I had one DM tell me an NPC was hitting on my character, "and he's charisma 19 and rolled two nat 20s, so you fall madly in love with him" Noped out of that game right then.
Yeah, that kinda thing is NOT how Charisma works. It's not mind control and a Nat 20 doesn't magically make a person do something they would never normally do.
I had a character drinking in a tavern. The DM had me roll a constitution check and when I failed, he said I got drunk and slept with his character. When I objected, he said I'd failed the constitution check so he got to decide what happened. I did not return to that game.
So, putting things bluntly here, some DM's not all, use charisma and NAT to ensure thier character or whomever they chose to "hit on" your character, they imagine whatever scenario to basically rape your character/do whatever they please to your character since they cannot do that to you IRL.
I am a 30 year old Ace and I can tell you that I have heard a wide range of ignorant statements. I have been called selfish. I have been called cold. I have been called a prude and uptight. I have been accused of thinking I was better than anyone. I have been told I have something wrong with me that could be fixed. I have been told that someone could "fix" me if I just give in. I have been told I don't know what I want because how could I not if I never tried it. I have been told I will change my mind. I have been called a liar looking for excuses. I have been threatened with rape. I have never dated because I refuse to deal with the extra drama where someone thinks I will change my mind. I have always been upfront and polite with my rejections but have been told I was, "Playing hard to get." I developed a stalker at one point who seriously believed that was the case. For the love of all that is good, leave us alone, please. Personally, I just stand in a field all day and produce carbon dioxide while thinking of science and dragons. I just work on furthering my degree and want to live my best life with family and friends. Aces are normal and human. We don't have to take our clothes off to have a good time. We just vibe for the most part. We'd love to do life without fearing judgment and possible harassment simply because someone doesn't believe we are real or we need to be "fixed". F*(k off with that creepy persistent nonsense. It's absolutely super creepy and we won't change just for some @$shole nor should we have too. If we say no, the answer is no. Just like with anyone else who isn't ace. No means no.
it’s crazy how some people will even lie “oh yeah im okay with that” but in their mind theyre thinking they can secretly change you. not ace myself as far as i know, but ive heard enough stories where it’s just… damn. people dont know how to respect other’s wishes :/
@@ocinidolegnaNice to see an ace supporter here! I have had someone tell me that and I still refused. One time it was my stalker. Anytime I tried to shut his advances down. He would....until a minute later and it was right back to saying how badly he wanted to make out with me. Kept dodging that guy but couldn't get away far enough if he came into my work place.....which was on the same campus we were both attending as students. You can imagine my stress levels. Later on in life after I finally shook him off, he found a fulfilling relationship and last I checked is happy. I hope it stays that way and I never see him in person ever again. As for the others. They were good guy friends I eventually felt I had to distance myself from after while so their feelings would "die down" and prayed they would find interest elsewhere. They did and I am glad for it. Eventually lost contact though which is probably for the best. I hate the fact I did that but after rejecting them once or twice, I realized they were still holding out hope I would change my mind. So distancing seemed the best option. I guess it was because, as I said, they found girlfriends who could meet their needs. Being Ace makes dating hard because you always wonder if they are serious that they don't need sex. In my experience, I have heard of people genuinely trying but they ultimately went out to have an affair. I don't want the nonsense. Maybe if I found someone who was also Ace and I felt something was there.....maybe I would give dating a try. Sadly, it's still little known about in my age group and I live in the deep South...sooooo yeah it's kinda hard.
"you just didn't do it right", "ace isn't a thing". and i got a girl told me that she thought she was ace and it turned out she was just gay thus she believes ace doesn't exist. explaining is so much trouble and i just give up
Hooo boy, can't agree more with what you said. I had a friend I rejected multiple times for an entire year that would still send me messages with "wish you were my gf 😢" in it. At the time I was avoiding relationships like the plague for being ace and not believing anyone would be with me and respect my boundaries (like said friend was doing already) Now I'm engaged and still very much ace, nothing changed, I just found someone that doesn't think I'm some kind of sex-provider Idk if you even want this kind of thing, but I'm just saying its possible
If you chase after an Aro/Ace person with an “I can change them” attitude it’s just as bad as saying to can change someone who does experience sexual attraction. Me personally I’m not Aro only Ace but JEEBUS the amount of people who think we can be “fixed” is insane.
It gives off the same issue as the "How do you know you're a lesbian if you've never had sex with a guy??" desperation, you don't need to do the horizontal monster mash with someone to know you don't find them or people of their sex/gender attractive, it's something you just innately feel - and nothing is as unattractive as someone not taking no for an answer and them continuing to pressure you against your will.
Damn chasing after an aro/ace person with the "I can change them!" Approach is surely a waste of time. As an aro I can say stop pursuing we, in most cases, can't develop romantic feelings for you.
@@slowazzd2165 This is like saying, "I've known two vegetarians and they're vegans. Therefore all vegetarians are vegans," Romantic love is just one type of emotion, and just one type of love, and it's not even the most important when it comes to functioning as a normal human being.
"Not breaking the bro-code" basically means "I won't respect your autonomous decision of not wanting to sleep with me, but I WILL respect the fact that another man has 'claimed' you".
As someone who follows the bro code, that guy doesn’t speak for us, a good section of the bro code is respecting romantic interests in their own right and knowing boundaries l, and making sure your bros respect that too
'Bros' don't have to be men, after all. 'Dudes' aren't, either. It's just slang for "being a decent person". As a result, the individual is taking the Bro-Code in vain. They are a false follower of the Code and should be shunned. **Shunned.**
As an Ace I feel for those people. Please. I beg of those who are inclined to think so Aceness is not an obstacle between you and your waifu. Do not treat it as such
If you're "waifu" is an aro ace like the girl in the video and myself, please PLEASE think of it as an impenetrable wall between you and them, because it is.
Targeting the Ace? - gotta say, the trash took itself out. Was appalled to read that the DM *_knew_* the girl was aroace and *still* "tried it on" then got all pissy when he failed. Hope he's no longer DMing for anyone.
A lot of people have this idea that they can "fix" us. "Corrective r@pe" is a very real threat. I've simply stopped dating because every one of them has said they understand and respect it but then turn around and try to guilt me into doing things I've already said no to.
‘I don’t think the dm was targeting the writer specifically’ what would you call constant bs killing and suddenly being stabbed by something that should be dead?
Also no mention of perception or steath checks being made in said situations, knowing that's a newbie player and they're not going to know they need to make these
I mean the OP was always targeted by at least double the amount of enemies the rest of the party had on them, got insta killed by...Bone Vultures (whatever those are), for simply investigating a noise, and got stabbed by a smashed statue. Yeah that was targeting
I HAVE ASEXUAL DnD STORY!!! I was struggling with my sexuality at the time, slowly coming to the realization that I'm aro/ace. I decide to tell my DM, someone who I thought was a good friend of mine. So I text him, "Hey, I'm pretty sure I'm asexual." His response? "I have a crush on you." .... WHAT THE FUCK, DUDE. Though, to be honest, the sudden pressure of his confession helped me realize I truly am aro/ace and never want to be in a relationship. I spent the next six months avoiding being in any situation where I was alone with him, plenty of which he attempted to orchestrate himself. Then Covid hit and we had to put a permanent pause on the game. I don't think I've ever been so grateful to a deadly disease.
Just saying, suddenly losing any interest in sex and relationships after an unwanted encounter happens to me all the time. It’s a totally normal, logical reaction.
If he did have a crush what's the best way to approach that and still respect your identity? (i.e. respect it and not do anything further about the crush, but is mentioning it at any point OK)
@williamqin5051 It's more the context in which he told me. It was literally right after I came out to him - by telling me at that moment it gave off an, "I can fix you!" sort of vibe. Had he waited a while and come to me to say, "Hey, I know you're asexual, but I wanted to let you know about my feelings for you," then it wouldn't have been nearly as disrespectful. Of course, in an ideal world, if you know your feelings aren't going to lead anywhere you wouldn't tell them, but I understand the need to get closure in order to move on.
Im currently dating an ace person. Not aro ace, but still. Im not ace btw, but sex and all that isn't something I find necessary for a relationship. So it works out
Ive literally run into people who have tried shit with me because they think they can 'wait until im not ace anymore'. Jokes on every single one given im not even sex repulsed, but the moment they were talking about asexuality as something to change they had No chance.
I think a faux edgy monk could be funny. Like imagine a monk that read about ninjas and tries to emulate the “mysterious and dark persona” but is too much of a very friendly extrovert to pull it off. Like they try to linger in the corner and look cool, but can’t resist trying to get in on a arm wrestling competition going on in the tavern and ends up making friends with all the patrons.
My take on that trope that I hope to play eventually is the whole, "mysterious, dark and tragic backstory ninja assassin" but his whole thing is he's trying to get away from that and be a "normal person" in spite of it. Probably not very successfully at first, but it gives me room and a goal for character development.
Wow, as an aro/ace I’m so excited to see so many others in the comments! Quick reminder to anyone reading comments, much like straight people, many of us have different levels of comfort surrounding sexual content. A large portion generally don’t like it, but others are chill with sexually explicit content. The only thing “aro/ace” defines is the lack of romantic and sexual attraction. It doesn’t imply anything about what they’re open to hear and talk about. …and don’t try to “change them”, you’re only going to make the person super uncomfortable. Imagine your grandpa coming up to you and trying to get in your pants. It will probably feel like that.
"He wrote a GOOGLE DOC of all his frustrations rather than talking to me about it" Tell me you are terminally online without telling me you are terminally online. Only thing worse is if he tweeted it an tagged all the party members and Keemstar.
I'd say that it might not be terminally online, it might be that they're too nervous and/or anxious to talk about the issues directly, if it wasn't for everything else that player did and how he had no issues shouting and ranting at everyone multiple times when something happened that he didn't like.
Story 4: That feels a bit targeted... And that doesn't feel like a fun survival game besides the if you die, faceless NPC becomes new character. I like that for a survival game.
That does make it easier to introduce new characters in that kind of situation. And that campaign, to me anyways, posting your watch where they can't observe threats approaching until said threat is right on top of you is just stupid.
I feel kinda bad for him. He was pretty tame compared to most incels and while that shouldn't earn him a badge of honor, it was still kinda cringe, it seems he just "gave it a try" and I can't fault him for that. As long as the conversation did not continue from there, at least. 😅
11:10 Now, i have a friend whose character is designed to not get along with others, and he often just stays quiet in character, but he will definitely roleplay and interact properly with the party and its always so fun with his and my characters dynamic because HE ACTUALLY TRIES TO INTERACT
You probably know already, but for the viewers at home; One word "Entitlement" The mushek think they have a right , and other people's will or agency be damned
Too many romantic comedies where "no" means "keep trying?" I think if guys on the whole just decided to respect the no, the (very few) girls who play hard to get would eventually have to stop the stupid games and EVERYONE would win.
So this guy KNEW the girl he was crushing on was Aroace...and he still tried to ask her out?? What the hell did he expect would happen?? I feel like these people suffer from the "main character syndrome" and think like "Oh she's like that to others but I'm sure she'll make an exception for me!!" it's so ridiculous lol
A lot of people also think that aro/ace isn’t a real thing and/or that it’s a disorder. To some people it’s a sign that there’s something wrong with you. I’ve heard counts of aro/ace people coming across jerk faces who try to “fix” them (thinking that they can “cure” asexuality/aromanticism).
@@lumini3172 Unfortunately I know all too well how true that is, I've also been a victim of those people that say "Oh you just haven't met the right person yet" lol Most of humanity is so obsessed with sex and relationships that when they come across someone that wants neither their brains short-circuit trying to think of possible reasons lmao.
It's not even just about being aroace necessarily, I once explicitly told a dude I do not want a relationship with him. He still confessed to me just a week later and big surprise, I said no and he was heartbroken and crying all day, but I had a hard time feeling sorry because dude, what did you expect man?
I’m aroace, and because I’m younger no one actually takes me seriously. I hear “Your haven’t found the right person” it’s mostly men but some girls have also doubted me too, I’m lucky to have a friend group who naturally believe and accept me as Aroace. Such as my best friend, I don’t see her much because we moved extremely far away but we still text. She’s been questioning for a while switchigg by to Lesbian and Bisexual but currently she’s a lesbian. Since we hung out alot we were too shipped, whenever someone asked my friend would just say bluntly “Yes, I’m lesbian/bisexual but [my name] is Aroace though, so we won’t date” God bless I met her
Story 4: Ugh, I've been on the receiving end of horrid behavior that left me briefly stunned before yelling "NO!" at someone. It's always good to talk to someone you can trust when this sort of thing happens. Monk story: Love the discord skit! I've seen enough toxic crap in VC that I don't do public VCs as a personal rule.
"all that from the girl saying two words" yeah being a woman online is fun lmao btw while I'm here! I wanted to thank you for your videos! you don't just read posts you give advice too. it's come in handy as I start playing a ttrpg with an old friend as the DM. I don't want to frustrate him especially at the last second so I've made sure to ask him questions as I build my character and work with him on it so when game time comes around I'm as prepared as possible. :)
Oof I know what the last story feels like. Only, I was the DM and had a player try to Sexuality assault a female NPC who rejected him. The IRL jock of the party literally picked this dude up out of his seat at the table and tossed him out the front door.
For that last story, I’m pretty sure the guy was asking if she was willing to TALK in character about doing that, since her previous statement was that she “wasn’t comfortable talking about that sort of stuff. He was probably checking if she felt different about it if she was pretending to be her character or something else. I don’t know how out of touch someone would have to be to think that, but that was the impression I got. I still hope he got kicked.
I have a friend that’s ace (not aro tho) and he’s basically in a throuple with two bi-romantic, homosexual(?) women (they’re romantically attracted to most genders but only like lesbian sex I.e. not a fan of 🍆 but obviously more than one gender has a 🐱). It’s a three income house hold, and all three want to be parents, so he’s going to be their sperm donor so the kids are also biologically his.
I started including a very rare respec potion that allows the pc to rebuild their character completely. No need to change out a character and no bored players. I don't allow them to be bought and never gave them a market value and they're always from a long dead society so the party has to undertake a lengthy quest to get one. I also on very rare occasions throw them in loot at the end of things like exploration quests.
When crispy went “and that’s what we callllll” at 8:00 an ad came up and went RUclips PREMIUM right before the backpedaling transition and that was way funnier than anything I could have come up with
Regarding the monk story, he needs to be forced to talk about his shitty attitude. He's going to push all of his social contacts away by not listening to the criticism of his behavior. He will literally die alone if he doesn't shape up
@ArcCaravan this guy though, he actually shuts down any attempt to confront his shitty attitude. It's like he knows he sucks and is actively ignoring any attempts to actually help him, like he doesn't care about self-improvement.
@@TigerW0lf As bad as that is, I just think of how worse people have support for worse behavior and it sickens me. A reminder that not everyone who acts bad dies alone.
The opening story is already wild, but honestly after reading half of that or less I would just reply with "Learn to use autocorrect." and nothing else.
For the spoiled min-maxer story, I can totally get why he would send the google doc rather than confront the GM in person/directly. Doing that can be really stressful and difficult. Though in his place, I would have made that clear in my message. And probably been much more polite about everything. As for the bit at the end about feeling excluded, yeah, that's something else I really get. And I've gotten mad about before with my friends. I have a lot of trouble finding new social groups, and so often try very hard to hold onto the ones I have. Combined with a rather severe case of FOMO, it makes me a bit paranoid about my friends doing stuff without me around. I do my best to keep it within reason, but I don't always manage it.
Only related to the video by the fact it happened during it, but I felt I had to let people know. Funny little thing while listening to the video: "That, folks, is what we call" (ad starts) "Dr. Squatch Star Wars edition".
the dude from the WOW story is probably a weeby neckbeard type who either plays human or orc and unironically fights for the faction they joined with all their might.
7:58 “That, ladies and gentlemen, is called-“ *Pizza Hut ad* I don’t know if an ad was placed there intentionally or not but it was hilarious all the same
I play a Monk, lvl 12, at a table. (Open Hand) And I am loving the charachter and class. Never the highest damage dealer or anything, But I don't care about such stuff. And they get very high levels of survivability, especially against AoE's. Now... Note that currently he has 22 points in Dex. This was due to a very lucky draw from the Deck of Many Things and already being at 20 Dex at the time. Anyway, so the party went into a room, and immediately got blasted by 4 Fireball spells. Now, due to Monk shit, whenever you have to roll a dex save on an aoe spell, you already get halfed damage on a fail, so on a succes, you take no damage. Due to having a +6 on dex, and a +4 Proficiency. I succeeded all of them I can tell you... That felt great! My allies got absolutely blasted, one of them going down to, I believe, 1 hp. And me just standing there, with still full HP. It turned into a difficult fight, but we ended up victorious without anyone going down in the end. Just mentioning this due to Monk story and I felt the urge to give a fun story from my Monk class viewpoint.
Yeah, I remember reading through monk’s abilities and going “Jesus Christ, monks are strong” I once got one-shorted by a monk once, while I was at thirty hp Never mess with monks 😅
" 'Howard was playing a Hexblade Warlock/Paladin multi class for the majority of this campaign' ....Oh God....." Your sympathetic annoyance, I'm dying 😂
The Bro code is a list of things guys won't do to each other. For Example, if your bro is intrested in a girl, You would try to help him out and not jump in and try to steal his Romanic interest right under his noise. It usually also includes helping your friends out when dealing with break ups so they don't end up killing themselves. The Bro code is suppose to mainly just be for guys mental and phyiscal health but some people have their own...bro code.
the more i see these stories the more i feel happy that i've nerver once had a bad dnd encounter with random groups as a player and dm. in fact many of them are now some of my closet friends and where still playing nearly 3 years later. to everyone who is stuggling finding the right group dont worry, there are loads of good eggs out there looking for you as well
Spoiled Min-Maxer story: I was genuinely torn between DM and Howard's sides at the beginning. It sucks to be forced to play a character you have no interest in because of the DM's plot, but it also sucks to create a plot for a character only for the player to change their mind about the character seemingly out of nowhere. As soon as Crispy mentioned Howard not removing the heavy armour, I immediately thought "Howard is trying to get his character killed". I can also kind of understand Howard being upset about "the group" (even if it wasn't the whole group/only the group) meeting without him. It might have felt to him like this game was specifically planned to be held while he was away so that they didn't have to invite him. Planning it without his knowing could have had him thinking if the group plays without him a lot and he has no idea, and maybe nobody wants him there. My mind is very good at catastrophising so I'm probably projecting a little Idk maybe it's insecurity or maybe he's just a dick trying to poison the DM's friends against them
I'm actually suprised that the DM OP in that story isn't getting a ton of flack. Crispy says "people should have fun in D&D", but what exactly is fun about being forced to play a character that you don't want to play? I think that, if I'm Howard and have a perfectly reasonable request denied, I'm like "screw it. I'm going to get this guy killed, or make him a murder-hobo". Why not? My needs aren't being met in this game, so why would I care what happens to the game? The DM could have easily made Howard's character a DMPC, but chose instead to force someone to play a character, and then gets mad when Howard doesn't like it. (Keep in mind that Howard sounds like a chore. I just don't think the DM is much better)
@@jimbobjones9330 There is a certain amount of self sacrifice that is needed to play games like this and sabotaging everyone's fun for your own sake is definitely selfish and a dick move. They should definitely have just gone with the DMPC option but perhaps they didn't consider it. It was definitely something Howard should have been more up front about. Trying to force the DMs hand is just a bad move. You need to simply tell them that you are no longer interested in playing this character and that there is no direction you could take it in that would make it enjoyable again. The DM needs to know that this isn't a minor issue otherwise they may think they can just side step it like the DM here did. On the DM's side they did need to be more perceptive to the actual issues. If they had then perhaps they could have done the DMPC thing to keep the plot going.
@@Merilirem You're 100% right. The guy _should_ have told the DM that he no longer wished to play the character. Except you're skipping the part where he _told the DM he no longer wished to play the character_. I'm not saying that Howard was right in what he did or how he acted. I'm saying that there can be more than one wrong person in a situation. And the DM being a shit DM and causing the issue to begin with is just as bad as Howard.
Honestly, given that the DM said that Howard had been playing that character for "most of the campaign," that sounds like they were far too far into things for a character change to be feasible/sensible. I know that as a DM, I have points in a game where I might casually allow a player to change PCs on the fly, but after a certain point, not so much. If the game has gone on for so long that the characters have become integral to the setting, or are very high-level and are a strong, integrated group, then I honestly don't feel it makes sense to just casually have someone waltz off into the sunset and some new random dude slot in. Also, depending on what the PC is, and what niche they fulfill, I might _really_ be opposed to that, particularly if they want to change to a class that fills a vastly different niche or one the group already has enough of (say, swapping out a healer to be a damage-dealer, leaving the group without a healer, or a tanky build for a glass cannon, etc.). Therefore, I personally side with the DM a little more on this one. Howard's PC had clearly been an integral part of the group for long enough that he felt he could build a part of the plot around him, and possibly was aiming to use it to even _further_ integrate him into the plot/group, which most players I know _love_ to see happen. Getting integrated into the plot, being a story focus, is something to be strove toward, because it means you're important and that you matter. To then have your player decide that they're bored with or otherwise just don't feel like playing that character that you've felt is important enough to put focus on makes it feel like your efforts don't matter. Also, I just feel that asking to change characters unless there's a very strong reason why (and I generally feel like "I'm just bored with this one" isn't enough) is kinda rude. Stockpile that new PC idea for the next campaign, or to be an NPC when you take a turn in the chair, etc. But, unless it's something like "this character is a bad fit for this party," or "I'm having trouble actually working with this PC because reasons," (a player who picked a too-complicated for them class or a multiclass that's working against them), then I fully feel that unless it is very early on in the campaign, you can tough it out a little while until the end.
@@Mokiefraggle Howard was an obvious asshole here. No question there. But the DM bears some of the responsibility for not trying to come up with some compromise. If a player is _that_ unhappy playing a character, then discuss it with them. And if they still are determined not to be a specific character, you need to figure something out, or it'll build resentment. Make that character a DMPC, explicitly telling the player that they will no longer have ANY say in how that character functions any more.
About "The Spoiled Min-Maxer" I've had exactly 2 players like that, with the "never directly addressing concerns" and "pushing on rules as hard as they can" I run a roleplaying game with two other people, and by unanimous decision we kicked them both. The players in question were hogging the spotlight in the game, hogging all of our personal real life time, disregarding our (and our other players') boundaries, badmouthing us and in general ruining the game for everyone else. (And they didn't hesitate to say some stuff ranging from rude to "who is fucked up enough to say that to another human?" So we were happy to let that go) The problem with players like this is that they usually don't mean harm. They're generally fun people, but just have a hard time being in a group with a set of rules. My advice is to consider if the people you surround yourself with are giving you joy, and if they respect your boundaries. Talk to them, voice your concerns, but if they refuse to listen, disregard your feelings, go against everything you say no matter how nice you are- It's time to consider moving on. It sucks, but if you're having a shit time *playing a game with friends* Tha's no good You're allowed to have boundaries too, and you're allowed to remove people if the "risk" is much higher than the "reward" (Of course with communication and such beforehand) Love you all
I find that some people don’t quite understand dnd. It’s not a game you “win”. It’s a game you roleplay. Your character NEEDS flaws. That makes it roleplay able. Once you become an overpowered character, it stops being that spark of fun. It’s just a game where you kill things and get whatever you want.
Howard the Min Maxer I am a Charisma builder. I play a Palabard in a Disney DND. However I know she has a weakness. She’s a support gith as opposed to a tank, her spells have a lot of saving throws. And I make subclasses based on a theme. I have a Wolf-themed subclass based on a team and defending it offensively. I have a Mad Scientist artificer with a wild magic table (Table of Unstable Elements). I fill it on theme and balance, not filling a niche other classes can do.
As someone who is constantly trying to avoid overstepping, it is baffling how far some people will just stroll past every line of even remotely acceptable behaviour without a second thought.
Survival situations like early in Story 4 can go in some different directions. Adventure involving struggling against obstacles that are very immediate but trickier than monsters because you can't just hack them to pieces? Classic. The slowly dawning realization that the only food source for at least the next month is what the party's Alchemy Jug can produce? That's horror.
I played one for a one shot and he was insanely more op than the other characters. I had to make sure I didn't steal anyone's thunder in combat due to this.
I'm Aro/Ace, I like to joke until proven otherwise because I still feel aesthetic attraction, and like the idea of romance, (maybe I'm demi) but if someone approaches me with the " I can change you attitude ". Instantly that person won't be 'attractive' to me, in any way.
Asexuality is where an individual does not experience Sexual attraction; theyabsolutely can experience aesthetic or platonic attraction and still be asexual. @untrustingstatue
Bruh, the difference between heavy armor and breast plate on 10 Dex is 2 for chainmail and 3 for splint. Grab a shield for the stealth mission and it's fine.
Howard story hit very close to me - I had a similar player and all times he keptt making OP as hell charracters and demanded to keep ALL special weapons even when I gave him the condition to keep ONE. He threw a fit at me and I finally told him off he either plays fair with others and grows with others or I remove him from my table. He chose removal from table by trying to turn people against me with fabricated messaged and fortunately I had full caps when I saw the sus stuff he was doing. He still brags and shares about his characters today despite no one had accepted him to any table - because his characters simply do not fit and are too overpowered to be part of the team. No one wants an anime protag…
The entirety of "Targeting the Ace?" One..... yeah, definitely agree with the Writer of the post the Prick of a Dungeon Master was trying to get the writer to leave so he can instantly start hitting on the poor AROACE girl either after the game or through some creepy fourth wall breaking NPC The amazing Hair bit..... also, hmm which was the person playing that character again ? If the DM got what he wanted ugh...... an Incel DM
Yeah.... Howard would have been booted from my game after the Google Doc. "You wanted your chara killed, he's dead! And you are cordially uninvited from my table! Ciao!"
the very first story is a good example as to why humanoid androids will take over our species. second last DM was a chad. he was right to kill the campaign. i wouldn't call inviting someone to do somethin harassment. If they said no and you continue sure but not the initial invitation.
2:03 God, I had a person like this in one of my roleplay servers... They made the entire game a chore to play, and just made their character go off and break shit, ruining a puzzle for the rest of the participants...
I have played in a campaign once( we did a one night campaign at the dm's house but can't quite call it a campaign like we had the first time with hours and hours poured into it) and one of our friends,N,had a dragonborn paladin who was kind of many of our weaker players but played well enough to survive at least 3 session. On the third session we had a bit of a mishap wich resulted in N's death. He made no real issue of it,had another dragonborn sheet because he liked the specie but that was when trouble began. I was pretty embarrassed so I didn't roleplay a lot but with time I tried my hand at it to have more fun and bring a more of me into my character. So as I was a barbarian dwarf I was rough in my words and N didn't take it too well,had "spsyche damage" to bring himself back to normal after he made a few bad calls into a fight but we all agreed it was fine and moved on. He didn't. Because the very next session we had a guest,a friend of the dm,even come to call to be the bad guy of the session and at some point we lost,but no one had died like last time,and N just exploded on us. Like the guy had a full on meltdown over little things because things didn't go his way,angry that his dice rolls were bad and such. I got mad,told him off and we were quite loud to each other. The dm calmed everyone down and since then nobody played dnd on this campaign. I really love to bring myself into my character but when people brings their worst insecurities on theirs and then behave like this,it gets me on my nerve. He's my friend and I care about him but if he had issue he should have at least talked about it to us(we're all pretty open in our friendship's emotions group so there would be no reason why he wouldn't) and it just brings everyone down along with any sort of motivation and it sucks
Bitter rejection. There was a time where I was a slight problem player in HS. Basically, creepypasta fandom made me believe being a murder hobo was cool. It was not.
9:26 dropping Google doc titled "My Frustrations" and list all of your grievances, including the fact that he's not able to talk to you directly and will lie to your face while talking behind your back.
25:30 TELL THEM It will just get WORSE until the guy gets what He wants As a person who grew up a male I know, there are a lot of guys who act JUST like that I used to act like that at one point, but Luckily I grew out of that disgusting mindset and became a relatively better person ? I still have anger issues though, but I'm also now some who identifies as Non-binary or I should be more specific Genderless by my identity and I'm also Asexual So, if a girl tried to hit on me and I tell them no. They keep doing it, I'll just say to the DM "Ok, I can't deal with any longer. Either you get this person under control so we can play without this disgusting behavior. Or kick them out of the group. Or, I'll just let you take out my Character and I'm out of here FOR GOOD"
hearing abt weeping angels attack is 😭😭?? for context, weeping angels dont kill. they send humans back in time so that theyll eventually be alone on earth
A. The sleaze ball IS right. The dating game is all about the percentage game. B. The “ bro code” aka you don’t date your boys ex’s, more applies to friends. It’s more of a moral thing, but it dissipates over time. Like I’m married to an ex of a friend of mine from DECADES ago and things changed so much I didn’t even recognize her UNTILL after we started dating.
Story 2: Some things the DM said rubs me wrong way. You've never said he was the strongest yet you complain (Jokingly or not) about his build being powerful but also said other people also have powerful builds, I wonder if he complained about them? I don't know if I would force a stealth mission where they have to strip away their armor so they can sneak into a place that can get them killed even when wearing the armor. Like if you're playing a medium to heavy armor build... Your dex is most likely your dump stat. Everything else is pretty reasonable.
There are different kinds of stealth. There is stealth like thieves, who move through areas without people knowing they have. And there is stealth like ORCS, who leave no one alive to tell others they were there. But in all seriousness I think the DM didn't understand actual stealth missions. Knowing the layout of a place, the movement of patrols, the location of surveillance and what said surveillance can see; are more critical to success of such a mission than just being quiet. You can be absolutely silent, but if the guard in the watchtower sees you moving around, your done with the stealth mission. The disadvantage on stealth roles due to armor is just a mechanic to show it is more difficult being quiet in such armor, but it shouldn't be a catchall for all stealth operations.
I wonder if that was a case of "DM forced them to do this" or "Players came up with this idea as the only logical way to stealth, but Howard just kept refusing." There's a huge difference to be had, there. Or, for all we know, the DM originally planned the stealth mission to be a plot point, wherein the party removing their armor was accounted for in how it would play out, but Howard threw the proverbial armor-plated spanner into the works. That the rest of the party seemed so on-board with taking off all heavy armor for this stealth mission suggests that it might have been that they came up with it when the DM proposed the stealth mission, and decided as a collective to run with it as their way to potentially enhance their stealth chances. Edit: Okay, no. On a re-watch of that section...the party had a list of options to choose from regarding side quests. The list had blurbs describing them, including specifically noting that this was a stealth mission. They actively _chose_ to do this themselves. OP also makes note that the group was preparing stealth spells in addition to having decided to remove heavy armor, further suggesting that this was the group's idea as much as anything. They'd decided that the best way to go about this mission was to remove their heavy gear to facilitate better sneaking around, with nothing about the statement suggesting that they were told they would have to.
Really late but while moon druid are gonna be op and a default for most, I'd actually most recommend stars or wildfire. Both have great flavour and aesthetic builds, give unconventional use for your wild shapes and are also decently powerful. I have one star druid that's built around the concept of being a sailor, so all his spells tend to be either divination via navigating, light themed, or water themed.
I had one DM tell me an NPC was hitting on my character, "and he's charisma 19 and rolled two nat 20s, so you fall madly in love with him"
Noped out of that game right then.
Yeah, that kinda thing is NOT how Charisma works. It's not mind control and a Nat 20 doesn't magically make a person do something they would never normally do.
Ugh, people who use charisma to override a PC's choices like that are super obnoxious
@@laughableInflection This was before I ever heard the term "player agency". It's a concept that should be integral to any gaming group, but isn't.
I had a character drinking in a tavern. The DM had me roll a constitution check and when I failed, he said I got drunk and slept with his character. When I objected, he said I'd failed the constitution check so he got to decide what happened.
I did not return to that game.
So, putting things bluntly here, some DM's not all, use charisma and NAT to ensure thier character or whomever they chose to "hit on" your character, they imagine whatever scenario to basically rape your character/do whatever they please to your character since they cannot do that to you IRL.
I am a 30 year old Ace and I can tell you that I have heard a wide range of ignorant statements. I have been called selfish. I have been called cold. I have been called a prude and uptight. I have been accused of thinking I was better than anyone. I have been told I have something wrong with me that could be fixed. I have been told that someone could "fix" me if I just give in. I have been told I don't know what I want because how could I not if I never tried it. I have been told I will change my mind. I have been called a liar looking for excuses. I have been threatened with rape.
I have never dated because I refuse to deal with the extra drama where someone thinks I will change my mind. I have always been upfront and polite with my rejections but have been told I was, "Playing hard to get." I developed a stalker at one point who seriously believed that was the case.
For the love of all that is good, leave us alone, please. Personally, I just stand in a field all day and produce carbon dioxide while thinking of science and dragons. I just work on furthering my degree and want to live my best life with family and friends.
Aces are normal and human. We don't have to take our clothes off to have a good time. We just vibe for the most part. We'd love to do life without fearing judgment and possible harassment simply because someone doesn't believe we are real or we need to be "fixed".
F*(k off with that creepy persistent nonsense. It's absolutely super creepy and we won't change just for some @$shole nor should we have too.
If we say no, the answer is no. Just like with anyone else who isn't ace. No means no.
"Producing carbon dioxide while thinking about science and dragons" well if that ain't me on a daily basis.
it’s crazy how some people will even lie “oh yeah im okay with that” but in their mind theyre thinking they can secretly change you. not ace myself as far as i know, but ive heard enough stories where it’s just… damn. people dont know how to respect other’s wishes :/
@@ocinidolegnaNice to see an ace supporter here!
I have had someone tell me that and I still refused.
One time it was my stalker. Anytime I tried to shut his advances down. He would....until a minute later and it was right back to saying how badly he wanted to make out with me. Kept dodging that guy but couldn't get away far enough if he came into my work place.....which was on the same campus we were both attending as students. You can imagine my stress levels.
Later on in life after I finally shook him off, he found a fulfilling relationship and last I checked is happy. I hope it stays that way and I never see him in person ever again.
As for the others. They were good guy friends I eventually felt I had to distance myself from after while so their feelings would "die down" and prayed they would find interest elsewhere. They did and I am glad for it. Eventually lost contact though which is probably for the best.
I hate the fact I did that but after rejecting them once or twice, I realized they were still holding out hope I would change my mind. So distancing seemed the best option. I guess it was because, as I said, they found girlfriends who could meet their needs.
Being Ace makes dating hard because you always wonder if they are serious that they don't need sex. In my experience, I have heard of people genuinely trying but they ultimately went out to have an affair. I don't want the nonsense.
Maybe if I found someone who was also Ace and I felt something was there.....maybe I would give dating a try. Sadly, it's still little known about in my age group and I live in the deep South...sooooo yeah it's kinda hard.
"you just didn't do it right", "ace isn't a thing". and i got a girl told me that she thought she was ace and it turned out she was just gay thus she believes ace doesn't exist.
explaining is so much trouble and i just give up
Hooo boy, can't agree more with what you said. I had a friend I rejected multiple times for an entire year that would still send me messages with "wish you were my gf 😢" in it. At the time I was avoiding relationships like the plague for being ace and not believing anyone would be with me and respect my boundaries (like said friend was doing already)
Now I'm engaged and still very much ace, nothing changed, I just found someone that doesn't think I'm some kind of sex-provider
Idk if you even want this kind of thing, but I'm just saying its possible
If you chase after an Aro/Ace person with an “I can change them” attitude it’s just as bad as saying to can change someone who does experience sexual attraction.
Me personally I’m not Aro only Ace but JEEBUS the amount of people who think we can be “fixed” is insane.
It gives off the same issue as the "How do you know you're a lesbian if you've never had sex with a guy??" desperation, you don't need to do the horizontal monster mash with someone to know you don't find them or people of their sex/gender attractive, it's something you just innately feel - and nothing is as unattractive as someone not taking no for an answer and them continuing to pressure you against your will.
its r*pey as fuck
ugh my boss told me this once "well have you had sex?" no but can't imagine its going to improve things, im happy as it is@@SirFailsalot91
Thiss!
It reads as very rapey and abusive
Add that to the “I can fix it” list of dumbass phrases used by people “in love” (example- I can fix the phsycopah)
Damn chasing after an aro/ace person with the "I can change them!" Approach is surely a waste of time. As an aro I can say stop pursuing we, in most cases, can't develop romantic feelings for you.
Preach!
@@slowazzd2165 oh no! anyway
I have no idea what went through the head of that DM, my best guess is something like: "She isn't touching
@@slowazzd2165 This is like saying, "I've known two vegetarians and they're vegans. Therefore all vegetarians are vegans," Romantic love is just one type of emotion, and just one type of love, and it's not even the most important when it comes to functioning as a normal human being.
@@slowazzd2165 "Advertising 'I can't see/hear' is not a green flag". Does that sound different from what you just said? If so, think about why.
Knowing Crispy's also ace I just know this story's gonna be magical.
Surprisingly mundane. I honestly expected worse. I should probably be glad it wasn't.
@@ArcCaravan coulda been way worse I think.
@@WTFisTingispingis Definitely.
Oh shit, Crispy is ace? Nice~ One more addition to the community!!
Yay! One of us!!!
"Not breaking the bro-code" basically means "I won't respect your autonomous decision of not wanting to sleep with me, but I WILL respect the fact that another man has 'claimed' you".
As someone who follows the bro code, that guy doesn’t speak for us, a good section of the bro code is respecting romantic interests in their own right and knowing boundaries l, and making sure your bros respect that too
Literally
'Bros' don't have to be men, after all. 'Dudes' aren't, either. It's just slang for "being a decent person". As a result, the individual is taking the Bro-Code in vain. They are a false follower of the Code and should be shunned. **Shunned.**
@@oliverwilhelm6171 No.
@@SupremeCommanderBaiser No, you.
As an Ace I feel for those people. Please. I beg of those who are inclined to think so Aceness is not an obstacle between you and your waifu. Do not treat it as such
If you're "waifu" is an aro ace like the girl in the video and myself, please PLEASE think of it as an impenetrable wall between you and them, because it is.
Um. Yeah. It is. That's what asexual/aromantic means.
@@rollanddev i'm pretty sure asexual and aromantic are different things, dude
"aceness" in this context probably refers to *asexuality*
@@mioko5679 Asexual and aromantic are different things, though some people are both.
@@rollanddev i mean, not all ace people are sex repulsed, but if people say no, then it is no lol
Targeting the Ace? - gotta say, the trash took itself out. Was appalled to read that the DM *_knew_* the girl was aroace and *still* "tried it on" then got all pissy when he failed. Hope he's no longer DMing for anyone.
A lot of people have this idea that they can "fix" us. "Corrective r@pe" is a very real threat. I've simply stopped dating because every one of them has said they understand and respect it but then turn around and try to guilt me into doing things I've already said no to.
@@genera1013 Yeah. If it's not outright inappropriate contact, it's emotional blackmail, guilt trips and gaslighting.
Happy Pride.
‘I don’t think the dm was targeting the writer specifically’ what would you call constant bs killing and suddenly being stabbed by something that should be dead?
Also no mention of perception or steath checks being made in said situations, knowing that's a newbie player and they're not going to know they need to make these
yeah the dm was totally targeting the person
I mean the OP was always targeted by at least double the amount of enemies the rest of the party had on them, got insta killed by...Bone Vultures (whatever those are), for simply investigating a noise, and got stabbed by a smashed statue. Yeah that was targeting
I HAVE ASEXUAL DnD STORY!!!
I was struggling with my sexuality at the time, slowly coming to the realization that I'm aro/ace. I decide to tell my DM, someone who I thought was a good friend of mine. So I text him, "Hey, I'm pretty sure I'm asexual." His response? "I have a crush on you."
....
WHAT THE FUCK, DUDE.
Though, to be honest, the sudden pressure of his confession helped me realize I truly am aro/ace and never want to be in a relationship. I spent the next six months avoiding being in any situation where I was alone with him, plenty of which he attempted to orchestrate himself. Then Covid hit and we had to put a permanent pause on the game. I don't think I've ever been so grateful to a deadly disease.
Holy shit how creepy! Bullet dodged via government mandated home time!
Just saying, suddenly losing any interest in sex and relationships after an unwanted encounter happens to me all the time. It’s a totally normal, logical reaction.
@@dodgyyoutuber9560nobody asked.
If he did have a crush what's the best way to approach that and still respect your identity? (i.e. respect it and not do anything further about the crush, but is mentioning it at any point OK)
@williamqin5051 It's more the context in which he told me. It was literally right after I came out to him - by telling me at that moment it gave off an, "I can fix you!" sort of vibe. Had he waited a while and come to me to say, "Hey, I know you're asexual, but I wanted to let you know about my feelings for you," then it wouldn't have been nearly as disrespectful. Of course, in an ideal world, if you know your feelings aren't going to lead anywhere you wouldn't tell them, but I understand the need to get closure in order to move on.
Im currently dating an ace person. Not aro ace, but still. Im not ace btw, but sex and all that isn't something I find necessary for a relationship. So it works out
Good luck to the both of you! ^_^
B-B-B-BASED ASF
Not a lot of allo people are like that so its why im way more comfortable with a fellow ace partner.
The Ace dating-pool is pretty small, so this gives me hope 😊
Ive literally run into people who have tried shit with me because they think they can 'wait until im not ace anymore'.
Jokes on every single one given im not even sex repulsed, but the moment they were talking about asexuality as something to change they had No chance.
I think a faux edgy monk could be funny. Like imagine a monk that read about ninjas and tries to emulate the “mysterious and dark persona” but is too much of a very friendly extrovert to pull it off. Like they try to linger in the corner and look cool, but can’t resist trying to get in on a arm wrestling competition going on in the tavern and ends up making friends with all the patrons.
My take on that trope that I hope to play eventually is the whole, "mysterious, dark and tragic backstory ninja assassin" but his whole thing is he's trying to get away from that and be a "normal person" in spite of it. Probably not very successfully at first, but it gives me room and a goal for character development.
Story 4: The DM was definitely targeting them.
Wow, as an aro/ace I’m so excited to see so many others in the comments!
Quick reminder to anyone reading comments, much like straight people, many of us have different levels of comfort surrounding sexual content.
A large portion generally don’t like it, but others are chill with sexually explicit content. The only thing “aro/ace” defines is the lack of romantic and sexual attraction. It doesn’t imply anything about what they’re open to hear and talk about.
…and don’t try to “change them”, you’re only going to make the person super uncomfortable. Imagine your grandpa coming up to you and trying to get in your pants. It will probably feel like that.
"He wrote a GOOGLE DOC of all his frustrations rather than talking to me about it"
Tell me you are terminally online without telling me you are terminally online. Only thing worse is if he tweeted it an tagged all the party members and Keemstar.
I'd say that it might not be terminally online, it might be that they're too nervous and/or anxious to talk about the issues directly, if it wasn't for everything else that player did and how he had no issues shouting and ranting at everyone multiple times when something happened that he didn't like.
Story 4: That feels a bit targeted... And that doesn't feel like a fun survival game besides the if you die, faceless NPC becomes new character. I like that for a survival game.
That does make it easier to introduce new characters in that kind of situation.
And that campaign, to me anyways, posting your watch where they can't observe threats approaching until said threat is right on top of you is just stupid.
I like to call the first story: Hell in an Incel
Yeah, there was a lot of YIKES! there.
Thats good 😂
I feel kinda bad for him. He was pretty tame compared to most incels and while that shouldn't earn him a badge of honor, it was still kinda cringe, it seems he just "gave it a try" and I can't fault him for that. As long as the conversation did not continue from there, at least. 😅
11:10 Now, i have a friend whose character is designed to not get along with others, and he often just stays quiet in character, but he will definitely roleplay and interact properly with the party and its always so fun with his and my characters dynamic because HE ACTUALLY TRIES TO INTERACT
Man, this time there were a lot of harassment stories. Why do some people not understand the concept of “No” or “No thanks” in these situations?
You probably know already, but for the viewers at home; One word "Entitlement" The mushek think they have a right , and other people's will or agency be damned
Their the kind of people that view consent as optional
Too many romantic comedies where "no" means "keep trying?" I think if guys on the whole just decided to respect the no, the (very few) girls who play hard to get would eventually have to stop the stupid games and EVERYONE would win.
So this guy KNEW the girl he was crushing on was Aroace...and he still tried to ask her out?? What the hell did he expect would happen??
I feel like these people suffer from the "main character syndrome" and think like "Oh she's like that to others but I'm sure she'll make an exception for me!!" it's so ridiculous lol
A lot of people also think that aro/ace isn’t a real thing and/or that it’s a disorder. To some people it’s a sign that there’s something wrong with you. I’ve heard counts of aro/ace people coming across jerk faces who try to “fix” them (thinking that they can “cure” asexuality/aromanticism).
@@lumini3172 Unfortunately I know all too well how true that is, I've also been a victim of those people that say "Oh you just haven't met the right person yet" lol
Most of humanity is so obsessed with sex and relationships that when they come across someone that wants neither their brains short-circuit trying to think of possible reasons lmao.
It's not even just about being aroace necessarily, I once explicitly told a dude I do not want a relationship with him. He still confessed to me just a week later and big surprise, I said no and he was heartbroken and crying all day, but I had a hard time feeling sorry because dude, what did you expect man?
@@helion_ut Lool I swear men hear "I'm not interested" and take it as a challenge instead of a clear indicator...
I’m aroace, and because I’m younger no one actually takes me seriously. I hear “Your haven’t found the right person” it’s mostly men but some girls have also doubted me too, I’m lucky to have a friend group who naturally believe and accept me as Aroace.
Such as my best friend, I don’t see her much because we moved extremely far away but we still text. She’s been questioning for a while switchigg by to Lesbian and Bisexual but currently she’s a lesbian. Since we hung out alot we were too shipped, whenever someone asked my friend would just say bluntly “Yes, I’m lesbian/bisexual but [my name] is Aroace though, so we won’t date”
God bless I met her
Story 4: Ugh, I've been on the receiving end of horrid behavior that left me briefly stunned before yelling "NO!" at someone. It's always good to talk to someone you can trust when this sort of thing happens.
Monk story: Love the discord skit! I've seen enough toxic crap in VC that I don't do public VCs as a personal rule.
Howard trying to kill his character while putting the rest of the party in danger is so wrong.
"all that from the girl saying two words" yeah being a woman online is fun lmao
btw while I'm here! I wanted to thank you for your videos! you don't just read posts you give advice too. it's come in handy as I start playing a ttrpg with an old friend as the DM. I don't want to frustrate him especially at the last second so I've made sure to ask him questions as I build my character and work with him on it so when game time comes around I'm as prepared as possible. :)
Oof I know what the last story feels like. Only, I was the DM and had a player try to Sexuality assault a female NPC who rejected him. The IRL jock of the party literally picked this dude up out of his seat at the table and tossed him out the front door.
Props to that guy for acting right in that situation. He sounds like a very compassionate person. 😊
As a bro, I petition that being cringe should be considered going against the bro code.
All in favor say, "Aye!"
Eeeeey!
aye
aye, indeed
For that last story, I’m pretty sure the guy was asking if she was willing to TALK in character about doing that, since her previous statement was that she “wasn’t comfortable talking about that sort of stuff. He was probably checking if she felt different about it if she was pretending to be her character or something else. I don’t know how out of touch someone would have to be to think that, but that was the impression I got.
I still hope he got kicked.
I have a friend that’s ace (not aro tho) and he’s basically in a throuple with two bi-romantic, homosexual(?) women (they’re romantically attracted to most genders but only like lesbian sex I.e. not a fan of 🍆 but obviously more than one gender has a 🐱). It’s a three income house hold, and all three want to be parents, so he’s going to be their sperm donor so the kids are also biologically his.
Life is rich and wonderful this is actually so cute.
Sounds like they all found a situation that works out perfectly for them. That's really cool!
I started including a very rare respec potion that allows the pc to rebuild their character completely. No need to change out a character and no bored players. I don't allow them to be bought and never gave them a market value and they're always from a long dead society so the party has to undertake a lengthy quest to get one. I also on very rare occasions throw them in loot at the end of things like exploration quests.
This reminds me so much of a kid we had in our dnd club. He NEVER cooperated and would purposefully do the exact thing we asked he didn’t do.
When crispy went “and that’s what we callllll” at 8:00 an ad came up and went RUclips PREMIUM right before the backpedaling transition and that was way funnier than anything I could have come up with
Regarding the monk story, he needs to be forced to talk about his shitty attitude. He's going to push all of his social contacts away by not listening to the criticism of his behavior. He will literally die alone if he doesn't shape up
Same could be said for a lot of problem players on this channel. And with enough hope they shape up or suffer that fate.
@ArcCaravan this guy though, he actually shuts down any attempt to confront his shitty attitude. It's like he knows he sucks and is actively ignoring any attempts to actually help him, like he doesn't care about self-improvement.
@@TigerW0lf As bad as that is, I just think of how worse people have support for worse behavior and it sickens me. A reminder that not everyone who acts bad dies alone.
You make dying alone sound like a bad thing.
@@robertbryant4669 Is if they want company, even if it's just to use them for their own pleasure.
The opening story is already wild, but honestly after reading half of that or less I would just reply with "Learn to use autocorrect." and nothing else.
For the spoiled min-maxer story, I can totally get why he would send the google doc rather than confront the GM in person/directly. Doing that can be really stressful and difficult. Though in his place, I would have made that clear in my message. And probably been much more polite about everything. As for the bit at the end about feeling excluded, yeah, that's something else I really get. And I've gotten mad about before with my friends. I have a lot of trouble finding new social groups, and so often try very hard to hold onto the ones I have. Combined with a rather severe case of FOMO, it makes me a bit paranoid about my friends doing stuff without me around. I do my best to keep it within reason, but I don't always manage it.
Only related to the video by the fact it happened during it, but I felt I had to let people know. Funny little thing while listening to the video: "That, folks, is what we call" (ad starts) "Dr. Squatch Star Wars edition".
So, a Star Wars game where everyone plays Wookies?
Mine was a Honey advert, so it was perfect timing XD
"THAT IS WHAT WE CALL"
"Honey~"
the dude from the WOW story is probably a weeby neckbeard type who either plays human or orc and unironically fights for the faction they joined with all their might.
Kinda ironic when now of days, it's well know WOW is run by incel bro boys.
Much love to the ace people who get shit like this, I love you and support you I hope you have a happy pride❤🧡💛💚💙💜
If I was in a group with that Holy Pally... I'd sacrifice my "Never plays Healer" card just to make sure he doesn't join my party...
7:58 “That, ladies and gentlemen, is called-“ *Pizza Hut ad*
I don’t know if an ad was placed there intentionally or not but it was hilarious all the same
I play a Monk, lvl 12, at a table. (Open Hand) And I am loving the charachter and class. Never the highest damage dealer or anything, But I don't care about such stuff. And they get very high levels of survivability, especially against AoE's.
Now... Note that currently he has 22 points in Dex. This was due to a very lucky draw from the Deck of Many Things and already being at 20 Dex at the time.
Anyway, so the party went into a room, and immediately got blasted by 4 Fireball spells. Now, due to Monk shit, whenever you have to roll a dex save on an aoe spell, you already get halfed damage on a fail, so on a succes, you take no damage.
Due to having a +6 on dex, and a +4 Proficiency. I succeeded all of them
I can tell you... That felt great! My allies got absolutely blasted, one of them going down to, I believe, 1 hp. And me just standing there, with still full HP.
It turned into a difficult fight, but we ended up victorious without anyone going down in the end.
Just mentioning this due to Monk story and I felt the urge to give a fun story from my Monk class viewpoint.
Yeah, I remember reading through monk’s abilities and going “Jesus Christ, monks are strong”
I once got one-shorted by a monk once, while I was at thirty hp
Never mess with monks 😅
That escalated quickly to a creep factor of 11
" 'Howard was playing a Hexblade Warlock/Paladin multi class for the majority of this campaign' ....Oh God....." Your sympathetic annoyance, I'm dying 😂
I LOVE THE RE-ENACTMENTS, CRISPY so fkn funny
I love how this is just a dnd story channel that caters to aces, rare but I love it
The Bro code is a list of things guys won't do to each other. For Example, if your bro is intrested in a girl, You would try to help him out and not jump in and try to steal his Romanic interest right under his noise. It usually also includes helping your friends out when dealing with break ups so they don't end up killing themselves.
The Bro code is suppose to mainly just be for guys mental and phyiscal health but some people have their own...bro code.
the more i see these stories the more i feel happy that i've nerver once had a bad dnd encounter with random groups as a player and dm. in fact many of them are now some of my closet friends and where still playing nearly 3 years later. to everyone who is stuggling finding the right group dont worry, there are loads of good eggs out there looking for you as well
Spoiled Min-Maxer story:
I was genuinely torn between DM and Howard's sides at the beginning. It sucks to be forced to play a character you have no interest in because of the DM's plot, but it also sucks to create a plot for a character only for the player to change their mind about the character seemingly out of nowhere. As soon as Crispy mentioned Howard not removing the heavy armour, I immediately thought "Howard is trying to get his character killed".
I can also kind of understand Howard being upset about "the group" (even if it wasn't the whole group/only the group) meeting without him. It might have felt to him like this game was specifically planned to be held while he was away so that they didn't have to invite him. Planning it without his knowing could have had him thinking if the group plays without him a lot and he has no idea, and maybe nobody wants him there. My mind is very good at catastrophising so I'm probably projecting a little
Idk maybe it's insecurity or maybe he's just a dick trying to poison the DM's friends against them
I'm actually suprised that the DM OP in that story isn't getting a ton of flack.
Crispy says "people should have fun in D&D", but what exactly is fun about being forced to play a character that you don't want to play?
I think that, if I'm Howard and have a perfectly reasonable request denied, I'm like "screw it. I'm going to get this guy killed, or make him a murder-hobo". Why not? My needs aren't being met in this game, so why would I care what happens to the game?
The DM could have easily made Howard's character a DMPC, but chose instead to force someone to play a character, and then gets mad when Howard doesn't like it. (Keep in mind that Howard sounds like a chore. I just don't think the DM is much better)
@@jimbobjones9330 There is a certain amount of self sacrifice that is needed to play games like this and sabotaging everyone's fun for your own sake is definitely selfish and a dick move. They should definitely have just gone with the DMPC option but perhaps they didn't consider it. It was definitely something Howard should have been more up front about. Trying to force the DMs hand is just a bad move. You need to simply tell them that you are no longer interested in playing this character and that there is no direction you could take it in that would make it enjoyable again. The DM needs to know that this isn't a minor issue otherwise they may think they can just side step it like the DM here did. On the DM's side they did need to be more perceptive to the actual issues. If they had then perhaps they could have done the DMPC thing to keep the plot going.
@@Merilirem You're 100% right. The guy _should_ have told the DM that he no longer wished to play the character.
Except you're skipping the part where he _told the DM he no longer wished to play the character_.
I'm not saying that Howard was right in what he did or how he acted.
I'm saying that there can be more than one wrong person in a situation. And the DM being a shit DM and causing the issue to begin with is just as bad as Howard.
Honestly, given that the DM said that Howard had been playing that character for "most of the campaign," that sounds like they were far too far into things for a character change to be feasible/sensible. I know that as a DM, I have points in a game where I might casually allow a player to change PCs on the fly, but after a certain point, not so much. If the game has gone on for so long that the characters have become integral to the setting, or are very high-level and are a strong, integrated group, then I honestly don't feel it makes sense to just casually have someone waltz off into the sunset and some new random dude slot in. Also, depending on what the PC is, and what niche they fulfill, I might _really_ be opposed to that, particularly if they want to change to a class that fills a vastly different niche or one the group already has enough of (say, swapping out a healer to be a damage-dealer, leaving the group without a healer, or a tanky build for a glass cannon, etc.).
Therefore, I personally side with the DM a little more on this one. Howard's PC had clearly been an integral part of the group for long enough that he felt he could build a part of the plot around him, and possibly was aiming to use it to even _further_ integrate him into the plot/group, which most players I know _love_ to see happen. Getting integrated into the plot, being a story focus, is something to be strove toward, because it means you're important and that you matter. To then have your player decide that they're bored with or otherwise just don't feel like playing that character that you've felt is important enough to put focus on makes it feel like your efforts don't matter.
Also, I just feel that asking to change characters unless there's a very strong reason why (and I generally feel like "I'm just bored with this one" isn't enough) is kinda rude. Stockpile that new PC idea for the next campaign, or to be an NPC when you take a turn in the chair, etc. But, unless it's something like "this character is a bad fit for this party," or "I'm having trouble actually working with this PC because reasons," (a player who picked a too-complicated for them class or a multiclass that's working against them), then I fully feel that unless it is very early on in the campaign, you can tough it out a little while until the end.
@@Mokiefraggle Howard was an obvious asshole here. No question there.
But the DM bears some of the responsibility for not trying to come up with some compromise.
If a player is _that_ unhappy playing a character, then discuss it with them. And if they still are determined not to be a specific character, you need to figure something out, or it'll build resentment.
Make that character a DMPC, explicitly telling the player that they will no longer have ANY say in how that character functions any more.
Me as a Druid main… “I just wanna do something that looks really cool while having something that can one shot basic minions”
About "The Spoiled Min-Maxer"
I've had exactly 2 players like that, with the "never directly addressing concerns" and "pushing on rules as hard as they can"
I run a roleplaying game with two other people, and by unanimous decision we kicked them both.
The players in question were hogging the spotlight in the game, hogging all of our personal real life time, disregarding our (and our other players') boundaries, badmouthing us and in general ruining the game for everyone else. (And they didn't hesitate to say some stuff ranging from rude to "who is fucked up enough to say that to another human?" So we were happy to let that go)
The problem with players like this is that they usually don't mean harm. They're generally fun people, but just have a hard time being in a group with a set of rules.
My advice is to consider if the people you surround yourself with are giving you joy, and if they respect your boundaries. Talk to them, voice your concerns, but if they refuse to listen, disregard your feelings, go against everything you say no matter how nice you are-
It's time to consider moving on. It sucks, but if you're having a shit time *playing a game with friends*
Tha's no good
You're allowed to have boundaries too, and you're allowed to remove people if the "risk" is much higher than the "reward"
(Of course with communication and such beforehand)
Love you all
I find that some people don’t quite understand dnd. It’s not a game you “win”. It’s a game you roleplay. Your character NEEDS flaws. That makes it roleplay able. Once you become an overpowered character, it stops being that spark of fun. It’s just a game where you kill things and get whatever you want.
The “He meant OUT of character?” with the screen going red is peak editing, gotta say.
The best dm response to creeps is always "get pranked I'm a dude"
0:50 and i have to pause just to breath my disgust away
Howard the Min Maxer
I am a Charisma builder. I play a Palabard in a Disney DND.
However I know she has a weakness. She’s a support gith as opposed to a tank, her spells have a lot of saving throws.
And I make subclasses based on a theme. I have a Wolf-themed subclass based on a team and defending it offensively. I have a Mad Scientist artificer with a wild magic table (Table of Unstable Elements). I fill it on theme and balance, not filling a niche other classes can do.
As someone who is constantly trying to avoid overstepping, it is baffling how far some people will just stroll past every line of even remotely acceptable behaviour without a second thought.
Survival situations like early in Story 4 can go in some different directions. Adventure involving struggling against obstacles that are very immediate but trickier than monsters because you can't just hack them to pieces?
Classic.
The slowly dawning realization that the only food source for at least the next month is what the party's Alchemy Jug can produce?
That's horror.
Heard paladin hexblade warlock and was like oh is this gonna be about me? I have also caused issues with such a character
I played one for a one shot and he was insanely more op than the other characters. I had to make sure I didn't steal anyone's thunder in combat due to this.
Bitter rejection 💀 Good stories today! The intro one made me physically recoil into my own face!
When you did the sketch about the insufferable monk, I literally looked up because I thought I was in a Discord call.
I'm Aro/Ace, I like to joke until proven otherwise because I still feel aesthetic attraction, and like the idea of romance, (maybe I'm demi) but if someone approaches me with the " I can change you attitude ". Instantly that person won't be 'attractive' to me, in any way.
It's insane people really think they can change a person's attraction.
Then you’re not aroace. There’s no attraction. Zilch. Nada. You just have friends and your mind should not wander beyond that.
Asexuality is where an individual does not experience Sexual attraction; theyabsolutely can experience aesthetic or platonic attraction and still be asexual. @untrustingstatue
Bruh, the difference between heavy armor and breast plate on 10 Dex is 2 for chainmail and 3 for splint. Grab a shield for the stealth mission and it's fine.
21:31 well if that’s true, I guess the OP won! It was like a game of chicken to see who would leave first, and the DM left before Op
i had never heard of the 5 geek fallacies and i feel so enlightened. Why was this all of my highschool experience.
I don't think we have had anything that unhinged up front before.
I'm pretty sure we have.
@@ArcCaravan I'm not remembering it then.
Which is probably a good thing.
@@marybdrake1472 Neither am I. Definitely fortunate.
@@ArcCaravan Until it pops back into mind, or we get one more unhinged than this.
The later won't surprise me.
Howard story hit very close to me - I had a similar player and all times he keptt making OP as hell charracters and demanded to keep ALL special weapons even when I gave him the condition to keep ONE.
He threw a fit at me and I finally told him off he either plays fair with others and grows with others or I remove him from my table. He chose removal from table by trying to turn people against me with fabricated messaged and fortunately I had full caps when I saw the sus stuff he was doing.
He still brags and shares about his characters today despite no one had accepted him to any table - because his characters simply do not fit and are too overpowered to be part of the team. No one wants an anime protag…
First story took 10 years off my life.
sometimes you gotta be a zeus and randomly strike people with lighting like it's just another tuesday
Rule #40: If it seems like someone’s out to get you, they are.
**hears Weeping Angels**
Me: ... **makes personal notes about potential Digimon-based game where Shakkomon could work as a Weeping Angel-like enemy**
NOW i remember why i quit roleplaying. Thanks!
The entirety of "Targeting the Ace?"
One..... yeah, definitely agree with the Writer of the post the Prick of a Dungeon Master was trying to get the writer to leave so he can instantly start hitting on the poor AROACE girl either after the game or through some creepy fourth wall breaking NPC
The amazing Hair bit..... also, hmm which was the person playing that character again ?
If the DM got what he wanted ugh...... an Incel DM
All I can say is”this video is Ace”
Aww... That intro from that guy brings me back to the old days of SorrowTV reading "r/NiceGuys" posts. I miss that dudes content.
jeez that discord voice call join in the second story made me jump lol
That just makes me want a Mario RPG campaign or ruleset.
In that recreation of the discord call, I went 'oh shit, am I in a call right now?' before I realised XD
11:44 Power Gamer Monk!? Rare 😂
Yeah.... Howard would have been booted from my game after the Google Doc. "You wanted your chara killed, he's dead! And you are cordially uninvited from my table! Ciao!"
0:56 Missed opportunity to say intenti-O's
the very first story is a good example as to why humanoid androids will take over our species.
second last DM was a chad. he was right to kill the campaign.
i wouldn't call inviting someone to do somethin harassment. If they said no and you continue sure but not the initial invitation.
2:03
God, I had a person like this in one of my roleplay servers...
They made the entire game a chore to play, and just made their character go off and break shit, ruining a puzzle for the rest of the participants...
I have played in a campaign once( we did a one night campaign at the dm's house but can't quite call it a campaign like we had the first time with hours and hours poured into it) and one of our friends,N,had a dragonborn paladin who was kind of many of our weaker players but played well enough to survive at least 3 session. On the third session we had a bit of a mishap wich resulted in N's death.
He made no real issue of it,had another dragonborn sheet because he liked the specie but that was when trouble began.
I was pretty embarrassed so I didn't roleplay a lot but with time I tried my hand at it to have more fun and bring a more of me into my character. So as I was a barbarian dwarf I was rough in my words and N didn't take it too well,had "spsyche damage" to bring himself back to normal after he made a few bad calls into a fight but we all agreed it was fine and moved on.
He didn't. Because the very next session we had a guest,a friend of the dm,even come to call to be the bad guy of the session and at some point we lost,but no one had died like last time,and N just exploded on us. Like the guy had a full on meltdown over little things because things didn't go his way,angry that his dice rolls were bad and such. I got mad,told him off and we were quite loud to each other. The dm calmed everyone down and since then nobody played dnd on this campaign.
I really love to bring myself into my character but when people brings their worst insecurities on theirs and then behave like this,it gets me on my nerve. He's my friend and I care about him but if he had issue he should have at least talked about it to us(we're all pretty open in our friendship's emotions group so there would be no reason why he wouldn't) and it just brings everyone down along with any sort of motivation and it sucks
I have no words and I must sigh.
Bitter rejection.
There was a time where I was a slight problem player in HS.
Basically, creepypasta fandom made me believe being a murder hobo was cool. It was not.
The bro code is real, problem being is the 1st guy has no bros nor bitches.
Most likely correct 😁
9:26 dropping Google doc titled "My Frustrations" and list all of your grievances, including the fact that he's not able to talk to you directly and will lie to your face while talking behind your back.
13:40 I don’t think Crispy realizes how funny this actually is-
One guy I played with used to do that to me on discord. New players just ignore him
I have actually didn’t hear about your surgery but I hope everything went well.
As someone who plays World of Warcraft.. they first bit was… something and i feel sorry for you having to read that out loud
Wow. I think most fourth graders are better at flirting then the discord guy in the first one...
25:30
TELL THEM
It will just get WORSE until the guy gets what He wants
As a person who grew up a male I know, there are a lot of guys who act JUST like that
I used to act like that at one point, but Luckily I grew out of that disgusting mindset and became a relatively better person ? I still have anger issues though, but I'm also now some who identifies as Non-binary or I should be more specific Genderless by my identity and I'm also Asexual
So, if a girl tried to hit on me and I tell them no. They keep doing it, I'll just say to the DM
"Ok, I can't deal with any longer. Either you get this person under control so we can play without this disgusting behavior. Or kick them out of the group. Or, I'll just let you take out my Character and I'm out of here FOR GOOD"
hearing abt weeping angels attack is 😭😭?? for context, weeping angels dont kill. they send humans back in time so that theyll eventually be alone on earth
A. The sleaze ball IS right. The dating game is all about the percentage game. B. The “ bro code” aka you don’t date your boys ex’s, more applies to friends. It’s more of a moral thing, but it dissipates over time. Like I’m married to an ex of a friend of mine from DECADES ago and things changed so much I didn’t even recognize her UNTILL after we started dating.
Oh god the wow-cringe... I played a female draenei tank paladin once, NEVER AGAIN with the creeps, what the fuck...
Story 2: Some things the DM said rubs me wrong way. You've never said he was the strongest yet you complain (Jokingly or not) about his build being powerful but also said other people also have powerful builds, I wonder if he complained about them?
I don't know if I would force a stealth mission where they have to strip away their armor so they can sneak into a place that can get them killed even when wearing the armor. Like if you're playing a medium to heavy armor build... Your dex is most likely your dump stat.
Everything else is pretty reasonable.
There are different kinds of stealth. There is stealth like thieves, who move through areas without people knowing they have.
And there is stealth like ORCS, who leave no one alive to tell others they were there.
But in all seriousness I think the DM didn't understand actual stealth missions. Knowing the layout of a place, the movement of patrols, the location of surveillance and what said surveillance can see; are more critical to success of such a mission than just being quiet. You can be absolutely silent, but if the guard in the watchtower sees you moving around, your done with the stealth mission. The disadvantage on stealth roles due to armor is just a mechanic to show it is more difficult being quiet in such armor, but it shouldn't be a catchall for all stealth operations.
@@davidtherwhanger6795Good observation and analysis. Gave stuff to think about regarding stealth gameplay.
I wonder if that was a case of "DM forced them to do this" or "Players came up with this idea as the only logical way to stealth, but Howard just kept refusing." There's a huge difference to be had, there. Or, for all we know, the DM originally planned the stealth mission to be a plot point, wherein the party removing their armor was accounted for in how it would play out, but Howard threw the proverbial armor-plated spanner into the works.
That the rest of the party seemed so on-board with taking off all heavy armor for this stealth mission suggests that it might have been that they came up with it when the DM proposed the stealth mission, and decided as a collective to run with it as their way to potentially enhance their stealth chances.
Edit: Okay, no. On a re-watch of that section...the party had a list of options to choose from regarding side quests. The list had blurbs describing them, including specifically noting that this was a stealth mission. They actively _chose_ to do this themselves. OP also makes note that the group was preparing stealth spells in addition to having decided to remove heavy armor, further suggesting that this was the group's idea as much as anything. They'd decided that the best way to go about this mission was to remove their heavy gear to facilitate better sneaking around, with nothing about the statement suggesting that they were told they would have to.
I find keeping track of spells tedious, but I want to roll up a druid someday. Any subclass of druid someone wants to suggest?
Really late but while moon druid are gonna be op and a default for most, I'd actually most recommend stars or wildfire. Both have great flavour and aesthetic builds, give unconventional use for your wild shapes and are also decently powerful. I have one star druid that's built around the concept of being a sailor, so all his spells tend to be either divination via navigating, light themed, or water themed.
Intro
This is why I barely do voice chats
"hey wanna peeve on our teammates?"
"No? The hell?"
"In game then?"
"No!? The fuck!?"
Wow! That first one!!!