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  • Опубликовано: 28 ноя 2024

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  • @alliethehijabi
    @alliethehijabi 4 года назад +721

    As a rare perspective, my husband and I started off in a haram relationship. I was a white American Christian gone atheist using Tinder when I found my husband through Tinder. We went on a few dates and as the relationship grew, I started to do research on his middle eastern culture to learn and understand him and his family better and found Islam and converted a few months after our marriage. I got him back into praying and being more dedicated to god along with his mother and brother. I am by no means saying all haram relationships can turn good, but sometimes god works in mysterious ways. So overall, know yourself and know your partner. A good indicator is how you describe them: partner, boyfriend/girlfriend, lover, friend with benefits, etc.

    • @Nada-hot-takes
      @Nada-hot-takes 4 года назад +32

      Yessss..so happy for you ❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @AnyShine66
      @AnyShine66 4 года назад +35

      Wow, alhamdullilah - thats amazing😍

    • @taylorelesawi7943
      @taylorelesawi7943 4 года назад +71

      To add to your perspective with my own similar story....
      I met my husband at work and dated for like 4 years... Neither of us were interested in the next step until I found Islam for myself which kind of forced him to get back on the straight path. That really was the turning point...within a year of me converting I moved out (to not live in sin), we brought our parents into the mix to meet each other, and got married. Marriage wasn't part of the initial plan but once you kind of stop fighting the "right thing" the right things tend to just fall in place!
      Alhamdulillah for everything! Wishing everyone well!

    • @sonial863
      @sonial863 4 года назад +31

      I had a very similar experience! Grew up in an Italian Catholic household (going to Catholic school and everything) and met my now husband out one night with my girlfriends. Grew to understand more about Islam while we dated and converted right before we decided to get married. And every day we each grow in our faith, as I learn so does he and it has only brought us closer. So yes God does work in mysterious ways!!

    • @Sky22_00
      @Sky22_00 4 года назад +6

      I totally agree as a Muslim woman

  • @peace4ever786
    @peace4ever786 4 года назад +813

    I LOVE how refreshing and honest and unapologetically Muslim you are! Like it’s so easy to condone or agree or even fall into this narrative but I love how you stand by your views as Muslim and promote the Islamic way of doing things. This is what we, the Muslim youth, need to hear, need to aspire to and it’s so inspirational! Well done on you guys for being such great role models.

    • @HR-lt1nv
      @HR-lt1nv 4 года назад +9

      You took the words out of my mouth!! I admire this about them ❤️

  • @inconitaas1550
    @inconitaas1550 4 года назад +188

    I’m 19, no haram relationship Al Hamdullilah, but not because I purposely avoid it but because no one wants me 😂😂😂 and honestly I am really happy about that

    • @CANDY152POP
      @CANDY152POP 4 года назад +15

      Haha I love this comment 😂💗 i feel the same exact way

    • @sohanashinwar3074
      @sohanashinwar3074 4 года назад +8

      God made us in pairs!

    • @inconitaas1550
      @inconitaas1550 4 года назад +20

      @@CANDY152POP It will happen when it will in sha Allah ! Let’s just enjoy our single journey with our parents and friends for now 😂

    • @inconitaas1550
      @inconitaas1550 4 года назад +3

      @@sohanashinwar3074 True !

    • @delaney9718
      @delaney9718 3 года назад +11

      Same girl same. Not that nobody wants us but I think we make ourselves not available. We avoid these things for example girls with a clear profile (selfie) on instagram will be getting a lot of DMs but if you consiously choose to not do it, you will not get a lot of DMs. Its a matter of decision

  • @bluewritesrose_5905
    @bluewritesrose_5905 4 года назад +507

    I find jasmine so much like me I'm 19 never dated I always have this maturity and learnt from my frnds experiences and I'm glad I have the sense alhamdulilah.

    • @Erockyy
      @Erockyy 4 года назад +6

      Say no more ladies let a real gentlemen do his job 🙂

    • @laibashah5953
      @laibashah5953 4 года назад

      Same here

    • @laraibmustafa6056
      @laraibmustafa6056 3 года назад

      Sooo truuee I agree...I learn from my friends experiences and I'm 18

  • @laurenelise1810
    @laurenelise1810 4 года назад +261

    You guys do such a great job of covering these topics in a respectful and realistic manner. On behalf of the whole ummah, thank you!!! MashaAllah.

  • @islandgirlxx3465
    @islandgirlxx3465 4 года назад +925

    As a christian I really appreciate this video. I live in the Netherlands and unfortunately sexual immorality has become totally normal in this society. And it makes it even harder for people who want to obey God and live a righteous life to find a partner who has the same values. I always pray to God to protect me from temptations and to give me patience to wait for the right man.

    • @oumaima4049
      @oumaima4049 4 года назад +14

      Hey, ind helemaal met je eens! :)

    • @islandgirlxx3465
      @islandgirlxx3465 4 года назад +7

      @@oumaima4049 Hey Oumaima. Nederlands in the comment section...had ik niet verwacht:) Ik ben antilliaan en woon in Tilburg. En jij?

    • @oumaima4049
      @oumaima4049 4 года назад +6

      islandgirlxx hahaha ben een lange fan van ze! Ik ben Marokkaans woon in Limburg :)

    • @celalbaba6733
      @celalbaba6733 4 года назад +11

      Aight didn’expect dutchies here, ben blij dat ze er zijn x)

    • @islandgirlxx3465
      @islandgirlxx3465 4 года назад +8

      @@oumaima4049 Wat fijn dat je hun videos bekijkt MashAllah. Ze zijn een jonge stel maar zijn heel volwassen voor hun leeftijd. Echte rolemodels. God gebruikt zulke mensen om ons naar de Juiste pad te brengen. Voor God leven zal nooit makkelijk zijn maar Hij zal ons zegenen en vrede geven. Godzegen💕

  • @keemyseantero3028
    @keemyseantero3028 4 года назад +581

    Am happy I am not the only person who also doesn't want to date, am 14 and I don't plan on dating until I find the one I want to marry.

    • @syedahali740
      @syedahali740 4 года назад +20

      Umm I am the exact same age lol

    • @haxi8214
      @haxi8214 4 года назад +42

      I’m really happy u are thinking like that I’m 16 now and I had this thought since 13 and until now I’m still not dating it’s better actually for ur mental health 🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @syedahali740
      @syedahali740 4 года назад +11

      Haxi yeah definitely then there is no heart break

    • @meowmeow669
      @meowmeow669 4 года назад +18

      Girl I was 14 too, wait till u turn 16 or 17 and see how life changes and the tests u are given. I’m sure u will pass, but one u reached that point u will be able to understand what some have to go through, and how to protect yourself from it

    • @keemyseantero3028
      @keemyseantero3028 4 года назад +5

      @@meowmeow669 uhh I've already gone through some, but I thank god I have one mindset and goals I want to achieve, may God chooses the best for us.

  • @asmad8095
    @asmad8095 4 года назад +211

    I’m on the same mindset as Jasmine. I’m 21, most of my friends had experiences and I have never. Like Jasmine, i saw how their experiences went and how heartbroken some of them were and it is enough for me to avoid those type of relationships. It really depends on your temper i guess, some people need to live to experience (and it is life) to learn and it’s completely normal as humans to make mistakes. Love your video and the way you explain your POV. Thank you for being unfiltered ❤️

  • @Al3aylaa
    @Al3aylaa 4 года назад +208

    6 Ways to Earn Reward Even after Death:🏅
    - 📗Give a copy of the Qur'an to someone (each time one reads from it, you gain).
    - 🦽Donate a wheelchair to a hospital (each time a sick person uses it,👨‍🦽 you gain).
    - 🕌Participate in building a MASJID.
    - 🥤Place a water cooler in a public place.
    - 🌳Plant a tree (You'll gain whenever a person, animal sits in it's shade or eats from it🌱)
    - ⛲Help build a water well💧

    • @aissatoub6868
      @aissatoub6868 4 года назад +4

      thx

    • @LLLadySSS
      @LLLadySSS 4 года назад +3

      I was looking for your comments yesterday but i thought i lost! Thanks for reposting this multiple times

    • @Al3aylaa
      @Al3aylaa 4 года назад

      @@LLLadySSS 🤗 happy you found it

    • @wariare12world95
      @wariare12world95 3 года назад +1

      yes! this is (صدقة جارية)continues good deed.
      and it's not only these things, but its any good deed that will benefit people even after your death!
      thanks for posting this 5 months ago!😊

    • @bunbun_corner
      @bunbun_corner 3 года назад +1

      Thanks

  • @Muslimcitizen
    @Muslimcitizen 4 года назад +54

    I understood from my past that, every haram step we take, even it's very tiny, we will have to pay for it emotionally in the future. It really hurts. And after that we learn and come back to Allah.

  • @AO-nq3kw
    @AO-nq3kw 4 года назад +96

    These conversations are so important no matter what age. There are people that live in isolated communities and don’t have the right people around them to guide them towards Allah. So thank you for putting out encouraging and informative videos like this!

  • @suraalmansour
    @suraalmansour 4 года назад +64

    I really appreciate how honest Dawood is :) its really humbling to see that he admits that people make mistakes and its not too late to fix it!

  • @artemmaaa
    @artemmaaa 4 года назад +82

    I'm 15 and YESS I agree my friends or girls at school are so busy chasing boys even though they know it's not okay in Islam. Alhamdulillah Im not like that now but it's so easy to slip when everyone is doing it. May Allah swt protect us and forgive us if we have done it🌺

    • @bintajadamaa
      @bintajadamaa 3 года назад +4

      Lol we are so similar sis

    • @artemmaaa
      @artemmaaa 3 года назад

      @@bintajadamaa ikr, i actually in my video talk about thus ruclips.net/video/xhf-6eB0jlw/видео.html 😅

    • @destdrom
      @destdrom 3 года назад

      When you are ready, have a mahram with you inshAllah . I don’t think they’re mentioning that because they didn’t no. May Allah swt make finding a spouse easy for you

  • @123stargirl456
    @123stargirl456 4 года назад +149

    I like Dawoud's perspective he's very open minded

    • @Muslimcitizen
      @Muslimcitizen 4 года назад +1

      👌👌👌

    • @nahiedlaila9601
      @nahiedlaila9601 4 года назад +13

      Same here i love his mindset! So modern and mature. We need more men like him!! Emotionally mature and stable. He is REAL AND GENUINE AND FUNNY HAHAHAHA

    • @heggyd
      @heggyd 4 года назад +9

      Yes, I always notice that people who have made a mistake before have the softest hearts. Doesn’t mean Jasmine doesn’t, but when you’ve learned and matured you have a different perspective for sure!

    • @yulloveyullove326
      @yulloveyullove326 3 года назад +4

      And handsome as well. I keep looking at him everytime they both talk. Jasmine is very pretty. But l am a girl, so l turn to Dawood LOL.

  • @melbens3
    @melbens3 4 года назад +94

    Thank you for encouraging halal relationships ! All the youth sees is the Western type of relationships and they think its ok to be that way but it's not . Definetly has to be talked about 👏
    Coming from a 17 year old

    • @melbens3
      @melbens3 4 года назад

      @Abdul-Haqq Watch the video !

    • @africanprincess2725
      @africanprincess2725 4 года назад

      @Abdul-Haqq right am still confused on the halal relationship? does anyone know excatly what is halal relationship?

    • @Sixty9nine
      @Sixty9nine 4 года назад +1

      @Abdul-Haqq well, in today's world 'halal relationship' is anything that is not trending at the moment I guess...
      Youths of now days will go on dinners without their parents knowledge, texting excessively, sending photos to each other etc.
      There are so many things that have become normal now a days, which Islamically it is not. Just my two cents 😁

  • @ritaray5562
    @ritaray5562 4 года назад +306

    Off topic, but I've been trying to figure out who Dawoud looks like... he looks like a crossover between Ryan Gosling & Calvin Harris! It is so weird!!! Lmao you guys are such a cute couple!!!

    • @fizzybizzy3790
      @fizzybizzy3790 4 года назад +4

      He looks like neither lol

    • @nahiedlaila9601
      @nahiedlaila9601 4 года назад +8

      Kind of does hahaha never thought about that😅

    • @shayykayy2736
      @shayykayy2736 4 года назад +6

      Yessss!! You’re absolutely right .

    • @wartanabadanooh7157
      @wartanabadanooh7157 4 года назад +7

      Omg you're so right, I keep thinking he looks familiar but could never pinpoint who he reminds me off 🤣

    • @hibamushtaq4939
      @hibamushtaq4939 4 года назад +7

      Yessss calvin harris

  • @megmckeon1854
    @megmckeon1854 4 года назад +55

    This relationship advice is good for many people..... a bad relationship can ruin your life

    • @mays_alpha
      @mays_alpha 4 года назад +1

      You got that right

  • @yamilethortiz1534
    @yamilethortiz1534 4 года назад +82

    Not Muslim but I like to watch your videos. I’m Mexican and catholic and a lot of these things have been taught to me. I enjoy watching these videos because it helps me keep my hopes up, at 22 I have never brought any boy to my house, I’ve learned to avoid temptation, I’ve lost hope to find someone worth of my time but these videos bring me hope. ❤️ it’s hard to find someone with this mindset especially in my community...

    • @Levi-xu8dg
      @Levi-xu8dg 4 года назад +5

      Dont lose hope sister, good women are for good men. I too think to myself that's its going to be hard to find a wife that thinks like me but I pray to Allah and I put my full trust on Him. Everyone gets tested in different ways

    • @Punkchic207
      @Punkchic207 4 года назад +2

      You got this sis! God will send you the right man one day! Stay strong💕 fellow Catholic here c:

    • @Qurann21
      @Qurann21 4 года назад +2

      Good women are for good men ~ a portion of a verse in the Quran but just because it's found in the Quran, doesn't mean it only applies to Muslims. So dont worry, good will come your way. Stay committed and stay safe. Lots of love, from the UK x

    • @Qurann21
      @Qurann21 4 года назад +2

      @@Levi-xu8dg yeahh thats the verse I was on about. Accidentally worded it different, may Allah forgive me but thank you so much for the correction. I've edited it now🥰

    • @Qurann21
      @Qurann21 4 года назад

      @@Levi-xu8dg cant find your comment anymore but I live on youtube so ofcourse I seen it😅

  • @deqaabdi8297
    @deqaabdi8297 4 года назад +102

    omg y’all should have a podcast at this point PLEASSSEEE

  • @sarahnasri4098
    @sarahnasri4098 4 года назад +29

    Jasmine, habibti, you are such an inspiration. I love how Allah (swt) rewarded you in the end after avoiding the whole dating scene. As a woman around your age, I can testify that dating is a complete waste of time. I get that some people cannot live without a significant other, but as Muslims, our ultimate purpose is to preserve Allah’s word. If you are patient enough, you will live to see a much better tomorrow.

  • @oumaima.bouhaddou
    @oumaima.bouhaddou 4 года назад +39

    Thank you for being authentic and real talking about this topic🙏🏾

  • @Alhamdulilah400
    @Alhamdulilah400 4 года назад +63

    Literally discovered your channel about a month ago and honestly Its been the best thing! You guys are so lovely and soft spoken Masha Allah! Lots of love from the UK ❤️💕🇬🇧🇬🇧

  • @Maryam-cy6cv
    @Maryam-cy6cv 4 года назад +21

    I admire people who never change their morals and values just to fit in. You guys have very strong iman mashallah!! ❤️❤️

  • @xmanthelegend8389
    @xmanthelegend8389 4 года назад +172

    U guys should do a vid talk about dating somebody that has a different culture but there muslim

    • @linaazmiin7479
      @linaazmiin7479 4 года назад +15

      yessssssss plzzzzzz or someone that is also muslim but from another country

    • @bbydino
      @bbydino 4 года назад +7

      Yes diff culture and different sect

    • @Muslimcitizen
      @Muslimcitizen 4 года назад +3

      Yessssss

    • @evaindriyana4539
      @evaindriyana4539 4 года назад +3

      agree

    • @xmanthelegend8389
      @xmanthelegend8389 4 года назад +2

      @@evaindriyana4539 wow 😳 70 like

  • @maryem9225
    @maryem9225 4 года назад +35

    I dated vicariously through Taylor Swift growing up - I learned what not to do from her, girl saved me some good heartbreak. I also can say I (vicariously) dated Harry Styles and it was halal (it’s called listening to 1989)

  • @roonragus
    @roonragus 4 года назад +17

    You guys sound like my husband and I. I matured earlier and learnt from the mistakes of others around me. Whereas my husband made a few mistakes along the way and then found me. We were each others first and only relationship. It's definitely better to avoid harm things and stick to doing things in a halal way. Alhamduillah we've been married for 5 years now.

    • @sefatahmed6535
      @sefatahmed6535 4 года назад +1

      Guys are like that, they go for the experience. And things go wrong. Very happy for you.

  • @purpleshirtblueskirt9005
    @purpleshirtblueskirt9005 4 года назад +11

    This video, and all of your other sit down videos, are so clear and organized, and you explain it in a way that people won't think is controversial, because the topic shouldn't be controversial. And you explain in a way that people will be attracted to Islam or the right way.

  • @senamoussi6424
    @senamoussi6424 4 года назад +16

    I think that if the guy is really in love with a girl he will inteoduce himself to his parents and engage !A serious relationship starts with honesty and clarity

  • @sanesanity9056
    @sanesanity9056 3 года назад +12

    Just wanted to let this out there for the youth ,
    ' You can learn about a woman from the same woman you're gonna wife, you don't have to be dealing with different women. So if you want to have a healthy serious relationship with your future one, just maturely prepare to learn from your person throughout

  • @hdcontents6688
    @hdcontents6688 4 года назад +38

    I’m 23 and I will get married next year inshallah.
    Some people laugh at me when they asked me if I haven’t lose my virginity yet but it’s all good I only care about how Allah is satisfied with me and I love it I’m not suffering it’s been a beautiful journey so far and happy with my life.

  • @hudakhan1531
    @hudakhan1531 4 года назад +15

    I loveeee how you guys address such a fragile topic which honestly is difficult to discuss, with so much ease and kindness ❤️❤️. I'm thankful for both of you!!. Love you both so much❤️

  • @thexonic
    @thexonic 4 года назад +16

    I am 36 and I have avoided zina as much as I could so far. After a while u get used to it. Temptations are always there and im not a saint but I have managed to avoid it. I want it to be with the one love of my life. She will come whenever she does. Allah tests each of us in different ways. But u reach to a higher level of serenity and conciousness that you are always aware of God's presence.

    • @itech40
      @itech40 4 года назад +2

      God protect you bro!

    • @alphafish4756
      @alphafish4756 4 года назад +1

      May Allah protect you and find you the right spouse that fulfills your deen and reunite you in Jannah, InshaAllah!

    • @أَحْسَنُ.الْحَدِيْثْ
      @أَحْسَنُ.الْحَدِيْثْ 3 года назад

      May Allah give you a righteous spouse !keep it halal Allah will reward with you with things you never imagine Inshaallah 😁😊😊

  • @MB-po6qd
    @MB-po6qd 4 года назад +10

    Also, about learning from your friends to not make the same mistakes, there's soo much content online, books to help you and prepare you for that serious halal relationship, like just look for advice on marriage on reddit lol. If they're open to talk about it, or just by observing them you can learn a lot from your parents' relationship. However, of course, you'll still be faced with your own set of challenges in your marriage, you'll fail, say things that will hurt the other but you'll learn along the way. You just need to be patient and understanding with each other, communicate honestly and just leave the rest to Allah! Love you guys :), May Allah bless you

  • @Sky22_00
    @Sky22_00 4 года назад +8

    I did haram dating (I’m still a Virgin) but it’s honestly not worth it, and honestly I’m still tempted, but I self reflect a lot and i honestly believe that I have been tested. Now I have learned and gained wisdom and experience and I can tell you that haram dating is sooo overrated. Truuuust me. You want someone with the same values and beliefs otherwise it’s tiring and u will find yourself constantly having internal conflicts with yourself. I don’t regret anything though, I just make sure that I don’t make the same mistakes. But I definitely know more about a man’s psychology and I gained strength and wisdom and I learned more about myself and I know how to be in my next relationship (that will be halal nchalla).

  • @waldensiansylph4869
    @waldensiansylph4869 2 года назад +4

    I'm Christian, but live by those principles too. It's a dark difficult world. But I believe there's good people as well, with trajectory. Like you said, a relationship can make or break your life. It's the most important step in your life
    🙏

  • @softahspalestine
    @softahspalestine 4 года назад +23

    i am 29 i have never dated i had that strength to go against the flow .alhamdu li allah

    • @sefatahmed6535
      @sefatahmed6535 4 года назад +1

      Are you married now, where you from?

  • @marykeshkha2282
    @marykeshkha2282 4 года назад +2

    I really appreciate that u took time to talk about modern problems and try to give pieces of advice it's really nice and helpful especially in this time where everyone think it's okay to do what everyone is doing *haram dating, drinks, tattoos... *

  • @BushraKhan
    @BushraKhan 4 года назад +17

    I love how you guys explained this topic so well and gave some great advice, thank you 💗

  • @divinacastle4210
    @divinacastle4210 4 года назад +34

    It is so hard to find a guy who follows God today! Today all the guys just want to sleep around and not having any relationships or get married. And a lot of men don't believe in God anymore. It's so hard to find decent people!

    • @guacamolelover3005
      @guacamolelover3005 3 года назад +1

      I 100% agree! hopefully we find someone who is :))

    • @halimayahaya5632
      @halimayahaya5632 3 года назад

      I hope that Allah makes the right choice for you

    • @user-74856
      @user-74856 3 года назад

      Same can be said for alot of girls

    • @AT-lj7mg
      @AT-lj7mg 3 года назад

      completely agree! Even finding a man who doesn’t play games and finding a man who is real.

  • @ayeshanessa55
    @ayeshanessa55 3 года назад +9

    I definitely regret my decisions. I’m so glad to come across this video even tho it was somewhat to late for me. You two are wonderful Mashallah🤗

  • @reems9191
    @reems9191 4 года назад +5

    Jasmine and Dawoud, this was such a great video and much needed discussion! I absolutely agree that these temptations are difficult to curb (most of us have experienced these things) and having these conversations, from the perspective of big bro/big sis (and without judgment, in a proper islamic manner), will help our youth immensely. I think both of your experiences are valid, as I was someone who not only learned from my own experiences (when younger and now searching for a spouse), but also from others' experiences as well (red flags to look for, types of behaviors to avoid, etc.). I think a mix of both experiences is valuable, but best to avoid things before they get deeper (great point in the vid!). Kudos to you Jasmine for knowing what you wanted! Made me reflect on past experiences and how I am dealing with relationships now. Loved this video, was so well thought out and good points!

  • @danaujaimi7636
    @danaujaimi7636 4 года назад +6

    CAN YOU GUYS PLEASE START A PODCAST!!!! There is something so nice about connecting with you guys because you guys show a realistic perspective of all these things you face in life and how Islam plays a big role! Love ur content btw🤍

  • @lekanayofe
    @lekanayofe 4 года назад +39

    Love the intro with the signature and all.

    • @tuhali566
      @tuhali566 4 года назад

      Hey guys , my name is dawood and this is my wife jasmine and we make all sorts of videos 😅😅😅

    • @farihaislam1657
      @farihaislam1657 4 года назад

      Love how dawoud introduce jasmine ☺

  • @aishasangle7401
    @aishasangle7401 4 года назад +8

    I really agreed with what Dawoud said at the end about having experience first. In the Muslim world you're either single or married so it cam be hard to get to know a person or connect and build a relationship when you go straight to marriage. My main problem when people say that haram relationships will leave you heartbroken is that in my opinion it paints this picture that muslim marriages or just marriage in general are going to perfect and be better for you. For me personally my parents had a halal marriage. However it was arranged. They are currently divorced, are always yelling at each other, and gave me a lot of problems growing up. Now I don't even want to get married

    • @schokoladendonut
      @schokoladendonut 4 года назад +2

      I get where you are coming from especially when you have experienced your parents relationship being a bad one. It is very important to realise that marriage will not be perfect and it does not mean necessarily that you guys will stay together forever. But the reason that you get married and not just date is because in a marriage both spouses have rights and duties and it case it goes wrong the law (the islamic law as well as the domestic law) is very clear on what happens, money, custody of the kids etc. In a non-marriage relationship you simply don’t have that.
      Before you get married you should get to know the person, there is no need to rush into the relationship. But of course there are limits on how can get to know them (no physical contact etc.)
      What Dawaoud said is true, you can learn from your experience BUT as Yasmine pointed out: you should not date just to get experience. If you have done it in the past anyways it’s fine you can learn from it but don’t plan on making mistakes „to learn from them“. Instead learn from other people’s mistakes and get experience in a halal way.

    • @schokoladendonut
      @schokoladendonut 4 года назад

      Sorry for my long paragraph 😂

  • @مسلمة-م2ش
    @مسلمة-م2ش 4 года назад +5

    Love how articulate Yasmin is💓

  • @ruthstanton471
    @ruthstanton471 4 года назад +42

    I don't speak much English, but I have a lot of time following them. Inshallah I would like you to put subtitles in English or Spanish please🙏🏻

    • @benanahmad616
      @benanahmad616 4 года назад +2

      👋💕

    • @nadajpn
      @nadajpn 4 года назад

      There are automatic English -subtitles in all their videos that you can read and follow while they are talking.

    • @ruthstanton471
      @ruthstanton471 4 года назад

      Nada Lkanit thanks 🙏🏻, Can you give me a summary of the most important points they said, please!

  • @Studypharmaa
    @Studypharmaa 4 года назад +6

    Willpower, the ability to control oneself and determine one’s actions, displaying self-control within and without is necessary in life👍

  • @iftekharkhan2651
    @iftekharkhan2651 3 года назад +3

    I love how theyre so non judgemental and open ❤️

  • @cloudnine9119
    @cloudnine9119 4 года назад +4

    I’ve actually also never dated before and I’m in my mid 20s. I didn’t find it that hard to be honest to me it was just like not drinking, wear revealing clothes or getting tattoos. I’m not going to lie I was tempted but I knew that if I allowed myself to do one thing that it will make doing something else so much more easier. For me the hardest thing was feeling left out or not completely fitting in as most of my friends were non-Muslims so they didn’t have these restrictions.

  • @sarahh2495
    @sarahh2495 4 года назад +16

    About the point Dawoud mentioned at the end. Experience is really important, I agree but I feel like in this situation gaining experience doesn't have to be through dating mutiple people. I think in islam is about growing together with your life partner, you will make mistakes, it might be awkward but that's how you will learn about each other, what he/she likes and what he/she doesn't,it will happen naturally. At the end of the day we weren't born knowing things, we are not perfect and it doesn't have to be perfect, it okay to be naive in things. Your partner will not be that experienced either (if never dated too) so you wont be the only one, you guys will learn and understand together, and most importantly grow together. For me even if you dont start with being super experienced, I think the process of starting while knowing nothing to be experienced and doing it with your life partner is perfect in itself. I think this is way better and way more safe than gaining experience with different people that are just temporary and might really damage you while it being haram too because at the end you will reach the same point through both ways and the islamic way its a process far more beautiful and it also protect you. As Jasmine said you can also learn from other people's experiences too. Also, a very important point always have faith and trust in Allah and everything with be fine.
    I hope this helped someone💕

  • @hananel5546
    @hananel5546 4 года назад +34

    Thank you very much for this very relevant topic and advice, Jasmine and Dawoud. The closest thing I've had to relationships was me agreeing to date guys in the past and only talking on the phone without ever meeting them. In all of those cases, it was me who broke up first after a maximum of a week talking to the guy I'm dating because it'd just feel so wrong to be keeping things from my parents. Moreover, it'd feel rushed each time. Like the guy would start calling me sweet names and saying he loves me before even a week has passed since we'd started dating and that'd just feel so fake.

    • @shahlahasan6072
      @shahlahasan6072 4 года назад +5

      Sister, I'm glad you left that person. You can find dozens of guys like him, who just pretend to like you & later get you to do things, which will cause you much regret

    • @shahlahasan6072
      @shahlahasan6072 4 года назад +7

      A simple & very important advice from a very learned person that i follow :
      *_Don't ever give the control of your mind & heart to anyone before marriage, and you shall remain happy_*

    • @mays_alpha
      @mays_alpha 4 года назад +1

      Shahla Naz I absolutely agree with you

    • @hananel5546
      @hananel5546 4 года назад

      @@shahlahasan6072 indeed, it did happen multiple times. Though, El hamdulilah, I've always managed to keep control over my mind and not give into the sheytan's evil whispers and that's what's kept me from sinning in any way in that perspective thus far. Thank you for this advice, I really hope everybody watching this video will read it and abide by it.

    • @abdullahialiyuibrahim3963
      @abdullahialiyuibrahim3963 4 года назад +1

      Congratulations sister, because these are the categories of boys that will even promise to marry you. Anybody who cannot meet you in person don’t even waste your time talking to him.

  • @aishasangle7401
    @aishasangle7401 4 года назад +20

    I don't even need to bother looking all this stuff up I'll just watch Jasmine and Dawoud. I hope they never stop doing these types of videos. Also I have a question. When it comes to Haram relationships do you think the Muslim world is more harsh towards women and more lenient towards the men?

    • @deeanastyles5658
      @deeanastyles5658 4 года назад

      ++

    • @shakirapatni154
      @shakirapatni154 4 года назад

      Yes, 1000000%!!!

    • @sagalali8766
      @sagalali8766 4 года назад +15

      I think Islam is equally harsh to both women and men when it comes to relationships, but when it comes to culture then I think they are more harsher to women. Obviously this isn’t all cultures but it happens a lot.

    • @sakiyaa717
      @sakiyaa717 4 года назад +6

      Sagal Ali You’re absolutely correct. Islam is a perfect religion. But cultures and more specifically each individual family will many times be more lenient with the male making mistakes than they are with a female making that same mistake. Definitely is a no no. But we need to be the change and raise our children Islamically, not culturally.

    • @fatimafarhat7204
      @fatimafarhat7204 4 года назад

      @@sagalali8766 yep i agree

  • @rahafalazzeh5986
    @rahafalazzeh5986 4 года назад +4

    I appreciate you educating your audience about this topic since a lot of people don’t talk about this it as often

  • @infinit3light
    @infinit3light 4 года назад +3

    Super important topic and I agree with the points you both brought up. I think having Taqwa and choosing your friends wisely is crucial to help avoid/overcome these temptations. We all get tested but choosing to please Allah swt and staying true to your Islamic values will help to not cross that line inshaAllah. That's why I think being surrounded by a "tribe" that shares the same Islamic values is key. May Allah protect our youth and keep us steadfast on the straight path.

  • @madi-maui
    @madi-maui 4 года назад +5

    Jasmine you are wise beyond your years. I totally grew up with a very similar mindset as you. And now I look back and am so glad I didn’t make those stupid mistakes and have baggage.

    • @mimo4856
      @mimo4856 4 года назад

      Same here girl. Stay strong!

  • @rachalazreg3957
    @rachalazreg3957 4 года назад +2

    Thank you for this video! Honestly needed it, sometimes I feel tired of seeing everyone being in haram relationships and I just want to give it all up and think "damn, if they all go to Heaven doing all of that, why couldn't I?" but watching your videos reminds me of what is truly right, so thank you for that:)

  • @amnaa55
    @amnaa55 4 года назад +34

    No one:
    Dawoud: YOU'RE BEING TESTED

  • @shabenahassanzada9036
    @shabenahassanzada9036 4 года назад +3

    i also think like jasmine, i live my life vicariously through my friends so im able to learn about the impacts of haram relationships

  • @heggyd
    @heggyd 4 года назад +2

    I really like this topic because we can see two different perspectives and they both are valid. Everyone goes through different tests, and those who are able to seek forgiveness will definitely understand why those acts were haraam to begin with. It’s also important to note that your level of Imaan can really affect your choices throughout your life, and sometimes stuff happens even if you didn’t plan on it. Alhumdulillah for Islam ❤️

  • @ara4220
    @ara4220 2 года назад +1

    Dawood, I appreciate for your honesty. It takes real guts to admit. Thank you

  • @dreamstatemeditation
    @dreamstatemeditation 3 года назад +2

    I just wanted to thank you both for helping me on my spiritual journey. I look at relationships and dating in a whole different way now and have more respect for myself and my body. Thank you for speaking your truth and for helping to bring more purity and love into the world. ❤️

  • @riaapriliasari3073
    @riaapriliasari3073 3 года назад +2

    when jasmine said that She hadn't dating experience, I immediately spoke to myself I'm not the only one then. I really really amazed with you guys, although you live where Islam become minority there, you are very open minded and keep follow the limitations of Islam taught as well, especially for Jasmine. I really really appreciate this vlog, So Inspiring for me. Thank you ..

  • @habibaahmad2610
    @habibaahmad2610 4 года назад +2

    Jazakallah Khair for this very beautiful reminder. I think this was very important for many of us. You both gave such great facts about Islam that I now appreciate! May Allah keep you both happy in life and keep you guided like this! :))))))

  • @schokoladendonut
    @schokoladendonut 4 года назад +4

    Thank you so so much for this video! It’s such an important topic and you pointed out the most important things there are about it to know. Unfortunately a couple of my Muslim friends are in haram relationships and I try to give them nasihas, I’ll show them this video as well.

  • @asmaaliadana511
    @asmaaliadana511 3 года назад

    I can totally relate to Jasmine's way. Because whenever I hear someone's relationship and what goes wrong I kinda leave a mental note on my head. It really helps. no need to go through it also

  • @Rifaa.H
    @Rifaa.H 4 года назад +11

    The way Dawoud expresses his opinions, damnnnn he must have been through a lot.....

  • @Mouyio
    @Mouyio 4 года назад +2

    Man! You guys are so good!
    My perspective of life changed so much after witching your videos!
    Much support to you both!🙌😍

  • @ElifNurMuhammad
    @ElifNurMuhammad 4 года назад +15

    AsSalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh from Texas.
    May Allah guide us all and keep us steadfast on his deen always.

  • @ferasminor3244
    @ferasminor3244 4 года назад +3

    Its already too late .. the damage was done ... i needed this 12 month ago .. yes it wasn't too haram, yes parents knew about it eventually, but getting broken, losing trust in the person overnight, is really a terrible experience.

  • @sarahkak6957
    @sarahkak6957 4 года назад +3

    I'm absolutely loving these advice videos as they're extremely helpful and eye-opening. Thank you for being so open and honest, especially about your own personal experiences! I can't tell you guys how much I've learnt and benefited from your videos. Please keep them coming. 💞

  • @zali9657
    @zali9657 4 года назад +2

    I agree with Dawood. Us men do have a lot higher temptations. It be hard asl but I’ve always focused on getting the bag and not worry about girls. Low key it has helped lol

  • @sanaraza3433
    @sanaraza3433 4 года назад +2

    I really needed this Bec I was avoiding a guy and now I have reasons for it!
    Thanks guys for being so mindful about it.

  • @imaan2612
    @imaan2612 4 года назад +4

    Btw even when your parents know , there should always be a third person present until you’ve had your Nikkah done otherwise it’s still classed as haram in ISLAM

  • @Itsjustkarissa
    @Itsjustkarissa 3 года назад +2

    Loved this video so much. I am currently in a relationship with a muslim man for a few years and we are transitioning from haram dating to halal dating. It's been a challenging, eye opening experience for me as I educate myself and trying to decipher my spiritual path independently... More videos on this topic, please! New subscriber

    • @nek2327
      @nek2327 3 года назад +2

      I agree it can be hard in the beginning but trust me it's worth it in the end!

  • @battsy_6220
    @battsy_6220 4 года назад +1

    thank you so much jasmine and dawoud ❤️ this video is so helpful for all people (teenagers especially) who are struggling with haram relationships. thank you for talking about it with both of you’re perspectives, god bless 💓

  • @moonwalkerr87
    @moonwalkerr87 4 года назад +7

    The solution is to get married early. Make nikah easy. The requirements for a valid nikah are not that difficult, except for convincing the father (wali) of the girl. If it does not work out, there’s divorce. At least the relationship was halal.
    You cannot stop biology, but you can stop haram by making halal easy. Some parents are really ignorant of the hyper sexualised world we live in. They tell you don’t date, but don’t offer the halal alternative.
    To wait until you’re closer to 28 is not realistic for the youth. Islam encourages early marriage because of not falling into zina. The literal meaning of nikah is «sexual intercourse». The whole point of nikah is to make sex halal. It protects from haram and that’s why it is considered half of deen.
    Islam made marriage and divorce easy, but we have made it difficult upon ourselves with high expectations of degrees, dowry and fancy weddings. May Allah guide us.

    • @moonwalkerr87
      @moonwalkerr87 4 года назад

      @Sassy Queen That is the ONLY significant solution. For muslims, the most effective way to stop zina/fornication is by making nikah easy and affordable for the youth.

  • @hijabimuslim1703
    @hijabimuslim1703 4 года назад +3

    You can learn and get experience from the same relationship also, you don’t need to go through multiple girls

  • @ebtisamali359
    @ebtisamali359 4 года назад +16

    I am against dating and I am aware its haram but all my friends who have dated are married or are engaged but here I am 27 years old fighting the temptation of dating when everyone around me is encouraging me to date to find a husband . May Allah protect us all Ameen because it's hard 😩

    • @anikalove.0044
      @anikalove.0044 4 года назад +6

      Why not talk to a guy in a halal way? If a guy is interested tell him if he wants to move forward than you would respect it if he could talk to your parents to get to know you more

    • @ebtisamali359
      @ebtisamali359 4 года назад +3

      @@anikalove.0044 most of them dont want halal. I still have to meet a respectful guy yet

    • @ebtisamali359
      @ebtisamali359 4 года назад +1

      @Abdul-Haqq Ameen same to you akhi 🤲🤲

    • @anikalove.0044
      @anikalove.0044 4 года назад +1

      ebtisam ali they want to meet up instead of talking on the phone? Or how strict are you with the halal. I’m curious. I talk to a guy on the phone the halal way and if they want to know me more I tell my parents about him

    • @ebtisamali359
      @ebtisamali359 4 года назад

      @@anikalove.0044 meet up and go out on dates to the movies and stuff .

  • @oliviaruper433
    @oliviaruper433 4 года назад +1

    Jasmine is a real scholar on this subject. Love this thank you both and love you guys💕💕

  • @Tam0rr
    @Tam0rr 4 года назад +1

    Wow, I really needed this being a guy with a lot of options. Thank you guys for real! 🌹

  • @hayley1524
    @hayley1524 3 года назад

    I LOVE THAT YOU GUYS TALK ABOUT STUFF LIKE THIS! JAZKALLAH KHAIR SO MUCH!

  • @hithere1113
    @hithere1113 4 года назад +1

    Really wish this channel existed when I was a teenager! I think you’re having a lot of great conversations that young muslims can benefit from

  • @hayati6374
    @hayati6374 4 года назад +4

    Without dating "fully" in the western sense, I'm not confident I'll really know how to spot red flags etc.

  • @faza4939
    @faza4939 4 года назад +16

    Currently, it's already time to sleep in my country (3am). But suddenly got notification from you, how can i sleep... 🤍

    • @marammaaroufi6093
      @marammaaroufi6093 4 года назад +1

      Same here, it so late and i have class tomorrow morning at 7💔

  • @leylatashowa5522
    @leylatashowa5522 3 года назад

    I totally agree with you jasmine. Me too also learning from other people’s mistakes . 👀👀 hopefully I found right soulmate for me.

  • @nadiakhan3364
    @nadiakhan3364 4 года назад +6

    I lost my Deen and did harm dating he was Muslim like me and when he cheated with another girl I was so heart broke that I watched mufti menkh and if brought me on my Deen and
    Now I asked my dad to find me a husband

    • @nadiakhan3364
      @nadiakhan3364 4 года назад +3

      Azadi Kurd • vor 9 Jahren I was 15 and VERY unmatured I took life a a joke and when I felt that pain that’s when I knew I was bad I cried on my prayer mat and found my way back to allah

    • @theawesomegamerh2752
      @theawesomegamerh2752 4 года назад

      @@nadiakhan3364 do you live in Germany?

    • @nadiakhan3364
      @nadiakhan3364 4 года назад

      the awesome gamer no UK?

    • @nadiakhan3364
      @nadiakhan3364 3 года назад

      @Romeo - really a Muslim who literally miss guided me ? But that’s was then and yeh

  • @TemplatesNstuff
    @TemplatesNstuff 3 года назад

    Here's a question for yall: How do you keep your standards up when literally all you see are men/woman who are bellow it? How do you not feel the pressure of lowering your standards in the hopes of finding someone and not dying alone?
    At first it starts as "it's okay that he doesn't pray, he will have to learn eventually", then "it's okay that he drinks occasionally", then "it's okay that he's twice divorced with kids half my age"....

  • @ssam1820
    @ssam1820 3 года назад

    I love how dawoud was so honest and gave so much advice.

  • @kfahiii
    @kfahiii 4 года назад +14

    “How they’re wiiiired” this cracked me up lool

  • @katben1625
    @katben1625 4 года назад +1

    Jasmine is just such a sweetheart, so mature for her age, so graceful and elegant. Allah yi7meekom w ykhalikon la ba3d

  • @pdrider7918
    @pdrider7918 4 года назад +1

    This couple make me smile.. they are so sweet and loving.. anyone from Malaysia watching their videos? I'm Malaysian 🇲🇾🇲🇾 😀

  • @ΟλγαΜκρ-π1γ
    @ΟλγαΜκρ-π1γ 4 года назад +14

    Much love from Greece guys ❤️🔝

  • @Entay3
    @Entay3 4 года назад +15

    I wish I would have watched this 5 years ago...

    • @hibbasumra6858
      @hibbasumra6858 4 года назад

      Same!!!!

    • @LoveLiyah849
      @LoveLiyah849 4 года назад +6

      It’s ok. God forgives and at least you’ve learnt your lesson ♥️

  • @CLNSL8
    @CLNSL8 3 года назад

    Thank you for the explanation. I always perceived a woman wearing a Hijab doesn't want to even interact with anyone outside other women wearing a Hijab. As a Christian woman I am thrilled not to be disrespectful to now even having social interactions with Hijab women

  • @habibi435
    @habibi435 4 года назад +84

    can't have a Haram relationship when no one wants you lol

    • @schirin5112
      @schirin5112 4 года назад +6

      Same here 😂🙋🏻‍♀️

    • @habibi435
      @habibi435 4 года назад +1

      @Sassy Queen I know but it would be nice 🥺

    • @sabssads
      @sabssads 4 года назад

      @@schirin5112 lmaoooo 🥺

    •  3 года назад

      @@funicon3689 the random Arab/Asian guys in the fb n IG dms for sure

  • @maryamazam4141
    @maryamazam4141 4 года назад +1

    I really appreciate your advice! Would you guys talk more about maybe trying to get back into praying more and how your journey with prayer has been?

  • @aj95ization
    @aj95ization 4 года назад

    In regards to Dawoud’s perspective I think the reason he says it’s hard and basically trying to say unavoidable is because the proper steps were not taken before hand, I think as a Muslim living in the US these relationships are very avoidable and without even putting pressure on myself by following what our religion says when comes to dealing with opposite gender, for example not shaking hand/hugging when we greet women, keeping conversations plain and concise with no jokes/ flirtation, I think of Muslims are properly taught this from a young age + explained with wisdom in waiting for the right one a lot of these haram relationships would begin to decline and depression would decline as well. Wasalam thank you for your video

  • @maryamb2792
    @maryamb2792 4 года назад

    So much love and support for you guys! I love how real and raw you're both are.

  • @TheNaisenya
    @TheNaisenya 4 года назад +3

    Jasmine, you choose well for Dawoud’s clothes, he looks good here 👍🏿

    • @dawoudharb1491
      @dawoudharb1491 4 года назад +11

      I picked this out myself actually 😂 she definately did transform my wardrobe tho 😋

  • @TheDextroseSaline
    @TheDextroseSaline 3 года назад

    I loved my single life, travelled and learnt a whole bunch of stuff. Met a guy who is a convert to Islam…when I was 33 and we got married…
    Alhamdulillah.
    Guys, Jasmine and Dawood are right on point, these temptations are endless nowadays, we have to remember what gives Barakah in life and what takes it away!
    Girls often get hurt the most by such things and temporary type relationships, so be smart young ladies! Allah has kept a mate for everyone, it is His promise.