So apparently all of the British people in the comments have informed me she said "maths" not "mass" at 23:08. Oops. Maths is not a word in American so you can understand the mistake. Fortunately it doesn't change the contents of the video that much because the argument that comes immediately after it is still true. Though it does provide more hope for Barry as it is much easier to spend a few hours on Khan Academy freshening up on your maths than it is to lose 200lbs. Edit: Ok.... Mistake number two at 18:30. I realize that 18+8 does not equal 24 hours. In my defense, it's correct in the script; I just read it incorrectly, watched the video like 6 times, and didn't notice. Usually I catch things like that. ALSO in my defense I did the math on half of 16 correctly so all the people telling me I can't do math, EXPLAIN THAT MATH. Well, at least it wasn't a big fuck up like me not noticing that the narrator said Debbie pays 60 pounds a week in rent and not 60 pounds a month. I caught that shit right before I released the video and fixed it as I was doing the final editing. That would have been really bad.
I have a friend who's younger sister is like this, morbidly obese, controlling and demanding with her boyfriends. Funny story though... My friend noticed his sister wasn't at work one day, since she had recently started working at McDonald's. So he asked her how come you're not at work today? Her response was "you don't know what it's like to be on your feet 4 hours a day" I mean. Maybe not HER feet. But we're all carpenters and steel workers and do those types of jobs. So there's been many long, sometimes 16 hour days.
@@SebastiansSebastian-fc4pj sometimes i would join landscaping crews during the winter, to help shovel snow. During big storms you can be out there shoveling days straight. Like you'll be at these condos for example, and you'll watch as people get up and leave for work, come home go to bed, wake up leave, come home again, and you've been out there the entire time. Feels like, this ain't fair. Last time i went out shoveling. It wasn't even normal snow, it was freezing rain which resembled sand. Soon as i cleared a section of sidewalk i turned around and the snow was higher than before i cleared it. It was constantly blowing off the roof. And they wanted me to stay anyway to keep doing that. I ended up walking off that job because first of all they should have had snowblowers there. They admitted they messed up on that. Also i was soaked because the temp kept changing from rain to freezing rain.
@@derealized797 at the end thats a deadly combo, might as well jump in to the waters at north pole. I had to do lumberjacks work when i was just 14 and below 60kg when Im around 6'. Now i have ripped muscles and deformed ribs on one side as well as back problems, i got lucky i survived thanks to my super durable body, i mean i could lift a log alone that a guy as buff as Chakie Chan couldnt. If i was fed properly i wonder If I could have broken a few world records. Goes to show even bosses who treat their workers like dirt are sometimes better than our 21th century manchildren
thats all that was going through my head while watching this. I see people on reddit claiming being fat and being a drug addict is not the same thing and it drives me nuts. Addiction is fucking addiction. Fuck man, fat people piss me off. At least drug addicts admit to the most part what they are doing, fat people on the other hand, act like its completely not their fault and have a total victim complex that far outweighs the complex of a drug addict. I hate fat people, hope they get better. Damn.
As someone with anorexia and bulimic behaviors, yes I always lie to get through with my behaviors. I'm working on it, but it's definitely something people with eating disorders do.
I used to be almost 400 lbs, and now I'm down to about 290. I actually reversed my diabetes too. I still have a lot of work to do tho, but since I found this channel, I've been critically thinking about the way I've been living. Edit: Wow thanks for the supportive comments I appreciate it so much 🥺 Also, y'all should know I'm a girl. I can't remember how I found this channel, but so grateful I did. I'm down to about 268 now, if you're curious. Edit #2. I'm down to 240 lbs. My weight loss has slowed lately, since I backslid after the death of a close friend, but I'm back on it. Tbh, my goal is to get down to 220.
I’m right with you man. Damn near 400 in January. Down to 370. Could be better, but I’ve already seen the benefits. Getting weight loss surgery but I’m going to lose as much on my own before I take the plunge.
Our society cares too much about feelings and not about what is productive, right, and the truth. This is similar to how children behave. Mature people understand delayed gratification, discipline, and sacrifice.
I'm sorry but I disagree. In this historical moment, society cares about the feelings of WOMEN and treats them as little girls who cannot do things without help.
The trauma behind being obese should be treated not just obesity or enabling it which is the worse option. Where did the world come to when we're not even allowed anymore to mention that people that are obese are addicted/fleeing or self trashing/punishing themselves. I feel sorry for them and I feel we need to support them but definitely not by enabling them.
@@anonimusus4306 we’re overcompensating a bit I think. For so long no one cared and so now we care too much. There needs to be a balance of protecting feelings and also being honest with people to help them be better. Because without constructive criticism there can be no improvement. We’ve gone from harsh and cruel criticism to no criticism at all, and what we really should be doing is kind/neutral criticism about things that can actually be changed.
"It forces taxpayers to enable people like Debbie" - amen. My parents in Canada live with neighbors who just mooch off the social welfare. Yet my parents spent their whole lives working honestly in highly qualified jobs, and the government gives them nothing besides old age pension? Disguisting.
She doesn't want him to go near other women or find other women attractive because she's afraid that he might realize he could have a much happier life with any other girl
@@genesisalexandria7506 there's plenty low life vvomen who looks better than her and less risky. Let's say he wouldn't find anybody , he might realise his worth more than he's now by actually working on his independence and by that he gain his confidence back. I bet he come from broken family or abusive environment because his self esteem is below the norm.
That only applies to mental disorders. Like you would never know if someone was autistic just by looking at them. But you can 100% look at an obese woman and garentee joint issues, heart issues, skin irritation, and sores.
its funny because immediately after he says this he pulls up a photo of her and calls her "extremely underweight and malnourished" and then assumes that she is unhealthy based on her looks 💀
@@itsallperspective7415 yes and no as sometimes there are signs such as tattoos that have been pointed out by this channel obviously it doesn't mean they 100 percent have it but they are good signs and it doesn't work for all mental health but it does work for some. Like for example if someone is obese it doesn't mean they have diagnosis or heart diseases but it is a good indication they do have it (Probably not the best example but the first one I thought off).
I’m unfortunately apart of the 290-300 club atm, but thanks to your videos, especially this one. I have scheduled an appointment with a obesity therapist and I have slowly started to hit the gym. Last week I can barely run 1/4 a mile without being winded and I can only do 5 pushups. Sit ups 15, and bench 110. I know embarrassing, but now I know my start. I want to be able to run a mile by Christmas. It’s sad that I’m getting the brutal honesty I need from RUclips and not my own family. They tell me I’m beautiful just the way I am. I’m not and it’s time for a change Update: 1/15/2022 - Wow I can’t believe this blew up. Never gotten more then 2 likes on a comment. Thank you all so much for your support! Honestly, this video was the changing point in my life. Idk if the creator will see this, but if you do sir, your words honestly saved me. Just to update y’all. My therapist has slowly helped me confront the emotional abuse and is teaching me to love myself again. As a result, I have lost 15 pounds in the last 2 months. Been strength training 2-3x a week. I recently hit a gym mile stone. I can free weight 25 pounds and my legs can press 110. I can now bench 130. And I can run a h whole mile. My mile time is 12-13 minutes.💪 I’m hoping to enlist in the Navy (my dream) by December 2022. Thank you all so much for the loving words. I will continue to provide updates.
Focus more on diet. Losing/gaining weight is 75% diet and 25% exercise. Try intermittent fasting (eat in an 8 hr window, fast for 16 hrs). Your 8 hr window can be anytime during the day. The first week sucks but it's much easier after and by far the simplest way to start losing weight. During the 16 hrs only drink water, lots of it. If your having a hard time you can do straight tea or black coffee (no sugar, creams, milk, lemon; nothing but water and tea/coffee). Absolutely no calories for 16 hrs. And count your calories when you eat with an app (buy a cheap scale to weigh foods), then you'll realize how much your really taking in.
Hey man, there's a lot of different roads to get where you want to be. For me keto and intermittent fasting let me drop 50 lbs. If you're interested Dr. Ekberg (here on RUclips) has alot of good info.
I'm British and married to someone who isn't British, we both work our butts off to make a decent living. Watching this woman exploit the system and just being handed money, I have no words......
You choose to work and enjoy the benefits of such. She chooses not to and also enjoys the benefits of such. It all choices. Choose better if you're bitter about your situation 🤷♀️
"Don't judge me unless you've walked a mile in my shoes." Narrator: "Les can't walk a mile in his own shoes." Let's have a moment of silence for that FATALITY.
My recommendation: Don't watch it at all. Get a girlfriend. Of you really have to, only watch one video with one actress. Better yet only look at pics and also only one person. Speaking from experience. Cheers
If you admit it, then it is half way resolved! Never had that, I am addicted to sugar, used to smoke a lot so I know what I am talking about! Well done and keep progressing! Every small step forward will lead to success! 💪
My mother has a thousand medical problems, but she cherry picks MDs who won’t tell her that her weight is an issue. I’m sure it’s not the primary cause in every case, but it clearly exacerbates them. She’s even gone so far as to lie and tell us that her doctors told her that she shouldn’t be exercising.
Holy hell mate, I'm sorry you have to live in that environment. Stay strong, be observant of what negative traits you may have picked up from her and shed them, and move out when you can.
lol, that's my mom, she ended up choosing chinese doctors cause they will not say anything offensive that will make them lose business. They as well cut her off some tablets that reduced how much food her stomach absorbed because she started abusing the pills.
i think it depends. it seems people that actually need it never get it, and the people who it will enable and help to make their life shittier in the end always get it.
@@twilightsparkle75 I think you are right. Those who have the biggest mouths and who kick off on a regular basis and, of course, know only too well how to play the system get what they demand. The “knowledge “ of the benefit system is passed on to where you get 3 or 4 generations of the same family all relying on the Government. Other, far more deserving folk are penalised. The system is crazy and so unfair.
I agree. My step dad had to stop working as a welder in his late 50s/ early 60s due to chronic back problems and they fought every step to try and get him into work despite letters from the doctor saying he couldn't. They wanted him to work in a call centre and he's 75% deaf 💀
Physical appearance is literally one of the first and fastest ways of guessing how healthy a person is. Try using the "Can't judge on looks" to a person stricken with the black plague
Almost everything is first assessed visually when it comes to health. A purple bruise, a red blister, swollen tissue, rings under the eyes, open bleeding, etc. Sure, you might not get an exact picture of what’s wrong, but you can be pretty sure that something is wrong and have a good idea of what it might be, which leads to doing a proper examination.
@@user-je7pp2wg3m Acne is nothing like obesity. Acne isn't bad for your health just your appearance, and even then people with acne can't control the genetics that cause acne. Obese people have all the control of their size and weight.
Why is no one mentioning how the “lie detector test” was literally just some app on her phone 😭 She the type to download an x-ray app to check if her bones are broken 😵💫
Let's also consider that even multi-thousand dollar professional lie detectors are based on pseudoscience and don't provide results actually correlated to the truth. I have less than zero confidence for a phone app doing anything except providing an effectively random result.
@@ChrisSmith-mi2zo lie detectors aren't pseudoscience but you should also take the results with a boulder of salt. it measures physiological symptoms that happen when you lie, but not only can you hide it if you are good, you can just get agitated while telling the truth and that's what the machine actually measures.
I needed to hear every word of this at 4am, as I struggle to fall asleep. Buzzed and unemployed, too stuck on foolish comforts to get motivated. I hate you. ...and, thanks. 💖
@christophercruz3835 I'm working again, though not as regularly as I'd like. Been spending most of my time in between focusing on my art. Started working on a comic book idea I've had for over a decade. I still use various substances, but it's more of a utility now. Actually, it's funny because I woke up today and was thinking about getting some beer since I have the day off. Now that I'm replying to this, I'm thinking twice about it.
It's crazy but some of the most rude people ive met have been obese. They lash out, and are quick to insult. Even though they look like garbage. It frustrates them because they know they are too lazy and dont have the ability to put the work in to change. Sad
@@thisguy4543 Years ago, I was at work and my friend came and poked my belly and said, “You’re not as skinny as you think you are.” I was around a size 10 and she was short, round, and fat. I had never claimed to be thin, nor had I ever discussed weight with her and we’d known each other since high school. It was just so random of her. The only thing I can think of is that she was jealous because I had started dating one of the cute guys that worked with us.
@@Maki-00 yeah that sounds like a classic case of jealousy. I can never understand how adults can act to childish. Ive had similar, but it's always related to my height and build. If someone goes out of their way to say you look bad, assume you look pretty good lol
@@thisguy4543 Its because they hate themselves. They hate their bodies so much that they project onto others. If they truly loved themselves at any weight they wouldn't need to prove it to anyone, theyd also respect themselves enough to lose weight
@@thisguy4543 Ya it's honestly sad when you think about it. I sure wish people had more control over how much they ate, and what they ate. Eating too much or eating too little are both way to common, but there isn't much we can do to stop it sadly.
This makes me so, so, so very angry. I'm American, and yeah, I'm on the welfare system. I suffered a spine injury at 20 that left me in chronic pain, a condition called CRPS. I couldn't walk for 3 years, and it seriously aggravated other medical conditions that I have, including a heart defect. I dropped to 70ish pounds at five foot six inches tall (cyclical vomiting syndrome, my stomach won't empty) and nearly died. Its impossible for me to work a normal job, but you have no clue how much I wish I could go back to that. I was taking a "gap year" when the assault happened and was starting to fill out applications for cosmetology school, and then the plan was to do special effects makeup in Hollywood after that. I get 700$ a month. I pay the rent, utilities, everything with that and the small income I get from sewing. I get 100$ in food stamps a month, and that's only due to the pandemic. Previously I only got 65$. I get the majority of my food from food pantries. I WISH the government could maybe cover my mobility aids, like my knee scooter. CRPS is progressive, and I might need both legs removed later in life. I will eventually need a mobility scooter, regardless of leg amputation. I'm not obese, I'm an average weight. I'm not athletic like I used to be, and I'm trying to get back to that because exercise will slow the progression of my CRPS. I. Hate. People. Like. This. Not because they get more benefits than me, not because their disability is self-induced. But because they're scamming the system and they show no introspection for their situation. Nor are they (well, not every person) working to improve their situation. I'm trying desperately to improve my situation because I HATE THIS SHIT. I will never get off welfare completely, because even if I got a job in my field, my monthly medical bills are so damn expensive that no entry level positions would get me good enough insurance or pay enough for the shit insurance doesn't cover. So deeply frustrating that people chose this miserable existence.
Same. I’m on state benefits at the moment because I had a ruptured disc. And it sucks. I can’t imagine just being TOO GODDAMN FAT and acting like it isn’t your fault. I hope things go well for you, doll!
I'm so sorry. That sounds awful. These people infuriate me, too. My cousin was adopted from India and her adopted parents threw her out at 18. She is confined to a wheelchair due to a birth defect and is immunocompromised due to the same condition. She works two jobs from home and can barely make ends meet and cannot live alone. The welfare she's supposed to get doesn't even give her enough to live on, which it's supposed to do because she has to pay a nurse to help her with daily tasks. People like this are people who deprive my cousin of the life she deserves.
I have a couple of relatives who are on welfare (UK) due to things like chronic pain. It's a nightmare trying to get any kind of assistance for chronic pain because it's often unexplained, even though you can see the person is in pain. But at least, after fighting, they have the assistance they need. I can't imagine going through all that then not getting the right assistance AND having to pay medical expenses. You and people like you are troopers, and I wish you the best.
I'm saying this as an overweight person, fat acceptance is death acceptance. There's no possible way that these people love themselves like they claim they do. When friends and family tell me that I need to lose weight, I tell them that they're right and that I'm working on it, which in my opinion is what anyone that's allowed to get themselves to get out of shape should tell themselves
That's a great mentality, mental growth is NECESSARY before physical "Growth". Keep going, love yourself for the progress you are making. I believe in you. Also not physical growth like getting taller but losing weight lmao
Ay pal, i was overweight a good chunk of my childhood, but last year i took the effort and started moving a lot against the protests from my body, and now I sit borderline overweight BMI wise. Anything is possible, but losing weight certainly sucks ass even if it's worth it. Push through and you'll have a proper night's sleep far more often and your body starts feeling better. My family has inherited cholesterol issues and i would feel it badly in my chest a few years back. Nowadays it's a rare occurrence, but still something I'm trying to keep a lid on with exercise. The fat acceptance movement never sat with me, but I'll say it certainly has lead to premature deaths with the types of people I've met and heard.
Three years clean from opiates, & fentanyl. Best/hardest decision of my life. & yeah, I relate hard with Frodo, & Bilbo. The ring is a perfect analogy for addiction.
I think enablers dont have majority of that responsibility. The addicts still have a brain, so they have the capacity to make this decision themselves.
@@angela.luntian It fits in with specific scenarios, people who drink or do drugs as a result of depression or hard times can be a victim. They still need help, don't get me wrong, but enabling people in those situations is heartless.
It's a result of feelers no longer being under the logical. In a 'man's world' logic and truth are more important than feelings. Feelers have now taken over the 'societal opinion'. Logic and truth no longer need apply. The argument over fat acceptance is the perfect example: - Feelers don't see or use words based upon their definitions. Feelers see and use words based upon the feeling they generate. Hence, feelers see 'healthy' as 'happy'. So when you say 'she isn't healthy' - they hear, 'she isn't happy'. To the feeler brain (healthy = happy). They are interchangeable. The interesting thing about the feeler brain, is all words that (= happy) can be exchanged with any other word that (= happy). This is why there are so many hiccups when a logical person is trying to have a discussion with a feeler. Why they 'just don't get it'. Definitions are points, expressed in the form of a single term. Feelers can't grasp logic, and so, they can't grasp points. When you make points in writing, you'll notice feelers will never argue the logic you're expressing. It's because it doesn't exist to their brains. What they do is actually scan your paragraph as 'just a pile of words' - pick out words that 'give them a feeling' - and in turn, respond accordingly. This is why their replies can be so off track of anything you were talking about.
like I'm not obese but I am a reasonable amount over weight because I find exercise painful with my hypermobility and chronic pain along with other issues but i actively go out and try to exercise mainly swimming which is one of the only things I can do for exercise besides cycling that isn't excessively painful and tiring but at the end of the day the reason I'm overweight is when I was younger I wasn't strong enough to fight through the pain now I am and I'm losing weight at the end of the day it's a choice all addiction and vices are choices anyone who claims otherwise is 1 A addict 2 A enabler who gets something out of it or 3 A ignorant fool but that's just my opinion. everyone live your best life no matter what or you will most likely regret it.
My mum is disabled here in the U.K. We had to financially support her as she was not disabled enough for our government. She has schizophrenia and severe arthritis, took on jobs here and there. It was only after 40 when she was in her 60’s they realised their mistake. Yet people like Debbie get everything.
Hey man. I just want to let you know that you’ve helped me a lot in growing up as a teenager that’s becoming a young adult. Thank you for your hard work and wise words.
16 yr old and I can honestly say the same. there are so many toxic channels in the “manosphere” that rub me the wrong way but thinkbeforeyousleep is not one of those channels.
Every year since 2012 I said "I'm gonna get in shape this year" and couldn't stop eating like garbage and never kept a regular exercise schedule. It was 2018 when I finally got sick and tired of making excuses and I started eating right. I cut out the sugar drinks, I stopped eating obvious garbage and I planned my meals. I went from 33% body to 18% in a year and 6 months. I gained a lot of it back after COVID shut downs and being pregnant, but in 2022 I got tired of the excuses I was making and I hired another coach and she wrote me a lifestyle plan and gym routine. I went from 25% body fat to a healthy 22% and I've gained muscle so it looks a lot healthier as 22% than it did when I was 18% body fat. I am so happy and honestly now, I absolutely love going to the gym. I have a weekly "volume" plan 5 days a week and I can pick and choose what I want to do depending on my energy level or my injuries. It's awesome! I can never go back to 33% body fat or eat junk food regularly.
Imagine being a soldier who's in a wheelchair because your legs got blown off from an IED, then imagine seeing some 600 lb woman who's in a wheel chair because she can't help from shoveling fast food down her throat all day...
The worst part of it is that if you are an invalid veteran in Britain you get 1) less help than these people, 2) most city folk treat you with contempt for having served in an “evil imperialist army”, and 3) you can see Muslims from the countries you fought preaching the most extremist versions of Islam without being worried in the slightest and smiling as they think about their role in the future of the country, when the demographic makeup will make THEM the majority of British voters...
@Moll pom imagine losing your meat, bones, skin and very small testicles all by yourself, just because you pressed that belt detonator by mistake... maybe Allah wasn’t feeling so Akbar that day 😅
@Moll pom I was looking for that one great comment and you didn't disappoint.👍 Let these globohom0 storm troopers rott, they choose wasting their best years of their lives serving the very people that hate their guts.
The council are enabling her. They modified her house to enable her weight, and are paying for her food. That's like giving an alcoholic vouchers to there local off-licence.
@@ThinkBeforeYouSleepYT I personally like the welfare system we have in the UK, except I think it should be slightly modified to only help those who can't change their situations. But people who smoke or eat themselves to death shouldn't be able to abuse the system like they do
@@ThinkBeforeYouSleepYT She has more stuff than I have working, "I deserve it" that's what they all say... I can't even buy a gaming pc without getting stares like "isn't a tablet for Facebook enough?!" NVM being forced to live home at my parents without a light at the end of the tunnel (thanks housing markets last 10+ years). Afterall people like that deserve it... I also have to eat alot just to stay on weight and society isn't giving me welfare to fund it. I have to spend extra on groceries, snacks and eating out with lunch/brunch instead. Most of the day I'm just hungry knowing I can't combat my metabolism which causes me to go hungry every 1 a 2 hour no matter how much I eat. But hey this is fair. So happy I gotta fund people like that but myself get told to just accept it because fairness. The solution for people like this is easy, eat less and start excercise (even just walking 30 minutes a day is enough to stay healthy if you don't overeat).
The way he said about "people say cigarettes are unhealthy while if you point out eating several burgers from fast food is unhealthy, you'll get cancelled" is very true
@@Araneus21 ...there IS no known connection between vaping and cancer. If there is, we won't definitively know for decades, when we see the cancer showing up in people who have only vaped. So we really don't know. The consensus from doctors is that it's not healthy, but it's more healthy than smoking cigarettes. Honestly I will be very surprised if there's an equal cancer risk between smoking cigarettes and vaping. I have smoked for 15+ years and recently switched to vaping. And I'm so glad I did. I feel healthier already.
@@MissSpaz Vaping is based on scents being placed within an oil-based medium, that when heated, turns into smoke and is inhaled. This oily medium then reaches the trachea, bronches and lungs, turns back into an oil and stays there, being unable to be removed. Filling your lungs with a foreign substance that your body is unable to process and remove is definitely unhealthy and considering it's an irritant when inside the lungs, it will be cause for neoplasms 100% It just sounds better on paper but is actually much worse than smoking in this regard, a slow and insidious killer.
As hard as you say things sometimes, it really does put things in perspective. I lost 65 lbs 2 years ago. I felt so accomplished, and wanted to lose 40 more. But I never really got to the root of my issue. Which is food addiction. The same way people talk about drugs or alcohol, is how I can feel about food. When life is rough, food is my coping mechanism. So I gained the weight back. Not all at once, but I was in a very mentally, emotionally and spiritually draining relationship for 8 months. During and after that relationship is when I put on the weight and FAST! I’m starting my journey again, but this time I’m more conscious and open about my feelings + addiction to food! Especially, with God being who I lean on rather than myself. I feel as if I KNOW I can do it this time!!
The fact you have realized these things and are actually working on learning how to change is huge and more than most people who struggle with addictions. We're all so proud of you 💚 God will reward your hard work!!
How to be not Obese: 1.Don't eat to much + take advice from Doctors 2.Get good hygiene 3. Don't excersice too much because you'll be burnt out fast 4. Take the 1-3 steps slowly it doesn't magically happen it may even take years 1-2 5. Go to the hospital regularly 6. Excersice from Home if possible. And if you want to go to the gym, do the every precaution of Covid-19 and delta 7. Be polite to people they may give you advice + don't be too skinny and don't be too fat 8. *"TAKE THE EXCERSICE SLOWLY"*
The British welfare system is absolutely ludicrous. It is horrendously expensive, inefficient, subject to horrible abuse, actively incentivises people to remain dependent on handouts and by extension does far too little to force people into the workforce.
@@tomohawk52 I live in Canada. Do you guys have any videos diving into this problem? I can't stand going through the Canadian news videos considering they always block the comments...
Life at the Bottom: The Worldview That Makes the Underclass by Theodore Dalrymple. Published 20 years ago regarding observations made over the course of 30+ years. Still relevant today.
England tried the whole "no welfare" thing at the turn of the 20th century. Turns out poverty doesn't drive people into the workforce, just the streets.
That addiction talking point brought me tears. Im an alcoholic and ive not had a drink in 3 years but i slipped about 3 months ago and got drunk one night and had a bad argument with my best friend. I nipped it in the bud the next day. Haven't touched another and my friendship is still in tact. Very tough and i thank you for that sliver of hope.
Glad you defeat your addiction again and not let overtake your life Mate. Maybe consider a career change. I heared that some hymalian countries are looking for a ruler.^^
As an alcoholic, I appreciate how you talked about addiction. A few drinks won’t make you an alcoholic but it is an addictive substance and over time it’s more than you deciding you want it, your body starts telling you that you need it. It has been hard for me to hear the voice of “the ring” because your mind knows best how to lie to you, persuade you, etc. I’ve had to adopt a “no, never” policy. No matter what thought or feeling, the answer is no. I don’t let my mind have debates with “the ring” because the enemy knows me too well and will win if I give it an audience.
Ive figured out why people hate being fat so much. Its one of the only things you cant hide, someones first impression of you when they meet you is "this person has an eating addiction". They know and you know they know it. All these fat acceptance and recent movements are trying to ban shaming. These are the enablers. Good work TBYS keep it up.
@@DenerWitt The problem is that the mainstream media frames everything in such a way as to only have two possible options, which are extremes. Black and white, with no shades of grey etc. In the case of obesity, you are either body positive (which is enabling), or you are a fat shamer. This of course isn't true, but the moment you refuse to be body positive, you will instantly be branded as a fat shamer, even if you are being gentle and offering a balanced perspective. The simple reality is, losers are terrified of shame, and they are very delusional, and they surround themselves with people who buy into their delusions and willingly lie to them to protect their feelings. So even if you are gentle, you are showing you refuse to buy into their delusions, and they will hate you for it, for choosing reality over their feelings, and they will instantly play the victim, in order to paint you as a fat shamer, to get everyone on their side against you. The enablers are often in the same boat, they are losers who willingly buy into the lies because they are terrified of being shamed as fat shamers, because they lack the confidence, courage and self esteem to be honest. So what you basically have, is a circle jerk of losers, all backing each other up, all buying into each other's lies and delusions, all desperately protecting each other's feelings. But in reality, they are holding each other down, and they will resist any attempts to force them to face reality in an attempt to lift them up. Ironically, because they all know they are lying to each other and to themselves (deep down), they suffer perpetual cognitive dissonance, which manifests itself as mental health issues, namely anxiety (caused by fear of being forced to face reality), depression (caused by the subconscious recognition that they are losers) and stress (the never ending state of denial and awareness of their denial causes a never ending state of stress, which exacerbates their health problems, particularly heart disease, as it disrupts their HPA axis).
There’s stories out there in the media she’s incredibly jealous due to othello syndrome and constantly questions her poor husband accusing him of cheating so he literally HAS to reassure her ALL THE TIME or she gets physical with him!!! I’m sure they were on Jeremy Kyle I know they were in the papers!!!
I don't understand a husband getting paid to taking care of a relative who lives in the same apartment. Also, I worked for NYS andI can't believe all the benefits she's getting. Fixing kitchens, new cabinets etc ....
I knew a chick who was as wide as she was tall. She used to lecture everyone around her on "healthy eating," and insult fit people for what they eat, including me who was eating baked chicken and rice as part of a workout diet. One day I asked if she was really qualified to give other people advice since she weighed as much as 3 women her size. Of course she mentioned how she ate salads, so she ate healthy. She got mad at me when I mentioned that cows ALSO eat salad, and a 10k calorie/day diet will make you fat no matter what it is you're eating.
She’s a liar. She eats more than salad. Consider the dressing she puts on her salad. It’s probably loaded with fats. Also, she likely snacks on lots of high fat and sugary foods during the day. Having some “healthy” foods with a predominately “unhealthy” diet means she’ll pack on the stones (pounds).
I was always on the heavier side as a young kid and especially as a girl i was always told that i shouldn't complain about my body and that i wasn't fat and to accept who i was. I discovered this channel at my first year of middle school and it was really life changing for me. This channel turned my life around, I realized I was not healthy, and that this was not a good start to my life at all. Ive lost 30 pounds since then and I'm still going, I'm so much happier. I really want to thank Think Before You Sleep for genuinely changing the direction of my life for the better.
She doesn't let him watch TV or look at shows because there are women in them??????? Wut the fck???? How did she still at being on the show with that girl and that man? Disgusting If the shoes on the other foot and a man was doing this to his wife there would be a national uproar. That woman clearly knows that she's not desirable and that's why she's acting like that. The guys just as much at fault for enabling that behavior and not knowing his worth. He probably has incredibly low self-esteem and feels he can't do better
I myself was in tbis same situation for 21 years. I was the active one and hovered between 200 and 205lbs at 6 feet tall, while my ex was 5'6 and over 300lbs and had norhing but back and knee issues. Sadly she went up to over 430lbs before weight loss surgery. She qoukd drop to 260lbs vwfore her mom passed away and she would gain 100lbs back. It was tiring being a constant caregiver to someone not taking care of themselves. Eventually she would end up bedridden the last 9 months of her life and died at 46 in 2019 while we were homeless. I tried to get her to get help but i failed. Never will i dste another woman that big again, its not worth it.
@Siboniso Buthelezi well, my situation has improved a bit. 1. Sadly she passed away in 2019. 2. My income has nearly doubled these last 2 years and i went from being homeless to living in a 1 bedroom apartment with my ex brother in law. I have been able to finally contribute to my 401k these past 2 years, paid of all my past debt etc.
Maybe he knows how bad he has it, but by feeding her bad habits will kill her and he will be free 🆓. Kill her with kindness and never be charged ☺️☺️ lol
The Lord Of the rings analogy was absolutely brilliant. Those movies are just something else. Amazing video mate. Whenever I’m struggling to give up something, I’ll come back to this video to remind myself to not give in.
I love how this woman said "you can't judge the person's health by how they look or how they weight" In med school we were taught to watch those parameters to see are they healthy or not. If someone is sickly yellow and bloated you can say that their kidneys and even liver aren't working. You can deny it hoe much you want but that's the reality so deal with it.
Saying the truth since 2020 is not well seen by wokists, leftists and mondialist governments/movements Actually it never was for them, but it's especially true since 2020
I feel deep sadness when I look at Steve. He's a decent looking, polite & compassionate man who could still get his life in order. If he left his blob, reduced his gaming hours gradually, got a well-fitted hair system and dressed nicely, he'd already be well on his way to get back in the game.
He would look good with a shaved head probably. When men just accept their bad hairline they usually end up looking better once they shave it all off, and he has the face for it. Would be a big improvement over the shoulder length hair that looks perpetually greasy
He's unfortunately addicted to the feeling of being needed i.e. codependent and unlikely to leave her...or if he miraculously does leave, he'll just find another one-sided relationship to focus on instead of working on himself.
"You cannot judge a persons health based on how they look" We do in the medical field. Infact one of the first clinical skills you're taught in medical school is to observe a patient to judge their health, ie. What conditions they may be suffering from
I’ve heard a lot of overweight people say that their underlying medical conditions haven’t been treated in the past because when they see doctors the only thing they’re told to do is lose weight. I think that although weight is important, doctors still need to do thorough assessments. I’ve never had this issue being underweight, they always give me whatever tests I need and listen to my symptoms and never say it could be my literal abnormally low weight. So I think there’s double standards, and I think medical care for larger bodies is a lot harder. I’ve heard of people dying because doctors ignored their symptoms and told them to just hit the treadmill instead of sending them to a hospital or a specialist. So there’s the patients point of view for you.
@craigHaving weight or eating issues can lead to medical problems, but that doesn’t mean fat people can’t have illnesses like anyone else would??? When fat people get colds it’s not because they’re fat… when they get a viral infection, break a bone, struggle with mental illness, cancer, stds, etc. it’s not because of their weight. This mindset is the exact reason why so many sick people go to hospitals for help and get nothing but shame and an early grave. Most people with severe weight issues have an eating disorder of some form, and extreme obesity is a lot different than someone just being slightly overweight. It’s an entire spectrum just like skinny peoples bodies are, some people are naturally skinny, others just don’t let themselves eat. So it’s a mix of genetics, eating disorders, and people that don’t have access to healthy food.
many mental illnesses are directly related to not getting enough exercise, and you can 100% contract stomach cancers from fatty, processed foods. Viral infections would not be fixed as easily in an overweight person as normal people, due to high blood pressure. whilst I agree there is almost certainty always a stigma, if you listen to what the doctors say you might actually learn something.
@@jcr2901 babe, the majority of people with cancer don’t have it because they’re fat. They get it because they have a genetic predisposition or are exposed to cancer causing chemicals. Being fat doesn’t CAUSE illness, is is a SYMPTOM of illness
@@jcr2901 like there ARE weight related illnesses, but doctors should run tests to know for sure instead of sending home people with tumors and severe eating disorders to die at home painfully and slowly. Or wait until it’s too late to get REAL help. People DIE from this malpractice bullshit.
True but false let me give a example pretend I'm your good friend "Wow you are extremely obese that's a lot of fat gained in one month anyways let try and get you to the normal amount of body fat" Or "Hey I see your weight is pulling you down you want me to help you feel super active." Now which one do you like more? Because I feel both are good in there ways
@@usernamehere3921 honestly, neither. It comes across as "shocked gasp I'LL SAVE YOU" in the first and "condescending gasp, MLM sales pitch" I generally go from the round about approach "How are you feeling lately? Your eating habits have changed drastically, I'm pretty worried." or even more winding "Can I level with you? I am always my heaviest and my skinniest when I'm most stressed or depressed. That you reached that size at all makes me worry about your long term mental and physical health. In the best case scenario your parents didn't teach proper bodily maintenance, and fair enough that can be fixed. In any other scenario, you've been seriously suffering and might need real support to escape. Can we talk about this?" (Please excuse all the comments, just trying to boost the algorithm by engaging)
@@usernamehere3921 as someone with a restrictive eating disorder, don’t make comments like the first one. It’s not about “fat gained” it’s about health. The excess fat is just a side effect of these peoples eating disorders. You need to approach carefully with eds because they come from a place of trauma and insecurity. It’s not about losing weight, it’s about getting to the mental place where it’s possible for you to eat normally and begin to function, and only when these people get mental help do they actually lose weight and keep it down. Dr Now in this show is a really good pillar of support and encouragement, and he’s realistic about these peoples health without body shaming them. Binge eating is one of the most ignored diseases, anorexics get treated like babies whereas these people get called fat 2000 times a day and have no sympathy. It’s just weird to me, I think to overcome a severe eating disorder you need a safe space and support not someone telling you how fat you are, cuz I’m sure they know.
Sometimes making offensive comments can make it WORSE. It depends on what you say, “lose weight fatty” is a lot different than “I love you and I need you to eat healthy because if you don’t, I can’t see you living for much longer” one hits harder, but it’s not offensive. You see what I mean? You can be sensitive to someone’s struggle WHILE being firm about your approach.
This video has actually given me a better way to look at my own addictions. And a better frame to show others more of themselves so they might overcome their addictions and hardships. I just hope I can get myself to make progress
I was a heroin addict for 3 years. Everything he said about addiction is completely accurate. I am now 19 months clean from all drugs including alcohol. It takes hard work and a positive mindset to remain on the winning side of my addiction. I especially had to check my entitlement and pride issues.
She is a domestic abuser. Trust me I have been on disability where I could have sat on my butt and had my rent food and utilities paid for and a check 750 usd to spend on whatever. It is a horrifying way to live. Playing video games all day, every day only sounds fun to those who can't. I made the decision to chuck the tv. I have a tiny computer not capable of playing video games. Now I work a full-time job and I make six figures on straight commission in sales. I went back to college got a degree finally having dropped out at 21. Never been happier. Steve is a beaten man not physically, hopefully, but psychologically and emotionally. If you need evidence his whole life can only be seen through a lens created by his wife. He can't hang with friends not even online because she will lie detector test him. Guy can't even pick up the newspaper. He has no concept of how small and limited his world is and is increasingly becoming. If he is aware he probably feels that he is incapable of change (ahem, most of us).
@mrnathan4825 it is funny - except when you consider why he's saying it. He's saying it so she doesn't have to answer for her abusive and hypocritical standards towards him.
Imagine being in Debbie’s position and being so lucky to find someone that loves you so much (clearly unconditionally) and yet you do everything in your power to belittle them, alienate them and make THEM feel insecure and small. There are people who have genuine issues with weight/food and I sympathize fully. I’ve struggled (still do) with anorexia/disordered eating, so I truly mean that. This is not one of those cases. She’s straight up abusive and entitled. She would be this way if she was 100 lbs or 300 lbs. Weight loss wouldn’t make her a better person.
Tammy from the TLC show 1,000 pound sisters is like that; everything revolves around her, including ending a vacation in a huge log cabin (clip online, along with tons others). The sister Amy lost a LOT of weight and turned her life around, got married, had a healthy baby, etc. and she's still taking care of Tammy.
@@seventhz777z no even the professional lie detectors are a complete unefficient joke. They only detect heart rate in a hopes that you get uncomfortable answering a question honestly, but a lie detector can "detect" a lie when you just feel uneasy, or not detect a lie when you are comfortable. Basically when you know it's bullshit you can even say "yes I killed J.F.Kennedy 20 years before I was even born" and the lie detector would say you are telling the truth, just because you are relaxed.
I was an alcoholic for 6 years due to me struggling with my sexuality, I finally hit rock bottom after being fired for missing too much work. I’m now a much happier gay man living life alcohol free
I struggle with painkillers, booze and xanax. If I had to guess, it's from the war (Iraq), but I wanted to say congratulations to you on sobriety. I'm working on mine. Keep doing what you do man. Beware the relapse.
It's a running gag here in the UK that those who actually need help don't get it and those who don't do get it. This is very much a case of ones who don't. This might be a bit of a spicy opinion but I don't think being fat should be seen as a disability, outside of rare cases and medical conditions, because it's generally something you can control and it's 100% self inflicted. She is fat because she chose to be fat. If she wants to be fat that's fine, but fund your own lifestyle and stop expecting us to pay for you. People need to face reality.
Not a spicy opinion at all. Being fat isn’t a disability because you do it to yourself. You know what’ll happen if you don’t get money and can’t afford food? You’ll lose weight and eventually won’t need disability money for a self inflicted “disability”.
I think eating disorders should be able to classify as disabilities depending on the severity of inability to function. When I was in the pits of anorexia I related to these people with food addiction so much because you genuinely CANT control it sometimes, and you need medical intervention and help. I feel like it should be a temporary disability check to help with income with the stipulation that recovery meetings and doctors appointments need to be attended. That’s my personal opinion.
I moved in with an aunt of mine in high school to help care for her; she was also morbidly obese. She, too, would occasionally go on a ‘diet’, during which she would switch from drinking regular Dr. Pepper to drinking Diet Dr. Pepper and she would eat salads drenched in ranch dressing, bacon bits, cheese and crushed up potato chips 🤦♀️. Like this woman in the video, she was also an absolute tyrant. She verbally and mentally abused her browbeaten husband and she treated me like her servant. After a while, I realized I wasn’t there to help her, she just wanted someone to enable her lifestyle. Buy her the junk food, prepare it for her, bring it to her, clean up after her, do her laundry, clean her home. When her husband went to the grocery store, he had to be on the phone with her the whole time and Lord help him if he bought the wrong brownies or potato chips. One time I brought her some Wendy’s, and the fries weren’t exactly how she wanted them, and she flung them across the room at me. Why didn’t we stand up to her, quit enabling her, you might ask? I was a minor at the time, and really didn’t have much of a choice. I lost my parents when I was 3 years-old and I had lived with various family members throughout my life, so I really didn’t have anywhere to go. As soon as I turned 18, I moved out. I couldn’t take the abuse any more. Nothing ever made her happy. The way I cleaned, cooked, shopped, nothing was ever good enough. I never heard “thank you”. I was in school and taking AP classes, doing massive amounts of homework, working full time and handing her my entire paycheck, and caring for her around the clock. Nothing was ever good enough. Her husband, I’m not sure why he wouldn’t stand up to her. I heard from relatives that he left her a few years after I moved out. She passed away in 2007. It’s sad because her quality of life was terrible, but her wrath would befall anyone who tried to help her change or get better. I notice a pattern among obese people, they are tyrannical to everyone around them. My aunt kept tabs on her husband like this woman does, because she knew he wanted to get away from her the moment he got the chance. Obese people blame everyone but themselves for the situation they are in and they are the most entitled people I’ve ever come across.
Its ironic that she switched from regular Dr. Pepper to diet Dr. Pepper as part of her 'diet' due to one thing. The diet version of soft drinks does indeed have less fat in them so it gives the impression its better to drink than the regular version when it comes to losing weight. The problem is that the removed fat has been replaced to a higher amount of sugar which gets converted into fat after consumption. This means the diet version will make you fatter than the regular version would so the diet version is pretty much a scam.
@@sararomero7090 aw so happy to see you're doing well. I have had a bit of a tough time growing up and I know how difficult it us to escape all of that, and sometimes its impossible to escape
Now that I think about I think you've mentioned something rather poignant. About the obese being tyrannical, it makes sense for them to be more controlling of others considering their own ever dwindling ability to survive with pound piled on em. It's not necessarily "right" but it makes sense yeah?
I'm obese and although I am losing weight, I do notice that I lie about my eating and I like to hide my eating. It's a big struggle, but it has been getting better. Definitely seems like addiction to me. Keep up the good work TBYS!
@@krazyworld6433 yeah. For the longest time I refused to eat in front of people or would wait until nighttime to eat. It's not a good feeling. We've got this though. 👍 😊
There's usually a reason behind that kind of thing, hopefully you come to terms with whatever it is and if still struggling are able to seek therapy with someone knowledgeable about eating disorders (not saying you have one just that they're most inclined to know about these kinds of things vs other types of therapists).
Wow. 20 seconds. That's how long it took me to feel (Censored). I've lost 60lb in a year, and I've kept it off. I've got another 40 to go but not once did I even once think it wasn't *MY FAULT.*
When my Crohn's disease flared up and I lost weight, I knew it wasn't entirely my fault for the weight loss, but it was responsibility to get my Crohn's disease taken care of back up to weight. Not easy but I think people just like to hear things are their fault. They don't want to accept that the wrongs in their life are their doing, and even if it's not, it's their responsibility to do something about it. It's your body, your life.
I cant appriciate the content you've put out enough because of videos like these I've actually been working on my health and have lost 33 pounds since May from 280lbs to 247lb. I needed to hear a lot of the things discussed in these videos so I could focus and work towards the outcomes I desire.
Steve, I spent I say around 10 years (God, I lost count but was many years) after my father pointed a shotgun at my head defecating on myself. For that very long time I blamed my father for the way I was but I still did it. I'm on maybe 9 months (February this year) since I changed that habit. Almost a month since I turned 22 and nearly a year since that habit's kicked. The next step I'm going to take starting early 2022 is kicking the addiction I've had my entire life: electronic/video games
Wow, Debbie's husband is really taking the "for poorer, in sickness" part of his vows seriously, isn't he? Something tells me that were the roles reversed, or even if he were around the same weight as she currently is or having the same problems she's having, she wouldn't be.
If she woke up tomorrow and was thin and healthy (it would HAVE to be magic because she can never be bothered to work for anything, ever), she is ditching him for what she would view as an upgrade man.
As someone who use to be, by definition a raging alcoholic. The number one thing I have learned from my experiences. Is that you can not help someone who doesn't want to change (doesn't mean you shouldn't try). Changing for the better is never easy, it is a battle.
honestly, this hits hard for me, i have a terrible drug addiction, stemming from psycoogical trauma and severe depression, i wont lie... i realy felt personally attacked, but i cant diagree with a singe thing you said, you speak logicaly, and concise, but most importantly, its all true, im gonna keep watching your videos and try to take the advise to heart. thank you for making these videos, the word needs you
They say it all the time, watch the show: secret eaters. They all say they eat “so healthy “ and don’t understand why they are so big-must be their thyroid or metabolism
Your brain has this ability to hide things from you and your perception of yourself. I find that if I allow myself to indulge in snacks for lunch it can fester and continue on for a month or more before the effects manifest: tighter clothes, extra flab, etc. Discipline and diligence are the only way. Bad habits quickly gain a hold otherwise.
They may run 4 miles- without counting how much they had to stop and walk. I do cross country and sprinting in track and usually get 1st or second. Trust me, the obese people usually get close to last. It’s not a fluke, either.
No one person deserves to be this articulate or wise. Thank you for sharing the wealth. And it's surprisingly entertaining. Makes me feel better about myself anyway.
If you can't stand for longer than 2 minutes, instead of training and losing weight, install stuff to hold on to and sit down on. Genius! Don't address the problem, just live with it.
I bought a shower seat because I fractured my pelvis. It’s ridiculous to think that someone needs one because they are too fat to stand long enough to take a shower. Like I always say with clothes, if your clothes are getting too tight, it’s time to lose weight, not buy bigger clothes!
@@Maki-00 Absolutely, and an injury is obviously an acceptable reason to adjust your lifestyle to. Those mobility scooters are for people that have an issue walking, not for people that are so fat they find walking too much effort.
@@MHGFTW My elderly mom with arthritis in her knees and heart trouble refuses to use a mobility scooter. She has too much pride. She just uses her walker. After my injury, I walked around the grocery store with my cane, in case someone in worse shape needed the scooter. I get so pissed seeing people on mobility scooters for no other reason than just being fat!
@@Maki-00 A safe bet is to just talk to your doctor for advice. They'll tell you if your injury/disease or just general physical condition makes it more advisable to use a scooter or walker. When it comes to fat people, they might be advised to temporarily use a scooter for shopping, but they might be adviced to walk as physical activity at home. Honestly being 300lbs+ is crazy. You have to eat a crap ton to even maintain that weight. Just switching soda to diet soda would take pounds of by the dozens.
An interesting part about Lord of the Rings is that Frodo is chosen to bear the ring not because of what power he has, but rather what power he doesn’t have. The ring corrupts whomever wears it, so if Gandalf, Galadriel or Aragorn were to fall under the ring’s influence, Sauron would have powerful additions to his army capable of bringing his enemies to their knees. With Frodo, all he would have is a low level grunt. Yes Frodo is resourceful and brave, but the corruption gradually but surely replaces the wearer’s mind with its own. If LotR was written as an anime today, it would be called “The Non-Powered Halfling Is The Perfect Scapegoat for the Demon Lord’s Ring.”
Even more than what would happen if he was corrupted, the ring's influence is stronger with more powerful people. Hence why a simple hobbit with no greater ambitions than to enjoy a simple life in his home is the perfect bearer for the ring, and could carry it for a long period of time while gandalf was terrified of touching the ring for even but a fleeting moment. Nevermind that Sauron would not expect the forces of good to trust such an object to one of the weakest, least important races in middle earth.
As thorveim pointed out, although yes Frodo does make for the perfect scapegoat, the actual reason he’s chosen is because hobbits have very little desires, both in amount and magnitude, all they want is a simple life spent with friends, family and good food, which doesn’t give much for the ring to leverage in order to corrupt them, unlike dwarves, humans and even elves who all have grand ambitions in one way or another, especially humans.
I'd kill to get that much a month and I work more than 40 hours a week. And you get a MAID? TF? AND my house is nowhere near that nice! Hey entire world: STOP! REWARDING! BAD! BEHAVIOR!
For clarification 1 Stone is 14 Pounds, or 4.3 Royal Trunks, 5.5 Nordic Arcanefish or 16 Bindaboondles. Use any unit of mesurement you want except the one that makes sense and only use 90% of the world.
i love these videos so much. i’ve been obese for most of my life, working on weight loss now, and fat acceptance is literally lethal. it makes me so upset
Your words around addiction are very wise - I have been struggling with a nicotine addiction. I smoked for around 3 years straight, quit for a year, relapsed for 1.5 years, quit for a year, relapsed again for 6 months, quit for 5 months and now have been smoking for a week. The start of every relapse started with one puff or one cigarette (usually from a friend, or family around), every time without fail. My weakness to nicotine has been perpetuated by life events that have stripped a lot of my confidence. I have been making strides lately (even with this latest smoking phase), small steps in positive directions, more socialising, pushing myself more at work, and reaping rewards. Keep making these videos, cheers
So apparently all of the British people in the comments have informed me she said "maths" not "mass" at 23:08. Oops. Maths is not a word in American so you can understand the mistake. Fortunately it doesn't change the contents of the video that much because the argument that comes immediately after it is still true. Though it does provide more hope for Barry as it is much easier to spend a few hours on Khan Academy freshening up on your maths than it is to lose 200lbs.
Edit: Ok.... Mistake number two at 18:30. I realize that 18+8 does not equal 24 hours. In my defense, it's correct in the script; I just read it incorrectly, watched the video like 6 times, and didn't notice. Usually I catch things like that. ALSO in my defense I did the math on half of 16 correctly so all the people telling me I can't do math, EXPLAIN THAT MATH. Well, at least it wasn't a big fuck up like me not noticing that the narrator said Debbie pays 60 pounds a week in rent and not 60 pounds a month. I caught that shit right before I released the video and fixed it as I was doing the final editing. That would have been really bad.
yeah no worries mate
Why is it used in the plural?
@@wyattmann8157 cause thats how it is in british
@@someobscuremusicchannel because there's more than one type of math so we say maths
@@ATOMiiCChicken 👍🏼
"Don't judge me unless you've walked a mile in my shoes." Immediately met with "Lesley can't walk a mile in his own shoes." Bruh.
I have a friend who's younger sister is like this, morbidly obese, controlling and demanding with her boyfriends. Funny story though...
My friend noticed his sister wasn't at work one day, since she had recently started working at McDonald's. So he asked her how come you're not at work today? Her response was "you don't know what it's like to be on your feet 4 hours a day"
I mean. Maybe not HER feet. But we're all carpenters and steel workers and do those types of jobs. So there's been many long, sometimes 16 hour days.
He's the farthest thing from a "loser"...if you know what I mean.
@@derealized797 try working infront of a computer with your boss banning chairs, thats 8 or more hours
@@SebastiansSebastian-fc4pj sometimes i would join landscaping crews during the winter, to help shovel snow. During big storms you can be out there shoveling days straight. Like you'll be at these condos for example, and you'll watch as people get up and leave for work, come home go to bed, wake up leave, come home again, and you've been out there the entire time. Feels like, this ain't fair.
Last time i went out shoveling. It wasn't even normal snow, it was freezing rain which resembled sand. Soon as i cleared a section of sidewalk i turned around and the snow was higher than before i cleared it. It was constantly blowing off the roof. And they wanted me to stay anyway to keep doing that.
I ended up walking off that job because first of all they should have had snowblowers there. They admitted they messed up on that. Also i was soaked because the temp kept changing from rain to freezing rain.
@@derealized797 at the end thats a deadly combo, might as well jump in to the waters at north pole. I had to do lumberjacks work when i was just 14 and below 60kg when Im around 6'. Now i have ripped muscles and deformed ribs on one side as well as back problems, i got lucky i survived thanks to my super durable body, i mean i could lift a log alone that a guy as buff as Chakie Chan couldnt. If i was fed properly i wonder If I could have broken a few world records. Goes to show even bosses who treat their workers like dirt are sometimes better than our 21th century manchildren
The fat acceptance movement: the one movement that requires no movement.
This comment is great
BILLY agrees
Comedy gold
Is this joke over told? Yes
Is it still funny? Yes
ROTFL
As a former drug addict:
Yes. They always lie.
thats all that was going through my head while watching this. I see people on reddit claiming being fat and being a drug addict is not the same thing and it drives me nuts. Addiction is fucking addiction. Fuck man, fat people piss me off. At least drug addicts admit to the most part what they are doing, fat people on the other hand, act like its completely not their fault and have a total victim complex that far outweighs the complex of a drug addict. I hate fat people, hope they get better. Damn.
100% , I always did lmaoo
as a drug addict-
99.9% of the time we lie- we tell thr truth of when we need drugs
As someone with anorexia and bulimic behaviors, yes I always lie to get through with my behaviors. I'm working on it, but it's definitely something people with eating disorders do.
tru story
She unironically uses a mobile app for a lie detector, i remember i used the same crap when i was 5th grade as a joke with my classmates
She was a psychic before so it doesn't really surprise me xd
I know I'm so surprised he didn't say anything about that it's so ridiculous
I used to be almost 400 lbs, and now I'm down to about 290. I actually reversed my diabetes too. I still have a lot of work to do tho, but since I found this channel, I've been critically thinking about the way I've been living.
Edit: Wow thanks for the supportive comments I appreciate it so much 🥺 Also, y'all should know I'm a girl. I can't remember how I found this channel, but so grateful I did. I'm down to about 268 now, if you're curious.
Edit #2. I'm down to 240 lbs. My weight loss has slowed lately, since I backslid after the death of a close friend, but I'm back on it. Tbh, my goal is to get down to 220.
Well done ! That's great 👍 xxx you deserve to be proud of yourself ☺
Good shit dude! You should be proud of yourself. Keep up the great work and do everything you can to be the best you that you can be.
I’m right with you man. Damn near 400 in January. Down to 370. Could be better, but I’ve already seen the benefits. Getting weight loss surgery but I’m going to lose as much on my own before I take the plunge.
Congratulations! Losing weight and keeping it off is not easy.
@@sasquatchhunter86 Awesome work bro
Debbie is a troll. Not an online troll, an actual troll.
Cave troll
That's insulting to shrek 😂🤣
@@E-E-E-E-E-E-E-E-E- Shrek is an ogre not a troll
@@romkobomko3200 oh. Yeah ya got me
Someone still liked it 😂🤣😂🤣
Our society cares too much about feelings and not about what is productive, right, and the truth. This is similar to how children behave. Mature people understand delayed gratification, discipline, and sacrifice.
I'm sorry but I disagree. In this historical moment, society cares about the feelings of WOMEN and treats them as little girls who cannot do things without help.
Luckily these people luckily get what they deserve and they can drown in their misery while they pretend everything is fine
The loons run the looney bin
The trauma behind being obese should be treated not just obesity or enabling it which is the worse option. Where did the world come to when we're not even allowed anymore to mention that people that are obese are addicted/fleeing or self trashing/punishing themselves. I feel sorry for them and I feel we need to support them but definitely not by enabling them.
@@anonimusus4306 we’re overcompensating a bit I think. For so long no one cared and so now we care too much. There needs to be a balance of protecting feelings and also being honest with people to help them be better. Because without constructive criticism there can be no improvement. We’ve gone from harsh and cruel criticism to no criticism at all, and what we really should be doing is kind/neutral criticism about things that can actually be changed.
"It forces taxpayers to enable people like Debbie" - amen. My parents in Canada live with neighbors who just mooch off the social welfare. Yet my parents spent their whole lives working honestly in highly qualified jobs, and the government gives them nothing besides old age pension? Disguisting.
It’s communism, and it’s sad that people think communism is great for everyone. It’s great for the lazy
She doesn't want him to go near other women or find other women attractive because she's afraid that he might realize he could have a much happier life with any other girl
Not sure North Korea learn this from her, or the opposite. But its working
Not sure that guy would have much of chance with other women in first place.
@@genesisalexandria7506 there's plenty low life vvomen who looks better than her and less risky. Let's say he wouldn't find anybody , he might realise his worth more than he's now by actually working on his independence and by that he gain his confidence back.
I bet he come from broken family or abusive environment because his self esteem is below the norm.
And she'll me miserable without him
Tbh he would be much happier on his own as well
“You can’t look at someone and know they’re health”
“Yes you can stop lying to people”
This was hilarious 💀💀
Never judge a book by its...holy hell she's gigantic
That only applies to mental disorders. Like you would never know if someone was autistic just by looking at them.
But you can 100% look at an obese woman and garentee joint issues, heart issues, skin irritation, and sores.
What is iridology
its funny because immediately after he says this he pulls up a photo of her and calls her "extremely underweight and malnourished" and then assumes that she is unhealthy based on her looks 💀
@@itsallperspective7415 yes and no as sometimes there are signs such as tattoos that have been pointed out by this channel obviously it doesn't mean they 100 percent have it but they are good signs and it doesn't work for all mental health but it does work for some.
Like for example if someone is obese it doesn't mean they have diagnosis or heart diseases but it is a good indication they do have it (Probably not the best example but the first one I thought off).
I’m unfortunately apart of the 290-300 club atm, but thanks to your videos, especially this one. I have scheduled an appointment with a obesity therapist and I have slowly started to hit the gym. Last week I can barely run 1/4 a mile without being winded and I can only do 5 pushups. Sit ups 15, and bench 110. I know embarrassing, but now I know my start. I want to be able to run a mile by Christmas. It’s sad that I’m getting the brutal honesty I need from RUclips and not my own family. They tell me I’m beautiful just the way I am. I’m not and it’s time for a change
Update: 1/15/2022 - Wow I can’t believe this blew up. Never gotten more then 2 likes on a comment. Thank you all so much for your support! Honestly, this video was the changing point in my life. Idk if the creator will see this, but if you do sir, your words honestly saved me.
Just to update y’all. My therapist has slowly helped me confront the emotional abuse and is teaching me to love myself again. As a result, I have lost 15 pounds in the last 2 months. Been strength training 2-3x a week. I recently hit a gym mile stone. I can free weight 25 pounds and my legs can press 110. I can now bench 130. And I can run a h whole mile. My mile time is 12-13 minutes.💪
I’m hoping to enlist in the Navy (my dream) by December 2022. Thank you all so much for the loving words. I will continue to provide updates.
Good on you for waking up. I wish you the best of luck on your journey.
You got this!
Focus more on diet. Losing/gaining weight is 75% diet and 25% exercise. Try intermittent fasting (eat in an 8 hr window, fast for 16 hrs). Your 8 hr window can be anytime during the day. The first week sucks but it's much easier after and by far the simplest way to start losing weight. During the 16 hrs only drink water, lots of it. If your having a hard time you can do straight tea or black coffee (no sugar, creams, milk, lemon; nothing but water and tea/coffee). Absolutely no calories for 16 hrs. And count your calories when you eat with an app (buy a cheap scale to weigh foods), then you'll realize how much your really taking in.
Rooting for you bro!
Hey man, there's a lot of different roads to get where you want to be. For me keto and intermittent fasting let me drop 50 lbs. If you're interested Dr. Ekberg (here on RUclips) has alot of good info.
"Relapse is a part of recovery" I'm not fat but i needed that
Relapse is NOT a part of recovery.
Signed-a former drug addict
I'm British and married to someone who isn't British, we both work our butts off to make a decent living. Watching this woman exploit the system and just being handed money, I have no words......
Yeah sadly some people have no intention of working or ever will as long as their take care of by the system.
@@SFVMTV you might not like it but they are living a life where they do whatever they want without any of the work, living an easy life
@@wavethatcrashed9155 Isn't it like... kinda the problem?
@@barabasz7367 hwat im saying is its a problem for everyone else, these guys dont give af and they are still getting rewarded pounds
You choose to work and enjoy the benefits of such. She chooses not to and also enjoys the benefits of such. It all choices. Choose better if you're bitter about your situation 🤷♀️
"Don't judge me unless you've walked a mile in my shoes."
Narrator: "Les can't walk a mile in his own shoes."
Let's have a moment of silence for that FATALITY.
Nah, the second wouldn’t be worth it
"Don't judge me unless you've walked a mile in my shoes."
Don't tell me who I can and can't judge until you've walked a mile.
Fat-ality
This made me burst out laughing
I almost spit my drink at that. Someone at the BBC must have been fired over letting that on the air. lmao
Steve is down bad man…
She’s so insecure she doesn’t let him watch commercials with good looking women!? That’s another level of crazy.
Bro isn't down bad he down right just hates himself
@@drebeck2542 -_-
If she ever lost a lot of weight, she would probably dump that simp.
Cause Debby looks like a Broken Ursula Honestly
He looks like Smigel from Lord of the rings
I was a porn addict and i thought it was normal but i realized it's bad and i stopped lying to myself and now i bearly watch it anymore.
you must goon.
My recommendation: Don't watch it at all. Get a girlfriend. Of you really have to, only watch one video with one actress. Better yet only look at pics and also only one person. Speaking from experience. Cheers
i love how you said get a gf as if it's that easy to just get one lmaooo
@@manuelp7472
it is bad i’ve never watched it but its bad for ur brain. good you barely watch it but cut it out all togeyher
If you admit it, then it is half way resolved! Never had that, I am addicted to sugar, used to smoke a lot so I know what I am talking about! Well done and keep progressing! Every small step forward will lead to success! 💪
My mother has a thousand medical problems, but she cherry picks MDs who won’t tell her that her weight is an issue. I’m sure it’s not the primary cause in every case, but it clearly exacerbates them. She’s even gone so far as to lie and tell us that her doctors told her that she shouldn’t be exercising.
Tell her she's fat and she won't live to see x event see if thst gives her the kick
Sounds exactly like an alcoholic.
Holy hell mate, I'm sorry you have to live in that environment. Stay strong, be observant of what negative traits you may have picked up from her and shed them, and move out when you can.
They love to throw out "What would you advise someone who comes to you with this condition and an average BMI?"
lol, that's my mom, she ended up choosing chinese doctors cause they will not say anything offensive that will make them lose business. They as well cut her off some tablets that reduced how much food her stomach absorbed because she started abusing the pills.
Steve doesn’t need to watch other women on TV. His wife is 10 times the woman they are…
quite literally
Masswise
Nice
XD
Only a real Chad like Steve can handle all those women at once.
Most of us disabled Brits have to fight tooth and nail to get help, her case is definitely not how it usually goes
i think it depends. it seems people that actually need it never get it, and the people who it will enable and help to make their life shittier in the end always get it.
@@twilightsparkle75 The system rewards pieces of shit and punishes honest people. :/
sure, usually the scum are rewarded. All by design.
@@twilightsparkle75 I think you are right. Those who have the biggest mouths and who kick off on a regular basis and, of course, know only too well how to play the system get what they demand. The “knowledge “ of the benefit system is passed on to where you get 3 or 4 generations of the same family all relying on the Government. Other, far more deserving folk are penalised. The system is crazy and so unfair.
I agree. My step dad had to stop working as a welder in his late 50s/ early 60s due to chronic back problems and they fought every step to try and get him into work despite letters from the doctor saying he couldn't. They wanted him to work in a call centre and he's 75% deaf 💀
I love how the narrator calls her “21 stone Debbie”. This is just too good 🤣😂🤣
Physical appearance is literally one of the first and fastest ways of guessing how healthy a person is.
Try using the "Can't judge on looks" to a person stricken with the black plague
People with acne can be healthy though even though they have a chronic skin disease that may need a prescription
@@user-je7pp2wg3m very different
Absolutely man! It goes against science to say you can't determine health factors by physical appearance!
Almost everything is first assessed visually when it comes to health. A purple bruise, a red blister, swollen tissue, rings under the eyes, open bleeding, etc. Sure, you might not get an exact picture of what’s wrong, but you can be pretty sure that something is wrong and have a good idea of what it might be, which leads to doing a proper examination.
@@user-je7pp2wg3m Acne is nothing like obesity. Acne isn't bad for your health just your appearance, and even then people with acne can't control the genetics that cause acne. Obese people have all the control of their size and weight.
Why is no one mentioning how the “lie detector test” was literally just some app on her phone 😭
She the type to download an x-ray app to check if her bones are broken 😵💫
I've seen a scales app, I'd love to see her using that
Let's also consider that even multi-thousand dollar professional lie detectors are based on pseudoscience and don't provide results actually correlated to the truth.
I have less than zero confidence for a phone app doing anything except providing an effectively random result.
@@ChrisSmith-mi2zo lie detectors aren't pseudoscience but you should also take the results with a boulder of salt. it measures physiological symptoms that happen when you lie, but not only can you hide it if you are good, you can just get agitated while telling the truth and that's what the machine actually measures.
@@saral19 id hope she'd get a screen protector first
Aren't those meant like a fun toy
Why can’t Steve just DISOBEY her, and then run laps around her until she tires of chasing him, and lies down for a nappy-nap?
Bro he can just run away from this huge woman, it's not like she is going to run after him
And than do that for like a year
@@eeeguba432 lmao forreal 😂
he probably grew up bullied and rejected and finally felt wanted by Debbie the Dinosaur
Lmao
I needed to hear every word of this at 4am, as I struggle to fall asleep. Buzzed and unemployed, too stuck on foolish comforts to get motivated.
I hate you.
...and, thanks.
💖
How are things now?
@christophercruz3835 I'm working again, though not as regularly as I'd like. Been spending most of my time in between focusing on my art. Started working on a comic book idea I've had for over a decade. I still use various substances, but it's more of a utility now.
Actually, it's funny because I woke up today and was thinking about getting some beer since I have the day off.
Now that I'm replying to this, I'm thinking twice about it.
@@UranusKiller glad to see you’re doing better 🙌🙌🙌
@@Cc81727 I appreciate it! 💖
"You don't look well" - Every fat person I know when I began to lose weight.
It's crazy but some of the most rude people ive met have been obese. They lash out, and are quick to insult. Even though they look like garbage. It frustrates them because they know they are too lazy and dont have the ability to put the work in to change. Sad
@@thisguy4543 Years ago, I was at work and my friend came and poked my belly and said, “You’re not as skinny as you think you are.” I was around a size 10 and she was short, round, and fat. I had never claimed to be thin, nor had I ever discussed weight with her and we’d known each other since high school. It was just so random of her. The only thing I can think of is that she was jealous because I had started dating one of the cute guys that worked with us.
@@Maki-00 yeah that sounds like a classic case of jealousy. I can never understand how adults can act to childish. Ive had similar, but it's always related to my height and build. If someone goes out of their way to say you look bad, assume you look pretty good lol
@@thisguy4543 Its because they hate themselves. They hate their bodies so much that they project onto others. If they truly loved themselves at any weight they wouldn't need to prove it to anyone, theyd also respect themselves enough to lose weight
@@thisguy4543 Ya it's honestly sad when you think about it. I sure wish people had more control over how much they ate, and what they ate. Eating too much or eating too little are both way to common, but there isn't much we can do to stop it sadly.
This makes me so, so, so very angry.
I'm American, and yeah, I'm on the welfare system. I suffered a spine injury at 20 that left me in chronic pain, a condition called CRPS. I couldn't walk for 3 years, and it seriously aggravated other medical conditions that I have, including a heart defect. I dropped to 70ish pounds at five foot six inches tall (cyclical vomiting syndrome, my stomach won't empty) and nearly died. Its impossible for me to work a normal job, but you have no clue how much I wish I could go back to that. I was taking a "gap year" when the assault happened and was starting to fill out applications for cosmetology school, and then the plan was to do special effects makeup in Hollywood after that.
I get 700$ a month. I pay the rent, utilities, everything with that and the small income I get from sewing. I get 100$ in food stamps a month, and that's only due to the pandemic. Previously I only got 65$. I get the majority of my food from food pantries.
I WISH the government could maybe cover my mobility aids, like my knee scooter. CRPS is progressive, and I might need both legs removed later in life. I will eventually need a mobility scooter, regardless of leg amputation.
I'm not obese, I'm an average weight. I'm not athletic like I used to be, and I'm trying to get back to that because exercise will slow the progression of my CRPS.
I. Hate. People. Like. This.
Not because they get more benefits than me, not because their disability is self-induced. But because they're scamming the system and they show no introspection for their situation. Nor are they (well, not every person) working to improve their situation.
I'm trying desperately to improve my situation because I HATE THIS SHIT. I will never get off welfare completely, because even if I got a job in my field, my monthly medical bills are so damn expensive that no entry level positions would get me good enough insurance or pay enough for the shit insurance doesn't cover.
So deeply frustrating that people chose this miserable existence.
Same. I’m on state benefits at the moment because I had a ruptured disc. And it sucks. I can’t imagine just being TOO GODDAMN FAT and acting like it isn’t your fault. I hope things go well for you, doll!
That sounds awful, best wishes to you ❤️
I'm glad you got some government help. That's rare in America.
I'm so sorry. That sounds awful. These people infuriate me, too.
My cousin was adopted from India and her adopted parents threw her out at 18. She is confined to a wheelchair due to a birth defect and is immunocompromised due to the same condition. She works two jobs from home and can barely make ends meet and cannot live alone. The welfare she's supposed to get doesn't even give her enough to live on, which it's supposed to do because she has to pay a nurse to help her with daily tasks. People like this are people who deprive my cousin of the life she deserves.
I have a couple of relatives who are on welfare (UK) due to things like chronic pain. It's a nightmare trying to get any kind of assistance for chronic pain because it's often unexplained, even though you can see the person is in pain. But at least, after fighting, they have the assistance they need. I can't imagine going through all that then not getting the right assistance AND having to pay medical expenses. You and people like you are troopers, and I wish you the best.
I'm saying this as an overweight person, fat acceptance is death acceptance. There's no possible way that these people love themselves like they claim they do. When friends and family tell me that I need to lose weight, I tell them that they're right and that I'm working on it, which in my opinion is what anyone that's allowed to get themselves to get out of shape should tell themselves
Good luck, keep going, we believe in you. You DESERVE to be healthy. You can do it.
Good luck bro I hope you loose some weight
That's a great mentality, mental growth is NECESSARY before physical "Growth". Keep going, love yourself for the progress you are making. I believe in you.
Also not physical growth like getting taller but losing weight lmao
Ay pal, i was overweight a good chunk of my childhood, but last year i took the effort and started moving a lot against the protests from my body, and now I sit borderline overweight BMI wise. Anything is possible, but losing weight certainly sucks ass even if it's worth it. Push through and you'll have a proper night's sleep far more often and your body starts feeling better. My family has inherited cholesterol issues and i would feel it badly in my chest a few years back. Nowadays it's a rare occurrence, but still something I'm trying to keep a lid on with exercise. The fat acceptance movement never sat with me, but I'll say it certainly has lead to premature deaths with the types of people I've met and heard.
Hey bud went from 240 to almost 190 and about to join the army, you can do it!
Three years clean from opiates, & fentanyl.
Best/hardest decision of my life.
& yeah, I relate hard with Frodo, & Bilbo. The ring is a perfect analogy for addiction.
I hope you are always clean from addiction all your life.
Kudos 😊
I believe the enablers are worse than the addict. Manipulating them further into a poor life than understanding what they _need,_ not what they want.
I think enablers dont have majority of that responsibility. The addicts still have a brain, so they have the capacity to make this decision themselves.
@@angela.luntian It fits in with specific scenarios, people who drink or do drugs as a result of depression or hard times can be a victim. They still need help, don't get me wrong, but enabling people in those situations is heartless.
It's a result of feelers no longer being under the logical.
In a 'man's world' logic and truth are more important than feelings.
Feelers have now taken over the 'societal opinion'.
Logic and truth no longer need apply.
The argument over fat acceptance is the perfect example:
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Feelers don't see or use words based upon their definitions.
Feelers see and use words based upon the feeling they generate.
Hence, feelers see 'healthy' as 'happy'.
So when you say 'she isn't healthy' - they hear, 'she isn't happy'.
To the feeler brain (healthy = happy).
They are interchangeable.
The interesting thing about the feeler brain, is all words that (= happy) can be exchanged with any other word that (= happy).
This is why there are so many hiccups when a logical person is trying to have a discussion with a feeler.
Why they 'just don't get it'.
Definitions are points, expressed in the form of a single term.
Feelers can't grasp logic, and so, they can't grasp points.
When you make points in writing, you'll notice feelers will never argue the logic you're expressing.
It's because it doesn't exist to their brains.
What they do is actually scan your paragraph as 'just a pile of words' - pick out words that 'give them a feeling' - and in turn, respond accordingly.
This is why their replies can be so off track of anything you were talking about.
like I'm not obese but I am a reasonable amount over weight because I find exercise painful with my hypermobility and chronic pain along with other issues but i actively go out and try to exercise mainly swimming which is one of the only things I can do for exercise besides cycling that isn't excessively painful and tiring but at the end of the day the reason I'm overweight is when I was younger I wasn't strong enough to fight through the pain now I am and I'm losing weight at the end of the day it's a choice all addiction and vices are choices anyone who claims otherwise is 1 A addict 2 A enabler who gets something out of it or 3 A ignorant fool but that's just my opinion. everyone live your best life no matter what or you will most likely regret it.
No they're not. At the end of the day, it's still the fatty that is responsible for her own health but now all of us have to pay for her.
My mum is disabled here in the U.K. We had to financially support her as she was not disabled enough for our government. She has schizophrenia and severe arthritis, took on jobs here and there. It was only after 40 when she was in her 60’s they realised their mistake. Yet people like Debbie get everything.
Yea ur mom should get disability
And I bet ALL the new guests you lot have pouring in are getting the dole thrown at them.
@@chrisnotyou oh for sure
Vote out the socialists and coddlers in your government and make people start earning their lifestyles.
Like I wouldn't have a problem eith my taxes going to someone like ur mom but I don't want to be paying for someone like debbie
Hey man. I just want to let you know that you’ve helped me a lot in growing up as a teenager that’s becoming a young adult. Thank you for your hard work and wise words.
We need more people like Think Before You Sleep
16 yr old and I can honestly say the same. there are so many toxic channels in the “manosphere” that rub me the wrong way but thinkbeforeyousleep is not one of those channels.
I wish I had found this type of content when i was in my teens. Incredible advantage my man.
@@timroberts917 my thoughts as well. We should be happy that we got it now, and that these younger people have it too. Peace
I'm 18 and I'm grateful that I found out this channel
Every year since 2012 I said "I'm gonna get in shape this year" and couldn't stop eating like garbage and never kept a regular exercise schedule.
It was 2018 when I finally got sick and tired of making excuses and I started eating right. I cut out the sugar drinks, I stopped eating obvious garbage and I planned my meals. I went from 33% body to 18% in a year and 6 months. I gained a lot of it back after COVID shut downs and being pregnant, but in 2022 I got tired of the excuses I was making and I hired another coach and she wrote me a lifestyle plan and gym routine. I went from 25% body fat to a healthy 22% and I've gained muscle so it looks a lot healthier as 22% than it did when I was 18% body fat. I am so happy and honestly now, I absolutely love going to the gym. I have a weekly "volume" plan 5 days a week and I can pick and choose what I want to do depending on my energy level or my injuries. It's awesome!
I can never go back to 33% body fat or eat junk food regularly.
You're doing so wonderful 😊 you should be proud of yourself, it's so hard to the keep the discipline after being overweight for so long
Im proud of you youre an inspiration 💪💪💪
"Don't judge me unless you've walked a mile in my shoes."
Narrator: "Les can't walk a mile in his own shoes."
That right there was a loud violation.
Yea I laughed when the narrator said that.
Hahaha got em!
She just said what we were all thinking 😂😂
The irony. 😂
damn dawg you didnt have to kill her.
That man does not have a shred of masculinity and self respect left.
*boy
@@JT-bt6jy I stand corrected
Did he start with anny to begin with
@@cryingalone7572 he had a teaspoon of masculinity but it went right out the door one second later
Who are you talking about? TBYS or the guy in the video
Imagine being a soldier who's in a wheelchair because your legs got blown off from an IED, then imagine seeing some 600 lb woman who's in a wheel chair because she can't help from shoveling fast food down her throat all day...
The worst part of it is that if you are an invalid veteran in Britain you get 1) less help than these people, 2) most city folk treat you with contempt for having served in an “evil imperialist army”, and 3) you can see Muslims from the countries you fought preaching the most extremist versions of Islam without being worried in the slightest and smiling as they think about their role in the future of the country, when the demographic makeup will make THEM the majority of British voters...
@Moll pom imagine losing your meat, bones, skin and very small testicles all by yourself, just because you pressed that belt detonator by mistake... maybe Allah wasn’t feeling so Akbar that day 😅
She gets 1500 in benefits while the soldier gets nothin
@Moll pom I was looking for that one great comment and you didn't disappoint.👍 Let these globohom0 storm troopers rott, they choose wasting their best years of their lives serving the very people that hate their guts.
@Moll pom /pol has entered the chat.
She looks exactly like professor Umbridge as described from Harry Potter books specifically in the interview
“Liz can’t walk a mile in his own shoes”
Me crying cause he got roasted by narrator:
People who roast in that manner always the funniest
This narrator is absolutely "taking the piss out of" (to quote my Aussie friends) the people in this documentary.
They should roast their vegetables. Maybe they wouldn't be so obese.
She smells people food she'll probably rummage through the refrigerator and then retreat back to lar
That was so funny 😆
The council are enabling her. They modified her house to enable her weight, and are paying for her food. That's like giving an alcoholic vouchers to there local off-licence.
Pretty much. But the correct word is "taxpayers" not "council."
@@ThinkBeforeYouSleepYT Well were involuntarily enabling her. This hits home particularly for me as I live in the UK. What a joke.
@@eon001 Seriously. But I hate it when the government takes credit for what the taxpayers have contributed.
@@ThinkBeforeYouSleepYT I personally like the welfare system we have in the UK, except I think it should be slightly modified to only help those who can't change their situations. But people who smoke or eat themselves to death shouldn't be able to abuse the system like they do
@@ThinkBeforeYouSleepYT She has more stuff than I have working, "I deserve it" that's what they all say... I can't even buy a gaming pc without getting stares like "isn't a tablet for Facebook enough?!" NVM being forced to live home at my parents without a light at the end of the tunnel (thanks housing markets last 10+ years). Afterall people like that deserve it... I also have to eat alot just to stay on weight and society isn't giving me welfare to fund it. I have to spend extra on groceries, snacks and eating out with lunch/brunch instead. Most of the day I'm just hungry knowing I can't combat my metabolism which causes me to go hungry every 1 a 2 hour no matter how much I eat. But hey this is fair. So happy I gotta fund people like that but myself get told to just accept it because fairness. The solution for people like this is easy, eat less and start excercise (even just walking 30 minutes a day is enough to stay healthy if you don't overeat).
I have no idea how you keep finding new topics to discuss every week. It’s pretty amazing work
The world is full of problems that need to be addressed. There's so much material out there.
Because one problem can Cause different results
@@dolphineachonga555 I was more referring to “how the hell is he able to produce a 20-30 min vid every week” but ye I agree
@@dolphineachonga555
That's what happens when you leave sociopaths, psychopaths, and narcissist in charge.
@@joshiemah check out sandman's channel
She is limiting Steve's growth...but nobody seems to be limiting HER growth...
Steve needs to get rid of that long, greasy string on his head
It's obscene when the gluttons feel more oppressed and entitled than the starving
Woah
I never thought about it like that
The reason why they can even feel that way is because they are lucky enough to live in a first world country where they can engorge all that food.
Dear God your right
@@creeperizak8971 me neither, but its the absolute truth
@@oceancactusrequiem6232 while on another continent every couple minutes someone dies from starvation. Messed up but nothing we can do to fix it
The way he said about
"people say cigarettes are unhealthy while if you point out eating several burgers from fast food is unhealthy, you'll get cancelled" is very true
I've sadly known people that believe there is no connection between smoking and cancer
@@thetxaggie6575 people still believe there is no connection between vaping and cancer too, it's unbelievable
@@Araneus21 you'll get cancer way faster by just walking down the street and breathing polluted air by vehicles.
@@Araneus21 ...there IS no known connection between vaping and cancer.
If there is, we won't definitively know for decades, when we see the cancer showing up in people who have only vaped.
So we really don't know. The consensus from doctors is that it's not healthy, but it's more healthy than smoking cigarettes.
Honestly I will be very surprised if there's an equal cancer risk between smoking cigarettes and vaping.
I have smoked for 15+ years and recently switched to vaping. And I'm so glad I did. I feel healthier already.
@@MissSpaz Vaping is based on scents being placed within an oil-based medium, that when heated, turns into smoke and is inhaled.
This oily medium then reaches the trachea, bronches and lungs, turns back into an oil and stays there, being unable to be removed.
Filling your lungs with a foreign substance that your body is unable to process and remove is definitely unhealthy and considering it's an irritant when inside the lungs, it will be cause for neoplasms 100%
It just sounds better on paper but is actually much worse than smoking in this regard, a slow and insidious killer.
"don't judge me unless you've walked a mile in my shoes"
Leslie can't walk a mile in his own shoes.
Man I giggled out loud at that
Damn that was a sick burn from the narrator 😂
That narrator had no chill😂
DAYYUUMMMMMM. The burns
Same
Indeed, that was refreshingly savage.
As hard as you say things sometimes, it really does put things in perspective. I lost 65 lbs 2 years ago. I felt so accomplished, and wanted to lose 40 more. But I never really got to the root of my issue. Which is food addiction. The same way people talk about drugs or alcohol, is how I can feel about food. When life is rough, food is my coping mechanism. So I gained the weight back. Not all at once, but I was in a very mentally, emotionally and spiritually draining relationship for 8 months. During and after that relationship is when I put on the weight and FAST! I’m starting my journey again, but this time I’m more conscious and open about my feelings + addiction to food! Especially, with God being who I lean on rather than myself. I feel as if I KNOW I can do it this time!!
I feel you 😪
The fact you have realized these things and are actually working on learning how to change is huge and more than most people who struggle with addictions. We're all so proud of you 💚 God will reward your hard work!!
Hooray you're back!! Always give a thumbs up to this channel!!
@FuckOuttaHere that’s in an alternate universe that we thankfully do not inhabit
How to be not Obese:
1.Don't eat to much + take advice from Doctors
2.Get good hygiene
3. Don't excersice too much because you'll be burnt out fast
4. Take the 1-3 steps slowly it doesn't magically happen it may even take years 1-2
5. Go to the hospital regularly
6. Excersice from Home if possible. And if you want to go to the gym, do the every precaution of Covid-19 and delta
7. Be polite to people they may give you advice + don't be too skinny and don't be too fat
8. *"TAKE THE EXCERSICE SLOWLY"*
I thought you said "hooray you're black"
@FuckOuttaHere How is it evil if you agree with someone, on THE TRUTH!! ???
Back? It needs a lot of time to make a 30min Video you know.
The British welfare system is absolutely ludicrous. It is horrendously expensive, inefficient, subject to horrible abuse, actively incentivises people to remain dependent on handouts and by extension does far too little to force people into the workforce.
It's the same in Canada. I'm thinking it is probably the same in all welfare states.
All welfare systems end up this way. The people who work for it are dependent on its survival too, don't forget.
@@tomohawk52 I live in Canada. Do you guys have any videos diving into this problem? I can't stand going through the Canadian news videos considering they always block the comments...
Life at the Bottom: The Worldview That Makes the Underclass by Theodore Dalrymple. Published 20 years ago regarding observations made over the course of 30+ years. Still relevant today.
England tried the whole "no welfare" thing at the turn of the 20th century. Turns out poverty doesn't drive people into the workforce, just the streets.
That addiction talking point brought me tears. Im an alcoholic and ive not had a drink in 3 years but i slipped about 3 months ago and got drunk one night and had a bad argument with my best friend. I nipped it in the bud the next day. Haven't touched another and my friendship is still in tact. Very tough and i thank you for that sliver of hope.
Tomorrow is a new day. A new chance. The past doesnt have to determine your future. No matter what, you can be new again bc tomorrow is a new day.
@@firefeethok_tui2355 I appreciate this response :) much thanks.
Glad you defeat your addiction again and not let overtake your life Mate.
Maybe consider a career change. I heared that some hymalian countries are looking for a ruler.^^
Everybody relapses sooner or later, the only thing that matters is not giving up. Just jump on the clean train again bro🤙🏼
God bless you ❤️
As an alcoholic, I appreciate how you talked about addiction. A few drinks won’t make you an alcoholic but it is an addictive substance and over time it’s more than you deciding you want it, your body starts telling you that you need it. It has been hard for me to hear the voice of “the ring” because your mind knows best how to lie to you, persuade you, etc. I’ve had to adopt a “no, never” policy. No matter what thought or feeling, the answer is no. I don’t let my mind have debates with “the ring” because the enemy knows me too well and will win if I give it an audience.
Debbie worked as a psychic, yet she couldn't even see her eating habits caused her problems.
She's not a "medium" she's a large
She should spend less time worrying about the tarot and more time worrying about a carrot.
Her psionic abilities must be very weak, then.
From crystal balls to Crystal Pepsi.
@@ideamachine39 Nice! 😂
Ive figured out why people hate being fat so much. Its one of the only things you cant hide, someones first impression of you when they meet you is "this person has an eating addiction". They know and you know they know it. All these fat acceptance and recent movements are trying to ban shaming. These are the enablers. Good work TBYS keep it up.
yeah, shaming people sounds and many times can just be bullying, but in other cases it is the best way to force someone to fix themselves.
I think most times when we chose to change we shame ourselves you know?
@@DenerWitt The problem is that the mainstream media frames everything in such a way as to only have two possible options, which are extremes. Black and white, with no shades of grey etc. In the case of obesity, you are either body positive (which is enabling), or you are a fat shamer. This of course isn't true, but the moment you refuse to be body positive, you will instantly be branded as a fat shamer, even if you are being gentle and offering a balanced perspective.
The simple reality is, losers are terrified of shame, and they are very delusional, and they surround themselves with people who buy into their delusions and willingly lie to them to protect their feelings. So even if you are gentle, you are showing you refuse to buy into their delusions, and they will hate you for it, for choosing reality over their feelings, and they will instantly play the victim, in order to paint you as a fat shamer, to get everyone on their side against you.
The enablers are often in the same boat, they are losers who willingly buy into the lies because they are terrified of being shamed as fat shamers, because they lack the confidence, courage and self esteem to be honest. So what you basically have, is a circle jerk of losers, all backing each other up, all buying into each other's lies and delusions, all desperately protecting each other's feelings. But in reality, they are holding each other down, and they will resist any attempts to force them to face reality in an attempt to lift them up.
Ironically, because they all know they are lying to each other and to themselves (deep down), they suffer perpetual cognitive dissonance, which manifests itself as mental health issues, namely anxiety (caused by fear of being forced to face reality), depression (caused by the subconscious recognition that they are losers) and stress (the never ending state of denial and awareness of their denial causes a never ending state of stress, which exacerbates their health problems, particularly heart disease, as it disrupts their HPA axis).
@@zalamael Reminds me of troons
And they still want sex
Looking at Debby, I think its very reasonable that her husband doesn't want to anger her because he is afraid of getting absolutely crushed
Also he would lose his income and home and wont be able to play video games all day any longer 😏
He is not a victim.
Quite literally.
There’s stories out there in the media she’s incredibly jealous due to othello syndrome and constantly questions her poor husband accusing him of cheating so he literally HAS to reassure her ALL THE TIME or she gets physical with him!!! I’m sure they were on Jeremy Kyle I know they were in the papers!!!
He's no prize himself...
...and being eaten.
Debbie's husband is definitely broken and that's so sad that he allowed this to happen. You can come back from this.❤
I don't understand a husband getting paid to taking care of a relative who lives in the same apartment. Also, I worked for NYS andI can't believe all the benefits she's getting. Fixing kitchens, new cabinets etc ....
I knew a chick who was as wide as she was tall. She used to lecture everyone around her on "healthy eating," and insult fit people for what they eat, including me who was eating baked chicken and rice as part of a workout diet.
One day I asked if she was really qualified to give other people advice since she weighed as much as 3 women her size. Of course she mentioned how she ate salads, so she ate healthy. She got mad at me when I mentioned that cows ALSO eat salad, and a 10k calorie/day diet will make you fat no matter what it is you're eating.
😂🤣
I bet she never said a word again to you lol
She’s a liar. She eats more than salad. Consider the dressing she puts on her salad. It’s probably loaded with fats. Also, she likely snacks on lots of high fat and sugary foods during the day. Having some “healthy” foods with a predominately “unhealthy” diet means she’ll pack on the stones (pounds).
That cow line is a banger, I’ll definitely use that on my obese aunt if she acts up
Man you made me choke with that cow line!!! Brilliant.
I was always on the heavier side as a young kid and especially as a girl i was always told that i shouldn't complain about my body and that i wasn't fat and to accept who i was. I discovered this channel at my first year of middle school and it was really life changing for me. This channel turned my life around, I realized I was not healthy, and that this was not a good start to my life at all. Ive lost 30 pounds since then and I'm still going, I'm so much happier. I really want to thank Think Before You Sleep for genuinely changing the direction of my life for the better.
Good job man:)
Good job mushroom Lord
Stay healthy, stay happy. You are going in the right direction.
Wish more people were like you
Based and mushroompilled
She doesn't let him watch TV or look at shows because there are women in them??????? Wut the fck???? How did she still at being on the show with that girl and that man? Disgusting
If the shoes on the other foot and a man was doing this to his wife there would be a national uproar.
That woman clearly knows that she's not desirable and that's why she's acting like that. The guys just as much at fault for enabling that behavior and not knowing his worth. He probably has incredibly low self-esteem and feels he can't do better
That strange moment when you see one popular youtuber in another's comment section.
I myself was in tbis same situation for 21 years. I was the active one and hovered between 200 and 205lbs at 6 feet tall, while my ex was 5'6 and over 300lbs and had norhing but back and knee issues. Sadly she went up to over 430lbs before weight loss surgery. She qoukd drop to 260lbs vwfore her mom passed away and she would gain 100lbs back. It was tiring being a constant caregiver to someone not taking care of themselves. Eventually she would end up bedridden the last 9 months of her life and died at 46 in 2019 while we were homeless. I tried to get her to get help but i failed. Never will i dste another woman that big again, its not worth it.
@Siboniso Buthelezi well, my situation has improved a bit. 1. Sadly she passed away in 2019. 2. My income has nearly doubled these last 2 years and i went from being homeless to living in a 1 bedroom apartment with my ex brother in law. I have been able to finally contribute to my 401k these past 2 years, paid of all my past debt etc.
@Siboniso Buthelezi thank you. I hope it does too.
Maybe he knows how bad he has it, but by feeding her bad habits will kill her and he will be free 🆓.
Kill her with kindness and never be charged ☺️☺️ lol
The Lord Of the rings analogy was absolutely brilliant.
Those movies are just something else.
Amazing video mate. Whenever I’m struggling to give up something, I’ll come back to this video to remind myself to not give in.
I love how this woman said "you can't judge the person's health by how they look or how they weight"
In med school we were taught to watch those parameters to see are they healthy or not. If someone is sickly yellow and bloated you can say that their kidneys and even liver aren't working. You can deny it hoe much you want but that's the reality so deal with it.
What should we think about ppl in the medical field who can't spell?
@@konniechung What should we think about people who nitpick on unintentional spelling mistakes ?
@@leem.5917 i would like my doctor to be able to spell my diagnosis correctly 🤷🏼♂️
Not that important in RUclips comments though
@@konniechung You never even considered that it might be a typo or English is not his first language .
Saying the truth since 2020 is not well seen by wokists, leftists and mondialist governments/movements
Actually it never was for them, but it's especially true since 2020
I feel deep sadness when I look at Steve. He's a decent looking, polite & compassionate man who could still get his life in order.
If he left his blob, reduced his gaming hours gradually, got a well-fitted hair system and dressed nicely, he'd already be well on his way to get back in the game.
He would look good with a shaved head probably. When men just accept their bad hairline they usually end up looking better once they shave it all off, and he has the face for it. Would be a big improvement over the shoulder length hair that looks perpetually greasy
He's unfortunately addicted to the feeling of being needed i.e. codependent and unlikely to leave her...or if he miraculously does leave, he'll just find another one-sided relationship to focus on instead of working on himself.
@@PoptartParasol That dude isn't decent looking, at all.
Exactly
Imagine she’s on her third marriage. HOW !?
An upload at this hour? Now I can literally think before I sleep lmao
Spitting facts, haha
Hah same
Rut ro
He always uploads late. That’s a reason why his channel name is “Think Before You Sleep”
It's 11:39 pm right now. So your right on the money
The only way to change and get started in changing is admitting what you really do. That helped a lot in my weight loss.
"You cannot judge a persons health based on how they look"
We do in the medical field. Infact one of the first clinical skills you're taught in medical school is to observe a patient to judge their health, ie. What conditions they may be suffering from
I’ve heard a lot of overweight people say that their underlying medical conditions haven’t been treated in the past because when they see doctors the only thing they’re told to do is lose weight. I think that although weight is important, doctors still need to do thorough assessments. I’ve never had this issue being underweight, they always give me whatever tests I need and listen to my symptoms and never say it could be my literal abnormally low weight. So I think there’s double standards, and I think medical care for larger bodies is a lot harder. I’ve heard of people dying because doctors ignored their symptoms and told them to just hit the treadmill instead of sending them to a hospital or a specialist. So there’s the patients point of view for you.
@craigHaving weight or eating issues can lead to medical problems, but that doesn’t mean fat people can’t have illnesses like anyone else would??? When fat people get colds it’s not because they’re fat… when they get a viral infection, break a bone, struggle with mental illness, cancer, stds, etc. it’s not because of their weight. This mindset is the exact reason why so many sick people go to hospitals for help and get nothing but shame and an early grave. Most people with severe weight issues have an eating disorder of some form, and extreme obesity is a lot different than someone just being slightly overweight. It’s an entire spectrum just like skinny peoples bodies are, some people are naturally skinny, others just don’t let themselves eat. So it’s a mix of genetics, eating disorders, and people that don’t have access to healthy food.
many mental illnesses are directly related to not getting enough exercise, and you can 100% contract stomach cancers from fatty, processed foods. Viral infections would not be fixed as easily in an overweight person as normal people, due to high blood pressure. whilst I agree there is almost certainty always a stigma, if you listen to what the doctors say you might actually learn something.
@@jcr2901 babe, the majority of people with cancer don’t have it because they’re fat. They get it because they have a genetic predisposition or are exposed to cancer causing chemicals. Being fat doesn’t CAUSE illness, is is a SYMPTOM of illness
@@jcr2901 like there ARE weight related illnesses, but doctors should run tests to know for sure instead of sending home people with tumors and severe eating disorders to die at home painfully and slowly. Or wait until it’s too late to get REAL help. People DIE from this malpractice bullshit.
"If you are too afraid to help someone because you're worried about offending them, then you don't actually care about them."
True but false let me give a example pretend I'm your good friend
"Wow you are extremely obese that's a lot of fat gained in one month anyways let try and get you to the normal amount of body fat"
Or
"Hey I see your weight is pulling you down you want me to help you feel super active."
Now which one do you like more? Because I feel both are good in there ways
Ah, you've never been yelled at by a wheelchair user for holding a door. It only happened once but I hessitate every time now XD
@@usernamehere3921 honestly, neither. It comes across as "shocked gasp I'LL SAVE YOU" in the first and "condescending gasp, MLM sales pitch"
I generally go from the round about approach
"How are you feeling lately? Your eating habits have changed drastically, I'm pretty worried."
or even more winding
"Can I level with you? I am always my heaviest and my skinniest when I'm most stressed or depressed. That you reached that size at all makes me worry about your long term mental and physical health. In the best case scenario your parents didn't teach proper bodily maintenance, and fair enough that can be fixed. In any other scenario, you've been seriously suffering and might need real support to escape. Can we talk about this?"
(Please excuse all the comments, just trying to boost the algorithm by engaging)
@@usernamehere3921 as someone with a restrictive eating disorder, don’t make comments like the first one. It’s not about “fat gained” it’s about health. The excess fat is just a side effect of these peoples eating disorders. You need to approach carefully with eds because they come from a place of trauma and insecurity. It’s not about losing weight, it’s about getting to the mental place where it’s possible for you to eat normally and begin to function, and only when these people get mental help do they actually lose weight and keep it down. Dr Now in this show is a really good pillar of support and encouragement, and he’s realistic about these peoples health without body shaming them. Binge eating is one of the most ignored diseases, anorexics get treated like babies whereas these people get called fat 2000 times a day and have no sympathy. It’s just weird to me, I think to overcome a severe eating disorder you need a safe space and support not someone telling you how fat you are, cuz I’m sure they know.
Sometimes making offensive comments can make it WORSE. It depends on what you say, “lose weight fatty” is a lot different than “I love you and I need you to eat healthy because if you don’t, I can’t see you living for much longer” one hits harder, but it’s not offensive. You see what I mean? You can be sensitive to someone’s struggle WHILE being firm about your approach.
This video has actually given me a better way to look at my own addictions. And a better frame to show others more of themselves so they might overcome their addictions and hardships. I just hope I can get myself to make progress
I was a heroin addict for 3 years. Everything he said about addiction is completely accurate. I am now 19 months clean from all drugs including alcohol. It takes hard work and a positive mindset to remain on the winning side of my addiction. I especially had to check my entitlement and pride issues.
I'm happy for you Kyle
@@jasonjones4036 Thank you very much. 🙏
Hell yeah mate!
Well done x
This always makes me so happy, i admire people who try hard to better themselves. I hope you are proud of yourself, because you really should be
"You can not be healthy and 300 lbs"
Well, you can... But you have to be like 7'4" and very muscular.
You pretty much have to be the doom slayer
That was about Shaq.
actually , even if you are 300 lbs of only muscle , its not healthy
@@thekingmeruem Daddy Noel is around that weight and seems to be fine
@@thekingmeruem the comment said "very muscular" not "all muscle"
Watching Steve jump in and save her when asked about her double standards was heart breaking. It must be some severe mental abuse going on.
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Nah hes in it for himself. He doesnt have to work and gets paid to look after her aka play video games all day. He knows what hes doing.
Honestly i thought that line was pretty funny
She is a domestic abuser. Trust me I have been on disability where I could have sat on my butt and had my rent food and utilities paid for and a check 750 usd to spend on whatever. It is a horrifying way to live. Playing video games all day, every day only sounds fun to those who can't. I made the decision to chuck the tv. I have a tiny computer not capable of playing video games. Now I work a full-time job and I make six figures on straight commission in sales. I went back to college got a degree finally having dropped out at 21. Never been happier. Steve is a beaten man not physically, hopefully, but psychologically and emotionally. If you need evidence his whole life can only be seen through a lens created by his wife. He can't hang with friends not even online because she will lie detector test him. Guy can't even pick up the newspaper. He has no concept of how small and limited his world is and is increasingly becoming. If he is aware he probably feels that he is incapable of change (ahem, most of us).
@mrnathan4825 it is funny - except when you consider why he's saying it. He's saying it so she doesn't have to answer for her abusive and hypocritical standards towards him.
I respect you for calling out that extremes in ANY direction are bad.
Imagine being in Debbie’s position and being so lucky to find someone that loves you so much (clearly unconditionally) and yet you do everything in your power to belittle them, alienate them and make THEM feel insecure and small.
There are people who have genuine issues with weight/food and I sympathize fully. I’ve struggled (still do) with anorexia/disordered eating, so I truly mean that.
This is not one of those cases. She’s straight up abusive and entitled. She would be this way if she was 100 lbs or 300 lbs. Weight loss wouldn’t make her a better person.
Tammy from the TLC show 1,000 pound sisters is like that; everything revolves around her, including ending a vacation in a huge log cabin (clip online, along with tons others). The sister Amy lost a LOT of weight and turned her life around, got married, had a healthy baby, etc. and she's still taking care of Tammy.
@@evalilith6703 The victim also being a loser and a mooch does not make the abuser the hero.
He doesn't love her, he's simply codependent on his abuser
@@evalilith6703 I think they're both trash.
@@stevenschnepp576 but it enables them and validates them.
She’s getting paid more than I do in a month, and I work full time! Maybe I should just get that big, then I can stay home all day.
You don’t ‘just’ get that big though. If you’re 200lbs or under, you’d literally have to change your entire lifestyle to become like this…….
like yeah she gets paid more than me but the amount of kfc youd have to buy... it just wouldn't be profitable
@@tiniest.baby.froggy Nice job dude! keep up the effort, as taking a break is not an option!
You earn £5 an hour?? I worked part time 12 hours a week and earned around £550 a month
Right !
Jabba: Did you find her attractive or not Steve!?
Steve: No
Jabba: The smartphone lie detector says otherwise!
Im pretty sure that app is a scam/joke
Sounds like a Meatcanyon video
@@retrozip LMAO I can see that, honestly he should make a video on all the BS guys endure in relationships
Le Jabba no Bada! Uh ha hahaaaaaha! There will be no bargain Jedi! I shall enjoy watching you run… on a treadmill
@@seventhz777z no even the professional lie detectors are a complete unefficient joke. They only detect heart rate in a hopes that you get uncomfortable answering a question honestly, but a lie detector can "detect" a lie when you just feel uneasy, or not detect a lie when you are comfortable. Basically when you know it's bullshit you can even say "yes I killed J.F.Kennedy 20 years before I was even born" and the lie detector would say you are telling the truth, just because you are relaxed.
I was an alcoholic for 6 years due to me struggling with my sexuality, I finally hit rock bottom after being fired for missing too much work. I’m now a much happier gay man living life alcohol free
I struggle with painkillers, booze and xanax. If I had to guess, it's from the war (Iraq), but I wanted to say congratulations to you on sobriety. I'm working on mine. Keep doing what you do man. Beware the relapse.
congrats i hope life stays good 4 you! (:
It's a running gag here in the UK that those who actually need help don't get it and those who don't do get it.
This is very much a case of ones who don't. This might be a bit of a spicy opinion but I don't think being fat should be seen as a disability, outside of rare cases and medical conditions,
because it's generally something you can control and it's 100% self inflicted.
She is fat because she chose to be fat. If she wants to be fat that's fine, but fund your own lifestyle and stop expecting us to pay for you.
People need to face reality.
😭 YEA
Not a spicy opinion at all. Being fat isn’t a disability because you do it to yourself. You know what’ll happen if you don’t get money and can’t afford food? You’ll lose weight and eventually won’t need disability money for a self inflicted “disability”.
I think eating disorders should be able to classify as disabilities depending on the severity of inability to function. When I was in the pits of anorexia I related to these people with food addiction so much because you genuinely CANT control it sometimes, and you need medical intervention and help. I feel like it should be a temporary disability check to help with income with the stipulation that recovery meetings and doctors appointments need to be attended. That’s my personal opinion.
Instead, the money should go to therapy to help them move forward ( literally)
Agreed
I moved in with an aunt of mine in high school to help care for her; she was also morbidly obese. She, too, would occasionally go on a ‘diet’, during which she would switch from drinking regular Dr. Pepper to drinking Diet Dr. Pepper and she would eat salads drenched in ranch dressing, bacon bits, cheese and crushed up potato chips 🤦♀️. Like this woman in the video, she was also an absolute tyrant. She verbally and mentally abused her browbeaten husband and she treated me like her servant. After a while, I realized I wasn’t there to help her, she just wanted someone to enable her lifestyle. Buy her the junk food, prepare it for her, bring it to her, clean up after her, do her laundry, clean her home. When her husband went to the grocery store, he had to be on the phone with her the whole time and Lord help him if he bought the wrong brownies or potato chips. One time I brought her some Wendy’s, and the fries weren’t exactly how she wanted them, and she flung them across the room at me. Why didn’t we stand up to her, quit enabling her, you might ask? I was a minor at the time, and really didn’t have much of a choice. I lost my parents when I was 3 years-old and I had lived with various family members throughout my life, so I really didn’t have anywhere to go. As soon as I turned 18, I moved out. I couldn’t take the abuse any more. Nothing ever made her happy. The way I cleaned, cooked, shopped, nothing was ever good enough. I never heard “thank you”. I was in school and taking AP classes, doing massive amounts of homework, working full time and handing her my entire paycheck, and caring for her around the clock. Nothing was ever good enough. Her husband, I’m not sure why he wouldn’t stand up to her. I heard from relatives that he left her a few years after I moved out. She passed away in 2007. It’s sad because her quality of life was terrible, but her wrath would befall anyone who tried to help her change or get better. I notice a pattern among obese people, they are tyrannical to everyone around them. My aunt kept tabs on her husband like this woman does, because she knew he wanted to get away from her the moment he got the chance. Obese people blame everyone but themselves for the situation they are in and they are the most entitled people I’ve ever come across.
Its ironic that she switched from regular Dr. Pepper to diet Dr. Pepper as part of her 'diet' due to one thing. The diet version of soft drinks does indeed have less fat in them so it gives the impression its better to drink than the regular version when it comes to losing weight. The problem is that the removed fat has been replaced to a higher amount of sugar which gets converted into fat after consumption. This means the diet version will make you fatter than the regular version would so the diet version is pretty much a scam.
Hows your life now
@@cuddlemuffin.9545 Much better, thanks 😊 Married and have a 3 year-old daughter. When I think back on that time in my life, I shudder 😖
@@sararomero7090 aw so happy to see you're doing well. I have had a bit of a tough time growing up and I know how difficult it us to escape all of that, and sometimes its impossible to escape
Now that I think about I think you've mentioned something rather poignant. About the obese being tyrannical, it makes sense for them to be more controlling of others considering their own ever dwindling ability to survive with pound piled on em. It's not necessarily "right" but it makes sense yeah?
I'm obese and although I am losing weight, I do notice that I lie about my eating and I like to hide my eating. It's a big struggle, but it has been getting better. Definitely seems like addiction to me. Keep up the good work TBYS!
I'm struggling eith the same thing. Having to hide what I eat cuz I feel ashamed.
At least you are aware of it, it's hard but you're fighting. You just have to continue on that path and you'll end up winning
@@krazyworld6433 yeah. For the longest time I refused to eat in front of people or would wait until nighttime to eat. It's not a good feeling. We've got this though. 👍 😊
@@slimyduck2140 thanks for the kind words my fellow aquatic avian. 😃
There's usually a reason behind that kind of thing, hopefully you come to terms with whatever it is and if still struggling are able to seek therapy with someone knowledgeable about eating disorders (not saying you have one just that they're most inclined to know about these kinds of things vs other types of therapists).
Bullying needs to comeback
Wow. 20 seconds. That's how long it took me to feel (Censored).
I've lost 60lb in a year, and I've kept it off. I've got another 40 to go but not once did I even once think it wasn't *MY FAULT.*
Keep going in that direction you are on the good path. Wishing you well
When my Crohn's disease flared up and I lost weight, I knew it wasn't entirely my fault for the weight loss, but it was responsibility to get my Crohn's disease taken care of back up to weight. Not easy but I think people just like to hear things are their fault. They don't want to accept that the wrongs in their life are their doing, and even if it's not, it's their responsibility to do something about it. It's your body, your life.
Keep going KING 👑 i’m also on the path to gain strength and be in shape
You are doing great
Keep up the good work
Congratulations bro. I'm down 75 pounds aswell. Keep up the hard work.
Brother.
I cant appriciate the content you've put out enough because of videos like these I've actually been working on my health and have lost 33 pounds since May from 280lbs to 247lb. I needed to hear a lot of the things discussed in these videos so I could focus and work towards the outcomes I desire.
nice
Keep going bro, I believe you
You're doing great bro! Wish u all the very best
That's great, keep it up!
Keep going king 👑
I’m struggling with alcohol. was 37 days sober and slipped one day. This helped me to get back up. 38 and beyond.
I am so proud of you for fighting this! I hope you're continuing to fight your demons, remember it's okay to get outside help.
Also, make sure to not feel like 1 day wastes those 37 days, because that just doesn't go away. be proud of it!
Proud of you
Steve, I spent I say around 10 years (God, I lost count but was many years) after my father pointed a shotgun at my head defecating on myself. For that very long time I blamed my father for the way I was but I still did it. I'm on maybe 9 months (February this year) since I changed that habit. Almost a month since I turned 22 and nearly a year since that habit's kicked.
The next step I'm going to take starting early 2022 is kicking the addiction I've had my entire life: electronic/video games
Your videos are incredible, friend. I smugly watched this thinking I'll send it to my brother who is a wreak and by the end realised I am as well.
Step 1: live an unhealthy lifestyle.
Step 2: pretend to be a victim.
Step 3: profit.
Wow, Debbie's husband is really taking the "for poorer, in sickness" part of his vows seriously, isn't he? Something tells me that were the roles reversed, or even if he were around the same weight as she currently is or having the same problems she's having, she wouldn't be.
LOL no way she would be around
If she woke up tomorrow and was thin and healthy (it would HAVE to be magic because she can never be bothered to work for anything, ever), she is ditching him for what she would view as an upgrade man.
She would never care for him if he fell on harder times!
@@SamuelHallEngland She would disappear in five seconds and reappear with a new man. That's how you will tell that their marriage meant nothing.
If he had any sense he would try to fix her sickness.
As someone who use to be, by definition a raging alcoholic. The number one thing I have learned from my experiences. Is that you can not help someone who doesn't want to change (doesn't mean you shouldn't try). Changing for the better is never easy, it is a battle.
honestly, this hits hard for me, i have a terrible drug addiction, stemming from psycoogical trauma and severe depression, i wont lie... i realy felt personally attacked, but i cant diagree with a singe thing you said, you speak logicaly, and concise, but most importantly, its all true, im gonna keep watching your videos and try to take the advise to heart. thank you for making these videos, the word needs you
"for those of you who dont know, 1 stone is 14 pounds" yea thanks mate, converting from the island units to the freedom units is very helpful.
Yes, but how much is that in Donkeythrusts per square toenail?
Simple: stop being British.
@@Ulrich_dArth I’m dead 🤣🤣🤣
Freedom where 😂 America is the world’s psych ward
@@fracturededits6778 you right😂
It's sad people can live like this
It’s disgusting 🤮
The welfare state, Darwin rolling like a fidget spinner in his grave.
Socialism in the West will eventually collapse
"Arghhh I run 4 miles a day and half of my diet is vegetables and I just keep ballooning into a fat ass" said no one ever.
They say it all the time, watch the show: secret eaters. They all say they eat “so healthy “ and don’t understand why they are so big-must be their thyroid or metabolism
Your brain has this ability to hide things from you and your perception of yourself. I find that if I allow myself to indulge in snacks for lunch it can fester and continue on for a month or more before the effects manifest: tighter clothes, extra flab, etc.
Discipline and diligence are the only way. Bad habits quickly gain a hold otherwise.
@@doyouhavevaginaldryness1130 thyroid or metabolism my ass. That's all bullshit. It's her fault for over eating. 🙄🙄🙄
They may run 4 miles- without counting how much they had to stop and walk. I do cross country and sprinting in track and usually get 1st or second. Trust me, the obese people usually get close to last. It’s not a fluke, either.
No one person deserves to be this articulate or wise. Thank you for sharing the wealth. And it's surprisingly entertaining. Makes me feel better about myself anyway.
Debbie’s boyfriend is literally built for Debby, an abusive relationship isn’t the only thing that makes a person like that
You have obviously no clue about domestic abuse🤦♀️
@@karinland8533 I bet it started with his mother
@@realcane9908 as I said- you have no clue!
@@karinland8533 lol
@@realcane9908 As Karin said, you have literally no idea about what domestic abuse is! Don't talk about things you have no clue about.
Thanks for your educated perspective on addiction. As a binge eater I still battle with it. But I’m 120 pounds down, so I’m winning.
Congrats thats super good shit 120lb is a hell of a weight loss keep it up
Good stuff remember dont give up please dont
Hell yea! Keep winning!
congratulations we do not know eachother but i am proud of you
So proud if u.
This might be messed up, but after watching this I feel waaaay better about myself.
I'll stop cleaning my apartment after watching Hoarders 🤣
Well, don't. Don't compare yourself to people you assume are worse than you. It's a trait of weak personality.
same watching bad people makes me be a better person not necessarily bad people but people like all this yk
Yes, me too 😉
Thats the main reason these tv shows cover people like them. So the normal people can pity them and feel better about themselves.
I like this guy. He's fair and makes his argument palpable
If you can't stand for longer than 2 minutes, instead of training and losing weight, install stuff to hold on to and sit down on. Genius!
Don't address the problem, just live with it.
I bought a shower seat because I fractured my pelvis. It’s ridiculous to think that someone needs one because they are too fat to stand long enough to take a shower. Like I always say with clothes, if your clothes are getting too tight, it’s time to lose weight, not buy bigger clothes!
@@Maki-00 Absolutely, and an injury is obviously an acceptable reason to adjust your lifestyle to. Those mobility scooters are for people that have an issue walking, not for people that are so fat they find walking too much effort.
@@MHGFTW My elderly mom with arthritis in her knees and heart trouble refuses to use a mobility scooter. She has too much pride. She just uses her walker. After my injury, I walked around the grocery store with my cane, in case someone in worse shape needed the scooter. I get so pissed seeing people on mobility scooters for no other reason than just being fat!
@@Maki-00 A safe bet is to just talk to your doctor for advice. They'll tell you if your injury/disease or just general physical condition makes it more advisable to use a scooter or walker. When it comes to fat people, they might be advised to temporarily use a scooter for shopping, but they might be adviced to walk as physical activity at home. Honestly being 300lbs+ is crazy. You have to eat a crap ton to even maintain that weight. Just switching soda to diet soda would take pounds of by the dozens.
An interesting part about Lord of the Rings is that Frodo is chosen to bear the ring not because of what power he has, but rather what power he doesn’t have. The ring corrupts whomever wears it, so if Gandalf, Galadriel or Aragorn were to fall under the ring’s influence, Sauron would have powerful additions to his army capable of bringing his enemies to their knees. With Frodo, all he would have is a low level grunt. Yes Frodo is resourceful and brave, but the corruption gradually but surely replaces the wearer’s mind with its own. If LotR was written as an anime today, it would be called “The Non-Powered Halfling Is The Perfect Scapegoat for the Demon Lord’s Ring.”
I'd watch that anime
😂Petition to start that anime.
@@frumpusnumpus where is that petition and I hope the one that came up with the title and you should atleast have a reference.
Even more than what would happen if he was corrupted, the ring's influence is stronger with more powerful people. Hence why a simple hobbit with no greater ambitions than to enjoy a simple life in his home is the perfect bearer for the ring, and could carry it for a long period of time while gandalf was terrified of touching the ring for even but a fleeting moment. Nevermind that Sauron would not expect the forces of good to trust such an object to one of the weakest, least important races in middle earth.
As thorveim pointed out, although yes Frodo does make for the perfect scapegoat, the actual reason he’s chosen is because hobbits have very little desires, both in amount and magnitude, all they want is a simple life spent with friends, family and good food, which doesn’t give much for the ring to leverage in order to corrupt them, unlike dwarves, humans and even elves who all have grand ambitions in one way or another, especially humans.
Give addicts resources to get themselves better.
If they refuse the help, it's on them. 🤷♂️
That’s literally my mom on smoking Newport cigarettes. I gived up a year ago and decided to just ignore her and take care of myself.
Aren't those 1500 pounds a month the resource? The most flexible and liquid?
I'd kill to get that much a month and I work more than 40 hours a week. And you get a MAID? TF? AND my house is nowhere near that nice! Hey entire world: STOP! REWARDING! BAD! BEHAVIOR!
TBYS : "For those that don't know 1 stone is 14 pounds"
Every metric user : "Thanks, that really cleared things up"
I was wondering about that, thanks!
@Ja Tho 6.35 kg
And here I was thinking 12 was a stupid multiple of measurement
Don't blame all of us over in Imperial-land. Us yanks are just as clueless about this whole "stones" thing.
For clarification 1 Stone is 14 Pounds, or 4.3 Royal Trunks, 5.5 Nordic Arcanefish or 16 Bindaboondles. Use any unit of mesurement you want except the one that makes sense and only use 90% of the world.
i love these videos so much. i’ve been obese for most of my life, working on weight loss now, and fat acceptance is literally lethal. it makes me so upset
Ok, 3 minutes is enough. No soda before bed and a great workout while fasting tomorrow. Seriously, thanks for the inspiration.
Use the disgust you feel from seeing these fat jackasses to give you the long term drive to stay healthy, never quit, they hate that stuff
Sugar before bed usually gives me wierd dreams.
Your words around addiction are very wise - I have been struggling with a nicotine addiction.
I smoked for around 3 years straight, quit for a year, relapsed for 1.5 years, quit for a year, relapsed again for 6 months, quit for 5 months and now have been smoking for a week.
The start of every relapse started with one puff or one cigarette (usually from a friend, or family around), every time without fail.
My weakness to nicotine has been perpetuated by life events that have stripped a lot of my confidence. I have been making strides lately (even with this latest smoking phase), small steps in positive directions, more socialising, pushing myself more at work, and reaping rewards.
Keep making these videos, cheers