thankyou i thought i was going crazy untill i realised it was the mess and disorganisation that were wearing me out with guilt! i have 3 children and a disabled husband and i have chronic pain myself but you make everything seem managable you are such a sweet lady :)
I recognize Marla having lots of tears in he voice from the moment she talks about the person who had cleaning dishes as a punishment as a kid. I have tears in my eyes when Marla says that she loves me too. Fact is, I have been fluttering and already a lot of what she says has stuck with me, I am dressed to lace up shoes for the second time ever since I started 3 years ago and I have just eaten my lunch in time and have already drank some water and I learn to take care day by day. Thank you Mar
I was a teacher for 20 years & ya gotta make it EASY for people to do the right thing! Have things handy, get duplicates if ya need to & music! Use lotsa music! Add a smile & you'll be amazed!
The one thing about flylady that works for me where other systems don't is the realization that less is more. I recently had my fifth baby girl and realized I couldn't do it alone and came back to flylady. My house reached an all time level of embarrassment. I combined her wisdom with Brene Brown's studies of shame and perfectionism and carol Tuttles child whisperer and am slowly gaining back control of my emotions, my home, and my parenting skills. My problem is that I always want it to be perfect, and right now. When I came back to remembering that it takes time to bring it back out of chaos, one step at a time, a few fifteen minute sessions of rushing to pick up a small corner, and less demands and more fun with my kids is making the home calmer and less guilt prone. Those who are saying they can't do this because they have kids are not understanding her concepts. This program is meant for the households overpopulated with children, the struggling workers and sahm's who are overwhelmed and swimming in more than they can handle.
Marla, a friend introduced your site to me six years ago. It is without exaggeration that I say that you have changed my life and my home. I just viewed this video and was grinning from ear to ear. Thank you for bearing the light of this message. My husband and I have just gone through a major household downsizing, and your routines and outlook kept us at it without despair. This week, I am at my parents' house helping my mom clear out a back room that's been a catchall for years. No tears.
I'm a newborn flyer here. Your program has been the missing puzzle piece that I've been looking for my whole life. I have found even in just the few days that I have been starting with the baby steps peace finally in my home and Within Myself. You hit the nail on the head about perfection never attsined. We are setting ourselves up for failure when we try for perfection in our everyday lives. Your program is setting us free from this trap. I cannot wait to learn all 31 baby steps and keep moving forward. Thank you so much.
I'm sure that I am very late to learning about the flylady system, but I so appreciate the encouragement I've received from the flylady. Like many women I work outside of the home as well as inside of my home. My Mom used to say that she had two jobs---one that paid the bills (because she was a single parent and 100% responsible for our household) and the other one that kept the house functioning. I was feeling such a huge amount of overwhelm and I think this turned into some resentment because I work about 60 hours a week and I'm exhausted when I come home. My attitude wasn't the best because I also struggle with Rheumatoid arthritis which causes me to have nearly non-stop pain. Somehow flylady came up in my youtube feed and I was curious, so I watched three very short videos and I began to feel better. I realized that my irritability from having to work 60 hours a week and also clean my home wasn't going to change and that I needed to deal with my perfectionism as well. I really needed to stop putting so much pressure on myself and talk back to the inner critic in my head! In just a few days I decided that every day when I come home to face the damage in my home that I would try to play a different narrative. Now I have to tell myself things like, "yes, the kitchen is in disarray, but I can DECIDE to SLOOOOOOOOOW DOWN and do ONE THING at a time. When my feet hurt, I get a chair and sit down at the sink for a few minutes and this helps. I realized that no matter how bad I feel, I cannot feel sorry for myself or make excuses. So, I decided to start with my sink, but I've chosen to practice this for 30 days instead of just a few days or a week. When I go into the kitchen I take my cell phone and put it on my favorite music, take everything out of the sink and follow flylady's instructions. This probably sounds crazy, but I actually put a beautiful little lamp right above the sink on the window sill because I thought it would be great to be able to do the dishes without turning the really bright kitchen light on. I also put a few candles up there to give myself something pretty to look at and to help me to at least try to enjoy the moment a bit more. I don't know if this will work for me long-term, but I'm ready to try!
Been a Flybaby since 1999, but have fallen off the wagon many times. Flylady's encouraging words are to "jump back in", so you don't feel guilty for falling off the wagon. I can't say enough great things about Flylady and this program!
as the saying goes... when theres a will theres a way. I know it is hard but got to push myself everyday and the end of the day it is always worth it to see a clean sink and made up bedroom! thank you flylady you, you're a great inspiration and...I LOVE YOU TOO!
This was the most "moving" video that I have seen and tears are running down my face. You have made a change in my life after only a few days - I am flying since 4-5 weeks, and life has really changed in many senses. THANKS - I will be thankful to you for the rest of my life.
The best points of all: PLAY. The playing resets new habits! I love a home that blesses me when I return to it. Thank-you. There is so much here when one is finally so far down inside, everything else starts to look like UP - LIFT - MENT. Just the right dose of boost for me tonight. Thank- you, again. :)
Thank you! I just realized something about my "issues" beginning with the dishes and any housework for that matter! When my sister and I were kids, and WERE NOT allowed to do chores, we would sometimes try and do them anyway, but to no avail. My mom used to yell at us, and my dad for "letting us" do dishes or housework because it always made more work for her because she had to redo everything we did!! She literally used to grab every dish, glass, piece of silverware out of the cabinets and angrily toss them ALL in the sink and grumble about how much more work this is because now she has to do ALL OF THE DISHES because she doesn't know which ones we washed. After about 5 or 6 times of that, we never touched another dish again. And the rest of the housework, well, not good enough to do a good job, so I give up, gave up, and still have a cluttered, dusty house with horrible feelings inside still. I'm 48 and still can't do housework without horrible feelings, so I do the minimum, which is not enough.
Anne Marie Voegeli: OMG, I never thought anyone else "wasn't allowed" to help! Then at other times I was given tasks that were "too big" for my age. And once I was given a small task I joyfully completed in 15 minutes... only to be angrily told, when I teported it done, "No, you didn't!"... without any inspection. So I went back and spent 2 hours painstakingly re-doing a 15-minute job that was already finished, going over and over the same area. Now I just procrastinate and clutter is literally up to the ceiling in some places. It is just so hard to get started.
@@Sunny-sy2xl -- You are definitely not alone. I see my original comment was 6 years ago, and I'm still working hard to get myself decluttered. However, in the past several weeks, I have completely decluttered all of my "now 17 year old"s toys. I am bagging up the last batch right now to give to a friend for her younger son. I couldn't bring myself to throw away any of his todays since he was born because of the memories attached to them FOR ME. How much I enjoyed playing with him during different stages of his growing up years. Now, I finally have worked mentally and emotionally hard on this, and know the memories I still have. I don't need the plastic toys or stuffed animals around to remind me. I did save a very few select items, very few. The rest I have taken pictures with the sweetest memories attached, and giving those toys away. Some did end up in the actual garbage because they were broken or missing pieces. I am now 55 and am finally able to purge without guilt!!! It was a long road, but I'm so happy to be here!!!!
@@anng.4542 -- I thought the same thing, not being allowed to help. Thank you for sharing your story with me!! Even in this situation from childhood, there are more people like us! How are you doing today? Getting better at decluttering anything? I am FINALLY now doing it. I started with my son's toys. He is 17 now. And that was the hardest spot to start. I have worked through the emotions of all the toys, and now am passing them along to a friend with a couple smaller boys. Some items had to be thrown out, but most I'm able to give away. And I took pictures of some I didn't want to forget about, and kept literally just a few small items. I'm finally feeling things will only go up from here!!
Uuummm...not sure what happened but this should be the intro video to the FLYLADY channel. You have made a difference in a lot of peoples lives. This video is why...simplicity and a compassionate caring nature.
I have been pregnant for approx. 8 months, and having a c section coming up I need to prepare for pampering and taking care of myself. Loving self God thank you for Flylady.com and her videos full of compassion and promise. Forgive me thru the next year as my goals are for healing, bonding with baby, and resting. I love you too Flylady.com.
So happy and thankful to have found FlyLady last week on RUclips! I've had a shiny sink every evening for the past week, dressed to shoes every day, using a timer, and seeing positive progress in how my home looks and feels. Thanks!! :)
Dear Marla, Thank you for your help. Even across the world your words work wonders. Nearly got my house decluttered my controljournal is starting to look good. Even our DS are starting with the Riley Challenges. Got to go get some water. My routines are getting in place and it takes less than an hour to get my house mother in law friendly!
I must ad for the Glory of Marriage! Married 29 Yrs with 9 children from 26 to 8yrs old 7 still home! My wife works hard never complains she drives girls to cheerleading, tumbling, gymnastics, school, shops, cleans etc. NEVER complains! She has God/Jesus! God is great! I help with ALL I can, in everything! My boys friends comment to them( not me I'd hit them lol) that there mom is hot! We have love time and eachother! And what they say about getting older and love making is wrong. We still have
help me to be able to feel His love and to believe that He hasn't passed me by- and that warm feeling I get, the lump in my throat, and the water in my eyes--- is just that God is so Great that he has sent you to me... Thankyou k
I'm really having a hard time right now getting started.. I started in the middle of Zone 2 last week..Now I'm in Zone 3 this week...I'm really trying hard to get all this done...I have RSD I'm used to be on top of my house white glove before my disease...I want that back I do need Major declutter done..After 17 years of so many phases of this disease it has gotten bad around here...Hubby is no help..I'm trying to get in board and getting very upset with my self and feeling so distressed 😩 I had to move my mother out of a one bedrooms apartment from a 150' ft room Into a another nursing area.. All of her packed up stuff is in my garage now!!! I feel so stressed as I can't seem to get my daily chores done and the zones start RSD and get my mother settled in her nursing home with my disease.. I have to pace myself and I guess I'm doing this all wrong as I'm doing things just so slowly... Maybe I'm expecting to much of myself on the first 2 weeks?? Today is the last day of Zone 3 and I Got the bathroom sink cleaned the shelf in the laundry room half decluttered I had already cleaned the washer and dryer off last week before starting this program... Do you have any advice for me?? As to why I feel like I can't get going and understand all this?? Am I expecting to much to soon? Should I be happy with what I did do instead of stressing what I didn't get done? I'm so confused be glad when she's settled!! Do you have any advice as to what to do with your mothers stuff inbthe Garage besides holding it in boxes for her? I'm so tired of holding parents stuff my house is full of my husband's parents stuff we are still waiting after 3 yrs for the Attorney to finalize the estate so we can move boxes even out from in front of the doorway!! No one can get in without walking by boxes day in and out!! Our closets are full we refuse to waste money on a storage for these things we don't want Although we can't get rid of legally...Thx for any and all advice FlyBaby Shey PS I just want my home we moved into 4 years ago that same year we lost my husband's father the next year was his mother both in November..The very next year in my 50th Birthday I was forced to put my mother in a nursing home in 24 hours...My husband is the executor to the estate..We are holding way to much crap!! It's causing major problems with our relationship!!!
Sheywh12 take baby steps, be forgiving of what you get done, I think the trick is to get up everyday and keep trying. The fly lady says take care of yourself.... that's the most important bit.
Thank you so much for your kind reply,I I found out I wasn't doing the baby steps..That has helped a lot to know I was trying to do way to much at first... I am having to learn to Love myself!!! This is something I didn't even know I wasn't doing!! Take care Shey
Your situation sounds exactly like mine! Just diagnosed with autoimmune thyroid disfunction after 10 years of trying to get help, all the while sinking further and further into exhaustion, surrounded by inherited stuff from all grandparents on both my husband's and my sides of the family, all crammed in here with us. Trying to take baby steps to decide what to do with it all and not sink further into depression about not getting it all done as fast as I'd like.
She is so right about shoes on your feet . Thank you my fly lady w/wings on I drank lots of tea today and water. I hope u have great day tomorrow . I know I will :)
I agree 100% with you. It sounds like I am making excuses but I get severe debilitating migraines - so bad I am actually on disability. My hubby was raised by hoarders. I know what it's like to live clean and orderly, because I grew up that way. My oldest is in college now, and I just have 2 in high school. Because of my headaches I never properly taught the kids to clean. Everything has spun out of control. I'll clean the sink and do good a few days and get sick, and we are back to square 1.
Praying for your migraines. I have had them since I was 7, but was not diagnosed till I was 31. Learn your triggers and avoid them, if possible, except those caused by things like barometric pressure changes with thunderstorms. I have found that taking 4 100 mg. CoQ10 capsules help to stop or reduce my migraines better than strong Rxs with unwanted side effects or OTC products like Advil Migraine or Excedrin migraine. A friend recommended turmeric as helping hers, as it reduces inflammation. Hope you can find something that helps reduce yours, too.
I had a talk with my wife the other day and this one was a good one for us both! We talked about the pain I am in, I'm 100% Disabled USMC Service connected,.. Well we were talking about the pain I have 24/7 and how this day was really building up on me... My wife heard me out and said... CONTINUED NEXT PAGE UP, please read
was going to show myself to you??? How could you have stood to be in my presence??? Am I not your God and Savior??? No- I did not forget you... I was always there watching over... You had to be willing to trust and believe and reach out- and I would take your hand and lead you. So FlyLady... I ask God everyTime I read your emails. To please let me remember that you may be all the 'God' I can take. I ask him to bless me with the gift of Gratefulness, and I ask him to bless you. and to
and they had a bullhorn and they were alerting everyone and just about everyone had left and The Man heard them say- 'This is the last time we will be back through here the water is rising, it's getting dangerous- We are Evacuating Everyone- It's time to go. This is dangerous and you MUST get to higher ground'...& TheMan just laughed to himself and kept doing whatever it was that he was doing- and thought to himself- I know God and He knows me. I am assured of His Love and Protection. I am fine.
I have to admit that I crying really hard as I feel thatI have no value, but i know that isn't true , I'm the first person people call when they are in trouble and need someone to talk to.or need prayer.Decluttering my house is going to take wisdom and knowing what to do .I need to trust God to give this widow strength to know what to toss, sell, or give away =). So, if you read this please pray for me to see that I can over take my house in Jesus name. God bless you for sharing your wisdom.
2. I know the Lord. I know God- I know he loves me. When it is time to go. My God will come directly here and save me... I have nothing to fear. I am greatly favored. I have read is all I need is the faith the size of a mustard seed- and I will be saved...and- He took a moment to pray and every inch of him felt the love of God Almighty...& then The firetrucks came... Sirens and Lights... and the roar and vibration of their heavy engines... He just chuckled... and they were right outside...
WoW, you MUST be sick of me by now? LET ME TELL YOU ALL A FEW IMPORTANT THINGS, please? I'm married 29yrs to same beautiful woman that ( honestly) asked me to marry her! Man, what a blessing! We have 9 children all in 29 yrs and all 2 Yrs apart. I love my wife so very much, she is beautiful God has been extra good to me, why? My boys friends come over and tell my boys that THEY (we) have a HOT MOTHER! my love for her is NEVER ENDING, I want her more today then when we first married, it is AWESO
FlyLady, Thanks for loving me!! I am learning to work with my timer...and sometimes it feels like I will NEVER get all the way decluttered. How can I work on that? BTW, I love to wash dishes-one thing I have found that helps is to get a detergent that is pleasing to the senses. I love Gain lavender-its kind to my hands,cleans well and is very soothing to my brain. Hugs, FlyBaby in Indiana
Surely if it were time for me to leave He would come down and tell me. So the next day in the late afternoon, just before dusk, the man was sitting on top of his roof- the water had risen that high- and a helicopter swooped by - they did see him and signaled to him that they would be back- Could he hold on?-- The man was cool as a cucumber- He waved the helicopter away and even though he couldn't be heard he made it clear and the crew understood- That he was fine and had no intentions of
I have broken ribs I like to know if you could help find a way to clean sense its driving me nuts not too but my ribs hurt so much if you have any ideas I loved to hear them so I can finally clean like I have been wanting too
Leaving his roof. & by and by he noticed that he had passed over and he came to a wonderful place and suddenly- he was in the presence of God. & TheMan said---MyGod, did you forget me??? In my prayers all those years I am sure that you reassured me over and over that you loved me and would take care of me...&&& then you let me drown???? & The Lord Our God said to the man. 1st I sent your neighbor. 2nd I sent the FireDept. and lastly I sent the National Guard...Did you honestly think that I
This is the continuous of page below so read bottom first.... I was having real bad pain this day and the children//stress was not helping.! My wife said " yes dear o understand" WE ARE MARRIED 29yrs and have 9 children, God is good, fantastic in fact! WELL, I said, honey if Bill from across the way came over to visit and we were sitting together, him his wife and us and you were venting on a bad day! PLEASE READ NEXT PAGE STARTING WITH NOW! I always run short on space
1.Hi FlyLady... Did you ever hear the joke about the man who was waiting for God to rescue him from the flood? Well first his neighbor came and said- Don't you want to go with us??? and theMan said no...U all go on, I'll be fine. I'know when it's time.& the neighbor just shrugged and left him there. And then the man decided to go on up to the neighborhood hardware store-& the people there were making plans to go to higher ground- they pleaded for him to go with them. "No" he said.
HELLO! TO START READING PLEASE GO TO BOTTOM 3 pgs down to the FIRST no room to write story): ANYWAY! after all is said and done could BILL ACTUALLY RELATE TO THE PAIN OF NINE CHILDREN IN BIRTH? NO O SAID! SO I THEN SAID TO MY WIFE, no matter how someone says they feel your pain or understand it are missing reality! My wife said to me" yes Ray I know your pain and stress inside" I LOOKED AT HER AND Asked" can you look through my eyes and see how I feel or see things"? NO WAY NO MATER HOW MUCH
We love u too as u r doing this for us we (muslims)'d also want to offer u advice please think about your Creator and read about islam. u can see the videos of thedeenshow here on youtube. We INVITE you to ISLAM. No blind faith here please listen for yourself
PLEASE READ FROM BOTTEM OF MY RESPONSE FIRST, thanks... NOW IF MY WIFE WERE TO TELL BILL AND HIS WIFE HOW IT WAS GIVING BIRTH TO 9 NINE CHILDREN AND HOW PAINFUL IT WAS, would it be a true statement if Bill were to say " I understand" how could he? Well as I were talking with my wife about my pain and so on she said " RAY HONEY I UNDERSTAND, I KNOW" Well my point! NEXT PAGE BELOW, THIS ONE AND SO ON! no room to write?
MY WIFE STORY STARTS 4th page down then up!?!? We love each-other very much God has given me a BEAUTIFUL WONDERFUL DARLING SEXY WIFE! YOU WOULD NEVER KNOW SHE HAD 1 child let alone NINE (9)! 29 YRS OLDEST 26 down to 8yrs! SIX GIRLS 3 BOYS! any way My point FLY LADY! YOU MENTION THAT PEOPLE SAY " but I have children and you do not understand " THEY ARE RIGHT! HOW CAN YOU SAY "O I UNDERSTAND BUT IT CAN AND SHOULD GET DONE"?
yo i still cant fly, what am i doing wrone. i strapped some bannanas to my feet like you said because i dont have shoes but wtf it was shit. HELP ME! x :((( :) :0
thankyou i thought i was going crazy untill i realised it was the mess and disorganisation that were wearing me out with guilt! i have 3 children and a disabled husband and i have chronic pain myself but you make everything seem managable you are such a sweet lady :)
"When you make it fun, it'll get done" - love that!
Fly lady is such a sweetheart. What a blessing of a woman. Keep your heads up today ladies, you can do it!!!
Hello Kate, how are you doing with your routines after 8 years? Just checking on you. (Flylady and Team)
You truly understand the psychology behind our procrastination. Your advice is bite-sized and realistic. 👍
Julie, please tell us how you are doing with your routines in your home and in your life. (FlyLady and Team)
I recognize Marla having lots of tears in he voice from the moment she talks about the person who had cleaning dishes as a punishment as a kid. I have tears in my eyes when Marla says that she loves me too. Fact is, I have been fluttering and already a lot of what she says has stuck with me, I am dressed to lace up shoes for the second time ever since I started 3 years ago and I have just eaten my lunch in time and have already drank some water and I learn to take care day by day. Thank you Mar
I was a teacher for 20 years & ya gotta make it EASY for people to do the right thing! Have things handy, get duplicates if ya need to & music! Use lotsa music! Add a smile & you'll be amazed!
The one thing about flylady that works for me where other systems don't is the realization that less is more. I recently had my fifth baby girl and realized I couldn't do it alone and came back to flylady. My house reached an all time level of embarrassment. I combined her wisdom with Brene Brown's studies of shame and perfectionism and carol Tuttles child whisperer and am slowly gaining back control of my emotions, my home, and my parenting skills. My problem is that I always want it to be perfect, and right now. When I came back to remembering that it takes time to bring it back out of chaos, one step at a time, a few fifteen minute sessions of rushing to pick up a small corner, and less demands and more fun with my kids is making the home calmer and less guilt prone. Those who are saying they can't do this because they have kids are not understanding her concepts. This program is meant for the households overpopulated with children, the struggling workers and sahm's who are overwhelmed and swimming in more than they can handle.
If you can't do fly lady then you cannot do anything because no one makes it easier or simpler than her wrapped in a big {{hug}} !!
Marla, a friend introduced your site to me six years ago. It is without exaggeration that I say that you have changed my life and my home. I just viewed this video and was grinning from ear to ear. Thank you for bearing the light of this message. My husband and I have just gone through a major household downsizing, and your routines and outlook kept us at it without despair. This week, I am at my parents' house helping my mom clear out a back room that's been a catchall for years. No tears.
This woman is simply wonderful. Thank you Flylady.
I'm a newborn flyer here. Your program has been the missing puzzle piece that I've been looking for my whole life. I have found even in just the few days that I have been starting with the baby steps peace finally in my home and Within Myself. You hit the nail on the head about perfection never attsined. We are setting ourselves up for failure when we try for perfection in our everyday lives. Your program is setting us free from this trap. I cannot wait to learn all 31 baby steps and keep moving forward. Thank you so much.
I'm sure that I am very late to learning about the flylady system, but I so appreciate the encouragement I've received from the flylady. Like many women I work outside of the home as well as inside of my home. My Mom used to say that she had two jobs---one that paid the bills (because she was a single parent and 100% responsible for our household) and the other one that kept the house functioning. I was feeling such a huge amount of overwhelm and I think this turned into some resentment because I work about 60 hours a week and I'm exhausted when I come home. My attitude wasn't the best because I also struggle with Rheumatoid arthritis which causes me to have nearly non-stop pain. Somehow flylady came up in my youtube feed and I was curious, so I watched three very short videos and I began to feel better. I realized that my irritability from having to work 60 hours a week and also clean my home wasn't going to change and that I needed to deal with my perfectionism as well. I really needed to stop putting so much pressure on myself and talk back to the inner critic in my head! In just a few days I decided that every day when I come home to face the damage in my home that I would try to play a different narrative. Now I have to tell myself things like, "yes, the kitchen is in disarray, but I can DECIDE to SLOOOOOOOOOW DOWN and do ONE THING at a time. When my feet hurt, I get a chair and sit down at the sink for a few minutes and this helps. I realized that no matter how bad I feel, I cannot feel sorry for myself or make excuses. So, I decided to start with my sink, but I've chosen to practice this for 30 days instead of just a few days or a week. When I go into the kitchen I take my cell phone and put it on my favorite music, take everything out of the sink and follow flylady's instructions. This probably sounds crazy, but I actually put a beautiful little lamp right above the sink on the window sill because I thought it would be great to be able to do the dishes without turning the really bright kitchen light on. I also put a few candles up there to give myself something pretty to look at and to help me to at least try to enjoy the moment a bit more. I don't know if this will work for me long-term, but I'm ready to try!
Been a Flybaby since 1999, but have fallen off the wagon many times. Flylady's encouraging words are to "jump back in", so you don't feel guilty for falling off the wagon. I can't say enough great things about Flylady and this program!
as the saying goes... when theres a will theres a way. I know it is hard but got to push myself everyday and the end of the day it is always worth it to see a clean sink and made up bedroom! thank you flylady you, you're a great inspiration and...I LOVE YOU TOO!
Keep on loving us, FLYLady :) even when we've learned to learn ourselves. Thank you for all you do!
This was the most "moving" video that I have seen and tears are running down my face. You have made a change in my life after only a few days - I am flying since 4-5 weeks, and life has really changed in many senses. THANKS - I will be thankful to you for the rest of my life.
The best points of all: PLAY. The playing resets new habits! I love a home that blesses me when I return to it. Thank-you. There is so much here when one is finally so far down inside, everything else starts to look like UP - LIFT - MENT. Just the right dose of boost for me tonight.
Thank- you, again. :)
Thank you! I just realized something about my "issues" beginning with the dishes and any housework for that matter! When my sister and I were kids, and WERE NOT allowed to do chores, we would sometimes try and do them anyway, but to no avail. My mom used to yell at us, and my dad for "letting us" do dishes or housework because it always made more work for her because she had to redo everything we did!! She literally used to grab every dish, glass, piece of silverware out of the cabinets and angrily toss them ALL in the sink and grumble about how much more work this is because now she has to do ALL OF THE DISHES because she doesn't know which ones we washed. After about 5 or 6 times of that, we never touched another dish again. And the rest of the housework, well, not good enough to do a good job, so I give up, gave up, and still have a cluttered, dusty house with horrible feelings inside still. I'm 48 and still can't do housework without horrible feelings, so I do the minimum, which is not enough.
Anne Marie Voegeli: OMG, I never thought anyone else "wasn't allowed" to help! Then at other times I was given tasks that were "too big" for my age. And once I was given a small task I joyfully completed in 15 minutes... only to be angrily told, when I teported it done, "No, you didn't!"... without any inspection. So I went back and spent 2 hours painstakingly re-doing a 15-minute job that was already finished, going over and over the same area. Now I just procrastinate and clutter is literally up to the ceiling in some places. It is just so hard to get started.
@@Sunny-sy2xl -- You are definitely not alone. I see my original comment was 6 years ago, and I'm still working hard to get myself decluttered. However, in the past several weeks, I have completely decluttered all of my "now 17 year old"s toys. I am bagging up the last batch right now to give to a friend for her younger son. I couldn't bring myself to throw away any of his todays since he was born because of the memories attached to them FOR ME. How much I enjoyed playing with him during different stages of his growing up years. Now, I finally have worked mentally and emotionally hard on this, and know the memories I still have. I don't need the plastic toys or stuffed animals around to remind me. I did save a very few select items, very few. The rest I have taken pictures with the sweetest memories attached, and giving those toys away. Some did end up in the actual garbage because they were broken or missing pieces. I am now 55 and am finally able to purge without guilt!!! It was a long road, but I'm so happy to be here!!!!
@@anng.4542 -- I thought the same thing, not being allowed to help. Thank you for sharing your story with me!! Even in this situation from childhood, there are more people like us! How are you doing today? Getting better at decluttering anything? I am FINALLY now doing it. I started with my son's toys. He is 17 now. And that was the hardest spot to start. I have worked through the emotions of all the toys, and now am passing them along to a friend with a couple smaller boys. Some items had to be thrown out, but most I'm able to give away. And I took pictures of some I didn't want to forget about, and kept literally just a few small items. I'm finally feeling things will only go up from here!!
@Manka -- You're welcome!!! We're all in this together for sure!!!
You have changed my life by showing me that my self worth is NOT dependant on being perfect.
Uuummm...not sure what happened but this should be the intro video to the FLYLADY channel. You have made a difference in a lot of peoples lives. This video is why...simplicity and a compassionate caring nature.
I have been pregnant for approx. 8 months, and having a c section coming up I need to prepare for pampering and taking care of myself. Loving self God thank you for Flylady.com and her videos full of compassion and promise. Forgive me thru the next year as my goals are for healing, bonding with baby, and resting. I love you too Flylady.com.
So happy and thankful to have found FlyLady last week on RUclips! I've had a shiny sink every evening for the past week, dressed to shoes every day, using a timer, and seeing positive progress in how my home looks and feels. Thanks!! :)
Dear Marla,
Thank you for your help. Even across the world your words work wonders. Nearly got my house decluttered my controljournal is starting to look good. Even our DS are starting with the Riley Challenges. Got to go get some water. My routines are getting in place and it takes less than an hour to get my house mother in law friendly!
Thank you. I love your shorter videos. They go right to the point.
I must ad for the Glory of Marriage!
Married 29 Yrs with 9 children from 26 to 8yrs old
7 still home!
My wife works hard never complains she drives girls to cheerleading, tumbling, gymnastics, school, shops, cleans etc.
NEVER complains! She has God/Jesus!
God is great!
I help with ALL I can, in everything! My boys friends comment to them( not me I'd hit them lol) that there mom is hot!
We have love time and eachother!
And what they say about getting older and love making is wrong. We still have
help me to be able to feel His love and to believe that He hasn't passed me by- and that warm feeling I get, the lump in my throat, and the water in my eyes--- is just that God is so Great that he has sent you to me... Thankyou k
I love You too!
We love you Fly Lady 🌸
I love you too FlyLady. :)
You really are an angel! Thank you x x
Awesome advice Thank you Fly lady
Thank you fly lady
I'm really having a hard time right now getting started.. I started in the middle of Zone 2 last week..Now I'm in Zone 3 this week...I'm really trying hard to get all this done...I have RSD I'm used to be on top of my house white glove before my disease...I want that back I do need Major declutter done..After 17 years of so many phases of this disease it has gotten bad around here...Hubby is no help..I'm trying to get in board and getting very upset with my self and feeling so distressed 😩 I had to move my mother out of a one bedrooms apartment from a 150' ft room Into a another nursing area.. All of her packed up stuff is in my garage now!!! I feel so stressed as I can't seem to get my daily chores done and the zones start RSD and get my mother settled in her nursing home with my disease.. I have to pace myself and I guess I'm doing this all wrong as I'm doing things just so slowly... Maybe I'm expecting to much of myself on the first 2 weeks?? Today is the last day of Zone 3 and I Got the bathroom sink cleaned the shelf in the laundry room half decluttered I had already cleaned the washer and dryer off last week before starting this program... Do you have any advice for me?? As to why I feel like I can't get going and understand all this?? Am I expecting to much to soon? Should I be happy with what I did do instead of stressing what I didn't get done? I'm so confused be glad when she's settled!! Do you have any advice as to what to do with your mothers stuff inbthe Garage besides holding it in boxes for her? I'm so tired of holding parents stuff my house is full of my husband's parents stuff we are still waiting after 3 yrs for the Attorney to finalize the estate so we can move boxes even out from in front of the doorway!! No one can get in without walking by boxes day in and out!! Our closets are full we refuse to waste money on a storage for these things we don't want Although we can't get rid of legally...Thx for any and all advice FlyBaby Shey PS I just want my home we moved into 4 years ago that same year we lost my husband's father the next year was his mother both in November..The very next year in my 50th Birthday I was forced to put my mother in a nursing home in 24 hours...My husband is the executor to the estate..We are holding way to much crap!! It's causing major problems with our relationship!!!
Sheywh12 take baby steps, be forgiving of what you get done, I think the trick is to get up everyday and keep trying. The fly lady says take care of yourself.... that's the most important bit.
Thank you so much for your kind reply,I I found out I wasn't doing the baby steps..That has helped a lot to know I was trying to do way to much at first... I am having to learn to Love myself!!! This is something I didn't even know I wasn't doing!! Take care Shey
Your situation sounds exactly like mine! Just diagnosed with autoimmune thyroid disfunction after 10 years of trying to get help, all the while sinking further and further into exhaustion, surrounded by inherited stuff from all grandparents on both my husband's and my sides of the family, all crammed in here with us. Trying to take baby steps to decide what to do with it all and not sink further into depression about not getting it all done as fast as I'd like.
You are so sweet and kind. :)
She is so right about shoes on your feet .
Thank you my fly lady w/wings on I drank lots of tea today and water. I hope u have great day tomorrow . I know I will :)
I love you too Flylady❤
that is so sweet of you Theresa G. Thank you so much. (FlyLady and Team)
I agree 100% with you. It sounds like I am making excuses but I get severe debilitating migraines - so bad I am actually on disability. My hubby was raised by hoarders. I know what it's like to live clean and orderly, because I grew up that way. My oldest is in college now, and I just have 2 in high school. Because of my headaches I never properly taught the kids to clean. Everything has spun out of control. I'll clean the sink and do good a few days and get sick, and we are back to square 1.
Praying for your migraines. I have had them since I was 7, but was not diagnosed till
I was 31. Learn your triggers and avoid them, if possible, except those caused by things like barometric pressure changes with thunderstorms. I have found that taking 4 100 mg. CoQ10 capsules help to stop or reduce my migraines better than strong Rxs with unwanted side effects or OTC products like Advil Migraine or Excedrin migraine. A friend recommended turmeric as helping hers, as it reduces inflammation. Hope you can find something that helps reduce yours, too.
Me Too
Thank you!
Thanks Marla ❤
Thank You FlyLady!
I had a talk with my wife the other day and this one was a good one for us both!
We talked about the pain I am in, I'm 100% Disabled USMC Service connected,..
Well we were talking about the pain I have 24/7 and how this day was really building up on me... My wife heard me out and said...
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was going to show myself to you??? How could you have stood to be in my presence??? Am I not your God and Savior??? No- I did not forget you... I was always there watching over... You had to be willing to trust and believe and reach out- and I would take your hand and lead you.
So FlyLady... I ask God everyTime I read your emails. To please let me remember that you may be all the 'God' I can take. I ask him to bless me with the gift of Gratefulness, and I ask him to bless you. and to
I love your videos! you are such an inspiration. :)
thank you Flylady! i needed that.
u r truly a blessing an thank God for u having a big mouth:)
I just found flylady front a friend i love
It
and they had a bullhorn and they were alerting everyone and just about everyone had left and The Man heard them say- 'This is the last time we will be back through here the water is rising, it's getting dangerous- We are Evacuating Everyone- It's time to go. This is dangerous and you MUST get to higher ground'...& TheMan just laughed to himself and kept doing whatever it was that he was doing- and thought to himself- I know God and He knows me. I am assured of His Love and Protection. I am fine.
I have to admit that I crying really hard as I feel thatI have no value, but i know that isn't true , I'm the first person people call when they are in trouble and need someone to talk to.or need prayer.Decluttering my house is going to take wisdom and knowing what to do .I need to trust God to give this widow strength to know what to toss, sell, or give away =). So, if you read this please pray for me to see that I can over take my house in Jesus name. God bless you for sharing your wisdom.
I know you probably won't see this 5 years later, but I will pray the same prayer for you as I pray it for me!
2. I know the Lord. I know God- I know he loves me. When it is time to go. My God will come directly here and save me... I have nothing to fear. I am greatly favored. I have read is all I need is the faith the size of a mustard seed- and I will be saved...and- He took a moment to pray and every inch of him felt the love of God Almighty...& then The firetrucks came... Sirens and Lights... and the roar and vibration of their heavy engines... He just chuckled... and they were right outside...
WoW, you MUST be sick of me by now?
LET ME TELL YOU ALL A FEW IMPORTANT THINGS, please?
I'm married 29yrs to same beautiful woman that ( honestly) asked me to marry her!
Man, what a blessing!
We have 9 children all in 29 yrs and all 2 Yrs apart.
I love my wife so very much, she is beautiful God has been extra good to me, why?
My boys friends come over and tell my boys that THEY (we) have a HOT MOTHER!
my love for her is NEVER ENDING, I want her more today then when we first married, it is AWESO
FlyLady, Thanks for loving me!! I am learning to work with my timer...and sometimes it feels like I will NEVER get all the way decluttered. How can I work on that? BTW, I love to wash dishes-one thing I have found that helps is to get a detergent that is pleasing to the senses. I love Gain lavender-its kind to my hands,cleans well and is very soothing to my brain. Hugs, FlyBaby in Indiana
Surely if it were time for me to leave He would come down and tell me. So the next day in the late afternoon, just before dusk, the man was sitting on top of his roof- the water had risen that high- and a helicopter swooped by - they did see him and signaled to him that they would be back- Could he hold on?-- The man was cool as a cucumber- He waved the helicopter away and even though he couldn't be heard he made it clear and the crew understood- That he was fine and had no intentions of
Bless you Marla :) Thank you for this new video :) Elly
just realised im posting through my sons account, my names michelle :)
I have broken ribs I like to know if you could help find a way to clean sense its driving me nuts not too but my ribs hurt so much if you have any ideas I loved to hear them so I can finally clean like I have been wanting too
Leaving his roof. & by and by he noticed that he had passed over and he came to a wonderful place and suddenly- he was in the presence of God. & TheMan said---MyGod, did you forget me??? In my prayers all those years I am sure that you reassured me over and over that you loved me and would take care of me...&&& then you let me drown???? & The Lord Our God said to the man. 1st I sent your neighbor. 2nd I sent the FireDept. and lastly I sent the National Guard...Did you honestly think that I
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I was having real bad pain this day and the children//stress was not helping.!
My wife said " yes dear o understand"
WE ARE MARRIED 29yrs and have 9 children, God is good, fantastic in fact!
WELL, I said, honey if Bill from across the way came over to visit and we were sitting together, him his wife and us and you were venting on a bad day!
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I always run short on space
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VERY INTERESTING, BUT DO YOU HAVE VIDEOS IN SPANISH? THANKS A LOT
1.Hi FlyLady... Did you ever hear the joke about the man who was waiting for God to rescue him from the flood? Well first his neighbor came and said- Don't you want to go with us??? and theMan said no...U all go on, I'll be fine. I'know when it's time.& the neighbor just shrugged and left him there. And then the man decided to go on up to the neighborhood hardware store-& the people there were making plans to go to higher ground- they pleaded for him to go with them. "No" he said.
HELLO!
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ANYWAY!
after all is said and done could BILL ACTUALLY RELATE TO THE PAIN OF NINE CHILDREN IN BIRTH?
NO O SAID!
SO I THEN SAID TO MY WIFE, no matter how someone says they feel your pain or understand it are missing reality!
My wife said to me" yes Ray I know your pain and stress inside"
I LOOKED AT HER AND Asked" can you look through my eyes and see how I feel or see things"?
NO WAY NO MATER HOW MUCH
fuck yeah i love jeses. i bet he has the cleanist shit
YOU ARE TERRIBLE!
I know this sounds silly but my clean laundry gets piled on top of the futon upstairs
We love u too as u r doing this for us
we (muslims)'d also want to offer u advice please think about your Creator and read about islam. u can see the videos of thedeenshow here on youtube.
We INVITE you to ISLAM. No blind faith here please listen for yourself
PLEASE READ FROM BOTTEM OF MY RESPONSE FIRST, thanks... NOW
IF MY WIFE WERE TO TELL BILL AND HIS WIFE HOW IT WAS GIVING BIRTH TO 9 NINE CHILDREN AND HOW PAINFUL IT WAS, would it be a true statement if Bill were to say " I understand" how could he?
Well as I were talking with my wife about my pain and so on she said " RAY HONEY I UNDERSTAND, I KNOW"
Well my point!
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MY WIFE STORY STARTS 4th page down then up!?!?
We love each-other very much God has given me a BEAUTIFUL WONDERFUL DARLING SEXY WIFE!
YOU WOULD NEVER KNOW SHE HAD 1 child let alone NINE (9)!
29 YRS OLDEST 26 down to 8yrs!
SIX GIRLS 3 BOYS!
any way
My point FLY LADY!
YOU MENTION THAT PEOPLE SAY " but I have children and you do not understand "
THEY ARE RIGHT!
HOW CAN YOU SAY "O I UNDERSTAND BUT IT CAN AND SHOULD GET DONE"?
yo i still cant fly, what am i doing wrone. i strapped some bannanas to my feet like you said because i dont have shoes but wtf it was shit. HELP ME! x :((( :) :0
:) God bless!!! Jesus saves :)