To the beautiful soul from the end of pile two who's trying to understand her shadow side and anger issues... My last relationship brought out my shadow side. I'm 51 and had never seen my angry, distrustful toxic side until I dealt with a narcissist. But now, in hindsight, I'm so grateful I have gotten to know the dark side of myself. I now know what sort of life and relationship is good for me, I understand my triggers and it really put me in touch with my inner child and childhood traumas. I know all of myself and it's all beautiful. And always remember that anger is just a symptom of unprocessed pain... Your anger is just trying to protect you. Be gentle with yourself. And to Jess... Thank you so much for your readings, your wisdom and your beautiful light. You are a blessing to those of us who are lucky enough to find you. And Jess... Would you mind passing my comment on to the person you were talking to at the end of pile 2? Thank you ❤😊
I'm on the verge of 45. I finally walked away from the narcissist I was seeing on and off for 4 yrs. It's been just 2 weeks and he's beginning to lash out online and play pity party "I'm all alone". Well...I've been in love and alone for 2yrs. He got what he said he wanted. But now, at 45, I'm feeling uncertain about my future. I don't want what I just had. But I don't want to be alone the rest of my life. I'm trying to decide what my next steps are. What do I do? Is there even hope for romance, or I'm over ripe? If he ever tries to get me back, he's going to have demonstrated change and maintain it. I just know I can't waste another year on this man. What do I do?
Don't waste your 40s in a toxic relationship. My 40s while I was single were the best years of my life. And then I spent 4 years with a narcissist and I feel like he drained me of what was left of my youth and vitality. I'm out of the relationship now, at 51, but I feel like I have a mountain ahead of me to restore my health and energy to previous levels. You can find love st any age. You really can. But years you waste your beautiful self in a toxic situation can't be gotten back. Please don't make the same mistake I did. I have found happiness now again, single at 51. Life can be so wonderful. Sending you love and peace 🌸
I am pile 1 and 3 the job situation came out again. I didn’t expect it to. I’m still processing things. My narcissistic family of origin is what made me a vibrational match to that work environment in the first place. I am completely examining my beliefs and what I have been influenced by in my youth. Shadow work has been happening 24/7 for me over here.
Yup. Pile 3 at ex employer. Discrimination for my disability and retaliation, I called it out to a round table of upper management that dismissed it until my attorney guided me through that hell. Trauma i had to work through for this past yr. They blatantly lied on official documents etc I almost went homeless in the time it took for resolution, health deteriorated to life threatening point. My license requires integrity. I was outperforming the people I was compared to. Residual stress Im so ready to release
Pile 1-2 resonated Im just sticking to myself all alone in this harsh earth. I have to learn to keep on walking with faith and no fear. As to many people will never take their time to really really love me. I have to love myself more and not expect of others
Pile 1 - my dad did just passed and that family is my husband's family. Everything resonates... thank you for validating my feelings and emotions, too. 😢
Thank you so much Jess. I initially selected pile 1, with 2 a close second. I listened to all 3 and found golden gems of resonance within each. Thank you for all that you do.
Pile #2 - He lost me because of gross mistreatment: lies, deception, third party, triangulation, gaslighting, devaluation, manipulation, selfishness, etc., and he still expected me to love him! He must have thought I had a slave mentality because I treated him so well. He mistook kindness for weakness. What an idiot!!
pile 2: I don't know who this is; i dont think i could have come up with such a person.... You are right about EVerything (unfortunately). In detail even. Thank you for the closure, i needed that!
Pile 2 hit the nail on the head for me in terms of describing a person and situation from my past that I have recently started dreaming about that prompted me to be confused as to why. If he does miss me then you described 100% how I felt, feel and why and what happened. 😖 is how I feel about reconnecting LOL
I can relate to 1,2,3, but I got confused about the last part.. the illuminated person that was an angel...sent? I BLOCKED EVERYONE I thought was betraying me...
3. Yes it makes sense! Omg the lord of the rings situation is exactly it! This hypocritical man was trying to make my friend an enemy to herself. I brought in the light and air in the situation. You are a genius Jess, don’t forget it! Ty 💓
Pile 3😮 is my situation with my ex the worst is over and I'm rebuilding myself, but I had to put an non haresment order in place ( living on a small island) smalle community.
Yep the one… gives me the super ick now. Exactly as you said, cheated and I don’t know really what happened, but I knew enough to just walk away. He just acts like nothing happened. He’s blocked and I have zero interest in ever giving him another minute of my time. I’m snarky and cynical too (but fortunately not full of mucous- thank God for small mercies eh? 😅)
Pile 1. Yes, thank you Jess!! 🎃🎃🎃 I was introduced to a new co-worker who is from a foreign country. This coworker decided she would become my "Mother" and insisted I refer to her as such. I thought it was a cultural difference so I allowed it (some cultures all older women are referred to as auntie/mom/etc.). But then she became super pushy and wanted to keep tabs on me and would get upset if I didn't update her on my life. I felt so uncomfortable and unsafe.
Pile 2 resonated, except I have no strong love for this person anymore. I can’t have love for someone who treated me so poorly. They were highly abusive. Beside the unfaithfulness, she deeply insulted me, smeared my name and bullied me. She is always "working" on it. She'll say anything to get back in good graces, but I'm not falling for it. She wants to act like I was the bad guy here, I am disgusted with her behaviour honestly. She would never go to therapy, I tried to get her to go but she just laughed at it behind my back. Her choice, I guess.
#3 it always feels like that Star Trek where their trying to find the real Captain Kirk 😎 Grey rock, Grey rock, Grey rock... they will expose themself and anyone stupid enough to believe them are not people someone wants to know or to associate with
Whole fam/friends group who just ignored that I’ve been basically held prisoner with a baby and two other children by financial and emotional abuse while my narc ex was all over town. People kind of knew but no one helped me. Today is his brother’s child’s christening and I declined the invite because I left my ex and blocked him and got on with my life. Our whole fam was at their last child’s christening… and it’s going to be embarrassing for him for us not to be there today. People will be asking questions. I also just moved on with life… started painting again and my self portrait “free” was a finalist in a portrait prize. It was quite public. 😂 A lot of people got in touch and discovered the truth of what’s been going on. It didn’t fit with his slanderous narrative at all. I just kept working- did more gigs publicly. He’d been telling people I wasn’t working and he was supporting me (when the truth is he’d been living off us and keeping us in poverty). The truth will come out. I know I don’t need to say anything. I just need to keep being myself. He tried to replace me with a lawyer chick (who is awful alcoholic like him, witchy, manipulative, schemey). They will mess themselves up with no help from me. Ha I just have to give them enough rope.
woooow, pile 1, i got domestically assaulted by my sisters husband. he choked me an body slammed me on the floor. and then after this whole thing, they continued to go to his aid when he was sick. he's dead now. yeah, they dont care how it affected me, although i told them how it hurts me, i will never trust them again.
100% Lol Yo--- This had JT all over in- on the DL- we broke up because the girl who he was hooking up with said she was pregnant- and his mother lords over him ... merciless. All those 7 of swords- rings- flamboyant- fast slick talker- my new person IS the make up for this tragedy- and yeah- it could have been the notebook- but now it's just a post it note
If you were watching this if you are watching what I am watching and speaking to her I hear you If you want to straighten out what will be the final straw call
28:12 YES!!! 29:04 if they won't check themselves or clean up their mess then I don't need the additional trauma 30:00 HELL YES very superficial. You can't just keep f@#&ing people over. Always casually put me down.
OK, so I listened to yesterday's Dr. K (so love his youtube) on female bullying and was thinking do I need to do some self review as I have eyerolled especially in my comments on this #3 person's decades of smear campaign tactics and behavior, I have shared some eyeroling emoji on a comment on your video that I was commenting on this behavior that has been over decades and will likely take decades for them to even consider correcting themself... has my eyerolls made me a bully? And the meditative thoughts that popped up is if I have some eyerolls after decades of fraudulent smear campaigns and outright theft as I comment on enough already??? Eyerolls don't make me a bully.
pile 1: started dating a guy and this sounds like his family...even with him sometimes his positivity seems so superficial...its like we're constantly saying "thats awesome!" and "that's nice" but something about it feels wrong? and im an Aries sun Sag moon so I usually am the one always being positive!!!!! But i have way too much scorpio to be able to exist in a family like this without being targeted :\
1:46:00 looool so true sis! 2:01:00 2:06:00 2:10:00 2:16:30 exactly 2:18:50 inheritence indeed, that sweet little me is so true 😂 he loves playing chess and thought he could predict me lol 2:25:00 2:30:00
Sadly pile 2 is true😞 hilariously they said they we should get married the last time we had a hook up which was likely the last time we will connect ✨💛💙💛✨
Pile 1. The reading is not correct, because ten of cups or ten of pentacles energy is being interpreted as " my family". Of course in many cases that will be your cliënts family, but it doesn't have to be. It could be the family unit of a person your dealing with. Just as the emperor or empress doesn't have to be my father or mother...could be the other person coming through father or mother, or they are a father or mother. So that makes it hard to listen and decipher the reading when it's being told as " my family ". In my case, I was in a relationship with a man who hid his family from me...his wife. Whole other perspective...it describes how his family functions and judges me. I got out as soons as I found out his lies and deceit.
Jess you are an absolute delight of a human being. Stop beind hard on yourself
Love you for getting angry for me! This is pure love energy. I feel healed ❤ you know me so well.
To the beautiful soul from the end of pile two who's trying to understand her shadow side and anger issues...
My last relationship brought out my shadow side. I'm 51 and had never seen my angry, distrustful toxic side until I dealt with a narcissist. But now, in hindsight, I'm so grateful I have gotten to know the dark side of myself. I now know what sort of life and relationship is good for me, I understand my triggers and it really put me in touch with my inner child and childhood traumas. I know all of myself and it's all beautiful.
And always remember that anger is just a symptom of unprocessed pain... Your anger is just trying to protect you. Be gentle with yourself.
And to Jess... Thank you so much for your readings, your wisdom and your beautiful light. You are a blessing to those of us who are lucky enough to find you.
And Jess... Would you mind passing my comment on to the person you were talking to at the end of pile 2? Thank you ❤😊
I'm on the verge of 45. I finally walked away from the narcissist I was seeing on and off for 4 yrs.
It's been just 2 weeks and he's beginning to lash out online and play pity party "I'm all alone".
Well...I've been in love and alone for 2yrs. He got what he said he wanted.
But now, at 45, I'm feeling uncertain about my future. I don't want what I just had. But I don't want to be alone the rest of my life.
I'm trying to decide what my next steps are. What do I do? Is there even hope for romance, or I'm over ripe?
If he ever tries to get me back, he's going to have demonstrated change and maintain it. I just know I can't waste another year on this man.
What do I do?
Don't waste your 40s in a toxic relationship. My 40s while I was single were the best years of my life. And then I spent 4 years with a narcissist and I feel like he drained me of what was left of my youth and vitality. I'm out of the relationship now, at 51, but I feel like I have a mountain ahead of me to restore my health and energy to previous levels.
You can find love st any age. You really can. But years you waste your beautiful self in a toxic situation can't be gotten back. Please don't make the same mistake I did.
I have found happiness now again, single at 51. Life can be so wonderful.
Sending you love and peace 🌸
I am pile 1 and 3 the job situation came out again. I didn’t expect it to. I’m still processing things. My narcissistic family of origin is what made me a vibrational match to that work environment in the first place. I am completely examining my beliefs and what I have been influenced by in my youth. Shadow work has been happening 24/7 for me over here.
Yup. Pile 3 at ex employer. Discrimination for my disability and retaliation, I called it out to a round table of upper management that dismissed it until my attorney guided me through that hell. Trauma i had to work through for this past yr. They blatantly lied on official documents etc I almost went homeless in the time it took for resolution, health deteriorated to life threatening point. My license requires integrity. I was outperforming the people I was compared to. Residual stress Im so ready to release
Thanks!
Offices of Trust must be cared for by people who have Earned Trust
Pile 1-2 resonated Im just sticking to myself all alone in this harsh earth. I have to learn to keep on walking with faith and no fear. As to many people will never take their time to really really love me. I have to love myself more and not expect of others
Pile 1 - my dad did just passed and that family is my husband's family. Everything resonates... thank you for validating my feelings and emotions, too. 😢
Thank you so much Jess. I initially selected pile 1, with 2 a close second. I listened to all 3 and found golden gems of resonance within each. Thank you for all that you do.
Son’s reaction to our relationship broke us up because they couldn’t handle the reaction to our relationship
Being human IS super weird! Thanks Jess ❤
Pile #2 - He lost me because of gross mistreatment: lies, deception, third party, triangulation, gaslighting, devaluation, manipulation, selfishness, etc., and he still expected me to love him! He must have thought I had a slave mentality because I treated him so well. He mistook kindness for weakness. What an idiot!!
Pile 2. Go in peace, sir. and keep going.
pile 2: I don't know who this is; i dont think i could have come up with such a person.... You are right about EVerything (unfortunately). In detail even. Thank you for the closure, i needed that!
Wilma marks...hi Jess..I find your communication style to be very very. Ph d. Style .your so intelligent..so articulate..I luvvvv your readings❤❤❤❤
That's what they did literally! They went and told on me to my mommy and then my mommy went and told on me to them.
Come on now let's grow up family.
Wow pile one is exactly my family and October 7th I had to move back in with them. But I just got flown to Texas to work a job for 2 weeks
Def worried about having them around my kids.
Not them trying to gift me a pebble -pile 2 😂
Thank you for this reading, Jess. It resonated big time with an unbelievable clarity.
He chose himself, i chose myself. He said he didn't deserve me, he's right. I walked away.
Pile 2 hit the nail on the head for me in terms of describing a person and situation from my past that I have recently started dreaming about that prompted me to be confused as to why. If he does miss me then you described 100% how I felt, feel and why and what happened. 😖 is how I feel about reconnecting LOL
I can relate to 1,2,3, but I got confused about the last part.. the illuminated person that was an angel...sent? I BLOCKED EVERYONE I thought was betraying me...
Me too blocked pile 3 :) she davro me in the beginning of the year saying I was isolating her when I told her I was going to school.
Wow
Everything resonates
Pile 2 my ex love
Pile 1 my mom
Pile 3 my professional life
I am so grateful for the clarity and laughs!!!❤ thank you 🎉
2 Thank you! ♥️♥️♥️ true.. will let him do that
3. Yes it makes sense! Omg the lord of the rings situation is exactly it! This hypocritical man was trying to make my friend an enemy to herself. I brought in the light and air in the situation. You are a genius Jess, don’t forget it! Ty 💓
Pile 3😮 is my situation with my ex the worst is over and I'm rebuilding myself, but I had to put an non haresment order in place ( living on a small island) smalle community.
Yep the one… gives me the super ick now. Exactly as you said, cheated and I don’t know really what happened, but I knew enough to just walk away. He just acts like nothing happened. He’s blocked and I have zero interest in ever giving him another minute of my time. I’m snarky and cynical too (but fortunately not full of mucous- thank God for small mercies eh? 😅)
I have a round bowl that looks like a crystal ball. i put fortune cookie and yogi tea messages in and glow in the dark rocks
Pile 1. Yes, thank you Jess!! 🎃🎃🎃 I was introduced to a new co-worker who is from a foreign country. This coworker decided she would become my "Mother" and insisted I refer to her as such. I thought it was a cultural difference so I allowed it (some cultures all older women are referred to as auntie/mom/etc.). But then she became super pushy and wanted to keep tabs on me and would get upset if I didn't update her on my life. I felt so uncomfortable and unsafe.
Pile 2 resonated, except I have no strong love for this person anymore. I can’t have love for someone who treated me so poorly. They were highly abusive. Beside the unfaithfulness, she deeply insulted me, smeared my name and bullied me.
She is always "working" on it. She'll say anything to get back in good graces, but I'm not falling for it. She wants to act like I was the bad guy here, I am disgusted with her behaviour honestly. She would never go to therapy, I tried to get her to go but she just laughed at it behind my back. Her choice, I guess.
Wilma marks. I luvvvv your scarf❤
#3 it always feels like that Star Trek where their trying to find the real Captain Kirk 😎
Grey rock, Grey rock, Grey rock... they will expose themself and anyone stupid enough to believe them are not people someone wants to know or to associate with
Whole fam/friends group who just ignored that I’ve been basically held prisoner with a baby and two other children by financial and emotional abuse while my narc ex was all over town. People kind of knew but no one helped me. Today is his brother’s child’s christening and I declined the invite because I left my ex and blocked him and got on with my life. Our whole fam was at their last child’s christening… and it’s going to be embarrassing for him for us not to be there today. People will be asking questions.
I also just moved on with life… started painting again and my self portrait “free” was a finalist in a portrait prize. It was quite public. 😂 A lot of people got in touch and discovered the truth of what’s been going on. It didn’t fit with his slanderous narrative at all. I just kept working- did more gigs publicly. He’d been telling people I wasn’t working and he was supporting me (when the truth is he’d been living off us and keeping us in poverty).
The truth will come out. I know I don’t need to say anything. I just need to keep being myself.
He tried to replace me with a lawyer chick (who is awful alcoholic like him, witchy, manipulative, schemey). They will mess themselves up with no help from me. Ha I just have to give them enough rope.
woooow, pile 1, i got domestically assaulted by my sisters husband. he choked me an body slammed me on the floor. and then after this whole thing, they continued to go to his aid when he was sick. he's dead now. yeah, they dont care how it affected me, although i told them how it hurts me, i will never trust them again.
Pile 2. Dead seriously dead on
Anything is possible...but I do not want to 😂😂😂
I AM LEO ❤ TYSM from Austin, TX
100% Lol Yo--- This had JT all over in- on the DL- we broke up because the girl who he was hooking up with said she was pregnant- and his mother lords over him ... merciless. All those 7 of swords- rings- flamboyant- fast slick talker- my new person IS the make up for this tragedy- and yeah- it could have been the notebook- but now it's just a post it note
PILE ONE AND PILE THREE . PLEASE AND THANK YOU.❤❤❤
Pile 3 1000% in both family and love lol amen and followed
Pile 2, wish they would just communicate with me ❤ I am tired. 😪
1:08:04 any lessons you learned after you’ve hurt me and I healed it is for you and your next person. Good luck and goodbye.
Anti-alchemists. 😂 I love this channel.
If you were watching this if you are watching what I am watching and speaking to her I hear you If you want to straighten out what will be the final straw call
Love you, Jess!!! 👏🏼🙌🏼❤️
Thank you 🙏
😂😂F🤬 the shrimp! You know that was ad libbed right?
Must be my Gwatamalayness.😂
Seriously, it’s so on the money! Wow
oh my God!! This is him I need to speak to him I need to speak to him please!
26:44 My kids call my mom, "Nana" 🤨 and this resonates
Half brother and sister much older, both Scorpio. Same father. I’m Virgo, Gemini Ascending with Scorpio moon.
28:12 YES!!!
29:04 if they won't check themselves or clean up their mess then I don't need the additional trauma 30:00 HELL YES very superficial. You can't just keep f@#&ing people over. Always casually put me down.
Pile 3: nailed it. He’s abusive and narcissistic
OK, so I listened to yesterday's Dr. K (so love his youtube) on female bullying and was thinking do I need to do some self review as I have eyerolled especially in my comments on this #3 person's decades of smear campaign tactics and behavior, I have shared some eyeroling emoji on a comment on your video that I was commenting on this behavior that has been over decades and will likely take decades for them to even consider correcting themself... has my eyerolls made me a bully? And the meditative thoughts that popped up is if I have some eyerolls after decades of fraudulent smear campaigns and outright theft as I comment on enough already??? Eyerolls don't make me a bully.
pile 1: started dating a guy and this sounds like his family...even with him sometimes his positivity seems so superficial...its like we're constantly saying "thats awesome!" and "that's nice" but something about it feels wrong? and im an Aries sun Sag moon so I usually am the one always being positive!!!!! But i have way too much scorpio to be able to exist in a family like this without being targeted :\
No one? dang it 😅🦋🦄
1:46:00 looool so true sis! 2:01:00 2:06:00 2:10:00 2:16:30 exactly 2:18:50 inheritence indeed, that sweet little me is so true 😂 he loves playing chess and thought he could predict me lol 2:25:00 2:30:00
Sadly pile 2 is true😞 hilariously they said they we should get married the last time we had a hook up which was likely the last time we will connect ✨💛💙💛✨
The interviewer for the job offer I just got he is British lolll so the English accent is fitting
Gold into Shit = Reverese Rumplestiltskin 🤣🤣🤣
#1 thank you
Pile 1. The reading is not correct, because ten of cups or ten of pentacles energy is being interpreted as " my family". Of course in many cases that will be your cliënts family, but it doesn't have to be. It could be the family unit of a person your dealing with. Just as the emperor or empress doesn't have to be my father or mother...could be the other person coming through father or mother, or they are a father or mother. So that makes it hard to listen and decipher the reading when it's being told as " my family ". In my case, I was in a relationship with a man who hid his family from me...his wife. Whole other perspective...it describes how his family functions and judges me. I got out as soons as I found out his lies and deceit.
Pile 3
Def a master manipulator 🤮
Ex wife has them on a leash
Chilequele
✨🙏🏼💯
Shashuka
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Does anyone know Matthews RUclips channel name(the one she mentioned in the video) ?
Thanks!
Thanks!