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  • @ViyaMallakara
    @ViyaMallakara  2 месяца назад +1

    ruclips.net/video/RIf_jbI6mto/видео.htmlsi=-Q-V8vmVY-WtwcBv

    • @anilsbabu
      @anilsbabu 2 месяца назад +1

      There's a TED talk by Guy Winch on "How to fix a broken heart". 👌

  • @manusree9920
    @manusree9920 2 месяца назад +13

    നമ്മൾ എപ്പോഴും അവരുടെ പോസിറ്റീവ് സൈഡ് മാത്രം ചിന്തിക്കുന്നത് കൊണ്ടാണ് അവർ നമുക്ക് സ്പെഷ്യൽ ആയി തോന്നുന്നത്... അവർ നമ്മളെ അവോയ്ഡ് ചെയ്തത് മുതൽ അവരുടെ പോസിറ്റീവ് എല്ലാം പോയി, so അവർ ചെയ്ത നെഗറ്റീവ്സ് മാത്രം വരട്ടെ മനസ്സിൽ... ഒഴിവാക്കാൻ കളിച്ച ഡ്രാമകൾ... റെസ്‌പെക്ട് തരാത്തത്, ഒക്കെ ഓർത്തു നോക്കുക...❤

  • @Godchildagna
    @Godchildagna 2 месяца назад +40

    Crush nod addiction aayi ath മാറ്റണം but ഇന്നേവരെ സംസാരിച്ചിട്ട് കൂടി ഇല്ല. എൻ്റെ മനസിൽ നിന്നും അയാളെ മാറ്റണം

    • @Odegaard-95
      @Odegaard-95 2 месяца назад +2

      Man daily kandu samsarikenda avastha ithilum kashtamanu

    • @Hiranaswara
      @Hiranaswara Месяц назад

      Same avastha...valare kurache samsarichittullu...pakshe orupaad ishtaanu aalde oro characters um aalk passionodulla thalparyavum 🫠

  • @vishnuvs9253
    @vishnuvs9253 2 месяца назад +95

    You are not in love with that person you are love with the image of that person which is created by your mind

  • @sonasunil1093
    @sonasunil1093 2 месяца назад +43

    BLOCK THEM GUYS, that's so necessary and helpful. So damn true!

  • @sujisunny1267
    @sujisunny1267 2 месяца назад +40

    Njan oralil adict ayi erikarunn apo ee vedio kande eni ok akan nokum🙂

  • @sadharanamanushyan
    @sadharanamanushyan 2 месяца назад +24

    Thanks for the video viya
    ഇത്രേം പേർ love bombing അനുഭവിച്ചിട്ടിട്ടുണ്ടെന്ന് comments കണ്ടപോഴ മനസ്സിലായത്
    ഈ നല്ല മനസുള്ളവരെ ഇവര് target ചെയ്തു attack ചെയുന്ന പോലെ അല്ലേൽ അവരിൽ പെട്ടുപോകുന്ന പോലെ
    ഈ affect ആയവർ ഒത്തു കൂടി ഒരു ഗ്രൂപ്പ് ഉണ്ടാക്കിയാലോ

  • @tarakurup6218
    @tarakurup6218 2 месяца назад +22

    Set a goal in your life. Stop thinking that you want someone better than him. He should not get someone better than you. Work hard,set your goals high, achieve.

    • @arch.here1
      @arch.here1 2 месяца назад +1

      Is this possible?

  • @asaeldeon
    @asaeldeon Месяц назад +2

    ഒരു വർഷം മുൻപ് കേട്ട "ഇനിയെന്നെ കാണാൻ വരണ്ട, വിളിക്കണ്ട, ചാറ്റിങ് കാരണം ടൈം വേസ്റ്റാകുന്നു" വാക്കുകൾ ഓർമ്മ വന്നു. എത്ര ചോദിച്ചിട്ടും ഒരു കാരണം മാത്രം തന്നില്ല. അന്ന് മുതൽ എനിക്കെന്തോ കുഴപ്പമുണ്ടെന്ന തോന്നലിൽ ആയിരുന്നു. ഇത് കണ്ടപ്പോൾ ഒരു ആശ്വാസം.

  • @MASTERGAMINGOFFICIAL-xu5zl
    @MASTERGAMINGOFFICIAL-xu5zl 2 месяца назад +24

    Love bombing നടക്കുമ്പോൾ them:- I dont deserve u, i m so lucky to have u
    Le them after few months:- you dont deserve me😂
    ഇതായിരുന്നു ശെരിക്ക് ഉള്ള അവസ്ഥ bt പണ്ട് അവർ ചെയ്ത നല്ല കാര്യങ്ങൾ ഓർത്തിട്ട് അവർ ആദ്യത്തെ പോലെ ആകും എന്ന് പ്രതീക്ഷിച്ചു സമയം കളയും.. ഒന്ന് രക്ഷപെടാൻ ശ്രെമിക്കുമ്പോൾ ഓർമിപ്പിക്കാനായിട്ട് പിന്നെയും വരും, bt വിശ്വസിക്കരുത് guys.. അത് അവരുടെ tym pass മാത്രം ആണ്... So get over your fantasies and search for something real. ❤️

  • @Kunjaalluuu1111
    @Kunjaalluuu1111 2 месяца назад +24

    Enik oru relationship indarnnu oru 6 varsham kondu nadannathaa aadhym oke vallya karyam aayirunu pinneeed avan abroad poyii pinne contact onnum illandayi avan manapoorvm ozhivakiyatharnnu pinne oru 6 masam kazhinjapo msg ayach avan. Ethoke marakanam iny orikalum pandathe pole aavan pattilaannn pettannn kettappo njn valland aayi poyi aadhym reason chodhichapo avan onnullann paranju
    Pinne paranju avane vere oru kuttykk ishtam aanu aval kettanam ennu paranju nadakkaa avalk ellam ariyam ethra kaalam vare kaathirikan ready aanennoke
    Pinne njan onnum chodhichilaaa
    6 varsham avan enod love aayirunilla attraction mathrm aayirunu enna paranje avan oru living together udeshichullu ennum paranju
    Njn pinne onnum chodhikanum parayanum poyila njan valland depression lekk poyirunu
    Aarkum adhikam ariyatha relationship aayirunu porathathin njan accident aayi plaster ittu kidappayirunu onnu karayan polum pattand angane oru maasam Kidannu
    Pinned idakk msg ayakum vilikum njn respond cheyarilaennu
    Avan abroad pokan kurach adhikam cash koduthirunu athenikk veruthe kalayan pattathath kond mathrm aanu block cheyyanje
    Ee varsham avan nattil vann abroad joli termination kitty
    Ipo ivde oru cmpny l wrk cheyund
    Innalle avante register marriage aayirunu
    Enekond endhoo athangott angareekan pattunnilaa
    Njan mathram mandathy aayenn oru thonnal
    Ethra sramichittum manassil ninnu onnum pokunila
    Njangal orumich wrk cheythirunnath kond ethra ozhivakiyalum samsarathinte idayiloke avante peru keri varum
    Enik vere oralem accept cheyyano vere kalyanam kazhich jeevikamenn chindhikan koodi pattunnilaa

    • @aswathyanil2400
      @aswathyanil2400 2 месяца назад +1

    • @Zaraah_5
      @Zaraah_5 2 месяца назад +4

      Same avastha enikum indayath😭💔after 6 yrs long distance relation i came to know he cheated me…i begged for attention,msgs,calls,meeting.I was ill amd hospitalized with anxieties and health issues bcoz of the stress and overthinking.Still going through heartbreak and going for a therapy.And still he never contact me after knowing all these things.I am addicted to him😭

    • @aravind5186
      @aravind5186 2 месяца назад +4

      No worries , i am also facing through same situation for past 2 years ,but there is a day come everything will be fine .and you are such a precious person with a loyal mind. You dont feel bad anymore its his lost not yours🫶

    • @anjanajayaprakash5478
      @anjanajayaprakash5478 Месяц назад +1

      🙂🫂

  • @nimsayshai
    @nimsayshai 2 месяца назад +19

    Thank you for making such videos which help most teens out there who having such issues but no one to talk about. You really helped me by doing your video love addiction which give me a way to think for myself. Always greatful❤

    • @Shahuuz
      @Shahuuz 2 месяца назад +1

      Love addiction is my fav tooo...

  • @donapaulose
    @donapaulose 2 месяца назад +15

    Communication skills improve cheyyan tips oru video cheyyaamoo..
    And this was a good one!

  • @aswathymt6403
    @aswathymt6403 2 месяца назад +7

    Block its not a right thing to do..... Its make us tendency to unblock and random check.... Heal it naturally...

  • @Minnuuey
    @Minnuuey Месяц назад +2

    Enik angne samsarikn polm..frnd space tharila🫠..bt avlde karyngal oke njn listen cheyarnd.. bt still aarum ente veshmangal onum onum alatha pole like njn ezpzhm aalochikum..enik enne polethe oru friend undayirunenhil enn🙂

    • @azad738
      @azad738 21 день назад +1

      It's only a matter a time until you find right ones.🏂

  • @riaw.
    @riaw. 2 месяца назад +11

    It worked the other way for me. I mean the last part abt blocking that person. It was a frnd and when he continued bullying me i dumbed him but i felt so down and blocked him. In the end i got the strength to unblock him. Yaahh thats how it worked for me. Im giving him space in my phone too measure my strength to see how much i get triggered and now im doing good. Nothing triggers me.

  • @MyMobile-p3y
    @MyMobile-p3y 2 месяца назад +20

    Honestly i hate men who flirt , chila guys und they make us feel they are into us enn , enna they are searching for better girls , unfortunately friendsinte idayil ith nadakkumbozhaan ettavum problem.

    • @MyMobile-p3y
      @MyMobile-p3y 2 месяца назад +1

      ​@@Charlotte24-t7wit took time for me to realise what he's doing and more time to leave him, ethra pettenn avare leave cheyynno athrayum nallathaan, avar nammalde friendship ne respect cheyyathath kondaan friendsinte emotions vach kalikkunnath, oru quality Ulla oraaal ath orikkalum cheyyilla, so ningalk onnum nashtapedilla

    • @sanal8184
      @sanal8184 4 дня назад

      ​@@MyMobile-p3y they may not be doing deliberately to hurt anybody. They too have same psychological issues. Its a way of finding shelter, but perhaps it may not be the proper channel.

  • @doraemon6054
    @doraemon6054 2 месяца назад +18

    Ente problem enthannen vechal enik petten oralod attraction thonnum athippol first time kaanuna oral aanenkil koodi oru communication polum ellathe thanne njn attracted aavum.Ennit pinne avarem enneyum kurich daydream cheyth konde erikkum, social media il account thappi edukkuk avarde pinne constant aayi ath check cheyyum,enik engane okke cheyyumbol ariyam ethenne drain cheyyukayanenn but i couldn't stop it.But ee oru attraction maximum 3 weeks okke undaku,pinne vere aarodenkilum attracted aakum.Quora il okke daydreaming ne kurich vayichappol kandath daily life activities ne affect cheyyunilla enkil normal aan ennan but ente karyathil cheriya reethiyil ente daily life ne eth affect cheyyunnund like padikenda time okke concentrate cheyyan pattathe aa attraction thonniya vekthiye kurich orthirikkum.Oru loop pole aan,enik serious aayi engane cheyyunath nirthanon und but I don't know why I get easily attracted to others.

    • @user-dr8bd1we4s
      @user-dr8bd1we4s 2 месяца назад +1

      Emotional ayyt anoo pettan attract avune🙂

    • @doraemon6054
      @doraemon6054 2 месяца назад +3

      @@user-dr8bd1we4s Eerekure,avark enne eshtamavilla ennokke orth othiri veshamikkum,avar enne eshtapettilel ente complete worth pokunna pole okke thonnum but now I know that njn aa oru vekthiye bhayankara high position il vekkunath kondan angane okke thonnunathen, still aarod attracted aayalum ellam pazhe pole thanne nadakkum🙁

    • @Amald442
      @Amald442 2 месяца назад

      @@doraemon6054 Doraemon nte pocketil ithinullla device onnumille😢

    • @_.Aswin._
      @_.Aswin._ 2 месяца назад

      @@doraemon6054 this is a worst trait, ethrayum pettannu our dr kandu treat cheyyu, nale ningalude lifil our partner varumbo you will suffer for this

    • @jjm198
      @jjm198 Месяц назад +1

      Its because of your age. Your first priority should be studies or job, then you will get very good beautiful person.

  • @aswathykn7777
    @aswathykn7777 2 месяца назад +6

    I had a person like this in my past...and he got commited by the end of our colg to his school crush...and i was left in trauma...and i struggled a lot to come out of it and became emotionaly stronger and stable and moved on...then he started appearing in my chats Nd calls and insta etc....only thing i could do was to just block him in every media...still he found a way to msg through gmail....i wonder he was the one who left with the new one and now y is he doing this ...feels like he want to make me guilty for not forgiving or forgetting ...he ask me to be like frnds ... which i cant and i dont want.....my life without that person is the best .... stronger me with self respect and self esteem....now i started loving myself which i forgot for the past 4-5 years ....😅

    • @jjm198
      @jjm198 Месяц назад

      Never fall for that person again. Permanent delete/block is good for you

  • @HeyA-ft7dw
    @HeyA-ft7dw 2 месяца назад +8

    I do have some suggestions:
    Can you talk about evil eye? Is that really true or not bcz there were situations in life where you forced or convinced to think its true especially when life become unfair without any reason.. Back to back prblms, mishaps and so on... On top of that I've seen celebrities believing in it ( what wonders me is when pearly maaney who talk a lot about sub conscious mind is believing in such things) it's really confusing
    And pls make contents related to confidence/ self esteem/ self worth

  • @ann_s3691
    @ann_s3691 2 месяца назад +5

    He got married with another person and we're working in same company. So we can't avoid meeting each other. Njan maximum move on cheyyan nokkunnundenkilum he knows what he meant to me and he tries to take advantage of that.

    • @rajaniChandra-bj8rp
      @rajaniChandra-bj8rp 2 месяца назад +2

      വേറെ കമ്പനിയിൽ നോക്കാൻ പറ്റുമോ. dear zindagi movie യിൽ Alia Bhatt inte story ഓർത്താൽ മതി അവളുടെ Ex ഉള്ളടുത് അവൾക് work ഇന് പോകാം . അങ്ങനെ ചെയ്താൽ അത് അവളുടെ career inu ഉപകാരം വരും...but അവൾ mental peace inu importance കൊടുത്തു.. ചിലപ്പോൾ നിങ്ങൾ വിചാരിക്കും ഞാൻ എന്തിന് മാരണം അയാൾക് മാറികൂടെന്ന്. but ഇതു ഒരു തോൽവി അയി കാണണ്ട ,മനസ്സമാധാനം അന് ജയം .ah movie il avasanam avalk swanthamayi oru documentary movie direct cheyyem cheythallo...so life ile e vitukodukalukal valiya നേട്ടത്തിലേക് പോകും...
      കണ്ണകലുംമ്പോൾ മനസ്സും അകലും..
      Philosophy എന്ന് പറയുന്നത് തോന്നുമ്പോൾ നമുക്ക് ഉപയോഗിക്കാൻ ഉള്ളതാണ് , Rick and Morty il പറയുന്നപോലെ പോലെ, "love is just a chemical reaction compells animal to breed "
      Ennoke alochichal mathi , പ്രേമത്തിന് valiya deep meaning onnum കൊടുക്കേണ്ട..
      Studies prakaram പ്രണയത്തിൽ ആയിരിക്കുന്ന oru വ്യക്തിയുടെ thachorinte pravarthanam , addiction ayit bendhapetta chemical prakriyaykk samanayi Kanan sadhikum ..
      Anthropology il manushyarude pranayathe kurichum padanangal nadathiya videos und ...ellathinu scientific vishadikaranam thedumbol , premam onnum valiya karyam അല്ല എന്ന് മനസ്സിലാവും

  • @dreamcatcher7471
    @dreamcatcher7471 2 месяца назад +5

    E video ex ne patti aanenkilum enik friend nte bhagath ninnu oru experience undayi 4 years aayit best friends aayirunnu oru dhivasam enik vaiyathe hospital l ethichu avidunnu medical College lekum pinned oru varsham full medication aayirunnu appo ayal ennod mindunnath kuranjirunnu njan chodhichappo athu communication gap aanennu paranju asukham maari thirike ethiyappo pazhaya pole mindi pettennu pinned kure mindathe erunnappo njan angot msg itt appo paranju njan ellavarodum distance eduvanu ente karyathil edapedaruth ennu endhina angane paranjath ennu chodhichappo block cheythu pinned oru friend paranju arinju aalk PhD kitti enne block cheythathinte pitte dhivasam ennu pinned oru karyam koodi arinju ayalude mattoru friend ayal padikunna sthalath ( abroad ) ethi ennu aa kutti ente koode thanne padichathanu pakshe avarod aarodum distance ettilla oru thettum cheyathe block cheythu enne athu vallathe vishamipichu trauma bonding pole actually I am waiting for a surgery athum ariyavunna aal angane kanichappo mentally thakarnnu friendship aanu ennalum vishamam und

  • @navyasudheesh
    @navyasudheesh 2 месяца назад +5

    (Execpt from the video talks).. I wanna say that.. My joy is indescribable that viya has been making videos constistently for some time now

  • @mubash4861
    @mubash4861 2 месяца назад +7

    Expecting more videos like this❤️

  • @nishavasudevan
    @nishavasudevan 2 месяца назад +18

    Guys who propose too soon to be either girlfriend or for marriage want just to own you. They lose interest also too soon. From personal experience

    • @tiktokfavorite3070
      @tiktokfavorite3070 2 месяца назад +2

      She is talking about love bombing...ethu satharaa cheyunnath ladies annnu..njangal pavam boys

    • @MyMobile-p3y
      @MyMobile-p3y 2 месяца назад

      Social media yil Kand propose cheyyunna guysum own cheyyan vendiyano try cheyyunnath ?

    • @idontevenhaveapla7224
      @idontevenhaveapla7224 2 месяца назад +3

      ​@@tiktokfavorite3070 That's not true at all 😂
      Pottakkinattile thavalakku pinne ingane paranjondu irikkaa

    • @tiktokfavorite3070
      @tiktokfavorite3070 2 месяца назад

      @@idontevenhaveapla7224 I was just joking lol

  • @rebeeyack9854
    @rebeeyack9854 2 месяца назад +13

    Idhepole enikk oru anubavam und njan plus one il padikkumbol aan aalet company aayadh oru 4 months nallam chat cheyyumarunu kurach kazhinjappo theere mind illadhayi idhil paranjapole over aayitt attention thannu aadhyam njan athra serious aayi eduthilla pinne njanum ariyadhe over aduthu adh enne palaridhiyilum affect aayinu pinne ivan company kurachappo njan avanod chenn samsarichu . avan paranju ninnodulla company chadachitalla njan chat kurachadh ennokke . njan chodhichu pinne endhina kurachadhen appo avan paraya nammalk randalkum nalladh company kurach vekkunadhanen but adh paranjappo enikk onnum manasilaayilla pinne manasilaayi avankk oru reason illa endha paranj enne ozhivakkum enn adhukond aan avan angane paranjadhen because ennodulla company avankk kurakanamayirunu avankk classile vere kuttine ishtamanen ennod paranjau ennitum enikk msg ayakkum adh enikk nalla budhimutayi maari ennod chodhichu njan ninne cheat cheydha pole thonniyo enn appo enikk manasilaayi avankk avan thetukaranalla enn bodhipikanam actually njan avanet maximum company kurakan shremichadhayinu appol okke avan parayum ninak ippol ennetulla company venda alle enn enikku avane thiruthanam enn undayinu nammal adhin couples allallo ingane okke samsarikan enn but njan paranjilla because avan enikk ithrem important thannapol adhava njan angane paranjal adh avankk ethra affect aavum chindhichitt njan kuree kaalam avante ishtathin chat cheydhu Njanum enjoy cheydheenu aa company because idhil paranjapole njan vijarichu enne nallavnam manasilakiya aalanen .avan aanege avante problemsum ennod share cheyyumarunu appol okke njan vijarich enne ithra important aayi kandadh kondalle avan ennod idhokke share cheyyunadhen but avan company kurachappolum adhepole classile vere kuttine ishtanen paranjapolum njan thindhichirinnu avankk chat cheyyanum avante ooron kelkanum oraal venamayirunu njan eppalum available aayi thonniyappo avan enne choose cheydhu enn njan aanege classil theerim active alla avan nere thirichaan over active aan appo enood paranju ente characterum ninte characterum opposite aan adhukond ee company sheriyavula enn but njan chindhichirunadh adhokke oru reason aayit edukan pato because njan ingane aanen avankk already ariyam pinne ippol idhum paranj company kurakende aavishyam illallo idhaanegil aadhyame avankk enoodulla company nirthamayirunu sambavam avankk ennood endhayirunu enn polum ippalum manasilavinilla karanam avan edakk enne nokkalund adhepole edakk samsarikan shremikalumund also avankk aa kuttiye ishtamaan idhedh endhaanen manasilavadhe kuree dhivasam valare budhimutayinu adhil ninn recover aayi varunollu idhokke ketal chelorkk thonnum idhinte onnum aavishyam illayinu aadhyame avane paranj manasilakiya porayino enn adh sheriyan adhaan ente eduth patiya problem njan theere samsarikathe oraalan appo podhuve frdsum kuravaan appol pettan oraal ingand vann ithrem important okke thannapol njan cherudhayitt onn maari chalepol njan thanne vijarikkum ee age nte preshnanen because enikk ippol 16 year old aayitollu adhinte okke oru preshnamavum enn vijarikkum kurachkoodi maturity undengil inganethe onninum povillayirunu ennokke but ee video kandapol kuree useful aayi thank you so much ❤

    • @Sumi-rh6on
      @Sumi-rh6on 2 месяца назад +2

      Eey than parayane enik mnsilavanond around same thing happened with me too and I assure he is jst using avoid him with all the energy you hv ... Run and don't blame yourself ith mnsilakan time edukum and easily athin anusarich nmmk respond cheyan pattilla bt ippo thanik oru idea Vanna sthithik don't waste your time

  • @aryagopalakrishnan9458
    @aryagopalakrishnan9458 2 месяца назад +20

    Currently I'm healing from trauma bond. And in this journey i realised that talking about them with others also give us dopamine hit. And i did plenty of time jst for that hit. Yes it is really addictive. Even when whole world validate that he/she treated you wrong, still our mind won't be ready to accept the fact that ...they won't give a damn abt u😅 Your brain work based on the imaginery things where u placed that person as spcl one. You won't realise it's our energy and love made them special. Without that they are just a normal imperfect human.
    And We want to act cool.
    So never block/ unfollow them. Act like we don't care.. bt deep we all know that's the only thing we care abt sometimes. So I'm going to block that person right now as u said 😌 if it's make me more silly..less mature..less understanding...
    I'm all ready for that tags jst to protect my peace of mind.

  • @FTR007
    @FTR007 2 месяца назад +4

    Nee ente Jeevan aanennu oru pennu ennod paranjal ipo enikk chiri varum..
    Athraikk njan anubhavichu..
    Athinu ingane oru perundennu arinjilla😂😂
    Viya paranath seri aa.. online um status um okke kaanumbo 💔😢
    Enthayalum innu njan block cheyyum..

  • @athiraa9685
    @athiraa9685 2 месяца назад +3

    Enne pattichitt kore thavana poyi.. Pinneed vere relation aayi. Vere relation ulla karyam ennod paranjilla.. Pinna avl poyapo karma noke paranju vannu.. Avn struggle cheythond nikunne tym aayrnn.. Job oke illand. Apo pinnem vitt varan patteela.. Pinnem njn physically struggle cheyyunne tym loke enne care cheyyanilla nn kandapo njn erangi vannu. But ath last avan vtl nammale karyam paranjapol aayrnn.. Ntho regret thonnanoo..pattanilla move on aakan

  • @dreamer876
    @dreamer876 2 месяца назад +6

    Much needed. Thank you so much for this video.❤🫂
    Aale account stalk cheythondirikkumbozha ee notification vannath🙌
    ..and want more videos like this please.

    • @diya5765
      @diya5765 2 месяца назад +1

      Yess...me too in my same situation

  • @vyshnavinp1076
    @vyshnavinp1076 2 месяца назад +4

    Please do video on relationships

  • @AngelS-ur2pn
    @AngelS-ur2pn 2 месяца назад +3

    Please do healing on disorganized attachment style

  • @wtavcdo
    @wtavcdo Месяц назад +1

    Viya, I'm the one who left him. But it was not because I lost feelings or I lost excitement . I started feeling like he's immensely hurt cos of my unavailability. Idk if it's love bombing or not, I got into this relationship when I was waiting fr my allotment after entrance; I had nthg to do in my life then, I gave my whole attention and I spent too much time in this but soon after I got admitted in a college I had lot of things to do there and I went hostel cos college is far away🙂. It created tandroms everyday, even if I feel like I left him and made me him feel empty I prioritised my mental health and I felt so stuck in this relationship and started feeling like this is not fr me...I heard what my gut said..I expect you to talk scientifically from the side of ppl like me; so that ppl like me would not feel confused while going through thse😢

  • @arunkesavan1902
    @arunkesavan1902 2 месяца назад +6

    Nice one. It is not an easy process to come out. Whichever strategies we apply in this, it will take time for our mind to process it.
    Could you comment on this short film "At war with the world" by bhavana studios.

  • @aravinda.9925
    @aravinda.9925 Месяц назад +1

    It's your thoughts which them special. Change your thoughts and you change your world.

  • @devikak9962
    @devikak9962 2 месяца назад +9

    Enik plusone padikubol oru chekkan bhatagara ishtamayirunnu adhyam enik kurach deshyamayirunnu pinne crush plustwoyill ethiyappol completely love aayi njan ithuvara avanod onnu mindittum polum illa chirichittila 2 kollam orumich padichitt njangal ennum eye contact ndavumayirunnu njan agott nokubol Avan igott nokkum icant moved that person😢 idk he love me or not Avan kanubol njan virachu chavumm entho oru bhayamm

    • @ViyaMallakara
      @ViyaMallakara  2 месяца назад +12

      I would say If you need this to change, go talk to him and make him your friend. Otherwise it could drain your energy or distract you in life.

    • @devikak9962
      @devikak9962 2 месяца назад

      ❤​@@ViyaMallakara

    • @harikrishnan7688
      @harikrishnan7688 2 месяца назад +1

      Same story but different.. she is committed with another guy..now njan oolod parnju nnatum oru samadhanam kittinla..

    • @devikak9962
      @devikak9962 2 месяца назад

      @@harikrishnan7688 he proposed my bestfriend but she rejected but iam ok with that njangala junior girl nna purpose cheyth enik hurt aayi kore when he look at me when he talk to her it was lot embarassed me at the end of us plustwo his behaviour totally changed he looking me everytime but I can't purpose him he is very handsome and iam avg girl but I can't moved on that guy now iam learning😌 we both follow each other in social media idk what course he choose after plustwo

    • @devikak9962
      @devikak9962 2 месяца назад

      @@harikrishnan7688 what did she say?

  • @devikad2786
    @devikad2786 Месяц назад +1

    Avoidant attachment style ne patti deatailed oru vdo cheyyamo

  • @fortunewellness1497
    @fortunewellness1497 2 месяца назад +1

    മറന്നിരിക്കുന്ന എന്നെ വീണ്ടും ഇത് ഓര്‍മ്മിപ്പിക്കുന്നു 😢😢😢😂😂😂

  • @kedarsm6252
    @kedarsm6252 2 месяца назад +4

    2:34 tto 🥰

  • @Ishu.ima_aa
    @Ishu.ima_aa 2 месяца назад +2

    8:54 athu breakup akki pogunna aalu care cheyunnilla..cheat cheyapetta aalkkayirikkum forever trauma😢

  • @user-hc1no1fw1c
    @user-hc1no1fw1c 2 месяца назад +4

    Can u pls Share ur personal experience about trauma bonding 😊

  • @fsociety6761
    @fsociety6761 2 месяца назад +12

    It's plane and simple I thought she was a good friend of mine. പക്ഷെ ഒരു ദിവസം എന്നെ പരിഗണിക്കൽ പോലും നിർത്തി it was like I didn't exist. I demanded a closure on the phone like after waiting for 3 months. Then she was like 'അങ്ങനെ ഒന്നൂല്യട, ഞാൻ just busy ആയി പോയി' 🙂. I couldn't speak much after that. ഇനി ഞാൻ എന്താ ചെയ്യണ്ടേ? Should I talk to her? Or ignore her like she does me

    • @vishnuvs9253
      @vishnuvs9253 2 месяца назад +15

      If your absence doesn't bother them then your presence didn't mattered them.

    • @user-dr8bd1we4s
      @user-dr8bd1we4s 2 месяца назад +1

      ​@@vishnuvs9253💯

    • @Sumi-rh6on
      @Sumi-rh6on 2 месяца назад +3

      Jst ignore her thats the better thing to do for yours

  • @divya9644
    @divya9644 2 месяца назад +2

    Viya, please consider doing a detailed video on avoidant attachment style.

  • @alanwayne369
    @alanwayne369 2 месяца назад +2

    Ignore Her go to the gym or fighting focus on your purpose you will be happy especially you are a man

  • @sanal8184
    @sanal8184 4 дня назад

    Passed recently through all these situation.

  • @maleificent_the_kind9563
    @maleificent_the_kind9563 2 месяца назад +6

    A needed topic.. ❤ what a mental trap it was😢

  • @AkkuSoail-hu7eu
    @AkkuSoail-hu7eu 29 дней назад +1

    രണ്ട് പേരും ഒരെ pole ആണെങ്കിലോ 😢

  • @samjohn6218
    @samjohn6218 2 месяца назад +3

    A girl interacted with me a few years before , felt "love-bombing" now as you said. That time , I was in an one sided love so I kept that strong. After a few months the so called "love-bombed" girl left me , and she knows the depth of my one sided love and I've told that to her.
    My real problem is what , How could I understand the love expressed by the girl is genuine or not ? Its getting worsening day by day. 😢

  • @merinjoseph7601
    @merinjoseph7601 2 месяца назад +1

    yes block them.its definitely working

  • @mubash4861
    @mubash4861 2 месяца назад +2

    I was going through this

  • @anekakuttath8125
    @anekakuttath8125 2 месяца назад +4

    want a video on love and limerence

    • @ViyaMallakara
      @ViyaMallakara  2 месяца назад +1

      I had done it
      ruclips.net/video/eljbtbLl_HU/видео.htmlsi=7o__8SHfuVgsMwv7
      Please check

  • @blueclouds-ff8pm
    @blueclouds-ff8pm 8 дней назад

    Fully avoid cheyyathe (i mean block cheyyathe) avorhodulla feelings povan nthelum tips undo or any advices?

  • @schrodingerscat7247
    @schrodingerscat7247 21 день назад

    Viya why do we feel like i am not worthy of love?i used to keep a distance from boys beacuse i don't want to fall in love,but at the same time i am desperate for being in a romantic relationship.I never felt like am worthy of love beacuse of my traumatic childhood,i always want to heal and become a new person.

  • @Modern_Alchemist1111
    @Modern_Alchemist1111 2 месяца назад +7

    Great topic❤

  • @monishamohan.i
    @monishamohan.i 2 месяца назад +1

    Nice vedio ❤

  • @thugvibesvibe
    @thugvibesvibe 2 месяца назад +5

    I wish I can explain the whole...God...can't control my tears... thank you viya chechi♥️

  • @anandmohanan6662
    @anandmohanan6662 2 месяца назад +5

    what if i am the wrong one , how to correct myself

  • @snehajissy3302
    @snehajissy3302 2 месяца назад +2

    About dating viya.

  • @sonaponnuz5843
    @sonaponnuz5843 2 месяца назад +1

    Well said❤

  • @geethusureshgps
    @geethusureshgps 2 месяца назад +5

    I was waiting for this ♥️

  • @MyMobile-p3y
    @MyMobile-p3y 2 месяца назад +2

    13:14 you are not alone , anikum same experienced undayitund and literally 2 years eduthu detatched aakan , within 2 weeks kond connected aayi ellavarum enne blame cheythu angane undakumo ennokke paranj 2 week is too short enn paranj kaliyaakkiyittund , ingane ulla invalidation ath pole self worth question cheyyum nammale onninum kollie ennokke, basically its not about time its about the connection, ee flirt cheyyunnavarokke ariyunnilla depth of damage it can cause to someone

  • @JB-01
    @JB-01 2 месяца назад +3

    Dopamine ne kuruch oru video cheyyamo? How to increase, what happens when it reduces and so on?

  • @MyMobile-p3y
    @MyMobile-p3y 2 месяца назад +2

    So i am trauma bonded , because i romantisise it

  • @Crazaass
    @Crazaass Месяц назад

    Pls do a vdo about how to deal with family issues

  • @slumk00
    @slumk00 2 месяца назад +3

    Going through a breakup now 🙂. This helps

  • @neethi8806
    @neethi8806 2 месяца назад +5

    Hi chechi i was having 6 and half relation and exactly chechi paranjath poleyanu that person, he gave me alot of trauma and insecurities. Ith kazhinjit 8month ayenkilum move on avan pattiyilla should i go for therapy?
    Pls rply

    • @ViyaMallakara
      @ViyaMallakara  2 месяца назад +1

      If you had done all the things mentioned in my video and it still didn’t help. Yes, go for therapy.

    • @sreelathan1572
      @sreelathan1572 2 месяца назад +1

      Therapy will definitely help you

  • @_rachel_green_
    @_rachel_green_ 2 месяца назад +2

    I own my friends alot😢. They let me talk same thing over and over again❤ Blessed aan 🤗

  • @plutoperson3978
    @plutoperson3978 2 месяца назад

    What if we moved forward from that person but what to do when we meet that person by chance in future ( in friendship context)

  • @user-dr8bd1we4s
    @user-dr8bd1we4s 2 месяца назад +4

    Much needed one🙂❤

  • @athulya_soni
    @athulya_soni Месяц назад

    Thank you ❤️👍🏻

  • @user-du7lb7hg6h
    @user-du7lb7hg6h 2 месяца назад +3

    Thankyou for the video ❤

  • @AyshanasrinVn
    @AyshanasrinVn Месяц назад

    1 yr kazhnju
    Slowly healing

  • @francispb1693
    @francispb1693 2 месяца назад +2

    ❤❤

  • @aravind5186
    @aravind5186 2 месяца назад

    Thanks

  • @kaira6531
    @kaira6531 2 месяца назад +2

    You are always best with your contents❤️

  • @lakshmikp3654
    @lakshmikp3654 2 месяца назад +3

    Blocking is very effective way!

  • @nishasalini9979
    @nishasalini9979 2 месяца назад

    Pg certificate in counciling,ee course nalleyano,

  • @aswathyadhu2903
    @aswathyadhu2903 2 месяца назад +3

    Thanku viya chechi❤

  • @thugvibesvibe
    @thugvibesvibe 2 месяца назад +1

    How to get gud sleep athine kurich oru video cheyuo ...

  • @manjuvaikharipoetry613
    @manjuvaikharipoetry613 2 месяца назад +2

    😀👍

  • @Unicorn12342-s
    @Unicorn12342-s 2 месяца назад +2

    Twinflame എന്നത് stupidity ale

    • @MyMobile-p3y
      @MyMobile-p3y 2 месяца назад

      Psychological aan , it happens ,allathe athil mystery onnum illa, mystery undaakkunnath nammal entho special aanenn thonnikkaanaan

  • @karthiknr9142
    @karthiknr9142 2 месяца назад +3

    get another one! simple! they miss you when they fail to replace you!

    • @Praveen.mukunda.3
      @Praveen.mukunda.3 2 месяца назад +2

      Do not go into a rebound relationship for forgetting another person. Once you forget your ex , you will feel less attached to current partner. Which will hurt current partner. Don't do that to any one

  • @Nrsneha
    @Nrsneha 2 месяца назад

    And what to do if they are coming back

    • @aswathykn7777
      @aswathykn7777 2 месяца назад +1

      Do not read a bad book twice because u already know what the story line is gonna to be...😅

  • @countryride6031
    @countryride6031 2 месяца назад +3

    She was a emotional vampire 😅

  • @catherine28888
    @catherine28888 2 месяца назад +1

    I have this issues

  • @Ho7e
    @Ho7e 23 дня назад

    🤍

  • @jasnakanz3583
    @jasnakanz3583 2 месяца назад

    Love uuu Viyaa❤

  • @jdigcigcigciy
    @jdigcigcigciy 2 месяца назад +2

    Maam if i was beutiful he would have loved me back right?

  • @harshappharsha
    @harshappharsha 2 месяца назад +2

    Your contents🫰

  • @restore__life1705
    @restore__life1705 2 месяца назад

    Thank u Sooo much Viyaa for doing this video🙏🩵... It's a kind of Liberation for me. Same thing happened to me from my friend a few months ago, I was broken initially because of Love bombing.. but now in the healing process... The comment box makes me Feel that I'm not alone 🥰🥰
    This experience came to our life only to make us emotionally grow💜🎉

  • @viswas_a
    @viswas_a 2 месяца назад +5

    Thank you so much for your video, Viya !!!At the 11:47 timestamp,,, you mentioned that word with your tune in the context of the final call bell of a relationship... I was about to wish her through text on her birthday,,, which is happening next week,,, but after hearing that particular moment in your video,,, I stepped back... Hearing that was such a relief and made me realize that I should definitely take that step... Your insights have truly helped me... Thank you 🥹💚

  • @tiktokfavorite3070
    @tiktokfavorite3070 2 месяца назад +2

    I heard that after the Tamil movie '96' was released, there was an increase in people searching for their old classmates and lost loves. Even those who didn't actually have a past love started imagining or claiming they had a crush in school. Additionally, many husbands and wives began reconnecting with old friends and started romantic relationships, at least over the phone. There have been several such cases reported in Kerala and Tamil Nadu.

  • @blueclouds-ff8pm
    @blueclouds-ff8pm 13 дней назад

    ooh thissss is what my current situationn. But not in a relationship with him . Njan yes paranjilla. But that 1 week in my life🫠i can’t even explain it. First he tell me he has a crush on me and everything exactly you said. But not clear one day hurt me emotionally (some dramatic story behind😂 ) that 2days i just fully drained ❤️‍🩹(also iwas staying hostel ). I have another problem which i’m trying to heal got worst at that time and it made more stressed. And then i try to make everything solve . Now we just msg sometimes . Not in a rationship . But it’s complicated now🥲. How can i escape. It’s very hardddd.

  • @mubash4861
    @mubash4861 2 месяца назад +1

    Expecting more videos like this ❤️

  • @anaghabhaskar3302
    @anaghabhaskar3302 2 месяца назад

    Helpful video❤

  • @arunimakr5855
    @arunimakr5855 2 месяца назад +1

  • @dilshanapp4087
    @dilshanapp4087 2 месяца назад

    Thanks

  • @preesapeter9264
    @preesapeter9264 2 месяца назад +2

    Great 😍

  • @user-gk5pk9cv7u
    @user-gk5pk9cv7u 2 месяца назад +1

    Thankyouuu so much chechiii

  • @roshnikrishna7455
    @roshnikrishna7455 2 месяца назад

    👍