Its honestly awful to see the amount of hate Jaiden needs to put up with because of this video. I'm so glad she made this because it really helped so many people figure out their own identity or educated people on the aroace/asexual/aromantic spectrum
I don’t know if she will ever realize how much people she has helped out with this video, and the fact that she has received any hate at all for this video is a perfect example of what’s wrong with the world today. She should be thanked for this video and the fact that she was brave enough to make it is pretty inspirational
The problem people have is how activists are trying to change the culture of the world and in doing it they’ve hurt the people who actually need to benefit from knowing these thing’s However I mostly put the blame on corporations they are the reason thing’s have become the way they currently are it’s sad but a reality I’ve learned Give it time and thing’s will return to normal and people can better help people like Jaiden learn these thing’s but culture has to be fixed and the hate die down before that can happen
Not aroace (i myself am pansexual/questioning panromantic) but im really glad that the AroAce community is _finally_ getting some representation. i also love how freaking positive and lovely you are!
@@axl256gamesx7 I think it's like pansexual but instead of sexual attraction and romantic attraction it's just romantic attraction but I don't know, also why ask questions in a comment section when you could just look them up
As an aro/ace I can say that having friendships is basically no problem! Aromantic only applies to _romantic_ attraction. If anything, platonic relationships are often held at a higher respect than romantic relationships in the aro community
I am aromantic and personally I don't feel that emotional connection, but I feel good seeing other people feel it. Seeing others feel it makes me fulfilled.
Just a cute little fun fact, some aroace people (I'm only ace but I have several aroace friends), have called having a person you feel strong platonic love for and want to be in an aroace relationship with a squish, like a crush but without the romantic and sexual attraction, I just think it's really wholesome
17:17 Actually, that's other type of sexuality called polysexual and polyromantic, these people usually form a polyamorous relationship(polyamory) with other 2 or more people, and it's NOT the same as cheating since they all agree to it and have a set of rules to make it work. Look it up, it's pretty interesting and there are many variations to this kind of relationship. Btw, one example from the Dream SMP is Karl, Sapnap and Quackity's relationship, which is polyamorous.
The thing with c!Karl, c!Sapnap and c!Quackity is fictional. It's the characters they are playing and NOT the streamers themsevles. Just felt the need to clarify
yea, and being polyamorous doesn't nessesarily mean they need to be in a relationship with more than one person, but could just be open to the idea to it! polyamory also comes in different form, kinds like c!karlnapity, or like a family web of people, some you're intimate with, some just romantically, some just socially etc. some all live together, some might not, so there are a lot more poly people than you think :D
Also Polysexual and Polyromantic aren't linked directly to Polyamory Polysexual and Polyromantic is attraction to many genders but not all For example you could be attracted to Men and Non-binary but not women sexually or romantically Polyamory is what you described and can involve all types of sexuality Also Polyamory isn't a sexuality it's a type of relationship
You're probably going to get a lot of this but as an AroAce person I honestly can't express how amazing it is to have someone with such a large platform come out and shine a light on our community. I can't wait to see your reaction to this.
Aroace person here! It’s a crazy epiphany moment when you realize people aren’t exaggerating about romance and sex. 😂 I also had to teach this to myself. So I was SO happy when I saw Jaiden made this video. We need representation!!
Aaaand growing up in a very…puritan religious subculture when they go off in “nO SEX!!!” was a “what, like it’s hard?/elle woods” along with the “pffff. Nobody REALLY feels that they’re just obsessed!” (Spoiler, people really do feel that. Learned that in college when my roommates would gasp over fictional characters. OOPS.) …and also a lot of internalized fears and sometimes nightmares of “catfishing” someone up to being trapped and stuck with being maritally raped/forced to kiss…which is NOT FUN. Do not wish those fears onto ANYONE -save maybe the asshats that refuse to have an ounce of compassion about it-and just for the fears!! That’s it! And just so they’d understand and shaddup!- Buut…yeah. It’s also difficult to describe “no I don’t want to kiss. Ever. Or have sex. Yeah I’m ace but like that’s not ALL Aces. Yes technically I’m aro-it’s a spectrum, and we can still experience aesthetic attraction and-no it is NOT the same as sexual attrac-you know what? Forget it. I’d rather be single with cats and friends than put up with dating. Especially NOT YOU. BEGONE.”
LOL YES, that moment where you're like: "wait, people actually feel that-? Like, with emotions and feelings?" I will never forget that moment, honestly XDD
she got hella backlash for this video. she's actually being put on blast for this EVERYWHERE. i'm aromantic myself. as far as i know, her video gave visibility for aromantic people more than any other youtube video ever. when i first saw it, i was so happy. seeing the backlash a day later hurt so much. i believed i was a sociopath for the first 16 years of my life because i didn't know that aromantism is a thing. this also contributed to my depression. it's so fucking alienating. seeing the video made me so happy not only because i may not have to explain myself as much to everyone in the future, but also because i knew it would save so many people from what i went through. seeing the backlash, however, was the most frustrating thing i've gone through in a while. not only will the backlash cause so many people to have second guesses, self hatred and a feeling of "missing out" (very common in the community), but also further ignorance in everyone who we'll try and explain ourselves to. i'm so exhausted this is just plain stupidity
@Hot Sauce Beats probably part standard i don’t get it therefore its wrong people and part “people who simped for her despite knowing nothing about her and they’re mad they can’t date her... not that they would have to begin with”.
@@acreativename2781 yeppp, idiots talking about the gays ruining anything™️ and their children crying that now Jaiden won't date her. Though even more disappointingly people IN the LGBT community are being shitty too. The usual exclusionary discourse of 'if it's not related to sexuality we shouldn't let them IN the community' bs from TERF like groups,,, depressing
@@HotSauceBeats It’s terrible how many people are aphobic. Romance is so mainstream that people not desiring that, causes some people just… doubt our existence.
9:15 just romantic! we can feel love but just not romantically. also you can be romance favorable, repulsed or indifferent as an aromantic. i'm myself romance favorable, i love romantic affection and i'd give a kidney just to have a crush once but i just cannot feel it
Jaidens channel is honestly one of my absolute favorites. Most of her videos are super relatable, funny and engaging, and her personality is incredibly precious. As someone who is asexual, I'm really disappointed at how much hate she got for this video because I think it was super important and helped a lot of people understand certain things. If you want to check out more from Jaiden, some very popular picks would be her animated Nuzlockes. I think the only other video where she got this personal was her video about why she doesn't do a face reveal. It's pretty heavy, so while I would love for you to check it out, I do want to say that I still get emotional every time I see it. Love your reactions hsb!
@@HotSauceBeats I second @StrawberryFox 's suggestion to react to her Nuzlockes. Just make sure to react to Alpharad's Nuzlocke before you watch Jaiden's 2 player nuzlocke.
Man, you’re definitely my favorite reactor out there. You’re incredibly supportive and very open to learning new things and terms. Oddly enough I’m going through sexuality crisis 2.0. When I finally accepted that being queer is ok, I thought I was bi and then a lesbian. Then I realized I was non-binary, and slowly lesbian no longer felt right. So I stuck with queer. Then I realized I’m demi romantic and somewhere on the ace spectrum. I’m 25 and never been on an actual official date, and it’s only partially to do with outside circumstances. But I realized I don’t like the idea of being in a romantic relationship with someone (at least till I’ve known them for a while, then I definitely feel the romantic attraction); like, I used to use a queer tinder app to try to find friends and maybe a date. Looking back I never actually realized that the people I was talking with were actually like actively trying to date me. Anyway, having Jaiden be able to spread a better understanding of the aro-ace side of the spectrum was wonderful
17:07 I thought people were faking too. How do you feel anything for someone you don’t know? When I learned that they did actually feel attraction and they weren’t also making charts of pros and cons and then weighting the cons to avoid relationships…I started to think that maybe there was something wrong with me. Like I had a hormone imbalance or repressed trauma that I couldn’t remember. That only lasted a couple of years, though. Before I knew it was a real term and it accurately described me I told a guy at work that was trying to get me to admit to being a lesbian that I was actually asexual. Like a plant. After that point, I quit caring that I wasn’t being a human correctly. My child actually sent me Jaiden’s video. They looked at me seriously and were like “So what did you think? Hmm?” My little sweetheart is super perceptive. Funny story, my first “crush” was dictated to me by my mother. One of my friends was a cute kid and as soon as she saw him she thought she knew what I was thinking. Oh wait, now that I’m thinking about it, it’s not funny. I stopped being friends with him because I wasn’t sure how to act anymore when we were expected to do relationship instead of friendship. Oh, that’s a sad story now!
On the point of her video helping a lot of people: It did. I literally saw it. I knew i was aromantic already, but on the day Jaidens video dropped there were so damn many new people joining the aro discord server i was on. And they all said: Here because of Jaiden and started questioning. I spent literally 4 hours answering questions that day. Super happy it helped so many people realize who they were, and also happy to have been able to do my part in helping them.
This video was really wholesome, and relatable. I'm Asexual, and I personally don't see sex as a thing to keep a relationship happy and healthy. We have hugging, and kissing and hand holding for that. I'm not romantically attracted to people I meet, I'm more attracted to their personality. Because the way I see it, someone can be the most handsome man I've ever met, but if he has a bad personality, it's a no go for me. However, if a person is attractive and they have a great personality, then that's a an added bonus. I'm glad that Jadien went into detail about Ace and Aro, because most people tend to just look at them like we're not attracted to anyone at all, we can still be attracted to people, just sometimes not sexually, we can be attracted go their personality, their kindness, their morals, their honesty, and all of the good things about that person. It's like the old saying goes, it doesn't matter what's on the outside, it's what on the inside that counts. Outer beauty is great and all, but inner beauty is what really draws me in. I love Jaiden's approach on these topics. Great reaction, and great take on the topic!
I feel the exact same way. It takes me a while to develop a crush because I need to know the other person and what they're about. The slow burn is amazing in my opinion.
When you said that you need to worry about the people who like multiple people, I disagree. Polyamorous relationships can be very healthy and I used to be in one. It was a very fun relationship and I enjoyed it.
Yeah I was definitely just making a joke with me being cheated on by someone who liked more than one person, definitely wasn’t anything bad meant by it. Except towards the person who cheated on me Lol
I had quite a ride to figuring out who i am and what im into but i made it and i feel happy about myself. For context: Im Bisexual but before that i thought i was straight then i thought i was gay since even as a Bisexual person i am more into men, there are times where im into women which is when i realised i loved both genders i just had a preferance for men.
Glad you found out who you are what you like! I think it is such an important part in life to realize what we truly like. Also appreciate you sharing this and watching fam! Much love!
Jaiden sharing her experience and how she felt growing up helped me to realize that I was also Aro Ace, which is something I've been questioning for about half a year now! I haven't felt more sure of myself than I do now and it's thanks to Jaiden :)
I am AroAce and what I HATE is when some of my relatives are like “oh you haven’t found the right person yet!” Or “oh you’ll grow out of it!!”. It’s like love was programmed into our brains. I never really had crushes in school, I basically had the same experience as Jaiden
There is one that makes it difficult to have friendships, that’s called aplatonic. So that bromances, having an overwhelming desire to be their best friend, etc. doesn’t really happen for them. Everyone is meh acquaintance status. I love your empathy man. You’re really the most empathetic person I’ve seen react to this. Aromantic and asexual people often get labeled as immature or childish or just plain weird. It would be nice if people realized that these people ARE fully mature regardless that they don’t experience these things
just finished watching the premiere! great video! im glad that you got to learn more about aromanticism and asexuality! i am a pansexual aromantic so i appreciate people who aren't in the community educating themselves and learning more about it!
Thank you HSB for being open minded its reassuring to see parents like you able to take in the informations ask genuine question and be interested in the topic even if you can't fully comprehend it :) As an ace person I really appreciate this video for the same reason Jaiden made it, we lack representation a lot since even amongst the LGBT despite having our letter in the acronym (the A of LGBTQAI+ stands for Asexuality, Aromantism and Agender) a lot of people "debate" our existence and worth which is truly saddening. I've known about being Asexual/Biromantic for 7 or so years now when I was still in highschool because I found an internet article about it and realised wait that's what *I* experience I didnt even know this was a thing I thought some thing was wrong was wrong with me and would try to get crushes and understand the appeal of being in intimate relationships everyone around me was apparently so desperate to have lol I think this video is really important since it could help more people figure out like me that no nothing is wrong with you, you just have a different sexuality than the ones more spoken off and that's fine don't force yourself to be someone that you're not. I do hope that halo people (halo people are the ones who experience sexual attraction, so it means LGBT and straights alike) would stop trying to invalidate us because they can't understand us, I don't understand any of you for wanting to sleep with someone that does not mean I doubt your authenticity or say your sexuality is made up so the least you could do is let us live peacefully we hurt no one by existing.
My very first crush, and my only crush, was way back when I was a young elementary school student. Looking back now, I'm not even sure if I had a legitimate crush on the guy; maybe I was just desperate to be good friends with one of the few kids in my class that was actually nice to me. I really don't want to talk about it, but TL;DR, I've never had another crush on anyone since. When I watched Jaiden's video, it made me wonder if I am Aroace, or at least fall under a similar category. I'm still not sure what I am, and I'm not really sure if I care to know. At least not right now. I just want to live and be happy and I wish the same for everyone else.
Jaiden's video has been such an amazing thing to happen. I'm glad it helped so many people understand how others' view in life works, some even realizing that's what they identify as. She's sparing a lot of aro/ace/aroace people a lit of time and negative emotions and I'm so damn glad for that! Also 9:04 Aromanticism doesn't imply anything about platonic feelings, it's just about the romantic love part of life, like she explained. There are many types of attraction and people can feel differently when it comes to each of those types, let that mean they have feelings towards certain groups of genders, or at different intensities and so on so forth.
9:14 it is a little hard and confusing before someone figures out they're ace. Jaiden mentions later in the video how there's this societal expectation for us to have romantic feelings and be in relationships. But when we don't experience that emotion, we might turn to the next strongest one: close friendship. For example, I've had several friends I thought I had crushes on but later realized it wasn't romantic attraction I was feeling. I've never really experienced sexual attraction but one part of her video I heavily related to is when she said, "if they wanted to, I could go along with it," cause that's exactly how I felt about intimate stuff with my only genuine crush
9:20 it's not platonic attraction, but romantic. So romantic would be a girlfriend, boyfriend, romantic partner etc... But platonic is like family and friends. So i think Jaiden's problem was just wanting to invest in a deeply personal *friendship* but that comes across to others as romantic attraction
Maybe this can help you understand even more, there are many types of attraction, love, and relationships: - Sexual: you want to have sex with them, think they are sexy in that way - Romantic: you want to be in a romantic relationship with them, hold hands, kiss, be cute together - Platonic: you want to be good friends with them, do everything besties do together - Aesthetic: you think they are gorgeous, you like how they look, sometimes you can even think about how you wish to be like that physically So there are many possibilities and a whole spectrum of sexuality and identities inside every type. Aro and Ace are both spectrums, two persons inside the same spectrum can have different levels of attraction or the lack of it. Also, there are other types of relationships that aren't monogamous, others comments here talked about it already :) there is no problem if the person is open about having feelings and attraction to more than one person and everyone involved is fine with it, the trouble makers are those who don't be honest about who they are in any kind of deeper relationship. I'm a pansexual demigirl (the last is another long story to explain lol maybe another time because I know that is already a lot new to learn and understand) and I have sexual and romantic attraction to all genders, and also I can feel it to multiple persons at the same time. I've been into monogamy relationships before (very long ones too), but I also had relationships with two persons at the same time (a great example to understand the gist of it is to remember the relationship between the characters of Karl, Quackity and Sapnap on the DSMP lore).
* evil giggles * * maniacal laughter * YOU FORGOT ABOUT THE MOST CONFUSING ATTRACTION OF ALL! ALTEROUS! ITS NOT ROMANTIC OR PLATONIC, BUT SOMETHING IN BETWEEN! ITS SO GODDAM CONFUSING THAT IT TOOK ME ALMOST A WHOLE YEAR TO FIGURE OUT I WAS ARO AFTER ALREADY KNOWING I WAS ACE! AND IM GEN Z, IMAGINE THE CONFUSION FOR PEOPLE WITH LESS RESOURCES! ok evil monologue over. anyway, you also forgot about sensual attraction (i hate that name bc the word sensual is associated with sex, but that’s not actually what the word means, though it can be related to sex in some cases and AAAAAAAAAAAA), which is basically wanting to physically touch someone and be close to them. platonic versions of this are like hugging, ruffling hair, leaning/laying on someone while sitting, putting an arm over someone’s shoulders, etc. etc.
@@popplejam2128 oooh thanks for the input! I get how it can be confusing with romantic attraction since as a couple you want to touch the other person too. I bet it can be even more confusing if you are like me, my main love language is physical touch, I always like to touch, hug and all with my friends and partners.
I’ve been a fan of Jaiden for years and a few weeks before this video came out I discovered I was aroace. Unfortunately it didn’t come as a relieving discovery. It was one of the most stressful and confusing times of my life. When I was in a bit of a depressing rut, she released this video. I went into it thinking maybe she was gay or bi or pan. When she, someone who I really looked up to, said she too was also aroace it really pulled me out of that depression and made me proud to be aroace. I’m glad she made this video for everyone :)
I already knew you'd be a loving an accepting person from how you react to other videos. The way you went about reacting to this particular video of Jaiden's was wonderful. I identify both as panromantic asexual as well as demigirl. I'm romantically attracted to others regardless of their own gender identity though I experience little to no intimate attraction. My gender is best described, at least to me, as being a mix of female and nonbinary. With how informative and relatable Jaiden's video was, I felt seen. It was and still is a journey to get to where I am. It's such a shame seeing how rampant the acephobia is in what is meant to be a welcoming community of all identities. Thank you for even showing some light to our beautiful corner of the community and being accepting. We all are human beings at the end of the day and living life. Some of us just experience it differently.
im so thankful to jaiden for making this video, i remember feeling so weird for not wanting to be in a relationship and when i talked to my therapist about it they could not fathom someone not having romantic attraction and making me feel like something is wrong with me. The video helped me learn about aromanticism and that i needed a better therapist
Funny story I was having "crushes" throughtout my life... i actually chose the girls that would be my "crushes" and never did anything to get in a relationship with them because i was actually not interested at all (im 17 right now, still no crush XD) so yeah... pretty sure im aromantic I did develop platonic love for some of those girls and have them in a very good friendship tho, and im completely satisfied with that with no need to go further
I'm demisexual but until I was 18, i thought everyone else also didn't feel sexual attraction until a strong emotional one was established. I also didn't have a crush until 4th grede but i remember girls in 3rd grade asking who my crush was. They said there was no way i didn't have one as if every girl has a crush so I pointed to a random guy lmao
Huh I thought this would be a bit of a weird video for you to react to first since I'm kinda used to people being weird about this, but you proved me wrong by being wholesome and great throughout so uh yea, thanks, have a great day!
I've come to the conclusion that I'm demiromantic (there's only a chance of me being romantically attracted to someone if I've gotten to know them over an extended period of time), and my gosh was Jaiden's video relatable, particularly the part where she was talking about being aromatic, because with my social anxiety, I never got to know anyone, ergo never ended up attracted to anyone. I would always get really confused by people talking about "the friend zone" like it was a bad thing. Like, going through school I always thought "why do people think it's weird to want to get to know a person and determine if they're compatible, or even just not a jerk, BEFORE you go all bleeding heart mode over them? How the heck can you feel even the slightest bit comfortable saying you love someone you've barely met? How is the friend zone not a mandatory starting zone? I don't understand!". And on the rare occasion I'd mention something like this, I'd get responses like "You really expect someone to just wait around for you for a year or something? That's a long time to expect someone to have feelings for you without reciprocation", and I never knew how to explain back "I'm actually kinda hoping they're NOT attracted to me, at least not to start, cause that would be kinda weird, and bordering on creepy in my opinion. I just wanna see if we can even work as friends before dare-deviling something even MORE emotionally risky." I can even relate to the bit about viewing it almost mathematically, like, the way I saw it, "if a relationship is healthy, then your attachment to that person, be they a friend or family member or whatever, is suppose to increase over time (sunk cost fallacy and all that), and friendly attachment < romantic attachment, so how and why are so many people trying to jump past that level of attachment entirely"?!? I was so happy when I found the term demiromantic, because suddenly, SO MUCH about my life experiences, especial from high school, suddenly made a ton of sense. My only gripe was that I wish I had found the term sooner. Would have made so many situations so much easier. And to a lesser extent I can relate to the asexual part of the video, because while I'm not asexual (demisexual, basically the intimate equivalent to demiromantic), I am a practitioner of chastity (I'm not entirely sure that's the right way to phrase that). Basically, I can experience intimate attraction, but I don't ever wanna participate in anything intimate (I've already mentioned my social anxiety, so you can probably guess why, and similar to Jaiden, I am dodging specific vocabulary hear, because even using the vocabulary makes me uncomfortable). Okay, personal speech related to the video topic done, now to clarify some things in the video. That was Raichu, not Flareon. Also, to answer your question, Jaiden has a pet bird named Ari.
A little linguist lesson, Ae is a prefix generally associated with "lacking" or "deprived/deprecated of" so when you read aeromantic, it means lacking romantic (attraction). You could also use it to describe scenarios.
Your shpeil about wanting your girlfriend to also be your best friend reminds me of my parents lol - when my mom was talking to me about realtionships she literally said "Even if we stopped sleeping with eachother or going on dates, I'd be fine with it because he is my best friend"
I really enjoyed this video, it was so nice to see someone I look up to share the same preferences as me, the AroAce community as far as I've saw is pretty sparce.
i love Jaiden's videos and never knew about this one. i just found out i'm also Aromantic after years of telling my partners 'i just can't feel love.' so finding out that 'tunnel' vision is a thing i went and texted my old middle school friend to explain that my "love" [which was platonic] was just me hyper focus on her as she was my first friend and it was just excitement. i apologized if i had ever made her uncomfortable with the whole "i love you." stuff.
I tried to find out why I don't feel a lot of intimate attraction to many other people for a long time, because I have an attraction to both genders, just not sensual. I then found out I am Biromantic, then I also found out about demisexual. It pretty much fit me to a T. So now I know, I'm Biromantic/Demisexual.
Two things: As a lesbian, I find this video very inspiring and it challenges the whole stigma of constant love we surround ourselves with on a daily basis. No one should feel pressured into love. It should be natural, no matter what your sexual or romantic orientation. and second, PLEASE REACT TO THE MCC ICEBERG BY MCC HIGHLIGHTS! I know its long, but its fun, I promise
As someone who grew up thinking I was just a straight female, because I had crushes on boys. I also felt like most were just thinking someone was pretty funny and wanted to hang out with them so I ended up as their friend which I was cool with and people would label them crushes, turns out I felt the same was with ladies too it was just more socially acceptable for them to just be friends. I feel romantic attraction to both males and females and discovered into my adulthood that I feel very little intimate attraction in general. I feel closest to someone when I'm cuddled in watching a movie than being physical. It honestly took until last yeah for me to put a finger on what was going on.
When Jaiden mentioned people who like multiple people, both romantically and intimately, I believe she was referring to polyamory and not cheaters. They are not mutually exclusive but they are not always the same group either.
9:08 There is actually a different term called aplatonic, that describes this. This meeting of someone and instant tunnelvision on them is platonic attraction, which you can also potentially not have. Now while i am aromantic and asexual (demisexual technically, but that's irrellevant here), i am not aplatonic. One of my two best friends however, is. Needless to say that i was the one who initiated our friendship. And fun fact, the target of a platonic attraction is called a squish, like crush is for romantic attraction.
jaiden’s vid helped me understand what was going through my head when I was trying to figure out my sexuality as someone who doesn’t like men, because I would also just choose male crushes based by who I wanted to be best friends with and who was conventionally attractive. when I realised one liked me back I felt no excitement and was just uncomfortable, and never wanted to talk about him or to him anymore. he would hold my hand and put his head on my shoulder and I would not even acknowledge him or feel anything. so this explains how it feels to not be attracted to a gender as well.
I'm personally aromantic. Definitely not asexual. I'll share a bit of how my brain works. I can be in a long term relationship and I will be faithful. I can do romantic things but I don't get the same feeling out of it. I can cuddle if my partner wants to. I just feel the save way as if I help a stranger on the street. It feels good to make someone else feel better. I just need to kinda study what makes my partner feel good instead of doing something I would personally think was nice. What flowers they like, the cuddling thing, do they like romantic dinners and so on TLDR I don't get that romantic feeling high, but I like to make my partner feel that and get a basic "I made their day better" feeling you get from helping someone
I think the book about love languages suits any kind of relationship! I'm also aroace, but it helped me express my (platonic) love for my parents in a better way and vice versa.
I'm a A-sexual myself, (pan romantic) I also have a discord dad (friend-dad) who's Aro Ace I understand how it is. Growing up i just didn't understand how it worked. Not that my household was against it. I just didn't have the community that taught me about it. Then I was told A-sexual/Aro were different. I just didn't know a whole lot about it. Though I'm definently sure I'm asexual now. Thankfully I grew up with people are very accepting.
To answer your question, Aromantic people (some anyway) struggle with friendships because they just want to be really good friends with someone, they want something else, and a lot of people go along with it because they want their friend to be happy.
Im 26 now and I figured out im maybe aromantic and asexual when i was around 19-20 since the desire of wanting to be in a relashionship was nonexistent. I would aviod small chats about relationships with friends because i cannot relate. I remember one time we were talking about what type of guys we prefer, when everyone was giggling and saying stuff like "oh i want my futre boyfriend to be nice, handsome, really cares for me etc." I just sat there feeling really awkward. One friend even chanllenged me saying "since we are both single lets see who will get a boyfrined first" and I was like haha you will definitely be first...cuz I am not looking for one!!!! people assumed and callled me uptight and have high standards seeing me not in any relationships, which is not true becuase HOW CAN I HAVE ANY STANDARDS WHEN IM NOT EVEN LOOKING FOR ANYONE?!! i gave up in the end cuz no matter how many times i exlpained to them they either say oh you will understand it once you got someone you really love, or you should grab someone quick cuz you are not getting younger...as if people are like groceries.
Im so happy Jaiden posted this a few days after I figured out I was AroAce. As an AroAce, I had the same story about making a crush up, even so, I’m also cupioromantic, so I desire a romantic relationship but can’t have one due to being Aromantic.
I'm a straight trans man but it still baffles me that there is ZERO education in my school about any kind of LGBTQ plus kinda stuff. Like, sex ed didn't even mention gay people. It's ridiculous
Love to see how positive you are, mate. I remember seeing this for the first time and being excited to see someone talking about aroace because that's what I was too. I could not understand the hate she got cus literally... why? She just said she was not interested in romance. I'm glad to see you talk so positively about it and be so willing to learn too. I know from my own experience that the talk of romance is everywhere, I've been on nights out where the people I'm out with will talk about their boyfriends and girlfriends and I'll just be sat twiddling my thumbs
As a person that is questioning his own orientation (i still don’t know if im bi still) i believe that the homies that are gay or ace or anything else are really cool and if you are hateful of a random guy thats into M E N thats just not cool (common sense basically)
Aww, I thought I'd be here while it was premiering :( Also, Unfortunately people were being jerks about this video. They were saying Jaiden was being rude or something because she "doesn't feel love towards people or something" And tbh, it doesn't make sense, Why are they being rude to her for *no* reason. I'm honestly surprised why they did that. Anyway, Love the video.
@@HotSauceBeats Agreed! I love Jayden's videos, and since I'm bad at drawing *and* animating stuff, I can tell it would've token *taken (I don't know why it auto corrected it 😅) her a while, plus she needed to have the courage to post it.
I'm not done with the video yet but I feel like a nice thing to add is that aromantic and other -romantic labels are actually part of the split-attraction model of orientation. Basically it treats romantic and sexual attraction as two different things, and uses different labels to discuss it (for example homosexual refers to someone who is only able to experience sexual attraction to the same gender, while homoromantic refers to someone to is only able to experience romantic attraction to the same gender). It's not SUPER common outside the ace and bi communities because for the most part those two types of attraction are usually assumed to be directed toward the same gender(s) (even though that is not always the case).
I'm also aroace (specifically demi) and Jaiden's video hits so hard. Before I knew I was aromantic I would just kind of "choose" someone to have a "crush" on, and that actually led me to getting a boyfriend in high school who was Incredibly toxic and left me with massive trauma. And then when I was 19 and ACTUALLY felt romantic attraction for the first time, I was so scared of ending up in another relationship like my last one that I didn't say anything to the person I liked for a long time. We had been friends for a few years so I was pretty sure they weren't Like That but I was scared. But now we've been dating for over a year and I can't imagine life without them at all.
I know this video is older but I wanted to say this as it really helped me. that being jaidens original video. that growing up i found it strange when I would watch movies and when a character fell in love there was that cheesy slow motion thing. and never truly experienced it myself because of it I went into a lot of places in my life where I would think I was bi i thought i was so many things including broken. but then i watched jaidens video it did help me relise where my head was at. namly that i relised no I just wasnt romantically intrested in people at all there was geuinly nothing there. its still so confusing but the irony is dispite my instinct that I wouldnt enjoy the video it did something amazing for me. (still working it all out but feels nice knowing that not having those feelins wasnt such a strange thing.)
man you seem like such a genuinely nice person! you made me smile a lot and as someone in those community it's nice to see someone that is accepting of us ^-^
There is also something that you might not know of called Poly/Polyamorous, When someone is a relationship with 3 or more individuals where each member has an understanding of their group. Which can be a casual relationship or a committed relationship between 3 or more people. So being attracted to more than one person could end up in a Poly relationship. For example if anyone has seen Shameless Kev, V, and Svetlana have a Poly relationship. It happens a lot with Married couples adding another person to spice things up and end up falling in love with them and then all 3 stay in a relationship together. I myself am a big fan of it as I am in a Poly relationship, and I like it a lot when it is represented in movies and tv shows. That's also why I like when Jaiden says, "I think there are many types of people in relationships that push the boundaries of what a conventional relationship looks like."
I’m asexual and when her video came out I was SO HAPPY! Best Monday ever! And the hate? I’ve gotta thank them for helping her message spread more to help others! Ahahaha! 😈
Her video made me realize why I wasn't having a crush on anyone! Thank you, Jaiden! Thank you for being a guiding light in one of my darkest hours! Thank you for making me realize that it's okay to not have romantic and/or intimate feelings towards others!
17:14 I was a little confused about this at first, but I think she's referring to polyamory. If youre in a poly relationship, you are in a relationship with multiple people (with consent) and sometimes there are like 3 or 4 people who all like each other and get into a relationship eith each other
Loved jaiden so much for sharing aroace rep as someone on the ace spectrum. The video helped made me feel more comfortable with my own identity. She’s so cool ❤
17:22 as someone that is polyamorous, I’m here to say that not all polyamory is happening maliciously. Yes some people will start cheating and call it polyamorous, to get out of trouble, but true polyamorous relationships are when all parties are consented to it. There are multiple different kinds of polyamorous relationships as well. A ‘Pivot’ is when one person is dating two people, but those two people aren’t with each other romantically. I personally call this a “Triangle” relationship, but it’s where three people are each dating each other. I have 3 amazing partners, and all of them are such sweet and amazing people. I don’t like it when polyamory is immediately assumed to be cheating, when both are different.
finally got around to watching you react to this, I haven't actually seen the original video myself- woah, it's so cool to see aroace rep/being talked about with the correct definitions!! asexual isn't the most widely known identity, but aromantic is really, so much lesser known. it's cool to see people learn about it, too, since i am aroace myself!! :D 9:20 aromantic is just for/only directly affects romantic attraction (not being able to experience it)!! she's talking about confusing friendship/admiration for romantic attraction, especially when you're trying to convince yourself you're alloromantic (someone who can experience romantic attraction- most people are alloromantic)
AroAce here! Allow me to gush and overshare about my experience, because Jaiden's video did so so much to help me: (also, I love how open you are to learning this stuff) To answer your question about friendship, I'm autistic, so friendships have always been difficult for me to form, and I imagine that is why. But having friends, and having very close friends, has never been an issue for me. It may seem like a relationship between an ace person and a non ace person wouldn't work, but I have actually been with my husband for almost 9 years now. There are certainly challenges, but when you get to know someone deeply, and understand them, and love them (in whatever fashion) the romance aspect can not necessarily be needed. When someone demonstrates that they understand you, even if they don't understand why you don't feel that romance, that is sometimes all you need. A great example of this is something that my husband did for me very early on, and I will treasure this for the rest of my life. XD I love jigsaw puzzles, and I always have. My husband wanted to give me flowers, but I have never liked getting them. Instead, he bought a plastic 3D jigsaw puzzle in the shape of a rose, put it together and gave it to me. It was a romantic gesture from him that I could appreciate without needing to feel the romance, and it showed truly how much he understood me. I think my experience with being ace has been fairly smooth in comparison to a lot of people. Again, I am autistic, and so I never really registered the pressure to be interested in people the way Jaiden describes, and that I have heard other aces talk about. I know a lot of asexual and aromantic people can feel broken, or like something is wrong with them, but I viewed romance more the same way that I view sports. I don't have any interest in it, and because it isn't a large part of my life, I never really thought about it. Also, I had a friend that did the best and most concise job of explaining the basis of aromanticism I have heard, and this was before either of us had ever heard that term. I was dating a friend of theirs, and at one point they told me, "[your boyfriend] is the kind of guy to spend all day setting up a candle- lit dinner, and you are the person who walks into the room, sees the table, and asks why the lights are off."
Just gotta say I love this video, you seem like such a great person and it’s so wonderful to see your reactions to us aro and/or ace people being entirely positive. Thanks for that!
I'm 28 and currently researching aromanticism. I was aware I never fell in love or had a crush ever in my entire life and I had peace with that. I never needed it to be happy. I just didn't know there was a name for it, and that I was not the only one. It's a nice discovery, and I'm grateful for Jaidens video on the topic.
Its honestly awful to see the amount of hate Jaiden needs to put up with because of this video. I'm so glad she made this because it really helped so many people figure out their own identity or educated people on the aroace/asexual/aromantic spectrum
I don’t know if she will ever realize how much people she has helped out with this video, and the fact that she has received any hate at all for this video is a perfect example of what’s wrong with the world today. She should be thanked for this video and the fact that she was brave enough to make it is pretty inspirational
@@HotSauceBeats agreed
@@HotSauceBeats exactly! as a demi person, it really helped me out to see someone in _kind of_ a similar situation as i was
The problem people have is how activists are trying to change the culture of the world and in doing it they’ve hurt the people who actually need to benefit from knowing these thing’s
However I mostly put the blame on corporations they are the reason thing’s have become the way they currently are it’s sad but a reality I’ve learned
Give it time and thing’s will return to normal and people can better help people like Jaiden learn these thing’s but culture has to be fixed and the hate die down before that can happen
F***ing right wingers :)
Not aroace (i myself am pansexual/questioning panromantic) but im really glad that the AroAce community is _finally_ getting some representation. i also love how freaking positive and lovely you are!
I’m so happy she made this video and glad you enjoyed the reaction fam!
Is panromantic the opposite of aromantic?
Do you fall in love with everything?
Bc that sounds kinda cool
@@axl256gamesx7 I think it's like pansexual but instead of sexual attraction and romantic attraction it's just romantic attraction but I don't know, also why ask questions in a comment section when you could just look them up
@@HotSauceBeats actually came to terms with my aromanisim BECAUSE of that video
As an aro/ace I can say that having friendships is basically no problem! Aromantic only applies to _romantic_ attraction. If anything, platonic relationships are often held at a higher respect than romantic relationships in the aro community
As an aromatic asexual person myself, I really appreciate Jaidens video, and how it can help others figure themselves out.
Omg yes!!!! I don’t think Jaiden will ever know how many people this truly helps out!
I am aromantic and personally I don't feel that emotional connection, but I feel good seeing other people feel it. Seeing others feel it makes me fulfilled.
@@AskAshe same tbh
@@AskAshesame
Just a cute little fun fact, some aroace people (I'm only ace but I have several aroace friends), have called having a person you feel strong platonic love for and want to be in an aroace relationship with a squish, like a crush but without the romantic and sexual attraction, I just think it's really wholesome
Oh wow! That’s awesome and thanks for telling me that
I have mixed up of of those for a crush before, not fun
17:17 Actually, that's other type of sexuality called polysexual and polyromantic, these people usually form a polyamorous relationship(polyamory) with other 2 or more people, and it's NOT the same as cheating since they all agree to it and have a set of rules to make it work. Look it up, it's pretty interesting and there are many variations to this kind of relationship. Btw, one example from the Dream SMP is Karl, Sapnap and Quackity's relationship, which is polyamorous.
Appreciate the feedback fam!
The thing with c!Karl, c!Sapnap and c!Quackity is fictional. It's the characters they are playing and NOT the streamers themsevles. Just felt the need to clarify
yea, and being polyamorous doesn't nessesarily mean they need to be in a relationship with more than one person, but could just be open to the idea to it!
polyamory also comes in different form, kinds like c!karlnapity, or like a family web of people, some you're intimate with, some just romantically, some just socially etc.
some all live together, some might not, so there are a lot more poly people than you think :D
Also Polysexual and Polyromantic aren't linked directly to Polyamory
Polysexual and Polyromantic is attraction to many genders but not all
For example you could be attracted to Men and Non-binary but not women sexually or romantically
Polyamory is what you described and can involve all types of sexuality
Also Polyamory isn't a sexuality it's a type of relationship
@@AzoSBear
You’re describing Pansexual/Panromantic and Omnisexual/Omniromantic.
Poly is pretty exclusive to polyamory/being interested in polyamory.
You're probably going to get a lot of this but as an AroAce person I honestly can't express how amazing it is to have someone with such a large platform come out and shine a light on our community. I can't wait to see your reaction to this.
Same
I appreciate you fam! Much love!
As a fellow AroAce, I agree.
As a fellow aroace same
As a fellow ace, probably aro too, person I agree
So glad she felt comfortable coming out and shedding more light on the community! Also glad you liked learning more about it!
Right!!!
Aroace person here! It’s a crazy epiphany moment when you realize people aren’t exaggerating about romance and sex. 😂 I also had to teach this to myself. So I was SO happy when I saw Jaiden made this video. We need representation!!
I am really happy she made this video and wish more people saw it
yeah the: "They're not joking?!" line is 100% accurate like oh my god
@@joda7697 seriously!
Aaaand growing up in a very…puritan religious subculture when they go off in “nO SEX!!!” was a “what, like it’s hard?/elle woods” along with the “pffff. Nobody REALLY feels that they’re just obsessed!” (Spoiler, people really do feel that. Learned that in college when my roommates would gasp over fictional characters. OOPS.)
…and also a lot of internalized fears and sometimes nightmares of “catfishing” someone up to being trapped and stuck with being maritally raped/forced to kiss…which is NOT FUN. Do not wish those fears onto ANYONE -save maybe the asshats that refuse to have an ounce of compassion about it-and just for the fears!! That’s it! And just so they’d understand and shaddup!-
Buut…yeah. It’s also difficult to describe “no I don’t want to kiss. Ever. Or have sex. Yeah I’m ace but like that’s not ALL Aces. Yes technically I’m aro-it’s a spectrum, and we can still experience aesthetic attraction and-no it is NOT the same as sexual attrac-you know what? Forget it. I’d rather be single with cats and friends than put up with dating. Especially NOT YOU. BEGONE.”
LOL YES, that moment where you're like: "wait, people actually feel that-? Like, with emotions and feelings?" I will never forget that moment, honestly XDD
she got hella backlash for this video. she's actually being put on blast for this EVERYWHERE. i'm aromantic myself. as far as i know, her video gave visibility for aromantic people more than any other youtube video ever. when i first saw it, i was so happy. seeing the backlash a day later hurt so much. i believed i was a sociopath for the first 16 years of my life because i didn't know that aromantism is a thing. this also contributed to my depression. it's so fucking alienating. seeing the video made me so happy not only because i may not have to explain myself as much to everyone in the future, but also because i knew it would save so many people from what i went through. seeing the backlash, however, was the most frustrating thing i've gone through in a while. not only will the backlash cause so many people to have second guesses, self hatred and a feeling of "missing out" (very common in the community), but also further ignorance in everyone who we'll try and explain ourselves to. i'm so exhausted this is just plain stupidity
I don’t understand at all the backlash she got
@Hot Sauce Beats probably part standard i don’t get it therefore its wrong people and part “people who simped for her despite knowing nothing about her and they’re mad they can’t date her... not that they would have to begin with”.
It's just right wingers being the usual right wingers again.
@@acreativename2781 yeppp, idiots talking about the gays ruining anything™️ and their children crying that now Jaiden won't date her.
Though even more disappointingly people IN the LGBT community are being shitty too. The usual exclusionary discourse of 'if it's not related to sexuality we shouldn't let them IN the community' bs from TERF like groups,,, depressing
@@HotSauceBeats It’s terrible how many people are aphobic. Romance is so mainstream that people not desiring that, causes some people just… doubt our existence.
9:15 just romantic! we can feel love but just not romantically. also you can be romance favorable, repulsed or indifferent as an aromantic. i'm myself romance favorable, i love romantic affection and i'd give a kidney just to have a crush once but i just cannot feel it
Thank you for the feedback fam! Much love!
Jaidens channel is honestly one of my absolute favorites. Most of her videos are super relatable, funny and engaging, and her personality is incredibly precious. As someone who is asexual, I'm really disappointed at how much hate she got for this video because I think it was super important and helped a lot of people understand certain things.
If you want to check out more from Jaiden, some very popular picks would be her animated Nuzlockes.
I think the only other video where she got this personal was her video about why she doesn't do a face reveal. It's pretty heavy, so while I would love for you to check it out, I do want to say that I still get emotional every time I see it.
Love your reactions hsb!
Glad you enjoyed it! So glad I did this one first!
@@HotSauceBeats I second @StrawberryFox 's suggestion to react to her Nuzlockes. Just make sure to react to Alpharad's Nuzlocke before you watch Jaiden's 2 player nuzlocke.
Man, you’re definitely my favorite reactor out there. You’re incredibly supportive and very open to learning new things and terms. Oddly enough I’m going through sexuality crisis 2.0. When I finally accepted that being queer is ok, I thought I was bi and then a lesbian. Then I realized I was non-binary, and slowly lesbian no longer felt right. So I stuck with queer. Then I realized I’m demi romantic and somewhere on the ace spectrum. I’m 25 and never been on an actual official date, and it’s only partially to do with outside circumstances. But I realized I don’t like the idea of being in a romantic relationship with someone (at least till I’ve known them for a while, then I definitely feel the romantic attraction); like, I used to use a queer tinder app to try to find friends and maybe a date. Looking back I never actually realized that the people I was talking with were actually like actively trying to date me. Anyway, having Jaiden be able to spread a better understanding of the aro-ace side of the spectrum was wonderful
Thank you so much fam! That seriously means alot! And thank you for sharing your story too!
Raichu: *appears on screen*
HSB: *…congratulations, you’re a Flareon now.*
rip
Lmao
When he pronounced Aromantic as aromatic I could stop laughing knowing that aromatic means to have a pleasant or distinctive smell 🤣
Lol yeah words get me sometimes haha
As an Aroace person, Jaiden literally spells out almost 1 to 1 my experience trying to figure out my sexuality lmao.
Appreciate you sharing fam! Much love
17:07 I thought people were faking too. How do you feel anything for someone you don’t know? When I learned that they did actually feel attraction and they weren’t also making charts of pros and cons and then weighting the cons to avoid relationships…I started to think that maybe there was something wrong with me. Like I had a hormone imbalance or repressed trauma that I couldn’t remember. That only lasted a couple of years, though. Before I knew it was a real term and it accurately described me I told a guy at work that was trying to get me to admit to being a lesbian that I was actually asexual. Like a plant. After that point, I quit caring that I wasn’t being a human correctly.
My child actually sent me Jaiden’s video. They looked at me seriously and were like “So what did you think? Hmm?” My little sweetheart is super perceptive.
Funny story, my first “crush” was dictated to me by my mother. One of my friends was a cute kid and as soon as she saw him she thought she knew what I was thinking. Oh wait, now that I’m thinking about it, it’s not funny. I stopped being friends with him because I wasn’t sure how to act anymore when we were expected to do relationship instead of friendship. Oh, that’s a sad story now!
On the point of her video helping a lot of people:
It did. I literally saw it. I knew i was aromantic already, but on the day Jaidens video dropped there were so damn many new people joining the aro discord server i was on. And they all said:
Here because of Jaiden and started questioning.
I spent literally 4 hours answering questions that day.
Super happy it helped so many people realize who they were, and also happy to have been able to do my part in helping them.
Seriously she did such a good job with this!
This video was really wholesome, and relatable. I'm Asexual, and I personally don't see sex as a thing to keep a relationship happy and healthy. We have hugging, and kissing and hand holding for that. I'm not romantically attracted to people I meet, I'm more attracted to their personality. Because the way I see it, someone can be the most handsome man I've ever met, but if he has a bad personality, it's a no go for me. However, if a person is attractive and they have a great personality, then that's a an added bonus. I'm glad that Jadien went into detail about Ace and Aro, because most people tend to just look at them like we're not attracted to anyone at all, we can still be attracted to people, just sometimes not sexually, we can be attracted go their personality, their kindness, their morals, their honesty, and all of the good things about that person. It's like the old saying goes, it doesn't matter what's on the outside, it's what on the inside that counts. Outer beauty is great and all, but inner beauty is what really draws me in. I love Jaiden's approach on these topics. Great reaction, and great take on the topic!
I’m glad you enjoyed the video and thank you for sharing your story fam!
I feel the exact same way. It takes me a while to develop a crush because I need to know the other person and what they're about. The slow burn is amazing in my opinion.
I’m Ace as well and I feel exactly the same way. Thanks for those words :D
When you said that you need to worry about the people who like multiple people, I disagree. Polyamorous relationships can be very healthy and I used to be in one. It was a very fun relationship and I enjoyed it.
Yeah I was definitely just making a joke with me being cheated on by someone who liked more than one person, definitely wasn’t anything bad meant by it. Except towards the person who cheated on me Lol
@@HotSauceBeats ah a insider joke i get it thanks for clearefying it 😘
@@HotSauceBeats what idiot would cheat on a hot dad lad like you
I had quite a ride to figuring out who i am and what im into but i made it and i feel happy about myself. For context: Im Bisexual but before that i thought i was straight then i thought i was gay since even as a Bisexual person i am more into men, there are times where im into women which is when i realised i loved both genders i just had a preferance for men.
And you are valid :)
Glad you found out who you are what you like! I think it is such an important part in life to realize what we truly like. Also appreciate you sharing this and watching fam! Much love!
Jaiden sharing her experience and how she felt growing up helped me to realize that I was also Aro Ace, which is something I've been questioning for about half a year now! I haven't felt more sure of myself than I do now and it's thanks to Jaiden :)
That’s awesome it helped you fam and thank you for sharing!
I am AroAce and what I HATE is when some of my relatives are like “oh you haven’t found the right person yet!” Or “oh you’ll grow out of it!!”. It’s like love was programmed into our brains. I never really had crushes in school, I basically had the same experience as Jaiden
Your unwavering acceptance and ready to learn attitude is so refreshing. Your genuine acceptance kinda made me cry tears of joy. You’re awesome.
Thank you so much fam! Seriously means alot!
There is one that makes it difficult to have friendships, that’s called aplatonic. So that bromances, having an overwhelming desire to be their best friend, etc. doesn’t really happen for them. Everyone is meh acquaintance status.
I love your empathy man. You’re really the most empathetic person I’ve seen react to this.
Aromantic and asexual people often get labeled as immature or childish or just plain weird. It would be nice if people realized that these people ARE fully mature regardless that they don’t experience these things
just finished watching the premiere! great video! im glad that you got to learn more about aromanticism and asexuality! i am a pansexual aromantic so i appreciate people who aren't in the community educating themselves and learning more about it!
I am so glad I watched this!
Jaiden’s video is mainly the reason that I found out that I’m aromantic. I found myself relating to her experiences a lot :)
Thank you HSB for being open minded its reassuring to see parents like you able to take in the informations ask genuine question and be interested in the topic even if you can't fully comprehend it :)
As an ace person I really appreciate this video for the same reason Jaiden made it, we lack representation a lot since even amongst the LGBT despite having our letter in the acronym (the A of LGBTQAI+ stands for Asexuality, Aromantism and Agender) a lot of people "debate" our existence and worth which is truly saddening. I've known about being Asexual/Biromantic for 7 or so years now when I was still in highschool because I found an internet article about it and realised wait that's what *I* experience I didnt even know this was a thing I thought some thing was wrong was wrong with me and would try to get crushes and understand the appeal of being in intimate relationships everyone around me was apparently so desperate to have lol
I think this video is really important since it could help more people figure out like me that no nothing is wrong with you, you just have a different sexuality than the ones more spoken off and that's fine don't force yourself to be someone that you're not. I do hope that halo people (halo people are the ones who experience sexual attraction, so it means LGBT and straights alike) would stop trying to invalidate us because they can't understand us, I don't understand any of you for wanting to sleep with someone that does not mean I doubt your authenticity or say your sexuality is made up so the least you could do is let us live peacefully we hurt no one by existing.
This was such an amazing video!
My very first crush, and my only crush, was way back when I was a young elementary school student. Looking back now, I'm not even sure if I had a legitimate crush on the guy; maybe I was just desperate to be good friends with one of the few kids in my class that was actually nice to me. I really don't want to talk about it, but TL;DR, I've never had another crush on anyone since. When I watched Jaiden's video, it made me wonder if I am Aroace, or at least fall under a similar category. I'm still not sure what I am, and I'm not really sure if I care to know. At least not right now. I just want to live and be happy and I wish the same for everyone else.
Appreciate you sharing fam!
Jaiden's video has been such an amazing thing to happen. I'm glad it helped so many people understand how others' view in life works, some even realizing that's what they identify as. She's sparing a lot of aro/ace/aroace people a lit of time and negative emotions and I'm so damn glad for that!
Also 9:04 Aromanticism doesn't imply anything about platonic feelings, it's just about the romantic love part of life, like she explained. There are many types of attraction and people can feel differently when it comes to each of those types, let that mean they have feelings towards certain groups of genders, or at different intensities and so on so forth.
She really did such an amazing job with this!
Because of jaidens video I realized that I'm aromatic (not asexual) so I'm happy that I learned about this
This video really did help alot of people out
9:14 it is a little hard and confusing before someone figures out they're ace. Jaiden mentions later in the video how there's this societal expectation for us to have romantic feelings and be in relationships. But when we don't experience that emotion, we might turn to the next strongest one: close friendship. For example, I've had several friends I thought I had crushes on but later realized it wasn't romantic attraction I was feeling.
I've never really experienced sexual attraction but one part of her video I heavily related to is when she said, "if they wanted to, I could go along with it," cause that's exactly how I felt about intimate stuff with my only genuine crush
9:20 it's not platonic attraction, but romantic. So romantic would be a girlfriend, boyfriend, romantic partner etc... But platonic is like family and friends. So i think Jaiden's problem was just wanting to invest in a deeply personal *friendship* but that comes across to others as romantic attraction
Maybe this can help you understand even more, there are many types of attraction, love, and relationships:
- Sexual: you want to have sex with them, think they are sexy in that way
- Romantic: you want to be in a romantic relationship with them, hold hands, kiss, be cute together
- Platonic: you want to be good friends with them, do everything besties do together
- Aesthetic: you think they are gorgeous, you like how they look, sometimes you can even think about how you wish to be like that physically
So there are many possibilities and a whole spectrum of sexuality and identities inside every type. Aro and Ace are both spectrums, two persons inside the same spectrum can have different levels of attraction or the lack of it.
Also, there are other types of relationships that aren't monogamous, others comments here talked about it already :) there is no problem if the person is open about having feelings and attraction to more than one person and everyone involved is fine with it, the trouble makers are those who don't be honest about who they are in any kind of deeper relationship.
I'm a pansexual demigirl (the last is another long story to explain lol maybe another time because I know that is already a lot new to learn and understand) and I have sexual and romantic attraction to all genders, and also I can feel it to multiple persons at the same time. I've been into monogamy relationships before (very long ones too), but I also had relationships with two persons at the same time (a great example to understand the gist of it is to remember the relationship between the characters of Karl, Quackity and Sapnap on the DSMP lore).
Thank you fam! Appreciate that
* evil giggles * * maniacal laughter *
YOU FORGOT ABOUT THE MOST CONFUSING ATTRACTION OF ALL! ALTEROUS! ITS NOT ROMANTIC OR PLATONIC, BUT SOMETHING IN BETWEEN! ITS SO GODDAM CONFUSING THAT IT TOOK ME ALMOST A WHOLE YEAR TO FIGURE OUT I WAS ARO AFTER ALREADY KNOWING I WAS ACE! AND IM GEN Z, IMAGINE THE CONFUSION FOR PEOPLE WITH LESS RESOURCES!
ok evil monologue over. anyway, you also forgot about sensual attraction (i hate that name bc the word sensual is associated with sex, but that’s not actually what the word means, though it can be related to sex in some cases and AAAAAAAAAAAA), which is basically wanting to physically touch someone and be close to them. platonic versions of this are like hugging, ruffling hair, leaning/laying on someone while sitting, putting an arm over someone’s shoulders, etc. etc.
@@popplejam2128 oooh thanks for the input!
I get how it can be confusing with romantic attraction since as a couple you want to touch the other person too.
I bet it can be even more confusing if you are like me, my main love language is physical touch, I always like to touch, hug and all with my friends and partners.
I’ve been a fan of Jaiden for years and a few weeks before this video came out I discovered I was aroace. Unfortunately it didn’t come as a relieving discovery. It was one of the most stressful and confusing times of my life. When I was in a bit of a depressing rut, she released this video. I went into it thinking maybe she was gay or bi or pan. When she, someone who I really looked up to, said she too was also aroace it really pulled me out of that depression and made me proud to be aroace. I’m glad she made this video for everyone :)
This video was so well done!
I already knew you'd be a loving an accepting person from how you react to other videos. The way you went about reacting to this particular video of Jaiden's was wonderful.
I identify both as panromantic asexual as well as demigirl. I'm romantically attracted to others regardless of their own gender identity though I experience little to no intimate attraction. My gender is best described, at least to me, as being a mix of female and nonbinary.
With how informative and relatable Jaiden's video was, I felt seen. It was and still is a journey to get to where I am. It's such a shame seeing how rampant the acephobia is in what is meant to be a welcoming community of all identities. Thank you for even showing some light to our beautiful corner of the community and being accepting. We all are human beings at the end of the day and living life. Some of us just experience it differently.
Thank you so much fam! That seriously means a lot and thank you for sharing your story too!
im so thankful to jaiden for making this video, i remember feeling so weird for not wanting to be in a relationship and when i talked to my therapist about it they could not fathom someone not having romantic attraction and making me feel like something is wrong with me. The video helped me learn about aromanticism and that i needed a better therapist
It really was amazing
Funny story
I was having "crushes" throughtout my life... i actually chose the girls that would be my "crushes" and never did anything to get in a relationship with them because i was actually not interested at all (im 17 right now, still no crush XD)
so yeah... pretty sure im aromantic
I did develop platonic love for some of those girls and have them in a very good friendship tho, and im completely satisfied with that with no need to go further
I'm demisexual but until I was 18, i thought everyone else also didn't feel sexual attraction until a strong emotional one was established. I also didn't have a crush until 4th grede but i remember girls in 3rd grade asking who my crush was. They said there was no way i didn't have one as if every girl has a crush so I pointed to a random guy lmao
Huh I thought this would be a bit of a weird video for you to react to first since I'm kinda used to people being weird about this, but you proved me wrong by being wholesome and great throughout so uh yea, thanks, have a great day!
Seriously appreciate that fam and glad you enjoyed it and that you think I did the video justice!
I love how supportive he is.
Thank you!
I've come to the conclusion that I'm demiromantic (there's only a chance of me being romantically attracted to someone if I've gotten to know them over an extended period of time), and my gosh was Jaiden's video relatable, particularly the part where she was talking about being aromatic, because with my social anxiety, I never got to know anyone, ergo never ended up attracted to anyone. I would always get really confused by people talking about "the friend zone" like it was a bad thing. Like, going through school I always thought "why do people think it's weird to want to get to know a person and determine if they're compatible, or even just not a jerk, BEFORE you go all bleeding heart mode over them? How the heck can you feel even the slightest bit comfortable saying you love someone you've barely met? How is the friend zone not a mandatory starting zone? I don't understand!". And on the rare occasion I'd mention something like this, I'd get responses like "You really expect someone to just wait around for you for a year or something? That's a long time to expect someone to have feelings for you without reciprocation", and I never knew how to explain back "I'm actually kinda hoping they're NOT attracted to me, at least not to start, cause that would be kinda weird, and bordering on creepy in my opinion. I just wanna see if we can even work as friends before dare-deviling something even MORE emotionally risky." I can even relate to the bit about viewing it almost mathematically, like, the way I saw it, "if a relationship is healthy, then your attachment to that person, be they a friend or family member or whatever, is suppose to increase over time (sunk cost fallacy and all that), and friendly attachment < romantic attachment, so how and why are so many people trying to jump past that level of attachment entirely"?!? I was so happy when I found the term demiromantic, because suddenly, SO MUCH about my life experiences, especial from high school, suddenly made a ton of sense. My only gripe was that I wish I had found the term sooner. Would have made so many situations so much easier.
And to a lesser extent I can relate to the asexual part of the video, because while I'm not asexual (demisexual, basically the intimate equivalent to demiromantic), I am a practitioner of chastity (I'm not entirely sure that's the right way to phrase that). Basically, I can experience intimate attraction, but I don't ever wanna participate in anything intimate (I've already mentioned my social anxiety, so you can probably guess why, and similar to Jaiden, I am dodging specific vocabulary hear, because even using the vocabulary makes me uncomfortable).
Okay, personal speech related to the video topic done, now to clarify some things in the video. That was Raichu, not Flareon. Also, to answer your question, Jaiden has a pet bird named Ari.
Your valid and I love you (/p)
Thank you fam for sharing that! Seriously appreciate it and thanks for watching too!
A little linguist lesson, Ae is a prefix generally associated with "lacking" or "deprived/deprecated of" so when you read aeromantic, it means lacking romantic (attraction). You could also use it to describe scenarios.
Your shpeil about wanting your girlfriend to also be your best friend reminds me of my parents lol - when my mom was talking to me about realtionships she literally said "Even if we stopped sleeping with eachother or going on dates, I'd be fine with it because he is my best friend"
🙏🙏🙏
I really enjoyed this video, it was so nice to see someone I look up to share the same preferences as me, the AroAce community as far as I've saw is pretty sparce.
She seriously did an amazing job with this!
Since you reacted to this by her, I was just✨wondering ✨if you could maybe react to her why I don’t have a face reveal video. It gets very deep.
8:40 I think that’s flareon ain’t it?
Jaiden: No
That was kinda perfect
Lol
i love Jaiden's videos and never knew about this one.
i just found out i'm also Aromantic after years of telling my partners 'i just can't feel love.' so finding out that 'tunnel' vision is a thing i went and texted my old middle school friend to explain that my "love" [which was platonic] was just me hyper focus on her as she was my first friend and it was just excitement. i apologized if i had ever made her uncomfortable with the whole "i love you." stuff.
Thanks for sharing and appreciate you!
I tried to find out why I don't feel a lot of intimate attraction to many other people for a long time, because I have an attraction to both genders, just not sensual. I then found out I am Biromantic, then I also found out about demisexual. It pretty much fit me to a T. So now I know, I'm Biromantic/Demisexual.
Appreciate you watching and sharing fam!
Two things:
As a lesbian, I find this video very inspiring and it challenges the whole stigma of constant love we surround ourselves with on a daily basis. No one should feel pressured into love. It should be natural, no matter what your sexual or romantic orientation.
and second, PLEASE REACT TO THE MCC ICEBERG BY MCC HIGHLIGHTS! I know its long, but its fun, I promise
She definitely did an amazing job with it!
@@HotSauceBeats She really did!
Dude you GOTTA react to her nuzlock videos too dude!
I’m so stoked for it!
As someone who grew up thinking I was just a straight female, because I had crushes on boys. I also felt like most were just thinking someone was pretty funny and wanted to hang out with them so I ended up as their friend which I was cool with and people would label them crushes, turns out I felt the same was with ladies too it was just more socially acceptable for them to just be friends. I feel romantic attraction to both males and females and discovered into my adulthood that I feel very little intimate attraction in general. I feel closest to someone when I'm cuddled in watching a movie than being physical. It honestly took until last yeah for me to put a finger on what was going on.
Thank you for sharing fam!
Love the reaction!! If you want to react to more jaiden animation I would highly recomend the pokemon nuzlocke videos, theres 3 of them
Stoked for them!
Lovely video. Heartwarming :)
I still struggle to understand my sexuality, interest etc. So I love Jaiden for doing something like this.
When Jaiden mentioned people who like multiple people, both romantically and intimately, I believe she was referring to polyamory and not cheaters. They are not mutually exclusive but they are not always the same group either.
9:08 There is actually a different term called aplatonic, that describes this.
This meeting of someone and instant tunnelvision on them is platonic attraction, which you can also potentially not have.
Now while i am aromantic and asexual (demisexual technically, but that's irrellevant here), i am not aplatonic. One of my two best friends however, is. Needless to say that i was the one who initiated our friendship.
And fun fact, the target of a platonic attraction is called a squish, like crush is for romantic attraction.
Thank you!
jaiden’s vid helped me understand what was going through my head when I was trying to figure out my sexuality as someone who doesn’t like men, because I would also just choose male crushes based by who I wanted to be best friends with and who was conventionally attractive.
when I realised one liked me back I felt no excitement and was just uncomfortable, and never wanted to talk about him or to him anymore. he would hold my hand and put his head on my shoulder and I would not even acknowledge him or feel anything. so this explains how it feels to not be attracted to a gender as well.
yeah, for us aros it's just all genders
glad to see someone outside the aspec community can relate :)
She did such an amazing job with this
Bros support shows that he’s a true sigma
Appreciate you fam!
I'm personally aromantic. Definitely not asexual. I'll share a bit of how my brain works. I can be in a long term relationship and I will be faithful. I can do romantic things but I don't get the same feeling out of it. I can cuddle if my partner wants to. I just feel the save way as if I help a stranger on the street. It feels good to make someone else feel better. I just need to kinda study what makes my partner feel good instead of doing something I would personally think was nice. What flowers they like, the cuddling thing, do they like romantic dinners and so on
TLDR I don't get that romantic feeling high, but I like to make my partner feel that and get a basic "I made their day better" feeling you get from helping someone
Appreciate you sharing fam and thank you for watching too!!!
I think the book about love languages suits any kind of relationship! I'm also aroace, but it helped me express my (platonic) love for my parents in a better way and vice versa.
I'm a A-sexual myself, (pan romantic) I also have a discord dad (friend-dad) who's Aro Ace I understand how it is. Growing up i just didn't understand how it worked. Not that my household was against it. I just didn't have the community that taught me about it. Then I was told A-sexual/Aro were different. I just didn't know a whole lot about it. Though I'm definently sure I'm asexual now. Thankfully I grew up with people are very accepting.
It is seriously such a great and helpful video!
To answer your question, Aromantic people (some anyway) struggle with friendships because they just want to be really good friends with someone, they want something else, and a lot of people go along with it because they want their friend to be happy.
0:27 Kind of an ironic statement considering the videos subject :P
Im 26 now and I figured out im maybe aromantic and asexual when i was around 19-20 since the desire of wanting to be in a relashionship was nonexistent. I would aviod small chats about relationships with friends because i cannot relate. I remember one time we were talking about what type of guys we prefer, when everyone was giggling and saying stuff like "oh i want my futre boyfriend to be nice, handsome, really cares for me etc." I just sat there feeling really awkward. One friend even chanllenged me saying "since we are both single lets see who will get a boyfrined first" and I was like haha you will definitely be first...cuz I am not looking for one!!!!
people assumed and callled me uptight and have high standards seeing me not in any relationships, which is not true becuase HOW CAN I HAVE ANY STANDARDS WHEN IM NOT EVEN LOOKING FOR ANYONE?!! i gave up in the end cuz no matter how many times i exlpained to them they either say oh you will understand it once you got someone you really love, or you should grab someone quick cuz you are not getting younger...as if people are like groceries.
Im so happy Jaiden posted this a few days after I figured out I was AroAce. As an AroAce, I had the same story about making a crush up, even so, I’m also cupioromantic, so I desire a romantic relationship but can’t have one due to being Aromantic.
I'm a straight trans man but it still baffles me that there is ZERO education in my school about any kind of LGBTQ plus kinda stuff. Like, sex ed didn't even mention gay people. It's ridiculous
Your valid sir
@@vinsmokeythebear6562 thank you, my friend. You are also valid
@@holly2786 awww thank you 😌
I appreciate you watching and thank you so much for sharing fam! Changes definitely need to be made in schools to include everyone for sure!
I was so glad jaiden did this video because I’m ace ,bi and nonbinary
It’s a great video!
As a a romantic having friends is quiet easy nothing changes there it’s only feeling romantic attraction that it is just something I can’t feel.
Appreciate the feedback fam! Thank you!
Love to see how positive you are, mate. I remember seeing this for the first time and being excited to see someone talking about aroace because that's what I was too. I could not understand the hate she got cus literally... why? She just said she was not interested in romance. I'm glad to see you talk so positively about it and be so willing to learn too. I know from my own experience that the talk of romance is everywhere, I've been on nights out where the people I'm out with will talk about their boyfriends and girlfriends and I'll just be sat twiddling my thumbs
Thank you fam! Means alot
As a person that is questioning his own orientation (i still don’t know if im bi still) i believe that the homies that are gay or ace or anything else are really cool and if you are hateful of a random guy thats into M E N thats just not cool (common sense basically)
This video was so great and I love to see the positivity!! I myself am on the ace spectrum and this video was so awesome to me!!
Thank you fam!
Aww, I thought I'd be here while it was premiering :(
Also, Unfortunately people were being jerks about this video. They were saying Jaiden was being rude or something because she "doesn't feel love towards people or something"
And tbh, it doesn't make sense, Why are they being rude to her for *no* reason. I'm honestly surprised why they did that.
Anyway, Love the video.
Yeah I don’t understand the hate either, she did such an amazing job with this and I know it took a lot for her to make it
@@HotSauceBeats Agreed!
I love Jayden's videos, and since I'm bad at drawing *and* animating stuff, I can tell it would've token *taken (I don't know why it auto corrected it 😅) her a while, plus she needed to have the courage to post it.
I really appreciate the supportive message at the beginning, it means so much more than you know to have external support.
Appreciate you fam! I’m all about spreading kindness and love!
I love how positive you were about this video. I get angry at the response this video got from some. I think it really helped lots of people.
Thank you fam! Appreciate the love
i dont even know you but i know that you are a great dad just by looking at a few of you videos. :)
Thank you so much!!
@@HotSauceBeats yeah no problem! :D
I'm not done with the video yet but I feel like a nice thing to add is that aromantic and other -romantic labels are actually part of the split-attraction model of orientation. Basically it treats romantic and sexual attraction as two different things, and uses different labels to discuss it (for example homosexual refers to someone who is only able to experience sexual attraction to the same gender, while homoromantic refers to someone to is only able to experience romantic attraction to the same gender). It's not SUPER common outside the ace and bi communities because for the most part those two types of attraction are usually assumed to be directed toward the same gender(s) (even though that is not always the case).
Apologies for commenting so much but I love this so much at 18:25 dude, 100% truth
Appreciate you commenting fam!
Please react to her doing her first Pokémon nuzlock
Yezzirski
Great pick! Vouch!
Yes!
I'm also aroace (specifically demi) and Jaiden's video hits so hard. Before I knew I was aromantic I would just kind of "choose" someone to have a "crush" on, and that actually led me to getting a boyfriend in high school who was Incredibly toxic and left me with massive trauma. And then when I was 19 and ACTUALLY felt romantic attraction for the first time, I was so scared of ending up in another relationship like my last one that I didn't say anything to the person I liked for a long time. We had been friends for a few years so I was pretty sure they weren't Like That but I was scared. But now we've been dating for over a year and I can't imagine life without them at all.
I know this video is older but I wanted to say this as it really helped me. that being jaidens original video. that growing up i found it strange when I would watch movies and when a character fell in love there was that cheesy slow motion thing. and never truly experienced it myself because of it I went into a lot of places in my life where I would think I was bi i thought i was so many things including broken. but then i watched jaidens video it did help me relise where my head was at. namly that i relised no I just wasnt romantically intrested in people at all there was geuinly nothing there. its still so confusing but the irony is dispite my instinct that I wouldnt enjoy the video it did something amazing for me. (still working it all out but feels nice knowing that not having those feelins wasnt such a strange thing.)
man you seem like such a genuinely nice person! you made me smile a lot and as someone in those community it's nice to see someone that is accepting of us ^-^
Appreciate that fam! Seriously means a lot, and she did such an amazing job with this video!
There is also something that you might not know of called Poly/Polyamorous, When someone is a relationship with 3 or more individuals where each member has an understanding of their group. Which can be a casual relationship or a committed relationship between 3 or more people. So being attracted to more than one person could end up in a Poly relationship. For example if anyone has seen Shameless Kev, V, and Svetlana have a Poly relationship. It happens a lot with Married couples adding another person to spice things up and end up falling in love with them and then all 3 stay in a relationship together. I myself am a big fan of it as I am in a Poly relationship, and I like it a lot when it is represented in movies and tv shows. That's also why I like when Jaiden says, "I think there are many types of people in relationships that push the boundaries of what a conventional relationship looks like."
You are right! Jaiden is a bird person
I mean..She likes dogs too
but she has a pet Bird.. Ari
I’m asexual and when her video came out I was SO HAPPY! Best Monday ever!
And the hate? I’ve gotta thank them for helping her message spread more to help others! Ahahaha! 😈
She did suck a good job with this video
React to the Orion sound on after life he has done 2 episode, he is really fun and goofy
a like from an aromantic
Her video made me realize why I wasn't having a crush on anyone! Thank you, Jaiden! Thank you for being a guiding light in one of my darkest hours! Thank you for making me realize that it's okay to not have romantic and/or intimate feelings towards others!
17:14 I was a little confused about this at first, but I think she's referring to polyamory. If youre in a poly relationship, you are in a relationship with multiple people (with consent) and sometimes there are like 3 or 4 people who all like each other and get into a relationship eith each other
Loved jaiden so much for sharing aroace rep as someone on the ace spectrum. The video helped made me feel more comfortable with my own identity. She’s so cool ❤
Loved this video!
5:00 hsb is attracted to Pokémon confirmed lmao
Lmao
Thank you for that speech, I really needed it. I've always thought something was wrong because I never got any crushes, but i feel better now!
Appreciate you for watching and glad it can help you out fam
17:22 as someone that is polyamorous, I’m here to say that not all polyamory is happening maliciously. Yes some people will start cheating and call it polyamorous, to get out of trouble, but true polyamorous relationships are when all parties are consented to it.
There are multiple different kinds of polyamorous relationships as well. A ‘Pivot’ is when one person is dating two people, but those two people aren’t with each other romantically. I personally call this a “Triangle” relationship, but it’s where three people are each dating each other.
I have 3 amazing partners, and all of them are such sweet and amazing people. I don’t like it when polyamory is immediately assumed to be cheating, when both are different.
How does that work? (Not trying to be offensive, just curious) like, I can't imagine feeling love or attraction for anyone that ain't my partner
@@garabatosxd well it’s the same as how you feel love towards one person, but it just tends to happen for multiple people.
finally got around to watching you react to this, I haven't actually seen the original video myself- woah, it's so cool to see aroace rep/being talked about with the correct definitions!! asexual isn't the most widely known identity, but aromantic is really, so much lesser known. it's cool to see people learn about it, too, since i am aroace myself!! :D
9:20 aromantic is just for/only directly affects romantic attraction (not being able to experience it)!! she's talking about confusing friendship/admiration for romantic attraction, especially when you're trying to convince yourself you're alloromantic (someone who can experience romantic attraction- most people are alloromantic)
It's just arrow-man-tic
AroAce here! Allow me to gush and overshare about my experience, because Jaiden's video did so so much to help me: (also, I love how open you are to learning this stuff)
To answer your question about friendship, I'm autistic, so friendships have always been difficult for me to form, and I imagine that is why. But having friends, and having very close friends, has never been an issue for me.
It may seem like a relationship between an ace person and a non ace person wouldn't work, but I have actually been with my husband for almost 9 years now. There are certainly challenges, but when you get to know someone deeply, and understand them, and love them (in whatever fashion) the romance aspect can not necessarily be needed. When someone demonstrates that they understand you, even if they don't understand why you don't feel that romance, that is sometimes all you need. A great example of this is something that my husband did for me very early on, and I will treasure this for the rest of my life. XD I love jigsaw puzzles, and I always have. My husband wanted to give me flowers, but I have never liked getting them. Instead, he bought a plastic 3D jigsaw puzzle in the shape of a rose, put it together and gave it to me. It was a romantic gesture from him that I could appreciate without needing to feel the romance, and it showed truly how much he understood me.
I think my experience with being ace has been fairly smooth in comparison to a lot of people. Again, I am autistic, and so I never really registered the pressure to be interested in people the way Jaiden describes, and that I have heard other aces talk about. I know a lot of asexual and aromantic people can feel broken, or like something is wrong with them, but I viewed romance more the same way that I view sports. I don't have any interest in it, and because it isn't a large part of my life, I never really thought about it.
Also, I had a friend that did the best and most concise job of explaining the basis of aromanticism I have heard, and this was before either of us had ever heard that term. I was dating a friend of theirs, and at one point they told me, "[your boyfriend] is the kind of guy to spend all day setting up a candle- lit dinner, and you are the person who walks into the room, sees the table, and asks why the lights are off."
Much love fam!!!
love is love:D
Just gotta say I love this video, you seem like such a great person and it’s so wonderful to see your reactions to us aro and/or ace people being entirely positive. Thanks for that!
Thank you fam! Means alot
I'm 28 and currently researching aromanticism. I was aware I never fell in love or had a crush ever in my entire life and I had peace with that. I never needed it to be happy. I just didn't know there was a name for it, and that I was not the only one. It's a nice discovery, and I'm grateful for Jaidens video on the topic.
I love your positivity you earned yourself a subscribe! :D
Aye welcome to the family!!!
@@HotSauceBeats omg didnt think you would reply!!
oh wait you reply to nearly all the comments
welllll in the context of friendships, there is a "aplatonic". At least i have seen that term around somewhere.
Thank you fam