Often INFJs learn to continually break eye contact to avoid making the other person feel uncomfortable, as INFJs are generally very socially conscious.
As an INFP, I'm definitely aware of how social skills should be, but I don't know how to actually imitate those skills. I'm pretty decent at interacting with extroverted people since they know how to eliminate a lot of the awkwardness from my lack of social skills and I get comfortable a lot faster, but when I try to talk to other introverted people, it's extremely uncomfortable because neither of us knows how to eliminate the awkwardness like extroverted people do. It's a struggle.
Well there are 63,166 views and 977 comments as I am typing this. (977/63,166)*100=1.55%. Even if everyone that commented were an INFJ person, it would fit the statistic.
Most people who type themselves INFJ are not INFJ, they are maybe narcissists who feel so special, because INFJ is the rarest type, according to MBTI. That's an indicator for not being INFJ, because if you are real INFJ, you don't want to feel special. That's because INFJs are so different, they stand out and they don't want to, they want to fit in, but they don't.
Regarding the INFJ. I'd say it's pretty accurate. My only gripe is the staring. We stare when we aren't talking, or are having superficial conversations. When we do actually talk we tend to look all over the place, or stare into space. Almost as if we're searching for something. A fairly easy way to tell is our cadence will change when talking about something important. We'll pause quite a bit, stammer, and or rush through certain sentences like we've prewritten them. Some people have assumed I'm autistic because of this. We use a lot of metaphors because it's hard to explain our thoughts, so we try to make it understandable to the person listening. More relatable if you will. I can't speak for the accuracy of the INFP or ENFJ. I don't really exhibit most of those traits.
Yes. Agree with everything you say. And I occasionally stare into someones eyes while talking when it's a one-on-one conversation and I feel like we both are on the same wave-length, or I might want to offer support through my eyes so they feel that it's okay to open up more, that they know that I am present and see them for who they are and accept them unconditionally.
As an infj I look very calm, but inside am always anxious when am around people. When I went to donate blood, the lady checking my pulse told me if I had coffee because my pulse was so high. She told me you look calm, but inside my head am thinking about everything at once. I guess am good at hiding my emotions because apparently am viewed as being calm. I understand body language very well, so I can play it off until they start checking my blood pressure or pulse.
sony so OMG I'm the same. I look really calm on the outside and am crazy anxious on the inside. When we practice using the stethoscope and blood pressure gage at university I prefer playing the doctor not the patient because my results usually show that I have a blood pressure that fluctuates abnormally, because I'll be calm for a minute then have a spike of anxiety, because I'm worried about having anxiety.
PotionsMaster007 Yeah worrying about having anxiety just makes things even worse. We worry so much that it just becomes a habit. You should watch Teal Swan videos on How to stop worrying? this has helped me a little bit maybe it could help you.
I was having a high anxiety day last year, and in the middle of the day, my boss asked me, "Do you EVER get upset?" I just stared at her like WTF, because I'd had a panic attack and cried twice by then -- I just did ALONE because I knew it wouldn't help anyone if I emoted then and there. I kinda nodded and said, "Uhhuh." But I'm still gaping because I'm almost always fighting to keep my head above water. Maybe that's why people pile things on us -- they never see what's going on inside. Like you, it took my getting an Apple watch for my husband to see how I was reacting to stress, as the heart rate notification was louder than me, usually.
Gets better once you mature into the Se function, you feel in harmony with your paradox, a zen-like state. When you become comfortable in your own skin, it's serene, Jedi Master confident in your unique cognitive circuits... owning the intuition and trusting it, and the Fe makes it all the easier to deal with any people (living creatures) sceniro. All aniexty needs is being confident things will be okay...courage comes from the heart. But then again I'm an INFJ-A as opposed to INFJ-T.
@@marioprevil1139 I had that question too. Life was hard back then. But then I learned more and more about INFJs and I realized I was not alone, there are so many people out there like me. And I started to love myself for being like this. What I didn’t expect was that I also realized that it wasn’t me vs the rest of non INFJs. I realized that all of these people too had things going on and things they were desperate to be accepted for and that made me love them even more. It made me more confident and open and accepting.
Man, I'm an INFP, I've always been an INFP, and I'll always be an INFP. What's with all these lame INFPs wanting to be a different type. It's almost..... inauthentic.... lol.
Actually, "INFP's only wanting to be another type" is not accurate. It is a stigma within the type community, no one wants to be something else, we only want to be that in which we see great potential in ourselves, and strive to work for those personal changes.-Daniel
I'm an infj and I think infp have qualities that we could benefit from. They're the masters at emotions. I don't know why they'd want to be infjs. Some of the best and creative minds that I admire are infps. Fred Rogers, JRR Tolkien, Stephen Colbert. And the 2 people that understands me most are infps. My ex bf of over 10 years and my best fiend closer than my sister is infp. I don't know another infj, but I'm proud that were empathic people. My infp friend was the one that help me understand narcissist and use grey rock method. And my ex bf taught me how to love myself when my mom basically told me to hate myself.
I have a lot of thoughts on the whole INFP vs INFJ 1) I hate the, "I am an INFJ/INFP" it really is irritating that they just listed all the functions (I understand new people get typology confused but I see the "INFP/INFJ" almost more than any other actual type)2) I think the INFJ descriptions are part of the problem with MBTI. What I mean is INFJ descriptions are usually extremely vague using words like mystic, psychic, magical, mysterious = 'special snowflake.' When I first got into MBTI and had friends and family take it, about half of them came up INFJ. My one friend was textbook ESFJ (she got ESFJ first, was not happy with it, took it again -INFJ). And the problem is, it is like saying "Everyone is special' to children. They are going to believe, no matter what actions they do that they are special. When someone glances over INFJ information of course everyone thinks they are unique and different. I find even people that are extremely surface level thinkers feel like they are "magical" in some way. And again INFJ is the rarest type, I am extremely skeptical of half the people I know being INFJ let alone intuitive.
+Ali Lea - Yes. I think the type descriptions are very very misguiding. Because as of the Step II instrument, there are variations within a type. And the more you variate out-of-preference, the easier it is to mistype (as you'll drift further and further away from the description).
Actually, 0/300 is 0% probability. If INFJs are 1.5% of the population, then that would mean that in a room of 300 people, you're likely to find 4 INFJs. In a room of 100 people, you are likely to find 1.
I'm the same. The tests ALWAYS give me INFJ and I say and think to myself "yeah this is me" when in reality that's probably my ego desperately wanting to be this cool type. When in reality I'm probably something else. Like INFP.
The INFPs I know are absolutely content being INFPs. Maybe it's different here in Europe where the MBTI and the "super rare INFJ" is not hyped to much. INFPs are almost as rare as we INFJs are and they are awesome too - as any type is. I have some INFP friends and I love to explore the similarities and differences with them.
Thank you Zachary Quinto for helping to clarify a fact about myself that had been amiss until a few days ago. Barely a week ago, I heard of INFJ for the first time in my life after stumbling across a clip, here on RUclips. If anything, I watched it to see what it was about and never expected it to be about me. As I watched the clip and listened to the descriptions, I was blown away by what I heard. It wasn't vague, or suggestive in its description. So, I wasn't using specious reasoning to make the connections. The points were exact, precise and difficult to deny. In the end, it felt like the clip was made exclusively to describe me. Overall, practically everything in the clip uncannily hit the mark. A somewhat surreal experience, I must admit. But, what did this mean? Well, for one, if it was true, it didn't exactly tell me what I didn't know already. I've always marched to the beat of my OWN drum, not a different one. All it did was confirm what my gut already knew. Still. I'm no fool and no matter how convincing the clip was, I simply will not accept something as a fact based on a whim and a single clip. This looked like a job for Google. Over this past week, I've Googled my ass off tenaciously. Naturally, this has provided an improved understanding of INFJ, with a deeper insight. While I'm far from being an expert on the subject, I believe a valid self assessment is feasible. However, I want to point out how every site I have visited, every article I've read and every clip I have watched has been the same, with uncanny similarities. Now, if there were discrepancies, even a small percentage, I would hang on to my scepticism. The fact is, there aren't any. Therefore, this has a huge influence on my self assessment, in combination with what I have learnt on the topic. My assessment? At this point, I'm fairly and rationally confident I am a genuine INFJ. Wow. I'm rare. Big deal. I've never tried to be rare. What's the point of trying to achieve something you already possess? That's not ego talking, that's just knowing and comprehending my true self. In fact, I've never tried to be anything other than myself. After all, I don't know how to be someone else and it would take a lot of effort. My pragmatic nature would never embrace this. Pragmatism is about finding the solutions requiring the least effort, with the most beneficial results. Don't be fooled. Pragmatists seek efficiency primarily because they're lazy. At least this one does. =P Perhaps I have miscalculated my assessment and I have no problem with being incorrect. Feel free to offer your thoughts if I contradict my assessment Mr Quinto, they would be welcomed. It's effortless to admit I am wrong. Then again, I'm rarely wrong, or at least I like to jokingly say this is the case. Humour is important to me and laughter contributes to our well being. That said, laughing with others is bonding. But, laughing at yourself is probably the most important part. If you can't laugh at yourself, then you take life too seriously. I believe it narrows your perspective and you miss out on the true horizon. I hope this wall of words was worth the effort. It is always my intention to inject substance in my compositions and offer new insight or a fresh perspective. Thank you for uploading this clip Mr Quinto (Couldn't resist. You do resemble him, but I'm sure you've heard that before), it was informative and insightful. On top of that, you project a good vibe. And, I must admit, I could look in those eyes all day. lol Peace.
I am always in awe of Te. You explained the functions so eloquently and proved how vital they are in distinguishing personality type. Thank you for this video, you did the title justice!
I've never come across an ENTJ talking about MBTI before and I LOVE it! You seem so well-developed, its like I can see your Fi shining even though youre still clearly an ENTJ! Also you've made me understand things so welll :D thank you, from an INFP ^^
Difficult to say. Very few people do these tests and some personalities would be more curious and keen to do them then others. So the percentages known are totally biased and wrong. We would need to test everyone to know.
I identify with the INFJ personality type and I think you've got our type right. The eye contact thing is interesting cause personally I don't like eye contact unless I know you really well because it's very intimate for me and looking into the eyes of a stranger for too long unnerves me. BUT at the same time, my friends have pointed this out to me, when I am attracted to someone or are interested in them as a person I stare so hard it can be intimidating and too intense. That stare into your soul looking because if I'm interested in you you have my focus. And people don't like it usually because I am hard to get to know but I'm literally watching your every move and trying to understand you through all of your actions. Just wanted to share my opinion on eye contact because unless you strike me as interesting and real with yourself and others I don't hold eye contact for too long.
+Alex K I'm an INFJ, and here's what I've noticed about eye contact: If I am listening to someone talk, my eyes are LASER focused on their eyes, even if their eyes are darting around. If I am talking to someone, my eyes will be darting around, because in my mind, each thought has its own location. That's part of the system building of Ni, especially in conjunction with Ti: categorizing and organizing information into complex systems. So when I'm talking to someone about my thoughts or feelings, I have to retrieve them from where they are stored in my mind, which is organized in a specific way. So my eyes will follow the focus of my mind, and they will follow the internal location of my ideas while I am speaking, while they will focus on the speaker while I am listening. Get it?
Gina Marchetti I get it. I am look around too when i'm speaking cause of that same reason too and i am in touch with my Se a lot so I notice people doing things and that contributes to my eye darting. And laser focus is for people i am truly invested in
I have a theory that INFJs aren't as rare as the stats say. First off, how was the data even collected? Also, if the INFJ is the most complex and misunderstood type, then it's hard to know how many true INFJs are really floating around out there (especially if the data is from test results, which doesn't pick up the nuance as to why someone would chose a certain answer over another). They easily act in ways that seem most appropriate to the moment or to whom they're speaking. What if, in an ironic twist, we're gutting the INFJs by saying they're not one? It's already frustrating being misunderstood. And I bet there are lots of INFJs whom are actual INFJs and they just want to pull their hair out when people say they're something else, as if they're not misunderstood enough already.
It's very dependent on the maturity of the infj. I can only identify two Infjs I've known and they are always the leader of the pack while still remaining the ultimate outsider. The immature infj can be vindictive and play games with people. They also help people too though. Depends what they think of you. Their very internally focused and have a lot of noticeable Fi (at least for me). They care about social rules or go completely against them. The mature Infj is gracious and may wear a lot of black or plain colours. I'm naturally attracted to Infjs. Like a love at first sight kind of thing..
Ouch, thanks for that one bro -accurate as hell but not very nice! Why am I saying that well because I didn’t want to play the games or be a leader of some kids in school I really wasn’t interested but they couldn’t let it be because I disturbed their structure so they kept trying to get me to react or to fold and they figured out that I wouldn’t beat or attack anyone or even insult anyone without cause just because so they always did it to my back so I wouldn’t know exactly who was involved ended up with me kicking the crap out of one of them who made the mistake of saying something so that I could positively I’d him and challenging the leader and his second for a fight straight afterwards which they both backed down on . Thing is an infj will never WANT to be a leader we are forced to become leaders to obtain certain results or even to be able to become part of the group ( formal or informal) because if we don’t oftentimes groups will turn on us because we destabilize the leadership by not backing down and that sucks . also groups or individuals who put you on pedestals have a tendency to also want to tear you down from the pedestal they put you on to prove that they have that power to themselves that’s why it sucks to be an infj but also as soon as people need help or want to tell their sob stories they come crawling somehow understanding that we rarely say no to a plea of help so though we may love humanity and want so save the world oftentimes we just don’t like humans that much because you really try your hardest to make us see all the darkest parts of yourselves. Animals are nicer.
Finally a video that gives a clear, proper distinction for me. For the longest time, I thought I was INFJ. Not because I wanted to be one, but because it was poorly communicated how INFJs could be identified. I now know that I am a very content INFP.
A lot of people in the comments are saying it’s hard to be an infj, but for me I feel gifted in the sense that I can be very open minded and see the truth rather than what I want to see. And a lot of these people are stereotyping infjs as if we’re all the exact same. We’re HUMAN just because someone isn’t exactly like you doesn’t mean they or you aren’t an infj. You’d think infjs look at things deeply but it seems a lot of these “infjs” just want to be the judges of others based off of them because they are “true” organic original infjs. How about you just focus on yourselves and your confusions instead of unprofessionally addressing the confusions of others. This may be hypocritical but I don’t think an infj could care less about who’s a real or fake infj other than themselves. (This is based off of the type of infj I am)
I wonder if INFJs come out of the woodwork on videos about INFJs at a disproportionate ratio to the population because we feel so different from everyone else and are looking for explanations about why our brains / preferences work differently. When I watch or read about behavioral and cognitive studies, I'm like, "No, that's not me, am I WRONG to behave and think and process the world differently?" That's what got me into the MBTI / personalities world -- trying to figure myself out. I consistently tested out as INFJ and was like, "THIS SUCKS." I'm now learning that I can strengthen my weak areas and play to my strengths so I don't feel so stuck in my head -- and that's awesome. It seems natural that INFJs (and INFPs!) would gravitate toward online forums and channels, maybe even more than other types. A lot of people don't care what they are and just assume everyone else is weird and they're normal, so never even venture into this realm.
+Simanim Simanim - Appreciate your feedback, I think you've got my intention a little mixed up. First off, you cannot use Socionics to argue against MBTI as they are completely separate theories. Second, I do agree that they are mixed up occasionally, but they are NOT similar in my honest opinion. I have typed many INFPs and many INFJs professionally, and I do not think that they are very similar at all. I didn't mean to imply that INFPs don't have clear vision, I said they are less likely to focus on that. This is all about perspective. And it is not the PRIME concern of the INFP. It doesn't mean that they don't have one. I use my language very specifically (e.g. "may", "likely", "more", "naturally") to remove the idea that a certain type is not capable of something. I am also very familiar with both of the INFP philosophers you mentioned, but they do not come across as INFJs at all (at least to me). Yes, the key words you used is to "understand the world at a deeper level." But it does not eliminate the Ne v. Ni difference, as "Understanding the world in relation to human potential and values" or "Understanding the world in relation to it's underlying meaning and purpose, only using human potential and values as a part of a greater whole." (Again, both types are capable of this, but we are speaking preferences/primary focus here.). INFPs will use intuition to further explore the world in the sense of humanistic ideals (Idealist) which they have thoroughly sorted out subjectively, where as INFJs will focus on the collective values of certain groups as a tool subjugated to their search for underlying meaning by means of patterns and insights.(Not to imply that they don't have values). Plus the INFJs command over Ti is quite evident in most of their personalities. With all that being said, my argument is coming from a strong point of MBTI, NOT Socionics. (caps for emphasis). As in Socionics the INFp is actually INFJ (MBTI). But to assume that the INFP has conscious command over Ni is not canonical with MBTI. Now, again, with that being said, I can see how in the external world they can appear similar, but with an experienced eye, they are vastly, vastly different. In addition, the INFP is primarily concerned with Fi, where as the INFJ is primarily concerned with Ni. This appears totally different in the extraverted world as the INFP extraverts intuition, and the INFJ extraverts feeling. So the INFP may look appear to be random, quirky, or excited about NEW possibilities. Where as the INFJ may look slower, concerned, mystical, and patient. INFPs are more concerned with the judgment of values (comparing them with their own), INFJs are more concerned with perceiving in the world of meaning. So, they may appear more patient. Both types can seem very quiet, naturally. And BOTH types can extravert quite well when needed.
***** - Thank you for that. Your exploitation of types is quite interesting. It's not that one isn't open to the possibility. It's that they don't appear similar according to MBTI (and myself in my experience working with clients). Whether the two theories are compatible or not. But yes, I agree with you on Jung's perspective. I think we can use other theories to help our understanding, but we won't know until extensive research is done on these various things. Research is not my forte, nor conducing it is something that particularly interests me - so I stick with what was been researched. I am semi-"anti-box" when it comes to personality typing, but not completely. After all we all eat, we all sleep, and some of us reproduce. These are boxes. But they happen to fit the bill. So there are things that I believe are constant, but there are things willing to be challenged. But I welcome your stretching of the mind. Thanks for commenting.
The biggest difference I noticed (infj and infp) is that infp are constantly making kind of principles and are very aware of self and what they want ,like, need. It is like constantly judging values to make one that is compatible with their identity (self). Infjs have values but in a more general way (what is good for human kind and what is not) , and how to use those values to keep harmony and peace and are very creative people Infjs are more likely to be blind to their own needs when making decisions if they don't compensate it with Ti and find good logical reasons to put their needs first. INFJs can struggle with Fi 'cause they feel they are hurt/ not ok and don't know what to do about it/ it makes person paralised 'cause they don't know what to do about it. Infps are very aware of Fi 'cause it is always there and they mostly know who they are. Infjs are mostly like stranger for everyone around them 'cause people mostly see Fe or Ti , and don't see how Ni works which is the most important part ( how infjs are making connections and their world view- it is mostly like kind of psychological/sociological realism and seeing patterns also making predictions . Also "jump to conclusions definition: to guess the facts about a situation without having enough information" it is Ni stuff more. iNFJs are listening to you and their background process is constantly making predictions where this is going, they need to know. If they are kind of relaxed with you they can express their thoughts at loud (Fe) and it looks like "jumping to conclusions" 'cause there is a small amount of informations/small input and very fast predictions. Btw your yt channel is amazing.
@@laraohmaye875 I tried to find my enneagram type but I'm not sure cause I feel like I'm combination of multiple types. My friend told me that I can be six cause I had generalised anxiety disoreder but I don't have basic fear that six usually have. I can be sometimes 6, 9, 4 (pisces sun) or rearly 2 if my extroverted feeling is at its best. I'm sure that I'm not 3,5, 7,8.
I know I'm an INFJ from taking the test in both English and Spanish. Also, regardless of statistics, a higher percentage of INFJs are going to check into these sites. There are a lot of relieved people who have found out about those four initials. For my own part I finally found out why people (including a few immediate family members) reacted to me as they did. This talk you're sharing describes me to a T. I'm grateful for the personality I've got, but it's as much of a burden as it is a blessing. It wasn't until late middle age that I finally learned that "You're weird" wasn't my middle name.
We all learn to adjust, and grow with who we are, and recondition ourselves to be the "self" we want to ultimately live with, its all a journey, and making the most of the information at our disposal can give us the opportunity to change ours and others lives as well, thanks for coming by.
Great video! I am an INFP and I have known an INFJ for 14 years, and everything you say is spot on! I think getting to know my INFJ friend has helped me a great deal in understanding the difference between INFPs and INFJs. I have a theory that people are on the fence between them being an INFP and an INFJ because they haven't really met the person of that other type to compare themselves with. Understanding your type is not black and white, but more like gradations of color. Royal blue is different from navy blue, and it may be hard to describe the differences on their own, but when you compare the two, then it is easier to understand. My two cents! Great video! I look forward to watching the Function videos related to INFP. Side note: What really resonated with me in your video is you said that INFPs look at other people's interpersonal values to better understand their own interpersonal values. A lightbulb appeared in my head, but I don't fully understand what you mean by the term 'interpersonal values.' Do you mind expounding on that idea some more? I feel like this might unlock some deeper understanding of myself. Thank you!
It’s hard to be INFJ. I’m too focused on my insights, intuition and big picture - that I lose out on the present moment often. There’s almost too much depth. I see too much and have a hard time understanding why some people cannot see what I do easily see. I feel the feelings of pretty much every single person in the room. It’s difficult. I also disowned my own mother and brother. I simply cannot have toxic, selfless, oblivious people in my personal bubble. After the last few years I just said GTFO in a very direct way. This relationship is over. Bye. No fight, I just remove myself from your life. I’m disconnected from the world. Im disconnected from most people. I’m here and trying to change the future of something very serious (I made it my career) so it’s my life’s work. It’s very deep. It has to be payed attention to. It’s also frustrating because I can’t directly effect change. I must take the information I have and slowly chip away at it. I have to spread the information I have collected for the greater good. I have the intense soul piercing stare and intensity. Maybe my functions are not mature. Not sure. I have experienced trauma in my life. Especially as a child. Thank goodness my husband is an ENFJ. He is the only one that understands me but I doubt he will ever fully understand me. He is great with facilitating however. He is a leader for huge change in everyone in his life. He is very dedicated and enthusiastic about it. I will say that it’s difficult for me to be an INFJ. I’ve explored all other types in hopes of finding that maybe I’m mistyped. INFJ is the only one that fits. That was difficult to write because who is going to read this and does it matter? Hahah
I read it! I hear you! I watched this video in hopes that maybe I'm actually an infp because I love infps so much. But I knew I'm an infj, and of course the video only corroborated that...I'm basically a hermit, I've always been a wise old grandma living in the wrong dimension. Living in my head, grand plans to help the trajectory of humankind, but I don't leave the house, so how is that going to happen lol...I hope you're well, fellow infj!
Damon...you are a delight! So refreshing to hear an insightful, intelligent breakdown of the infj personality. My sister is an Entj and I am an Infj and we have such deep, insightful, connected, intense conversations about everything! I would have enjoyed engaging you in dialogue. Keep up the quality content - as you are aware there is a lot of incorrect content on the infj personality. You rock - figuratively of course! 😃
I believe I'm an INFJ due to your amazingly, accurate video and the dozens upon dozens of tests I've taken that are accessible online, though I'm still a little unconvinced and rather skeptical due to the fact that I've seen many people mistype themselves as INFJ and some still going along with their mistype. Although I share many functions, I fear I may be one of those who have mistyped.
No need to fear. This video wasn't supposed to be a neo-nazi way of convincing people to stay away from INFJ. I just think that people need to find enough connection to confirm their type and not just "assume" without any due diligence.
I'm an INFP but I'm *extremely* drawn to INFJs due to their depth and fascinating insights. My boyfriend & one of my best friends are INFJs though I agree, they are very rare. Just happens that I connect with them easily. Though as much as I click with them, I wouldn't choose to be one. From what I gathered, INFJs can have such a hard time accepting and loving themselves - heck, even knowing / understanding themselves is a big challenge for them, whereas INFPs tend to have less difficulties with self-acceptance. We're weirdos and we know it. And we actively search for other weirdos to connect with.
once you're real close with an INFJ, you'll discover that they can also be 'weirdos' lol. My INFJ friend and me (INFJ) are super close and demonstrate weirdness and craziness freely. But the rest you said is true as well, it's like we're still struggling to find ourselves even if we can accept our inner craziness (with people we rly know)
i dont find infps to be that complex. they are very individual and that's something I sometimes get jealous about. As I usually feel i don't own my body and my thoughts and feelings aren't mine at all. INFPs are predominantly right-brained people whereas infjs tend to need to fulfill both left-brained, right-brained activities. Self-acceptance is hard because it's harder to see role models that are work-in-progress. Usually, it's Jesus,Gandhi etc. who have already tamed and managed their tendencies. The dirty work is arduous and we see none of that anywhere. We have to do the work on our own. Lots of role model infps abound in the art and music industry. Ni-is harder to tame and to understand in general. It's subconscious and has no basis in the perceivable reality. We have to learn the hard way to accept that in ourselves as we equally love people. Knowing ourselves means cutting that out for a while! So yeah, it's not nice to compare something that is incomparable. Fi and Ni are so different to each other.
True. Intuition is everything to an INFJ. Examples of INFJs include Jesus, Hitler and Laden. All of them were driven by their insights to create a better world for mankind. All of them were great people just that not many people of their time had the intelligence to understand their perfectionist ideals.
Jason Kluge I'm not sure I can agree to Bin Laden or Hitler being great people and as far as I am concerned Jesus is mythical....or are you being sarcastic and it just zoomed right over my head-LOL. I need tone of voice and body language.
Shawna McComber Bin Laden and Hitler are as great as you want them to be because the word "great" is subjective. But I bet they were at least "great" in their own mind each of them tried to build a "better" world based on their "ideal introverted intuition". INFJs cannot be wrong "in their own mind." To people with this personality type they believe they are "usually" right, if not always. Hitler would not have thought that he was evil or wrong in killing thousands of people. He probably even thought that he was a messiah like Jesus he sacrificed himself for an evil world. Same goes with Bin Laden.
Yes, I can see some truth in that but I would suggest that a healthy INFJ knows that they can be wrong just as anyone can. I like facts and I strive to find the truth, and thus be right, but doesn't everyone believe they are right when they are at the point of making a decision or taking an action? Or if there is no objective right, at least believe they are making the best choice?
I'm an INFP and I have absolutely no desire nor have I ever had the desire to be an INFJ. I prefer my type. INFJ's are praised ridiculously on the Internet, while most attention INFP's seem to get is negative attention. Sad, considering we're (probably) the most sensitive and caring type...
As an INFJ. I feel bad that INFPs feel so bad about the INFP profiles that they want to be INFJs. Being an INFJ isnt easy. We have a hard time trusting other people, we have problems with self-worth just like any NF, we always feel compelled to prove ourselves to ourselves and other people. We can't be authentic in the same way that INFPs can be authentic, because we are always concerned about the outcome. Many INFPs i've met have been good people and there are certain things I admire about those who hold the INFP personality type. I think it's just that any INF (maybe any IN in general) can feel like an alien or like nobody really gets them. This can cause them to gravitate towards the 'INFJ' label because its supposed to be the rarest of the types. I don't agree with that. I think people do themselves a disservice when they try to fit themselves into a mold that is wrong for them.
No we get bad attention too. Trust me. I'm an infj and I think infp have qualities that we could benefit from. They're the masters at emotions. Some of the best and creative minds that I admire are infps. Fred Rogers, JRR Tolkien, Stephen Colbert. And the 2 people that understands me most are infps. My ex bf of over 10 years and my best fiend closer than my sister is infp. I don't know another infj, but I'm proud that were empathic people. My infp friend was the one that help me understand narcissist and use grey rock method. And my ex bf taught me how to love myself when my mom basically told me to hate myself.
@@mjade1673 ENTPs are often super misunderstood. I think they feel like nobody really 'gets' them. But they are capable of great amounts of loyalty and caring despite the fact it seems like they're lacking in morals.
@@zeroangelmk1 idk how that reply got here i clearly remember what it was in reference to and i don't see that here. So your reply also makes little sense to me. Because i think my reply belonged on another video?? So sorry for the mix up. I just got over 6 months of mono (as of 3 days ago). My attention span has been worse than usual. Obliterated most of the time.
@@mjade1673 I'm just as confused as you are? I thought there was another post in this topic which brought up ENTPs. Glitch in the matrix maybe? Or i'm just having early dementia.
I once was in class and my teacher asked who it is that imprints the feeling of you needing to be "perfect". I told her that it probably was the society, but she said no, it's themselves. But I don't agree. A person wouldn't have those expectations for themselves, if it wasn't because someone else would make them feel like they needed to be perfect. And that is the general society who sets those expectations. But I guess we just have a different view on things...
Celine DA that was her point exactly though. don’t let society’s perceived notions trick you into thinking that YOUR expectations are not your own. We as individuals ALWAYS have a choice, and no other person or society can make us feel or be a certain way. This is essentially free-will..it can either liberate you or condemn your mind to the only hell which truly exists (our own ego/shadow). Choose liberation each time bc you deserve it.
I can assure you that there are people who are driven internally to be perfectionists. It's not an outside influence from society, it's your own sense of right and wrong, your own needs, that drives you to try and be perfect. And it's not always healthy... it's often taken too far.
@@Broadpaw_Fox Yeah, I know we have our own drive to try to be perfect, but it's often the society that tells you what perfect is to start with. Maybe you think you have to wear makeup because you think you need it to be beautiful. But someone has to have influenced you to think what beautiful is to start with. In some countries, beautiful is to be fat. Others it is to be thin. Therefore a lot of the times, what you think is "perfect" is actually what you have learned is "perfect". But yes, of course we have our own sence of right and wrong too, that drives us to be perfect. Btw, I have no idea if what I'm saying makes sense. I have such a hard time writing down in words what I'm thinking. It kind of doesn't make it better that English isn't my first language. But I hope you see what I mean.
Eric K i agree that there are certain stacks of cognitive functions (personality types), which innately position us towards more perfectionistic tendencies. but that’s still just our “wiring”/our nature. Maybe think of it this way... the action of “free-will” is comprised of 2 components: 1.) Nature (our decision making processes/cognitive functions) 2.) Nurture (our decision making influences/environment) the combo of Nature AND Nurture is what results as our actions of “free-will”, our actual decisions and choices. thus, true self-empowerment is a result of “free-will”. it is NOT a result of Nature and Nurture as exclusive components. if one can acknowledge that their individual wiring was always their soul’s intention, then any illusion of needing to achieve “perfectionisms” will melt away. it’s not necessary to ever strive for perfection bc you already ARE perfection as your soul intended. Technically, what most of us are seeking is sustainable Happiness and Truth/Clarity. this perspective may come off as “too spiritual” or metaphysical, but i find ego/shadow integration one of the most pragmatic and effective approaches to healing the human psyche i guess my point more is that a healthy version of ANY personality type will translate to the best version of any individual. most of society just fails to get past their own ego and recognize that we could ALL give and receive a bit of healing 😆💚
About 3 weeks ago I was a bit less sure of my type but now I narrowed down to INFJ or ENFJ. In the process I figured out differences in my relationship with family. I had a deep conversation with my mother and it became clear that while we had almost the same point of view our perspectives were a complete 180 degree opposite looking at the same issue. This was our summery: Her: Must be true to self, find self, find own values. Me: You're never going to find yourself. It's a moving target. The best way is to accept who you are of the moment and look outward. That is how you'll find where you fit and where your values work. Her: I'm afraid of losing my beliefs if I look into other perspectives. I want to stay grounded and know right from wrong. Me: Don't be afraid of listening to other perspectives. If your values are true to you and are the truth, they will stay. The parts that aren't will leave. Don't be afraid to let go what may not be true. Her: I'm afraid of losing myself. Me: You won't lose yourself. You are yourself regardless. Your view of the world may change, but you are still you. Just about every perspective she sees I see the opposite side of the very same issue. What I found insightful was just how at the same we were but how direct opposite we were at the same time.
This is such a great video. We INFJs often have difficulty understanding what and how we are in the world, let alone articulating it in any any logical or linear way--probably because our Te is so, so weak. So your Te clarification was really helpful. I found myself saying over and over: "He's right! What a clear and succinct way to describe X quality that I've been having trouble describing about myself for so long." My best friend is an ENTJ and I worship her Te. Thank you again!
I hate Fe so much. It feels so fake to me when I'm using it. I've tried (unsuccessfully) to shut it off, and be "more real", whatever the eff that means, but end up feel so unbearably mean. I'd much rather be an ISTP or something.
That's really interesting. I've seen people online (tumblr) call Fe fake as well, but I feel like it has a purpose... and creating a peaceful or friendly environment doesn't feel fake because you genuinely care about people getting along. Fe doesn't mean you can't have an opinion, you can certainly feel your own thoughts and ideas- I think Fe is more about trying to keep the lines of communication open between people and understanding that conflict or judgement usually closes those connections.
You may want to investigate your current psychological conditioning, we all express ALL the functions regardless of our preferred type, and its important not to put the weight on concepts outside of your inner truth, be with what is the the actual issue, and don't use Typology as a scapegoat for growth.-Daniel
@@laraohmaye875 Nope! Still an INFJ, although I've come to terms with Fe. I think my biggest issue with it was that I felt like I had to bend to everyone else's feelings in order for them to feel more comfortable, which in turn made me say things I didn't necessary believe. For example, my MIL is highly religious and very critical; whenever she would start talking about all the "bad" people in the world, I'd nod my head, just wanting the moment to pass. I'd ask somewhat pointed questions, trying to find out WHY she thought the way she thought, but if I pushed too hard, she'd start snapping at me. So I would just agree and hope it would end. I finally got to a point where I felt like if I didn't speak up, tactfully, mind you, I'd feel terrible for days. It wasn't so much that I disliked Fe, rather I used it as a reason why I couldn't speak up for myself. Sorry for the long reply to your simple question!! Haha.
I am an INFJ. I have found that it's not how i look at people but it is the way they look at me. I can see it in there eyes that they see something that they like. They know i won't hurt them and they know i won't judge them. I find that i don't need to concentrate. My subconscious listens and picks up everything until the puzzle is complete. I am not scholastic, I am honest and caring.
I’ve taken the test many times and i always get either infj or infp. I dated a guy one time who randomly said he thinks I’m an infj and that’s when i started really looking into what that meant. Thanks for the video.
I used to be an INFJ according to earlier tests and when i was young I did feel detached and definitely sought truth. In more recent years I am more INFP according to the tests. i was very disillusioned when I was young. I now have what I recognize a a strong ideal. However, listening to this i recognize myself more as an INFJ in some ways. I am a mix. No one thinks they know me. Or those who do find out otherwise. I am known as a dichotomy. I fit neither totally, so I think it is a mix. I recall being accused of being "super intense" when in basic training.
Sasha, Thank you for commenting. As I've stated in many of my other videos. No one is "both" in MBTI. You're either one or the other. MBTI is type sorting (which directly contradicts being both), not trait measurement, which means you can be good at the functions of both and you may possess the ability to flex to INFP preferences (or INFJ), but it doesn't mean that you're both. MBTI is about your preferences. Just as you can't prefer both introversion and extraversion at the same time. The ego is attached to one or the other. Just like you can't prefer sensing or intuition at the same time. They are opposites. The tests are *very* inaccurate as well. It is important to distinguish this difference when attempting to identify your type. Good luck.
Great video, very insightful! I have wondered why, so many people feel they are INFJ’s, or why, there are so many videos about INFJ. I am an INFJ and I don’t need anybody to believe or affirm that I am an INFJ. What really, makes a person unique is not what percentage of the population shares their type, but being who they are and not pretending to be what they are not.
Love this video. I always internally roll my eyes when someone claims to identify as an INFJ, like it's some great, special thing. It's not good or bad...it just is. And I think it can get very lonely for the true INFJ's out there who only feel comfortable being their real selves with, like, 2.5 people in their lives. Also, the struggle for Fe to come out there in between Ni and Ti- it can feel like walking a tightrope in high heels in a thunderstorm. Except the tightrope is really 3 inches off the ground, and the thunderstorm is just the sprinkler from your neighbor's backyard. Hope that makes sense. Haha.
Bro, you have this shit hands down. I love how you realised that INFJ are info gathers first (Like myself, an INTJ). You know what you are on about. Subs for me.
This just makes me more confused. I have attributes from both types. The last time I took the test is was INFJ/P. I'm get very emotional though and in the past it has been hard for me not to take things personally.
You have to remember that beyond these tests that yield no clear results for someone, it is important to realize that regardless of the type you prefer we have slants towards preferences and facets that make us unique and always an outlier to the stereotypical character of particular types. Damon is an MBTI practitioner and works with clients to not only figure out their type but their unique preferences and facets, from this self-discovery we also offer coaching, as they are pretty connected for personal growth. You can reach out to him here if interested. bit.ly/bookwithdamonmbtv
I tested as an INFP with a preference to be an INFJ and relate to exhibiting traits of both types as well. As I get older, I find myself adopting the functional capacities of an INFJ - but maybe that is just part of my own personal growth and learning how to develop better boundaries and looking at the larger picture. (I just wish I was more organized and logical, that is for sure. I have a very hard time getting things done.) I am going to make it a point to learn from the INFJ paradigm.
This video is fantastic, viewed it multiple times. Thank you for sharing your insights, Damon. I'm an INFJ, but often wonder where my strong moral values come from. Since a child, I was somewhat alienated from my family in terms of my strong moral concerns, and it often came off as "judgmental", which was not untrue. But since understanding MBTI, cognitive functions, and the INFJ (the only type I've ever scored as), I struggled with a single question: if I truly am INFJ, and use Fe, why do I so often butt heads with others on topics of morality? Isn't that Fe? I had begun to understand this relationship between Ni and Fe and how they create strong moral beliefs, but the way you put it is perfect: "INFJs are willing to compromise present-moment values for values of the future." Thank you generally for all the insights you've provided, and thank you personally for that one.
I'm an np and at one point I was mistyped for infj and I hated it. So not all np wish they were nj. I take pride in my p and the only J quality I like in myself is my Te third function.
I am also naturally skeptical of those who take an online test and believe they are infj. The way the infj is portrayed leaves some sort of desire to be one. It’s nothing magical, and comes with its own set of positives but an even heavier set of cons. To carry such a heavily contrasted way of thinking and feeling, and the ability to never truly connect with the environment or people in a way that feeds the complexity of an infj soul... is really rather dissatisfying. Even after a decade of studying and analyzing the many layers of real slitting typing including mbti ... still leaves me skeptical that I am in fact one myself, and maybe even hopeful that I’m not. Also we all need to really put emphasis on the fact that introverted j types are actually perceivers and vice versa for introverted p types.l love that this was included! And I was just driving today and noticed the clouds and literally thought “this doesn’t feel real” “we are apart of the matrix” - - - cray cray 😜 and I also appreciate the part about how infj are focused on how things “will be”
I was quite upset when I found out I am INFJ. I've always yearned to be on the same wavelength with people, and being a rare personality does anything but help my cause. At the same time, I am grateful that there are so many articles and videos on INFJs that I (and possibly other INFJs) was able to understand myself better.
I have taken the test several times and most frequently type out as INFJ (a couple of times as an INFP- guess I was having a sappy day when I took it) and your description is accurate. The part about being detached from the world is spot on. And the part with "crossing people off" is unfortunately true, also. The big picture stuff you described can be very devastating and stressful for the INFJ- for example, evaluating the course and direction of the entire human race from the perspective of one violent event. INFJ's also have strong observation skills, like seeing patterns, imperfections, trends and determining potential outcomes (intuition?). I think that you captured the essence of the INFJ well, especially since we are not very easy to understand. Thanks!
Dude, your emphasis on depth is spot on. I'm pretty sure I could get along with anyone of any type just fine, so long as they have depth. If you show me you've done some introspection, I can be completely engaged in a conversation with you no matter what type you are. Self- awareness is a trait exclusive to no type.
A way I figured out I was INFJ when I was confused as to the possibility of being INFP, was that I have a strong preference of extroverted feeling, whereas I noticed actual INFPs don't have as much as a need for external validation when it comes to their feelings. I've always needed external approval as well as wishing to help others more than myself, like noticing that by making others feel better (harmony) I would feel better. I admire how INFPs can have much more internal confidence with their feelings by being able to stand their ground as well as the intense depth and creativity that results from their internal world of feelings. My development of Ti really helped me come to terms with my compulsive Fe jerk reactions to comply with others and I can now help myself much more, recognizing my need for alone time and valuing my intuition.
I'm an INFJ and my sister is and INFP. Even though I now know more about the functional stack, I'm still thrown off by her strong Fi when we disagree. I can just feel her absolute certainty about her position and it's like the Earth has opened up under my feet and everything I ever knew was a lie. I think about how I came to the conclusion of my point of view and supporting factors for it and reanalyze the data to see if I missed valid opposing arguments. It only takes a few seconds to figure out that I still disagree, but by then her position has been sitting in the air and it's like a wall, so I just let it go, agree to disagree, whatever, so we don't have to be on opposite sides anymore.
I know exactly how you feel! Im an infj and my partner is an infp. This happens to us when we argue and i end up feeling like this. Its so horrible. And i end up agreeing to disagree but at the same time i feel like its not right. Sometimes i feel like he has manipulated the argument into making me look like an idiot when i know im not and his views are his own and are something out of his fantasy land..
I am so confused... People think I am INFP but I don't feel like I am this great creature who can stand their ground or has intense depth of creativity. Maybe because I am always with my sister who always speaks before I can xD I don't know, haha sorry I am conceited.
Gemini m8 :-) Ugh. I used to have an ESTJ guy friend. Emphasize on "used to". I'm INFP. We had in common that we liked to picture different future scenarios and discuss theories and possibilities of science. But we had furious, political debates. He always made me look like a moron who ignores facts and lives in a fantasy world. To me, he looked like a selfish psychopath who doesn't care about societal values. Both of us were so persistent to win a debate that we kept going for hours until we were too exhausted to continue. We couldn't reason with each other. Neither could understand the other's perspective. As he became more interested in me and we got closer, he emerged with his discussions more often. Sometimes I turned him down and pretended like I was busy doing something else, because it needed that additional energy to be able to talk to him. Sometimes it was ok, as he put more effort into trying to understand my perspective and sometimes he opened up to me and sincerely asked for advice. We streched each other's horizons too a little bit. And sometimes he comforted me and stood with me when I was fighting with someone else. And some of our metaphysical and science fiction discussions were really fun. The final blow was when he once sent me a quote which had something to do with war. I replied with something like, "That's horrible, how could anyone think that?" And he said he thought it was really inspirational and that he agreed with it and proceeded to explain me why. And hell broke loose into a circling debate about world politics and possible outcomes and what we would do in different situations. He had told me he wouldn't want to fight to protect our country, yet when I said that would our country be invaded, I would flee to Sweden, it made him so mad. He called me names and insulted me, for the first time, and I blocked him on facebook. I missed him terribly for a few months but was convinced that our friendship was more trouble than good, as he always made me question myself and be on the defensive about everything. I am happier without him. We brought out the worst in each other, and it's not nice to be constantly confronted with your wesknesses. I went on rambling, but the point was, he made me feel stupid a lot and it was a big deal. After all, I'm not stupid, nor illogical. (I even scored with the second best grade in my advanced level math Abitur.) I just have different values, and my values are very important to me. Sometimes it's difficult to communicate with someone who has very different world view and priorities. (Perhaps that's very INFP of me.)
Wow, thanks for this. An as INFJ, I used to be very quick with cutting people out of my life in my younger and less mature days. I would observe someone's behaviour and then have a final line that once crossed I will not tolerate at all, I'm done. This is very early on in friendship, and they'd be so confused as to what they did wrong.... Used to feel so bad about this but I'm relieved to know that this is part of the personality function.
Did you know us INFJs are the most abstract of all types? Introverted Intuition is abstract and theoretical while the Fe/Ti axis is very ideational and abstract. Also you are on point when talking about the finality of our character judgments. I am quite inflexible when I dont like you.
I wouldn't necessarily say INFJs are the most abstract because in many ways all types can be abstract, according to recent research. This kind of thinking stems from a separatist point of view to glorify one way of "functioning" over another, which is inaccurate to say, all types have particular abilities and characteristics. We appreciate your feedback on the video!
I do not argue with people unless I have to. I keep opinions that I know people will not understand to myself unless it is about something that touches on my core values. Even if I do not think highly of someone at all they will probably have no idea about it and I will still try to foster harmony in our interactions. Even though this behavior might seem fake it is still very important to me to be true to myself. Probably sounds a little contradictory. It isn't easy to put into words. 😅 I tend to adapt the way I speak, emote, and even feel to the person I am with without even noticing it. Especially when I was younger but I am sure I still do it. I am very calm on the outside because I mostly live inside my mind and I know how to mask my feelings. I can come across as very energetic and extroverted. I am very attuned to the emotional atmosphere of a room. A small gathering of people is easier for me because it is easier for me to observe how everyone feels and act accordingly. I am for example very "lazy" and chaotic at home but no one at work would have any idea about that. I have sometimes wondered whether my feelings are actually real or if they are a kind of "simulation". This all sounds pretty INFJ to me judging from the type descriptions that I have read. Yet I always score as INFP. So I am still unsure about which type I am.
I'm an INFP. I haven't felt like I wanted to be an INFJ, although I am close to the center on the P & J scale when I take the test. Interesting information on judging. I agree on that. It bothers me though and I've been trying to correct it. I've been noticing that I make assumptions that aren't necessarily true. People are so interesting, especially the deep ones.
This is very good. Very astute, articulate, and you explain well the value of having depth and valuing depth. I am an INFP who took a test that said I preferred to be an INFJ and I find myself having attributes of both and can relate to aspects of both descriptions. However, I am definitely an INFP, but I look forward to learning what I can learn from the INFJ paradigm.
Thank you for this video! With your explanation I definitely keep identifying with INFJ 100% but will still research and compare other personality types because I don’t care what type I am as long as it is my true type and can help me understand myself better and help me grow. Wow you talk so fast! I’m one of those slow talkers that pauses a lot in the middle of my sentences... and I’m much slower at processing information so I had to go back and re-listen to what you said many times... 😅
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Damon Grey - MBTV Pls elaborate on ENFJ please. Similarities of ENFJ snd INFJ. I do both of these also sometimes I try to rectify the situation right now or sometimes I delay it or not do it at all because I read the person and decide they’re not worth my time. That type just isn’t going to get it anyway.
@C.S. Joseph I can pretty much relate to everything you have said in your video. I remember back in my childhood when I played Metin 2 that I helped someone to level up but when he used the wrong personal pronoun(romanian pronoun showing no decency) I had immediately kicked him out of the squad. I was unsure about the fact that I'm truly an INFJ and thought to myself that maybe I'm an INFTP because on my test I got INFP but I will try to do 2 more tests one before the corruption and the second one will be about how I want to be. I came across your video because of some other guy who did mentioned you on an INFJ video. I searched for you because he specified that you are more critical than others. At the first I thought to myself that it will turn out to be like the test said but now I see that everything relates to me. I mentioned earlier the corruption because before it I tryed to be an example myself to others (subconsciously) that means that I had some integrity but when I moved to my dad which is more rigorous I had still got this integrity and sensibility but I started to mirror his toughness and one day I said to myself that it's enough I don't want to be tough I want to be sensible. Also I saw another video about how an empath can lose his empathy because of a narcisist and I saw that my dad and my step-mother represented some of the characteristics from that video because I saw that when I was with my mother I had kept my sensibility but when I moved with my dad I saw that it slowly drained away and with that, started my corruption from not being as good as I can. I heard about this advice of yours of door slamming the wrong influences in my life too in that empathy video and I'm still thinking to myself that after so manny relatable characteristics that I'm still not an INFJ. Also in elementary school in the second grade I remember that when I moved with my mom and went to school it was the religion class and because of shyness I would hide behind the teacher from my classmates but you said that INJFJ's are not timid but then again it may be because of the fact that my parents divorced one year earlier. Also my dad always said that I m not timid. And about manipulation I remember how my father was trying to convince me that it wasn't how I remember and that my mother's family tried to demonize him but I remember telling my father that my mother's family didn't knew anything and that I had told them and from that day they would always demonize him in front of me. Also I remember how I told my classmates in elementary school in the second grade about my family divorce and at first they would show mercy but then they will became a nightmare until I will move to my dad(there was also a nightmare but it kinda of ended when I got to the Orthodox seminary-a kind of highschool ). Also my father said that before I was cold and that know I'm more warm but I remember that even though I did not showed affection, in my heart was a rainbow, but, that lack of showing affection may be because of the divorce. Also now everything connects itself I have been in depression for 4 years because I had lost my integrity. Also before the depression and corruption I could have felt in me a great willpower but then it eventually faded away. Another thing is that before those 4 years of depression and corruption I could not understand dirty jokes but when those things started to kick in I could understand the dirty jokes of my classmates. Also I had sometimes problems to express my thoughts and other times I could easily communicate to others. Also I had always anxiety attacks and I would be very uncomfortable when I was with a group of people or even one stranger. Now anxiety attacks still occurs but not always. One side not is that I started to see that I mirrored my dad too much when I had met a trully INFJ who kept his integrity. The interesting thing about this is that when I moved to another city and seminary I had met him and I had knew(I can't explain myself how) that this person is as I want a friend to be (it was actually pretty obvious because he did stand as something different than the others maybe that's how I had knew) because before I would talk to others and I would show some kind of affection to anyone but I will not open to them because I had nothing in common with them. Also I told you so many things because like I had said earlier I'm sick of being tough I want to be open and sensible. Also I remember that I loved animals very much and I remember that my aunt had a dog and I would hug him to the point of near getting bite by him. Now I like animals but I feel that I'm more distant every day to anyone including animals. Is this not an INFJ thing? Also I was hyper sensitive and I m still like that but not that much as before. By the way when my classmates would do things I don't like before would get pretty argumentative in the sense that I would tell them how isn't the right thing to do(usually when the leader of the herd would take its role seriously and attack me I would defend my rights). Is this something an INFJ would never do? But then again this maybe of the fact that I mirrored my fact as this thing started to happen from the moment I got to stay with him and before I don't remember of doing this at all besides calling the teacher or something but I don't remember of getting argumentative when attacked. From what I have said I really wait for a response from you and I want you to tell me the hard truth am I an INFJ or not? And also sorry for the long post but it relates to me too much. And if I did any mistakes sorry English is not my mother language. This is a comment I nave written to a youtuber about INFJ's and because he didnt responded I m sharing it with you. Sorry for not correcting the errors(addressing errors) but I had wrote it on my phone and there are a lot of things to edit. Besides what I said in this comment I would add up that morally when I was with my mother and before the divorce I didn't have had such an awareness of consciousness about morality(what is right and what is wrong/even ideas) as I would start to have them when I moved with my father. What I would like you to do is tell me based on all of this is If I'm an INFJ and what subtype and If I'm an INFP what subtype as well for it. I think that before I was an INJF but in the second healthiest form(philosophical and thinking, and curious about the world subtype) and now I'm still an INFJ but in a depressed state and if noone of those two types and subtypes apllies to me then what other type is more fitting to me. I have seen particular personal INFJ's traits apply to me more than the general traits of both INFP's and INFJ's alike. I have started to think that I have no intuition and no feeling and that I'm a sensing and thinking type and sometimes I think I have no characteristics at all. I still think that I have been very much influenced by manny people because I see their characteristics in me(especially my father) and I didnt mirrored those things necessarily but I'm not sure about this though. And I still think that I had became even more sensitive after the divorce when I moved with my mother and because of the fact that I had 3 females in the apartament also influenced me and maybe thats why I was slightly more sensitive than I already was as an hypersensitive person and I think thats why I may have became much more kind and open to others in my father's perspective of now. I want a cold and fact based true answer. I'm sick of dreaming if I can't project it in reality in a complete way. Sorry for being quite empty when writting this but when I saw that video I started to regain hope that things will change and that this is not how it should be because I don't feel like this is right. Maybe you will give my hope back. I will be waiting for a response as I have seen that you respond to comments and that you actually want facts.
Your infj analysis is totally on point. I tested as an infj 13years ago and i hated it. I had just moved to a new city, barely knew anyone and felt pretty alone through out my life in general and in this new city and then i found out this?! That i was an introvert and that i was one of the rarest types in the world. Great. I so badly wanted to be an extrovert because around this time extroverts were the acceptable ones and introverts were not cool at all... Times have changed and over the years i still have tested as an infj. Its def alot more acceptable these days to be a introvert. Thankyou for posting this. As an infj im a pretty hardcore information gatherer and understand that as infjs we need to develop our extroverted feeling which is the 2nd cognitive function. By doing this we have alot to bring to the table and to the world at large. I feel like ive developed some great insights in the last 4years of my life. Does anyone else sometimes feel like Neo in the 1st Matrix when he is sitting in the the chair jacked in and Tank is loading all the different fighting arts into his brain? Lol.... Btw i know this is gonna be major cheese but its also my favouritest movie trilogy ever LMAO
Im guessing he said he felt jacked in.. I feel like such a sponge, my brain is like information, information, give it give it give it, absorb, absorb, absorb, cant stop, dont want to...
I want to throw something in here. I find it somewhat irritable that people rant about the rarity of INFJ. I feel as though it's popularity is what has created the biast towards them. People get hung up in being "rare" and "special" snowflakes that they ignore who they are so they can act like they're somehow more special. I like how you added the part about people appreciating your type reguardless of what it is. It is frustrating for me to continually see tumblr and RUclips videos about "Look how unique I am! I'm not going to do anything meaningful because I'm to proud of my special snowflake status!" It's disheartening to see the focus on being unique vs being able to readily contribute their gifts to humanity. Had to rant it.
Francois Oda INFJ’s rarely see ourselves as special because of our internal critics voice sitting on our shoulder whispering in our ear all the time. This can be a challenge for many of us because we have such an other focus versus a self focus. Just because something is small in numbers or percentages, or otherwise rare, doesn’t mean it’s special.
I have to say, you helped sort out any small doubts that I had. By going into the cognitive function stack, we find the truth about the typing. This is a longer response than I expected to write, but it's been a process for me. I have had at least 5 people in my life, two romantic partners included- that have told me that they're INFJ... in the past I kept on thinking... how can we be the same type? We have so many differences in the way we interact... I didn't want to make them uncomfortable or tell them they were wrong because I know that people take pride in knowing their type. For a little while I wondered about my type, asking myself, could I have been wrong? Is it really that rare if all these people that I so happened to run into are also INFJ's? I figured some probably were not, but didn't want to say so. When I first took the MBTI exam as a teenager I typed as INFP. I had initially found so much comfort in knowing myself and understanding that I was different and possibly misunderstood. Because it was a unique type, it explained why I couldn't find people that shared my overlay of the world, my drive, or the understanding of other people...The INFP was always described as the healer and I could appreciate how that sort of helping people and enjoying the process applied to me. People always dump their problems on me. Sometime's I'd even tell them to check out the MBTI (and eventually I started typing as INFJ) telling friends that learning about yourself can lead to growth and understanding...And as they did, more people kept informing me of their "INFJness" and I wondered... how come they come off as so judgmental, shallow or belligerent to people when they disagree on a topic? Isn't the INFJ gift a harmonious nature and creating a peaceful environment and helping people grow? So I started thinking that perhaps INFJ's could be vastly different from each other based on how mature they are or healthy they are at the time. This still didn't make sense... because I looked at myself as a reference- as a child and a teenager I went through a lot of mental hardships and with few exceptions (where I was upset by abusive relationships) I had always made a conscious effort to be peaceful through being open-minded and understanding of others, quick to apologize, make right...etc. It's unquestionable to think of intentionally messing with people's emotions or hurting people, and yet I recognized these traits in unhealthy IxFP's. I didn't quite understand the dichotomy and the breakdown of the functions back then, but instead took the letters at face value and even questioned my type as INFP because P stands for "Perceiving" and I felt I was always perceiving everything in the world first and then coming to a conclusion. After a while I accepted this idea that the MBTI wasn't particularly accurate or maybe it tried too hard to fit people into boxes and people couldn't be sorted out by 16 types. Maybe people fluctuated. I put MBTI on the backburner as I felt it couldn't be relied on. Then, I revisited MBTI in college this past year and started to study what it meant, & I looked into the INFJ again. So I took it a step further and I started studying the *differences between* the types, which always focus on cognitive functions. It seems more popular on youtube now, as an added bonus. I don't remember there being a ton of comparison videos in the past but hey, boy they're helpful in understanding the functions! Now I already recognized the term Cog. Functions, knew that I used Introverted Intuition & Extraverted Feeling but what I didn't realize is how different the stacks were for the INFP & the INFJ. I was talking to a friend and he recommended personality hacker where I started getting back into the MBTI and also stumbled across your videos. Super glad I did. I love the way you explain things. Ni Fe Ti Se Vs Fi Ne Si Te I have an identical twin brother who's INFP... and we're almost nothing alike aside from having emotions play into our decision making process (albeit differently) we also enjoy the creative process quite a bit (photography, drawing, creating board games) and a love for writing & game design in particular. Otherwise though, everything about how we approach the world and problems is different. All that being said, I really appreciated your video and subscribed!
Hey peter, it is not every day that you have someone really get what we're trying to give out, and then in return get a really interesting life experience and story out of how we affected someone. We're glad that you are making progress and able to identify with our content! You should check out our mbti chatrooms on slack!
I'm an INFP married to an INFJ. My husband had no idea what an INFJ was but his manager asked him to take the Myers Briggs test. My husband absolutely would fit the description. He's definitely different than a lot of people I know claiming to be INFJ. I've always thought he seemed mysterious because I first saw him in high school. We started dating 10 years later and he really does have a unique personality. He's more logical and I'm more emotional and we really balance each other. We bounce ideas off each other a lot and get each other's perspective. I think that's why we work so well.
Feelers are more likely to be mistyped as thinkers because thinking is considered to be a "better" quality than feeling in general. INFJs often mistype themselves as INTJs but not the other way around. I personally know quite a number of INFJs who think they are INTJs when in fact they are far from being even slightly rational :-)
Well an INFJ wouldn't need to be rational to know what they know, but they may believe what they know was a product of rationality when it wasn't. But it is nevertheless true.
„INFPs will feel violated and INFJs will try to understand“ , horrible when the other person is toxic and I have to try to agree with them. I cannot argue, because I understand the other person so well that I forgot my own feeling and my own opinion . Since a child I struggled so much on this. It took me many years to learn to „be myself“.
This is the best video I have ever seen, that shows the contrasting difference between, INFP and INFJ. thank you so much for this. I've know the function stacks are totally different, and you broke it down efficiently! PS- my best friend is an Entj :) for over 20 years, infj/entj have great relationships
Thank you so much for this. I have been going back and forth ever since I learned about MBTI because I don't want to be INFJ so I keep trying to convince myself I'm actually INFP and I have watched a bunch of videos comparing the two trying desperately to not be INFJ and they have all been so vague in their explanations of the differences that it was keeping me in this loop, but you explained the differences in such a practical and experiential way that I can't deny it anymore, and, at the same time, you helped me realize that I should just embrace what I am and not be wishing I were something else because we are all valuable and valid. I hate my weaknesses, but I have strengths, too, and all those combine to make me unique, which isn't such a bad thing. So thank you because I feel like I can finally leave this loop and just be weird and that's okay.
I kept testing as a INTJ but it didnt seem right and I finally figured out why, I have generalised anxiety disorder which blocks almost all my emotions so I tried to re do the test from how I was before my Anxiety and it came up INFJ and so far it seems to fit.
After watching your video there’s no doubt I am an INFJ. Sometimes it’s hard to feel like I know myself, let alone why I am the way I am. Thanks for explaining and comparing in contrasting in this video. It’s hard to fit in. So interesting when you talk about rival types. My dad was a rival type and no matter what I did to understand him, I never felt seen, heard, or understood by him.
I AM AN INFJ!!!!!! I FIGURED IT OUT!!!!!!! OH MY GOD, INTROVERTED THINKING that I have explain why I'm so quiet in the midddle of the conversation is because I'm archiving information, recalling and storing... this is why I have a hard time verbally communicating.
But is that alone what makes someone an INFJ? I do this all the time, but I thought most introverts are like this anyways? I dunno. I thought I was an INFJ, but again, they are the rarest types. It's rare for someone to be an INFJ.
if you can't differentitate between infj and infp, see if you're stronger in Te or Ti. If you're stronger is strategizing your environment, then you're an INFP, if you're stronger in Ti like I"m really good in Excel, connecting the dots between different sets of data, then you're an INFJ like me.
Sylvia Lopez Just took the test again, and it said I'm ISFP. Read about this type, and it's definitely spot on for me. I knew there was something off about INFJ and INFP for me.
As an infp.. I feel like i could confuse myself to think im actually an INFJ, but at the same time i imagine people like MLK being an infj and it does not seem to match up with someone who would sit idle by with their feelings.
I am an INFP maried to a INFJ. You nailed our differences. Thank you ! I have an INFJ friend as well, I can spot them and like to interact with them as I like depth too.
+RaZoR BLaDe - INTJs are very similar to ENTJs. You can get a pretty good idea by watching INTJs on RUclips, or ENTJs even. BUT, I will be working on videos for EVERY type here in the near future.
Spot on video. I have just a few INFJ friends (I'm an INFP), this describes them exactly. And I've been wondering what may be motivating their seeming ok'ness with their circumstances even if they are in tough situations (I'm always wanting to explore possibilities and change my circumstances - so I have a hard time understanding this motivation). I think the motivation might be to create enough stability (even if it isn't an ideal situation) so they have the space and time to explore their introverted intuition, ideas and understanding. If (like me), they are always trying to force a change or improve their lives (or help friends improve), their inner work would have to be put on the back burner and this is antithetical to who they are. Detached from the world is spot on. Insightful people, love INFJ's. I need to learn more about Te, Fe, Ni, etc. I think I've got a sense of it generally, but I get a little lost there. Will follow up. Glad I found your channel.
I don't want to be an INFJ- I really think INFP's are better at dealing with the world. I'm trying hard to convince myself I'm an INFP now...Video isnt helping lol
lee williams Honestly, I find that when you're too involved in MBTI you confuse your preferences quite often. You should ask someone, like a friend, who knows MBTI well to help type you. If you don't have someone like that just simply get a friend who knows you well enough, make a list of attributes associates with Fe and Ne (those are your extroverted functions which means that's what you usually put out into the world, so it's easier for people to recognize. Ni and Fi are internal functions, so not as easy to recognize) and ask them which fits you better. Try keeping the wording simple. Hope that helps! Ne and Fe are totally different preferences.
Go with whatever you want to prefer, but the idea is that exploring yourself and going into a good place is the first step, adding MBTI to your personal growth without being in a healthy place can yield negative results. I would recommend reaching out to daniel or Damon for either coaching or MBTI type evaluation bit.ly/WorkWithACoach
people always make me feel like I'm not an infj because they are so rare and this is one of the videos I show them that help make them aware of the diffence. thank you for it 😊
I am an INFJ. Living without boundaries, able to feel and absorb, can be so draining. I have lived for years without boundaries. It did affect my health. Why would anyone want to be an INFJ? It is a very sad thing to be in the times we are living. Very sad. Yes, I feel like I am an alien. A woman in the checkout was talking loudly at her daughter who had a cast on her arm to move more quickly to get the groceries on the belt. I looked at the girl and said, "it's ok, honey, no hurry, take your time". Her mom said "That woman is weird". She thought I did not hear her. I did not care, because I was right and the girl looked relieved by what I said, but that proves a point. Who wants to be an INFJ? It probably is very easy, just look at people and really see them. Much insight given, especially the process that happens when I "write someone off". I want to happy cry, there are others like me (not many, but still) and it is possible to be understood!
I'd say I wish I had more friends like you, but that would be lying because I really just wish I could find one person to befriend like you haha (also hello, infj here o/ )
That was 35 minutes of non-stop SOLID education, Chad. All I can say is, *YES* 47+x; bravo; thank you! I also felt like standing up and cheering (and laughed quite a bit while also taking you totally seriously) for your 'INFPs and ISFPs are not sappy pieces of crap' video. God! Was there ever a need for those things to be said. (There are a ridiculous number of INFPs in my personal life, and quite a few INFJs as well . . . The rampant confusion and misinformation all over RUclips regarding these two types that have so little in common vs. some others has been a mental itch I've been dying to have publically scratched with such vigour.) Your explanation of predictable tensions and misunderstandings that can often arise between ENTJs and ENFPs and what's behind those was enlightening and made a lot of sense too. There are many other useful 'big picture' interpretive guidelines you usually (always?) make a point of mentioning in your videos that I appreciate too, but the (in my opinion) 'ENTJ-ishness at its best' exhortation in this one I thought was terrific: to get to know and be proud of the type your dynamic habitual patterns of cognition are most aligned with and then to work at exposing yourself to and developing other capacities that you admire in others rather than wishing you were other than what you are. Really worthwhile work, well done. There are a lot of agents I've seen contributing thoughtfully to MBTI-related matters, but I'm hard-pressed to think of many who combine thoughtfulness/insight/intelligence/passion AND a very high level of detailed accuracy and competence as concerns the instrument the way you have. I look forward to hearing more from Trey too.
+Enid F. Patternson - Great compliment! I am glad I can provide somewhat meaningful content. When I do these things, I have to learn to set aside my perfectionism, or my videos would never be done. So thank you, my friend!
as an INFJ, I tend to read rooms of people to solve problems, in general; I will try to help individuals once I connect the problem with the solution. my motto is find a need and fix it.
I think you hit the nail on the head right off the bat. People are hearing about the introverted and empathetic aspects and mainly going off that. There's a couple decent explanations out there that are more detailed. Not sure how to share a link on android, but I think one was titled- The sixteen types: INFJ And also- Revisiting the sixteen types: INFJ
Think you're quite harsh. Let people think what they are. It is not hurting anyone. I was typed INFJ by the test and it didn't fit. If i didn't do a lot of research and reflecting I wouldn't have found I am a INFP. This just might be me over sensitive (haha) but your attitude isn't helping people getting the courage to see themselves as they are. Because some people have to plough trough shame first (especially INFP). I do appriciate your thorough explanation! just wanted to be a voice for those who mistype themselves, it's not on purpouse it's a defence mechanism or even just a problem of the mbti tests.
I think you misunderstand my intention. People ultimately determine their own type -- not me or anyone else. A lot of people, I believe, found this video rather helpful. Sorry that my tone came off aggressive to you -- clearly not my intention.
I know I'm an INFJ not just because the tests say so, but because for every video I watch of the type being compared to other types, I always resonate and relate most with INFJs. That door slam is also very true for me - I have no qualms considering those who have wronged me "dead to me". As a youth ambassador in our locality, I am only confident to speak in front of people when I am passionate about what I speak about and it's not a matter of confidence in knowing what to say because I happen to be well-informed, but more of a matter of believing so much in what I say and how it can hopefully resonate with who I am speaking to. I have always been diplomatic with my dealings and it has been an advantage for me working in government, where you have to be able to deal with various personalities from different walks of life. I used to feel like I was "lost" (hence resulting in me doubting if I was an INFP instead) only to find out that I am rather more detached, always (subconsciously) maintaining a safe distance between me and most of the people I deal with outside of my interactions with them. I have been described as cold, distant, and even mysterious. Heck, even before I watched any videos about these types, its an INFJ video that has been recommended to me by RUclips's algorithm.
Tsha4life I'm an INFP and when I first read the INFJ description I related to none of it. Honestly this makes sense because I see the P as the most definitive trait of my personality.
As an INFJ, I can tell you his description is quite accurate of me. I hold and dedicate my life to continually grow a sort of quantum nugget of golden knowledge within me, whose purpose is to hold all answers and solutions to all human problems, all knowledge of how existence is created, all it’s interrelated parts and generate principles and ideas that hold true and create a solution in all circumstances instantly so that suffering and disharmony will once and for all be extinguished from the face of the earth. I find it pointless to put my energies into something that will only yield short-term results when my contemplative vision and heart is always resting at the very real goal of a perfect union and harmony for all of man-kind. This quantum nugget holds immense power for us INFJ’s and we keep it hidden at all costs, unless we absolutely 100% trust whose hands it will enter into.
Glad you liked the video! and thanks for sharing a lot of your mindset on the topic, you should join our MBTI forum community or MBTI chatrooms! if you have any questions about MBTI you can check us out there. (MBTI chatroom area) mbtv-chat.signup.team/or forum forum.myersbricks.com/
When I first did the test years ago..I was INTJ then I tested as INFJ for some years..then recently I tested as INFP. We are not limited to be one type all our life.
My best friend and I are both INFJs, and that's one perspective of explaining why we're so similar and connected to each other. When we became close, it felt like we had found something very very special, like a gem or something lol. Feeling lucky.
I think you nailed it. As an INTJ I too find myself attracted to INFJ's. I can definitely relate to ENTJ's and INTP's, (I think they are both brilliant in their own way)but with INFJ's (the very few I have come across) I feel an immediate connection that must be due to shared Ni. I rarely use the word "feel",but with INFJ's I really do feel a connection that doesn't need analysis.I feel like I can be myself around them. As much as I have been called a perfectionist, I think INFJ's take it to another level. Over the years I have been able to rationalize a realist level of perfection (nothing will ever be absolutely perfect) which has helped me grow. It seems to me that INFJ's are too hard on themselves because of their unrealistic ideal of perfection. Great video.
You're videos are so clear and amazing, thank you for distinguishing and clarifying between the two! A fantastic video on the difference between INFPs and INFJs is Andrew Garfield and Carey Muhlenburg's interview
You are a deep thinker that focuses on efficiency. Could have used you back when I was in the Marine Corps. I've never heard anyone explain me like you just did(including myself explaining me, to myself).
Often INFJs learn to continually break eye contact to avoid making the other person feel uncomfortable, as INFJs are generally very socially conscious.
scarily correct
yes it happens a lot
As an INFP, I'm definitely aware of how social skills should be, but I don't know how to actually imitate those skills. I'm pretty decent at interacting with extroverted people since they know how to eliminate a lot of the awkwardness from my lack of social skills and I get comfortable a lot faster, but when I try to talk to other introverted people, it's extremely uncomfortable because neither of us knows how to eliminate the awkwardness like extroverted people do. It's a struggle.
bulldog521521 wow! very, very true!
or when I'm going into my mind to connect the dots of something I know and what someone is saying.
INFJ: *rarest type/chameleons*
Everyone on the internet: "AS AN INFJ-"
Me: *surprised pikachu face*
Well there are 63,166 views and 977 comments as I am typing this.
(977/63,166)*100=1.55%.
Even if everyone that commented were an INFJ person, it would fit the statistic.
@@theoran7968 that's clever . What type are you ? I NFJ hear.👍
An INFJ would be more hesitant about outing or drawing attention to themself willy-nilly like that
@@patbau96 That's what I'm saying
Most people who type themselves INFJ are not INFJ, they are maybe narcissists who feel so special, because INFJ is the rarest type, according to MBTI. That's an indicator for not being INFJ, because if you are real INFJ, you don't want to feel special. That's because INFJs are so different, they stand out and they don't want to, they want to fit in, but they don't.
Regarding the INFJ. I'd say it's pretty accurate. My only gripe is the staring. We stare when we aren't talking, or are having superficial conversations. When we do actually talk we tend to look all over the place, or stare into space. Almost as if we're searching for something.
A fairly easy way to tell is our cadence will change when talking about something important. We'll pause quite a bit, stammer, and or rush through certain sentences like we've prewritten them. Some people have assumed I'm autistic because of this.
We use a lot of metaphors because it's hard to explain our thoughts, so we try to make it understandable to the person listening. More relatable if you will.
I can't speak for the accuracy of the INFP or ENFJ. I don't really exhibit most of those traits.
Thanks for the insight! I agree wholeheartedly with you
Yes. Agree with everything you say. And I occasionally stare into someones eyes while talking when it's a one-on-one conversation and I feel like we both are on the same wave-length, or I might want to offer support through my eyes so they feel that it's okay to open up more, that they know that I am present and see them for who they are and accept them unconditionally.
As an infj I look very calm, but inside am always anxious when am around people. When I went to donate blood, the lady checking my pulse told me if I had coffee because my pulse was so high. She told me you look calm, but inside my head am thinking about everything at once. I guess am good at hiding my emotions because apparently am viewed as being calm. I understand body language very well, so I can play it off until they start checking my blood pressure or pulse.
sony so OMG I'm the same. I look really calm on the outside and am crazy anxious on the inside. When we practice using the stethoscope and blood pressure gage at university I prefer playing the doctor not the patient because my results usually show that I have a blood pressure that fluctuates abnormally, because I'll be calm for a minute then have a spike of anxiety, because I'm worried about having anxiety.
PotionsMaster007 Yeah worrying about having anxiety just makes things even worse. We worry so much that it just becomes a habit. You should watch Teal Swan videos on How to stop worrying? this has helped me a little bit maybe it could help you.
Infp and I literally suppress my own pulse rate (breathing technique and an already low rate) to deal with /compensate for this. 😆.
I was having a high anxiety day last year, and in the middle of the day, my boss asked me, "Do you EVER get upset?" I just stared at her like WTF, because I'd had a panic attack and cried twice by then -- I just did ALONE because I knew it wouldn't help anyone if I emoted then and there. I kinda nodded and said, "Uhhuh." But I'm still gaping because I'm almost always fighting to keep my head above water. Maybe that's why people pile things on us -- they never see what's going on inside. Like you, it took my getting an Apple watch for my husband to see how I was reacting to stress, as the heart rate notification was louder than me, usually.
Gets better once you mature into the Se function, you feel in harmony with your paradox, a zen-like state.
When you become comfortable in your own skin, it's serene, Jedi Master confident in your unique cognitive circuits... owning the intuition and trusting it, and the Fe makes it all the easier to deal with any people (living creatures) sceniro. All aniexty needs is being confident things will be okay...courage comes from the heart.
But then again I'm an INFJ-A as opposed to INFJ-T.
I don’t think INFJs are rare. People just have a hard time finding us because we’re kinda avoiding them 🤣
THANK YOU!!!
Well that is just absurd, I am an INFJ and my question since day one was why I was like that.
@@marioprevil1139 I had that question too. Life was hard back then. But then I learned more and more about INFJs and I realized I was not alone, there are so many people out there like me. And I started to love myself for being like this.
What I didn’t expect was that I also realized that it wasn’t me vs the rest of non INFJs. I realized that all of these people too had things going on and things they were desperate to be accepted for and that made me love them even more. It made me more confident and open and accepting.
All of the people commenting in this thread are not INFJs, lol
@@airac.9426 yes because from a tiny text you could magically type someone
Man, I'm an INFP, I've always been an INFP, and I'll always be an INFP. What's with all these lame INFPs wanting to be a different type. It's almost..... inauthentic.... lol.
Actually, "INFP's only wanting to be another type" is not accurate. It is a stigma within the type community, no one wants to be something else, we only want to be that in which we see great potential in ourselves, and strive to work for those personal changes.-Daniel
I read somewhere that "Commas are to INFJs as Ellipses are to INFPs". I find this too true...
Seriously. These fake INFJ-INFPS can suck my non existent balls, what a disgrace to us. INFPS are way too awesome to be another type.
That's odd when you compare it with the fact that they're "true to themselves and their values" 😂
I'm an infj and I think infp have qualities that we could benefit from. They're the masters at emotions. I don't know why they'd want to be infjs. Some of the best and creative minds that I admire are infps. Fred Rogers, JRR Tolkien, Stephen Colbert. And the 2 people that understands me most are infps. My ex bf of over 10 years and my best fiend closer than my sister is infp. I don't know another infj, but I'm proud that were empathic people. My infp friend was the one that help me understand narcissist and use grey rock method. And my ex bf taught me how to love myself when my mom basically told me to hate myself.
I have a lot of thoughts on the whole INFP vs INFJ 1) I hate the, "I am an INFJ/INFP" it really is irritating that they just listed all the functions (I understand new people get typology confused but I see the "INFP/INFJ" almost more than any other actual type)2) I think the INFJ descriptions are part of the problem with MBTI. What I mean is INFJ descriptions are usually extremely vague using words like mystic, psychic, magical, mysterious = 'special snowflake.' When I first got into MBTI and had friends and family take it, about half of them came up INFJ. My one friend was textbook ESFJ (she got ESFJ first, was not happy with it, took it again -INFJ). And the problem is, it is like saying "Everyone is special' to children. They are going to believe, no matter what actions they do that they are special. When someone glances over INFJ information of course everyone thinks they are unique and different. I find even people that are extremely surface level thinkers feel like they are "magical" in some way. And again INFJ is the rarest type, I am extremely skeptical of half the people I know being INFJ let alone intuitive.
+Ali Lea - Yes. I think the type descriptions are very very misguiding. Because as of the Step II instrument, there are variations within a type. And the more you variate out-of-preference, the easier it is to mistype (as you'll drift further and further away from the description).
You are really gifted in what you're doing
You're really well developed ENTJ
Keep going
Greetings from an INFJ
+Idealseeker - Thank you. I appreciate that.
@GSCH 1 like Madara or Nine tails
If there are 300 people in one room, there's a real likelihood that there will be NO INFJ's present! ;)
Actually, 0/300 is 0% probability. If INFJs are 1.5% of the population, then that would mean that in a room of 300 people, you're likely to find 4 INFJs. In a room of 100 people, you are likely to find 1.
Best comment! You know INFJ for sure LOL
Bubblevicious Haha, dummie, INFJ doesn't go to a room with 300 people in it! 😁 😃
Rääpynä , valid!
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What type are you? I didn't think INFJ's insulted people like that
Every test tells me I'm INFJ but I never felt like it. Finally a video helped me understand that I'm probably INFP instead. THANKS!
If only I found this about the same time you did, it would have saved me a lot of trouble and confusion.
I'm the same. The tests ALWAYS give me INFJ and I say and think to myself "yeah this is me" when in reality that's probably my ego desperately wanting to be this cool type. When in reality I'm probably something else. Like INFP.
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The INFPs I know are absolutely content being INFPs. Maybe it's different here in Europe where the MBTI and the "super rare INFJ" is not hyped to much. INFPs are almost as rare as we INFJs are and they are awesome too - as any type is. I have some INFP friends and I love to explore the similarities and differences with them.
Thank you Zachary Quinto for helping to clarify a fact about myself that had been amiss until a few days ago. Barely a week ago, I heard of INFJ for the first time in my life after stumbling across a clip, here on RUclips. If anything, I watched it to see what it was about and never expected it to be about me.
As I watched the clip and listened to the descriptions, I was blown away by what I heard. It wasn't vague, or suggestive in its description. So, I wasn't using specious reasoning to make the connections. The points were exact, precise and difficult to deny. In the end, it felt like the clip was made exclusively to describe me. Overall, practically everything in the clip uncannily hit the mark. A somewhat surreal experience, I must admit.
But, what did this mean? Well, for one, if it was true, it didn't exactly tell me what I didn't know already. I've always marched to the beat of my OWN drum, not a different one. All it did was confirm what my gut already knew. Still. I'm no fool and no matter how convincing the clip was, I simply will not accept something as a fact based on a whim and a single clip. This looked like a job for Google.
Over this past week, I've Googled my ass off tenaciously. Naturally, this has provided an improved understanding of INFJ, with a deeper insight. While I'm far from being an expert on the subject, I believe a valid self assessment is feasible. However, I want to point out how every site I have visited, every article I've read and every clip I have watched has been the same, with uncanny similarities. Now, if there were discrepancies, even a small percentage, I would hang on to my scepticism. The fact is, there aren't any. Therefore, this has a huge influence on my self assessment, in combination with what I have learnt on the topic.
My assessment? At this point, I'm fairly and rationally confident I am a genuine INFJ. Wow. I'm rare. Big deal. I've never tried to be rare. What's the point of trying to achieve something you already possess? That's not ego talking, that's just knowing and comprehending my true self. In fact, I've never tried to be anything other than myself. After all, I don't know how to be someone else and it would take a lot of effort. My pragmatic nature would never embrace this. Pragmatism is about finding the solutions requiring the least effort, with the most beneficial results. Don't be fooled. Pragmatists seek efficiency primarily because they're lazy. At least this one does. =P
Perhaps I have miscalculated my assessment and I have no problem with being incorrect. Feel free to offer your thoughts if I contradict my assessment Mr Quinto, they would be welcomed. It's effortless to admit I am wrong. Then again, I'm rarely wrong, or at least I like to jokingly say this is the case. Humour is important to me and laughter contributes to our well being. That said, laughing with others is bonding. But, laughing at yourself is probably the most important part. If you can't laugh at yourself, then you take life too seriously. I believe it narrows your perspective and you miss out on the true horizon.
I hope this wall of words was worth the effort. It is always my intention to inject substance in my compositions and offer new insight or a fresh perspective. Thank you for uploading this clip Mr Quinto (Couldn't resist. You do resemble him, but I'm sure you've heard that before), it was informative and insightful. On top of that, you project a good vibe. And, I must admit, I could look in those eyes all day. lol
Peace.
I am always in awe of Te. You explained the functions so eloquently and proved how vital they are in distinguishing personality type. Thank you for this video, you did the title justice!
+INFJ Instinct - Thank you very much, I appreciate the compliment!
I've never come across an ENTJ talking about MBTI before and I LOVE it! You seem so well-developed, its like I can see your Fi shining even though youre still clearly an ENTJ! Also you've made me understand things so welll :D thank you, from an INFP ^^
infj the rarest of the pokemon
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Difficult to say. Very few people do these tests and some personalities would be more curious and keen to do them then others. So the percentages known are totally biased and wrong. We would need to test everyone to know.
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Apparently according to a comment by the uploader, many studies have confirmed the type percentiles and they’re pretty much set in stone.
I watched this video with my 3 year old next to me. "He's really nice" she says.
Michelle Ketchum awwww 🥺🥺
I identify with the INFJ personality type and I think you've got our type right. The eye contact thing is interesting cause personally I don't like eye contact unless I know you really well because it's very intimate for me and looking into the eyes of a stranger for too long unnerves me. BUT at the same time, my friends have pointed this out to me, when I am attracted to someone or are interested in them as a person I stare so hard it can be intimidating and too intense. That stare into your soul looking because if I'm interested in you you have my focus. And people don't like it usually because I am hard to get to know but I'm literally watching your every move and trying to understand you through all of your actions. Just wanted to share my opinion on eye contact because unless you strike me as interesting and real with yourself and others I don't hold eye contact for too long.
+Alex K - Thanks for that. I'm glad you brought that up. It gave me some new insights.
I agree with you i too dont do eye contact much ..
+Alex K I'm an INFJ, and here's what I've noticed about eye contact: If I am listening to someone talk, my eyes are LASER focused on their eyes, even if their eyes are darting around. If I am talking to someone, my eyes will be darting around, because in my mind, each thought has its own location. That's part of the system building of Ni, especially in conjunction with Ti: categorizing and organizing information into complex systems. So when I'm talking to someone about my thoughts or feelings, I have to retrieve them from where they are stored in my mind, which is organized in a specific way. So my eyes will follow the focus of my mind, and they will follow the internal location of my ideas while I am speaking, while they will focus on the speaker while I am listening. Get it?
Gina Marchetti I get it. I am look around too when i'm speaking cause of that same reason too and i am in touch with my Se a lot so I notice people doing things and that contributes to my eye darting. And laser focus is for people i am truly invested in
Same here as an INFJ. I avoid eye contact sometimes because I don't want to overwhelm people.
I have a theory that INFJs aren't as rare as the stats say. First off, how was the data even collected? Also, if the INFJ is the most complex and misunderstood type, then it's hard to know how many true INFJs are really floating around out there (especially if the data is from test results, which doesn't pick up the nuance as to why someone would chose a certain answer over another). They easily act in ways that seem most appropriate to the moment or to whom they're speaking. What if, in an ironic twist, we're gutting the INFJs by saying they're not one? It's already frustrating being misunderstood. And I bet there are lots of INFJs whom are actual INFJs and they just want to pull their hair out when people say they're something else, as if they're not misunderstood enough already.
It's very dependent on the maturity of the infj. I can only identify two Infjs I've known and they are always the leader of the pack while still remaining the ultimate outsider. The immature infj can be vindictive and play games with people. They also help people too though. Depends what they think of you. Their very internally focused and have a lot of noticeable Fi (at least for me). They care about social rules or go completely against them. The mature Infj is gracious and may wear a lot of black or plain colours. I'm naturally attracted to Infjs. Like a love at first sight kind of thing..
+wegotonelove - Yes. I agree.
Leader of pack while ultimate outsider, yikes accurate lol.
mel Dolma thanks for that one bro accurate as hell but not very nice ;)
Ouch, thanks for that one bro -accurate as hell but not very nice! Why am I saying that well because I didn’t want to play the games or be a leader of some kids in school I really wasn’t interested but they couldn’t let it be because I disturbed their structure so they kept trying to get me to react or to fold and they figured out that I wouldn’t beat or attack anyone or even insult anyone without cause just because so they always did it to my back so I wouldn’t know exactly who was involved ended up with me kicking the crap out of one of them who made the mistake of saying something so that I could positively I’d him and challenging the leader and his second for a fight straight afterwards which they both backed down on . Thing is an infj will never WANT to be a leader we are forced to become leaders to obtain certain results or even to be able to become part of the group ( formal or informal) because if we don’t oftentimes groups will turn on us because we destabilize the leadership by not backing down and that sucks . also groups or individuals who put you on pedestals have a tendency to also want to tear you down from the pedestal they put you on to prove that they have that power to themselves that’s why it sucks to be an infj but also as soon as people need help or want to tell their sob stories they come crawling somehow understanding that we rarely say no to a plea of help so though we may love humanity and want so save the world oftentimes we just don’t like humans that much because you really try your hardest to make us see all the darkest parts of yourselves. Animals are nicer.
Finally a video that gives a clear, proper distinction for me. For the longest time, I thought I was INFJ. Not because I wanted to be one, but because it was poorly communicated how INFJs could be identified. I now know that I am a very content INFP.
A lot of people in the comments are saying it’s hard to be an infj, but for me I feel gifted in the sense that I can be very open minded and see the truth rather than what I want to see. And a lot of these people are stereotyping infjs as if we’re all the exact same. We’re HUMAN just because someone isn’t exactly like you doesn’t mean they or you aren’t an infj. You’d think infjs look at things deeply but it seems a lot of these “infjs” just want to be the judges of others based off of them because they are “true” organic original infjs. How about you just focus on yourselves and your confusions instead of unprofessionally addressing the confusions of others. This may be hypocritical but I don’t think an infj could care less about who’s a real or fake infj other than themselves. (This is based off of the type of infj I am)
I wonder if INFJs come out of the woodwork on videos about INFJs at a disproportionate ratio to the population because we feel so different from everyone else and are looking for explanations about why our brains / preferences work differently. When I watch or read about behavioral and cognitive studies, I'm like, "No, that's not me, am I WRONG to behave and think and process the world differently?" That's what got me into the MBTI / personalities world -- trying to figure myself out. I consistently tested out as INFJ and was like, "THIS SUCKS." I'm now learning that I can strengthen my weak areas and play to my strengths so I don't feel so stuck in my head -- and that's awesome.
It seems natural that INFJs (and INFPs!) would gravitate toward online forums and channels, maybe even more than other types. A lot of people don't care what they are and just assume everyone else is weird and they're normal, so never even venture into this realm.
+Simanim Simanim - Appreciate your feedback, I think you've got my intention a little mixed up. First off, you cannot use Socionics to argue against MBTI as they are completely separate theories. Second, I do agree that they are mixed up occasionally, but they are NOT similar in my honest opinion. I have typed many INFPs and many INFJs professionally, and I do not think that they are very similar at all.
I didn't mean to imply that INFPs don't have clear vision, I said they are less likely to focus on that. This is all about perspective. And it is not the PRIME concern of the INFP. It doesn't mean that they don't have one. I use my language very specifically (e.g. "may", "likely", "more", "naturally") to remove the idea that a certain type is not capable of something.
I am also very familiar with both of the INFP philosophers you mentioned, but they do not come across as INFJs at all (at least to me). Yes, the key words you used is to "understand the world at a deeper level." But it does not eliminate the Ne v. Ni difference, as "Understanding the world in relation to human potential and values" or "Understanding the world in relation to it's underlying meaning and purpose, only using human potential and values as a part of a greater whole." (Again, both types are capable of this, but we are speaking preferences/primary focus here.). INFPs will use intuition to further explore the world in the sense of humanistic ideals (Idealist) which they have thoroughly sorted out subjectively, where as INFJs will focus on the collective values of certain groups as a tool subjugated to their search for underlying meaning by means of patterns and insights.(Not to imply that they don't have values). Plus the INFJs command over Ti is quite evident in most of their personalities.
With all that being said, my argument is coming from a strong point of MBTI, NOT Socionics. (caps for emphasis). As in Socionics the INFp is actually INFJ (MBTI). But to assume that the INFP has conscious command over Ni is not canonical with MBTI. Now, again, with that being said, I can see how in the external world they can appear similar, but with an experienced eye, they are vastly, vastly different.
In addition, the INFP is primarily concerned with Fi, where as the INFJ is primarily concerned with Ni. This appears totally different in the extraverted world as the INFP extraverts intuition, and the INFJ extraverts feeling. So the INFP may look appear to be random, quirky, or excited about NEW possibilities. Where as the INFJ may look slower, concerned, mystical, and patient. INFPs are more concerned with the judgment of values (comparing them with their own), INFJs are more concerned with perceiving in the world of meaning. So, they may appear more patient. Both types can seem very quiet, naturally. And BOTH types can extravert quite well when needed.
+MBTV - In addition - Both types of Intuitives (Ne & Ni) are concerned with vision of the future.
***** - Thank you for that. Your exploitation of types is quite interesting.
It's not that one isn't open to the possibility. It's that they don't appear similar according to MBTI (and myself in my experience working with clients). Whether the two theories are compatible or not.
But yes, I agree with you on Jung's perspective. I think we can use other theories to help our understanding, but we won't know until extensive research is done on these various things. Research is not my forte, nor conducing it is something that particularly interests me - so I stick with what was been researched.
I am semi-"anti-box" when it comes to personality typing, but not completely. After all we all eat, we all sleep, and some of us reproduce. These are boxes. But they happen to fit the bill. So there are things that I believe are constant, but there are things willing to be challenged.
But I welcome your stretching of the mind. Thanks for commenting.
@@TrueGenerations respect😇✌
The biggest difference I noticed (infj and infp) is that infp are constantly making kind of principles and are very aware of self and what they want ,like, need. It is like constantly judging values to make one that is compatible with their identity (self). Infjs have values but in a more general way (what is good for human kind and what is not) , and how to use those values to keep harmony and peace and are very creative people Infjs are more likely to be blind to their own needs when making decisions if they don't compensate it with Ti and find good logical reasons to put their needs first. INFJs can struggle with Fi 'cause they feel they are hurt/ not ok and don't know what to do about it/ it makes person paralised 'cause they don't know what to do about it. Infps are very aware of Fi 'cause it is always there and they mostly know who they are. Infjs are mostly like stranger for everyone around them 'cause people mostly see Fe or Ti , and don't see how Ni works which is the most important part ( how infjs are making connections and their world view- it is mostly like kind of psychological/sociological realism and seeing patterns also making predictions . Also "jump to conclusions definition: to guess the facts about a situation without having enough information" it is Ni stuff more. iNFJs are listening to you and their background process is constantly making predictions where this is going, they need to know. If they are kind of relaxed with you they can express their thoughts at loud (Fe) and it looks like "jumping to conclusions" 'cause there is a small amount of informations/small input and very fast predictions. Btw your yt channel is amazing.
@@laraohmaye875 I tried to find my enneagram type but I'm not sure cause I feel like I'm combination of multiple types. My friend told me that I can be six cause I had generalised anxiety disoreder but I don't have basic fear that six usually have. I can be sometimes 6, 9, 4 (pisces sun) or rearly 2 if my extroverted feeling is at its best. I'm sure that I'm not 3,5, 7,8.
I know I'm an INFJ from taking the test in both English and Spanish. Also, regardless of statistics, a higher percentage of INFJs are going to check into these sites.
There are a lot of relieved people who have found out about those four initials. For my own part I finally found out why people (including a few immediate family members) reacted to me as they did.
This talk you're sharing describes me to a T. I'm grateful for the personality I've got, but it's as much of a burden as it is a blessing. It wasn't until late middle age that I finally learned that "You're weird" wasn't my middle name.
We all learn to adjust, and grow with who we are, and recondition ourselves to be the "self" we want to ultimately live with, its all a journey, and making the most of the information at our disposal can give us the opportunity to change ours and others lives as well, thanks for coming by.
I know everyone is expressing deep thoughts but love that smile of yours
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Great video! I am an INFP and I have known an INFJ for 14 years, and everything you say is spot on!
I think getting to know my INFJ friend has helped me a great deal in understanding the difference between INFPs and INFJs.
I have a theory that people are on the fence between them being an INFP and an INFJ because they haven't really met the person of that other type to compare themselves with. Understanding your type is not black and white, but more like gradations of color. Royal blue is different from navy blue, and it may be hard to describe the differences on their own, but when you compare the two, then it is easier to understand.
My two cents! Great video! I look forward to watching the Function videos related to INFP.
Side note: What really resonated with me in your video is you said that INFPs look at other people's interpersonal values to better understand their own interpersonal values. A lightbulb appeared in my head, but I don't fully understand what you mean by the term 'interpersonal values.' Do you mind expounding on that idea some more? I feel like this might unlock some deeper understanding of myself.
Thank you!
It’s hard to be INFJ. I’m too focused on my insights, intuition and big picture - that I lose out on the present moment often. There’s almost too much depth. I see too much and have a hard time understanding why some people cannot see what I do easily see. I feel the feelings of pretty much every single person in the room. It’s difficult.
I also disowned my own mother and brother. I simply cannot have toxic, selfless, oblivious people in my personal bubble. After the last few years I just said GTFO in a very direct way. This relationship is over. Bye. No fight, I just remove myself from your life.
I’m disconnected from the world. Im disconnected from most people. I’m here and trying to change the future of something very serious (I made it my career) so it’s my life’s work. It’s very deep. It has to be payed attention to. It’s also frustrating because I can’t directly effect change. I must take the information I have and slowly chip away at it. I have to spread the information I have collected for the greater good.
I have the intense soul piercing stare and intensity. Maybe my functions are not mature. Not sure. I have experienced trauma in my life. Especially as a child. Thank goodness my husband is an ENFJ. He is the only one that understands me but I doubt he will ever fully understand me. He is great with facilitating however. He is a leader for huge change in everyone in his life. He is very dedicated and enthusiastic about it.
I will say that it’s difficult for me to be an INFJ. I’ve explored all other types in hopes of finding that maybe I’m mistyped. INFJ is the only one that fits. That was difficult to write because who is going to read this and does it matter? Hahah
I read it! I hear you! I watched this video in hopes that maybe I'm actually an infp because I love infps so much. But I knew I'm an infj, and of course the video only corroborated that...I'm basically a hermit, I've always been a wise old grandma living in the wrong dimension. Living in my head, grand plans to help the trajectory of humankind, but I don't leave the house, so how is that going to happen lol...I hope you're well, fellow infj!
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Damon...you are a delight! So refreshing to hear an insightful, intelligent breakdown of the infj personality. My sister is an Entj and I am an Infj and we have such deep, insightful, connected, intense conversations about everything! I would have enjoyed engaging you in dialogue. Keep up the quality content - as you are aware there is a lot of incorrect content on the infj personality. You rock - figuratively of course! 😃
I believe I'm an INFJ due to your amazingly, accurate video and the dozens upon dozens of tests I've taken that are accessible online, though I'm still a little unconvinced and rather skeptical due to the fact that I've seen many people mistype themselves as INFJ and some still going along with their mistype. Although I share many functions, I fear I may be one of those who have mistyped.
No need to fear. This video wasn't supposed to be a neo-nazi way of convincing people to stay away from INFJ. I just think that people need to find enough connection to confirm their type and not just "assume" without any due diligence.
I'm an INFP but I'm *extremely* drawn to INFJs due to their depth and fascinating insights. My boyfriend & one of my best friends are INFJs though I agree, they are very rare. Just happens that I connect with them easily. Though as much as I click with them, I wouldn't choose to be one. From what I gathered, INFJs can have such a hard time accepting and loving themselves - heck, even knowing / understanding themselves is a big challenge for them, whereas INFPs tend to have less difficulties with self-acceptance. We're weirdos and we know it. And we actively search for other weirdos to connect with.
once you're real close with an INFJ, you'll discover that they can also be 'weirdos' lol. My INFJ friend and me (INFJ) are super close and demonstrate weirdness and craziness freely. But the rest you said is true as well, it's like we're still struggling to find ourselves even if we can accept our inner craziness (with people we rly know)
i dont find infps to be that complex. they are very individual and that's something I sometimes get jealous about. As I usually feel i don't own my body and my thoughts and feelings aren't mine at all. INFPs are predominantly right-brained people whereas infjs tend to need to fulfill both left-brained, right-brained activities. Self-acceptance is hard because it's harder to see role models that are work-in-progress. Usually, it's Jesus,Gandhi etc. who have already tamed and managed their tendencies. The dirty work is arduous and we see none of that anywhere. We have to do the work on our own. Lots of role model infps abound in the art and music industry. Ni-is harder to tame and to understand in general. It's subconscious and has no basis in the perceivable reality. We have to learn the hard way to accept that in ourselves as we equally love people. Knowing ourselves means cutting that out for a while! So yeah, it's not nice to compare something that is incomparable. Fi and Ni are so different to each other.
I practically got goosebumps when you said that for the INFJ insights are everything. That is so true.
We're glad you could relate! -MBTV Team
True. Intuition is everything to an INFJ. Examples of INFJs include Jesus, Hitler and Laden. All of them were driven by their insights to create a better world for mankind. All of them were great people just that not many people of their time had the intelligence to understand their perfectionist ideals.
Jason Kluge
I'm not sure I can agree to Bin Laden or Hitler being great people and as far as I am concerned Jesus is mythical....or are you being sarcastic and it just zoomed right over my head-LOL. I need tone of voice and body language.
Shawna McComber Bin Laden and Hitler are as great as you want them to be because the word "great" is subjective. But I bet they were at least "great" in their own mind each of them tried to build a "better" world based on their "ideal introverted intuition". INFJs cannot be wrong "in their own mind." To people with this personality type they believe they are "usually" right, if not always. Hitler would not have thought that he was evil or wrong in killing thousands of people. He probably even thought that he was a messiah like Jesus he sacrificed himself for an evil world. Same goes with Bin Laden.
Yes, I can see some truth in that but I would suggest that a healthy INFJ knows that they can be wrong just as anyone can. I like facts and I strive to find the truth, and thus be right, but doesn't everyone believe they are right when they are at the point of making a decision or taking an action? Or if there is no objective right, at least believe they are making the best choice?
I'm an INFP and I have absolutely no desire nor have I ever had the desire to be an INFJ. I prefer my type. INFJ's are praised ridiculously on the Internet, while most attention INFP's seem to get is negative attention. Sad, considering we're (probably) the most sensitive and caring type...
As an INFJ. I feel bad that INFPs feel so bad about the INFP profiles that they want to be INFJs. Being an INFJ isnt easy. We have a hard time trusting other people, we have problems with self-worth just like any NF, we always feel compelled to prove ourselves to ourselves and other people. We can't be authentic in the same way that INFPs can be authentic, because we are always concerned about the outcome. Many INFPs i've met have been good people and there are certain things I admire about those who hold the INFP personality type. I think it's just that any INF (maybe any IN in general) can feel like an alien or like nobody really gets them. This can cause them to gravitate towards the 'INFJ' label because its supposed to be the rarest of the types. I don't agree with that. I think people do themselves a disservice when they try to fit themselves into a mold that is wrong for them.
No we get bad attention too. Trust me. I'm an infj and I think infp have qualities that we could benefit from. They're the masters at emotions. Some of the best and creative minds that I admire are infps. Fred Rogers, JRR Tolkien, Stephen Colbert. And the 2 people that understands me most are infps. My ex bf of over 10 years and my best fiend closer than my sister is infp. I don't know another infj, but I'm proud that were empathic people. My infp friend was the one that help me understand narcissist and use grey rock method. And my ex bf taught me how to love myself when my mom basically told me to hate myself.
@@mjade1673 ENTPs are often super misunderstood. I think they feel like nobody really 'gets' them. But they are capable of great amounts of loyalty and caring despite the fact it seems like they're lacking in morals.
@@zeroangelmk1 idk how that reply got here i clearly remember what it was in reference to and i don't see that here. So your reply also makes little sense to me. Because i think my reply belonged on another video?? So sorry for the mix up. I just got over 6 months of mono (as of 3 days ago). My attention span has been worse than usual. Obliterated most of the time.
@@mjade1673 I'm just as confused as you are? I thought there was another post in this topic which brought up ENTPs. Glitch in the matrix maybe? Or i'm just having early dementia.
I once was in class and my teacher asked who it is that imprints the feeling of you needing to be "perfect". I told her that it probably was the society, but she said no, it's themselves. But I don't agree. A person wouldn't have those expectations for themselves, if it wasn't because someone else would make them feel like they needed to be perfect. And that is the general society who sets those expectations.
But I guess we just have a different view on things...
Celine DA
that was her point exactly though. don’t let society’s perceived notions trick you into thinking that YOUR expectations are not your own. We as individuals ALWAYS have a choice, and no other person or society can make us feel or be a certain way. This is essentially free-will..it can either liberate you or condemn your mind to the only hell which truly exists (our own ego/shadow).
Choose liberation each time bc you deserve it.
I can assure you that there are people who are driven internally to be perfectionists. It's not an outside influence from society, it's your own sense of right and wrong, your own needs, that drives you to try and be perfect.
And it's not always healthy... it's often taken too far.
@@Broadpaw_Fox Yeah, I know we have our own drive to try to be perfect, but it's often the society that tells you what perfect is to start with. Maybe you think you have to wear makeup because you think you need it to be beautiful. But someone has to have influenced you to think what beautiful is to start with. In some countries, beautiful is to be fat. Others it is to be thin. Therefore a lot of the times, what you think is "perfect" is actually what you have learned is "perfect". But yes, of course we have our own sence of right and wrong too, that drives us to be perfect.
Btw, I have no idea if what I'm saying makes sense. I have such a hard time writing down in words what I'm thinking. It kind of doesn't make it better that English isn't my first language. But I hope you see what I mean.
Eric K
i agree that there are certain stacks of cognitive functions (personality types), which innately position us towards more perfectionistic tendencies. but that’s still just our “wiring”/our nature.
Maybe think of it this way...
the action of “free-will” is comprised of 2 components:
1.) Nature (our decision making processes/cognitive functions)
2.) Nurture (our decision making influences/environment)
the combo of Nature AND Nurture is what results as our actions of “free-will”, our actual decisions and choices.
thus, true self-empowerment is a result of “free-will”. it is NOT a result of Nature and Nurture as exclusive components.
if one can acknowledge that their individual wiring was always their soul’s intention, then any illusion of needing to achieve “perfectionisms” will melt away.
it’s not necessary to ever strive for perfection bc you already ARE perfection as your soul intended.
Technically, what most of us are seeking is sustainable Happiness and Truth/Clarity.
this perspective may come off as “too spiritual” or metaphysical, but i find ego/shadow integration one of the most pragmatic and effective approaches to healing the human psyche
i guess my point more is that a healthy version of ANY personality type will translate to the best version of any individual. most of society just fails to get past their own ego and recognize that we could ALL give and receive a bit of healing 😆💚
Celine DA
you make sense. i hear ya and i get it too.
and your english is superb.
About 3 weeks ago I was a bit less sure of my type but now I narrowed down to INFJ or ENFJ. In the process I figured out differences in my relationship with family. I had a deep conversation with my mother and it became clear that while we had almost the same point of view our perspectives were a complete 180 degree opposite looking at the same issue. This was our summery:
Her: Must be true to self, find self, find own values.
Me: You're never going to find yourself. It's a moving target. The best way is to accept who you are of the moment and look outward. That is how you'll find where you fit and where your values work.
Her: I'm afraid of losing my beliefs if I look into other perspectives. I want to stay grounded and know right from wrong.
Me: Don't be afraid of listening to other perspectives. If your values are true to you and are the truth, they will stay. The parts that aren't will leave. Don't be afraid to let go what may not be true.
Her: I'm afraid of losing myself.
Me: You won't lose yourself. You are yourself regardless. Your view of the world may change, but you are still you.
Just about every perspective she sees I see the opposite side of the very same issue. What I found insightful was just how at the same we were but how direct opposite we were at the same time.
im glad i realized i was an infp
THAT IS AWESOME!
This is such a great video. We INFJs often have difficulty understanding what and how we are in the world, let alone articulating it in any any logical or linear way--probably because our Te is so, so weak. So your Te clarification was really helpful. I found myself saying over and over: "He's right! What a clear and succinct way to describe X quality that I've been having trouble describing about myself for so long." My best friend is an ENTJ and I worship her Te. Thank you again!
I hate Fe so much. It feels so fake to me when I'm using it. I've tried (unsuccessfully) to shut it off, and be "more real", whatever the eff that means, but end up feel so unbearably mean. I'd much rather be an ISTP or something.
What type are you?
MBTV INFJ.
That's really interesting. I've seen people online (tumblr) call Fe fake as well, but I feel like it has a purpose... and creating a peaceful or friendly environment doesn't feel fake because you genuinely care about people getting along. Fe doesn't mean you can't have an opinion, you can certainly feel your own thoughts and ideas- I think Fe is more about trying to keep the lines of communication open between people and understanding that conflict or judgement usually closes those connections.
You may want to investigate your current psychological conditioning, we all express ALL the functions regardless of our preferred type, and its important not to put the weight on concepts outside of your inner truth, be with what is the the actual issue, and don't use Typology as a scapegoat for growth.-Daniel
@@laraohmaye875 Nope! Still an INFJ, although I've come to terms with Fe. I think my biggest issue with it was that I felt like I had to bend to everyone else's feelings in order for them to feel more comfortable, which in turn made me say things I didn't necessary believe. For example, my MIL is highly religious and very critical; whenever she would start talking about all the "bad" people in the world, I'd nod my head, just wanting the moment to pass. I'd ask somewhat pointed questions, trying to find out WHY she thought the way she thought, but if I pushed too hard, she'd start snapping at me. So I would just agree and hope it would end. I finally got to a point where I felt like if I didn't speak up, tactfully, mind you, I'd feel terrible for days. It wasn't so much that I disliked Fe, rather I used it as a reason why I couldn't speak up for myself. Sorry for the long reply to your simple question!! Haha.
This was one of the best INFJ analysis I have ever heard. Thank you.
I am an INFJ. I have found that it's not how i look at people but it is the way they look at me. I can see it in there eyes that they see something that they like. They know i won't hurt them and they know i won't judge them. I find that i don't need to concentrate. My subconscious listens and picks up everything until the puzzle is complete. I am not scholastic, I am honest and caring.
I’ve taken the test many times and i always get either infj or infp. I dated a guy one time who randomly said he thinks I’m an infj and that’s when i started really looking into what that meant. Thanks for the video.
I used to be an INFJ according to earlier tests and when i was young I did feel detached and definitely sought truth. In more recent years I am more INFP according to the tests. i was very disillusioned when I was young. I now have what I recognize a a strong ideal. However, listening to this i recognize myself more as an INFJ in some ways. I am a mix. No one thinks they know me. Or those who do find out otherwise. I am known as a dichotomy. I fit neither totally, so I think it is a mix. I recall being accused of being "super intense" when in basic training.
Sasha,
Thank you for commenting. As I've stated in many of my other videos. No one is "both" in MBTI. You're either one or the other. MBTI is type sorting (which directly contradicts being both), not trait measurement, which means you can be good at the functions of both and you may possess the ability to flex to INFP preferences (or INFJ), but it doesn't mean that you're both. MBTI is about your preferences. Just as you can't prefer both introversion and extraversion at the same time. The ego is attached to one or the other. Just like you can't prefer sensing or intuition at the same time. They are opposites. The tests are *very* inaccurate as well. It is important to distinguish this difference when attempting to identify your type.
Good luck.
Great video, very insightful! I have wondered why, so many people feel they are INFJ’s, or why, there are so many videos about INFJ. I am an INFJ and I don’t need anybody to believe or affirm that I am an INFJ. What really, makes a person unique is not what percentage of the population shares their type, but being who they are and not pretending to be what they are not.
Love this video. I always internally roll my eyes when someone claims to identify as an INFJ, like it's some great, special thing. It's not good or bad...it just is. And I think it can get very lonely for the true INFJ's out there who only feel comfortable being their real selves with, like, 2.5 people in their lives. Also, the struggle for Fe to come out there in between Ni and Ti- it can feel like walking a tightrope in high heels in a thunderstorm. Except the tightrope is really 3 inches off the ground, and the thunderstorm is just the sprinkler from your neighbor's backyard. Hope that makes sense. Haha.
Bro, you have this shit hands down. I love how you realised that INFJ are info gathers first (Like myself, an INTJ). You know what you are on about. Subs for me.
This just makes me more confused. I have attributes from both types. The last time I took the test is was INFJ/P. I'm get very emotional though and in the past it has been hard for me not to take things personally.
You have to remember that beyond these tests that yield no clear results for someone, it is important to realize that regardless of the type you prefer we have slants towards preferences and facets that make us unique and always an outlier to the stereotypical character of particular types. Damon is an MBTI practitioner and works with clients to not only figure out their type but their unique preferences and facets, from this self-discovery we also offer coaching, as they are pretty connected for personal growth. You can reach out to him here if interested. bit.ly/bookwithdamonmbtv
I tested as an INFP with a preference to be an INFJ and relate to exhibiting traits of both types as well. As I get older, I find myself adopting the functional capacities of an INFJ - but maybe that is just part of my own personal growth and learning how to develop better boundaries and looking at the larger picture. (I just wish I was more organized and logical, that is for sure. I have a very hard time getting things done.) I am going to make it a point to learn from the INFJ paradigm.
This video is fantastic, viewed it multiple times. Thank you for sharing your insights, Damon. I'm an INFJ, but often wonder where my strong moral values come from. Since a child, I was somewhat alienated from my family in terms of my strong moral concerns, and it often came off as "judgmental", which was not untrue.
But since understanding MBTI, cognitive functions, and the INFJ (the only type I've ever scored as), I struggled with a single question: if I truly am INFJ, and use Fe, why do I so often butt heads with others on topics of morality? Isn't that Fe?
I had begun to understand this relationship between Ni and Fe and how they create strong moral beliefs, but the way you put it is perfect:
"INFJs are willing to compromise present-moment values for values of the future."
Thank you generally for all the insights you've provided, and thank you personally for that one.
I'm an np and at one point I was mistyped for infj and I hated it. So not all np wish they were nj. I take pride in my p and the only J quality I like in myself is my Te third function.
Bigger picture observation, this was a very informative and enlightening video. Thank you.
+Sarah M - Thank you!
I am also naturally skeptical of those who take an online test and believe they are infj. The way the infj is portrayed leaves some sort of desire to be one. It’s nothing magical, and comes with its own set of positives but an even heavier set of cons. To carry such a heavily contrasted way of thinking and feeling, and the ability to never truly connect with the environment or people in a way that feeds the complexity of an infj soul... is really rather dissatisfying. Even after a decade of studying and analyzing the many layers of real slitting typing including mbti ... still leaves me skeptical that I am in fact one myself, and maybe even hopeful that I’m not. Also we all need to really put emphasis on the fact that introverted j types are actually perceivers and vice versa for introverted p types.l love that this was included! And I was just driving today and noticed the clouds and literally thought “this doesn’t feel real” “we are apart of the matrix” - - - cray cray 😜 and I also appreciate the part about how infj are focused on how things “will be”
I was quite upset when I found out I am INFJ. I've always yearned to be on the same wavelength with people, and being a rare personality does anything but help my cause.
At the same time, I am grateful that there are so many articles and videos on INFJs that I (and possibly other INFJs) was able to understand myself better.
This video is great because it really highlights how INFJ is more of a perciever and INFP is more of a judger.
I have taken the test several times and most frequently type out as INFJ (a couple of times as an INFP- guess I was having a sappy day when I took it) and your description is accurate. The part about being detached from the world is spot on. And the part with "crossing people off" is unfortunately true, also. The big picture stuff you described can be very devastating and stressful for the INFJ- for example, evaluating the course and direction of the entire human race from the perspective of one violent event. INFJ's also have strong observation skills, like seeing patterns, imperfections, trends and determining potential outcomes (intuition?). I think that you captured the essence of the INFJ well, especially since we are not very easy to understand. Thanks!
Dude, your emphasis on depth is spot on. I'm pretty sure I could get along with anyone of any type just fine, so long as they have depth. If you show me you've done some introspection, I can be completely engaged in a conversation with you no matter what type you are. Self- awareness is a trait exclusive to no type.
A way I figured out I was INFJ when I was confused as to the possibility of being INFP, was that I have a strong preference of extroverted feeling, whereas I noticed actual INFPs don't have as much as a need for external validation when it comes to their feelings. I've always needed external approval as well as wishing to help others more than myself, like noticing that by making others feel better (harmony) I would feel better. I admire how INFPs can have much more internal confidence with their feelings by being able to stand their ground as well as the intense depth and creativity that results from their internal world of feelings. My development of Ti really helped me come to terms with my compulsive Fe jerk reactions to comply with others and I can now help myself much more, recognizing my need for alone time and valuing my intuition.
I'm an INFJ and my sister is and INFP. Even though I now know more about the functional stack, I'm still thrown off by her strong Fi when we disagree. I can just feel her absolute certainty about her position and it's like the Earth has opened up under my feet and everything I ever knew was a lie. I think about how I came to the conclusion of my point of view and supporting factors for it and reanalyze the data to see if I missed valid opposing arguments. It only takes a few seconds to figure out that I still disagree, but by then her position has been sitting in the air and it's like a wall, so I just let it go, agree to disagree, whatever, so we don't have to be on opposite sides anymore.
I know exactly how you feel! Im an infj and my partner is an infp. This happens to us when we argue and i end up feeling like this. Its so horrible. And i end up agreeing to disagree but at the same time i feel like its not right. Sometimes i feel like he has manipulated the argument into making me look like an idiot when i know im not and his views are his own and are something out of his fantasy land..
I am so confused... People think I am INFP but I don't feel like I am this great creature who can stand their ground or has intense depth of creativity. Maybe because I am always with my sister who always speaks before I can xD I don't know, haha sorry I am conceited.
Gemini m8 :-) Ugh. I used to have an ESTJ guy friend. Emphasize on "used to". I'm INFP. We had in common that we liked to picture different future scenarios and discuss theories and possibilities of science. But we had furious, political debates. He always made me look like a moron who ignores facts and lives in a fantasy world. To me, he looked like a selfish psychopath who doesn't care about societal values. Both of us were so persistent to win a debate that we kept going for hours until we were too exhausted to continue. We couldn't reason with each other. Neither could understand the other's perspective. As he became more interested in me and we got closer, he emerged with his discussions more often. Sometimes I turned him down and pretended like I was busy doing something else, because it needed that additional energy to be able to talk to him. Sometimes it was ok, as he put more effort into trying to understand my perspective and sometimes he opened up to me and sincerely asked for advice. We streched each other's horizons too a little bit. And sometimes he comforted me and stood with me when I was fighting with someone else. And some of our metaphysical and science fiction discussions were really fun. The final blow was when he once sent me a quote which had something to do with war. I replied with something like, "That's horrible, how could anyone think that?" And he said he thought it was really inspirational and that he agreed with it and proceeded to explain me why. And hell broke loose into a circling debate about world politics and possible outcomes and what we would do in different situations. He had told me he wouldn't want to fight to protect our country, yet when I said that would our country be invaded, I would flee to Sweden, it made him so mad. He called me names and insulted me, for the first time, and I blocked him on facebook. I missed him terribly for a few months but was convinced that our friendship was more trouble than good, as he always made me question myself and be on the defensive about everything. I am happier without him. We brought out the worst in each other, and it's not nice to be constantly confronted with your wesknesses.
I went on rambling, but the point was, he made me feel stupid a lot and it was a big deal. After all, I'm not stupid, nor illogical. (I even scored with the second best grade in my advanced level math Abitur.) I just have different values, and my values are very important to me. Sometimes it's difficult to communicate with someone who has very different world view and priorities. (Perhaps that's very INFP of me.)
All you have to do is take the Myers Briggs test. If you concluded your type any other way it is likely flawed.
Wow, thanks for this. An as INFJ, I used to be very quick with cutting people out of my life in my younger and less mature days. I would observe someone's behaviour and then have a final line that once crossed I will not tolerate at all, I'm done. This is very early on in friendship, and they'd be so confused as to what they did wrong.... Used to feel so bad about this but I'm relieved to know that this is part of the personality function.
Did you know us INFJs are the most abstract of all types? Introverted Intuition is abstract and theoretical while the Fe/Ti axis is very ideational and abstract. Also you are on point when talking about the finality of our character judgments. I am quite inflexible when I dont like you.
I wouldn't necessarily say INFJs are the most abstract because in many ways all types can be abstract, according to recent research. This kind of thinking stems from a separatist point of view to glorify one way of "functioning" over another, which is inaccurate to say, all types have particular abilities and characteristics. We appreciate your feedback on the video!
I do not argue with people unless I have to. I keep opinions that I know people will not understand to myself unless it is about something that touches on my core values. Even if I do not think highly of someone at all they will probably have no idea about it and I will still try to foster harmony in our interactions. Even though this behavior might seem fake it is still very important to me to be true to myself. Probably sounds a little contradictory. It isn't easy to put into words. 😅 I tend to adapt the way I speak, emote, and even feel to the person I am with without even noticing it. Especially when I was younger but I am sure I still do it. I am very calm on the outside because I mostly live inside my mind and I know how to mask my feelings. I can come across as very energetic and extroverted. I am very attuned to the emotional atmosphere of a room. A small gathering of people is easier for me because it is easier for me to observe how everyone feels and act accordingly. I am for example very "lazy" and chaotic at home but no one at work would have any idea about that. I have sometimes wondered whether my feelings are actually real or if they are a kind of "simulation".
This all sounds pretty INFJ to me judging from the type descriptions that I have read. Yet I always score as INFP. So I am still unsure about which type I am.
Sounds INFJ
I'm an INFP. I haven't felt like I wanted to be an INFJ, although I am close to the center on the P & J scale when I take the test. Interesting information on judging. I agree on that. It bothers me though and I've been trying to correct it. I've been noticing that I make assumptions that aren't necessarily true. People are so interesting, especially the deep ones.
This is very good. Very astute, articulate, and you explain well the value of having depth and valuing depth. I am an INFP who took a test that said I preferred to be an INFJ and I find myself having attributes of both and can relate to aspects of both descriptions. However, I am definitely an INFP, but I look forward to learning what I can learn from the INFJ paradigm.
A real INFJ won't admit that he/she 's an infj, as they want to keep that knowledge for themselves and to stay mysterios 😉
Thank you for this video! With your explanation I definitely keep identifying with INFJ 100% but will still research and compare other personality types because I don’t care what type I am as long as it is my true type and can help me understand myself better and help me grow. Wow you talk so fast! I’m one of those slow talkers that pauses a lot in the middle of my sentences... and I’m much slower at processing information so I had to go back and re-listen to what you said many times... 😅
MBTV is very happy you guys liked this video so much! The INFJ preference is one like all the rest and so let's remember the role our own unique preferred type has on our journey. With that being said, since this video has posted, we have come a long way to helping not only the RUclips community, but to be a growing educational hub, as well as a business centered in not only MBTI, but in other psychological areas, to further guide and support others in coaching. For more information about coaching and MBTV, check it our here, bit.ly/mbtvcoach, also, if you are confused on you MBTI preference, you can reach out to Damon, our master practitioner in helping others discover their unique type, facets and preferences here, for personal and businesses! www.myersbricks.com/coaching-services/
Damon Grey - MBTV Pls elaborate on ENFJ please. Similarities of ENFJ snd INFJ. I do both of these also sometimes I try to rectify the situation right now or sometimes I delay it or not do it at all because I read the person and decide they’re not worth my time. That type just isn’t going to get it anyway.
Damon Grey - MBTV I really like your genuine straight forward style of communication. U get right to the point.
Damon Grey - MBTV Do u even read any of these posts? U seem very insensitive.
@C.S. Joseph I can pretty much relate to everything you have said in your video.
I remember back in my childhood when I played Metin 2 that I helped someone to level up but when he used the wrong personal pronoun(romanian pronoun showing no decency) I had immediately kicked him out of the squad.
I was unsure about the fact that I'm truly an INFJ and thought to myself that maybe I'm an INFTP because on my test I got INFP but I will try to do 2 more tests one before the corruption and the second one will be about how I want to be.
I came across your video because of some other guy who did mentioned you on an INFJ video. I searched for you because he specified that you are more critical than others. At the first I thought to myself that it will turn out to be like the test said but now I see that everything relates to me.
I mentioned earlier the corruption because before it I tryed to be an example myself to others (subconsciously) that means that I had some integrity but when I moved to my dad which is more rigorous I had still got this integrity and sensibility but I started to mirror his toughness and one day I said to myself that it's enough I don't want to be tough I want to be sensible. Also I saw another video about how an empath can lose his empathy because of a narcisist and I saw that my dad and my step-mother represented some of the characteristics from that video because I saw that when I was with my mother I had kept my sensibility but when I moved with my dad I saw that it slowly drained away and with that, started my corruption from not being as good as I can. I heard about this advice of yours of door slamming the wrong influences in my life too in that empathy video and I'm still thinking to myself that after so manny relatable characteristics that I'm still not an INFJ.
Also in elementary school in the second grade I remember that when I moved with my mom and went to school it was the religion class and because of shyness I would hide behind the teacher from my classmates but you said that INJFJ's are not timid but then again it may be because of the fact that my parents divorced one year earlier.
Also my dad always said that I m not timid.
And about manipulation I remember how my father was trying to convince me that it wasn't how I remember and that my mother's family tried to demonize him but I remember telling my father that my mother's family didn't knew anything and that I had told them and from that day they would always demonize him in front of me.
Also I remember how I told my classmates in elementary school in the second grade about my family divorce and at first they would show mercy but then they will became a nightmare until I will move to my dad(there was also a nightmare but it kinda of ended when I got to the Orthodox seminary-a kind of highschool ).
Also my father said that before I was cold and that know I'm more warm but I remember that even though I did not showed affection, in my heart was a rainbow, but, that lack of showing affection may be because of the divorce.
Also now everything connects itself I have been in depression for 4 years because I had lost my integrity. Also before the depression and corruption I could have felt in me a great willpower but then it eventually faded away.
Another thing is that before those 4 years of depression and corruption I could not understand dirty jokes but when those things started to kick in I could understand the dirty jokes of my classmates.
Also I had sometimes problems to express my thoughts and other times I could easily communicate to others.
Also I had always anxiety attacks and I would be very uncomfortable when I was with a group of people or even one stranger. Now anxiety attacks still occurs but not always.
One side not is that I started to see that I mirrored my dad too much when I had met a trully INFJ who kept his integrity. The interesting thing about this is that when I moved to another city and seminary I had met him and I had knew(I can't explain myself how) that this person is as I want a friend to be (it was actually pretty obvious because he did stand as something different than the others maybe that's how I had knew) because before I would talk to others and I would show some kind of affection to anyone but I will not open to them because I had nothing in common with them.
Also I told you so many things because like I had said earlier I'm sick of being tough I want to be open and sensible.
Also I remember that I loved animals very much and I remember that my aunt had a dog and I would hug him to the point of near getting bite by him. Now I like animals but I feel that I'm more distant every day to anyone including animals. Is this not an INFJ thing?
Also I was hyper sensitive and I m still like that but not that much as before.
By the way when my classmates would do things I don't like before would get pretty argumentative in the sense that I would tell them how isn't the right thing to do(usually when the leader of the herd would take its role seriously and attack me I would defend my rights). Is this something an INFJ would never do? But then again this maybe of the fact that I mirrored my fact as this thing started to happen from the moment I got to stay with him and before I don't remember of doing this at all besides calling the teacher or something but I don't remember of getting argumentative when attacked.
From what I have said I really wait for a response from you and I want you to tell me the hard truth am I an INFJ or not? And also sorry for the long post but it relates to me too much. And if I did any mistakes sorry English is not my mother language.
This is a comment I nave written to a youtuber about INFJ's and because he didnt responded I m sharing it with you. Sorry for not correcting the errors(addressing errors) but I had wrote it on my phone and there are a lot of things to edit.
Besides what I said in this comment I would add up that morally when I was with my mother and before the divorce I didn't have had such an awareness of consciousness about morality(what is right and what is wrong/even ideas) as I would start to have them when I moved with my father.
What I would like you to do is tell me based on all of this is If I'm an INFJ and what subtype and If I'm an INFP what subtype as well for it. I think that before I was an INJF but in the second healthiest form(philosophical and thinking, and curious about the world subtype) and now I'm still an INFJ but in a depressed state and if noone of those two types and subtypes apllies to me then what other type is more fitting to me.
I have seen particular personal INFJ's traits apply to me more than the general traits of both INFP's and INFJ's alike.
I have started to think that I have no intuition and no feeling and that I'm a sensing and thinking type and sometimes I think I have no characteristics at all.
I still think that I have been very much influenced by manny people because I see their characteristics in me(especially my father) and I didnt mirrored those things necessarily but I'm not sure about this though.
And I still think that I had became even more sensitive after the divorce when I moved with my mother and because of the fact that I had 3 females in the apartament also influenced me and maybe thats why I was slightly more sensitive than I already was as an hypersensitive person and I think thats why I may have became much more kind and open to others in my father's perspective of now.
I want a cold and fact based true answer. I'm sick of dreaming if I can't project it in reality in a complete way.
Sorry for being quite empty when writting this but when I saw that video I started to regain hope that things will change and that this is not how it should be because I don't feel like this is right. Maybe you will give my hope back.
I will be waiting for a response as I have seen that you respond to comments and that you actually want facts.
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Your infj analysis is totally on point. I tested as an infj 13years ago and i hated it. I had just moved to a new city, barely knew anyone and felt pretty alone through out my life in general and in this new city and then i found out this?! That i was an introvert and that i was one of the rarest types in the world. Great. I so badly wanted to be an extrovert because around this time extroverts were the acceptable ones and introverts were not cool at all... Times have changed and over the years i still have tested as an infj. Its def alot more acceptable these days to be a introvert. Thankyou for posting this. As an infj im a pretty hardcore information gatherer and understand that as infjs we need to develop our extroverted feeling which is the 2nd cognitive function. By doing this we have alot to bring to the table and to the world at large. I feel like ive developed some great insights in the last 4years of my life. Does anyone else sometimes feel like Neo in the 1st Matrix when he is sitting in the the chair jacked in and Tank is loading all the different fighting arts into his brain? Lol.... Btw i know this is gonna be major cheese but its also my favouritest movie trilogy ever LMAO
Matrix is bad ass. No lie. It's so deep, one can have a conversation about it for hours, days, months, years, etc.
Neil Degrasse Tyson said the same thing.
What did he say?
Im guessing he said he felt jacked in.. I feel like such a sponge, my brain is like information, information, give it give it give it, absorb, absorb, absorb, cant stop, dont want to...
I want to throw something in here.
I find it somewhat irritable that people rant about the rarity of INFJ. I feel as though it's popularity is what has created the biast towards them. People get hung up in being "rare" and "special" snowflakes that they ignore who they are so they can act like they're somehow more special. I like how you added the part about people appreciating your type reguardless of what it is. It is frustrating for me to continually see tumblr and RUclips videos about "Look how unique I am! I'm not going to do anything meaningful because I'm to proud of my special snowflake status!" It's disheartening to see the focus on being unique vs being able to readily contribute their gifts to humanity.
Had to rant it.
Francois Oda INFJ’s rarely see ourselves as special because of our internal critics voice sitting on our shoulder whispering in our ear all the time. This can be a challenge for many of us because we have such an other focus versus a self focus. Just because something is small in numbers or percentages, or otherwise rare, doesn’t mean it’s special.
This is one of the best explanation and in depth look at INFJs and the difference between INFJ and INFP.
I have to say, you helped sort out any small doubts that I had. By going into the cognitive function stack, we find the truth about the typing. This is a longer response than I expected to write, but it's been a process for me.
I have had at least 5 people in my life, two romantic partners included- that have told me that they're INFJ... in the past I kept on thinking... how can we be the same type? We have so many differences in the way we interact... I didn't want to make them uncomfortable or tell them they were wrong because I know that people take pride in knowing their type. For a little while I wondered about my type, asking myself, could I have been wrong? Is it really that rare if all these people that I so happened to run into are also INFJ's? I figured some probably were not, but didn't want to say so.
When I first took the MBTI exam as a teenager I typed as INFP. I had initially found so much comfort in knowing myself and understanding that I was different and possibly misunderstood. Because it was a unique type, it explained why I couldn't find people that shared my overlay of the world, my drive, or the understanding of other people...The INFP was always described as the healer and I could appreciate how that sort of helping people and enjoying the process applied to me. People always dump their problems on me. Sometime's I'd even tell them to check out the MBTI (and eventually I started typing as INFJ) telling friends that learning about yourself can lead to growth and understanding...And as they did, more people kept informing me of their "INFJness" and I wondered... how come they come off as so judgmental, shallow or belligerent to people when they disagree on a topic? Isn't the INFJ gift a harmonious nature and creating a peaceful environment and helping people grow? So I started thinking that perhaps INFJ's could be vastly different from each other based on how mature they are or healthy they are at the time. This still didn't make sense... because I looked at myself as a reference- as a child and a teenager I went through a lot of mental hardships and with few exceptions (where I was upset by abusive relationships) I had always made a conscious effort to be peaceful through being open-minded and understanding of others, quick to apologize, make right...etc. It's unquestionable to think of intentionally messing with people's emotions or hurting people, and yet I recognized these traits in unhealthy IxFP's.
I didn't quite understand the dichotomy and the breakdown of the functions back then, but instead took the letters at face value and even questioned my type as INFP because P stands for "Perceiving" and I felt I was always perceiving everything in the world first and then coming to a conclusion. After a while I accepted this idea that the MBTI wasn't particularly accurate or maybe it tried too hard to fit people into boxes and people couldn't be sorted out by 16 types. Maybe people fluctuated. I put MBTI on the backburner as I felt it couldn't be relied on.
Then, I revisited MBTI in college this past year and started to study what it meant, & I looked into the INFJ again. So I took it a step further and I started studying the *differences between* the types, which always focus on cognitive functions. It seems more popular on youtube now, as an added bonus. I don't remember there being a ton of comparison videos in the past but hey, boy they're helpful in understanding the functions! Now I already recognized the term Cog. Functions, knew that I used Introverted Intuition & Extraverted Feeling but what I didn't realize is how different the stacks were for the INFP & the INFJ. I was talking to a friend and he recommended personality hacker where I started getting back into the MBTI and also stumbled across your videos.
Super glad I did. I love the way you explain things.
Ni Fe Ti Se
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Fi Ne Si Te
I have an identical twin brother who's INFP... and we're almost nothing alike aside from having emotions play into our decision making process (albeit differently) we also enjoy the creative process quite a bit (photography, drawing, creating board games) and a love for writing & game design in particular. Otherwise though, everything about how we approach the world and problems is different.
All that being said, I really appreciated your video and subscribed!
Hey peter, it is not every day that you have someone really get what we're trying to give out, and then in return get a really interesting life experience and story out of how we affected someone. We're glad that you are making progress and able to identify with our content! You should check out our mbti chatrooms on slack!
I'm an INFP married to an INFJ. My husband had no idea what an INFJ was but his manager asked him to take the Myers Briggs test. My husband absolutely would fit the description. He's definitely different than a lot of people I know claiming to be INFJ. I've always thought he seemed mysterious because I first saw him in high school. We started dating 10 years later and he really does have a unique personality. He's more logical and I'm more emotional and we really balance each other. We bounce ideas off each other a lot and get each other's perspective. I think that's why we work so well.
Feelers are more likely to be mistyped as thinkers because thinking is considered to be a "better" quality than feeling in general. INFJs often mistype themselves as INTJs but not the other way around. I personally know quite a number of INFJs who think they are INTJs when in fact they are far from being even slightly rational :-)
I believe this work both ways! Past types are facets that people uniquely prefer! Hence why everyone is so different!
Well an INFJ wouldn't need to be rational to know what they know, but they may believe what they know was a product of rationality when it wasn't. But it is nevertheless true.
„INFPs will feel violated and INFJs will try to understand“ , horrible when the other person is toxic and I have to try to agree with them. I cannot argue, because I understand the other person so well that I forgot my own feeling and my own opinion . Since a child I struggled so much on this. It took me many years to learn to „be myself“.
This is the best video I have ever seen, that shows the contrasting difference between, INFP and INFJ. thank you so much for this. I've know the function stacks are totally different, and you broke it down efficiently! PS- my best friend is an Entj :) for over 20 years, infj/entj have great relationships
Thank you so much for this. I have been going back and forth ever since I learned about MBTI because I don't want to be INFJ so I keep trying to convince myself I'm actually INFP and I have watched a bunch of videos comparing the two trying desperately to not be INFJ and they have all been so vague in their explanations of the differences that it was keeping me in this loop, but you explained the differences in such a practical and experiential way that I can't deny it anymore, and, at the same time, you helped me realize that I should just embrace what I am and not be wishing I were something else because we are all valuable and valid. I hate my weaknesses, but I have strengths, too, and all those combine to make me unique, which isn't such a bad thing. So thank you because I feel like I can finally leave this loop and just be weird and that's okay.
I kept testing as a INTJ but it didnt seem right and I finally figured out why, I have generalised anxiety disorder which blocks almost all my emotions so I tried to re do the test from how I was before my Anxiety and it came up INFJ and so far it seems to fit.
I have struggled with social anxiety and that made me mistype too.
You should do it as how you are now not what you were before or how you want to be. That’s not being true to yourself.
After watching your video there’s no doubt I am an INFJ. Sometimes it’s hard to feel like I know myself, let alone why I am the way I am. Thanks for explaining and comparing in contrasting in this video. It’s hard to fit in. So interesting when you talk about rival types. My dad was a rival type and no matter what I did to understand him, I never felt seen, heard, or understood by him.
I AM AN INFJ!!!!!! I FIGURED IT OUT!!!!!!! OH MY GOD, INTROVERTED THINKING that I have explain why I'm so quiet in the midddle of the conversation is because I'm archiving information, recalling and storing... this is why I have a hard time verbally communicating.
Me too, im perceiver first. Not a speaker first.
yes I too find it difficult to convey my thoughts .. I struggle a lot
But is that alone what makes someone an INFJ? I do this all the time, but I thought most introverts are like this anyways? I dunno. I thought I was an INFJ, but again, they are the rarest types. It's rare for someone to be an INFJ.
if you can't differentitate between infj and infp, see if you're stronger in Te or Ti. If you're stronger is strategizing your environment, then you're an INFP, if you're stronger in Ti like I"m really good in Excel, connecting the dots between different sets of data, then you're an INFJ like me.
Sylvia Lopez Just took the test again, and it said I'm ISFP. Read about this type, and it's definitely spot on for me. I knew there was something off about INFJ and INFP for me.
That explanation of Introversion vs Extraversion changes everything for me.
As an infp.. I feel like i could confuse myself to think im actually an INFJ, but at the same time i imagine people like MLK being an infj and it does not seem to match up with someone who would sit idle by with their feelings.
I am an INFP maried to a INFJ. You nailed our differences. Thank you !
I have an INFJ friend as well, I can spot them and like to interact with them as I like depth too.
During my childhood, everyone in school made fun of me. Now they all want to be the same personality classification as me. XD
Thanks for adding that we should all appreciate our own type. It's important we are comfortable with who we are.
Hey, can u make a video on INTJs? I am interested in your opinion on this type. Thanks.
+RaZoR BLaDe - INTJs are very similar to ENTJs. You can get a pretty good idea by watching INTJs on RUclips, or ENTJs even. BUT, I will be working on videos for EVERY type here in the near future.
+MBTV Thanks bro 👌 I am looking to your future videos.
Spot on video. I have just a few INFJ friends (I'm an INFP), this describes them exactly. And I've been wondering what may be motivating their seeming ok'ness with their circumstances even if they are in tough situations (I'm always wanting to explore possibilities and change my circumstances - so I have a hard time understanding this motivation). I think the motivation might be to create enough stability (even if it isn't an ideal situation) so they have the space and time to explore their introverted intuition, ideas and understanding. If (like me), they are always trying to force a change or improve their lives (or help friends improve), their inner work would have to be put on the back burner and this is antithetical to who they are. Detached from the world is spot on. Insightful people, love INFJ's.
I need to learn more about Te, Fe, Ni, etc. I think I've got a sense of it generally, but I get a little lost there. Will follow up. Glad I found your channel.
I don't want to be an INFJ- I really think INFP's are better at dealing with the world. I'm trying hard to convince myself I'm an INFP now...Video isnt helping lol
This video doesn't help me either but your comment does :)))
Tsha4life lol how come?
lee williams Honestly, I find that when you're too involved in MBTI you confuse your preferences quite often. You should ask someone, like a friend, who knows MBTI well to help type you. If you don't have someone like that just simply get a friend who knows you well enough, make a list of attributes associates with Fe and Ne (those are your extroverted functions which means that's what you usually put out into the world, so it's easier for people to recognize. Ni and Fi are internal functions, so not as easy to recognize) and ask them which fits you better. Try keeping the wording simple. Hope that helps!
Ne and Fe are totally different preferences.
Go with whatever you want to prefer, but the idea is that exploring yourself and going into a good place is the first step, adding MBTI to your personal growth without being in a healthy place can yield negative results. I would recommend reaching out to daniel or Damon for either coaching or MBTI type evaluation bit.ly/WorkWithACoach
MBTV thanks you for replying. I finally figured it out (INFJ) now im learning. Your videos are great! Sorry if it seemed like I said it was unhelpful.
people always make me feel like I'm not an infj because they are so rare and this is one of the videos I show them that help make them aware of the diffence. thank you for it 😊
Infp i feel lost in a mean mean world 😄
I am an INFJ. Living without boundaries, able to feel and absorb, can be so draining. I have lived for years without boundaries. It did affect my health. Why would anyone want to be an INFJ? It is a very sad thing to be in the times we are living. Very sad. Yes, I feel like I am an alien. A woman in the checkout was talking loudly at her daughter who had a cast on her arm to move more quickly to get the groceries on the belt. I looked at the girl and said, "it's ok, honey, no hurry, take your time". Her mom said "That woman is weird". She thought I did not hear her. I did not care, because I was right and the girl looked relieved by what I said, but that proves a point. Who wants to be an INFJ? It probably is very easy, just look at people and really see them. Much insight given, especially the process that happens when I "write someone off". I want to happy cry, there are others like me (not many, but still) and it is possible to be understood!
I'd say I wish I had more friends like you, but that would be lying because I really just wish I could find one person to befriend like you haha (also hello, infj here o/ )
Haha. Thank you! We can be friends!
woo! 'u'
That was 35 minutes of non-stop SOLID education, Chad. All I can say is, *YES* 47+x; bravo; thank you!
I also felt like standing up and cheering (and laughed quite a bit while also taking you totally seriously) for your 'INFPs and ISFPs are not sappy pieces of crap' video. God! Was there ever a need for those things to be said.
(There are a ridiculous number of INFPs in my personal life, and quite a few INFJs as well . . . The rampant confusion and misinformation all over RUclips regarding these two types that have so little in common vs. some others has been a mental itch I've been dying to have publically scratched with such vigour.)
Your explanation of predictable tensions and misunderstandings that can often arise between ENTJs and ENFPs and what's behind those was enlightening and made a lot of sense too.
There are many other useful 'big picture' interpretive guidelines you usually (always?) make a point of mentioning in your videos that I appreciate too, but the (in my opinion) 'ENTJ-ishness at its best' exhortation in this one I thought was terrific: to get to know and be proud of the type your dynamic habitual patterns of cognition are most aligned with and then to work at exposing yourself to and developing other capacities that you admire in others rather than wishing you were other than what you are.
Really worthwhile work, well done. There are a lot of agents I've seen contributing thoughtfully to MBTI-related matters, but I'm hard-pressed to think of many who combine thoughtfulness/insight/intelligence/passion AND a very high level of detailed accuracy and competence as concerns the instrument the way you have.
I look forward to hearing more from Trey too.
+Enid F. Patternson - Great compliment! I am glad I can provide somewhat meaningful content. When I do these things, I have to learn to set aside my perfectionism, or my videos would never be done. So thank you, my friend!
as an INFJ, I tend to read rooms of people to solve problems, in general; I will try to help individuals once I connect the problem with the solution. my motto is find a need and fix it.
I think you hit the nail on the head right off the bat. People are hearing about the introverted and empathetic aspects and mainly going off that. There's a couple decent explanations out there that are more detailed. Not sure how to share a link on android, but I think one was titled- The sixteen types: INFJ
And also- Revisiting the sixteen types: INFJ
Think you're quite harsh. Let people think what they are. It is not hurting anyone. I was typed INFJ by the test and it didn't fit. If i didn't do a lot of research and reflecting I wouldn't have found I am a INFP. This just might be me over sensitive (haha) but your attitude isn't helping people getting the courage to see themselves as they are. Because some people have to plough trough shame first (especially INFP). I do appriciate your thorough explanation! just wanted to be a voice for those who mistype themselves, it's not on purpouse it's a defence mechanism or even just a problem of the mbti tests.
I think you misunderstand my intention. People ultimately determine their own type -- not me or anyone else. A lot of people, I believe, found this video rather helpful. Sorry that my tone came off aggressive to you -- clearly not my intention.
Ok good to hear, sorry to misinterpreted!
Thank you! He did come across as condescending in the video and it turned me off to everything else he had to say.
I know I'm an INFJ not just because the tests say so, but because for every video I watch of the type being compared to other types, I always resonate and relate most with INFJs. That door slam is also very true for me - I have no qualms considering those who have wronged me "dead to me". As a youth ambassador in our locality, I am only confident to speak in front of people when I am passionate about what I speak about and it's not a matter of confidence in knowing what to say because I happen to be well-informed, but more of a matter of believing so much in what I say and how it can hopefully resonate with who I am speaking to. I have always been diplomatic with my dealings and it has been an advantage for me working in government, where you have to be able to deal with various personalities from different walks of life. I used to feel like I was "lost" (hence resulting in me doubting if I was an INFP instead) only to find out that I am rather more detached, always (subconsciously) maintaining a safe distance between me and most of the people I deal with outside of my interactions with them. I have been described as cold, distant, and even mysterious. Heck, even before I watched any videos about these types, its an INFJ video that has been recommended to me by RUclips's algorithm.
A sufficiently self aware INFP considers an INFJ to effectively be as dissimilar to them as an ESTP.
Can you help me? Explain a bit more of your comment
Tsha4life I'm an INFP and when I first read the INFJ description I related to none of it. Honestly this makes sense because I see the P as the most definitive trait of my personality.
As an INFJ, I can tell you his description is quite accurate of me. I hold and dedicate my life to continually grow a sort of quantum nugget of golden knowledge within me, whose purpose is to hold all answers and solutions to all human problems, all knowledge of how existence is created, all it’s interrelated parts and generate principles and ideas that hold true and create a solution in all circumstances instantly so that suffering and disharmony will once and for all be extinguished from the face of the earth. I find it pointless to put my energies into something that will only yield short-term results when my contemplative vision and heart is always resting at the very real goal of a perfect union and harmony for all of man-kind. This quantum nugget holds immense power for us INFJ’s and we keep it hidden at all costs, unless we absolutely 100% trust whose hands it will enter into.
Glad you liked the video! and thanks for sharing a lot of your mindset on the topic, you should join our MBTI forum community or MBTI chatrooms! if you have any questions about MBTI you can check us out there. (MBTI chatroom area) mbtv-chat.signup.team/or forum forum.myersbricks.com/
When I first did the test years ago..I was INTJ then I tested as INFJ for some years..then recently I tested as INFP. We are not limited to be one type all our life.
My best friend and I are both INFJs, and that's one perspective of explaining why we're so similar and connected to each other. When we became close, it felt like we had found something very very special, like a gem or something lol. Feeling lucky.
Carl Jung was infj
Yup!
I believe he actually was INTP.
I think he was Intp
I think you nailed it. As an INTJ I too find myself attracted to INFJ's. I can definitely relate to ENTJ's and INTP's, (I think they are both brilliant in their own way)but with INFJ's (the very few I have come across) I feel an immediate connection that must be due to shared Ni. I rarely use the word "feel",but with INFJ's I really do feel a connection that doesn't need analysis.I feel like I can be myself around them. As much as I have been called a perfectionist, I think INFJ's take it to another level. Over the years I have been able to rationalize a realist level of perfection (nothing will ever be absolutely perfect) which has helped me grow. It seems to me that INFJ's are too hard on themselves because of their unrealistic ideal of perfection. Great video.
+Gord Thor - Thanks. And thank you for your perspective. It helps better mold mine.
This is the most comprehensive explanation I have come across about both types.
You're videos are so clear and amazing, thank you for distinguishing and clarifying between the two! A fantastic video on the difference between INFPs and INFJs is Andrew Garfield and Carey Muhlenburg's interview
You are a deep thinker that focuses on efficiency. Could have used you back when I was in the Marine Corps.
I've never heard anyone explain me like you just did(including myself explaining me, to myself).