I thought I’d tell you this. About 30yrs after my mother died, I inherited a china cabinet. I didn’t want it, but it had sentimental value to me. I have carted it around on each house move. I even took it to Spain when we left England. Every time I thought I could let it go, I changed my mind. I decided a week ago that it had to go. I asked around to see if anyone wanted it, but no. In Spain people put unwanted items by the bin so we decided we would do the same. I was cringing at the thought that it would go as rubbish, but hay ho! ten minutes after dropping it off it had gone. I know now it’s with someone who liked it. I feel so much lighter and know that it was the right thing to do. My mother and the memories are in my heart.
I left an abusive relationship a few months ago and when I set up my new house I brought in only the pieces of furniture which predated him. I found the weight left my shoulders immediately by having space which was entirely mine to look at. It was expensive to have to rebut so much, but the mental freedom it gave me was worth every penny, and more!
Both a good friend and I ended up having cheating partners (not with each other) about a year apart. Without knowing that I’d replaced all my dishes and utensils (we lived across the country from each other)-couldn’t stand the thought of eating from utensils that had been in that lying mouth-my friend also replaced the same for the same reason.
@@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS I was going to comment on another comment above, and here you are ripping off my intended share. Ha! Vindictive minds think alike, vindictive in our minds, not in the world. Honestly didn't notice until 2023 (duh....too preoccupied with the Peace, and the Quiet), that I had "systematically" "updated" my place with new-to-me everything. Wha? Well, it is possible to feed your sweet-self some sweet-pudding while watching sweet Dr Frank recite "Weather Alert, for ten years.
And, during those Sweet Years, I never once had to say. "Gimme that damn remote, it's MY time." You know, after the slow-drip torture of marriage to a goon concludes, it's ALL my time, all the time. Mine. Living alone with imitation foliage really is the Best Revenge.
Going through this myself! I move in two days, after ten years of living this way. The kids and I don't have much, but we are so excited to start something fresh and unburdened by terrible memories ❤ congratulations to you!
I switched my bedroom with my living room. I know it sounds like a strange thing to do but there was a lot more light in my bedroom (which was also a larger room) so I turned it into my living room. No regrets.
As someone who’s struggled with anxiety and depression for years, I can tell u reorganizing your room HELPS. Everytime i get overwhelmed emotionally I reorganize and it calms me down enough to deal with whatever is stressing me out
I listened to Mari Kondo's book because depression makes me not be able to focus while reading. It was inspiring, so I followed her method and it changed my life. Just knowing that everything was organized, clutter free, and I knew exactly where everything was made such a huge improvement in my mental health. There's also the mood boost of knowing that you accomplished something and the fact that you're setting things up to not get messy again. Also, I noticed that when I started caring what my home looked like and started decorating, I was much more motivated to keep it clean. I was living before with badly mismatched furniture, no pictures on the walls, and curtains that were only there to cover the window. I didn't have a reason to keep it clean and clutter free. Now I'm surrounded with things that make me happy (even though most others wouldn't like my style) and I want to take care of them. It's definately a form of self-care.
That's the opposite for me XD I get excited and anxious while reorganising, I rethink spaces and drawers, then I get overwhelmed and go into panic mode, until the day I'm looking for something and flip because I can't remember where I thought it might be better stored. At the same time it's a good procrastination tool, it makes you feel accomplished and gets your mind off of bad things.
Regarding hospitals vs spas: I work in a children's hospital. Specifically, one that wins awards every year for being one of the prettiest children's hospitals in the country. Decent color theory definitely makes a difference. Nothing too distracting/overwhelming, but this hallway has yellow walls, the carpet in this waiting room has a fun pattern, the lobby has this colorful sculpture thing hanging from the ceiling that looks cool with the patterns on the floor.... etc. Every time I go to a regular hospital or doctor's office that isn't focused on kids, I wonder why we hate adults. There's not really a good reason for a hospital to be visually depressing, and it's honestly better for patients' wellbeing for the space to be more pleasant.
For real - I’m genuinely curious as to whether there are any studies out there about hospitals that have been designed to be more nourishing environments and whether patients have responded more positively to that!
@@jennasamuel8637 I'd be hard pressed to find it now, but I remember hearing about an old study observing the outcomes for patients in a room with a window or a nice painting vs a room with just bare walls. The patients with a view recovered faster than the ones without anything
There is evidence nice design actually improves mental well-being as well as recovery in a kindly designed hospital. Think plants, natural colors, plenty of sunlight, music and art Most of these aspects are studied by those who specialize in health communication. However many hospitals find it illogical to invest in the design of the building. Fortunately, some hospital administrators can be convinced when it comes to kids at least. Although that’s not consistent. The hospital I went to as a kid was pretty much different shades of gray and blue with nurses in colorful scrubs.
No matter the design style, clutter is the one thing that brings me down faster than anything else in a room. I cannot stand a cluttered, overly stuffed or disheveled area. It’s so depressing. I can be happy with darker colors or lighter colors, depending upon the room and its use.
I hate visible light cords, electrical plugs in the center an empty wall (off center is not nearly as bad), wall vents and proud light switch covers. Usually I just have the painter paint over them with regular latex paint. In my tiny powder room on side wall near my focal point mirror and under my sconces is an electric plug and double light switch like 14" apart so double the ugly. I found clear plastic outlet covers you can fit inside with wallpaper so the plastic is on the outside. I painstakingly cut the wallpaper to continue the pattern on the wallpaper pattern which is more difficult than it sounds because the inside of the covers curve and the wallpaper image is of course flat. Plus the pattern is printed on woven grasscloth which is difficult to cut. The paper hanger offered to do them for 100 a piece. I wasn't paying 200 dollars for something I couldn't see. She would have never put the effort in that I did anyway. When I was done it was perfect and the covers disappear into the wall.
There are actual scientific studies done that prove faux plants have the same positive impact on our mental health and mood, as real plants do. So faux plant police can mind their own homes and let people do what they can to improve their mental health. As for paint, everyone keeps saying to stay away from dark colors, but when I paint something black or paint a room black, it makes my heart happy. Not everyone gets depressed in dark “dungeon” like rooms. It’s so important to know yourself and what you like, don’t pick paint just because it’s trendy. Pick colors that when you look at them, they truly make you feel good.
As a fan of brutalism and concrete in general, I hear you. Being told your happiness is wrong and you are soulless is not conducive to mental health. As for paying it back, my partner legitimately likes gray and I've been able to find some newfound beauty in it, having actually had a reason to try.
Just FYI i painted my family room a deep pink. Supposedly a cheery color. Literally made my blood boil and i had to quickly paint over it. Now it’s dark gray. So happy and relaxing!
Have charcoal grey (on 3 walls) of my living room.... There is light from 2 windows and via the adjoining kitchen but it's still a nurturing, cocooning space and no one says it's like a dungeon. The accent colour is burnt orange. Absolutely love it. My kitchen by contrast, is painted green, a lovely green green. Colour to me is everything. White walls are out!
There are actual scientific studies saying the earth is flat or that fast food is better for health than organic produce. It shouldn’t matter. Don’t ever let faux plant police make you read boring scientific journal articles to justify being happy with your awesome faux plants 😊😊😊. If it brings you peace without harm then go for it. We all have our own unique way of making the world just a lil bit more positive, so the joy and peace you bring is more valuable than any study
the last tip is my favorite. as much as I love interior design, your home isn’t a restaurant, hotel lobby, or a show room. I dislike that all the interior design people on RUclips (telling ppl how to decorate their homes) don’t talk about putting up photos of real people or objects from the person’s real life (travels, job, etc.) and instead put up random prints mass produced online. aNother simple example - my husband is a physician and always leaves his stethoscope or hospital badge laying around. I’ve put out a nice decorative bowl by our entry way where he can put those things. The objects themselves may not be “aesthetic” but having them displayed in an intentional way is just being authentic to who we are “in real life” and our home feels like OUR home. and it’s not just clutter laying around.
Lighting is huge. I've painted my ceilings high gloss white. I reflects light and makes the ceiling feel higher. People thought I was crazy but when finished it was beautiful. It wasn't glaring and obvious but you can feel the difference. The house I'm in now has the flat white ceiling paint and it's dark and looks dirty. Very depressing
Yeah please! Every home I visit has the same flamingo picture that's supposed to be quirky. Meanwhile local artists are having to quit because no one buys their work and they have to work at something else to pay the bills
This is why I like your channel. You can funny and snarky and honest about what you don’t like, without being completely oblivious of what is personal preference, life circumstances, and financial situation. I am all for judging trends and decor, but not for the implication of judging people behind them or snobbery disguising itself behind “art”.
Nick you are so right about the escape zone. My late husband was a hoarder and he had massive piles all over the house. My sewing room was my sanctuary and in.v strictly enforced a rule that he was not allowed to place anything in there. Helped me to keep my sanity.
Not just removing clutter, but actual cleaning helps. I recently went through a stretch where money was really tight and the vacuum cleaner broke. It was quite depressing not being able to walk around barefoot without stuff sticking to the feet. Once I figured out how to fix it (thank you RUclips diy videos,) I had the satisfaction of having fixed it (yay dopamine,) and having clean floors again. That felt more amazing than you think it would. Cleaning makes you feel better. Or the result does for sure. And little things that are inexpensive but not hard, like moving the lamps around and hemming curtains so they are even (old house, nothing is straight) made things feel better.
I think for a long time I didn't know how to clean.. I mean I knew how to clean, but if I didn't spend 8 hours at it everything would still look the same after. Now I know how to prioritise thanks to youtube cleaning info videos, and I can make a noticible difference in 10 minutes. This is really important because depression can tell you you can't do anything.
This is one of the reasons I went with a more minimal aesthetic. Excess electronics, cords, clutter, decor, bedding, clothing, etc. make me anxious. I like quiet, open, light spaces with natural fabrics and sunshine. Just give me big windows so I can view nature and turn on some music
Minimalism is valid if it's what works for you. People who are hating on it are hating it being the latest trendy thing that people who follow trends will pick up and do to death until it stops being trendy and then they're onto the next thing. If minimalism is what you've found works best for you, then stick to it and ignore the trends that come and go!
Regarding reupholstering a piece you already have: If you have good quality pieces, that’s definitely a good idea. If you have inexpensive items, it’s fairly expensive and may not be the best choice. You can buy an inexpensive piece for the same cost or less than reupholstering. If you like the shape or whatever about it, it may be worth the expense. (My husband and I had a upholstery shop. We frequently heard, “I can buy a new chair/sofa/whatever for less than what you’re going to charge me.” That’s true. You’re paying for high quality fabric, all the interior products and the expertise of a talented professional artisan.)
I have an overstuffed chair from around 1940. It has been slipcovered a couple of times and reupholstered at least 3 times since 1975. I couldn’t afford to buy a chair of the same quality now. I’ll never get rid of it!
Dusty faux flowers during my childhood (thanks, 1980s decor) made me avoid fake plants. Changed my mind when I learned you can just hose them off in the sink. Turn them upside down, then shake the water off.
May I add to open a window and let some fresh air into your home! Also, photos of passed loved ones depress me. I keep them in books as I can’t constantly remember their loss when I see their photo. And I tend to look past some of my décor disasters so I take a photo and I can really see what needs some improvement! Love you Nick, love your channel! 🥰
The mention of LRV made me think of old European castles (stay with me). Mostly we think of castles as grey and moody. But that’s because we mostly see their ruins. When in use, inside walls were whitewashed/lime-washed to reflect light and were bright and colorful. They also whitewashed the outside of castles like the White Tower (in 1240) at the Tower of London.
I do agree, but it did make me laugh to use the tower of London as an example - that's where people were kept before their executions, and probably not the most calming place to be 😂
Nick, one thing I heard from you recently was to pay attention to the things guests interact with in your home, like flatware, hand towels, etc. I realize after 24 years of marriage, my stuff is really shabby and mismatched. I’m working on treating myself to some new things…and of course not keeping the old things around. Thanks for the idea!
My "aha!" moment was in January when I realized that we are still eating off the melamine plates that we bought when the kids were smaller, and more that I bought along the way. My youngest is turning 27 on Thursday! We can eat on "real" plates now! I bought vintage "Blue Onion" plates that need to be washed by hand, but it makes me feel better, more of an adult at 56 years old.
By far the most problematic is those popular minimalism style homes. It's empty, artificial, soulless... depressing. It's a reflection of having obsessive control issues; trying to compensate the lack of control on your life by material possessions (or the lack thereof).
My husband always looks at me like I’m nuts when I tell him that colour affects my mood. Lighting also affects my mood, I hate the stark, bluish lightbulbs, I gravitate towards warm light. As for personal photos, I surround myself with photos of my family and memories. I display them in my private rooms - ie the bedroom and the TV room, I have the IKEA picture rails so I can change out the pictures without having to clutter up tables or put holes into the walls.
dude, I‘m struggling with severe depression and anxiety and while these tips might not be super implementable for me, it‘s amazing how much compassion you show. So many videos like these feel like someone is pressuring me into doing more than I‘m capable of and while the tips might be great, I‘ll just be more anxious afterwards. This video just sounds like gentle suggestions and gives me hope that there‘s still stuff left to try. Maybe I will go buy some plants.
When I was struggling a lot my therapist and I made a "one thing a day" plan. So every day there was one goal to work on, everything else could be ignored. Was leaving the house to mail a letter. Or doing the dishes for half an hour. Or doing one load of laundry. And it really helped, some days I did do more, but even with one thing a day, you can really make a bit of dent. Organizing, laundry, decluttering. Or getting some nice flowers and putting them in a vase at home, that's less commitment than a plant. Hope you feel better, hugs!
@@snazzypazzyThis is very good advice. Like a lot of people with depression, it led to my home becoming cluttered, which leads to my feeling more depressed, anxious…and now we can add overwhelmed. 😵💫 The one task a day suggestion is doable most days, productive, (Hey! Baby steps! 😊) and gives one some sense of accomplishment at the end of the day. I hope the OP sees your post, and wish you both the best. x
Just have to say, I absolutely love seeing kindness online. It's so refreshing and heartening to see thoughtfulness in action. I hope all of you are in a good place. 💗😘✌🏽
Started making the bed every day during the pandemic - my office is off the bedroom and it was really depressing to see a messy bed. I also added a few small cleaning routines, like picking up as I go and cleaning off & wiping down the counter, sink & toilet (not with the same cloth of course) in all the bathrooms each morning. Sounds silly, but it made me feel like I accomplished something and had a handle on keeping things clean. Now I find it is relaxing to feel like the house is in reasonable shape if someone stops by.
I believe the scent has a huge importance. This is one of the big differences between a hospital and a spa, right? Also, although not everyone is as sensitive to the scent as others, the way the things spell around you can actually create a strong memory connection. Years ago my, at the time, marriage had come to an end. It was in October. A year later, one morning, I was driving my car, with the windows down and feeling terribly and unexplainably anxious and sad. After a while, I realized it was because of how everything smelled. It was a typical morning when fall has finally arrived, pretty cold, crispy fresh air, the smell of the leaves when they turn from green to yellow or red, etc. It just sent my head back to October of the year before, and brought back all those feelings again. Nick, I hope this video and "things going on" in your life for the last six month are not related. And if they are, I wish you much strength, send you all my affection and support. All changes are for the better, not all of them are easy though.
Agree w/ the sense of smell ! I especially think of how my home not only looks to guests ( not a cleaning fanatic it but must be tidy ! ) but also when I walk in the door of my home , how does it smell ? I open windows each morning for a dose of fresh country air to start the day . Our sense of smell is supposedly more relevant to our tho'ts & memories than the other senses . I love the coffee smell at the Starbucks driveup window - nostalgic , yet pleasant , so I have a coffee scented candle & room fragrance in my kitchen . In talking w/ others who love horses ( I'm a former pro equestrian ) , we often talk about how much we love the smell of our horses as much as the sight & feel . 👃🥰
Just when I’m thinking I’m over-saturated with YT interior design channels that seem to repeat the same old themes, you come up with food for thought with a different slant. I think a lot of us don’t realize how our home environment influences our mental health. I’ve gone into homes that immediately depress me and make me want to leave.
You know, this was really a sweet video. I've lived with mental illness my whole life and this video made me feel seen. Don't let anyone come for you in the comments. Your videos are always great, but this was specifically meaningful and genuine. Thanks ❤
Totally agree with these tips! Also, never understood the head-to-toe all gray interiors in places that have long winters. I grew up in MN, and for 6 months it's horribly gray outside... I can't imagine how drab & depressing it would be to also be surrounded by this in the home. As always, love the video:)
if grey is your favorite color it will bring you joy to be in an all-gray apartment. Personally, i love that grey weather. Tastes differ. Like Nick said - know yourself and surround yourself with colors and things You love.
@@Catherine3385I happen to love grey. I am a nurse and I work over 12 hours in a hospital whose color palate is beige, blue and white. Grey is calming for me and it would be too overwhelming for me coming home to a similar color palate that I left.
This is probably the best video you've made... Instead of talking on buying things or using colors, you talk about things and habits that make people feel accomplished. Great video!
The photo idea works if they have real meaning. There's something "off" about my living room but I wasn't able to move right now ( I rent) but a few days ago, before I saw this video, I had a photo of my 400 year old Ancestral home in Italy blown up to 60x60 CM. The person who took it (I'm in it) was a bit shaky so another friend and I are quite blurry as is the building but the building is clear enough because it's big. It was a very emotional experience to go there in February to see it and blurry or not, I treasure it as a reminder of who I am and where I came from. It helps my mood in that room a lot.
You know the one I realized I was missing the most in my space was the photos of people and pets. I do have so many good photos of those and I realized I never put them up or look at them. What a great reminder!
@Nick Lewis I just want to thank you so much for doing these videos, I've been stuck in a badly lit storage room for 4 months after a ugly divorce, watched this and had plenty of time to plan my move, moved in today and using all the advice to make it feel like a relaxing home, I can't describe that feeling, it's too big..
Nick, I hope any or all of these things are helping you get through whatever you are going through right now. Know that your audience loves, values and appreciates you.
Tidyness really is a big one and covers so many issues. An object left out is an object without a home. It can take some initial work, but once you establish a place for everything in your home keeping it tidy becomes a matter of putting something back when you're done with it. I'd also add that freedom of movement is important. The more easily you can move through your home wihout side-stepping awkwardly placed furniture and such the more relaxing it'll be. So try and arrange things in a way that offers a nice flow to your room. And between these things if you find something just does not fit, perhaps it's time tconsider letting it go so someone else can enjoy it.
I change my soft furnishings around twice a year. The walls are pale sand and the floor is a walnut laminate. Winter is crimson curtains and heavy tapestry print on chairs and dark brown couch, with pops of purple and old gold in the pillows. The rug is a brown with cream oriental. Then somewhere around late March or early April, I take down the curtains and hang a pale tan rustic linen curtain, the rug is replaced with a "faded" ivory on beige oriental, and the chairs and couch get pale tan covers with green and ivory pillows and faux plants appear (cause I have cats who chew them). This all breaks down to one rolled rug (goes under the bed) and two large plastic totes, and it makes a room that has to be in one furniture alignment due to shape feel fresh and different and appropriate both as the outside shifts towards summer and as it shifts towards winter.
Yes ! A few minor changes like a throw on a chair or sofa , swapping out a couple throw pillow covers , etc. are easy & inexpensive as the changes are minimal & easily stored .
I think a really interesting design aesthetic could be based off a concept called Komorebi. Its kinda designing with shadows in mind. Western cultures remove all shadows from architectural design but .. some designs in japan harness shadows. Could be an interesting topic and id love to see what you could do with the content around this 😀
When it comes to clutter, have one rule, we can have stuff out and it can be cluttered for a period, even a long period, BUT every item we own have to have permanent place where it belongs, so that it can be put away, and every item can be stored simultaneously without problem. If we want to buy something, we have to first plan where to store it, or what to get rid of to give it storage space. I have been in too many homes where there’s a bunch of stuff that can’t even be put away because there’s not enough storage space.
Love this ! I am a mental health, professional, and all of these tips I’ve used or have helped me in the past. Plus love your delivery, you should add watching you every week. Also helps improve your mood :-)
I’m autistic, and finding lights that work for me are game changers. I am sensitive to lights and so I used to just not have any. Finding lamps that I enjoy and like are amazing.
100%. I was in a headspace that was terrible, depressed, isolated- and my home reflected that back- clutter, near hoarding, etc. It was cyclical- because I felt bad, home looked bad, because my space was visually exhausting, I was exhausted and pulled even further down. I’ve moved. And while there’s still some clutter and things not unpacked/sorted- it’s been SO much better for me. I was really struggling for several years and it just kept getting worse. I forced myself to make the move, and the change has been amazing. ❤
Agreed! 😊 I’ve owned my condo for 20 years. Some elements are falling apart but I can tell a story about 90% of the contents here. Inherited, thrifted, expensive, crafted, memorials, etc. It’s neat, though. Curated. No one else will ever know all the stories but I do. Feels pretty cool. 😊
Wow you are 100% on the money, rearrange the furniture you have and you will trade out some things. My tip is freshen up the look of the home enterence, its a small space usually and if there is a mirror faceing the door move it and replace it with a happy welcoming picture. And wash you windows inside and out.
Getting rid of things that doesn't bring you happiness or even remind you of bad memories is so simple and logical, but I needed to hear it. Thank you for saying it. In the last two years I met beautiful people and made a lot of good memories. I've never been so happy. That's why I started to print out photographs so I'll see those happy moments every day. But somehow I pressured myself to print out pictures that are actually evoking negative feelings, because they are "supposed" to be happy moments. Because of what you said I realized that I need to listen to my heart.
I like the tips on lighting. Another thing that can help with that, is choosing the right blinds, curtains and window shades. We struggled a bit to get a decent balance between getting enough natural light in, without having way too much sun and heat, as well as keep people from looking in too much. In the bedroom we use heavy dark drapes to block out the light, combined with white plissé blinds that admit a lot of light without letting people look in. In the living room we have awnings to block out the midday sun without blocking all of the light, combines with opaque horizontal blinds to adjust the amount of light and views coming in. I did make a point of motorizing everything, so the adjustment is effortless and partly automated. Another thing to consider is lighting with an adjustable color temperature. Change it throughout the day: blueish white for focus, warmer white for a neutral mood, and more orangy lighting for atmosphere. Also: cutting the blue spectrum from your lighting later in the evening will help you sleep easier as well. A word of warning though: if you go down the path of automated blinds and smart lighting, you may end up with a whole new hobby...
This is one of those videos that just goes to show how much Lewis genuinely loves what he does and cares about the impact it makes on others. The snarky and sassy no nonsense is always amazing, but this was a really cool glimpse between the lines to the WHY. Thanks for another informative and applicable video!
I used to swap the rooms round so regularly my children said they'd never know what it would look like when they came home from school..that's due to my dad being army and us moving every couple of years when I was a child, I get bored very quickly. So when I married and settled, I couldn't handle staying in the same place. I love decorating and DIY, and anytime I get that feeling, I declutter move furniture around and paint.
It can be difficult when you want to be a moody maximalist but can’t cope with dark rooms. I’ve settled for mid toned walls that go a little smokey in tone on dull days. That and having any decor placed cleverly and organised rather than cluttered, despite having more visual impact.
From the Peanuts cartoon series : " I love mankind . It's people I can't stand " . Like you , my home interior is calming ( soft blues , greens , cream ) & is my refuge . My country home exterior is a light slate blue surrounded by lots of trees & green yard - just seeing it as I drive up our road is welcoming & calming . 🥰
Great suggestions - I have 50+ houseplants. In spring they go outside, in fall they come indoors. We have really hard winters here and I definitely find that having indoor plants helps to keep the winter blahs at bay.
Some great tips Nick! I suffered a brain injury 6 years ago. I could barely walk 100 yards, couldnt drive for 3 years, developed C-PTSD in the process, developed severe fight flight response to visual and auditory stimuli, lost my wife and kids, moved three times oh and covid somewhere in there too. Anyway life was pretty bad but i kept going. I attribute some of that success to doing some of the thing i now see in this video … make your bed, keep one room a sanctuary, keep tidy and avoid clutter, good lighting, natural light (or get outside), sleep routine, plant parenting, among many other routines not discussed (daily exercise and time outside, social exposure, meds and supplements, physio, cognitive retraining). I researched a lot for my recovery and Nicks tips are consistent with some of the leading research in mental health. I wish I would have seen something this clear and concise instead of taking years to curate strategies like this. Thank you Nick - you will be saving lives with this info - no joke.
Love this video, Nick because it's so true. I got rid of a desk that I used to settle an estate. It became so depressing to look at even though it was a very nice desk. I gave it away to a young guy who was going to use it for his environmental organization. Now I have good memories of that desk.
I very frequently rearrange items in my home to make if feel fresh again. I find I don't really "see" things after they have been in the same place for a while. Adding new items, even just a few, makes my home feel new again.
Daylight spectrum lightbulbs are so helpful for me in the winter. I have supplemental lights for some of my indoor plants & sitting near that light in the winter is a major mood boost.
If you have a gangrene thumb (like yours truly), but still want greenery in your home, I have a couple of options, as Nick just mentioned. Silk plants and floral arrangements (good ones, and keep them dusted, put potted plants in woven basket for richer look); large paintings of nature (I have van Gogh’s “Trees and Undergrowth”, custom framed, above my sofa…I can almost hear the wind rustling and the birds singing!).
Thank you Nick, another great video! Just wanna throw this out there, if you are struggling with depression and are in survival mode, I've found that doing these things that Nick talks about in this video makes surviving a depressive episode easier. Also, don't feel bad to ask for help. You got this and you're worth it❤
Nick, I'm having a bit of what I'm calling a mental health catch-up day. I'm listening to your videos, decluttering and redecorating my space. Something about the background music paired with your voice is so calming and putting me in the absolute right mood. I also just decided that the silly black house-shaped vase I had my dad's ashes in was tying me to something I've grown out of. I put them in a beautiful handmade bud vase I found in a thrift store that I've had for awhile and absolutely love. I put a single sprig of dried flowers in the vase, and I love it. I don't think Dad minds too much. Thank you for letting me overshare and use your videos to improve my home and my mood.
I look through decorating books and take notice which photos make me smile and make my heart go pitter patter. Lately decorating with bold color has interested me. Just have to figure out the right way to incorporate it so the room doesn’t look like a circus.
A new Nick vid -- and it's not even Saturday! Maybe Nick has learned that, like interior design, RUclips works best if it's not too predictable. #lifelonglearning
Natural materials- you have beautiful interior and you save nature from plastic. Bamboo is our future eco material- great quality, eco friendly, soft and good works in kitchen (tools, cutting boards etc.) My favorite towels from bamboo, my favorite socks from bamboo, love it.
If you wanna start your plant journey I can recommend snake plant, cactus or succulents. You can literally forget them for a month and they wont bother
It could be that my my home is making me depressed and anxious, but it could also be that my depression and anxiety is making my home depressed and anxious therefore making me even more depressed and anxious.
If plants are too much for some, there is the option of putting a single leaf in a clear vase (always lots of those for cheap in thrift stores). Monstera, Aspidistra, Anthurium , Eucalyptus and numerous other leaves can be very effective as well as dramatic displayed this way. Grasses, too, can make a wonderful and soothing show. A florist can be a helpful guide to good choices.
That las bit of advice is golden. I am approaching 60 now. And as I look around my space it’s like everything has a story. Framed snaps shots of old friends and lovers, pictures of my travels even some toys that I have tried to place as tastefully as possible. A shadow box with mementos from my early teens to now
Loved your advice - loos that are not clean really make me shudder, so what I do is every week put some denture cleaning tablets down the loo and leave overnight - it works. About once every 6 months where the water hits the toilet bowl I clean off the suzzy limescale with Kilrock Gel, leave it for 10 mins then scrub with an old toothbrush. Shiny loos all year!
I used to have a big sofa that I was given by a friend when she upgraded her furniture. It was big and a bit smelly, and we kept an old curtain over it to cover the torn spots in the upholstery. I didn't get rid of it because I disliked it, but because our family grew and what had been the living room became a bedroom, so there wasn't room in the house for a big sofa any more. But I gave it to another friend who could afford to get it re-upholstered (and very thoroughly professionally cleaned!) and she has been using it ever since. It gives me a joy every time I sit on it at her place that I never got from it when it was mine!
I completely agree with these points. Rearranging furniture and reshuffling what is in each room can completely change the feel of the space. I find if I’m feeling stuck and stagnant in my life, rearranging my living space can help things feel fresh again. Thank you for another great video
The advice to have at least one clutter free space in your home is good. If you have a lot of pets or small children, it can be so overwhelming to go from one room to another to another that’s littered with toys, equipment, etc. Realistically you can’t keep more than one room clean and tidy at all times, but it’s such an oasis to have that one uncluttered room to relax in while the hurricanes continue to spread throughout the rest of the house.
Fantastic tips Nick! I find that when I’m organizing each room or switching the furniture around, takes my mind completely from what’s going on in my life. Once done and have a cleared table, doing puzzles, keeps my mind off “things”. Of course watching you, is hilarious, I love your sarcasm!!! I do things that just distract my annoyed mind.
I have started to “shop my own home” as my kids move off to college and I have more time and options to do this. Also, I work from home and I just painted a bedroom pale yellow and moved my office in there and it made a huge difference in my mood and ambition!
Gifted with two disparate, eye-popping pieces of art, a sculpture and a wall hanging + viewing this video (and others of yours) turned me loose of following every one of your recommendations. The result? Pure joy, thank you!
Thank you Nick. Always enjoy your videos. The reminder about the pictures and photos etc that I have taken and in places that brought me joy should be somewhere I can see them and not stuck in a random album somewhere. I am buying my forever home in France soon and all my fantastic American memories from the past 14 years need to be brought with me. So a great suggestion ❤️
Congratulations on buying your home in France soon. On a trip to Amsterdam I took a few pictures of their wonderful architecture whilst on a barge slowly sailing down one of the many canals. I had my two favorites enlarged slightly and professionally matted and framed. It elevated them from just a vacation shot to an architectural piece of importance. Every now and then, your local hobby shop has a 70% off on framing, like now 😂 Michaels is my Go To place. All the best to you for your future. (I watch a U Tube show “Escape to the Dream Restoring The Chateau de Lalacelle which is about a British family who bought a completely dilapidated Chateau almost 3 years ago and have been restoring it daily through extremely hard work. You may find it interesting 💕🐥💕
3:55 I saw an interview with Ricky Martin and one of the ways he deals with being on tour is to have a set up for his dressing room that moves with him so he can step in to the continuity of it no matter where he is. Smart man.
I appreciate you mentioning using colors (specifically yellow) and photos in a positive way! Yellow makes me happy and so do certain photos. Bold Color and Personal Photos are so often discouraged that I began second guessing myself, but they really do make me smile!
I will add that making something for your space and being a little crafty can really help boost your mood and make the space feel special. I'm not an artist but I made a simple piece of abstract art for my living room and it makes the space feel personal.
Nick, I have learned an amazing amount from you regarding all aspects of interior design. I’ve lived in our home for many years, and have incorporated so much of your recommendations. Above all, telling my furniture “Bye bye, it’s been great!” is so necessary to advance and change things up! You are fun to listen to, and the best part: you finish quickly! Much appreciated is your time mgmt. No droning on and on! Awesomeness!!
I am a vocal coach. And I love watching your videos. I often use your philosophy in my teaching; you are honest, practical, and you have strong opinions, but you're always clear that opinion is preference. I have the flu and I've been watching your videos and you keep my laughing and inspired. X
I definitely think the trend of grey everything and black and white homes has definitely had a mental impact on people. Too many people are living in cold institutional houses. I love grey and white as much as anyone else, but i warm it up with wood tones,plants, tan, and colorful pillows,throws etc. People need to stop thinking they live on the internet and start making their houses look and feel like homes again.
I placed my desk in front of a window in my home looking out on a large sugar maple. Best thing I've done for myself in some time. I get to watch the seasons drift by. My happy place!
I know people think yellow, it's bright, sunny, happy, etc. Years ago I saw a study that said people fight more in yellow rooms than any other color. I won't paint anything yellow, I don't like yellow anyway, but I always notice when I'm in a yellow room because of that.
This was wonderful thank you Nick. I live in a one bedroom little unit and I was looking around as you spoke and you helped me look at a few things that I could change for the better. I’m quite excited actually!!! I love your channel, and your accent. Kim 🇦🇺
Thanks great advice. ❤especially those of us who live in unglamorous suburban family homes. Something about my house that was depressing but couldn’t put my finger on it until I saw this video. House def needs a refresh.
My son was coming into adolescence… I painted the walls of his bathroom butter cup yellow. I had an antique clawfoot tub refurbished, and I painted it sunny yellow with nickel plated claw feet. It was awesome! even a teenager could not be in the bathroom and not feel cheerful.😂
You are right on about caring for something/someone besides yourself is crucial for good mental health. My job allows me to help people. It's very satisfying, to know I make a real difference in others lives. YOU, Nick, are helping and making a difference for all of us! Thanks for sharing your brilliance, humor and heart! 💛
I'm super depressed at the moment and yes I got therapy and meds sorted out, but I found a few days where I had the energy to change my living room around and stuff like sectioning off my work area from the relax area, white colors and furniture to hide clutter, and cleaning help me heal so much! And I felt dumb getting a faux plant at first (can't have real, my cat eats them and I always forget to water, especially when depressed) but it made me so happy I got a few more. Now it is calm but still lively here and all I see is things that make me happy in a bright room (and cozy at night due to good lighting). All these tips are so valid, even though I just discovered them after being done redoing my living room. Try out what your energy allows folks, it absolutely helps.
This is so timely! One minute ago, I put the finishing touches on my new bedroom and decided to lie down and enjoy it while checking out RUclips. My mood was definitely off (perhaps due to 100F + temperatures?) So I decided one thing I could do was change my bedroom to something really pleasant and I hit Wayfair and Amazon hard (not gonna get out in the heat). I also filled my car trunk with stuff for Goodwill. (My personal opinion: Get rid of the gray.) It's simply wonderful lying here breathing in the aroma therapy scent and soaking up the pinkish glow from the superb lighting. Even the drawers and cabinets have been cleaned out. Others may not see it but you know it's clean and organized. I love your tip to have a defensible corner somewhere that's your private retreat.
Please get rid of things that you associate with unpleasantness. It helps so much. If it has a smell or a color that you associate with a toxic person dump it, no matter how valuable it is. Don’t give it to someone in your circle of friends because you will have the same reaction if you go to their house. Or if you see it on them (like jewelry).
I thought I’d tell you this. About 30yrs after my mother died, I inherited a china cabinet. I didn’t want it, but it had sentimental value to me. I have carted it around on each house move. I even took it to Spain when we left England. Every time I thought I could let it go, I changed my mind. I decided a week ago that it had to go. I asked around to see if anyone wanted it, but no.
In Spain people put unwanted items by the bin so we decided we would do the same. I was cringing at the thought that it would go as rubbish, but hay ho! ten minutes after dropping it off it had gone. I know now it’s with someone who liked it. I feel so much lighter and know that it was the right thing to do. My mother and the memories are in my heart.
I left an abusive relationship a few months ago and when I set up my new house I brought in only the pieces of furniture which predated him. I found the weight left my shoulders immediately by having space which was entirely mine to look at. It was expensive to have to rebut so much, but the mental freedom it gave me was worth every penny, and more!
Both a good friend and I ended up having cheating partners (not with each other) about a year apart. Without knowing that I’d replaced all my dishes and utensils (we lived across the country from each other)-couldn’t stand the thought of eating from utensils that had been in that lying mouth-my friend also replaced the same for the same reason.
@@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS I was going to comment on another comment above, and here you are ripping off my intended share. Ha! Vindictive minds think alike, vindictive in our minds, not in the world. Honestly didn't notice until 2023 (duh....too preoccupied with the Peace, and the Quiet), that I had "systematically" "updated" my place with new-to-me everything. Wha? Well, it is possible to feed your sweet-self some sweet-pudding while watching sweet Dr Frank recite "Weather Alert, for ten years.
And, during those Sweet Years, I never once had to say. "Gimme that damn remote, it's MY time." You know, after the slow-drip torture of marriage to a goon concludes, it's ALL my time, all the time. Mine. Living alone with imitation foliage really is the Best Revenge.
I relate to this more than you can imagine. I’m so happy for you! Good for you.
Going through this myself! I move in two days, after ten years of living this way. The kids and I don't have much, but we are so excited to start something fresh and unburdened by terrible memories ❤ congratulations to you!
I switched my bedroom with my living room. I know it sounds like a strange thing to do but there was a lot more light in my bedroom (which was also a larger room) so I turned it into my living room. No regrets.
I always think of doing that! Good for you!
Absolutely.
@@angieramos197 Go for it. Never mind conventions.
This sounds genius. Rethinking my floorplan rn.
I think the minimal mom on RUclips did that same thing and her place was gorgeous!
As someone who’s struggled with anxiety and depression for years, I can tell u reorganizing your room HELPS. Everytime i get overwhelmed emotionally I reorganize and it calms me down enough to deal with whatever is stressing me out
Thank you. You’re comment is just 2:10 just what I needed to think about today.
I listened to Mari Kondo's book because depression makes me not be able to focus while reading. It was inspiring, so I followed her method and it changed my life. Just knowing that everything was organized, clutter free, and I knew exactly where everything was made such a huge improvement in my mental health. There's also the mood boost of knowing that you accomplished something and the fact that you're setting things up to not get messy again.
Also, I noticed that when I started caring what my home looked like and started decorating, I was much more motivated to keep it clean. I was living before with badly mismatched furniture, no pictures on the walls, and curtains that were only there to cover the window. I didn't have a reason to keep it clean and clutter free. Now I'm surrounded with things that make me happy (even though most others wouldn't like my style) and I want to take care of them. It's definately a form of self-care.
Absolutely!
That's the opposite for me XD I get excited and anxious while reorganising, I rethink spaces and drawers, then I get overwhelmed and go into panic mode, until the day I'm looking for something and flip because I can't remember where I thought it might be better stored. At the same time it's a good procrastination tool, it makes you feel accomplished and gets your mind off of bad things.
Plants are clutter to me.
Regarding hospitals vs spas: I work in a children's hospital. Specifically, one that wins awards every year for being one of the prettiest children's hospitals in the country. Decent color theory definitely makes a difference. Nothing too distracting/overwhelming, but this hallway has yellow walls, the carpet in this waiting room has a fun pattern, the lobby has this colorful sculpture thing hanging from the ceiling that looks cool with the patterns on the floor.... etc.
Every time I go to a regular hospital or doctor's office that isn't focused on kids, I wonder why we hate adults. There's not really a good reason for a hospital to be visually depressing, and it's honestly better for patients' wellbeing for the space to be more pleasant.
For real - I’m genuinely curious as to whether there are any studies out there about hospitals that have been designed to be more nourishing environments and whether patients have responded more positively to that!
@@jennasamuel8637 I'd be hard pressed to find it now, but I remember hearing about an old study observing the outcomes for patients in a room with a window or a nice painting vs a room with just bare walls. The patients with a view recovered faster than the ones without anything
There is evidence nice design actually improves mental well-being as well as recovery in a kindly designed hospital. Think plants, natural colors, plenty of sunlight, music and art Most of these aspects are studied by those who specialize in health communication. However many hospitals find it illogical to invest in the design of the building. Fortunately, some hospital administrators can be convinced when it comes to kids at least. Although that’s not consistent. The hospital I went to as a kid was pretty much different shades of gray and blue with nurses in colorful scrubs.
There are studies showing nicer decor helps, a window with a view of a tree too. Just rough to keep sterile, and deal with ligature risks etc
No matter the design style, clutter is the one thing that brings me down faster than anything else in a room. I cannot stand a cluttered, overly stuffed or disheveled area. It’s so depressing. I can be happy with darker colors or lighter colors, depending upon the room and its use.
i get a panic attack and its so rewarding to clean it up
An absolute no for me is clutter on the kitchen counter. Instantly makes me want to just shove everything on the counter into the trash can 😂
Could not agree more!
I hate visible light cords, electrical plugs in the center an empty wall (off center is not nearly as bad), wall vents and proud light switch covers. Usually I just have the painter paint over them with regular latex paint. In my tiny powder room on side wall near my focal point mirror and under my sconces is an electric plug and double light switch like 14" apart so double the ugly. I found clear plastic outlet covers you can fit inside with wallpaper so the plastic is on the outside. I painstakingly cut the wallpaper to continue the pattern on the wallpaper pattern which is more difficult than it sounds because the inside of the covers curve and the wallpaper image is of course flat. Plus the pattern is printed on woven grasscloth which is difficult to cut. The paper hanger offered to do them for 100 a piece. I wasn't paying 200 dollars for something I couldn't see. She would have never put the effort in that I did anyway. When I was done it was perfect and the covers disappear into the wall.
There are actual scientific studies done that prove faux plants have the same positive impact on our mental health and mood, as real plants do. So faux plant police can mind their own homes and let people do what they can to improve their mental health. As for paint, everyone keeps saying to stay away from dark colors, but when I paint something black or paint a room black, it makes my heart happy. Not everyone gets depressed in dark “dungeon” like rooms. It’s so important to know yourself and what you like, don’t pick paint just because it’s trendy. Pick colors that when you look at them, they truly make you feel good.
As a fan of brutalism and concrete in general, I hear you. Being told your happiness is wrong and you are soulless is not conducive to mental health. As for paying it back, my partner legitimately likes gray and I've been able to find some newfound beauty in it, having actually had a reason to try.
Just FYI i painted my family room a deep pink. Supposedly a cheery color. Literally made my blood boil and i had to quickly paint over it. Now it’s dark gray. So happy and relaxing!
Exactly. Is like everybody loves white walls, and to me white walls are depressing. I need color or at least a non white wall.
Have charcoal grey (on 3 walls) of my living room.... There is light from 2 windows and via the adjoining kitchen but it's still a nurturing, cocooning space and no one says it's like a dungeon. The accent colour is burnt orange. Absolutely love it. My kitchen by contrast, is painted green, a lovely green green. Colour to me is everything. White walls are out!
There are actual scientific studies saying the earth is flat or that fast food is better for health than organic produce. It shouldn’t matter. Don’t ever let faux plant police make you read boring scientific journal articles to justify being happy with your awesome faux plants 😊😊😊. If it brings you peace without harm then go for it. We all have our own unique way of making the world just a lil bit more positive, so the joy and peace you bring is more valuable than any study
the last tip is my favorite. as much as I love interior design, your home isn’t a restaurant, hotel lobby, or a show room. I dislike that all the interior design people on RUclips (telling ppl how to decorate their homes) don’t talk about putting up photos of real people or objects from the person’s real life (travels, job, etc.) and instead put up random prints mass produced online. aNother simple example - my husband is a physician and always leaves his stethoscope or hospital badge laying around. I’ve put out a nice decorative bowl by our entry way where he can put those things. The objects themselves may not be “aesthetic” but having them displayed in an intentional way is just being authentic to who we are “in real life” and our home feels like OUR home. and it’s not just clutter laying around.
Lighting is huge. I've painted my ceilings high gloss white. I reflects light and makes the ceiling feel higher. People thought I was crazy but when finished it was beautiful. It wasn't glaring and obvious but you can feel the difference. The house I'm in now has the flat white ceiling paint and it's dark and looks dirty. Very depressing
@@angella7576 lmao
Yeah please! Every home I visit has the same flamingo picture that's supposed to be quirky. Meanwhile local artists are having to quit because no one buys their work and they have to work at something else to pay the bills
This is why I like your channel. You can funny and snarky and honest about what you don’t like, without being completely oblivious of what is personal preference, life circumstances, and financial situation. I am all for judging trends and decor, but not for the implication of judging people behind them or snobbery disguising itself behind “art”.
I wish everyone understood that distinction, don’t you?
Yes. Not catty for the sake being being catty...some people could take a lesson from that...
Nick you are so right about the escape zone. My late husband was a hoarder and he had massive piles all over the house. My sewing room was my sanctuary and in.v strictly enforced a rule that he was not allowed to place anything in there. Helped me to keep my sanity.
Not just removing clutter, but actual cleaning helps. I recently went through a stretch where money was really tight and the vacuum cleaner broke. It was quite depressing not being able to walk around barefoot without stuff sticking to the feet. Once I figured out how to fix it (thank you RUclips diy videos,) I had the satisfaction of having fixed it (yay dopamine,) and having clean floors again. That felt more amazing than you think it would. Cleaning makes you feel better. Or the result does for sure.
And little things that are inexpensive but not hard, like moving the lamps around and hemming curtains so they are even (old house, nothing is straight) made things feel better.
The feeling of walking barefoot all through your home and nothing sticking to your feet is a completely overlooked life goal. Well done!!
I think for a long time I didn't know how to clean.. I mean I knew how to clean, but if I didn't spend 8 hours at it everything would still look the same after. Now I know how to prioritise thanks to youtube cleaning info videos, and I can make a noticible difference in 10 minutes. This is really important because depression can tell you you can't do anything.
This is one of the reasons I went with a more minimal aesthetic. Excess electronics, cords, clutter, decor, bedding, clothing, etc. make me anxious. I like quiet, open, light spaces with natural fabrics and sunshine.
Just give me big windows so I can view nature and turn on some music
Same. Junk and clutter make me anxious.
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Minimalism is valid if it's what works for you. People who are hating on it are hating it being the latest trendy thing that people who follow trends will pick up and do to death until it stops being trendy and then they're onto the next thing. If minimalism is what you've found works best for you, then stick to it and ignore the trends that come and go!
I really like the way Nick puts realistic goals for people who may be at a point in their life that the ideal is not approachable.
Regarding reupholstering a piece you already have: If you have good quality pieces, that’s definitely a good idea. If you have inexpensive items, it’s fairly expensive and may not be the best choice. You can buy an inexpensive piece for the same cost or less than reupholstering. If you like the shape or whatever about it, it may be worth the expense. (My husband and I had a upholstery shop. We frequently heard, “I can buy a new chair/sofa/whatever for less than what you’re going to charge me.” That’s true. You’re paying for high quality fabric, all the interior products and the expertise of a talented professional artisan.)
I have an overstuffed chair from around 1940. It has been slipcovered a couple of times and reupholstered at least 3 times since 1975. I couldn’t afford to buy a chair of the same quality now. I’ll never get rid of it!
Dusty faux flowers during my childhood (thanks, 1980s decor) made me avoid fake plants. Changed my mind when I learned you can just hose them off in the sink. Turn them upside down, then shake the water off.
you can shake silk flowers in a ziploc bag of salt...or brown bag...takes the dust off
May I add to open a window and let some fresh air into your home! Also, photos of passed loved ones depress me. I keep them in books as I can’t constantly remember their loss when I see their photo. And I tend to look past some of my décor disasters so I take a photo and I can really see what needs some improvement! Love you Nick, love your channel! 🥰
I love the idea of taking a picture. That's a great idea!
Yes to fresh air!
Yes fresh air daily and taking photos helps a lot too. It makes you almost see the place like it’s not yours even though you obviously know it is.
Because cameras see differently than the eye does.
Oh yes fresh air feels beuatiful
The mention of LRV made me think of old European castles (stay with me). Mostly we think of castles as grey and moody. But that’s because we mostly see their ruins. When in use, inside walls were whitewashed/lime-washed to reflect light and were bright and colorful. They also whitewashed the outside of castles like the White Tower (in 1240) at the Tower of London.
Yep, colored by pigments dug up in their own backyards.
True. They also used to have tapestries on the walls bringing color and texture to the spaces, not drab stone wall interiors!
Interesting !
I do agree, but it did make me laugh to use the tower of London as an example - that's where people were kept before their executions, and probably not the most calming place to be 😂
@@chloebennett4145but the tower guards will be calm and happy 😉
Nick, one thing I heard from you recently was to pay attention to the things guests interact with in your home, like flatware, hand towels, etc. I realize after 24 years of marriage, my stuff is really shabby and mismatched. I’m working on treating myself to some new things…and of course not keeping the old things around. Thanks for the idea!
My "aha!" moment was in January when I realized that we are still eating off the melamine plates that we bought when the kids were smaller, and more that I bought along the way. My youngest is turning 27 on Thursday! We can eat on "real" plates now! I bought vintage "Blue Onion" plates that need to be washed by hand, but it makes me feel better, more of an adult at 56 years old.
"Bonus Tip - get a dog" - Loved that little insertion! :-)
By far the most problematic is those popular minimalism style homes.
It's empty, artificial, soulless... depressing.
It's a reflection of having obsessive control issues; trying to compensate the lack of control on your life by material possessions (or the lack thereof).
My husband always looks at me like I’m nuts when I tell him that colour affects my mood. Lighting also affects my mood, I hate the stark, bluish lightbulbs, I gravitate towards warm light. As for personal photos, I surround myself with photos of my family and memories. I display them in my private rooms - ie the bedroom and the TV room, I have the IKEA picture rails so I can change out the pictures without having to clutter up tables or put holes into the walls.
Silk flowers are a beautiful way to add color and reference nature without the constant cost and effort of keeping fresh flowers.
I have silk flowers in every room and one or two times in a year I rearrange them.
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dude, I‘m struggling with severe depression and anxiety and while these tips might not be super implementable for me, it‘s amazing how much compassion you show. So many videos like these feel like someone is pressuring me into doing more than I‘m capable of and while the tips might be great, I‘ll just be more anxious afterwards. This video just sounds like gentle suggestions and gives me hope that there‘s still stuff left to try. Maybe I will go buy some plants.
When I was struggling a lot my therapist and I made a "one thing a day" plan. So every day there was one goal to work on, everything else could be ignored. Was leaving the house to mail a letter. Or doing the dishes for half an hour. Or doing one load of laundry. And it really helped, some days I did do more, but even with one thing a day, you can really make a bit of dent. Organizing, laundry, decluttering. Or getting some nice flowers and putting them in a vase at home, that's less commitment than a plant. Hope you feel better, hugs!
@@snazzypazzyThis is very good advice. Like a lot of people with depression, it led to my home becoming cluttered, which leads to my feeling more depressed, anxious…and now we can add overwhelmed. 😵💫 The one task a day suggestion is doable most days, productive, (Hey! Baby steps! 😊) and gives one some sense of accomplishment at the end of the day. I hope the OP sees your post, and wish you both the best. x
Just have to say, I absolutely love seeing kindness online.
It's so refreshing and heartening to see thoughtfulness in action.
I hope all of you are in a good place. 💗😘✌🏽
I wish you the best. Plants and flowers. Nutrient dense meals. Wim hof. Just some thoughts. Not advice. Peace.
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Started making the bed every day during the pandemic - my office is off the bedroom and it was really depressing to see a messy bed. I also added a few small cleaning routines, like picking up as I go and cleaning off & wiping down the counter, sink & toilet (not with the same cloth of course) in all the bathrooms each morning. Sounds silly, but it made me feel like I accomplished something and had a handle on keeping things clean. Now I find it is relaxing to feel like the house is in reasonable shape if someone stops by.
I believe the scent has a huge importance. This is one of the big differences between a hospital and a spa, right? Also, although not everyone is as sensitive to the scent as others, the way the things spell around you can actually create a strong memory connection. Years ago my, at the time, marriage had come to an end. It was in October. A year later, one morning, I was driving my car, with the windows down and feeling terribly and unexplainably anxious and sad. After a while, I realized it was because of how everything smelled. It was a typical morning when fall has finally arrived, pretty cold, crispy fresh air, the smell of the leaves when they turn from green to yellow or red, etc. It just sent my head back to October of the year before, and brought back all those feelings again.
Nick, I hope this video and "things going on" in your life for the last six month are not related. And if they are, I wish you much strength, send you all my affection and support. All changes are for the better, not all of them are easy though.
Agree w/ the sense of smell ! I especially think of how my home not only looks to guests ( not a cleaning fanatic it but must be tidy ! ) but also when I walk in the door of my home , how does it smell ? I open windows each morning for a dose of fresh country air to start the day . Our sense of smell is supposedly more relevant to our tho'ts & memories than the other senses . I love the coffee smell at the Starbucks driveup window - nostalgic , yet pleasant , so I have a coffee scented candle & room fragrance in my kitchen . In talking w/ others who love horses ( I'm a former pro equestrian ) , we often talk about how much we love the smell of our horses as much as the sight & feel . 👃🥰
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Just when I’m thinking I’m over-saturated with YT interior design channels that seem to repeat the same old themes, you come up with food for thought with a different slant. I think a lot of us don’t realize how our home environment influences our mental health. I’ve gone into homes that immediately depress me and make me want to leave.
I know for a fact that listening to Nick improves my mood. Thank you so much for what you do.
Kinetic (moving) light is apparently good for ones mental health in winter. Examples include candles, an open fire and even a lava lamp
You know, this was really a sweet video. I've lived with mental illness my whole life and this video made me feel seen. Don't let anyone come for you in the comments. Your videos are always great, but this was specifically meaningful and genuine. Thanks ❤
Totally agree with these tips! Also, never understood the head-to-toe all gray interiors in places that have long winters. I grew up in MN, and for 6 months it's horribly gray outside... I can't imagine how drab & depressing it would be to also be surrounded by this in the home. As always, love the video:)
Agreed. Then they take pictures of it and it looks like a black and white photo. Where’s the color? Where’s the life?
if grey is your favorite color it will bring you joy to be in an all-gray apartment. Personally, i love that grey weather. Tastes differ. Like Nick said - know yourself and surround yourself with colors and things You love.
@@kucylja great point! We all have to do what vibes with our personal taste for sure.
@@kucylja That's true. But I think there are a lot of gray rooms because the color is in
@@Catherine3385I happen to love grey. I am a nurse and I work over 12 hours in a hospital whose color palate is beige, blue and white. Grey is calming for me and it would be too overwhelming for me coming home to a similar color palate that I left.
This is probably the best video you've made... Instead of talking on buying things or using colors, you talk about things and habits that make people feel accomplished. Great video!
The photo idea works if they have real meaning. There's something "off" about my living room but I wasn't able to move right now ( I rent) but a few days ago, before I saw this video, I had a photo of my 400 year old Ancestral home in Italy blown up to 60x60 CM. The person who took it (I'm in it) was a bit shaky so another friend and I are quite blurry as is the building but the building is clear enough because it's big. It was a very emotional experience to go there in February to see it and blurry or not, I treasure it as a reminder of who I am and where I came from. It helps my mood in that room a lot.
You know the one I realized I was missing the most in my space was the photos of people and pets. I do have so many good photos of those and I realized I never put them up or look at them. What a great reminder!
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I just want to thank you so much for doing these videos, I've been stuck in a badly lit storage room for 4 months after a ugly divorce, watched this and had plenty of time to plan my move, moved in today and using all the advice to make it feel like a relaxing home, I can't describe that feeling, it's too big..
Nick, I hope any or all of these things are helping you get through whatever you are going through right now. Know that your audience loves, values and appreciates you.
From Australia - totally agree with you - all the best Nick. Also, love your honest delivery.
Tidyness really is a big one and covers so many issues. An object left out is an object without a home. It can take some initial work, but once you establish a place for everything in your home keeping it tidy becomes a matter of putting something back when you're done with it.
I'd also add that freedom of movement is important. The more easily you can move through your home wihout side-stepping awkwardly placed furniture and such the more relaxing it'll be. So try and arrange things in a way that offers a nice flow to your room.
And between these things if you find something just does not fit, perhaps it's time tconsider letting it go so someone else can enjoy it.
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I change my soft furnishings around twice a year. The walls are pale sand and the floor is a walnut laminate. Winter is crimson curtains and heavy tapestry print on chairs and dark brown couch, with pops of purple and old gold in the pillows. The rug is a brown with cream oriental. Then somewhere around late March or early April, I take down the curtains and hang a pale tan rustic linen curtain, the rug is replaced with a "faded" ivory on beige oriental, and the chairs and couch get pale tan covers with green and ivory pillows and faux plants appear (cause I have cats who chew them). This all breaks down to one rolled rug (goes under the bed) and two large plastic totes, and it makes a room that has to be in one furniture alignment due to shape feel fresh and different and appropriate both as the outside shifts towards summer and as it shifts towards winter.
I’ve totally thought of doing this, but never met anyone who did! Thank you for explaining your method! I love it!
Yes ! A few minor changes like a throw on a chair or sofa , swapping out a couple throw pillow covers , etc. are easy & inexpensive as the changes are minimal & easily stored .
I think a really interesting design aesthetic could be based off a concept called Komorebi. Its kinda designing with shadows in mind. Western cultures remove all shadows from architectural design but .. some designs in japan harness shadows. Could be an interesting topic and id love to see what you could do with the content around this 😀
Love this!
When it comes to clutter, have one rule, we can have stuff out and it can be cluttered for a period, even a long period, BUT every item we own have to have permanent place where it belongs, so that it can be put away, and every item can be stored simultaneously without problem. If we want to buy something, we have to first plan where to store it, or what to get rid of to give it storage space. I have been in too many homes where there’s a bunch of stuff that can’t even be put away because there’s not enough storage space.
Don't forget, new lampshades and finials can really be subtle, pretty changes.
Love this ! I am a mental health, professional, and all of these tips I’ve used or have helped me in the past. Plus love your delivery, you should add watching you every week. Also helps improve your mood :-)
Agree, this is very helpful.
Oh I am glad I did the topic justice!
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Such a sweet comment. 💕
I’m autistic, and finding lights that work for me are game changers. I am sensitive to lights and so I used to just not have any. Finding lamps that I enjoy and like are amazing.
100%. I was in a headspace that was terrible, depressed, isolated- and my home reflected that back- clutter, near hoarding, etc. It was cyclical- because I felt bad, home looked bad, because my space was visually exhausting, I was exhausted and pulled even further down. I’ve moved. And while there’s still some clutter and things not unpacked/sorted- it’s been SO much better for me. I was really struggling for several years and it just kept getting worse. I forced myself to make the move, and the change has been amazing. ❤
Agreed! 😊 I’ve owned my condo for 20 years. Some elements are falling apart but I can tell a story about 90% of the contents here. Inherited, thrifted, expensive, crafted, memorials, etc. It’s neat, though. Curated. No one else will ever know all the stories but I do. Feels pretty cool. 😊
Wow you are 100% on the money, rearrange the furniture you have and you will trade out some things. My tip is freshen up the look of the home enterence, its a small space usually and if there is a mirror faceing the door move it and replace it with a happy welcoming picture. And wash you windows inside and out.
Nick, thank you. This is exceptionally helpful. Not just the information, but your delivery is honest and heartfelt.
Getting rid of things that doesn't bring you happiness or even remind you of bad memories is so simple and logical, but I needed to hear it. Thank you for saying it.
In the last two years I met beautiful people and made a lot of good memories. I've never been so happy.
That's why I started to print out photographs so I'll see those happy moments every day.
But somehow I pressured myself to print out pictures that are actually evoking negative feelings, because they are "supposed" to be happy moments.
Because of what you said I realized that I need to listen to my heart.
I like the tips on lighting. Another thing that can help with that, is choosing the right blinds, curtains and window shades. We struggled a bit to get a decent balance between getting enough natural light in, without having way too much sun and heat, as well as keep people from looking in too much. In the bedroom we use heavy dark drapes to block out the light, combined with white plissé blinds that admit a lot of light without letting people look in. In the living room we have awnings to block out the midday sun without blocking all of the light, combines with opaque horizontal blinds to adjust the amount of light and views coming in. I did make a point of motorizing everything, so the adjustment is effortless and partly automated.
Another thing to consider is lighting with an adjustable color temperature. Change it throughout the day: blueish white for focus, warmer white for a neutral mood, and more orangy lighting for atmosphere. Also: cutting the blue spectrum from your lighting later in the evening will help you sleep easier as well.
A word of warning though: if you go down the path of automated blinds and smart lighting, you may end up with a whole new hobby...
This is one of those videos that just goes to show how much Lewis genuinely loves what he does and cares about the impact it makes on others. The snarky and sassy no nonsense is always amazing, but this was a really cool glimpse between the lines to the WHY. Thanks for another informative and applicable video!
Well said !
I used to swap the rooms round so regularly my children said they'd never know what it would look like when they came home from school..that's due to my dad being army and us moving every couple of years when I was a child, I get bored very quickly. So when I married and settled, I couldn't handle staying in the same place. I love decorating and DIY, and anytime I get that feeling, I declutter move furniture around and paint.
Ok but that pic of the hospital...that hospital is way more elegant and chic than any hospital ive been in!!!
It can be difficult when you want to be a moody maximalist but can’t cope with dark rooms. I’ve settled for mid toned walls that go a little smokey in tone on dull days. That and having any decor placed cleverly and organised rather than cluttered, despite having more visual impact.
My interiors bring me peace. It's people making me depressed.
From the Peanuts cartoon series : " I love mankind . It's people I can't stand " . Like you , my home interior is calming ( soft blues , greens , cream ) & is my refuge . My country home exterior is a light slate blue surrounded by lots of trees & green yard - just seeing it as I drive up our road is welcoming & calming . 🥰
Great suggestions - I have 50+ houseplants. In spring they go outside, in fall they come indoors. We have really hard winters here and I definitely find that having indoor plants helps to keep the winter blahs at bay.
Some great tips Nick! I suffered a brain injury 6 years ago. I could barely walk 100 yards, couldnt drive for 3 years, developed C-PTSD in the process, developed severe fight flight response to visual and auditory stimuli, lost my wife and kids, moved three times oh and covid somewhere in there too. Anyway life was pretty bad but i kept going. I attribute some of that success to doing some of the thing i now see in this video … make your bed, keep one room a sanctuary, keep tidy and avoid clutter, good lighting, natural light (or get outside), sleep routine, plant parenting, among many other routines not discussed (daily exercise and time outside, social exposure, meds and supplements, physio, cognitive retraining). I researched a lot for my recovery and Nicks tips are consistent with some of the leading research in mental health. I wish I would have seen something this clear and concise instead of taking years to curate strategies like this. Thank you Nick - you will be saving lives with this info - no joke.
Love this video, Nick because it's so true. I got rid of a desk that I used to settle an estate. It became so depressing to look at even though it was a very nice desk. I gave it away to a young guy who was going to use it for his environmental organization. Now I have good memories of that desk.
I very frequently rearrange items in my home to make if feel fresh again. I find I don't really "see" things after they have been in the same place for a while. Adding new items, even just a few, makes my home feel new again.
Daylight spectrum lightbulbs are so helpful for me in the winter. I have supplemental lights for some of my indoor plants & sitting near that light in the winter is a major mood boost.
If you have a gangrene thumb (like yours truly), but still want greenery in your home, I have a couple of options, as Nick just mentioned. Silk plants and floral arrangements (good ones, and keep them dusted, put potted plants in woven basket for richer look); large paintings of nature (I have van Gogh’s “Trees and Undergrowth”, custom framed, above my sofa…I can almost hear the wind rustling and the birds singing!).
bouquet of fresh flowers works for me, adds colour, scent and it's much cheaper than repainting the walls
Thank you Nick, another great video! Just wanna throw this out there, if you are struggling with depression and are in survival mode, I've found that doing these things that Nick talks about in this video makes surviving a depressive episode easier. Also, don't feel bad to ask for help. You got this and you're worth it❤
Nick, I'm having a bit of what I'm calling a mental health catch-up day. I'm listening to your videos, decluttering and redecorating my space.
Something about the background music paired with your voice is so calming and putting me in the absolute right mood.
I also just decided that the silly black house-shaped vase I had my dad's ashes in was tying me to something I've grown out of. I put them in a beautiful handmade bud vase I found in a thrift store that I've had for awhile and absolutely love. I put a single sprig of dried flowers in the vase, and I love it. I don't think Dad minds too much.
Thank you for letting me overshare and use your videos to improve my home and my mood.
Those salt lamps that were all the rage in 2017 make my eyes and heart happy.
I look through decorating books and take notice which photos make me smile and make my heart go pitter patter. Lately decorating with bold color has interested me. Just have to figure out the right way to incorporate it so the room doesn’t look like a circus.
Love your kind attitude! Another plus with faux plants is that they are more accessible for a lor of us neurodivergent folk.
Nick on a week day shut the front door 🤣🔥❤️👏🏾
Right? But I’m here for it!
Right!❤ But I'm sensing he broke up with someone or something...
Sometimes I throw in an extra Tuesday if I'm ahead of schedule. That happens.... maybe twice a year?? haha
A new Nick vid -- and it's not even Saturday! Maybe Nick has learned that, like interior design, RUclips works best if it's not too predictable. #lifelonglearning
This is throwing me all the way off, his videos at 12 on Saturday afternoons are a part of my routine..
Natural materials- you have beautiful interior and you save nature from plastic. Bamboo is our future eco material- great quality, eco friendly, soft and good works in kitchen (tools, cutting boards etc.)
My favorite towels from bamboo, my favorite socks from bamboo, love it.
If you wanna start your plant journey I can recommend snake plant, cactus or succulents. You can literally forget them for a month and they wont bother
It could be that my my home is making me depressed and anxious, but it could also be that my depression and anxiety is making my home depressed and anxious therefore making me even more depressed and anxious.
The timing of this video is wild because I was dreading going home today because my house is depressing! Thanks for the tips. I'll try these.
I have nothing but nice things to say about this video ❤
If plants are too much for some, there is the option of putting a single leaf in a clear vase (always lots of those for cheap in thrift stores). Monstera, Aspidistra, Anthurium , Eucalyptus and numerous other leaves can be very effective as well as dramatic displayed this way. Grasses, too, can make a wonderful and soothing show. A florist can be a helpful guide to good choices.
What a lovely idea! ❤ 🍃
That las bit of advice is golden. I am approaching 60 now. And as I look around my space it’s like everything has a story. Framed snaps shots of old friends and lovers, pictures of my travels even some toys that I have tried to place as tastefully as possible. A shadow box with mementos from my early teens to now
Loved your advice - loos that are not clean really make me shudder, so what I do is every week put some denture cleaning tablets down the loo and leave overnight - it works. About once every 6 months where the water hits the toilet bowl I clean off the suzzy limescale with Kilrock Gel, leave it for 10 mins then scrub with an old toothbrush. Shiny loos all year!
I spend every video looking at the watch behind to see how much time it took to record it. And this time seems to be a favourite of Nick 😅
I used to have a big sofa that I was given by a friend when she upgraded her furniture. It was big and a bit smelly, and we kept an old curtain over it to cover the torn spots in the upholstery.
I didn't get rid of it because I disliked it, but because our family grew and what had been the living room became a bedroom, so there wasn't room in the house for a big sofa any more. But I gave it to another friend who could afford to get it re-upholstered (and very thoroughly professionally cleaned!) and she has been using it ever since. It gives me a joy every time I sit on it at her place that I never got from it when it was mine!
I completely agree with these points. Rearranging furniture and reshuffling what is in each room can completely change the feel of the space. I find if I’m feeling stuck and stagnant in my life, rearranging my living space can help things feel fresh again.
Thank you for another great video
The advice to have at least one clutter free space in your home is good. If you have a lot of pets or small children, it can be so overwhelming to go from one room to another to another that’s littered with toys, equipment, etc. Realistically you can’t keep more than one room clean and tidy at all times, but it’s such an oasis to have that one uncluttered room to relax in while the hurricanes continue to spread throughout the rest of the house.
Fantastic tips Nick! I find that when I’m organizing each room or switching the furniture around, takes my mind completely from what’s going on in my life. Once done and have a cleared table, doing puzzles, keeps my mind off “things”. Of course watching you, is hilarious, I love your sarcasm!!! I do things that just distract my annoyed mind.
I have started to “shop my own home” as my kids move off to college and I have more time and options to do this. Also, I work from home and I just painted a bedroom pale yellow and moved my office in there and it made a huge difference in my mood and ambition!
Gifted with two disparate, eye-popping pieces of art, a sculpture and a wall hanging + viewing this video (and others of yours) turned me loose of following every one of your recommendations. The result? Pure joy, thank you!
Thank you Nick. Always enjoy your videos. The reminder about the pictures and photos etc that I have taken and in places that brought me joy should be somewhere I can see them and not stuck in a random album somewhere. I am buying my forever home in France soon and all my fantastic American memories from the past 14 years need to be brought with me. So a great suggestion ❤️
Oh good! Yes, put them up!
Congratulations on buying your home in France soon. On a trip to Amsterdam I took a few pictures of their wonderful architecture whilst on a barge slowly sailing down one of the many canals. I had my two favorites enlarged slightly and professionally matted and framed. It elevated them from just a vacation shot to an architectural piece of importance.
Every now and then, your local hobby shop has a 70% off on framing, like now 😂 Michaels is my Go To place. All the best to you for your future. (I watch a U Tube show “Escape to the Dream Restoring The Chateau de Lalacelle which is about a British family who bought a completely dilapidated Chateau almost 3 years ago and have been restoring it daily through extremely hard work. You may find it interesting 💕🐥💕
3:55 I saw an interview with Ricky Martin and one of the ways he deals with being on tour is to have a set up for his dressing room that moves with him so he can step in to the continuity of it no matter where he is. Smart man.
I appreciate you mentioning using colors (specifically yellow) and photos in a positive way! Yellow makes me happy and so do certain photos. Bold Color and Personal Photos are so often discouraged that I began second guessing myself, but they really do make me smile!
I will add that making something for your space and being a little crafty can really help boost your mood and make the space feel special. I'm not an artist but I made a simple piece of abstract art for my living room and it makes the space feel personal.
I put a small faux plant on a high shelf in my windowless bathroom and it raises my eyes (and mood) every time I walk in.
Nick, I have learned an amazing amount from you regarding all aspects of interior design. I’ve lived in our home for many years, and have incorporated so much of your recommendations. Above all, telling my furniture “Bye bye, it’s been great!” is so necessary to advance and change things up! You are fun to listen to, and the best part: you finish quickly! Much appreciated is your time mgmt. No droning on and on! Awesomeness!!
I am a vocal coach. And I love watching your videos. I often use your philosophy in my teaching; you are honest, practical, and you have strong opinions, but you're always clear that opinion is preference. I have the flu and I've been watching your videos and you keep my laughing and inspired. X
I definitely think the trend of grey everything and black and white homes has definitely had a mental impact on people. Too many people are living in cold institutional houses. I love grey and white as much as anyone else, but i warm it up with wood tones,plants, tan, and colorful pillows,throws etc. People need to stop thinking they live on the internet and start making their houses look and feel like homes again.
I placed my desk in front of a window in my home looking out on a large sugar maple. Best thing I've done for myself in some time. I get to watch the seasons drift by. My happy place!
I know people think yellow, it's bright, sunny, happy, etc. Years ago I saw a study that said people fight more in yellow rooms than any other color. I won't paint anything yellow, I don't like yellow anyway, but I always notice when I'm in a yellow room because of that.
This was wonderful thank you Nick. I live in a one bedroom little unit and I was looking around as you spoke and you helped me look at a few things that I could change for the better. I’m quite excited actually!!!
I love your channel, and your accent.
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Thanks great advice. ❤especially those of us who live in unglamorous suburban family homes. Something about my house that was depressing but couldn’t put my finger on it until I saw this video. House def needs a refresh.
My son was coming into adolescence… I painted the walls of his bathroom butter cup yellow. I had an antique clawfoot tub refurbished, and I painted it sunny yellow with nickel plated claw feet. It was awesome! even a teenager could not be in the bathroom and not feel cheerful.😂
You are right on about caring for something/someone besides yourself is crucial for good mental health. My job allows me to help people. It's very satisfying, to know I make a real difference in others lives. YOU, Nick, are helping and making a difference for all of us! Thanks for sharing your brilliance, humor and heart! 💛
I'm super depressed at the moment and yes I got therapy and meds sorted out, but I found a few days where I had the energy to change my living room around and stuff like sectioning off my work area from the relax area, white colors and furniture to hide clutter, and cleaning help me heal so much! And I felt dumb getting a faux plant at first (can't have real, my cat eats them and I always forget to water, especially when depressed) but it made me so happy I got a few more. Now it is calm but still lively here and all I see is things that make me happy in a bright room (and cozy at night due to good lighting). All these tips are so valid, even though I just discovered them after being done redoing my living room. Try out what your energy allows folks, it absolutely helps.
This is so timely! One minute ago, I put the finishing touches on my new bedroom and decided to lie down and enjoy it while checking out RUclips. My mood was definitely off (perhaps due to 100F + temperatures?) So I decided one thing I could do was change my bedroom to something really pleasant and I hit Wayfair and Amazon hard (not gonna get out in the heat). I also filled my car trunk with stuff for Goodwill. (My personal opinion: Get rid of the gray.) It's simply wonderful lying here breathing in the aroma therapy scent and soaking up the pinkish glow from the superb lighting. Even the drawers and cabinets have been cleaned out. Others may not see it but you know it's clean and organized. I love your tip to have a defensible corner somewhere that's your private retreat.
So I have worked in mental health for 20 years and I really loved this video. All the tips can help you feel better in the space that you are in ❤
Please get rid of things that you associate with unpleasantness. It helps so much. If it has a smell or a color that you associate with a toxic person dump it, no matter how valuable it is. Don’t give it to someone in your circle of friends because you will have the same reaction if you go to their house. Or if you see it on them (like jewelry).