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Wu Wei Wisdom thank you so much for this video. I think it made me make a step back to look at the bigger picture. I really wonder why we think the way we think. It seams that our care givers, and school, and society is kind of encouraging us to put the ego as the ruler of our perception of the world. And i don’t understand why. Because we live in a time where we know that it makes us unhappy. So why do we keep providing this model to children? What would be a good model to teach children how not view the world that way? How can i teach myself to be a good mom-teacher?
Tank you for Sharing this video and all the other ones, i've enjoyed them all,they are filled with sens, wisdom, the least that i could say about your work is that it is very helpful, its helping me To restructure my toughts and be lighter and do better. I have a question about this subject tough, what you are saying is that a person should love themselves enough so that they'd ne able To be "safe" and immune against the evetual choices or others,especially when these choices dont suit our expectations. I've been in positions when i've seen myself bring "not chosen" by my beloved one (my dear compagnon) in a sexual level, it happened over and over (at the same time it wasnt his intention, he was struggling with some stuff in his mind). Anyhow, it translated and left the impression in my mind that i wasnt 'désired' by the man i love. I went through a hard time, i'm just realising that his choice To not approach me, or To not engage sexually, erotically with me vas affected me so much and in a bad way. I went, and i'm going through depression...a severe one, but i'm doing better now You always say that a relationship je about "relating", being able To connect with your lover, discuss with em, being compassioned and loving...I dont Feel accepted, and loved in my uniquness...instead my compagnon has even criticized the cores of my personality saying that: i'm way toi sensitive. ... i've just found out that i'm à highly sensitive person. I tried To explain to him how much those opinion could ne hurtful, bécasse they sounds like judgment and criticisime.... I just think that i had been ignored: i've tried To open conversations To discuss things so that we give our couple à chance To do things differently, so that we can Feel better and think that we are in a better place, so that we could ne more peaceful I Feel "rejected" , i think that i've been not chosen by my compagnion lately every time he "chose not To aknowledge what i am going through" every time he responsed To me by being devfensive...trying To be right instead of just listening To me. It happened few times lately, i Hey my best To contain myself, not get invaded with red flag émotions, i try to analyse things and be rational... is it possible to feel better while "experiencing not being aknowledged" again and again? How To find peace? I'm doing ou best, i'm revisting ou past, trying To take care of my inner child, trying To fill myself with love and To raddiate love...reflect it To others I'm kind of lost in whats happening with my compagnion, i want things To be better, i'm ready To do whatever it takes, do you have any advice please? Thanks for Reading me
Thank you for your comments. They are rather long so I may not be able to address them all in this forum. I would ask you to consider looking internally for everything you are searching for externally (through your partner). This is the process of self-love and working with your Inner Child on all of their issues. Then when you are balanced, strong and authentic this is the time to speak to your partner about the relationship and how you both move forward on your journey. Remember you are not being rejected but re-directed to do things in a more authentic and truthful way. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos. If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our RUclips Channel (we regularly add new videos!) ➜ ruclips.net/user/wuweiwisdom We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x Show less
@@Sophie-db1ko This is question I often ask myself. The best I can up with is that we just repeat! The Human Centred Mind (HCM) & Inner Child value familiarity because it is perceived as safer and easier. So, we repeat our experiences without pausing and taking responsibility for our words and actions, the cycle continues and grows stronger. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos. David
@@WuWeiWisdom Thanks for your response. I Will try To Apply your advice. Thanks again! I have a suggestion for a topic it''s about respect in relationshipsn: how To be assertive while dealing with a "sensitive" topic in order To aknowledge the other without harming ourselve : for exemple if your partner thinks/feels not respected when you use a tone of voice, while (in your world you are not even raising your voice, you don't want To harm them, you don't want To belittle them, you are just EXPRESSING YOUR INNER EMTIONS by adopting ALMOST instincevly the used tone. Thank you Thank you
This is wonderful. Thank you. Very helpful! My biggest fear - rejection. I'm going to stop believing that lying message since childhood. It's never too late to change our beliefs. I'm 71 and still on a healing journey.
Hi Karen, we're pleased to hear that the video was helpful for you. You are correct it is *never* too late to honor your divine spirit and potential. The journey is the destination. Now is the time for you to step into your awesomeness and let go of the lies that have held you back. Alex + David x
I am still on a healing journey Karen. I am 68 soon to be 69 years old and I have had a lot of feelings about being the age I am and still need healing from my childhood. You feel at this age you should have got it sorted. There wasn't the help or knowledge in the 70's or 80's (to a certain degree 90's) like there is now and with the internet. These videos have been amazing. But the whole attachment theory and how devastating it can be has been a real turning point amongst other things for me. Not having a mother who bonded with me and made me feel invisible, plus being molested at around 12 years old was the icing on the cake. I feel though your journey to feeling whole and complete never stops regardless of age. I am trying to learn to self regulate my emotions which is a big problem for people who had attachment problems. Recognising your need to take care of yourself has been a great blessing to me and to carry on fighting the good fight. X
I've just felt rejected! I came home with RLF and tuned straight into your advice. Oh my, what a lesson, it changes so many events in my life and I can’t thank you enough for opening my eyes x
Hello Sheila, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
Wow!!! Loved when you said: I love you and respect you, if you choose to not love me I accept it!!! ❤️ powerfull!!! It is not rejection, it is the free choice of the other person!!! Even if it stings, we stay in our love and truth! Thank you for this message!
Wow!! I was feeling so low after I was thrown out of her life and this guidance not only uplifted my spirit but REDIRECTED me on my own path. Thank you very much David and Alex
Wow, thinking of rejection as a choice is such a different way to look at rejection. It is difficult to change the way to look at this, but I am so grateful to hear this message so that I can try to learn to do so 🙏 Thank you David and Alex 💓
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Needed the reminder, thanks. After making a certain decision last year after following my inner guidance, I was verbally attacked by colleagues, and lost a few so called friends. It troubled me that people I had known for 20+ years could turn and spout out so much hate toward me. I understood they were coming from a place of fear, but I still let it affect me negatively and turned it inward, even though I know that it was always about them and their state of mind at the time. Clearly I need to do some more work in this area! Thank you 😊
Healing through my first heartbreak currently and experienced the worst pain ever. These videos are very helpful and I pray I'll soon be able to grasp this.
Good job. I think no matter how strong we are mentally, it is still uncomfortable for people to choose someone else over you. Even though we enjoy the freedom of choice. Thank you for the broadcast. Please teach more on self-love. Thank you.
This is such a timely subject. I have watched it twice already and will most likely watch it several more times. It is filled with little jewels. Today what came to the forefront for me was my own ability to choose. When David spoke about what if you were stuck in a relationship and couldn’t get out I thought of my mother after she left. I felt I couldn’t choose to leave that relationship, her attempts at suicide kept me in it, the belief that if she hadn’t left or I hadn’t helped her she’d be dead kept me there. And my father told me he only stayed with my sisters and me because it was his duty. I realized that I learned to stay in relationships or stay too long out of fear of what the other may do because of me or out of duty. There isn’t two people choosing to be together in either of those scenarios. A lot to ponder.
Thanks Jenice, it sounds like you are doing some good self-discovery work here. WELL DONE! Keep it up :-) Let us know how you get on with your pondering. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. David
I am a Christian so we have some big differences in beliefs, but I get what you are saying about choice vs rejection. I make choices not to be around certain people, and unless I believe in a hierarchal system, it can be framed as choice vs rejection. I make those choices too and it may be I choose not to be around someone who is controlling and manipulative - but I don't want to make a judgement on that person as evil - only that they are in that place at that time and it is best for me not to be around them. So I get it, and rejection has always been my biggest fear and roadblock to growth - I definitely believed I was rejected by my parents and confirmation bias continued to affirm my core belief. This is a good teaching and I will be doing the work with my inner child to make the connection. I knew there was a disconnect between my rational thought and my beliefs, emotions and behavior, and this explains it. Thank you both very much!
Yes!! You are a divine and awesome being. You can NEVER be rejected. Thank you for taking the time to watch and comment Monique - we appreciate it. A+D x
You are so amazing I youse to always feel rejected because my father left me very young so I carried this idea of not being good enough all my life but I changed and still changing.I love your videos it's like your talking about my whole life in these videos so so inspiring. Love youse.
You can do it! Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
Hey Jenny, thanks for taking the time to watch and comment. We REALLY appreciate it.... and we BELEIVE in you! What was your main takeaway #LifeLesson from the teaching? A+D x
I am Okay with him wanting to leave to pursue his own happiness..it’s THE WAY he left and how he treated me right after that I couldnt get over ….i know the pain of feeling ‘ rejected ‘ and ‘ abandoned’ i have felt has everything to do with my own childhood of abanondon and rejection issues but hv still struggled with ‘ letting go’…. How he has behaved is a reflection on him. Not ME . I needed to hear that. Thank you.
I think you will need to do a little more work on childhood issues when it is appropriate for you.
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False /unrealistic expectations can lead to the belief of 'rejection' as can someone simply not agreeing with the person in question. Relying on external sources for validation and happiness is not healthy as you said it is the lack of self love. Constant introspection and inability to relate (listen) properly to others including partners and children is fundamental to this issue.
This video is perfect timing! I just found your channel. Thank you for the wisdom and fresh perspective. ❤ I'm also impressed with how many links in the drop box. I graciously thank you for these teachings I'm going to watch the past videos now, what a gold mine. Blessings to you both 👏🌷💜
Hi Margarit - thanks for taking the time to watch and comment. We really appreciate it! If you have any questions about any of our teachings please let us know. We also welcome suggestions for new videos. If you enjoy our teachings please feel free to subscribe to our RUclips Channel (we regularly add new videos!) ➜ ruclips.net/user/wuweiwisdom We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
@@WuWeiWisdom Ideas for videos Alex and David - Attachment Theory for adults. The emotional deficit it leaves and how to be able to self regulate emotions because of being unmothered.
I just love you both. I dont know how to thank you for your profound work. Every day feels like a new opportunity and a blessing after seeing your videos , making notes and working on integrating it . Love you so much
there are some useful nuggets in this, I'm dealing with a particularly complicated individual and I can see that a big part of my confusion is her drama / need for external validation - I also need to understand I risk 'rejection' if the conversation doesn't go my way (I can't control/manipulate that) but that it will be her choice and a redirection for me
When self doubt comes up is it best to say ‘stop it!’ ?? How to stop those thoughts? I had never seen self doubt as lack of self love 🤔. Thank you for this and your wisdom 🙏🏻💞
Thank You for this video David and Alex. It was so helpful. All of the misconception about emotions and other concepts that are programmed into our heads from the beginning of our lives is just crazy. We all have something that we struggle with . This shouldn't be like that, or maybe it should and it is now the reason why we are globally building new consciousness? Anyways, in my personal journey and experience, the explanations about emotions You offer are immense help. My whole life I felt just like a prisoner, sitting in the dark corner of my own head , waiting for love ,true love to heal me. Waiting until my partner will read my mind or easily make whatever I need to feel safe and happy, fulfilled. Now.... finally, see the exit. you are awesome! Thank You 🙏
Hi Amaya - what was the thought or belief behind that feeling? The answer to that question will start the #GoldenThreadProcess for you. Let us know what you find... A&D x ~ p.s you are AWESOME!
Hi Norma Cid, thanks for watching - this is a great realisation! You may find our Golden Thread Process / Emotional Health Video Playlist helpful: ruclips.net/p/PL9NQ_PWX4zIAsS_wgdRN7QGBKIk54sbyD Alex + David x
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Thank you! I have not been rejected, I have been treated shabbily. She took the ‘easy’ route out and had an affair, RATHER than being honest and honourable and having integrity. It’s not me to blame. 🙏
This was AMAZING! I just find this hard as we have a business together; if we separate how do I move on and survive, when I am disabled and he owns the business 100%. This is the hardest part for me. We have been together 10 years and he tells me everyday he hates his life and is miserable. I am strong willed and of if I could continue my life and work a full time job O would be OK. Just confused wanna go but makes it so hard😢😢
Hi @scbuddoldschool5313, It's great to hear that you found our content amazing! Regarding your situation, it sounds like you're facing a challenging decision, balancing personal well-being with practical concerns. Remember, your strength and resilience shine through even in your words. It's crucial to prioritise your emotional and physical well-being, especially when facing such significant life changes. While it might seem daunting, remember that resources and support systems are available to assist you in navigating this transition. If you're looking for a supportive community where you can share your thoughts and gain insights from others who might have faced similar challenges, our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community could be a valuable resource: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Your strength and determination are evident, and with the right support and guidance, you can navigate this path and find a new beginning that aligns with your well-being and happiness. Kind Regards, David
Could listen to you both all day, every day but I realise that would be procrastinating!! Finding it so hard to do the Golden thread Process...perhaps I don't really understand it that well, was wondering if you could do a video on an example session doing the process? Or is there one I can watch somewhere? I only get as far as answering the " Why do I think I'm being rejected? Anyway....hope there is and once again thanks for all your brilliant work Alex and David xxxxx
Hi Angie We're developing an online course to tesh the Golden Thread Process step-by-step and this will be available next year. As you're a member of our Facebook group you'll get to hear about this first once it is launched :) These two also offer role-play examples of the beginning of the process which you may also find helpful: ruclips.net/video/9XuoL9pQSR8/видео.html / ruclips.net/video/5N7sC1yGZO4/видео.html Once you have answered the question: 'Why do I think/believe I'm being rejected?'... then you need to further interrogate your answer by asking things like: is this the truth? would I teach this to my (physical) child?... etc. ....until you get down to the core belief/'lie' that your Inner Child is clinging to. We hope this helps! Alex + David x
Hi Elizabeth... the Taoist teaching is that 'the show' never ends - it just transforms and flows. Nice! :) Thanks for your kind feedback - we appreciate it. Alex + David x
I’ve struggled with self love all my life (54 years). I’m not good enough , I’m not worthy, etc. Always looking for validation that I’m good enough, pretty enough, etc
Hi Sharon Thanks for sharing your story. We have a love and relationship video playlist which also covers the teaching on self-love and self-worth which you may find helpful: ruclips.net/p/PL9NQ_PWX4zID3yxrdCbbZFuKHCwgV6qhX x
Hi Jennkan We're glad you've found us! You may also find these videos helpful: ruclips.net/video/-IRP62paGZE/видео.html / ruclips.net/video/E_2BLQrmb-I/видео.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our RUclips Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ ruclips.net/user/wuweiwisdom We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
Am wondering if this applies to failing at job interviews too . Particularly if we really thought we wanted the job .. then it leads to whether we we were meant to have it
i lost a lot of friends when i became depressed, and now that i'm not depressed they are starting to trickle back into my life. how can i understand them as to have compassion and not harbor resentment?
Hey Rick thanks for your kind feedback! If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our RUclips Channel (we regularly add new videos!) ➜ ruclips.net/user/wuweiwisdom We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
Excellent video. Thank you for sharing this insight in relation to the feeling of rejection and the use of the golden thread to challenge this feeling/belief. I do have a battle within my self with feelings of rejection. My understanding from this video is to understand the real reason for me feeling and thinking this way. Acknowledge it as a red flag and be there for myself in the moment. Create the space within me, between the emotion and myself. I do have codependency issues which I became aware of a while back. This includes, people pleasing, getting involved with others when it may not be in my best interest and when they choose to go and not include me, become angry, resentful and realise the emptiness inside This video does highlight some of the issues of codependency. In my opinion, when someone says they no longer want to be with us, it can be hard to acknowledge that this relates to that person and not to us personally. It may show our level of attachment to them and where we may be too attached to them and not enough to ourselves. The grief that we may suddenly feel from a loss of certainty ( in my case in the past, of them giving me reason to not have to acknowledge the emptiness within), creates feelings within us that can overwhelm in the moment due to loss, fear and negative thoughts, expectations and reactions within oneself. It is only when a person chooses to create a space between the feelings and themselves, a person can then act and look at the issue objectively and from a position of strength, clarity calmness, love and acceptance, rather then a position of victim, instability and reactions. To create the space we have to be there for ourselves, acknowledge the emotions, accept them, just like a parent does with a child, in this case be a parent to our inner child. Be there like a rock, a foundation, stand there for ourselves, listen, reflect, learn and grow; acknowledge our greatness, love and accept ourselves. Although the person may no longer wish to be with us, which is their choice, our focus should be with ourselves and the choices we wish to make, going forward.....
Hi Serenity, thanks for your comments, I'm pleased that you found the video helpful. My small contribution to your analysis is to be mindful of the Inner Child doing what we label as "DUMPING". Giving you too many issues and problems in one go. I think it would be a good exercise for you to go through your comments and address and solve each one in turn. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos. David
Hi , encouraging dialogue but it addresses the serious issue on the surface .i am sure you are aware of deeper aspects and reasons of shame , guilt , fear , feeling of worthless etc. A child having been neglected , abandoned and/or abused from the infant and after time has already pathological neuro disregulation .Science trying to encoding what changes at neuron and neurotransmitter level occurred / present and how to threat it . Remedies at current time touching symptoms , including psychotherapy or other conditioning behavioral or subjective approaches . thanks
Thank you for your comments. I'm pleased that you enjoyed the video. My work with clients is about taking responsibility and changing those thoughts and beliefs from childhood. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos - we appreciate it. David
Hi @peterlung5114, Thank you so much for your kind words! We truly appreciate your support and are grateful to have you with us on this journey. Kind Regards, David
The hardest thing when you discover that your partner is emotionally manipulating you just for his pleasure, especially when you are a HSP, this is unfair
It's honestly so hard to feel like you're not the problem or to feel secure when ever since birth it seems like everyone chooses someone over you.. I'm truly struggling with the "feeling" of rejection almost all the time
Reading your short response I believe that the Wu Wei Wisdom process would help you.
First try and stop using the "FEEL" word. This is confusing your thinking and therefore your ability to get to the root of the problem.
If you replace " I feel" with: I think, believe or choose you will be able to do the Golden Thread Process to uncover your true roots/core beliefs.
Why don't you consider joining our free Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/
Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. David
Here’s the thing: If you believe what you are saying is true, you must also believe that it is dishonest to make promises to stay with your partner for life in your wedding vows or even just in a verbal promise. Because you don’t know what the future holds. Each of you might simply find someone you love more. And according to you, that’s completely understandable and ok. Never mind if you have children who would be hurt emotionally or financially by a divorce. C’mon. Get a little more real. What IS your opinion on wedding vows? Do you think it’s completely ok to promise you will stay together for life, or should that not be promised? Humans are obviously an interdependent species. You are throwing around the word “promise” and “integrity”. I say that IF you make a promise, take responsibility for your promises. KEEP your promises. If you can’t - and there is ALWAYS that possibility - don’t make promises.
Hi Stacy Cates, That's a great question, thanks very much. Wedding vows differ between for counties and religions, however I would hope they are all based on the foundation of the spiritual/'Shen' teachings of truth, honesty and integrity, creating an emotional feeling of sharing and love. Therefore if circumstances, issues or your beliefs change during the the relationship you should be open about sharing and discussing that with your partner. The word 'relationship' gives a clue here: the ability to relate. You cannot or do not know the future so you cannot promise to stay together for life! Using your words, 'C'mon, get real!'... For instance, if your partner becomes violent and abusive to you or your children you would NOT stay with them because of a promise you made many years earlier under totally different circumstances. Also, you would NOT go to the other extreme and walk out of a relationship at the first sign of a problem or challenge. There should be NO stone left unturned before a relationship is ended. A more spiritual vow would be that you will always be true, honest and live with integrity, no matter how difficult or challenging the situation may be. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. Please subscribe to our RUclips channel and don't forget to click the BELL icon. David
Hi Coco - thanks for watching and commenting! What was your biggest takeaway teaching from this video? If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our RUclips Channel ➜ ruclips.net/user/wuweiwisdom We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom... you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
Hello Jessica, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. As you will appreciate, it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore, I can only comment in general terms. It sounds as though there my be issues accepting your innate value and worth - Shen and searching externally for validation and reassurance. If these comments ring any bells we have done many videos on these subjects you may find helpful. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
Hi David and Alex, thank you so much for this video and the insights. I’m wondering if I could ask a question? My father is very egocentric and always want me to win face for him, I feel I can see the truth about his rejection on the ‘true me’ now. But even I have forgiven him for the tremendous hurt for all these years he is still the same person believing that me being his daughter should satisfy his ego needs. Every time I have to go home I have so much fear and tears, and felt so angry and sad when I come back. And to make it worth my father always blame me for not caring him enough because he picks up the slightest awkwardness and blame me for not giving the good atmosphere. What do you suggest for dealing with parents like this? Would avoidance be the answer or constant forgiveness is the key? Would it be possible to reach a state that I can be transparent to his manipulation? What’s your advice on that? Thank you so much! Melody
Hi Melody, Thanks for your question. As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms. I work with clients every day with these type of issues and Life Lessons. I would ask you to remember that: you are the creator of your emotions, NOT the victim of them. The answer would be what are your beliefs about the role of parents and your expectations of your father. Change your beliefs your relationship and emotions around your father will change. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. Please subscribe to our RUclips channel and don't forget to click the BELL icon. David
Wu Wei Wisdom Hi David, thank you so much for your reply. It’s good reminder that we are the creator of our emotions! It’s so easy to forget that! And also inspired by your video this week, I will sit quiet and ask my ‘shen’ what to do in this situation. Thank you! Best wishes Melody
Hello Clan, Thanks for sharing your personal and family experience. It would be inappropriate for me to comment without full and details background and history. In my long experience there will be opportunities in the future to address the issues that your daughter is having problems with. Your mothering skills are needed now more than ever. Why don't you consider joining our free Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. David
Hi Kalpana MD, Thanks for your question. As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms. It would not be unusual for inappropriate or out of character actions to be stimulated by the part of your mind we are labelling the Inner Child. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. Please subscribe to our RUclips channel and don't forget to click the BELL icon. David
My brother is cutting me to half payments monthly in my inheritance income meaning as i see it inability to survive --he being my only income. I am 73 years uprepared in a foreign country w no visa-- Is this personal rejection and i Thank him Or do i discuss money ?
Hi @OscarTrujilloyute, This sounds like a very challenging situation, especially given your reliance on this income. It's understandable that you'd feel concerned and unsure about the best way forward. From a Wu Wei perspective, I'd encourage you to approach your brother with a calm and open mindset. Rather than viewing this as rejection, consider it an opportunity to engage in an honest conversation about your shared financial responsibilities and your needs. Express your concerns directly, but also be willing to listen to his perspective. This way, you can work towards a solution that feels fair and balanced. Take things one step at a time, and trust in your ability to find a way through this situation. And if you’d like more support or perspectives, our Wu Wei Wisdom community is a wonderful place to connect: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. P.S. Exciting News! I'm launching David's Journal, my free newsletter where I'll share deeper insights into Wu Wei Wisdom, Taoism, and my personal journey. For exclusive access to upcoming projects and the chance to shape new content, a paid subscription is also available. Subscribe for free or join the inner circle: davidjameslees.com Looking forward to sharing this journey with you! Kind Regards, David
I choose to say: thank you very much, that was a great topic! ,and I have a question for you please, since I was a child, my mother says:" if you do not have friends, that 's because you'r not good, and maybe the problem is in you", and so many times , especially when she is angry;she says:"if you continue like that, you will die alone!", please tell me , how can I get rid of that belief, that I can't be alone, and if I do, I feel horible , sad, and inworthy. Logicly, I know this is not true, but what should I say to my inner child, or the target part of me , to clear this belief. And tell me please that it's safe, and not reducing my worthiness to be alone. Thank's again for your teachings.
Hi Raya thanks for your comments. Well done! You are correct this is your Inner Child (#IC) still wanting to believe Mom :-) But, moms are NOT always right are they? How many things that your Mom said to and about you have you dismissed? Then the real question is why YOU are choosing to hold on to this LIE? What is the benefit it gives you? This is the #InnerChild work we talk about in our videos, The good news is YOU can change this (if you want to) it is about your relationship with your #IC nothing to do with your mother now. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos. You may also find these videos helpful: ruclips.net/video/J1olSZ1wyz0/видео.html / ruclips.net/video/BM0lmfBlE2E/видео.html Alex + David x
Hi Benelin Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and give us feedback. We really appreciate it! What was your main takeaway #LifeLesson from this teaching? You may also find this video helpful: ruclips.net/video/J1olSZ1wyz0/видео.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our RUclips Channel (we regularly add new videos!) ➜ ruclips.net/user/wuweiwisdom We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
That is not rejection, that is a reflection of them and how they truly feel about themselves. They want to control and power to dominate. That is not loving, that is manipulation.
I don't agree on the marriage example, marriage is a commitment. I'm not talking about cases of abuse, then the person needs to protect themselves and any children involved. In the name of honesty, the other person is rejecting the spouse, theres no way around that. But like you stated in another video, if the garbage is laying in your walkway, don't keep walking over it, move it, theres no choice if you want to be healthy, other than dealing with the truth of it and moving on with your life, not living in bitterness. At least thats my understanding.
Relationships aren't that logical. The pain usually needs healing from an energy healer. It needs to be released from your being. Analyzing it isn't enough.
Usually understanding happens with the healing. It IS the healing. But some gurus say you don't have to know what is being healed. Probably depends on what you believe about healing. All the best to you in your healing journey. @@WuWeiWisdom
Hi Evian, Thanks for your comments. NO! calling you names is ONLY a reflection of her emotional and mental state at that time. No reflection or judgement on you or your personality. I don't understand why you would believe that, unless you think she is correct and you are that name. I think you are awesome! It is not a matter of who said it, you have to decide, is it true? Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support.
As a child is growing up, their emotional all support is their mother..if ones mother set ultimatums to being accepted as long as you behave how they expect , there's definitely a need for mothers live therefore one is bound to try n conform because at the end of the day one needs motherly/parental love
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Wu Wei Wisdom thank you so much for this video. I think it made me make a step back to look at the bigger picture.
I really wonder why we think the way we think. It seams that our care givers, and school, and society is kind of encouraging us to put the ego as the ruler of our perception of the world. And i don’t understand why. Because we live in a time where we know that it makes us unhappy. So why do we keep providing this model to children? What would be a good model to teach children how not view the world that way? How can i teach myself to be a good mom-teacher?
Tank you for Sharing this video and all the other ones, i've enjoyed them all,they are filled with sens, wisdom, the least that i could say about your work is that it is very helpful, its helping me To restructure my toughts and be lighter and do better.
I have a question about this subject tough, what you are saying is that a person should love themselves enough so that they'd ne able To be "safe" and immune against the evetual choices or others,especially when these choices dont suit our expectations.
I've been in positions when i've seen myself bring "not chosen" by my beloved one (my dear compagnon) in a sexual level, it happened over and over (at the same time it wasnt his intention, he was struggling with some stuff in his mind). Anyhow, it translated and left the impression in my mind that i wasnt 'désired' by the man i love.
I went through a hard time, i'm just realising that his choice To not approach me, or To not engage sexually, erotically with me vas affected me so much and in a bad way.
I went, and i'm going through depression...a severe one, but i'm doing better now
You always say that a relationship je about "relating", being able To connect with your lover, discuss with em, being compassioned and loving...I dont Feel accepted, and loved in my uniquness...instead my compagnon has even criticized the cores of my personality saying that: i'm way toi sensitive.
... i've just found out that i'm à highly sensitive person. I tried To explain to him how much those opinion could ne hurtful, bécasse they sounds like judgment and criticisime....
I just think that i had been ignored: i've tried To open conversations To discuss things so that we give our couple à chance To do things differently, so that we can Feel better and think that we are in a better place, so that we could ne more peaceful
I Feel "rejected" , i think that i've been not chosen by my compagnion lately every time he "chose not To aknowledge what i am going through" every time he responsed To me by being devfensive...trying To be right instead of just listening To me. It happened few times lately, i Hey my best To contain myself, not get invaded with red flag émotions, i try to analyse things and be rational... is it possible to feel better while "experiencing not being aknowledged" again and again?
How To find peace?
I'm doing ou best, i'm revisting ou past, trying To take care of my inner child, trying To fill myself with love and To raddiate love...reflect it To others
I'm kind of lost in whats happening with my compagnion, i want things To be better, i'm ready To do whatever it takes, do you have any advice please?
Thanks for Reading me
Thank you for your comments.
They are rather long so I may not be able to address them all in this forum.
I would ask you to consider looking internally for everything you are searching for externally (through your partner).
This is the process of self-love and working with your Inner Child on all of their issues.
Then when you are balanced, strong and authentic this is the time to speak to your partner about the relationship and how you both move forward on your journey.
Remember you are not being rejected but re-directed to do things in a more authentic and truthful way.
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This is question I often ask myself. The best I can up with is that we just repeat!
The Human Centred Mind (HCM) & Inner Child value familiarity because it is perceived as safer and easier.
So, we repeat our experiences without pausing and taking responsibility for our words and actions, the cycle continues and grows stronger.
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Thanks for your response.
I Will try To Apply your advice.
Thanks again!
I have a suggestion for a topic it''s about respect in relationshipsn: how To be assertive while dealing with a "sensitive" topic in order To aknowledge the other without harming ourselve : for exemple if your partner thinks/feels not respected when you use a tone of voice, while (in your world you are not even raising your voice, you don't want To harm them, you don't want To belittle them, you are just EXPRESSING YOUR INNER EMTIONS by adopting ALMOST instincevly the used tone.
Thank you
Thank you
"Your are not rejected, you are redirected" that just made my day.. Thank you so much
You're so welcome!
This is wonderful. Thank you. Very helpful! My biggest fear - rejection. I'm going to stop believing
that lying message since childhood. It's never too late to change our beliefs. I'm 71 and still on a
healing journey.
Hi Karen, we're pleased to hear that the video was helpful for you.
You are correct it is *never* too late to honor your divine spirit and potential. The journey is the destination.
Now is the time for you to step into your awesomeness and let go of the lies that have held you back.
Alex + David x
I am still on a healing journey Karen. I am 68 soon to be 69 years old and I have had a lot of feelings about being the age I am and still need healing from my childhood. You feel at this age you should have got it sorted. There wasn't the help or knowledge in the 70's or 80's (to a certain degree 90's) like there is now and with the internet. These videos have been amazing. But the whole attachment theory and how devastating it can be has been a real turning point amongst other things for me. Not having a mother who bonded with me and made me feel invisible, plus being molested at around 12 years old was the icing on the cake. I feel though your journey to feeling whole and complete never stops regardless of age. I am trying to learn to self regulate my emotions which is a big problem for people who had attachment problems. Recognising your need to take care of yourself has been a great blessing to me and to carry on fighting the good fight. X
"You cannot be rejected."
So true. It's not that you're being rejected...that person just made a miscalculation because they don't know any better.
Hi Jarrell, thanks for taking the time to watch and comment - we appreciate it!
You are divine and awesome. You cannot be rejected.
A+D x
I've just felt rejected! I came home with RLF and tuned straight into your advice. Oh my, what a lesson, it changes so many events in my life and I can’t thank you enough for opening my eyes x
Hello Sheila, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
I cannot even put into words how powerful these videos are.
Wow!!! Loved when you said: I love you and respect you, if you choose to not love me I accept it!!! ❤️ powerfull!!!
It is not rejection, it is the free choice of the other person!!! Even if it stings, we stay in our love and truth!
Thank you for this message!
Yes! Glad the video helped you Nathalie :) x
Wow!! I was feeling so low after I was thrown out of her life and this guidance not only uplifted my spirit but REDIRECTED me on my own path. Thank you very much David and Alex
Wow, thinking of rejection as a choice is such a different way to look at rejection. It is difficult to change the way to look at this, but I am so grateful to hear this message so that I can try to learn to do so 🙏 Thank you David and Alex 💓
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
That was just a remarkable journey through the joys and pitfalls of choice in life, our choices and others’. Sooo freeing!
Needed the reminder, thanks. After making a certain decision last year after following my inner guidance, I was verbally attacked by colleagues, and lost a few so called friends. It troubled me that people I had known for 20+ years could turn and spout out so much hate toward me. I understood they were coming from a place of fear, but I still let it affect me negatively and turned it inward, even though I know that it was always about them and their state of mind at the time. Clearly I need to do some more work in this area! Thank you 😊
You both are a gift, so wise. Thank You!
Hi Lisa - thanks for your kind feedback... we appreciate it!
We're curious... what was your biggest takeaway teaching from the video?
Alex + David x
Healing through my first heartbreak currently and experienced the worst pain ever. These videos are very helpful and I pray I'll soon be able to grasp this.
Good job. I think no matter how strong we are mentally, it is still uncomfortable for people to choose someone else over you. Even though we enjoy the freedom of choice. Thank you for the broadcast. Please teach more on self-love. Thank you.
This is such a timely subject. I have watched it twice already and will most likely watch it several more times. It is filled with little jewels. Today what came to the forefront for me was my own ability to choose. When David spoke about what if you were stuck in a relationship and couldn’t get out I thought of my mother after she left. I felt I couldn’t choose to leave that relationship, her attempts at suicide kept me in it, the belief that if she hadn’t left or I hadn’t helped her she’d be dead kept me there. And my father told me he only stayed with my sisters and me because it was his duty. I realized that I learned to stay in relationships or stay too long out of fear of what the other may do because of me or out of duty. There isn’t two people choosing to be together in either of those scenarios. A lot to ponder.
Thanks Jenice, it sounds like you are doing some good self-discovery work here. WELL DONE! Keep it up :-)
Let us know how you get on with your pondering.
Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support.
David
I am a Christian so we have some big differences in beliefs, but I get what you are saying about choice vs rejection. I make choices not to be around certain people, and unless I believe in a hierarchal system, it can be framed as choice vs rejection. I make those choices too and it may be I choose not to be around someone who is controlling and manipulative - but I don't want to make a judgement on that person as evil - only that they are in that place at that time and it is best for me not to be around them. So I get it, and rejection has always been my biggest fear and roadblock to growth - I definitely believed I was rejected by my parents and confirmation bias continued to affirm my core belief. This is a good teaching and I will be doing the work with my inner child to make the connection. I knew there was a disconnect between my rational thought and my beliefs, emotions and behavior, and this explains it. Thank you both very much!
Thank you. What you say is true. Hard lesson, but true. Chiang. Honour.
Hi Rodney Saito, thanks for watching! We appreciate your support. Alex + David x
Thanks again for this video, I am happy to know that I cannot be rejected by anyone.
Yes!! You are a divine and awesome being. You can NEVER be rejected.
Thank you for taking the time to watch and comment Monique - we appreciate it.
A+D x
I really enjoy your talks, I like how you go deep and how you come from all possible directions. Your talks are in alignment with my thinking.
Thank You ☺️ Yes I enjoyed this video very much..!
I am so happy and grateful that I found your channel! Love your love and light both of you
Thank you so much!
You are so amazing I youse to always feel rejected because my father left me very young so I carried this idea of not being good enough all my life but I changed and still changing.I love your videos it's like your talking about my whole life in these videos so so inspiring. Love youse.
You can do it! Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
Absolutely amazing sage advice and guidance! Thank you David and Alex once again, you guys knocked it out of the park!! Peace and love xo
Hey Jenny, thanks for taking the time to watch and comment. We REALLY appreciate it.... and we BELEIVE in you!
What was your main takeaway #LifeLesson from the teaching?
A+D x
So much helpful for me and I relied myself.Thank of both of u.best wishes ..
This is so sobering and empowering. I will keep listening to the teaching this and let it become part of me..
Wonderful! Kind regards, David.
I am Okay with him wanting to leave to pursue his own happiness..it’s THE WAY he left and how he treated me right after that I couldnt get over ….i know the pain of feeling ‘ rejected ‘ and ‘ abandoned’ i have felt has everything to do with my own childhood of abanondon and rejection issues but hv still struggled with ‘ letting go’….
How he has behaved is a reflection on him. Not ME . I needed to hear that. Thank you.
Hi Gypsynyc10
Well done!
I think you will need to do a little more work on childhood issues when it is appropriate for you.
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False /unrealistic expectations can lead to the belief of 'rejection' as can someone simply not agreeing with the person in question.
Relying on external sources for validation and happiness is not healthy as you said it is the lack of self love.
Constant introspection and inability to relate (listen) properly to others including partners and children is fundamental to this issue.
Thank you Geoff, great comments. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos. David :)
Life is very simple if one follows Wu Wei Wisdom. Thank you very much for delivering the wisdom☺️
This video is perfect timing! I just found your channel. Thank you for the wisdom and fresh perspective. ❤ I'm also impressed with how many links in the drop box. I graciously thank you for these teachings I'm going to watch the past videos now, what a gold mine. Blessings to you both 👏🌷💜
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@@WuWeiWisdom Ideas for videos Alex and David - Attachment Theory for adults. The emotional deficit it leaves and how to be able to self regulate emotions because of being unmothered.
I just love you both. I dont know how to thank you for your profound work. Every day feels like a new opportunity and a blessing after seeing your videos , making notes and working on integrating it . Love you so much
there are some useful nuggets in this, I'm dealing with a particularly complicated individual and I can see that a big part of my confusion is her drama / need for external validation - I also need to understand I risk 'rejection' if the conversation doesn't go my way (I can't control/manipulate that) but that it will be her choice and a redirection for me
When self doubt comes up is it best to say ‘stop it!’ ?? How to stop those thoughts? I had never seen self doubt as lack of self love 🤔. Thank you for this and your wisdom 🙏🏻💞
Thank you both so very much, the world needs your truth and love. God bless you both.
I am very grateful for the opportunity to watch, and learn your teachings. Brilliant...Thank you!!!
Thank You for this video David and Alex. It was so helpful. All of the misconception about emotions and other concepts that are programmed into our heads from the beginning of our lives is just crazy. We all have something that we struggle with . This shouldn't be like that, or maybe it should and it is now the reason why we are globally building new consciousness? Anyways, in my personal journey and experience, the explanations about emotions You offer are immense help. My whole life I felt just like a prisoner, sitting in the dark corner of my own head , waiting for love ,true love to heal me. Waiting until my partner will read my mind or easily make whatever I need to feel safe and happy, fulfilled. Now.... finally, see the exit. you are awesome! Thank You 🙏
Awesome message! I wish there was a "love" thumb's up!!! God bless you!
Fantastic. Thank you. It takes the pain out of so many situations. ❤❤❤
Sending love Dee x
Had the feeling of being rejected recently. It was definitely a red light feeling.
Hi Amaya - what was the thought or belief behind that feeling? The answer to that question will start the #GoldenThreadProcess for you. Let us know what you find... A&D x ~ p.s you are AWESOME!
I am starting to understand that I have to become aware of my thoughts and change the ones that have been hurting me. More work to do
Hi Norma Cid, thanks for watching - this is a great realisation! You may find our Golden Thread Process / Emotional Health Video Playlist helpful: ruclips.net/p/PL9NQ_PWX4zIAsS_wgdRN7QGBKIk54sbyD Alex + David x
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Thank you! I have not been rejected, I have been treated shabbily. She took the ‘easy’ route out and had an affair, RATHER than being honest and honourable and having integrity. It’s not me to blame. 🙏
Perfect timing for my current situation. Thanks.
Glad you enjoyed the video Jeff we hope it helped you! Alex + David x
Wow. I needed this!
You are not being rejected. You are being redirected down the river of life. Great teaching. Thank You.
Yes! Thank you! Kind regards, David.
This was AMAZING! I just find this hard as we have a business together; if we separate how do I move on and survive, when I am disabled and he owns the business 100%. This is the hardest part for me. We have been together 10 years and he tells me everyday he hates his life and is miserable. I am strong willed and of if I could continue my life and work a full time job O would be OK. Just confused wanna go but makes it so hard😢😢
Hi @scbuddoldschool5313,
It's great to hear that you found our content amazing! Regarding your situation, it sounds like you're facing a challenging decision, balancing personal well-being with practical concerns. Remember, your strength and resilience shine through even in your words. It's crucial to prioritise your emotional and physical well-being, especially when facing such significant life changes. While it might seem daunting, remember that resources and support systems are available to assist you in navigating this transition. If you're looking for a supportive community where you can share your thoughts and gain insights from others who might have faced similar challenges, our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community could be a valuable resource: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Your strength and determination are evident, and with the right support and guidance, you can navigate this path and find a new beginning that aligns with your well-being and happiness.
Kind Regards,
David
Could listen to you both all day, every day but I realise that would be procrastinating!!
Finding it so hard to do the Golden thread Process...perhaps I don't really understand it that well, was wondering if you could do a video on an example session doing the process? Or is there one I can watch somewhere? I only get as far as answering the " Why do I think I'm being rejected?
Anyway....hope there is and once again thanks for all your brilliant work Alex and David xxxxx
Hi Angie
We're developing an online course to tesh the Golden Thread Process step-by-step and this will be available next year. As you're a member of our Facebook group you'll get to hear about this first once it is launched :)
These two also offer role-play examples of the beginning of the process which you may also find helpful:
ruclips.net/video/9XuoL9pQSR8/видео.html / ruclips.net/video/5N7sC1yGZO4/видео.html
Once you have answered the question: 'Why do I think/believe I'm being rejected?'... then you need to further interrogate your answer by asking things like: is this the truth? would I teach this to my (physical) child?... etc. ....until you get down to the core belief/'lie' that your Inner Child is clinging to.
We hope this helps!
Alex + David x
It feels like an intellectual exercise when one feels hurt. Useful, but not enough
Hello Nadja, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Kind regards, David.
Thank you so much! I'm almost looking forward to being 'rejected' (to a certain extent) so I can use this wisdom haha... Thank you x
Wow! Thank you so much for this topic.
The show must go on, but I don't have to act in it. Their choice doesn't become my problem. 😍 Really great guys!
Hi Elizabeth... the Taoist teaching is that 'the show' never ends - it just transforms and flows. Nice! :)
Thanks for your kind feedback - we appreciate it.
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My last relationship he told me, "I hate everything about you", then went into details. Blew me away!
How sweet.
Nasty!
I’ve struggled with self love all my life (54 years). I’m not good enough , I’m not worthy, etc.
Always looking for validation that I’m good enough, pretty enough, etc
Hi Sharon
Thanks for sharing your story.
We have a love and relationship video playlist which also covers the teaching on self-love and self-worth which you may find helpful: ruclips.net/p/PL9NQ_PWX4zID3yxrdCbbZFuKHCwgV6qhX
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@@WuWeiWisdom what about your whole family rejecting you?
This so big. It’s about free will. God through His love games choice. So we do the same with people in general and those in our lives
Thank you! Intressting subject Thanks you and Alex for give me smil and tools 🙏🏻
Hi Jennkan
We're glad you've found us!
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You guys are great. Both the message and form
Am wondering if this applies to failing at job interviews too . Particularly if we really thought we wanted the job .. then it leads to whether we we were meant to have it
i lost a lot of friends when i became depressed, and now that i'm not depressed they are starting to trickle back into my life. how can i understand them as to have compassion and not harbor resentment?
That was awesome! thank you.
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Watching this again, has reminded me of some answers, witch i can’t see because of confusion or the fog ! 😁x
Excellent video. Thank you for sharing this insight in relation to the feeling of rejection and the use of the golden thread to challenge this feeling/belief.
I do have a battle within my self with feelings of rejection. My understanding from this video is to understand the real reason for me feeling and thinking this way. Acknowledge it as a red flag and be there for myself in the moment. Create the space within me, between the emotion and myself. I do have codependency issues which I became aware of a while back. This includes, people pleasing, getting involved with others when it may not be in my best interest and when they choose to go and not include me, become angry, resentful and realise the emptiness inside This video does highlight some of the issues of codependency.
In my opinion, when someone says they no longer want to be with us, it can be hard to acknowledge that this relates to that person and not to us personally. It may show our level of attachment to them and where we may be too attached to them and not enough to ourselves. The grief that we may suddenly feel from a loss of certainty ( in my case in the past, of them giving me reason to not have to acknowledge the emptiness within), creates feelings within us that can overwhelm in the moment due to loss, fear and negative thoughts, expectations and reactions within oneself. It is only when a person chooses to create a space between the feelings and themselves, a person can then act and look at the issue objectively and from a position of strength, clarity calmness, love and acceptance, rather then a position of victim, instability and reactions.
To create the space we have to be there for ourselves, acknowledge the emotions, accept them, just like a parent does with a child, in this case be a parent to our inner child. Be there like a rock, a foundation, stand there for ourselves, listen, reflect, learn and grow; acknowledge our greatness, love and accept ourselves. Although the person may no longer wish to be with us, which is their choice, our focus should be with ourselves and the choices we wish to make, going forward.....
Hi Serenity, thanks for your comments, I'm pleased that you found the video helpful. My small contribution to your analysis is to be mindful of the Inner Child doing what we label as "DUMPING". Giving you too many issues and problems in one go. I think it would be a good exercise for you to go through your comments and address and solve each one in turn. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos. David
Thanks
I feel so betrayed he left me after 34 years of marriage(Cheating and lying)
You can’t have closure with a narcissist.
Hi , encouraging dialogue but it addresses the serious issue on the surface .i am sure you are aware of deeper aspects and reasons of shame , guilt , fear , feeling of worthless etc.
A child having been neglected , abandoned and/or abused from the infant and after time has already pathological neuro disregulation .Science trying to encoding what changes at neuron and neurotransmitter level occurred / present and how to threat it .
Remedies at current time touching symptoms , including psychotherapy or other conditioning behavioral or subjective approaches .
thanks
Thank you for your comments. I'm pleased that you enjoyed the video. My work with clients is about taking responsibility and changing those thoughts and beliefs from childhood. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos - we appreciate it. David
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Brilliant, thank you..,
Glad you enjoyed it
The hardest thing when you discover that your partner is emotionally manipulating you just for his pleasure, especially when you are a HSP, this is unfair
It's honestly so hard to feel like you're not the problem or to feel secure when ever since birth it seems like everyone chooses someone over you.. I'm truly struggling with the "feeling" of rejection almost all the time
Hello 'ofaroyale'
Thank you for your comments.
Reading your short response I believe that the Wu Wei Wisdom process would help you.
First try and stop using the "FEEL" word. This is confusing your thinking and therefore your ability to get to the root of the problem.
If you replace " I feel" with: I think, believe or choose you will be able to do the Golden Thread Process to uncover your true roots/core beliefs.
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You are not alone..especially when it replays severally in different life stages
Incredible thank you so much 🙏😀
You're so welcome! Kind regards, David.
Here’s the thing: If you believe what you are saying is true, you must also believe that it is dishonest to make promises to stay with your partner for life in your wedding vows or even just in a verbal promise. Because you don’t know what the future holds. Each of you might simply find someone you love more. And according to you, that’s completely understandable and ok. Never mind if you have children who would be hurt emotionally or financially by a divorce. C’mon. Get a little more real. What IS your opinion on wedding vows? Do you think it’s completely ok to promise you will stay together for life, or should that not be promised? Humans are obviously an interdependent species. You are throwing around the word “promise” and “integrity”. I say that IF you make a promise, take responsibility for your promises. KEEP your promises. If you can’t - and there is ALWAYS that possibility - don’t make promises.
Hi Stacy Cates,
That's a great question, thanks very much.
Wedding vows differ between for counties and religions, however I would hope they are all based on the foundation of the spiritual/'Shen' teachings of truth, honesty and integrity, creating an emotional feeling of sharing and love.
Therefore if circumstances, issues or your beliefs change during the the relationship you should be open about sharing and discussing that with your partner. The word 'relationship' gives a clue here: the ability to relate.
You cannot or do not know the future so you cannot promise to stay together for life! Using your words, 'C'mon, get real!'...
For instance, if your partner becomes violent and abusive to you or your children you would NOT stay with them because of a promise you made many years earlier under totally different circumstances.
Also, you would NOT go to the other extreme and walk out of a relationship at the first sign of a problem or challenge. There should be NO stone left unturned before a relationship is ended.
A more spiritual vow would be that you will always be true, honest and live with integrity, no matter how difficult or challenging the situation may be.
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Hi David, how does one deal with the anger that surfaces in the immediate few moments / days when they leave with no explanation ?
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Why do I create red light feelings when I believe I’m unwanted by someone I’m attracted to or love… ??
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Hi David and Alex, thank you so much for this video and the insights. I’m wondering if I could ask a question? My father is very egocentric and always want me to win face for him, I feel I can see the truth about his rejection on the ‘true me’ now. But even I have forgiven him for the tremendous hurt for all these years he is still the same person believing that me being his daughter should satisfy his ego needs. Every time I have to go home I have so much fear and tears, and felt so angry and sad when I come back. And to make it worth my father always blame me for not caring him enough because he picks up the slightest awkwardness and blame me for not giving the good atmosphere. What do you suggest for dealing with parents like this? Would avoidance be the answer or constant forgiveness is the key? Would it be possible to reach a state that I can be transparent to his manipulation? What’s your advice on that? Thank you so much! Melody
Hi Melody,
Thanks for your question.
As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms.
I work with clients every day with these type of issues and Life Lessons.
I would ask you to remember that: you are the creator of your emotions, NOT the victim of them. The answer would be what are your beliefs about the role of parents and your expectations of your father.
Change your beliefs your relationship and emotions around your father will change.
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Wu Wei Wisdom Hi David, thank you so much for your reply. It’s good reminder that we are the creator of our emotions! It’s so easy to forget that! And also inspired by your video this week, I will sit quiet and ask my ‘shen’ what to do in this situation. Thank you! Best wishes Melody
What about a daughter rejecting her mom (me)... What do I do w my pain?
Hello Clan,
Thanks for sharing your personal and family experience.
It would be inappropriate for me to comment without full and details background and history.
In my long experience there will be opportunities in the future to address the issues that your daughter is having problems with. Your mothering skills are needed now more than ever.
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My daughter too, radical acceptance helped me. Not easy but must be done
But what about where you are guilty of rejecting your partner?? Is that behavior also coming from your Inner Child being rejected and so hurt?
Hi Kalpana MD,
Thanks for your question.
As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms.
It would not be unusual for inappropriate or out of character actions to be stimulated by the part of your mind we are labelling the Inner Child.
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My brother is cutting me to half payments monthly in my inheritance income
meaning as i see it inability to survive --he being my only income. I am 73 years uprepared in a foreign country w no visa--
Is this personal rejection and i
Thank him
Or do i discuss money ?
Hi @OscarTrujilloyute,
This sounds like a very challenging situation, especially given your reliance on this income. It's understandable that you'd feel concerned and unsure about the best way forward.
From a Wu Wei perspective, I'd encourage you to approach your brother with a calm and open mindset. Rather than viewing this as rejection, consider it an opportunity to engage in an honest conversation about your shared financial responsibilities and your needs. Express your concerns directly, but also be willing to listen to his perspective. This way, you can work towards a solution that feels fair and balanced.
Take things one step at a time, and trust in your ability to find a way through this situation. And if you’d like more support or perspectives, our Wu Wei Wisdom community is a wonderful place to connect: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/.
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I choose to say: thank you very much, that was a great topic! ,and I have a question for you please, since I was a child, my mother says:" if you do not have friends, that 's because you'r not good, and maybe the problem is in you", and so many times , especially when she is angry;she says:"if you continue like that, you will die alone!", please tell me , how can I get rid of that belief, that I can't be alone, and if I do, I feel horible , sad, and inworthy. Logicly, I know this is not true, but what should I say to my inner child, or the target part of me , to clear this belief. And tell me please that it's safe, and not reducing my worthiness to be alone. Thank's again for your teachings.
you need to really listen to what they are saying.
@@benelin1 I did,thank you , but some pricise guideness, will help more
Hi Raya thanks for your comments.
Well done! You are correct this is your Inner Child (#IC) still wanting to believe Mom :-)
But, moms are NOT always right are they? How many things that your Mom said to and about you have you dismissed?
Then the real question is why YOU are choosing to hold on to this LIE? What is the benefit it gives you?
This is the #InnerChild work we talk about in our videos, The good news is YOU can change this (if you want to) it is about your relationship with your #IC nothing to do with your mother now.
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@@WuWeiWisdom thank you very much, I don't how to express my gratitude for you. I will work on what makes me hold in this lie. I love you peaple
@@raya7656 ok great... let us know how you get on Raya :) x
Good
Thanks. Kind regards, David.
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What about when your parent rejects you for being too successful in their eyes? When they want you to fail so they can feel better about themselves.
That is not rejection, that is a reflection of them and how they truly feel about themselves. They want to control and power to dominate. That is not loving, that is manipulation.
I don't agree on the marriage example, marriage is a commitment. I'm not talking about cases of abuse, then the person needs to protect themselves and any children involved. In the name of honesty, the other person is rejecting the spouse, theres no way around that. But like you stated in another video, if the garbage is laying in your walkway, don't keep walking over it, move it, theres no choice if you want to be healthy, other than dealing with the truth of it and moving on with your life, not living in bitterness. At least thats my understanding.
Relationships aren't that logical. The pain usually needs healing from an energy healer. It needs to be released from your being. Analyzing it isn't enough.
You are your own healer ...but you can't change (heal) what you don't understand. 🙂
Usually understanding happens with the healing. It IS the healing. But some gurus say you don't have to know what is being healed. Probably depends on what you believe about healing. All the best to you in your healing journey. @@WuWeiWisdom
same to you Sun Flower 🙏
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If the mother called you a shit? It isn’t a rejection? It is beyond me.
Hi Evian,
Thanks for your comments.
NO! calling you names is ONLY a reflection of her emotional and mental state at that time.
No reflection or judgement on you or your personality. I don't understand why you would believe that, unless you think she is correct and you are that name. I think you are awesome!
It is not a matter of who said it, you have to decide, is it true?
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As a child is growing up, their emotional all support is their mother..if ones mother set ultimatums to being accepted as long as you behave how they expect , there's definitely a need for mothers live therefore one is bound to try n conform because at the end of the day one needs motherly/parental love
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I love how even when I watch the older videos, the quality of content is still just as useful and consistent🫶🏽❤️ Thankyou for all that you guys do
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