Mirror his level of attantion YESSSSS WELL SAID. ALWAYS WORKS. I sometimes I move into masculine energy and I see him losing interest a bit, so I quickly go back into my feminie energy and it always, always works, sometimes takes more time, sometimes just one day and everything is back to normal again. I've been single for a long time and in my day life I'm very much in my masculine energy and it's hard for me to lean back with men. In work, around my friends Im always the one who inittiate's contact, fix things and etc.
Yet another awesome video Helena! You've answered many of my worrisome questions right here. I Wish more ladies discover your channels. You rock! Thank you 😍
I feel women can be WAY to pushy with men I’m sorry but it’s true, at the end of the day if a man wants you he wants you , you can’t make him WANT you, have a listen to George Michaels “I can’t make you love me” RIP GEORGE 😇😇
Mirroring is a game tho. If he calls more or less than you want him too. You're being inauthentic if just because he is calling more or less you do the same.
No, it's putting in the same amount of effort he is. If he is putting in effort than great, if not, than, I will do something else. Why would I want to give energy to someone who is giving me nothing? I may like him but I won't bend over backwards for him to notice me. Even in nature that is the man's job. The female chooses the man because he is supposed to be courting you. This is all if you want a masculine man and are feminine woman. But this works for people in general.
sarah chambers yes, in the end, it is your choice. While the man is the one who paces the relationship, the woman chooses to accept it and his treatment. It's either yes or no to tolerating what he is giving or doing. But in the end, the choice is yours.
DarkennedFlower Sometimes energy won't match. Why can't he match my energy? It's not always up to the man and vice versa. If I have to mirror or match his energy that is inauthentic. If he didn't call I should be able to call. And if he is calling and I become busy, he should be mature enough to understand. If you have to mirror a man, be might not be into you. When a man wants he it's no wrong you can do in his eyes. The hunter hunts, be doesn't have to be mirrored.
You are brilliant!!!!! Truly I have been researching to hear the words that spark a real feeling in me. You! Yes you said words that I would say if I had a channel. Thank you so very much. Thank you I am literally in tears with relief. This is the very first time I ever really wanted to leave a comment to reveal how appreciate the advice.
This site is prolly the most “realistic” view on relationships. I don’t like the brad browning and ones like that. This is by far my favorite relationship advice site. She always hits my situation head on, and the advice she gives always works.
Full complete life out of him... What if you built up a business together and you spent most of your time with him?! When he's pulled away, you are totally lost without his support or help...
My boyfriend makes me feel like I'm the only person around when I'm with him. I only get to see him on the weekends right now. When we are apart he text me good morning gorgeous every morning, and then it's quiet the rest of the day. He doesn't even reply to my text until hours later. Then it's short replies. I'm not getting a good feeling about it. What are your thoughts?
This situation is same with me but i know he is not cheating on me the thing is tha he want to talk less ...this is so painful situation for me becoz i want to talk more and he want less
I can't understand why if we only get to see each other on the weekends is it ok to just say good morning and not speak anymore. I want to get to know him better if the relationship is going to go anywhere. I don't understand how he can go all day and not say anything. I talked to him more and even video chatted when he was deployed for 6 months overseas. It doesn't make sense to me. I wish I could understand it or I just knew if something is going on. ugh.
My exbf has a new live in gf that did the opposite of everything you said to do. He had a choice to get back with me or let her move in with him after only knowing her 7 weeks. She's removed her 17 yr old daughter from school with a month yet of school and dumped her 21 autistic son off on the son's dad that didn't marry her. She's asked my exbf to marry her 4 days after they met, she's driven to see him every time a 2 hrs drive and bought his food and cooks etc. She's been there every week for several days a week and ended up losing her job. So now will be living with him. He's also been seeing me, having sex with me for the last 3 weeks. I found out she's moving in and now am furious and not playing this game. Just wondering why it worked for her so well. He was with me for 7 years but I refused to move in with him or be dependent on him. What a way to live. Sad.
I kinda agree with most of this , keep your guard up and let him give himself first and if he doesn’t then maybe he’s just not that into you, but rule is keep him on his toes..............till u got that ring on your finger 😂😂👌
What about if you've broken up... I was hoping to get more advice about making a guy miss you when you're not already together... what about when you've returned the stuff to each other? We have no mutual friends so won't run into one another ...
I've been with my partner years and this is weird. We didn't have to do that even when we didn't live with each other strange. People are jealous of our relationship of how we are with each other he's the first to say no she won't want that. We know everything about each other don't even have to ask if we are alright. We know what each other wants.
Thank you for your advice.. very helpful.. but now what do i do?? I heard this after the fact..ive been talking to someone long distance for about 3 yrs. Now off and on and when we tlk again we usually pic up where we left off. We know we absolutely love each other. But close to end of last mnth. he just out of the blue stopped responding and not amswering calls or text. At all.. things were fine.. i really have no idea what happen. Then the other day i posted something really nice on fb and it really was directed towards him but w/o me saying so. And i guess he picked up on it and liked my post. But i have yet to hear from.him? So i sent him a message. And nothing yet. What should i do now?
My good man friend/soon to be boyfriend ,texted me he would be right back n then neva got back to me til 11am next day. Didnt say anything about it til I asked him why . is it bad idea to ask y n tell him he is wrong ?
Coincidentally I have done this naturally he came back also always but at last I got to know he was only there to use me ...was out using me for his interest..what's the say on this dear kindly guide
This is excellent Helena. But I have a question: How can I make him miss me if we've had had moments of negative emotions after the ones of positive emotions so now he hasn't been into me so much anymore and not leaning forward? Just disappear and wait? (I see him at the gym everyday though, he has been saying just hi)
Disney Gamer love it! Thank you! But I actually just said sorry on whatsapp and we exploding chatting after that. After I said sorry he started a lot of conversation and now he wants to see me. :) (yes, I made lots of mistakes. Was too anxious and became proud too. And he said I was crazy many times because of that). I acted pushy, clingy, jealous, everything you can image because he didn't want to be my boyfriend.) But I know he likes me a lot so I couldn't understand it and got confused. He just need to go slow cause he suffered a lot in the past.
You're very welcome:) Actually glad that made sense lol. Girl, don't even worry about how you act, I'm in a LDR and because of both our pasts we both did the same thing. That was 3 years ago. :) It will even itself out, just try to be patient and communicate that's really a huuge thing to learn. It will be ok. I'm glad you made up quick
Do I started seeing this really nice guy and we had several really positive dates but apparently our becoming physically intimate backfired and I’m not sure why. I could even sense afterwards that something shifted in him and I was feeling secure in myself and took note the way he departed very abrupt with a quick peck on the lips and he told me he would text me. I instinctively knew that I wasn’t going to hear from him. It’s been over a week and nothing. I’m barely picking up on his vibes too. I don’t feel it’s appropriate for me to reach out. I’m willing to cut my losses but I’m confused and should he ever call later how do I respond???
I feel like I lost the guy I really wanted to be with. Even when he said I was his total crush and fantasy since he was a kid, I have a feeling he may have just wanted 1 thing because once I sent him an angry text after not hearing him for a few weeks he's been avoiding me. And, we're neighbors. Should I apologize for being so abrasive?
Believe me I never thought taking revenge etc in life but this time it's sumthing big he fooled my mother etc and according to him feemales are to use ..so I won't to teach him a lesson for life in a polite manner so that he should'nt do this with anyone again
Mirror his level of attantion YESSSSS WELL SAID. ALWAYS WORKS. I sometimes I move into masculine energy and I see him losing interest a bit, so I quickly go back into my feminie energy and it always, always works, sometimes takes more time, sometimes just one day and everything is back to normal again. I've been single for a long time and in my day life I'm very much in my masculine energy and it's hard for me to lean back with men. In work, around my friends Im always the one who inittiate's contact, fix things and etc.
Keep him guessing by marrying someone else ;)
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Yet another awesome video Helena! You've answered many of my worrisome questions right here. I Wish more ladies discover your channels. You rock! Thank you 😍
I feel happy whenever I have distanced myself & won't be available
just take it slow , sometimes it,s better to see if you will be friends first.
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I feel women can be WAY to pushy with men I’m sorry but it’s true, at the end of the day if a man wants you he wants you , you can’t make him WANT you, have a listen to George Michaels “I can’t make you love me” RIP GEORGE 😇😇
Thank you for sharing your knowledge and insights on relationships. Blessings.
Mirroring is a game tho. If he calls more or less than you want him too. You're being inauthentic if just because he is calling more or less you do the same.
I'm starting to mirror him now. If he text then i'll text back a couple hours later like he is doing me.
No, it's putting in the same amount of effort he is. If he is putting in effort than great, if not, than, I will do something else. Why would I want to give energy to someone who is giving me nothing? I may like him but I won't bend over backwards for him to notice me. Even in nature that is the man's job. The female chooses the man because he is supposed to be courting you. This is all if you want a masculine man and are feminine woman. But this works for people in general.
I haven't thought of it in that perspective. Thank you for making me a little wiser.
sarah chambers yes, in the end, it is your choice. While the man is the one who paces the relationship, the woman chooses to accept it and his treatment. It's either yes or no to tolerating what he is giving or doing. But in the end, the choice is yours.
DarkennedFlower Sometimes energy won't match. Why can't he match my energy? It's not always up to the man and vice versa. If I have to mirror or match his energy that is inauthentic. If he didn't call I should be able to call. And if he is calling and I become busy, he should be mature enough to understand. If you have to mirror a man, be might not be into you. When a man wants he it's no wrong you can do in his eyes. The hunter hunts, be doesn't have to be mirrored.
Very well put together video, and very informative! Thank you!!!
You're welcome Autumn! We're happy that this video resonates with you:)
You are brilliant!!!!! Truly I have been researching to hear the words that spark a real feeling in me. You! Yes you said words that I would say if I had a channel. Thank you so very much. Thank you I am literally in tears with relief. This is the very first time I ever really wanted to leave a comment to reveal how appreciate the advice.
Following Helena Hart’s advice will get you the ring. 💍
I love your video! I learned a lot from thanks!
This site is prolly the most “realistic” view on relationships. I don’t like the brad browning and ones like that. This is by far my favorite relationship advice site. She always hits my situation head on, and the advice she gives always works.
Aw thank you Kellz! We're so happy to learn that you found your channel!
Full complete life out of him... What if you built up a business together and you spent most of your time with him?! When he's pulled away, you are totally lost without his support or help...
I have a lot of compassion for your situation, I know that feeling.
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Positive experiences☺️Great advice!
How long do I wait for him to reach back again? Waiting makes me frustrated.
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This made me feel so much better! 💕🖤
We're pleased to hear that!
so are you saying, if he’s not communicating with you. then don’t call and find out why?
Yet another awesome video thanks
My boyfriend makes me feel like I'm the only person around when I'm with him. I only get to see him on the weekends right now. When we are apart he text me good morning gorgeous every morning, and then it's quiet the rest of the day. He doesn't even reply to my text until hours later. Then it's short replies. I'm not getting a good feeling about it. What are your thoughts?
sarah chambers listen to your gut. My ex use to be the same way. He was cheating. The whole time.
My gut is telling me this is what is happening also. He keeps his phone on silent and never pulls it out around me.
This situation is same with me but i know he is not cheating on me the thing is tha he want to talk less ...this is so painful situation for me becoz i want to talk more and he want less
I can't understand why if we only get to see each other on the weekends is it ok to just say good morning and not speak anymore. I want to get to know him better if the relationship is going to go anywhere. I don't understand how he can go all day and not say anything. I talked to him more and even video chatted when he was deployed for 6 months overseas. It doesn't make sense to me. I wish I could understand it or I just knew if something is going on. ugh.
Is it your new relationship
Real gems! Thankyou
My exbf has a new live in gf that did the opposite of everything you said to do. He had a choice to get back with me or let her move in with him after only knowing her 7 weeks. She's removed her 17 yr old daughter from school with a month yet of school and dumped her 21 autistic son off on the son's dad that didn't marry her. She's asked my exbf to marry her 4 days after they met, she's driven to see him every time a 2 hrs drive and bought his food and cooks etc. She's been there every week for several days a week and ended up losing her job. So now will be living with him. He's also been seeing me, having sex with me for the last 3 weeks. I found out she's moving in and now am furious and not playing this game. Just wondering why it worked for her so well. He was with me for 7 years but I refused to move in with him or be dependent on him. What a way to live. Sad.
Sunny Daye ugh. She sounds hideous
I kinda agree with most of this , keep your guard up and let him give himself first and if he doesn’t then maybe he’s just not that into you, but rule is keep him on his toes..............till u got that ring on your finger 😂😂👌
Maria F a man will want you, marry you and still cheat.
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If you say so 🙄
What do u do when just wants to text only I like hear his voice I fuss he gets mad
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What about if you've broken up... I was hoping to get more advice about making a guy miss you when you're not already together... what about when you've returned the stuff to each other? We have no mutual friends so won't run into one another ...
Ask in our community... facebook.com/groups/goddesscommunity/
Love it!
I've been with my partner years and this is weird. We didn't have to do that even when we didn't live with each other strange. People are jealous of our relationship of how we are with each other he's the first to say no she won't want that. We know everything about each other don't even have to ask if we are alright. We know what each other wants.
Thank you for your advice.. very helpful.. but now what do i do?? I heard this after the fact..ive been talking to someone long distance for about 3 yrs. Now off and on and when we tlk again we usually pic up where we left off. We know we absolutely love each other. But close to end of last mnth. he just out of the blue stopped responding and not amswering calls or text. At all.. things were fine.. i really have no idea what happen. Then the other day i posted something really nice on fb and it really was directed towards him but w/o me saying so. And i guess he picked up on it and liked my post. But i have yet to hear from.him? So i sent him a message. And nothing yet. What should i do now?
Hmm. You could keep posting things on Facebook and see if he keeps liking them, and then start a conversation after that. :)
Keep yourself busy
how do you create a positive exp when he has already pulled away?
Very helpful
nice teaching
Why would my ex miss me when he got everything he wanted in the divorce?
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My good man friend/soon to be boyfriend ,texted me he would be right back n then neva got back to me til 11am next day. Didnt say anything about it til I asked him why . is it bad idea to ask y n tell him he is wrong ?
Coincidentally I have done this naturally he came back also always but at last I got to know he was only there to use me ...was out using me for his interest..what's the say on this dear kindly guide
Simmi Chopra everybody uses each other for their interests if they aren't interested then they don't deal with u at all
This is excellent Helena. But I have a question: How can I make him miss me if we've had had moments of negative emotions after the ones of positive emotions so now he hasn't been into me so much anymore and not leaning forward? Just disappear and wait? (I see him at the gym everyday though, he has been saying just hi)
I would Wave and then go and do your thing. If he passes by definitely make eye contact and smile ( so he knows your not mad).
Disney Gamer love it! Thank you!
But I actually just said sorry on whatsapp and we exploding chatting after that. After I said sorry he started a lot of conversation and now he wants to see me. :) (yes, I made lots of mistakes. Was too anxious and became proud too. And he said I was crazy many times because of that). I acted pushy, clingy, jealous, everything you can image because he didn't want to be my boyfriend.) But I know he likes me a lot so I couldn't understand it and got confused.
He just need to go slow cause he suffered a lot in the past.
You're very welcome:) Actually glad that made sense lol. Girl, don't even worry about how you act, I'm in a LDR and because of both our pasts we both did the same thing. That was 3 years ago. :) It will even itself out, just try to be patient and communicate that's really a huuge thing to learn. It will be ok. I'm glad you made up quick
Disney Gamer Thank you! What is LDR?
Long distance relationship
Wht if already there are lots of negative experience
You have to flip it around, reframe it.
Same goes with men that play games.
Hi Helena, are u from California?
Ok
Do I started seeing this really nice guy and we had several really positive dates but apparently our becoming physically intimate backfired and I’m not sure why. I could even sense afterwards that something shifted in him and I was feeling secure in myself and took note the way he departed very abrupt with a quick peck on the lips and he told me he would text me. I instinctively knew that I wasn’t going to hear from him. It’s been over a week and nothing. I’m barely picking up on his vibes too. I don’t feel it’s appropriate for me to reach out. I’m willing to cut my losses but I’m confused and should he ever call later how do I respond???
Loralie Cataldi yea cut it :) either he’s playing or he’s not interested. Clearly he’s just a manipulative child with orgasmic needs.
I feel like I lost the guy I really wanted to be with. Even when he said I was his total crush and fantasy since he was a kid, I have a feeling he may have just wanted 1 thing because once I sent him an angry text after not hearing him for a few weeks he's been avoiding me. And, we're neighbors. Should I apologize for being so abrasive?
never text first
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Not true. A guy will get turned off of you eventually acting like that because he'll feel like you don't really want to talk to him.
what am saying is dont chase men , and i dont do that my self.
i only said that because i have seen girl be too easy , not me girl i knew .
but now days i just seek friendship
I disagree
I'm frustrated he's going too slow..
Believe me I never thought taking revenge etc in life but this time it's sumthing big he fooled my mother etc and according to him feemales are to use ..so I won't to teach him a lesson for life in a polite manner so that he should'nt do this with anyone again
Simmi Chopra I support you. I am very anti-narcissistic users and delivering their karma.
I don't even want to talk about him.missing me.
Put a spell on him
Sandy Randolph lol
Sandy Randolph How?? :)
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I tried that
yea there,s more i want to do , classes .
One more thing can I get your email to tell u details as it's personal don't feel like sharing here
You play that to much he is going to dust you off . Be real . a lot of guy will give up on you if you play to many games .
okfrostman well that’s the first thing she said: be authentic.
Read a book
My dear men are very terrible too terrible
Wow... (Do them a service and) Keep away from them then.
Oh please. .your advice just isn't current..
There is no formula!!!
Of course it's current!
This is very helpful! Thank you!❤
You're welcome!