“Am I a pick me girl?!”…🥲

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  • Опубликовано: 22 авг 2024
  • #pickme #pickmegirls #pickmegirl #feminism #feminist #bodyimage #womenempowerment #womenempoweringwomen #womensrights #girlspower #girlpower #feminismisforeverybody #POV #girlsstruggles #selflovejourney #selflove #selfacceptance #claradao

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  • @xFantasy_
    @xFantasy_ 9 месяцев назад +20595

    Sometimes, i’d feel bad for doing all these things because some people consider that being a “pick me girl “. You’ve honestly helped me get more confident and more proud of myself. Thank you.

    • @wintvibes
      @wintvibes 9 месяцев назад +413

      people actually consider those things being a pick me? society has truly lost common sense...

    • @Beaneditsmovies
      @Beaneditsmovies 9 месяцев назад +129

      Bro me too! Now I know what a actual pick me is And she has made me more confident

    • @namgiseok
      @namgiseok 9 месяцев назад +26

      omg same

    • @firefighter48640
      @firefighter48640 9 месяцев назад +22

      Just be happy to have one of you beautiful woman

    • @kanaksikarwar223
      @kanaksikarwar223 9 месяцев назад +43

      ​@@wintvibesYes they truly does 😂I was recently in same deliemma bcoz I remembered how I told people that I don't like to wear makeup and I have never played with dolls but only video games nd other stuff as I have 2 brothers then I felt like but I never look down on anyone why should I be ashamed!

  • @Dickerson888
    @Dickerson888 9 месяцев назад +11639

    I hate that women denigrate other women. They crush their spirit.

    • @vanessavanessa6311
      @vanessavanessa6311 9 месяцев назад +38

      Me to

    • @Skipping-skips
      @Skipping-skips 9 месяцев назад +30

      Agreed!

    • @basil_awan3
      @basil_awan3 9 месяцев назад +74

      meanwhile my mom and aunts rn: "im still body shaming her "

    • @rosealpha2054
      @rosealpha2054 9 месяцев назад +42

      Exactly. We should be supporting each other.
      ✨Girl power✨

    • @TH3_DUCK_K1NG
      @TH3_DUCK_K1NG 9 месяцев назад +9

      ​@@basil_awan3OMG SAME 😭😭

  • @FairyInHandcuffs
    @FairyInHandcuffs 4 месяца назад +586

    I once got called a pick me by a 5th grader for having *bangs.* *BANGS.*

    • @GenshinGanyu.
      @GenshinGanyu. 4 месяца назад +64

      Wtf- that fifth grader called like more than half of the female population a ‘pick me’ 💀

    • @AmeyaSathyaraj
      @AmeyaSathyaraj 3 месяца назад +9

      I am in the 9th grade and I have bangs because it is the only hairstyle that suits me 😊😂

    • @FairyInHandcuffs
      @FairyInHandcuffs 3 месяца назад +1

      @@GenshinGanyu. LOL

    • @sukidrawsandedits
      @sukidrawsandedits 3 месяца назад +7

      Samee. I was also called a “pick me” by other girls for freaking TALKING to guys???!! Like tf?

    • @Starstelqre_never_dies
      @Starstelqre_never_dies 2 месяца назад +4

      ​​@@sukidrawsandeditsfr and that guy is my cousin 💀💀

  • @rachelleyburadjeffery8871
    @rachelleyburadjeffery8871 8 месяцев назад +452

    Remember, "dogs bark when they Don't know the person."

    • @loma7652
      @loma7652 4 месяца назад +8

      They also bark when they see a demon and ghost

    • @His_Princess619
      @His_Princess619 4 месяца назад +5

      All animals are too good, some people sometimes though are.. they are a little yikes

  • @fa11ingleaves
    @fa11ingleaves 9 месяцев назад +4008

    “she just does sports for attention! she’s trying too hard 🙄”
    now THAT’S a pick me

    • @Yotsuba349
      @Yotsuba349 8 месяцев назад +116

      Keep rolling your eyes until you see how your brain is small💀

    • @amytrezy2307
      @amytrezy2307 8 месяцев назад +37

      ​@@Yotsuba349bruh 😂😂😂

    • @AyaT-ky1jg
      @AyaT-ky1jg 8 месяцев назад +12

      What's tomboy

    • @Nicenegative_fox
      @Nicenegative_fox 8 месяцев назад +60

      Yall are missing the point shes saying people that say that are pick me😅😅😅

    • @Idiot_103
      @Idiot_103 8 месяцев назад +56

      ​@@AyaT-ky1jgA tomboy is a girl that has hobbies or interests that men typically have, for example, a girl who likes wearing more "boy-ish" clothing or likes playing video games.

  • @cocoz792
    @cocoz792 9 месяцев назад +363

    exactly, so many people will call a girl a pick me for no reason

  • @mayyym
    @mayyym 8 месяцев назад +72

    There’s a girl name Eris in my home room and she is a pick me. She turned everyone against me and whispers secrets about me for wearing pink- she hangs out with boys and dyes her hair. And she has a voice that no one wants to hear and everybody somehow likes her. That’s a real problem. But just because you were boy clothes or have friends that are boys you aren’t a pick me. Putting down other girls is called a pick me, literally.

    • @ZFA16
      @ZFA16 2 месяца назад +3

      That genuinely sounds terrible I’m so sorry😢

    • @dorisvito3150
      @dorisvito3150 26 дней назад

      And why are you judging her for her voice or for her dyeing her hair? I don't see how that she Puts you down for male attention. She puts you down, yes! But that automatically doesn't mean that she is doing that because she wants attention of the boys.

    • @ZFA16
      @ZFA16 22 дня назад

      @@dorisvito3150 bro she probably is that’s why they are saying this.

    • @dorisvito3150
      @dorisvito3150 22 дня назад

      @@ZFA16 but she didn't write it. She counted so many other things about her, but not what a Pick me girl really is

    • @ZFA16
      @ZFA16 20 дней назад

      @@dorisvito3150 true but I still feel bad and even if she is not a pick me she still sounds like a bitch.

  • @The_Green_Shapeshifter
    @The_Green_Shapeshifter 7 месяцев назад +123

    I was friends with someone, who would complement someone and as soon as they walk away say something like “who would wear that it’s so ugly” she would constantly put over people down

  • @Wonyoung2341obesssesd
    @Wonyoung2341obesssesd 9 месяцев назад +4984

    Love you don’t let anyone discourage you from doing anything you do

    • @ClaraDao
      @ClaraDao  9 месяцев назад +422

      love youuu

    • @pixelzebra8440
      @pixelzebra8440 9 месяцев назад +30

      @ClaraDao I love how when people pointed out in another video that you might be insinuating that everyone who does these things is a pick-me, instead of getting mad you chose to clarify it with this video. Thanks! It shows you really do try to understand and improve

    • @obsessedwitu
      @obsessedwitu 9 месяцев назад +7

      ​@@ClaraDaoi love you

    • @freshpapy300
      @freshpapy300 9 месяцев назад +4

      ​@@ClaraDaoI'm having a hard time being friends with girls, being friends with guys is easier for me. Does that mean I'm a pick me?😢

    • @ILove101.
      @ILove101. 9 месяцев назад +4

      ​​@@ClaraDaothank youuu!
      I was always confused,cs I kinda felt like a pick me for not wearing make up,and wearing baggy clothes,....So this helpd me!💗

  • @EarthaMk
    @EarthaMk 9 месяцев назад +731

    shout out to all the genuine girls girls 💕

  • @Colorfully467
    @Colorfully467 8 месяцев назад +22

    'You're not a nerd just because you're study and reading:)'

  • @Haz3lshere
    @Haz3lshere 8 месяцев назад +39

    My friend talked to me about how she felt like a pick-me girl because she mentioned that she was on a diet and didn't have dessert with some other friends. I was heartbroken that just because she didn't feel confident in herself and wanted to be thinner caused her to think people would dislike her. Thanks for making this video, because I feel like a lot of girls are called pick-me girls for genuinely thinking they're ugly or stupid.

    • @Gofex1337
      @Gofex1337 4 месяца назад

      Men and women have different definitions of a pick me girl. The irony is that the female version is pretty pick me.

  • @Bidet_10
    @Bidet_10 9 месяцев назад +457

    my classmates called me a pick me for doing nothing but just be friends with a guy... And they called me cringe but i already stop... I definitely did nothing but just be myself

    • @HopeCrenshaw-hz3nd
      @HopeCrenshaw-hz3nd 9 месяцев назад +60

      Be friends with people who make you happy, no matter what gender they are.

    • @candy-stars
      @candy-stars 8 месяцев назад +37

      Call her cringe back for being so invested in you and who you’re friends with. You deserve to be friends with whoever you want.. I’m sorry you’re being picked on. You’re not a pick me for being yourself.

    • @tyw3537
      @tyw3537 8 месяцев назад +9

      That's called they were hating on you for being someone who the guy would pick 😂. There's a huge difference between attention seeking women (the pick me's) vs a woman just being herself.

    • @serenitysubs933
      @serenitysubs933 8 месяцев назад +2

      Jealous girls idk atp

    • @vyiera.
      @vyiera. 8 месяцев назад +2

      same here, they fr just calling me a pick me jst bc I make friends with boys, I also make friends with girls
      I dont get it why r they calling me a pick me, the fact that the girl who called me a pick me, is rlly seeking attention from the boys, she literally flirting with many boys in my class, like girl get a mirror.

  • @wandaboatrite8043
    @wandaboatrite8043 9 месяцев назад +972

    This is so great that someone recognizes the difference! I was called a pick me for the longest time, just being a tomboy❤️❤️

    • @ClaraDao
      @ClaraDao  9 месяцев назад +86

      ❤❤❤

    • @Rylie_1604
      @Rylie_1604 9 месяцев назад +6

      Yess❤

    • @annikaninaellequormoran212
      @annikaninaellequormoran212 9 месяцев назад +8

      Aww For me I also been called pick me just because I play with boys 😊

    • @annikaninaellequormoran212
      @annikaninaellequormoran212 9 месяцев назад +2

      I'm so grateful thay Clara really made me feel better cause half of my classmates think am a "pick me"

    • @Ka-Chow95_
      @Ka-Chow95_ 9 месяцев назад +12

      Same, a girl in my class calls me a pick me whenever she sees me and basically hates me when I haven’t done anything to her

  • @Wonys_Home
    @Wonys_Home 6 месяцев назад +4

    And you're not a pick me if you like pink, you're not a pick me if you like playing football and you're not a pick me if you like the way you look.

  • @Xiangqui_
    @Xiangqui_ 4 месяца назад +14

    There is also a difference between egotistic girls and pick Me’s 👍

  • @fossilia2341
    @fossilia2341 8 месяцев назад +809

    I love how Clara reads the comments on her shorts on pick me girls. Lots of people who are tomboys were worried they were pick mes. Clara is so nice for responding by making a video reassuring them❤❤

  • @niniplayz9629
    @niniplayz9629 8 месяцев назад +459

    “We support women,not bitches”
    “We support men,not assholes”

  • @jackielee8669
    @jackielee8669 6 месяцев назад +7

    Tysm for this video Clara❤, I’ve always been called a pick me for wearing “boy” clothes and roughhousing, OR knowing stuff about building or cars, that I knew bc my dad taught me!?, and people would say “Ohhhh ur a pick me bc u don’t wear makeup!” so I would show them I’m wearing makeup and then they would be like “Ugh, ur using makeup?, it’s not good 4 women🙄” like- what😀, but once again tysm for this vid❤

  • @Foxface770
    @Foxface770 Месяц назад +2

    This is the best description of a pick me girl that I've ever seen

  • @IL0V3_GOJO
    @IL0V3_GOJO 8 месяцев назад +398

    As someone who is a tomboy and doesn’t feel comfortable in dresses and makeup getting a wolfcut has made me gain my confidence and up I avoid male friends because it’s the only way I can think of avoiding being called “pick me”. I’ve only got 1 male friend 💀

    • @jolynesenpai
      @jolynesenpai 7 месяцев назад +25

      Don't avoid them, feel free to lake friends not based on gender ❤

    • @acegardianarocrat
      @acegardianarocrat 6 месяцев назад +16

      don't let society limit your friendships! I'm a tomboy too and I've got equal proportion of male and female friends

    • @Nnycin
      @Nnycin 6 месяцев назад

      I can't be friends with girls. Idk just they dont like me, and I dont like them. For me every girl in school its danger cause everyone is like impostor

    • @HenrySimmons1225
      @HenrySimmons1225 6 месяцев назад +1

      Not wearing makeup doesn't make you a tomboy-

    • @acegardianarocrat
      @acegardianarocrat 6 месяцев назад +13

      @@HenrySimmons1225 she said she's a tomboy AND doesn't like makeup. Not that she's a tomboy BECAUSE she doesn't like makeup. Two mutually different things

  • @shradharitash
    @shradharitash 9 месяцев назад +787

    This made me so comfortable knowing even if I’m not a complete tomboy, im still called pick me. But Clara made me so happy about myself- Love u Clara❤️ my role model💖✨

    • @ReplyIfyoumad
      @ReplyIfyoumad 9 месяцев назад +13

      Dont listen to them other little girls that be hating

    • @chiaracirillo8662
      @chiaracirillo8662 9 месяцев назад +17

      I agree, once I commented under a video: "I'm not a pick me because I don't wear makeup, I just hate the feeling of it" and another person commented: "Yes you are"

    • @Savannah-qb4bb
      @Savannah-qb4bb 9 месяцев назад +2

      @@chiaracirillo8662 oof. i've never tried makeup since it'd make my acne worse, so just be grateful you can even wear it

    • @jess_thenb756
      @jess_thenb756 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@chiaracirillo8662I get that, I wish the makeup that isn’t gross feeling on the skin was cheaper and could be found in stores instead of just online :(

    • @OBrien-hi9zq
      @OBrien-hi9zq 3 месяца назад

      @@Savannah-qb4bbOMG SAMMMEEE it makes my eczema rlly bad even though I'd love to wear it!! Cant:/

  • @Elllie-ec8fu
    @Elllie-ec8fu 5 месяцев назад +4

    Thank you for this Clara. Everyone always calls me pick me when I want to just be me- the kind of girl who just happens to want to play basketball instead of volleyball. I really needed to hear this. I love your channel- you have helped so so so many people

  • @mehakshetty3527
    @mehakshetty3527 4 месяца назад +1

    This was a much needed video for everyone to understand that a girl can't be called a pick me for her genuine choices to not wear make-up or play video games etc. A pick me gorl is ANY girl that puts a woman down for attention

  • @mumatsi
    @mumatsi 8 месяцев назад +1733

    Thank you Clara, I really needed to hear this because I've always been called pick me by other people for liking masculine things and having male friends
    I love all my girlies, I would never insult them for the things they enjoy ❤

    • @coco-kl3xr
      @coco-kl3xr 8 месяцев назад +15

      that is sweet

    • @bingbong6323
      @bingbong6323 8 месяцев назад +34

      that's the annoying thing that happens when people overuse and end up misusing terms. i genuinely am interested in women (romantically), and always am a girl's girl. but the fact that i have more guy friends than girl friends, the fact that i tend to say i don't like wearing dresses, etc. but i also have a naturally very high pitched voice. many people call me a pick me simply because of those things, wth?

    • @mumatsi
      @mumatsi 8 месяцев назад +12

      @@bingbong6323 Same here, I am also LGBT (aromantic asexual) and it seems like most of us got called pick me's by other people

    • @evianakrumova8078
      @evianakrumova8078 6 месяцев назад +1

      Exactly, you're so understanding.😊

    • @cora8064
      @cora8064 4 месяца назад

      to be honest I hate when I was looking like a boy and accidentally blurted it out, my friend that day called me a pick me

  • @icarusxedits
    @icarusxedits 9 месяцев назад +122

    Tbh some people would probably think I’m a pick me because I don’t go around complimenting people. I don’t mean it bad or anything, I just have trouble approaching people even without a compliment. I usually talk as less as possible, probably due to my social anxiety.

    • @HopeCrenshaw-hz3nd
      @HopeCrenshaw-hz3nd 9 месяцев назад +18

      Same. If you are not putting down other people of the same gender as you to make yourself look better and receive attention then you are not a pick me.

    • @HopeCrenshaw-hz3nd
      @HopeCrenshaw-hz3nd 9 месяцев назад +7

      However take any chance to lift someone up who you fell comfortable talking to. I’m good at complimenting my friends or people online but not so much with people who I see in person but don’t know very well. I’ve been trying to work on that. It’s scary but it feels good to make someone else happy.

  • @blueb3rry_246
    @blueb3rry_246 5 месяцев назад +2

    this woman is the inspiration this generation needs. Thank you for helping me build confidence in myself.

  • @kitk9622
    @kitk9622 3 месяца назад +2

    I really needed this. I have been calekd a pick me for YEARS because of my relationship with boys, and people wont stop making romours abt crushes, boys and me, and I am so happy soembody finally notices how not all girls and tomboys are pick me's.

  • @AidenClark123
    @AidenClark123 9 месяцев назад +361

    This makes me so comfortable all because i have alot of friends who are boys and i usually wear tomboy clothes and i always play video games. Thank you clara this has made me really happy about myself ❤️

    • @haleys5539
      @haleys5539 8 месяцев назад +3

      Litterally me

    • @zioyuu__
      @zioyuu__ 8 месяцев назад +3

      I have the same thing happen to me but I’m more friends with other females

    • @BlueberrysAndStrawberrys154
      @BlueberrysAndStrawberrys154 8 месяцев назад +3

      same literally 13 boy best friends and 7 girl best friends and nothings wrong with it

    • @AidenClark123
      @AidenClark123 8 месяцев назад +1

      @@zioyuu__ same

    • @AidenClark123
      @AidenClark123 8 месяцев назад +1

      @@BlueberrysAndStrawberrys154 woah you have alot of friends

  • @simpforjdb
    @simpforjdb 9 месяцев назад +760

    She makes me feel so confident and loved🥹 Love you clara. Always and forever.

  • @enhacantsayNAUR
    @enhacantsayNAUR 7 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you so much, this girl in my class bullies me because I hang out with boys, she puts other girls down and never complements any one. She has a crush on one of my guy friends and I am competition to her so she puts me down even though i dont like them. So thanks Clara, also she calls me a Pick me when shes the only pick me. I told her to research the definition so she will figure out shes the only pick me. Shes honestly a toxic b, but shes the least of my worries ❤❤

  • @suviilms
    @suviilms 7 месяцев назад +6

    I gotta send this to my friend. Came up to me in school one day and asked me this question and I couldn’t explain the difference fully but this would explain it to her

  • @queenspacegirl1393
    @queenspacegirl1393 9 месяцев назад +104

    Thank you for saying this,I’m so tired of tomboyish girls getting called pick mes for no reason 😭

  • @bunnix_aura
    @bunnix_aura 9 месяцев назад +32

    I constantly get called a pick me girl. I have lots of guy friends, even a boyfriend. Yes, I have friends that are girls too, but I have more guy friends. There was this one dumb girl named Jackie and she called me a pick me for getting mad at my brother for calling me a nickname I hate and apparently saying “ugh.” I was cutting myself for years, but when I met my boyfriend I got so much better. He honestly saved me. I dress kind of tomboy-ish sometimes. I dress girly sometimes. But I’m not a pick me. And all my friends can agree on that. I don’t like too much attention, I only like attention from the ones I love the most. There’s this girl in my class who is an actual pick me, she tries to talk to every single boy in class and rolls her eye at every girl that she talks to- like bro???

    • @HopeCrenshaw-hz3nd
      @HopeCrenshaw-hz3nd 9 месяцев назад +9

      I’m glad you found someone who helped you get through that.

    • @ParanormalShylo
      @ParanormalShylo 8 месяцев назад +1

      Hey that’s awesome you’re in a great place.
      I’d like to politely point out the whole point of the video is saying, “pick me” is viewing other women as competiton. Not about being tomboy or girly or how many boys someone talks to.
      Pick me is someone who can’t be friends with their own gender.
      I hope that helps.

    • @ParanormalShylo
      @ParanormalShylo 8 месяцев назад

      Competition in eachother or in leu of men

  • @Lisathecutestandprettiest
    @Lisathecutestandprettiest 4 месяца назад +2

    As a tomboy I can agree with all of these
    Even on RUclips in tomboy dressing videos you can still find comments that will say ohh wearing boyish clothes such a pick me and I am not like other girls behavior , this is so common

  • @arigainey9104
    @arigainey9104 6 месяцев назад +2

    I love, I genuinely love giving people compliments in the hallway, people, I don't know because I know I always feel so happy when I get a compliment from a stranger, because it doesn't happen very often, and I love giving other people that joy

  • @Its_Halley
    @Its_Halley 8 месяцев назад +69

    God, I needed these words, I am the typical girl who grew up surrounded by boys (my cousins and brother) so I tend to be more fond of "masculine" things, and since women tend to put you down, I have come to think that boys may be best friends than some girls (Still most of my friends are girls), but I always see that girls like me are called "pick me" and it makes me a little sad to see how other girls (mostly my friends) talk about things like makeup and I don't understand a word they say, so thank you, it made me feel so much better 💓

    • @M4riqxx
      @M4riqxx 4 месяца назад +4

      I relate to this whole paragraph lol

    • @Oderoderuchte
      @Oderoderuchte 4 месяца назад

      Relate too

    • @Gofex1337
      @Gofex1337 4 месяца назад +1

      Just ignore it honestly. Men and women have different definitions of what a pick me is, and the female definition is actually quite pick me lmao.

  • @starrshort6403
    @starrshort6403 9 месяцев назад +36

    Thank you , I don’t wear make up and I play video games but I am NOT a pick me girl, I’m friends with many girls and boys and I don’t see girls as competition. I love you Clara thank you for making me feel more comfortable and confident about my body ❤❤❤

  • @shanitasarwar76
    @shanitasarwar76 27 дней назад

    My neighbour who is a woman used to hate me playing sports and her behavior around me made me lose confidence, you helped me gain it, so thank you so much!❤

  • @missstranger7697
    @missstranger7697 7 месяцев назад +1

    This was a very important message you spread throughout the video... Thank you!!💯👏🔝🤩
    I used to be a pick me, because I was having a hard time getting along with my older sister and we were fighting... But now that we grew into adults, we started to appreciate and care for each other more!! We had each other and this boosted our confidence to get along with guys as well!

  • @LittleFoxFriend
    @LittleFoxFriend 9 месяцев назад +116

    Thank you so much for this video

    • @ClaraDao
      @ClaraDao  9 месяцев назад +14

      love you 💙🦋

    • @D0ghnut509
      @D0ghnut509 9 месяцев назад +6

      Do whatever makes you happy gurl! Don’t let others get to you

  • @ily279
    @ily279 9 месяцев назад +36

    i’m so glad you pointed this out! pick me is a personality/mind set not a certain aesthetic. love you always Clara💞💓

  • @Dan1Lee
    @Dan1Lee 5 месяцев назад +1

    Honestly this girl inspires me a lot and she’s probably one of my favorite people and she has such a beautiful soul and she’s so beautiful aswell and I love her confidence so much💛💛

  • @_Lvnar_Eclipzz
    @_Lvnar_Eclipzz 8 месяцев назад +34

    THANKS YOU FOR SAYING THESE!!! all my friends call me a pick me and I was soooo freaking angry and sad with them!! I will send them this vid now.

  • @ChangbinsThirdToenail
    @ChangbinsThirdToenail 9 месяцев назад +32

    Thank you so much for saying this! A lot of girls I know would call me a pick me just because I would always show up wearing baggy clothes (it was usually pajamas💀) and no makeup, and most of my friends were guys. but that’s just cuz I’m tired asf, and all the girls were so mean-like-😭

  • @KotokoUtsugi-
    @KotokoUtsugi- 8 месяцев назад +2

    I was called a pick me for saying i dont lik wearing makeup because it feels uncomfortable for me 😢

  • @user-jn3cw8zi6x
    @user-jn3cw8zi6x 8 дней назад +1

    THX SO MUCH FOR THIS!
    I am a tomboy but I’m called a pick me just because I get along with boys more than girl.

  • @xcutesypandaxii6198
    @xcutesypandaxii6198 9 месяцев назад +29

    Thank you so much for this Clara. I’ve been called a pick-me girl so much before because I’m a girl and don’t wear makeup because I like to be natural. But that’s just me, it just kinda feels right- 😭 Tysm for this video i feel way better

    • @adanna_sunshie
      @adanna_sunshie 8 месяцев назад +4

      Same, but people at school call me trans or a boy because i look like one. I have a broad jawline that make it look that way.
      People at my school make fun of me, even though I was born a girl and stayed a girl, I have never once stated that I was trans or liked girls.
      Most assume I am a boy because of the way I dress. I go with hoodies because they are comfortable. I have curly short hair and I dont like sports. I like running or cross country, I am interested in makeup, unfortunately I'm not confident enough to wear it yet.
      Some girls at school are trying to convince other girls at school that I'm a lesbian when I just try to be nice. 😢
      Because of that bullies have been purposly telling others to stay away.
      Its so embarrassing. I just want everyone to know I'm a girl and let it stay that way.

    • @indigo_0
      @indigo_0 8 месяцев назад +4

      @@adanna_sunshie homophobic or super gay, i hate that we all stereotype what’s for guys or girls and what’s considered “gay” or not. take for example people getting mad over harry styles wearing a dress because he’s not “gay enough” to wear it. like, why do we have to attach that to just an article of clothing? it’s so contradictory when you say “clothes have no gender” one minute, and then go shit on people on twitter for looking too masculine or feminine.
      and also, please don’t let those people get into your head.
      (i feel like i’m not using the best wording while typing this so take it with a grain of salt)

  • @Creative_StudioMic
    @Creative_StudioMic 8 месяцев назад +152

    There was a girl, who called me "a pick me" for hanging out with a group of guys. She assumed that I crave for their attention.
    I stared at her. And said: "I can't love people as romantical partners and it ruined a few of my previous relationships. If you love one of my male friends - go on, pick any of them, I don't mind."
    She got extremely embarrassed in a matter of seconds. We're on good terms now.

    • @SydneyAussi
      @SydneyAussi 8 месяцев назад +6

      oh!

    • @acegardianarocrat
      @acegardianarocrat 6 месяцев назад +17

      being an aromantic ace hanging out with a group of guys:

  • @MiraJune742
    @MiraJune742 3 месяца назад +1

    "Pick me girl" Translation: An insecure, attention seeking bully 🙃
    Are you an insecure, attention seeking, bully? No? Congratulations! You're not a "pick me"!
    Hope this helps

  • @C4S267
    @C4S267 7 дней назад

    Thank you a lot for saying this! Many people assume I’m a pick me for these reasons, even though my father influenced me a lot! :)

  • @killerwolf9024
    @killerwolf9024 8 месяцев назад +271

    Thank you for the reassurance ❤️
    I’m always really scared of my actions because I’m afraid of being seen as a pick me when in reality I’m just trying to live my life

  • @Scaraaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
    @Scaraaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa 8 месяцев назад +14

    I honestly really needed this, whenever i see a vid with a pick me girl saying they dont wear makeup i feel like a pick me and i constantly try to explain to myself that im not a pick me for not wearing make up i really loved this and it helped me be more happy with being myself

    • @etcwhatever
      @etcwhatever 8 месяцев назад

      Dont listen to others opinion. If you are a good person with good intentions then dont worry for a second with others opinions.

    • @CaffeinatedAndCrazy-7734
      @CaffeinatedAndCrazy-7734 8 месяцев назад +2

      Personally, I almost never wear makeup except for theatre. Part of the reason is because I have no clue where my makeup is, but it's mostly because I don't think to or see the point of it. If I'm being totally honest, it has nothing to do with how every girl is beautiful and should be proud of their natural appearance. I am very self-conscious at times about how I look. It's because if you give me art supplies (which makeup more or less is, just for your face) I am going to want to mess around and experiment with it. Eyeshadow and lipstick you can do that with. The other stuff? Not so much.

  • @Michelle-nn5sm
    @Michelle-nn5sm 6 месяцев назад

    THANK YOU! You are a life saver and a good figure for us to look up upon! I’ve been called a “Pick me” before and I did not like it. I could never imagine you as a pick me, you are good at acting like one but I know you’d never actually do that to someone else

  • @tfreymiller
    @tfreymiller 8 месяцев назад +2

    As a women I to was and am like this and let me tell you it was a pain in the ass, people will always call be gay or a boy in school and girls did have a crush on me. That’s when people would spread rumors about me saying I would date those girls or that I was lying about my personality. I lost “friends” and it fucking sucked and I still get messed like this in middle school. It doesn’t matter if you are a tomboy, play video games or if you like the same gender none of that matters, what matters is you and that is final.
    Love men and women the way they are💙

  • @laurenc1226
    @laurenc1226 8 месяцев назад +11

    i know a pick me girl. she starts “fake fights” with our teacher on the dumbest things and always ends up being the only one wrong. she texted my friend and called her living head ache. she also does soooo much for attention and always puts others down. she’s the worst and most annoying kid in my class.

  • @AAAinsley_LOVES_YOU
    @AAAinsley_LOVES_YOU 8 месяцев назад +1

    Tell me if I miss anything or get anything wrong.
    Definition of a pick me: a girl who disowns other girls and makes other girls feel bad for doing or having something that doesn't match her, or can't see any girl succeed, the girl who can't be nice to her own gender, and this is mostly for male attention.
    Pick me does not always mean a girl who is a tomboy, wears no makeup, and plays games.
    (This was just a test comment for me to copy and paste but I wasted too much time so I want my work public)

  • @rozgal
    @rozgal 6 месяцев назад +1

    THANK YOU! a woman can play video games and not wear dresses and not be a pick me. thank for clarifying for all the confused people out there

  • @BLACK_P34RLS
    @BLACK_P34RLS 8 месяцев назад +51

    That one girl on webtoon :
    *COUGH * RASHTA *COUGH*SUMIN

  • @Justmahya
    @Justmahya 8 месяцев назад +19

    Yes absolutely true, ty for this!!
    I honestly think ppl should be themselves after all ur living for urself and ppl who just judge ppl like that is just not good, be urself and be genuine and nice to ppl after all we are all human and we have more in common than we think. Thanks clara for this video it truly means a lot!

  • @Meku_Bunni
    @Meku_Bunni 8 месяцев назад +1

    I get called a pick me for having no friends that are girls. But you know none of the Girls in my school wants to be friends with me and anytime they have them friends with me with. They were fake Like they talk about me behind my back😢❤

  • @dawn_bubble-tea
    @dawn_bubble-tea 8 месяцев назад

    People call me a pick me because I do these things. This really relives me because I was really trying to be someone Im not❤

  • @Samh0615
    @Samh0615 9 месяцев назад +3

    Thank you for this! When the term “pick me girl” first started gaining traction, a lot of girls that aren’t really feminine, have “boyish” interests, and have guy friends were immediately labeled as such. As one of those girls, it just seemed like we were being picked on for being different (again). You aren’t a “pick me girl” because of how you look or because of your interests or because of the gender of your friends. You’re a “pick me girl” if you put other women down so you can get male approval, plan and simple.

  • @YugiAmane69
    @YugiAmane69 9 месяцев назад +4

    I love to see people talking and pointing out the differences between a tomboy and a pick me thank you 💖💖💖

  • @SuperStarryR
    @SuperStarryR 4 месяца назад +1

    LITERALLLLYYYYY
    Like I don't wear makeup or fancy clothes on a regular basis just because I'm lazy lol, but I *love* complimenting my girlfriends on their fashion skills! and I'll let them put makeup on me in class or wtv cuz it's a fun bonding experience! and when I *do* put more effort into how I look, it's usually for a special occasion or something, and I *love* going all out then.
    It's a case-by-case basis guys. I know people who wear Gucci dresses every day and I know people who's entire wardrobe consists of hoodies.
    And you wanna know something?
    They all *rock* their looks 😘
    So if anyone's bothered to read this far... 😅
    Rock your look too, boo! Wear what makes *you* feel good, and that confidence will show ♡

  • @Angie-Garcia967
    @Angie-Garcia967 8 месяцев назад

    Omg this is so true so one of my “friends” that i am now not friends with called my best friend a pick me even though my best friend compliments,doesn’t seek for attention,and doesn’t really have that much male friends

  • @someone.fromsomewhere.
    @someone.fromsomewhere. 8 месяцев назад +11

    A lot of people call me a pick me, except I’m a girly girl who is always in support of other girls. I love uplifting others, seeing someone become confident is something that always makes me happy. But people still call me a pick me and I don’t understand why?

    • @RuanMei_SocietyGenius
      @RuanMei_SocietyGenius 8 месяцев назад +4

      Cuz people are jealous of you and your personality, probably

    • @HarryPotterandmaraunders
      @HarryPotterandmaraunders 8 месяцев назад

      I think if you change your whole personality your a pick me not if you like masculine things

    • @illuminaticonfirmed1389
      @illuminaticonfirmed1389 7 месяцев назад +5

      because people don’t know what a pick me is and they’re dumb.

    • @HarryPotterandmaraunders
      @HarryPotterandmaraunders 7 месяцев назад

      @@illuminaticonfirmed1389hi o just wanted to ask if you are replying to @someone.fromsomwhere

    • @OBrien-hi9zq
      @OBrien-hi9zq 3 месяца назад

      @@HarryPotterandmaraundersThat literally makes no sense... a pick me is someone who puts down other women for sake of male validation/just to be "different"! Having a sense of style is fine and doesn't correlate unless you're putting others down!

  • @elliefishh
    @elliefishh 8 месяцев назад +6

    I have trouble complimenting other people. It's not because I don't want to or think they're not worthy of it, it's because I just can't. my love language just isn't words of affirmation. My love language is physical touch. I hug my friends, don't tell them their shoes are cute (sometimes I do). I do compliment people but I feel like it doesn't do anything or they don't appreciate it when I do.

    • @AnnabethOwl
      @AnnabethOwl 8 месяцев назад

      This is so true for me as well- I also just have a really hard time with words when talking to people including friend(partly because I’m neurodivergent) so i rarely compliment people but I show my platonic love for them in other ways.

  • @WHAT_WOULD_JESUS_DOOO
    @WHAT_WOULD_JESUS_DOOO 7 месяцев назад

    Honestly my opinion is “Don’t make fun of people because how they act and how they are” and I will stand by that because saying what pick Me’s are and making fun is not right it’s like making fun of someone in general but instead your not making fun of them your making fun of how they act. Just because someone can’t be friends with there own gender doesn’t mean there a pick me they probably feel comfortable and secure in other words when there with girls they feel less secure. That’s how I am I feel more safe around guys and that’s my opinion. BE KIND!❤

  • @Saitama-Saitama
    @Saitama-Saitama 8 месяцев назад +1

    FACTS!! My friend got called pick me girl by a pick me girl just because my friend only have male friends she call her pick me but when we called her a pick me she got mad I hate her so much

  • @Mikuameyama
    @Mikuameyama 8 месяцев назад +7

    I remember when I was called a pick me by an actual pick me. I made friends with a nice boy, and the girl joined. She said "That missy needs to leave" And brought me down, and she made herself look better in front of him. Then they called me a pick me, so did the boy because the girl made me look bad. It felt so bad, but I'm glad i dumped them. I developed androphobia ever since then and I distance myself from boys.

    • @user-xn5bm3fo9m
      @user-xn5bm3fo9m 6 месяцев назад

      Tbh I don't like being friends with guys not that i dont wanna be a pick me or called one its just like that in my relgion. If a girl is a pick me we dont call her that, we call her a "hoe/bitch". Pick me's also get spanked in my relgion.

  • @Anormalmalaysian
    @Anormalmalaysian 8 месяцев назад +14

    I once smacked my guy friends back and the girls just looked at me and they were just waiting for me to give a smug look 😭

  • @Bumblebeestripes
    @Bumblebeestripes 2 месяца назад +1

    My best friend tried to befriend a new girl, was super sweet to her. Few days ago the new girl and some guys sat in our row for church service. Shes always loud and apparently is even when shes trying to whisper because my friend clearly heard her say "You're going to make me sit next to HER?"
    That girl does not realize nobody likes her at our youth group, she a pick me and we all see it expect for two other pick me girls, the only one who really tried to be her friend she was rude to. I almost fought her.
    My friend was ready to cry, she was so so hurt

  • @aimeeclarkson-williams3706
    @aimeeclarkson-williams3706 4 месяца назад

    Every girl is beautiful and special, just remember to be kind and loyal to everyone you meet ❤

  • @user-uc2eq1oi3f
    @user-uc2eq1oi3f 9 месяцев назад +6

    Okay but why are TOMBOYS just so sweet because most of my friends are and they are always like “HEY you mess with my girls you go through me!” And they are like the soldiers for woman

  • @Dxrk320
    @Dxrk320 9 месяцев назад +19

    Clara has made my life better

  • @btsbangtan3081
    @btsbangtan3081 8 месяцев назад

    Shes so pretty omg

  • @dwi5582
    @dwi5582 8 месяцев назад +1

    Who in the right mind do sports only for attention? It's for health! As someone with many relatives with all kinds of diseases, I always keep my body and mind healthy by hitting the gym at least twice a week, learning martial arts, making sure I consume all the nutritious foods I need, and sleep early. And because of my acne prone skin, I can't even use makeup 😩
    Thanks Clara, for pointing out that these things don't make you a pick me girl 🫂

  • @rhvlaso
    @rhvlaso 8 месяцев назад +4

    I used to be called a pick me for doing all that but the person who called me that got karma now half the whole school doesn’t like her because of me she always wanted big attention when I had it then called me spoiled, pick me, annoying, and centre of attention now she has caused so much damage to me I’ll never be mentally fine.

  • @user-gh4dq7kq5w
    @user-gh4dq7kq5w 9 месяцев назад +10

    You are literally my idol for being this much strong against mean comments.❤Lovee youuu so much clara dear!!!(even god doesn't know how much😂😂)

  • @tangerinedreamfan9973
    @tangerinedreamfan9973 2 дня назад

    There's a difference between pick me girls and women who have been traumatized by other women.

  • @bakageyama222
    @bakageyama222 2 месяца назад

    I’m a tomboy and I don’t wear makeup and nor do I play games lol but still this gave me so much confidence, you’re not pick me if you’re doing something which is labeled as “masculine” or “for the boys”, honestly that a good thing that a girl found what she truly enjoys.
    You’re a pick me if you put other women down for male attention. So don’t be a pick me guys!

  • @Anthonnixe
    @Anthonnixe 9 месяцев назад +13

    This made me feel comfortable.

  • @Katiee_IsDeAd
    @Katiee_IsDeAd 8 месяцев назад +5

    I actually got called "pick me" today for doing such things like being a tomboy and everything so u really made my day Clara not everything but most of the things ❤❤😊

  • @Fern_Silly
    @Fern_Silly 8 месяцев назад

    This actually makes me feel better about myself for being a gamer, and wearing hoodies all the time

  • @Mal_Productions_Was_Taken
    @Mal_Productions_Was_Taken 7 месяцев назад +1

    I actually have a best friend who is a boy in my first period class! He has the same interests as me. We have a genuine friendship!

  • @N3on_le0N
    @N3on_le0N 8 месяцев назад +1

    I have a lot of guy and girl friends (also in between) and I also don’t like wearing that much dresses or skirts and sometimes I just wonder if I do it for attention but this helped me, thank you :D🫶

  • @Graceemm2
    @Graceemm2 9 месяцев назад +16

    Don’t let anyone tell u what u can and can’t do it’s not healthy❤

  • @Zivziv293
    @Zivziv293 9 месяцев назад +4

    This is so right, one time when I was in school i got into a school for people that more smart and when i said that to her she said that i cheated and make fun of me

  • @lg0804
    @lg0804 5 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you for this. I grew up with two brothers so I was used to play video games and kinda act like a tomboy. Also, being the youngest child (and pretty short) I was kinda used to being babied. So while I was in junior high, I would only hang out with the boys (they even called me dude). I did have a crush on one of them, so honestly I sometimes think I was kind of a pick me. I mean I wasn't forcing myself to act like "one of the boys", it was really natural, but still - I did take advantage of this status and thought it was cool not to be like "the other girls". Even tho I was young I'm kind of ashamed now because the boys eventually got sick of it and even rejected me at some point (we got reconciliated after tho). But I never tried to put other women down. I guess I did have stereotypes about the girls around me - but I would not try to make them look bad or anything, ESPECIALLY after I got humbled. So this video really helps me to accept my tomboy personality and realise the line between pick me and just tomboy.

  • @MATERIALG1RLL
    @MATERIALG1RLL 4 месяца назад +1

    Love this. There’s a girl in my year, Who wears makeup, but then in front of the boys will go up to a girl and be like “ewww are you wearing mascara! I could never.. I’m just like- more natural you know?” That’s a *pick me* .

  • @monsterwafflez
    @monsterwafflez 8 месяцев назад +8

    ive felt like a pick me girl for the longest time now and this has made me feel so much better

  • @Jiminshi355
    @Jiminshi355 9 месяцев назад +3

    I really love you content. There are actually so less celebs which tells you the way you are is prefect and normal and there is no need for you to fit in standards just because you are different. Love the way u explained having bonded friendship with your opposite gender isn't pick up but amazing. Love yaa❤❤

  • @lanaa_dell
    @lanaa_dell 4 месяца назад

    Thank you so much Clara, I was afraid I was a “ pick me girl “ because I felt like I changed emotions near men, but really, I’m just embarrassed towards them.

  • @dely5553
    @dely5553 8 месяцев назад

    im so happy u made this cus im very much in between "tomboy" and "girly girl" so i do a lot of things "pick me"s do. it makes me self conscious

  • @Notameliaplaysxx
    @Notameliaplaysxx 9 месяцев назад +5

    STORY TIME!!!
    My “ Friend” is a pick me she always says rude things to me to make me down and even admitted to it once in science class. Our class had an essay due and me my friend who I’m gonna call “B” and “A” B is my bestie A is the pick me. Well we had an essay and B did amazing she got a 90 I got a 70-80 and A got a 60 she got her results before me and she said “Oh no!! I hope you did bad so that my test score can be better” I was shocked when A said that. anther time this happened I had got a new haircut and everyone loved it but Ofcourse A didn’t she kept saying how I looked “bigger” with it and that I looked like Ron weisley from Harry Potter. She always hangs out with some boy she likes even though she’s been rejected many times.

  • @iwillchangethislater8237
    @iwillchangethislater8237 8 месяцев назад +5

    there was a girl in my school that kept calling me “pick me” for literally just being lesbian.

    • @AutumnPinkyKat
      @AutumnPinkyKat 4 месяца назад +2

      Oh my god. 😂 Imagine just existing as a lesbian and someone goes up to you and says “Oh you’re such a pick me! You just want attention.” Well not from you, Sarah.

    • @iwillchangethislater8237
      @iwillchangethislater8237 4 месяца назад

      @@AutumnPinkyKat fr

  • @_hihi_0.0
    @_hihi_0.0 5 месяцев назад

    i mean this in the most genuinely nice and respectful way possible, but you don’t even feel like a real person 😭you’re too awesome

  • @theanti-veela-leprechaun
    @theanti-veela-leprechaun 9 месяцев назад +8

    Thank you so much for this ❤

  • @Anuva_art_and_craft
    @Anuva_art_and_craft 9 месяцев назад +10

    Thank you so much for this! I love this channel and you! ❤❤
    I really needed this :)