Celebrating the Holidays as a Blended Family
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- Опубликовано: 7 дек 2014
- Navigating the holidays as a blended family can be tricky at first, but minimizing stress is one of the greatest gifts a parent can give their child. According to Loni, the season is all about love and making the kids feel special, even after a divorce or remarriage. Watch her share her personal story, in this touching clip.
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Aww Loni :(
Got me over here crying. That is so sad
So sad. I can see why Loni cries a lot. She has so much emotion from the past inside her, and she lets it out at times. Nothing wrong with that.
Brianna Elizondo yeah I agree. Comedy has GOT to be how she got through. I hope that that this was empowering for her.
Brianna Elizondo yeah
Loni is SO right! My story is similar but opposite in a way: me and my sister have different fathers but were raised together. I remember one Christmas my mom couldn't really afford much for us. They brought my sister some gifts and then my sister's STEPMOM (who really didn't have to do anything) pulled me aside and said "they told us you love to play board games. Here!" And gave me Monopoly. It may not sound like much but I remember being SOOOO happy! She's passed away now but I will always be thankful for that! Such a sweet soul!
I think that most women are always going to be more nurturing in that way and think of the kids no matter the relation. God bless her and may she rest in peace.
AWWn! that was sweet of her n atleast u were happy! :)
this made me tear up, very touching story u shared. may she rest in peace, I wish more people were like her
+pearl hagert I know, me too 😢
Sounds like a second mom to me. Such a beautiful thing to do.
I was all sympathetic and tearing up, but when she said "and he gave me some t-shirts" I busted out laughing. I feel bad though, poor Loni.
lmfaooo same
Lmbooo! So did I girl. But i tried to keep my cool.
Omg I was just gonna say that! 😂😂🙈🙊 I felt so bad but BUSTED OUT laughing. It was still wrong tho. And she was five smh.
LMFAO I thought I was the only one who laughed when he gave her some T-shirts. I was on the FLOOR.
+Phylicia Taylor I just died 100 times with your comment, really.
You made my day
I felt bad for Loni but when she said "he got me some T-shirts" I couldn't help but laugh😂😂 feel bad tho.
LMFAO I thought I was the only one. T-shirts though 😂😂😂😂
Omg lmaoo I laughed too. I felt bad but it was soo funny and im still laughing which is bad. Everyone on the shuttle is looking at me crazy😂😂
Ikno me too 😭
Yall heard the lil laughs from the audience? 😂😂
@@mekhifisher8927 omg yes😂😭
One thing's for certain, you do not ALIENATE a child......EVER!
My husband and I always send gifts to my son's little brother by his father and stepmother every holiday. It keeps a sense of camaraderie between my son and his little brother, and also allows the little brother to feel included & loved.
Though we're not obligated, we CHOOSE to send gifts. Sometimes making an effort, makes a difference. His little brother is only 6 yrs. old, but at this age, no child truly understands the value of a dollar, so whatever we send, he's definitely happy to receive!
As Loni expressed, NO child should ever experience the feeling of exclusion, especially on the day that kids look forward to the most. That's just dreadful. I pray everyone has a blessed holidays, and remember that this is the season where it is better to give than to receive. Keep in mind how blessed you are, and that there is #always someone less fortunate than yourself.
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You don't know just how much of a difference yall are making in that child's life, people don't get it or how much it hurts to feel left out or excluded in your own family the blessings you will receive from this will be amazing and thanks for sharing!!!
Very nicely said.
Citannah Elise I appreciate that! 😄
Stephanie Moore Thanx! 😄
This is 2014 going on 2015. We are living in a generation where men and women have kids with multiple mothers and fathers. If you was dating a man with six kids by six different mothers, you would still buy a gift?
Lol this is how the audience feel about the t- shirt too
+Jamie Jodie LOLOLOL...girl you crazy!!!! Why did I think about them darn t-shirts when she said that. I feel kinda bad about laughing....NOT!!!
+Jamie Jodie Hahahahahaha, good one...
The "priceless T-shirt"
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wrong for that smh 😭😭
yooooooo when she said a T-shirt I felt bad but I busted out laughing
Her mother shld have been the one to make sure she questioned her son's father first nope u cnt give tht to him in front of her and then later on just slide one of them over to her as if she had a present to begin with.
Even though a step parent isn't obligated to give a gift to their step child's half sibling it's still not nice to do it in front of the other child. Kids don't understand the technicalities of a blended family. All they understand is one child is being favored over the other. Her uncle could have given her brother that gift in private or the next day when him & Loni weren't together.
But he was not her stepfather. Her brother is the oldest by like 10 yrs. Ya'll act like he dated her mom knowing she had a child and neglected said child.
That's so sad but I'm sorry but I laughed when she said " I can remeber asking him well where's mine and he gave me some tshirts" LOL
Me too. Working with children I feel this though.
Awww Loni has me balling my eyes out over here. Poor thing that it still affects her after all these years that's hard to watch. He could have found a few dollars and gotten her a little something. Was there no Dollar Tree back in the day? :-(
Loni's brother's dad should have given him the presents privately if he wasn't getting Loni anything. She was just a kid, and could not understand why he wouldn't buy her a present. That was foul of you, Jerome.
He didn't have to get her anything because she's not his kid, but he could have handled it differently. People don't know, but little things like that scars the kids and they carry it until adulthood.
Lol true
This broke my heart 😓
I understand that fully Loni. I had a similar situation happen to me when I was about 11 years old. My younger brother and I went to my Uncle's house for Christmas one year, and I still remember to this very day how upset and confused I felt when my older cousins received Gameboys from my Aunt (my Father's sister), and my brother and I got toothbrushes. Mind you, our cousins are not even blood-related to my Aunt, but my brother and I are. I wont ever forget that she did that. Adults, PLEASE keep in mind that the children are innocent and should not be excluded just because you have an unresolved issue with someone in the family. smh
Your aunt really thought toothbrushes were gifts? Wow she cld have gotten yall clothes or somethin. Just wrong
Kids don't understand the drama. They just know that they feel excluded and it hurts them. My mom's often took in kids for the holidays or summers and trust and believe if she couldn't get a happy meal, or a movie ticket or an amusement park pass for all of us she wouldn't get it for any of us. She would even take all of us to the salon or she would do every body's hair herself. Remember kids are just kids
Your mother sounds like a wonderful women! I hope to do things like that one day! Some kids are just born under unfortunate circumstances but they too deserve to be happy. I hope to instill kindness and giving/acceptance with my children. For example, when my kids have birthday parties I want them to give a small gift as a token of appreciation for people coming to celebrate and support them to the kids and/or parents. Same for holidays, my household will do a lot of volunteering during those times.
I think what really hurt Loni is that she had no gift and the brother's dad gave him a bunch of gifts right in front of her. That's terrible :( We had a christmas party at my house a fews years back and I had gifts for all my little cousins. Some other family friends and distant relatives brought along some other kids that we didn't know were coming (which was fine). I made sure not to give my cousins their gifts in front of the other kids because i thought it would just be so cruel to have them sitting there, looking at other kids getting gifts while they got nothing. I'm fully aware that I didn't have to get them gifts because to this day have no clue who they are, but they are only kids! There's no reason to hurt their feelings like that.
that was very thoughtful, you saved a child from feeling rejected and having a broken heart
That's happened before, unexpected kids. I've done the same thing and gave them their gives privately. Or just have a couple extra small gifts, for the extra kids.
i dont understand, didnt she said he gave her t-shirts? and that que didnt forget about her..? so wasn't that her christmas giftt?
Thank you for the kind words, guys. Anne, from my understanding he gave her some old t-shirts. She said "because he done forgot about me".
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No. She's saying he forgot about her, so too quickly try and make up for it.. he gave her some T-shirts last minute. Not quite the same.
I agree with almost everyone. I have a step-nephew who isn't my brothers child and I get him gifts as much as my nephews. He didn't do anything. He's a great kid and he's my nephew. If I can't afford his gift, I don't get anyone a gift. I'm not going to scar him for life over my selfishness.
I'm sorry I'm going to hell for this I laughed so hard when Loni said " he gave me some t-shirts " 😭
+CeeJayy Merius I had started to laugh but instead paused the video and came to the comments. I found one comment about the audience t-shirts and bust out laughing,. Don't feel bad...we just have a weird sense of humor.
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me too im crying and laughing because i had a similiar experience
me too
Haaahaaaaaa I laughed too!!😂😂😂
I like how everyone was there for Loni as she had that moment. I can see it from both sides of how she could have gotten a gift from his generosity, or how he simply wasn't obligated to get her anything. Maybe, Loni's mother could have informed him because that does look ridiculous for your son to have all these presents while your daughter just watches him open them.
What hurts Loni in my opinion is that feeling of being forgotten or abandoned. That is wrong wrong and wrong. Never ever do that to a child. Thanks for sharing Loni
Aww, wow! Shows you how important the things that go on in your childhood are. Although Loni hurts because of that, at least she was able to share that with so many people who may change their habits after watching this and stop it from happening to other kids.
like they say "It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men." most of our hurts and perception of our selves is from how we were treated as children!
My father wasn’t in my life but my sisters father was and yes I would get jealous when he came, took her into another room, and brought her gifts or when he picked her up and took her to McDonald’s or wherever else. My mom told me straight “He’s not your dad. The only person responsible for you is me” and I absolutely agree. It’s a harsh lesson for a kid but they need to understand that the only people who owe you anything are your parents.
This is the most realistic comment, if we have honest conversation with kids like your mom we can avoid a lot of unnecessary trauma, because the father could have only money for one child gift, his kid should not miss a gift because there are other kids and he can afford to buy for all of them. Talk to kids and be honest that way there are no expectations.
Y'all missing the point. No - there is no obligation - no it is not your responsibility, but if you are bringing toys for a kid into a home where there are other kids - yours or not - the *kind* thing to do is get all of them a gift. It's called generosity. It's the holidays, for gods sake.
Idk why I bust out laughing when she said "He gave me some T-shirts!" 💀💀💀💀😂😂😂
That was painful to see loni crying ...sorry love 😥
I like what adrianne said absolutely true. I always see women get with men tht dnt like their kids, nooo if he loves u he shld love your kids as well.
i love this segment because of how raw and real loni was
I remember as a child growing up my mom wouldn't accept gifts if it was just for one of us kids. She would tell them either u get something for all of her kids or don't bring nothing at all.
Lol, the crowd didn't know if it was a settle joke Loni had made when she said "all he gave me was some t-shirts." 0:40
I think I was lucky in the respect that for a few Christmas' growing up we couldn't afford presents but my Church growing up was amazing and knew that Mum couldn't afford to get us anything so they would find something random, whether it be an old toy, teddy, bible, candy, literally anything that mum could wrap so we would have a present to open Christmas morning.
You guys have to remember that Loni was only 5 years old. If you see another kid getting all these presents and you dont get any, it's going to make u upset. It's not a matter of "loni isnt his kid" it's a matter of how it's going to effect the kids being in that house together. I can definitely see how that could be painful to her. How would yall feel if you were 5 years old again and your mom told u that she couldn't afford to give u toys but then you see your brother get a bunch of toys and u get nothing but tshirts? At such a young age, you dont think about the fact that you're not this man's child. You think about the fact that he didnt think about you when he got something for someone else right in front of you.
"Let them (kids) know they are loved...
-Adriane Bailon
So important....
Y'all are so different from me, if I'm dating someone who has children, I will buy their children something. How can you go Christmas shopping for your and not get your significant other children something? How do you sleep at night? Just wrong.
I know right?! I don't understand how some people can do that?! I actually love getting gifts for children. My boyfriend has 2 kids of his own and has been a stepfather for ex-wife's daughter for years so I make sure to get them all something special. It's the little things that are important even if we don't notice as adults, kids remember everything!
right??? i was like Adrienne, first i met my boyfriend, he has a little, beautiful daughter, and even before i was allowed to meet her, i bought a christmas gift, birthday gift, easter, etc, cause like she said, i already loved her before knowing her, because i love the man.
Unnatural affection. I bet if that were their child, they'd be mad. It's madness
i bealive that loni's brother daddy was no longer in a relationship with loni's mom. why on earth should you bye gifts to you baby mama's other children when you are NO LONGER in a relationship with her.adrienne buys gift to HER BOYFRIEND'S kids...there is a connection there.
Anne A I agree that might have been the case, but that's not Loni's fault. Never slide one child for another
I remember meeting Adrienne when I was young when I went to a Cheetah Girl Rodeo concert and it makes me really happy she turned out so beautiful and sweet.
Sara. luckyyyyy!!! she is my idol honestly ! and it is my dream to meet her!!!
As I'm reading all these comments I can't help but to shake my head like, can people really think like that. Loni was five years old and all she seen was her brother surrounded with gifts while she just sat there. Whenever my dad would give me money he would give my sister the equal amount. It doesn't cost much to get a teddy bear, or a cheap Barbie doll from the store. Christmas is a big holiday for kids!
I absolutely love when Loni opens up!
"Ow you a good step mama" Tamar is funny.
I don't think people realised how their action effects people in the long run. I can't stop crying, don't worry loni it made you a better person your so caring especially to kids.
Aw Loni,
It's always those events, small and maybe insignificant to others but hurt us so deeply that we carry with us for years. it's ability to evoke the same emotional reaction like it occurred just yesterday is really remarkable. It was so refreshing to see this raw emotion from her.
Can we just talk about how Adrienne didn't even meet leny's kids but how Isreal made sure to include her in his family 🥰
No the man wasn't obligated to give Loni anything, HOWEVER, as an adult you should know common courtesy. There's just certain things you just don't do or say to kids, especially on holidays. With time you learn to deal with it better, but the pain can have a long lasting effect.
I was 4 years old and my mom was in a relationship with my now stepdad. He and my mom had only been dating for about a couple of months and my real dad didn't pay for my 5th birthday party after he told my mom he would then . My step dad paid for when he didn't have to. He stepped up and raised me as well and I have the most respect for that man. He's one of the greatest men I've ever known, whatever I needed he provided. It just depends on what kind of man you are. Him and my mom have 2 kids and he still treats me as one of his own and I'm 22. Like I said it just depends on what kind of man you are.
I love you Loni feel sorry for that
If he isn’t your father or step father you’re not his responsibility but it would have been a lovely gesture if you were given something by your half brother’s father. I’m from a blended family and I’m not forgotten in that way which is lovely.
After my dad and mom divorced and my mom had 3 other kids from 2 different guys, my dad still gave them presents from their birthdays and Christmas even tho they are not his kids, cause he didn't want them to feel left out in any way
Geesh... I can relate. My Mother was a single parent. Whatever I got came only from her. But my younger sister's father would go all out for her. She would have a big pile of gifts while I had a stocking and a few gifts. Lol But I'm glad that I wasn't a materialistic child. I would only ask for music for Christmas. I got what I wanted every year. But I did look at my sisters gifts sometimes like, damn! Lol
The comments on here are ridiculous! My son's father has another son two years younger than mine. I don't look at that baby as just my child's father's other kid. I look at him as MY SON'S BROTHER! I may not get along with the dad all the time, and I sure as heck don't get along with the mom all the time. But pettiness aside, that's my child's sibling and he loves him to death; which means I share a love for him as well. Adults should think of the kids first!
"which means I share a love for him as well" nice quote.
I'm so bad but loni part was really funny
Leia Richardson ...how's that funny!? I had a great childhood in that respect & can completely understand where she's coming from. She was a child for gods sake. Assuming your human, I'm sure there's sometime in past that hurt u to the core. It's different for everyone.
So ..."YES!!!..... U R SO BAD"
jacquie jarvis alright
That's really fucking sad omg
Loni somehow I felt the same thing you felt I'm so sorry for you and remember that we all love ya
As an adult Loni needs to suck it up, and understand that he's not going to buy some gift for his "baby momma's" other kids. If her father didn't show up and her mom was broke, that's not his fault.
He was her brother's father, not her father. She didn't not call him her mother's husband nor her step-father so we can only assume he's not. I was a child once, I know memories hurt but sometimes you understand as you get older. ***** he was nothing to her, they were a blended family because of her mother. The real person at fault is her mother and father, not this man.
and keep it mind it's not just his baby momma's other kids, thats his child's siblings. Of course he has no obligation to do so, but buying a gift for your child's brother or sister is simple kindness. and children remember when you are not kind.
he was dead wrong for that, even though that was not his child it's called being respectful, clearly the man has no home training. she should be allowed to feel however she wants those are her feelings.
Sahra hussein she should be able to feel how she want but people are sympathizing with her and I don't. I basically mean she shouldn't be dogging him out like he's wrong. plus xoxo7x7 he got her a shirt.
Sometimes when thinking about certain memories it evokes the emotion you felt i get emotional all the time when talking about certain memories.
One thing I can say about my father side of the family is they never did that to my sister on Christmas they would always come with two of everything and that’s something I will always remember
Loni had me balling :-( need to dry my laptop now, lol
when loni cries I cry
Aww. Loni almost got me crying.
And Adrienne is so adorable!!!! I love her.
What I see is this: Loni is a wonderful and beautiful woman inside and out who has experienced a lot of hurt and maybe rejection. I feel she does want to be loved and want to get married or even want children but fear due to past or what she must have experienced have cause so much fear that it is holding her back and she would rather say she doesn't want them ("to reject rather than be rejected") so she doesn't have to be questioned or feel worse.
I come from a blended family and my step dad did an amazing job on giving me gifts for my birthday and x mas.
Aww, poor Loni. That made me cry. No child should ever feel left out like that :(
That's terrible. Dollar tree has toys and books for $1 each. He could've spent $5 on her and she would've been none the wiser. My mom always made sure that all 5 of us were treated equally by all of our family members regardless of who was "blood" or not. To this day, we all get the same amount of presents under the tree. It was always like that. If you're bringing 1 toy, you better bring 5 or you can take it back to the store. If you come to pick up one kid to go to the zoo, they're all going or nobody's going. End of story. None of us ever felt left out, and that's the way it should be. Children are innocent, and they should never have to go through something like what Loni went through.
Yeah but back then did dollar stores even exist? In the 90's I dont remember them being around...
And loni was born in the 70's
Loni and Tamera are such nurturers. ❤️
loni you are so true, so authentic and so inspirational ! love you to the moon and back! plz be always strong and successful so that we all can get a an inspiration and glory from you! God Bless your Beautiful Soul !
Loni has a beautiful soul.
Wow Loni actually made me cry. That moved me deep because she's usually the joker and I can tell how to this day it still affects her. I just wanna hug her
My tummy hurts, Loni I am sorry about that story but the way you told the end, I died on the floor laughing. He gave you some T-shirts? I can't! LOL
Omgosh, Lonnie's tears touched my heart. So many adults walk around today hating the holiday season because of moments like that as a child.
this still kills me.
Loni i love you for that short clip !! PERIOD !!!!! Look at you now
Christmas is about the kids ❤
Bless your soul Loni
Poor Lonnie, those memories are still fresh all these years later.
All due respect to Loni and her family but I am disappointed that her Mother didn't do more to intervene. I'm thinking as a Mother, I wouldn't have allowed that to happen in my home to my child. Because I know that may hurt my child who is without.
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This is the MOST REAL this show has ever been. Thanks, Loni
My heart hurts for Loni's story!
Looking at that video really brought tears to my eyes. Cause I was raised in a broken family and till this day it's still hurts. That's why me being a young single mother I try to do best and provide for my daughter. But I do believe if you are with a man even if you and him break up a real man know when it's Christmas it's a big deal for kids so surprise them with a gift to like they are kids. Only a real man will have that mentality to do something so mature n thoughtful. I love what loni shared.
That broke my heart. Loni got me over here crying.
When Loni cries we all cry 😭
At first, I thought Loni was playing. Aww, poor Loni!
lonis story gave me so much chills
I agree. I've been through that very same thing as a child! Very painful, but God said in his word, that your ladder would be your greater!
I feel for Loni, but I disagree. "If you ended up with a baby mama with a bunch of kids you got to get everybody something." Um, no. You never know, maybe the other person could only afford to buy their biological child a gift. If the person is not a step-parent *(meaning marriage is involved)* they are not obligated to buy anything for anyone else's child. It would be nice, but it should not be expected.
I totally understand where Loni is coming from....Some step-dads can be really cold...She had me crying coz I could kind of relate to it....😭😭😭
I can see both perspectives but you know she was five at time and you can see how hurt she was by that.
Oh god loni please don't cry you made me cry 😃😃 be happy honey you have a lot to be happy about 😃😃😃
Whether people want to admit it or not, as a child you don't understand none of this. All you know is that you feel abandon, hurt and left out. And the parents/adults don't realize how their decisions as adults effect the children well into adulthood. So no, not everyone can just suck it up and get over it just because they became an adult. The mental and emotional scars are still there. You don't get over that just because you grow up physically. Thank God my siblings and I have the same parents (even tho they've been divorced 20 years). But not everyone has that or a stable home environment in general. So I understand. And I'm not saying any man is obligated to take care of a non-biological child. But God bless the men who are noble and kindhearted enough to do it. And as adults, if you decide to get involved with someone with children, you have to know that's going to be part of the responsibility of the relationship.
Seriously cried in this episode
Oh, Loni!!!
Aww it's okay and u are right we should make sure we get it for all the kids so they don't feel bad
Aww I just wanna give Loni a hug
Wonderful public service announcement Loni!
That is so true. I know so many people who do this.
I don't understand the negativity in the comments. She was highlighting a reality of how children feel. At 5 years old who is going to understand that is not your father, etc...but other than they did not get a single thing while their sibling did. It's not the responsibility of the step/half sibling parent to give all the kids gifts but be aware of the other children. Even small items bring joy to little children. Also, someone mentioned below that if you cannot give or choose not to give the other child something well then be discreet when gifting your own child.
aww I feel rly bad for Loni... but god bless your soul Adrienne ❤️ you got a kind heart~ and Loni you is a sassy lady, so sorry you didn't get a gift when you were 5. 😣
I feel for her.. the same thing happened to me. my brother received gifts from our dad's side of the family but they forgot about me.. ran in the house and quickly wrapped up a pair of socks. :/ who does that to a 6 year old worse part about it.. we got the same damn mom and dad!
One of few rare occasions when Loni is real.
This is so heartbreaking, but when Loni mentioned the T-Shirts, my mind automatically went to those "priceless" shirts the show used to hand out, lol
I totally agree and sympathize with Loni!!!! omg smh i got emotional.
I completely understand Loni. It doesn't matter if you're 50 years old, you will still remember all your childhood memories. I myself experienced the same thing that she did. It doesn't feel good, you feel worthless and end up asking "Where is MY dad?" But now, we have a wonderful step dad that keeps all 5 of us happy equally. No one is cut off in his eyes :)
This used to happen to me and my brother every year after my mom got married to my stepfather....my stepfather's brother forgot about us every Christmas. He would always gives us $20 a piece after he realized it and we were 11 and 13 when it started so that was fine with us. It still hurt that he forgot us repeatedly but at least he tried. A few Christmases ago my mom reconnected with her sisters on her dad's side. We surprised them at the Christmas party and they had secret Santa. Since they didn't know we were coming we didn't have gifts. My uncle went to Walgreens and bought me and my mom beautiful cards and put $25 in each. My fiance has children and his oldest son has two younger sisters that don't belong to his dad. I wouldn't feel right not sending a couple of Barbie dolls to my stepson's mother for those girls. Nobody should be left out on Christmas especially babies