Leslie you helped me walk away from an evil Sociopath who used and abused me for over a decade! Thank you for your work Leslie! I share the videos with all those who I've met who need help.
I have backed off from my toxic marriage. I know it is dishonoring God and it is not good for either of us to continue this way. We have been married almost 6 years and I kept hoping he would change. But now I have faced the truth of my value as a woman and I refuse to be treated this way any longer. I don't want to hurt him but I know this can't go on. I rely on God for my strength to separate from this dysfunctional man in my life. You speak truth! He uses the Word of God to try and make me feel guilty and stay. I pray I can stay strong enough to go through it. God Bless You! Keep up the good work God has called you to.
@@Servantheart82 I was separated for 2 years and divorced him in September of last year. I have been doing great, drawing closer to God everyday. He is my strength! I'm happier than I've been in a long time! After getting away from him I see just how bad it was and God does not want us to live like that. Thanks for asking.
@@patriciafoltting6761 hi I just separated a month ago after being with my husband for 20 years . The verbal abuse was getting so bad till this day things replay in my mind and I get anxiety, I haven’t spoken or seen him and he tries to reach out but I just don’t have nothing to say . I said everything but he wasn’t willing to do or listen to what I suggested and I just couldn’t take it anymore . God has prepared me mentally and financially, I still hurt but I know this is the right thing to do
@@Servantheart82 things are going great! I don't miss him and I'm so happy just me and the Lord. I've grown so much in these last couple years. He is hoping we will get back together. I am just friends with him but we don't talk very much. Because when I try to be nice to him he takes it the wrong way and wants to Jump Right In again. I'm holding my own even though sometimes I'm tempted to go back but I know that I can't. I will never return to that toxicity!
@@hgs2015 yes, you are doing the right thing. You'll be okay. Just keep your eyes on the Lord and He will give you the strength to keep on. Don't hang on to things that keep you down. God is all we need! And if down the road there is a good man waiting for you. God will make it happen. God bless you. I'm praying for you.
Beautiful summary. in your books and talks you have put words to what I was experiencing, validated it and helped me map out the path out of the abuse. Still on the healing path, but I have come a long, long way. Trusting God to take me all the way. #dancingdifferently
Everything takes on a much more insidious complexity when dealing with a narcissist. “Speaking up “ is futile. Setting boundaries becomes a threat deserving of punishment. They will make your life a hell if you rock their boat.
When it becomes that bad it's time to leave. My x was a Sociopath who became violent with boundaries. I've been there and I do understand what your saying.
I keep feeling the tension of staying away from my abusive mother. She recently had a stroke and my efforts to help from a distant safe space have been frustrated by her foolish stubbornness and my destructive, in the way baby sister. I love all the way on ye other side of the country and I recently divorced a destructive husband. I am solo parenting school aged children. I come from a west African culture and we are expected to help our parents as they age (not an inherently bad thing) and we are expected to take the abuse no matter what. I just have no heart for that. Yet, turning my back on my mother in her current state just bothers my soul. Any insights are appreciated. Thanks Leslie for your work.
Your message ministered to me greatly. Thank you. I need a Godly perspective on dealing with my abusive spouse of 29 years. Unfortunately, the church hasn't helped me and o don't know where else to turn.
I’m right there with you. I’ve tried to turn to the church but haven’t received much help there. You’re not alone. I’ve only been married for 3 years though... I’m praying it will get better soon.
I recently purchased books by Jay Adams and Jim Newheiser. Both are biblical counselors and the books have the same title. Both are good. Also Jim has a couple videos on RUclips. I listened to an audio by John Street that was my aha moment. Unfortunately it was sent to me on an iCloud link that expired.
I have a similar story with family members. It can be very isolating and was affecting my marriage which is why I sought out your books and videos. It got me thinking in a different way and things started to improve. It is not easy but it can happen.
My husband insists that he is only being protective of me. Some of his may be true, but I have realized that it is a form of manipulation and control. This way if I don’t adhere to any of his commands , he will get angry that I didn’t follow his command and how I put myself in danger. He wants me to think that I am not capable to think on my own and make good decisions. It does help me talk to God. I am not able to get out. I am only getting more angry. He speaks very bad and disrespectful of my deceased father that he hates till this day. My dad has been dead for 8 years. I have tried to go to counseling and it helps temporary, but he is not going to change if he does not recognize his behavior. I believe anyone can change but this type of controlling behavior is very hard to break. Every now and then I get a glimpse of it. I know he has issues that go beyond our marriage. Please pray for me to continue to rely on God and to stop giving in to Satan’s will and look for ways to retaliate. Help me to speak truth to my husband through scriptures.
Go to your public library and check out the book by Lundy Bancroft “Why Does He Do That”. If your library doesn’t have a copy, then you can make a request for them to order a copy and this book is SO IMPORTANT that every library SHOULD have a copy.
I appreciate Leslie’s wisdom that she shares from a biblical worldview. Learning how to LIVE with healthy mannerisms leads to LIFE. Jesus is LIFE. John 14:6 (KJB).
I'm broken hearted because I don't have my husband to hug me nor give me an embrace. We don't touch although we still can have a decent conversation. He is angry with what i did 17 years ago but I had good reasons to do what I did. Anyway, because of what I did, he has refused to forgive me and we Move so apart from each other since then. Now I'm suffering because I miss him alot that I feel very depressed. I'm on medication now because I'm seeing a psychiatrist n a psychologist. I need help desperately.
That piano playing behind you takes a week from your speaking. Makes you harder to really hear because the music behind you is annoying . I really like listening to you but the music takes away from you . But thank you for sharing all of your wisdom it is really good and I’m sure that you’re helping a lot of people.
Although the harmonic is evocatively pensive, and stimulates contemplation. It's a mixed 🎒. Perhaps this content could use a healthy dose of nuance as well to provide accuracy in its analysis.
Thank you leslie 30 marriage years I have so lost my true self I really find unfruitful talking to my partner she took over money control which became a one way valve so I'm a very reluctant door mat I feel so lonely around her but I feel solatud on my own whith out getting run down I like to talk to IAM he has never run me down he has only embraced me jesus told me that his father chose my partner is so hard having a relationship with her because my feeling are so ignored I have put so much energy to keep up putting effort into my self love but it is so very hard to live with my doubting partner who loves to put in negative digs I could go on but I don't wont to cause net damage..🤐
Yes, suggestion - drop the music. Makes it seem like your not sharing something important and professional... But something sentimental and mushy. Your not, but that kind of music brings up those connotations
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Leslie you helped me walk away from an evil Sociopath who used and abused me for over a decade! Thank you for your work Leslie! I share the videos with all those who I've met who need help.
I have backed off from my toxic marriage. I know it is dishonoring God and it is not good for either of us to continue this way. We have been married almost 6 years and I kept hoping he would change. But now I have faced the truth of my value as a woman and I refuse to be treated this way any longer. I don't want to hurt him but I know this can't go on. I rely on God for my strength to separate from this dysfunctional man in my life. You speak truth! He uses the Word of God to try and make me feel guilty and stay. I pray I can stay strong enough to go through it. God Bless You! Keep up the good work God has called you to.
PAF how are things going?
@@Servantheart82 I was separated for 2 years and divorced him in September of last year. I have been doing great, drawing closer to God everyday. He is my strength! I'm happier than I've been in a long time! After getting away from him I see just how bad it was and God does not want us to live like that. Thanks for asking.
@@patriciafoltting6761 hi I just separated a month ago after being with my husband for 20 years . The verbal abuse was getting so bad till this day things replay in my mind and I get anxiety, I haven’t spoken or seen him and he tries to reach out but I just don’t have nothing to say . I said everything but he wasn’t willing to do or listen to what I suggested and I just couldn’t take it anymore . God has prepared me mentally and financially, I still hurt but I know this is the right thing to do
@@Servantheart82 things are going great! I don't miss him and I'm so happy just me and the Lord. I've grown so much in these last couple years. He is hoping we will get back together. I am just friends with him but we don't talk very much. Because when I try to be nice to him he takes it the wrong way and wants to Jump Right In again. I'm holding my own even though sometimes I'm tempted to go back but I know that I can't. I will never return to that toxicity!
@@hgs2015 yes, you are doing the right thing. You'll be okay. Just keep your eyes on the Lord and He will give you the strength to keep on. Don't hang on to things that keep you down. God is all we need! And if down the road there is a good man waiting for you. God will make it happen. God bless you. I'm praying for you.
Whoa, thank you. I needed this.
Beautiful summary. in your books and talks you have put words to what I was experiencing, validated it and helped me map out the path out of the abuse. Still on the healing path, but I have come a long, long way. Trusting God to take me all the way. #dancingdifferently
Crying my eyes out. I am so broken. Will i ever heal.
Yes you will !
Everything takes on a much more insidious complexity when dealing with a narcissist. “Speaking up “ is futile. Setting boundaries becomes a threat deserving of punishment.
They will make your life a hell if you rock their boat.
When it becomes that bad it's time to leave. My x was a Sociopath who became violent with boundaries. I've been there and I do understand what your saying.
I keep feeling the tension of staying away from my abusive mother. She recently had a stroke and my efforts to help from a distant safe space have been frustrated by her foolish stubbornness and my destructive, in the way baby sister. I love all the way on ye other side of the country and I recently divorced a destructive husband. I am solo parenting school aged children. I come from a west African culture and we are expected to help our parents as they age (not an inherently bad thing) and we are expected to take the abuse no matter what. I just have no heart for that. Yet, turning my back on my mother in her current state just bothers my soul. Any insights are appreciated. Thanks Leslie for your work.
Your message ministered to me greatly. Thank you. I need a Godly perspective on dealing with my abusive spouse of 29 years. Unfortunately, the church hasn't helped me and o don't know where else to turn.
I’m right there with you. I’ve tried to turn to the church but haven’t received much help there. You’re not alone. I’ve only been married for 3 years though... I’m praying it will get better soon.
I recently purchased books by Jay Adams and Jim Newheiser. Both are biblical counselors and the books have the same title. Both are good. Also Jim has a couple videos on RUclips. I listened to an audio by John Street that was my aha moment. Unfortunately it was sent to me on an iCloud link that expired.
I have a similar story with family members. It can be very isolating and was affecting my marriage which is why I sought out your books and videos. It got me thinking in a different way and things started to improve. It is not easy but it can happen.
Leslie, thanks so much for these videos!!! I appreciate them a lot!!
I was constantly told “I was no princess”, but he’s wrong, I’m a child of the king
My husband insists that he is only being protective of me. Some of his may be true, but I have realized that it is a form of manipulation and control. This way if I don’t adhere to any of his commands , he will get angry that I didn’t follow his command and how I put myself in danger. He wants me to think that I am not capable to think on my own and make good decisions. It does help me talk to God. I am not able to get out. I am only getting more angry. He speaks very bad and disrespectful of my deceased father that he hates till this day. My dad has been dead for 8 years. I have tried to go to counseling and it helps temporary, but he is not going to change if he does not recognize his behavior. I believe anyone can change but this type of controlling behavior is very hard to break. Every now and then I get a glimpse of it. I know he has issues that go beyond our marriage. Please pray for me to continue to rely on God and to stop giving in to Satan’s will and look for ways to retaliate. Help me to speak truth to my husband through scriptures.
Go to your public library and check out the book by Lundy Bancroft “Why Does He Do That”. If your library doesn’t have a copy, then you can make a request for them to order a copy and this book is SO IMPORTANT that every library SHOULD have a copy.
I appreciate Leslie’s wisdom that she shares from a biblical worldview. Learning how to LIVE with healthy mannerisms leads to LIFE. Jesus is LIFE. John 14:6 (KJB).
Thank you Leslie 🌸💜
This is so helpful. Thank you soooo much for doing this video.
Thank you do much this is so helpful...
Thank you for this upload. What's the beautiful music playing in the background?
I'm broken hearted because I don't have my husband to hug me nor give me an embrace. We don't touch although we still can have a decent conversation. He is angry with what i did 17 years ago but I had good reasons to do what I did. Anyway, because of what I did, he has refused to forgive me and we
Move so apart from each other since then. Now I'm suffering because I miss him alot that I feel very depressed. I'm on medication now because I'm seeing a psychiatrist n a psychologist. I need help desperately.
That piano playing behind you takes a week from your speaking. Makes you harder to really hear because the music behind you is annoying . I really like listening to you but the music takes away from you .
But thank you for sharing all of your wisdom it is really good and I’m sure that you’re helping a lot of people.
Although the harmonic is evocatively pensive, and stimulates contemplation. It's a mixed 🎒. Perhaps this content could use a healthy dose of nuance as well to provide accuracy in its analysis.
Thank you leslie 30 marriage years I have so lost my true self I really find unfruitful talking to my partner she took over money control which became a one way valve so I'm a very reluctant door mat I feel so lonely around her but I feel solatud on my own whith out getting run down I like to talk to IAM he has never run me down he has only embraced me jesus told me that his father chose my partner is so hard having a relationship with her because my feeling are so ignored I have put so much energy to keep up putting effort into my self love but it is so very hard to live with my doubting partner who loves to put in negative digs I could go on but I don't wont to cause net damage..🤐
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Yes, suggestion - drop the music. Makes it seem like your not sharing something important and professional... But something sentimental and mushy. Your not, but that kind of music brings up those connotations
Thanks for the tips!
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