Y’all shave once a week max. That’s what I do and I only shave cuz otherwise while I’m playing volleyball I get a free hair wax removal from diving on the court.
Oh my gosh I just played a volleyball tournament (it was really casual and there were only like four teams) but the gym floor was literally concrete, I still have a scrape on my arm from diving 🥲
Yup. This needs to be addressed. The ingrowns I got from teenage anxiety shaving lol. None of these boys were worth it! Should have rocked the stubble.
The girls who wipe back to front were probably never taught to wipe front to back from a parent. Usually neglected kids, I would know, because I was one of them.
Wait as in when u use the bathroom u wipe front to back? I didnt know that.. Was that something ur supposed to learn from a parent?? Or do I have the wrong idea (I’m stupid don’t judge 😭😭)
@@jeanna6772 No literally 😭 the front door and the back door need separate pieces, in a pinch front door piece can touch back door, but never the opposite lol
WHENEVER I WAX, I PUT MOISTURIZER ON. THAT DID NOTHING TO HELP, MY SKIN WAS STILL EXTREMELY IRRITATED. PLEASE JUST TRY TO NOT SHAVE OR WAX AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE
@@pinkqqq I'm extremely prone to ingrown because my hair is kinky as a black person. Chemical exfoliation has worked better for me than physical exfoliation. I use glycolic acid under my armpits a few times a week. Just wait a the day after removing hair because it can sting since pores are open. Electric foil shavers are also better for me than disposable razors since the shave isn't as close. It's kinda like a super short trim. That way, the hair isn't trapped below the skin. Hope this helps ❤
As a 14 year old girl I am very proud over myself because I have stopped chasing other peoples approval. People change just for others to like them, and it'll just end up in you not feeling comfortable to be urself. There'll always be someone who hates u and tries to make u feel bad, but don't focus on them, focus on urself and ur goals ❤ and also bodyhair is normal stop being ashamed
I really wish I thought like you when I was 14 now I'm 20 regretting a lot I did and didn't do in the past so keep this mentality you'll go so far in life, you'll have your heart broken by some but you'll be stronger from it the right friends and the right man will find you ❤
I will still never understand how girls much younger than me in their teens (I'm 21) get these perfect bikini lines at the beach. No matter how I shave, what I do I will always get bumps, razor burn and it just looks good for one day only and then I can't swim anymore because my bikini line just looks awful. And waiting each time for like 5/6 days to be able to shave again is just not it. I'm definitely saving money for lasering and get rid of all of it. It's the biggest body insecurity I have and other than that I'm pretty much happy with how I look besides my body hair. I really feel like some people are just blessed with being able to shave everyday without any razor burn or bumps whatsoever. Or they have some magical tricks no one knows of.
Thank god someone’s talking about this, idk why it’s normalized for women to shave every day but I’ve been getting ingrowns and irritated skin from it for years and now I let it grow out at least a week and I don’t have issues anymore. being hairless isn’t that important, it’s not that serious hair is natural lol
I'm 13 years old, and I started shaving arms and legs around a year ago. I shave once or twice a week and I just wanted to know if this was healthy at my age. I recently joined 7th grade, and in the beginning of 6th grade i was very quiet and introverted. Halfway through 6th grade I started shaving because i was extremely insecure about my arm and leg hair(especially because I swim almost every day) I just felt a lot more confident after shaving. A little before I started shaving I became friends with this girl and we became really close really fast. She recently told me that when she first met me (before I started shaving) she thought I was just this quiet girl who always stood with her arms crossed. I realised that she was right and I ALWAYS crossed my arms hoping to hide my arm hair. That's how insecure I was. After I started shaving I stopped crossing my arms, and looked (and felt) a lot more approachable and confident. Since then I've become friends with a lot more people, and I know it's not because I started shaving, and more because I changed my mindset and became confident, but my confidence was caused by my shaving. So basically after reading all that do you think it's healthy for me to shave? And are there any precautions you think I should take while shaving? PS. I also thought you should know that I naturally have a lot of hair, it's genetic and my dad has a lot of arm and leg hair.
Ohhhh...well, what I could say is that, it's perfectly fine to do so, but I think shaving can be very...tedious...when done regularly..but I do understand your struggles. But hey, at least you're confident now!! Just make sure that when you shave, you have to wet your hair with warm water and soap it up and stuff. It becomes easy like that. Edit: Sorry for making it even longer, but on the topic whether it is healthy or not, a lot of people shave, so more or less, it's more of a preference. It seems to be doing you well in terms of how you perceive yourself, so it can be healthy in that way. But it could take a toll when you stop shaving or whatever. But yah, just know that shaving can be tedious once you have to do it a lot of times? Goodluckk!!
hey! really happy you were able to get out of your comfort zone , it's so important at that age (any age really lmao) to have confidence to approach others and make friends, seriously its a big step. To acknowledge you might have an unhealthy attachment to shaving is also v good self awareness.. I think maybe dial it back little by little? as you said you know it's your more confident personality not your shaven arms that attracted people to you, and while completely cutting it out of your routine is probably too much rn, lessing the frequency is much healthier all around. good luck!!
if you feel more confident after shaving then keep doing it ! but make sure you're doing it for yourself and not just to please other people. i think it could be a problem if you cannot be confident at all when you have body hair. it is a very natural thing and no one is allowed to shame you for it, because the way your body looks is no one's business but yours :)
For real I tried shaving consitently and it's just such a hassle and so itchy when it's growing out. Plus my arms are just hairy as my legs so it doesn't really make sense to shave one and not the other.
I just stopped shaving as an adult. Haven’t shaved in probably 5 years. It helps a LOT with weeding out childish males when dating. I use a bikini trimmer on my armpits and pubic area to keep the hair at a manageable length, but that’s it. I have also dyed my armpit hair to match my head hair 😂 lime green pits was fun
Girl don't stress about shaving your arms. One of my older brothers made fun of me for having the hairiest arms he's ever seen. It broke my heart because he was the big brother I really looked up to. And the one who always picked on me told him to knock it off because it's natural for everyone to grow hair everywhere. Because of that I listened to the one who told me I was too hairy and shaved my arms for years. Fast forward like 15 years later and my then bf (now husband) once told me while cuddling that he loved the hair on my shoulders and never once told me he was grossed out that my happy trail or any other hair on my body was darker and thicker then his. I shave once every few months now more for me then any one now. Long story of rambling summed up please don't feel like hairy arms are meant to be shaved or hidden. You're a mammal it's normal to be covered in hair.
I only shave during summer, the rest of the year I'm a hairy bat, except for 2 places for air draft reasons. I have high testosterone and my B.O can get bad, the sweat sticks to hair making you smell worse. So I shave them and it's not nearly as bad. My legs = summer. Face,nose, ears = never. We need our hair otherwise.
i'm the exact same, but also because i'm a dancer so most of the time i'm wearing pants except for like 2 months out of the year. if i have some kind of event or something during the winter i still don't even shave my legs more than once every 6 weeks
i shave every 3 days (bc i wash my hair every 3 days so it helps with like schedule) but sometimes i skip it so like once a week but the only reason i do it is bc i like the feeling of my smooth legs on my blanket 💀💀
Sensitive skin friend here: I can totally recommend getting a "lady shaver" or "body shaver" or just a men's face shaver. It's the electric kind that does not look like a razor, where the blade never touches the skin. And yeah it leaves a bit of stubble, but it's the least irritating thing I've found. I've tried lazer but my hair grew back after a while. Also moisturize, it really helps.
Inb4 comments about just leaving the hair as is: I've heard it, I've tried it. I've defied many societal norms, but body hair just ain't one that I can get past.
As a younger person who just started her period and stuff not that long ago, you have improved my life IMMENSELY. Thank you Sahara. I really appreciate it 🩷
@user-my1mf8sq6e yea but generally announcing you're underage is dangerous, late periods can be a thing because of medical conditions and hormone blockers
I'm 13 and the approval thing was real❤ When I first go to school people bullied me because of my weight and because I am a nerd, I was pretty big for a girl my age so people tend to say things that I should eat less and even stop eating so I lost weight, I started to starve myself and I lost a couple pound and people start to talk to me especially those girl in my class, I thought they really want to be friends with me but instead they only using me because I'm a "nerd" . I'm 14 now and I had a lot of changes, not only my appearance change a bit, my mind changed too I started not to befriend with those who are using me, and instead trying to love myself more and embracing my body. I felt a lot better and the only who helped me through is the internet. I had no one to talk to, but the internet supported me❤
I wish I could do that but I have competition in the winter and practice about 2 mins into practice everyone is sweating. And whenever I tumble my skirt just rolls right up and when I jump
the least you can do when shaving, try to do it once a week after you wash your hair so it’s been some time before you shave. apply body soap and shave with the soap on, then rinse it off. why it’s better to wait is because your hair softens up with the water, so you’ll have less hair resistance and you can shave without scares and stuff.
Okay but you’re so real for sharing that last one. I was one of those girls who didn’t know for soooooo long bc no one talked about it! I was lucky I never got a UTI so you’re saving a lot of girls from a lot of uncomfortability in the future by being so real! Thank you
Man i rarely shave my legs because of ingrowns. Like my skin just looks like it got extra freckles and then i feel like i wanna pick at them to free the hair. 💀😭
I’m happy I heard this because I’m a freshman and I have always been good about being myself and cutting toxic people off so I’m glad to know I ain’t ruining my high school experience and my self worth 💕
The part about chasing others approval and it just being a deadend marathon, absolutely. I was the weird chatty undiagnosed ADHD girl at school and I just wanted everyone to like me so bad. When I got hit by a car I had more attention from the people I wanted it from than I'd ever had in my life, and even THEN it only lasted a week and they went right back to bullying me. Sahar is so, so correct. Wish I'd learned to accept this years ago.
Lol I only shave or wax during the summer now and even then I only do it monthly. I personally like the look and feel of hairless skin but when I’m completely covered from head to toe because it’s cold outside I let it be.
I used to use a machine for my armpit hair. It was absolute torture. Horrible pain during and my skin was super irritated after. Just did it once a week and I felt so horrible and self conscious as it grew back. After about a year, my skin had turned brown and it looked like I had hair even when I didn't. After high school, I decided it was not worth it to buy myself my own machine and keep doing it. I just live with my hairy armpits. If I want to do them, I'll use Nair or something and if I decided to get rid of them permanently, I'll use some form of laser removal.
Same the only thing that helped me with my ingrowns and scarring was lazer, when I first decided to do it everybody said it would be a painful waste of money, but it's not that painful, its super fast, and the cost of it is so much cheaper than a lifetime of waxing, and now I dont have to be insecure about my hair or scarring all the time, and I dont have to think about shaving anymore I can just go to the beach and have fun, I am so glad that I invested in lazer hair removal, best decision ever, if you're in a positon where you have super sensitive skin, have coarse hair, and are extremely prone to ingrown hairs I highly reccomend getting it
The annoying thing about the shaving, as a young girl is that I’m a swimmer. So if I don’t shave my pits I get really insecure abt it. Plus when I don’t shave down there, and I sit down in my swimsuit, sometimes I worry that people could see hair down there which is SO embarrassing. So for me its mostly a confidence thing.
thank GOD wiping front to back is the only thing my mother taught me. saved me years of infections fr. and with shaving, what was in the water at my middle school ?? misogyny ?? i'd feel so humiliated when i'd go to gym class with hairy legs. so happy i grew out of that.
I don't think there's anything wrong with shaving or waxing or doing laser cause you're insecure, as long as u do it properly and take care of your skin then it's alright, I'm gonna keep continuing waxing cause I feel pretty with no hair
Im only 12 years old, and I did wax for the first time like a week ago, and I only shave like one a month since my body hair doesn’t grow that fast or that much, and so far I don’t have any ingrowns or dark spots, and also wiping from back to front, I heard that it’s not good to do that and that u should wipe from front to back bc u don’t want bacteria from the back to get to the front and u could get infections, so it’s definitely ideal to wipe from front to back, also for the shaving, if you don’t already do this, I recommend shaving before you start your period, that’s what I do and it’s so much better than just waiting until afterwards
I didn't even feel like shaving my armpits for prom and I was told by my sister and grandma that they were just trying to help when they told me I should shave. My grandma said "boys find that gross, they think it looks like pubes under your armpit". She's old fashioned of course. My sister was like "It's just a grooming recommendation". I was going to prom by myself. I had no boys to impress. Also, it shouldn't matter. I told them that. I told them it shouldn't matter what boys think and that it's my body and I don't need people telling me when to shave it. Then my grandma tried backtracking saying that it doesn't matter to her and that she would never have the nerve to tell this to her mother or grandmother. She always brings them up every time she feels disrespected in some way, even though what I did was not inherently disrespectful. 😒
I was really relating to the one about not being friends with ppl who don’t care abt u and then u dropped the one abt wiping back and it totally caught me off guard 😂
how about shaving annually? From the beginning of puberty, I didn't/don't really care about my body hair. I do like having smooth legs however it takes way to much effort for something that doesn't really effect me lmao
I feel you I’m so sorry to hear that I had friends like that and I got so frustrated that I sit with my family member because she is the only one who cared about me.
But how do I like not care what people think and still have friends like how do manage that like not caring what people think and still keeping friends yk? Like how
I don't know if you asked to receive a serious answer but just in case,i thought it might help a bit;if not i apologize It's not about completely not caring what others think or not caring about others,it's about having a 'strong' (i don't know if that would be the correct term,to know yourself,i guess) enough personality to know if it's really worth the effort to care about certain things or people. Knowing how to discern the things that you really consider important is the key. Know how to distinguish between the facts or what may be someone's opinion about you;and act based on whether you consider it important (but not out of pressure,but because it really was constructive criticism). I dragged this out too long and maybe I didn't express it in the best way,I just wanted to say that as long as you consider it important it's fine;just remember that not everything you feel is a fact (like when you feel that the world is ending if someone is not interested in you,this is just an example),not being too touchy or easily influenced would be ideal. Basically,knowing who you are,and whether you consider what others think or say important enough to change yourself,that's all.
i started shaving my legs and armpits when i was like 12-13 ish. it made me feel like a grownup. at one point i accidentally cut myself on that lil’ bump on my ankle, i then asked myself: who am i doing this for? haven’t shaved since then and i’m currently starting to get more comfortable with my body hair- it makes us human after all
I think with the wiping it depends on the body. I go back to front, fold, front to back. I just feel like that works best for my anatomy. Also I obviously fold the paper after wiping the booty.
thank god I didn't give a fuck about shaving when i was a teen. my mom would be so pissed but i just couldn't be bothered. I've only started shaving now that im 20 but i don't do it too much because I don't want all the ingrowns
When I was a kid I was thought the wiping thing and I’m surprised that some wipe from back to front. Because tbh it doesn’t feel right to do that idk it feels odd so I’m more comfortable when I do it the right way + no risks of infections n all
i learned by myself that even if I try to win people's approval, it's up to them to stay or not. So I just never care and start being myself. If they decide to stay, they will stay. And just this alone made me gain so many new friends. I was so caught up with someone who didn't even want to be friends with me..
Get this, my sister and I get shamed sometimes for not giving a shit and not shaving our arms, my brother gets shamed for not being able to grow a lot of arm hair
I personally shave maybe once every two days and that works best for me so I would better advise to just do what feels good to you. My area does personally literally not get ANY ingrowns or irritation, ever. Whenever I go without shaving for a couple of days I just cant stand the feeling it has down there so to each their own
I literally shave once in 2 months like I'm just too lazy + the only place where hair grown on my body are my head ( obviously ) , private part and under arms so no insecurities of hair on legs and hand
I'm 35 and just now found out about shaving your face as a cis female was a "regular" thing, for makeup being easier to apply. I rarely use cover up so I was curious if this was an option I should be doing when using cover up, but! I have hella sensitive skin, so when you said "for who?" It hit. It would be for other people. Haven't shaved my face yet. But when the time comes for a special event that I want to be pretty for ME, do any of you ladies have a shaver or advice for that moment? For minimal damage to my skin? Or, maybe I should just ditch the whole thing all together and let my little fuzzy face hairs fly? ❤
as a swimmer, i second the first one. literally since i joined the team in 2019 to recently i shaved EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. my whole leg. the razor bumps, itchiness, and ingrown hairs are not worth it.
I shave about every 3 days as a teen, not for anyone else but because I have major periods and hate the way having hair feels because of my sensory issues. I really hate how people ASSUME girls do it only for guys approval. There are many many reasons and we could start teaching younger girls how to shave properly instead of telling them not to all together. I’ve only had real razor burn once and that was the first time because I had no idea what I was doing. Now, with a little learning I never have them. Teach don’t judge.
Fr, people just don't know how to treat their skin and it shows. I once knew a girl who would dry shave and then be shocked when her skin was itchy and irritated lol.
I shave when the hair starts to piss me off I have coarse straight hair on my body and if it gets to long it starts to make my skin irritated . So when I get fed up I shave but most definitely regret shaving so early on . I’m trying removal cream instead to see how that works . Not on that area😭
Jenna Ortega still does the first one, because when she was younger she used to get bullied for having body hair cuz the rest of the girls in her grade had already shaved their arms and legs and it was just her who hadn’t. I’m also just spreading awareness not anything to bring her down. It’s normal to have body hair and you are better off with it! It actually protects your skin believe it or not :)) no matter what anyone says about you, you shouldn’t really care unless you get into trouble for it. Stay healthy and safe ❤
The friend thing. I'm currently dealing with this girl who like hates my guts for no flicking reason, and I'm always like, how can I get her to like me and blah blah blah. This was soo helpful and am definitely gonna work on not wanting approval from others.
I might get bullied but i personally choose not to shave at all unless it's my armpits. Other than that, I just leave my leg hair and other. I do not have the time or patience for all that lol
The shaving one called teenage me right out! Do not shave an area unless you have visible hair there or you'll just be rubbing violently at your skin!!
I like shaving my legs because they feel so nice after but are too much work for me to do consistently. Armpits tho, deff chasing approval. When I was in 5th grade someone (my mom) made fun of my bushes and like traumatized me without knowing or trying now I get self conscious if I have armpit hair
I absolutely love your talks but the only complaint I have is you don't provide link to 2nd part I know it might help to increase the views of other videos but trust me it's annoying af So please fix that Lot's of love from India 🖤
I shave once a week or longer. And I only shave cause I enjoy the feeling of the smooth skin. It feels really nice to me and it is, in a way, my self care as I take a nice long bath too
Y’all shave once a week max. That’s what I do and I only shave cuz otherwise while I’m playing volleyball I get a free hair wax removal from diving on the court.
Literally same. IT HURTS SO BAD!!
@@BestBelieveImStillBejeweled frrr
Oh my gosh I just played a volleyball tournament (it was really casual and there were only like four teams) but the gym floor was literally concrete, I still have a scrape on my arm from diving 🥲
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OMG SAMMMEEEE!!! I’m in pain thinking about it
Yup. This needs to be addressed. The ingrowns I got from teenage anxiety shaving lol. None of these boys were worth it! Should have rocked the stubble.
Lol I shave for ballet and I literally can't dance without shaving
I hate how I look hairy :( I need to shave twice a day in summer to be smooth 😭
i ain’t shaving for the boys 🤭🤫
@@DuoKnif sure…It’s giving “I got labioplasty for myself”
@@heyysophie9928 i’m shaving for girls
i never shaved in high school out of spite cause i was all about 'im not gonna do this just so he will like me more' lmaoo
I don’t shave out of spite because it annoys my misogynist cousin
@@twineberry ur so real for this 🫶
@@twineberrylove you for this ❤😂
@@twineberry Hell yesss. Ily for that. 💀❤
@@twineberry beautiful. I love you for this.
Using baby oil gel while shaving was a game changer for me. I shave daily and don’t get irritation anymore thank god
can you tell me about your routine please 😊
Just don’t use Johnson and Johnson
Will it work on strawberry legs too ?
@@bluebutterfingers2525 that shit sucks
@@bluebutterfingers2525 why ?
The girls who wipe back to front were probably never taught to wipe front to back from a parent. Usually neglected kids, I would know, because I was one of them.
Also sadly some parents thought them to do that
How the hell do you wipe from the front back
@@YourLocalToolShed EXACTLY
I did that in my childhood, mostly because I wasn't actually taught how, I don't kniw when I stopped, but im so freaking glad I did.
Wait as in when u use the bathroom u wipe front to back? I didnt know that.. Was that something ur supposed to learn from a parent?? Or do I have the wrong idea (I’m stupid don’t judge 😭😭)
Omg yes the wiping back to front. When I learnt people did that I was so shocked, like I thought it was common sense to go from front to back??
There's a portion of parents who don't teach properly.
Bro even my mom was doing it wrong why did nobody tell me 😭
our teacher told me and im glad she did
I don't even use the same toilet paper to wipe 😭😭 I use different pieces for different spots
@@jeanna6772 No literally 😭 the front door and the back door need separate pieces, in a pinch front door piece can touch back door, but never the opposite lol
For waxing, sugaring, exfoliating, it's important to moisturize the skin after. It should help with ingrown hair
WHENEVER I WAX, I PUT MOISTURIZER ON. THAT DID NOTHING TO HELP, MY SKIN WAS STILL EXTREMELY IRRITATED. PLEASE JUST TRY TO NOT SHAVE OR WAX AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE
@@pinkqqq
I'm extremely prone to ingrown because my hair is kinky as a black person.
Chemical exfoliation has worked better for me than physical exfoliation. I use glycolic acid under my armpits a few times a week. Just wait a the day after removing hair because it can sting since pores are open.
Electric foil shavers are also better for me than disposable razors since the shave isn't as close. It's kinda like a super short trim. That way, the hair isn't trapped below the skin.
Hope this helps ❤
@@Greydrops thank you
Sorry for me asking but what do you use for your bikini line?
@@tamlynwinston1470 use face safe wax!! and after using something to remove the leftover wax, try and just wash with water
As a 14 year old girl I am very proud over myself because I have stopped chasing other peoples approval. People change just for others to like them, and it'll just end up in you not feeling comfortable to be urself. There'll always be someone who hates u and tries to make u feel bad, but don't focus on them, focus on urself and ur goals ❤ and also bodyhair is normal stop being ashamed
I really wish I thought like you when I was 14 now I'm 20 regretting a lot I did and didn't do in the past so keep this mentality you'll go so far in life, you'll have your heart broken by some but you'll be stronger from it the right friends and the right man will find you ❤
Hold on to that spirit! It will take you places ❤
I'm proud of you for doing that!
@@fee3222 Awww thank you, thats really sweet! Bless you ❤
@@katethegreat9736 Thank you ❤
I will still never understand how girls much younger than me in their teens (I'm 21) get these perfect bikini lines at the beach. No matter how I shave, what I do I will always get bumps, razor burn and it just looks good for one day only and then I can't swim anymore because my bikini line just looks awful. And waiting each time for like 5/6 days to be able to shave again is just not it. I'm definitely saving money for lasering and get rid of all of it. It's the biggest body insecurity I have and other than that I'm pretty much happy with how I look besides my body hair. I really feel like some people are just blessed with being able to shave everyday without any razor burn or bumps whatsoever. Or they have some magical tricks no one knows of.
Just wear swim shorts over your bikini so you can swim
do you have curly hair?
Thank god someone’s talking about this, idk why it’s normalized for women to shave every day but I’ve been getting ingrowns and irritated skin from it for years and now I let it grow out at least a week and I don’t have issues anymore. being hairless isn’t that important, it’s not that serious hair is natural lol
I'm 13 years old, and I started shaving arms and legs around a year ago. I shave once or twice a week and I just wanted to know if this was healthy at my age.
I recently joined 7th grade, and in the beginning of 6th grade i was very quiet and introverted. Halfway through 6th grade I started shaving because i was extremely insecure about my arm and leg hair(especially because I swim almost every day) I just felt a lot more confident after shaving. A little before I started shaving I became friends with this girl and we became really close really fast. She recently told me that when she first met me (before I started shaving) she thought I was just this quiet girl who always stood with her arms crossed. I realised that she was right and I ALWAYS crossed my arms hoping to hide my arm hair. That's how insecure I was. After I started shaving I stopped crossing my arms, and looked (and felt) a lot more approachable and confident. Since then I've become friends with a lot more people, and I know it's not because I started shaving, and more because I changed my mindset and became confident, but my confidence was caused by my shaving.
So basically after reading all that do you think it's healthy for me to shave? And are there any precautions you think I should take while shaving?
PS. I also thought you should know that I naturally have a lot of hair, it's genetic and my dad has a lot of arm and leg hair.
Ohhhh...well, what I could say is that, it's perfectly fine to do so, but I think shaving can be very...tedious...when done regularly..but I do understand your struggles. But hey, at least you're confident now!! Just make sure that when you shave, you have to wet your hair with warm water and soap it up and stuff. It becomes easy like that.
Edit: Sorry for making it even longer, but on the topic whether it is healthy or not, a lot of people shave, so more or less, it's more of a preference. It seems to be doing you well in terms of how you perceive yourself, so it can be healthy in that way. But it could take a toll when you stop shaving or whatever. But yah, just know that shaving can be tedious once you have to do it a lot of times? Goodluckk!!
Thankss
hey! really happy you were able to get out of your comfort zone , it's so important at that age (any age really lmao) to have confidence to approach others and make friends, seriously its a big step. To acknowledge you might have an unhealthy attachment to shaving is also v good self awareness.. I think maybe dial it back little by little? as you said you know it's your more confident personality not your shaven arms that attracted people to you, and while completely cutting it out of your routine is probably too much rn, lessing the frequency is much healthier all around. good luck!!
As a 13 year old who started epilating 1 year ago I think it’s very healthy if you don’t get too obsessive with it
if you feel more confident after shaving then keep doing it ! but make sure you're doing it for yourself and not just to please other people. i think it could be a problem if you cannot be confident at all when you have body hair. it is a very natural thing and no one is allowed to shame you for it, because the way your body looks is no one's business but yours :)
Also - if you don't want to shave - you don't have too!!
i wish i heard that whrn i was 13
For real I tried shaving consitently and it's just such a hassle and so itchy when it's growing out. Plus my arms are just hairy as my legs so it doesn't really make sense to shave one and not the other.
Thanks Mr obvious
@@cassie8844 it isnt obvious for everyone love, youre fortunate if it iss for you
I only do it Cus it kinda hurts having hair down there😂
I’m a 14 year old guy, and the “stop giving a fuck about people who don’t care about you” is super relatable.
I just stopped shaving as an adult. Haven’t shaved in probably 5 years. It helps a LOT with weeding out childish males when dating. I use a bikini trimmer on my armpits and pubic area to keep the hair at a manageable length, but that’s it. I have also dyed my armpit hair to match my head hair 😂 lime green pits was fun
I love that 💚
Ew
Men who prefer shaven women are childish??
Lime green arm pit hair? Seems like the only men you’d have left to would be the weed man and the childish men.
I only shave when I want to wear no sleeves, which is not often XD
Girl don't stress about shaving your arms. One of my older brothers made fun of me for having the hairiest arms he's ever seen. It broke my heart because he was the big brother I really looked up to. And the one who always picked on me told him to knock it off because it's natural for everyone to grow hair everywhere. Because of that I listened to the one who told me I was too hairy and shaved my arms for years. Fast forward like 15 years later and my then bf (now husband) once told me while cuddling that he loved the hair on my shoulders and never once told me he was grossed out that my happy trail or any other hair on my body was darker and thicker then his. I shave once every few months now more for me then any one now. Long story of rambling summed up please don't feel like hairy arms are meant to be shaved or hidden. You're a mammal it's normal to be covered in hair.
Why do you have to shave to wear sleeveless clothes?
@@faesosasosanobody HAS to do anything but maybe they just like that look
I only shave during summer, the rest of the year I'm a hairy bat, except for 2 places for air draft reasons. I have high testosterone and my B.O can get bad, the sweat sticks to hair making you smell worse. So I shave them and it's not nearly as bad. My legs = summer. Face,nose, ears = never. We need our hair otherwise.
i'm the exact same, but also because i'm a dancer so most of the time i'm wearing pants except for like 2 months out of the year. if i have some kind of event or something during the winter i still don't even shave my legs more than once every 6 weeks
I have never shaved my arms and I’m 24. It’s not healthy or unhealthy, but I do think it’s unnecessary.
i shave every 3 days (bc i wash my hair every 3 days so it helps with like schedule) but sometimes i skip it so like once a week but the only reason i do it is bc i like the feeling of my smooth legs on my blanket 💀💀
I'm with you on the smooth legs on the sheets 😂 but I only shave once a week because I don't have as much hair as I used to. 😂
I have ingrown hairs so I can never feel smooth legs 😔 someone knows how to prevent it?
I got the Same thing you just have to moisturize after everytime you take a shower and exfoliate at least once/twice a week 👌🏽
I only shave mostly in the summer when wearing shorts and stuff, fall and winter all covered up showing no skin 😂
The hair helps keep you warm in the winter 😂
All of this advice is so important and i love the aggressive love she gives us
Sensitive skin friend here: I can totally recommend getting a "lady shaver" or "body shaver" or just a men's face shaver. It's the electric kind that does not look like a razor, where the blade never touches the skin. And yeah it leaves a bit of stubble, but it's the least irritating thing I've found.
I've tried lazer but my hair grew back after a while. Also moisturize, it really helps.
Inb4 comments about just leaving the hair as is: I've heard it, I've tried it. I've defied many societal norms, but body hair just ain't one that I can get past.
You need to do laser consistently if you can afford it and then eventually you'll only need to do it once a year or so
As a younger person who just started her period and stuff not that long ago, you have improved my life IMMENSELY. Thank you Sahara. I really appreciate it 🩷
i don't think telling people online you're a minor under a RUclips comment section is a good idea stay safe !
@@ashleyfromresidentevil4618 thank you I changed it
@@ashleyfromresidentevil4618 it's apparent that she's underage from the fact she's telling us she started her period not long ago
@user-my1mf8sq6e yea but generally announcing you're underage is dangerous, late periods can be a thing because of medical conditions and hormone blockers
Just wanted to let you know it’s Sahar
Tysm Sahar you are an older sister that has helped us all get through this! Ilysm 💗💗💗💗💗
Are u a Capricorn?
i love this girl she always speaks FACTS without giving a shit about what ppl are gonna say
I feel like girls open up more when doing self care. Idk why I love it so much. It's just a vibe.
ily so much Sahar!
u keep me going with ur advice and positivity 💕
Best girl talk ever! Love you Sahar ❤
I’m living for these girl talk/advice videos 😊
I'm 13 and the approval thing was real❤
When I first go to school people bullied me because of my weight and because I am a nerd, I was pretty big for a girl my age so people tend to say things that I should eat less and even stop eating so I lost weight, I started to starve myself and I lost a couple pound and people start to talk to me especially those girl in my class, I thought they really want to be friends with me but instead they only using me because I'm a "nerd" .
I'm 14 now and I had a lot of changes, not only my appearance change a bit, my mind changed too
I started not to befriend with those who are using me, and instead trying to love myself more and embracing my body.
I felt a lot better and the only who helped me through is the internet. I had no one to talk to, but the internet supported me❤
I love you so much sahar!! Spencer too. You guys are like the cool older sisters 🤍🤍
I only shave before my period and when I go swimming, the rest I don't care. I mostly shave my legs in summer. I don't give a flying F in winter
I wish I could do that but I have competition in the winter and practice about 2 mins into practice everyone is sweating. And whenever I tumble my skirt just rolls right up and when I jump
" stop trying to be friends with people who don't give a f about you"
Damm......
That's hit hard 😢
Nah cause it’s literally bad that I don’t give a single shit about what other people think most of the time like I be WILDING, WILDING I tell you😭
the least you can do when shaving, try to do it once a week after you wash your hair so it’s been some time before you shave. apply body soap and shave with the soap on, then rinse it off. why it’s better to wait is because your hair softens up with the water, so you’ll have less hair resistance and you can shave without scares and stuff.
“what are you shaving for?!”
myself queen
stop lying
Okay but you’re so real for sharing that last one. I was one of those girls who didn’t know for soooooo long bc no one talked about it! I was lucky I never got a UTI so you’re saving a lot of girls from a lot of uncomfortability in the future by being so real! Thank you
I love the big sister vibes, so many kids in high school need this.
Man i rarely shave my legs because of ingrowns. Like my skin just looks like it got extra freckles and then i feel like i wanna pick at them to free the hair. 💀😭
Make sure to exfoliate and moisturize between waxes!!
I’m happy I heard this because I’m a freshman and I have always been good about being myself and cutting toxic people off so I’m glad to know I ain’t ruining my high school experience and my self worth 💕
The part about chasing others approval and it just being a deadend marathon, absolutely. I was the weird chatty undiagnosed ADHD girl at school and I just wanted everyone to like me so bad. When I got hit by a car I had more attention from the people I wanted it from than I'd ever had in my life, and even THEN it only lasted a week and they went right back to bullying me. Sahar is so, so correct. Wish I'd learned to accept this years ago.
Lol I only shave or wax during the summer now and even then I only do it monthly. I personally like the look and feel of hairless skin but when I’m completely covered from head to toe because it’s cold outside I let it be.
I used to use a machine for my armpit hair. It was absolute torture. Horrible pain during and my skin was super irritated after. Just did it once a week and I felt so horrible and self conscious as it grew back. After about a year, my skin had turned brown and it looked like I had hair even when I didn't. After high school, I decided it was not worth it to buy myself my own machine and keep doing it. I just live with my hairy armpits. If I want to do them, I'll use Nair or something and if I decided to get rid of them permanently, I'll use some form of laser removal.
“And it better not be what I think it is” LMFAO
Same the only thing that helped me with my ingrowns and scarring was lazer, when I first decided to do it everybody said it would be a painful waste of money, but it's not that painful, its super fast, and the cost of it is so much cheaper than a lifetime of waxing, and now I dont have to be insecure about my hair or scarring all the time, and I dont have to think about shaving anymore I can just go to the beach and have fun, I am so glad that I invested in lazer hair removal, best decision ever, if you're in a positon where you have super sensitive skin, have coarse hair, and are extremely prone to ingrown hairs I highly reccomend getting it
I have these scars because I shaved so aggressively, and I'm very insecure about them because they won't go.
Girly how you be shaving everyday I literally was scared of a razor or even shaving 😭
The annoying thing about the shaving, as a young girl is that I’m a swimmer. So if I don’t shave my pits I get really insecure abt it. Plus when I don’t shave down there, and I sit down in my swimsuit, sometimes I worry that people could see hair down there which is SO embarrassing. So for me its mostly a confidence thing.
thank GOD wiping front to back is the only thing my mother taught me. saved me years of infections fr. and with shaving, what was in the water at my middle school ?? misogyny ?? i'd feel so humiliated when i'd go to gym class with hairy legs. so happy i grew out of that.
I just wipe.. separately? Like I ain’t trying to contaminate anything down there :(
SAMEE i cant get comfortable with the front to back :((
but even wiping separately in the wrong direction can accidentally carry the particles into your urethre
I don't think there's anything wrong with shaving or waxing or doing laser cause you're insecure, as long as u do it properly and take care of your skin then it's alright, I'm gonna keep continuing waxing cause I feel pretty with no hair
I shave each 3 days, I grow hair rlly quick and since it’s summer I wear a lot shorts, on my third day is when it’s all prickly 😭
Im only 12 years old, and I did wax for the first time like a week ago, and I only shave like one a month since my body hair doesn’t grow that fast or that much, and so far I don’t have any ingrowns or dark spots, and also wiping from back to front, I heard that it’s not good to do that and that u should wipe from front to back bc u don’t want bacteria from the back to get to the front and u could get infections, so it’s definitely ideal to wipe from front to back, also for the shaving, if you don’t already do this, I recommend shaving before you start your period, that’s what I do and it’s so much better than just waiting until afterwards
every time i scrolled down and scrolled back up the vid gained like 3 likes
I didn't even feel like shaving my armpits for prom and I was told by my sister and grandma that they were just trying to help when they told me I should shave. My grandma said "boys find that gross, they think it looks like pubes under your armpit". She's old fashioned of course. My sister was like "It's just a grooming recommendation".
I was going to prom by myself. I had no boys to impress. Also, it shouldn't matter. I told them that. I told them it shouldn't matter what boys think and that it's my body and I don't need people telling me when to shave it.
Then my grandma tried backtracking saying that it doesn't matter to her and that she would never have the nerve to tell this to her mother or grandmother. She always brings them up every time she feels disrespected in some way, even though what I did was not inherently disrespectful. 😒
I was really relating to the one about not being friends with ppl who don’t care abt u and then u dropped the one abt wiping back and it totally caught me off guard 😂
Even without makeup somehow your nose and just everything about you is perfect
“i know a lot of girls who wipe from the -“
*how would you know*
Someone please tell me why we’re supposed to wipe front to back, I feel much cleaner wiping back to front
So when you wipe back to front you possibly wipe 💩 on your vagina and risk yourself getting an infection.
but when i wipe back to front i make sure im wiping the voice and not anything behind it and i like wipe it separately. idk it’s hard to explain
how about shaving annually? From the beginning of puberty, I didn't/don't really care about my body hair. I do like having smooth legs however it takes way to much effort for something that doesn't really effect me lmao
I feel you I’m so sorry to hear that I had friends like that and I got so frustrated that I sit with my family member because she is the only one who cared about me.
But how do I like not care what people think and still have friends like how do manage that like not caring what people think and still keeping friends yk? Like how
I don't know if you asked to receive a serious answer but just in case,i thought it might help a bit;if not i apologize
It's not about completely not caring what others think or not caring about others,it's about having a 'strong' (i don't know if that would be the correct term,to know yourself,i guess) enough personality to know if it's really worth the effort to care about certain things or people.
Knowing how to discern the things that you really consider important is the key. Know how to distinguish between the facts or what may be someone's opinion about you;and act based on whether you consider it important (but not out of pressure,but because it really was constructive criticism).
I dragged this out too long and maybe I didn't express it in the best way,I just wanted to say that as long as you consider it important it's fine;just remember that not everything you feel is a fact (like when you feel that the world is ending if someone is not interested in you,this is just an example),not being too touchy or easily influenced would be ideal. Basically,knowing who you are,and whether you consider what others think or say important enough to change yourself,that's all.
@@us3r003 ok thanks for taking the time to write all that lol I read and thanks
Part 2
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Thank you!
Bless ✨
Bro ur amazing ❤
i started shaving my legs and armpits when i was like 12-13 ish. it made me feel like a grownup. at one point i accidentally cut myself on that lil’ bump on my ankle, i then asked myself: who am i doing this for? haven’t shaved since then and i’m currently starting to get more comfortable with my body hair- it makes us human after all
12?? What the fuck
I think with the wiping it depends on the body. I go back to front, fold, front to back. I just feel like that works best for my anatomy. Also I obviously fold the paper after wiping the booty.
Tysm❤
Anybody else have a hard time seeing the foundation after she first wiped it on her face? That is a perfect match 😩
thank god I didn't give a fuck about shaving when i was a teen. my mom would be so pissed but i just couldn't be bothered. I've only started shaving now that im 20 but i don't do it too much because I don't want all the ingrowns
When I was a kid I was thought the wiping thing and I’m surprised that some wipe from back to front. Because tbh it doesn’t feel right to do that idk it feels odd so I’m more comfortable when I do it the right way + no risks of infections n all
i learned by myself that even if I try to win people's approval, it's up to them to stay or not. So I just never care and start being myself. If they decide to stay, they will stay. And just this alone made me gain so many new friends. I was so caught up with someone who didn't even want to be friends with me..
Get this, my sister and I get shamed sometimes for not giving a shit and not shaving our arms, my brother gets shamed for not being able to grow a lot of arm hair
Yep… I should listen to the shaving part
Tysm, I shave everyday and chase people’s approval 😭😭😭
Oh my gosh that’s actually really sad that there’s girls out there who weren’t taught to wipe front to back. /:
I personally shave maybe once every two days and that works best for me so I would better advise to just do what feels good to you. My area does personally literally not get ANY ingrowns or irritation, ever. Whenever I go without shaving for a couple of days I just cant stand the feeling it has down there so to each their own
A lot of this is super helpful even for me as a man.
Girl, seriously, you should girls talk on a Spotify podcast, I would tune in EVERY FREAKING TIME, I LOVE YOUR CHANNEL SO MUUUUCH
ily ty for giving such straight forward advice and like genuine things that u wish u had known yk
I literally shave once in 2 months like I'm just too lazy + the only place where hair grown on my body are my head ( obviously ) , private part and under arms so no insecurities of hair on legs and hand
I used to do that a lot in high school too, out of dumbness! And the dumb thing is that I’m a natural blonde, it doesn’t even show😂😂 now i barely care
Watching this while shaving- it’s for the pool I’m going to go to lmao
I'm 35 and just now found out about shaving your face as a cis female was a "regular" thing, for makeup being easier to apply. I rarely use cover up so I was curious if this was an option I should be doing when using cover up, but! I have hella sensitive skin, so when you said "for who?" It hit. It would be for other people. Haven't shaved my face yet. But when the time comes for a special event that I want to be pretty for ME, do any of you ladies have a shaver or advice for that moment? For minimal damage to my skin? Or, maybe I should just ditch the whole thing all together and let my little fuzzy face hairs fly? ❤
as a swimmer, i second the first one. literally since i joined the team in 2019 to recently i shaved EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. my whole leg. the razor bumps, itchiness, and ingrown hairs are not worth it.
I shave about every 3 days as a teen, not for anyone else but because I have major periods and hate the way having hair feels because of my sensory issues. I really hate how people ASSUME girls do it only for guys approval. There are many many reasons and we could start teaching younger girls how to shave properly instead of telling them not to all together. I’ve only had real razor burn once and that was the first time because I had no idea what I was doing. Now, with a little learning I never have them.
Teach don’t judge.
Fr, people just don't know how to treat their skin and it shows. I once knew a girl who would dry shave and then be shocked when her skin was itchy and irritated lol.
I shave when the hair starts to piss me off I have coarse straight hair on my body and if it gets to long it starts to make my skin irritated . So when I get fed up I shave but most definitely regret shaving so early on . I’m trying removal cream instead to see how that works . Not on that area😭
Jenna Ortega still does the first one, because when she was younger she used to get bullied for having body hair cuz the rest of the girls in her grade had already shaved their arms and legs and it was just her who hadn’t. I’m also just spreading awareness not anything to bring her down. It’s normal to have body hair and you are better off with it! It actually protects your skin believe it or not :)) no matter what anyone says about you, you shouldn’t really care unless you get into trouble for it. Stay healthy and safe ❤
The friend thing. I'm currently dealing with this girl who like hates my guts for no flicking reason, and I'm always like, how can I get her to like me and blah blah blah. This was soo helpful and am definitely gonna work on not wanting approval from others.
I might get bullied but i personally choose not to shave at all unless it's my armpits. Other than that, I just leave my leg hair and other. I do not have the time or patience for all that lol
BRO THATS WHY MY MUSTACHE AREA HAS BEEN GETTING DARKER CUZ I WAX ALL THE TIME NOOOO :((( BUT IM SO INSECURE OF ANY MUSTACHE HAIR
yes! I was shaving my armpit almost every couple of days in high school. Regrets man!😅
I shave a lot for soccer but for some reason I have never gotten a cut ingrown or irritated/dry skins from it
The shaving one called teenage me right out! Do not shave an area unless you have visible hair there or you'll just be rubbing violently at your skin!!
I like shaving my legs because they feel so nice after but are too much work for me to do consistently. Armpits tho, deff chasing approval. When I was in 5th grade someone (my mom) made fun of my bushes and like traumatized me without knowing or trying now I get self conscious if I have armpit hair
Ohhhh god thank u I literally have a lot of scars on my body from shaving I won’t do it again
I'm 34 and I feel scolded 😂
I absolutely love your talks but the only complaint I have is you don't provide link to 2nd part
I know it might help to increase the views of other videos but trust me it's annoying af
So please fix that
Lot's of love from India 🖤
I shave once a week or longer. And I only shave cause I enjoy the feeling of the smooth skin. It feels really nice to me and it is, in a way, my self care as I take a nice long bath too
stop, high school you is legit me rn n am in high school 💀
i needed to hear this today
i only shave when i’m wearing a crop top and i got an electric trimmer which is a lot easier
Me who shaves once a month twice tops listening: “ah yes I will take this advice”😂