Melanie Fiona- It's Time To Tell The Truth (uncut)
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- Опубликовано: 16 май 2016
- This is my birth story and my initial feelings on motherhood.
I hope this helps anyone out there who's ever felt isolated or alone.
Empowering women... one truth at a time.
I Love You.
Thanks for watching.
xo
I was washing clothes last night and I stopped in mid fold and started crying out of gratitude for my 3 children. I was grateful that I could stand in my home, in my laundry room, with my 17 year old in the next room in school and the sounds of my younger 2 playing outside and my husband walking through the hallway. The gratitude washed over me in a deep wave. 3 children, with 3 very different childbirth stories. As your son grows all of your feelings will continue to grow along with him but 1 thing will remain the same, the overwhelming love you have for him. congrats and enjoy the journey.
This made me tear! I'm not a mommy yet, but this is really beautiful.
+ILOVETOLOVEYA :-)
Wow I'm not a mommy yet but this was written so beautiful. As if everything was just slow motion
+Jessica T thanks sis :-)
this was a beautiful advice. God bless your fmly.
Beautiful Melanie. Some days I just wake up and look at my children, and not only am I in awe of them, but myself. How POWERFUL I feel to be a CREATOR, to be a VESSEL. If you think deep on it, its overwhelming and can bring you to your knees and tears.
YES!!!!
+Felicia Holden (Get Real With Fee) How amazing WE are. Thanks for watching xo
so muchly agree, but sidebar, whoever disliked this video doesn't have a brain
TRUTH !!!!!👍💞💜
absolutely!
I'm so confused over the negative comments. Melanie is being honest here and some of yall either aren't mothers or are mothers who believe that every mother should be the same way or react the same way. This was her experience and her feelings so why does your opinion matter? I'm crying my eyes out cause this was very brave of her to post this. If you don't like it, just leave and watch another channel.
I was thinking the same thing. How dare someone dislike it and then leave negative comments. Smh.
Yeah, I don't get the negativity either.
Some people are just hateful...smh.
I guess some people like to hide behind the keyboard, and never realize that their opinions really don't matter. if you have to say something bad about a person, that tells you ,that person has issues and are trying to keep you from paying attention to their faults and short comings. I applaud her for her honesty and passion for what she went through. We as women need to stick by each other instead of continuously tearing each other down.
Serinity Gold 👏👏👏👏 *EXACTLY*
This video was so real. You do feel isolated after having a child. Theres no handbook or anything. You just feel like someone just dropped off a kid and said 'okay here, bye' and you just use instinct to get thru it. Loveddddd this vid melanie
Sickness
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FIRST IMPRESSION...GIRL THE CAMERA AND LIGHT!!! YOU DID IT RIGHT!!! OKAY...back to watching
+Shan BOODY Ha! I tried! I learned from the best!! #Boody xo
+Melanie Fiona Agreed! Beautiful! What camera do you use?
I don't know for sure, judging from the size of the sensor and where shes sitting in respect to the camera, framing, auto focus, color, etc... I believe its the Canon 7D. Ms. Melanie, please let me know if I'm right.
+John Doe I am specifically looking for the lense as well*
Canon EF 50mm
I don't have children yet...but I really felt your story...a lot of women don't talk about the scary side of pregnancy and childbirth...but my hat's off to you for your courage to tell your story in all of its rawness...and you're so beautiful...even when you're crying.
I didn't know she had a baby! Congrats sweety. Stay beautiful and stay strong. You've been blessed with the most precious gift in the world.
I felt the same way, when you made the comment about feeling like someone gave you a baby & told you to take care of it. I didn't feel like my daughter was mine, I have no connection or love for her but I took care of her because I knew that's what I had to do. It took me about 3-4 months to start feeling some sort of love towards her. It was nothing she did, it was all me. Fast forward, a year a half, I love her more than anything. I got a bit teary eyed, at you mentioning a child's love being overwhelming. Your creation looking back at you, that was beautiful.
That was postpartum depression. It is very real for some women who give birth. It was nothing you did or that you did anything wrong. Congrats to you.
Thank you for sharing- I experienced this with my second child.
It took me 10 days to connect with my daughter 💕
I loved every minute of this Beautifully told and very raw and candid birth story! As a nurse I want you to understand that having a C- section is not a sign of weakness. Carrying the baby, laboring and then getting to the home stretch is an amazing feet within itself, but when it comes down to the life and death of the mother and fetus- we all root for LIFE. We want all of our moms and babies to walk out of the hospital healthy and happy, regardless of the passageway the little baby had to come through to get here. I also endured 3 long brutal days of labor, only to be told in the end that my baby's oxygen was compromised and he was physically in distress while tolerating the labor process. Birth is a beautiful experience as well as motherhood, and yes for some moms it takes a while to process and adjust to living life with this precious little baby out of the womb. Your hormones are all over the place, you're bleeding, you're healing from major surgery, and breastfeeding, all the while this little baby looks to you for love, comfort and attention. MOMs are amazing in every sense of the word and I didn't quite understand it until I had my own son.
As a nurse with 13 years of L&D experience, I totally agree with you! I had the same thoughts while watching :-)
+Kendra 😀 Great and compassionate Nurses think alike!
I'm a resident OBGYN and as a woman and mother-to-be... I have plans. Alot of plans and by working in a labour ward every do often I see that the labour process is so unpredictable and having to have a caeserian section is something that alot of women don't expect. post part depression starts on our watch. I scared and excited all at the same time
I've been an L&D nurse for 12 yrs and have had unexpected near death complications myself even with all my knowledge. I experienced a uterine rupture immediately after a vaginal delivery ended up with a 5 hr surgery to save my life under general anesthesia , 14 units of blood and platelets and intubated 2 of the 5 days I had to stay in the ICU. Besides my son having a heart condition that we knew prior to his birth requiring several surgeries to prolong his life, I was perfectly healthy. Home births seem like a beautiful idea until something unpredictable goes wrong and goes wrong quickly. I am grateful to be here to raise my children. Having a natural birth does not make you a better woman or mother. Making the safest/selfless decision for your health. life and innocent little one is what makes you a woman/mother. My point is even with all the education you may have going in to having a baby. the complications are to unpredictable to take a chance at losing your or your baby's life.
+CoilyCurls79 that's a scary and incredible story. I'm glad you're okay. Question, I hope I'm not appearing rude. Did you have the rupture after VBAC just wondering what could have caused it bc id like one if I had more kids
I too had preeclampsia, which turned into HELLP syndrome. My son was born at 37 weeks and 6 days and I had no idea how sick I really was. My preeclampsia wasn't diagnosed until 37.5 weeks and I was diagnosed with HELLP the day I delivered him. I had to have an emergency C-section under anesthesia, in an operating room that my husband wasn't allowed in to (he had to watch from the other side of a glass window). Following delivery, I had to have 2 blood transfusions, I was on magnesium for 24 hours to reduce the risk of a seizure, and I was in the hospital for 6 days. I thank God for getting both of us out of it safely and I appreciate my doctor and hospital staff for being so knowledgeable and reacting so fast and making all the right moves. It's a miracle babies make it into this world - our bodies go through so much to get them here. Honestly, sometimes I feel so far removed from that experience - it's hard to believe it even happened to me. Videos and testimonies like this help bring me back and reflect on how blessed I am to have my son in my life, and to still have my life. Thank you for the video Melanie. It's so inspiring and I hope it reaches the masses to make more people aware of preeclampsia, HELLP syndrome (even though you didn't have that), and what to look out for.
+honiedip HD OMG my birth story is the exact same I almost died from help syndrome!! our stories are similar even down to the anesthesia and magnesium. that was hardest pain in my life. nice to meet someone who knows my pain! glad your better now
Thanks! You too. It was definitely a hard recovery - but I was surprised by how well I bounced back. My son's 18 months old now...it's such a distant memory. Sorry you went thru the same...these babies sure know how to make an entrance, huh?! lol.
you're so strong
I don't get why your husband wasn't allowed in. I had c-section, & not only was he allowed in but he took photos & all
+Felicia Reese
**my husband got to take photos & was allowed in
That feeling that you're body has failed you, man that was the hardest for me
wooowww. I thought I was the only one who felt that disconnection, depression n cried all the time n I didn't even know why I was crying w/my first baby. looking@ all the comments it seems very common. This should be a conversation that our Dr.s need to have w/ us when we get pregnant as they're checking us @ the Dr.s office. I did get better but I never got help. I was too scared to tell my Dr. scared they may try to take my baby or something cuz mentally unhealthy. Thanks for sharing.
I had same feelings when I had my daughter. I felt disconnected and I felt like omg I have this life to take care of. It was so scary. Doctors should warn pregnant mothers prior they have a baby about post partum depression
Awwww ...I had a miscarriage in march my first time ever being pregnant n I still want the experience I'll go through whatever to become a mother and experience that miracle of life ....thankx 4 sharing ur journey Melanie I know it wont be easy but its motherhood ..your story gave me things to consider
I'm sorry.
+ladieessence thankx boo Im trying again asap now that I had a small taste of it I want it sooooo bad I wont be discouraged we gone try harder now ..o (Hemolytic Disease of the Newborn ) and the anti kel virus in my blood from transfusions is what happen
DeDe Callahan God's timing is best. He will prepare your body for a beautiful health baby in no time.
+Laqwanna Franklin aaaaaawww thank you soooo much I just cant wait to see those two positive lines again that initial shock is amazing I didnt know if I should scream cry or run lol but yes I will stay strong n in prayer n be patient thank u doll😚
Get back on the horse.
I loved you as an Artist but I Love you even more for being a genuine beautiful person! You made me cry remembering what I went through giving birth to my daughter. Thank you for sharing your most inner deepest thoughts and I pray you continue to find the New Beautiful Woman you are designed to be.
Thank you soooooo much for sharing. When I had my child in 1971 post partem depression was not a diagnosis, but today I know I suffered it. 🙋🏽👊🏽👏🏾🙌🏾🙏🏿☮
this story definitely touched me because a few years back I gave birth to my 1st and only son whose name was also Cameron and he was diagnosed with acrania where his skull didn't fully develop and he ended up dying a few hours after I gave birth to him. for the longest I blame myself I blame the doctors for not noticing soon enough but now I understand that everything happens for a reason and took me awhile to move forward I don't think you ever truly heal from something like that but it's good to share our truth because you never know what other mothers are going through.
might I add I carried him for the full 9 months and pushed him out held him after he was cremated and his ashes and never let it go but the whole entire labor was a depressing moment knowing what was going to happen at the end was definitely heartbreaking being injected with needles and emotions up and down but I swear the glimpse of his face put a permanent smile on my heart
+Bianca Dort You're a strong woman. So sorry for your lost.
you're very strong. god bless you.
How heartbreaking...my heart and prayers go out to you-even now. So sorry that you had to endure and go through that tremendous amount of sadness and grief.
So sorry for your loss. I'm praying for you, stay encouraged. Your story is empowering to so many others who also may struggle with the loss of a precious child. Please continue to share you amazing story with others. You are a fighter, the toughest battles are given to those who can endure and become stronger.
Moms are a blessing, motherhood ain`t easy but you are all capable of it all.
I so needed this. I 5.5 months and am on bedrest. I was fit, have 2 masters degrees, taught in public school and college, ate uber healthy and here I am watching people who didn't work that hard stroll around at 8 months. I am happy for them, but I feel like a failure at times. I pray that God helps me to carry this lil one till the end and I'm laying here for the next...even if I go crazy, lol. I just needed to know that I wasn't crazy for feeling weak. I will put my career on hold for my lil one as well and it's during a time of momentum, but what you said is so true. I can't miss out on him for a career. Nothing trumps this responsibility and gift. I am sorry that you experienced what did. I am so happy that you are finding your sweet spot in it. I am just so grateful for your testimony. We are not alone.
I pray that God blesses u!
+Kladija Daniels Thank you so much!
With God all things are possible, Matthew 19:26 and Luke 1:37. Whatever you go through in life at the end of the day, God's glory will always be revealed. He can never leave you nor forsake you Tan Year! Romans 8:31.
God bless.
I get what you're saying but girl your degrees/career have nothing to do with the biological function of having a baby. and having pregnancy complications doesn't make you a failure. that's a very masculine way of approaching pregnancy and it isn't gonna help you. having a baby is a feminine thing and you need to tap into your feminine energy not masculine energy. no need to be anxious. relax, stop worrying, and visualize a successful birth.
+Stephanie Mina Amen! Thank you! Thank you for sharing His promises and comfort.
I had c section and it was the best decsion, my son cried, he looked beautiful. Yes, it was a little painful but I love my scare. Now he is 19 and joined the Navy.
omg..... you are not a failure. You're a warrior! I'm glad you are sharing this. You are such a brave soul. I'm thinking about my journey being a woman who's 40 thinking about having babies later on in life. Society and my personal reservations are a weight on my shoulders. I feel you. Women are magnificent! love ya!
Have a baby...it brings you much life to give life. Its so fulfilling to fulfill another....a person that you created
"I have to leave the hospital with both of you." 😭😭😭 Kudos to you, Melanie! I don't have kids, but I have this convo with friends all the time. we need to talk about things like this more - because you're right, without common ground, we can feel alone.
i have read about this condition and its no joke. i decided not to have a baby because of this, and other health issues i have and the fact im not financially stable to provide a house, car, job, money and insurance on my own. so when women tell me im selfish i tell them im not interested in being a statistic. i want to be able to give 500 percent or nothing at all.
girrrrlll.. I second that motion. I am 25. black educated and child free. everyone keeps asking when an I getting married... having kids. etc... I'm going to school to get my master's in august. I can't bring a child in this world making 35000 a year! I refuse! but I have four years to get my master's and specialist degree. Pay off my student loans... hopefully get married. And be able to buy a home so my children aren't statistics.. my mom was a single parent.she gave up college. she gave up basketball... I don't want that. so just know selfish isn't negative! not Aten you want a better life honey. I'm selfish! and selfless at the same time. because I'm preparing a life for my future children. a life that will carry over. I'm striving for a salary that allows me to save so they won't have student loans like me!
thank you both..;D
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In all honesty, you can Never be "prepared" for a child. I don't care how many degrees, money, family or spouses you may have. It does not work like pthat. If you want something, anything you will do what it takes to keep it! Children are a wonderful blessing! Funny how people can say "I need to be ready for a child" But will sign a 30 year mortgage loan without blinking!? Material is nothing compared to sharing and pouring into someone else....
jacoya stoves I'm prepared to pour my all into my child ma'am.. but I'd be a Dam fool to have one will I owe 20,000 in student loans. I'd be a fool to not complete the level of degree I want before becoming pregnant... I'd be a Dam fool to settle like all those other people. And if God wanted me to have one by now I'd have one. Sign a 30 year mortgage loan... ma'am the whole point of me waiting is so I can pay off my loans and save my money to build a home. Funny how someone can turn a young lady's comment about her outlook on providing for children into a negative.but if my black ass had a baby and dropped out of school and was on housing authority I guess that would be better. You can plan for pregnancy... I can wait until I've my degrees to marry and have children. And maybe if more black women had that mindset our sons wouldn't be in jail and on drugs. my mother was a single parent and she made sure to stress to me the importance of education. I'm building for my family! Why shouldn't I do the things I want before bringing a child in this world. Material ain't everything but you know what you need to have a job now. A degree or a trade. And that costs money.
"love yourself at every stage" I love that! People don't realize how much having a child changes & can evolve a mother & father..... Beautiful video.
Thank you for sharing. Even though I'm not a mother yet and I might not be for a while, this really touched me.
I have always loved your music, the fact that you let us into your personal life in these vids and on stage, the RUclips videos you create (I'm a RUclips addict) but this video made me love you even more! You are correct, no one talks about the ugly side. I was blessed to have a smooth pregnancy/birth but I always think of those ladies who did not or had unhealthy babies and it makes me thankful! I pray and thank GOD often for bringing me through young motherhood, single motherhood, struggle and hard times. My son is now 15, almost 16 ( the age I was when I had him) it's a challenging journey but so worth it!Much love to you, Jared and Kam I am looking forward to your journey.
you did great momma you brought a beauty baby into this world.. take it one day at a time.. watch and pray.
#AllPositiveVibes Thank you
This video was so amazing! I'm not pregnant, never been pregnant, or married, or in a serious relationship but I still felt so touched by this confession.
all the support and love these women are showing each other in the comments is so beautiful, refreshing and touching.
It seems God knew the only way to get you to understand this clarity you know have was to allow you to grow through this ordeal. As my wife and I have been trying to conceive for over 2 years we have to remember to surrender, like you said, and trust in God's plan. My daughter in my picture is not by blood so this process would be my first child. My wife and I have to encourage each other to not feel guilt or anger cause it's so easy to do that. Regardless if we don't ever conceive we still have to give thanks for through the test comes the testimony. Thank you so much for sharing your story of truth. Blessings
I cried when you said your partner came in and said he wanted to go home with both of you! I felt where he was coming from I had to tell my sister the same thing. I love that you have a channel it makes knowing who you are so surreal!🤗 I love it!
I don't have a child but this story is inspiration, how dare people give his video thumbs down, peace and blessings
OMG! TO READ ALL THESE STORIES IS SO THERAPEUTIC! THANK YOU LADIES SHARING! I NEEDED THIS SO MUCH! 😢
the second she started crying i got goosebumps and cried with her. she is sooooo inspiring ❤️
I recently became a birth and postpartum doula this story inspired me even more to do the work I've been called for, thank you so much for sharing your journey with us all.
I agree - these moments as a mom are precious and we are fortunate to be able to see them as they happen. I stay at home with my daughter and it's stressful at times but I wouldn't trade it for anything ! God bless.
5 years down the line and this video is still helping others to process their own trauma, to connect with someone with such a similar story even if it’s just connecting through the internet is such a blessing! Thankyou!✨
My gosh the emotions I felt watching this. You are so strong Melanie. No way you are a failure when you've been through that and still stand. I admire all mothers. 💪🏾
Take your time with your music. I know I'll still be here 1, 3, 5, 10 years from now, whenever you decide to put out that album. Love. 💜xoxo💜
So similar to my story 💕💕
+BayouBookSlayer wow it's like a sisterhood I had a very similar process Im so glad she shared her story!!💞
Mine too. You can't really explain it until you're in it but she's right, we need to talk about it, regardless. Preach Sista, preach!
Honestly I felt this way having my daughter. Sometimes I still question where she came from only because I didn't labor the way I expected. I love her more than anything. I completely understand. Thanks for sharing . I had no idea you vlogged
From one mother to another, I thank you for being so open and honest. I really admire you.
You did it! Thanks for sharing your story Beautiful! Keep being the strong woman you are!
But God!
I went through the same thing but I had an emergency c-section and they didn't wait for the medicine to kick it before they started cutting me open. I felt everything. It finally kicked in and I was knocked out. I didn't get to see my son until the next day. I was devastated that it didn't go the way we planned it. once I saw his face I couldn't believe we made this little bundle if joy. I felt cheated out of the whole experience of child birth. I didn't let it discourage me from having more children. This happened 3years ago. Now I have a 6 month old and the experience this time around was everything I had hoped for the first time. I got to have my experience. Thanks for posting this video. You are not alone.
This is one of the reasons Melanie Fiona is one of my favorite female artist she keeps it real and is so inspirational this video made me cry love you Melanie God bless you and your beautiful family.
Put your experience into a song...maybe it can be therapeutic.
Great idea!!
she should..... this is a testimony
Agreed!
Wow. So happy I watched this
Thank you for sharing! Your absolutely right that telling each other truth brings healing, for you and for those who hear and can and will relate. God bless you and your family.
I love your honesty and vulnerability. Only a woman who has been through an ounce of what you felt can truly relate. As a mother we go through so many emotions during the entire process. Truly one of the most demanding and rewarding jobs with so many memories to be made. Your son will motivate you like nothing you've ever experienced before. Enjoy those moments and continue to love yourself 🤗
I had to save this video in my favorites due to it being so powerful for me this afternoon. Thank you so much Melanie for allowing us to see your perspective and enlightenment through your current journey. You are awe-inspiring and such a gorgeous soul. So many words of affirmation and wisdom in this video will allow me to understand and appreciate all women. We really do go through a lot physically, emotionally, and spiritually and I'm glad your video encompassed that. Exposing your feelings of vulnerabilities and strength is very admirable and it will help many women like myself. Thank you for sharing and I look forward to more real and candid moments of you on RUclips.
P.S Congratulations on being a mother and wishing you all the best. Peace love and blessings for you and your family. :)
Ms. Fiona: I understand your struggles. I didn;t want a c-section I developed severe pre-eclampsia and also had to deliver my pre-term, 29 week baby early because her heart-rate kept dropping. I am about 4 months post partum. Childbirth is often times a crapshoot. We can't control everything no matter the detailed birth plan. But luckily, God intervenes and blesses us with those who have gifted and healing hands as well as supportive partners! Our stories could have had different outcomes!
watching this just made me so emotional remembering the priceless journey that we go through as women to bring life into this world. take things a day at a time you have been blessed with a precious gift .
you're so amazing. you're doing great. you're sharing a real story
Thank you for sharing this powerful and REAL story!
Melanie~ I'm not sure how, but your video ended up in my suggestion list. But, clearly it was for a reason. I went through a similar situation. But, I wasn't against meds or c-section, in fact I welcomed them. I was actually happy when it was presented, as soon as they realized my baby was in trouble. When I went home is where it began... I too, felt disconnected. I did not want to breast feed, I wanted to just sleep. In the days that followed, it became a nightmare. We went to my parents house (2nd home) because they didn't have stairs. They flew in for the birth, but left a few days later. So, it was just the 3 of us. (my husband, myself, my baby) I was having a lot of pain, so I called the Dr., she sent in pain meds to the pharmacy. So, my husband went to get them. He didn't return. He took a flight to see a girl, for the next 10 days!!! It was a nightmare. I didn't have food, for either the baby or myself & I was alone. I got through it.. Yesterday, my daughter graduated from high school. I wouldn't change a thing. I love her more than anything! I'm now crying at night, because I don't want her to leave. No matter what happens, you will get through it! You are strong, beautiful & talented! You're amazing! The most important thing I tell new Mom's: Take time for YOU! (if possible) It's easy to lose your identity. I went from "So& So's Wife" to "So & So's Mom". Even if you can sneak in a nightly walk outside, it's EVERYTHING! You'll get your body back & it'll be better than before. I gained 80 lbs with her & had an 8 pack, 9 mo later!! Take things slow, enjoy moments, because before you know it.. It'll be time for college! I wish you THE BEST!!! All my Love! xoxo
Bless your heart. I'm so sorry that happened to you. I hope your not still with that guy.
Nikkibeee23 Awe.🙏🏼 Thank You!!💝😘! No, I'm not! But, I was young and naive enough to get over that & have another baby with him, before I got the nerve to leave! But, once I did, I was the HAPPIEST girl on Earth!!! He was a real bad guy & I got caught in the glitz & glamour. He was playing for the Lakers & I was acting/modeling.. It seemed perfect, until I realized who he really was. Typical athlete.😏🙄 He's now a dead beat Dad, but that was to be expected. But, in the end, I won. I have the 2 most beautiful, kind children, I could ever ask for! xoxo
Have mercy BrittyBrat, i was just ill knowing your story and the countless experiences women go through. But that is the reward, gone through. I exhaled knowing you arrived.
Thank you for sharing that and kudos to you for persevering!
good lord you had a newborn and surgery, and he disappeared knowing you wouldn't be able to get those meds??? My jaw dropped! Glad to hear you got rid of him and doing well.
This made me tear up. Being a mother is everything. Im glad you shared this. You're a shoulder. Congrats on your bundle.
I love the person you are becoming Melanie, I hope you continue to grow and evolve into the best version of your self! your true fans will always be here for you whether you decide to come back to music or not! we ❤you! melanie
Just found you. Such a beautiful story, thank you for sharing. I've just discovered your music as well. You are amazing! ❤️
so many of us have a similar story. like myslef! we luv you ! we're here for u!
I love Melanie , she seems like such a beautiful person , inside and out , and her music is amazing.
Your voice always spoke volume from the depth of your soul... BEAUTIFUL person inside N out, STAY +positive+ around -negativity- God BLESS ❤
Thank you soooo much for sharing your story Melanie!
God bless you and your family!! Definitely glad I watched your story! Thanks for sharing!
Thank you for sharing your truth, your story is healing to many. Many blessings to you, your son and your family.
Congrats on Cameron! Thank you for telling YOUR story because we all have one. My son is now six but I still look at him and wonder why he chose me. And even with all the affirmation from friends and family I still don't feel like I'm worthy of him. I also had an emergency c section and felt that same disconnect. I have a hard time telling people how I feel so I just just put on smile and go about my day. Thank you again for sharing. You will help me and countless others feel alright about our truths and learn what it is to truly surrender.
Congratulations on your baby! I have missed your beautiful voice so much, but I'm happy to know it's because you've been busy creating life. Enjoy your baby, we'll be here when you get back!
Thank you for sharing your story.
this video has brought me so much pride, strength and encouragement. thank you Melanie for being vulnerable and open! I too as a mother have felt these SAME FEELINGS and struggles with how I view my body. I used to always say, "I'm tryna get back to my pre-baby body". But now I realize I DON'T HAVE TO! MY wife encourages me all the time and gets upset when I don't see myself the way she sees me. I love her so much! thank you again for sharing a piece of yourself with us. you are truly inspiring
Congratulations on your new baby...You will get through it. I loved when you said your story was no one else's story. We all have our own stories and are strong women. Thanks for sharing your journey. I am a mother of 4, grandmother of 4, cancer survivor, and achalasia survivor. I know a little bit about struggle. You continue to be blessed.
You are an amazing beautiful women, I'm glad you got to speak your truth! 💕
Congratulations on your son and growing into a feminine identity that is indicative of ideals that are personally yours. Less self ridicule and you will be fine.
I'm so sorry to hear all that you went through during your labor and delivery... I'm glad that you and your son came are here and doing well. your husband/partner did the right thing and took charge ..he sounds like such a great, supportive man. Thank you so much for opening up and sharing your story to us!
Thank you for sharing your truths about your journey into motherhood with such tenderness and honesty. With my first pregnancy, I had an Emergency c-section that left me completely devastated. My recovery was difficult, plus I had stretch marks and no natural “snap back”. I compared myself to my mom who had 3 natural births, no stretch marks and amazing natural “snap back”. I felt somewhat cheated out of having this glorious story to tell about becoming a new mom. I was 24 and by my second pregnancy at 26, I had grown as a mother and I knew what the risk were so I planned for a c-section. I refused to condemn myself or allow others to condemn me because my journey into motherhood wasn’t what fairy tales were made out of. It took some time, but I finally realized that MY journey into motherhood was full of small sacrifices leading me to the amazing miracles that I call my kids. Much love and Many blessings to you and your miracle.😊
I'm so glad You spoke about this!! I had a very similar situation with my daughter and honestly I never processed it until one day my doctor asked if I was suffering from Ptsd from childbirth because I've been so afraid to get pregnant again because of the fear of having to go through it all over it again. Everyone makes it seem like if you didn't have this vaginal birth your birth was somehow easier. BULL CRAP!! I couldn't even walk or leave the hospital for a week after a birth. Even after we got released the Army Snatched my husband back so I was literally walking bent over to make bottles and change. I couldn't even pick her up on my own or carry her for weeks after my C-Section. I had no family nearby since we were at our first duty station. Thank God I actually looked for help from my doctor and spoke to them about what I was feeling. Now, my daughter is healthy, happy, and thriving and I tell her LITERALLY every day she is my world inside of a world and she will tell me. Back now " Mommy, you wouldn't have a life without me!" I always say True because you're my life!
Thank you for sharing. It's SUCH A JOURNEY! So many layers to giving birth and being a mother and being a woman before and after. Welcome to the tribe, Happy Motherhood!
Wow this is so powerful! I can't even begin to express how thankful I am that you spoke out about how you felt going through this! I felt the exact same and watching this just made me feel so normal! People expect women to react a certain way after labor and sometimes it's just not that!!! Everyone's journey through motherhood is different and some days are harder then others but it is so rewarding in the end. I'm glad that you were a voice for some of us who didn't understand the feeling.
Thank you for sharing your story. As mother I struggled too with feeling like I let my baby down and having those same feelings. I needed to hear this story because he’s six now and I still feel like I missed an important part of his beginning but I can truly forgive myself and let it go. And love me unconditionally again!
Blessings to you and your family
Beautiful. What an amazing journey. This video is so real and great.
Agreed!
Beautiful. Thank u for sharing your truth. More women should do the same. When we tell the truth, we heal ourselves and we empower others.
Your honesty is healing for so many.. Bless you
Just beautiful! Many women go through the disconnect but won't speak of it for fear of being labeled one thing or another. Thank you for speaking truth, Melanie. May you enjoy all the blessings you receive for yourself and your new family.
Aww i just love you, your transparency, your vulnerability is beautiful.
i feel like someone finally understands me!! thank u for sharing
Looking at yourself in the mirror and not even recognizing who you are and feeling let down, disappointed, sad. But when I look at my two beautiful boys it was all worth it and I would go through all the pain and recovery all over again. You are strong. We are strong.
This is REAL!!!! Glad u had the strength to share. I can relate. Love you for this.
thank you for sharing your story. I hope everybody will recover that way and always love themselves
amazing for someone to actually talk about this cause a lot of women hold it and hide it...I am one of them and you brought to a place where I was like wow...our children we look at them and love them so deeply but really when you are multitasking and still being a mother you will break down at moments I learned to slow down and deep breathes god help me handle this...baby girl beautiful I think a lot of woman needed to hear this I know I did thank u 😊
This is so beautiful and touching at the same time. Thank you for sharing, God bless you Melanie Fiona xxx
I am ttc and it's been almost 2 years. I really appreciate hearing your story. I'm on a journey just trying to get there, but listening is an eye opener to prepare for what may come. Thank you and may God continue to bless you.
a wonderful and inspiring insight. I am happy growing up and being able to find those kind of information on the internet. Surrender... beautiful statement ❤
Yes girl, we build an idea in our heads of how things are _supposed_ to be. But it's an illusion. And we meticulously plan and prepare to secure the best outcome. But this is also an illusion. Despite our best laid plans, life unfolds according to its own beautiful design. We have no real control. And we don't need it. Life is a miracle that sustains itself.
im in tears, this is what a real mother does for her beautiful baby. ive had 4 children natural so i know how important it is to want to be strong enough to do it on your own but you have to be even stronger to go through a c-section.
Thank you for being honest, and for opening up this topic for conversation. So many hearts in the comments are opening up and relating to your story. Too much pressure we get to be perfect and happy all the time. This is real. You're amazing.
I had preeclampsia and delivered at 28 weeks. My beautiful baby girl was 2.5lbs!! I felt like a failure. How could this happen to me? I questioned God and bargained with him. I begged him to spare me the agony of explaining the loss of a child. She is now 15 and an exceptional student. My second pregnancy was great so please don't be deterred.Thanks for keeping it real. Blessings to you and your family. This heart to heart will help so many mothers going through the struggle.
I had preeclampsia and delivered at 26 weeks. My son was 1 pound, 13 ounces. That feeling of failure after experiencing something like that is so real, especially when you see your little baby in the NICU and you don't know when and if you will get to take your baby home. I did all of what I thought were the right things during my pregnancy. I can relate to the major swelling she had, all of that. I know you can too when you had your baby girl. I never comment on youtube videos but this one definitely hit home. Me and my husband just had a discussion about the rollercoaster of a winter we had with our son with the daily trips to the hospital. Blessings to you Ronny, to Melanie and all of the mothers out there that have and are journeying through this. My son was born December 18, 2015 and he's a healthy and happy baby. Motherhood is beautiful and I wouldn't change a thing of what happened because it's God's way of showing me just how magnificent it truly is.
Absolutely beautiful. You are so strong.
thank you so very much. My kids are teens and preteens, but this video reminded me of the internal struggle as new mothers. As well as seasoned mothers that we face on a daily basis. Thank you for your transparency. Such a relief to know your not alone.
You are amazing. I love you and your honesty. I thought I was alone when it came to feeling like a failure as a mother. I see all these mother's around me who look happy. It is really hard. After a year, I still cry when I feel like I'm failing as a mom. You are an inspiration to me and I just want to say thank you for your honesty and courage. Bless you❤
I had a c section as well but I fortunately had the experience to witness a c section with my cousin. I was just about 9cm and the hours went by and after two days of my water being broke they told me that I would more than likely need a c section.... Let me just tell you it was like music to my ears because I already know what it entailed. What I didn't expect was my arms being strapped down because all of the drugs I was on... Or the pressure of them cutting me being so strong that it felt like an elephant had took a permanent set on my abdominals. Iol... But I still didn't feel less of a women because of it... The way our body heals after something like that is pure magic... Women are magic. I had a disconnect from my daughter for a whole year... Felt like she was my sister... Lol I went back to work 8 weeks after I had her so it's like I only saw her in passing. Now my baby is 5 and there no person in the world I would rather be than her mommy... You'll find that bond.
Lol at sister. I know what you mean. My husband took care of all three kiddies for the first three weeks. I barely held my kids. But now I'm in love and don't know what is do with out them. And I know what you mean about he arms being strapped down. I remember I wanted to make sure I didn't feel anything so I told the dr I felt the knife even tho I didn't so I could get more numb. Lolol.
i had a c-section as well...i stopped dilating at 6 cm...i didn't want one either and i felt pain during the procedure and i felt like i had been hit by a garbage truck afterwards but i wouldn't change anything!
How beautiful and candid you are. Thank you for sharing. I am not a mom but in my mind I want to plan a natural birth - and so happy you are speaking up about the happenstance of the alternative if things go left. You don't really hear real candid stories like this, and coming from a public figure like yourself means a lot. Makes you more human (well you are human) but definitely a voice for women. Thanks you.
This is so raw, honest, & beautiful. You are not alone! I had such a simulart experience my labor did not go as planned, the disconnection, the guilt, everything. Thank you for sharing you are such an amazing woman I'm so glad I found out about you.
Thank you for being REAL and sharing your story. You are awesome. When you release your album we'll be waiting.
Such a brave woman. thank you for sharing your beautiful truth. 💜💛💚💙
Kysha Hampton YES. YES.