Story # 1 - Yeah, this really hits home for me when people say, "It's just..." a brush, etc. I'm into fountain pens. They can cost from a couple of hundred dollars up into the thousands. The mom's saying it's just a brush is like saying to me someone took a Montblanc Meisterstuck (over $2,000), broke it, and then wanted to replace it with a Bic. I mean, it's just a pen, right?
Exactly. Not only should OP's daughter go full NC with their mother, stepmother, and stepsisters, they should also move in their friends or paternal relatives until they graduate from high school. After that, the should move to other states, and grow their own families consisting of wonderful, genuine friends and boyfriends whose families are good people. They can invite OP to visit/hang out with them in their new states any time they want.
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My mom once used one of my GOOD EXPENSIVE watercolor brushes to apply rubber cement, and let it dry. Mine was no where NEAR that expensive, (it was a $20 brush and I CRIED when it was ruined, my mom felt horrible that she didn't know it was an expensive brush, and replaced it for me.) I can't even imagine a brush that expensive!
Cheap brushes are murder to paint with! I hate spending so much money on brushes, but the experience of painting with a good quality brush is so worth it!
@@RabbithavenstitcheryTrue! Seeing as paintbrushes are very reusable (when treated right lol), it can make a lot of sense to splurge a bit on them if you’ll get good use out of them! I have a couple I’ve spent around $10 on so I could buy ones with really small tips for my miniatures.
Teacher groomed and married sister story - OP should keep in contact with sister telling her about all the great things they are doing out in the world, show sister what she is missing out on, then she will see what sort of person her husband is and hopefully realise what a mistake she has made before she is trapped with a baby.
Story 1, congratulations bio mom. You successfully taught your daughters that you should force people to “bury the hatchet” to suit your needs rather than seek justice. Your children now know that you will never fight for them. You don’t have their backs.
I have a friends that was known in school for “seducing her teacher” at sixteen. I remember telling her (at around 23) that she was the kid and that he manipulated her. The classic “my marriage sucks, my wife doesn’t give me attention” excuses that are super appropriate to tel a child let alone your student. She told me in the last year or so (26 years old) that she’d been working through it and realised it wasn’t her fault. Took a decade of some of the most formative years to realise it. That shit fucks you up guy or gal. These teachers are predators and should be treated as such.
"AITA for hiding my daughter's autism from her?" Yes. 1000% yes. The daughter is completely right in that she was bullied ANYWAY. They screwed up BIG TIME. It is good that the OP took that to heart and is trying to be better.
My younger cousin, (about a decade younger) was clearly different, and it became more obvious the older she got. My grandpa eventually revealed to me that my aunt and uncle took her to a doctor, and she'd been diagnosed as autistic. I was like, yeah, that makes sense, how did she take it? And then he told me that they hadn't told her, and might not tell her. He saw less of a problem with it, because he's from a generation where we didn't talk about this stuff, but I was heartbroken for her. In the years that followed, she would say negative things about herself, basically calling herself crazy, weird, and clearly confused and upset. Then I started noticing marks on her arms, and realized she was self harming. It really screwed her up to jot know what was wrong with her. I would try to gently ask about if her parents had taken her to doctors, and while they did give her the meds, they still hadn't told her. I talked to her sisters about it a lot, and eventually, her parents finally told her. But I never forgot how much it hurt to see her hurting, and I wish I had spoken up and told her the truth, instead of just trying to avoid a fight.
How Western of you. OP is isn't in the US, and I'd bet my last 500$ they're where I am. You know what an autism spectrum disorder diagnosis does here? It gets you shut out from a large swath of career paths, and even University. There's no such thing as meds or therapy for ADHD here, and no such thing as OT therapy, much less accommodation in school. They were lucky to find books for her, and give her the minimal support available. It's irritating as hell, as an Autistic adult from the US with ADHD comorbid to look around and see kids in my neighborhood who desperately need support and know there is none, but damn, what do you suggest my neighbors do? Move? It's not that easy, either.
Yes!!!! Hiding a key part of who they are? Horrible. I think it comes from stigma. "If they don't know she's autistic, they won't bully her". As if the bullying was due to a diagnosis. So many abled and neurotypical people don't understand that disability is identity. It's part of who you are. It requires you to adapt in different ways. You can be proud of who you are as a disabled person and understand why the world is inaccessible to you. You can't be proud of who you are until you know who you are. They took that away from her.
It's a difference of neurotype. It exists regardless of formal paperwork, doctor interventions or "offical" diagnosis. You cannot simply ignore it and hope it goes away.
OP and wife are complete idiots for thinking hiding it would be best. Even though I am nothing near a therapist or otherwise expert, it makes absolute sense that someone should know what's going on with them. But even if it didn't make sense, the wife was an absolute MORON (and OP didn't miss his chance to shine either) because of a simple phrase: "her therapist was excited to tell her" The smart person did the thinking for them, all they had to do was let it happen, but no, the parents knew best. And now their kid is traumatised AND hates them. Congrats.
I feel like this was probably just an in the moment thing.While the op had every right to interagate her, most people will get defensive when interagated.Doesn’t make it right but I understand that thought process.
That hiding income thing is a deal breaker for me. A good deed doesnt justify such dishonesty considering what it COULD have been. And yes, i would recommend such curiosity as even the most perfect person can do horrible things.
And honestly her story sounds like nonsense. She's setting up gardens in other people's backyards, walking all the way with a stroller to a grocery store at 4:00 a.m. to wholesale (where does she keep her product, on top of the baby?) or is she wholesaling to the people whose garden is in their own backyard?... I smell BS. He had every right to ask her what she was doing and he had every right to have concern in his voice when he did. He sounds like a total pushover. I think his wife found the perfect doormat that she can gaslight into allowing herself to do whatever she wants. She even made herself a total victim in her lie. "I was just trying to buy you a present because I love you so much". No, that's not what's going on here.
I was an exchange student in Japan for a couple of years in high school. The father of the host family I stayed with is a world renowned instructor in Kendo the ancient art of sword fighting. I received instruction while I was in Japan and when I returned to the United States I was given a set of 700 year old Samurai swords. I had them appraised for my homeowners insurance and was shocked that they were valued at over $100,000 dollars for the 2 swords and the Tanto fighting knife.
There is a HUGE difference between the quality of brushes of different costs. I'm a painter myself, who works with miniatures but still. I have worked with brushes that cost $5 from wal mart. I have also used brushes that cost hundreds of dollars. My current assortment of brushes that I use is a mix of 2 different brush sets that costs a total of nearly $1000. The brushes are different hairs, lengths and makes. Half my brushes were imported from Japan, the other half were imported from France. Ana had absolutely no business destroying that brush, and absolutely should be replacing it. I know that a proper, high quality fude calligraphy brush is insanely expensive, and is several times the cost of my entire brush collection. DO NOT touch an artists brushes.
No doubt. My wife and I do a variety of art for hobby and business. Up until we started lapidary, painting (anything involved with brushes) was the most expensive. Quality of materials and tools have a wide range, but like the majority of things in life, you get what you pay for. The results definitely show. I feel for the op in this story. That brush is a one of kind piece of art. Forged by an artisan with hundreds of years of generational knowledge. It’s replacement won’t be the same.
The parents who hid the autism diagnosis were major AHs. As someone who didn’t get diagnosed with adhd until 22, without the label, the words that I felt internally about myself were “lazy” “weird” “loser”. Ignoring the label does not make neurodivergent traits go away.
@@ShanaLawson It absolutely does, though. I was diagnosed with ADHD and dyscalculia in my 30s. All through school and in my jobs after college I thought I was lazy, scatter-brained, stupid. I couldn’t figure out why no matter how hard I tried I struggled to do basic math, had trouble counting out change if the register didn’t tell me what it was first, why I failed my math classes. I thought I was weird or stupid for not being able to tell left from right or struggling to read an analog clock. I looked at other people and couldn’t figure out why they didn’t struggle with getting to places on time or remembering appointments and I didn’t know what was wrong with me. My difficulties with all these things contributed to my anxiety and feelings of worthlessness. Once I was diagnosed it was like a lightbulb came on. It’s not that I’m worthless or stupid or lazy, it’s that my brain is just wired differently. I was able to get medical treatment for the ADHD, therapy for ADHD and dyscalculia. I was able to connect with other people with these disorders online (especially other women because they tend to present differently for us than in boys/men) and find other common experiences and coping strategies. I was able to Google treatments and coping strategies. It’s made an *enormous* difference being able to put a name to it. All my life I’ve wondered “what’s wrong with me?! Why am I not normal?” Turns out nothing is “wrong” with me, my brain is just wired differently and it makes some things more difficult. But now I know why and I can do some things about it.
@@ShanaLawson having a label for me has been amazing. There’s times that I will be in full adhd paralysis, and in the past, I would attribute that to laziness and be very down on myself. With my label, I understand that it’s my brain chemistry and not me being lazy or useless like I used to think. I’ve also been able to advocate to myself to doctors which in turn has helped me to slowly improve my symptoms. Diagnosis’s also help give students who need them accommodations to help them succeed. Labels for neurological disorders are so much more then just a title.
@@Annie_Annie__ I’m so glad your diagnosis improved your life in such a positive way. Neurotypical people don’t realize how hard it is for us. We’re not lazy and just trying to get meds to keep us focused. I also fully agree on the whole ADHD being different in girls thing. I got misdiagnosed as not having ADHD at 7 because I was able to sit still despite showing many other traits.
Absolutely no doubt on the cost of a good brush. There are documentaries about making quality brushes both for calligraphy and for painting. France and Japan both have artisans making brushes in the traditional way and once you see the skill and workmanship involved the price is no suprise.
My oldest has an auditory processing disability. He had to be taught differently. He could not learn through lectures. All throughout school he required a different approach to absorb the same stuff. He lettered in cross country running and graduated on the silver honor roll. He's the nicest person you could meet.
Thank you for advocating for his accommodations and rights. It's so important to have parents who do that. And I'm sure knowing why he was being taught differently helped him understand that he wasn't stupid or lazy, but that his brain simply works differently.
@@cre-k8-ive the school had their counselor there at the IEP meeting. They tried to get me to medicate him with ritalin, so he would sit and focus better. When I told them that my son wasn't going to be medicated to force him to conform to their standardized way of teaching, they got indignant. He would focus better. I told them that this was their problem, not his. They needed to teach him differently so he actually learned, not just sat still and coasted by. They didn't like that, but they changed for him. I can be quite the KAREN when I need to be.
The story about the digger makes me happy. My dad started a mechanic and bought his first tractor which was a backhoe when I was 9. I wanted to try so bad that my dad gave me the keys and pointed me in the direction where I could figure out all the controls and dig a hole. I dug 5 holes. Lol, dad made me go back later and fill them in, but it was the start I needed, and I have dug everything from leach fields to foundations of mansions in the mountains of Colorado. It is the best feeling to be able to move the earth.
"The couple that pinboards their conspiracy theories with string together stays together." 😂🤣😂 This quote wins the internet today. 🙂🙃🙂 Thank you, #CharlotteLucas
You'd likely be living in my part of Asia, where telling anyone in the school system will get you out of University and a swath of career paths, or worse, treated like you're mentally ill. So... Congratulations on your privilege.
I hope your holding out well. I sometimes wonder if I have autism or something. If it's not a problem, what was your personal experience? I have no one to ask to that's not Google :(
@@sopadumacacoumadelicia5 honestly it's just some communication issues, seeing things a bit differently, I don't get humor, honestly Sheldon from Big Bang Theory is a good example of someone who's autistic(despite the show saying he isn't). We need routines, surprises or disruptions in said routines can be debilitating, the sad part is, when there's a breakdown it's just because function has stopped functioning, we're people, our brains just function differently than others
I am a late diagnosis person and my mom told me when I told her I was being tested for adhd and autism that she had thought about taking me to get tested all my life but thought if she ignored my bad grades in most subjects, skipping school, my odd and very specifik hobbies, yelled at me for stimming, and forced to me fit in her mold of normal that it would go away. I just about smacked her across her face, only when she met a man whos daughter has adhd and autism and met her and like her, she started to accept me, thsnkfully I do not spesk to my mother anymore went nc almost 2y ago
the update at 2:14:30 (where op realizes they might be a trans-girl) made me smile. Although my first reaction to their initial post was "maybe op is somewhere on the asexual spectrum?" . They can still be but that's beside the point, I'm just happy for op that everything was resolved :)
I feel bad for the girl who had no idea this was coming yeah it's happy for op but every time I hear these stories I know it's just going to end like hey I'm trans see you
My friend is a divorce lawyer and he loves uncovering "escape funds" during discovery half that money ends up in the spouse's hands since judges hate when money is hidden during a divorce.
@@frogking6416 from what we've discussed he doesn't take cases which involve abuse he takes cases that have to do with cheating or stealing, a lot of "Escape funds" involve hiding/stealing money.
It wasn't hidden for divorce though. It's hidden to be able to run if needed. Like leave in the middle of the night and get a hotel. Too many women are financially stuck in abusive situations. I know there are plenty of women just trying to hide money but there is a need for that strategy to be safe.
Well if they parented right they wouldn't be in this mess. They're the ones ruining the relationship by trying to let the brat that broke it get away with it. If at seventeen you can't anticipate that consequences may come back to bite you in the ass without you seeing it coming then it's your own damn fault. The real world won't care about your immaturity.
They didn't even have her a IEP...the bare minimum they could do to help her while hiding her dx. I see this as abuse because masking physically proven to harm to brain and the effects of that harms other organs such as heart from the constant anxiety it causes, which causes adrenaline which damages your heart. This isn't something little. Their are healthy autistics but they was treated like humans with rights as children the rest of us have much more comorbid dx because of the trama parents and others caused.
Exactly this. My therapist taught me to "mask" granted, I was born in the 90s when autism was still hidden and seen as "bad" but my therapist taught me how to mask and it's damaged my mental health. It ruined relationships, familial ties and friendships. I could never understand why I wasn't like other girls and why people didn't understand me. It's left me with a slew of mental health issues and even now, at 31, I still have to stop and ask my partner "is it me? Or is it the other person?" I never know if someone is attacking me verbally, being mean or rude or if I'm just interpreting it that way. I still can't function outside very well and have to physically stop myself having breakdowns when I get over stimulated. It's affected my physical health too, cause of my anxiety and ocd and sensory issues, I ended up self harming as a "mask" instead of a meltdown. I've developed a skin picking disorder (associated with my anxiety and ocd) I have severe ptsd and I'm developing severe agoraphobia cause even just the thought of leaving the home and dealing with noise and too many people has me breaking down and having panic attacks. If my mum hadn't been such a narcissist, abelist and elitist, maybe I wouldn't be half as bad as I am now. It's worse as an adult cause you're literally just expected to "deal with it" I'm not joking, I moved to the uk 11 years ago from norway and my dr wanted me to go back to therapy. My therapist did 3 appointments and, verbatim, said "you have wxyz, go deal with it" that was 8 years ago. I still don't understand myself properly :-/ dra actually joke "well I understand but you're 31, you've coped so far. I'm sure you can cope a bit more"
@@maddydavidsdottir9862 the separation from your own identity is so real and so bad. And the imposter syndrome that usually follows because "I'm okay enough sometimes so it's just in my head". Realizing "in your head" is a real thing not "making it up". You are your brain so when your brain is different or hurt it effects your whole entire body and life because it controls everything. Mental health issues should be top priority of health care because all the physical symptoms and conditions that they cause if untreated or treated wrong. I hope you get to have a happy unmasking journey and find out who you actually are and what you actually like. I am still in my journey now and the things I've found I did because I thought they was my hobbies was actually me masking to seem "normal" and that's why I'd be stressed and need breaks after them. Things you like are supposed to be the break and destress you.
Story One: ruining their relationship? I'd say that the whole stealing thing did it. Also I love how the mother is all "I'll do what I need to fix it" except what the daughters are saying will fix it.
@@cw3598 You're unsure why OP would ask the person who stole and maliciously broke something that was a limited custom made gift from his parents to replace the thing they stole and broke with something of the same quality and value? Like if your car is stolen and crashed into a wall, culprit fully admits to doing it are you going to go "oh well. I paid for it so I have to buy a new one myself. After all I don't want to extort the person who destroyed my property." No. No you are not. Actions have consequences. At 17 those consequences are more severe. You break it. You buy it.
@@cw3598 Because even if Dad paid for it. The moms, by dismissing thier daughter's actions and the importance of their other childs belongings and interest created a chasm of distrust between all of the children. No one trusts any one in that household anymore. Them being forced to pay, because they are still refusing to make the actual culprit pay for it, shows at least a nominal commitment to doing the right thing after fucking up. Both Dads are blameless in this, and have every right to request repayment from the two overseeing adults who A) refuse to let the person responsible for the damage pay for it. B) Have a direct responsibility overall the children in the house's action and thus have shared responsibility for damage caused in their home. C) Initial agreed to pay for damages then refused based solely on cost. While fully admitting to not being properly vigilant of the situation. They fucked up as much a step sis and need to take responsibility properly. No letting someone else cover the cost so they can continue the cycle of favoritism having learned nothing.
No the dad of Anna fully paid for the brush it feels very greedy for him to attempt to charge the ex-wife. Anna has nothing to do with op. Her dad is a 3rd party completely and paid for the damage caused by his daughter. Asking the ex-wife to pay fully as well is laughable and he would lose in court since the damages are already paid.
About that last one with the Indian restaurant debacle. The part that killed me with it, besides the obvious entitlement of the Karen Janine, and the being forced to just accept it all along with the verbal abuse, is the smoke fact that it was in regards to OPs celebration and birthday dinner. Not someone else's, not a general get together, IT WAS A PARTY FOR THEM. But yet they weren't allowed to have any choice in their own celebration because HR decided OP needed to consider the other persons feelings and compromise. A compromise that in fact was just doing the exact thing the other person wanted and ALWAYS does. Seems like a slightly odd definition of compromise to me.
As someone who got diagnosed with ASD at 21 I can’t imagine how that poor girl feels knowing it was kept from her and she could’ve had therapy to help her all this time but it was denied in the name of “saving face”. Ignoring a diagnosis doesn’t just make it not exist.
Re: Threesome. So, people pressuring you to murder your baby make you feel more loved than ever before??? The husband lying about using condoms and bossing you around show his true colors. The only thing I can say is RUN, RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN!!!!! EVEN if you have to go to a women's shelter temporarily, RUN!!!! You are being used in every possible way. I'm so sorry you are going through this. Go to a domestic violence shelter. They will help you. It's easy for loving people to say "go to your mom's," but if your mother doesn't love you, it'll never work. A domestic violence shelter have the tools to help you, and let you get back on your feet. You will be both physically and emotionally safe there.
That dude is an absolute moron for having his every need met, even his weird kink and still saying "you're not good enough for me". He's sooooooo going to regret that in 5-10 years. I'm just laughing at how much of a ungrateful dumbass he is. My first ever boyfriend cheated on me and then wanted me back cuz the other girl didn't want him... And 10 years later he started at the same workplace as me and admitted he hasn't had any luck with ladies in those 10 years since, thinking he could get another shot with me... That's what you get for being such a weird flimsy immature guy! Glad all the girls in the world collectively decided to not date his ass after that, perfectly justified if you ask me! Some perfect karma at work!
I feel a bit sorry for OP and her lack of self-respect. Not for the sex but in being so willing to sacrifice all the core parts of herself to appease some guy that just isn't worth it. There are tonnes of guys out there that would kill to have someone so accepting, in tune with their sexuality, smart, warm and wants to be a mum. She needs to take time to see her worth and find out what she truly wants or should want in a partner (kind, respectful, honest, loyal) so she doesn't waste more time with losers
1:26:19 The sister's truth one fr had me mind-boggled like she fr dumped her child off to some other people, lived her happy-go-lucky life for 21 years, and expects everything to be totally ok while telling everyone her own child is her sister. FOR 21 YEARS. straight bugging
I love how they are happy to replace the brush until the price was revealed. that should make it even more important to replace, the other kid didn't brake something super cheap and easy to get
The roommate: = Definitely will Gibbs slap 😂😂😂 ❤❤❤ The Calligraphy brush: I'm an artist, I take apologies in artsupplies. My brushes are a fortune and a half. A gift of art supplies is very inspiring.
A friend loved Chinese food but often felt ill after going to restaurants. She is allergic to MSG which is commonly used in Chinese restaurants. She is from the Philippines and is an amazing cook but likes to eat good food without always doing all the work.
@pamelalaub6204 i love Chinese, but have this same problem. And its unfortunately in most processed foods too, though places are starting to stop putting it in everything. I get migraines and feel horrible after eating it.
As someone who is Nurodivergent with a mother who was convinced that there was nothing wrong with me and refuse to get me tested for it, I feel so sorry for that girl. There were so many places and resources that I could’ve used growing up that I didn’t have access to because I did not have the official diagnosis. She is still convinced that I do not have any form of autism and the only reason she acknowledges that I have ADHD because my therapist sent my doctor a referral to have me tested. And there is a noticeable difference when I am medicated. I always thought I was stupid and that there was something seriously wrong with me because I was so different from my classmate growing up.
Society of markee time stamped his long videos. But seriously dude I've been watching you for months now. Favorite reddit RUclipsr period. Even beat out he who shall not be named
I just discovered Markee about a week ago. Came up in the suggestion algorithm. The AITA narrations are a guilty pleasure of mine, but with all of them on RUclips, there were only two that I could listen to, because the rest of them are so annoying. Either their narration voice is just irritating, or they’re over-the-top flamboyant, or…whatever. I would listen for about a minute, and then nope right out of there. Marker’s got it all: smooth narration voice (the Aussie accent doesn’t hurt), some commentary that isn’t totally cringe, and while I wish that more of them had updates, his, at least, have a fair number of them. The other two have some here and there with updates, but a lot of times the posts will be “old”, there ARE updates on Reddit, but the narrator just doesn’t include them. (People, including me, will go hunting on Reddit and find the updates). And, OMG, Markee actually includes further comments by the OP from questions posters ask them. In case you’re curious, the other two are XO and the *current* Ask Gurl. If you go back about a year and listen to the Ask Gurl narrator of then…. I’m really surprised that Markee doesn’t have more subs.
Guy digging the hole: Just when I thought I'd forgotten the movie Frailty ... 😰 Dude who doesn't think his gf is "wife" material: Quelle surprise. I don't understand why some men are so threatened by self-confident, independent women. When I hear stuff like this, my first thought isn't that this dude is traditional or family oriented, and wants a "virtuous" woman, or whatever they tell themselves. I think: that man has no self confidence and can only bolster his own ego by bringing others down. Weak.
A man went to a fortune teller to ask about the future. The fortune teller sets up the tarot cards and looks confused as she turns one over, "That isn't one of my cards" The man peeks at the card and asks, "Is that a flaming dumpster?"
"It's just pleasant. When I'm down there, I feel safe and calm." Me: oml he's a dwarf Markee seconds later: illuminatii confirmed, he is, in fact, a dwarf Sorry after the tunnel, OP is Elle Woods and needs to find her Emmitt. After her update: YESS THE REFERENCE
I am a machinist. I personally own well over $2000 in measuring tools. The most expensive is around $600. I know people who own more though. I am seriously considering a "workbench" style toolbox and a optical digital microscope. The toolbox is $800 and the microscope is over $1500. (The fancy QA microscopes are over $5000.) Honestly, all quality tools are extremely expensive. And should always be handled with care. Even down to the simplest thing. (No, I don't let people borrow my tools. QA has ones that they can check out.)
My husband has lent out many tools that were never returned. It happened so often that he can't remember who has what. We're in the process of buying new things which will never be loaned out.
Power of Attorney: Go to an attorney & have the attorney draw up a revocation of power of attorney. It's quick & easy. Also, if this "friend" is not relinquishing his powers & wants to be an attorney, tell him you will report him to the bar association & legal boards... with this report against him, he will never be allowed to be an attorney.
My aunt's oldest daughter got pregnant at about 16, and asked her parents to raise her son as their youngest child. Pretty sure he was told, the family knew. I met them a few years ago (they live across the world) and he grew up into a lovely young man, with a nice relationship with his boyfriend.
I feel so bad for ops sister, she was groomed and doesn’t know it, and all the family can do is be happy that’s she’s getting married to “a wonderful man”, if he was wonderful he would not have groomed a child
O/P brush story - I was 100% ready to call him the a-hole before he said that he told his ex-wife how expensive it was. If not, it'd be like putting on $3000 diamond earrings on your kid and the other parent would assume, and rightfully so, they were cheap $15 fakes.
The update that came after this video was made was NUCLEAR. The mother wanted her wife to pay her father back for the brush and she refused which caused a big argument. Then, when the mother wanted the two girls to visit her but they said they were never going back there again, and if the mother wanted to see them they had to stay at the grandparents or a hotel for the weekend. The mother's wife got mad about her spending time away from her for her daughters and thought she should demand the daughters stay at their home. Another big fight ensued. After a month of the 2 daughters blowing their mother off and arguments with her wife, the mother left her wife and filed for divorce. The wife became unhinged and was literally stalking her for a while. Then she backed off and within a week was hooking up with some other woman and told the mother she had been with this other woman since they got together. I guess we know where Ana got her "crazy" from lol.
@@thomasjoseph5876 Exactly. I see the future when OP's ex-wife looks at pics of their daughters Diane and Lily walking across the stage at their high school graduations, pics of the girls celebrating their fresh start in their new states, and walking across the stage at their college graduations, pics of the girls at their weddings, and baby showers with their replacement families (their husbands, friends, and in-laws), pics of the girls with their husbands and their new babies, and not only wonders why Diane and Lily went NC with her, her wife, and her stepdaughters, but also wonders why the girls left her out of those important milestones, and chose to include OP, instead.⚠️
I'm high functioning autistic, I'm 31. My mother knew my entire life and hid it from everyone. I never got help in school, I was bullied mercilessly (my bullies actually tried to set me on fire) I never made friends, I have severe anxiety and ptsd. All of my issues could've been avoided if I had gotten help. Op didn't protect their child, they're just abelist as fuck! They didn't tell her for the same reasons my mum didn't. Cause THEY look at autistic people and think they're disgusting. Because THEY didn't want to admit it. Because THEY didn't want to admit their child was "different" they're abelist and disgusting.
There is a diffrence between hiding something because your ashamed of it and hiding because you don't want your child judged for it both are equally hurtful and damaging for the child. Think about it. What the parents did was wrong and stupid. But they did it with good intentions and it's not fair to judge them in the same light as an asshole who dose it because they think a person is less than for being different.
@@cheekyftoro8962 do you realise how messed up that is? Hiding a childs, anybody's, disability(s) is wrong! There is no good or right way! If you deny and hide yours/your childs/anyones disabilities, you are doing it out if shame. You are doing it to avoid that person getting help. If people dont know how can you get the right money or education or help to do your job properly WITHOUT it becoming detrimental to the person and their disability? Hiding a childs disabilities is not out of love, it's done out of shame. There is no justification and the fact YOU believe there is, well, that says a whole lot more about you than anything else and trust me, it doesnt say anything good.
@@maddydavidsdottir9862 Plenty of people hide their disability or diffrence for other reasons other than sham. For protection to avoid pity unwanted attention because of negative preconceptions other have. Sounds to me like your projecting your own issues with your diffrences and treatment on others. There is a big diffrence between doing something wrong because you genuinely don't know any better or think it is actually helping than doing something wrong for your own gain.
You and your ex have LONG been over. She screwed up and has had a hard time dealing with the regret and how she caused the breakup. You have a wife that you love and cherish. As much as she says she’s ok with it, trust me…she isn’t. She’s trying to spare your feelings. There’s no guarantee that your ex won’t also try some sneaky bullshit on you while you’re there. You have no obligation to her and I am annoyed with your sister for trying to guilt you into agreeing to it.
As for the tunnel guy, it genuinely sounds like OCD. Maybe, if its affecting his daily life, he should get therapy. There are many forms of ocd and this is one of them.
My parents hid my adhd diagnosis from me. I finally found out when I was 26. I AM SO BITTER. I never knew why I was struggling so much, I have so much self loathing because I didn't understand how everyone could function in life and I couldn't. There was so much unnecessary shame.
The POA story.... yeah, you don't need that to go to law school. Or to do that for anyone that is perfectly capable of doing their own anything legally (opening bank accounts, accessing legal documents.) OP has NO idea what this friend could have done. Set up a will maybe? Set up extra identity docs and be OP?
"I asked for it" and "she gave permission" are, in fact, not two mutually exclusive statements. That said, even if she did give permission, the fact is, you broke it. You're responsible for replacing it properly and in a reasonable amount of time.
I have a nephew who is autistic he has asparagus syndrome he is highly functioning .. I use to carry an acoustic guitar around with for all family gatherings. I would play songs and different siblings would sing. My kids would sing songs. My nephew was about 5 years old when I was playing the guitar and he asked if I could show him. He had just started talking in front of the family but he had been talking to his family. I showed him from my side and told him that I am left handed so he would probably have to play the other way. I can play it right handed but only a little bit. So I played the song he asked me to play and then I handed him the guitar and he sat on my knee so I could show him how to hold the guitar and fingers on the strings. Five minutes later he played the song fully. I showed him several different songs and he played them after I played it twice and he was completely on point with what I played. I had a cheaper guitar in my truck so I went out and got it for him.. I had a few packages of strings in the case for the guitar so I put everything in the case for him.. I told him that I would come back in a few days. I had a few electric guitars and a couple cheap amplifiers that I had picked up from a friend. I gave him a cheap guitar and amp . 12 years later he had the number one song on the radio for 6 weeks. He is still playing music and living his life. He got married a while back and he has a son who is 5 now. His son is not like him he can play music but he’s not autistic. He is just a normal little boy who has been around his dad playing music since he was born.
You should always tell children about their medical conditions. They can process things a lot better than others think. ESPECIALLY, autistic people. We are not stupid, but we just think a bit differently.
As a kid my brother broke 6 of my expensive colored pencils. My parents blamed me and told me for it. I stopped drawing after that. I sometimes draw but not as much as I used to.
Power of Attorney (POA) report him immediately to the school he has applied to. He doesn't need to hold a POA to prove he has 'experience' for his application. You are being deceived & taken for a ride. REPORT HIM NOW & REVOKE THE POA!!!
Omg their most expensive brush is $11,351.79usd. I was figuring theirs was going to be one of the more expensive but it was actually one of the lower prices from the artist.
Story #1 Theft is a very serious crime and the consequences are just as serious. There is no way around it. In court you will also be ordered to make restitution,,on an equal par.
Gosh, the dying ex story has me feeling some sort of way. If my partner were able to act so heartlessly as to be like "well she's dying but I want her to die with me mad" I don't think I'd be able to be okay with it. Cheating is awful and i know first hand. Empathy and compassion are very important to me. I'm so proud he let her pass with those joyful memories.
Yeah if you destroy something, you have to replace it with something of equal value. Not the cheap alternative. Also don’t let people borrow things you aren’t willing to have broken. And as a painter it is not exactly easy to break a brush, even a cheap one
In the story Diane didn't allow her sister Ana to borrow it. Ana took it without permission and destroyed it. I always took good care of my things but my younger sisters always took them without permission and abused them.
OP NTA. After hearing about the dad and his evil wife, I dont really have sympathy for them. Especially after hearing he kicked his mom out of her house do wife and her family could live there. The house is now OP's and those freeloaders are know getting Karma.
Props to OP’s dad for recognizing quickly that OP didn’t get the same treatment as girlfriend’s spawn. She’s obviously a narc and raising her brat as one too.
I found out at 17 or 18 that I was autistic and it helped me but it didn’t really make life all that much better. My mom and stepfather don’t seem to want to really learn about it, I don’t have many things that would be seen as weird or anything. Although my family seem to latch on to my “imperfections”, such as loving to read and being unable to communicate or keep friends. A couple of days ago I also went to my moms art show, I didn’t know to many people so I was reading. Out of nowhere I was starting to get over stimulated so I started to listen to music; I never do this it was the first time I ever listened to music while reading. I needed a way to block out most of the sound, then he asked me to stop; I took one out but later put it back in as I needed the feeling of blocking everything out. After he apologized but when I tried to explain he just blew me off; sometimes I just want to scream, I hardly do anything that is Deemed “unusual” and I wish that they would just except the few quirks that I have. Sometimes it hurts, other times I wish I could just slam a book about autism on a table and demand they read it, I really wish they could just understand me more. Sorry for the rant the incident at the art show just got to me and hearing about what the parents did just got to me. Have a great day and if you have advise I would really appreciate it, thank you 😊.
I wish I could think of advice for getting your parents to understand but actually what you said about slamming a book about autism down and insisting they learn is probably the best way tbh. I'm autistic+ADHD, my husband is autistic, my kids are all either autistic or ADHD, so our household has always been adapted to our needs, not neurotypical ones. Our solution to the art show would have been to give options: skip the show completely; attend at the quietest part for a short time only; attend but wearing noise cancelling headphones/earbuds; attend but go outside/to a quiet room whenever needed; attend with noise cancelling stuff and a pocket full of fidget toys; or any other combination. You tried your best to find a way to keep your parents happy but they're expecting you to be neurotypical and that's just not an option. "Masking" to blend in with neurotypicals can be useful but it's really hard on us and can cause lasting damage, so it's more of a "if absolutely no other options are available, only for a short time, then have a long rest quietly afterwards" thing. I hope things improve for you.
@@minkg8178 Thanks for the reply, I just saw it; it's better but mostly because I haven't been around them much. They work more know and I don't have to really interact with them to much, but thanks again.
sharing med info NO REF LETTER... HE WAS SCAMMED... AN APPLICANT IS NOT TO PRACTICE at having a power of attorney NEITHER one of them know what a POA IS
Story about the girl with the boyfriend who said she's not wife material made me think about Kate Howard, specifically the way she was portrayed in Six: maybe this time he'll be different, I thought this time he'd be different, but it's never, ever different
Alright I have to chime in on the “hiding autism” story. I had similar circumstances with my ADHD, but the thing was; there was nowhere near as much resources as there are now when I was a kid. I’m 27 and only just yesterday started my evaluation for ADHD. My parents had an inkling, but our family never had the money to afford treatment. We didn’t even start discussing the possibility of autism or ADHD until I was 19, and in college. It revealed I genuinely wasn’t doing okay and both my mom and I worked together to educate ourselves. She admitted to me she always knew I might have had something but she never wanted to say anything because I never had an official diagnosis. Instead; she supported me and my sister. I love my mom, very much. I’m so glad for OP and his wife for growing and I genuinely hope their family has peace and happiness.
I agree with everything you've said Markee. You don't sabotage what you have if it's as good as what's claimed. It's not worth potentially damaging what you have currently.
I went through a similar thing to the husband with the "pregnant" wife with a friend. She started manically talking about something that was not true, but I knew it was something she wanted. We were children and I remember the shock and fear you feel, like your stomach falls in a really bad way when you realize there's something wrong. She got help and now she's functional and has a happy life
OP NTA. Like one of the commenters said, you handled this situation so maturely and had a lot of patience. You also kindly asked. It was good that your dad noticed things weren't right and that you calmly repeated what gf said to you. If I were your dad I would mad at gf and would be proud of you. Definitely would take you out for father daughter time to fix this.
Oh man that sounds like something my mom would do. I have ADHD (my teacher caught it) even though my mom was a teacher. Oh and I'm dyslexic. My mom was one of the best teachers in the county we lived in. But she couldn't teach me as a kid and still cant because of her craziness and limitations. She made my conditions worse & I learned to fear her. Once I started to figure out my ADHD on my own, things change in a great way as far as learning goes. The relationship with my mom, permanently damaged. I highly doubt these parents are going to be able to heal the damage with their daughter completely. One day she might be able to forgive. She will never forget. The trust that they have with her is probably depleted down to like 15% or less. It's going to stay that way for a LLLOOOONNNGGGGGG time.
On that Starbucks incident, the best response would have been to look the woman in the eye and ask her, "So, you are refusing a minor, who is in your care, food and drink?"
See I married a woman who put out on the first date and she was extremely adventurous in the bedroom and she is the life of the party. She is also a great woman who is a great mother friend and sister. She is Bi as well so it’s a very good thing. That guy probably blew the best thing he ever had. He will probably marry some girl who is in the church all the time and he will cheat on her with hookers
The 5 years guy who didn't want to marry OP. My husband had things he wanted to try. I told him after 6 months don't ask me. Everytime he'd ask me I'd panic. I never dated a guy. I was to afraid of them. So he was my first. He said the reason he fell in love was my adventurous spirit and willingness to try things other women had told him no about. You can find a guy that respects you and loves your adventurous spirit.
Story # 1 - Yeah, this really hits home for me when people say, "It's just..." a brush, etc. I'm into fountain pens. They can cost from a couple of hundred dollars up into the thousands. The mom's saying it's just a brush is like saying to me someone took a Montblanc Meisterstuck (over $2,000), broke it, and then wanted to replace it with a Bic. I mean, it's just a pen, right?
Exactly. Not only should OP's daughter go full NC with their mother, stepmother, and stepsisters, they should also move in their friends or paternal relatives until they graduate from high school. After that, the should move to other states, and grow their own families consisting of wonderful, genuine friends and boyfriends whose families are good people. They can invite OP to visit/hang out with them in their new states any time they want.
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My mom once used one of my GOOD EXPENSIVE watercolor brushes to apply rubber cement, and let it dry. Mine was no where NEAR that expensive, (it was a $20 brush and I CRIED when it was ruined, my mom felt horrible that she didn't know it was an expensive brush, and replaced it for me.)
I can't even imagine a brush that expensive!
Cheap brushes are murder to paint with! I hate spending so much money on brushes, but the experience of painting with a good quality brush is so worth it!
@@Rabbithavenstitchery The brushes have actually been REALLY GOOD.
@@RabbithavenstitcheryTrue! Seeing as paintbrushes are very reusable (when treated right lol), it can make a lot of sense to splurge a bit on them if you’ll get good use out of them! I have a couple I’ve spent around $10 on so I could buy ones with really small tips for my miniatures.
I wish theses longer videos had chapters
I’m torn on that cuz while it does make some things easier, I always mess up and go back to the beginning.
Amen! I hated trying to find story 2!
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Same, but I think that’s the point. A lot of content with minimal work.
Would be very helpful
God... I remember the "throuple" story. That wasn't a poly relationship. She wasn't an equal partner. She was a live in bang maid.
I'd always heard that situation described derisively as a couple having a toy, and that they usually eventually get bored with it.
Teacher groomed and married sister story - OP should keep in contact with sister telling her about all the great things they are doing out in the world, show sister what she is missing out on, then she will see what sort of person her husband is and hopefully realise what a mistake she has made before she is trapped with a baby.
Op kept in touch an eventually got her sister out. Hubby tried to force her to get the implant removed.
Story 1, congratulations bio mom. You successfully taught your daughters that you should force people to “bury the hatchet” to suit your needs rather than seek justice. Your children now know that you will never fight for them. You don’t have their backs.
I have a friends that was known in school for “seducing her teacher” at sixteen. I remember telling her (at around 23) that she was the kid and that he manipulated her. The classic “my marriage sucks, my wife doesn’t give me attention” excuses that are super appropriate to tel a child let alone your student. She told me in the last year or so (26 years old) that she’d been working through it and realised it wasn’t her fault. Took a decade of some of the most formative years to realise it. That shit fucks you up guy or gal. These teachers are predators and should be treated as such.
Exactly, that was great of you to point that out. No child sefuces an adult, I have heard a pedo say that about a 4 year old .
"AITA for hiding my daughter's autism from her?"
Yes. 1000% yes. The daughter is completely right in that she was bullied ANYWAY. They screwed up BIG TIME. It is good that the OP took that to heart and is trying to be better.
My younger cousin, (about a decade younger) was clearly different, and it became more obvious the older she got. My grandpa eventually revealed to me that my aunt and uncle took her to a doctor, and she'd been diagnosed as autistic. I was like, yeah, that makes sense, how did she take it? And then he told me that they hadn't told her, and might not tell her. He saw less of a problem with it, because he's from a generation where we didn't talk about this stuff, but I was heartbroken for her. In the years that followed, she would say negative things about herself, basically calling herself crazy, weird, and clearly confused and upset. Then I started noticing marks on her arms, and realized she was self harming. It really screwed her up to jot know what was wrong with her. I would try to gently ask about if her parents had taken her to doctors, and while they did give her the meds, they still hadn't told her. I talked to her sisters about it a lot, and eventually, her parents finally told her. But I never forgot how much it hurt to see her hurting, and I wish I had spoken up and told her the truth, instead of just trying to avoid a fight.
How Western of you. OP is isn't in the US, and I'd bet my last 500$ they're where I am. You know what an autism spectrum disorder diagnosis does here? It gets you shut out from a large swath of career paths, and even University. There's no such thing as meds or therapy for ADHD here, and no such thing as OT therapy, much less accommodation in school. They were lucky to find books for her, and give her the minimal support available. It's irritating as hell, as an Autistic adult from the US with ADHD comorbid to look around and see kids in my neighborhood who desperately need support and know there is none, but damn, what do you suggest my neighbors do? Move? It's not that easy, either.
Yes!!!! Hiding a key part of who they are? Horrible. I think it comes from stigma. "If they don't know she's autistic, they won't bully her". As if the bullying was due to a diagnosis.
So many abled and neurotypical people don't understand that disability is identity. It's part of who you are. It requires you to adapt in different ways. You can be proud of who you are as a disabled person and understand why the world is inaccessible to you.
You can't be proud of who you are until you know who you are. They took that away from her.
It's a difference of neurotype. It exists regardless of formal paperwork, doctor interventions or "offical" diagnosis. You cannot simply ignore it and hope it goes away.
OP and wife are complete idiots for thinking hiding it would be best. Even though I am nothing near a therapist or otherwise expert, it makes absolute sense that someone should know what's going on with them. But even if it didn't make sense, the wife was an absolute MORON (and OP didn't miss his chance to shine either) because of a simple phrase: "her therapist was excited to tell her"
The smart person did the thinking for them, all they had to do was let it happen, but no, the parents knew best. And now their kid is traumatised AND hates them. Congrats.
She wanted him to apologize for his tone when she disappeared at 4 A.M. with their child? Why is everyone overlooking this?
@@MissAyame89 it's his kid and his wife. They are in relationship and he deserves honesty.
@@MissAyame89Yea I can tell you don’t have kids😂😂😂
I feel like this was probably just an in the moment thing.While the op had every right to interagate her, most people will get defensive when interagated.Doesn’t make it right but I understand that thought process.
Zero accountability from the XX side of the relationship. You surprised?
@@mgaus if you meant female. dont be dumb. everyone can avoid accountability even males. even in this video theres a male not taking accountability.
That hiding income thing is a deal breaker for me. A good deed doesnt justify such dishonesty considering what it COULD have been. And yes, i would recommend such curiosity as even the most perfect person can do horrible things.
And honestly her story sounds like nonsense. She's setting up gardens in other people's backyards, walking all the way with a stroller to a grocery store at 4:00 a.m. to wholesale (where does she keep her product, on top of the baby?) or is she wholesaling to the people whose garden is in their own backyard?... I smell BS. He had every right to ask her what she was doing and he had every right to have concern in his voice when he did. He sounds like a total pushover. I think his wife found the perfect doormat that she can gaslight into allowing herself to do whatever she wants. She even made herself a total victim in her lie. "I was just trying to buy you a present because I love you so much". No, that's not what's going on here.
Sounds like you’ve lived a lame life without love.
I was an exchange student in Japan for a couple of years in high school. The father of the host family I stayed with is a world renowned instructor in Kendo the ancient art of sword fighting. I received instruction while I was in Japan and when I returned to the United States I was given a set of 700 year old Samurai swords. I had them appraised for my homeowners insurance and was shocked that they were valued at over $100,000 dollars for the 2 swords and the Tanto fighting knife.
There is a HUGE difference between the quality of brushes of different costs. I'm a painter myself, who works with miniatures but still. I have worked with brushes that cost $5 from wal mart. I have also used brushes that cost hundreds of dollars. My current assortment of brushes that I use is a mix of 2 different brush sets that costs a total of nearly $1000. The brushes are different hairs, lengths and makes. Half my brushes were imported from Japan, the other half were imported from France. Ana had absolutely no business destroying that brush, and absolutely should be replacing it. I know that a proper, high quality fude calligraphy brush is insanely expensive, and is several times the cost of my entire brush collection. DO NOT touch an artists brushes.
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No doubt. My wife and I do a variety of art for hobby and business. Up until we started lapidary, painting (anything involved with brushes) was the most expensive. Quality of materials and tools have a wide range, but like the majority of things in life, you get what you pay for. The results definitely show. I feel for the op in this story. That brush is a one of kind piece of art. Forged by an artisan with hundreds of years of generational knowledge. It’s replacement won’t be the same.
Story 1 nta I've heard this one yesterday. You break it you buy it.
The parents who hid the autism diagnosis were major AHs. As someone who didn’t get diagnosed with adhd until 22, without the label, the words that I felt internally about myself were “lazy” “weird” “loser”. Ignoring the label does not make neurodivergent traits go away.
Having a label doesn’t do anything either 🤷♀️
@@ShanaLawson It absolutely does, though. I was diagnosed with ADHD and dyscalculia in my 30s.
All through school and in my jobs after college I thought I was lazy, scatter-brained, stupid. I couldn’t figure out why no matter how hard I tried I struggled to do basic math, had trouble counting out change if the register didn’t tell me what it was first, why I failed my math classes. I thought I was weird or stupid for not being able to tell left from right or struggling to read an analog clock.
I looked at other people and couldn’t figure out why they didn’t struggle with getting to places on time or remembering appointments and I didn’t know what was wrong with me.
My difficulties with all these things contributed to my anxiety and feelings of worthlessness.
Once I was diagnosed it was like a lightbulb came on. It’s not that I’m worthless or stupid or lazy, it’s that my brain is just wired differently.
I was able to get medical treatment for the ADHD, therapy for ADHD and dyscalculia.
I was able to connect with other people with these disorders online (especially other women because they tend to present differently for us than in boys/men) and find other common experiences and coping strategies.
I was able to Google treatments and coping strategies.
It’s made an *enormous* difference being able to put a name to it.
All my life I’ve wondered “what’s wrong with me?! Why am I not normal?”
Turns out nothing is “wrong” with me, my brain is just wired differently and it makes some things more difficult. But now I know why and I can do some things about it.
@@ShanaLawson having a label for me has been amazing. There’s times that I will be in full adhd paralysis, and in the past, I would attribute that to laziness and be very down on myself. With my label, I understand that it’s my brain chemistry and not me being lazy or useless like I used to think. I’ve also been able to advocate to myself to doctors which in turn has helped me to slowly improve my symptoms. Diagnosis’s also help give students who need them accommodations to help them succeed. Labels for neurological disorders are so much more then just a title.
@@Annie_Annie__ I’m so glad your diagnosis improved your life in such a positive way. Neurotypical people don’t realize how hard it is for us. We’re not lazy and just trying to get meds to keep us focused. I also fully agree on the whole ADHD being different in girls thing. I got misdiagnosed as not having ADHD at 7 because I was able to sit still despite showing many other traits.
@@oliviapanzica8833 Having my stuff labeled hasn’t changed crap for me. Happy it’s worked out for you.
With the Poly story, not one mention of condoms not being 100% effective as well! Also when he says he'll "Pull out" also not effective...
All it takes is being a moment too late. A small amount of ejaculation can have enough sperm to get a woman pregnant even if he "pulls out.".
Absolutely no doubt on the cost of a good brush. There are documentaries about making quality brushes both for calligraphy and for painting. France and Japan both have artisans making brushes in the traditional way and once you see the skill and workmanship involved the price is no suprise.
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Would you buy one for your teenager THEN allow that teenager to shuffle it here and there for clout? Not saying you said this btw.
My oldest has an auditory processing disability. He had to be taught differently. He could not learn through lectures. All throughout school he required a different approach to absorb the same stuff. He lettered in cross country running and graduated on the silver honor roll. He's the nicest person you could meet.
Thank you for advocating for his accommodations and rights. It's so important to have parents who do that.
And I'm sure knowing why he was being taught differently helped him understand that he wasn't stupid or lazy, but that his brain simply works differently.
@@cre-k8-ive the school had their counselor there at the IEP meeting. They tried to get me to medicate him with ritalin, so he would sit and focus better. When I told them that my son wasn't going to be medicated to force him to conform to their standardized way of teaching, they got indignant. He would focus better. I told them that this was their problem, not his. They needed to teach him differently so he actually learned, not just sat still and coasted by. They didn't like that, but they changed for him.
I can be quite the KAREN when I need to be.
The story about the digger makes me happy. My dad started a mechanic and bought his first tractor which was a backhoe when I was 9. I wanted to try so bad that my dad gave me the keys and pointed me in the direction where I could figure out all the controls and dig a hole. I dug 5 holes. Lol, dad made me go back later and fill them in, but it was the start I needed, and I have dug everything from leach fields to foundations of mansions in the mountains of Colorado. It is the best feeling to be able to move the earth.
"The couple that pinboards their conspiracy theories with string together stays together."
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This quote wins the internet today.
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Thank you, #CharlotteLucas
As someone with Austism, a whole hearted frick you, I don't know what I'd do if my parents didn't tell me
You'd likely be living in my part of Asia, where telling anyone in the school system will get you out of University and a swath of career paths, or worse, treated like you're mentally ill. So... Congratulations on your privilege.
I hope your holding out well.
I sometimes wonder if I have autism or something.
If it's not a problem, what was your personal experience?
I have no one to ask to that's not Google :(
@@sopadumacacoumadelicia5 honestly it's just some communication issues, seeing things a bit differently, I don't get humor, honestly Sheldon from Big Bang Theory is a good example of someone who's autistic(despite the show saying he isn't). We need routines, surprises or disruptions in said routines can be debilitating, the sad part is, when there's a breakdown it's just because function has stopped functioning, we're people, our brains just function differently than others
I can’t imagine how frustrating and scary that would be.
I am a late diagnosis person and my mom told me when I told her I was being tested for adhd and autism that she had thought about taking me to get tested all my life but thought if she ignored my bad grades in most subjects, skipping school, my odd and very specifik hobbies, yelled at me for stimming, and forced to me fit in her mold of normal that it would go away. I just about smacked her across her face, only when she met a man whos daughter has adhd and autism and met her and like her, she started to accept me, thsnkfully I do not spesk to my mother anymore went nc almost 2y ago
wow ruining her future for something she broke? more like a learned lesson for life.
Damn that power of attorney thing. That dude was definitely tricking him. Already breached confidantally before even being a lawyer
the update at 2:14:30 (where op realizes they might be a trans-girl) made me smile. Although my first reaction to their initial post was "maybe op is somewhere on the asexual spectrum?" . They can still be but that's beside the point, I'm just happy for op that everything was resolved :)
Yep, glad OP is coming to realize who they truly are.
Always nice to read happy stuff
I feel bad for the girl who had no idea this was coming yeah it's happy for op but every time I hear these stories I know it's just going to end like hey I'm trans see you
So stupid.
You people will be reviled as cultist monsters in the history books someday.
The roomate story omggg I knew she loved him back, those boyfriend jokes were a clear giveaway, I'm so happy for them it's so adorable
My friend is a divorce lawyer and he loves uncovering "escape funds" during discovery half that money ends up in the spouse's hands since judges hate when money is hidden during a divorce.
Fucking hell I just hope none of those relationships were abusive
@@frogking6416 from what we've discussed he doesn't take cases which involve abuse he takes cases that have to do with cheating or stealing, a lot of "Escape funds" involve hiding/stealing money.
It wasn't hidden for divorce though. It's hidden to be able to run if needed. Like leave in the middle of the night and get a hotel. Too many women are financially stuck in abusive situations. I know there are plenty of women just trying to hide money but there is a need for that strategy to be safe.
Well if they parented right they wouldn't be in this mess. They're the ones ruining the relationship by trying to let the brat that broke it get away with it. If at seventeen you can't anticipate that consequences may come back to bite you in the ass without you seeing it coming then it's your own damn fault. The real world won't care about your immaturity.
They didn't even have her a IEP...the bare minimum they could do to help her while hiding her dx. I see this as abuse because masking physically proven to harm to brain and the effects of that harms other organs such as heart from the constant anxiety it causes, which causes adrenaline which damages your heart. This isn't something little. Their are healthy autistics but they was treated like humans with rights as children the rest of us have much more comorbid dx because of the trama parents and others caused.
Exactly this
Exactly this. My therapist taught me to "mask" granted, I was born in the 90s when autism was still hidden and seen as "bad" but my therapist taught me how to mask and it's damaged my mental health. It ruined relationships, familial ties and friendships. I could never understand why I wasn't like other girls and why people didn't understand me. It's left me with a slew of mental health issues and even now, at 31, I still have to stop and ask my partner "is it me? Or is it the other person?" I never know if someone is attacking me verbally, being mean or rude or if I'm just interpreting it that way. I still can't function outside very well and have to physically stop myself having breakdowns when I get over stimulated. It's affected my physical health too, cause of my anxiety and ocd and sensory issues, I ended up self harming as a "mask" instead of a meltdown. I've developed a skin picking disorder (associated with my anxiety and ocd) I have severe ptsd and I'm developing severe agoraphobia cause even just the thought of leaving the home and dealing with noise and too many people has me breaking down and having panic attacks. If my mum hadn't been such a narcissist, abelist and elitist, maybe I wouldn't be half as bad as I am now. It's worse as an adult cause you're literally just expected to "deal with it" I'm not joking, I moved to the uk 11 years ago from norway and my dr wanted me to go back to therapy. My therapist did 3 appointments and, verbatim, said "you have wxyz, go deal with it" that was 8 years ago. I still don't understand myself properly :-/ dra actually joke "well I understand but you're 31, you've coped so far. I'm sure you can cope a bit more"
@@maddydavidsdottir9862 the separation from your own identity is so real and so bad. And the imposter syndrome that usually follows because "I'm okay enough sometimes so it's just in my head".
Realizing "in your head" is a real thing not "making it up". You are your brain so when your brain is different or hurt it effects your whole entire body and life because it controls everything. Mental health issues should be top priority of health care because all the physical symptoms and conditions that they cause if untreated or treated wrong.
I hope you get to have a happy unmasking journey and find out who you actually are and what you actually like. I am still in my journey now and the things I've found I did because I thought they was my hobbies was actually me masking to seem "normal" and that's why I'd be stressed and need breaks after them. Things you like are supposed to be the break and destress you.
Preach... the sooner people realize what stress does to us the sooner we can have an environment where we don't have to be stressed.
Wasn't there a serial killer who used a tunnel and crawlspace to hide people's remains...? My mind just goes there...
Yep. And he only got caught when it was full and he started leaving the bodies other places...
Story One: ruining their relationship? I'd say that the whole stealing thing did it. Also I love how the mother is all "I'll do what I need to fix it" except what the daughters are saying will fix it.
the brush was paid for, by the dad of anna. I'm not sure why he even asked for the mom to pay for it afterword's other than to extort money.
@@cw3598 You're unsure why OP would ask the person who stole and maliciously broke something that was a limited custom made gift from his parents to replace the thing they stole and broke with something of the same quality and value? Like if your car is stolen and crashed into a wall, culprit fully admits to doing it are you going to go "oh well. I paid for it so I have to buy a new one myself. After all I don't want to extort the person who destroyed my property." No. No you are not. Actions have consequences. At 17 those consequences are more severe. You break it. You buy it.
No, he knew what happened already and the dad of Anna paid for it. Why would he try to get the mom of Anna to pay for it as well.
@@cw3598 Because even if Dad paid for it. The moms, by dismissing thier daughter's actions and the importance of their other childs belongings and interest created a chasm of distrust between all of the children. No one trusts any one in that household anymore. Them being forced to pay, because they are still refusing to make the actual culprit pay for it, shows at least a nominal commitment to doing the right thing after fucking up. Both Dads are blameless in this, and have every right to request repayment from the two overseeing adults who A) refuse to let the person responsible for the damage pay for it. B) Have a direct responsibility overall the children in the house's action and thus have shared responsibility for damage caused in their home. C) Initial agreed to pay for damages then refused based solely on cost. While fully admitting to not being properly vigilant of the situation.
They fucked up as much a step sis and need to take responsibility properly. No letting someone else cover the cost so they can continue the cycle of favoritism having learned nothing.
No the dad of Anna fully paid for the brush it feels very greedy for him to attempt to charge the ex-wife. Anna has nothing to do with op. Her dad is a 3rd party completely and paid for the damage caused by his daughter. Asking the ex-wife to pay fully as well is laughable and he would lose in court since the damages are already paid.
About that last one with the Indian restaurant debacle. The part that killed me with it, besides the obvious entitlement of the Karen Janine, and the being forced to just accept it all along with the verbal abuse, is the smoke fact that it was in regards to OPs celebration and birthday dinner. Not someone else's, not a general get together, IT WAS A PARTY FOR THEM. But yet they weren't allowed to have any choice in their own celebration because HR decided OP needed to consider the other persons feelings and compromise. A compromise that in fact was just doing the exact thing the other person wanted and ALWAYS does. Seems like a slightly odd definition of compromise to me.
If it was some expensive phone, they'd understand that it's precious, but people like to think that art is cheap
As someone who got diagnosed with ASD at 21 I can’t imagine how that poor girl feels knowing it was kept from her and she could’ve had therapy to help her all this time but it was denied in the name of “saving face”. Ignoring a diagnosis doesn’t just make it not exist.
Ok the roommates finally getting together MADE ME SO HAPPY OMG
"My mom says I'm not the asshole".
Hmmmm I wonder why women his age won't date him?
😂😂😂
Re: Threesome. So, people pressuring you to murder your baby make you feel more loved than ever before??? The husband lying about using condoms and bossing you around show his true colors. The only thing I can say is RUN, RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN!!!!! EVEN if you have to go to a women's shelter temporarily, RUN!!!! You are being used in every possible way. I'm so sorry you are going through this. Go to a domestic violence shelter. They will help you. It's easy for loving people to say "go to your mom's," but if your mother doesn't love you, it'll never work. A domestic violence shelter have the tools to help you, and let you get back on your feet. You will be both physically and emotionally safe there.
three and a half hours Markee !! ... wow this is a marathon
Not wife material? You are exactly what I got with my wife of 20+ years and I am delighted. She is exactly what I wanted!
That dude is an absolute moron for having his every need met, even his weird kink and still saying "you're not good enough for me". He's sooooooo going to regret that in 5-10 years. I'm just laughing at how much of a ungrateful dumbass he is. My first ever boyfriend cheated on me and then wanted me back cuz the other girl didn't want him... And 10 years later he started at the same workplace as me and admitted he hasn't had any luck with ladies in those 10 years since, thinking he could get another shot with me... That's what you get for being such a weird flimsy immature guy! Glad all the girls in the world collectively decided to not date his ass after that, perfectly justified if you ask me! Some perfect karma at work!
I feel a bit sorry for OP and her lack of self-respect. Not for the sex but in being so willing to sacrifice all the core parts of herself to appease some guy that just isn't worth it.
There are tonnes of guys out there that would kill to have someone so accepting, in tune with their sexuality, smart, warm and wants to be a mum.
She needs to take time to see her worth and find out what she truly wants or should want in a partner (kind, respectful, honest, loyal) so she doesn't waste more time with losers
I'm so happy tunnel story was in here. It's probably my favorite reddit story. I hope tunnel guy never gives up digging
He will have to give up digging when the tunnel inevitably collapses onto him and kills him.
I knew it would be expensive. The way they make those brushes is amazing they use the finest hairs and selected by hand
1:26:19 The sister's truth one fr had me mind-boggled like she fr dumped her child off to some other people, lived her happy-go-lucky life for 21 years, and expects everything to be totally ok while telling everyone her own child is her sister. FOR 21 YEARS. straight bugging
I love how they are happy to replace the brush until the price was revealed. that should make it even more important to replace, the other kid didn't brake something super cheap and easy to get
Taking someone out to a restaurant they are allergic to for their birthday is like slapping someone in the face and asking why they're mad about it
The roommate: = Definitely will Gibbs slap 😂😂😂 ❤❤❤
The Calligraphy brush: I'm an artist, I take apologies in artsupplies. My brushes are a fortune and a half. A gift of art supplies is very inspiring.
The allergy one was wildddd, how are they gonna call OP the AH for being allergic to basically a whole restaurant
A friend loved Chinese food but often felt ill after going to restaurants. She is allergic to MSG which is commonly used in Chinese restaurants. She is from the Philippines and is an amazing cook but likes to eat good food without always doing all the work.
@pamelalaub6204 i love Chinese, but have this same problem.
And its unfortunately in most processed foods too, though places are starting to stop putting it in everything.
I get migraines and feel horrible after eating it.
As someone who is Nurodivergent with a mother who was convinced that there was nothing wrong with me and refuse to get me tested for it, I feel so sorry for that girl. There were so many places and resources that I could’ve used growing up that I didn’t have access to because I did not have the official diagnosis. She is still convinced that I do not have any form of autism and the only reason she acknowledges that I have ADHD because my therapist sent my doctor a referral to have me tested. And there is a noticeable difference when I am medicated. I always thought I was stupid and that there was something seriously wrong with me because I was so different from my classmate growing up.
Society of markee time stamped his long videos. But seriously dude I've been watching you for months now. Favorite reddit RUclipsr period. Even beat out he who shall not be named
I just discovered Markee about a week ago. Came up in the suggestion algorithm. The AITA narrations are a guilty pleasure of mine, but with all of them on RUclips, there were only two that I could listen to, because the rest of them are so annoying.
Either their narration voice is just irritating, or they’re over-the-top flamboyant, or…whatever. I would listen for about a minute, and then nope right out of there.
Marker’s got it all: smooth narration voice (the Aussie accent doesn’t hurt), some commentary that isn’t totally cringe, and while I wish that more of them had updates, his, at least, have a fair number of them. The other two have some here and there with updates, but a lot of times the posts will be “old”, there ARE updates on Reddit, but the narrator just doesn’t include them. (People, including me, will go hunting on Reddit and find the updates).
And, OMG, Markee actually includes further comments by the OP from questions posters ask them.
In case you’re curious, the other two are XO and the *current* Ask Gurl. If you go back about a year and listen to the Ask Gurl narrator of then….
I’m really surprised that Markee doesn’t have more subs.
@@GrumpyOldFart2Mark Narrations, Lost Genre, Markee, and Connor (Markee industrys) are my favorites to listen to. :)
@@MysticMae21 Yes. My go to’s now are here, Narrations, and Connor. I dropped the other ones.
Guy digging the hole: Just when I thought I'd forgotten the movie Frailty ... 😰
Dude who doesn't think his gf is "wife" material: Quelle surprise. I don't understand why some men are so threatened by self-confident, independent women. When I hear stuff like this, my first thought isn't that this dude is traditional or family oriented, and wants a "virtuous" woman, or whatever they tell themselves. I think: that man has no self confidence and can only bolster his own ego by bringing others down. Weak.
Quelle surprise? Or ‘cue surprise’? Like, as a director in a film gives actors ‘cues’.
@@doloresreynolds8145 Well I meant it sarcastically as the french expression "what a surprise" but your take would also work. 🙂
A man went to a fortune teller to ask about the future.
The fortune teller sets up the tarot cards and looks confused as she turns one over, "That isn't one of my cards"
The man peeks at the card and asks, "Is that a flaming dumpster?"
lmao!
Hmm... I don't get it lol
"It's just pleasant. When I'm down there, I feel safe and calm."
Me: oml he's a dwarf
Markee seconds later: illuminatii confirmed, he is, in fact, a dwarf
Sorry after the tunnel, OP is Elle Woods and needs to find her Emmitt.
After her update: YESS THE REFERENCE
I am a machinist. I personally own well over $2000 in measuring tools. The most expensive is around $600. I know people who own more though.
I am seriously considering a "workbench" style toolbox and a optical digital microscope. The toolbox is $800 and the microscope is over $1500. (The fancy QA microscopes are over $5000.)
Honestly, all quality tools are extremely expensive. And should always be handled with care. Even down to the simplest thing.
(No, I don't let people borrow my tools. QA has ones that they can check out.)
My husband has lent out many tools that were never returned. It happened so often that he can't remember who has what. We're in the process of buying new things which will never be loaned out.
Power of Attorney: Go to an attorney & have the attorney draw up a revocation of power of attorney. It's quick & easy. Also, if this "friend" is not relinquishing his powers & wants to be an attorney, tell him you will report him to the bar association & legal boards... with this report against him, he will never be allowed to be an attorney.
My aunt's oldest daughter got pregnant at about 16, and asked her parents to raise her son as their youngest child. Pretty sure he was told, the family knew. I met them a few years ago (they live across the world) and he grew up into a lovely young man, with a nice relationship with his boyfriend.
2:00:10 my first reaction is "Are they actually half-siblings without anyone having said anything?"
Nta. The stepdaughter needs to replace what she broke. With the same exact thing. No questions
I feel so bad for ops sister, she was groomed and doesn’t know it, and all the family can do is be happy that’s she’s getting married to “a wonderful man”, if he was wonderful he would not have groomed a child
My mom always told me to keep money separate from my spouse. Because you never know what's going to happen.
O/P brush story - I was 100% ready to call him the a-hole before he said that he told his ex-wife how expensive it was. If not, it'd be like putting on $3000 diamond earrings on your kid and the other parent would assume, and rightfully so, they were cheap $15 fakes.
The update that came after this video was made was NUCLEAR.
The mother wanted her wife to pay her father back for the brush and she refused which caused a big argument.
Then, when the mother wanted the two girls to visit her but they said they were never going back there again, and if the mother wanted to see them they had to stay at the grandparents or a hotel for the weekend.
The mother's wife got mad about her spending time away from her for her daughters and thought she should demand the daughters stay at their home. Another big fight ensued.
After a month of the 2 daughters blowing their mother off and arguments with her wife, the mother left her wife and filed for divorce. The wife became unhinged and was literally stalking her for a while. Then she backed off and within a week was hooking up with some other woman and told the mother she had been with this other woman since they got together. I guess we know where Ana got her "crazy" from lol.
@@thomasjoseph5876 Exactly. I see the future when OP's ex-wife looks at pics of their daughters Diane and Lily walking across the stage at their high school graduations, pics of the girls celebrating their fresh start in their new states, and walking across the stage at their college graduations, pics of the girls at their weddings, and baby showers with their replacement families (their husbands, friends, and in-laws), pics of the girls with their husbands and their new babies, and not only wonders why Diane and Lily went NC with her, her wife, and her stepdaughters, but also wonders why the girls left her out of those important milestones, and chose to include OP, instead.⚠️
If you want an abortion, you can get one. Nobody has the right to ask you to do something you don't want to.
I'm high functioning autistic, I'm 31. My mother knew my entire life and hid it from everyone. I never got help in school, I was bullied mercilessly (my bullies actually tried to set me on fire) I never made friends, I have severe anxiety and ptsd. All of my issues could've been avoided if I had gotten help. Op didn't protect their child, they're just abelist as fuck! They didn't tell her for the same reasons my mum didn't. Cause THEY look at autistic people and think they're disgusting. Because THEY didn't want to admit it. Because THEY didn't want to admit their child was "different" they're abelist and disgusting.
There is a diffrence between hiding something because your ashamed of it and hiding because you don't want your child judged for it both are equally hurtful and damaging for the child. Think about it. What the parents did was wrong and stupid. But they did it with good intentions and it's not fair to judge them in the same light as an asshole who dose it because they think a person is less than for being different.
@@cheekyftoro8962 do you realise how messed up that is? Hiding a childs, anybody's, disability(s) is wrong! There is no good or right way! If you deny and hide yours/your childs/anyones disabilities, you are doing it out if shame. You are doing it to avoid that person getting help. If people dont know how can you get the right money or education or help to do your job properly WITHOUT it becoming detrimental to the person and their disability? Hiding a childs disabilities is not out of love, it's done out of shame. There is no justification and the fact YOU believe there is, well, that says a whole lot more about you than anything else and trust me, it doesnt say anything good.
@@maddydavidsdottir9862 Plenty of people hide their disability or diffrence for other reasons other than sham. For protection to avoid pity unwanted attention because of negative preconceptions other have. Sounds to me like your projecting your own issues with your diffrences and treatment on others.
There is a big diffrence between doing something wrong because you genuinely don't know any better or think it is actually helping than doing something wrong for your own gain.
You and your ex have LONG been over. She screwed up and has had a hard time dealing with the regret and how she caused the breakup. You have a wife that you love and cherish. As much as she says she’s ok with it, trust me…she isn’t. She’s trying to spare your feelings. There’s no guarantee that your ex won’t also try some sneaky bullshit on you while you’re there. You have no obligation to her and I am annoyed with your sister for trying to guilt you into agreeing to it.
As for the tunnel guy, it genuinely sounds like OCD. Maybe, if its affecting his daily life, he should get therapy. There are many forms of ocd and this is one of them.
Sibling must have snapped the brush, and pulled out most of the hairs if its so irreparably damaged, shit.
My parents hid my adhd diagnosis from me. I finally found out when I was 26. I AM SO BITTER. I never knew why I was struggling so much, I have so much self loathing because I didn't understand how everyone could function in life and I couldn't. There was so much unnecessary shame.
The roommate story is the sweetest ever. I was going "aaawww🥺"
The POA story.... yeah, you don't need that to go to law school. Or to do that for anyone that is perfectly capable of doing their own anything legally (opening bank accounts, accessing legal documents.)
OP has NO idea what this friend could have done. Set up a will maybe? Set up extra identity docs and be OP?
"I asked for it" and "she gave permission" are, in fact, not two mutually exclusive statements. That said, even if she did give permission, the fact is, you broke it. You're responsible for replacing it properly and in a reasonable amount of time.
I have a nephew who is autistic he has asparagus syndrome he is highly functioning .. I use to carry an acoustic guitar around with for all family gatherings. I would play songs and different siblings would sing. My kids would sing songs. My nephew was about 5 years old when I was playing the guitar and he asked if I could show him. He had just started talking in front of the family but he had been talking to his family. I showed him from my side and told him that I am left handed so he would probably have to play the other way. I can play it right handed but only a little bit. So I played the song he asked me to play and then I handed him the guitar and he sat on my knee so I could show him how to hold the guitar and fingers on the strings. Five minutes later he played the song fully. I showed him several different songs and he played them after I played it twice and he was completely on point with what I played. I had a cheaper guitar in my truck so I went out and got it for him.. I had a few packages of strings in the case for the guitar so I put everything in the case for him.. I told him that I would come back in a few days. I had a few electric guitars and a couple cheap amplifiers that I had picked up from a friend. I gave him a cheap guitar and amp . 12 years later he had the number one song on the radio for 6 weeks. He is still playing music and living his life. He got married a while back and he has a son who is 5 now. His son is not like him he can play music but he’s not autistic. He is just a normal little boy who has been around his dad playing music since he was born.
There’s no way being a POA will help you get into law school. This was so crazy!
You should always tell children about their medical conditions. They can process things a lot better than others think. ESPECIALLY, autistic people.
We are not stupid, but we just think a bit differently.
As a kid my brother broke 6 of my expensive colored pencils. My parents blamed me and told me for it. I stopped drawing after that. I sometimes draw but not as much as I used to.
Power of Attorney (POA) report him immediately to the school he has applied to. He doesn't need to hold a POA to prove he has 'experience' for his application. You are being deceived & taken for a ride. REPORT HIM NOW & REVOKE THE POA!!!
Omg their most expensive brush is $11,351.79usd. I was figuring theirs was going to be one of the more expensive but it was actually one of the lower prices from the artist.
The guy in love with the roommate is adorable.
Story #1 Theft is a very serious crime and the consequences are just as serious. There is no way around it. In court you will also be ordered to make restitution,,on an equal par.
Gosh, the dying ex story has me feeling some sort of way. If my partner were able to act so heartlessly as to be like "well she's dying but I want her to die with me mad" I don't think I'd be able to be okay with it. Cheating is awful and i know first hand. Empathy and compassion are very important to me. I'm so proud he let her pass with those joyful memories.
Yeah if you destroy something, you have to replace it with something of equal value. Not the cheap alternative.
Also don’t let people borrow things you aren’t willing to have broken.
And as a painter it is not exactly easy to break a brush, even a cheap one
In the story Diane didn't allow her sister Ana to borrow it. Ana took it without permission and destroyed it. I always took good care of my things but my younger sisters always took them without permission and abused them.
Where there's smoke, there's fire. Or a bong, one of the two
1:40:00 lol this guy is so dense it’s hilariously cute but also frustrating 😂
OP NTA. After hearing about the dad and his evil wife, I dont really have sympathy for them. Especially after hearing he kicked his mom out of her house do wife and her family could live there. The house is now OP's and those freeloaders are know getting Karma.
Props to OP’s dad for recognizing quickly that OP didn’t get the same treatment as girlfriend’s spawn. She’s obviously a narc and raising her brat as one too.
I found out at 17 or 18 that I was autistic and it helped me but it didn’t really make life all that much better. My mom and stepfather don’t seem to want to really learn about it, I don’t have many things that would be seen as weird or anything. Although my family seem to latch on to my “imperfections”, such as loving to read and being unable to communicate or keep friends. A couple of days ago I also went to my moms art show, I didn’t know to many people so I was reading. Out of nowhere I was starting to get over stimulated so I started to listen to music; I never do this it was the first time I ever listened to music while reading. I needed a way to block out most of the sound, then he asked me to stop; I took one out but later put it back in as I needed the feeling of blocking everything out. After he apologized but when I tried to explain he just blew me off; sometimes I just want to scream, I hardly do anything that is Deemed “unusual” and I wish that they would just except the few quirks that I have. Sometimes it hurts, other times I wish I could just slam a book about autism on a table and demand they read it, I really wish they could just understand me more. Sorry for the rant the incident at the art show just got to me and hearing about what the parents did just got to me. Have a great day and if you have advise I would really appreciate it, thank you 😊.
I wish I could think of advice for getting your parents to understand but actually what you said about slamming a book about autism down and insisting they learn is probably the best way tbh. I'm autistic+ADHD, my husband is autistic, my kids are all either autistic or ADHD, so our household has always been adapted to our needs, not neurotypical ones. Our solution to the art show would have been to give options: skip the show completely; attend at the quietest part for a short time only; attend but wearing noise cancelling headphones/earbuds; attend but go outside/to a quiet room whenever needed; attend with noise cancelling stuff and a pocket full of fidget toys; or any other combination.
You tried your best to find a way to keep your parents happy but they're expecting you to be neurotypical and that's just not an option.
"Masking" to blend in with neurotypicals can be useful but it's really hard on us and can cause lasting damage, so it's more of a "if absolutely no other options are available, only for a short time, then have a long rest quietly afterwards" thing.
I hope things improve for you.
I hope you find that person it sounds like you deserve it. You sound capable and intelligent and just different enough to be interesting AF
@@minkg8178 Thanks for the reply, I just saw it; it's better but mostly because I haven't been around them much. They work more know and I don't have to really interact with them to much, but thanks again.
I have a rare pen set that I received from the family that I stayed with in Japan as an exchange student. This set of pens cost $700 in 1986.
sharing med info NO REF LETTER...
HE WAS SCAMMED... AN APPLICANT IS NOT TO PRACTICE at having a power of attorney
NEITHER one of them know what a POA IS
Story about the girl with the boyfriend who said she's not wife material made me think about Kate Howard, specifically the way she was portrayed in Six: maybe this time he'll be different, I thought this time he'd be different, but it's never, ever different
Alright I have to chime in on the “hiding autism” story. I had similar circumstances with my ADHD, but the thing was; there was nowhere near as much resources as there are now when I was a kid. I’m 27 and only just yesterday started my evaluation for ADHD. My parents had an inkling, but our family never had the money to afford treatment. We didn’t even start discussing the possibility of autism or ADHD until I was 19, and in college. It revealed I genuinely wasn’t doing okay and both my mom and I worked together to educate ourselves. She admitted to me she always knew I might have had something but she never wanted to say anything because I never had an official diagnosis. Instead; she supported me and my sister. I love my mom, very much. I’m so glad for OP and his wife for growing and I genuinely hope their family has peace and happiness.
I agree with everything you've said Markee. You don't sabotage what you have if it's as good as what's claimed. It's not worth potentially damaging what you have currently.
I went through a similar thing to the husband with the "pregnant" wife with a friend. She started manically talking about something that was not true, but I knew it was something she wanted. We were children and I remember the shock and fear you feel, like your stomach falls in a really bad way when you realize there's something wrong. She got help and now she's functional and has a happy life
You be yourself, don’t change anything. You have the right to be happy
S1 go to court… she stole it and broke it… she knew better.. FAFO
OP NTA. Like one of the commenters said, you handled this situation so maturely and had a lot of patience. You also kindly asked. It was good that your dad noticed things weren't right and that you calmly repeated what gf said to you. If I were your dad I would mad at gf and would be proud of you. Definitely would take you out for father daughter time to fix this.
Oh man that sounds like something my mom would do. I have ADHD (my teacher caught it) even though my mom was a teacher. Oh and I'm dyslexic. My mom was one of the best teachers in the county we lived in. But she couldn't teach me as a kid and still cant because of her craziness and limitations. She made my conditions worse & I learned to fear her. Once I started to figure out my ADHD on my own, things change in a great way as far as learning goes. The relationship with my mom, permanently damaged. I highly doubt these parents are going to be able to heal the damage with their daughter completely. One day she might be able to forgive. She will never forget. The trust that they have with her is probably depleted down to like 15% or less. It's going to stay that way for a LLLOOOONNNGGGGGG time.
....... I like digging holes. I want to build a small underground house.
I am glad that it worked out though.
On that Starbucks incident, the best response would have been to look the woman in the eye and ask her, "So, you are refusing a minor, who is in your care, food and drink?"
See I married a woman who put out on the first date and she was extremely adventurous in the bedroom and she is the life of the party. She is also a great woman who is a great mother friend and sister. She is Bi as well so it’s a very good thing. That guy probably blew the best thing he ever had. He will probably marry some girl who is in the church all the time and he will cheat on her with hookers
Story #1 I've seen professional paint brushes that cost over$100.
The grandparents had given Diane the custom made calligraphy brush. It is especially made for calligraphy unlike even good brushes for painting.
They are hand made and they use a specific goat for their hair. The handle is also hand made. I watched the documentary on TV
The tunnel story sounds like a setup for a post on r/nosleep lol
I'm having a terrible, horrible, no-good very bad day. Ah childhood.
The 5 years guy who didn't want to marry OP. My husband had things he wanted to try. I told him after 6 months don't ask me. Everytime he'd ask me I'd panic. I never dated a guy. I was to afraid of them. So he was my first. He said the reason he fell in love was my adventurous spirit and willingness to try things other women had told him no about. You can find a guy that respects you and loves your adventurous spirit.
No Starbucks: looks like the GF failed the daughter test.
The thread about the digging man is giving me big time serial killer wibe.