I believe due to the huge number of divorces over the past decades the effects on young boys is tough they dont have a dad around and when they get to teen yrs moms really cant be the right guide for them...with girls they dont have a strong father figure to tell them no...they can't relate to much....thus we have damaged people that seem lost afraid and alone. Now they try to date but there is no basis to stay together for they grew up without the complete home. My parents were married 50 yrs...they never once ever cursed.....Mom Italian dad from Ireland first generation to the US.
women as mentors are not relatable to men because the experience is so different socially. women assume men experience being treated with attention and good faith when in general are granted neither. we live a harsher less supportive more competitive life overall where women rightly assume others will be there to catch them and support them. hence women cannot help their sons or partners. the strategies that work for them can actually make a man's situation worse.
Troy I was in a relationship with a single mother with four children but after seven years we parted ways now I'm single again looking for a woman right now.
The genetic component may make you react more negatively to adverse childhood events, but adverse childhood experiences definitely have a massive effect on peoples adult lives.
@@rjflores438 yes a mixture of nature, nurtureand also personal choice. But too many people these days put everything down to trauma, which is massively overstating uts effects
unfortunately the culture we're raised in has a massive impact on behaviour. it can take several generations to shake off some of the more destructive patterns and cycles.
Never knew you were sexually abused Troy .Well done on getting your life back
I wasn't.
Super helpful , thank you!!
I 100% agree with this, working through those traumas are crucial
Good Will Hunting is deep into that.
I believe due to the huge number of divorces over the past decades the effects on young boys is tough they dont have a dad around and when they get to teen yrs moms really cant be the right guide for them...with girls they dont have a strong father figure to tell them no...they can't relate to much....thus we have damaged people that seem lost afraid and alone. Now they try to date but there is no basis to stay together for they grew up without the complete home. My parents were married 50 yrs...they never once ever cursed.....Mom Italian dad from Ireland first generation to the US.
women as mentors are not relatable to men because the experience is so different socially. women assume men experience being treated with attention and good faith when in general are granted neither. we live a harsher less supportive more competitive life overall where women rightly assume others will be there to catch them and support them. hence women cannot help their sons or partners. the strategies that work for them can actually make a man's situation worse.
Troy I was in a relationship with a single mother with four children but after seven years we parted ways now I'm single again looking for a woman right now.
Troy it does affect us but in some point in life you gotta Iet it go what's the point of living if you're going to carry that baggage around
Where did you grow up Troy ?.
Why’s that relevant?
@@RealTroyFrancis Oh dear 😳. Has Steve Jabba made you cry again?
Let me publish your memoir 🎉
Good info, but totally not the place to record and she was proper unimpressed
It was absolutely the right place to record and who is 'she'? Who cares? Grow a backbone man..
Are you ethnically French, British, Welsh, Scottish, or Irish?
Not Irish anyways, he looks Anglo
British - although that incorporates all of the above except French.
I'm more Albanian than I am Irish according to my DNA
@@RealTroyFrancis So, then how and where did you get a French Surname from?
@@taasmr4203 issa fake name
Bigtime Noise Competition in the background bro. Consider finding quieter locations just FYI. Otherwise good advice as usual.
Nah it’s fine.
Troy are you good at ice skating ? well you could've coached a little girl to become a Famous Figure Skater or a famous Ballerina
I think the effects of childhood 'trauma' is being overstated these days. Most of our behaviour has a genetic component
The genetic component may make you react more negatively to adverse childhood events, but adverse childhood experiences definitely have a massive effect on peoples adult lives.
@@rjflores438 yes a mixture of nature, nurtureand also personal choice. But too many people these days put everything down to trauma, which is massively overstating uts effects
unfortunately the culture we're raised in has a massive impact on behaviour. it can take several generations to shake off some of the more destructive patterns and cycles.