How to be an energetically attractive and confident lover

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  • Опубликовано: 24 ноя 2024

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  • @heirsoleil
    @heirsoleil 4 месяца назад +500

    “I try not to concern myself with the karma of others.” Growing up in the South especially, being in other people’s business is a cultural pastime that I don’t feel comfortable with, but try not to judge or bring the vibe down around. I love that wording.

    • @chillcreature737
      @chillcreature737 4 месяца назад +16

      As someone from the South as well this is so real. Everyone is always in someone else’s business, or telling their business. 💀

    • @TheCosmicCinem4
      @TheCosmicCinem4 4 месяца назад +8

      I had the same experience, It is so true, I always feel better when I focus on myself, my life and the people around me and all the good things we have, whenever they bring things up like the looks of a person or what happened to them I stay out of it as much as possible

  • @gabsasusual
    @gabsasusual 4 месяца назад +160

    Everytime I watch one of these videos I think to myself “Is she aware that she’s saving lives?” bc she saved mine.

  • @moonbread2334
    @moonbread2334 4 месяца назад +391

    Refusing people's offers (bc you're worried about burdening them) = cutting off a cycle of reciprocation that could happen!! Ahh wow that's such a good way of putting it. I needed to hear that.

  • @wubwzrd
    @wubwzrd 4 месяца назад +131

    "Make being yourself a revolution." 🌿

  • @zsrillanka
    @zsrillanka 4 месяца назад +439

    "You are intense"- my bf said recently. My first reaction was weird, like whaaat...Then after a while I thought for myself, well, FINALLY! I am not making myself small for others anymore, I express myself more and more, share my joy of being alive, I try to make the most out of my days in a playful way...so yeah, i am intense and proud of it:) also...Hitomi, your voice is not "little", not a chance! Your videos help so many human beings «3

    • @nina-w
      @nina-w 4 месяца назад +20

      intensity is a gift!

    • @illuminatedCrowsHeart
      @illuminatedCrowsHeart 4 месяца назад +15

      Intense is bold, vibrant, filled with vitality, exuberant, over flowing !! ❤

    • @marty3456hgn
      @marty3456hgn 2 месяца назад +2

      Oh gosh I am very intense too and I suppress it a little bit cause I don’t want to scare others away but man I’m a passionate lover and just really excited about life and love and getting to share that with the people I care about. I’m glad you’re in a better place and I’m working on slowly breaking my walls down.

    • @katkatungu8813
      @katkatungu8813 2 месяца назад

      I can relate bc I get you're too much alot

  • @1artist4u2b
    @1artist4u2b 4 месяца назад +78

    Hitomi your words means art and your art mean the world to me

  • @juliannascott4705
    @juliannascott4705 4 месяца назад +27

    Your videos remind me of how capable I am, especially while the world is so turbulent. We can positively affect those around us more than we know!

  • @kaylanrosa
    @kaylanrosa 4 месяца назад +95

    Your last point really brought me back to the book Braiding Sweetgrass. I so often find that beautiful current of reciprocity in my travels. It’s beautiful to receive blessings and then be the blessing back in new ways.

    • @Isaure143
      @Isaure143 4 месяца назад

      I love braiding sweetgrass! Such a good book.

    • @elisullivan7392
      @elisullivan7392 4 месяца назад +7

      Me too! I am lying in a hammock right now resting my head on that book as a pillow while watching this video, about to read the next chapter. Fun coincidence :)

    • @wildawake.experience
      @wildawake.experience 4 месяца назад +1

      reading it right noww!

  • @sanjanaa5195
    @sanjanaa5195 3 месяца назад +12

    her voice makes me feel so good. I'm so grateful to exist in the world where she does.

  • @flamingomingo9810
    @flamingomingo9810 4 месяца назад +36

    I love that point you made about sensuality and things such as being aware of how the sunlight hits you/ bodily movements. I’ve been struggling with this the past few months because my walls have come down more and I’ve been worried that they are threatening to myself and others (but mainly others). Just taking that in and accepting that you will have to go through a phase of discomfort and “revolution” because this sensitivity is so intertwined with the western view of sexuality, aside from the fact that it brings all intentions into the light, has been so liberating to get past.

  • @alicia10387
    @alicia10387 4 месяца назад +41

    Ugh love the way she thinks already a minute in and I resonate with the reframe of instead of saying “I wish that could be me.” To “I’d love to try that some day.” Which is so much lighter and freeing! I’d even add “I’d like to know more about how this person did this or that.” Seeing each other as teammates rather than competitors.

  • @featherhead181
    @featherhead181 3 месяца назад +16

    Girl, you really always remind me to be my best self and to be more compassionate with myself. I’m so happy and grateful we coexist on the same timeline ❤

  • @Momocreme
    @Momocreme 4 месяца назад +214

    The videos lately have been slaying Hitomi🫶🏼

  • @fionapolgari48
    @fionapolgari48 4 месяца назад +53

    Hitomi, I love your videos so much!! They always give me a sense of peace, break me out of the negative cycles in my mind, and ground me in the present. I love what you said about saying "yes" to experiences more. I definitely notice that when I'm stressed and anxious, I tend to avoid meeting new people and doing new things "until I get my life sorted out," even though it would probably help me to do just that if I said yes, rather than continuing to be stuck in that negative space. To anyone reading this, we're all in it together, dealing with our own challenges, so don't be too harsh with yourself, and remember that taking up space is okay and allowed. Asking for help is allowed. You can lean on other people because people WANT to be leaned on! Much love xx

  • @Createyour_great
    @Createyour_great 4 месяца назад +14

    I identify so much with the example you gave of a friend giving a cup of water, I really was like that before, never letting anyone help me with anything. But I am not like that anymore and I feel so much freer, I am excited to feel even more open and free in this world. Thank you so much for this insight and little conversation about confidence

  • @broketraveluster6515
    @broketraveluster6515 4 месяца назад +6

    I’m definitely a “I’ll get it myself “ or “do it myself “ kind of person and I never thought of it from your perspective!

  • @divergentprici
    @divergentprici 4 месяца назад +8

    Lately your videos have made me confident about posting again on RUclips, the value and healing I received seeing your daily life in this adorable cabin made me realize how important it is to share, whatever it is that you have to say to the world 🌹

  • @jvlcixm
    @jvlcixm 4 месяца назад +5

    Honestly, Hitomi, wow. I think this was the most impactful thing I have ever ever heard in my life. I am on this journey of becoming more true to myself - kind, loving, unapologetic of who I am, trusting and spreading positivity everywhere I go. and I get those moments when I am with people who are completely the opposite (I am trying not to do that, but I don't control who I work with for example unfortunately), when people are so negative and complain and are rude when I think that it doesn't make sense to be different from them, because I come off as weird or extremely like pacifistic or something? I had a lot of reflections about it lately and you really spoke to me here - that it makes sense, that this is my path and I don't have to care about what other people would think of it. thank you so much. you are such an inspiration and I think watching this video is a pivotal moment for me. just thank you, again. I hope you're having the loveliest time

  • @Mr.MasonCat
    @Mr.MasonCat 4 месяца назад +5

    im so happy to have you in my existence hitomi... Thank you for being who you are!

  • @elisanapoletano
    @elisanapoletano 4 месяца назад +23

    Safe place, ethereal good vibes as always Hitomi x

  • @deanzaherrera2256
    @deanzaherrera2256 4 месяца назад +2

    “Nothing that you are could ever be wrong”

  • @divinaryf3703
    @divinaryf3703 3 месяца назад +1

    „Let people love you“ made me instantly cry. Thank you❤

  • @jasminemassey4283
    @jasminemassey4283 4 месяца назад +3

    You’re so sweet! Self love oozes from you and holds space for others in such a beautiful way✨

  • @ri35685
    @ri35685 4 месяца назад +3

    Your videos always feel like a warm hug, but on the internet!! I so appreciate you being so vulnerable on things like social media, when being vulnerbale just in real life can be hard enough - you def inspire me to try and 'be' love!

  • @samgween
    @samgween 4 месяца назад +4

    For real I needed to hear this. I’ve been feeling ashamed of my actions and who I am recently and this video just brought me back to my self ❤

  • @Mystic_Paths
    @Mystic_Paths Месяц назад +1

    Confidence starts with truly loving and accepting yourself. Practice self-compassion, focus on your strengths, and work on your self-esteem. When you’re grounded in self-love, you don’t seek validation from others.

  • @ankitadas3400
    @ankitadas3400 4 месяца назад +2

    I love listening to you and the wisdom you share. At times being in a space where there's a lot of clashing energies I can't escape, makes me question my self of being. Days like today where i get the time to clean, cook for myself, and take care of my body help me to ground myself and throughout my routine, i always have your videos on. I learn something new every time, today I learned how i should let people do something for me when they want to and that it's not a step back from my side but rather it's about letting them take a step towards me.

  • @alicia10387
    @alicia10387 4 месяца назад +1

    Aww this is the sweetest comment section ever. You guys are so kind!💕

  • @violab4
    @violab4 4 месяца назад +2

    I genuinely love your energy. I felt pretty exhausted rn and also even kinda negative bc of it and within the few first seconds of your video I just felt better and more grateful. Your videos are so healing, thank you❤️

  • @SimonesBlankCanvas
    @SimonesBlankCanvas 4 месяца назад +4

    I often hear your voice in my head giving me words of wisdom and speaking beautiful poetry about life! Thank you queen!

  • @F4R4DISE
    @F4R4DISE 4 месяца назад

    Love how the little light reflections on the wall change with every cut✨ two new affirmations I got from this video:
    I am excited to share myself
    I trigger aliveness in the people around me 🥺💗

    • @F4R4DISE
      @F4R4DISE 4 месяца назад

      I let people love me ✨

  • @SoulfulReflections888
    @SoulfulReflections888 2 месяца назад +1

    You are such a light, your energy is healing

  • @fp2551
    @fp2551 4 месяца назад +4

    Wow, I havent clicked on one of your videos in maybe 2 or 3 years (I was in a deep depression and the messages from your channel were really difficult to connect with and tbh made me really angry because i couldnt access that part of me any more). Anyway, you seem to have grown up some much, in such an amazing way. Youre so authentic and balanced, its really inspiring

  • @TheFernASMR
    @TheFernASMR 4 месяца назад +1

    I love how you see the world and how you find words for feelings I couldn’t speak out 🧚‍♂️

  • @BaumbChell
    @BaumbChell 4 месяца назад +1

    you are a very safe space hitomi, thank you for always being there

  • @Littlejadedragoni_11
    @Littlejadedragoni_11 4 месяца назад +4

    HITOMIIII CAN YOU PLS DO A VIDEO ON POLYAMORY? And Monogamy? Like a objective view on both and how to deal with a relationship where 1 partner wants/needs to be “free” and see other people and the other partner not feeling this need at all!

  • @julzamidala2865
    @julzamidala2865 4 месяца назад +1

    Hitomi I love your unique way of expressing essential truths about life, love and everything in between.

  • @danirazuk9583
    @danirazuk9583 2 месяца назад +1

    You are literally a role model to me! You appeared to me in the perfect timing and I’m so glad for it! Continue to be this amazing human being. Lots of love ❤

  • @srichard1232158
    @srichard1232158 4 месяца назад

    You are amazing. Whenever I am feeling lost, I know I can come here and feel so safe and inspired. Thank you Hitomi!

  • @h3neystars
    @h3neystars 4 месяца назад +2

    the way the timing of this video is perfect ... thank you so much hitomi

  • @Pales_a
    @Pales_a 4 месяца назад +4

    Why do you sound so poetic 😮❤

  • @kalopsias
    @kalopsias 4 месяца назад +2

    this channel is my safe space !! and the message always comes at the right time. i know you're not a perfect person either of course, but that is exactly why the lessons i take from you & your journey have been so valuable in becoming the best version of myself !! thank you so much

  • @antslife5839
    @antslife5839 4 месяца назад

    you’ve been my favorite not even just youtuber but just one of my favorite humans for so long! ur impact is truly so powerful and shiny

  • @stuhproductions
    @stuhproductions 4 месяца назад +1

    I adore you so much. This video reminded me that we are truly all the teacher and the student… girl if you ever have a meet up I will be there!!

  • @madebym5359
    @madebym5359 4 месяца назад

    I miss these intimate talks and deep convos of inspiration, insight, and optimism and realness . I love how calm and peaceful and articulate you are. Your energy comes through the videos and content so intimately and perfectly. Always always am i thankful every time u post of how lucky am i to have found you or simply to consume such content, and for people like Hitomi to exist in the lifetime of mine. Only wished i had them as friends in real life lmao . Much love 💗

  • @amandajaneh
    @amandajaneh 4 месяца назад +3

    Going to put this video on repeat this summer. Thank you ❤❤

  • @kyaoglesby
    @kyaoglesby 4 месяца назад +6

    Thank you Hitomi ❤

  • @jeremymullinax6982
    @jeremymullinax6982 4 месяца назад +1

    I could feel your good mood oozing in this video Hitomi. Loved it

  • @SSL_SSL
    @SSL_SSL 4 месяца назад +1

    Your videos are the very essence of music to my ears. Your quintessence is in my circle of energy. It's a positive vibe and I will pass that on to others !!! To your fans and followers, you are already appreciated and loved; now, you need more of them !!!

  • @mrautynka
    @mrautynka 3 месяца назад +1

    Your invitation for listening the episode got me. Masterpiece. Such a beautiful invitation. 14:43

  • @Samadhicat
    @Samadhicat 4 месяца назад

    I love being deep and I being around people like you ❤

  • @doralicebenedusi5752
    @doralicebenedusi5752 4 месяца назад

    "Make being yourself a revolution" ❤

  • @habibbdvs
    @habibbdvs 4 месяца назад

    This video is so inspiring! Being present, embracing your unique gifts, and radiating confidence can truly transform your life and relationships.

  • @nadiabarmasse5294
    @nadiabarmasse5294 4 месяца назад

    Your RUclips channel is a safe space to me, really I mean it, you helped me so much with all your videos, I cannot thank you enough 🥺💖

  • @jordynnwhite4812
    @jordynnwhite4812 4 месяца назад

    Lately in my life your videos have been a safe haven and a outlet for so much wisdom and comfort, and I just want to thank you so much Hitomi for creating that safe space here for us on the interwebs 💗 I'm so grateful for how much you pour into us and how much you inspire us in the ways you pour into yourself 🙏🏽 I love you so much Hitomi

  • @rozaSkroza
    @rozaSkroza 3 месяца назад

    every time I start your video, I can't stop watching.
    this is *so* in alignment with what I'm processing and learning rn.
    thank you ❤

  • @ro2974
    @ro2974 4 месяца назад +2

    loved this video! if you don't mind i would love to see you talk about how you deepen your relationships esp long distance relationships?

  • @nova_summer
    @nova_summer 4 месяца назад

    Currently solo traveling and I always hear “I could never do that” and always have the thought of “why not?? You can do anything you wanttttt!!!” And I think hearing that in this video showed me how much I’ve grown and how beautiful the life I’ve created for myself is ✨✨🥰 thank you for this

  • @Birdiescabin
    @Birdiescabin 4 месяца назад

    The ending, ugh I felt it deep in my heart. You definitely help to return to my authentic self. Thank you!

  • @heaven.on.earth.podcast
    @heaven.on.earth.podcast 4 месяца назад

    I love your genuine thank you at the end hehe ! But it’s crazy how when you follow people on social media and keep up with their videos/ posts etc they really can be a little voice in your head. so many times have i returned to something you’ve said in your video ! It definitely inspires me to be that voice for others. We all have so much to add to the world and when we can all help each other out it is just so so beautiful

  • @nuthig8968
    @nuthig8968 4 месяца назад +2

    hitomi... could you do a guided meditation? with your voice and aura it could be perfect 🥰💕💕💕

  • @m00nsp3ck
    @m00nsp3ck 2 месяца назад +1

    I’ve been watching your videos for yearsss and recently I have been avoiding your content and I’m not entirely sure why.. but I think it has something to do with me not living authentically and not wanting to face your genuine, authentic expression in fear it would trigger me??? IDK but I’m glad I jumped back into your world, it’s so gracious and the reminders are so gentle and filled with love and intention. Nothing to be scared of. Thank you hitomi for existing and creating a safe space to land in whenever

  • @morgzee3361
    @morgzee3361 4 месяца назад +5

    Grateful for this content hitomi🙏🏼💌💌💌✨💐

  • @katlantas5674
    @katlantas5674 4 месяца назад

    I'm so grateful I get to hear these inspiring and loving thoughts that were formed by such deep experiences, by a person who feels and thinks so intensely. I take these positive thoughts I gain from hearing you speak and try to give back to other people as a more vulnerable and open being. Thank you for being here and sharing some of yourself.

  • @Hope-vh6yy
    @Hope-vh6yy 4 месяца назад +1

    you speak soooo deeply into my soul I feel so seen

  • @furnisseugene
    @furnisseugene 4 месяца назад

    You really are so wise and comforting Hitomi, you have a very universal energy which is truly so radiant ☺️ I want to say the same for everyone here too, and for being on this healing and life journey even when it can get really rough at times. Know you’re enough and have unique gifts to bring to the universe 💗✨

  • @ellauchi7062
    @ellauchi7062 3 месяца назад

    What a beautiful soul you have❤️ Your energy is so radiant and it makes me really want to bring out more of my authentic self☺️

  • @naberslauren
    @naberslauren 4 месяца назад

    I’ve been having such a hard day today and your little voice did help me find some beauty in my inner world. I’m going to be thinking about everything you said for a long time 🦋✨Thank you so much Hitomi 🙏

  • @anna-melina
    @anna-melina 4 месяца назад +1

    Love you soo much and please remember - everything will be alright again

  • @catarinaferreira6751
    @catarinaferreira6751 4 месяца назад

    I really trully love you Hitomi ❤ You've helped me loving myself and get through depressive times, and let myself be seen by this beautifull world! Thank you so much for that 😊 just keep shining 💫

  • @daniguetschow5377
    @daniguetschow5377 4 месяца назад

    I would love you to do a podcast. Your voice feels really calming to me and I love listening to your thoughts

  • @janjirah
    @janjirah 4 месяца назад

    I love these talking videos 🤗 i often watch them 2-3 times as they really resonate with me and i can return to them and receive the message again and again 🩷 thank you Hitomi 🙏🏻

  • @Creativities123
    @Creativities123 4 месяца назад +1

    thank you so much for this Hitomi, this message came at the most perfect time. i am so grateful to you!!! thank you for doing what you do.

  • @Jeannagrace_
    @Jeannagrace_ 4 месяца назад +1

    Thank you for being an encouraging narrative in my lil brain

  • @LawrenceFrank-nu3tw
    @LawrenceFrank-nu3tw 4 месяца назад

    My new genius guru. Nice to hear from a clear mind

  • @calcam2100
    @calcam2100 Месяц назад +1

    lots of 💎s here! i liked the part about receiving/reciprocity and the example you used with making friends dinner and if they declined u would feel sad. i tend to say “oh no it’s okay, I can do it” as well in whatever context. So this was very eye opening, and an element to receiving that I over looked because I try to be so gracious. I will now start saying yes more when offered things (when it makes sense). Thank you for this insight!!! 🦋💓

  • @talikauffman343
    @talikauffman343 4 месяца назад +2

    LOVE U HITOMI

  • @chloediamond7
    @chloediamond7 4 месяца назад

    your videos always feel so nurturing, thank you for being you and allowing me and so many others to learn how to become more comfortable and alive in our bodies:)

  • @balelegoabe4364
    @balelegoabe4364 4 месяца назад +1

    ahhh, this was so wholesome - such excellent reminders! Thank you!

  • @rafaellarocha4732
    @rafaellarocha4732 3 месяца назад

    Thanks for being a friend

  • @stellatownshend4250
    @stellatownshend4250 4 месяца назад

    You’re so wise, I am beyond grateful for you 🙏🏼

  • @umekothefirst
    @umekothefirst 4 месяца назад +1

    this video was actually so eye opening for me, thank you so much for the advice hitomi!!

  • @steffi7141
    @steffi7141 4 месяца назад +3

    heyy hitomi thank you so much for the wisdom! Had my notes out all the way through :) you truly are so needed on this platform!

  • @amylouisemai
    @amylouisemai 4 месяца назад

    the content you create is fun and I adore it. thank you for showing up authentically. i have been desiring to become a better storyteller, and this video was an encouragement.

  • @ArchiesLens
    @ArchiesLens 4 месяца назад +1

    “Make your internal world beautiful” I love that🥹💕

  • @vicky_thegiantpossum
    @vicky_thegiantpossum 4 месяца назад

    I really like your vibe and your mindset ! When I lack confidence in myself or my body (most of the time it's my body tho XD) you are here to remind me that i am so much more and really, I don't have to care about that. You are so acceptant and positive that I feel accepted. It's really nice of you, thank you for doing what you do

    • @vicky_thegiantpossum
      @vicky_thegiantpossum 4 месяца назад

      And honestly it's real, when I hang out with people, I'm not like.. "They are not great person because of this, of their weight or idk", I just love them for who they are. That's why we are friends !

  • @ChaiTogether
    @ChaiTogether 4 месяца назад +1

    I really needed to hear this tonight that i am so much of myself that it is foreign to other people. 🎉❤😊

  • @MichaelaHutchison
    @MichaelaHutchison 4 месяца назад

    The messages in this video is just what I needed at this time in my life. Thank you for existing and sharing your wisdom!

  • @sydkotar
    @sydkotar 4 месяца назад

    Hitomi is the voice that we all need in our heads 🤍

  • @laritabuu
    @laritabuu 4 месяца назад +2

    thank you Hitomi!! I'm always lighting up as soon as I see you uploaded

  • @Vanessa-tx7dg
    @Vanessa-tx7dg 4 месяца назад

    This advice was so good, I watched it again right after.

  • @abdullahtk33
    @abdullahtk33 4 месяца назад

    i love this video!! the part that resonated with me is make yourself a revolution. you deserve to take up space

  • @cyberruds
    @cyberruds 4 месяца назад

    So accurate when you said you have been sometimes the voice talking narratives in my head hahahaha , thank you for taking me back to this feeling! Adulting is crazy, thank you for keeping people alive including me

  • @torikeast7528
    @torikeast7528 4 месяца назад

    pleassseeee start a podcast i could listen to you talk for hours 💖😊

  • @lisafreeman8691
    @lisafreeman8691 4 месяца назад

    My goodness, thank you for sharing your wisdom and shine. I think I have always had a problem with receiving graciously...I'm going to work on that.

  • @kseniayaroslavtseva5568
    @kseniayaroslavtseva5568 4 месяца назад

    Thank you for sharing your cheat codes to the game of life Hitomi! ❤ you're a beautiful soul ❤

  • @deanzaherrera2256
    @deanzaherrera2256 4 месяца назад

    This video is everything!! Thank you ❤️ you are truly my soul sister 😭🙏🏽

  • @emilysophie9168
    @emilysophie9168 4 месяца назад

    Who else thinks Hitomi neeeeeds to write a book and share all her thoughts i love these types of videos 🌞

  • @freshfromtheshore
    @freshfromtheshore 4 месяца назад +1

    you are such an inspiration 🫶🏼

  • @JobbieCivanne
    @JobbieCivanne 4 месяца назад +1

    I was just catching up on the video from last week and thought I was going crazy because there's already a new video! THEN I thought I was going extra crazy because this is an old title. Im excited to hear what's changed from earlier this year.