I have a wife and step son who on my insistence saw specialist and were both diagnosed. I find that they can be extremely thoughtless, self centred, lacking insight and prone to verbal outbursts. I am the one who withdrew not to inflict harm on them but to save my sanity
Before marriage one should declare ADHD or any neuromotor conditions as it is a type of disability that will impact on the relationship and the partner should have a choice to continue or end the relationship.
More like, before marriage one should declare their ableism so their disabled boyfriend/girlfriend can see it as the red flag it is and dump your ableist ass.
My wife hid here ADHD from me for almost 2 years we got married and after our first child she finally told me but I had already noticed some of the signs and I was growing very concerned about her and she would have periods of hyper sexual behavior that was fun for me for a while until it led to an affair and well it wrecked our relationship she could not control all that sexual energy she was on hormone overload and things spun out of control for her now I have to watch her like a hawk and she knows it too monitoring someone like this is very tiring mentally and physically after what happened last time she is fully aware why I have to monitor her every moment and account for her whereabouts and she must answer her phone by the 3rd ring and where is my iPhone must always be on she knows why ☹️
I have inattentive ADHD and my ex actually was the one to withdraw and put communication on hold from getting emotionally overwhelmed, although he was bipolar. I usually wanted to keep talking.
I can relate to this issue SO much! My ex had this same issue, but for different reasons. Combining his issues with trauma with my inattentive ADHD just made the whole process of communication with each other feel like a lost cause at times. I know that hyper-fixation is an issue for me whenever I feel stressed or intensely emotional, and stepping out of that is something that doesn't always come naturally to me.... It's been a slow work in progress to say the least.
Personally I would say the biggest problem during my relationship with mine ADHD partner is it's kind of hard when your two introverts it is really hard to communicate because it's always awkward silence with us. But for the last two to three months ever since I've been dating her I've been constantly researching how does ADHD working with symptoms I should look out for I felt no resentment to her at first it was very frustrating it was so confusing especially because she had a tendency to lie a lot the not paying attention thing I kind of got over it it didn't really bother me as much as it does for other people.
me and my ADHD partner are on brick of breaking up rn. She tried to break up with me 3x already bec she lost the sparks and she can’t feel it anymore and it happened overnight. Does that mean she doesn’t have genuine feelings for me or is it just her ADHD? Or also because I dont give her the Dopamine hit anymore just like in the early stage of our relationship? Does the feelings come back? I love my girlfriend and I’m really patient and understanding so a little help would be much appropriated
@sicanism5454 keep your options open. Stay busy, less contact and let her come to you. There are a lot of women out here that will value you. Remember that.
My ex did exactly to me after several breaking up and rebounding I finally gave up I think I could not tolerate it And I dont want that behavior for my kids mum So better off even single
Shit’s deeper and still don’t flush with self certified shallowers.. Zero need when smelling like roses. Heed optional. Intake unlikely. But who gives a crap?
I have a wife and step son who on my insistence saw specialist and were both diagnosed. I find that they can be extremely thoughtless, self centred, lacking insight and prone to verbal outbursts. I am the one who withdrew not to inflict harm on them but to save my sanity
This was so useful. It's been so difficult navigating ADHD with other adults. Thank you for sharing, and thanks Melissa Orlov for all of these tips!!
This explains so much! Really appreciate all the insight you share on this channel 🙏🏼
Before marriage one should declare ADHD or any neuromotor conditions as it is a type of disability that will impact on the relationship and the partner should have a choice to continue or end the relationship.
More like, before marriage one should declare their ableism so their disabled boyfriend/girlfriend can see it as the red flag it is and dump your ableist ass.
wow this is so helpful. thank you for putting it together and sharing.
Awesome video! Thanks for sharing
My wife hid here ADHD from me for almost 2 years we got married and after our first child she finally told me but I had already noticed some of the signs and I was growing very concerned about her and she would have periods of hyper sexual behavior that was fun for me for a while until it led to an affair and well it wrecked our relationship she could not control all that sexual energy she was on hormone overload and things spun out of control for her now I have to watch her like a hawk and she knows it too monitoring someone like this is very tiring mentally and physically after what happened last time she is fully aware why I have to monitor her every moment and account for her whereabouts and she must answer her phone by the 3rd ring and where is my iPhone must always be on she knows why ☹️
My gf has the hold and cold approach to sex as well. What are your tips to handling this?
@@jamalcole1985 If counseling doesn’t help you will need to find a girlfriend outside the relationship that’s on her not you so don’t feel guilty
Awesome video ‼️😅
I have inattentive ADHD and my ex actually was the one to withdraw and put communication on hold from getting emotionally overwhelmed, although he was bipolar. I usually wanted to keep talking.
I can relate to this issue SO much! My ex had this same issue, but for different reasons. Combining his issues with trauma with my inattentive ADHD just made the whole process of communication with each other feel like a lost cause at times. I know that hyper-fixation is an issue for me whenever I feel stressed or intensely emotional, and stepping out of that is something that doesn't always come naturally to me.... It's been a slow work in progress to say the least.
underrated video
Now how do we fix it or control it.
Personally I would say the biggest problem during my relationship with mine ADHD partner is it's kind of hard when your two introverts it is really hard to communicate because it's always awkward silence with us. But for the last two to three months ever since I've been dating her I've been constantly researching how does ADHD working with symptoms I should look out for I felt no resentment to her at first it was very frustrating it was so confusing especially because she had a tendency to lie a lot the not paying attention thing I kind of got over it it didn't really bother me as much as it does for other people.
me and my ADHD partner are on brick of breaking up rn. She tried to break up with me 3x already bec she lost the sparks and she can’t feel it anymore and it happened overnight. Does that mean she doesn’t have genuine feelings for me or is it just her ADHD? Or also because I dont give her the Dopamine hit anymore just like in the early stage of our relationship? Does the feelings come back? I love my girlfriend and I’m really patient and understanding so a little help would be much appropriated
I’m very patient and understanding so a little tip would be much appropriated
@sicanism5454 keep your options open. Stay busy, less contact and let her come to you. There are a lot of women out here that will value you. Remember that.
My ex did exactly to me after several breaking up and rebounding
I finally gave up
I think I could not tolerate it
And I dont want that behavior for my kids mum
So better off even single
I’m shallow as shit and still don’t shower every day lmao executive function is the ultimate decider 😂
Shit’s deeper and still don’t flush with self certified shallowers.. Zero need when smelling like roses. Heed optional. Intake unlikely. But who gives a crap?
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