The part he is talking about the pleasure of being miserable is so real, we all have seen those kind of people and even may have been with. The people who love being rejected and disrespected and if you take their misery from them, they are simply no one and have nothing to offer.
@Surviving the matrix I'm not sure whether depression is the right term to describe these kind of people or condition (as you pointed out), but whatever it is the thing is when you show empathy toward them and try to gain their trust into yourself, they suddenly reject you without any reason and leave you. In this situation there is no way to help them unless they find the way themselves.
I fucked up so bad. I lost everything I'd worked for. This is me trying hard to get back on my feet and it is so fucking hard!!! A moonth later and I'm back on my feet. I'm never going back down.
From the comments one thing is clear, we all make mistakes, mistakes that can cost us our friendships, our source of income, our health or more. Something I have learned is that when you make a mistake, the first course of redemption is accountability. Responsible for your actions, accountable for the mistakes and the results of them. However, the next is how you can improve and continue to grow from there. I’ve made many mistakes in life that cost me all three of those things mentioned above, however I am slowly turning things around, and you can to, and one day those mistakes will be the experience that will help someone who needed the guidance when you once did.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 01:21 🧠 When faced with failure or mistakes, avoid self-destructive thoughts and behaviors. 03:11 📚 Analyze the specific areas that need improvement rather than assuming complete failure. 05:04 👂 When in conflict, aim for the minimum necessary intervention to avoid unnecessary enemies. 06:16 🤝 Acknowledge and praise the positive behaviors of others to encourage growth and development. 08:09 💔 Avoid jealousy and competition with loved ones; support their growth instead of holding them back. Made with HARPA AI
here after I failed my momma. I love you more than anything and I feel so sorry that I did what I did, I hope you can feel that I’m a better person because of you now
Couple things here: Failure and mistakes are not just important but damn right essential for any growth to take place, how else do you grow, adapt and pivot through life? Heres the stinger through, no matter what walks of life you come from, you will encounter that most if not all people are stuck in a loop of their own minds, because they have push back from their mistake and failures and not really dissect the whole situation to where and what needs to change in order for it not to happen again, instead they just do the same method expecting different results only leading to the beginning of the loop. They get caught up with not wanting to feel the uncomfortableness that comes with it that they then seeking that dopamine again because they want or hide themselves a remedy for what has happened to them!! You can see easily here why these loops take place. Mistakes and failures should be teaching you to not do it again and grow and adapt into something new.
Moral of the story: provide yourself with a solution for the future and move forward. Nit-picking your failure will serve nothing in fact it’s counter productive and no one gains anything from it.
Lost an great job at a great company because of my stupidity and ignorance. Sometimes I feel like literally jumping off a cliff or getting hit by a car.
I have passed so many things in my life however I've gotton too comfterable in my own success today I had the harshest reality check failing my driving test in a couple of minutes at the age of 21, though I was miserable for a while it was the wake up call I needed to apply for my dream job work harder than I already do because its not progress if your not comfterable, pass with the best grades I have ever gotten and will secure my dream job by journaling, exercising, reading, cleaning my room and other bad habits that I have picked up as result of comfort. Will keep you guys updated in two months
I feel an insane amount of guilt and shame right now. I am failing to do something that I was supposed to never fail to do. It's gonna take a tremendous amount of effort to climb back up and overcome these mistakes. But what I know for sure is that I need to accept it and act now, or else I will feel even more guilt in a month. I can't keep going like this.
I know I have learned from my mistake. I made a worker feel bad about his. I’m a high-ranking chef at a university and I was told by an employee that her coworker (let's call him Will) had been touching crew members too much. Not _that_ type of touch, just casual ones, like on arms or shoulders. He was always very outgoing and tactile at work. I took him to my colleague’s office and told him he shouldn't touch anyone without consent. Just handshakes. I said we needed the workers to be comfortable in a good work environment, that he pretty much shouldn't talk about anything other than work and school. How he shouldn't tell his stories because they may be inappropriate to some degree to the other workers; funny to him only. I think he’s about 25. He seemed pretty quiet and uncomfortable during my speech. Answered a question or two with a nod and headshake.
*(Warning: Graphic Content)* That night, Will got shot by a woman, who said "Your time is up. This is for your unfiltered joke yesterday. HeII, this is for _everyone_ who knows you. Nobody WANTS you. You deserve to DlE!" And then she stuck a knife into his stomach. *Luckily* the police arrived to arrest her and save Will. He was treated at the hospital _just_ in time. But...what if he wasn't? What if our *_last_* moment was in the office? Yes, I needed to address his behavioral "issue," but I should've been more respectful. More filter, less touching at work? Yeah, but compromise would've been fine. Like, only touching friendly coworkers he gets along great with. It's perfectly natural to causally touch or tap people *without* it being creepy. Will never meant to be that word. He just needed some limits, not all or nothing. I should’ve shown more patience and only given him a very brief and gentle talk in the hall, not a *firm lecture in the office* with his *boss present.* And I shouldn’t have asked her if there anything she wanted to add. So insensitive. Will never meant any discomfort or harm. He only meant to have fun with his coworkers. I made him feel bad, and the assaiIant made it much worse. I have to apologize to him whenever I can, for mishandling the situation. His assauIt is the only thing that made realize what was right.
I was never a failure in life until I started experiencing weird problems with technology and people began taking a weird interest in my life...I want to know why this began. Its been a huge obstacle for me!!!!
To any young men in this chat, 20's- 30's, please learn what you need to now, cause you for sure don't want to be in my shoes, 48 years old stuffing boots for $16 bucks an hour, constantly reminding myself of the hundreds of major failures i have made and keep making over the past 35 years. Regret is heavier than iron. Starting over at 48 sucks! Trust me! Dont wait, change now!
As long as you are alive, there is time to change my friend. Don’t live life in regret. Abandon hope for a better past and don’t pray for one, and instead, pray for a better future. The past is set in stone, the present is a lump of clay, and the future is your imagination for what beautiful designs that clay could be. One day, there will be no more tomorrows, and no more pieces of clay to be moulded. As long as you are alive there is hope. Let go of the shadows of yesterdays evening, and look for the sun rising in the distant horizon.
@makavili4429 I just messed up a friendship and a business partnership. This literally made me shed tears. I know your words weren't directed at me but I still appreciate the message 🙏🏾
I had little failures as a young man, but I got better and started to have success after success and became financially free and a real estate investor that lived off of rental property and I made one bad investment out of my comfort zone and I should have known better, but that caused me to lose everything. I can’t get over it. This is 10 years later, and I still regret that decision and depression has led to drug abuse.
U do deserve all the good things , sometimes ppls minds ruin our thoughts of ourselves , get up you live the life you deserve each day bit by bit . Only we stop ourselves in time , no one else
You do! You deserve the best. But you have to be willing to work for it. Small steps, small positive steps. And please!! Don’t be so hard on yourself. You might did some bad things? But I guarantee that you have done good things to. Take care!
I failed my ex. I failed myself. I failed my parents who taught me to be better than that. I failed my friends who never thought I did what I did. Its funny that I can accept what I've done wrong but I can't accept that I have massively failed as a person.
Hope ur OK.. I've done the same.. made a major mess.. keep the chin up and go easy on yourself. Feel like the world is about to cave in at any moment..
yea... im too perfectionistic and neurotic. Everytime I make mistakes I become too emotional and says "Aa I want to kil myself!" lol. I try to decreased that. Yea it's not productive in the long run.
See here’s my problem the other day I seriously messed up and I I’ve been thinking of how I could of fixed it ik now but now I’m afraid of making any mistake at all when I’ve been making stupid mistakes my hole life I just need to know is there something wrong with me and what that is
Does anyone else here just love his asides? He's like... This is logical point a which is why point b and this leads to point c, and then, bam! He drops a zinger of an aside about the divorce court 😂 Funny but true 👀👀👀
Here’s what I’m going to try after a failure of epic proportions… Watch more Jordan Peterson videos. Narrow my focus to how to take better care of my physical, mental and emotional wellbeing. Allow myself to daydream and imagine my life as I would like it to be… Do i want to help people? Influence local politics? Create or build things? Influence people or politicians? Have children? Parent better? Just imagine without limits. What lights me up or inspires me? If I could use my best strengths daily, how would that feel? Then narrow my thinking to questions like … What’s ONE thing I could do today to explore these new options and ideas? Find ONE person who would be a positive supporter of my new trajectory. Forgive myself . I had good intentions… things didn’t work out. I’ll do better next time. Balance between imagining what will make me happy and give me satisfaction with where I am now and what i can DO today. Now I’m going to sign off and work on these things myself…❤
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Here after failing
Me too brother. Big time. Hang in there.
Me three dude. Keep yout head up. Keep going.
Failed at an important moment in my life. Kinda scary, but hang in there. We will all be alright.
Me too
Me too
Just did very badly in my winter exams. Its the first time I've ever failed one but I won't give up and to overcome this I'm here.
same bro, how youre doing now?
His point about winning arguments, leaving them no outs being a bad thing struck to my core.
Your the father everyone needs, but nobody deserves
The part he is talking about the pleasure of being miserable is so real, we all have seen those kind of people and even may have been with. The people who love being rejected and disrespected and if you take their misery from them, they are simply no one and have nothing to offer.
@Surviving the matrix I'm not sure whether depression is the right term to describe these kind of people or condition (as you pointed out), but whatever it is the thing is when you show empathy toward them and try to gain their trust into yourself, they suddenly reject you without any reason and leave you. In this situation there is no way to help them unless they find the way themselves.
@Surviving the matrix I loved that you pointed out that this is a condition and not a person. 😊 And well done for overcoming your challenge.
I fucked up so bad. I lost everything I'd worked for. This is me trying hard to get back on my feet and it is so fucking hard!!!
A moonth later and I'm back on my feet. I'm never going back down.
How your doing now buddy
Congrats man. I’m proud of you
From the comments one thing is clear, we all make mistakes, mistakes that can cost us our friendships, our source of income, our health or more. Something I have learned is that when you make a mistake, the first course of redemption is accountability. Responsible for your actions, accountable for the mistakes and the results of them. However, the next is how you can improve and continue to grow from there. I’ve made many mistakes in life that cost me all three of those things mentioned above, however I am slowly turning things around, and you can to, and one day those mistakes will be the experience that will help someone who needed the guidance when you once did.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
01:21 🧠 When faced with failure or mistakes, avoid self-destructive thoughts and behaviors.
03:11 📚 Analyze the specific areas that need improvement rather than assuming complete failure.
05:04 👂 When in conflict, aim for the minimum necessary intervention to avoid unnecessary enemies.
06:16 🤝 Acknowledge and praise the positive behaviors of others to encourage growth and development.
08:09 💔 Avoid jealousy and competition with loved ones; support their growth instead of holding them back.
Made with HARPA AI
here after I failed my momma. I love you more than anything and I feel so sorry that I did what I did, I hope you can feel that I’m a better person because of you now
Same here. Let’s get back up together. Let’s move forward and be a hope to someone else too.
Couple things here:
Failure and mistakes are not just important but damn right essential for any growth to take place, how else do you grow, adapt and pivot through life?
Heres the stinger through, no matter what walks of life you come from, you will encounter that most if not all people are stuck in a loop of their own minds, because they have push back from their mistake and failures and not really dissect the whole situation to where and what needs to change in order for it not to happen again, instead they just do the same method expecting different results only leading to the beginning of the loop. They get caught up with not wanting to feel the uncomfortableness that comes with it that they then seeking that dopamine again because they want or hide themselves a remedy for what has happened to them!! You can see easily here why these loops take place.
Mistakes and failures should be teaching you to not do it again and grow and adapt into something new.
Moral of the story: provide yourself with a solution for the future and move forward. Nit-picking your failure will serve nothing in fact it’s counter productive and no one gains anything from it.
Lost an great job at a great company because of my stupidity and ignorance. Sometimes I feel like literally jumping off a cliff or getting hit by a car.
Same 😢 I made a dumb decision in a moment of weakness
Felt like a failure yesterday, I hope this helps.
I have passed so many things in my life however I've gotton too comfterable in my own success today I had the harshest reality check failing my driving test in a couple of minutes at the age of 21, though I was miserable for a while it was the wake up call I needed to apply for my dream job work harder than I already do because its not progress if your not comfterable, pass with the best grades I have ever gotten and will secure my dream job by journaling, exercising, reading, cleaning my room and other bad habits that I have picked up as result of comfort. Will keep you guys updated in two months
so how's the update my guy?
I didn't do anything lmaoooo @@azizsofwan7683
i hope you're doing good man, tell us what's new
I feel an insane amount of guilt and shame right now. I am failing to do something that I was supposed to never fail to do. It's gonna take a tremendous amount of effort to climb back up and overcome these mistakes. But what I know for sure is that I need to accept it and act now, or else I will feel even more guilt in a month. I can't keep going like this.
Here after non getting a job after an internship. Got some reality checks from manager. We will bounce back baby 💪🙏
Same here) I hope you got closer to what you were wishing for over the past 10 months!
Thanks for this vídeo, just what i needed to hear
Everything resonated with me... Thank you, Jordan, and thanks to the uploader!
Not here after failure but after making small mistake that just ruined my day and made my family members worry about me
I feel like i shouldn't exist
Thank you very much.
I know I have learned from my mistake. I made a worker feel bad about his. I’m a high-ranking chef at a university and I was told by an employee that her coworker (let's call him Will) had been touching crew members too much. Not _that_ type of touch, just casual ones, like on arms or shoulders. He was always very outgoing and tactile at work. I took him to my colleague’s office and told him he shouldn't touch anyone without consent. Just handshakes. I said we needed the workers to be comfortable in a good work environment, that he pretty much shouldn't talk about anything other than work and school. How he shouldn't tell his stories because they may be inappropriate to some degree to the other workers; funny to him only. I think he’s about 25. He seemed pretty quiet and uncomfortable during my speech. Answered a question or two with a nod and headshake.
*(Warning: Graphic Content)* That night, Will got shot by a woman, who said "Your time is up. This is for your unfiltered joke yesterday. HeII, this is for _everyone_ who knows you. Nobody WANTS you. You deserve to DlE!" And then she stuck a knife into his stomach. *Luckily* the police arrived to arrest her and save Will. He was treated at the hospital _just_ in time. But...what if he wasn't? What if our *_last_* moment was in the office? Yes, I needed to address his behavioral "issue," but I should've been more respectful. More filter, less touching at work? Yeah, but compromise would've been fine. Like, only touching friendly coworkers he gets along great with. It's perfectly natural to causally touch or tap people *without* it being creepy. Will never meant to be that word. He just needed some limits, not all or nothing. I should’ve shown more patience and only given him a very brief and gentle talk in the hall, not a *firm lecture in the office* with his *boss present.* And I shouldn’t have asked her if there anything she wanted to add. So insensitive. Will never meant any discomfort or harm. He only meant to have fun with his coworkers. I made him feel bad, and the assaiIant made it much worse. I have to apologize to him whenever I can, for mishandling the situation. His assauIt is the only thing that made realize what was right.
I was never a failure in life until I started experiencing weird problems with technology and people began taking a weird interest in my life...I want to know why this began. Its been a huge obstacle for me!!!!
To any young men in this chat, 20's- 30's, please learn what you need to now, cause you for sure don't want to be in my shoes, 48 years old stuffing boots for $16 bucks an hour, constantly reminding myself of the hundreds of major failures i have made and keep making over the past 35 years. Regret is heavier than iron. Starting over at 48 sucks! Trust me! Dont wait, change now!
it's true, but dont despair pal, keep toiling keep working...good luck
As long as you are alive, there is time to change my friend. Don’t live life in regret. Abandon hope for a better past and don’t pray for one, and instead, pray for a better future. The past is set in stone, the present is a lump of clay, and the future is your imagination for what beautiful designs that clay could be. One day, there will be no more tomorrows, and no more pieces of clay to be moulded. As long as you are alive there is hope. Let go of the shadows of yesterdays evening, and look for the sun rising in the distant horizon.
@makavili4429 I just messed up a friendship and a business partnership. This literally made me shed tears. I know your words weren't directed at me but I still appreciate the message 🙏🏾
HOW GOOD IS THIS!!! WOW
I had little failures as a young man, but I got better and started to have success after success and became financially free and a real estate investor that lived off of rental property and I made one bad investment out of my comfort zone and I should have known better, but that caused me to lose everything. I can’t get over it. This is 10 years later, and I still regret that decision and depression has led to drug abuse.
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"ending ur life is not the good problem solving strategy" - JP
"As long as you're alive u can get better" - Joe rogan
While controversial, Jordan is a wake up call
Same😢 failed a exam for entering a college
Joining a okish College ❤
I will change my self
This man was God's answer to our yearning for substantial dialogue in the Western World.
I’m a 27 year old failure and I just want someone to tell me that I deserve to live and be happy
What you have done in the past does not define the person you can/are going to become
@@twitchisofredo7180 Idk why I’m just seeing that now 🤨😭
U do deserve all the good things , sometimes ppls minds ruin our thoughts of ourselves , get up you live the life you deserve each day bit by bit . Only we stop ourselves in time , no one else
You deserve to live and be happy
You do! You deserve the best. But you have to be willing to work for it. Small steps, small positive steps. And please!! Don’t be so hard on yourself. You might did some bad things? But I guarantee that you have done good things to. Take care!
Megamind to Titan: Theres a benefit in losing you get to learn from your mistakes.
Here after ronaldo's failure.
It feels awful after seeing my idol fall.
Needed this.
I failed my ex. I failed myself. I failed my parents who taught me to be better than that. I failed my friends who never thought I did what I did. Its funny that I can accept what I've done wrong but I can't accept that I have massively failed as a person.
Hope ur OK.. I've done the same.. made a major mess.. keep the chin up and go easy on yourself. Feel like the world is about to cave in at any moment..
Hey can you give full link of the video
Feel like I’m failing over and over again. I’m here again. Picking myself up 🤕
A week after a major mess up.
yea... im too perfectionistic and neurotic. Everytime I make mistakes I become too emotional and says "Aa I want to kil myself!" lol. I try to decreased that. Yea it's not productive in the long run.
Just got passed up for a promotion to CCO. I’m only 28 - I won’t quit
The failures do not exists. I call them "attempts" - Goggings
2:06 …hmmm… this I what my sister does. Interesting to know
See here’s my problem the other day I seriously messed up and I I’ve been thinking of how I could of fixed it ik now but now I’m afraid of making any mistake at all when I’ve been making stupid mistakes my hole life I just need to know is there something wrong with me and what that is
The last one minute designates 8:00
Here after making a huge mistake 😢 again.
😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
What lecture is this from?
I would also like to know
@@bradenjlloyd 2017 Personality 22: Conclusion: Psychology and Belief: ruclips.net/video/J9j-bVDrGdI/видео.html
In huge debt. Big mistake of my life. Had to withdraw from ministry. I pray God's word come true for me!
Just failed .. came here
Here after making a mistake.
Does anyone else here just love his asides? He's like... This is logical point a which is why point b and this leads to point c, and then, bam! He drops a zinger of an aside about the divorce court 😂 Funny but true 👀👀👀
I failed my exams in business school now I’m fucked what i do tho
Here’s what I’m going to try after a failure of epic proportions…
Watch more Jordan Peterson videos.
Narrow my focus to how to take better care of my physical, mental and emotional wellbeing.
Allow myself to daydream and imagine my life as I would like it to be…
Do i want to help people?
Influence local politics?
Create or build things?
Influence people or politicians?
Have children?
Parent better?
Just imagine without limits.
What lights me up or inspires me?
If I could use my best strengths daily, how would that feel?
Then narrow my thinking to questions like …
What’s ONE thing I could do today to explore these new options and ideas?
Find ONE person who would be a positive supporter of my new trajectory.
Forgive myself . I had good intentions… things didn’t work out. I’ll do better next time.
Balance between imagining what will make me happy and give me satisfaction with where I am now and what i can DO today.
Now I’m going to sign off and work on these things myself…❤
i have a degree in english literature and I am here, do NOT do it y'all do NOT .
Don’t do what?
Got smashed after getting a job im Bay Street equivalent of Canadas Wall Street and working there for two years got my self fired
I'm in a similar spot, how did things pan out for you?
I just came after seeing my practical result.
Here after my interview... Kinda having the feeling of "good for nothing" 🤦🏻♀️😐
Failed my second fucking driving test
don't give up you got this , Persist and press on!
@@jerrychiang7469 thanks man
focus more on part that you failed, micro routine like Jordan said you will be fine next time.
I cried when I failed both times. I'll never think driving isn't difficult.
I failed 3 times before I got mine. You can do it! Just keep going.
Juat lost 10% in trading, $2000.
Maybe end up in divorce court and end up paying 250.000😂
I failed
I didn't get what I wanted out of it. Just the impression he has recently had a divorce
1:09 it is 100 percent me lol