I feel like TIME doesn’t work the same any more. Even on my days off, I feel like I have the time and energy to do one thing. Having 4 free hours feels like 1.
I used to count the days until special events. Now it feels like they're hurtling towards me, and I'm not mentally prepared. I don't look forward to things anymore. I'm exhausted, and anything over and above my regular routine feels like too much. I'm only just getting back into hobbies after a year of doing almost none. I've been in survival mode for at least a year, and I'm only just starting to remember there was more to life than this.
@@Draggonnythis comment!! 💯 I say that I feel like a hamster on a wheel running so fast I'm falling off of it-so it's pointless. Holidays in year's past I was prepared for-not last couple of years. Working like crazy barely have time to shop. I'll be lucky if presents go into gift bags this year. Like everyone else I'm beyond exhausted.
Same and I also got extremely sick and haven’t been the same since august 2022 and I have no idea how to get out of it I am so sick and I’ve lost everything since this started. I just want to be ok again
We are being economically devastated and punished by Corporations after a huge loss of life..What we are feeling is oppression against things we can't see.
Loss of life?! Better peruse the official stats, bro. Less people died in 2020 than the year before and less again in 2021. Influenza can be deadly to the already frail/ill elderly and those with co-morbidities. Happens every year. The oppression you feel is that the government at War with the people. Democide is the #2 cause of death after life. You thought the "elite" cared about you? 🤣 They don't. Suck it. up.
No huge loss of life , death rates stayed the same as ever …. Until the “free cure “ and it’s follow up treatments came anyways . More than 99% survival rate , we got duped .
You’re 10000% spot-on. The world is in a collective burnout, and I feel like Millenials/Early Gen Z have been hit the hardest. Before 2020, it was much easier to ignore/gloss over it, but the world got a collective rude awakening a few years ago, and now EVERYONE is *painfully* aware of the disparities that exist and the systems that keep people strained and struggling.
what’s even worse is the collective peer pressure from both wider society and even close family circles to “return to normal” as if the “normal” before was even something to brag about. Whether you were individually successful beforehand or not, we ALL saw how fragile the entire system really was in 2020. We can never truly “go back.”
I have a theory that the apathy is kind of like a defense mechanism we’ve all adopted to deal with the fact that we have so much hyper awareness about the bad things going on in the world (due to how things spread on social media). It’s like the human brain doesn’t have the capacity to emotionally process all of these things at the same time, so we shut down a little bit and become apathetic instead to protect ourselves. 🤷🏼♀️
I agree. The only real answer for me was to drastically reduce intake of the 24 hour new cycle. I get daily email summaries of the top news but barely read those anymore. Some will act like you're committing some kind of crime by not being an open door for whatever "news" global corporations and governments claim we need to know. However, your social media posts taking sides on whatever issue just gives your brain the illusion of taking action, but it's meaningless l. In the meantime all you're doing is engaging in continual toxic distraction while neutering your own imagination and power to create.
Definitely feel like theres a collective burnout. People are angry, unhappy and just sick of everything. I think we are all addicted to tech and need to get outside and connect in real life more.
@@bren42069 I truly hope so! Ive started walking around my neighborhood and talking to my neighbors lol trying to be the change. But a couple of them are a bit screwy in the head so its been interesting Lmao its still worth it
Even the Holidays don't feel the same. Christmas time doesn't feel the same. Everything feels forced and fake and unnatural. I think that we all feel this emptiness inside. You're right, something changed after 2020.
I definitely agree. I can’t believe Christmas is almost here and I’m not close to being ready. This is the first year my husband never decorated outside. We do a simple decoration, not anything major, but not this year. I have young grandchildren age 6 and under. I have to force myself to be happy for them. It takes all my effort to get up and go to school programs. I don’t feel depressed. Just tired. I can’t explain it.
I think it was always fake, we just see it now because we've been forced to wake up and come to terms with so many other things. The illusions sustained us for a while but now they can't. We need genuine growth towards a new era of some sort.
My husband and I were talking about this recently. During Christmas time we decided one night to drive around and look at Christmas lights. In a town of about 50,000 we saw about 100 houses with lights up. I remember when almost every house had at least a few lights, when the malls were decorated and playing Christmas music, when kids got excited over the Sears and JCP Christmas catalogs (showing my age there lol) It feels like people are just empty and dead inside, and although I think that there was a major shift after 2020, I feel it started long before that.
@@selenecelestial5498i feel the same with any holiday and birthday. Its just another day, the only reason i even remember special days is because of the calendar. Other than that i forget what day/week/month it is.
@@trailertrashfire I'm not sure exactly what the answer is either as I'm still working on it, but I wonder if it's less about reducing awareness, and more about narrowing the field of care. It's funny how so many people will get consumed in the news of the world but that doesn't mean they necessarily have an awareness of what's going on around them: friends, family, neighborhood, community. I wonder if maybe attending to the real needs around us, although less newsworthy, might be a more sustainable type of empathy.
@@trailertrashfire 🍄 can help with reducing all the background noise. It really opens your mind and become aware of all the bullsht, and how you dont have to be a part of it. Very life changing Actually had an ego death couple days ago 😂
As a GenX, We were happier before cell phones. We only saw each other when we saw each other and were so excited for it. We spoke on one landline that the whole family had to share so it was minimal. So when friends got together at school and the mall we had lots to catch up on. Absence made the heart grow fonder-maybe. Life was less overwhelming. Now ppl get upset if I don’t answer quick enough. They expect ppl to be tied to the phone and by extension to them.
Yeah, I am the same age and knew a few of the lucky kids who had their own phone in their room, but shared the same phone number with the house and couldn’t make a call whenever someone else was on the house phone. My sister in law actually did have her own phone and her own phone line but she paid for that with her after school job.
The depression caused by the pandemic kept on going due to the wars, sociopolitical issues, declining economy, and drug/homelessness crises. That's my best answer when I reflect on it.
This economy is better than it was under Trump with more opportunities for more people and more employment as well. Feeling low? You are listening to DT and Republicans too much. They don’t have a good word for anyone or anything. What the H*** do you expect? Meanwhile the actors are back with a better contract, ditto for autoworkers.
I agree. It’s like the American spirit broke. The pandemic and having to be locked in your home (it felt like) for me was the cliff where everything fell. So many people died and so many others lost their jobs/ everything after that. Sometimes I wonder if the lockdowns had something to do with it. Bc before, as an American, we felt like we could do anything if we tried. After that we all recognized how easily we could have that snatched away. Even if it was for a good reason. Idk. I could be wrong.
@@hissonggirlmoni5706I agree, though I'm Australian so maybe just the world's spirit in general? Who knows but I feel it over here too. I also think the pandemic made us look at the world around us closer, because there was nothing else to do l, and I feel like most of us didn't like what we found. Combine that with cost of living, wars and climate crises and whatever is going on in our personal lives, mine has sucked and it's not going to get better for a while, I'm not surprised we all feel mentally awful. It's too much.
Wars and crisis have always been there it's just with the internet rn you can keep up with EVERY LITTLE THING happeni everywhere to the point of it becoming overwhelming
You're so right on. I'm totally dead inside, I despise the world we've created and every year I get older I feel I get closer to an exit from Zombie Planet. I feel so sad for the younger generation. Nothing seems possible anymore. Nothing seems to matter or inspire people. thank you for this amazing brilliant rant!
I think we are living amongst zombies. I called it at the beginning of covid but it’s been slowly happening. It’s more digital. And the rules don’t make sense, but have they ever really?
I definitely told my Dad in the last 6 months or so that I feel that the rug has been pulled out from underneath me. For ~30 years I had a somewhat optimistic view, and then I feel like our governments and leaders sold us out to the highest bidder. We're just live stock, to be used and replaced, is what it feels like.
Collective overstimulation is a great way to describe it. Not only that but people’s financial situations got REALLY dire in 2020 and haven’t gotten better since then. All the things we used to get excited about (makeup, movies, etc) are all consumer based. If you’re struggling financially, it’s hard to stay excited about that stuff
I sat at home today and thought about how different the holidays feel. Thanksgiving doesn't feel like a holiday anymore. No one takes time for traditions, games, family time, etc. It's not a big deal if we miss out on that time with each other. It feels like a shell of a life, and I thought it was just getting older, but this makes me feel better and not as alone in my feelings. It's like we are in perpetual survival mode.
I had this same conversation with my mom after thanksgiving this year.. I felt so utterly depressed after bc I cooked all day for my family to show up LATE and leave very shortly after eating. No more staying over for hours just to visit. Broke my heart.
To me, it IS a big deal if I miss out on spending time with family. I'm quite a traditional person. Getting older though, feels like some of the things that happened in my past, didn't actually happen.
@emilywood6830I spent quite some time planning a thanksgiving dinner for my friends last year, didn’t receive any appreciation back nor I got a celebration message from any of them this year - I am for sure not doing it again
I'm so glad you said the quiet part out loud. For me, the reason everything has changed is because we can no longer trust the institutions that we used to trust to guide us and keep us relatively safe. Regardless of political ideology, the internets, main stream media, politicians and corporations are all captured and beholden to one another. So trust and safety are down. Fear is up and now maybe we are on the brink of a world war, which nobody wants or voted for...it's all gross.😢
I think we never really could trust them. We just for the first time got to see their true side. Ignorance is bliss and life was much more happier when we believed the lies.
Covid made everything so abundantly clear. Stop buying useless crap? Economy crashes. Deadly disease happening? Go to work anyway. And all the 'essential' workers get overworked and underpaid. Now stay inside and be afraid
There's also no 'third' places. Growing up before the Internet, you went out to see people, went to friends houses, had friends over. Met them at places like the mall, a great restaurant, the movies, the beach, the lake, the pool, etc. A great bar or dance place. Those types of social interactions seem to be gone.
@@ceciliacole5098 Yeah the park by me used to be crowded when I was a teenager. Then in my 20's it began to get quiet, in my 30's its empty. Nothing. Nada. A few couples walking through, a goose taking a shit. Same population levels in my town.
That's exactly it, we don't want the fake curated content. It used to be entertaining, and now it feels just that, fake, pointless, useless. We want real, we want genuine, we want to have fun again on the internet and not be sold something we don't need every 2 seconds when we can't afford anything right now.
I can't describe it but honestly, nothing feels real anymore? Countless times a day I think to myself... this can't be happening, nothing matters, constant struggling, this HAS to be a simulation lol. Sending love to everyone💙
They're is a solution, not many people would be willing to do it. We need a entire overhaul of our government!!! Every last one of them has to go!!! And completely new people who are not related to any of the previous people need to get introduced 😔 but sadly I doubt that this will happen 😔
I have the same feeling! I used to love the holidays but they just pass through and the season doesn’t feel real anymore till it’s over. Like Halloween ended and then I realized I never carved pumpkins and it doesn’t even feel like it’s about to be December.
I’m 38 and have developed extreme anxiety over the past five years and I think it’s constant comparison that’s rotting my soul. The stimulation of seeing so much of everything online…outfits, hair, makeup, home decor, etc. just always leaves me feeling empty and “not enough”. It’s so unhealthy and not natural. Thank you for talking about this. We’ve got to re-wire our brains.
Constant comparison was one of the reasons I basically dropped insta and facebook. I don’t see what my peers re pretending to do anymore. I don’t even share my bombastic food lol, I’ll take a quick pic or video but it’s just for myself now.
Unsolicited advice here, but please surround yourself with some really cool interesting people who are not interested in THINGS. I am in the design community and while I do love it they are always comparing their homes to the ones we style and it’ll be someone who is a doctor or dentist so of course their homes are big and beautiful but I wouldn’t want that stress and I wouldn’t want to be a doctor lol my most FUN and more importantly HAPPY friends are artists, bartenders, and even like insurance agents/mortgage brokers that just love to live life. I bury myself in books completely unrelated to anything material so bios usually or I am reading the Tibetan book of the dead which is so fascinating. I talk to a local PNC manager and because he’s from New Mexico we’re always discussing aliens 😂Anyway, please don’t compare, there’s no point. This is your life, don’t let moments of happiness pass you by!
Yes. And every time I begin to do anything I just think it's going to be picked apart and everyone is going to be just as apathetic as me and what's the point
SADLY, ALLLLLL OF THIS TERRIBLE CHANGE THAT'S OCCURRED IN OUR COUNTRY IS SIMPLY DUE TO THIS COUNTRY REMOVING GOD FROM IT + ESPECIALLY FROM OUR EDUCATION SYSTEMS. THE BIBLE EVEN SPEAKS OF ALLL OF THIS WITH HOW THE LORD WILL BLESS/CURSE NATIONS. TRULY Y'ALL, IT IS WITHOUT A DOUBT, MIIINNNDDDDBLLOOOWIINNGGG. I AM JUST BEGINNING TO LEARN/RESEARCH ALL OF THIS & I TRULY FEEL + KNOW, THAT JESUS IS THE TRUTH, THE WAY & THE LIFE ✝️😇
The pandemic definitely changed me forever. Seeing different people’s response to it was maybe even more traumatising than the effects of the sickness itself, which were also extremely traumatising to witness. It’s been all loss, financial struggle and mental exhaustion since then wherever you look. I became a lot more cynical since then and feel like life will never be the same. I probably will never have that same enthusiasm or excitement for life I had before 2020.
I felt this way about trumps presidency. It destroyed our relationships w especially w the older generation in America. It was the most divisive thing that could have happened fr. This too but I felt this way already bc of him.
This! This and the feeling that we should have these perfect lifes, perfect images, we should be oerfecr. We kind of forgot that we are all going to die someday and beauty of living is in the mistakes, hard lessons, sadness, pain, love, ugly stuff...no filter can mask the harsh reality of our world. We are born, we live, we die. We look out for one another..we feel empty when we try to make ourselfs happy with stuff. If you want to feel full, devote your life to giving this world the best of you each and every day. Be kind. Be friendly. Forgive. Share love. When people go low, go high. Social media lies that you need this and that to feel happy but the opposite is true. I feel the same, the older I get, the simpler i wish to live my life. I want to take care of my family and friends and our planet and do fun activities..i think thats the meaning of life- to live it fully. And that doesnt mean staring at fake realities on our phones all day❤
I’m 35 and I am blown away by how much has changed and the internet is 100% the cause of it all. I could write a novel about this topic. Shit is SOOOOOOO DIFFERENT then when I was a kid/teen/young adult. I’m honestly scared of where we are going as a society in the future...
I know exactly what you mean. It feels grim. And it’s not even like a personal thing cuz I’m grateful to be alive, but there’s a sense of malaise across the board.
Also 35, completely agree. I miss when it was exciting to even be able to use the internet because my mom didn’t want me “tying up her phone line”. And spending time on forums where we could make real friendships, getting excited when certain friends would come on AIM and MSN… Then we all had a LiveJournal where we could express ourselves but there was still a sense of privacy. Then MySpace came, and that was new and exciting but also the beginning of the end. It all started coming too quickly, and too much. Like Kristi said, we basically got a few good years with RUclips. Now YT has almost been made irrelevant because TikTok caters better to a burnt out, mass ADHD society. Millennials were the last generation that really got to experience so much… It’s no wonder why we’re so traumatized as a generation. We were given all these new things to be excited about and then watched it disintegrate just as quickly.
We need to step back from the digital life. We need to use cash, have meetings in person, reopen offices at services that are now all online. We need to rehumanise ( not a word 😂) ourselves. I loved this video x
I'm going to pull back a little about going back into the office. I do both in office and WFH. And I really do enjoy working in an office, but as a single Mom, the ability to WFH has saved my butt so many times. And I also have a chronic illness, being able to say "Hey, I'm WFH today" because I had roller coaster blood sugars all night and got maybe 3 hours of sleep is great. I have a lot to stress over, but because of the ability to WFH, childcare and having to juggle diabetes and work is not something I have to stress so much about.
There's something inhumane kinda isolating in cashless transactions. I've been quite traditional in the sense of using cash majority of times. I've been buying dinner with friends from musical band and one of them was like: "do you have quick payment code?" me: "nope" and he's like: "just send me an account number". I've felt that cold feeling and captured that strongly for the first time. It's like a part of the human interaction, a primal sharing and exchanging ritual, was removed from reality and moved into the internet out of the society domain. It's like the number somewhere there changes and it leaves a hole inside where gratitude previously existed.
As someone born in 88, I also felt there was a shift after 9/11. I think the defining moments of a generation are moments that definitely cause a cultural shift that maybe history books can't always capture or quantify. I often hear Baby Boomers saying there was a shift in the culture after JFK's assassination and after the Vietnam War. I'm sure the same was true for our grandparents and great grandparents experiencing WWI and WWII.
@@Ellieways I don't think so... all those other things had a major impact on society yes but none of them compare to being forcibly isolated from everyone and everything that previously gave your life meaning. Other hard times created art and music and cultural movements representative of the shift. There was still a sense of 'community'. There was also a level of acknowledgement about HOW those other events impacted us. We got none of that with covid. We got locked up like prisoners, called terrible people if we dared to complain or object, and then one day it was just.... over... and we were all expected to act like nothing happened and that we were not all, in fact, collectively traumatized. (Note: I am speaking from Canada, I am aware there are even worse events experienced in history as a whole but where I live and what my own family remembers nothing compares)
@@biitchstix locked up like prisoners seems a bit dramatic. personally, i didn’t feel isolated and the lockdown period feels like a blip in time looking back on it. maybe you didn’t write any songs, but others did.
Andy Bernard said it best “I wish there was a way to know you’re in the good ole days before you left them” It’s so true. You aren’t wrong. The world has changed and not for the better.
SADLY, ALLLLLL OF THIS TERRIBLE CHANGE THAT'S OCCURRED IN OUR COUNTRY IS SIMPLY DUE TO THIS COUNTRY REMOVING GOD FROM IT + ESPECIALLY FROM OUR EDUCATION SYSTEMS. THE BIBLE EVEN SPEAKS OF ALLL OF THIS WITH HOW THE LORD WILL BLESS/CURSE NATIONS. TRULY Y'ALL, IT IS WITHOUT A DOUBT, MIIINNNDDDDBLLOOOWIINNGGG. I AM JUST BEGINNING TO LEARN/RESEARCH ALL OF THIS & I TRULY FEEL + KNOW, THAT JESUS IS THE TRUTH, THE WAY & THE LIFE ✝️😇
I knew it when i was a kid in the 90s...one way to tell was everywhere you went people were kind and went out of their way to help you. This happened in California where i lived. In San Fran in those days the malls were always packed with people dressing up and looking really nice. People had a smile on their faces and everyone "looked" happy. Nowadays i dare you to go to SF and not have your car broken into within the first week. It is sick
I grew up in the 70’s and I had the absolute best childhood and I’m so grateful I grew up then. Bike rides, and movie theaters, pool parties, and meeting new people. And the radio.. we had radio playing all the time. It was just the best. Waiting for that boy to Fallon the phone.. the excitement and butterflies. I loved my growing up years..
I'm 50. I miss it so much! Even the elderly is on the internet a lot. I was at the dentist, and I was the only one NOT on my phone. Someone 20 yrs older was though. Crazy!
If you think that was good, you should have been around in the 1950s! Then, the only TV shows for kids were on Saturday mornings, so the only thing we had to do all day, every day, was play outside, riding our bikes, playing ball, climbing trees, trading baseball cards, shooting marbles, roller-skating with skates that clamped on to our shoes. We didn't talk all day on the phone ... we only had one phone and it was one of those big black ones with a rotary dial. Can you imagine talking to your boyfriend on a phone in the middle of the house? Apparently, I did it alot because my Mom put a timer next to the phone so that I wouldn't talk more than 10 minutes ... but that was in the early 60s. The only time we had a telephone call from our long distance family was if there was an emergency ... otherwise ... everyone wrote letters. Life was simpler.
“In the pursuit of everything being convenient, we’ve lost the humanity in things.” 🤯 I can’t tell you how seen I felt watching this. The content creator burnout, the overstimulation, the noticeable collective apathy…thank you for making this ❤
I feel a lot more suspicious of people that I've never met before. I've never felt this suspicious of people before, but these days, I'm even more on high alert, constantly wondering who I can actually trust. I'm starting to lose faith in a lot of things. Another thing, is I've noticed how all of the Wetherspoons restaurants here in Britain, they all do the same menu. They just have different restaurant names, but their menu's are ALL the same. I know their menu off by heart. The Whetherspoons restaurant's may all have different names, but it can't fool me. All of their menu's are the same as each other. Been there done that. There's certain friends of mine who will spend almost £10 for a burger in these places, and I just think to myself, it's only food. Why pay these expensive prices for a bit of food that you'll never see again, once you've eaten it? I just think to myself "It's only food". I could get the same thing cheaper elsewhere. I've never been for the lavish lifestyle. I don't thrive on greed, whether I mean money, or food. I've been brought up to only live within my means. Why should I give in to being as greedy as a lot of others? I just don't buy into all of this consumerism, and all of this forced influence to become greedy. It means nothing to me. It's all over-hyped.
@tootynuggetsright! Are the ppl developing and making these things sooo incredibly out of touch with what is going on with the rest of us?? We can’t afford it, so what so their end goal or game?? It’s all so weird!
This content has worth. I was born in 88 and you’re right, nothing has been the same since 2020. I was already dealing with bad anxiety but it’s gotten so much worse, and I have chronic pain on top of it. Being in my home alone all day every day probably wasn’t great, but at the time I mostly enjoyed it. I didn’t have to feel guilty about not socialising or not leaving the house. It’s everything going back to “normal” that’s affected me. I was more at peace when people were at a minimum and when it was expected of me to stay home, not go out and “do things”. But now everywhere is crowded again, everyone is angry and so self obsessed. And I’m so angry all the time, and empty too. I feel like my life has no direction and I honestly don’t want to be part of society because all we seem to see is the bad now.
This! My hubby is 86 and we are still at home. At one point I was very angry but I just don't care anymore. Luckily we live on acreage and there is always a project needing done.
I agree. I think the problem we don’t address is that, Covid was like 3 years. I feel that’s why going back to normal was so hard. It didn’t feel like 3 years. It felt like one…? And we grew up in that time frame. We grew 3 years older. That’s hard to understand. ( Totally my opinion. )
@@Imagine.This12 It also varies a lot depending on where you live. In Texas we were only on lockdown for a few weeks, and then had a pretty lax mask mandate until early 2021. My life was only minorly altered for 1 year. Even church services continued for anyone who felt comfortable going, and restaurants opened back up after a few weeks. They just spaced out the tables. We had socially distanced seating at church, and we had online services for anyone not comfortable attending in person. I forget sometimes that for many people it is so different and they experienced the isolation for so much longer. It was a stressful time for sure, but it was so long ago for me and people here. I saw someone in a mask the other day for the first time in a very long time, and it was so weird! I'm not used to seeing that anymore.
I recently rid myself of all social media besides youtube (and even that I put a time limit on) and let me tell ya- I’ve never felt less dystopian in my life. I feel like my head is finally clear :)
I was in high school in a small town when Titanic came out, and it was like the circus was coming to town. The anticipation and excitement and shared experience of getting your ticket for the local theater and going to see it with your friends (and entire town, it felt like) and getting your seats all together (remember when we had to get there early to make that happen?) was really special, and memorable, and just really fun
Reading this made me smile. I was so psyched about it coming out. I went a few times. Now you just wait for the movie to come on Amazon Prime, Netflix, here on RUclips or one of the other handful of major video streaming services. Pre-streaming, I'd wait for it to come to TV but that would still take a year or 2. Now there's so much content to view that it takes a lot to get me excited about a new release.
Damn I remember in high school and late teens getting excited to go out with my friends to see a movie. I haven’t felt that enthusiasm in a very long time. I’d love to get it back
"Collective burnout" - absolutely agree. Overstimulation and instant gratification, like you said... so true! Our dopamine receptors are being blown out constantly. I think a lot of us are experiencing what's called anhedonia. Things that once brought us joy and excitement simply don't anymore, or at least not in the same way. It's mostly just habitual at this point. This modern world can be a bit soul crushing. Disconnecting, seeking out nature, and face to face encounters are very important. Let's get back to the real.
You’re soooo right, especially with wanting “less”. I hate social media but I’m so addicted it’s insane. I don’t think we as humans are meant to consume news and information from all over the world 24/7. It’s exhausting.
I think this is the actual answer to why we all feel this way. We know more about strangers than the people leaving right near us. I miss the old days. Life felt simple.
Get off it! Just do it. I pulled myself off of social media, except for RUclips which is like TV for me. But just getting off Facebook and Twitter has made my life 90% better. You will feel so good after a week or two. I highly highly highly recommend doing it. Just save all your data and don't look back! All the news on youtube...just automatically "don't recommend this channel to me" no matter what. It helps a lot. Your recs will eventually become only what you want to see.
Omg… are you me?! I’ve also been doing RUclips for 10 years, also just had my first child in 2021 & ALSO FEEL THE EXACT SAME! I’m so glad your video was randomly recommended to me because I’ve been trying to put into words why I haven’t wanted to post as much about my life or in general as I used to. Your video perfectly encapsulates how I’ve felt the last couple years. Thank you for this. 💜
I’m 40. I had my son in 2014. Becoming a mother opens your eyes to a lot and society definitely has seen a downfall in the past few years and it’s scary. Sometimes my son watches your channel and I gotta say you are making content for teens and kids so maybe since you’re making things you are not connected to anymore and then receiving comments from children that are on a different wave length than you, you are feeling even more disconnected from your work. Maybe but I don’t know you personally so I’m speculating here. The most important thing is our families and how we raise our children to be empathetic, loving and respectful so we can at least do our part in helping the world be more peaceful. It’s tough right now for everyone but we all got this. You’re strong and you will find your groove again.
SADLY, ALLLLLL OF THIS TERRIBLE CHANGE THAT'S OCCURRED IN OUR COUNTRY IS SIMPLY DUE TO THIS COUNTRY REMOVING GOD FROM IT + ESPECIALLY FROM OUR EDUCATION SYSTEMS. THE BIBLE EVEN SPEAKS OF ALLL OF THIS WITH HOW THE LORD WILL BLESS/CURSE NATIONS. TRULY Y'ALL, IT IS WITHOUT A DOUBT, MIIINNNDDDDBLLOOOWIINNGGG. I AM JUST BEGINNING TO LEARN/RESEARCH ALL OF THIS & I TRULY FEEL + KNOW, THAT JESUS IS THE TRUTH, THE WAY & THE LIFE ✝️😇
This is very interesting for me as a disabled person. Covid was basically a slightly different version of normal for me, it was like watching people discover what it’s like to be you, hating it and then learning nothing as the pandemic disappeared. I didn’t enjoy being stuck inside but I fared a lot better than most people I know just because I’m used to feeling like everything is barely under my control. I’ve definitely felt the effects of the pandemic from society but not from myself, it that makes sense? It’s a weird kind of disconnect.
makes 100% sense, how the society at large feels/acts has a massive affect on us individually, even if we personally are not affected or differed by something.
I'm blind. I got so excited when hybrid and remote work became the norm. Then all of a sudden it went away. Nothing really changed. They just threw a new coat of paint over the dung heap
I feel it. I’ve completely backed off of social media and started living more of a simple life. I’ve gotten back into canning, gardening, food preservation, soap making, etc…RUclips is all I have now as far as social media goes. Being online made me feel so empty inside. It started hurting all of the relationships in my life. I had to do something different.
even youtube doesn't feel like a safe space anymore, mostly due to reels. I wish that short form content scrolling got completely banned from insta, youtube, facebook and everything else. I escaped tiktok just for it to find their pervasive way into everything
Human beings have become desensitized to everything. I fear for this world. This Internet world has done more harm than good, in my opinion. Thankful you are addressing this truthfully. ❤️
@@xRaverxBabyxThe Internet has done more harm than good, simply means that people are really beginning to wonder how they got to where they are now, and how it’s going to be, to get back to who they were before (if they could go back to being the same person as before). It’s such a good question! If so many people feel the same (and they really do) then we’re going to find out what things bring them closer together. Honestly, if we listen to what is being said, we can say that when the internet was new, everyone was excited and they devoted a lot of time and attention to it, at the expense of other things. But now, people are missing things and it has changed. But don’t worry guys, it can become as it was then, just have to put energy and dedication to some of those values. Plus, we have learned a lot about ourselves from all the introspection and time on the internet. Last year, I saw a lot of new parents living in the moment with their little babies, so the shift towards being present is happening more and more. Now, we know how and what can be done to unite with community on multiple levels.
@xRaverxBabyx its really weird because you have got to be on the worst side of the internet to think that is true lol. The internet is no better nor worse than the people who use it. If the internet is bad, that only means people are bad. In my opinion the internet does plenty of good. I see people help eachother, support eachother every day. They fund eachothers goals and medical treatments. They donate millions upon millions to those who need it most. I'm sorry to tell you but, no, without the internet I don't think we ever could have raised millions for cancer research WITHIN 24 hours. Only the internet could do that. I see people on the internet who help look for missing family members. Plenty have been found thanks to them. That would not be possible without the internet. The internet is nothing more than a tool, and it is a tool that had done good things for everybody around the globe.
As technology continues to advance it feels like we are regressing as a species. It’s a surreal feeling of living in the future and also the past at the same time.
All of the school shootings, people going into public places and randomly gunning others down because they are angry about something - certainly social media, 24/7 news, violent movies and video games triggers hatred and rage in those who commit these crimes. And yet, when we hear that it has happened , it’s becoming an old story, something that doesn’t surprise us so much anymore.
The ending of the Honeymoon phase of connection and convenience feel so spot on. It also feels like we are trying to get the Honeymoon phase again but the spark isnt there anymore.
I relate completely Kristi. And we older millennials I think have a much harder time with all of it because we did grow up as the internet was born. I had a rotary dial phone in our house until at least 2000. I turn 40 in 2 weeks and I’ve been in a real funk wondering the same things - am I just getting older? But it’s not just aging, it really is a different world. People have lost the ability to connect face to face, everyone is divided about something and it feels harder than ever to go out and find joy. Social media is a contagion now.
You’re very right about the 90s Kristi. Before the pervasiveness of cell phones when people got together our focus was 100% on each other and storytelling/laughter. Also, there was lots of dancing… at clubs, home birthdays, just because to entertain ourselves and others. I moved to a new town in 2020 and let me tell you i have not made ONE friend bc people just don’t seem to want to connect and hang out. Hanging out for its own sake seems to be out. That’s very sad and adds further fuel to feeling a collective isolation.
I was reading your comment and thinking about how fun life was in the 80’s and 90’s. Just hanging out with friends, really interacting with one another (as opposed to a group of friends being in the same room but all in their own little world on their phones) going out to clubs and dancing for hours, going to the mall and meeting up with friends, going to the beach, stuff like that. Now, we’ve all become so voyeuristic, constantly watching the lives of others, whether it’s celebrities, just our favorite RUclips channel, or endlessly scrolling through Instagram/TikTok that we no longer participate in our own lives. We don’t interact with our family and friends. We’ve abandoned them and replaced them with images and small snippets of people we will never really know, and they don’t care to know us, because to them, we are nothing more than another viewer, another 👍🏻. We ignore those that truly care about us and devote our time to those that don’t care about us at all. Then wonder why our lives are sad and empty. We need to start reconnecting with the people in our lives, dancing, laughing, and stepping away from the obsession with social media.
Right! It’s so weird! I was born in 1994 and I’ve really noticed the impact on the people I graduated with. So many people I know have killed themselves.
I've found it really hard to make new friends too. It's like many people no longer want to give others any of their time, energy or presence. I made an online friend in 2020, she reaches out to connect but when I reciprocate she sort of pushes me away telling me she doesn't want to be online, she's drained etc and she starts sending me podcasts and videos to watch, as if to say 'don't bother me with your thoughts, watch this podcast instead and deal with your own life.' I feel like people have become v individualistic, always looking for what people can bring to their lives then ditching them if they're not useful. That's not friendship, that's cold and calculated and using people. I'm so tired of it, I'd just like some good friends to spend time with to talk, listen, share food, laugh, dance, encourage and support.
I am a high school teacher, and when you mention instant gratification, it is terrifyingly true. I see it in the classroom everyday. Kids aren’t motivated to learn unless it’s tied to something instantly gratifying. We aren’t learning to learn, we are just earning grades. Our teacher crew has noticed it as a whole, and unsure how to change it because it’s how everyone just functions now. Also, these kids act like their phones are an appendage! It’s really sad😭
You would have always had kids like that in the classroom only they were called the 'problem child' (ADHD boy hyperactive type) or the one whose "away with the fairies" (ADHD girl inattentive type). Increase in children with ADHD plus smartphones vastly increases the problem.
Yeah there’s literal scientists researching how to make phones & apps as addictive as possible and we’re really feeling the repercussions of that especially the kids :/
I feel like I’m just spinning my wheels. Accomplishing nothing. Just… here. Ugh. I’m working on gratitude and thankfulness. Truly. Love to you all my friends! ❤
Uhg, I’ve felt the same way. It’s an awful feeling. Praying for y’all internet friends that feel the same way. Practicing gratitude and thankfulness has helped a bit for me. ❤
My husband walked in the room while I was watching this & when he saw you, he said, “Oh! How is she doing?” He remembered that you went through a rough time after having a baby & he was genuinely curious how you are doing now. 😊 It’s great to have you back, regardless of what content you post. ❤
Life just feels so surreal post 2020. I feel like time is zooming by faster than I ever remember. It just feels like I wake up, I’m on autopilot, and repeat. So strange we all feel this way, and I agree about what you were saying about the state of social media and the internet today.
Omg I’ve said the exact same thing multiple times recently. Ever since 2020 ended, it feels like we blink and the whole year is over. It feels like going downhill and gathering speed, and not in a good way. And definitely surreal.
Same! I just feel like a robot ): like it’s the same routine, same thing, every single day. I’m not social like I once was, so much about me has changed since then. Some people think that may sound dumb, but it’s so so true. 😢
@@BookwitherinI’m so glad I’m reading these! But then also so sad we are collectively here! Because this is how I feel everyday too and I’ve been so depressed about it! A situational depression! Not like a physiological thing…and I felt so alone like it’s just me because everyone online seems to be doing greattt and doing all these fun things - I have considered it’s an illusion, but they sell it so well 🥴
i'm glad it isn't just me. Something broke in me during 2020. I struggle to understand time or extract joy from much of anything... even when there is a lot positive going on!
A lot of people have gone mask off about how little they care about you or others since then. It's really sad. It makes me wonder if the internet has encouraged people to think this way, since trolls who know they'll never see you IRL have acted this way for decades. Might be like training for real life asshole behavior.
@@mellowasiamit's also really radicalized people into conspiracy, like you do global pandemic not long after the exposure, arrest, and sus death of the head of a real life international rich people child trafficking island resort, various big corruption scandals alongside economic downturns around the globe, rapidly shifting social attitudes and isolation, the publicization of the unreliability of formerly trusted news sources, the world's a big powder keg right now, and keeping fact from fiction seems harder than ever, which makes it easier to influence people to hateful and hostile ideologies. It's really soured a lot of people who were otherwise tolerable before
@@mellowasiamidk what your affiliation is right or left but I’m more right sided to center. I was a former left leaning prior to having a child. Once I became a mother my entire perspective changed, things that seemed unimportant mattered and vice versa. I became a Christian and I’m glad to have found my faith. In 2020 amid the government doing what I never thought they could do, force us to stay home and the utter fear and rhetoric of “we can force you to and we are better than you because we care more than you because we’re scared” just showed me how easily people can be manipulated to do the unthinkable, how people just don’t care about people because of fear. 1930s Germany made sense.
The way she perfectly described heroin addiction but was talking about the internet 😭 we’re not getting high anymore but we still need to engage to get our fix. I swear we are all going to collectively unplug at some point and the people who don’t will be viewed as drug addicts…I think that’s my dystopian novel lol but honestly I can hardly watch TV anymore and RUclips, podcasts, TV used to bring me so much comfort, excitement, and happiness…the ONLY thing that’s given me that feeling in the past few years has been succession (it was that good) but if a tv show isn’t perfect I lose interest. Also, remember how important photos used to be? We would take them, not be able to see them, drive to rite aid, pay to develop them, have to wait, come back to pick them up, then frame them…now they’re meaningless basically. It’s so sad.
My friends, boyfriend, and family all talk about this all the time… word for word. It’s a sad world and we’re all over it and exhausted asf. Broke asf. Lost asf. I’m so glad im not alone in this ❤
yes I feel so exhausted and yet I have nothing/do nothing, I just feel no motivation, I just feel... Like a slug. Moving ever so slowly, without anywhere specific to go, nor do I really care where I go. And I used to be incredibly happy and motivated. Struggled with depression, sure, but it definitely feels way heavier now.
I’m 23 and I already lost my friends and everyone is too self absorbed to even gaf about friendship anymore. They don’t realize they second they get this “success” they want they’ll have no friends to invite over and share the house and the success with.
Kristi and me : “I’m not feeling depressed I just kinda feel like …. Like I wanna be …. Amish”. Yes ma’am. I’ve always had that vibe and since 2020 it’s been intensified!!!
“In the pursuit of convenience we lost the humanity in things” was the perfect sentence to sum up what’s going on. We choose money, selfishness, greed, and speed over our happiness and fellow humans! It’s so sad.
That's exactly it in my opinion. We have choose "progress", which has lead us to this state of loneliness and individuality, but humans are socials animals to the core and, yeah we can choose what we are doing, but are we really happier ? It's like just after a divorce "yeah no more need to compromise, I eat what I want, when I want, same thing for sleep !" but it soon lost the charm because you are alone.
First of all, this video was randomly suggested to me and it gave me something I didn’t know I needed: raw, authentic understanding. The internet today is so scripted and unreal. Dead. My thoughts on this are many. It’s a constant inner dilemma of how glued I am to my phone even though I’m not particularly happy when I’m plugged in. When the pandemic hit in March 2020, I was considered an essential worker. My elderly grandfather was living with me. Going to work made me feel guilty (contagion and all) but not going to work would have left me even poorer. My grandfather passed away. I was expected to deal with grief, trauma, constant illness and worry and still keep the system running. On top of that, the customers treated me like absolute shit, going on tangents to me, acting truly insane. I HAD to disconnect to keep going. Anyway, I’m sure what I’m saying isn’t unique but I haven’t left that ‘disconnect to stay sane’ mode. I don’t think it’s safe to even though I’m told it is. as I seek online connection because I’m too traumatized by the pubic to leave my house for longer periods of time, I find that it’s all dead AND perfect AND scripted bullshit that has no feeling. Thank you for posting this raw reflection and if anyone read all of this, thank you as well.
Thanks for saying this. People are so divided over the needle thing, anger and shunning and blaming. I took to reading more, walking more and looking for other ways to make a living. YT likes to push certain topics on me but I click away- no interest in fashion or makeup or home decor. More interested in ideas. You might like New Thinking Allowed channel. Hundreds of interviews with authors and scientists. Gives me hope.
Read and understood. For me it is the "oh covid's gone, nothing happened" in a matter of months. And the people who we're a little too vocal for comfort when it all went down to this day rub me the wrong way. I'm really not built for this.
I'm definitely getting tired of over-produced, hour-long video essays. I don't mind watching normal people live their lives, voicing their thoughts. This IS content. Just as valuable as anything else.
You're not alone. I recently saw a meme that basically said "We're the generation that started social media and now the ones to slow everything back down. Start a homestead, live off the land and go back to what the world should be." I felt that. I have been watching so many families build a life from scratch and hand make all their goods, food and share their trades with others.
You’re probably seeing these homesteads on the internet. Think about the curated ideal version of homesteading that you see and ask yourself how this compares to the reality
I grew up on a farm, a lot of the homesteading channels are (too) idyllic. I’m going back to a slower life too, but I’ve already lived it. We definitely need more small family farms and real communities.
“The funny part of me died.” Um hello? Yes. I just had this realization about myself yesterday. Like where did she go? I spend 30 years being funny and I am now hyper focused on being “good” and just trying to survive instead of just being myself. I wonder how many people have lost themselves the last few years. I love this type of content from you, thanks for posting it, it seems like a lot of people here are glad you did❤
I think it's the cancel culture, virtue signalling culture and being constantly reminded that there is some kind of crisis somewhere in the world. Who would dare to be cracking jokes and being spontaneous without heavily filtering yourself. It could literally cost you your job or at the very least heavily shamed for being insensitive.
It’s hard to get exited when most of our lives is just spent working to many hours to make barley enough money to survive so there is no time or money really left for going out and doing something fun, buying that new outfit that you love, or even hobby’s. The normal human life to function in society is just to much physically and mentally on people. And I feel like this is just scratching the surface of it all
I was in my 20’s in the 90’s, and it was absolutely better then. Our society has turned to 💩 Everyone is so self-obsessed that they don’t care about others, and I feel like deep down, they don’t even care about themselves.
I don't think people change that much deep down in such a short time but with everyone oversharing everything we're just confronted with how people actually are non stop and it's often ugly. Plus poverty has increased massively, that makes people bitchy too.
@@annnee6818 I don't have social media, if I'm online I'm listening to a podcast or something, I don't think the vibe change has anything to do with anything social or facade-level, I think its much deeper, at the physiological level.
Insane. I’ve been feeling this too much - I was born in 2002 and the internet does feel so overstimulating and overwhelming. It was fun and now it’s just not. There’s just too much that it feels that any meaning found on the internet is lost. I really think we’re in this limbo because we just aren’t really connected. There’s a friendship shortage and a lack of community. It just feels like we’re all floating about, untethered to anyone or anything
@jackie2011jr Born in 2002? Now I feel old lol I’m a 1992 baby, I was in 5th grade when 9/11 happened and I remember watching it on the tv. I feel like there was a major shift in 2001 after that. I wonder what it must have been like for younger generations since y’all already had internet and cellphones when I grew up without a cellphone til high school and had dial up internet when I was young and messaged via email or passing notes in school.
@@SK_30241 honestly I think generation was very much the transitional period - which side note is always why we r kinda disgusted by how ppl r raising gen alpha to be iPad babies. Because yes, we had access to tech - especially because my dad worked at intel - but we still had fun without it. I didn’t have to wait for a phone or pc til high school but we still had a family pc and home phones. Yes there were computer games and mmos but also games weren’t as great as keeping you trapped in them as they are now. Like my friends and I still liked riding bikes or selling lemonade or making silly rainbow loom stuff. Passing notes kinda started to die out in middle school for me bc more ppl got phones. But it was insane bc I remember Instagram becoming popular in 6th grade and my friends asking me to make one and follow them. So i very much saw the peak of insta, snap, as well as there “decline”. I think they’ve declined because they aren’t as fun as they were when I was younger. Which kinda is what Kristi brought up so well (maybe it was part of the charm from being a kid but…), whenever you made stuff/posts/blogs online it felt like they mattered but now there’s so much noise it just feels like you’re adding to meaningless void and maybe you’re friends won’t even see it. I have strong friendships but deal w mental illness bc genetics 😃 - but I do still think there’s a lot of people my age who feel that loneliness and mental health struggle because they don’t know how to connect with others anymore. Not to say I’m great at it myself but I’m aware enough to know I’m disconnected to an extent. High key I think it has to do with social media exacerbating the need to be not just an individual but THE individual and now we’re all realizing how lonely that is. Sorry for long post 😅 but this topic is very on my mind - also you’re not old!!! I have 2 sisters even older than you, in my brain you’re still sibling adjacent age
@@jackie2011jr no need to apologize for a long post. I enjoy hearing other people’s point of views. 😊 thank you for sharing! And for saying I’m not old lol I also have 2 older sisters and a twin brother but we’re all only 2 years apart. If your sisters are older than me then that must be quite the age gap. I’m not big into gaming now but, I remember being really hooked on World of Warcraft back in the day. I agree tho, I think it’s gotten worse because of phone app games like candy crush that get you hooked. Those companies literally hire professionals to make the most addictive system to prey upon people’s need for dopamine and reward. Same goes for social media platforms.
I think we all need to reconnect with each other as humans and in person. There's a loneliness epidemic that I believe gies hand in hand with this as well. We have all regressed socially.
As a teen in the 90's, we lived freely because there were not cameras on every street corner, dashboard, living room, bedroom, office, and pocket. We could show up places as our casual, carefree teenage selves and the moment didnt follow us into school the next day (and forever) via sm. We had friends from different schools and churches that never crossed over, and provided new opportunities for connection and interpersonal development.
That’s true. I do delivery & I realized I’m being filmed all day the whole day. Some might see this as simply good, I find it invasive. People’s doorbells film you, your vehicle films you. There’s no moment where you have your own space
@@CAPRESEGREEN Make of it what you will, but the expectation of privacy is a very modern concept. Most of history you would have shared a room with family and your only chance to be alone would be to sneak away. What's different now is we don't know who is watching or when. Best you can do is just live your life making good choices, same as ever.
As a mom who used to work outside the home and transitioned to remote work during the pandemic… I agree. I watched my kids go from social beings excited to explore the world and learn new things to socially withdrawn anxious and self conscious drones. And this is with me constantly monitoring and watching what they are doing watching and interacting with on a daily basis. It’s really infuriating and upsetting that there really isn’t much I can do… I want to remove internet from their day to day but it’s almost impossible!!! They use it for school they use it for friends they use it for entertainment…even alarm clocks are hard to find now a days!!! But personally it’s also affecting my mental health. I watched the world burn and worked thru it got laid off in the middle of a high risk pregnancy and then tried to make up for it by working 3jobs at once while pregnant. Really and truly, none of us are okay and it’s all for different reasons!
I had a baby March 2020 and I literally FEEL everything you said... Because I feel nothing anymore. Was it motherhood? Pandemic? Stress? Getting older? Whatever it was, I don't feel like my happy 2019 self.
If this is the first video you’ve watched in weeks you are surely not living the same life as the rest of us 🙈 or wait does that mean you only watch short form content? I hope not 😅
Please stay honest and real. The world doesn’t need more over-produced videos that make the rest of us feel like we’re lacking. I’ve always appreciated your videos because you’re more real than other creators. Please stay human and share what you love. We have to be more of what we want to see in the world if we have any chance of crawling out of this weird place we’re in. More connection, less glitz.
"I feel this craving for less". YES. So much yes putting it into words! Just in the past year or two I've been wanting to purge and simplify my life. I just want to raise my kids and tend to my home and make beautiful memories. I want a garden, chickens, and to can food. I'm tired of targeted ads trying to get me to buy all these things and I'm tired of having things. There's been a huge shift in so many of us recently and honestly, the reason sucks, but it's nice we're trying to simplify and slow down. And I LOVE your kitchen. I can't stop looking at the stonework.
I’ve been thinking the same for a while now! People are no longer allowed to just “exist” in the current online era, they have to have a “brand” because many people DO aspire to be a “content creator” for the income potential. Corporations objectify us enough, it’s a shame to also have to do that to yourself. The way out of all of this is maybe naive, but it’s what I’ve always thought for any worldly issue - kindness, empathy, and hope. Don’t succumb to the perception of darkness because reality is truly what we make it, and it all starts within ourselves.
"I don't want to to feel like this is just a chat between friends." Honestly, this was the exact video I needed. I see value in your message and resonate with a video that's more casual than these high production videos I feel more disconnected from. I'm pregnant with my first child, a boy. Ive always wanted to be a mom and am feeling that transition of simplifying my life more. I still have career ambitions as an artist, but just feel the need to slow down when he arrives. I will admit I started to care less about sharing my art on social media. Everything is so competitive now with the algorithm and feeling the pressure of sharing the most creative content.
And just to add, thank you for reminding me why I want to share content: to connect with an audience. Popularity becomes outdated in itself. You naturally grow an audience when you present your truest, genuine self. Not excessively chasing an algorithm or formula to "make it". Maybe we wouldn't be so apathetic as a society if we can just learn to have fun again and not aim for perfection.
I feel the same way! As an artist, it has gotten even harder to stand out. The best solution I've found is to make art for myself first and then share if I feel like it
I can't describe how much I appreciate you saying this out loud. I'm a sucker for appearances and sometimes it seems like everyone is doing fine and I'm the only one who feels this way. Glad I'm not alone.
Same here. It feels so... refreshing? To not feel alone in feeling this way. I haven't felt this apathetic/lethargic/depressive since my years as a teenager going through a bombardment of several family traumas at the time.
I can’t express how much I relate to this. My brother and I talk about this everyday. I long for the old world where we had to try, and wait, and work for things. Things becoming easy, took all the value out of them. I personally used to go to Media Play every Tuesday because new albums came out every Tuesday. There was something magical about flipping through cd’s and praying that one of your favorite artists album would be there. There was nothing like it when it was there! Then we’d drive home, put the album an actual stereo with great speakers, and listen to the ENTIRE album. You wouldn’t know what was on it, and every song was a new discovery. I feel like we lived a REAL, physical, involved life. Something has died. I feel knowing everything about everyone all the time has made us less interested in people. We lost the mystery and magic of the unknown. We’ve traded all that longing to know, and wonder and imagination for convenience. I personally grieve it everyday. And I’m not depressed. It’s not depression, this is a legitimate change that I think everyone feels, even if they don’t realize it. Thanks for this video!
I think about that a lot. I have two sons and I see that they have no concept of that “real” kind of world. You can tell then about it all you want, but they never felt the freedom of it, so they just can’t comprehend it. It’s the saddest thing because as parents, it’s something we can’t give to them. 😢
Remember waiting for a album to come out and hoping you got a book of lyrics in the case? Or trying to hunt down a remix import of a song you loved? I miss old music stores or like book / music store combo's where my bf would hang out there a whole afternoon discussing authors and books we were hunting for and buying up music and the thrill finding 12" remix albums. I rather hate cell phones and how no one gets that thrill of the hunt anymore or have the joy of mix tapes and car rides and singing to hunt for things.
I almost didn't watch this, but I'm so glad I did. I have been trying to figure out why I'm feeling this exact way. This apathy. This overstimulation, this burnout. I was just talking to my therapist about it last week but this really hit the nail on the head and helped me understand it so much better. I almost feel like I've outgrown the internet in a way yet I'm clinging to the past, to what always fulfilled me and it's not cutting it anymore. I recently started crocheting and it's been like a gift. Fun, exciting, satisfying in a way I never imagined. Maybe I've matured, maybe the pandemic changed me, maybe I'm burnt out from everything being too easy. Probably all of the above at the same time. Thank you for helping to make sense of all this. Also, I love your longform, casual content, it's my favorite.
I really enjoyed watching you clean your kitchen while I did my make up and got ready for the day. I really enjoyed you not trying to sell me something and just talked to me. I think we now live in a world where negativity and apathy is on trend, and I am hopeful and waiting for that to go out of trend again.
I think “collective overstimulation” is the most accurate term I have heard for the state of things right now. I’m your age and in total agreement with every point in this video. It’s hard to put all of my thoughts into a little comment on a RUclips video, so just suffice it to say that I FELT this video lol.
I’ve thought about this too. We have become bored and jaded. Politics have turned people hateful. Nothing seems trustworthy. It’s a really tough time. The pendulum needs to swing. Ugh
I recently read the book How to Do Nothing by Jenny Odell, and it gave me a lot of insight into the way that I've been feeling. We're so locked into consumption that our view of ourselves and each other is commoditized.
RUclips suggested your video to me and im actually glad it did. As a woman slightly older than you, i do feel like the 90s were better and i really dont feel like it was just because we were younger. I definitely feel like life is different since 2020. I went to work from home and lost seeing all my coworkers. I know some people loved that, but my coworkers were my friends i had made over the last 10 years. On top of that, i dont see my long-term nonwork friends either. It's like over the past 3 years no one wants to go out and just hang out anymore. I would just love to have a good evening of laughs and conversation. I know this all varies by personality and introversion vs extroversion but life now definitely feels sadder to me than pre 2020..
I dont obviously know your social circle but im a middle class guy 40yo married with a 3rd grader. To me it seems the people we used to regularly get together with are all working like 6 days a week and side hustling some too. Most of the people around me are expending much more energy for the same or even less results. We live in pinellas county Florida for reference. Since 2020 the property tax on my house went from 700$ to 4525$ Same house. The county just says it’s worth a fortune now. The insurance went from 1100$ a year for good coverage to 5100$ a year for basic nothing covered lol coverage. The day care went way up, all services went way way up. It’s just crazy, I don’t hear much griping and complaining tho from my pier group. So I think maybe people are all overworking themselves just to stay where there where pre vid. America is experiencing a standard of living shift I’m afraid.
No one has explained this better than you!!!!!!! This is exactly how I feel it’s like we slipped into a different multiverse timeline and it’s freaky and not normal. Everything is different the world is more evil and just very depressing I am even afraid to leave the house sometimes I want to just live in the woods and churn my own butter. I’m at the point where I have covid and my work is expecting me to still come in with it, I’ve never felt the hollow emptiness I’ve felt today before
I think it's because we have streamlined access and delivery but have failed to deliver large culture projects. There is nothing particularly exciting on the horizon. For the most part we are relying on each other directly to generate content which is probably, for most people, just discussions about particular immediate topics. When is the last time something like Pokemon , Lord of the Rings, or World of Warcraft happened? Harry Potter? Those all happened fairly close together too.
It’s the spiritual realm of demonic in the world. We’re living in the end times. Lord Jesus Christ, God of Israel is coming back for his people! Relationship with Christ! Not religion.
I definitely have been trying to get off the internet more and more, and trying to reconnect with the world like I did before all of this really took off. I was born in 1986, so I'm right there with you in having experienced life on both sides of the divide. And I don't think it's just us. I work as a high school teacher, and let me tell you, a lot of these kids are EXTREMELY unwell. They don't like themselves, they don't like other people, and for a generation that prides itself on being "tolerant", they're the most intolerant people I think I've ever encountered in my life. They want to ruin people's lives for the smallest infractions, and sometimes without proof! Sometimes they want to ruin other people's lives just based on something they *supposedly* heard. They have no *real* empathy, no ability to retain anything they learn. Even the ACT recently put out a statement that ACT scores are the lowest they've been in 30 years. So no, it's not just you, and it's not just your age. We can see a really scary deterioration in young people, too.
I'm 32 and I agree with you. These young adults/kids are SO REACTIVE. Everything sets them off, everything is an issue. They focus too much on the negative aspect of things instead of trying to figure out a solution to the issue. It's extremely annoying. That's why when they call me a millennial" I'm not offended by it, im happy im not like that.
this is why my youngest kid does not have social media at all. I was born 1981. So i really remember no electronics and trying to raise my kids with those same values.
15:25 ohhhh my god I feel this. I had a nail art Instagram account back in 2015 when I did my nails every day. I went back to it the other day and didn't even recognize myself - who was this person who was so excited about nails? I talked about how much I loved the colors and the design and I would look up silly holidays every day to wish everyone a "happy grape soda" day. I remember hyping myself up a little bit, but mostly feeling that excitement. I can't even imagine trying to match that energy today. And part of that is depression wearing me down and autistic burnout, plus a whole identity crisis, but there's definitely something more to it. I wish I knew how to get that excitement back.
I’ve been off social media for a few months now (after a decade+ of frequent use) and am LOVING life offline. Getting my heckin’ dopamine back … my attention span … my real life relationships … my goals & aspirations … I’ve been so (neurodivergently) burned out for so long and this has been a huge turning point for me in the recovery process
I've been off social media for three or four years no, I don't remember ever losing my attention span but the only one I had was facebook and did a lot of reading and programming, etc. so I guess it never was an issue. The dopamine thing, I never experienced a dopamine spike from scrolling on social media, either, I understand that less than I do the attention span issue. But anyway I still feel horribly depressed...
Idk how ppl say this helps. But then again my “friend group” is nonexistent anymore, so I just end up very very isolated and alone .. I’m not on social media anymore but it really sucks . I miss the way social media was in the early 2000s . I look at my old instagram and it’s nothing like the new ones where it’s a beauty pageant .
So much changed from 2020 for me. I was in my third trimester for lockdown, gave birth in the height of the pandemic, and basically didn’t see family or friends for a year. I realized my abusive partner wouldn’t change, that religion was just as abusive, and so in 2021 I moved across the country with my baby to start a new life and divorced my now ex husband. I’m now an evangelical turned atheist and am in a long distance relationship with a scientist. Reality is sometimes stranger than fiction and the pandemic seemed to emphasize the surreal nature of it all. I think the pandemic brought some of the worst out of humanity and we are all still processing the trauma of a once in a lifetime tragedy.
This is going to be obnoxious and in all caps but... PLEASE DO MORE VIDEOS LIKE THIS. It is so fleshing to watch a video of someone cleaning up and just talking as I myself am cleaning up my own space. It gives more sense of connectiveness. Also we are all growing up and this is content I connect to more. I was so excited to watch this video because I was like yes, a normal house, a normal mess, with normal talk
I love these long form chit chat videos. I’m able to put them on in the background when I’m doing tasks and I feel like a friend is over and I’m not alone
This. And, we are all suffering a collective form of PTSD in one form or another. The world stopped, and never was the same after. People were banned from society for years, people were not legally allowed to see their families and friends, lots of loss of life, constant fear of "what are the cases today? Don't kill Grandma!", etc etc etc and then it just .... Went away ... with no real chance to come to terms with what happened, and we never really went back to normal. I personally trust no institution that was once trusted and lost a lot of relationships over personal choices during the pandemic. Feels like we're always waiting for the next shoe to drop, when we will face a total loss of control again. Plus we're all going broke
I'm so glad to hear someone else say it. It makes me feel crazy. There is something to it when it affects the collective, and it's scary. I don't know what's going on.
💯!! It makes me feel less crazy to know that other people are going through the same things and feeling the same way!! We need to build/build back community to be able to cope and thrive.
Agreed! I was talking to my mom-in-law about this a couple days ago, how collectively I think we still haven’t even begun to figure out the mass psychological damage of the pandemic
@@katelindrum3022What I find strange, is that we're just all suddenly expected to behave as if there hasn't been any pandemic. I don't have a selective memory, unfortunately. 😄🙂
The timing of this video....Just TODAY, I thought people have changed since 2020. The mental health crisis has gotten so much worse. People are less patient, angrier, nastier, more rude, less empathetic, less friendly, more nosey and more selfish. I just want to stay inside 24x7 and forget there's a world with people in it outside.
I’m gen x, born in 1976. Growing up, I’ve always been so curious about other people’s lifestyles, loved spending the night with friends to see how they lived, what they ate, etc…I used to love walking through neighborhoods in the evenings getting a feel of what the neighbors are up to…. Some call it noses but I’ve honestly just always been intrigued at how others live. When I discovered RUclips, it was like a gift for that curiosity. The rawness you describe is what I love about RUclips but it seems like you said, to have shifted away from that. This video is really what I enjoy watching the most, just a glimpse into someone’s home, lifestyle and real thoughts. I hope this style never goes away.
I agree with your observations. 2019 was my last good year. The world changed suddenly in 2020. My partner and I were talking about this and we both agree - "We didn't have all these issues before the pandemic." Now, it's like a perma-crisis. Things are going wrong everywhere. We spend hours a day sometimes trying to fix screw-ups due to mistakes being made by others. The biggest change we saw, however, was in people. Relationships with others became difficult. Relationships vanished, became problematic or strained as they began acting out or otherwise behaving abnormally, and people stopped caring and communicating liked they used to. Everyone I know right now is stressed out over something. Heck, they can't even pay attention to you when you speak. Their attention span is about 5 seconds. Something is dreadfully wrong.
This year I made an effort to be more like myself before 2020. I started celebrating the holidays like I used to. I started running again. I took my family to restaurants instead of ordering in. We went to the movies instead of waiting for the film to hit streaming. Now at the end of the year I can say I’m happier. I feel more like the person I remember being and I like that person.
Honestly I think if you keep making raw videos like this you will be on the up and up again! I personally think this is what people need to hear! Love it and keep on going
Yes yes yes!! I'm so over the "picture perfect" lives that a lot of ppl show on social media .. I wish more ppl wpuld be like RBK and be real .. I love this content and her 💯💗💗
With everything going on in the world especially all the suffering and loss I think it’s hard to watch people buying luxury goods and living their best lives.Most of us are really struggling just to provide for ourselves and our families. I like to watch videos that show real people living real lives.
I totally agree. I won’t name names but a lot of the old OG influencer became totally different people when their channels blew up and became completely self obsessed. It was hard to watch and still is! I lost a lot of respect for people.
Stay at home mom here. I love this kind of video. I think people really want authenticity and it is so hard for people to tell what is and isn’t anymore. I can play a video like this and listen while I’m living my life and cleaning my home and such and connect because it’s authentic. Thank you.
This is the exact content I would love to see more of. This is what I watch all day every day. I work from home and I just want to watch other people work/clean/whatever and talk to me. ❤
I had a video on the other day- it was just a gal doing her studies at a table. I sat at my table and read and took notes as if we were studying together.
I‘m from Germany and I feel the same. The pandemic, the war a few countries away, watching my dad die in front of me, family disputes,… I absolutely feel dead and numb inside. It’s pure survival mode even though I might seem fairly normal to the outside. But I’m filled with anxiety. I hate this chapter of my life and I am looking forward to better ones.
I feel you. My sisters was murdered by her husband in their home during the pandemic, in front of my niece and nephew. Their marriage had been struggling for a couple years because he had a drinking problem. Once they were forced to stay in the same house 24/7, it was over. Luckily for our family, our state didn’t keep people from attending funerals. Still, I can’t help but wonder if lockdowns never happened, would I still have my sister? People underestimate the whole picture of what lockdowns caused. It’s beyond devastating, what the human cost has been, and I suspect we won’t even know that true cost for years to come. It feels like we’re all zombies just mindlessly wandering. I hope we can come back from this. It’s hard to see a way forward.
@@lonisimmons-clausen838I'm so sorry for your loss! During lockdown, domestic violence cases went through the roof. There weren't enough resources to handle it. News didn't report it much, people hate the topic.
I feel this 100%. I think another factor of “going viral” meaning less is due to the fact that early on in the internet, there were a few people contributing to content, and now there are millions. We have so many people to look at because half of us are creating content. Even by just having a social media account for friends and family, we contribute to content online. Even this comment is one of thousands. That’s insane. That’s more comments than anyone has time to read. So it all just feels so distant and unreal because well, it is. You’re not alone.
Totally agree. The internet has just turned into the void. Where shit is being thrown out into it constantly and its made everything meaningless. I don't feel like posting anything anymore. Whats the point? throw some more shit out into the void to be ignored?
I feel like TIME doesn’t work the same any more. Even on my days off, I feel like I have the time and energy to do one thing. Having 4 free hours feels like 1.
Its because the rest of three hours you waste on your phone 📱
@@amandag.1453well that was an assumption! You didn’t ask her…I know even if I don’t get on anything time does feel different..sped up 🤷🏻♀️
I used to count the days until special events. Now it feels like they're hurtling towards me, and I'm not mentally prepared. I don't look forward to things anymore. I'm exhausted, and anything over and above my regular routine feels like too much. I'm only just getting back into hobbies after a year of doing almost none. I've been in survival mode for at least a year, and I'm only just starting to remember there was more to life than this.
Completely agree
@@Draggonnythis comment!! 💯 I say that I feel like a hamster on a wheel running so fast I'm falling off of it-so it's pointless.
Holidays in year's past I was prepared for-not last couple of years. Working like crazy barely have time to shop. I'll be lucky if presents go into gift bags this year. Like everyone else I'm beyond exhausted.
i have NOT felt normal since 2020. it’s been a horrible depressive state
Same. And each year I thought “Next year is going to be better” mhmm…. still waiting.
Me too. 😢
Same and I also got extremely sick and haven’t been the same since august 2022 and I have no idea how to get out of it I am so sick and I’ve lost everything since this started. I just want to be ok again
Same😢
Yup.
We are being economically devastated and punished by Corporations after a huge loss of life..What we are feeling is oppression against things we can't see.
Loss of life?! Better peruse the official stats, bro. Less people died in 2020 than the year before and less again in 2021. Influenza can be deadly to the already frail/ill elderly and those with co-morbidities. Happens every year. The oppression you feel is that the government at War with the people. Democide is the #2 cause of death after life. You thought the "elite" cared about you? 🤣 They don't. Suck it. up.
Yup because we choose not to go back to work after Covid. The government/corporations are making us pay for it with high taxes.
Facts facts fact
You're right. Many of the rich lost money and maybe even power and they're ringing our necks trying to get it back.
No huge loss of life , death rates stayed the same as ever …. Until the “free cure “ and it’s follow up treatments came anyways . More than 99% survival rate , we got duped .
You’re 10000% spot-on. The world is in a collective burnout, and I feel like Millenials/Early Gen Z have been hit the hardest. Before 2020, it was much easier to ignore/gloss over it, but the world got a collective rude awakening a few years ago, and now EVERYONE is *painfully* aware of the disparities that exist and the systems that keep people strained and struggling.
Yes, and it is a draining realization.
what’s even worse is the collective peer pressure from both wider society and even close family circles to “return to normal” as if the “normal” before was even something to brag about. Whether you were individually successful beforehand or not, we ALL saw how fragile the entire system really was in 2020. We can never truly “go back.”
I have a theory that the apathy is kind of like a defense mechanism we’ve all adopted to deal with the fact that we have so much hyper awareness about the bad things going on in the world (due to how things spread on social media). It’s like the human brain doesn’t have the capacity to emotionally process all of these things at the same time, so we shut down a little bit and become apathetic instead to protect ourselves. 🤷🏼♀️
A great older book about this state is called Thrilled to Death. It's essentially a condition called anhedonia.
I'd say the word is dissociate
It also causes us to shut down and could be traumatizing to some
I agree. The only real answer for me was to drastically reduce intake of the 24 hour new cycle. I get daily email summaries of the top news but barely read those anymore. Some will act like you're committing some kind of crime by not being an open door for whatever "news" global corporations and governments claim we need to know. However, your social media posts taking sides on whatever issue just gives your brain the illusion of taking action, but it's meaningless l. In the meantime all you're doing is engaging in continual toxic distraction while neutering your own imagination and power to create.
Perfectly explained.
Definitely feel like theres a collective burnout. People are angry, unhappy and just sick of everything. I think we are all addicted to tech and need to get outside and connect in real life more.
I'm optimistic that this will happen and more people will start to socialize outside in person again
Ding ding ding!
@@bren42069 I truly hope so! Ive started walking around my neighborhood and talking to my neighbors lol trying to be the change. But a couple of them are a bit screwy in the head so its been interesting Lmao its still worth it
Esp in usa
So glad this is not me anymore!
Even the Holidays don't feel the same. Christmas time doesn't feel the same. Everything feels forced and fake and unnatural.
I think that we all feel this emptiness inside. You're right, something changed after 2020.
I felt the same about Christmas since 2010.
I definitely agree. I can’t believe Christmas is almost here and I’m not close to being ready. This is the first year my husband never decorated outside. We do a simple decoration, not anything major, but not this year. I have young grandchildren age 6 and under. I have to force myself to be happy for them. It takes all my effort to get up and go to school programs. I don’t feel depressed. Just tired. I can’t explain it.
I think it was always fake, we just see it now because we've been forced to wake up and come to terms with so many other things.
The illusions sustained us for a while but now they can't. We need genuine growth towards a new era of some sort.
My husband and I were talking about this recently. During Christmas time we decided one night to drive around and look at Christmas lights. In a town of about 50,000 we saw about 100 houses with lights up. I remember when almost every house had at least a few lights, when the malls were decorated and playing Christmas music, when kids got excited over the Sears and JCP Christmas catalogs (showing my age there lol)
It feels like people are just empty and dead inside, and although I think that there was a major shift after 2020, I feel it started long before that.
@@selenecelestial5498i feel the same with any holiday and birthday. Its just another day, the only reason i even remember special days is because of the calendar. Other than that i forget what day/week/month it is.
The compassion fatigue with having constant access to the woes of the whole world I think is one factor.
Yes! I think so, too.
It eats me alive inside and I don't know how to stop. Be less aware? Active ignorance?
@@trailertrashfire I'm not sure exactly what the answer is either as I'm still working on it, but I wonder if it's less about reducing awareness, and more about narrowing the field of care. It's funny how so many people will get consumed in the news of the world but that doesn't mean they necessarily have an awareness of what's going on around them: friends, family, neighborhood, community. I wonder if maybe attending to the real needs around us, although less newsworthy, might be a more sustainable type of empathy.
This sounds on point to me.
@@trailertrashfire 🍄 can help with reducing all the background noise. It really opens your mind and become aware of all the bullsht, and how you dont have to be a part of it. Very life changing
Actually had an ego death couple days ago 😂
As a GenX, We were happier before cell phones. We only saw each other when we saw each other and were so excited for it. We spoke on one landline that the whole family had to share so it was minimal. So when friends got together at school and the mall we had lots to catch up on. Absence made the heart grow fonder-maybe. Life was less overwhelming. Now ppl get upset if I don’t answer quick enough. They expect ppl to be tied to the phone and by extension to them.
Yeah, I am the same age and knew a few of the lucky kids who had their own phone in their room, but shared the same phone number with the house and couldn’t make a call whenever someone else was on the house phone. My sister in law actually did have her own phone and her own phone line but she paid for that with her after school job.
That's what was special about life in the nineties. 😊
YES I AGREE BORN 87
Agree
Agree 84. Throw phones away
The depression caused by the pandemic kept on going due to the wars, sociopolitical issues, declining economy, and drug/homelessness crises. That's my best answer when I reflect on it.
👏👏👏
This economy is better than it was under Trump with more opportunities for more people and more employment as well. Feeling low? You are listening to DT and Republicans too much. They don’t have a good word for anyone or anything. What the H*** do you expect? Meanwhile the actors are back with a better contract, ditto for autoworkers.
I agree. It’s like the American spirit broke. The pandemic and having to be locked in your home (it felt like) for me was the cliff where everything fell. So many people died and so many others lost their jobs/ everything after that. Sometimes I wonder if the lockdowns had something to do with it. Bc before, as an American, we felt like we could do anything if we tried. After that we all recognized how easily we could have that snatched away. Even if it was for a good reason. Idk. I could be wrong.
@@hissonggirlmoni5706I agree, though I'm Australian so maybe just the world's spirit in general? Who knows but I feel it over here too. I also think the pandemic made us look at the world around us closer, because there was nothing else to do l, and I feel like most of us didn't like what we found. Combine that with cost of living, wars and climate crises and whatever is going on in our personal lives, mine has sucked and it's not going to get better for a while, I'm not surprised we all feel mentally awful. It's too much.
Wars and crisis have always been there it's just with the internet rn you can keep up with EVERY LITTLE THING happeni everywhere to the point of it becoming overwhelming
You're so right on. I'm totally dead inside, I despise the world we've created and every year I get older I feel I get closer to an exit from Zombie Planet. I feel so sad for the younger generation. Nothing seems possible anymore. Nothing seems to matter or inspire people. thank you for this amazing brilliant rant!
Wrong because this video inspired us
I think we are living amongst zombies. I called it at the beginning of covid but it’s been slowly happening. It’s more digital. And the rules don’t make sense, but have they ever really?
This is a boring decade within a boring century. Exciting positive changes are not happening. Look at the 1920s for comparison.
You’re being bombarded with negative frequencies. Turn off the tv and you’ll feel better
I despise the world we created. Yes, that’s exactly how I feel.
I definitely told my Dad in the last 6 months or so that I feel that the rug has been pulled out from underneath me. For ~30 years I had a somewhat optimistic view, and then I feel like our governments and leaders sold us out to the highest bidder. We're just live stock, to be used and replaced, is what it feels like.
Replaced by everyone coming over the border.
Yeah, I think that's real deal there. But I still think it is impulse and inertion of the whole society there.
You are not wrong.
On point.
Same. We are being replaced. Open borders.
Collective overstimulation is a great way to describe it. Not only that but people’s financial situations got REALLY dire in 2020 and haven’t gotten better since then. All the things we used to get excited about (makeup, movies, etc) are all consumer based. If you’re struggling financially, it’s hard to stay excited about that stuff
Absolutely!
Yep!!!
Dopamine crash.
GEE, it's almost as if it's directly correlated with a hijacked Presidency full of criminals
Great point as well
I sat at home today and thought about how different the holidays feel. Thanksgiving doesn't feel like a holiday anymore. No one takes time for traditions, games, family time, etc. It's not a big deal if we miss out on that time with each other. It feels like a shell of a life, and I thought it was just getting older, but this makes me feel better and not as alone in my feelings. It's like we are in perpetual survival mode.
I had this same conversation with my mom after thanksgiving this year.. I felt so utterly depressed after bc I cooked all day for my family to show up LATE and leave very shortly after eating. No more staying over for hours just to visit. Broke my heart.
you have summed up how i feel, perfectly @laurarenshaw8847
To me, it IS a big deal if I miss out on spending time with family. I'm quite a traditional person. Getting older though, feels like some of the things that happened in my past, didn't actually happen.
@emilywood6830I spent quite some time planning a thanksgiving dinner for my friends last year, didn’t receive any appreciation back nor I got a celebration message from any of them this year - I am for sure not doing it again
I am guilty of this. I stopped celebrating holidays the last few years =(
I'm so glad you said the quiet part out loud. For me, the reason everything has changed is because we can no longer trust the institutions that we used to trust to guide us and keep us relatively safe. Regardless of political ideology, the internets, main stream media, politicians and corporations are all captured and beholden to one another. So trust and safety are down. Fear is up and now maybe we are on the brink of a world war, which nobody wants or voted for...it's all gross.😢
Yes! We used to watch cop/detective shows and knew justice was happening, who the hell knows now🤷🏻♀️
That’s it exactly!
I think we never really could trust them. We just for the first time got to see their true side. Ignorance is bliss and life was much more happier when we believed the lies.
@noblelies ^^^^ This exactly! 2020 gave us all 2020 vision.
Covid made everything so abundantly clear. Stop buying useless crap? Economy crashes. Deadly disease happening? Go to work anyway. And all the 'essential' workers get overworked and underpaid. Now stay inside and be afraid
There's also no 'third' places. Growing up before the Internet, you went out to see people, went to friends houses, had friends over. Met them at places like the mall, a great restaurant, the movies, the beach, the lake, the pool, etc. A great bar or dance place. Those types of social interactions seem to be gone.
the internet has become a lot of people's 3rd place, unfortunately
Third places were an issue before the internet, depending on the place. Car-dependent suburbs are bad for that. We used to hang out in parking lots.
It's also that life has become so expensive. I wouldn't mind having a friend over and doing a potluck or something, but my apartment isn't very big.
@@ceciliacole5098 Yeah the park by me used to be crowded when I was a teenager. Then in my 20's it began to get quiet, in my 30's its empty. Nothing. Nada. A few couples walking through, a goose taking a shit. Same population levels in my town.
This IS the content we need. Realness. Honesty. Things did shift and it’s hard to deal with.
That's exactly it, we don't want the fake curated content. It used to be entertaining, and now it feels just that, fake, pointless, useless. We want real, we want genuine, we want to have fun again on the internet and not be sold something we don't need every 2 seconds when we can't afford anything right now.
I can't describe it but honestly, nothing feels real anymore? Countless times a day I think to myself... this can't be happening, nothing matters, constant struggling, this HAS to be a simulation lol. Sending love to everyone💙
They're is a solution, not many people would be willing to do it. We need a entire overhaul of our government!!! Every last one of them has to go!!! And completely new people who are not related to any of the previous people need to get introduced 😔 but sadly I doubt that this will happen 😔
@@mz.yumyum1461 agreed, a huge overhaul is much needed for actual change
Same feeling
I have the same feeling! I used to love the holidays but they just pass through and the season doesn’t feel real anymore till it’s over. Like Halloween ended and then I realized I never carved pumpkins and it doesn’t even feel like it’s about to be December.
@@mz.yumyum1461I don't think it's just the US government. I actually think it's capitalism, and it's world wide.
I’m 38 and have developed extreme anxiety over the past five years and I think it’s constant comparison that’s rotting my soul. The stimulation of seeing so much of everything online…outfits, hair, makeup, home decor, etc. just always leaves me feeling empty and “not enough”. It’s so unhealthy and not natural. Thank you for talking about this. We’ve got to re-wire our brains.
Constant comparison was one of the reasons I basically dropped insta and facebook. I don’t see what my peers re pretending to do anymore. I don’t even share my bombastic food lol, I’ll take a quick pic or video but it’s just for myself now.
Unsolicited advice here, but please surround yourself with some really cool interesting people who are not interested in THINGS. I am in the design community and while I do love it they are always comparing their homes to the ones we style and it’ll be someone who is a doctor or dentist so of course their homes are big and beautiful but I wouldn’t want that stress and I wouldn’t want to be a doctor lol my most FUN and more importantly HAPPY friends are artists, bartenders, and even like insurance agents/mortgage brokers that just love to live life. I bury myself in books completely unrelated to anything material so bios usually or I am reading the Tibetan book of the dead which is so fascinating. I talk to a local PNC manager and because he’s from New Mexico we’re always discussing aliens 😂Anyway, please don’t compare, there’s no point. This is your life, don’t let moments of happiness pass you by!
Yes. And every time I begin to do anything I just think it's going to be picked apart and everyone is going to be just as apathetic as me and what's the point
Yes, I'm 36 and I feel this to my core.
SADLY, ALLLLLL OF THIS TERRIBLE CHANGE THAT'S OCCURRED IN OUR COUNTRY IS SIMPLY DUE TO THIS COUNTRY REMOVING GOD FROM IT + ESPECIALLY FROM OUR EDUCATION SYSTEMS.
THE BIBLE EVEN SPEAKS OF ALLL OF THIS WITH HOW THE LORD WILL BLESS/CURSE NATIONS.
TRULY Y'ALL, IT IS WITHOUT A DOUBT, MIIINNNDDDDBLLOOOWIINNGGG.
I AM JUST BEGINNING TO LEARN/RESEARCH ALL OF THIS & I TRULY FEEL + KNOW, THAT JESUS IS THE TRUTH, THE WAY & THE LIFE ✝️😇
The pandemic definitely changed me forever. Seeing different people’s response to it was maybe even more traumatising than the effects of the sickness itself, which were also extremely traumatising to witness. It’s been all loss, financial struggle and mental exhaustion since then wherever you look. I became a lot more cynical since then and feel like life will never be the same. I probably will never have that same enthusiasm or excitement for life I had before 2020.
I felt this way about trumps presidency. It destroyed our relationships w especially w the older generation in America. It was the most divisive thing that could have happened fr. This too but I felt this way already bc of him.
This isn’t pointless. It’s life. The robots and metrics have convinced us that our real lives aren’t good enough. Gorgeous kitchen and lovely chat ♥️
This! This and the feeling that we should have these perfect lifes, perfect images, we should be oerfecr. We kind of forgot that we are all going to die someday and beauty of living is in the mistakes, hard lessons, sadness, pain, love, ugly stuff...no filter can mask the harsh reality of our world. We are born, we live, we die. We look out for one another..we feel empty when we try to make ourselfs happy with stuff. If you want to feel full, devote your life to giving this world the best of you each and every day. Be kind. Be friendly. Forgive. Share love. When people go low, go high. Social media lies that you need this and that to feel happy but the opposite is true. I feel the same, the older I get, the simpler i wish to live my life. I want to take care of my family and friends and our planet and do fun activities..i think thats the meaning of life- to live it fully. And that doesnt mean staring at fake realities on our phones all day❤
Totally agree! Social media appears to me that my "real life" isn't good enough. I'm mentally in a good spot. Yet for some could cause depression.
I’m 35 and I am blown away by how much has changed and the internet is 100% the cause of it all. I could write a novel about this topic. Shit is SOOOOOOO DIFFERENT then when I was a kid/teen/young adult. I’m honestly scared of where we are going as a society in the future...
Please, put your thoughts in writing. There are many ( including myself) who would read them!
I know exactly what you mean. It feels grim. And it’s not even like a personal thing cuz I’m grateful to be alive, but there’s a sense of malaise across the board.
Totally agree. I'm 35 as well, I would do a lot to go back in time and live without smartphones and all the terrible changes. It happened so fast, wtf
I'd read it
Also 35, completely agree. I miss when it was exciting to even be able to use the internet because my mom didn’t want me “tying up her phone line”. And spending time on forums where we could make real friendships, getting excited when certain friends would come on AIM and MSN… Then we all had a LiveJournal where we could express ourselves but there was still a sense of privacy. Then MySpace came, and that was new and exciting but also the beginning of the end. It all started coming too quickly, and too much. Like Kristi said, we basically got a few good years with RUclips. Now YT has almost been made irrelevant because TikTok caters better to a burnt out, mass ADHD society.
Millennials were the last generation that really got to experience so much… It’s no wonder why we’re so traumatized as a generation. We were given all these new things to be excited about and then watched it disintegrate just as quickly.
We need to step back from the digital life. We need to use cash, have meetings in person, reopen offices at services that are now all online. We need to rehumanise ( not a word 😂) ourselves. I loved this video x
Yeeeessssss! I just commented the same sentiments, helloooooooo!!! :D
We're going to become a cashless society soon. It's all about digital money, now, and credit cards.
I'm going to pull back a little about going back into the office. I do both in office and WFH. And I really do enjoy working in an office, but as a single Mom, the ability to WFH has saved my butt so many times. And I also have a chronic illness, being able to say "Hey, I'm WFH today" because I had roller coaster blood sugars all night and got maybe 3 hours of sleep is great.
I have a lot to stress over, but because of the ability to WFH, childcare and having to juggle diabetes and work is not something I have to stress so much about.
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There's something inhumane kinda isolating in cashless transactions. I've been quite traditional in the sense of using cash majority of times. I've been buying dinner with friends from musical band and one of them was like: "do you have quick payment code?" me: "nope" and he's like: "just send me an account number". I've felt that cold feeling and captured that strongly for the first time. It's like a part of the human interaction, a primal sharing and exchanging ritual, was removed from reality and moved into the internet out of the society domain. It's like the number somewhere there changes and it leaves a hole inside where gratitude previously existed.
As someone born in 88, I also felt there was a shift after 9/11. I think the defining moments of a generation are moments that definitely cause a cultural shift that maybe history books can't always capture or quantify. I often hear Baby Boomers saying there was a shift in the culture after JFK's assassination and after the Vietnam War. I'm sure the same was true for our grandparents and great grandparents experiencing WWI and WWII.
I feel like this is good perspective. Maybe every generation has this. XD
@@Ellieways I don't think so... all those other things had a major impact on society yes but none of them compare to being forcibly isolated from everyone and everything that previously gave your life meaning. Other hard times created art and music and cultural movements representative of the shift. There was still a sense of 'community'. There was also a level of acknowledgement about HOW those other events impacted us. We got none of that with covid. We got locked up like prisoners, called terrible people if we dared to complain or object, and then one day it was just.... over... and we were all expected to act like nothing happened and that we were not all, in fact, collectively traumatized.
(Note: I am speaking from Canada, I am aware there are even worse events experienced in history as a whole but where I live and what my own family remembers nothing compares)
@@biitchstix locked up like prisoners seems a bit dramatic. personally, i didn’t feel isolated and the lockdown period feels like a blip in time looking back on it. maybe you didn’t write any songs, but others did.
@@pissangelmindfreak Case and point. When anyone dares to vent about how awful it was for us this is what we get met with.
@@biitchstix yes, it must’ve been grueling for you to read my comment. almost like being locked away in prison.
Andy Bernard said it best “I wish there was a way to know you’re in the good ole days before you left them”
It’s so true. You aren’t wrong. The world has changed and not for the better.
I fucking love that quote from the office. Have it saved ❤
SADLY, ALLLLLL OF THIS TERRIBLE CHANGE THAT'S OCCURRED IN OUR COUNTRY IS SIMPLY DUE TO THIS COUNTRY REMOVING GOD FROM IT + ESPECIALLY FROM OUR EDUCATION SYSTEMS.
THE BIBLE EVEN SPEAKS OF ALLL OF THIS WITH HOW THE LORD WILL BLESS/CURSE NATIONS.
TRULY Y'ALL, IT IS WITHOUT A DOUBT, MIIINNNDDDDBLLOOOWIINNGGG.
I AM JUST BEGINNING TO LEARN/RESEARCH ALL OF THIS & I TRULY FEEL + KNOW, THAT JESUS IS THE TRUTH, THE WAY & THE LIFE ✝️😇
I knew it when i was a kid in the 90s...one way to tell was everywhere you went people were kind and went out of their way to help you. This happened in California where i lived. In San Fran in those days the malls were always packed with people dressing up and looking really nice. People had a smile on their faces and everyone "looked" happy. Nowadays i dare you to go to SF and not have your car broken into within the first week. It is sick
You’re not crazy, you’re actually spot on.
I’m 43 and there was no better time than the 80’s 90’s pre internet, cell phone and social media
Amen!! I forgot that part!
I grew up in the 70’s and I had the absolute best childhood and I’m so grateful I grew up then. Bike rides, and movie theaters, pool parties, and meeting new people. And the radio.. we had radio playing all the time. It was just the best. Waiting for that boy to Fallon the phone.. the excitement and butterflies. I loved my growing up years..
42 here & couldn't agree more!
I'm 50. I miss it so much! Even the elderly is on the internet a lot. I was at the dentist, and I was the only one NOT on my phone. Someone 20 yrs older was though. Crazy!
If you think that was good, you should have been around in the 1950s! Then, the only TV shows for kids were on Saturday mornings, so the only thing we had to do all day, every day, was play outside, riding our bikes, playing ball, climbing trees, trading baseball cards, shooting marbles, roller-skating with skates that clamped on to our shoes. We didn't talk all day on the phone ... we only had one phone and it was one of those big black ones with a rotary dial. Can you imagine talking to your boyfriend on a phone in the middle of the house? Apparently, I did it alot because my Mom put a timer next to the phone so that I wouldn't talk more than 10 minutes ... but that was in the early 60s. The only time we had a telephone call from our long distance family was if there was an emergency ... otherwise ... everyone wrote letters. Life was simpler.
“In the pursuit of everything being convenient, we’ve lost the humanity in things.” 🤯 I can’t tell you how seen I felt watching this. The content creator burnout, the overstimulation, the noticeable collective apathy…thank you for making this ❤
I feel a lot more suspicious of people that I've never met before. I've never felt this suspicious of people before, but these days, I'm even more on high alert, constantly wondering who I can actually trust. I'm starting to lose faith in a lot of things. Another thing, is I've noticed how all of the Wetherspoons restaurants here in Britain, they all do the same menu. They just have different restaurant names, but their menu's are ALL the same. I know their menu off by heart. The Whetherspoons restaurant's may all have different names, but it can't fool me. All of their menu's are the same as each other. Been there done that. There's certain friends of mine who will spend almost £10 for a burger in these places, and I just think to myself, it's only food. Why pay these expensive prices for a bit of food that you'll never see again, once you've eaten it? I just think to myself "It's only food". I could get the same thing cheaper elsewhere. I've never been for the lavish lifestyle. I don't thrive on greed, whether I mean money, or food. I've been brought up to only live within my means. Why should I give in to being as greedy as a lot of others? I just don't buy into all of this consumerism, and all of this forced influence to become greedy. It means nothing to me. It's all over-hyped.
Not dissing anyone who is on Tinder. But I always thought it was ordering seX like a pizza.
@tootynuggetsright! Are the ppl developing and making these things sooo incredibly out of touch with what is going on with the rest of us?? We can’t afford it, so what so their end goal or game?? It’s all so weird!
I feel this. The magic is gone. We as a society, have been through a lot of traumatic events.
"Collective overstimulation" really hit me. I heard that and it instantly clicked. Like I finally got what I was feeling.
This content has worth. I was born in 88 and you’re right, nothing has been the same since 2020. I was already dealing with bad anxiety but it’s gotten so much worse, and I have chronic pain on top of it. Being in my home alone all day every day probably wasn’t great, but at the time I mostly enjoyed it. I didn’t have to feel guilty about not socialising or not leaving the house. It’s everything going back to “normal” that’s affected me. I was more at peace when people were at a minimum and when it was expected of me to stay home, not go out and “do things”. But now everywhere is crowded again, everyone is angry and so self obsessed. And I’m so angry all the time, and empty too. I feel like my life has no direction and I honestly don’t want to be part of society because all we seem to see is the bad now.
This! My hubby is 86 and we are still at home. At one point I was very angry but I just don't care anymore. Luckily we live on acreage and there is always a project needing done.
I agree. I think the problem we don’t address is that, Covid was like 3 years. I feel that’s why going back to normal was so hard. It didn’t feel like 3 years. It felt like one…? And we grew up in that time frame. We grew 3 years older. That’s hard to understand. ( Totally my opinion. )
@@Imagine.This12 It also varies a lot depending on where you live. In Texas we were only on lockdown for a few weeks, and then had a pretty lax mask mandate until early 2021. My life was only minorly altered for 1 year. Even church services continued for anyone who felt comfortable going, and restaurants opened back up after a few weeks. They just spaced out the tables. We had socially distanced seating at church, and we had online services for anyone not comfortable attending in person. I forget sometimes that for many people it is so different and they experienced the isolation for so much longer. It was a stressful time for sure, but it was so long ago for me and people here. I saw someone in a mask the other day for the first time in a very long time, and it was so weird! I'm not used to seeing that anymore.
@@annelanders2462 Staying at home all day, every day, made me resent being at home for the rest of my days.
This :( same here, and I was born in 97.
I recently rid myself of all social media besides youtube (and even that I put a time limit on) and let me tell ya- I’ve never felt less dystopian in my life. I feel like my head is finally clear :)
I was in high school in a small town when Titanic came out, and it was like the circus was coming to town. The anticipation and excitement and shared experience of getting your ticket for the local theater and going to see it with your friends (and entire town, it felt like) and getting your seats all together (remember when we had to get there early to make that happen?) was really special, and memorable, and just really fun
Reading this made me smile. I was so psyched about it coming out. I went a few times. Now you just wait for the movie to come on Amazon Prime, Netflix, here on RUclips or one of the other handful of major video streaming services. Pre-streaming, I'd wait for it to come to TV but that would still take a year or 2. Now there's so much content to view that it takes a lot to get me excited about a new release.
Damn I remember in high school and late teens getting excited to go out with my friends to see a movie. I haven’t felt that enthusiasm in a very long time. I’d love to get it back
You are so right, and it seems like Titanic mania, Spice mania and the like couldn’t happen today.
"Collective burnout" - absolutely agree. Overstimulation and instant gratification, like you said... so true! Our dopamine receptors are being blown out constantly.
I think a lot of us are experiencing what's called anhedonia. Things that once brought us joy and excitement simply don't anymore, or at least not in the same way. It's mostly just habitual at this point.
This modern world can be a bit soul crushing. Disconnecting, seeking out nature, and face to face encounters are very important. Let's get back to the real.
You’re soooo right, especially with wanting “less”. I hate social media but I’m so addicted it’s insane. I don’t think we as humans are meant to consume news and information from all over the world 24/7. It’s exhausting.
Literally where I’m at
Agreed 😭
I think this is the actual answer to why we all feel this way. We know more about strangers than the people leaving right near us. I miss the old days. Life felt simple.
Get off it! Just do it. I pulled myself off of social media, except for RUclips which is like TV for me. But just getting off Facebook and Twitter has made my life 90% better. You will feel so good after a week or two. I highly highly highly recommend doing it. Just save all your data and don't look back!
All the news on youtube...just automatically "don't recommend this channel to me" no matter what. It helps a lot. Your recs will eventually become only what you want to see.
@@MekarePI recently did EXACTLY what you said. From start to finish.
OP, I highly recommend taking this advice. It's life-changing. I promise.
Omg… are you me?! I’ve also been doing RUclips for 10 years, also just had my first child in 2021 & ALSO FEEL THE EXACT SAME! I’m so glad your video was randomly recommended to me because I’ve been trying to put into words why I haven’t wanted to post as much about my life or in general as I used to. Your video perfectly encapsulates how I’ve felt the last couple years. Thank you for this. 💜
I’m 40. I had my son in 2014. Becoming a mother opens your eyes to a lot and society definitely has seen a downfall in the past few years and it’s scary.
Sometimes my son watches your channel and I gotta say you are making content for teens and kids so maybe since you’re making things you are not connected to anymore and then receiving comments from children that are on a different wave length than you, you are feeling even more disconnected from your work. Maybe but I don’t know you personally so I’m speculating here.
The most important thing is our families and how we raise our children to be empathetic, loving and respectful so we can at least do our part in helping the world be more peaceful. It’s tough right now for everyone but we all got this. You’re strong and you will find your groove again.
Another mom who's feeling the same over here.
SADLY, ALLLLLL OF THIS TERRIBLE CHANGE THAT'S OCCURRED IN OUR COUNTRY IS SIMPLY DUE TO THIS COUNTRY REMOVING GOD FROM IT + ESPECIALLY FROM OUR EDUCATION SYSTEMS.
THE BIBLE EVEN SPEAKS OF ALLL OF THIS WITH HOW THE LORD WILL BLESS/CURSE NATIONS.
TRULY Y'ALL, IT IS WITHOUT A DOUBT, MIIINNNDDDDBLLOOOWIINNGGG.
I AM JUST BEGINNING TO LEARN/RESEARCH ALL OF THIS & I TRULY FEEL + KNOW, THAT JESUS IS THE TRUTH, THE WAY & THE LIFE ✝️😇
I'm gonna check out your channel.
Wow Lauren didn’t know you’ve felt like this too, I’ve been watching your channel since the beginning along with IHasCupQuake and LDShadowLady.
This is very interesting for me as a disabled person. Covid was basically a slightly different version of normal for me, it was like watching people discover what it’s like to be you, hating it and then learning nothing as the pandemic disappeared. I didn’t enjoy being stuck inside but I fared a lot better than most people I know just because I’m used to feeling like everything is barely under my control. I’ve definitely felt the effects of the pandemic from society but not from myself, it that makes sense? It’s a weird kind of disconnect.
makes 100% sense, how the society at large feels/acts has a massive affect on us individually, even if we personally are not affected or differed by something.
I'm blind. I got so excited when hybrid and remote work became the norm. Then all of a sudden it went away. Nothing really changed. They just threw a new coat of paint over the dung heap
I feel it. I’ve completely backed off of social media and started living more of a simple life. I’ve gotten back into canning, gardening, food preservation, soap making, etc…RUclips is all I have now as far as social media goes. Being online made me feel so empty inside. It started hurting all of the relationships in my life. I had to do something different.
Same, getting off of social media (RUclips only) and trying new hobbies is what keeps me going
even youtube doesn't feel like a safe space anymore, mostly due to reels. I wish that short form content scrolling got completely banned from insta, youtube, facebook and everything else. I escaped tiktok just for it to find their pervasive way into everything
Human beings have become desensitized to everything. I fear for this world. This Internet world has done more harm than good, in my opinion. Thankful you are addressing this truthfully. ❤️
Saying the Internet has done more harm than good is such a weird thing to say
@@trashbasket11100 people agree with this, yet you felt the need to state it’s “really weird”, why?
@@xRaverxBabyxThe Internet has done more harm than good, simply means that people are really beginning to wonder how they got to where they are now, and how it’s going to be, to get back to who they were before (if they could go back to being the same person as before). It’s such a good question! If so many people feel the same (and they really do) then we’re going to find out what things bring them closer together. Honestly, if we listen to what is being said, we can say that when the internet was new, everyone was excited and they devoted a lot of time and attention to it, at the expense of other things. But now, people are missing things and it has changed. But don’t worry guys, it can become as it was then, just have to put energy and dedication to some of those values. Plus, we have learned a lot about ourselves from all the introspection and time on the internet. Last year, I saw a lot of new parents living in the moment with their little babies, so the shift towards being present is happening more and more. Now, we know how and what can be done to unite with community on multiple levels.
@@xRaverxBabyxwho cares let's go ravin!!
@xRaverxBabyx its really weird because you have got to be on the worst side of the internet to think that is true lol. The internet is no better nor worse than the people who use it.
If the internet is bad, that only means people are bad.
In my opinion the internet does plenty of good. I see people help eachother, support eachother every day. They fund eachothers goals and medical treatments. They donate millions upon millions to those who need it most. I'm sorry to tell you but, no, without the internet I don't think we ever could have raised millions for cancer research WITHIN 24 hours. Only the internet could do that.
I see people on the internet who help look for missing family members. Plenty have been found thanks to them. That would not be possible without the internet.
The internet is nothing more than a tool, and it is a tool that had done good things for everybody around the globe.
As technology continues to advance it feels like we are regressing as a species. It’s a surreal feeling of living in the future and also the past at the same time.
Technology has brought out the worst in people. I'd rather go back in time and not know!
@@diamondstar1200the same here.
All of the school shootings, people going into public places and randomly gunning others down because they are angry about something - certainly social media, 24/7 news, violent movies and video games triggers hatred and rage in those who commit these crimes. And yet, when we hear that it has happened , it’s becoming an old story, something that doesn’t surprise us so much anymore.
The ending of the Honeymoon phase of connection and convenience feel so spot on. It also feels like we are trying to get the Honeymoon phase again but the spark isnt there anymore.
I love the Kristi talks. It feels like I’m FaceTiming with my best friend.
But with better audio! Lol
I feel like,if I lived near her - we would be friends.
Exactly!
Yes!!! This!!! ❤❤❤
Same
I relate completely Kristi. And we older millennials I think have a much harder time with all of it because we did grow up as the internet was born. I had a rotary dial phone in our house until at least 2000. I turn 40 in 2 weeks and I’ve been in a real funk wondering the same things - am I just getting older? But it’s not just aging, it really is a different world. People have lost the ability to connect face to face, everyone is divided about something and it feels harder than ever to go out and find joy. Social media is a contagion now.
Yup I’m almost 39, and I agree! I saw it literally shift as it happened
Even at 29 I agree with you. Internet was dial up only when I was young, everything was less accessible.
Yes I turned 40 this year and feel the same 😢way
Just turned 40. Having just as awesome a time.
You’re very right about the 90s Kristi. Before the pervasiveness of cell phones when people got together our focus was 100% on each other and storytelling/laughter. Also, there was lots of dancing… at clubs, home birthdays, just because to entertain ourselves and others. I moved to a new town in 2020 and let me tell you i have not made ONE friend bc people just don’t seem to want to connect and hang out. Hanging out for its own sake seems to be out. That’s very sad and adds further fuel to feeling a collective isolation.
I was reading your comment and thinking about how fun life was in the 80’s and 90’s. Just hanging out with friends, really interacting with one another (as opposed to a group of friends being in the same room but all in their own little world on their phones) going out to clubs and dancing for hours, going to the mall and meeting up with friends, going to the beach, stuff like that. Now, we’ve all become so voyeuristic, constantly watching the lives of others, whether it’s celebrities, just our favorite RUclips channel, or endlessly scrolling through Instagram/TikTok that we no longer participate in our own lives. We don’t interact with our family and friends. We’ve abandoned them and replaced them with images and small snippets of people we will never really know, and they don’t care to know us, because to them, we are nothing more than another viewer, another 👍🏻. We ignore those that truly care about us and devote our time to those that don’t care about us at all. Then wonder why our lives are sad and empty. We need to start reconnecting with the people in our lives, dancing, laughing, and stepping away from the obsession with social media.
Right! It’s so weird! I was born in 1994 and I’ve really noticed the impact on the people I graduated with. So many people I know have killed themselves.
I've found it really hard to make new friends too. It's like many people no longer want to give others any of their time, energy or presence. I made an online friend in 2020, she reaches out to connect but when I reciprocate she sort of pushes me away telling me she doesn't want to be online, she's drained etc and she starts sending me podcasts and videos to watch, as if to say 'don't bother me with your thoughts, watch this podcast instead and deal with your own life.' I feel like people have become v individualistic, always looking for what people can bring to their lives then ditching them if they're not useful. That's not friendship, that's cold and calculated and using people. I'm so tired of it, I'd just like some good friends to spend time with to talk, listen, share food, laugh, dance, encourage and support.
I am a high school teacher, and when you mention instant gratification, it is terrifyingly true. I see it in the classroom everyday. Kids aren’t motivated to learn unless it’s tied to something instantly gratifying. We aren’t learning to learn, we are just earning grades. Our teacher crew has noticed it as a whole, and unsure how to change it because it’s how everyone just functions now. Also, these kids act like their phones are an appendage! It’s really sad😭
You would have always had kids like that in the classroom only they were called the 'problem child' (ADHD boy hyperactive type) or the one whose "away with the fairies" (ADHD girl inattentive type). Increase in children with ADHD plus smartphones vastly increases the problem.
Yeah there’s literal scientists researching how to make phones & apps as addictive as possible and we’re really feeling the repercussions of that especially the kids :/
I feel like I’m just spinning my wheels. Accomplishing nothing. Just… here. Ugh. I’m working on gratitude and thankfulness. Truly.
Love to you all my friends! ❤
Agreed. Feels like time flies past me, but I stand still. It's weird. Sort of hollow.
I was having the exact same thoughts today. Nearly word for word. 😮
Uhg, I’ve felt the same way. It’s an awful feeling. Praying for y’all internet friends that feel the same way. Practicing gratitude and thankfulness has helped a bit for me. ❤
Same 😔
Love back to you. ❤
My husband walked in the room while I was watching this & when he saw you, he said, “Oh! How is she doing?” He remembered that you went through a rough time after having a baby & he was genuinely curious how you are doing now. 😊
It’s great to have you back, regardless of what content you post. ❤
Life just feels so surreal post 2020. I feel like time is zooming by faster than I ever remember. It just feels like I wake up, I’m on autopilot, and repeat. So strange we all feel this way, and I agree about what you were saying about the state of social media and the internet today.
Omg I’ve said the exact same thing multiple times recently. Ever since 2020 ended, it feels like we blink and the whole year is over. It feels like going downhill and gathering speed, and not in a good way. And definitely surreal.
Same! I just feel like a robot ): like it’s the same routine, same thing, every single day. I’m not social like I once was, so much about me has changed since then. Some people think that may sound dumb, but it’s so so true. 😢
@@BookwitherinI’m so glad I’m reading these! But then also so sad we are collectively here! Because this is how I feel everyday too and I’ve been so depressed about it! A situational depression! Not like a physiological thing…and I felt so alone like it’s just me because everyone online seems to be doing greattt and doing all these fun things - I have considered it’s an illusion, but they sell it so well 🥴
i'm glad it isn't just me. Something broke in me during 2020. I struggle to understand time or extract joy from much of anything... even when there is a lot positive going on!
Same man, same.
2020 was the year where you definitely saw how awful people could be- and I think that has created a lot of depression which has led to apathy.
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A lot of people have gone mask off about how little they care about you or others since then. It's really sad. It makes me wonder if the internet has encouraged people to think this way, since trolls who know they'll never see you IRL have acted this way for decades. Might be like training for real life asshole behavior.
It’s proven masks don’t help, except ruining your own health.
@@mellowasiamit's also really radicalized people into conspiracy, like you do global pandemic not long after the exposure, arrest, and sus death of the head of a real life international rich people child trafficking island resort, various big corruption scandals alongside economic downturns around the globe, rapidly shifting social attitudes and isolation, the publicization of the unreliability of formerly trusted news sources, the world's a big powder keg right now, and keeping fact from fiction seems harder than ever, which makes it easier to influence people to hateful and hostile ideologies. It's really soured a lot of people who were otherwise tolerable before
@@mellowasiamidk what your affiliation is right or left but I’m more right sided to center. I was a former left leaning prior to having a child. Once I became a mother my entire perspective changed, things that seemed unimportant mattered and vice versa. I became a Christian and I’m glad to have found my faith. In 2020 amid the government doing what I never thought they could do, force us to stay home and the utter fear and rhetoric of “we can force you to and we are better than you because we care more than you because we’re scared” just showed me how easily people can be manipulated to do the unthinkable, how people just don’t care about people because of fear. 1930s Germany made sense.
The way she perfectly described heroin addiction but was talking about the internet 😭 we’re not getting high anymore but we still need to engage to get our fix. I swear we are all going to collectively unplug at some point and the people who don’t will be viewed as drug addicts…I think that’s my dystopian novel lol but honestly I can hardly watch TV anymore and RUclips, podcasts, TV used to bring me so much comfort, excitement, and happiness…the ONLY thing that’s given me that feeling in the past few years has been succession (it was that good) but if a tv show isn’t perfect I lose interest.
Also, remember how important photos used to be? We would take them, not be able to see them, drive to rite aid, pay to develop them, have to wait, come back to pick them up, then frame them…now they’re meaningless basically. It’s so sad.
My friends, boyfriend, and family all talk about this all the time… word for word. It’s a sad world and we’re all over it and exhausted asf. Broke asf. Lost asf.
I’m so glad im not alone in this ❤
Me2
yes I feel so exhausted and yet I have nothing/do nothing, I just feel no motivation, I just feel... Like a slug. Moving ever so slowly, without anywhere specific to go, nor do I really care where I go. And I used to be incredibly happy and motivated. Struggled with depression, sure, but it definitely feels way heavier now.
I feel super lonely due to social media. Nobody visits they just send a message. I'm 53 and feel like a forgotten dinosaur. 😢
Me too. I'm 71. Very lonely
❤😢🤗 a beautiful dinosaur 🦕
It’s ok. This won’t last. It’s just temporary. It’s going to crash.
I’m 23 and I already lost my friends and everyone is too self absorbed to even gaf about friendship anymore. They don’t realize they second they get this “success” they want they’ll have no friends to invite over and share the house and the success with.
@@Abishhhhh sounds like you didn’t lose much then after all. Better to be alone than with fake people
Kristi and me : “I’m not feeling depressed I just kinda feel like …. Like I wanna be …. Amish”. Yes ma’am. I’ve always had that vibe and since 2020 it’s been intensified!!!
Same!
Yes!! Not even in a religious way, more in a real, hands on, connected to a community way.
I’m building a farm bed and breakfast to start fostering a new-old sense of community 🌱
I felt like that in 2010… wanted a cob house n an orchard with some animals… got rid of fb & instagram and it’s been better
Me too!!! ❤❤🙏🙏🥂🥂. This computer stuff needs to get out!!!
“In the pursuit of convenience we lost the humanity in things” was the perfect sentence to sum up what’s going on. We choose money, selfishness, greed, and speed over our happiness and fellow humans! It’s so sad.
That's exactly it in my opinion. We have choose "progress", which has lead us to this state of loneliness and individuality, but humans are socials animals to the core and, yeah we can choose what we are doing, but are we really happier ? It's like just after a divorce "yeah no more need to compromise, I eat what I want, when I want, same thing for sleep !" but it soon lost the charm because you are alone.
EXACTLY
First of all, this video was randomly suggested to me and it gave me something I didn’t know I needed: raw, authentic understanding. The internet today is so scripted and unreal. Dead.
My thoughts on this are many. It’s a constant inner dilemma of how glued I am to my phone even though I’m not particularly happy when I’m plugged in.
When the pandemic hit in March 2020, I was considered an essential worker. My elderly grandfather was living with me. Going to work made me feel guilty (contagion and all) but not going to work would have left me even poorer. My grandfather passed away. I was expected to deal with grief, trauma, constant illness and worry and still keep the system running.
On top of that, the customers treated me like absolute shit, going on tangents to me, acting truly insane. I HAD to disconnect to keep going.
Anyway, I’m sure what I’m saying isn’t unique but I haven’t left that ‘disconnect to stay sane’ mode. I don’t think it’s safe to even though I’m told it is.
as I seek online connection because I’m too traumatized by the pubic to leave my house for longer periods of time, I find that it’s all dead AND perfect AND scripted bullshit that has no feeling.
Thank you for posting this raw reflection and if anyone read all of this, thank you as well.
Thanks for saying this. People are so divided over the needle thing, anger and shunning and blaming.
I took to reading more, walking more and looking for other ways to make a living. YT likes to push certain topics on me but I click away- no interest in fashion or makeup or home decor. More interested in ideas.
You might like New Thinking Allowed channel. Hundreds of interviews with authors and scientists. Gives me hope.
You hit the nail on the head
Read and understood. For me it is the "oh covid's gone, nothing happened" in a matter of months. And the people who we're a little too vocal for comfort when it all went down to this day rub me the wrong way. I'm really not built for this.
I'm definitely getting tired of over-produced, hour-long video essays. I don't mind watching normal people live their lives, voicing their thoughts.
This IS content. Just as valuable as anything else.
Exactly!
It feels more relatable and less isolating. It's the loss of connection and community.
You're not alone. I recently saw a meme that basically said "We're the generation that started social media and now the ones to slow everything back down. Start a homestead, live off the land and go back to what the world should be." I felt that. I have been watching so many families build a life from scratch and hand make all their goods, food and share their trades with others.
Better for the planet and less chemicals and waste
You’re probably seeing these homesteads on the internet. Think about the curated ideal version of homesteading that you see and ask yourself how this compares to the reality
I grew up on a farm, a lot of the homesteading channels are (too) idyllic. I’m going back to a slower life too, but I’ve already lived it. We definitely need more small family farms and real communities.
Yes!!!
“The funny part of me died.” Um hello? Yes. I just had this realization about myself yesterday. Like where did she go? I spend 30 years being funny and I am now hyper focused on being “good” and just trying to survive instead of just being myself. I wonder how many people have lost themselves the last few years. I love this type of content from you, thanks for posting it, it seems like a lot of people here are glad you did❤
Me! I have. The Pandemic made me so scared I am hiding from the world. I have totally lost myself and in the process of finding myself again. 😊❤
Yes people are not laughing. The sensitivity has ruined fun.
I also have, just realized this. Hugs to all ❤
Like fr I hope America sue its own government bc that’s fuck yo how the pandemic fucked everyone up.
I think it's the cancel culture, virtue signalling culture and being constantly reminded that there is some kind of crisis somewhere in the world. Who would dare to be cracking jokes and being spontaneous without heavily filtering yourself. It could literally cost you your job or at the very least heavily shamed for being insensitive.
It’s hard to get exited when most of our lives is just spent working to many hours to make barley enough money to survive so there is no time or money really left for going out and doing something fun, buying that new outfit that you love, or even hobby’s. The normal human life to function in society is just to much physically and mentally on people. And I feel like this is just scratching the surface of it all
I agree
It feels like slavery and prison
@@allieelectra23it literally is slavery and a prison.
Life in usa Sucks n boring n isolated
@@allieelectra23yessssssss
I was in my 20’s in the 90’s, and it was absolutely better then. Our society has turned to 💩 Everyone is so self-obsessed that they don’t care about others, and I feel like deep down, they don’t even care about themselves.
I don't think people change that much deep down in such a short time but with everyone oversharing everything we're just confronted with how people actually are non stop and it's often ugly. Plus poverty has increased massively, that makes people bitchy too.
@@annnee6818 The 90’s we’re 30 years ago. People can definitely change a lot in 30 years.
Me2 I was in my 20s in 90s much better times
@@annnee6818 I don't have social media, if I'm online I'm listening to a podcast or something, I don't think the vibe change has anything to do with anything social or facade-level, I think its much deeper, at the physiological level.
Period bc greed and capitalism is constantly brainwashing us every second that we aren’t good enough in any way so we will buy products
Insane. I’ve been feeling this too much - I was born in 2002 and the internet does feel so overstimulating and overwhelming. It was fun and now it’s just not. There’s just too much that it feels that any meaning found on the internet is lost.
I really think we’re in this limbo because we just aren’t really connected. There’s a friendship shortage and a lack of community. It just feels like we’re all floating about, untethered to anyone or anything
@jackie2011jr Born in 2002? Now I feel old lol I’m a 1992 baby, I was in 5th grade when 9/11 happened and I remember watching it on the tv. I feel like there was a major shift in 2001 after that. I wonder what it must have been like for younger generations since y’all already had internet and cellphones when I grew up without a cellphone til high school and had dial up internet when I was young and messaged via email or passing notes in school.
@@SK_30241 honestly I think generation was very much the transitional period - which side note is always why we r kinda disgusted by how ppl r raising gen alpha to be iPad babies.
Because yes, we had access to tech - especially because my dad worked at intel - but we still had fun without it. I didn’t have to wait for a phone or pc til high school but we still had a family pc and home phones. Yes there were computer games and mmos but also games weren’t as great as keeping you trapped in them as they are now.
Like my friends and I still liked riding bikes or selling lemonade or making silly rainbow loom stuff.
Passing notes kinda started to die out in middle school for me bc more ppl got phones. But it was insane bc I remember Instagram becoming popular in 6th grade and my friends asking me to make one and follow them. So i very much saw the peak of insta, snap, as well as there “decline”. I think they’ve declined because they aren’t as fun as they were when I was younger. Which kinda is what Kristi brought up so well (maybe it was part of the charm from being a kid but…), whenever you made stuff/posts/blogs online it felt like they mattered but now there’s so much noise it just feels like you’re adding to meaningless void and maybe you’re friends won’t even see it.
I have strong friendships but deal w mental illness bc genetics 😃 - but I do still think there’s a lot of people my age who feel that loneliness and mental health struggle because they don’t know how to connect with others anymore. Not to say I’m great at it myself but I’m aware enough to know I’m disconnected to an extent. High key I think it has to do with social media exacerbating the need to be not just an individual but THE individual and now we’re all realizing how lonely that is.
Sorry for long post 😅 but this topic is very on my mind - also you’re not old!!! I have 2 sisters even older than you, in my brain you’re still sibling adjacent age
@@jackie2011jr no need to apologize for a long post. I enjoy hearing other people’s point of views. 😊 thank you for sharing! And for saying I’m not old lol I also have 2 older sisters and a twin brother but we’re all only 2 years apart. If your sisters are older than me then that must be quite the age gap. I’m not big into gaming now but, I remember being really hooked on World of Warcraft back in the day. I agree tho, I think it’s gotten worse because of phone app games like candy crush that get you hooked. Those companies literally hire professionals to make the most addictive system to prey upon people’s need for dopamine and reward. Same goes for social media platforms.
I agree with the untethered part and lack of community, the internet had destroyed that
@@Flowerboy813hperglobalism and endless open borders is destroying the West, quite frankly. It's getting dangerous out there now.
I think we all need to reconnect with each other as humans and in person. There's a loneliness epidemic that I believe gies hand in hand with this as well. We have all regressed socially.
As a teen in the 90's, we lived freely because there were not cameras on every street corner, dashboard, living room, bedroom, office, and pocket. We could show up places as our casual, carefree teenage selves and the moment didnt follow us into school the next day (and forever) via sm. We had friends from different schools and churches that never crossed over, and provided new opportunities for connection and interpersonal development.
90s was peak Western culture
That’s true. I do delivery & I realized I’m being filmed all day the whole day. Some might see this as simply good, I find it invasive. People’s doorbells film you, your vehicle films you. There’s no moment where you have your own space
@@CAPRESEGREEN Make of it what you will, but the expectation of privacy is a very modern concept. Most of history you would have shared a room with family and your only chance to be alone would be to sneak away. What's different now is we don't know who is watching or when. Best you can do is just live your life making good choices, same as ever.
a great observation @@andrewhooper7603
As a mom who used to work outside the home and transitioned to remote work during the pandemic… I agree. I watched my kids go from social beings excited to explore the world and learn new things to socially withdrawn anxious and self conscious drones. And this is with me constantly monitoring and watching what they are doing watching and interacting with on a daily basis. It’s really infuriating and upsetting that there really isn’t much I can do… I want to remove internet from their day to day but it’s almost impossible!!! They use it for school they use it for friends they use it for entertainment…even alarm clocks are hard to find now a days!!!
But personally it’s also affecting my mental health. I watched the world burn and worked thru it got laid off in the middle of a high risk pregnancy and then tried to make up for it by working 3jobs at once while pregnant. Really and truly, none of us are okay and it’s all for different reasons!
I had a baby March 2020 and I literally FEEL everything you said... Because I feel nothing anymore. Was it motherhood? Pandemic? Stress? Getting older? Whatever it was, I don't feel like my happy 2019 self.
Same here it sucks and I feel guilty every day because this isnt who I was before.
had a little boy December 2019. I feel this. best way out is to NOT pay attention to any of it. @@esouth9747
@@esouth9747 I'm so so sorry to hear that. Truly. Has anything helped you? I am genuinely curious to know.
Yes
Me2 I thought I was alone
This is the first video I've watched in weeks because as a mom and a human, it feels raw, real, relative, and valid
Rawrealrelativekristi
If this is the first video you’ve watched in weeks you are surely not living the same life as the rest of us 🙈 or wait does that mean you only watch short form content? I hope not 😅
@@MissEddieBlueKawaiiKrafts No short form! Just not watching much of anything
Please stay honest and real. The world doesn’t need more over-produced videos that make the rest of us feel like we’re lacking. I’ve always appreciated your videos because you’re more real than other creators. Please stay human and share what you love. We have to be more of what we want to see in the world if we have any chance of crawling out of this weird place we’re in. More connection, less glitz.
This this this ❤❤❤❤❤❤
What a great comment. Thank you.
I agree!!
"I feel this craving for less". YES. So much yes putting it into words!
Just in the past year or two I've been wanting to purge and simplify my life. I just want to raise my kids and tend to my home and make beautiful memories. I want a garden, chickens, and to can food. I'm tired of targeted ads trying to get me to buy all these things and I'm tired of having things. There's been a huge shift in so many of us recently and honestly, the reason sucks, but it's nice we're trying to simplify and slow down.
And I LOVE your kitchen. I can't stop looking at the stonework.
The nostalgia of just walking around the mall with your friends was the best. This video was spot on.
I’ve been thinking the same for a while now! People are no longer allowed to just “exist” in the current online era, they have to have a “brand” because many people DO aspire to be a “content creator” for the income potential. Corporations objectify us enough, it’s a shame to also have to do that to yourself. The way out of all of this is maybe naive, but it’s what I’ve always thought for any worldly issue - kindness, empathy, and hope. Don’t succumb to the perception of darkness because reality is truly what we make it, and it all starts within ourselves.
❤❤
"I don't want to to feel like this is just a chat between friends." Honestly, this was the exact video I needed. I see value in your message and resonate with a video that's more casual than these high production videos I feel more disconnected from.
I'm pregnant with my first child, a boy. Ive always wanted to be a mom and am feeling that transition of simplifying my life more. I still have career ambitions as an artist, but just feel the need to slow down when he arrives.
I will admit I started to care less about sharing my art on social media. Everything is so competitive now with the algorithm and feeling the pressure of sharing the most creative content.
And just to add, thank you for reminding me why I want to share content: to connect with an audience. Popularity becomes outdated in itself. You naturally grow an audience when you present your truest, genuine self. Not excessively chasing an algorithm or formula to "make it". Maybe we wouldn't be so apathetic as a society if we can just learn to have fun again and not aim for perfection.
Even worse now that AI art is stealing artists work without permission, makes it harder to want to post anything.
I feel the same way! As an artist, it has gotten even harder to stand out. The best solution I've found is to make art for myself first and then share if I feel like it
I agree with you wholeheartedly. I love content like this because it makes me feel connected and I think this type of content is important.
1000 %
The “chat between friends” vibe is what I’m here for.
I can't describe how much I appreciate you saying this out loud. I'm a sucker for appearances and sometimes it seems like everyone is doing fine and I'm the only one who feels this way. Glad I'm not alone.
I agree I found myself blowing out long puffs of breath, nodding my head saying "exactly" several times out loud, to the screen.
Same here. It feels so... refreshing? To not feel alone in feeling this way. I haven't felt this apathetic/lethargic/depressive since my years as a teenager going through a bombardment of several family traumas at the time.
I can’t express how much I relate to this. My brother and I talk about this everyday. I long for the old world where we had to try, and wait, and work for things. Things becoming easy, took all the value out of them. I personally used to go to Media Play every Tuesday because new albums came out every Tuesday. There was something magical about flipping through cd’s and praying that one of your favorite artists album would be there. There was nothing like it when it was there! Then we’d drive home, put the album an actual stereo with great speakers, and listen to the ENTIRE album. You wouldn’t know what was on it, and every song was a new discovery. I feel like we lived a REAL, physical, involved life. Something has died. I feel knowing everything about everyone all the time has made us less interested in people. We lost the mystery and magic of the unknown. We’ve traded all that longing to know, and wonder and imagination for convenience. I personally grieve it everyday. And I’m not depressed. It’s not depression, this is a legitimate change that I think everyone feels, even if they don’t realize it. Thanks for this video!
Wow this a beautiful written and so true❤
Totally agree! What is so sad is our children will never experience any of what we got to.
I think about that a lot. I have two sons and I see that they have no concept of that “real” kind of world. You can tell then about it all you want, but they never felt the freedom of it, so they just can’t comprehend it. It’s the saddest thing because as parents, it’s something we can’t give to them. 😢
Remember waiting for a album to come out and hoping you got a book of lyrics in the case? Or trying to hunt down a remix import of a song you loved? I miss old music stores or like book / music store combo's where my bf would hang out there a whole afternoon discussing authors and books we were hunting for and buying up music and the thrill finding 12" remix albums. I rather hate cell phones and how no one gets that thrill of the hunt anymore or have the joy of mix tapes and car rides and singing to hunt for things.
I almost didn't watch this, but I'm so glad I did. I have been trying to figure out why I'm feeling this exact way. This apathy. This overstimulation, this burnout. I was just talking to my therapist about it last week but this really hit the nail on the head and helped me understand it so much better. I almost feel like I've outgrown the internet in a way yet I'm clinging to the past, to what always fulfilled me and it's not cutting it anymore. I recently started crocheting and it's been like a gift. Fun, exciting, satisfying in a way I never imagined. Maybe I've matured, maybe the pandemic changed me, maybe I'm burnt out from everything being too easy. Probably all of the above at the same time. Thank you for helping to make sense of all this. Also, I love your longform, casual content, it's my favorite.
Excellent comment. Disconnecting from the internet is the key, but we have to be ready to let go.
Well said, I started learning to crochet in 2021 because it felt I wanted a new and creative challenge.
I really enjoyed watching you clean your kitchen while I did my make up and got ready for the day. I really enjoyed you not trying to sell me something and just talked to me. I think we now live in a world where negativity and apathy is on trend, and I am hopeful and waiting for that to go out of trend again.
I think “collective overstimulation” is the most accurate term I have heard for the state of things right now. I’m your age and in total agreement with every point in this video. It’s hard to put all of my thoughts into a little comment on a RUclips video, so just suffice it to say that I FELT this video lol.
I’ve thought about this too. We have become bored and jaded. Politics have turned people hateful. Nothing seems trustworthy. It’s a really tough time. The pendulum needs to swing. Ugh
I recently read the book How to Do Nothing by Jenny Odell, and it gave me a lot of insight into the way that I've been feeling. We're so locked into consumption that our view of ourselves and each other is commoditized.
RUclips suggested your video to me and im actually glad it did. As a woman slightly older than you, i do feel like the 90s were better and i really dont feel like it was just because we were younger. I definitely feel like life is different since 2020. I went to work from home and lost seeing all my coworkers. I know some people loved that, but my coworkers were my friends i had made over the last 10 years. On top of that, i dont see my long-term nonwork friends either. It's like over the past 3 years no one wants to go out and just hang out anymore. I would just love to have a good evening of laughs and conversation. I know this all varies by personality and introversion vs extroversion but life now definitely feels sadder to me than pre 2020..
Me 2
I'm always sad
I dont obviously know your social circle but im a middle class guy 40yo married with a 3rd grader. To me it seems the people we used to regularly get together with are all working like 6 days a week and side hustling some too. Most of the people around me are expending much more energy for the same or even less results. We live in pinellas county Florida for reference. Since 2020 the property tax on my house went from 700$ to 4525$ Same house. The county just says it’s worth a fortune now. The insurance went from 1100$ a year for good coverage to 5100$ a year for basic nothing covered lol coverage. The day care went way up, all services went way way up. It’s just crazy, I don’t hear much griping and complaining tho from my pier group. So I think maybe people are all overworking themselves just to stay where there where pre vid. America is experiencing a standard of living shift I’m afraid.
No one has explained this better than you!!!!!!! This is exactly how I feel it’s like we slipped into a different multiverse timeline and it’s freaky and not normal. Everything is different the world is more evil and just very depressing I am even afraid to leave the house sometimes I want to just live in the woods and churn my own butter. I’m at the point where I have covid and my work is expecting me to still come in with it, I’ve never felt the hollow emptiness I’ve felt today before
Homestead in whatever way you can. 👍
Even if it’s only baking.
I think it's because we have streamlined access and delivery but have failed to deliver large culture projects. There is nothing particularly exciting on the horizon. For the most part we are relying on each other directly to generate content which is probably, for most people, just discussions about particular immediate topics. When is the last time something like Pokemon , Lord of the Rings, or World of Warcraft happened? Harry Potter? Those all happened fairly close together too.
It’s the spiritual realm of demonic in the world. We’re living in the end times. Lord Jesus Christ, God of Israel is coming back for his people! Relationship with Christ! Not religion.
Yes I’ll join you and start churning butter lol
I definitely have been trying to get off the internet more and more, and trying to reconnect with the world like I did before all of this really took off. I was born in 1986, so I'm right there with you in having experienced life on both sides of the divide. And I don't think it's just us. I work as a high school teacher, and let me tell you, a lot of these kids are EXTREMELY unwell. They don't like themselves, they don't like other people, and for a generation that prides itself on being "tolerant", they're the most intolerant people I think I've ever encountered in my life. They want to ruin people's lives for the smallest infractions, and sometimes without proof! Sometimes they want to ruin other people's lives just based on something they *supposedly* heard. They have no *real* empathy, no ability to retain anything they learn. Even the ACT recently put out a statement that ACT scores are the lowest they've been in 30 years. So no, it's not just you, and it's not just your age. We can see a really scary deterioration in young people, too.
And the laziness and lack of motivation is unlike anything I’ve ever seen before
Don’t ya feel like your parents when you start recognizing this stuff 😂🫠 80s baby right here ❤️🔥
Wow! ‘87 here and I’ve decided to start farming to get back to nature. That’s so sad about the high school kids 😢
I'm 32 and I agree with you. These young adults/kids are SO REACTIVE. Everything sets them off, everything is an issue. They focus too much on the negative aspect of things instead of trying to figure out a solution to the issue. It's extremely annoying. That's why when they call me a millennial" I'm not offended by it, im happy im not like that.
this is why my youngest kid does not have social media at all. I was born 1981. So i really remember no electronics and trying to raise my kids with those same values.
15:25 ohhhh my god I feel this. I had a nail art Instagram account back in 2015 when I did my nails every day. I went back to it the other day and didn't even recognize myself - who was this person who was so excited about nails? I talked about how much I loved the colors and the design and I would look up silly holidays every day to wish everyone a "happy grape soda" day. I remember hyping myself up a little bit, but mostly feeling that excitement. I can't even imagine trying to match that energy today. And part of that is depression wearing me down and autistic burnout, plus a whole identity crisis, but there's definitely something more to it. I wish I knew how to get that excitement back.
Drop the link to the insta!
I’ve been off social media for a few months now (after a decade+ of frequent use) and am LOVING life offline. Getting my heckin’ dopamine back … my attention span … my real life relationships … my goals & aspirations … I’ve been so (neurodivergently) burned out for so long and this has been a huge turning point for me in the recovery process
I've been off social media for three or four years no, I don't remember ever losing my attention span but the only one I had was facebook and did a lot of reading and programming, etc. so I guess it never was an issue. The dopamine thing, I never experienced a dopamine spike from scrolling on social media, either, I understand that less than I do the attention span issue. But anyway I still feel horribly depressed...
Idk how ppl say this helps. But then again my “friend group” is nonexistent anymore, so I just end up very very isolated and alone .. I’m not on social media anymore but it really sucks . I miss the way social media was in the early 2000s . I look at my old instagram and it’s nothing like the new ones where it’s a beauty pageant .
So much changed from 2020 for me. I was in my third trimester for lockdown, gave birth in the height of the pandemic, and basically didn’t see family or friends for a year. I realized my abusive partner wouldn’t change, that religion was just as abusive, and so in 2021 I moved across the country with my baby to start a new life and divorced my now ex husband. I’m now an evangelical turned atheist and am in a long distance relationship with a scientist. Reality is sometimes stranger than fiction and the pandemic seemed to emphasize the surreal nature of it all. I think the pandemic brought some of the worst out of humanity and we are all still processing the trauma of a once in a lifetime tragedy.
This is going to be obnoxious and in all caps but... PLEASE DO MORE VIDEOS LIKE THIS. It is so fleshing to watch a video of someone cleaning up and just talking as I myself am cleaning up my own space. It gives more sense of connectiveness. Also we are all growing up and this is content I connect to more. I was so excited to watch this video because I was like yes, a normal house, a normal mess, with normal talk
I know! I felt like I was sitting in a friends kitchen chatting while she cleaned up her house!
I love these long form chit chat videos. I’m able to put them on in the background when I’m doing tasks and I feel like a friend is over and I’m not alone
This!
Yes! Exactly!
Exactly. 😀 Feels very human.
Yes! This video is the reason I remembered to water my plants this week.
This. And, we are all suffering a collective form of PTSD in one form or another. The world stopped, and never was the same after. People were banned from society for years, people were not legally allowed to see their families and friends, lots of loss of life, constant fear of "what are the cases today? Don't kill Grandma!", etc etc etc and then it just .... Went away ... with no real chance to come to terms with what happened, and we never really went back to normal. I personally trust no institution that was once trusted and lost a lot of relationships over personal choices during the pandemic. Feels like we're always waiting for the next shoe to drop, when we will face a total loss of control again. Plus we're all going broke
Agree with this so much 😢
I'm so glad to hear someone else say it. It makes me feel crazy. There is something to it when it affects the collective, and it's scary. I don't know what's going on.
💯!! It makes me feel less crazy to know that other people are going through the same things and feeling the same way!! We need to build/build back community to be able to cope and thrive.
@@ajpthequeen yes!!
Agreed! I was talking to my mom-in-law about this a couple days ago, how collectively I think we still haven’t even begun to figure out the mass psychological damage of the pandemic
@@katelindrum3022What I find strange, is that we're just all suddenly expected to behave as if there hasn't been any pandemic. I don't have a selective memory, unfortunately. 😄🙂
The timing of this video....Just TODAY, I thought people have changed since 2020. The mental health crisis has gotten so much worse. People are less patient, angrier, nastier, more rude, less empathetic, less friendly, more nosey and more selfish. I just want to stay inside 24x7 and forget there's a world with people in it outside.
A sort of mild dementia. Lack of control.
@@LilyGazou huh?
I’m gen x, born in 1976. Growing up, I’ve always been so curious about other people’s lifestyles, loved spending the night with friends to see how they lived, what they ate, etc…I used to love walking through neighborhoods in the evenings getting a feel of what the neighbors are up to…. Some call it noses but I’ve honestly just always been intrigued at how others live. When I discovered RUclips, it was like a gift for that curiosity. The rawness you describe is what I love about RUclips but it seems like you said, to have shifted away from that. This video is really what I enjoy watching the most, just a glimpse into someone’s home, lifestyle and real thoughts. I hope this style never goes away.
I agree with your observations. 2019 was my last good year. The world changed suddenly in 2020. My partner and I were talking about this and we both agree - "We didn't have all these issues before the pandemic." Now, it's like a perma-crisis. Things are going wrong everywhere. We spend hours a day sometimes trying to fix screw-ups due to mistakes being made by others. The biggest change we saw, however, was in people. Relationships with others became difficult. Relationships vanished, became problematic or strained as they began acting out or otherwise behaving abnormally, and people stopped caring and communicating liked they used to. Everyone I know right now is stressed out over something. Heck, they can't even pay attention to you when you speak. Their attention span is about 5 seconds. Something is dreadfully wrong.
Same. I call it the spirit of nineteen. What a great year.
This year I made an effort to be more like myself before 2020. I started celebrating the holidays like I used to. I started running again. I took my family to restaurants instead of ordering in. We went to the movies instead of waiting for the film to hit streaming. Now at the end of the year I can say I’m happier. I feel more like the person I remember being and I like that person.
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Honestly I think if you keep making raw videos like this you will be on the up and up again! I personally think this is what people need to hear! Love it and keep on going
I'm just glad that she's not saying typical, patronizing, naive stuff like "Everything will be okay". She's being realistic.
Yes yes yes!! I'm so over the "picture perfect" lives that a lot of ppl show on social media .. I wish more ppl wpuld be like RBK and be real .. I love this content and her 💯💗💗
With everything going on in the world especially all the suffering and loss I think it’s hard to watch people buying luxury goods and living their best lives.Most of us are really struggling just to provide for ourselves and our families. I like to watch videos that show real people living real lives.
I totally agree. I won’t name names but a lot of the old OG influencer became totally different people when their channels blew up and became completely self obsessed. It was hard to watch and still is! I lost a lot of respect for people.
This 100%!
@@lonisimmons-clausen838agreed. I quit a lot of channels.
Stay at home mom here. I love this kind of video. I think people really want authenticity and it is so hard for people to tell what is and isn’t anymore. I can play a video like this and listen while I’m living my life and cleaning my home and such and connect because it’s authentic. Thank you.
This is the exact content I would love to see more of. This is what I watch all day every day. I work from home and I just want to watch other people work/clean/whatever and talk to me. ❤
I had a video on the other day- it was just a gal doing her studies at a table. I sat at my table and read and took notes as if we were studying together.
I‘m from Germany and I feel the same. The pandemic, the war a few countries away, watching my dad die in front of me, family disputes,… I absolutely feel dead and numb inside. It’s pure survival mode even though I might seem fairly normal to the outside. But I’m filled with anxiety. I hate this chapter of my life and I am looking forward to better ones.
I feel you. My sisters was murdered by her husband in their home during the pandemic, in front of my niece and nephew. Their marriage had been struggling for a couple years because he had a drinking problem. Once they were forced to stay in the same house 24/7, it was over. Luckily for our family, our state didn’t keep people from attending funerals. Still, I can’t help but wonder if lockdowns never happened, would I still have my sister? People underestimate the whole picture of what lockdowns caused. It’s beyond devastating, what the human cost has been, and I suspect we won’t even know that true cost for years to come. It feels like we’re all zombies just mindlessly wandering. I hope we can come back from this. It’s hard to see a way forward.
I am sorry for your loss!
@@lonisimmons-clausen838I am sorry for your loss!
Thank you. ❤️
@@lonisimmons-clausen838I'm so sorry for your loss!
During lockdown, domestic violence cases went through the roof. There weren't enough resources to handle it. News didn't report it much, people hate the topic.
I feel this 100%. I think another factor of “going viral” meaning less is due to the fact that early on in the internet, there were a few people contributing to content, and now there are millions. We have so many people to look at because half of us are creating content. Even by just having a social media account for friends and family, we contribute to content online. Even this comment is one of thousands. That’s insane. That’s more comments than anyone has time to read. So it all just feels so distant and unreal because well, it is. You’re not alone.
Right, the amount of content is overwhelming.
There is a new trend every day its so hard to keep up with it
Totally agree. The internet has just turned into the void. Where shit is being thrown out into it constantly and its made everything meaningless. I don't feel like posting anything anymore. Whats the point? throw some more shit out into the void to be ignored?