This was really interesting to watch, because I'm on the flip side. I've always been the over empathetic, people pleaser which is equally damaging - I'm susceptible to relationships/friendships with 'selfish' people, wherein I always end up hurt because I do so much for them, and get hurt in return. This kind of gives me hope about 'selfish' people from my past who I've cut off recently. To this day, I spend a lot of my time pitying the ones who did me wrong, who never once listened to my perspective despite my several attempts to get them to 'see the light'. All they heard was criticism of their character when I was trying to make them see how changing their choice of actions could actually help THEM too. So, I never once got an apology or 'closure' from them from the abuse they put me through. But I still have a soft spot for them, and have forgiven them long ago. I just assume they were emotionally wounded before (perhaps as a child), if they remain steadfast in their 'Everyone is wrong except me' mindset. And I tend to worry, all the time, about where this outlook will take them --> probably an unappreciative, darker place. I can't do anything about it anymore, because I've left these relationships after finally realising what was good for me. But as someone who has continually suffered from the throes of 'selfish' people... and has recently been manipulated and used... knowing they CAN change makes me feel better. But then again, I'm not sure how selfish you are, if you're capable of introspecting and caring enough to reach out to people to apologise/listen. I don't know any purely selfish person who'd think of reaching out, never mind apologising. Even if it seems 'too late', or hurts to hear at first, I would personally rejoice at hearing an apology from an ex or ex friend from long ago. Good on you.
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Thank you for this!
This was really interesting to watch, because I'm on the flip side. I've always been the over empathetic, people pleaser which is equally damaging - I'm susceptible to relationships/friendships with 'selfish' people, wherein I always end up hurt because I do so much for them, and get hurt in return.
This kind of gives me hope about 'selfish' people from my past who I've cut off recently. To this day, I spend a lot of my time pitying the ones who did me wrong, who never once listened to my perspective despite my several attempts to get them to 'see the light'. All they heard was criticism of their character when I was trying to make them see how changing their choice of actions could actually help THEM too. So, I never once got an apology or 'closure' from them from the abuse they put me through.
But I still have a soft spot for them, and have forgiven them long ago. I just assume they were emotionally wounded before (perhaps as a child), if they remain steadfast in their 'Everyone is wrong except me' mindset. And I tend to worry, all the time, about where this outlook will take them --> probably an unappreciative, darker place. I can't do anything about it anymore, because I've left these relationships after finally realising what was good for me. But as someone who has continually suffered from the throes of 'selfish' people... and has recently been manipulated and used... knowing they CAN change makes me feel better.
But then again, I'm not sure how selfish you are, if you're capable of introspecting and caring enough to reach out to people to apologise/listen. I don't know any purely selfish person who'd think of reaching out, never mind apologising. Even if it seems 'too late', or hurts to hear at first, I would personally rejoice at hearing an apology from an ex or ex friend from long ago. Good on you.