The fact that a mother being cared for and taking time to HEAL makes people think they’re a bad mom has more to say about humanity as a whole than the mother.
@symptomoftheuniverse3862 we live under capitalism. Everything is gonna be a class thing. But there's no shame in women who can afford it making things easier for themselves if they can. The aim shouldn't be to limit good things for women. It should be to extend that access to all mothers
Brooke. This is how it used to be in the old days. Mothers used to be allowed to rest a lot, and you had to stay in the hospital for a week or more. And when you are allowed to leave, you were given a large box of goodies to start you off. You then had free clinics where you and your baby would be well looked after with lots of free goodies.
I love the way korea actually cares about new mothers, and their babies! This looks very enjoyable for both of you, and a great way to gain your energy and strength back.
I would have loved a spot there. I didn’t have a bad time in fact it was great giving birth. I was so very tired afterwards. This would have been a dream. Although this Mom wanted a little more to do you can always go and bond with your baby. No stress is a wonderful way to start your journey.
It is because the Korean government is concerned that their citizens are not having babies, the birth rate it's SO low that they need to pay for the family for them to make babies and treating pregnant woman like a queen (honestly it should be like that in every country 😅)
Can you imagine this being universal for all mothers? How much more joy would be experienced during the transition to motherhood ❤ this should be the standard!
@@sangnamja9727 no i rather not paid in to this bull shirt , if my wife cant get up to move around and be lazy , she going get blood clots . also if she too lazy to bond with the baby she a bad mother . not only you would trust complete stranger with a new born , thing like creep , mishandling of a baby , baby swap and babynapped,. Do people like you not know what a midwife is for .
You carried a child for months, your body changed and then you had to push the kiddo out. Your mind and body need healing so that you can move forward with your kiddo. You definitely deserved this break it’s to help you recover and heal, it takes a village. Moms are something else in a good way. I am not a mom but man I have so much respect for mothers. ❤
I think it's such a great idea!!! Letting the mother rest for a couple of days, feeding good food and making sure she's healthy will help her so much to take good care of her baby. I wish everyone could have that ( and I'm not saying that young mom who don't have access to those clinics don't take good care of their babies, just that it must be easier on you when you're well rested and fed )
You’re definitely not a bad mother for wanting to ensure you heal and be in the best possible state of mind to care for your child im sure if we could ALL mothers would do this I know I would 😂❤❤❤
I was in hospital over a week after my second one they wasn’t that hands on but it gave me time to get myself in the right headspace the thought of having to deal with two children was daunting as my eldest was 4 and so hyper so I tried to just chill with my newborn but saw my boy everyday when he came to visit
@@blossomwinteri did the same. Everyone told me i must be thrilled leaving the hospital because i was admitted days before birth. But i just took every chance to prepare mentally and physically for life with two kids. I even cheered as they said i had to stay a day longer because they wanted to be sure my babys jaundice was gone. The mother in the next bed cried as she was told the same...
Ikr because I’ve seen people started drinking or wearing jeans week after giving birth and its crazy for me because my culture mothers need to rest for atleast a month and not do chores and alot of work
@@faradissI was very baffled when I first heard about that but TBH now that I'm older it sounds amazing and I really want that... unfortunately it's not really possible where I live 😅
I would think mothers that had C-sections would really benefit from this kind of care and healing time. Yes, all mothers could use this but the double whammy of birth and surgery, these services would be available, highly recommended, and covered by healthcare.
Wow! Korea thinks of everything! Brilliant idea for those women who don’t have families who traditionally do this. Nutritional meals is a BONUS and main thing is that mum and baby are happy 🩷🥰
it's the first time I see a mom caring herself and baby. most parents I know want mom's staying home and care of family, husband, baby. thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences
A mother’s health should be the top priority, if the mother isn’t well then the baby won’t be well either. Taking the time to be physically and mentally strong enough to care for your baby makes you a fantastic mom! ❤
if mother isn't fit don't have kids or make a video about it and post it to the internet. poor me it so hard, no real mother would want to be away from there baby unless there lazy or unfit
@doglover-xg1kh this is unnecessary. If you are a parent, you are lucky you didn't need to take time to heal and gather your health/strength back after childbirth. But not everyone had that experience, as we are all unique and react to things differently. Don't judge others unless you have had their exact same experiences with their exact same psychosocial make up; which you haven't, of course, because you aren't them! Sit down and be quiet. Judging things you have absolutely no right to doesn't make you better than anyone else. You simply show yourself to be ignorant and lacking in common human decency, and empathy.
@marvin2678 well, that's are more complicated social issue. Not as simple as just women not wanting kids, not wanting kids because of strict gender expectations of women after birth. The state of the economy and how expensive south Korea is, puts young couples off children ect. Complected
@@OolongTea2000Well that’s not exactly true. They just don’t want to have kids not because of the economy. There’s a reason why poor people have a lot of kids. The poorer the people the more kids they have. The more well off people are the less kids they have. This is why some African countries are booming with kids. Or even in the US for example black people in ghettos have a lot of kids because they’re poor compared to gated rich whites
@@marvin2678I think the reason why they have postpartum services like this in Korea is because of the alarming birth rates. The Korean government obviously wants to increase those birth rates but you can’t blame women for not wanting kids when you consider the state of the economy
A bad mom? Heck NO! The service is amazing and allows both mama and baby to recover from the trauma of birth and begin to settle into a healthy rhythm. Congratulations! Beautiful baby! ❤️
Putting your postpartum recovery as a priority makes you a great and efficient mom. I didn't have the opportunity to rest and recover right after giving birth and overdid myself. And it took a toll on my body and immune system. It took me so much longer to recover, it's awful, I felt like a bad mom bcs I would get sick a lot and could not give the care and attention I want to give to my baby. And the lack of physical stamina and guilt led to ppt depression. So to all the women out there take care of your postpartum journey! It's very important!
You’re an EXCELLENT MOM for allowing yourself to be cared after giving birth. Getting help is how it should be after bringing another life into the world.
Mothers need to hug their babies most of the time cuz babies were used to be in the womb that gave the the feeling of hugging thru all of their time there that's why they miss the feeling of hugging when they come out of the womb and cry.
@@wolfan9263I think they cry for breathing purposes. Hugging babies too often can cause an unhealthy dependency to form where the baby constantly craves touch/warmth, which in turn can hinder their independence.
It's actually the decline of the society. In Asia the new mother and the new born are taken care of by the rest of the family. The mother is ensured to have warm fulfilling meals, herbs to heal and the new born baby is atvthe care of other members of the family except the feedibg part. The fact that now this is a bussiness is realky sad and speaks volumes about the deyerioration of the famiky structure.
That’s is a fantastic concept. A new baby can be so overwhelming. Helping moms to rest and nurture themselves can only be beneficial for both mom and baby ❤❤❤❤
Having more facilities like this would probably help mental and physical recovery since many mothers are not given any time to do so on their own before they are thrust back into their daily lives and not all women have a partner to rely on. I am glad you had the opportunity to rest and recover since it is just as important to take care of yourself to be ready to provide for your baby. And you made sure that your child was in good hands while you did so!
Literally! The "4th trimester" isn't just for the precious new baby, but also for that placenta sized wound on the uterine walls the mother now has, among other things. You really do need SO much more rest than our society deems the norm.
after a 60 hour labor rest was rhe only thing I needed, but baby still needed to be fed every 1.5 hours I don't know if I would have even made it home without the nursery at the hosptial keeping my little one overnight and only bringing her for feedings.
Great idea, with my first mom was there to cook , help, I needed that. By the time 3rd one came I was all alone, no help, no good meals, I was very stressed, baby had not had bowel movement going on day six, I was worried husband oblivious to my condition, them the postpartum depression tried to overcome me, feeling bad, the wicked one comes and says just do it, tried to get me to take my babies life, go ahead, they’ll just say crib death, at that moment I ran to the shower turned it on full force so the others would not hear me crying. I prayed LORD help me satan wants to take my baby, I was crying and praying in the shower. I got relief and I called the doctor about the baby, she said if the baby does not BM tomorrow bring her in. I gathered myself and fed the baby and went downstairs to feed myself. That was the roughest day of my births. The next day I wake up to find baby yellow poo all over the little diaper, I was so relieved. That was a stressful time with a new baby and two toddlers, thank GOD we made it, that baby is 24 this month, we’re all doing fine. Thanks be to GOD.
@@TheReal_Enclave The video is focused on the care SHE received. The nurses supporting her is a part of ‘together.’ I know mothers who had to do it all ALONE. Not even partner showed up to help. The staff here are part of her ‘village.’
You are not a bad mother, you are doing the RIGHT thing! I had postpartum depression and I kept quiet and suffered alone because I was scared my baby would be taken away from me. This is a great facility, Australian mother's need this!!
I'm crying tears of joy that mother's get to experience this. This is a blessing. U shouldn't feel guilty. This is wonderful for your growth as a mother.
Completely agree, I really wish I would've had this with my daughter. I had complications, had PPD and truly didn't believe she was mine. She was on oxygen til 7mos. I've been a single mom from the start, I had to ask my dad for help because I was crumbling. I really really wish this would've been an option, maybe the PPD wouldn't have been so bad?? In general tho, I think this is a great idea!!!
They have that option for the baby to stay in nursery at the hospital here in America. I did that for my last baby Nevaeh cause I was on some really bad medicine from high blood pressure and I couldn't take care of her when she first was born. So I let the baby go to nursery
@@motherdemitria9480it’s not the same as Korea. In America you are released from the hospital in 24-72 hours after giving birth unless you had other complications. In Korea, the aftercare is minimum one week after childbirth up to one month. It is very affordable for all mothers and most take that option. Sending your baby to the nursery is NOT the same nor what is being discussed here.
@Asta-Chen They did that child drop off thing in the USA and people started dumping kids of all ages there even teenagers until they changed the law to state you could only drop off fresh babies there.
Except for when they convicted a teen mother who had no friends or family and had to give birth alone in a bathtub because she had nobody to help her, almost died and her baby died and she was sentenced because it died. Korea: a country where you will be heavily judged for being a mother who is very young/single mother
@@michellehart6780 yes, it is a cultural difference. It shows signs of weakness if women are to make noises or lash out in pain win in labor. Different cultures have different practices in different views on birth.
In the US, it's all about your health insurance. They kick you out of the hospital 24 after delivery if there were no complications. Korea is on the right track ❤.
The same thing happened to my mom, I was born with some complications since I was not big but very long(21 inches) so I had to be born via c-section but then my mom got kicked out of the hospital like the next day because there was "not enough room"
Don’t forget about your 6 week checkup where they give you a survey asking if you’re suicidal or homicidal and then pressure you to get on hormonal birth control
This isn’t a hospital. This is a private care facility. Likely not covered by her insurance or any kind of government welfare. In many countries in Asia the women of the extended family would visit a new mother and care for her in this way. These care facilities have popped up for new mothers who don’t have a large extended family of women who could visit and care for them and baby but they are only for women who have $$$. It is not for the working class.
@@MulcheddI'd have a breakdown if I had to constantly be touching someone even a baby I couldn't do it it can be next to me but I won't be touching it more than I have to the feeling of skin revolts me
@@MulcheddThis is standard in Korea, one of the most child-focused cultures I know. And adoptive families can’t bond through touch sometimes but they make up for it later. She has time with her baby now but not in a way to be stressed. It is wonderful that she is cared for and supported at this time. ❤️
@@MulcheddNo I think it’s ok, bc many women in the west don’t really have the opportunity to care of their body. You are just biter that you can’t do that where you live
You are definitively NOT a bad mom for prioritizing self care and healing after one of the most physically traumatic things a woman can go through. It makes you the best possible mom for your baby, actually. I’d do it in a heartbeat!!
I absolutely love this!! Every mother deserves this! I would not want to take my eyes off my baby but would love to have this level of care and support.
People who disagree with this idea should definitely watch "Birthcare Center". This kdrama really dives deep into motherhood & the mother's emotional highs and lows especially right after giving birth. 10/10 would recommend!
In Igbo culture, in Africa, there is something called “omugwo”, this is a culture where by new mothers get to rest while their own mothers or mother in-laws come to help them take care of their newly born. It is actually essential that the mother has her rest ❤
In Kikuyu culture in Kenya, we call it kùhiùhìrio and its more or less what you've described. The mother or MIL and maybe sisters do everything for the new mum including laundry. My mum and I did it for my sister.
i wish i had that. my mother in law tried to rearrange my house when my baby was only 4 weeks old. i was so stressed and angry that my milk almost dried up. my mother visited after and she made sure i was stress free and loved holding her grandbaby
It is a thing! The hospital I gave birth to my kids offered to take them when I rest. Well my oldest was in the nicu so he stayed there. My youngest was able to stay in the room with me 🥰
@JazzieLuvzYa I know hospitals offer to take your kid. I'm talking about a postpartum facility. Because most people can't afford a hospital bill, especially in the US, for more than absolutely necessary. So, for a vaginal birth with no issues, 24 hours is what many people do. I think an actual facility for new moms for the days following would be absolutely amazing! I've seen some other videos, possibly hers as well, about how they have nannies for so super cheap for the first several months after birth too that's covered by your medical stuff as well. America is definitely behind the times with medical needs!
You are taking care of yourself to heal so you can better care for the baby especially breast feeding. They feed you so you’re eating healthy getting enough sleep to bounce back and not be so overwhelmed. Here in the USA Some people have family of friends to help them some people don’t and it’s always nice to have that help because we need it!
No, you’re not a bad mom for wanting the best care for your child and yourself after living a 9month period Making and carrying another human. You deserve all the time you need to heal.❤
Living in the US 🇺🇸 we all deserve free healthcare & that would allow private companies like these to open up. Only 1 candidate wants to help us like this & I hope *SHE* wins
@@annesmith9910 The job that I worked at offered maturity leave without pay and also had in place a policy if you don’t use it you lose it…meaning if you had time off accumulated and or sick leave rather it roll over to the next quarter timeframe you lose all that time and have to start over with zero sick leave or approved leave time if you didn’t use it within that quarter timeframe. This policy applied to all employees…so when it came time for me to go into labor my time had already expired out and I was fresh into a new starting quarter, and I was a full time worker pulling 80hrs every two weeks.
@@autumnramble yes it really is…Thankfully at that time my child’s father qualified for paid maturity leave at his job and was able to stay home with our child for a few weeks. I unfortunately had to go right back to work days after giving birth.
I love this! I wish I had something like this. The type of exhaustion you have after giving birth is crazy. Imagine being exhausted, delirious, sleep deprived, still in a bit of pain and your hormones are out of whack all at the same time. Then fighting through all of that to care for your new baby while also caring for your family. 🤯 This is great for those with no family to help
Definitely not a bad mom! Clearly South Korean is very family oriented. I wish I had the famous Korean seaweed soup post partum. I suffered from so much exhaustion during my son's infancy. Turns out I had post partum hypothyroidism that went ignored and undiagnosed for years and now I'm messed up for life. Korea is definitely onto something. South Korean physicians and government know how to take care of its mom and baby. ❤
This is amazing, you are not a bad mom, it is so important for a mom to heal emotionally, mentally and physically after giving birth, this facility helps take the stress off. There should be more around the world. 💕💕
You're a great mom because you know that you need help and you're not too stubborn to ask for it. You recognise that your wellbeing and your baby's wellbeing are worth far more than what society thinks of you.
@@stephaniep4590in my country we stay in hospital generaly for 3 days, sometimes a week if the baby doesn't adapt well. You don't go home right away. Most mothers started to request to go home early during covid, after 48 hours. Cause it's a hospital, not a hotel. But we do have a paid option with single room and better food
@@makinka0cpin korea postpartum centers they teach you how to change your babies diaper, how to breastfeed properly, how to get the baby’s gas out, how to hold them properly etc. so you have a lot of time to be with your baby but since she didnt mention any of that training maybe she didnt want to take that service? if she did I can understand why she felt her baby was away too much.
Mothers need to hug their babies a lot cuz babies were used to be in the womb that gave the the feeling of hugging thru all of their time there that's why they miss the feeling of hugging when they come out of the womb and cry.
@@wolfan9263 Nope, this is what we're not gonna do. A baby will be fine if the mother recovers mentally before fully caring for them. Don''t act like this is such a bad thing
I wish I had this when my son was born. I needed this. I was so lost and (obviously) exhausted. I had no sleep starting at induction and I had so much postpartum depression and anxiety. This would've been so appreciated. 😢
There’s no way you’re being a “bad mother” dear. The fact that you’re even questioning it shows what a great mama you already are. You are doing what your baby needs you to do and heal. What a gift for your sweet precious little baby. Keep doing what feels best and right for your angel and you! Congratulations truly ❤
People who think you’re a bad mother are just jealous they weren’t given this level of care. I had a horrible post partum with both my kids, but I’d never shame another mother for being treated like she should be! Congrats on your baby!
They kicked me out of the hospital with mine even though I still couldn’t walk on my own. My doctor said quote “If she wants to stay she will have to pay for her room out of her own pocket”
this is how babies are treated in orphanages. newborns need to be with their moms for bonding. no I'm not jealous, I spent my entire pregnancy not working and was prepared with frozen meals and lots of friends and family bringing me fresh meals
@@y.peffle2802what about dad? You know their other half. The babies here clearly still get to spend time with their mom, but you wouldn’t want to overwhelm someone who just played the most beautiful game of russian roulette. The baby will be right back to being attached to the mom 24/7 right after she heals up a bit from her hard work. While this would be better if the family member’s and dad was the one doing this for her, it’s good for moms to get rest, your baby will naturally be attached to you regardless.
@@y.peffle2802 so what? Stop with your “holier than thou” attitude. Your experience is different. A lot of new moms wish they had this kind of help. Breastfeeding every 2 hours is exhausting. I just wish I had time to sleep and recharge after giving birth and not worry about cleaning up, washing mine and the baby’s clothes, rushing my showers, cooking and cleaning the kitchen.
I WISH I could have had this experience after I gave birth to my son - this experience looks utterly heavenly. You're not a bad mum having people helping you by taking care of your baby and you. This is you making sure you are there for your baby whilst healing and getting stronger. This was you being an INCREDIBLE mother.
I think that this is a service that should be considered as vital care for all mothers and newborns. I’m not saying new mothers either because I think that what you described would be a very beneficial service for all mothers who have just given birth especially for a mother with children at home. The time to allow you to heal and recover from birth (and the pregnancy) while knowing that your newborn is safe and well cared for would be a blessing.
i love that there is a well-known system in place that cares for mothers and babies, my mom had such a bad time with the whole birth process at the hospital w/ her 1st children, she was terrified to let anyone take me out of her sight or let me anyone near me. glad some countries made this a priority
This is such a beautiful concept. I dropped a tear. In America they expect you to go back to work. Even if you are a stay at home mom... you are expected to get back to it taking care of everyone.
Me too I think I'm still with postpartum after having 2 back to pack and then a yr and a half after that my last one it's been 5yrs but I just still feel off... I wish I would of gotten the help
My hubby and I stayed with my parents for the first 3 weeks after having my first baby and they were such a help and support to me in those weeks. Wish we had this where I live ❤
No you’re a GOOD mother for taking care of yourself and setting a good example. The baby will grow up prioritizing self care and like ripples in a pond, you will spread generational self love. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk!
A mother who goes through months of carrying her child and delivering a child deserves all the rest and pampering. You are a wonderful mother. I just wish we have this service in my country.
@@DionneGudgin-bf4ny it's not about doing 'nothing' it's also about all the mood swings, excruciating pain, restrictions and emotional boost (incl. severe negative emotions) that you feel during that period of time. it's exhausting even if you do absolutely nothing!
The fact that a mother being cared for and taking time to HEAL makes people think they’re a bad mom has more to say about humanity as a whole than the mother.
Did she pay for it? Or was it free? Because then it becomes a 'class' thing.
It is misogyny
@@symptomoftheuniverse3862 is it just about class or is it all the social systems that are failing when you have to consider money before health?
This is pretty unnatural though. That much time away from your baby impedes bonding.
@symptomoftheuniverse3862 we live under capitalism. Everything is gonna be a class thing. But there's no shame in women who can afford it making things easier for themselves if they can. The aim shouldn't be to limit good things for women. It should be to extend that access to all mothers
I wish all mothers around the world could have this level of care
Money does it.
Brooke. This is how it used to be in the old days. Mothers used to be allowed to rest a lot, and you had to stay in the hospital for a week or more. And when you are allowed to leave, you were given a large box of goodies to start you off. You then had free clinics where you and your baby would be well looked after with lots of free goodies.
I think in Ireland mothers stay for 5 days in the hospital
@@rme1383im in england. I had my baby and was released 12 hours later
@@janetwalsh7961yes! My mama was a maternity nurse back in the 60s. This is how it was ❤
I love the way korea actually cares about new mothers, and their babies! This looks very enjoyable for both of you, and a great way to gain your energy and strength back.
*It's fully paid by the parents but very common anyway
There’s so few of them they might as well
I would have loved a spot there. I didn’t have a bad time in fact it was great giving birth. I was so very tired afterwards. This would have been a dream. Although this Mom wanted a little more to do you can always go and bond with your baby. No stress is a wonderful way to start your journey.
@@magsmcgarrigle981 yes you can’t tell if it’s the fentynal or the tiredness lol and you’re very hungry
It is because the Korean government is concerned that their citizens are not having babies, the birth rate it's SO low that they need to pay for the family for them to make babies and treating pregnant woman like a queen (honestly it should be like that in every country 😅)
Can you imagine this being universal for all mothers? How much more joy would be experienced during the transition to motherhood ❤ this should be the standard!
True. ❤
You can save so you can afford it.
No way!!! This is how it SHOULD be! All new mothers deserve this level of care.
laziness
@@doglover-xg1khyou're a man aren't you?
U probably broke @@doglover-xg1kh
@@sangnamja9727 no i rather not paid in to this bull shirt , if my wife cant get up to move around and be lazy , she going get blood clots . also if she too lazy to bond with the baby she a bad mother . not only you would trust complete stranger with a new born , thing like creep , mishandling of a baby , baby swap and babynapped,. Do people like you not know what a midwife is for .
@@doglover-xg1kh ur probably a man
You carried a child for months, your body changed and then you had to push the kiddo out. Your mind and body need healing so that you can move forward with your kiddo. You definitely deserved this break it’s to help you recover and heal, it takes a village. Moms are something else in a good way. I am not a mom but man I have so much respect for mothers. ❤
How did they do it in ancient times though
@@TheReal_Enclavethey had stools, it was kinda the same people would help get it out but a lot of the time the mothers died.
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@@TheReal_Enclavemost mom died during childbirth, so they definitely need time to heal, maybe the learned
@@TheReal_EnclaveThe ones who survived childbirth had the help of their family & community
I think it's such a great idea!!! Letting the mother rest for a couple of days, feeding good food and making sure she's healthy will help her so much to take good care of her baby. I wish everyone could have that ( and I'm not saying that young mom who don't have access to those clinics don't take good care of their babies, just that it must be easier on you when you're well rested and fed )
No its perfect. Going home means no rest and you have household chores, plus the baby. Now you can recover in peace. I love it.
You’re definitely not a bad mother for wanting to ensure you heal and be in the best possible state of mind to care for your child im sure if we could ALL mothers would do this I know I would 😂❤❤❤
I was in hospital over a week after my second one they wasn’t that hands on but it gave me time to get myself in the right headspace the thought of having to deal with two children was daunting as my eldest was 4 and so hyper so I tried to just chill with my newborn but saw my boy everyday when he came to visit
@@blossomwinteri did the same. Everyone told me i must be thrilled leaving the hospital because i was admitted days before birth. But i just took every chance to prepare mentally and physically for life with two kids. I even cheered as they said i had to stay a day longer because they wanted to be sure my babys jaundice was gone. The mother in the next bed cried as she was told the same...
Ikr because I’ve seen people started drinking or wearing jeans week after giving birth and its crazy for me because my culture mothers need to rest for atleast a month and not do chores and alot of work
@@faradissI was very baffled when I first heard about that but TBH now that I'm older it sounds amazing and I really want that... unfortunately it's not really possible where I live 😅
I would think mothers that had C-sections would really benefit from this kind of care and healing time. Yes, all mothers could use this but the double whammy of birth and surgery, these services would be available, highly recommended, and covered by healthcare.
This level of care could possibly help diminish postpartum depression!😊😊😊❤❤ It's a beautiful thing!!!❤
Yes, I wonder if they have studied this.
I'd like to see the PPD rates in Korea. I bet they're low.
Women all around the world need this option!
Exactly!
I agree.
Wow! Korea thinks of everything! Brilliant idea for those women who don’t have families who traditionally do this. Nutritional meals is a BONUS and main thing is that mum and baby are happy 🩷🥰
it's the first time I see a mom caring herself and baby. most parents I know want mom's staying home and care of family, husband, baby. thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences
A mother’s health should be the top priority, if the mother isn’t well then the baby won’t be well either. Taking the time to be physically and mentally strong enough to care for your baby makes you a fantastic mom! ❤
if mother isn't fit don't have kids or make a video about it and post it to the internet. poor me it so hard, no real mother would want to be away from there baby unless there lazy or unfit
@@doglover-xg1khsome do.... you forget about postpartum depression... or rage...some people need rest afterwards...
@@doglover-xg1khTroll
@doglover-xg1kh this is unnecessary. If you are a parent, you are lucky you didn't need to take time to heal and gather your health/strength back after childbirth. But not everyone had that experience, as we are all unique and react to things differently. Don't judge others unless you have had their exact same experiences with their exact same psychosocial make up; which you haven't, of course, because you aren't them! Sit down and be quiet. Judging things you have absolutely no right to doesn't make you better than anyone else. You simply show yourself to be ignorant and lacking in common human decency, and empathy.
@@turatitaoficialmokey5848 there a different between wanting rest and have some one to take care of you hand and feet so you can make content.
I love that there are countries out there that actually really care about postpartum women and their babies.
And they are revarded by women Not having children....great work
@marvin2678 well, that's are more complicated social issue. Not as simple as just women not wanting kids, not wanting kids because of strict gender expectations of women after birth. The state of the economy and how expensive south Korea is, puts young couples off children ect. Complected
@@OolongTea2000Well that’s not exactly true. They just don’t want to have kids not because of the economy. There’s a reason why poor people have a lot of kids. The poorer the people the more kids they have. The more well off people are the less kids they have. This is why some African countries are booming with kids. Or even in the US for example black people in ghettos have a lot of kids because they’re poor compared to gated rich whites
@@marvin2678I think the reason why they have postpartum services like this in Korea is because of the alarming birth rates. The Korean government obviously wants to increase those birth rates but you can’t blame women for not wanting kids when you consider the state of the economy
"Care" seems actually so far off, this is them trying to rescue the very society they exploit
A bad mom? Heck NO! The service is amazing and allows both mama and baby to recover from the trauma of birth and begin to settle into a healthy rhythm. Congratulations! Beautiful baby! ❤️
Putting your postpartum recovery as a priority makes you a great and efficient mom. I didn't have the opportunity to rest and recover right after giving birth and overdid myself. And it took a toll on my body and immune system. It took me so much longer to recover, it's awful, I felt like a bad mom bcs I would get sick a lot and could not give the care and attention I want to give to my baby. And the lack of physical stamina and guilt led to ppt depression. So to all the women out there take care of your postpartum journey! It's very important!
You’re an EXCELLENT MOM for allowing yourself to be cared after giving birth. Getting help is how it should be after bringing another life into the world.
This is a good example of a society that can support its members. I love it so much!
Mothers need to hug their babies most of the time cuz babies were used to be in the womb that gave the the feeling of hugging thru all of their time there that's why they miss the feeling of hugging when they come out of the womb and cry.
@@wolfan9263swaddling the baby does that i think
@@sophie1706 part of it yes but not all the moms around the world know that or do that.
@@wolfan9263I think they cry for breathing purposes. Hugging babies too often can cause an unhealthy dependency to form where the baby constantly craves touch/warmth, which in turn can hinder their independence.
It's actually the decline of the society. In Asia the new mother and the new born are taken care of by the rest of the family. The mother is ensured to have warm fulfilling meals, herbs to heal and the new born baby is atvthe care of other members of the family except the feedibg part. The fact that now this is a bussiness is realky sad and speaks volumes about the deyerioration of the famiky structure.
That’s is a fantastic concept. A new baby can be so overwhelming. Helping moms to rest and nurture themselves can only be beneficial for both mom and baby ❤❤❤❤
Having more facilities like this would probably help mental and physical recovery since many mothers are not given any time to do so on their own before they are thrust back into their daily lives and not all women have a partner to rely on. I am glad you had the opportunity to rest and recover since it is just as important to take care of yourself to be ready to provide for your baby. And you made sure that your child was in good hands while you did so!
Girl you are a wise mom, every woman deserves 3months of care after child birth
Literally! The "4th trimester" isn't just for the precious new baby, but also for that placenta sized wound on the uterine walls the mother now has, among other things. You really do need SO much more rest than our society deems the norm.
this is amazing, it's setting new mothers up for success and helping them not feel so overwhelmed :)
after a 60 hour labor rest was rhe only thing I needed, but baby still needed to be fed every 1.5 hours I don't know if I would have even made it home without the nursery at the hosptial keeping my little one overnight and only bringing her for feedings.
Indeed
EXCELLENT iDEA!!!
In the netherlands you get a nurse in your home for 5 days to help you and the baby, was a big help :)
Great idea, with my first mom was there to cook , help, I needed that. By the time 3rd one came I was all alone, no help, no good meals, I was very stressed, baby had not had bowel movement going on day six, I was worried husband oblivious to my condition, them the postpartum depression tried to overcome me, feeling bad, the wicked one comes and says just do it, tried to get me to take my babies life, go ahead, they’ll just say crib death, at that moment I ran to the shower turned it on full force so the others would not hear me crying. I prayed LORD help me satan wants to take my baby, I was crying and praying in the shower. I got relief and I called the doctor about the baby, she said if the baby does not BM tomorrow bring her in. I gathered myself and fed the baby and went downstairs to feed myself. That was the roughest day of my births. The next day I wake up to find baby yellow poo all over the little diaper, I was so relieved. That was a stressful time with a new baby and two toddlers, thank GOD we made it, that baby is 24 this month, we’re all doing fine. Thanks be to GOD.
You are the best mom your baby could ever have because you are taking good care of yourself so you could be better for your baby.
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A smart mom! Not bad mom for facilitating a well deserved rest and care for you and your baby! ❤️
It's beautiful that they care for the mother, so when she leaves, she's a much stronger and healthier Mom. What a beautiful baby!
You're a SMART Mother
Throughout the world the indigenous tribes raised the children together. The support new mums have is exactly what they need
This isn’t together though atleast from what I understand she only feeds the child
@@TheReal_Enclave The video is focused on the care SHE received. The nurses supporting her is a part of ‘together.’ I know mothers who had to do it all ALONE. Not even partner showed up to help. The staff here are part of her ‘village.’
You are not a bad mother, you are doing the RIGHT thing! I had postpartum depression and I kept quiet and suffered alone because I was scared my baby would be taken away from me. This is a great facility, Australian mother's need this!!
So humane! What a dream come true ❤❤❤❤ New Moms taking care of themselves IS taking care of baby because you will have strength to do it.
I'm crying tears of joy that mother's get to experience this. This is a blessing. U shouldn't feel guilty. This is wonderful for your growth as a mother.
Completely agree, I really wish I would've had this with my daughter. I had complications, had PPD and truly didn't believe she was mine. She was on oxygen til 7mos. I've been a single mom from the start, I had to ask my dad for help because I was crumbling. I really really wish this would've been an option, maybe the PPD wouldn't have been so bad?? In general tho, I think this is a great idea!!!
@@angelabarnes1675Don’t be a wh0re and get yourself pregnant.
Does every mother get this? or the ones who can afford it?
@@symptomoftheuniverse3862 This is a private facility you PAY FOR.
A well rested, healed and healthy mother is the best thing for that baby, you are a great mom 😊
Omg the whole world needs this kind of care for women after giving birth ❤❤
NO. YOU ARE A GREAT MOM IM SURE. This is needed in America/ other places in the world too! This is amazing
This is awesome. I wish we have it here in america and that it could be affordable.😅
They have that option for the baby to stay in nursery at the hospital here in America. I did that for my last baby Nevaeh cause I was on some really bad medicine from high blood pressure and I couldn't take care of her when she first was born. So I let the baby go to nursery
You can hire a doula in America, it's not like a hotel they come to your house to help you recover and help the new baby.
We do, it’s just mostly for super rich and ”important” people loo
We do I did it twice they have and option it's on the other side of some L&D
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@@motherdemitria9480it’s not the same as Korea. In America you are released from the hospital in 24-72 hours after giving birth unless you had other complications. In Korea, the aftercare is minimum one week after childbirth up to one month. It is very affordable for all mothers and most take that option. Sending your baby to the nursery is NOT the same nor what is being discussed here.
This shows Korea is serious about supporting family. All mothers should have this care available if they need it.
easy when you country doesnt have kids anymore 😂
@Asta-Chen They did that child drop off thing in the USA and people started dumping kids of all ages there even teenagers until they changed the law to state you could only drop off fresh babies there.
Because in Korea women refused to have children coz of misogyny
I'm not sure if it's going to rewind Korea's reclining demographic... but at least, they're trying
Not in the United States you will be paying millions 😂
That's the most beautiful newborn I've ever seen. Looks like a doll ❤
every mother deserves this experience ❤
Korea: a country that really cares about mother and child!
The population is declining in korea, so they are doing this to promote having kids
Except for when they convicted a teen mother who had no friends or family and had to give birth alone in a bathtub because she had nobody to help her, almost died and her baby died and she was sentenced because it died. Korea: a country where you will be heavily judged for being a mother who is very young/single mother
Guess you didn’t see her video before this one where she told us the Korean nurse told her to shut up while in labor…
@@michellehart6780 yes, it is a cultural difference. It shows signs of weakness if women are to make noises or lash out in pain win in labor. Different cultures have different practices in different views on birth.
@@KawaiiKermitdon’t make bad choices
In the US, it's all about your health insurance. They kick you out of the hospital 24 after delivery if there were no complications. Korea is on the right track ❤.
The same thing happened to my mom, I was born with some complications since I was not big but very long(21 inches) so I had to be born via c-section but then my mom got kicked out of the hospital like the next day because there was "not enough room"
Don’t forget about your 6 week checkup where they give you a survey asking if you’re suicidal or homicidal and then pressure you to get on hormonal birth control
Here in Uk they now send you home the same day. My sister came home last week 6 hours after giving birth. Apparently it’s normal practice.
This isn’t a hospital. This is a private care facility. Likely not covered by her insurance or any kind of government welfare. In many countries in Asia the women of the extended family would visit a new mother and care for her in this way. These care facilities have popped up for new mothers who don’t have a large extended family of women who could visit and care for them and baby but they are only for women who have $$$. It is not for the working class.
She's not in a hospital though?
This is amazing! I wish this became more of a thing. Mother's health is so important for everyone in the family!
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That baby is so pretty and well fed! God bless you mama and baby!
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I’m so so happy a mother is experiencing such a great time after birth. God bless Korea
As long as its not interfering with bonding. Just having all your meals cooked and the dishes washed, sounds amazing!
*first few weeks are extremely essential not important yet ESSENTIALLY IMPORTANT for bonding...shell regret it..rightfully so*
@@MulcheddI'd have a breakdown if I had to constantly be touching someone even a baby I couldn't do it it can be next to me but I won't be touching it more than I have to the feeling of skin revolts me
@androfanatic9548 then don't have sex...don't procreate...duhhhh
@@MulcheddThis is standard in Korea, one of the most child-focused cultures I know. And adoptive families can’t bond through touch sometimes but they make up for it later. She has time with her baby now but not in a way to be stressed. It is wonderful that she is cared for and supported at this time. ❤️
@@MulcheddNo I think it’s ok, bc many women in the west don’t really have the opportunity to care of their body. You are just biter that you can’t do that where you live
You deserve the care as do all mothers! What a fantastic place to stay post-partum for you and the baby!
Every mother on the planet needs this.
You are definitively NOT a bad mom for prioritizing self care and healing after one of the most physically traumatic things a woman can go through. It makes you the best possible mom for your baby, actually. I’d do it in a heartbeat!!
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@@kathleenmoore9534 yes and amen! I’m a Bible believing Christian ❤️
This is the most responsible & commendable thing a mother can do - you go girl
I absolutely love this!! Every mother deserves this! I would not want to take my eyes off my baby but would love to have this level of care and support.
People who disagree with this idea should definitely watch "Birthcare Center". This kdrama really dives deep into motherhood & the mother's emotional highs and lows especially right after giving birth. 10/10 would recommend!
In Igbo culture, in Africa, there is something called “omugwo”, this is a culture where by new mothers get to rest while their own mothers or mother in-laws come to help them take care of their newly born. It is actually essential that the mother has her rest ❤
Yup
Yes but some mothers and mil don’t help anymore they just sit and want to be serve.
Nigeria to be specific 😊
In Kikuyu culture in Kenya, we call it kùhiùhìrio and its more or less what you've described. The mother or MIL and maybe sisters do everything for the new mum including laundry. My mum and I did it for my sister.
i wish i had that. my mother in law tried to rearrange my house when my baby was only 4 weeks old. i was so stressed and angry that my milk almost dried up. my mother visited after and she made sure i was stress free and loved holding her grandbaby
This is amazing! This needs to be a thing EVERYWHERE!
It is a thing! The hospital I gave birth to my kids offered to take them when I rest. Well my oldest was in the nicu so he stayed there. My youngest was able to stay in the room with me 🥰
@JazzieLuvzYa I know hospitals offer to take your kid. I'm talking about a postpartum facility. Because most people can't afford a hospital bill, especially in the US, for more than absolutely necessary. So, for a vaginal birth with no issues, 24 hours is what many people do. I think an actual facility for new moms for the days following would be absolutely amazing! I've seen some other videos, possibly hers as well, about how they have nannies for so super cheap for the first several months after birth too that's covered by your medical stuff as well. America is definitely behind the times with medical needs!
@@sonyasitorius1104 two weeks at a facility like that can $6000 and more. Insurance doesn't cover it either.
@@edenrosederonsard Plenty of moms would pay that easy
You are taking care of yourself to heal so you can better care for the baby especially breast feeding. They feed you so you’re eating healthy getting enough sleep to bounce back and not be so overwhelmed. Here in the USA Some people have family of friends to help them some people don’t and it’s always nice to have that help because we need it!
This should be available, subsidized, and encouraged everywhere ❤❤❤ for the sake of the baby and parent
No, you’re not a bad mom for wanting the best care for your child and yourself after living a 9month period Making and carrying another human. You deserve all the time you need to heal.❤
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the biggest contributing factor for positive outcomes and early childhood is the physical health of the mother. You have done a wonderful thing
This should be the norm all over the world.
PPD would definitely be ameliorated if mothers were cared for in this way💞
Living in the US 🇺🇸 we all deserve free healthcare & that would allow private companies like these to open up. Only 1 candidate wants to help us like this & I hope *SHE* wins
I went back to work three days after giving birth in fear of losing my job and income…This place in Korea is truly a blessing.
OMG, that's horrible! Things like that shouldn't be allowed.
Don't you have maternity leave ?
@@annesmith9910 The job that I worked at offered maturity leave without pay and also had in place a policy if you don’t use it you lose it…meaning if you had time off accumulated and or sick leave rather it roll over to the next quarter timeframe you lose all that time and have to start over with zero sick leave or approved leave time if you didn’t use it within that quarter timeframe. This policy applied to all employees…so when it came time for me to go into labor my time had already expired out and I was fresh into a new starting quarter, and I was a full time worker pulling 80hrs every two weeks.
@@autumnramble yes it really is…Thankfully at that time my child’s father qualified for paid maturity leave at his job and was able to stay home with our child for a few weeks. I unfortunately had to go right back to work days after giving birth.
@@survivors2881 Maternity leave without pay ? Which country do you live in ???
Women need this all over the world
I love this! I wish I had something like this. The type of exhaustion you have after giving birth is crazy. Imagine being exhausted, delirious, sleep deprived, still in a bit of pain and your hormones are out of whack all at the same time. Then fighting through all of that to care for your new baby while also caring for your family. 🤯 This is great for those with no family to help
Definitely not a bad mom! Clearly South Korean is very family oriented. I wish I had the famous Korean seaweed soup post partum. I suffered from so much exhaustion during my son's infancy. Turns out I had post partum hypothyroidism that went ignored and undiagnosed for years and now I'm messed up for life. Korea is definitely onto something. South Korean physicians and government know how to take care of its mom and baby. ❤
How a mother should be treated! You're a goddess who created life and the next generation! You deserve it all!! ❤
All mothers deserve this kind of care 😊
This is amazing, you are not a bad mom, it is so important for a mom to heal emotionally, mentally and physically after giving birth, this facility helps take the stress off. There should be more around the world. 💕💕
You're a great mom because you know that you need help and you're not too stubborn to ask for it. You recognise that your wellbeing and your baby's wellbeing are worth far more than what society thinks of you.
great point. so many parents break before they’re willing to bend a little bit. we can’t all be the strongest person on earth every day.
Definitely not a bad mom! Rest is so so important in the mission of being a great mother! And this is honestly amazing.
“Am I a bad mom?”
No, you’re a smart mom.
This actually sounds like a good idea, especially if it's someone's first baby
Or if you have like three toddlers and know you need a week to rest before going home to manage the chaos
It would be great if they didn't take away the baby. Like, you too learn to know each other and everything else is taken care of
@@stephaniep4590in my country we stay in hospital generaly for 3 days, sometimes a week if the baby doesn't adapt well. You don't go home right away. Most mothers started to request to go home early during covid, after 48 hours. Cause it's a hospital, not a hotel. But we do have a paid option with single room and better food
@@makinka0cpin korea postpartum centers they teach you how to change your babies diaper, how to breastfeed properly, how to get the baby’s gas out, how to hold them properly etc. so you have a lot of time to be with your baby but since she didnt mention any of that training maybe she didnt want to take that service? if she did I can understand why she felt her baby was away too much.
@@alwaysspittingstraightfact34 i’m looking at her channel rn and i believe this is her second baby
This sounds amazing and perfect for supporting moms in not getting postpartum depression and healing properly. Everywhere should have this!!!
Mothers need to hug their babies a lot cuz babies were used to be in the womb that gave the the feeling of hugging thru all of their time there that's why they miss the feeling of hugging when they come out of the womb and cry.
@@wolfan9263 Nope, this is what we're not gonna do. A baby will be fine if the mother recovers mentally before fully caring for them. Don''t act like this is such a bad thing
U took the best decision. Plz keep inspiring new mothers with this. The human body needs time to revive again. After all, a mother is human too.
I wish I had this when my son was born. I needed this. I was so lost and (obviously) exhausted. I had no sleep starting at induction and I had so much postpartum depression and anxiety. This would've been so appreciated. 😢
There’s no way you’re being a “bad mother” dear. The fact that you’re even questioning it shows what a great mama you already are. You are doing what your baby needs you to do and heal. What a gift for your sweet precious little baby. Keep doing what feels best and right for your angel and you! Congratulations truly ❤
People who think you’re a bad mother are just jealous they weren’t given this level of care. I had a horrible post partum with both my kids, but I’d never shame another mother for being treated like she should be! Congrats on your baby!
They kicked me out of the hospital with mine even though I still couldn’t walk on my own. My doctor said quote “If she wants to stay she will have to pay for her room out of her own pocket”
this is how babies are treated in orphanages. newborns need to be with their moms for bonding.
no I'm not jealous, I spent my entire pregnancy not working and was prepared with frozen meals and lots of friends and family bringing me fresh meals
@@y.peffle2802what about dad? You know their other half. The babies here clearly still get to spend time with their mom, but you wouldn’t want to overwhelm someone who just played the most beautiful game of russian roulette. The baby will be right back to being attached to the mom 24/7 right after she heals up a bit from her hard work. While this would be better if the family member’s and dad was the one doing this for her, it’s good for moms to get rest, your baby will naturally be attached to you regardless.
B*** you jealous because she rest and work so shut up she did want work for her it didn't affect you in way @y.peffle2802
@@y.peffle2802 so what? Stop with your “holier than thou” attitude. Your experience is different. A lot of new moms wish they had this kind of help. Breastfeeding every 2 hours is exhausting. I just wish I had time to sleep and recharge after giving birth and not worry about cleaning up, washing mine and the baby’s clothes, rushing my showers, cooking and cleaning the kitchen.
This is incredible, this is the only way it should be!!!! All new moms should have this kind of help and time to heal
Incredible.. I wish every country starts this.. I loved it . Loved it😮😮
I WISH I could have had this experience after I gave birth to my son - this experience looks utterly heavenly. You're not a bad mum having people helping you by taking care of your baby and you. This is you making sure you are there for your baby whilst healing and getting stronger. This was you being an INCREDIBLE mother.
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I think that this is a service that should be considered as vital care for all mothers and newborns. I’m not saying new mothers either because I think that what you described would be a very beneficial service for all mothers who have just given birth especially for a mother with children at home. The time to allow you to heal and recover from birth (and the pregnancy) while knowing that your newborn is safe and well cared for would be a blessing.
Its true. I think that service helps new moms in mental health as well.
You caring for yourself , helps you be the best mom!
All moms deserve this ❤
My advise for new mothers is to never be shy/ashamed to accept assistance from trustworthy people who offer their help! Good luck, Momma!
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A Mother’s body deserves rest after childbirth. I wish all mothers would have this level of care and access to support. Impressive!
This is amazing and should be offered all over the world
This should be opened in America and other countries. Mother needed this for sure .
This is a dream come true. The whole world should have this. You are smart as hell.
That’s so good, wish they had this everywhere, mothers deserve this ❤️
After watching "Birthcare Centre" I believe every county needs what Korea is offering ❤❤❤❤.
This kind of facility should exist in every country
You are not a bad mom you need to take care of yourself first.
Definitely, healthy mum=healthy child
Every mother in the world need this care a lot ❤
i love that there is a well-known system in place that cares for mothers and babies, my mom had such a bad time with the whole birth process at the hospital w/ her 1st children, she was terrified to let anyone take me out of her sight or let me anyone near me. glad some countries made this a priority
This is such a beautiful concept. I dropped a tear. In America they expect you to go back to work. Even if you are a stay at home mom... you are expected to get back to it taking care of everyone.
You’re definitely not a bad mother by taking care of yourself. I needed this when I had my kids.
Yes, to lessen the postpartum depression also.
Me too I think I'm still with postpartum after having 2 back to pack and then a yr and a half after that my last one it's been 5yrs but I just still feel off... I wish I would of gotten the help
My hubby and I stayed with my parents for the first 3 weeks after having my first baby and they were such a help and support to me in those weeks. Wish we had this where I live ❤
No you’re a GOOD mother for taking care of yourself and setting a good example. The baby will grow up prioritizing self care and like ripples in a pond, you will spread generational self love.
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No that’s a wonderful thing!!!! If only every new mom could get this treatment. I’m so happy for you!!!
This is amazing ! After going through childbirth a woman's body is in such a vulnerable state that this kind of care and rest is much needed 💗
Every Mom should have this ❤
All mothers should be treated this way regardless their situation.❤
Every mom deserves this 😢
You’re a SMART mum! Resting and recovering and ensuring yours and baby’s needs are met? Perfect!
A mother who goes through months of carrying her child and delivering a child deserves all the rest and pampering. You are a wonderful mother. I just wish we have this service in my country.
Most of them did nothing for nine months so this is the icing on the cake...
@@DionneGudgin-bf4ny it's not about doing 'nothing' it's also about all the mood swings, excruciating pain, restrictions and emotional boost (incl. severe negative emotions) that you feel during that period of time. it's exhausting even if you do absolutely nothing!