Julissa Bermudez's Biggest Regrets Around Marriage, Kids, and Her Latin Culture

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  • Опубликовано: 23 ноя 2024

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  • @LisaS483
    @LisaS483 15 дней назад +334

    I got married at 40 and got pregnant very easily a few months later. It has been 5 years now and my family is such a blessing. I am happy I waited for the right man. Nothing is impossible with God ladies.

    • @christinarivera8216
      @christinarivera8216 14 дней назад +22

      Needed to read this
      Thank you.
      I'm 36
      Patiently waiting 4 God to bless me

    • @LisaS483
      @LisaS483 14 дней назад +5

      @@christinarivera8216 Praying for you.

    • @christinarivera8216
      @christinarivera8216 14 дней назад +2

      @LisaS483 thank youuuu

    • @Goodwillwinoverevil1984
      @Goodwillwinoverevil1984 13 дней назад +9

      Lucky you got a good man. I tried last year at 39 and the guy I invested in was such a judgemental/critical asshole.
      If given the choice now, I'd rather have a good child than a good husband if I had to choose only one. I've been so jaded by the opposite sex it's not even funny. 😞

    • @KayciazWorld
      @KayciazWorld 12 дней назад +2

      Amen God bless 🙏✝️

  • @OurPerez
    @OurPerez 26 дней назад +257

    Having kids should not be taken lightly

    • @sheambitious29lachelle17
      @sheambitious29lachelle17 19 дней назад +16

      should NOT! and I wish I was taught that

    • @southerncalifornia970
      @southerncalifornia970 14 дней назад +2

      THANK YOU!

    • @KayciazWorld
      @KayciazWorld 12 дней назад +7

      There are A LOT of people who feel this way who have kids! I agree it's not something to just do. It should be well thought out and planned from A-Z

    • @proudmganda1159
      @proudmganda1159 9 дней назад +1

      💯

    • @lastsam9846
      @lastsam9846 9 дней назад +2

      @@OurPerez Yet must be prioritized.

  • @SaharaKnows
    @SaharaKnows 25 дней назад +348

    Being married is not the goal. Being married to the RIGHT person is the goal. Having kids with the wrong person is HELL. Kids are ALOT of work and responsibility. A lot of mothers aren’t even happy and resent it.

    • @sheambitious29lachelle17
      @sheambitious29lachelle17 19 дней назад +10

      you got that right!

    • @THE-BASEMENT
      @THE-BASEMENT 17 дней назад +5

      You will meet the right person if you stop giving up box prior to marriage. Why would a man need to marry you if he already getting the box prior to?

    • @krissit1874
      @krissit1874 15 дней назад +4

      I was married and had my kids by him and it didn’t last but I was able to experience it. So many women are looking for this super duper relationship that never happens. Everyone goes into marriage thinking forever but if it’s not forever doesn’t mean he was the wrong man or you were the wrong woman just 💩 happens

    • @stockholmsweden1142
      @stockholmsweden1142 15 дней назад +13

      ​@@THE-BASEMENTThis is an overly simplistic and obtuse comment.

    • @THE-BASEMENT
      @THE-BASEMENT 15 дней назад

      @@stockholmsweden1142 Sht cho ShawShank Redemption arse up.

  • @JK-vk2to
    @JK-vk2to 17 дней назад +129

    I’m a 36 year old male who’s been married for five years with a 4 year old child. People need to stop harshly judging women who don’t have kids. Being a parent is the most difficult task in the world and requires individuals to be in a good place mentally, emotionally, financially, and physically in order to raise a child in the most ideal circumstance possible. If you are not ready then it is better that you don’t have children for the sake of that child. Being a good parent requires complete selflessness. There are times where I just want to relax and watch football but can’t because my child wants to play or has a dance class to attend. There are nights that I need full sleep but my child had a bad dream and we have to soothe. Marriage has been challenging at times since our child was born… arguing about our different parenting philosophies or feeling bitterness that one of us isn’t pulling our weight. With all that said, I have never been happier than the last four years of being a dad and my wife feels so complete as a family. I’ve been able to travel the world, own luxury cars, watches, and nice house. No amount of materialistic items and experiences has come close to what having my child has felt.

    • @Goodwillwinoverevil1984
      @Goodwillwinoverevil1984 13 дней назад

      How did you afford all of that stuff at a relatively young age! I even get curious but JEALOUS of young, rich people it's really not fair!

    • @JK-vk2to
      @JK-vk2to 13 дней назад +11

      @ my wife’s an attorney and I’m a radiologist. You seem to be missing the point of the context of my comment though.

    • @Luiz-w5s
      @Luiz-w5s 12 дней назад

      You still can be a father at the age of 80yo. Women can't. They have a time limit to it.

    • @Francesca-b8z
      @Francesca-b8z 10 дней назад +2

      That’s a long ass comment

    • @lisalisa3223
      @lisalisa3223 6 дней назад +4

      @@Luiz-w5syes, but who’s tryna be a father at 80? u men can say things like this bc u know that women do MAJORITY of their child rearing and upkeep of the home and most men dont. literally the reason why women aren’t rushing to have kids or don’t want any at all bc it’s ALOT of work and falls solely on the mother. Smh.

  • @racheldbou9762
    @racheldbou9762 27 дней назад +133

    Julissa is drop dead gorgeous. She’s doing something right. Look at her. God is never late ❤

    • @lastsam9846
      @lastsam9846 10 дней назад +1

      That attractive no prince charming and cutes babies, she's definitely has a dark side that much her beauty and runs men off.

    • @racheldbou9762
      @racheldbou9762 7 дней назад

      @@lastsam9846 Many people are getting married in their 40s now (men and women). Conversely, many people who get married in their 20s and have children are getting divorced. The absence of a partner/children at any age is a no longer a red flag nor is it indicative of some huge character flaws.

    • @lisalisa3223
      @lisalisa3223 6 дней назад

      @@lastsam9846projection. She just doesn’t care for “pRiNcE ChArmInG” and the marriage like u incels do. why is it so hard for u guys to accept that someone can be happy not being a baby factory, or married to a man? we already have 8 billion ppl on the planet, we’ll all be fine. 😂😂😂

  • @annacherish5734
    @annacherish5734 26 дней назад +143

    She’s right .. I’m 33 and people always want to ask me why I don’t have kids, why am I just having kids to have kids

    • @THE-BASEMENT
      @THE-BASEMENT 17 дней назад

      Social media has average women getting dm's from men around the world causing these women to believe that they are 8's 9's and 10's instead of the 5's that most women are. These women then believe that they all deserve high-value men, just because nga's be in they dm's, or they may have been flewed out and got smashed by an athlete or two. Average looking hard working men are invisible to most of these women because of how much attention they get on social media by posting provocative images of themselves. Then when they turn 35, that's when they start to realize that they wish they'd focused more on finding a good man, instead of expecting men out of their league to wife them. Women NEVER take responsibility for their poor life decisions. Like Kevin Samuels said, the 3 most prevalent characteristics of a woman is the need to shame, guilt and need to be right AT ALL TIMES.

    • @dannicakes6837
      @dannicakes6837 15 дней назад +8

      You know, im in my late 30s and people ask me the same thing. But I figured out, let me put you on the spot and ask you why YOU had kids or wanted kids…you will start to get some answers that you may not have been expecting for them to say 🧐

    • @THE-BASEMENT
      @THE-BASEMENT 14 дней назад +6

      @@dannicakes6837 Women are so solipsistic. You either ignored or turned down dozens of viable men during your early 20's into your early to mid 30's because they failed to meet your unrealistic expectations, and now that you are outside of your most attractive years as it relates to men, you are forced to create a new narrative about why you don't want children, when if fact deep down you probably do, but your inability to lower your standards and find a man on your level has prevented you from realizing your true purpose which is motherhood within a loving family. The average man earns roughly 50K, is 5'10 tall and is completely satisfied with that. This average man is invisible to 80% of single women who are all desperately chasing the top 20 percent of men and being used as sneaky links hoping to become the main chic.

    • @brandonpenn9887
      @brandonpenn9887 14 дней назад +2

      @@THE-BASEMENTexactly lol talking about flipping the script asking why they want kids lol never trust a woman who doesn’t want kids or a family. If it doesn’t happen cool but not wanting it is just weird as a human being

    • @juliannesharpe3066
      @juliannesharpe3066 11 дней назад +8

      Or why should I rush to have children with unsuitable partners???

  • @louisianagirl4585
    @louisianagirl4585 27 дней назад +291

    Don’t let people guilt you into that life. Most of them are miserable. 💙💙

    • @bnwo
      @bnwo 19 дней назад +5

      advice from bw is so kooky lol

    • @THE-BASEMENT
      @THE-BASEMENT 17 дней назад

      These entertainment women are already married, they are married to their careers and the children are the performances and movies they get booked for. There is NO WAY on earth they will give that up to be with a man they love, admire and respect to start a family. Julissa and Roxy both could have married a respectable man years ago, but by being in the industry, they believe they some how qualify for a top tier, A-list man, when in reality they both are just average looking women. Their delusion keeps them without a husband and family. And this entire interview was meant to provide a safe place to cope.

    • @712lovelife
      @712lovelife 16 дней назад +7

      Hopefully that isn't your reasoning for choosing that life, because a lot of them are happy too. Believe it or not we can manifest our dream life if we see ourselves as worthy.

    • @stephanypistachio
      @stephanypistachio 16 дней назад

      yes exactly this! everyone I know with kids is MISERABLE!!!!

    • @kuunami
      @kuunami 15 дней назад +7

      @@bnwo Yes because too much of it is ego driven. "Things didn't work out for me so let me promote the same to others."

  • @amberjays4753
    @amberjays4753 26 дней назад +83

    Mom here 👋kids are a constant bill. Be prepared.

  • @AnomalyBelleza
    @AnomalyBelleza 27 дней назад +111

    Im 35 year young woman. I only want kids under the context of marriage.
    Outside of that I have zero desire.
    I only want to marry if the person makes sense and deeply respects me.

    • @imParisthoee
      @imParisthoee 26 дней назад +9

      It seems like you don’t actually want kids if you only want them to complete a picture or fulfill a narrative. You probably shouldn’t have kids.

    • @Angel4ever4678
      @Angel4ever4678 26 дней назад +5

      If you only want kids if your married, than please don’t .

    • @QueenOfTheDamned
      @QueenOfTheDamned 25 дней назад +1

      I don't want kids at all but I understand where you're coming from. If you don't mind me asking, If you found a man who deeply respects you and that makes sense, would you consider marrying him and having kids with him if he already has ,kid(s) from previous relationships and/or marriage?

    • @mzbrown6969
      @mzbrown6969 25 дней назад +2

      @AnomalyBelleza next question do you have an active dating life because, you can have this but I just notice that the most principal sounding women expect these men to just knock on their doors it doesn't happen that way

    • @AnomalyBelleza
      @AnomalyBelleza 25 дней назад +4

      @@imParisthoee Great observation. Slight adjustment. I noticed my statement probably doesn’t say exactly what I mean. What I mean is that I am totally open to children only under the context of marriage.
      Which probably shows you that I’m not really even desiring children in the first place. I’m more so open to it and welcoming of it, and I know that I would absolutely embrace it once married as opposed to not being married. I’m even open to not having children as a married woman if my spouse feels the same way.
      The nonnegotiable for me is me having children outside of a marriage.

  • @ashleychavers
    @ashleychavers 26 дней назад +170

    I’m 39 years old virgin never married no kids

    • @collinsadotey1655
      @collinsadotey1655 23 дня назад +3

      really, how come?
      do you regret it too?

    • @KiKi-vf3yq
      @KiKi-vf3yq 22 дня назад +33

      How beautiful. You're not missing anything, you gem. ❤

    • @sheambitious29lachelle17
      @sheambitious29lachelle17 19 дней назад

      you did GREAT! Many men are not worthy of bringing kids in this world

    • @nicolem889
      @nicolem889 19 дней назад

      Enjoy it. You haven’t missed anything really. I enjoy running around and promiscuity but it is not for everyone for sure. 😂

    • @RestauranteBeiraMar
      @RestauranteBeiraMar 18 дней назад +19

      good for u...pray to God to give u a good man,

  • @ka8204
    @ka8204 17 дней назад +68

    49 no man no kids. I’m blessed anyway

    • @elenashubert3656
      @elenashubert3656 14 дней назад

      Hello, I have a male friend that is looking for a wife, he’s a good man, single, 58 y/o, if you are interested to connect with him, let me know…

    • @rebaonematsau2069
      @rebaonematsau2069 14 дней назад +3

      Careful now life gets really lonely after next year

    • @lisalisa3223
      @lisalisa3223 6 дней назад +9

      @@rebaonematsau2069not really. Lmao, as long as u have friends, hobbies and I’m sure she’s a great aunt and sibling you are fine. don’t need to get married or have kids. Leave ppl alone.

  • @godfirst6629
    @godfirst6629 25 дней назад +27

    Having kids is such a personal important decision in your life. Had my first in my mid 30s with my husband. I’m incredibly grateful and blessed as I was unable to have kids. After 17 years of marriage, a miracle happened and had my first born. Just gave birth to my second 3 months ago and now that I am a mom of 2 I can say they are my biggest accomplishment. Every time I look into their eyes, I see the miracle that happened twice in my life. I don’t judge anyone who doesn’t want kids but if you want them, go ahead! It’s work, it’s stressful but it’s the purest love I’ve ever experienced. 😢

    • @aquaabundance4077
      @aquaabundance4077 10 часов назад

      Congratulations hun! What would you say is the most stressful thing about mommyhood and how do you cope with it? Any tips?

  • @titiwashable
    @titiwashable 27 дней назад +64

    I love Julissa being so honest about this and Rocsi even bringing it up. Shout out to our 106 & Park veteran ladies!! Love the growth in the their careers

  • @lindadukes
    @lindadukes 27 дней назад +138

    I'm an older mom. I had my daughter at 35 and she is 8 and I regret not being married. I love my child to the depths of my being but I would have preferred a healthy marriage then the kid. The positives my child is absolutely beautiful, smart, funny, happy, bossy, sassy, and all the things. I’m learning to accept things as they are and change what I can control. It took 8 years to get here though. Kids or not live the best life you can. I will say my daughter motivated me to be better. ❤❤

    • @lindadukes
      @lindadukes 27 дней назад +23

      Let me add although I'm a single mom we are not struggling. My daughter attends a great school, in activities, basketball, karate, tennis, volleyball, etc. I do not get child support. I work hard and I do what is necessary to provide her with options and opportunities.

    • @selenat264
      @selenat264 27 дней назад +14

      I agree!! Same here. I would have wanted a healthy marriage first, then my daughter.

    • @ajohonly3721
      @ajohonly3721 27 дней назад +9

      Good day gorgeous ladies greetings 👋.
      I just wanted to add something here if I may.
      I’m a happily married woman ,mom of 3 beautiful kids two girls and one boy age 7,5,2 I love them to death,great husband he provides and protects all the things I wished for in a man but! In Oder to have all this I had to move far away from my family to have the family I have now ,so please don’t have any regrets life gives you it wants to give you there’s always some kind of price to pay.
      Blessings to you.

    • @lindadukes
      @lindadukes 27 дней назад +8

      @@ajohonly3721 I’m the opposite. I stayed in the same city I grew up in. Unbeknownst to me I ended up being the primary caregiver for my mom until her death. I wanted to live in NY after college. Life has a way of teaching us things we never knew we needed. Congratulations on your marriage.

    • @ajohonly3721
      @ajohonly3721 27 дней назад

      @@lindadukes

  • @SirButtah
    @SirButtah 27 дней назад +44

    Kids aren't for everyone. They are a blessing, though. I have no clue who I would be if not for being my daughter's father. Not that I have no individual identity, but the reason for being is so heightened, and she's opened my eyes to so much. Some stressful times for sure, but what's life without any stress? I'd advise the masses to slow down and make sure things are built on a solid foundation, but not to avoid kids altogether in fear of how hard it'll be.

  • @janomesteve3129
    @janomesteve3129 27 дней назад +226

    Im a 43 year old female and single with no kids and I like it

    • @alibalbee2883
      @alibalbee2883 27 дней назад +28

      41 and me too!

    • @Softie-oz2we
      @Softie-oz2we 27 дней назад +25

      I married and had my child in my 30s. I was very happy while unmarried and happy married.
      Singleness is a gift most people do not appreciate.
      Enjoy it! It's beautiful too!

    • @DeeDiamond2981
      @DeeDiamond2981 26 дней назад +10

      Me as well. I feel no pressure

    • @Cindypisces
      @Cindypisces 26 дней назад +10

      Same..I’m 47. 😊

    • @kimberlystokes663
      @kimberlystokes663 26 дней назад +10

      47y/o. Same here!

  • @sugarspiceandeverythingnice92
    @sugarspiceandeverythingnice92 27 дней назад +145

    Julissa looks so good! looking like late 20’s

    • @imtheslothking
      @imtheslothking 27 дней назад +5

      NO

    • @sugarspiceandeverythingnice92
      @sugarspiceandeverythingnice92 27 дней назад +25

      @@imtheslothking what you’re saying isn’t gonna change my mind you could of kept that to yourself it’s not that hard

    • @janomesteve3129
      @janomesteve3129 27 дней назад +8

      ​@@imtheslothkinghater

    • @keyshaw5015
      @keyshaw5015 25 дней назад

      Everyone has their opinion​@@janomesteve3129

    • @nobodysbusiness9916
      @nobodysbusiness9916 25 дней назад +19

      Honestly both of these ladies aged well. Looks like a healthy 30 something.

  • @Yarénisesther
    @Yarénisesther 27 дней назад +67

    Julissa , if your deepest desire is to have a family. Don't let society talk you out of that dream. God put it in your heart for a reason. No matter what age you are. God can create beautiful miracles through you. He did it with Sara , Isaac , Elizabeth and he will do it with you. ❤ Con cariño 🇩🇴

  • @sugarspiceandeverythingnice92
    @sugarspiceandeverythingnice92 27 дней назад +60

    I really am not interested in being a parent…All it’s going to do is add extra stress and I know I can’t handle it.

    • @absolutetreasures6877
      @absolutetreasures6877 27 дней назад +11

      I admire you for knowing yourself and there’s nothing wrong with your preference to not wanting children. You are clear on your why…The issue with some women is that they don’t want to admit their truth. I look at a lot of these women especially in Hollywood and you can see the sadness ie Vivica A. Fox.

    • @crystalj3617
      @crystalj3617 27 дней назад +3

      @@absolutetreasures6877 FACTS! This is what I came here to say! Also, I dislike that people who may have been ill prepared to be a parent makes parenting seem so horrific! I get it may be challenging, but the greatest impact we can make on earth is to raise a decent human - IMO. I also respect those who know themselves well enough to know they don't want children. I just wish this conversation was more balanced.

    • @jas1565
      @jas1565 19 дней назад +4

      ​@@absolutetreasures6877can you see the sadness or is that your own projection?

    • @aquaabundance4077
      @aquaabundance4077 10 часов назад

      ​@@jas1565facts

    • @aquaabundance4077
      @aquaabundance4077 10 часов назад

      ​@absolutetreasures6877 I don't think that's our place, to decide for another woman what she regrets or what she accepts about her life story. Just observe, focus on your own path and grow. Projecting on to others isn't cool

  • @llw53one
    @llw53one 11 дней назад +17

    It’s not too late. Look at Ashanti ❤

    • @HighMaintenanceMinimalist
      @HighMaintenanceMinimalist 8 дней назад +2

      TBF, she doesn't even sound like she wants marriage and/or kids. It sounds like she's content with where her life is, but she hasn't yet learned how to ignore societal pressures. Prior to getting back with Nelly, Ashanti made it clear that she desired motherhood.

  • @allthingspractical
    @allthingspractical 15 дней назад +35

    I'm happily married with 3 kids and I cannot imagine life without them. My husband and children bring so much joy and purpose to my life.

    • @HighMaintenanceMinimalist
      @HighMaintenanceMinimalist 8 дней назад +5

      Good for you. That's exactly how you *should* feel if you made the decision to marry and bring human beings into the world.

    • @simplysaiige
      @simplysaiige 7 дней назад +1

      @@HighMaintenanceMinimalistYea should feel absolutely. This is why women shouldn’t be pressured into being married or having kids at any point of their lives. A women can wait 10+ years 2 degrees 6 figures and one husband later and once they have a child they absolutely hate being a mom. Even as a mom myself, it bothers me when people pressure women to be mothers. It’s beautiful and everything but it’s not light work at all!

    • @empresswilandefrederici86
      @empresswilandefrederici86 4 дня назад +1

      ​@@simplysaiige Exactly. Society pressure women to have kids because they know all the burden of bringing up these children fall on the women never the men. I know women who got married young and had children young only to abandon their children.

  • @positivereminders8592
    @positivereminders8592 10 дней назад +5

    I am 38 now and have a child who is now a teenager. I had my baby when I was in my early 20's. In all honestly I love my child, however, if I could rewind the tape and do it all over again, I probably wouldn't have had kids. Def it was the wrong person, wrong timing, and all the wrong reasons. Of course, you live and you learn and glad I did. I said to myself "well, your baby is now here but no more, one and done" and until this day I have kept it that way. One and done! My main focus now is supporting and watching my child grow while also focusing on me and enjoying life! This not just about just having kids, it is more than that!

  • @zackarybates4065
    @zackarybates4065 27 дней назад +128

    I’m a man and I waited til I was over 40 to get married and if I had to do it over again . I will take my time and not fold to the pressure of to be married and have kids. I always appreciate a woman’s perspective!

    • @Roseofnomansland201
      @Roseofnomansland201 27 дней назад +2

      Love this!

    • @saraworkneh1620
      @saraworkneh1620 27 дней назад +13

      You are not a women so take your time bro

    • @Shalayah2010
      @Shalayah2010 27 дней назад +19

      You’re also a man so you don’t have that “biological clock” or societal pressures the way women do

    • @sarahjoe2457
      @sarahjoe2457 26 дней назад +12

      You think waiting til 40 isn't taking your time?

    • @sarahjoe2457
      @sarahjoe2457 26 дней назад +15

      ​@Shalayah2010 Man do have a biological clock. Age affects everyone.

  • @odunadeyt
    @odunadeyt 15 дней назад +16

    This woman is 40!? She looks so young!

  • @JC_BrownBeauty
    @JC_BrownBeauty 17 дней назад +11

    As a first time mom, I can admit that I allowed the thoughts of being older contribute to having a baby. It’s not easy AT ALL. With that being said I will not allow nothing or no one manipulate me into a marriage.

    • @aquaabundance4077
      @aquaabundance4077 10 часов назад

      But nothing worth having in life is easy - not getting an education, buying a house, planning a great vacation etc. Why would motherhood be any different? Life is hard

    • @JC_BrownBeauty
      @JC_BrownBeauty 8 часов назад

      Having a child & buying a house don’t compare.

  • @mzbrown6969
    @mzbrown6969 26 дней назад +25

    it's like women don't give themselves permission to say, I feel complete with no reservations or hesitation to be single and childfree

    • @lucasfrank8843
      @lucasfrank8843 25 дней назад

      maybe they can't keep lying to themselves anymore?

    • @THE-BASEMENT
      @THE-BASEMENT 17 дней назад

      What else would you say? If your mother had that same selfish attitude, you would not even be here. Hope you have other siblings to carry-on your families bloodline, because if you are an only child, your relatives struggled and toiled throughout the centuries, only to have it come to an abrupt end because of your high standards and independence.

    • @stockholmsweden1142
      @stockholmsweden1142 15 дней назад

      ​@@lucasfrank8843What an obtuse comment.

    • @kaylawaters2691
      @kaylawaters2691 9 дней назад +5

      Not me. Marriage and kids would make me miserable. I am single, childfree, not interested in dating either. I'm good

    • @lisalisa3223
      @lisalisa3223 6 дней назад

      Because incels and the society keep shaming them making them feel like they have to be a baby factory and be married to have a happy fulfilling life, and that isn’t true. they use marriage and children to control women’s worth to make her focus all her energy on men, when she needs to focus her energy on herself and what she wants for her life, with or without the kids.

  • @ericgreen6704
    @ericgreen6704 5 дней назад +4

    As a 41 year old man with no kids . I have no regrets . I love kids but I also enjoy my freedom and peace .

  • @riche7or
    @riche7or 16 дней назад +10

    You're 40, not 60.. What is there to regret. Still have time to do all those things if it's for you. Kids are a blessing from God and should not be taken lightly. Stewart them well, and enjoy the blessings that come from your growing relationship as you age.

  • @glo_ria79
    @glo_ria79 18 дней назад +8

    Society puts so much pressure on age, marriage, children. Everyone has a unique journey! We should embrace where we are.

    • @THE-BASEMENT
      @THE-BASEMENT 17 дней назад

      Feminism has put most women on a specific journey which is a obsessive career and selfish addiction to thirst-trap attention on IG.

  • @legallyndidi
    @legallyndidi 27 дней назад +19

    Julissa is a beautiful spirit!

  • @MillenialKay
    @MillenialKay 17 дней назад +8

    Seeing women healthy and happy is so heart warming ❤

  • @anatejada1100
    @anatejada1100 15 дней назад +9

    Women should have kids when THEY’RE ready….a man can leave and ALL the responsibility is yours! I love my marriage and my daughter is everything but I made sure I had my own, a great job which turned into a lucrative career, and living near my supportive family just in case. Also ladies not everyone looks bad and is miserable just because they’re married and have kids.

  • @beatrice86
    @beatrice86 10 дней назад +3

    I needed this video. I overheard conversations about me or judged and told to in my face that I am selfish for not having kids or maybe because I want to keep my body and not ruin it, another was inappropriate when this woman mentioned to my foreman maybe I’m to busy satisfying myself and not getting enough from someone else. It is such an awful feeling how people conjure and assume these things and have no idea why I choose not to. It comes down to financial reasons or being sure I am in a healthy, trusting, stable relationship and so many other factors. And Yes people are upset and wonder if something is wrong with me. At it’s lowest it is insulting and degrading.

  • @ZionCopland
    @ZionCopland 24 дня назад +5

    Having children is the most beautiful and rewarding feeling, but also if you don't at a certain age, thats fine too. You could be happy either way. As long as you surround yourself with love and support is important ❤

  • @GOILL
    @GOILL 27 дней назад +33

    47 male no kid(s) no possibles. Fear of a baby momma was/is the main reason. I don't know anyone who went down that path who it wasn't any sort of bad drama. No regrets I'm not gonna lie and say sometimes I wonder but most of the time I'm extremely happy being able to do what I want. 25 countries 3 passport books in I'm happy 😊.

    • @lucasfrank8843
      @lucasfrank8843 27 дней назад

      You are a be-ta male.

    • @gingerspice108
      @gingerspice108 16 дней назад

      ^^^ This is my friend yall!! Ladies, he’s a great catch, successful, good looking, and about his business. Please say hello so he can meet his special someone and retire from this forever bachelor ladies man lifestyle! 😂

    • @GOILL
      @GOILL 16 дней назад

      @gingerspice108 you bastard 😂.

    • @Ava2969ny
      @Ava2969ny 16 дней назад

      Which country/countries do you like the best and why? Asking because I plan to start traveling extensively too.

    • @GOILL
      @GOILL 16 дней назад +2

      @Ava2969ny depends on who you travel with and what you you do for fun. Couples I would say Central America and Europe. Singles a good portion of South America and the Caribbean. I haven't made it to Asia so no experience there.

  • @johngonzalez4298
    @johngonzalez4298 25 дней назад +7

    I'm 37 years old, no wife, and no kids. I was once engaged to be married when I was 22 years old with my ex-fiancee at the time and that was the closest for me to ever getting close to being married. I would be open to it if it's with a decent woman

  • @MikeTruthvision
    @MikeTruthvision 12 дней назад +4

    “You don’t know what you don’t know”….most important statement in the whole interview…..

  • @luvinliv8980
    @luvinliv8980 5 дней назад +2

    Love this! She’s happy with her life. God has a plan for us all with a family or without a family.

  • @lv5949
    @lv5949 3 дня назад +1

    I had my twin boys at 32. The biggest blessings of my life!

  • @KayciazWorld
    @KayciazWorld 12 дней назад +4

    Make decisions that are right for YOU AND YOUR LIFE! DO NOT go off of what other people are doing! It doesn't matter if they are strangers, family, or friends, do whats best for YOU! Most people are followers and aren't strong enough to think for themselves throughout their life. A LOT of people need to be led. Lead yourself and have a vision for your life. If kids are what you want them have them but just be prepared to a T!

  • @4everfaithfulun2Him
    @4everfaithfulun2Him 25 дней назад +15

    38, in love, and so grateful I never had kids. I had to raise at least 10 kids growing up and Im not interested in going back.

    • @kem1233
      @kem1233 25 дней назад +1

      Men from latin america. They dont see her as wife material she is americanized. Thats why she is stuck in usa.

    • @THE-BASEMENT
      @THE-BASEMENT 17 дней назад +1

      There is a big difference between other kids and your own creation. Stop coping and admit that you waited too long because of your unattainable high standards in men. You finally found a SIMP who allows you to wear the pants. He probably cooks for you while you sit on the couch watching NFL games.

    • @kem1233
      @kem1233 16 дней назад

      @@THE-BASEMENTdifference is that latin american men dont date out, notice julissa bermudez date american males, and look at the results. guys in usa are not family oriented

    • @THE-BASEMENT
      @THE-BASEMENT 16 дней назад

      @@kem1233 Because she is dating out of her league. She is an average looking woman in her late 30's, thinking that she can attract and keep high value men, but all they want from her is box. If she lowered her expectation and dated men according to her sexual market value, which is a average 9to5 man who makes 50K per year, she could find a decent man, but unfortunately those men are invisible to her because she thinks she deserves a high value man.

    • @kem1233
      @kem1233 16 дней назад

      @@THE-BASEMENT no, its because she lives in usa and she is dealing with american males like you.
      she is average looking? have u seen american women lately, she is latina, she is better looking than your entire community
      yea because american males dont have care about marriage, even guys u said are average, decent guys, im sorry but those guys are not family oriented
      why u think gisele left USA and went to costa rica with a brazilian man. FACT SHE LEFT THE USA, what does that say about gisele n how she thinks of american guys
      sexual market place? im sorry but u guys are american males. look in the mirror, NOTICE U DONT SEE LOADS OF FOREIGN WOMEN TRYING TO GET TO USA AND GET AMERICAN MALES. NOO, u are guys are known as easy and easy to get money

  • @ajohonly3721
    @ajohonly3721 27 дней назад +84

    Y’all ain’t missing out on shit believe me you 😂.
    I got 3 of them.

  • @louisar4227
    @louisar4227 4 дня назад +1

    40 years young and been with my partner for 3 years. He’s seven years younger than me. Best partner I could’ve ever imagined, after dating a lot of duds. Good things are worth the wait. Still don’t have kids, always knew I didn’t want them. A family is me, him and a dog. Kids are not necessary to have a “family” ladies. If you’re married, then your husband is your family. I’m happy for other people that have children that they wanted, but we all have to do it right for us. Do not succumb to societal pressure. I see more and more child-free married couples out there, and I’m sure that that number will continue to grow.

  • @jaboubaa928
    @jaboubaa928 15 дней назад +4

    I have a friend who is in her mid 50s still not married and no kids and that’s ok.
    Sometimes God is not going to give us everything we want, sometimes it will come late but better for us.
    Enjoy your life ❤

  • @misstownes
    @misstownes 17 часов назад

    It’s nice to hear from another woman being honest. ❤

  • @sunflowermama4297
    @sunflowermama4297 15 дней назад +7

    Why is this still a relevant question to ask in 2024? There are many reasons why kids aren’t in the picture for some people. But we don’t know the future either. She may have her eggs frozen somewhere and is just waiting for the right partner to share kids with. We need to mind our business.

    • @lisalisa3223
      @lisalisa3223 6 дней назад

      Society is obsessed with humbling women with no kids. That’s the only method of control they have over us and our worth.

  • @ahviwe
    @ahviwe 27 дней назад +42

    I'm 1992/32 but most days I'm sad im childless, not married and single. I'm always just to shy to express this with my friends and family, but alone I do cry. I'd be devastated to be 40 with no kids and no life partner. But, I'm glad she's happy, for me I can't say the same

    • @tishataray
      @tishataray 27 дней назад +20

      Me too , as a teacher when my students who are 12 and 13 ask me my age..and tell me their mum is the same age as me im like what have i been doing all this time....intellctually i know that every avenue of life has its challenges but personally it feels like an existential crisis with perennial grief for how you prayed and hope life would be vs the actual reality

    • @wonderingwendy1255
      @wonderingwendy1255 27 дней назад +9

      Your time will come ❤ one day at a time

    • @absolutetreasures6877
      @absolutetreasures6877 27 дней назад +20

      If it’s your desire to be married with children I pray the Lord will bless you with the right person and your desires will come to fruition. Remember delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.

    • @absolutetreasures6877
      @absolutetreasures6877 27 дней назад

      @@tishatarayI agree with @wonderingwendy

    • @Softie-oz2we
      @Softie-oz2we 27 дней назад +11

      I met my husband after 30. Got married at 33, had child at 34. Yes there is a biological clock however I would wait till 30 again to really date and marry and have a child. I wouldn't be the mother I am in my 30s had I married in my 20s.
      You are not too late.

  • @beatpirate8
    @beatpirate8 17 дней назад +2

    I dont know her but shes so real and relateable

  • @OrganikJewelz
    @OrganikJewelz 2 часа назад

    Great commentary❤

  • @bonitabee311
    @bonitabee311 2 дня назад +1

    I had my daughter at age 24 and twins age 28 now I’m 30 .
    I just want to say that having kids is better when you wait for the right man and when you have a job/ career that works around your kids.
    I went into a field where I had to quit become the hours, pay and stress level didn’t align with my kids at all.
    In a perfect world I would of been a nurse and worked part time. And night shifts lol.
    But now my kids are at school aged and I’m still young enough to go back to school and become what I truly want and that works for my family.
    I’ve came across a lot of moms that get a degree and have to quit.

    • @carlavel4436
      @carlavel4436 2 дня назад +1

      You can still pursue your nursing degree. If you're passionate about it go for it. I had a coworker who went to nursing school after her 3rd child. Granted she has a supportive husband and amazing support system. My dad always told me, "if there's a will, there's a way" ❤

    • @bonitabee311
      @bonitabee311 2 дня назад +1

      @ thank you for the encouragement ❤️🙏🏼

    • @plagmatic
      @plagmatic День назад +2

      I think it's just a matter of choice but I would think it would be more comfortable to school before children and get financially stable

  • @valrice817
    @valrice817 22 дня назад +7

    Enjoy your life! It goes by fast!❤😊

  • @Nunofyabizzzzz
    @Nunofyabizzzzz 27 дней назад +21

    She has an unexpectedly deep voice

    • @Jaycarbrownie12
      @Jaycarbrownie12 23 дня назад

      lol 😂 not unexpectedly she doesn’t look like she has some valley girl voice lol 😂 you need to get out more hello Alicia keys Beyoncé etc

    • @ka8204
      @ka8204 17 дней назад +3

      It’s NY😂

    • @jesuisnatnatpowpow
      @jesuisnatnatpowpow 15 дней назад +4

      I love it! Her voice gives character

  • @SunshineLove1973
    @SunshineLove1973 12 дней назад +1

    Completely Complete! Well Said 🙌

  • @nicoled2004
    @nicoled2004 4 дня назад +1

    Julissa is gorgeous! She will be just fine! She’s still
    Young ❤

  • @G44052
    @G44052 15 дней назад +2

    Ladies while it’s your right to wait later in life, don’t gamble at the wrong casino. It’s very hard to get the man you want, to choose you later in life. You miss great opportunities at a husband and children while you’re focusing on something that doesn’t truly matter. While it’s your choice, he must choose you. Not that easy for the modern woman now.

  • @AVISIONMUSICTV
    @AVISIONMUSICTV 17 дней назад +5

    40 male. No kids no marriage. No stress. So happy.

    • @VW777
      @VW777 День назад

      No legacy also. That's sad.

  • @Chrissygirl-gf5tr
    @Chrissygirl-gf5tr 23 дня назад +2

    There’s no such thing as simultaneously being ready for marriage AND kids. It’s assumed that once you marry, you rush to procreate. My husband and I married fairly quickly, but 8 years later we’re just now family planning. We always knew we wouldn’t have children within the first 5 years for various reasons. The best things our children can benefit in all of this is parents who have a strong marriage, are financially prepared, and who planned them in love.

  • @IvyProsper
    @IvyProsper 6 часов назад

    I can relate to what she is saying 100%

  • @AfricanOleander
    @AfricanOleander 25 дней назад +2

    People don talk about the pressure and the concept that you have to be perfect or double whole life is picked apart and torn into shreds! Julissa keep going ❤

    • @THE-BASEMENT
      @THE-BASEMENT 17 дней назад +1

      What about the pressure you've put on decent men to meet your unrealistic expectations throughout your dating years? Then when that high-value man you thought you qualified for never comes, now you complain about all the pressure you're under? As an average woman, all you have to do was get with an average guy. But noooo, that is settling. We have an epidemic of average women all believing they deserve above average men.

  • @carlavel4436
    @carlavel4436 2 дня назад +1

    Marrige is not for everyone, it's even written in the bible. Live your life ❤

    • @VW777
      @VW777 День назад

      Sex before marriage is also a sin. Live a celibate life by all means if you choose.

  • @a.w.4134
    @a.w.4134 24 дня назад +6

    The scary thing is being "delulu" at 40 is what will keep you single with no kids. You can get away with it when you're young but at some point you will have to sit yourself down and ask yourself do I want this or not? And if the answer is yes then stop wasting time and get to it. I'm tired of the "delulu" mentality it does nothing for you but keep you exactly where you're at as time passes you by. We need to be intentional and direct with ourselves about what we want from life, that's all.

  • @billylam2448
    @billylam2448 13 дней назад +3

    two beautiful women, single with no kids in their 40s, make it make sense. maybe its the industry they are in ... someone chime in

    • @VW777
      @VW777 День назад

      Did they have any values when they were younger? That's the question. Sadly the US culture of sleep around with multiple people and get married later doesn't work for women; men don't want left overs.

  • @kristageorge5811
    @kristageorge5811 11 дней назад +1

    Itll happen when the time is right❤

  • @AnomalyBelleza
    @AnomalyBelleza 27 дней назад +16

    I really like freedom lol it just is what it is

    • @amab1853
      @amab1853 26 дней назад +4

      Me too

    • @lisalisa3223
      @lisalisa3223 6 дней назад +1

      Please let em know, bc the freedom i have rn, id never trade it 👌🏾😌

    • @AnomalyBelleza
      @AnomalyBelleza 3 дня назад

      @@lisalisa3223 💯💯 Yes to this!!

  • @unapologeticallyromel7096
    @unapologeticallyromel7096 16 дней назад

    Enjoyed the video ❤ love you two

  • @amberjays4753
    @amberjays4753 26 дней назад +20

    Kids are overrated, enjoy your life, freedom and body

    • @MelvinsCleaningSolutions
      @MelvinsCleaningSolutions 26 дней назад +7

      you were once a child that comment makes no sense

    • @THE-BASEMENT
      @THE-BASEMENT 17 дней назад

      Vivica Fox shut cho olld asssssss up.

    • @marcushicks5635
      @marcushicks5635 14 дней назад

      You clearly have no kids, and if you do, and still made this comment, they should be taken away from you. Ok that was a bit harsh. Sorry about that.

    • @avidyoutubewatcherr
      @avidyoutubewatcherr 14 дней назад +1

      @@MelvinsCleaningSolutionsOkay and? She is saying having kids is overrated goofy

    • @avidyoutubewatcherr
      @avidyoutubewatcherr 14 дней назад

      @@marcushicks5635You are mad weird lmfaooo

  • @series9193
    @series9193 2 дня назад

    to have or not have a family is her decision there's no right or wrong but regret now that's a totally different issue !! i've heard " i don't regret what i've done but i regret what i haven't done " if she's at peace then brava !!

  • @user-hb5zj9vm9h
    @user-hb5zj9vm9h 4 дня назад +1

    I just had twins.
    It's NOT for the weak. Have them only if YOU want them. Not your husband, boyfriend, sneaky link, etc. Cause the burden is almost always left on the women.

  • @LisaHill-r5f
    @LisaHill-r5f 5 дней назад +1

    I dont know why its so surprising for older women to be childfree. Its like do ppl see the state of the world and relationships. We all dont have to be the same. I dont care if a woman has 10 kids, just dont harass me for having none. I hope whatever Julissa ultimately chooses is right for her not others.

  • @Tam...
    @Tam... 16 дней назад +3

    Remember when she cursed out Kim K to defend Adrienne, and Adrienne turned around and went back, being buddy buddy with the Kardashians???😩 Hope that was a lesson for her....

  • @michelleoconnor6860
    @michelleoconnor6860 25 дней назад

    Very good response, the honesty.

  • @whatsupw9017
    @whatsupw9017 5 дней назад

    You can always adopt, if you really want a baby because you can be a blessing to adoption ❤ ladies always remember please 🙏🏽💞

  • @saku.544
    @saku.544 11 дней назад +2

    i dont want kids, ever but i want to get married so bad some day.. it'll be so hard because most men want kids, even if they dont even plan on taking care of them lol. to some of them having kids is a personal accomplishment and then their job is over. I dont want kids for many reasons and i wish i could meet a sweet man who happens to also not want kids. So hard...

  • @theodore8443
    @theodore8443 25 дней назад +5

    No way she’s 40 im 39 and she was never just one year older then me know way lol

    • @86Kera
      @86Kera 14 дней назад

      lol right ! Didn’t know we were so close in age

  • @missLonaPooh
    @missLonaPooh 9 дней назад +2

    I have kids. My friends stare at me searching for grey hairs/ wrinkles because I look great too for 40.

  • @Natalie32star
    @Natalie32star 2 дня назад

    Never settle ❤

  • @BraveModesty
    @BraveModesty 5 дней назад

    she didn't prepare for these questions ...it hurt watching her. She is amazing and very successful so please stop asking.

  • @dcocolove808
    @dcocolove808 11 дней назад +1

    Most people have allowed other peoples influence them into a marriage they shouldn’t be in and in some case alone with children. Every woman has a different journey, we don’t all have to do it in the same way.

  • @Francesca-b8z
    @Francesca-b8z 10 дней назад +1

    38, single and not interested in kids, I wanna focus on creating an amazing lifestyle for me and dating myself and will consider having a family in my own time. Loving the comments ❤

    • @EricJGonzalez
      @EricJGonzalez 3 дня назад +1

      We all have choices until the options is no longer on the table.

    • @VW777
      @VW777 День назад +1

      Understandable, however your biological clock is real.

    • @Francesca-b8z
      @Francesca-b8z 9 часов назад

      @@VW777 yeh and men expire too when they reach mid 40s

  • @MsLove-lb1vz
    @MsLove-lb1vz 4 дня назад

    I am a 52-year-old woman and have felt like her. I love kids and work with them, but I was always on the fence about having any, so I chose not to. That is a decision you better be 100% sure about. I can't believe people are still pressuring folks mainly women to have kids in 2024. You can be a man who wants to be a woman, but you can't be a woman who does not want kids.... MAKE IT MAKE SENSE

  • @texasindy2193
    @texasindy2193 26 дней назад +5

    Ok Ms Julissa, are you saying women with kids looks older..

    • @b.nicolemontes9985
      @b.nicolemontes9985 26 дней назад +6

      Right!!! such a vain perspective. I have a child. I'm 41 and I don't think I look older because I have a kid. Is just life. Blessed to live long enough to get old 🙏🏾

    • @SabrinaFernandez-j3k
      @SabrinaFernandez-j3k 26 дней назад +15

      I think so, but I don’t think she means it in a vicious way. It’s the stress, depression, anxiety that comes from having children. I think it ages you faster. I also think it’s harder to take care of yourself

    • @raquelr8775
      @raquelr8775 26 дней назад +9

      @@SabrinaFernandez-j3kAgreed. Having kids ages one - that’s FACTS!

    • @Angel4ever4678
      @Angel4ever4678 26 дней назад +7

      Hell yeah , having kids makes women look older . The stress ages you

    • @b.nicolemontes9985
      @b.nicolemontes9985 26 дней назад +2

      @@raquelr8775 you must not take care of yourself

  • @mrbabyears
    @mrbabyears 15 дней назад +2

    Fam, best believe this woman has had her share of men since she was a teenager. She's had her pick of men that she could have married... Odds are she was attracted to men that were not suitable for marriage. But ultimately, she is the reason why she isn't married.

  • @WWM860
    @WWM860 День назад

    All you need is a loyal man who will sacrifice. Raising kids is hard and requires loyalty, compromise, and sacrifice.

  • @bigtippyTopp
    @bigtippyTopp 19 дней назад

    One could be complacent with the world or be eager for love. I think one can only be satisfied one way

  • @KFontLab
    @KFontLab 13 дней назад +1

    This conversation is being ran all the way into the ground. When will we learn that everyone’s life will look different. Some people will have families … others will not. It’s just life. You are not incomplete as a person if you don’t have kids.
    Just to add: There are plenty of women who do have children and look youthful. Smh
    If you get married at 25 or 45 as long it’s healthy and with the right individual the age does not matter. Just live your life without comparison.

  • @icyblue8
    @icyblue8 7 дней назад +1

    She dodged a bullet with Maxwell though.

  • @octaviaharrison1878
    @octaviaharrison1878 3 дня назад +2

    YOU AINT MISSING OUT ON ANYTHING AND THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. THE WORLD SHOULD NORMALIZE NOT HAVING CHILDREN.

  • @danielsueros8166
    @danielsueros8166 25 дней назад +2

    Super immature to say that she wouldn’t look the way she looks. That’s her priority

    • @vintagejaki751
      @vintagejaki751 11 дней назад +1

      Botox and surgery can help. No issue there.

  • @JamesJ30t
    @JamesJ30t 13 дней назад

    Julissa Bermudez 💫💫💫💫

  • @ZabDevin
    @ZabDevin 22 дня назад +2

    Kids don’t age you, age ages you. Selfish.

  • @chrisgarzon7245
    @chrisgarzon7245 10 дней назад +2

    If she were to have little kids in her 40s she would be miserable!! Late 20s early 30s is the time.
    But she will/ and is regretting it!!

  • @Snow-fy5wv
    @Snow-fy5wv 11 дней назад

    She should explain why she was dressed up as an angel at a diddy party pictures are everywhere

  • @burroughs5252
    @burroughs5252 15 дней назад

    Like a Wiseman said. You can't make this shit up 😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @shanshan8113
    @shanshan8113 26 дней назад +1

    Why did i think she had a kid with Colin Kapernick?!?! 😵‍💫😵‍💫 Am i thinking of a diff person?!?! I must be 🤦🏿‍♀️

  • @marcushicks5635
    @marcushicks5635 14 дней назад +1

    What did I just watch

  • @kellyanna6610
    @kellyanna6610 26 дней назад +4

    This is quite sad, and she seems to be lying to herself.

  • @april__4914
    @april__4914 12 дней назад

    Rocsi could have worded that question better smh

  • @whiteangelskys
    @whiteangelskys 13 дней назад +1

    I thought she was the best looking female host on 106 and Park.If she looking I'm single.

  • @donbraswell-sf2cl
    @donbraswell-sf2cl 10 дней назад

    date a regular guy who will appreciate u trust hardworker
    u will never be happy

  • @thewatcher5550
    @thewatcher5550 17 дней назад

    So help me understand, someone gave birth to us, but we don’t want to give birth ourselves. How is that not selfish?

    • @86Kera
      @86Kera 14 дней назад +1

      So get pregnant and report back