Nasboi has an emotional intelligence. I love how he wears his heart on his sleeve. Freely expressing his emotions with honesty. One can see the transparency from his expression of things. On the other hand, I like Eche’s reasoning too but I think she didn’t get enough chance to share her opinion. Here’s my two cents, I think Nedu wazobia should learn to give the guests more chance to share highlight on the topic via their opinion very important as we are all in the field of learning.
nedu talks too much, he always think he knows it all. even as part of the hosting team, he doesn't give guests chance to express fully. 😂😂😂😂 afficionado indeed
This topic on marriage is a very sensitive topic.. speaking from experience. I am igbo and got married to Yoruba the mum hated me from the first day I met her and I wanted out but he promised to protect me. The issue is when we had issues I didnt have anyone to even stand for me from their family. We sha divorced and regretted not listening to my dad when he warned me. 😢
I love Echelon Mbadiwe...she's so beautiful and I love her movies. To add on to it, her view on the subject matter is the one that I totally agree with. When she said that if her boyfriend's mother does not like she will have to bounce. That is real talk. She understands marriage goes beyond two individuals living together.
PLEASE can you host Omah Lay, I believe it's time to hear his depression story. I feel low when I look at his recent pictures and hear his latest songs. He can be hosted to have a chat on mental health
I remember when my mother in law asked her first son not to marry me because of my tribe. (Meanwhile we are from the same state but different local government). she chose a girl of his tribe for him(the girl was a medical doctor). Because she n the girls mother has been friends. Meanwhile I got to discover why she had refused the son to marry me for one year was that there was a man who was supposed to marry her. The man had done her introduction and she was even pregnant for him, left her( not in the sense, but she jumped to conclusion). But back then, there was no phone for means of communication. So the man as at then went abroad to better his life. So back here she thought the man broke her heart. When the man finally came back to marry her, she had gotten married on recommendations. She was fortunate that the new man accepted her with the child. So she said over her dead body will her children marry from my tribe. But because she is not God, all her children ended up with the tribe she hated so much. And this has affected the way she is supposed to relate especially with her daughter in laws. #insidelife #realmatters So most times our parents may want to punish us for their heart breaks. Most times the reasons are deeper than we can imagine.
The way nasboi stood his ground and try not to deviate from the main topic is lovely sometimes. Nedu and his crew will use thier story to shift the main topic.
Nasboi God no go kill your brain... True freedom is seeing that human, whomever they are , is flawed and can be wrong! Family must respect your choice and to transfer that respect to your person.
My grandma didn't like the girl one of my uncle's was going to marry but he defied them anyway and married her, today she's the best daughter in law my grandma has we love her and her family very much
I actually love this particular episode and would have loved to drop a token or two about this topic. I’m a Muslim married to a practicing Catholic and there aren’t any pressures of conversion from both sides. It was a long battle but we thank God for the eventual success. I remember when my uncle, a father figure, said I couldn’t marry the girl that’s now my wife, I asked “Why?”, he flared up and got so angry, saying “how dare you question me?!” Lol It’s an interesting topic. Big ups guys!
This was a lovely episode and well discussed. I think Nasboi hit the nail on the head, we struggle to have emotionally mature conversations with our parents so it's easy for them to manipulate us and say don't marry from certain tribes or religions. Most people don't realize all these things further divides us as a country which is why Nigeria is sooo divided. We can barely get along as a people which shows in the politics of the country. I think an interesting topic to be discussed is the rise of depression amongst Nigerian men.
Nasboi killed it! He kept hitting the nail on the head.One thing I know our parents are not always right.After influencing their children's decision they end up with d very wrong partner and suffer the rest of their life.I feel when it comes to choosing a life partner your parents should only advice and not have an 💯 say becox no be them go stay with d wife or husband.It has happened to me and I know how painful it is.
One of the reasons why we kept some barbaric tradition is because we failed to ask question. African parents trained their kids not to ask question so they can manipulate. To me, most of our traditions is are due for a review.
Starting this podcast was the best idea 💡 ever. Through this podcast a lot of people will benefit intellectually and otherwise from it, and also a lot of vawulence. Off course there will be lots of gbas gbos that’s why it’s called THE HONEST BUNCH🤷🏼♀️. Kudos 👍🏻 to the organizers and brains behind this podcast✊🏻
What a person's mother/father does doesn't always come from a place of love. Let's stop saying this like it's true for everyone. It makes it easy for a lot of toxic parents to treat their children badly.
What has he said that makes him intelligent? He said his mother has lived her life and can die at anytime. Does he know how many days he has left? Does he think he has his life in his hands? Man has money and feels he is loaded with wisdom.
I think Nasboi knows his mother and there is a reason for him saying that....He is 30 for crying out loud he knows what he wants in his life he is an adult of sound mind....I really like what he has said....we know toxic parents exist but people don't want to agree in this but anyway we are becoming an aware generation...
Immediately I saw the new video, I couldn't hold back even if I wanted to. Somehow you guys have got me always watching every new podcast on your post 😩
It would be great if we all get married with the approval and support of our parents. If they don’t approve, we must ask and find out why and what the issues are. Those issues must be addressed if possible. Or else they must be persuaded to give their approval by explaining in detail why you want to marry the particular person only. You must have a sound case. If they are not persuaded, then wait. Don’t challenge them right away or rebel. Give them time to come around to your point of view. In nearly all cases they are well- intentioned. If you are absolutely convinced you are right then you must be firm and refuse to consider any other alliances they might try for you. If necessary, wait for one or two years also. Some parents will resort to emotional black mail. They will plead poor health and warn of premature death if you rebel and marry against their wishes. This is quite common. The answer is to say, you will not marry any one else and remain single all your life till they allow you to marry the person of your choice . Most parents will yield after some months when they see that resistance is of no use. Usually, in most families, time solves the problem. How long will parents stay estranged from their own children. Nigerian parents have this weakness. They like to “own” their children even when the children have become adults. They like to dictate career choices, and marriage choices too and can’t get used to treating their grown up children as adults with a life of their own and with a mind of their own.💯
I've never comment on this show before but i most say, this is a master class. really learn alot and big up to nasboi "fools go still become parents" you guys are inspiration mhen can't wait for the next episode
Most times it's place of selfishness oh, because most parents especially mothers wouldn't want u to marry from another tribe so they wouldn't take u away from them,and also someone that will answer to them without saying her opinion.
This issue is not restricted to Nigerians o o o… I met an Ethiopian lady in USA years back, intelligent, beautiful and so wonderful, it got to a point - we finish each others sentences, we truly love each other BUT when she notified her father I will be coming to ask him for her hand, her father said CAPITAL NO… he said and I quote.. *no daughter of mine will marry a Yoruba man from Nigeria* We had to end the relationship. 5months later .. my class mate, an Indian, we became close, she knew what will eventually happen and she told me point blank (even though she is a devout Christian) *I can’t tell my parents I will be having a spouse outside my tribe* I learnt a lot from her and up till date, she still express her feelings that nobody will ever touch her heart the way I did. The lesson I learnt is as feelings go deeper; ASK QUESTIONS
I had a lady that I assisted through school and she went to see pastor and the lady told her that our marriage won't last more than 5years and boom everything changes. This was someone I dated almost 4years. The moment we broke up, i started seeing alot of this that could have broken us. But you know love blinds alot when you are in a relationship
You see that owerri own na truth ,I have dated one b4 n my mum warned me about her n I counted my mum then after one yr I started seeing everything my mother warned about. So it's good we look into it when people say something about people.
Interesting topics. Lovely and intelligent discussions too. Nasboi is so grounded and says it as it is without bias, prejudices or stereotypes. Wish the session was longer, even though it is clear that some of this topics can't be exhausted. Keep up the good work guys and God bless you all. A quick feedback albeit, sometimes everyone is talking at the same time and a lot of interruptions occur, so points aren't completely made. Husband material can be a moderator and this will help with time management a lot.
Omo forget it Nas is so intelligent oo.he stood his ground spoke so eloquently and gave really serious reason and observations. Urhobo mother's can convince u.
Loved this topic. Toun’s opinions really resonated with me the few times she spoke. Clearly an intelligent babe but I think she needs to be given more time to share her opinions. I’d really love to hear her speak more.
My mum is a pretty chill person so if she has reservations about my partner I would give it a serious consideration and if it my partners family, we would have to put marriage plans on hold cause marriage would be making me a part of that family. In a couple of years we would have kids and I won't have my kids grow up in a family without obvious love shown to every member of the family.
Love this topic, but for me, it is high time our parents stop selecting and rejecting who we bring to them to marry, except it has to do with spiritual instincts if not the world is civilised now this is technology age.i love u Nedu,Hm,Toun and our guest 💙
Our parents hardly ever have solid reasons for their rejections. They just expect us to take their words for it forgetting that we are smarter and way more exposed than they were at it age or even now in some cases.
People forget that parents have spiritual discernment, and they can pick up things that youngsters cannot readily see. When my daughters were going to get married, they brought certain people home which i didn't approve and in time my daughters saw exactly what i discerned. I also told them in what order that they would marry. To the Glory of God ,this is exactly what has happened. When my friends come with intended spouses, i tell them what i discern and so far i have been 100% accurate. Some have found out the hard and painful way.
It has happened to me, when I was dating my ex, mom Said he's not ready to marry, that he was just playing with me, I didn't listen, last last na from church them call me say he dey marry another person.
Love you guys. For me my parents believe in my decisions and it's same with my siblings. Do what you think it's right for you and they will support you. Whenever they spot something odd, they would call your attention to it but the bulk of the decision still lies on you. I've enjoyed this over the years and it's working fine.
Nasboi is really intelligent and I have learnt a lot from him... As for topics suggestions, you can discuss about sex education in the family, how our parents shy from it.... Good job you all are doing guys
Hmmm this is a hard topic to give a factual opinion on!! For me, my Mum initially did not like my life partner becos of his family, however after 5yrs plus; she eventually got fond of him and all opinions she had went off the window!! As much as i would like if parents do not interfere in thier childrens' affairs although there's a saying of elders always knowing ahead what would befall one!! It may be an honest care but sometimes not right outrightly.
Thank you so much guys for all you do. Please can you have a part 2 of this podcast where we get to hear what parents also think on this topical issue? I think we have demonized parents for far too long without knowing why they think the way they think. I'M NOT MARRIED BUT I BELIEVE NO PERSON OR GROUP OF PEOPLE HAVE THE MONOPOLY OF EVIL! Many thanks.
Relationship is for matured mind. Parental advice is not bad!However,i feel any time parent advise us, it doesn't mind we should subscribe to all their ideas.Perhaps,it means we should look critically about the things we crave for because Marriage is an institution that need a collective and unbiased assertions.
Shout out to the honest bunch. I’m loving this topic!!! I have to agree with Nas points. He is spot on! Let’s be honest here, our parents are not always right. Infact they can be selfish and biased. Humans are naturally prejudiced, it’s not our fault. Why would you deprive your child of his or her happiness because of stereotypes? I have seen quite a few selfish parents from my parents generation. Don’t even get me started ! If my parents tell me I can’t marry the person I love, they have to give me a good reason. You can’t tell me stuff like Abeokuta women lord over their husbands, Lagos people are overly exposed, owo girls too like dick, ibo men love their wives but beat them… stop the cap!!! I’m shutting it down! I thank God I have liberal parents, they are Muslims and allowed me to marry the love of my life who is a Christian. We got married in a church. People need to be more open minded. There are cases where parents hooked the kids up for fianancial reasons and it still collapsed. It really depend on the situation cause some ppl’s cases are extreme. If you marry someone against your parents advice and it fails, it’s your cross and you have to carry it. Parents are supposed to be there for their kids regardless, that’s what love is about not shame them. We as parents don’t own our children, we are guardians. They will live their lives and we have to trust their decisions. For those of us abroad, the chances of our kids marrying Nigerians is very slim. I have 3 boys and a girl. My prayer for my kids is that whoever they marry should love them regardless of their flaws. Whoever my kids marry, i as a parent should accept them regardless of my preference. I ll be lucky if any of my kids end up with a Nigerian. In the case of mother in law who just hate on their daughter in law, that is toxic. The man has to stand up and be Frank with his mom which is very hard for most men. Women are territorial by nature and they compete with themselves regardless of their age. You want a happy marriage, don’t put your mother and wife in the same house o. Don’t get me wrong, There are cases of mother in law and daughter in law who get along well. It’s because they are intentional and they also understand boundaries. Mother in law, treat your daughter in law like you would treat your child because it would give your son peace. Wives, treat your mother in law as you would treat your mom because your turn is coming o.The case of the girl who told nedu, she can’t be with a man whose mother is alive. Nedu, I’m happy you made the right choice to run. Regardless of what her experience is, she needs therapy . Is she not going to be somebody’s mother? What if someone wished her dead? Smh! Can we all start treating people the way we want to be treated? Karma is real. I don’t tell people how to live their lives but I want people to understand that whatever we do has consequences and we have to live with it whether we like it or not. May God help us all. Thank you🤗🤗🤗
eventually, a marriage is between 2 consenting people, external influence is welcome for recommendations and advice, ɓut the choice still remains that of the 2 parties concerned. the past might be gone, but still relevant, nobody wants to house the community toilet, but the toilet still needs a house however. our parents believe they know better, no doubt, but the experiences that inform their beliefs and choices are not valid to our lives. eventually, we live with the consequences of our choices, that's what matters.
The reality is that a man is interested in a woman's past as a woman is interested in a man's future. For example, let's say a man and a woman have been dating for a long time and she knows that this man can provide for her and give her the security that every woman wants. Then she finds out from a fortune teller (figuratively) that the man in the next 10 years will be a drunk, a criminal, and will start maltreating her, etc. The woman will never continue in that relationship. This is just fact
I love the points they’re giving and I just feel like marriage without your parents approval or behind their back is pointless because it’s just going to be chaos and most times they usually don’t last. I’m saying this because it’s literally happening in front of my eyes in my family.
Personally, if my parents say no, I will try to convince them that this is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, I love him and all that. If after trying to convince them, I will simply back out. The bible says in Eph. 6:2, honour thy Father and Mother, for this is the FIRST commandment that comes with promise (the promise is in vs3). I personally think that respecting them, is honour. Marriage is a loooooooooooooooooooong thing, you need all the blessings that you can get to run with in Marriage, do what it takes(as long as you're not committing a sin), to get blessings from your parents in Marriage. my opinion please.
Nasboi spoke fact. But I’d also like peace in my family. I’d want my children want to be around their grandparents; I want to happily take them there. So it would sadden me to know that my mother-in-law doesn’t like me. I pray whosoever I fall in love with, their mom accept me.
This has to be my favorite episode of the honest bunch podcast. Nasboi was really honest and straight to the point, emotionally intelligent and saying with confidence, a lot of things that people usually don’t admit. The major highlight was when he said some people would have stupid parents. I agree with some things Echelon said as well. Husband material continues to be the reason I keep coming back, I love his analogy of Okafor’s law, say na Ronaldo comot for Man U, he still come back o😂😂. I think that Nedu should give room for the guests to speak, he tries to overshadow them sometimes, he did that with Echelon today and then again, he’s always deviating. Kudos to the honest bunch. I absolutely loved watching this episode!!!!
HM the moderator🐐, i always enjoy watching you guys have these intellectual conversations. I know someone who's in a similar situation where the mum has advised her son to marry this lady he impregnated out of wedlock cos she firmly believes that any other lady he desires to marry would make his life miserable due to past experiences with other relations.
Nice show I'm from Akwa ibom state, My family people are always saying I shouldn't marry an Igbo guy because they feel or they knw that Igbo men don't take care of Akwa ibom girls...
If the parent gives a good reason, it's now the fact of that good reason that drives the consideration. The nature of the debate, though, should not require the parent to give a reason or that the reason be good. For instance, if my mother tells me that the girl is my father's secret love child, the prevailing force is that revelation, not the power of parental consent. The debate ought to specifically probe the power of parental approval by virtue of who it is coming from (including and especially when that approval is unreasonably withheld). So, the bottomline is that EZINNE and NASBOI stayed on topic, and marshalled clear arguments to support their position. The 'likely suspects' did great as well but special mention for these two because they are guests.
My people abeg make una no vex, we no too dey that smarter than our parents...and as for that situation of a woman or wife in the house not allowing anybody in persons of family members or friends to the house all boils down to the mumu man of the house..this is how i see it...
I love Echelon to the moon and back. Igbo babe wey make brain scatter!! Ezinne is on point. Please keep these ladies NEDU AND CHUKWUDI!!! All of you guys asking for Naomi, I hope you guys are not empty like her??? Someone who likes devil's advocate more than herself, I pray the devil is not an advocate in her life.
Big ups to Nasboi, Husband material and co. My love and respect for Nedu is indisputably immeasurable. How e take "wipe" babe wey don goof suppose be a 3 unit course for Mandona😆
You all have very valid points but let me make something clear, our parents should have been more sensitive. They know how much influence they have in the life of their children, yet they say somethings so casually
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Nasboi has an emotional intelligence. I love how he wears his heart on his sleeve. Freely expressing his emotions with honesty. One can see the transparency from his expression of things. On the other hand, I like Eche’s reasoning too but I think she didn’t get enough chance to share her opinion. Here’s my two cents, I think Nedu wazobia should learn to give the guests more chance to share highlight on the topic via their opinion very important as we are all in the field of learning.
Nedu is the storyline and the salt of the show......his stories buttress the point to the reality and make people graps the concept of the topic.
@@gifty_couin oh I get it now
My Mother can die at any time.
Na you no fit die at any time?
This guy has some issues with his mother.
nedu talks too much, he always think he knows it all. even as part of the hosting team, he doesn't give guests chance to express fully. 😂😂😂😂 afficionado indeed
@@chuxochieze Na why Okon finish am flawlessly na 🤣
Nas is a national treasure. He should be protected at all cost.
I love how Nasboi is so real and vulnerable with his feelings...I enjoyed this episode
This topic on marriage is a very sensitive topic.. speaking from experience. I am igbo and got married to Yoruba the mum hated me from the first day I met her and I wanted out but he promised to protect me. The issue is when we had issues I didnt have anyone to even stand for me from their family. We sha divorced and regretted not listening to my dad when he warned me. 😢
Hmmm
I love Echelon Mbadiwe...she's so beautiful and I love her movies. To add on to it, her view on the subject matter is the one that I totally agree with. When she said that if her boyfriend's mother does not like she will have to bounce. That is real talk. She understands marriage goes beyond two individuals living together.
Nasboi I love how you speak the truth without fear or favour,and that's the reality,not even hiding ur emotions cos of pride.
PLEASE can you host Omah Lay, I believe it's time to hear his depression story. I feel low when I look at his recent pictures and hear his latest songs. He can be hosted to have a chat on mental health
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This is not a laughing matter, I thought I was the only one who noticed.
Omg! Whenever I listen to 'I'm a mess', I get super sad.
I really hope he's okay
😂😂😂 aswr that guys songs scares me he’s an epitome of depression God abeg make person no go hang himself
You see anybody Dey smoke for there?
I remember when my mother in law asked her first son not to marry me because of my tribe. (Meanwhile we are from the same state but different local government).
she chose a girl of his tribe for him(the girl was a medical doctor). Because she n the girls mother has been friends.
Meanwhile I got to discover why she had refused the son to marry me for one year was that there was a man who was supposed to marry her. The man had done her introduction and she was even pregnant for him, left her( not in the sense, but she jumped to conclusion).
But back then, there was no phone for means of communication. So the man as at then went abroad to better his life. So back here she thought the man broke her heart. When the man finally came back to marry her, she had gotten married on recommendations. She was fortunate that the new man accepted her with the child. So she said over her dead body will her children marry from my tribe.
But because she is not God, all her children ended up with the tribe she hated so much. And this has affected the way she is supposed to relate especially with her daughter in laws. #insidelife #realmatters
So most times our parents may want to punish us for their heart breaks. Most times the reasons are deeper than we can imagine.
The way nasboi stood his ground and try not to deviate from the main topic is lovely sometimes. Nedu and his crew will use thier story to shift the main topic.
I like the fact that Nedu is becoming conscious of what he says. That’s change. Kudos
whenever nedu just says "he get one gal/man" in his sentence, i day always pay 100% attention and begin to prepare to laugh 😆😄
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Nasboi God no go kill your brain... True freedom is seeing that human, whomever they are , is flawed and can be wrong! Family must respect your choice and to transfer that respect to your person.
My grandma didn't like the girl one of my uncle's was going to marry but he defied them anyway and married her, today she's the best daughter in law my grandma has we love her and her family very much
I actually love this particular episode and would have loved to drop a token or two about this topic. I’m a Muslim married to a practicing Catholic and there aren’t any pressures of conversion from both sides. It was a long battle but we thank God for the eventual success.
I remember when my uncle, a father figure, said I couldn’t marry the girl that’s now my wife, I asked “Why?”, he flared up and got so angry, saying “how dare you question me?!” Lol
It’s an interesting topic.
Big ups guys!
This was a lovely episode and well discussed. I think Nasboi hit the nail on the head, we struggle to have emotionally mature conversations with our parents so it's easy for them to manipulate us and say don't marry from certain tribes or religions. Most people don't realize all these things further divides us as a country which is why Nigeria is sooo divided. We can barely get along as a people which shows in the politics of the country.
I think an interesting topic to be discussed is the rise of depression amongst Nigerian men.
Nasboi killed it! He kept hitting the nail on the head.One thing I know our parents are not always right.After influencing their children's decision they end up with d very wrong partner and suffer the rest of their life.I feel when it comes to choosing a life partner your parents should only advice and not have an 💯 say becox no be them go stay with d wife or husband.It has happened to me and I know how painful it is.
One of the reasons why we kept some barbaric tradition is because we failed to ask question. African parents trained their kids not to ask question so they can manipulate. To me, most of our traditions is are due for a review.
never knew nasboi can have good conversation like this .....I'm proud
Starting this podcast was the best idea 💡 ever. Through this podcast a lot of people will benefit intellectually and otherwise from it, and also a lot of vawulence.
Off course there will be lots of gbas gbos that’s why it’s called THE HONEST BUNCH🤷🏼♀️. Kudos 👍🏻 to the organizers and brains behind this podcast✊🏻
What a person's mother/father does doesn't always come from a place of love. Let's stop saying this like it's true for everyone. It makes it easy for a lot of toxic parents to treat their children badly.
I agree with you, most times they are just controlling your life.
It's a generalized statement meaning most parents than not do it from a place of love.
Some do it from a place of selfishness.
I love how Echelon speaks, especially when she mixes Igbo in her sentences. 😍
Nasboi is so intelligent!!! Man is complete all round💯
What do you know about confirmation bais? He is not necessarily right. On this particular issue, It really depends on a lot of factors.
Intelligent but very naive
What has he said that makes him intelligent?
He said his mother has lived her life and can die at anytime. Does he know how many days he has left? Does he think he has his life in his hands?
Man has money and feels he is loaded with wisdom.
Yesh true sure
@@thetruthsayer8347 you that knows enlighten me please
I think Nasboi knows his mother and there is a reason for him saying that....He is 30 for crying out loud he knows what he wants in his life he is an adult of sound mind....I really like what he has said....we know toxic parents exist but people don't want to agree in this but anyway we are becoming an aware generation...
Nedu own no pass "wipe". As long as wipe dey the discussion, he go just dey happy anyhow 🤣🤣
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Immediately I saw the new video, I couldn't hold back even if I wanted to. Somehow you guys have got me always watching every new podcast on your post 😩
It would be great if we all get married with the approval and support of our parents.
If they don’t approve, we must ask and find out why and what the issues are.
Those issues must be addressed if possible. Or else they must be persuaded to give their approval by explaining in detail why you want to marry the particular person only. You must have a sound case.
If they are not persuaded, then wait. Don’t challenge them right away or rebel.
Give them time to come around to your point of view. In nearly all cases they are well- intentioned.
If you are absolutely convinced you are right then you must be firm and refuse to consider any other alliances they might try for you. If necessary, wait for one or two years also. Some parents will resort to emotional black mail. They will plead poor health and warn of premature death if you rebel and marry against their wishes.
This is quite common. The answer is to say, you will not marry any one else and remain single all your life till they allow you to marry the person of your choice .
Most parents will yield after some months when they see that resistance is of no use. Usually, in most families, time solves the problem. How long will parents stay estranged from their own children. Nigerian parents have this weakness. They like to “own” their children even when the children have become adults. They like to dictate career choices, and marriage choices too and can’t get used to treating their grown up children as adults with a life of their own and with a mind of their own.💯
I didn’t finish reading your comments but you sounded so foolish
@@ilokandubuisi1088 ahswear to God, I didn't even read it
Let's be frank.
All the guys are always making reference to girls weh Dem don wipe but no girl can easily do such. That's the difference.
You're right.💯
I've never comment on this show before but i most say, this is a master class. really learn alot and big up to nasboi "fools go still become parents" you guys are inspiration mhen can't wait for the next episode
Not all parents are right
Buh what if you come marry the person and in the future the person misbehaves, who do u turn to?
The fact that every thing down to language mix is nothing but EPIC🥰
Most times it's place of selfishness oh, because most parents especially mothers wouldn't want u to marry from another tribe so they wouldn't take u away from them,and also someone that will answer to them without saying her opinion.
Person wey no de watch this podcast na ei know becuz i learn alot when am watching this podcast Thank you guys
This issue is not restricted to Nigerians o o o… I met an Ethiopian lady in USA years back, intelligent, beautiful and so wonderful, it got to a point - we finish each others sentences, we truly love each other BUT when she notified her father I will be coming to ask him for her hand, her father said CAPITAL NO… he said and I quote.. *no daughter of mine will marry a Yoruba man from Nigeria*
We had to end the relationship. 5months later .. my class mate, an Indian, we became close, she knew what will eventually happen and she told me point blank (even though she is a devout Christian) *I can’t tell my parents I will be having a spouse outside my tribe*
I learnt a lot from her and up till date, she still express her feelings that nobody will ever touch her heart the way I did.
The lesson I learnt is as feelings go deeper; ASK QUESTIONS
God bless you for this,it’s answers all the questions and issues going on in my family right now
Have always loved Nasboi but my love for him grew bigger after watching this… thumbs up correct dude, love ur mentality 😊
Nasboy makes lots of sense, He is a very reasonable human being...big ups guys, where is BIg Nao ooooo!!!
Nasboi is so on point....he's just speaking the truth as it is
I had a lady that I assisted through school and she went to see pastor and the lady told her that our marriage won't last more than 5years and boom everything changes. This was someone I dated almost 4years. The moment we broke up, i started seeing alot of this that could have broken us. But you know love blinds alot when you are in a relationship
You see that owerri own na truth ,I have dated one b4 n my mum warned me about her n I counted my mum then after one yr I started seeing everything my mother warned about. So it's good we look into it when people say something about people.
Nasboi resonates me. Very smart dude
Anyways.... listening to your parents for marriage counseling would help you to reduce critical problems to manageable levels.
Interesting topics. Lovely and intelligent discussions too. Nasboi is so grounded and says it as it is without bias, prejudices or stereotypes. Wish the session was longer, even though it is clear that some of this topics can't be exhausted. Keep up the good work guys and God bless you all. A quick feedback albeit, sometimes everyone is talking at the same time and a lot of interruptions occur, so points aren't completely made. Husband material can be a moderator and this will help with time management a lot.
Omo forget it Nas is so intelligent oo.he stood his ground spoke so eloquently and gave really serious reason and observations.
Urhobo mother's can convince u.
Loved this topic. Toun’s opinions really resonated with me the few times she spoke. Clearly an intelligent babe but I think she needs to be given more time to share her opinions. I’d really love to hear her speak more.
Nedu never talk if he no add "e get one person wey I know..." and "wiping" lol o chimo!
Gee nti ooo 👂🏾! Your gist/story is never safe with Nedu! Lol
I dey feel Nasboi anyday, anytime...
Good-looking out bro❤
Thank You Nasboi❤❤ I'm Not Going To Say More Than Thank You, Na Me Know Watin My Eyes See... God Bless You
A real man knows what he wants he leads and everyone follows what are we afraid of it’s not life and death
My mum is a pretty chill person so if she has reservations about my partner I would give it a serious consideration and if it my partners family, we would have to put marriage plans on hold cause marriage would be making me a part of that family. In a couple of years we would have kids and I won't have my kids grow up in a family without obvious love shown to every member of the family.
Nedu, husband material yay!! Lovely podcast. I always enjoy it from the UK
Am coming
Eche is very intelligent and well cultured, she made a lot of sense for people who understands.
Love this topic, but for me, it is high time our parents stop selecting and rejecting who we bring to them to marry, except it has to do with spiritual instincts if not the world is civilised now this is technology age.i love u Nedu,Hm,Toun and our guest 💙
Our parents hardly ever have solid reasons for their rejections. They just expect us to take their words for it forgetting that we are smarter and way more exposed than they were at it age or even now in some cases.
Watched from Nigeria but now Watching from UK and still anticipate every monday to your new videos. My count down dey start from 112mins
Topic:Should a partner's past be considered before going into a relationship????
'Your mama friend dey enter your eye 😂'
People forget that parents have spiritual discernment, and they can pick up things that youngsters cannot readily see. When my daughters were going to get married, they brought certain people home which i didn't approve and in time my daughters saw exactly what i discerned. I also told them in what order that they would marry. To the Glory of God ,this is exactly what has happened. When my friends come with intended spouses, i tell them what i discern and so far i have been 100% accurate. Some have found out the hard and painful way.
It has happened to me, when I was dating my ex, mom Said he's not ready to marry, that he was just playing with me, I didn't listen, last last na from church them call me say he dey marry another person.
@@blessingadiakpotor2973 Wow!
Love you guys. For me my parents believe in my decisions and it's same with my siblings. Do what you think it's right for you and they will support you. Whenever they spot something odd, they would call your attention to it but the bulk of the decision still lies on you. I've enjoyed this over the years and it's working fine.
I love your podcast. Please where is other lady Naomi aka Aba women’s leader
Nasboi is really intelligent and I have learnt a lot from him...
As for topics suggestions, you can discuss about sex education in the family, how our parents shy from it....
Good job you all are doing guys
Hmmm this is a hard topic to give a factual opinion on!! For me, my Mum initially did not like my life partner becos of his family, however after 5yrs plus; she eventually got fond of him and all opinions she had went off the window!! As much as i would like if parents do not interfere in thier childrens' affairs although there's a saying of elders always knowing ahead what would befall one!! It may be an honest care but sometimes not right outrightly.
E get one... E get one... @Nedu na 90 years old o... the kan experience you don get. you get someone everywhere 😁😁😁
EVERYTHING IN ME IS WANTING TO COME AND SIT AMONGST THESE WONDERFUL PEOPL HOSTING THIS REALITY. IMLEARN EVERYDAY WHEN I WATCH THE EPISODES CREATED.
Nedu deh worry oo.
Which one be "she sef why she no deh greet"😂😂
Podcast minutes 1 hour
Nedu talks for 45’ minutes others manage the remaining 15’ minutes
Big shoutout to NEDU ❤
😂😂😂
it is well o. Nasboi i love the fact that you are honest. Getting to see as a guest outside comedy.
Omo Nas boy you’re big on this topic, I love you already…😊
Just love the way Nedu switch to fluent English ….he is dem good
Thank you so much guys for all you do. Please can you have a part 2 of this podcast where we get to hear what parents also think on this topical issue? I think we have demonized parents for far too long without knowing why they think the way they think. I'M NOT MARRIED BUT I BELIEVE NO PERSON OR GROUP OF PEOPLE HAVE THE MONOPOLY OF EVIL! Many thanks.
Relationship is for matured mind. Parental advice is not bad!However,i feel any time parent advise us, it doesn't mind we should subscribe to all their ideas.Perhaps,it means we should look critically about the things we crave for because Marriage is an institution that need a collective and unbiased assertions.
Shout out to the honest bunch. I’m loving this topic!!! I have to agree with Nas points. He is spot on! Let’s be honest here, our parents are not always right. Infact they can be selfish and biased. Humans are naturally prejudiced, it’s not our fault. Why would you deprive your child of his or her happiness because of stereotypes? I have seen quite a few selfish parents from my parents generation. Don’t even get me started ! If my parents tell me I can’t marry the person I love, they have to give me a good reason. You can’t tell me stuff like Abeokuta women lord over their husbands, Lagos people are overly exposed, owo girls too like dick, ibo men love their wives but beat them… stop the cap!!! I’m shutting it down! I thank God I have liberal parents, they are Muslims and allowed me to marry the love of my life who is a Christian. We got married in a church. People need to be more open minded. There are cases where parents hooked the kids up for fianancial reasons and it still collapsed. It really depend on the situation cause some ppl’s cases are extreme. If you marry someone against your parents advice and it fails, it’s your cross and you have to carry it. Parents are supposed to be there for their kids regardless, that’s what love is about not shame them. We as parents don’t own our children, we are guardians. They will live their lives and we have to trust their decisions. For those of us abroad, the chances of our kids marrying Nigerians is very slim. I have 3 boys and a girl. My prayer for my kids is that whoever they marry should love them regardless of their flaws. Whoever my kids marry, i as a parent should accept them regardless of my preference. I ll be lucky if any of my kids end up with a Nigerian. In the case of mother in law who just hate on their daughter in law, that is toxic. The man has to stand up and be Frank with his mom which is very hard for most men. Women are territorial by nature and they compete with themselves regardless of their age. You want a happy marriage, don’t put your mother and wife in the same house o. Don’t get me wrong, There are cases of mother in law and daughter in law who get along well. It’s because they are intentional and they also understand boundaries. Mother in law, treat your daughter in law like you would treat your child because it would give your son peace. Wives, treat your mother in law as you would treat your mom because your turn is coming o.The case of the girl who told nedu, she can’t be with a man whose mother is alive. Nedu, I’m happy you made the right choice to run. Regardless of what her experience is, she needs therapy . Is she not going to be somebody’s mother? What if someone wished her dead? Smh! Can we all start treating people the way we want to be treated? Karma is real. I don’t tell people how to live their lives but I want people to understand that whatever we do has consequences and we have to live with it whether we like it or not. May God help us all. Thank you🤗🤗🤗
Please where is Naomi, I really miss that lady.. no one can fill her void
A very interesting episode,everybody brought their A game to this one. Husband always capping legit. The whole crew did well. Love and light
eventually, a marriage is between 2 consenting people, external influence is welcome for recommendations and advice, ɓut the choice still remains that of the 2 parties concerned. the past might be gone, but still relevant, nobody wants to house the community toilet, but the toilet still needs a house however. our parents believe they know better, no doubt, but the experiences that inform their beliefs and choices are not valid to our lives. eventually, we live with the consequences of our choices, that's what matters.
The reality is that a man is interested in a woman's past as a woman is interested in a man's future. For example, let's say a man and a woman have been dating for a long time and she knows that this man can provide for her and give her the security that every woman wants. Then she finds out from a fortune teller (figuratively) that the man in the next 10 years will be a drunk, a criminal, and will start maltreating her, etc. The woman will never continue in that relationship. This is just fact
The way I love this program I don’t mind to buy tickets from the US and be a guest
I love the points they’re giving and I just feel like marriage without your parents approval or behind their back is pointless because it’s just going to be chaos and most times they usually don’t last. I’m saying this because it’s literally happening in front of my eyes in my family.
I would love for Echelon mbadiwe to be brought back to the show if possible make her a regular suspect.
Yes. She is a whole vibe
I miss Naomi though 😂😂
@@chiomaidezuna4909 I agree
@@michaelkemas I'm also surprised that I miss her too
I love Nasboy's opinions. The show was great, but I miss Naomi.
I really do. Her counters were interesting. 📌❤️
Lol that one that would have found a way to still make this conversation about gender war.
Make she go sitdown please
My Love for Nasboi went up ❤❤❤
That girl wey wear wine gown get sense...to me nedu Is always on point
Because of Nasboi I leave all youtube adverts play till tire....thnx Nasboi I know I made a good choice to be the greatest fan
Personally, if my parents say no, I will try to convince them that this is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, I love him and all that. If after trying to convince them, I will simply back out. The bible says in Eph. 6:2, honour thy Father and Mother, for this is the FIRST commandment that comes with promise (the promise is in vs3). I personally think that respecting them, is honour. Marriage is a loooooooooooooooooooong thing, you need all the blessings that you can get to run with in Marriage, do what it takes(as long as you're not committing a sin), to get blessings from your parents in Marriage. my opinion please.
Nasboi spoke fact. But I’d also like peace in my family. I’d want my children want to be around their grandparents; I want to happily take them there. So it would sadden me to know that my mother-in-law doesn’t like me. I pray whosoever I fall in love with, their mom accept me.
Lol, that one said "prayer dey different" 😂😂 Prayer that is scam!
I won’t lie it’s all those promotional videos that make me anticipate this podcast lol
This has to be my favorite episode of the honest bunch podcast.
Nasboi was really honest and straight to the point, emotionally intelligent and saying with confidence, a lot of things that people usually don’t admit. The major highlight was when he said some people would have stupid parents. I agree with some things Echelon said as well.
Husband material continues to be the reason I keep coming back, I love his analogy of Okafor’s law, say na Ronaldo comot for Man U, he still come back o😂😂.
I think that Nedu should give room for the guests to speak, he tries to overshadow them sometimes, he did that with Echelon today and then again, he’s always deviating.
Kudos to the honest bunch.
I absolutely loved watching this episode!!!!
HM the moderator🐐, i always enjoy watching you guys have these intellectual conversations. I know someone who's in a similar situation where the mum has advised her son to marry this lady he impregnated out of wedlock cos she firmly believes that any other lady he desires to marry would make his life miserable due to past experiences with other relations.
Please!!! If you are here to see @HusbandMaterial's intros then smash the like button!
Nedu had to sit beside HM so he could caution him from dropping names
Nice show
I'm from Akwa ibom state, My family people are always saying I shouldn't marry an Igbo guy because they feel or they knw that Igbo men don't take care of Akwa ibom girls...
Nasboi na intelligent guy ❤
Husband Materia you are talking to me as i dey watch i dey para like that last week way i dey para for nedu 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
If the parent gives a good reason, it's now the fact of that good reason that drives the consideration. The nature of the debate, though, should not require the parent to give a reason or that the reason be good. For instance, if my mother tells me that the girl is my father's secret love child, the prevailing force is that revelation, not the power of parental consent.
The debate ought to specifically probe the power of parental approval by virtue of who it is coming from (including and especially when that approval is unreasonably withheld).
So, the bottomline is that EZINNE and NASBOI stayed on topic, and marshalled clear arguments to support their position. The 'likely suspects' did great as well but special mention for these two because they are guests.
Watching from Togo 🇹🇬
Husband Material intro >>>
New listener from Kenya. Still struggling with Pidgin but am here to stay. Damn! 'The podcast na be hot'
My people abeg make una no vex, we no too dey that smarter than our parents...and as for that situation of a woman or wife in the house not allowing anybody in persons of family members or friends to the house all boils down to the mumu man of the house..this is how i see it...
I love Echelon to the moon and back. Igbo babe wey make brain scatter!! Ezinne is on point. Please keep these ladies NEDU AND CHUKWUDI!!!
All of you guys asking for Naomi, I hope you guys are not empty like her??? Someone who likes devil's advocate more than herself, I pray the devil is not an advocate in her life.
Big ups to Nasboi, Husband material and co. My love and respect for Nedu is indisputably immeasurable. How e take "wipe" babe wey don goof suppose be a 3 unit course for Mandona😆
Toun says everything we’re thinking lol. Love her takes!
It got to a moment I actually forgot there was another guest sitting between nedu and nasboi until when they were about to end the show. 😂😂
You all have very valid points but let me make something clear, our parents should have been more sensitive. They know how much influence they have in the life of their children, yet they say somethings so casually
Nedu Nedu 😁
Nedu my love
The most dragged🤣
I hail thee