Tami Roman | Broke Bish Dis For You 😂
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- Stop wanting men to provide more than you can do for yourself. Maintain your power sis!
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My dad raised me to be self-sufficient. He said he didn't want any of his daughters dependent on anyone, let alone a man. Vice versa, my mom raised my brothers to be able to cook, clean,sew, etc. so if some heiffa decides she doesn't want to cook or clean, they could do that themselves. I'm grateful to both my parents for those life lessons.
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More moms should have taught they lazy ass sons to be more self sufficient, hygiene , cooking,cleaning, etc.. my son will have the upper hand for sure
Exact same upbringing. So grateful for it.
Ditto !!
The 'Golden Rule' is the one with the gold makes the rules. Don't be that person who is too broke to leave!
THIS!! 💯
Tami.. Say it LOUD SIS... Say it for the young Sisters IN THE BACK!!!
and the old ones that keep falling for the easy route
Young sisters AND the foolish more mature sisters. #PREACH
Old ones too I know somebody living like this right now and thinks it’s cute and bragging she spoiled and happy
Young and old. The elder women AND MEN in my family used to talk this ish. Used to tell me I had penis envy cause I was always self sufficient and ambitious..No, I just don’t want to end up like y’all miserable asses...Funny, the same family members contact me PRIVATELY and on time every month with their hands out for a handout.
And some of the old ones too smdh
My momma asked me "who is the governors wife?" Im like idk... She said exactly, if he decides to leave her, he's taking his money, his circle of friends, and his name with him. So always have your own.... I was probably 15 years old, I understood what she was saying but it wasn't until I was grown that I knew what she meant.
Moral of the story, don’t give up your independence for anybody.
Exactly
Amen...that’s one of the 1st things my mother taught me as a woman!
Exactly 💯
Amen! I learned the hard way, but my grandma 👵🏽 and aunts taught me that I was instilled with independence and yes I was! I got out on my own and became independent and proud!
And don’t let anyone crush you emotionally. No one is worth that much emotion.
It’s not safe these days for a woman not to have something on her own. Relationship go left then what?
For the girls in the back spending they last to be around a rapper praying to be "chosen" 😂🤣😂🤣
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Sad isn’t it. Po tink tinks.😭
Lol
when did she say that
The “tenure in your 😺” had me just choke on my spit and die laughing 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Girrrrl the entire nail salon looked my way when I busted out laughing at that part 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I love Tami because she’s so real and very relatable, always tells the truth.
“he should be able to claim you on his taxes” 💀💀💀💀
That hit me!
No lies detected. Be warned, be aware and be smart.
She's basically saying don't be a dependent bish like she was. She said when they broke up, bc her man provided for her, it bit her in the ass in the end.
Tami I'm so happy to see you in better spirits. 🙂
🙏❤️
My hubby and I have separate bank accounts. Enough said ✌🏼
Same! Ain’t no need to combine that; it’s 2021 and we got online banking. He transfers money to my account, I keep my own money in my account, and that works out just fine. 😂
@@DeniseRene407 Lmao. Love it 😂
I'm just here to pass the "offerings" plate around because that was a whole word. Thanks for blessings my soul ta-day Auntie Tami!💕
And I'll help pass it along 🤭
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Me too !!! So much in agreement with this!!!
Sis, I got my own so I'm putting extra in the plate!
@@ethiopianabesha , Can I get an Amen?!🙌🏽🗣
I just want someone that can bring something to the table and then we build several other tables lol
Thank you for sharing Tammie this was real Af, & most got 2 much pride to share & help a Woman🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
My mother always said God bless the child that has its own and you can always share
I like that...
Great Comment. Your Mother is Right !!
That right there. God bless the child thats got its own.
Thank GOODNESS for our Mothers 💪🏽
As Christ said God bless the child who hears his words and keep his commandments. Which he commanded us who are blessed to sell everything we have and give to the poor and pick up our Cross and follow Christ
“... during his tenure in your P. Ooo I’m sorry. Well that went left quickly.” lol I really think Tami should have her own show. She’s got that Oprah presence that doesn’t require others (The Real, The Talk, The View etc) to help carry the show. She’s always real, down to earth, straight from the heart. Just don’t piss her off lol. She was too good for that basketball mess.
Tami...Tami..Sista Queen you spoke nothing but Facts!!!
Love her ! Always speaks the truth!
"Listen nih, listen nih! I'm speaking from "spurence". I'm on the floor!!!! Hilarious!
My husband passed. And now i am lost without him. He really did nice things for me financial ly and a great provider. I did not continue to develop myself. Never thought he would pass. I was dependent on him in so many ways. And i wish i would have continue to grow. Now, i am starting all the way over.
Hang in there and keep trying
God bless you, love. My condolences. You can rebuild, I’m sure you are stronger than you realize. 🙏🏾
U got this ...!!!
He proud of u...!!!
I’m so sorry for your loss. This is the sort of unforeseen circumstance that even the most traditional and happy couple can’t argue against.
@@shrimpgeisha Absolutely 💯👏
Anyone who get offended by this is definitely a dependent and not independent. They say the truth hurts🤷
Exactly!
I must admit, just by reading the title i though she was finna talk down to women who don't have the latest and greatest, but i watched the video before i commented and Tami is right about everything she said. I be hearing girls saying "A man gotta buy me this or that" and what they requiring from these men they can't even do for themselves.
Truth is controversy
For real(peridot)
Hurts like a Mother Father!!😎
She's exactly right I need someone to match my hustle NOT ride off of my flow!!:)💕😇 If he leaves oh well the hustle DON'T STOP!!!:)
You already know💯👏👏👏
Tami, you had me like a kindergarten student sitting Indian style in a classroom. My entire attention focused on you, the teacher. 👏👏👏
HAHAHALOLOL
YUUUUUUP!!
FOR SURE!!
Love this❣️
For real yo!!🤣🤣
Yes!!! I swear she’s my BIG SIS in my head!! 💙
Ladies listen to the maturity and wisdom. You’ll regret it if you don’t, one day.
I was that girl 25 years ago with three kids. My second husband knows my saying, I did it before and I can do it again. I’ll leave a man in a heartbeat because I value me and mine. We’re 20 years in and he never thought that I “need” him. All I NEED is JESUS‼️ It feels good to have your own.
Amen
I agree.... Amen. A child that have there own.... That what taught my children male and female....
Agree I am the samething
AMEN chile
God Bless The Child That's Got His Own..
HALLELUJAH, AND AMEN!!!!!!
If you're depending on the financial stability of a partner, that shows you lack the ability of progression individually. You're mentally lowering the value of yourself. NEVER depend on others to support your personal needs because you'll never know when it'll end...
@Jabari ur comment gets a thousand likes 👍🏾 from me💯
Jabari drop your snap LOL
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I agree in the sense that you never know what will happen in life !! I was an equal breadwinner but then I got cancer and had to be on sabbatical for 3 years!! Yup he had to carry it all . But I got healed up and then went back to it . These scenarios happen in life wo notice so each partner of the partnership must be able to carry the financial weight if needed . Just don’t make yourself financially dependent or vulnerable to people with ulterior motives !
So true and that is why I don’t
Some Men like to have women in that position as a form of control
Exactly
My mom told me when I was younger "NEVER GET INTO ANYTHING YOU CAN'T AFFORD TO TAKE CARE OF ON YOUR OWN ie: house,car or anything/anyone that comes with a bill
Wait a minute, $110k at the AIDS center back in the early 90’s? Tami you were making the equivalent of way over $250k today. You were doing great!
Ok. That was a good life.
RIGHT?!!! I perked up at that, too! And at such a young age. Good for her!
I’m not waiting for a man to give me anything.. like my granny used to say a man will promise you roses and bring you daisy. Some guys like to dictate those coins and I ain’t about that life. I’m very independent but I’m big on a couple helping each other.
Love me some Tami! Loved her since her MTV days. She is speaking truth from her “Spearience!” These are some very good nuggets of wisdom.
“Spearience” 😂😂😂😂
I am a BLACK BUSINESS OWNER.
"I "GO GET IT and COME BACK WIT IT.
I NEED A MAN TO ADD TOO......AGAIN I SAY ADD TOO MY HAPPINESS 😊.
SO IF HE WAKES UP AND DECIDES HE WANT TO TRY A NEW FLAVA......MY MORTGAGE CONTINUES TO BE PAID.
And that’s a word!
Yes preach i agree
Period 🎯💯✊🏾
This is EXACTLY what I’m talking about. Be about your business and not a lazy, broke, uneducated, baby making machine.
Who would respect someone like that .?
Exactly
Married for 20yrs, and mom of 3... I'm hear to tell you, this is a whole word! My story is very similar to Tami's... Thank the Lord, I'm in transition and reclaiming myself as a whole. Many prayers and strength to my ladies going thru the struggle 💪🏾
I need more friends like Tami. 😂😂😂♥️
I absolutely Love you Tam Bam.. The truth you tell. Your words speaks life.. Get your own coin, this way nobody can take anything from you. 💫💫💫
My grandmother taught me to secure my own bags as a teenager. This is a lesson most women need to understand so thank you for sharing this message with young ladies on your platform.
I love how articulate Tami is.. very dwn to earth n get the point she makes EVERYTIME #Storytime #womenROCK #GETyallMONEY
Facts!!! Both my parents taught me and my sisters this same life lesson growing up. My Mama said her Mom told her the same thing growing up. Always have your own. Dont totally be dependent on a man.
Tami...you NEED your own show!!! SOMEONE NEEDS to make this happen!!!
I was just looking at my dude side eyed because he couldn’t help with replacing my AC/HAC system! Like damn u can’t help at all! Time for a new dude
Girl!!!!!!!! I just had a flashback! My dryer went out and he was looking upside my head like “what you gonna do”! Such a turn off, I am pissed at my own self! I learned one hell of a lesson too late in life. I am slowly but surely getting my shit together
Bet yall both still with them same dudes
@@kendraseer5198 ahhh negative
I grew up where this was my mom and when her & my dad divorced she ended up just like you said, she left the marriage with exactly what she came in with except with 2 kids she couldn’t provide for. Growing up broke taught me to NEVER depend on anyone but myself. Unfortunately it makes me not open myself up to men and make myself vulnerable, so men never have a spot in my life because I don’t make one for them.
I encourage you to seek therapy ! I was raised similarly and had to have a failed marriage to realize my inability to be emotionally vulnerable and allow myself to be loved. Therapy changed my life . I now have a healthy work life balance and partnership. You can too
Yes, being self sufficiency is a real thing for strong women that observe dependency up close and personal. Therapy will definitely be helpful.
I agree with you Tammi. I absolutely have lived and engaged talks with my daughters and granddaughters on self-worth and self-suffiency.
Being self accomplished and having employable skills will allow for independency. I hope all Instagram girls will watch this.
Agree.its fine to treat once in a while,but we are not banks.
I cut a lot of old friends,and family off for this reason,and other reasons.
I have quit jobs over coworkers talking ish.im 42 years old.i am NOT here for your raggedy b.s.
You preaching!!!!! 👏🏾👏🏾 This has ALWAYS been my mindset.. You’re here because I WANT you here, NOT because I need you here. Period
When she said "Hunters and Gathers" I went in. 😂😂 Yes Tami keep it all the way 💯.
what I get from this is keep your independence in any relationship.
Preach!! This is a message that a lot of women need to hear! We as women must be self-sufficient because nothing is absolutely permanent or constant with regard to relationships or marriages. This was on point!!!!👍👏👌❤😊
Thank u Tami for speaking on this its worth listing to on RUclips
💯 FACTS! Important to have/make your own money. As the saying goes...”The way you go in is the way you’ll go out.”
Amen, nothing but the truth. I was in the same situation after my divorce...always have your own ladies...
I agree with you 100. I'm single and I take care of myself. Blessed to be able to do this.,but if a man wants to help.well then thank you for your help.
Tammy: Well that went left quickly” 😂!
OMG🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yes sis keep it 100 but you know some people just can't learn until they experience it for themselves but thanks for caring enough to share I ❤ u
"You Always SPEAK The TRUTH"!!!!
Whew chile I know it all to well- I thought being a "HOMEMAKER" was a job in itself...(it is).....BUT when shit goes left- you'll be QUICKLY reminded what they did for YOU- SMH!! I told my daughter if you can't get it twice YOURSELF then wait until you can.....and that's on PERIODT!!!!!!!
Y’all have terrible attorneys! Because whenever he would remind you of what he did not comeback would be “yup-that’s what you were supposed to do” and carryon. 😩😂
Amen
Facts
You’re supposed to let him pay for everything while you stack your chips in the meantime. If the relationship doesn’t work out, you lost NOTHING. 🤷🏾♀️💅🏾
Ok because how you leave a marriage with a pro basketball player with nothing
@@kendraseer5198 Just gotta chalk it up to her being young and dumb, because a smart one would’ve come out on top frfr.
As long as you're maintaining yours
Shout out to the men willing to pay for everything in 2021. That will be a hard pass for me. It's better to build together.
@@whatwasisaying1338 There are women who would love to build with you.
My husband takes 100% percent care of me financially, it wasn't about money for us it was about true love and compatibility, I do want i need to do around the house and balance the accounts, while he works, so when he comes home it's a peaceful atmosphere and can just chill. It's call a balance for your life
You're so blessed
@ Queen...I'm in the same boat as you & I love it!!
And you are blessed to have it like that, I’m tired of black women who hate on other women who are provided for by a good man and can focus on other things in life!!! White women and other nationalities do this all the time and it’s normal for the man to provide!!!! , 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
I totally agree with you. Stay blessed & Stay home, lol , I know I am😅💜
Hope you have a just in case plan. Good luck .
I love you to pieces. Thank you for educating women. More conversations like this need to be had.
"Well that went left quickly"...😂😂😂😂 I love this woman!!! #FACTS
I swear I hollered at the self realization!!😂😂😂
Girl I’m dying 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Hallelujah amen my girl. Get your “OWN” You said it all.😘
I fkn love this channel. The ONLY bish on RUclips that is gonna tell it to you STRAIGHT!!! 👏👏👏👏
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️. Feelin the love YALL 🙏😇🥰
Amen
Amen Amen Amen 🙏
That same scenario was my life 11 years ago (on a lower pay scale) but, I had my own life prior to meeting him and it has taken me that long to rebuild my life after that divorce and I am now a college administrator and counselor. I teach young women the importance of keeping your independence and not losing your identity and yourself in him. Thank you Sis, Love You and your platform!
😂😂🤣. It’s the “that went left quickly” for me!!
I just love Tami
This is a whole word! Always have your own! Many men use money as a way to control you. Be dependent on yourself always!
I totally agree!!! I want my own, I have 3 degrees and my husband makes very good money, But I will never give up my own independence!! 💯💯💯 like you said a help mate 👍
I love Tami! See her as a funny Big Sister! She was one of the first to have a reality show with her singing girl group. Soooo real!
First of all, I just want to say we need a Tami Roman Storytime SHOW. Second of all, every time Tami said "baubles", I was on the floor.
Anyway, here's my perspective as a man. I do believe it is the job of a man to take care of his wife (stress on the word "wife") financially. If I ever do marry, I want my wife to work because she wants to and not because she has to. If she wants to focus on the home, that would be just fine with me. If she has a passion and/or career oriented, that's fine too. But our home shouldn't be dependent on her decision and thus on her financial contribution. That's on me. (The audacity of a man to ask his wife to stop working, I kind of feel is a red flag, at least in recent times.) However, I do believe that a woman should have the ability and the know how to support herself because the truth is no one knows how life will turn out. My grandmother and her generation were largely homemakers. The husband worked outside the home, the wife inside the home. What was his was hers. My grandfather worked and brought the money home to my grandmother. She paid the bills, she put the money in the bank, she purchased everything. In the end they were married 61 years. But there were other women of her generation who found themselves in a world of trouble when their husband left or when he died or when he became too ill to work outside the home. Now she has to support the family, and often it was a daunting task because the only skills she may have had were related to taking care of the family. Today, there's a lot of "I need your money, but not your committment". Folks would rather play house than build a kingdom together, and any woman today looking for a man to come in and take care of her, settling for any ole dude as long as he can do that, he aint even thinking about marrying her, but she cool enough to have his children...that chick is in trouble. At this point the man himself is reduced to what he can do for her as opposed to finding someone whose very existence has you over the moon. Sorry for the long response. Just thought I'd chime in.
I agree!!!
Yes sir
Well said
Totally agree.
👀 are you single?
@@nepps6766 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Ms Tami i appreciate you having a conversation about a relationship and woman being independent and getting your own coins you are so right and don't let no one use you
It's more attractive to see a woman doing it on her own anyway. So, when she do give you the time of day it's bc she really into YOU & not what you can do for her.
I teach my young boys this very same thing.
Amén
@LSM ... So True .
We are bringing up our son in this same manner. When a man who is on the ball sees a woman who is not lazy and content to be a broke down lazy dependent - he should find that attractive and admirable!!!
@@MyHoney2222 I totally agree.
🗣️🗣️TAMI....TAMI... Bish, I love you!!! You really told the ladies what they should already know, but we can't be responsible for what folks don't know... I will say, my husband and I enhance each other's life!!! If either one disappear tomorrow, we good.
Currently, teaching both daughters this...
Again, ❤️❤️ the content!!
NOT the hunter gatherers! I’m screaming 😁😁🤣🤣
Ooooooooooooooo tell em Sis!!!!!! I was 13 years old when my father and my uncle dropped that message in my ear we'd just picked my dad up from the airport we were on I-95 the message was make sure that in your life you are always in a position to do everything and get everything you want to for yourself. Never put yourself in a position where you have to depend on a man to do for you. If however a man comes in and offers you, and you allow him to do, you say thank you, but never let it be that you can't do what you want to for yourself because your not in a position to do it. And that and that alone has made me a problem for men all my life 😁😁😁 you can't control this one with money you may in other ways 🤫🤫🤫 but not with money
Preach big sis!!!!!
Yes, sis. LMAO!
Im literally sitting here like my granny clapping my hand stomping my feet,saying preach girl speak on it🤣🤣🤣
I just love Tami! She naturally funny and entertaining! But, don’t get it twisted, she’s quite wise😂👏🏾💕
She is speaking the TRUTH .I learned the hard way twice .Walk in your own power ,and never give a man the control and power over your decisions, your mind,your life.
Yes! Please continue to drop gems. My mom always tell me “do what I say, not what I do.” I love that you give us advice from your life experience for young women like me to learn from. Thank you! You’re definitely appreciated! ❤️
Amen! Well said and much needed conversation. That's some serious wisdom.
Tami you are my BFF in my head!! lol “Well that went left! Didn’t mean to say that”…You are speaking facts!!! Help mate! These new generation women are not aware about that. Always be able to take care of yourself!!
Yyyyyyeeeeesssss! Mother Auntie Sister Tammi give them coins of wisdom 👏🙌 you betta teach!!!!!!
Thank you Tami for putting this out there. Our fellow Queens definitely needed this dose of truth this morning!
My daddy, after he and my mother divorced, gave me the premise of this advice when I was 13 years old; and I’m 38 years old now. It never left my heart nor spirit. “Never depend on no nigga, do ya hear babygirl. Always have your own”.
ANYTHING that a man does for you should be gravy! Periodt!!!
This is a whole WORD! 👏🏾💅🏾🥂
No one can do more for you than you can do for yourself, my life statement!!!
Tell it like it is Tami
Hi Tami, This Bridget . I am the daughter of late boxer Bob Satterfield. How are you doing today?
I can so appreciate the message. Tami so brutally honest.
So so on point sis! And even when he and you are on the same level always even in your comfort strive to be better. If you are a cna when you met him... be a whole nurse 5 years in and breaking up won’t be because somebody is lazy and unable to grow. Grow Queen Grow!!! Love you Tami! My sister from the bottom! South Florida for those who don’t know.
🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾💯👏🏾👏🏾💯🙌🏾👏🏾 Auntie Thank you for your wisdom. Nothing but RAW FACTS IN huuurrrr!
Amen you want to have your own. This is a Blessing in it self.
Amen so true ♥️🤗 I always tell my kids don't depend on no one for your lively hood because if that person walks out tomorrow you will be straight....
"My LAWD!!" (in Whitney voice) thank you so much for saying what I've been thinking, PERFECTLY!!! I'm thinking it's a generation thing for the most part. We come from a generation where you come equipped with your own ish and don't depend on no one but God.💯
That's what I'm talking about T. Point. Blank. Period. I love real talk
PREACH TAMI!!!! TELL THE TRUTH!! I Don't get why a woman some do not get what you are talking bout......Those that make the gold make the rules!
Tami! I agree!....:sperience !! I love Tami! She’s smart, funny, and beautiful!!
Take care of yourself before asking a man to.
That's that 70's mentality. I here for it! Living In Truth.
Tammmmmi!!! NY here!
Today’s sermon is ON POINT! So accurate and real. Keep sharing those gems.
Tami: " Oooh i loved that hummer; I had a H1 white hummer!" 😂
😂😂😂 She had me all excited about the Hummer too lol!!!
Be able to GIT YO OWN BAG! whatever dat izz🤎 speak my sistuh
That storytime was everything ❤️
My Ma taught me this yearss ago!! Never put yourself in a position where a mfer can control you! ALWAYS provide for yourself!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❤ That's one of the qualities that make me a STRONG woman. Knowing I dont need Noo damn body!
Its not that you don't need cause as women and men we do need each other but you don't have to put up with any and everything for the sake of not being alone or for love.
Thank you Tami. God bless you for this sister-to-sister golden wisdom.