Right-on. Many of us were poorly raised, developing an aversion to the RIGHT HAND via being spoiled and coddled at one end of the spectrum, to mercilessly abused / neglected at the other. The middle way = way of awareness. Good parenting = proper discipline along with sweet softness: The darkness and light of love. We need to parent ourselves into seeing the beauty and necessity of BOTH aspects as one
Thank you, Kavi. “The amount of light you emit is not based on how positively you think, it’s about how much of your darkness you can accept.” - Kyle Cease
One of the key misconceptions is to view " letting things be as they are"- 1st meditative step of self inquiry- as completely pain/ effort / suffering free.
To know freedom - awareness and consciousness - you learn to stop identifying with your mind. The mind is like a faulty software - your true self is awareness of your thoughts. Observe your thoughts - and understand their insidious control over you. This is the way to freedom and happiness.🙏
On a somatic level, I notice that whenever I'm caught in one of these ways of running away from the discomfort, I'm sort of holding my breath. And then consciously breathing feels almost painful. So I've been learning to do uncomfortable things by remembering to breath.
In many ways breath is key. I remember this for myself. Deep emotion locked up in shallow breathing and restricted breath. And releasing the breathing inevitably releases discomfort and pain. x
You're sooooo right! I passed by a guy in the park a few months ago who had climbed a 5 foot chain link fence barefoot to retrieve a volley ball. He was perched on top and preparing to jump back down again, assessing and planning. Can't remember what I said as I passed, but he said, "It's ok. I just have to breathe." And then I watched him relax his body, breathe in and out a few times, and jump back down onto the sidewalk in a beautiful, seamless movement. No shock or pain. I've been carrying that moment with me to remember in times of psychological stress, and it does work as you say!! There are two benefits. It feels uncomforatable to relax and breathe. But then... breathing facilitates staying with whatever is causing discomfort.
Right-on. Many of us were poorly raised, developing an aversion to the RIGHT HAND via being spoiled and coddled at one end of the spectrum, to mercilessly abused / neglected at the other. The middle way = way of awareness. Good parenting = proper discipline along with sweet softness: The darkness and light of love. We need to parent ourselves into seeing the beauty and necessity of BOTH aspects as one
Only watched 6 of his videos,,this one is my favorite
Thank you, Kavi.
“The amount of light you emit is not based on how positively you think, it’s about how much of your darkness you can accept.”
- Kyle Cease
That's a great quote James.
Bloody brilliant - champion video 🏆🏆🏆 thanks!
Thank you! x
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One of the key misconceptions is to view " letting things be as they are"- 1st meditative step of self inquiry- as completely pain/ effort / suffering free.
@@fizywig yes a major misconception. Thanks 🙏
To know freedom - awareness and consciousness - you learn to stop identifying with your mind.
The mind is like a faulty software - your true self is awareness of your thoughts.
Observe your thoughts - and understand their insidious control over you. This is the way to freedom and happiness.🙏
I'm still having a time dealing with discomfort. The more I try to soften around it, the more it seems to exhaust my resolve.
On a somatic level, I notice that whenever I'm caught in one of these ways of running away from the discomfort, I'm sort of holding my breath. And then consciously breathing feels almost painful.
So I've been learning to do uncomfortable things by remembering to breath.
In many ways breath is key. I remember this for myself. Deep emotion locked up in shallow breathing and restricted breath. And releasing the breathing inevitably releases discomfort and pain. x
You're sooooo right! I passed by a guy in the park a few months ago who had climbed a 5 foot chain link fence barefoot to retrieve a volley ball. He was perched on top and preparing to jump back down again, assessing and planning. Can't remember what I said as I passed, but he said, "It's ok. I just have to breathe." And then I watched him relax his body, breathe in and out a few times, and jump back down onto the sidewalk in a beautiful, seamless movement. No shock or pain. I've been carrying that moment with me to remember in times of psychological stress, and it does work as you say!! There are two benefits. It feels uncomforatable to relax and breathe. But then... breathing facilitates staying with whatever is causing discomfort.
What abut physical discomfort........you left out that one.