was in my 30s. 50s is even worse and it is very depressing. I love my dogs as well! ❤❤❤ you are beautiful and smart. F THEM!!
You know, I think your choice in men and what you’re attracted to may be the problem not necessarily you as a person. Try going for people you don’t feel a spark for because they don’t cause you “butterflies” or anxiety
You are deserving of someone who respects you and communicates with you. He obviously isn’t mature enough to be honest with you and that’s not someone worthy of your time and energy!
you gotta work on yourself before trying to get someone else to join you... first body image, dont skip steps trying to get a man before you make yourself desirable, just being brutally honest
I think we have to understand most guys on dating sites are jerks, so if u set up a date and expect to go out again, it’s never gonna work,just go out chat and don’t get so upset when they ghost u, it lets u know they are not into u, and one day u might not be into a guy that likes u, it’s just how life works, so just don’t call it a date, it’s just getting to know someone...it takes months to really get to know a person, it will happen when it happens.
Aww, sweetie, nothing negative you're thinking about yourself is true. The bible in 2Timothy 3:1-4 talks about men (aka: people) will be lovers of themselves. Unfortunately, a lot of people are this way. However, we do have hope for the future in Revelation 21:1-4, God promises to wipe out every tear from our eyes. I encourage you to find guidance and comfort in God through prayer ❤
I’m sorry this happened 😢 I was a little confused though, did you message him about Oktoberfest plans and he didn’t message you back? Or did he just not follow back up after having conversation for the week leading up to?
@@authenticallynicole3883 no they are. I've encountered it too many times. They can only keep up the lie for so long and then they try to make you feel crazy for wanting to be in a relationship
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Dating in my 30s was one of the most frustrating experiences. All the lying, blatant and by omission ugh! So many guys were vague and had commitment issues that I was not down to play with. 6 months after I gave up online dating, I met my bf because my friend met a guy on bumble who had a friend. All four of us went out one night and the rest is history. Life works in mysterious ways.
That’s awesome! Need to search in the wild
What that guy is doing, is called bread-crumbing, giving you the least amount of effort to still keep you there! He is looking for good communication but just not from you. It’s difficult for us ladies to understand but when a man really wants you he will do all the s++t without any asking! That’s why it’s vital we remember our worth and don’t focus on what they say but rather what they do. Good luck to you, you seem like a great person. ❤❤
I’ll never forget the time I showed up to meet a guy I met on Tinder and right after he saw me and we exchanged pleasantries, he said he just needed to run back inside that particular bar to say bye to his friend. After waiting about 10 minutes, I go inside to try and find him and he’s gone. Completely ditched me on the spot. I was so hurt.
I ended up matching with another guy, and fast forward 6 years later, we’ve been happily married for 3. Dating does suck but your person is out there. You are lovely and have a beautiful soul. ❤
That’s horrible! That’s disgusting behavior and you did not deserve that what so ever.
But I’m so glad you found your ever after! That’s why I don’t give up open them. I know so many people who have met amazing people and I will find it too!
he couldve been cheating and felt bad honestly
Dating is so tough! It can be an emotional roller coaster. When you first spoke about this guy asking you on a date at the last minute for a Saturday night, I thought “red flag”. It’s a learning process. Let the guy ask you out in advance. No last minute plans, this reminds me that he thinks of me as an afterthought. No judgement here cuz I’m completely guilty of the same behavior in my own dating life back in the day. But of course it’s always easier to see the red flags when they’re not the ones in your own life. Wishing you all the best. Thank you for sharing your experience and being so honest, open, and vulnerable.❤️🙏🏼❤️
Oh I’ve reflected. Soooooo many 🚩🚩🚩🚩
Sooooo relatable!!!! Your precious dog kissing your tears away is next level precious!!!!
She is the best. Don’t know what I would do without her
God I remember the ghosting on tinder was bonkers for me too and at the time I was on it I was totally down to hookup 😂. I am so sorry you’re going through this, but you seem to be smart and kind and you’re beautiful ❤ I know it’s annoying to hear over and over again, but there’s nothing wrong with you. Interacting in the world is complex and there’s SO much luck involved in finding a partner. It’s not a worthiness problem, it’s a timing problem. You deserve a good thing with a person who will prioritize and adore you. I can’t wait to see the update when you find them 💕 thank you for your vulnerability and I’m so sorry your wine had gone off. That’s the worst LOL
Aw thank you! Really do appreciate it!
Just means I had to go buy a new bottle 🍷
Girl it’s not you - it’s them. Good news but also bad news 😭 I’m also dating I my 30s and I’ve been in your shoes, and the guy that waits until the last minute to make plans or confirm plans with you doesn’t know what he wants and those are the ones that ghost or string you along. My general rule is mixed signals is a no, but I’m also totally in support of doing it for the plot!!
“Do it for the plot” lol that’s how I’m living my life.
i need this to be a series😩subscribed!
Let’s hope it’s a limited series 😂
yes of course 😂 didn’t mean to come off like that haha. just refreshing to hear people share realistic experiences rather than everything in life working out perfect 😭
Oh took no offense to the comment at all! Always here for the authenticity!
HEY GIRL! I THOUGHT YOUD HAVE 300k SUBSCRIBERS IM MIND BLOWN BY THE QUALITY AND ENTERTAINMENT ❤❤❤❤❤
Aw thank you! That is so kind!
I want to learn to do more with the editing, but that task needs to wait a bit.
I love the way Remi is looking at you while you talk 🥰
She is the best girl! Don’t know how I got so lucky to have such an amazing pup.
Just come across your channel & so happy I have ❤ So sorry you were ghosted. Dating is absolutely wild, I'm a 41 year old single mama & it's tough so I get you! Sending love & light from the UK ❤️❤️✨
I’m so so sorry you were ghosted. That’s so shitty! I’ve had what I’ve thought were good friends who’ve ghosted as well. Ghosting culture is crazy!
I know quite a few people who are dating in their 30s and 40s … and let me tell you… it ain’t you! Ive heard the same issues with dating in this age range.
For the record.. I think you’re a super cool chick and any guy would be lucky to have you! Good luck!
Dating stories as a series? It’s the Wild West out there 😂
My one bit of advice is to not go out with them if they last minute message you to go out after not hearing from them for a few days.
You seem so genuine and really nice & fun. His loss FOR SURE.
Aw thank you!
Hi Nicole! It's the way is goes sometimes on apps and off them too...but dont loose faith! And what matters is that you see how awesome you are and what you bring.
Yes! Thank you!
Just found your channel, obsessed, subscribed, watching every video rn
Aw thanks!
Guys are psychotic but sometimes if you seem to eager or your into them too much they tend to back off they're strange its all about games with them unfortunately
That person wasn't the one. You're fantastic and your person is out there. 😊
You didn't deserve to be ghosted. Very rude and immature. 😑
Aw thank you! No one deserves to be ghosted. Going to start taking security deposits for now on
You're so beautiful, and you know what you want. It's his loss, I know that's easy for me to say, but there is someone out there for you, don't give up on love, you will find it!!❤❤
So sorry you were ghosted :(
Thank you! Bounced back quickly. More frustrated than anything
Just had to say you’re absolutely stunningly beautiful! Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there, there are amazing men out there (even if it doesn’t feel like it) lol ❤
Online dating especially sucks, it's like the same process for going on job interviews, the planning and choosing...it's not personal. I was single my whole life until I met my partner at like 28 and now I have a baby on the way. He's a bit older than me, and it's a blessing that he has the old school mentality and charm of talking to a woman in person. Online dating made me feel yucky cuz it was so consumptive. Not saying Online doesn't work for some, and I definitely got lucky with mine cuz I'm not one to go out and make the initiative...but even with the waiting, more natural ways of meeting people can be healthier and it doesn't leave you in the cycle of anticipation and rejection, or on the other hand having to choose between multiple options, because opportunities arise organically. It does mean being single for longer though if you stay off the apps lol
Check out the Women’s dating and confidence podcast!! I was in the exact same situation as you (dated assholes for all of my 20s and early 30s) and something in the podcast literally changed my brain chemistry as it relates to dating/relationships. I met my current husband about one month into binging this podcast and it was a game changer. Also I did her one on one/group coaching which took my healing journey to the next level but the podcasts alone are life changing
On it! Need a new podcast to listen to.
Your video just popped up, so I've never watched you before, but I'm so angry that he made you cry! He is so not worth your tears! Please don't be discouraged because the right person for you is definitely out there.
Thank you! I was more frustrated than anything. All good now! Even went a a different date 😉
Girl! I just came across your channel! Love it! Just wanted to tell you don't count out the guys in there 20's !.. I am close to 40 and I have had one of my best relationships with a guy in his 20s .. he was the sweetest and most kind hearted humans I ever met .. and even more emotionally mature then most men in there 30s! 😊
Maybe I’ll drop it a little bit 😂
all i can hear is september playing in my head now 🤣
You’re welcome! 😂
I really like your videos. You have super good vibes 🥰!!
Thank you so much!!
Ugh, jerk! Those dating apps need a Reviews section so you can call out all the bad behaviour and ill communication.
Honestly, I agree. I tried state why I was no longer interested and you basically can only report if they have harassed or done something obscene, nothing else.
I wanna give you a hug!! I'm trying to date at 55. Ugh!!! I wish I was in my 30s. 50s is even worse and it is very depressing. I love my dogs as well! ❤❤❤ you are beautiful and smart. F THEM!!
You got this! We don’t give up!
You know, I think your choice in men and what you’re attracted to may be the problem not necessarily you as a person. Try going for people you don’t feel a spark for because they don’t cause you “butterflies” or anxiety
You are deserving of someone who respects you and communicates with you. He obviously isn’t mature enough to be honest with you and that’s not someone worthy of your time and energy!
you gotta work on yourself before trying to get someone else to join you... first body image, dont skip steps trying to get a man before you make yourself desirable, just being brutally honest
Sending you a big hug Nicole ... ❤️🩹
I think we have to understand most guys on dating sites are jerks, so if u set up a date and expect to go out again, it’s never gonna work,just go out chat and don’t get so upset when they ghost u, it lets u know they are not into u, and one day u might not be into a guy that likes u, it’s just how life works, so just don’t call it a date, it’s just getting to know someone...it takes months to really get to know a person, it will happen when it happens.
who the hell would ghost u - u have such a relaxing vibe and are a good storyteller. his loss :P
Thank you! Ghosters are people without any form of maturity and didn’t have to deal with their decisions early on.
On to find the good ones!
Aww, sweetie, nothing negative you're thinking about yourself is true. The bible in 2Timothy 3:1-4 talks about men (aka: people) will be lovers of themselves. Unfortunately, a lot of people are this way. However, we do have hope for the future in Revelation 21:1-4, God promises to wipe out every tear from our eyes. I encourage you to find guidance and comfort in God through prayer ❤
Your dog looks like Bartok from Anastasia so cute
That’s actually her middle name! I called her Bartok for the first week I had her because I couldn’t choose a name. Still responds to it 😂
@@authenticallynicole3883 awww
I’m sorry this happened 😢 I was a little confused though, did you message him about Oktoberfest plans and he didn’t message you back? Or did he just not follow back up after having conversation for the week leading up to?
So he asked me to Oktoberfest and was texting me up until the day of. I sent a message for confirmation and nothing.
Looking back, there were 🚩🚩🚩
@@authenticallynicole3883 ughhhhh so disappointing!! You did good though, you put yourself out there - that’s the hardest part I think.
Hey hey! What dating app are you using? ❤
Currently it’s Hinge. May tryout a different one for a video lol
Girl.... Half of them are married 😂
😂 I sure hope not!
@@authenticallynicole3883 no they are. I've encountered it too many times. They can only keep up the lie for so long and then they try to make you feel crazy for wanting to be in a relationship