JUST THOUGHT I'D SHARE THIS WITH YOU: You and Cammie, Rose and Rosie, Stevie and many other LGBTQ+ influencers have helped so many people (including myself) by putting yourselves out there. There's literally a GENERATION of us that grew up watching you all and I'll never be able to thank you enough for all that you've done for me and the community. I'm from a country that has zero representation and even the public is pretty much anti-LGBTQ+ so it can get a little hard sometimes. But I can still get through those moments thanks to the person I've become also by watching you. Thank you and I love you 💜
that's so true! I am a totally different person because of them and I accepted myself so fast and became happy! If I didn't have them I would never see how nice life as lgbt can be , because in my country everything is hidden. So I thank them too! Where are you from?
I think your relationship helped young people who were questioning their sexuality and what that might look like. However, you were younger and didn't realize the effect that could occur if things didn't work out. You've also shown that you can work through tough times and get back to a happy place. Life is a learning experience.
Debbie Beveridge I think the relationship helped so many navigate their own sexuality, so much they it almost navigated the fans through what heartbreak looks like too. It’s inevitable but it’s life!!! They handled it with grace ❤️
That last bit is super true! Seeing that people can be that happy and then break up and then manage to be happy again is an amazing thing that’s helped so many people!
Exactly. Seems like just yesterday, I was a 16 year old closet case bisexual who secretly watched their videos. I’m turning 20 this winter. Where does the time go?! I’m grateful for being able to watch them while they were still an item but it makes me feel like love never lasts 😔
This was a super cool and honest video. My girlfriend, Julia, is so far from a "social media person" and loves being very private and honestly it's nice because it takes me out of social media when we are on a date or travelling or whatever else... basically I don't think of moments with her as a moment to use on social media if that makes any sense and I like that that creates balance in my life because it's easy to get lost in the online world otherwise... thanks for being so candid!
Shan: i don't want to ever put my love life public again especially a breakup 2020: FLETCHER shot by my ex 🤪 (But we love you nevertheless Shannon!!! ❤️)
I can’t believe it’s been 3 years, I remember ordering my ripple effect shirt like it was yesterday. I’m so glad you guys are happy now and I’m so grateful you shared your relationship, it was important for me at that time to see you in a happy lesbian relationship. That being said I totally understand your privacy, I’m sure it sucks going through a breakup and having thousands of people commenting how sad they are you broke up and saying they want you back together, you can only imagine that you must feel like you owe this people something. I’m glad you don’t share your personal business now, it’s a lot healthier for you and your relationships, I’m just happy with your content as long as we still get to see the beautiful Deb from time to time. Wish you the best all the way from Spain!
The public relationship definitely was something that I looked up to. There weren't a lot of LGBT youtubers that were sharing that at the time. Yea it ended but the representation WAS so necessary for me and feeling okay with myself. I'm happy you don't regret it because it meant a lot.
26/6/19 -Shan uploaded a video -FLETCHER dropped 🔥 song -The Aces uploaded "Last One" PVRIS Remix -Skam España gave us the perfect Croana moments -it's Lesbian Visibility Day! Today is a good day!!!!
You are so right!!!! Your relationship was a sunshine and your break up made me cry more than my own break up. So it's way better not to share much. But you know we love you so fucking much that it feels good to know that someone is in your life to make our Shan happy. All we can do is adore you and your life. But yeah I get your point and I love you more than anything else❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I'm glad you don't regret sharing your previous relationship, because it played a HUGE part in my coming out story and feeling comfortable with myself. I'm really happy that you're happy private or public
It's hard for me to stay focused when Cam isn't there to make her giggle and blush once in a while 🙈. The kind of dynamic they had was(is) probably what I needed in my life(and still do). But it's nice to see they are still doing each their things on here😊🌸 and that most audience besides me has moved on 😂🙈...
You sharing your experience gave me the confidence to embrace mine fully. I started watching you as a closeted 8th grade girl, and I still come back to you and all your content as a transitioned guy in his last year of college. I could never thank you enough, and I think that goes for a lot of people here.
Guys stop saying she should be less private with her relationship status, what shes been through was hard and I can understand that she won't let that happen again, she just wants to protect her and her possible relationship. She shouldn't have to explain over and over again (3years after the breakup)why she does that, it's her life her choices let her be happy
Just wanted to say thanks so much for everything you've made over the years Shannon. Your channel, along with Kaelyn & Lucy's, were the two that helped me truly understand that - regardless of gender - love is love. I know it sounds cliche, but there really is a difference between being TOLD that "love is love", and repeating that politically correct phrase without thinking... compared to actually SEEING it for yourself, and being forced to come to the realization that there is fundamentally no difference between human relationships - regardless of gender. As someone who spent the early 2010's with an all-hetero friend group, I cannot overstate how important your videos were in shaping my understanding of relationships and love. I completely understand why you would not want to put your private life under such scrutiny a second time. Thank you for allowing your old videos to still remain visible. I hope they will continue to help others as they helped me.
I usually get bored straight watching RUclipsrs talk for a long time but I NEVER get bored watching Shannon give her 12 minute long speech or Rose and Rosie just talking. Never
I think it's a good choice to be strictly private and loosen up later when ready. By gradually dropping the filter (and the effort and stress that gives) you can then have a semi-public relationship neither hiding nor broadcasting it.
People who care about you as a person, not just a youtuber, just want you to be happy. Any decision you make about YOUR life should be supported. I was curious if having to filter yourself contributes to your anxiety?
yeah, youtube sure helped show representation of femme lesbian couples. without that some may not even know they existed and due to stereotypes may have assumed (at least) one in a couple is supposed to be butch.
her public relationship was so important to me because watching them made me accept who i was and realize that it’s normal and okay and beautiful. that there are multiple ways to be gay, it’s not a mold, which i really thought it was, as stupid as it sounds. following their life here on youtube made me realize that i didn’t have to look or act in a certain way. so thank you shannon, for i wouldn’t be the person i am today without your ’little’ help❤️🏳️🌈
It starts for me when you have a profile pic on WhatApp with your s. o. or when you constantly talk about them or bring them along to parties... The more private my relationships have been, the happier I was in those relationships. Maybe some people feel comfortable in public relationships but I don't. I talk about my s. o. as little as possible now, I don't have social media at all anymore (expect for WhatsApp, Signal and RUclips) and that's really nice. Sometimes when you have social media you tend to live your life for other people you always feel like you gotta show this or that. When you don't have it at all you just live for yourself. You 100% concentrate on things that YOU actually wanna do and that also goes for your relationship. Also the same thing you just said: The more people know, the more they speculate. It's paradox. You would think it's the other way around, but it's not. I don't want people to speculate about my relationship and I want to talk with them about other topics. Otherwise it would feel like I am around my s. o. 24/7 and never around my friends. Also like if people know too much they keep asking about that person even years later. Even if you're not a public figure. So I let people know that I'm in a relationship if they ask or flirt with me and that's it. There's not more to know than just that.
You are such a gentle soul. You are so considerate of how others may feel with the tough questions your viewers and friends ask - it’s so very sweet. I know I don’t know you, but that has been my entire perception of you watching all of your videos. You are a wonderful human being and if I ever meet you one day, it will be a pleasure!
Glad you don’t regret sharing your relationship! You two made a video that made me realize I was gay! Without watching that I’m not sure where I’d be without you two!
Great video. Everyone should be entitled to a private life, and it's defo up to them what to share and when. It's been 3 years and I think you help the LGBTQ community more now, despite not sharing your dating life, I mean just look at letter to you and just say I love you, those videos are so impactful and influential!
I think your true fans are those that support you no matter what and just want you to be happy. You show us who you want to show us, Shannon. And we will love you because we care about you, and selfishly want you to continue making content. Thank you for all that you’ve done and for being pioneers of the LGBT RUclips community, and lesbian channels that started because they started out watching you. You’re amazing 💫❤️
I think a big problem with public relationships is the concept of shipping reallife people. You should absolutely never do it. Even if like a celebrity couple is married I don't ship them. Shipping is for the fictional world where you have information and you know pretty much all about the characters. You can't apply that to real people. I can't judge a person's life just by their instagram story. Idk for me that annoys me the most. It makes me uncomfortable without even being affected by it. Same goes like for actors that play a couple on screen. When the fandom starts to analyse every little thing they post and write comments of requesting them to be together I cringe. I think relationships can be public but it's a fine line between living in a public relationship and feeling like you are living in a relationship for the public even if that wasn't your intention.
Relationships are hard, private or public, so just do what makes you happy. That is the most important thing, just learn from the past, grow as a person and be happy. We only live once! Love you and wish you the best ❤😊✌
your youtube channel kind of opened up a whole other world (of gay!) for me when i discovered it four years ago. i 100% respect and admire and understand your decision but your past relationship helped me tremendously. so thank you for sharing it. ❤️
I totally agree with this. My relationship being so public and on social media was a huge pressure added to a relationship that isn’t needed. Relationships are already super hard.
You do you! Support you no matter what. BUT.... your previous public relationship also brought so so much joy and love to my life and it was kinda like the source of happiness for me when I was lonely. It’s so rare and so pure and I believe there are so many people experienced the same joy brought by you two but you do you and we want to love you back the way you wanted it.
@@thealpha7848 Why the sad emoji though? That's life. You date, you break up, you find someone else. Nothing to be sad about. Most people don't stay with the same person their entire life and tbh that sounds boring af to me.
I completely respect anyones decision to filter anything they'd like to from the internet. What I don't understand is why it has to be one extreme or the other. I know there was a huge negative impact from sharing SO much from your public relationship, but why does that mean you can't share anything? I mean just a mention every so often about whether you are dating someone right now would be helpful to some people. Either way, I respect whatever decision works best for you. I just think there could be a middle ground there.
Thank you for sharing this. I can't imagine how hard it must have been when you're grieving the end of a relationship and to have constant comments about it from strangers on the internet. Your approach now makes total sense and I support you. But I am happy to have representation from the likes of Rose and Rosie (may they never break up). Representation is important, but Rose and Rosie say that if RUclips ever negatively affected their relationship they would choose their relationship over RUclips and I respect that. We love a relationship that's healthy and authentic and when it stops being that then there's no point
You don't owe anybody any explanation about *your* life, dating or otherwise. Keep living your life each day and each moment and never feel obliged to give way to people who pry. We love you Shan. 😍💖🌈
I heard a song two weeks ago. Link to here today. I watched about your previous videos. Everyone has confusion in growing up. No matter what we did. All are part of me. Maybe sometimes I see old photos, I will remember something. But I don't regret it. I don't know what it would be like if I didn't have an experience. It makes me. It makes me what am I look like now. I am very happy that I am here and know more about you. Keep yourself. Shannon is Shannon. I will come back to know more about you. May all the happiness and joy.
I get what happened. I haven't been through it, but I understand that you deserve privacy. I would usually write a long ass article, I'm that kinda person, but I'll just leave it at that.
Total ✨✨ R E S P E C T ✨✨ for you sis. I also just want to thank you for being there, without even knowing. Just putting yourself out there and becoming an influencer and giving us such good representation is HUGE. You don't need to do anything else.
Your public relationship helped so many people. I totally understand not sharing anymore, it’s a learning process. But I just want to thank you for doing it in the first place because I’m sure it taught a lot of closeted people what a gay relationship even was and what it looked like.
Your relationship with cammie helped me grow so much and made me realize who I was and I can’t believe it’s been 6 years since you all started dating!! Anyways I kept my first relationship in private for over a year and a half and so i know how that is and it’s not easy!! I love you Shannon and you inspire me and you are my role model!!
Never clicked so quick! I really appreciate you still remain the vids of your past public relationship. I watched them in 2017 for the first time, and they healed me & gave me the confidence to be publically open in Japan where LGBTQ is treated as a taboo topic. Cannot thank you enough. You've already done enough, so please take care of yourself!!
I'm so glad you are doing what you need to do to be happy! When it comes to youtubers and their lives and real or fictional "ships" social media has made it seem like content creators ow their audience something. Even if your previous videos helped people (myself included) with being more accepting of themselves, that doesn't mean you have to do that forever. Plus, you are just as valuable as a solo act. Much love
I totally agree with your point of view. It is stressing to share something as private as your relationship and publicity can affect them obviously, Not mentioning that it could definitely wear you out to be under constant surveillance. So to share what you wanna share is the best option here.
reading the comments just make me wonder how a person a.k.a Shannon, Cam, Roses, and many other youtubers are meant to be the world’s part of history. sharing your personal life have changed so much people personally. and it was great! knowing that you now keep some things private is not gonna change things at all. cause you’ve done what you should have done at the first place. and that’s enough. right now, if people still confused or questioning about their personality or sexual orientation or just curious about the theory of LGBTQ+, they can just easily looking for your old videos which still related to these days, these moments, this era. thanks for always be positive and sending it virtually. I don’t know why, among many other LGBTQ+ youtuber, I still find you the best. how you support the community regardless of how much profit you could earn from each video because all I see is that your purpose is only to encourage people to get to know theirselves better and be proud of it. (especially your video with you Christian Dad. it makes me realize I could be someone who I really am and still have faith in God. (in short, still a bi and also a Christian.) because it’s been years I prayed my SSA away and it never happened) sometimes I want to be like you and the other youtubers lol. but yea I also am a big believer and I believe people have their own destiny and they have their own role in this world and how they’re gonna be. keep creating beautiful things!! and God bless you
I haven't watched a Shannon video in SO long. Honestly, I really enjoyed this one, for many many reasons. People can sometimes forget that... We're all just human beings, navigating our feelings and dealing with lives and situations. Like, I can barely deal with my own on a day to day. So, when you are in the public eye like this. Not only are you dealing with your own battles, but when something like a breakup happens, now you've got people you don't actually know with all their opinions. And not that they aren't allowed to feel a certain way, I think all the LGBTQIA+ RUclipsrs have has a tremendous affect on the community. Showing the world. "Hey, we're here too." Which we needed. And 6 years ago especially. So yeah, there is that. This huge role they play in peoples lives. BUT, they are people too, with their own lives, it's not a character they are playing. How many of us share every single aspects of ourselves with everyone? I certainly don't. Anyway, I rambled on wayyyy longer than I meant to. But, remember to be kinder, be more understanding, and think about how you'd feel if it were you.
No matter what other’s opinions are just do whatever made you feel comfortable. I follow this channel because I like the video you made, including amazing filming and editing skills, topics you talked about and your own opinion. Love the project you produced and look forward to more cool things. Your mind is precious and brilliant, and you’re super talented, that’s what I subscribe for!
Four years ago I was struggling with my sexuality and that was when I found out about your channel on RUclips. It was helpful in so many ways. I had the chance to thank you personally at The Abbey once and I gotta thank you again for sharing your experiences. You made me believe I could be gay and happy at the same time. You encouraged me to have the most beautiful experience I could ever have after deciding to come out. Thanks, Shannon!
Although you and cam already broke up the time I started watching your vids, still, the vids you two made gave me a lot of laughter and hope during my hard times. Thank you two so much for bringing this to the world. Wish you both happy and both have a lovely life
I was going to say back then i was trying so hard to find lesbian vlog couples and you guys seemed like the only ones so im happy you had it documented and are what you’ve become today.
I've seen several public relationships, and I notice that people observing them tend to become very invested in them BECAUSE they see enough to get deeply invested, but not enough to really get the full picture. They get the entertaining lovey-dovey part, and even if there's "public trouble in paradise", it's usually shown online in a way that makes the whole thing romanticized. The viewers fill in the gaps in their heads, which is very natural to do, but we should always remember that the gaps are result and projection of our own experiences and hopes, and things we have seen or read others to experience. That is when you get to the level of "I cried more of their breakup than my own" because that is when the viewer projects too much. Even if we happen to fill the gaps correctly, OR the people actually show and tell EVERYTHING (almost impossible but anyway) we can never be another person and know how they feel, and we should never tell anyone HOW they should feel. Chemistry and relations are complicated and always changing. Sorry for the long and possibly messy text because English is not my first language.
I think it's important to keep things like this private. You have to have a life out of social media. When everyone knows every part of your life, they try and control it. This is a huge part of something no one else should be in control of. I hope you're enjoying your relationship with whomever it is (however, I would be shocked if it wasn't Cari). Also, who else is LOVING Fletcher's new song? If You're Gonna Lie, and Undrunk are the songs of my summer for sure.
This is such a good topic. Even though she’s talking about her “public” relationship, this can also help the ones dating someone who isn’t out yet. 👏🏻👏🏻
Well, shannon. I believe that relationships should be private in any way possible. I am not gonna lie, i started watching your videos, while you were in that relationship that ended 3 years ago. And what i got from that was to fully accept me for who i was and not being ashamed for it. I really believe that what you represent is move than "showing" with whom you date. That really isn't important. It is good for representation and it really helped me but, you are a human being who deserves privacy. I believe and i feel that, what you represent as an individual is all we need. Because it is genuine and that is enough. In terms of relationship, oh well, who cares? As long you are truly happy. The world deserves happiness and love, no judment and hate. We are tried of that. Much love shannon! Thank you for being the role model i always needed. Much love! 😊😊😊😊😊
I really don't care if you have a relationship or not, the only thing I care about is your happiness cuz if you're happy I'm happy ... but please I'm begging you, post more videos cuz I love your content
what we want is just for you to feel comfortable in any possible aspect. despite being a model to us, you're still just a person, and whatever you are and aren't comfortable doing is valid. its a normal human thing. we respect and love you so much and if you feel you need to take a step back in doing something, then we're here to support you with it.
I appreciated this video so much, understand 100% how freaking hard it must have been for you to deal with The Breakup AND everyone writing comments and tagging you in pictures and videos and everything, I am honestly so sorry bc you're such an amazing and wonderful person and you deserve happiness and all that is good in the world. But I agree with you that everything does happen for a reason so apparently you had to go through that to get where you are now and where you're meant to be tomorrow. Thank you for all you do, even if you're not sharing your relationship of the moment, the work you do for the LGBTQ community is of endless value, thank you and love you always Shannon x
Thank you for being so honest and open about everything :3 For me, personally, I love it when you make these kinds of videos. You're just talking about things that affect you and share your opinions on them. Obviously the Q&A part makes it less initial from your side, but to our excitement you chose to record a video on the topics. :) Hope you know that we all support you no matter what topics you decide to share or not to, no matter how few times you upload a video (lmao) or get stressed out while filming. We can see that you're doing your utmost best and love you for it :3. Hopefully you get around to reading this even though it got really long. This Video felt like old Shannon sharing her feelings on apples and bananas again :3. Cheers to more awesomely honest Q&As and lovely new Shannon being the best version of herself. Sincerely, thefishwholovessushi❤️
Whether to keep your relationship private or to make it open, it's your choice, shan. And I just want you to know that I'll always respect your choice. Thank you for everything you've brought to me through all these videos. Love you~
I am in the same boat as you Shannon. As much as I would love to share my love life with my amazing Fiancé, my past relationships ruined that because there is so much pressure and stress that when things went south people will bug the shit out of you. If it is shared publicly then everyone will have their own opinion of your relationship, even though it is no one's business. That is why I choose what to share and what not to share w/ my family and friends because I do not want that same thing to happen again. I'm so happy for you Shannon and there is nothing wrong with you wanting to keep your relationship to yourself.
good job beveridge! very well said, people will never stop asking but this is loud and clear and it’s about time certain people start respecting/understanding that! all i want is for you to be happy! love & miss you lady!
I totally respect that you want to keep who you are dating private, cause its really not our biz but i get that people are curious but its important that they respect you when you say that you dont want to talk about it, cause if you 're not dating that person it could actually hurt more when people asks about them
JUST THOUGHT I'D SHARE THIS WITH YOU:
You and Cammie, Rose and Rosie, Stevie and many other LGBTQ+ influencers have helped so many people (including myself) by putting yourselves out there. There's literally a GENERATION of us that grew up watching you all and I'll never be able to thank you enough for all that you've done for me and the community. I'm from a country that has zero representation and even the public is pretty much anti-LGBTQ+ so it can get a little hard sometimes. But I can still get through those moments thanks to the person I've become also by watching you. Thank you and I love you 💜
AMEN. I don't know what i would've done without all these youtubers.
for real, I did not realize it when I was younger, but I really did watch them throughout a lot of my teens and they had a big impact on me.
that's so true! I am a totally different person because of them and I accepted myself so fast and became happy! If I didn't have them I would never see how nice life as lgbt can be , because in my country everything is hidden. So I thank them too!
Where are you from?
And Kaelyn and Lucy!
Same!! I totally agree with you
Idk why you welcomed us because we BEEN here. WE should be welcoming YOU.
😂 true
And that’s the tea 🍵
Omg the salt.
lmaoooo
SAY OT LOUDAA
I think your relationship helped young people who were questioning their sexuality and what that might look like. However, you were younger and didn't realize the effect that could occur if things didn't work out. You've also shown that you can work through tough times and get back to a happy place. Life is a learning experience.
Debbie Beveridge I think the relationship helped so many navigate their own sexuality, so much they it almost navigated the fans through what heartbreak looks like too. It’s inevitable but it’s life!!! They handled it with grace ❤️
true for me! made me comfortable with the feelings i was scared of
Yes! So true!! She definitely helped me not only come out to myself but also to my parents :)
That last bit is super true! Seeing that people can be that happy and then break up and then manage to be happy again is an amazing thing that’s helped so many people!
I agree 100%!
It’s your relationship. It’s up to you if you want to keep it private! Good for you 😊
It’s been 3 years since Cam & Shan broke up???? Where has time gone
i thought the same too!! LOL
Wait...just three?
It felt longer
Exactly. Seems like just yesterday, I was a 16 year old closet case bisexual who secretly watched their videos. I’m turning 20 this winter. Where does the time go?! I’m grateful for being able to watch them while they were still an item but it makes me feel like love never lasts 😔
This was a super cool and honest video. My girlfriend, Julia, is so far from a "social media person" and loves being very private and honestly it's nice because it takes me out of social media when we are on a date or travelling or whatever else... basically I don't think of moments with her as a moment to use on social media if that makes any sense and I like that that creates balance in my life because it's easy to get lost in the online world otherwise... thanks for being so candid!
Breanne Williamson where’s Alayna? I thought she has a big crush on Shannon 😏😂
Hi Bre, nice to see you here.
Shan: i don't want to ever put my love life public again especially a breakup
2020: FLETCHER shot by my ex 🤪
(But we love you nevertheless Shannon!!! ❤️)
Theory: you and ally hills are secretly the same person
🤣🤣🤣🤣 true
So true hahaaha
Lionel Messigician Or they are dating? 😱😱😱😱😂😂
@@amberiona
Well, she did ask for it... so #ShallyIsReal 😍! 😜
@@amberiona i don't think so... i think that she and Fletcher are back together
I can’t believe it’s been 3 years, I remember ordering my ripple effect shirt like it was yesterday. I’m so glad you guys are happy now and I’m so grateful you shared your relationship, it was important for me at that time to see you in a happy lesbian relationship. That being said I totally understand your privacy, I’m sure it sucks going through a breakup and having thousands of people commenting how sad they are you broke up and saying they want you back together, you can only imagine that you must feel like you owe this people something. I’m glad you don’t share your personal business now, it’s a lot healthier for you and your relationships, I’m just happy with your content as long as we still get to see the beautiful Deb from time to time. Wish you the best all the way from Spain!
The public relationship definitely was something that I looked up to. There weren't a lot of LGBT youtubers that were sharing that at the time. Yea it ended but the representation WAS so necessary for me and feeling okay with myself. I'm happy you don't regret it because it meant a lot.
“Look at this awesome person that I get to kiss.” omg shan that was so wholesome i loved it
Hi Kayla!
“Am I stressed or something?... when am I not? When am I not?” Me too Shan me too 😂
Take a shot every time Shannon says “relationship”
Do you want us to die? haha
Now I wish I could get a little un-drunk 🍷🍷🍷
@@avrilmyfavor good one 👍😂😂
Lmao I was coming to the comments to say “take a shot every time Shannon says ‘filter’”
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I’m so proud of you Shannon! I learned to not have any regrets from you cause just like you said “everything happens for a reason”. Keep doing you!✨
26/6/19
-Shan uploaded a video
-FLETCHER dropped 🔥 song
-The Aces uploaded "Last One" PVRIS Remix
-Skam España gave us the perfect Croana moments
-it's Lesbian Visibility Day!
Today is a good day!!!!
the aces and pvris- ahhh
You are so right!!!! Your relationship was a sunshine and your break up made me cry more than my own break up. So it's way better not to share much. But you know we love you so fucking much that it feels good to know that someone is in your life to make our Shan happy. All we can do is adore you and your life. But yeah I get your point and I love you more than anything else❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
It’s amazing to see how you have grown up in the last 5 years I’ve been watching! Here for the long run
I'm glad you don't regret sharing your previous relationship, because it played a HUGE part in my coming out story and feeling comfortable with myself. I'm really happy that you're happy private or public
I don't like watching RUclipsrs talking for long time unless its Shan I am so gay for Shan
It's hard for me to stay focused when Cam isn't there to make her giggle and blush once in a while 🙈. The kind of dynamic they had was(is) probably what I needed in my life(and still do).
But it's nice to see they are still doing each their things on here😊🌸 and that most audience besides me has moved on 😂🙈...
You sharing your experience gave me the confidence to embrace mine fully. I started watching you as a closeted 8th grade girl, and I still come back to you and all your content as a transitioned guy in his last year of college. I could never thank you enough, and I think that goes for a lot of people here.
I thought she was gonna tell us she was finally dating fletcher 😐
Kendall D'Aprile Same 😭
Omg that would be hot!!
I thought they broke up?
Vinylpride they were together ??😱
Rita Borges they are together
I kinda can't believe it's been 3 years since your break up. But yeah, the representation of your relationship helped me so much
Guys stop saying she should be less private with her relationship status, what shes been through was hard and I can understand that she won't let that happen again, she just wants to protect her and her possible relationship. She shouldn't have to explain over and over again (3years after the breakup)why she does that, it's her life her choices let her be happy
Just wanted to say thanks so much for everything you've made over the years Shannon. Your channel, along with Kaelyn & Lucy's, were the two that helped me truly understand that - regardless of gender - love is love. I know it sounds cliche, but there really is a difference between being TOLD that "love is love", and repeating that politically correct phrase without thinking... compared to actually SEEING it for yourself, and being forced to come to the realization that there is fundamentally no difference between human relationships - regardless of gender. As someone who spent the early 2010's with an all-hetero friend group, I cannot overstate how important your videos were in shaping my understanding of relationships and love.
I completely understand why you would not want to put your private life under such scrutiny a second time. Thank you for allowing your old videos to still remain visible. I hope they will continue to help others as they helped me.
Omg love you so much Shannon. U helped me come out to my parents
How did it go?
I usually get bored straight watching RUclipsrs talk for a long time but I NEVER get bored watching Shannon give her 12 minute long speech or Rose and Rosie just talking.
Never
I think it's a good choice to be strictly private and loosen up later when ready.
By gradually dropping the filter (and the effort and stress that gives) you can then have a semi-public relationship neither hiding nor broadcasting it.
People who care about you as a person, not just a youtuber, just want you to be happy. Any decision you make about YOUR life should be supported. I was curious if having to filter yourself contributes to your anxiety?
I loved Cammie because she was representation of a Femme lesbian. Helped with stereotypes.
Niamh Seren she has a channel
They were a femme lesbian couple
yeah, youtube sure helped show representation of femme lesbian couples. without that some may not even know they existed and due to stereotypes may have assumed (at least) one in a couple is supposed to be butch.
Niamh Seren
IDK........Shannon is pretty femme too😙🤷🏼♀️
Niamh Seren exactly
her public relationship was so important to me because watching them made me accept who i was and realize that it’s normal and okay and beautiful. that there are multiple ways to be gay, it’s not a mold, which i really thought it was, as stupid as it sounds. following their life here on youtube made me realize that i didn’t have to look or act in a certain way. so thank you shannon, for i wouldn’t be the person i am today without your ’little’ help❤️🏳️🌈
It starts for me when you have a profile pic on WhatApp with your s. o. or when you constantly talk about them or bring them along to parties...
The more private my relationships have been, the happier I was in those relationships.
Maybe some people feel comfortable in public relationships but I don't.
I talk about my s. o. as little as possible now, I don't have social media at all anymore (expect for WhatsApp, Signal and RUclips) and that's really nice.
Sometimes when you have social media you tend to live your life for other people you always feel like you gotta show this or that. When you don't have it at all you just live for yourself. You 100% concentrate on things that YOU actually wanna do and that also goes for your relationship.
Also the same thing you just said: The more people know, the more they speculate. It's paradox. You would think it's the other way around, but it's not. I don't want people to speculate about my relationship and I want to talk with them about other topics. Otherwise it would feel like I am around my s. o. 24/7 and never around my friends.
Also like if people know too much they keep asking about that person even years later. Even if you're not a public figure.
So I let people know that I'm in a relationship if they ask or flirt with me and that's it. There's not more to know than just that.
*shannon deciding when to share her relationship* : "This is my wife.."
*fletcher* : "one day were gonna get marrieeeeeed"
As long u with Fletcher we're fine alright ❤
It’s okay Shan we know you’re with Fletcher it’s ii
Been here since the actual beginning it’s so funny to see how you’ve changed over the years
You are such a gentle soul. You are so considerate of how others may feel with the tough questions your viewers and friends ask - it’s so very sweet. I know I don’t know you, but that has been my entire perception of you watching all of your videos. You are a wonderful human being and if I ever meet you one day, it will be a pleasure!
Glad you don’t regret sharing your relationship! You two made a video that made me realize I was gay! Without watching that I’m not sure where I’d be without you two!
Great video. Everyone should be entitled to a private life, and it's defo up to them what to share and when. It's been 3 years and I think you help the LGBTQ community more now, despite not sharing your dating life, I mean just look at letter to you and just say I love you, those videos are so impactful and influential!
This was so well done. You're so mature and articulate!
idk but you look happier. I feel like you're living in the moment more now and not posting everything on social media and that's great.
You can do both, balance is key
stopped listening for the 22nd time to "if you're gonna lie" - cari to watch this i mean love all the love u know.
I think your true fans are those that support you no matter what and just want you to be happy. You show us who you want to show us, Shannon. And we will love you because we care about you, and selfishly want you to continue making content. Thank you for all that you’ve done and for being pioneers of the LGBT RUclips community, and lesbian channels that started because they started out watching you. You’re amazing 💫❤️
Yes! This x 1000000000000
I think a big problem with public relationships is the concept of shipping reallife people. You should absolutely never do it. Even if like a celebrity couple is married I don't ship them. Shipping is for the fictional world where you have information and you know pretty much all about the characters. You can't apply that to real people. I can't judge a person's life just by their instagram story. Idk for me that annoys me the most. It makes me uncomfortable without even being affected by it. Same goes like for actors that play a couple on screen. When the fandom starts to analyse every little thing they post and write comments of requesting them to be together I cringe. I think relationships can be public but it's a fine line between living in a public relationship and feeling like you are living in a relationship for the public even if that wasn't your intention.
I agree with you (I know this was six months ago), I would never "ship" real human beings.
Relationships are hard, private or public, so just do what makes you happy. That is the most important thing, just learn from the past, grow as a person and be happy. We only live once! Love you and wish you the best ❤😊✌
Mad respect for taking care of you and your relationship! Happy if you're happy ❤️❤️
Shan we just have to be grateful because you still let us in, making this type of videos , you deserve to be happy.💕
Absolutely. We could see that the chaos after was huge. We're so blessed to have any of Shannon here with us still ❤️
your youtube channel kind of opened up a whole other world (of gay!) for me when i discovered it four years ago. i 100% respect and admire and understand your decision but your past relationship helped me tremendously. so thank you for sharing it. ❤️
Fletcher released a new fkn song today.
And now this.
R U tryna kill me?🤔🏳️🌈
Shaked A are they together still?
@@Golden90960 I actually have no idea...
I really hope they do tho😍
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I totally agree with this. My relationship being so public and on social media was a huge pressure added to a relationship that isn’t needed. Relationships are already super hard.
Thanks to you and others RUclipsrs, I came out five years ago. Thanks!
You do you! Support you no matter what. BUT.... your previous public relationship also brought so so much joy and love to my life and it was kinda like the source of happiness for me when I was lonely. It’s so rare and so pure and I believe there are so many people experienced the same joy brought by you two but you do you and we want to love you back the way you wanted it.
thats prolly why her and fletcher didn't go public fully with their relationship. relationships work better when its fully not in the public
But even private they didnt last :(... however the love is still there so who knows
@@thealpha7848 Why the sad emoji though?
That's life. You date, you break up, you find someone else. Nothing to be sad about.
Most people don't stay with the same person their entire life and tbh that sounds boring af to me.
I thought I wouldn't be seeing a video relating to 'dating' or 'relationship'
Ly shannon💕
Liking before even watching cause I already know I’ll love the video
As someone who has been watching you from the beginning, I really enjoyed this video and hearing your perspectives on both sides.
You not being able to say relationship is me, what a mood. I LOVED this Shan! Thanks for sharing your feels with us!
I completely respect anyones decision to filter anything they'd like to from the internet. What I don't understand is why it has to be one extreme or the other. I know there was a huge negative impact from sharing SO much from your public relationship, but why does that mean you can't share anything? I mean just a mention every so often about whether you are dating someone right now would be helpful to some people.
Either way, I respect whatever decision works best for you. I just think there could be a middle ground there.
this is so random but your lashes look AMAZING!!!!! wow i almost couldn’t concentrate on anything you were saying
i hate how much social media has effected such beautiful people like shannon
just started my channel with my gf very inspired by Shannon and cammie but its true what Shannon said public relationships aren't for everyone
I love how she talks about her ex, and at the same time wearing a shirt that says "Death Becomes Her"😂😂
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. right
"Unless you think I'm Mother Theresa..." 🤣
Love you Shan!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing this. I can't imagine how hard it must have been when you're grieving the end of a relationship and to have constant comments about it from strangers on the internet. Your approach now makes total sense and I support you. But I am happy to have representation from the likes of Rose and Rosie (may they never break up). Representation is important, but Rose and Rosie say that if RUclips ever negatively affected their relationship they would choose their relationship over RUclips and I respect that. We love a relationship that's healthy and authentic and when it stops being that then there's no point
You don't owe anybody any explanation about *your* life, dating or otherwise. Keep living your life each day and each moment and never feel obliged to give way to people who pry. We love you Shan. 😍💖🌈
THREE YEARS? ITS BEEN THREE YEARS ??
But I mean I don't ever think about their relationship any more... So I guess it makes sense
I heard a song two weeks ago. Link to here today. I watched about your previous videos. Everyone has confusion in growing up. No matter what we did. All are part of me. Maybe sometimes I see old photos, I will remember something. But I don't regret it. I don't know what it would be like if I didn't have an experience. It makes me. It makes me what am I look like now. I am very happy that I am here and know more about you. Keep yourself. Shannon is Shannon. I will come back to know more about you. May all the happiness and joy.
I get what happened. I haven't been through it, but I understand that you deserve privacy.
I would usually write a long ass article, I'm that kinda person, but I'll just leave it at that.
Total ✨✨ R E S P E C T ✨✨ for you sis.
I also just want to thank you for being there, without even knowing.
Just putting yourself out there and becoming an influencer and giving us such good representation is HUGE.
You don't need to do anything else.
Your public relationship helped so many people. I totally understand not sharing anymore, it’s a learning process. But I just want to thank you for doing it in the first place because I’m sure it taught a lot of closeted people what a gay relationship even was and what it looked like.
The way my heart beats faster when I see you’ve posted a new video is no joke
Your relationship with cammie helped me grow so much and made me realize who I was and I can’t believe it’s been 6 years since you all started dating!! Anyways I kept my first relationship in private for over a year and a half and so i know how that is and it’s not easy!! I love you Shannon and you inspire me and you are my role model!!
Never clicked so quick! I really appreciate you still remain the vids of your past public relationship. I watched them in 2017 for the first time, and they healed me & gave me the confidence to be publically open in Japan where LGBTQ is treated as a taboo topic. Cannot thank you enough. You've already done enough, so please take care of yourself!!
It's 2.23 a.m. where I am & my finals is tomorrow 🙃
Thank you Shannon for this ❤️
I'm so glad you are doing what you need to do to be happy! When it comes to youtubers and their lives and real or fictional "ships" social media has made it seem like content creators ow their audience something. Even if your previous videos helped people (myself included) with being more accepting of themselves, that doesn't mean you have to do that forever. Plus, you are just as valuable as a solo act. Much love
I totally agree with your point of view. It is stressing to share something as private as your relationship and publicity can affect them obviously, Not mentioning that it could definitely wear you out to be under constant surveillance. So to share what you wanna share is the best option here.
reading the comments just make me wonder how a person a.k.a Shannon, Cam, Roses, and many other youtubers are meant to be the world’s part of history.
sharing your personal life have changed so much people personally. and it was great! knowing that you now keep some things private is not gonna change things at all. cause you’ve done what you should have done at the first place. and that’s enough.
right now, if people still confused or questioning about their personality or sexual orientation or just curious about the theory of LGBTQ+, they can just easily looking for your old videos which still related to these days, these moments, this era.
thanks for always be positive and sending it virtually. I don’t know why, among many other LGBTQ+ youtuber, I still find you the best. how you support the community regardless of how much profit you could earn from each video because all I see is that your purpose is only to encourage people to get to know theirselves better and be proud of it. (especially your video with you Christian Dad. it makes me realize I could be someone who I really am and still have faith in God. (in short, still a bi and also a Christian.) because it’s been years I prayed my SSA away and it never happened)
sometimes I want to be like you and the other youtubers lol. but yea I also am a big believer and I believe people have their own destiny and they have their own role in this world and how they’re gonna be.
keep creating beautiful things!! and God bless you
You don't owe us anything. You live your life the way you want and share what you want. We love you! :D
I haven't watched a Shannon video in SO long. Honestly, I really enjoyed this one, for many many reasons. People can sometimes forget that... We're all just human beings, navigating our feelings and dealing with lives and situations. Like, I can barely deal with my own on a day to day. So, when you are in the public eye like this. Not only are you dealing with your own battles, but when something like a breakup happens, now you've got people you don't actually know with all their opinions. And not that they aren't allowed to feel a certain way, I think all the LGBTQIA+ RUclipsrs have has a tremendous affect on the community. Showing the world. "Hey, we're here too." Which we needed. And 6 years ago especially. So yeah, there is that. This huge role they play in peoples lives. BUT, they are people too, with their own lives, it's not a character they are playing. How many of us share every single aspects of ourselves with everyone? I certainly don't. Anyway, I rambled on wayyyy longer than I meant to. But, remember to be kinder, be more understanding, and think about how you'd feel if it were you.
left an Ingrid Nilsen ft. Alexis G. Zall video to watch this... that's gay
JC Hey lol love this haha
I totally understand that you wouldn't want to do that again- but I am honestly SO thankful, that you did it. You guys helped me a lot back then❤️
I am assuming that you are dating Fletcher
I am assuming you didn't get her point of this video
She did say we could assume
Shannon always gives the best advices
No matter what other’s opinions are just do whatever made you feel comfortable.
I follow this channel because I like the video you made, including amazing filming and editing skills, topics you talked about and your own opinion.
Love the project you produced and look forward to more cool things. Your mind is precious and brilliant, and you’re super talented, that’s what I subscribe for!
I think privacy is a great thing everyone needs a personal life. You are a great person shannon love all your videos.
Four years ago I was struggling with my sexuality and that was when I found out about your channel on RUclips. It was helpful in so many ways. I had the chance to thank you personally at The Abbey once and I gotta thank you again for sharing your experiences. You made me believe I could be gay and happy at the same time. You encouraged me to have the most beautiful experience I could ever have after deciding to come out. Thanks, Shannon!
Although you and cam already broke up the time I started watching your vids, still, the vids you two made gave me a lot of laughter and hope during my hard times. Thank you two so much for bringing this to the world. Wish you both happy and both have a lovely life
I was going to say back then i was trying so hard to find lesbian vlog couples and you guys seemed like the only ones so im happy you had it documented and are what you’ve become today.
I've seen several public relationships, and I notice that people observing them tend to become very invested in them BECAUSE they see enough to get deeply invested, but not enough to really get the full picture. They get the entertaining lovey-dovey part, and even if there's "public trouble in paradise", it's usually shown online in a way that makes the whole thing romanticized. The viewers fill in the gaps in their heads, which is very natural to do, but we should always remember that the gaps are result and projection of our own experiences and hopes, and things we have seen or read others to experience. That is when you get to the level of "I cried more of their breakup than my own" because that is when the viewer projects too much. Even if we happen to fill the gaps correctly, OR the people actually show and tell EVERYTHING (almost impossible but anyway) we can never be another person and know how they feel, and we should never tell anyone HOW they should feel. Chemistry and relations are complicated and always changing.
Sorry for the long and possibly messy text because English is not my first language.
I think it's important to keep things like this private. You have to have a life out of social media. When everyone knows every part of your life, they try and control it. This is a huge part of something no one else should be in control of.
I hope you're enjoying your relationship with whomever it is (however, I would be shocked if it wasn't Cari).
Also, who else is LOVING Fletcher's new song? If You're Gonna Lie, and Undrunk are the songs of my summer for sure.
This is such a good topic. Even though she’s talking about her “public” relationship, this can also help the ones dating someone who isn’t out yet.
👏🏻👏🏻
Well, shannon. I believe that relationships should be private in any way possible. I am not gonna lie, i started watching your videos, while you were in that relationship that ended 3 years ago. And what i got from that was to fully accept me for who i was and not being ashamed for it. I really believe that what you represent is move than "showing" with whom you date. That really isn't important. It is good for representation and it really helped me but, you are a human being who deserves privacy. I believe and i feel that, what you represent as an individual is all we need. Because it is genuine and that is enough. In terms of relationship, oh well, who cares? As long you are truly happy. The world deserves happiness and love, no judment and hate. We are tried of that. Much love shannon! Thank you for being the role model i always needed. Much love! 😊😊😊😊😊
I really don't care if you have a relationship or not, the only thing I care about is your happiness cuz if you're happy I'm happy ... but please I'm begging you, post more videos cuz I love your content
it’s always up to you what you wanna share and what you dont wanna share. always put your happiness first. i love you, and i hope you’ve been happy
what we want is just for you to feel comfortable in any possible aspect. despite being a model to us, you're still just a person, and whatever you are and aren't comfortable doing is valid. its a normal human thing. we respect and love you so much and if you feel you need to take a step back in doing something, then we're here to support you with it.
I appreciated this video so much, understand 100% how freaking hard it must have been for you to deal with The Breakup AND everyone writing comments and tagging you in pictures and videos and everything, I am honestly so sorry bc you're such an amazing and wonderful person and you deserve happiness and all that is good in the world. But I agree with you that everything does happen for a reason so apparently you had to go through that to get where you are now and where you're meant to be tomorrow. Thank you for all you do, even if you're not sharing your relationship of the moment, the work you do for the LGBTQ community is of endless value, thank you and love you always Shannon x
Thank you for being so honest and open about everything :3
For me, personally, I love it when you make these kinds of videos. You're just talking about things that affect you and share your opinions on them. Obviously the Q&A part makes it less initial from your side, but to our excitement you chose to record a video on the topics. :)
Hope you know that we all support you no matter what topics you decide to share or not to, no matter how few times you upload a video (lmao) or get stressed out while filming. We can see that you're doing your utmost best and love you for it :3.
Hopefully you get around to reading this even though it got really long.
This Video felt like old Shannon sharing her feelings on apples and bananas again :3.
Cheers to more awesomely honest Q&As and lovely new Shannon being the best version of herself.
Sincerely,
thefishwholovessushi❤️
Whether to keep your relationship private or to make it open, it's your choice, shan. And I just want you to know that I'll always respect your choice. Thank you for everything you've brought to me through all these videos. Love you~
I am in the same boat as you Shannon. As much as I would love to share my love life with my amazing Fiancé, my past relationships ruined that because there is so much pressure and stress that when things went south people will bug the shit out of you. If it is shared publicly then everyone will have their own opinion of your relationship, even though it is no one's business. That is why I choose what to share and what not to share w/ my family and friends because I do not want that same thing to happen again.
I'm so happy for you Shannon and there is nothing wrong with you wanting to keep your relationship to yourself.
good job beveridge! very well said, people will never stop asking but this is loud and clear and it’s about time certain people start respecting/understanding that! all i want is for you to be happy! love & miss you lady!
I totally respect that you want to keep who you are dating private, cause its really not our biz but i get that people are curious but its important that they respect you when you say that you dont want to talk about it, cause if you 're not dating that person it could actually hurt more when people asks about them