As a man if you don't have a woman in your life who truly loves you and looks up to you, life will get mundane. Even if you're an ambitious guy in even if you go and sleep with a bunch of women that will also eventually get boring. Its not about having someone to complete you, it's simply the biological imperative of a man.
After achieving my real estate goals i have realized that the important things are the pleasure in small things, a walk in nature, eating your favorite food at home, sleeping well and be grateful i am alive and healthy, flamboyant eccentric feelings wears off fast. I won't be able to take my houses with me when I die...
Hey Steven, as others have already said. Having kids will give you a different level of fulfillment. You've already achieved financial success, but once you have children, you'll feel like every day has a purpose. Monica and I didn't want to have any more children after we had our first daughter because she was putting us through so much as a teenager but we needed up getting pregnant again and had our son when our daughter was 15. Every day that he is around is a special day for us. I don't think anyone really understands this feeling until they actually have a child of their own. So, get to it man, you don't want to be in your late 40s or early 50s when you have your first child.
Thanks for sharing Jason ! Kids are definitely in the horizon after my wedding so would have my 1st kid in 2 years around 36ish which is why we are priorizing travel heavily right now . My next chapter is coming soon 🙏!
I watched your entire video entitled “I achieved my net worth goal. Now I am bored”, and maybe I missed it, but I never heard you state what your net worth goal actually was. I listened to you talk about the boredom you feel about having achieved professional success, financial success, and real estate related success, and how after you reached the peak of your learning curve in each endeavor, you had an “I’m bored, now what?“ sensation, but I never really heard you articulate any actual goals. Let’s stick with your net worth goal, since that is ostensibly the subject of this video. Do whatever everybody else does. Once you achieve a goal that you never thought you could achieve, raise the bar, elevate the goal, and strive for that. Although you didn’t say this explicitly, if your net worth goal was $6.2 million, and you achieved it in what appears to be your early to mid 30s, then you underestimated yourself and set your goal to low. Make your goal $60 million instead of $6 million and strive for that, you are clearly on the right path. Just keep doing more of what you’re doing and see how quickly you can get to 60M. Regarding children, with the habits thatyou’ve developed, and the path that you’re on, affording children will not be much of a challenge. If you want a challenge, then when your children arrive, quit your job and devote your full-time and attention to raising them up to being high functioning, contributing members of society. We are put on this earth to reproduce, so throw yourself into child rearing and you may find yourself experiencing the most fulfilling endeavor of your life. My kids are now young adults and if I could’ve afforded to quit my job when they were young and devote 100% of my time to teaching them, exposing them to enriching experiences, and raising them up, I would’ve gleefully done so. To address your point more directly, yes, I’m sure you actually are bored. You have attained many unachievable goals at an early age and it is because of your skills, your intellect, your focus, and your self-discipline that you have achieved them . The problem is that you achieved them more easily than you ever thought you would or could. Now, in retrospect, it all feels so easy. I suspect the reason it all feels so easy and that you feel so bored is that you did not set your goals high enough. While most people will never achieve a fraction of what you have achieved, you clearly have unique abilities and skills, so to live a fulfilling life, you have to raise the bar, elevate your goals, and challenge yourself to do things that you think are not possible. The fun and excitement will come from discovering that they are possible.
Thanks for sharing your wisdom! My net worth is around 6.2 million and I probably did aim too low in retrospect. 6 million felt impossible when initially setting it, but as my skills/knowledge compounded, I achieved it much easier than originally anticipated. Time to aim higher without burning myself out along the way.
In my opinion this is kind of a side effect of having financial stability/success. A lot of people reach this part in life but it usually happens later in life. When you a older you probably don`t feel like doing much anyways so its little easier to just relax most days. Getting there when you are this young can amplify the boredom part. It reminds me of Mark Cuban when he retired at 30 and then un-retired few years later because he was bored. You have to really enjoy doing nothing to retire at such a young age or have huge life long hobbies of some type. In terms of having kids its a series of joy, fulfillment, stress, unhappiness, and massive lack of time. It will definitely make your life more interesting but make sure to have them for the right reasons. People in the comment section telling you to have kids because you are bored is just bad advice. Don`t forget being bored is actually good for you according to research.
Don’t wait for kids. A) You won’t know if either of you will have issues with fertility. B) the earlier you have kids the earlier you will have freedom and independence later in life C) the joys of having kids will completely change your perspectives on life. D) every year you get older it becomes harder to become a new parent. Have them while you are young and you can fully enjoy and keep up with them.
What I would tell you not to do is join law enforcement, reserve or active. It's so much BS, it'll change your entire perception on humanity. This is coming from personal experience as an active LE officer. I'm currently in the Army Reserve right now, and feel very satisfied. Like you, I built a very good nest egg, I have multiple rental properties in the Barstow and Antelope Valley areas.
First of all I Iove your channel. I waisted too much time focusing in building wealth and decided to not have kids,now I want to have kids but my wife can't. Also I'm still not achieve my financial goal. Do not waist the chance to be a father like I did.
Hi Steven! Ran across your channel. You and I have had very similar journeys except I'm in tech. One thing that I've done that has been really helpful is to take a mini-retirement every 4-5 yrs.. yes, very un-Asian of me 😆. I take 3-6 months off to do completely different things and usually in a completely different country. This gives me space to think and reflect and also just try new things and reach goals I've set for myself. It takes a bit of courage to make the leap but maybe you can give that a try. Mini-retirement #4 is coming up soon for me!
Thanks for sharing ! I've considered that but have golden handcuffs of a good job in a good location which may be my limiting belief. I have considered doing contract jobs for 6 to 12 months then take time off after before the next contract.
I def understand how difficult it is to throw off the golden handcuffs ..esp so, when you grow up in a poor immigrant family. Huge emphasis on money and security. It's something I've been working to shed for the last 20 yrs. We all know this but there's a huge diminishing return on the next dollar after you reach a certain amt of $. Time though becomes more scarce. I've loved my breaks and oddly enough, I've made even more money after each hiatus. From your track record, you're someone that can achieve whatever it is he wants. If you took time off, you'd come back and continue right where you left off or maybe even level up.
Genuine question: why don't you quit your W2 job? It seems like you are in a financial position to do so. Maybe having more time to focus on real estate or find a different business venture that makes you excited could help?
Perhaps, have you thought about joining the military? I'd look into the Army Reserves as an officer and go civil affairs. Get selected to go to some cool guy schools such as Airborne, Air Assault, Mountain, Jungle, etc. All of this as a Reserve officer for the Army Reserve.
Stephen, you might consider taking time to travel and spend time with your fiancé before the kids get here. Once they’re here they will go to school and stability and your time and freedom may be limited. Once their kids are grown you may have elder care responsibilities …. Maybe look at a global real estate investor and now may be a good time to travel and invest if you’re bored ….
I try to travel internationally at least twice a year and more local as often as possible . COVID did take away a few travel years from me in my early 30s sadly .
You’ve certainly conquered a lot of big milestones for your age. You want a new challenge lol Get into tech entrepreneurship or investing. Either founding, cofounding, or angel investing
travel around the world - you won't be bored
It is my goal to increase my travels this year
As a man if you don't have a woman in your life who truly loves you and looks up to you, life will get mundane. Even if you're an ambitious guy in even if you go and sleep with a bunch of women that will also eventually get boring. Its not about having someone to complete you, it's simply the biological imperative of a man.
And personal capital is defunct, you can't use it since December 2023 :)
Once I dated my girlfriend now fiance, my life, mindset, and health significantly improved so I completely agree
After achieving my real estate goals i have realized that the important things are the pleasure in small things, a walk in nature, eating your favorite food at home, sleeping well and be grateful i am alive and healthy, flamboyant eccentric feelings wears off fast. I won't be able to take my houses with me when I die...
Thanks for sharing and I am definitely enjoying the smaller things in life !
Hey Steven, as others have already said. Having kids will give you a different level of fulfillment. You've already achieved financial success, but once you have children, you'll feel like every day has a purpose. Monica and I didn't want to have any more children after we had our first daughter because she was putting us through so much as a teenager but we needed up getting pregnant again and had our son when our daughter was 15. Every day that he is around is a special day for us. I don't think anyone really understands this feeling until they actually have a child of their own. So, get to it man, you don't want to be in your late 40s or early 50s when you have your first child.
Thanks for sharing Jason ! Kids are definitely in the horizon after my wedding so would have my 1st kid in 2 years around 36ish which is why we are priorizing travel heavily right now . My next chapter is coming soon 🙏!
You are waiting too long to have kids especially with this kind of net worth. Once you have kids, you will never be bored again.
Very true! Why I'm trying to travel and do as much as I can before kids
I watched your entire video entitled “I achieved my net worth goal. Now I am bored”, and maybe I missed it, but I never heard you state what your net worth goal actually was. I listened to you talk about the boredom you feel about having achieved professional success, financial success, and real estate related success, and how after you reached the peak of your learning curve in each endeavor, you had an “I’m bored, now what?“ sensation, but I never really heard you articulate any actual goals. Let’s stick with your net worth goal, since that is ostensibly the subject of this video. Do whatever everybody else does. Once you achieve a goal that you never thought you could achieve, raise the bar, elevate the goal, and strive for that. Although you didn’t say this explicitly, if your net worth goal was $6.2 million, and you achieved it in what appears to be your early to mid 30s, then you underestimated yourself and set your goal to low. Make your goal $60 million instead of $6 million and strive for that, you are clearly on the right path. Just keep doing more of what you’re doing and see how quickly you can get to 60M.
Regarding children, with the habits thatyou’ve developed, and the path that you’re on, affording children will not be much of a challenge. If you want a challenge, then when your children arrive, quit your job and devote your full-time and attention to raising them up to being high functioning, contributing members of society. We are put on this earth to reproduce, so throw yourself into child rearing and you may find yourself experiencing the most fulfilling endeavor of your life. My kids are now young adults and if I could’ve afforded to quit my job when they were young and devote 100% of my time to teaching them, exposing them to enriching experiences, and raising them up, I would’ve gleefully done so.
To address your point more directly, yes, I’m sure you actually are bored. You have attained many unachievable goals at an early age and it is because of your skills, your intellect, your focus, and your self-discipline that you have achieved them . The problem is that you achieved them more easily than you ever thought you would or could. Now, in retrospect, it all feels so easy. I suspect the reason it all feels so easy and that you feel so bored is that you did not set your goals high enough. While most people will never achieve a fraction of what you have achieved, you clearly have unique abilities and skills, so to live a fulfilling life, you have to raise the bar, elevate your goals, and challenge yourself to do things that you think are not possible. The fun and excitement will come from discovering that they are possible.
Thanks for sharing your wisdom! My net worth is around 6.2 million and I probably did aim too low in retrospect. 6 million felt impossible when initially setting it, but as my skills/knowledge compounded, I achieved it much easier than originally anticipated. Time to aim higher without burning myself out along the way.
In my opinion this is kind of a side effect of having financial stability/success. A lot of people reach this part in life but it usually happens later in life. When you a older you probably don`t feel like doing much anyways so its little easier to just relax most days. Getting there when you are this young can amplify the boredom part. It reminds me of Mark Cuban when he retired at 30 and then un-retired few years later because he was bored. You have to really enjoy doing nothing to retire at such a young age or have huge life long hobbies of some type. In terms of having kids its a series of joy, fulfillment, stress, unhappiness, and massive lack of time. It will definitely make your life more interesting but make sure to have them for the right reasons. People in the comment section telling you to have kids because you are bored is just bad advice. Don`t forget being bored is actually good for you according to research.
I def agree about having kids to cure boredom is bad advice!
Thanks for sharing your wisdom! I am leveraging this period of boredom to self-reflect and see how I want to pivot.
You mentioning your high accountability is a great great asset.
I hold myself to the highest standard and highest level of accountability which does help me grow a lot
Don’t wait for kids. A) You won’t know if either of you will have issues with fertility. B) the earlier you have kids the earlier you will have freedom and independence later in life C) the joys of having kids will completely change your perspectives on life. D) every year you get older it becomes harder to become a new parent. Have them while you are young and you can fully enjoy and keep up with them.
Thanks for sharing ! Kids definitely on horizon within 2 to 3 years
What I would tell you not to do is join law enforcement, reserve or active. It's so much BS, it'll change your entire perception on humanity. This is coming from personal experience as an active LE officer. I'm currently in the Army Reserve right now, and feel very satisfied. Like you, I built a very good nest egg, I have multiple rental properties in the Barstow and Antelope Valley areas.
Thanks for sharing !
You are close to having kids. After that, you will be super busy with plenty of purpose :)
That's the plan!
First of all I Iove your channel.
I waisted too much time focusing in building wealth and decided to not have kids,now I want to have kids but my wife can't.
Also I'm still not achieve my financial goal.
Do not waist the chance to be a father like I did.
Thanks for the advice and support !
Hi Steven! Ran across your channel. You and I have had very similar journeys except I'm in tech. One thing that I've done that has been really helpful is to take a mini-retirement every 4-5 yrs.. yes, very un-Asian of me 😆. I take 3-6 months off to do completely different things and usually in a completely different country. This gives me space to think and reflect and also just try new things and reach goals I've set for myself. It takes a bit of courage to make the leap but maybe you can give that a try. Mini-retirement #4 is coming up soon for me!
Thanks for sharing ! I've considered that but have golden handcuffs of a good job in a good location which may be my limiting belief. I have considered doing contract jobs for 6 to 12 months then take time off after before the next contract.
I def understand how difficult it is to throw off the golden handcuffs ..esp so, when you grow up in a poor immigrant family. Huge emphasis on money and security. It's something I've been working to shed for the last 20 yrs. We all know this but there's a huge diminishing return on the next dollar after you reach a certain amt of $. Time though becomes more scarce. I've loved my breaks and oddly enough, I've made even more money after each hiatus. From your track record, you're someone that can achieve whatever it is he wants. If you took time off, you'd come back and continue right where you left off or maybe even level up.
You should talk to Ramit Sethi.
I would love to . Any connection to him ?
Genuine question: why don't you quit your W2 job? It seems like you are in a financial position to do so. Maybe having more time to focus on real estate or find a different business venture that makes you excited could help?
Mid-life crisis! Every guy gets it around this age! Having kids will change everything!
Hahah very true!
always be grateful of what you have.
100%
Perhaps, have you thought about joining the military? I'd look into the Army Reserves as an officer and go civil affairs. Get selected to go to some cool guy schools such as Airborne, Air Assault, Mountain, Jungle, etc. All of this as a Reserve officer for the Army Reserve.
Thanks for sharing ! I don't think that's for me right now
Stephen, you might consider taking time to travel and spend time with your fiancé before the kids get here. Once they’re here they will go to school and stability and your time and freedom may be limited. Once their kids are grown you may have elder care responsibilities ….
Maybe look at a global real estate investor and now may be a good time to travel and invest if you’re bored ….
I try to travel internationally at least twice a year and more local as often as possible . COVID did take away a few travel years from me in my early 30s sadly .
If you don't have faith, life is pointless. Kids won't change that. If you seek God's will for your life, it will change forever.
Definitely have been listening to more spiritual/philosophical podcasts lately. Seems to be the natural progression after wealth building.
🤔get married and have children and enjoy them while you’re young best thing to happen to me ❤
Very true !
You’ve certainly conquered a lot of big milestones for your age. You want a new challenge lol
Get into tech entrepreneurship or investing.
Either founding, cofounding, or angel investing
I am from the bay area but unfortunately didn't do computer science as a major like my classmates . Maybe as I progress will get into private equity
dude reached end game.
Indeed
Get your pilot's license, it's pricey but you definitely won't be bored.
I'd be too scared to fly constantly sadly
get hobbies
Most definitely!
Maybe be you need some excitement from your tenants, it's eviction time. 🤣
I've had enough excitement from evicting tenants !
Man have you ever gotten a diagnosis for adhd? Cuz this is exactly how I feel and I have adhd lol. I constantly need stimulation.
If I don't have adhd, I'm at least highly functional. I don't think I have adhd
@ never hurts to go get tested, even if its mild. Your symptoms are exactly what I had and then I got tested. Turns out I have adult adhd lol.
Man u have $6.8M, why are you worried about money so much now? You have guaranteed income almost more than your regular income. can take a sabbatical
Very true!
You should probably get a hobby. Boating or traveling. You should probably try to enjoy your life instead of complaining about being bored
Very true !
Get a hobby like restoring classic cars. Build a car you like
Not as into cars at least right now . Good suggestion
This is something we all can relate to. I recomend you listen to a podcaster named Rob Dial. He changed my life for the better.
Thanks for sharing!