Every leader has the potential to be great by serving but I wouldn’t say 100% serve. For example someone who points fingers and tells others what to do but would never do it themselves or show how it’s done, serves himself only
This is why Khadeem is so respectful of her husband . I always say you can tell a lot about a marriage by looking at the wife. Khadeem looks well taken care of and I don’t mean financially.He created an an environment understanding that serving his wife and making sure she is okay serves him back . Iron sharpens iron . Serving each other goes both ways and goes hand and hand. Great stuff !
This man just said a WORD!!! Relationships are a choice. She chooses him and he chooses her. She isn’t bound to the relationship nor is he YET they SERVE one another fully. I LOVE IT! ❤️
@@MBison-vm6gq not everyone who has money is generous w it tho! Some are selfish! He could’ve told her he only wanna pay half so he can keep more of his money but that’s not what matters to him. I think he does this because of how he was raised ❤
@Aitana Thomas-EL definitely because of how he was raised but it's more to do with the fact that he's fortunate enough to be in that position. There are men who have been raised right but aren't able to. It's like wanting to be in a position to look after your parents and your family. It's a matter of wealth
@@MBison-vm6gq HIs statement has nothing to do with money. Yes, he can pay all the bills and some men can't. The fact he leads from a place of love and respect is the point being made, but all y'all do is focus on the financial aspect. He treats his wife well, in ways that money cannot buy. His first point was "I serve my wife".
I agree with everything you said except the part of her is her money. If you're married she can have some of her money that she makes but she has to contribute to the family. You build a legacy together.
I totally agree. Partnership in all areas. - a real woman WANTS to contribute to the family in all areas - A real man wants to do the same…. Women love to hear he pays all the bills! But I like to work as a unit. We invest I. Each other. Into the legacy.
Biblically, he just broke down how God views our relationship with Him. He gives us free will because us making the choice to love Him, pleases Him. God could easily make us mindless obedient robots, but when we make an effort to love Christ, it is a delight to God the Father.
This is literally perfection!!! Males need to really get on board with understanding. Both parties need to be serving one another while maintaining their own autonomy!! No better way to put it. One spouse doesn’t need to be in a “submissive” chokehold catering to their partner while getting nothing in return. Devale’s Expectation is music to my ears. Wish more xy’s understood this concept
They are definitely gonna mk it to their Golden Years following these principles. As the judge said, I'm sure he's SIMPly grateful she chose to SUBMIT to him.❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉😊
He spoke Bible 101 and explained it to this generation. Nothing wrong with doing things God's way. As a matter of fact when it is done God's way it's a beautiful, divine union. A man that serves his wife is not only a true leader but a King. A wife that submits herself to her husband is a wise Queen.
@@Just_youtube2024 Did you hear that the guy said he wants to be chosen and wanted and not needed? If she leaves, the guy will be ok. He’s not trying to trap her. That’s why he has no problem with her making her own money.
@@happilydivorced3235 everybody is an expert now when it comes to relationships, I just don't sell martial advice on social media for money 💵, you said the guy will be fine if she decided to leave, but you don't know that what I know is any relationship that is on social media and glorifies is never finished in good terms, just come back and apologized when it happens, I'm more of a Denzel Washington kind of fan, July 2nd will be my 11th year of anniversary. Keep your marriage 💍 secret 🔏 God advice ☝️
@@Just_youtube2024 When it’s ordained by God, it doesn’t have to be a secret. When it’s ordained by God, anything or anybody that tries to come in between won’t prosper. They’re already 20 years strong, 10 years married, and have been through a lot of ups and downs like navigating the end of his NFL career. They’re good.
Only men like us with good women who we didn’t have to buy can truly appreciate that ultimate flex.💪🏽My wife and I did the same with a combo of the FIRE method and building businesses for continued cash flow. I was raised to think winning was finding a trade or something but she raised the ceiling I put on myself because she had huge goals for both of us and together we made it happen.
@@keemot1767 You're at a great pace right now. First thing my wife and I did was made sure we were on the same page and understood the goal. We followed the FIRE method for the most part. We maxed out our 401ks, Roth IRAs, and HSAs every year as soon as we could and put anything left over into taxable brokerage accounts. We also had two rental properties..one that we recently sold. Most importantly we didn't live above our means. And both our money went toward our common goal. We wouldn't be where we are if one of us was just using "their money" on whatever they wanted.
She's with him bcuz she wants to be. Not bcuz she has to. Their dynamic is beautiful bcuz it's their own personalized happy relationship that works well for them and they're in agreement with their beliefs.
More people should definitely know their story/family dynamic before making certain comments. But that’s the internet for you 🤷🏾♀️ So happy for them always 🤞❤
To each their own, i agree with him on all points except for the one about “what money she makes is hers”. I think that as a relationship the money belongs to the household, “our” money.
@@Connect_with_Yourself Why should it belong to her though.Because she bears children that she herself also wants or what? I understand most women are not opposed to that viewpoint because it benefits them but why can't it be a 75/25 or 70/30 something split with most responsibility towards the man. I mean women work and all that now.Wouldnt it be more of a partnership if both parties contributed.
Ohh My Devale. Your statements are a teaching moments. Others donot need to do exactly what you do just Listen and learn. I'm proud of you and your thoughts process. That's why your family dynamics show Strong Love Respect you got the assignment you payed attention!. God blessings ✌️simp + submissive you both defined it your way. ❤ Kat got a good one!!
Great segment…people have taken the word leadership and messed it up… People use the word Simp so loosely… What they are really saying when they call you a Simp is man I wish I had the guts to step up and be a leader for my household like he does… Real men who get the bigger picture recognize that💪🏾💪🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Word . I once I mean twice have had partners who were afraid of me earning but both felt it too heavy a responsibility to be the head earners. Promotions or opportunities I had on my own sometimes made them feel small or jealous , ick ! No mo
When a man submits to God the women will submit to him in ok with my husband being the head of the house hold no matter what we make it’s two people coming together in agreement and there will be compromises and sacrifices but at the end of the day we are a team it took me years to understand that because I came from dysfunction single parent home dad wasn’t around teenage years it was hard for my mom I didn’t want my kids going through that
The ultimate man is a man who can keep a woman without control or force. If you gotta keep your foot on a woman’s neck, or play psychological games to “hook” or keep her, that’s a huge sign of WEAKNESS. A man who provides, protects and leads his wife with a strong sense of free will is a man operating from divine love & authentic masculine energy. This type of energy is the kind EVERY woman should be vetting for.
You obviously don’t know their story. Why don’t you erase your comment and go back years ago and see where they started. Ppl like you on the internet hear one clip and run with it.
It's definitely not about the money with them, it never was nor has been. The simplicity of what he said, he takes care of his wife. Money is easy to throw around, but the acts of creating the environment for her to feel safe and thrive, let her guard down, has nothing to do with money.......
I love everything he said except, it shouldn’t be his money or her money, it should be their money. It seems like it’s separate but if it works for them, that’s what matters.
Especially you last sentence. This is what works for them. I think providing for his family makes him feel good. Some men don't want their wife paying towards the bills for various reasons. Mostly because it makes them feel more masculine and that's fine as long as they don't use that fact to manipulate their wives.
You better preach Devale! Teach men and women about the concept of taking care of each other. My husband runs his own business taking care of the family financially. I went back to school to get masters and create own business and job security so that in the event that he gets hurt or need me to step up to carry the load to stabilize the family, I got him. Marriage is taking care of one another, aligning goals to thrive as a unit.
Lord I see what you have done for others. I’m not settling until I find a man that knows who he is and knows God. The world will try to make you think that you don’t deserve to be provided and protected by your husband but here is proof that a man who is secure in himself will be able to take the lead and honor his wife by being the leader 💕🥰
He was broke at one time. You don't know their whole story. They've been to the bottom & remained committed to each other & their family. Their story is on RUclips. They overcame a lot.
Apparently at some point she was holding him down. I think their relationship is great and all. But all these platitudes just tickle people's ears. They handle their business in a way that makes sense and I doubt she's just blowing through her own money without contributing to the family in some way.
Key words are “service” and “power dynamics we agreed to”! Men be forgetting that aa the leader u gotta be a good servant and responsible! And do whats best for ur relationship.
No women were "honored" because they were given less opportunities and couldn't be in the workforce so they had to rely on a man so to say. Now women can make as much money as man if not more but still want a man to pay all the bills.
He makes a good point but she takes care of her man I have been doing the same thing but my wife feels she does not need to do anything sit around the house and look at me. So I left and feel great about it. She is a good wife and I think that want most people are missing about what he is saying. It goes both ways you do this I’m do this but it can’t be one person
This is a good clip but it’s just a piece of the puzzle to their story. For example they talk about in their early years of marriage he struggled financially post his NFL career, and they moved back to Brooklyn and his wife was not afraid to put in the work to take care of the family while he went on his career journey. The point is- they were willing to put in the work and build their life together as husband and wife - both played their roles for the greater good of the marriage. It was all in , she didn’t down him for not being a high value man, divorce him because he was down. So it makes total sense why he reveres his wife and family to that capacity. He’s not an anomaly -many man are like that if their woman is truly down for them and by their side, not practicing I can do better elsewhere.
Most men, because of their ego and d lack of trust they have, would rather limit their wives gender role to cooking and cleaning........ And that was never how God intended marriage, its not a 50/50, its 100% from both sides..... They should be all in on building an empire...... Men these days limit a woman's submission to cooking and cleaning..... There's a lot more a Queen can do to help her King build his empire....... I want a man who will empower me, not a man who would see my growth as his enemy......... My growth will never be my priority, my family is...... But u can't keep setting women back...... In Nigeria where I'm from. Most od our men hate d idea of a woman staying at home everytime.... U won't be nursing ur babies forever, they'll eventually grow up and go to school some days.... The extra hours u get, use it to build an empire with ur husband.....
Black Men do not understand how the biggest flex ever is to be able to say my wife is a stay at home mom & my kids are homeschooled… this is how black men get the respect and status they desire in society… this is how people Will understand that you make a lot of money because they know how much money a man has to make to have this type of setup plus they know what your values are if you want your kids to have a parent at home 24/7 and have you don’t want your kids in public school being influenced & taught things that you don’t agree with… only black men think that’s simpin… other men treat men who move like this with much respect…
It's nothing wrong with serving your wife I think people get that confused with simping because of the simple fact a lot of these women take advantage of the fact that you want to serve them so then they'll make you look like a simp at home and in public and I think that's why so many men are turned off by the word serving their woman but I agree it is very good for you to serve your woman and good for her to serve you so that you can continue to protect and provide
"We make a lot of money?" So the money he's making is to pay the bills and make sure everyone is doing well, and the money she's making she can spend it on herself and whatever she wants. That means his money is her money, while her money is her money. "I am the leader" If so, who's leading who's money? I don't see any sense in that.
I thought it was just me… This dont make any sense. She on a high pedestal and he sounds just happy to be with her. Hope she would say the same about him.
@@d1powell I think his money should go towards bills and her money should go towards savings. I think it should be more of an our money situation rather than a separate.
@@neishachambers2719 that's fine and all but at that point it doesn't matter who's money's going where. It seems like it's all just some weird way to keep up the appearance that he's paying the bills lol. If she is securing they're retirement, she is still "paying the bills". She just doing it in the future. Why are ppl so obsessed with this framing? If you're both grown and married take care of business. Simple.
It can work for people that are in the same situation as them, but it doesn't work for the AVERAGE household living check to check. Like he said, "We make lots of money!".
@@TippedScales106 Both working while one is spending and the other saves. A couple who make "lots of money" can do that easier than those who don't. Any real husband would love to do that for their family, but realistically, both are busting their behinds to pay debts and survive.
@@SuperDivine9 I understand what you’re saying and I can agree with that, but the key words in this short is they found a dynamic that works for them which means it’s not going to look the same for everyone. I don’t know what you know about this couple but they’ve been together for 20 years. They haven’t always made a lot of money and there was a period of time where her income was paying the bills. Finances are a big part of a relationship, but that wasn’t the point he was trying to make in this clip
I agree with most but I don’t understand why human beings in general can’t be independent TOGETHER. I’d never plan everything in my own. My wife, who’s making great money will be involved in everything WE do. Raise our kids and plan our future. No human gets to lay back and do nothing while in a relationship.
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Every Leader is a servant.
Say that!!!😃
Every leader has the potential to be great by serving but I wouldn’t say 100% serve.
For example someone who points fingers and tells others what to do but would never do it themselves or show how it’s done, serves himself only
@Jaelen Randolph Then that person isnt a leader.
Very true statement
Absolutely!!!!!!
This is why Khadeem is so respectful of her husband . I always say you can tell a lot about a marriage by looking at the wife. Khadeem looks well taken care of and I don’t mean financially.He created an an environment understanding that serving his wife and making sure she is okay serves him back . Iron sharpens iron . Serving each other goes both ways and goes hand and hand. Great stuff !
So true, Devale has truly earned her respect.
Powerful statement and shows his love for his wife he nailed and clarified his statements
This man just said a WORD!!! Relationships are a choice. She chooses him and he chooses her. She isn’t bound to the relationship nor is he YET they SERVE one another fully.
I LOVE IT! ❤️
God set the standard of marriage. So they are bound to each other.
@@stevenbooth751 okay
Wow. I’m impressed that him being a young man has that much confidence and humility to be such a great husband. That’s rare.
It's called money. Those who can will
Indeed! I’m so amazed and his sense of security.
@@MBison-vm6gq not everyone who has money is generous w it tho! Some are selfish! He could’ve told her he only wanna pay half so he can keep more of his money but that’s not what matters to him. I think he does this because of how he was raised ❤
@Aitana Thomas-EL definitely because of how he was raised but it's more to do with the fact that he's fortunate enough to be in that position. There are men who have been raised right but aren't able to. It's like wanting to be in a position to look after your parents and your family. It's a matter of wealth
@@MBison-vm6gq HIs statement has nothing to do with money. Yes, he can pay all the bills and some men can't. The fact he leads from a place of love and respect is the point being made, but all y'all do is focus on the financial aspect.
He treats his wife well, in ways that money cannot buy. His first point was "I serve my wife".
I agree with everything you said except the part of her is her money. If you're married she can have some of her money that she makes but she has to contribute to the family. You build a legacy together.
I totally agree. Partnership in all areas. - a real woman WANTS to contribute to the family in all areas - A real man wants to do the same…. Women love to hear he pays all the bills! But I like to work as a unit. We invest I. Each other. Into the legacy.
Spot on, he can only say that because he's probably making a lot of money and is in a comfortable place too.
Why you think there's so many THOTS in the chat giving thanks for this nonsense this fortunate blessed man is saying 😂
I’m so sick of the word ‘Simp’. It has been taken too far by people who probably are not in a long relationships.
Facts 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Right
He's a simp though
@garywilliams8619 He's not a simp though.
Me too. I get tired of that word being used. Also, a "pick me" from women using it against other women.
This right here 🥲🥲, can’t wait to be that wife and meet the man that God has for me🙏🏽❤️
Biblically, he just broke down how God views our relationship with Him. He gives us free will because us making the choice to love Him, pleases Him. God could easily make us mindless obedient robots, but when we make an effort to love Christ, it is a delight to God the Father.
Exactly! True worship and honor. Not false ones
Amen
Amen 🙌🏽
You’re right God does give us all free will. But it comes with a price in the end. Heaven or hell, right?
@@stevenbooth751what if your environment alter your choice ,I agree fully
This is literally perfection!!! Males need to really get on board with understanding. Both parties need to be serving one another while maintaining their own autonomy!! No better way to put it. One spouse doesn’t need to be in a “submissive” chokehold catering to their partner while getting nothing in return. Devale’s Expectation is music to my ears. Wish more xy’s understood this concept
Listen to this man. Men need to adopt this way of thinking. Too many men have the wrong idea about what it mean to be the "head of the household".
May God continue to protect this family and the wonderful understanding they have of how a relationship should work.😊
They are definitely gonna mk it to their Golden Years following these principles. As the judge said, I'm sure he's SIMPly grateful she chose to SUBMIT to him.❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉😊
That was excellent Devale. Your wife and family is blessed to have a leader like you!
He spoke Bible 101 and explained it to this generation. Nothing wrong with doing things God's way. As a matter of fact when it is done God's way it's a beautiful, divine union. A man that serves his wife is not only a true leader but a King. A wife that submits herself to her husband is a wise Queen.
Please tell me who wouldn't submit to this kind. He is a gem 💎
Amen!!!
@@marycynthiaofficialtv some wouldn't. They will say he too weak. Damaged folks
I’m tryna better myself so I can be in position to provide like that, however he still just put me on game about some things and I fasho respect him.
I love this couple simply because they live their life by their rules. I will always believe when you can respect your partner, then love comes.
Oooh Devale!❤❤❤ I have never heard anyone say it so perfectly.
Wait until she decides to leave 🤣 😏 😒 😂 🙄 🤪 🤣
@@Just_youtube2024 Did you hear that the guy said he wants to be chosen and wanted and not needed? If she leaves, the guy will be ok. He’s not trying to trap her. That’s why he has no problem with her making her own money.
@@happilydivorced3235 everybody is an expert now when it comes to relationships, I just don't sell martial advice on social media for money 💵, you said the guy will be fine if she decided to leave, but you don't know that what I know is any relationship that is on social media and glorifies is never finished in good terms, just come back and apologized when it happens, I'm more of a Denzel Washington kind of fan, July 2nd will be my 11th year of anniversary. Keep your marriage 💍 secret 🔏 God advice ☝️
@@Just_youtube2024 When it’s ordained by God, it doesn’t have to be a secret. When it’s ordained by God, anything or anybody that tries to come in between won’t prosper. They’re already 20 years strong, 10 years married, and have been through a lot of ups and downs like navigating the end of his NFL career. They’re good.
@@nik-at-nite okay I guess I'm wrong so we'll see
My biggest flex is that my wife and I worked together to retire us both before the age of 40. Its happy spouse..happy house around here.
Only men like us with good women who we didn’t have to buy can truly appreciate that ultimate flex.💪🏽My wife and I did the same with a combo of the FIRE method and building businesses for continued cash flow. I was raised to think winning was finding a trade or something but she raised the ceiling I put on myself because she had huge goals for both of us and together we made it happen.
💯💯💯💯💯
Any advice on how to achieve that? I just turned 30 and I'm making 85k, will be making 100k on August with my new role; what should I look into?
@@keemot1767 You're at a great pace right now. First thing my wife and I did was made sure we were on the same page and understood the goal. We followed the FIRE method for the most part. We maxed out our 401ks, Roth IRAs, and HSAs every year as soon as we could and put anything left over into taxable brokerage accounts. We also had two rental properties..one that we recently sold. Most importantly we didn't live above our means. And both our money went toward our common goal. We wouldn't be where we are if one of us was just using "their money" on whatever they wanted.
@@Undisputed00 Good advice and it looks like you guys actually lived by 'Teamwork makes the dream work!"
Who raised him? Because I want to Thank You! Congratulations on raising a smart young man ❤
Thankfully Devale comes from a wonderful family! His wife too ❤ they’re very blessed!
Two parent house holds raised them! That’s key
Yep, fathers matter. Fatherlessness can have negative outcomes. Of course there are exceptions.
I can’t give this convo enough likes
Well said. Her choice to choose him honors him. ❤
It's SO refreshing to hear real men speak! ❤
Yes! ❤
Love that! It embodies smth I heard a while ago. "Men need to do good to feel good, while women need to feel good to do good"
Haters gonna hate but this is the type of HUSBAND women are looking for.
She's with him bcuz she wants to be. Not bcuz she has to.
Their dynamic is beautiful bcuz it's their own personalized happy relationship that works well for them and they're in agreement with their beliefs.
Devale you explained that soo beautiful !
That’s why I stay watching the Ellis Family because the nuggets Devale and Kay are dropping I keep my ear to UTube! ❤😂
More people should definitely know their story/family dynamic before making certain comments. But that’s the internet for you 🤷🏾♀️ So happy for them always 🤞❤
To each their own, i agree with him on all points except for the one about “what money she makes is hers”. I think that as a relationship the money belongs to the household, “our” money.
@@Connect_with_Yourself Why should it belong to her though.Because she bears children that she herself also wants or what?
I understand most women are not opposed to that viewpoint because it benefits them but why can't it be a 75/25 or 70/30 something split with most responsibility towards the man.
I mean women work and all that now.Wouldnt it be more of a partnership if both parties contributed.
@Nora 🤣. Please show me the scripture. I don't believe its right for me to comment on what I believe to be nonsense till I see proof
Awesome, we’ll said. Congratulations to the both of you!!
Glad to see a mature man who don’t put his insecurities to his woman
Preach and teach!!!
Love these dynamics of y’all relationship, we need more MEN like this schooling these other males out here 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
Ohh My Devale. Your statements are a teaching moments. Others donot need to do exactly what you do just Listen and learn. I'm proud of you and your thoughts process. That's why your family dynamics show Strong Love Respect you got the assignment you payed attention!. God blessings ✌️simp + submissive you both defined it your way. ❤ Kat got a good one!!
That whole convo was good AND this clip right here needs to spread like wildfire! 🔥🔥🔥
A WHOLE SERMON RIGHT THERE 🙌🙌🙌
Protect this king by all costs, wish all men had his mindset
Great segment…people have taken the word leadership and messed it up…
People use the word Simp so loosely…
What they are really saying when they call you a Simp is man I wish I had the guts to step up and be a leader for my household like he does…
Real men who get the bigger picture recognize that💪🏾💪🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Darrnnnn......on point..i love this.....let go free and it stays..the reverse is true
What they have is so amazing and very rare now a days.
REAL MAN RIGHT HERE. Too many men don’t want to protect and provide but want a submissive wife. It doesn’t work like that.
This is a very smart man right here! ❤
Beautifully said!
Word . I once I mean twice have had partners who were afraid of me earning but both felt it too heavy a responsibility to be the head earners. Promotions or opportunities I had on my own sometimes made them feel small or jealous , ick ! No mo
He basically described to you what it takes to be married and to stay married and that when being grounded in God is what keeps a marriage healthy.
You do whatever you both agree is good for your couple. You owe no one an explanation
When a man submits to God the women will submit to him in ok with my husband being the head of the house hold no matter what we make it’s two people coming together in agreement and there will be compromises and sacrifices but at the end of the day we are a team it took me years to understand that because I came from dysfunction single parent home dad wasn’t around teenage years it was hard for my mom I didn’t want my kids going through that
This is so good!
The ultimate man is a man who can keep a woman without control or force. If you gotta keep your foot on a woman’s neck, or play psychological games to “hook” or keep her, that’s a huge sign of WEAKNESS. A man who provides, protects and leads his wife with a strong sense of free will is a man operating from divine love & authentic masculine energy. This type of energy is the kind EVERY woman should be vetting for.
Our money is OUR money.
We are ONE.
She wants to be your wife still because your money is hers and her money is hers too
Exactly…
😂😅 shoo with that deal what woman wouldn't right
You obviously don’t know their story. Why don’t you erase your comment and go back years ago and see where they started. Ppl like you on the internet hear one clip and run with it.
It's definitely not about the money with them, it never was nor has been. The simplicity of what he said, he takes care of his wife. Money is easy to throw around, but the acts of creating the environment for her to feel safe and thrive, let her guard down, has nothing to do with money.......
Well Said....Beautiful Family.....Stay Strong....and Eyes on on our Creator🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏
We should be married to Man who think the same way ❤❤❤
Well said Devale
Powerful
Love y'all so much, y'all are a great template for what is family and marriage is all about.
I love everything he said except, it shouldn’t be his money or her money, it should be their money. It seems like it’s separate but if it works for them, that’s what matters.
Especially you last sentence. This is what works for them. I think providing for his family makes him feel good. Some men don't want their wife paying towards the bills for various reasons. Mostly because it makes them feel more masculine and that's fine as long as they don't use that fact to manipulate their wives.
You better preach Devale! Teach men and women about the concept of taking care of each other. My husband runs his own business taking care of the family financially. I went back to school to get masters and create own business and job security so that in the event that he gets hurt or need me to step up to carry the load to stabilize the family, I got him. Marriage is taking care of one another, aligning goals to thrive as a unit.
Lord I see what you have done for others. I’m not settling until I find a man that knows who he is and knows God. The world will try to make you think that you don’t deserve to be provided and protected by your husband but here is proof that a man who is secure in himself will be able to take the lead and honor his wife by being the leader 💕🥰
That is so beautiful ❤️! It sounds like a great system & yes her still desiring you should make you feel good , as you should😁👏🏾👏🏾💕👌🏾
Very well said!❤
Key words “we make alot of money “
Not at all
Facts. Men value love, women love value. None of what he is saying would be possible if he was broke
He was broke at one time. You don't know their whole story. They've been to the bottom & remained committed to each other & their family. Their story is on RUclips. They overcame a lot.
@@TippedScales106 getcho hurt ass put the comments
Apparently at some point she was holding him down. I think their relationship is great and all. But all these platitudes just tickle people's ears. They handle their business in a way that makes sense and I doubt she's just blowing through her own money without contributing to the family in some way.
Key words are “service” and “power dynamics we agreed to”! Men be forgetting that aa the leader u gotta be a good servant and responsible! And do whats best for ur relationship.
I love this so much we need more men who think this way , back in the day women were honoured Jesus name amen
No women were "honored" because they were given less opportunities and couldn't be in the workforce so they had to rely on a man so to say.
Now women can make as much money as man if not more but still want a man to pay all the bills.
💯% RESPECT!
He makes a good point but she takes care of her man I have been doing the same thing but my wife feels she does not need to do anything sit around the house and look at me. So I left and feel great about it. She is a good wife and I think that want most people are missing about what he is saying. It goes both ways you do this I’m do this but it can’t be one person
This is a good clip but it’s just a piece of the puzzle to their story. For example they talk about in their early years of marriage he struggled financially post his NFL career, and they moved back to Brooklyn and his wife was not afraid to put in the work to take care of the family while he went on his career journey. The point is- they were willing to put in the work and build their life together as husband and wife - both played their roles for the greater good of the marriage. It was all in , she didn’t down him for not being a high value man, divorce him because he was down.
So it makes total sense why he reveres his wife and family to that capacity.
He’s not an anomaly -many man are like that if their woman is truly down for them and by their side, not practicing I can do better elsewhere.
Most men, because of their ego and d lack of trust they have, would rather limit their wives gender role to cooking and cleaning........
And that was never how God intended marriage, its not a 50/50, its 100% from both sides..... They should be all in on building an empire......
Men these days limit a woman's submission to cooking and cleaning.....
There's a lot more a Queen can do to help her King build his empire.......
I want a man who will empower me, not a man who would see my growth as his enemy......... My growth will never be my priority, my family is...... But u can't keep setting women back......
In Nigeria where I'm from. Most od our men hate d idea of a woman staying at home everytime.... U won't be nursing ur babies forever, they'll eventually grow up and go to school some days.... The extra hours u get, use it to build an empire with ur husband.....
All this!!!!! Loveeeee it!
Wonderfully said Devale☺️ alot of men need to hear this.
Beautifully said
Exactly..I need a Devale
You need his money more like 😒
Well said
Black Men do not understand how the biggest flex ever is to be able to say my wife is a stay at home mom & my kids are homeschooled… this is how black men get the respect and status they desire in society… this is how people Will understand that you make a lot of money because they know how much money a man has to make to have this type of setup plus they know what your values are if you want your kids to have a parent at home 24/7 and have you don’t want your kids in public school being influenced & taught things that you don’t agree with… only black men think that’s simpin… other men treat men who move like this with much respect…
Preach it young man.
I love it!!!❤❤❤
This is so beautiful, keep being the example ❤️🔥🙏
Very well spoken. This is a real man.
Sounds like a solid household. If they have kids they’ll be well off. Keep this trend going for future generations
They have 4 boys that I know will be great men! ❤🤞
Ok. So please stop trying to act like only bum ass women require men to take care of the household financially! Devale just summed it up perfectly!
Awesomeness ❤
That’s right Devale! I am with you when you Right😜.
She can do whatever she wants and all imma do is spoil my man for being a great leader and a provider
Lovely couple
It's nothing wrong with serving your wife I think people get that confused with simping because of the simple fact a lot of these women take advantage of the fact that you want to serve them so then they'll make you look like a simp at home and in public and I think that's why so many men are turned off by the word serving their woman but I agree it is very good for you to serve your woman and good for her to serve you so that you can continue to protect and provide
"We make a lot of money?"
So the money he's making is to pay the bills and make sure everyone is doing well, and the money she's making she can spend it on herself and whatever she wants. That means his money is her money, while her money is her money.
"I am the leader" If so, who's leading who's money? I don't see any sense in that.
Facts!!!!
I thought it was just me…
This dont make any sense.
She on a high pedestal and he sounds just happy to be with her. Hope she would say the same about him.
something to ponder upon 🤔 not knocking what works for them
@@d1powell I think his money should go towards bills and her money should go towards savings. I think it should be more of an our money situation rather than a separate.
@@neishachambers2719 that's fine and all but at that point it doesn't matter who's money's going where. It seems like it's all just some weird way to keep up the appearance that he's paying the bills lol.
If she is securing they're retirement, she is still "paying the bills". She just doing it in the future.
Why are ppl so obsessed with this framing? If you're both grown and married take care of business. Simple.
Love them ❤
That's whats up!!👏🏽
It sounds like she’s only with him because he pays all the bills…what’s the point of her even working if she doesn’t contribute?
Say that Devale 👏 👏👏👏👏
This will be me one day
I knew he was a great man...
I love this
Say it, Devale!
I L😊VE THEIR UNION!🙌🏽
they both make A LOT of money, yet he still pays all the bills while she can do w/ her money whatever? seems like no fair play
It can work for people that are in the same situation as them, but it doesn't work for the AVERAGE household living check to check. Like he said, "We make lots of money!".
Great point!
Exactly. Somebody who sees sense
What are you saying doesn’t work for the AVERAGE household?
@@TippedScales106 Both working while one is spending and the other saves. A couple who make "lots of money" can do that easier than those who don't. Any real husband would love to do that for their family, but realistically, both are busting their behinds to pay debts and survive.
@@SuperDivine9 I understand what you’re saying and I can agree with that, but the key words in this short is they found a dynamic that works for them which means it’s not going to look the same for everyone. I don’t know what you know about this couple but they’ve been together for 20 years. They haven’t always made a lot of money and there was a period of time where her income was paying the bills. Finances are a big part of a relationship, but that wasn’t the point he was trying to make in this clip
Do that Devale!
I agree with most but I don’t understand why human beings in general can’t be independent TOGETHER. I’d never plan everything in my own. My wife, who’s making great money will be involved in everything WE do. Raise our kids and plan our future. No human gets to lay back and do nothing while in a relationship.
Speak that knowledge