Anybody that doesn't immediately answer yes isn't ready. When I was in active addiction, I hated my life, I hated ingesting drugs, I hated lying, I hated hiding, I hated scheming, I hated who I had become, I hated all of it. The very second I let someone in and they opened a door to help for me, I legit dropped everything and ran through it. It's been a little under 6 years clean.
I never lied and schemed I always worked for what I had I used not not socially it's not fair to paint this broad picture not every addict is up to no good I've always been a good honest hard working person of God I just used meth
michael is truly amazing. he is a person who i can see found hope, hope that he has a proper future with love and happiness. the fact he was willing to help xander even though he doesn’t know the guy says a lot as well, trying to encourage him not to go and fight to get sober. it makes my heart happy
Hey Patrick, I'm still waiting to hear back from you all about your program. I emailed you all like two weeks ago. If Xander doesn't want to do what he needs to do, I MOST DEFINITELY WILL!!! I just need to know what I have to do to make it so I can get my heart and my mind right. PLEASE!!!
Scott I'm thinking of u I myself am I'm recovery and your will to want to change is very very remarkable and I commend u for speaking it out to millions of people your in my prayers 🙏🙏🙏🙏💜💜💜
Scott, keep emailing and everything happens the way it's supposed to! I bet he just didn't get the email somehow because sometimes they Automatically go to spam! Keep moving your feet! I'll keep sending healing vibes!
It just kills me how he kept saying he had nowhere to go and he’s literally at this beautiful home surrounded by support. It is truly heartbreaking what addiction does to somebody.
@@thedislikebutton69 sleep it off you’ll be fine. Be glad your body doesn’t have a physical dependency to it like other drugs. Not to down play your “addiction” but just fill in ur day with other hobbys like working out or sports man
God knows what living at that house they puts your worst day or your best day online for everyone to judge unless you pay $3k-$5k a month to stay there. What is people are doing is fucking wrong for taking advantage of attics. Trust me I know this scam when I was in South Florida 2012 to 2013. This was the biggest scam happening out there sober living homes are so easy to fucking make money because you’re just living off of attics and if they relapse you kick them out and then you charge them a relapse fee or you get someone else in there it’s ridiculous there’s no standards there’s no ethical guidelines. It’s an untapped market full of horrible people that take advantage of broken people, but that’s how the treatment business is
My heart breaks for him I am sober 10 years and it took me a long time Keeping him in my prayers Michael looks amazing you are wonderful people love what you do I hope Zander finally hits his bottom and gets the help he needs Thank you so sharing and all you do to help people
Watching the way y’all prayed with him really inspired a thought formed by my own religious surroundings but also with struggling with personal mental illness, and I had an idea as to how the specific wording of these prayers can be much more impactful. For example, if someone is struggling with something significant, to pray that the Lord would free him from that would be an amazing miracle! But to the person receiving the prayer, it can almost invalidate their feelings by just the natural intrusive thought that follows of: “it’s not that easy” or “if God could do all that why hasn’t he?” I think that forming the prayer with more comforting and understanding wording, such as saying “Lord we pray for our brother, while we strive to understand what is going on in his heart, only you God knows exactly what he’s going through. We pray that you would be with us through this process, to be with him and guide him in those difficult moments, and encourage him throughout the process of hard work” Something along those lines is what I wish people would pray with me about, because I don’t want anyone to say they know how I feel, because they don’t it’s a unique experience to me. But to be told that someone WANTS to understand and will do whatever it takes to do so, and to hear not that there’s a magical fix, but assured and constant support and love! I love what y’all do there at Graceland and I’m such a huge supporter, I just hope sharing my own insights might provide a different perspective in the hopes that y’all will be able to connect with people on a deeper level
As someone who's battled addiction most of my life, thank you for all you do and how much you care. It shows how badly you want to give him a new chance at life.
As someone who struggles with meth binges and running my life in the ground…. At the end of every binge you wanna get clean… you’re insane, dehydrated, broke, probably publicly humiliated yourself, probably did some terrible shit to ppl you care about during the binge, homeless probably, maybe some curable stds (if you’re lucky) just searching for whatever was lost in the first place. I’m only speaking for myself I suppose but its during those times I just wanted someone to teach me to be sober. I couldn’t imagine fuckin going to a nice ass house with people all around to help you with sobriety.. and gaining a support system sounds great. I hope he took this opportunity eventually bc life as a tweaker is a shell of one. So much love to him never any judgment as I’m only no damn better. Love y’all 💖
Zander was there because he had no place to go, not for sobriety. Until he makes the choice to do it for sobriety it won’t work no matter how much love and support you pour into him. 19 years clean after 25 of meth use here. I had to be at deaths door literally for me to make the choice. Not ever going to say it’s been an easy journey and I struggle from time to time but it’s been well worth it.
That is awesome. 2 years clean from H/F after 10 years on it. I am happy I can say I got out of drugs before it became something I did longer then being sober. If I had kept going it was just a matter of time before I am realizing to myself that I had actually been doing drugs longer in my life then I was ever sober for. Someone who starts at 15 years old will already be doing it HALF of their lives and once their 30, and then once they turn 31, they have been doing drugs longer then what they lived sober.
I agree with you. He's mistaking kindness for weakness and he's being the manipulative addict that is all addicts. I know I've been there and would have bitten their hand off for a place at Graceland because getting cleans easy staying clean is the hard part.
My sister had one hell of a time getting of the drugs... I hate seeing people like this.. it breaks my heart. She has been sober for over a year now, have been busting her ass off working and providing for her two kids as a single mother. I can't imagine getting hooked on a strong drug. It takes a lot of will power to get clean. Prayers to those who fell into these addictions. I pray they find the strength to recover❤️🙏
You people are far more empathetic than I think I could be. You even stayed and gave the advice and lectures even though you were doing it for the millionth time. I believe all of you standing there have really good intentions and hearts. That's hard to come by.
You all tried so hard with Xander- and that can never be lost in a human. I teared up when beautiful Micheal shared his heartfelt feelings and wishes- he's such a gentle soul. Johnny is doing so well- it's so nice to see. All the best to Xander.. psychosis holds connotations of being somewhat temporary- but I guess, in reality- that's not always the case. I hope Graceland's is knowing they did everything they could 💜🌈
I love seeing how you guys are with people and how hard you try but like you guys said he aint ready and you can't help anyone till they are ready to get sober!!! I pray he wants to get help before something bad happens to him!! I have been sober for 15 years now and I couldn't be more happier with myself!! You guys are amazing keep spreading the love!!
More times than I can count, let alone remember, I was ready to get sober & put the hard work in and I TRULY meant it & believed it but sadly I was wrong I wasn’t ready. Thank God my family did t give up and most importantly I DIDNT GIVE UP ON ME! Hope Zander can get out of his own way one day, let go & fully surrender before the gift of choice is taken away forever 🙏🏻❤️
I know a female Xander…. It’s heart breaking! 100% bc I got clean im 6 yrs sober and no life isn’t perfect or even amazing but in comparison to where I was 6 yrs ago it’s sooooooo much better. No matter how bad shit gets I remind myself of how things were 6+yrs ago and even the worse days will feel like paradise now. I try to tell her those things. But she won’t hear it. She said the same thing to me “why bother getting clean if even after I’m clean I’m still alone” so she stays w a man who pimps her out and beats her but at least he gives her drugs and she not alone is kind of her mental process. And it’s heart wrenching. Ik her family would take her back and I’d help her too if she needed support the only catch is she can’t use. And for me personally she has to be sober for 1month. Bc I’m not jeopardizing my sobriety if she relapses in 1 week. I tried for a few yrs. I only recently gave up this yr. After she went missing for 4 months and I freaked out got ahold of her family they couldn’t find her so they ended up getting the police involved bc we were scared she od’d and someone just dumped her on the side of the road or something. She ended up popping up screaming that everyone was trying to get her locked up and ruin her life…. At that point I decided I couldn’t handle it anymore. She was an old friend but now she’s nothing to me unless she gets clean bc I have to put my sobriety first. But I still have hope one day I’ll hear that she’s sober. Or locked up, honestly I hope one day she does get locked up to force her to get sober and wake up a little bit. Bc she’ll never go to rehab or get sober at home, at least there’s a very slim chance. So her story I fear will end in death if not prison and I pray it’s prison if the only other equal possibility is death.
Unfortunately Zander is going through severe Amphetamine activated psychosis and it can take anywhere from three days to six months to snap out of some people never come back
I just want to say I'm a week sober now doing it on my own I'm a 27 year meth addict I'm 43 years old your videos are inspirational and very helpful to me
Hey I rarely comment on youtube but i wanted to root you on! I know this is 4 weeks old but i am praying it means your , i guess, 5 weeks. Clean now. If not, then relapse is a part of recovery. You got this! ❤ blesses and love
Please do more videos like these, the length, the quality, I like these types of videos. Shorts are great and all, but they are *too* short. I realize these types of videos we are watching are a combination of smaller videos with commentary, but that's the type of content I like. Although not sure who was taking some of the video used in this video but they were doing some rookie mistakes of having the background in focus rather than the subjects.
I just found your channel, that’s awesome you help addicts stay clean! I’ve been a heroin addict for 17 years and been to treatment 4 times, I’ve been using fentanyl for the last year or so but it’s getting really old and I want another chance to work on my sobriety. Not sure where I’ll go to treatment but hopefully find a place soon. I work full time just to support my habit yet I’m always broke. I want to have things to show for my hard work! I live in Washington state. Wish me luck bro, and anything helps, recommendations, kind words, etc… 😁 I’d love to live at Graceland! I’ve lived in sober living once. Take care
It looks so beautiful and welcoming where you are. I miss the recovery community. The feeling of love and friendship around complete strangers, united under sobriety.
This Disease is so strong that this young man knew that doing the drug again means he's homeless. But actually what is brain probably told him was: I'm just going to do it tonight and I'm going to get sober tomorrow. Actually believe it. So so strong. He lost the ability to choose.
That's what meth does to some people! I quit meth cold turkey when my mother needed my care! I quit weed 5 month's ago cold turkey, but alcohol is my next battle....
My fear of staying the same came to outweigh my fear of change. When one reaches that point, they will find a way, as I and so many others have done. If you have the will, the determination, and the courage to face yourself, help is everywhere and change is all but inevitable. When I was in the thick of it, I was beyond certain that I could never recover, but when I became willing to change myself, help came out of every direction. If your heart pumps and you're willing, you can achieve your wildest dreams just by taking the first step...Please, if you're suffering, take that step and remain positive by any means necessary!
Hi Patrick, I really appreciate you being there for us, your an inspiration to watch keep it up bro, remember to keep sponsoring us through your videos, God bless you all.
Oh yeah and one other note I forgot to mention and please don't take this the wrong way never Force Christianity upon somebody it will backfire you can lose all of the ground that you've gained in less than a second just some words of advice
I've been sober for 15 years now but I'm glad I learned to take accountability that was the hardest part of getting sober... He can get there but it takes a lot of reality checking. Good on you guys for being patient with him
Man this has to be such a draining job. I give you props for trying to help people. I think 🤔 you are doing a great job. It must be a very fulfilling job to. I hope xander gets his life together soon. If he comes back I think detox would be the first place for him and than come to your house. Anyway keep up the great work.
The great spirit gives his hardest battles to his deepest believers, and he'll keep doing that because he wants us to call on him...that's my biggest struggle...
The hardest part is wanting to get sober/clean! It was hard watching this... I've been in the same place as Xander. It's not easy, especially when you're not ready. All it took me was someone mentioning crack and I'd think about it all day, until I got some.
Very good work, we need more people like you, im sharing your videos to see if maybe someone do the same thing because i cant,here in Croatia(ex yugoslavia) in other part of the world..all of you are such an inspiration..thank you for doing Gods work
I would love to help out. A lot of addiction is mental health. I do behavioral therapy and am also a sober person with alcoholism. I’ve seen the darkness and healing those traumas really help in a holistic way.
He hasn't hit his bottom. He hasn't made himself suffer enough to get clean. Until then it's a waste of time energy and resources. Would love to get to know the sober Xander.
everyone has their own rock-bottom, and you’re right. Xander may be homeless and addicted to meth but he isn’t ready to help himself, and it is physically impossible to force someone to be sober. if xander CAN be sober if he chooses it, but there’s nothing much more anyone can do for him until he realizes he needs to let go of the meth
I've been an addict for years. I've been homeless, I've overdosed, I've even tried cheating on my wife, the person I love the most in the world. Now, I've been sober off and on. Mostly off. But I get these urges and they just take over. I lose and I relapse. I don't like completely fall off the wagon, and binge on drugs, but I get high. And I hate it. But now I have a kid on the way. And he's coming soon. I mean I work full time, but I still relapse. It sucks. I even go through the whole talking myself out if it phase. Then go and relapse. I just want to stop completely
Luv what your doing bro keep up the good work and context 💯 really making a difference not even just the people in the videos but the people watching too 🤞🏼 a lot of us struggle with some of these issues too so seeing this is like reassuring to me I don’t kno how to explain it or if that even makes sense but much luv 💯 Kant wait til this channel gets more exposure
It's hard to realize how much it can consume your life...It's like you are on a roller-coaster 🎢 that you can't get off and it will get you nowhere good in life...I pray for you all...
He said what's the point of getting sober when no ones gonna be here for me in the end. First of all there is no end to sobriety and second when he is sober he won't need anybody to help him, he will help himself by helping others.
ZANDER CLOSE YO DAAAM EYES!!! DA DAWGZ ALL KNOW YOU NEVA BITE DA HAND DAT FEEDZ YOU!!! PRIDE IS DEADLY!!! YOU LOOSE WHAT AND WHO YOU NEED MOST!!! PRAYERS FO DA BRADDAH ZANDAH🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🤙🏼🤙🏼🤙🏼❤❤❤
What he means by nobody being there for him at the end is when the program is over and everything is said and done and he has to walk away and fly on his own, he's thinking so far ahead that he's wondering who is going to be there when all that happens and he knows when he's alone he will fail I understand him because I am him and I fight that person everyday
Hey Graceland! Have you thought about writing a book of your experiences? I’m a caregiver and I’ve met so many people who have these amazing stories but never get them out. I bet you all have some beautiful stories to share.
Yeah he knows where it leads doesn't matter .. it's sad but it's a fact of addiction .. I'm 1 year clean from almost 10 years straight of fentanyl turned benzo dope on methadone now
@@parkseybeams2297 I’m proud of you keep clean. I’m 7 years clean off heroin and dilaudid. I got out right when fetynsl started into all that I believe and I’m so grateful. Honestly I had 10 years I relapsed for 3 months lost my very best friend and ended up going maybe 2 months after that and then now have 7 years and now on this side I’m just so heartbroken for anyone. I can say I truly don’t care about opiates but even after 7 years I feel so sad and depressed and messed up in the head. Therapy has helped but not really. I’ve gone through so much trauma and stress and it just keeps adding up. Love gracelands message it’s so cool it’s what I always would have wanted back then; wish I could be a counselor!!! I really am a normal mom now so I probably wouldn’t be help but I’ve always wanted to give back! Love these videos; Danielle and Patrick and everyone in gracelands team!!
I need to work with Sober people this makes me feel like the sandman sounds like the excuse. For him... Sad but it's something you have to understand and without losing control hat's off bro
@noshame123 What's so funny??? A person saying they would love help???? Really 🤔. You probably need some therapy yourself if you think that's funny....js
@noshame123 actually getting help in America is not as easy as one would think. Especially when it comes to mental health, recovery and rehabilitation services.
@noshame123 I've had this conversation with many counselors, therapists & psychiatrists. And, they have all said the same thing. Getting help in this country is difficult. I know sooo many people who want help & have to wait months to get it. When I got sober 10 years ago, it took forever to get into a clinic. It was hell. I wish something would change.
@noshame123 dude f you, your filled with negative ass feedback, i honestly hope you get addicted again and get humbled if your acting this way towards people who were in your same shoes! not everybody has insurance in this country your parents got money not you. u got a hell of a handout dude doesnt got nobody
Damn bro. Xander reminds me of a really good friend I grew up with, as we got older some of us became daily drug users overtime. Where I was snorting oxys/smoking H, he was doing everything and last I saw him was years ago but he was shooting speedballs. He has like 5-6 kids we 3-4 different girls and used to be built like a 5'6'' brick. The last time I saw him was at a casino and he was so skinny, with a pretty gnarly black eye. He was looking around for money or someone he could take advantage of or sell himself. It was awful, but he always had that smile on his face when discussing serious shit and just trying to do whatever Xander wants to do. I think he was addicted to the lifestyle more than the drug at first. It made him "cool" in front of a group of people in/out of prison that we started partying with once one of my old roommates got out of prison, he introduced us. Then the meth psychosis started setting in. Another friend that was super gullible, brain damaged from excessive ecstasy use as a teenager, and struggled with his sexuality gave some guy his $4-5 K car for a $200 bag of crystal. Got kicked out of his house because of it and I still see him occasionally walking around town and I'll take him to get some food/drink and give him a few bucks.He doesn't even really remember me because he's so fucked up due to using so many different drugs when he was already probably on the spectrum. He would bring up some random thing we did when we were little that I had even forgot, then he would just not talk about it again even if I asked him a question about it. It makes me super sad. I'm over sharing lol but it always helps me to type it out.
To everyone dealing with addiction. This is a harsh reality but… no one’s coming to save you. Sure someone can give you a place to stay for a few days and some food and a hot shower. but that won’t last long if you don’t do the work. and even if you do the work, they’re not gonna do that for you for the rest of your life. the sooner you realize this and marinate on it, the sooner that wall will come at you and you’ll have to make a decision especially if you’re not too far gone. 1. either you SAVE YOURSELF or 2. fall off the deep end and lose a cm of your insanity everyday until you no longer are a coherent human being and you’re just a slave to whatever is consuming you for the rest of your life. and you’ll live a lonely life. you’ll sell everything you can get your hands on including yourself (eventually, in more ways than one) and be this super efficient machine that destroys everything good that will ever come your way. it’s up to you, man. nothings ever written in stone except one thing… NO ONE WILL COME SAVE YOU
Dude, I just found out you from Hypercrush, I fuccing love that band dude!!! Your the shyt for real and I'm also in recovery here in bend Oregon, so that must be how you popped up on my RUclips shorts, I think your awesome dude
I appreciate what your doing man. I’d work on getting your wife clean as well. I think I read that right. It said Not sober beside her name. Anyways it’s a good thing what your doing man. I’ve been clean 9 years from oxycodone. Haven’t looked back once. You gotta wanna quit for yourself nobody els. You Gotta wanna quit yourself.. God Bless you & your Students.
He needs a plan, needs to know he can get a job that won't use him, and definitely needs to know that he will be loved and respected if he can make his life after the opportunity you're giving him. For now he just see a place to stay and some food, but with enough support and helping him create a plan, there is a chance
@noshame123 funny how you say this, yet you also say "there's plenty of help and opportunities everywhere". Nah people like you make it impossible for people like him
@noshame123 i hope you get addicted again in that home u busted ur ass off to get😉😘 "no shame" little dick head trying to make fun of somebody whos going through it. learn how to be humble you ass hole
@@Pipi-rc2le well first these were just friends of mine and second that’s a untrue and general statement. An addict in recovery changes so even if someone did used to date addicts, once they’re in recovery they no longer adhere to that life style.
What it is they have a few people that they know that they know that they can pull on their heart strings and then they move off you and then when you get sick of it they go to the next person and when they get sick of it they come back In full circle
Anybody that doesn't immediately answer yes isn't ready. When I was in active addiction, I hated my life, I hated ingesting drugs, I hated lying, I hated hiding, I hated scheming, I hated who I had become, I hated all of it. The very second I let someone in and they opened a door to help for me, I legit dropped everything and ran through it. It's been a little under 6 years clean.
I never lied and schemed I always worked for what I had I used not not socially it's not fair to paint this broad picture not every addict is up to no good I've always been a good honest hard working person of God I just used meth
michael is truly amazing. he is a person who i can see found hope, hope that he has a proper future with love and happiness. the fact he was willing to help xander even though he doesn’t know the guy says a lot as well, trying to encourage him not to go and fight to get sober. it makes my heart happy
Hey Patrick, I'm still waiting to hear back from you all about your program. I emailed you all like two weeks ago. If Xander doesn't want to do what he needs to do, I MOST DEFINITELY WILL!!! I just need to know what I have to do to make it so I can get my heart and my mind right. PLEASE!!!
Scott I'm thinking of u I myself am I'm recovery and your will to want to change is very very remarkable and I commend u for speaking it out to millions of people your in my prayers 🙏🙏🙏🙏💜💜💜
Scott, keep emailing and everything happens the way it's supposed to! I bet he just didn't get the email somehow because sometimes they Automatically go to spam! Keep moving your feet! I'll keep sending healing vibes!
Hey bud I have a year long free program for you in Colorado. Hmu if you want to go
Seriously help this guy he wants it
Is your paper right. the place isn't cheap
It just kills me how he kept saying he had nowhere to go and he’s literally at this beautiful home surrounded by support. It is truly heartbreaking what addiction does to somebody.
I think I’m addicted to weed
@@thedislikebutton69 sleep it off you’ll be fine. Be glad your body doesn’t have a physical dependency to it like other drugs. Not to down play your “addiction” but just fill in ur day with other hobbys like working out or sports man
@@thedislikebutton69 hahhaah
God knows what living at that house they puts your worst day or your best day online for everyone to judge unless you pay $3k-$5k a month to stay there. What is people are doing is fucking wrong for taking advantage of attics. Trust me I know this scam when I was in South Florida 2012 to 2013. This was the biggest scam happening out there sober living homes are so easy to fucking make money because you’re just living off of attics and if they relapse you kick them out and then you charge them a relapse fee or you get someone else in there it’s ridiculous there’s no standards there’s no ethical guidelines. It’s an untapped market full of horrible people that take advantage of broken people, but that’s how the treatment business is
It’s cus these are rich kid “homeless” addicts
My heart breaks for him I am sober 10 years and it took me a long time Keeping him in my prayers Michael looks amazing you are wonderful people love what you do I hope Zander finally hits his bottom and gets the help he needs Thank you so sharing and all you do to help people
Congrats
Watching the way y’all prayed with him really inspired a thought formed by my own religious surroundings but also with struggling with personal mental illness, and I had an idea as to how the specific wording of these prayers can be much more impactful.
For example, if someone is struggling with something significant, to pray that the Lord would free him from that would be an amazing miracle! But to the person receiving the prayer, it can almost invalidate their feelings by just the natural intrusive thought that follows of: “it’s not that easy” or “if God could do all that why hasn’t he?”
I think that forming the prayer with more comforting and understanding wording, such as saying “Lord we pray for our brother, while we strive to understand what is going on in his heart, only you God knows exactly what he’s going through. We pray that you would be with us through this process, to be with him and guide him in those difficult moments, and encourage him throughout the process of hard work”
Something along those lines is what I wish people would pray with me about, because I don’t want anyone to say they know how I feel, because they don’t it’s a unique experience to me. But to be told that someone WANTS to understand and will do whatever it takes to do so, and to hear not that there’s a magical fix, but assured and constant support and love!
I love what y’all do there at Graceland and I’m such a huge supporter, I just hope sharing my own insights might provide a different perspective in the hopes that y’all will be able to connect with people on a deeper level
So cringe
As someone who's battled addiction most of my life, thank you for all you do and how much you care. It shows how badly you want to give him a new chance at life.
As someone who struggles with meth binges and running my life in the ground…. At the end of every binge you wanna get clean… you’re insane, dehydrated, broke, probably publicly humiliated yourself, probably did some terrible shit to ppl you care about during the binge, homeless probably, maybe some curable stds (if you’re lucky) just searching for whatever was lost in the first place. I’m only speaking for myself I suppose but its during those times I just wanted someone to teach me to be sober. I couldn’t imagine fuckin going to a nice ass house with people all around to help you with sobriety.. and gaining a support system sounds great. I hope he took this opportunity eventually bc life as a tweaker is a shell of one. So much love to him never any judgment as I’m only no damn better. Love y’all 💖
Zander was there because he had no place to go, not for sobriety. Until he makes the choice to do it for sobriety it won’t work no matter how much love and support you pour into him. 19 years clean after 25 of meth use here. I had to be at deaths door literally for me to make the choice. Not ever going to say it’s been an easy journey and I struggle from time to time but it’s been well worth it.
Congratz to u!!
@@aphysique thank you!
That is awesome. 2 years clean from H/F after 10 years on it. I am happy I can say I got out of drugs before it became something I did longer then being sober. If I had kept going it was just a matter of time before I am realizing to myself that I had actually been doing drugs longer in my life then I was ever sober for. Someone who starts at 15 years old will already be doing it HALF of their lives and once their 30, and then once they turn 31, they have been doing drugs longer then what they lived sober.
I agree with you. He's mistaking kindness for weakness and he's being the manipulative addict that is all addicts. I know I've been there and would have bitten their hand off for a place at Graceland because getting cleans easy staying clean is the hard part.
My sister had one hell of a time getting of the drugs... I hate seeing people like this.. it breaks my heart. She has been sober for over a year now, have been busting her ass off working and providing for her two kids as a single mother. I can't imagine getting hooked on a strong drug. It takes a lot of will power to get clean. Prayers to those who fell into these addictions. I pray they find the strength to recover❤️🙏
You people are far more empathetic than I think I could be. You even stayed and gave the advice and lectures even though you were doing it for the millionth time. I believe all of you standing there have really good intentions and hearts. That's hard to come by.
it all stems from narcessism. just another addiction.
You all tried so hard with Xander- and that can never be lost in a human. I teared up when beautiful Micheal shared his heartfelt feelings and wishes- he's such a gentle soul. Johnny is doing so well- it's so nice to see. All the best to Xander.. psychosis holds connotations of being somewhat temporary- but I guess, in reality- that's not always the case. I hope Graceland's is knowing they did everything they could 💜🌈
Well said🧡
He’s a drug addict this is what they do getting mad at an addict for doing addict Shit is pathetic.
@@barbarahunsaker5634 🙏😘
@@sad_vegan507 Who exactly was so mad at Xander.. that you labelled it pathetic? All I saw was a whole lot of compassion...
Dammit man. This is heartbreaking to see. Wishing Xander all the best. Xander if you read this, there's people out here who care bruh. Its time.
We're not victims, the people who are guilty of loving us are victims.
You worded this perfectly
They definitely are making money off of broken people and putting them on camera is insane
I love seeing how you guys are with people and how hard you try but like you guys said he aint ready and you can't help anyone till they are ready to get sober!!! I pray he wants to get help before something bad happens to him!! I have been sober for 15 years now and I couldn't be more happier with myself!! You guys are amazing keep spreading the love!!
More times than I can count, let alone remember, I was ready to get sober & put the hard work in and I TRULY meant it & believed it but sadly I was wrong I wasn’t ready. Thank God my family did t give up and most importantly I DIDNT GIVE UP ON ME! Hope Zander can get out of his own way one day, let go & fully surrender before the gift of choice is taken away forever 🙏🏻❤️
I've been clean and sober for 9 years. What you are doing to help addicts is wonderful. God bless you! 💛💛💕💕
I know a female Xander…. It’s heart breaking! 100% bc I got clean im 6 yrs sober and no life isn’t perfect or even amazing but in comparison to where I was 6 yrs ago it’s sooooooo much better. No matter how bad shit gets I remind myself of how things were 6+yrs ago and even the worse days will feel like paradise now. I try to tell her those things. But she won’t hear it. She said the same thing to me “why bother getting clean if even after I’m clean I’m still alone” so she stays w a man who pimps her out and beats her but at least he gives her drugs and she not alone is kind of her mental process. And it’s heart wrenching. Ik her family would take her back and I’d help her too if she needed support the only catch is she can’t use. And for me personally she has to be sober for 1month. Bc I’m not jeopardizing my sobriety if she relapses in 1 week. I tried for a few yrs. I only recently gave up this yr. After she went missing for 4 months and I freaked out got ahold of her family they couldn’t find her so they ended up getting the police involved bc we were scared she od’d and someone just dumped her on the side of the road or something. She ended up popping up screaming that everyone was trying to get her locked up and ruin her life…. At that point I decided I couldn’t handle it anymore. She was an old friend but now she’s nothing to me unless she gets clean bc I have to put my sobriety first. But I still have hope one day I’ll hear that she’s sober. Or locked up, honestly I hope one day she does get locked up to force her to get sober and wake up a little bit. Bc she’ll never go to rehab or get sober at home, at least there’s a very slim chance. So her story I fear will end in death if not prison and I pray it’s prison if the only other equal possibility is death.
He probably pawned his stuff...I've been there. Bless his soul. These are good people trying to help him
Unfortunately Zander is going through severe Amphetamine activated psychosis and it can take anywhere from three days to six months to snap out of some people never come back
Yeah I think your right. He should've went to a detox first
I just want to say I'm a week sober now doing it on my own I'm a 27 year meth addict I'm 43 years old your videos are inspirational and very helpful to me
Hey I rarely comment on youtube but i wanted to root you on! I know this is 4 weeks old but i am praying it means your , i guess, 5 weeks. Clean now. If not, then relapse is a part of recovery. You got this! ❤ blesses and love
@@mango1589 thank you
If anyone here is sober and interested in becoming a House Manager or just needs a bed im willing to try to help you figure out a plan …
I know this is old but I do hope you’re doing well.
@@Americanhoney86 I am thank you
Please do more videos like these, the length, the quality, I like these types of videos.
Shorts are great and all, but they are *too* short. I realize these types of videos we are watching are a combination of smaller videos with commentary, but that's the type of content I like. Although not sure who was taking some of the video used in this video but they were doing some rookie mistakes of having the background in focus rather than the subjects.
+1
Agree!!!!
I prefer these over the shorts
I just found your channel, that’s awesome you help addicts stay clean! I’ve been a heroin addict for 17 years and been to treatment 4 times, I’ve been using fentanyl for the last year or so but it’s getting really old and I want another chance to work on my sobriety. Not sure where I’ll go to treatment but hopefully find a place soon. I work full time just to support my habit yet I’m always broke. I want to have things to show for my hard work! I live in Washington state. Wish me luck bro, and anything helps, recommendations, kind words, etc… 😁 I’d love to live at Graceland! I’ve lived in sober living once. Take care
Hey guy, hope you’re doing well and found some kind of treatment plan. It’s hard work but definitely worth it. You can do it. Hang in there! 🖖 from 🇨🇦
It looks so beautiful and welcoming where you are. I miss the recovery community. The feeling of love and friendship around complete strangers, united under sobriety.
I wish this man could save my life I'm a struggling alcoholic
Patrick thank you for helping all .. your project means the world to me
Michael is doing well!!!!! Glad to see him giving himself a break.
I would love to see more of Johnny. Bless this man.
Same, the religious man? Me too
@@spidersNsquirrels he seems super genuine and caring.
This Disease is so strong that this young man knew that doing the drug again means he's homeless. But actually what is brain probably told him was: I'm just going to do it tonight and I'm going to get sober tomorrow. Actually believe it. So so strong. He lost the ability to choose.
Literally 💯 word for word exactly how it is and it’s heart breakin
Your words capture the disease of addiction so well 💔
In reality the meth addicted person is a selfish person who is always the victim for their selfish choices
Stay loyal to the foil America supply follows demand
That's what meth does to some people! I quit meth cold turkey when my mother needed my care! I quit weed 5 month's ago cold turkey, but alcohol is my next battle....
man I was Xander for so long I really hope the guy can get free from addiction it's such a weight lifted off your shoulders and a beautiful thing.
My fear of staying the same came to outweigh my fear of change. When one reaches that point, they will find a way, as I and so many others have done. If you have the will, the determination, and the courage to face yourself, help is everywhere and change is all but inevitable.
When I was in the thick of it, I was beyond certain that I could never recover, but when I became willing to change myself, help came out of every direction. If your heart pumps and you're willing, you can achieve your wildest dreams just by taking the first step...Please, if you're suffering, take that step and remain positive by any means necessary!
Hi Patrick, I really appreciate you being there for us, your an inspiration to watch keep it up bro, remember to keep sponsoring us through your videos, God bless you all.
Oh yeah and one other note I forgot to mention and please don't take this the wrong way never Force Christianity upon somebody it will backfire you can lose all of the ground that you've gained in less than a second just some words of advice
I've been sober for 15 years now but I'm glad I learned to take accountability that was the hardest part of getting sober... He can get there but it takes a lot of reality checking. Good on you guys for being patient with him
Pat ur a great person u can't help who can't help there self I love what your doing
Man this has to be such a draining job. I give you props for trying to help people. I think 🤔 you are doing a great job. It must be a very fulfilling job to. I hope xander gets his life together soon. If he comes back I think detox would be the first place for him and than come to your house. Anyway keep up the great work.
Its people like you guys that show care for people like myself and you dont give up on. I would love to come to graceland
You’re doing amazing stuff man very proud of the work you’re doing and if you need any help or anything don’t be afraid to reach out to your fan base!
Your patience is Godly❤
I LOVE YOU MICHEAL 😍 ❣️ So glad to see you thriving ❣️
Praise you Johnny
These people got BOATLOADS more patience for this stuff than I ever would.
The great spirit gives his hardest battles to his deepest believers, and he'll keep doing that because he wants us to call on him...that's my biggest struggle...
All the smiling right in all your faces just smirking bruh
The hardest part is wanting to get sober/clean! It was hard watching this... I've been in the same place as Xander. It's not easy, especially when you're not ready. All it took me was someone mentioning crack and I'd think about it all day, until I got some.
I love what you do for people ❤️
When u were so put out "Broo u gotta call"! 😂😂
He just doesnt want to be homeless. Not clean, just a place to sleep.
Very good work, we need more people like you, im sharing your videos to see if maybe someone do the same thing because i cant,here in Croatia(ex yugoslavia) in other part of the world..all of you are such an inspiration..thank you for doing Gods work
DUDE JOHNNY HAS COME SOOOOO DAMN FAR DAWG ITS A BLESSING MAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Michael doesn’t just look better, he SOUNDS better!!
This is the type of shit I love about your channel
I would love to help out. A lot of addiction is mental health. I do behavioral therapy and am also a sober person with alcoholism. I’ve seen the darkness and healing those traumas really help in a holistic way.
I feel like Graceland Ridge would have been such a dope name, then again you don’t want it to be all about yourself. Keep saving lives!💪
It’s unfortunate but for some it takes a few tries.. Hope to see Zander in the future clean and well.
I repeat that means prayer for Xander right now
When Xander is being prayed for you can hear something else, someone else talking. It's kinda crazy sounding. It's starts around 6:12
He hasn't hit his bottom. He hasn't made himself suffer enough to get clean. Until then it's a waste of time energy and resources. Would love to get to know the sober Xander.
everyone has their own rock-bottom, and you’re right. Xander may be homeless and addicted to meth but he isn’t ready to help himself, and it is physically impossible to force someone to be sober. if xander CAN be sober if he chooses it, but there’s nothing much more anyone can do for him until he realizes he needs to let go of the meth
I've been an addict for years. I've been homeless, I've overdosed, I've even tried cheating on my wife, the person I love the most in the world. Now, I've been sober off and on. Mostly off. But I get these urges and they just take over. I lose and I relapse. I don't like completely fall off the wagon, and binge on drugs, but I get high. And I hate it. But now I have a kid on the way. And he's coming soon. I mean I work full time, but I still relapse. It sucks. I even go through the whole talking myself out if it phase. Then go and relapse. I just want to stop completely
Typing in the comment section isn’t going to help you instead of doing this go to a meeting
I’ve been waiting to hear as well--I already detoxed myself-now is what scares me
"Imdepressed i just wanna sleep" bro aint we all. We're here with you brother i lost my dad to drugs and hopelessness. But you can be forgiven
One does have to be ready that's for sure!! Keep us updated on how he is doing? ✌️
Luv what your doing bro keep up the good work and context 💯 really making a difference not even just the people in the videos but the people watching too 🤞🏼 a lot of us struggle with some of these issues too so seeing this is like reassuring to me I don’t kno how to explain it or if that even makes sense but much luv 💯 Kant wait til this channel gets more exposure
It's hard to realize how much it can consume your life...It's like you are on a roller-coaster 🎢 that you can't get off and it will get you nowhere good in life...I pray for you all...
He said what's the point of getting sober when no ones gonna be here for me in the end. First of all there is no end to sobriety and second when he is sober he won't need anybody to help him, he will help himself by helping others.
ZANDER CLOSE YO DAAAM EYES!!! DA DAWGZ ALL KNOW YOU NEVA BITE DA HAND DAT FEEDZ YOU!!! PRIDE IS DEADLY!!! YOU LOOSE WHAT AND WHO YOU NEED MOST!!! PRAYERS FO DA BRADDAH ZANDAH🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🤙🏼🤙🏼🤙🏼❤❤❤
Amen, one day at a time ..
What he means by nobody being there for him at the end is when the program is over and everything is said and done and he has to walk away and fly on his own, he's thinking so far ahead that he's wondering who is going to be there when all that happens and he knows when he's alone he will fail I understand him because I am him and I fight that person everyday
Right one step at a time ⏲️
@@Dpurple28 our mind is so powerful if we learn to control it
Yes but truth is we can’t predict the future we aren’t future tellers we are addicts
Sucks Xander and Michael both weren’t ready to get clean. Wish them the best🙏🙏✝️✝️
Hey Graceland! Have you thought about writing a book of your experiences? I’m a caregiver and I’ve met so many people who have these amazing stories but never get them out. I bet you all have some beautiful stories to share.
You can tell Michael ain’t playing with a full deck, but there’s still hope.
Agreed
I was wondering why he looks like that
Where is that gorgeous couch from in Graceland ????
That sucks because he should know where this leads :(. Y’all give him so much he should be so grateful, merciful etc
Yeah he knows where it leads doesn't matter .. it's sad but it's a fact of addiction .. I'm 1 year clean from almost 10 years straight of fentanyl turned benzo dope on methadone now
@@parkseybeams2297 I’m proud of you keep clean. I’m 7 years clean off heroin and dilaudid. I got out right when fetynsl started into all that I believe and I’m so grateful. Honestly I had 10 years I relapsed for 3 months lost my very best friend and ended up going maybe 2 months after that and then now have 7 years and now on this side I’m just so heartbroken for anyone. I can say I truly don’t care about opiates but even after 7 years I feel so sad and depressed and messed up in the head. Therapy has helped but not really. I’ve gone through so much trauma and stress and it just keeps adding up. Love gracelands message it’s so cool it’s what I always would have wanted back then; wish I could be a counselor!!! I really am a normal mom now so I probably wouldn’t be help but I’ve always wanted to give back! Love these videos; Danielle and Patrick and everyone in gracelands team!!
@@parkseybeams2297 it’s 4:44 a spiritual number; sending all the love and positivity out to anyone reading this!!!! You got this!!! 🙌🏼❤️💪🏼
Patrick is such a good dude!
This guy doesn't know how lucky he is, we have nothing like this here and even the places that are about are to expensive
How much is too expensive? Because his place isn't free lol it's $4000 to even go there+scamming your insurance after that
I need to work with Sober people this makes me feel like the sandman sounds like the excuse. For him... Sad but it's something you have to understand and without losing control hat's off bro
He reminds me of Fousey, the drama an crazy rants.
Damn i wish i had the chance Xander has right now
@noshame123 What's so funny??? A person saying they would love help???? Really 🤔. You probably need some therapy yourself if you think that's funny....js
@noshame123 actually getting help in America is not as easy as one would think. Especially when it comes to mental health, recovery and rehabilitation services.
@noshame123 I've had this conversation with many counselors, therapists & psychiatrists. And, they have all said the same thing. Getting help in this country is difficult. I know sooo many people who want help & have to wait months to get it. When I got sober 10 years ago, it took forever to get into a clinic. It was hell. I wish something would change.
@noshame123 dude f you, your filled with negative ass feedback, i honestly hope you get addicted again and get humbled if your acting this way towards people who were in your same shoes! not everybody has insurance in this country your parents got money not you. u got a hell of a handout dude doesnt got nobody
@@missiec6899 that no shame dude is such an arrogant fuck
Dude got a life changing gift handed to him and wasnt sure to take it or not. I wish i was offered that
“His little radio flyer cart”😂 bro how sad
Your doing Gods work Pat. 🙏🏼 sorry you gotta deal with the craziness man. @2:31 ☹️
Damn bro. Xander reminds me of a really good friend I grew up with, as we got older some of us became daily drug users overtime. Where I was snorting oxys/smoking H, he was doing everything and last I saw him was years ago but he was shooting speedballs. He has like 5-6 kids we 3-4 different girls and used to be built like a 5'6'' brick. The last time I saw him was at a casino and he was so skinny, with a pretty gnarly black eye. He was looking around for money or someone he could take advantage of or sell himself. It was awful, but he always had that smile on his face when discussing serious shit and just trying to do whatever Xander wants to do. I think he was addicted to the lifestyle more than the drug at first. It made him "cool" in front of a group of people in/out of prison that we started partying with once one of my old roommates got out of prison, he introduced us. Then the meth psychosis started setting in. Another friend that was super gullible, brain damaged from excessive ecstasy use as a teenager, and struggled with his sexuality gave some guy his $4-5 K car for a $200 bag of crystal. Got kicked out of his house because of it and I still see him occasionally walking around town and I'll take him to get some food/drink and give him a few bucks.He doesn't even really remember me because he's so fucked up due to using so many different drugs when he was already probably on the spectrum. He would bring up some random thing we did when we were little that I had even forgot, then he would just not talk about it again even if I asked him a question about it. It makes me super sad. I'm over sharing lol but it always helps me to type it out.
To everyone dealing with addiction. This is a harsh reality but… no one’s coming to save you.
Sure someone can give you a place to stay for a few days and some food and a hot shower. but that won’t last long if you don’t do the work. and even if you do the work, they’re not gonna do that for you for the rest of your life.
the sooner you realize this and marinate on it, the sooner that wall will come at you and you’ll have to make a decision especially if you’re not too far gone. 1. either you SAVE YOURSELF or 2. fall off the deep end and lose a cm of your insanity everyday until you no longer are a coherent human being and you’re just a slave to whatever is consuming you for the rest of your life. and you’ll live a lonely life. you’ll sell everything you can get your hands on including yourself (eventually, in more ways than one) and be this super efficient machine that destroys everything good that will ever come your way.
it’s up to you, man. nothings ever written in stone except one thing… NO ONE WILL COME SAVE YOU
Regardless of addiction or not everyone needs to hear that no one is coming to save you, stop being the victim and start being the victor ❤
Cant help those that don't want to help themselves. Letting go is his only hope..
You can do this !
Dude, I just found out you from Hypercrush, I fuccing love that band dude!!! Your the shyt for real and I'm also in recovery here in bend Oregon, so that must be how you popped up on my RUclips shorts, I think your awesome dude
Tell Johnny I dig his Findlay hat
Johny is a guy that I feel like I could have endless conversation with.
Unfortunately my brother is the exact same way, our family helps him, he takes it but then throws it all away along with us. I hope he gets better Fr
Xander gives me major creep vibes
Pat, I would love to get involved in Graceland so bad. I am sober and have been for 5 years and I am passionate about helping people.
I appreciate what your doing man. I’d work on getting your wife clean as well. I think I read that right. It said Not sober beside her name. Anyways it’s a good thing what your doing man. I’ve been clean 9 years from oxycodone. Haven’t looked back once. You gotta wanna quit for yourself nobody els. You Gotta wanna quit yourself.. God Bless you & your Students.
He needs a plan, needs to know he can get a job that won't use him, and definitely needs to know that he will be loved and respected if he can make his life after the opportunity you're giving him. For now he just see a place to stay and some food, but with enough support and helping him create a plan, there is a chance
Respect is earned
@@thomaspearson2756 I said "If he can make his life" so yeah
@noshame123 funny how you say this, yet you also say "there's plenty of help and opportunities everywhere". Nah people like you make it impossible for people like him
@noshame123 good for you, sad you don't want to attempt to have hope for people who also hit rock bottom
@noshame123 i hope you get addicted again in that home u busted ur ass off to get😉😘 "no shame" little dick head trying to make fun of somebody whos going through it. learn how to be humble you ass hole
Anyone else realized he used footage from a year ago mixed in with recent for this? I wouldn't have known if ii hadn't been watching for a while
They should start a reality show
Agreed
Live those old school reality shows. It probably would be a hit!!!
@@Dpurple28 it would he should pitch it to A&E or Vice
So sad. You tried pat🙌🙏🙏 cudos to you brother.
We can’t find Xander…as he walks past at 8:21
That's not him
I’ve lost two of my best friends to meth psychosis. They aren’t right and they’ll never be the same. It rips my heart to pieces.
The thing is your destined to always date guys of crystal cause you'll never be able to come like that from a normal guy
@@Pipi-rc2le well first these were just friends of mine and second that’s a untrue and general statement. An addict in recovery changes so even if someone did used to date addicts, once they’re in recovery they no longer adhere to that life style.
Damn I wish I had someone like Michael in my life
What it is they have a few people that they know that they know that they can pull on their heart strings and then they move off you and then when you get sick of it they go to the next person and when they get sick of it they come back In full circle