My mother had six children with my father when all were under the age of ten the youngest just four she got involved with a married man on her job. He pumped two children into her and stayed with his wife, the grass is not always greener and this woman calls herself a Christian to this day. She told my father she needed more child support because she had two more children and he laughed in her face!
Exactly why wouldn't you want to spend any money on your wife. I don't care if it's only one income so you don't want to even buy you wife dinner, a single rose is $2 to $5 sometimes it's the little things . How did he get this lady to become his wife
Black married couples need to understand that their marriages benefit the entire Black community. Functional families are the building blocks of functional communities. Our communities are ghettos because our families are either splintered or dysfunctional. If there is no cheating or beating going on, we need you all to make it work!
We don't need marriages to have a functional community we need healed and healthy people for a functional community. 👌🏾People should be marrying for love not for the community. Our communities are only ghetto because yt people created that stereotype out of hate of BP and conditioned everyone including us to view it that way. There's plenty of single yt parents that exist but no one calls it ghetto...this stereotype needs to jump cease to exist as it's rooted in hate not reality. 👌🏾 If someone is mentally and emotionally abusing that's still abuse and people should leave. 👌🏾 Staying in a miserable marriage will never benefit anyone no matter how hard you try to make it work. 👌🏾
You are right! A solid foundation can create generational wealth, teach your children that it’s ok to receive love. If a person is in the right relationship, yes there will be issues at time but they will receive, unconditional love, support, stress less and a in house counseling to vent to. Vice being single. It’s ok to be single, but it’s better with a village and not having to worry about if you should phone a friend or family member to burden them with your problems. Look how it’s less marriages in the black community and now how kids are overtly sexual and having soul ties with anybody.
@@Love-dv6ml But your family and friends are part of the village so it wouldn't be a burden to call them for help if needed. 👌🏾kids are only overtly sexual because society created it to be this way instead of view people as human beings. Male rappers have made sex and hook up culture what it is and women just followed what they were taught by men. 🤷🏾♀️
Shoot it sounds like he don't want to do either. Talking about they agreed I tell you what I better have Valentine, Mother's Day, Birthday. and Christmas, you don't have to spend all you got but I expect for you to spend something. These things come every year. It's called plan accordingly.
So called "Big Back Women" are some of the Best women a man can have. They are loyal and treat a man like he wants to be treated. I would Never pass on a so called "Big Back Woman" because I know from experience they are Diamonds in the rough 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
@@doingit2deathBe clear. Everybody DOESN'T cheat not gets cheated on. STOP applying the trash you feed yourself mentally and emotionally and applying it to the general public. IF YOU are the one getting cheated and/or doing the cheating, that's a PERSONAL issue. You need to figure out what it is about YOU that keeps attracting ain't ish 😺 and/or 🍆. Or whatever you're into . Don't make your personal experience the burden on the public.
I don't judge but that's like being part of my crack addicted husband. I don't think you should be shamed for going through addiction but that's what obesity is
we not built to be too big , be curvy and not skinny that is ok. watch out for blood pressure and possible diabetes. y'all need to be very careful. i want my BP to live long healthy lives with minimal physical stress.
@@PHlophe Skinny ppl get hbp too hon. I know a lady right now who is very healthy looking and she just got diagnosed. I also know very chubby vegan ppl who have never eaten unheard a day in their life. I agree that ppl should stay fit though
Broken home? YOu need to be worried about being broke with no home if her spending gets crazy. But it sounds like you don't know how to have fun and forced her to sign into a agreement of never spending money which is crazy.
That first caller didn’t say a word about “How” he celebrates holidays or birthdays, etc. While the woman may be overspending and absolutely needs to get it in check. The man sounds selfish and inconsiderate.
@3:00 Get three bank accounts. 1) Yours 2)Hers and 3) a joint bank account. She can't touch yours and you both put in a percentage of your income into the joint bank account (that should be for the home and kids expenses).
With the 1st caller, his wife is going to cheat on him. Any time a woman say something about you not caring about them or loving them the same( no matter how ridiculous it is), they're going to go out and find someone to fill that "void".
To be honest, she probably already did. Women always have a dude or two that's just a phone call away. Cut your losses and move on, especially if no kids are involved. Early thirties is a perfect time to find someone new.
@sherondaness7505 My statement still stands. He needs to find an escape plan while he is still relatively young. A woman questioning your love over Shiney things is already gone.
Maaaaan the big back caller took me out ⚰️🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂 like seriously tho I wonder what he looks like😏 from what I've learned it's always the ones that don't look all that themselves trying to read someone else's look🥴 Fr tho Incredible Back was funny as hell😂
Women really do be having a lot of things going on,that make it hard to lose weight and keep it off but men have no excuse. To even lose weight in a healthy manner,testosterone has to be present and being that .. this is the thriving/ dominant hormone, so if a man can’t seem to stay lean and muscular, how could they be so hard on women, with all the things that naturally work against them staying lean. I’m a personal trainer and I’m in the south but I tell these brothers all the time ,that they make it easy for brothers that keep their bodies in A-1 condition . These women bear children and all and that changes their bodies majorly.. after the fact. From what I see from most American black male population ,especially in the south, get y’all health in order and be a reflection of what you preach and you’d be surprised, how they would be inspired by you and change the way they go about health and fitness. You gotta show em though. Talk is cheap. Men are supposed to to show and prove.. anything less is slackness.
Somethings should be off limits..dude you at your job. Why confuse the scenario by giving in to your need to get with your boss sister. Sometimes men you just have to just say no to your lust and maintain your position at your job. It's more important to have a great job to go to without all the drama thats gonna come by you hitting your boss sister up. Keep your workplace just that.."your place of work"..not a club atmosphere where you trying to hook up.
6:21 A women telling a man what she don’t play that” is wild. Fellas don’t let NO woman stop 🛑 your 💰because she will cheat & leave after hindering you.
Get a budget and stick to it. Stop buying overpriced food and non food just because you can or you frontin' and stuntin' cause you may have a few coins. You can fool others that you got money..but you can't fool yourself.
6 kids you dont have time to date. Who you putting all them kids on? C'mon son. The more kids you have the less money you have and less time you have for yourself and your relationship. It's only 24 hours in day a third your working, a third you sleep.
@@asdfghj13579fly I Having no time for your spouse is not temporary it is long-term term depending on how old the kids are. With. 6 kids the options are few and far between.
All those degrees and no employment. I’ve known a couple when his wife obtained her degree she felt that she was better than him telling him what he needs to do and to go back to school. WTF
Caller 2: Sometimes life gets tough and we just have to tough things out. 14 years and six kids, where are you going to go? Communicate with your husband and work things out together. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Too many people throw away good marriage is over temporary problems. You aren’t going to be happy all the time. That’s life. The sooner people accept that, the better off they’ll be.
even with 2 we all hit that wall at some point . i needed that help in the past and someone offered . this summer i am having my cousin's 2 boys here for the summer. they like my house a lot . but i decided to help out my cousin because he and wifey are at odds a little and separating kids from them for a couole of months will help them take a break and try to find themselves a bit.
Jess is definitely not someone who needs to be giving anyone advise..CLEARLY! At least Angela Yee could stay on topic and could read! And idc how pregnant you are, talking with a mouth full of food is very distasteful!
A date night is more important to a relationship then a haircut . Doesn’t have to expensive but if he’s not willing to do the work for the relationship he’s telling her he’s not interested in sizing the relationship . Sounds like they both fed up
Sometimes people can't tough it out. Sometimes couoles don't know how to communicate. Therapy would be a great option for rhis couple. The problem is most oeople atvthis place don't go. When they finally come, one person is halway out the door.
Jess out here pregnant 🤰🏻 eating on the radio, breaking up relationships 😂 I love it 😈😈
😂😂😂
Lmaoooo
LOL
That ish is ghetto
I really do🤣
Second caller, like Jess said, relationships go through rough patches, stick it out! 14 years and 6 kids is not worth throwing away
Right 🙏🏽
I would end myself 😭💯I’m going to to sosua & soy 6
Facts
Its not throwing it away if your spouses refuses to make time for you, have a date night and be LOVERS instead of roommates
My mother had six children with my father when all were under the age of ten the youngest just four she got involved with a married man on her job. He pumped two children into her and stayed with his wife, the grass is not always greener and this woman calls herself a Christian to this day. She told my father she needed more child support because she had two more children and he laughed in her face!
That last caller had to be TK Kirkland!😂
I was thinking that too! It sounded too much like him 😂
Hell yeah it is 😂😂😂
I swear I just typed that! That’s definitely him
It definitely is once I heard him laugh I’m like that gotta be TK
It do sound like him😂😂😂 incredible back's 😂
I don’t understand why y’all call in as married people asking Jess for advice 🙄
Exactly.. I was thinking the same thing
Facts!! Is she even married! No
Deadass, I was just about to comment the same thing!
Seriously 💯💯
But she gave such sound advice to caller 2.
First caller sounds like he is leaving out details… lol
Yep!
Yep! I heard that too! He sound like he a dusty(in my Shera 7 voice)
I thought I was the only one who thought that
@@TinaKimAliseLLC Calling him a dusty is a dead giveaway that you're a single bitter BW
Exactly why wouldn't you want to spend any money on your wife. I don't care if it's only one income so you don't want to even buy you wife dinner, a single rose is $2 to $5 sometimes it's the little things . How did he get this lady to become his wife
How can you NOT LIKE JESS?!!! ❤❤❤❤ her advice for the wife in school with the truck driver husband, was on point! And she’s HILARIOUS! ❤❤❤
Black married couples need to understand that their marriages benefit the entire Black community. Functional families are the building blocks of functional communities.
Our communities are ghettos because our families are either splintered or dysfunctional.
If there is no cheating or beating going on, we need you all to make it work!
We don't need marriages to have a functional community we need healed and healthy people for a functional community. 👌🏾People should be marrying for love not for the community.
Our communities are only ghetto because yt people created that stereotype out of hate of BP and conditioned everyone including us to view it that way. There's plenty of single yt parents that exist but no one calls it ghetto...this stereotype needs to jump cease to exist as it's rooted in hate not reality. 👌🏾
If someone is mentally and emotionally abusing that's still abuse and people should leave. 👌🏾 Staying in a miserable marriage will never benefit anyone no matter how hard you try to make it work. 👌🏾
You are right! A solid foundation can create generational wealth, teach your children that it’s ok to receive love. If a person is in the right relationship, yes there will be issues at time but they will receive, unconditional love, support, stress less and a in house counseling to vent to. Vice being single. It’s ok to be single, but it’s better with a village and not having to worry about if you should phone a friend or family member to burden them with your problems. Look how it’s less marriages in the black community and now how kids are overtly sexual and having soul ties with anybody.
THANK YOU!
@@Love-dv6ml But your family and friends are part of the village so it wouldn't be a burden to call them for help if needed. 👌🏾kids are only overtly sexual because society created it to be this way instead of view people as human beings. Male rappers have made sex and hook up culture what it is and women just followed what they were taught by men. 🤷🏾♀️
I agree with you to an extent but I think the key word is functional marriages. I also think education is more important to a successful community.
I enjoyed what Jess had to spill this morning , the growth is definitely showing . Great job Jess. On this Sunday morning 6:27 from California .
It truly is
Last caller..
T.K Kirkland.. The voice and laugh gave it away!! 😁 Smh Stop playing on the phone 😂
Nah..its close but that's not him...😂
That truck driver is just stressed .. man y’all missing that
‘Try one big back’ what is this the state fair😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣
I’m cryinggggg 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
🌎Worst times are coming in the world but GREATER is coming in the kingdom 🙌🏾
Make sure you're in the Kingdom!!!!💜
CThaG is loving this too much. His uncontrollable laughing lol
That guy took too long to tell the story 🙄
Absolutely....He is a LONG TALKER 😮😮😮😮😮😮
Nigga was pausing like a mf 😅
That man was disrespectful asf. His laugh mad annoying too. You don’t like them, ignore them. Tf.
First call just need a budget for birthday and holidays.
I was thinking the same thing. A birthday/holiday account for those occasions.
Shoot it sounds like he don't want to do either. Talking about they agreed I tell you what I better have Valentine, Mother's Day, Birthday. and Christmas, you don't have to spend all you got but I expect for you to spend something. These things come every year. It's called plan accordingly.
The husband makes more money. He should just pay all the bills and let his Queen use her funds for all the extra expenses like birthdays and holidays.
So called "Big Back Women" are some of the Best women a man can have. They are loyal and treat a man like he wants to be treated. I would Never pass on a so called "Big Back Woman" because I know from experience they are Diamonds in the rough 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
More for you.
Damn. Sucks for you
Everybody cheats. Even big backs
@@doingit2deathBe clear. Everybody DOESN'T cheat not gets cheated on. STOP applying the trash you feed yourself mentally and emotionally and applying it to the general public. IF YOU are the one getting cheated and/or doing the cheating, that's a PERSONAL issue. You need to figure out what it is about YOU that keeps attracting ain't ish 😺 and/or 🍆. Or whatever you're into . Don't make your personal experience the burden on the public.
I don't judge but that's like being part of my crack addicted husband. I don't think you should be shamed for going through addiction but that's what obesity is
👋Very proud member of the Big Back Brigade here! Hubby is a Big Back too, and... We have so much FUN together 😆😆😆!
we not built to be too big , be curvy and not skinny that is ok. watch out for blood pressure and possible diabetes. y'all need to be very careful. i want my BP to live long healthy lives with minimal physical stress.
@@PHlophe Skinny ppl get hbp too hon. I know a lady right now who is very healthy looking and she just got diagnosed. I also know very chubby vegan ppl who have never eaten unheard a day in their life. I agree that ppl should stay fit though
At least yall confident
She just smacking all in the 🎤
The one who called about the big backs sounds like one himself
I was thinking that. Everything about him sounds like he's never even walked by a gym, never mind went inside.
Broken home? YOu need to be worried about being broke with no home if her spending gets crazy. But it sounds like you don't know how to have fun and forced her to sign into a agreement of never spending money which is crazy.
Yeah….and that’s called being a slave. Might as well be single.
Agreed. Especially since she’s working. Sounds controlling.
@@bluebutterfly5684 yep!
Sounds like he knew who she was when he got with her and tried to change her.
@@brittanyjohnson375 true
6 kids and one bread winner yup that alone is a lot
6 kids? Yeah, you’re cooked.
Exactly where she going? she better work that out lol
Real rap 😂😂😂😂
@@SmooveTV718where he going is the question? Child support gon be nutz😂
@@SnakeyD8468he got a better chance at another person than her
I can't get over the title😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
This whole big back sh!t is wild!
Shelle, very wile SMH !
Harmony is the best way to restore your peace in one another forgiveness and never putting yourself above or below the ones you love 💕
Every time I hear the term big back women I think of the movie Silence of the Lambs and size 14 shirts. It puts the lotion on it's skin
@bigolbabyhuey Well damn…
I watch breakfast club faithfully now because of Jess . Good addition to the radio show
I have been married 26 years. I am not qualified to give relationship advice. What has worked for us will not work for someone else.
these married couple need marriage counseling and not asking advice on the radio
Yep, he loves the Big Backs for real! 😅😂
Exactly all the denial and roasting is a dead giveaway he want some big back😂😂😂
PRAYERS TO THAT FIRST HOME..LETS GO DAD.
Y'all will never understand how many times I rewinded Jess's reaction to the last caller soon as he opened his mouth bro 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 💀💀💀💀💀💀💀
That nurse she going through it, shout out to the nurses
Was on point with that 3rd caller regarding the boss's younger sister.
Is that TK Kirkland?
The advice you gave to Tre was some good advice. You try to keep your home together but there are some dealbreakers that you can’t ignore.
Big back is a highlight discussion nowadays on the breakfast club👌👌👌
Ikr😂
Did CthaGOD coin the term? Cuz I swear I didn't hear it till he started saying it.
The term bug back has been out for many years. But it's become highlighted within the past year@@SmooveTV718
@@SmooveTV718 he did
@@SmooveTV718 Term been around for a while, he might just have re-popularize it…🤣
12:34 plot twist the brother gon be like "Not again! She do this with every dude I hire"😂🤣
JESS YOUR NOT MARRIED WAT R U TALKING ABOUT😂😂🤦🏽♂️😂
The black community could stand to raise it's standards, less Meghan and Trashy Red.
The caller sent for her.
That first caller didn’t say a word about “How” he celebrates holidays or birthdays, etc.
While the woman may be overspending and absolutely needs to get it in check. The man sounds selfish and inconsiderate.
We don't know what he considers over spending though
@3:00 Get three bank accounts. 1) Yours 2)Hers and 3) a joint bank account. She can't touch yours and you both put in a percentage of your income into the joint bank account (that should be for the home and kids expenses).
Nobody who isn't married or has a successful marriage should be giving marriage advice.. That's crazy
I don't think a comedian I qualified to fix nobody's mess.
With the 1st caller, his wife is going to cheat on him. Any time a woman say something about you not caring about them or loving them the same( no matter how ridiculous it is), they're going to go out and find someone to fill that "void".
To be honest, she probably already did. Women always have a dude or two that's just a phone call away. Cut your losses and move on, especially if no kids are involved. Early thirties is a perfect time to find someone new.
Y’all both sound stupid
Facts
@bradleyjames1379 they have 2 kids
@sherondaness7505
My statement still stands. He needs to find an escape plan while he is still relatively young. A woman questioning your love over Shiney things is already gone.
I know she not eating on air yo lol 🤦🏾♂️
😂 who gonna check the pregnant lady
She’s pregnant.
"Go ahead and lose that job brotha." Lmao
As a married woman this is weird calling for real advice from someone who’s never been married let alone engaged! Lol😂😂
The second caller needs to work it out, maybe they should see a marriage counselor
Jess said there’s a reason for that big back. 😂😂. Don’t knock it till you try it.
This was a great segment. I'm so proud of Jess
He said my cousin Charla messed with 😂😂😂
Call it out 😂😂😂
Big back gang 🤘🏽😝
The show's Candid, Precise and Genuine👏👏👏!
Why that last caller sound like my dad lol
😂😂😂
The last caller definitely sounds like he got a big back 😆😆😆
“Lose that job” man why is Jess giving advice lmao
I 💭🤔 the same thannng
Jess should not be giving advice I swear
Thank u
Maaaaan the big back caller took me out ⚰️🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂 like seriously tho I wonder what he looks like😏 from what I've learned it's always the ones that don't look all that themselves trying to read someone else's look🥴 Fr tho Incredible Back was funny as hell😂
I fw DJ Envy “you want me to hang up?” 😂💯
Why do people ask her for help lol , but whatever it’s entertaining.
JFMM is cool but a married person asking a single woman whose never been married for advice is wild lol
That last caller doing too much. I guess it was funny a couple seconds but you was dragging it.
Not the guy exposing Charla 💀
3rd caller don't crap where you eat especially with the boss sister.
Women really do be having a lot of things going on,that make it hard to lose weight and keep it off but men have no excuse. To even lose weight in a healthy manner,testosterone has to be present and being that .. this is the thriving/ dominant hormone, so if a man can’t seem to stay lean and muscular, how could they be so hard on women, with all the things that naturally work against them staying lean. I’m a personal trainer and I’m in the south but I tell these brothers all the time ,that they make it easy for brothers that keep their bodies in A-1 condition . These women bear children and all and that changes their bodies majorly.. after the fact. From what I see from most American black male population ,especially in the south, get y’all health in order and be a reflection of what you preach and you’d be surprised, how they would be inspired by you and change the way they go about health and fitness. You gotta show em though. Talk is cheap. Men are supposed to to show and prove.. anything less is slackness.
The enemy steals destinies, repent!
Romans 10:13
1 John 1:9
I love Jess. I don’t know why people hate on her. I love her on the show.
Can yall stop eating on air? Seems so unprofessional
I hate that shit! I will click off my favorite RUclipsr's video if they start out eating. I hate it!
Somethings should be off limits..dude you at your job. Why confuse the scenario by giving in to your need to get with your boss sister. Sometimes men you just have to just say no to your lust and maintain your position at your job. It's more important to have a great job to go to without all the drama thats gonna come by you hitting your boss sister up. Keep your workplace just that.."your place of work"..not a club atmosphere where you trying to hook up.
and if it doesn't work out, his last check and an exit box will be awaiting him.
6:21 A women telling a man what she don’t play that” is wild. Fellas don’t let NO woman stop 🛑 your 💰because she will cheat & leave after hindering you.
Get a budget and stick to it. Stop buying overpriced food and non food just because you can or you frontin' and stuntin' cause you may have a few coins. You can fool others that you got money..but you can't fool yourself.
What are you even babbling about?
@@pretty_wingzI was thinking the same thing 😂😂😂
6 kids you dont have time to date. Who you putting all them kids on? C'mon son. The more kids you have the less money you have and less time you have for yourself and your relationship. It's only 24 hours in day a third your working, a third you sleep.
It’s crazy she was considering ending a 14 relationship over temporary feelings. How is it that easy and where would she go from there?
@@asdfghj13579fly I Having no time for your spouse is not temporary it is long-term term depending on how old the kids are. With. 6 kids the options are few and far between.
Dis ninja holding you and 6 kids down and you tried of him, SMH.
Asking a 2x BM for advice is crazy!!!
Michele Obama said she hated barrack for 10 years lol. But they been together for 30. So 20 good years.
I still don't understand why she'd admit to that. That's something she should've kept to herself out of respect for her husband.
She's said that one too many times. I started side-eyeing her for it because between the two, he DEFINITELY seems more likable.
@@sharonjo7630 Agreed. It also makes her sound extremely annoying every single time the topic comes up.
Yayyyy black people no longer think being built like lizzo and rozay is cool anymore. 👏🏿👏🏿🎉
I’ll never forget that photo of women in the 80s - 90s
What photo?
First caller need to just separate they accounts and she can pay for her bday wit her money
Yeah 6 kids he knows where the stress is are we serious don't need counselor
I can't imagine having 6 kids this day and time. That's constant stress with the cost of living these days.
@@kathyrodriguez820True. Even if you do got bread like that, if you’re an active parent, you aren’t getting ANY days off.
Still need a counselor to help them navigate handling stress in a healthy way… they’re failing at doing it on their own
@@craziinancy1 money and time that's all we can do with counseling they know that
Put the big backs in The gym. They look terrible and its unnecessary.
Dude needs to look elsewhere.
Y is Jess speaking on marriage tho ? I wldnt take marriage advice from an unmarried person.
The second caller needs to see a marriage counselor.
You got 6 kids by him. Get over it and deal with it.
that's TK Kirkland on the phone
All those degrees and no employment. I’ve known a couple when his wife obtained her degree she felt that she was better than him telling him what he needs to do and to go back to school. WTF
Caller 2: Sometimes life gets tough and we just have to tough things out. 14 years and six kids, where are you going to go? Communicate with your husband and work things out together. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Too many people throw away good marriage is over temporary problems. You aren’t going to be happy all the time. That’s life. The sooner people accept that, the better off they’ll be.
even with 2 we all hit that wall at some point . i needed that help in the past and someone offered . this summer i am having my cousin's 2 boys here for the summer. they like my house a lot . but i decided to help out my cousin because he and wifey are at odds a little and separating kids from them for a couole of months will help them take a break and try to find themselves a bit.
@5:00 Six kids is 4 too many. They should have stopped at 2.
First caller is a control freak. I feel like holidays and birthdays are a good time to spend a little money. Thats why I'm GLAD i make my own money.
Jess is definitely not someone who needs to be giving anyone advise..CLEARLY! At least Angela Yee could stay on topic and could read!
And idc how pregnant you are, talking with a mouth full of food is very distasteful!
You got a nerve talking about relationships Jess 😮
First caller, yo wife a gold digger not a goal digger
A date night is more important to a relationship then a haircut . Doesn’t have to expensive but if he’s not willing to do the work for the relationship he’s telling her he’s not interested in sizing the relationship . Sounds like they both fed up
MARRIAGE COUNSELING!!!!
FINANCIAL COUNSELING!!!
That title lol😂
Sometimes people can't tough it out. Sometimes couoles don't know how to communicate. Therapy would be a great option for rhis couple. The problem is most oeople atvthis place don't go. When they finally come, one person is halway out the door.
Did that last caller say that Charlemagne was messing with his cousin in south Carolina? Or was I hearing things because they skipped over that one 😮
Jess noooooo the sister work at the job too! No way
She got six kids with this man he put her through school. She is starting to feel like she is above him... She tripping. Sounds reel selfish
🎯💯
The second caller Jess actually gave really good marriage advice.