To all the brothers who are looking for this good woman who put paradise over dunya. Here are some advices: focus on yourself get better as a muslim and be like you want your wife. For example she should not have social media so you also should not have it. She should not listen to music u also... that means start with yourself and fix everything. You also need to make a lot of dua and I mean a lot of dua from the bottom of your heart. Then you will be tested and you also need to have sabr. When your time comes Allah will let you find her. And she will be even better than you expected. But only if you do it exactly like this and dont give up.
Wallah you are on point brother this made me emotional wallah … I always desperately wanted a wife and a family my parents were divorced when I was 7 and I have no siblings and most all my family out of the country … my soul has always been wanting a wife to live life with and make a family like I never had… it took me so long to find a “good wife” who took Islam serious and had the same values as me and I tried hard for years but was so hard for me … once I got rid of social media and focused on bettering myself as a Muslim and was test over and over and over again and remained patient and waited and trusted Allah and made so much deep dua to Allah in night prayers and Ramadan and every prayer Allah gave me a better wife than I ever could’ve even imagined from the most least expected way and place Alhamdulillah… thank you for this bro JazacAllah you are absolutely right it starts with you first and sabr and watch how Allah makes it happen you have to remain strong and have faith and it will happen didn’t happen until I was 26 but it happens Alhamdulillah
Non practicing are hypocrites,if you want to know whether they are muslim or not just ask the why they are muslims. Sadly 99% of them are hypocrites that makes it more harder my advice is to find one that you think you like and educate them on the purpose of their life because majority lack knowledge, I hope this will help by the will of Allah.
I don’t agree with the sheikh. It’s not that the young man isn’t looking in the right places, it’s just that good quality practicing women are so rare, regardless of where he looks. As a Muslim man in the West, I can relate to his struggle. And this young man is from the UK (which I can tell by the accent). When Muslims are a small minority of the general population, that already makes it extra hard since the selection pool is super small. He should try his luck searching in a Muslim country, which would be his home country (wherever that may be). He might have better options thanks to the huge Muslim population.
@@ovna Most women on the Muslim matchmaker apps are free members and even if you pay most your messages will not get a response. In my opinion the online matchmaker or mussmatch is a waste of time and it's just a business that they sell you can find love there but they just want to keep you on the site dealing with unserious people
salam bro(again)I honestly hate them with my guts,they mostly live their desires and not their religion and only care about themselves.(it is literally in the name FEMENist)
You ain’t gonna starve or beg on the street if you have no TV, calm down lol. TV is filled to the brim with fitnah, and its benefits are very few, if any. Maybe you could use the TV to play Qur’an recitations on RUclips, but its harms far outweigh its benefits. Same could be said for social media.
@@fardeenmahmud8866 bruh, if u just read my comment properly then u will understand thats what i just said.... I didnt wrote direct answer but the meaning is same thing u are saying all along. As the matter of fact in my room i have a big inch wifi tv but i rarely use it like really rarely ( 1 - 2 ) times in 2 months only when kids wanna see some cartoon animation movie.
Honestly I see this "problem" quite often today. Because we have so much choice it is harder to choose. It's called paradox of choice. Our grant parents lived in villages and it was easier for them to find a spouse. But for us we always think "there is someone better out there". There will always be shortcomings (like you have too). Either she will listen to music or her hijab is not complete, or she has some pictures on social media. If she checks most of your boxes, and most importantly has authentic iman and tries to improve herself go for it and support her as a husband to become a better muslimah. Otherwise you might stay single for a lifetime trying to find a perfectly pious sister who has no apparent shortcoming.
You’re right, you can’t have perfection in a spouse. Everyone will have some kind of shortcoming. It’s up to the man to set up a list of criteria, and determine what is he willing to compromise on and what we won’t compromise on For me, here are some things that are 100% non-negotiable. • Her past. She MUST be clean, with little to no past encounters with men. No ifs or buts. • Good adab/akhlaq • Her family members must also be decent people. Things I may compromise on • Looks. I’m not expecting a 10/10 model, but I still need to find her attractive to some degree. I can compromise on looks to some degree because I know how nasty the pretty women usually are.
@@fardeenmahmud8866 same brother,but i honestly wont care about family members,just because a great woman is stuck with psycho or rude family should she remain stuck? or move out with a great man and live a good loving fulfilling marriage?
Istighfar brings you alot miracles in your life
Make a lot of dua to Allah to make it easy for you
Don’t believe Yemeni sister is a scammer, this is coming from a Yemeni brother
They already made 2 out of the 4 comments
To all the brothers who are looking for this good woman who put paradise over dunya. Here are some advices: focus on yourself get better as a muslim and be like you want your wife. For example she should not have social media so you also should not have it. She should not listen to music u also... that means start with yourself and fix everything. You also need to make a lot of dua and I mean a lot of dua from the bottom of your heart. Then you will be tested and you also need to have sabr. When your time comes Allah will let you find her. And she will be even better than you expected. But only if you do it exactly like this and dont give up.
Wallah you are on point brother this made me emotional wallah … I always desperately wanted a wife and a family my parents were divorced when I was 7 and I have no siblings and most all my family out of the country … my soul has always been wanting a wife to live life with and make a family like I never had… it took me so long to find a “good wife” who took Islam serious and had the same values as me and I tried hard for years but was so hard for me … once I got rid of social media and focused on bettering myself as a Muslim and was test over and over and over again and remained patient and waited and trusted Allah and made so much deep dua to Allah in night prayers and Ramadan and every prayer Allah gave me a better wife than I ever could’ve even imagined from the most least expected way and place Alhamdulillah… thank you for this bro JazacAllah you are absolutely right it starts with you first and sabr and watch how Allah makes it happen you have to remain strong and have faith and it will happen didn’t happen until I was 26 but it happens Alhamdulillah
Non practicing are hypocrites,if you want to know whether they are muslim or not just ask the why they are muslims. Sadly 99% of them are hypocrites that makes it more harder my advice is to find one that you think you like and educate them on the purpose of their life because majority lack knowledge, I hope this will help by the will of Allah.
I don’t agree with the sheikh.
It’s not that the young man isn’t looking in the right places, it’s just that good quality practicing women are so rare, regardless of where he looks.
As a Muslim man in the West, I can relate to his struggle.
And this young man is from the UK (which I can tell by the accent).
When Muslims are a small minority of the general population, that already makes it extra hard since the selection pool is super small.
He should try his luck searching in a Muslim country, which would be his home country (wherever that may be).
He might have better options thanks to the huge Muslim population.
A muslim matchmaker is the Best you can find
It's not nowadays they ask for money for you to even join this sites they are not free
@hzskillz1721 ik, but not free is a good thing too because there will be less not serious people.
@@ovna Most women on the Muslim matchmaker apps are free members and even if you pay most your messages will not get a response. In my opinion the online matchmaker or mussmatch is a waste of time and it's just a business that they sell you can find love there but they just want to keep you on the site dealing with unserious people
But in Pakistan they try to scam too 😅
@@shahidhussain5108 you mean like they try to go to Europe for exemple ? You're right you have to be careful and ask for proof and not trust blindly
That’s not much help saying your wrong
They not Gonna like this one *feminist* 😂😂
May Allah protect us from them and grant them and us beneficial understanding
@@arshadmahmood2579 ameen
@@arshadmahmood2579ameen
salam bro(again)I honestly hate them with my guts,they mostly live their desires and not their religion and only care about themselves.(it is literally in the name FEMENist)
they lie about religion aswell,Astaghfirullah
No tv 😂
Tv shows are filled with haram
You ain’t gonna starve or beg on the street if you have no TV, calm down lol.
TV is filled to the brim with fitnah, and its benefits are very few, if any.
Maybe you could use the TV to play Qur’an recitations on RUclips, but its harms far outweigh its benefits. Same could be said for social media.
bruh are u a kid or what for not having this common sense why religious ppl dont have tv ? Grow up paal
@@Somi-f9m Your ancestors have lived thousands of years without it, why can’t you?
@@fardeenmahmud8866 bruh, if u just read my comment properly then u will understand thats what i just said.... I didnt wrote direct answer but the meaning is same thing u are saying all along. As the matter of fact in my room i have a big inch wifi tv but i rarely use it like really rarely ( 1 - 2 ) times in 2 months only when kids wanna see some cartoon animation movie.
Honestly I see this "problem" quite often today. Because we have so much choice it is harder to choose. It's called paradox of choice. Our grant parents lived in villages and it was easier for them to find a spouse. But for us we always think "there is someone better out there".
There will always be shortcomings (like you have too). Either she will listen to music or her hijab is not complete, or she has some pictures on social media. If she checks most of your boxes, and most importantly has authentic iman and tries to improve herself go for it and support her as a husband to become a better muslimah. Otherwise you might stay single for a lifetime trying to find a perfectly pious sister who has no apparent shortcoming.
You’re right, you can’t have perfection in a spouse.
Everyone will have some kind of shortcoming.
It’s up to the man to set up a list of criteria, and determine what is he willing to compromise on and what we won’t compromise on
For me, here are some things that are 100% non-negotiable.
• Her past. She MUST be clean, with little to no past encounters with men. No ifs or buts.
• Good adab/akhlaq
• Her family members must also be decent people.
Things I may compromise on
• Looks. I’m not expecting a 10/10 model, but I still need to find her attractive to some degree. I can compromise on looks to some degree because I know how nasty the pretty women usually are.
@@fardeenmahmud8866 same brother,but i honestly wont care about family members,just because a great woman is stuck with psycho or rude family should she remain stuck? or move out with a great man and live a good loving fulfilling marriage?
Typical of this imam, no answer at the end