Rising Above Anxiety: Breaking Free From VICTIM MENTALITY

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  • Опубликовано: 25 мар 2023
  • I've never met ANYONE who suffered from chronic anxiety and didn't see themselves as a victim, including and especially ME.
    For the most part, anxious people were victims of trauma or unresolved emotional pain and our nervous system was trained to be on defense, which will never allow us to heal from anxiety.
    To heal, we must see our victim mentality and go TOWARDS our fears and not retreat from it.
    Thank you for listening.
    You can find me on IG: @theanxietymd if you have any questions.
    P.S I wrote THE book on healing anxiety. It's my life's work so that you don't have to suffer like I did.  
    You can get it here -- www.theanxietymd.com/linkinbio

Комментарии • 82

  • @mayelaz5560
    @mayelaz5560 Год назад +7

    I’d give Dr Kennedy a Nobel prize. No one ever explained all about anxiety so clearly, and with such compassion. Like he really is trying to reach deep inside every listener. Each and every video is full of life changing information. I’m filled with hope. Many blessings Dr. Russ. TY

    • @julianmesiah419
      @julianmesiah419 Месяц назад

      I agree. He is quite remarkable and inspiring and insightfull indeed. So much help from this! Thank you so much

  • @grumblekin
    @grumblekin Год назад +7

    For me, it's health anxiety that's exacerbated by general anxiety. The cortisol and adrenaline keep me from sleeping and cause all sorts of muscle tension that my amygdala interprets as heart issues or stroke or whatever...and that triggers the panic.
    CBT is helping but, when I'm tired at the end of the week, shaky and weak, survival mode gets triggered and the brain decides that it's our last 12 hours left alive and the obsessive, catastrophic thoughts flow. A good night's rest after lemon balm tea clears it up and I am totally OK the next day...until fatigue and tension wear me down for another crisis in a couple of days.
    I am so sick of this cycle.

  • @JerolynJanssen
    @JerolynJanssen Год назад +17

    Truly inspired ! Thank you for showing up today and pushing thru your 'freeze'. I started to get anxious today while 'alone' at the Farmers Market. A little girl by me was so delighted by buying herself a pear, that I grabbed my own pear and reflected how wonderful our pears were going to be. I thought......wait a minute..... I bought a pear for MY inner child, and my anxiety and feelings of aloneness started to subside, and I felt better. I've been doing some self-directed brain re-training. I used to command my limbic system to calm down and not fire off all time. But now I use a softer, understanding mommy tone, and speak more kindly to my protective limbic system, and I think that it's working better to help me find calm.

  • @kdjourney51
    @kdjourney51 9 месяцев назад +2

    Fascinating description of the cascade of events…

  • @carlaangelaferrer5871
    @carlaangelaferrer5871 Год назад +4

    I confronted my victim mentality about a month ago a few weeks after a breakdown where I landed in a mental health ER overnight. Factually my situation is precarious and am facing financial, career instability and some level of housing instability. But I was thrust into this after coming out of straight marriage, so I remind myself I chose this. I could not continue to live someone else's life. Cognitively I know this, but my traumatized child is definitely taking over, and the insomnia and hypertension are almost debilitating. I am practicing showing my traumatized inner child love and compassion thanks to you. Cognitively I am all for moving forward, but am concerned that my body will give out from the physical strain. In any case thank you for this, Doctor, and I hope all is well with your mother.

  • @michellemorkertcoaching6842
    @michellemorkertcoaching6842 Год назад +3

    This is the most powerful straight-talk about victim mentality that I have EVER heard. Thank you for this gift!

  • @IllustriousGroup
    @IllustriousGroup Год назад +9

    You nailed it, Doc! Despite your heavy heart, you shared your wisdom. Thank you so much. Praying for your Mom. 🙏

  • @shiyuanmeng5075
    @shiyuanmeng5075 Год назад +5

    This was life-changing. I had a fight with my boyfriend last night that almost broke us up during which he accused me of constantly playing the victim and making him the perpetrator. I denied it profusely because I thought being a victim meant being powerless, but it can also look like blaming others for your own negative emotions as you mentioned. I suffer from GAD so everything you said checks out, and I'm so grateful that you listed clear action items for coming out of victim mentality and healing anxiety.
    Thank you so much for such an enlightening video as always, your content has been transformative and I hope I can be healed one day like you!

  • @christinalord-authenticact2585
    @christinalord-authenticact2585 Год назад +2

    Thank you for showing up even though you didn’t want to. I hope your Mom is ok. I love the way you share your content scientifically & psychologically whilst including your own personal experience. I have recently found myself defaulting to victim mode as i navigate grief following the death of my Dad last year & having to clear & sell the home I grew up in & move house myself- all whilst trying to rebuild my business. My anxiety at times, has been through the roof. I have found moving my body & cold water swimming helpful, yet the repeated practice required to break the pattern of anxiety can feel exhausting.
    I’m finally feeling like I’m emerging. I’m curious to know your take on how to heal without falling into victimhood during bouts of grief. Thank you again 🙏✨

  • @AtypicalPaul
    @AtypicalPaul Год назад +2

    I hope your mom is doing better now.
    My mom also has asthma. She had a hard time with covid.
    Looking forward to your yoga thing you're working on.

  • @angelahoward3642
    @angelahoward3642 Год назад +3

    Hi from Liverpool UK love your. Videos help me sooooooo much x

  • @MarkGory
    @MarkGory 6 месяцев назад +1

    Dynamite as always. Straight to the point, compassionate and doable. Thank you

  • @jackyfisher7520
    @jackyfisher7520 10 месяцев назад +2

    Hope both your mum & you are doing better 🙏🏼🙏🏼 Thank you for still thinking of us 🫶🏼

  • @josephbaker5965
    @josephbaker5965 9 месяцев назад +1

    4 words. Thank you for sharing. It completely resonates for me dr. Very appreciative 🙏

  • @marilynevert1094
    @marilynevert1094 Год назад +7

    Thank you for this podcast. I’ve been increasingly aware of when I enter victim mentality and your talk today really helped! Your book and all of you posts and podcasts are helping my healing along. And ps. You didn’t seem “off” at all!!

  • @ggbouvier9897
    @ggbouvier9897 Год назад +2

    Hope your mom is doing better and you’re at peace now. Thank you for sharing your knowledge at such a difficult time.

  • @webrina09
    @webrina09 10 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you so much for this talk. Can’t tell you how much this is going to help me. Just what I needed to hear at this time. All the best. 🙏🏼

  • @oscarsalazar8693
    @oscarsalazar8693 10 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you Doc, your words are very inspiring, hope your mom gets well.

  • @godzillamanstreb524
    @godzillamanstreb524 Год назад +2

    ♥️💙♥️💙♥️💙👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻this is so incredibly helpful….I’m going to begin my decluttering today! ty!!

  • @discolissa666
    @discolissa666 Год назад

    Thank you for all your words of hope

  • @quely1977
    @quely1977 Год назад +1

    Thank you for being a great example of freeing from the victim. Wish all the best with your mom. ❤

  • @olgacotto7915
    @olgacotto7915 Год назад +3

    Always enjoy listening to your videos. Thank you.

  • @msz6228
    @msz6228 Год назад +1

    Thank you for your work 🙏you are help a lots of people

  • @suesun328
    @suesun328 Год назад

    So glad you did this video…it’s exactly what I needed to hear/learn today, as I juggle so many issues, all of which you mentioned in this vid🙌🏼😃..thank you 💞

  • @constancenorris3931
    @constancenorris3931 Год назад +2

    Thank You for Your Unbelievably Timely Gift.

  • @hope2757
    @hope2757 Год назад +2

    God bless, praying for you Doctor 🙏🏽

  • @juanmalugan
    @juanmalugan 3 месяца назад

    Thank you so much for all your work Russel, you are so open a honest about your humanity, that helps me to be more compassionate and loving to myself, I do not anyone on youtube to be so vulnerable. All blessings for you Dear brother

  • @CanarianReggie
    @CanarianReggie Год назад

    Thank you very much, Russell. This is really helpful to me. I really apreciate you making these videos. I hope your mother is getting better 🙏♥

  • @SarahVagedes-bt3gh
    @SarahVagedes-bt3gh Год назад +1

    Thank you!

  • @tmmt1107
    @tmmt1107 Год назад

    Thank you very much for whole your videos. You videos was an aye opener for me. After 20 years I realized what I have a panic attack again. I am working now with self therapy based on IFS system

  • @alexadelroy5522
    @alexadelroy5522 27 дней назад

    This is just the BEST! You made a great decision to do the talk today!

  • @judiruthmeredith6427
    @judiruthmeredith6427 Год назад

    Truth spoken here from a deep understanding of the issue. Thank you for this - so helpful.

  • @MrJoeytony
    @MrJoeytony 9 месяцев назад +1

    That's good stuff. Very helpful. Thank you.

  • @empowered123
    @empowered123 Год назад

    Thank you for sharing valuable information I can surely use personally and share with my clients!!❤

  • @kayer3374
    @kayer3374 Год назад

    I’m healing thank you❤️

  • @gailemmerson4082
    @gailemmerson4082 Год назад

    Yoga nidra.. bring it on.
    You are a blessing!

  • @laurakopu8970
    @laurakopu8970 Год назад

    Thank you. I hope your mother is better.

  • @homenhungry4987
    @homenhungry4987 Год назад

    Thank you for explaining this. I am grateful to you, doctor.

  • @AtypicalPaul
    @AtypicalPaul Год назад

    Movement is very helpful.

  • @AtypicalPaul
    @AtypicalPaul Год назад

    So much truth.

  • @michwav
    @michwav 2 месяца назад

    Thank you

  • @gailemmerson4082
    @gailemmerson4082 Год назад +1

    Sooo wonderful you are!
    Thx !😂

  • @lumwong7237
    @lumwong7237 8 месяцев назад

    Amazing video and you are a wonderful guy who helped us so much ❤ Dr Russ, is different parts of alarm equals to different ages of our childhood with diff trauma?? 😊 appreciated so much

  • @samsacres225
    @samsacres225 Год назад

    I hope your mom feels better soon❤

  • @morningdevotionswithnickpe436
    @morningdevotionswithnickpe436 Год назад

    This is powerful

  • @kiwicatnip
    @kiwicatnip 2 месяца назад

    I want to speak with as much conviction as you some day

  • @AtypicalPaul
    @AtypicalPaul Год назад

    I found The polyvagal theory very interesting. I did the safe and sound protocol

  • @pannitalmadge7464
    @pannitalmadge7464 8 месяцев назад

    ty

  • @Ranukuwarchadana
    @Ranukuwarchadana 2 месяца назад

    Best dr. Love form india

  • @youtubeokay5769
    @youtubeokay5769 Год назад +1

    The physiological symptoms of anxiety is unbelievable

  • @johnjude2402
    @johnjude2402 Год назад +3

    Mushrooms containing psilocybin saved my life. The aided my benzodiazepine withdrawal allowing me to quit illicit pill addiction after three years of heavy daily use before it would had became medically dangerous to quit. It has also helped me survive depression.

    • @timkenndy
      @timkenndy Год назад

      Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source out here

    • @ellaaysun
      @ellaaysun Год назад

      @@timkenndy I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety due to work stress. Not until I came across dradolfpetter: a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly

    • @ellaaysun
      @ellaaysun Год назад

      @@timkenndy You can check him out on. 👇🏻

    • @ellaaysun
      @ellaaysun Год назад

      I G

    • @woolmanangela
      @woolmanangela Год назад

      @@ellaaysun does dradolfpetter ship?

  • @gailemmerson4082
    @gailemmerson4082 Год назад

    Whew.
    I’m stuck trying to reach the sub cortical. It still hurts

  • @imonkamrul3843
    @imonkamrul3843 Год назад

    Sir i Don't know how to thank you...may allah gives you more knowledge. I wish i could work with you as assistant.. I studied in pharmacy..

  • @kadagirl1
    @kadagirl1 4 месяца назад

    From another video but I tried looking for my ALARM at 4 am with anxiety. I thought I felt it and held onto it. It didn’t feel good but I continued to try. 2 hours later when I got up I had MAJOR anxiety. I don’t understand 😢

  • @sammathews6634
    @sammathews6634 Год назад

    Is the yoga nidra trying to address any particular chakra?

  • @catcatcatt1
    @catcatcatt1 Год назад

    Thank you for being here even though you are carrying weight today.

  • @AtypicalPaul
    @AtypicalPaul Год назад

    I am terrified of traffic and being away from my house. I've tried so so much but I get such crippling panic attacks. I'm so stuck physically/mentally

  • @gailemmerson4082
    @gailemmerson4082 Год назад

    How do you dialogue while in terror mode of the worst kind,
    all the while moving forward

  • @kevindougherty1669
    @kevindougherty1669 Год назад

    When I find that child, it's painful! I experience the pain again, like I'm living it...help!

  • @ronaldalvarez4898
    @ronaldalvarez4898 Год назад

    How do you deal with trauma caused by religious indoctrination in being fearful to all powerful god? Some of my anxiety comes from that trauma of not being good enough to god, always falling short in sin. Also regarding moving, my anxiety causes me to always be on the move. It is difficult to stay still and just relax.

  • @gailemmerson4082
    @gailemmerson4082 Год назад

    Where is the Yoga Nidra??
    Thanks in advance 🐰

  • @gailemmerson4082
    @gailemmerson4082 10 месяцев назад

    Yoga nidra?

  • @gailemmerson4082
    @gailemmerson4082 Год назад

    Yoga nidra ready Dr.Kennedy?❤

  • @gailemmerson4082
    @gailemmerson4082 Год назад

    Put love in the dark room where the dark stuff is?

  • @darcyb6678
    @darcyb6678 Год назад

    What if we never became a “competent adult?” What if we spent our entire life in fear?

    • @theanxietymd
      @theanxietymd  Год назад +1

      We all have ELEMENTS of competence. Focus on what you CAN do. ❤️

  • @naturelover1284
    @naturelover1284 Год назад

    having trouble being cornered by a posing wife who needs to sift through my family and smirk or make me feel like a chump, because her identity is mrs. jones....she is a the new workplace bully.

  • @youtubeokay5769
    @youtubeokay5769 Год назад

    What a likeable guy