When I came out to my parents last summer, they were really supportive, but my mother is horrified and embarrassed that my dad now points out any time a lesbian is brought up in conversation. "Did you see the report on the Rachel Maddow show last night?" "Hey, Sadie! She's a lesbian!" I think it's hilarious though, and it let's me know that even if he doesn't fully understand, he's trying to let me know he supports me.
My father-in-law does the same thing with vegetarianism. Every time we're in a restaurant, he feels the need to let the server know, and then point out dishes we can eat. It would be annoying if it weren't so adorable.
ooh! you could totally play into it if you master a poker face & nod along to give the impression that All Lesbians Have A Collective Hive Mind and All Lesbians Know All Other Lesbians And Must Be Held In Awe And Fear. or mention every straight person. or ask if he thinks they're decent enough to be worthy of dating you. /great for April Fools or a Trick instead of a Treat
Saaaame!! If only lmao 😂 Instead I got one year of my rich father looking at me having to pay 70€ per month for my HRT while being a student without once offering to help 🙃
I wish more people (LGBTQ+ included) understood that it’s not their place to tell everyone what your sexuality is, if you want to tell someone you will, it’s not up to them.
PREACH! I always have to warn I’m semi closeted due to my dad’s clearly expressed inability to accept FOR HIS CHILDREN & bigotry. *Sarcastic: yay!* Oddly, other people being gay, lesbian or bisexual is no problem for my dad.
"It's okay if you're unsure. That's for you to figure out and I'll support you no matter what. In the meantime, what labels would you prefer I use? None at all is perfectly alright, too."
Did you write the dialogue for the video? It was so funny and your character were adorable ! Have you ever try acting ? You just seem so relaxed and natural. Hello to Claudia and those cute little puppies! 🐶❤💓😎
The greatest thing my mom told me is that she loves me being her child regardless my sexuality and she wants me to lead a happy life. Those are the most important and supportive words. Mom used to believe that i’m lesbian because i didn’t date guys. I dated some guys since that time, but my sexuality is still a huge question for me, because i used to fall in love both with guys and with girls. I still haven’t met the right person, though. If you love a person, you do that because of a personality, not a gender or hair color or body shape or skin tone. You just love a person and nothing changes when you come to know his/her gender and sexuality. It’s as simple as that. Just love your relatives and friends as they are and wish them happiness.
The fact that’s it’s the same people as the “What NOT to say” episode makes me like to think these fictional people changed for the better and now I have faith in humanity again!
A friend in high school... one day said yah me and my girlfriend did.... I was wait you said girlfriend? She said yes is that an issue? I told her no just making sure i heard right. Keep going with your story.
When my friend came out as bisexual (I was already out as a lesbian) I said cool welcome to the club. For my other friend who came out as bisexual (when I was not out) I just said cool. I might need to update my response
Oh and when the girl that I had my first crush on causally said she was pansexual I freaked out because I didn't know what that meant but said cool and googled it at home
Before I had a crush on a friend and she was super cute, anyway. One day I told her and one of the closest friends I had that I was a lesbian. They were ok with it but after they started talking about who is my crush then? I obviously didn't tell them and after 30 minutes I had to go so they kept trying to know my crush by text. After I moved out and my best friend told me that my close friend told someone and now the hole school knows it :^) Also, sorry for my bad English
Not only did she master her normal speaking voice, but she also learned how to do a few accents before she went mostly deaf. Jessica constantly impressed me with everything she does!
Molly Hats don't worry about it! you can be both! being asexual does not mean you do not want a romantic partner, and being gay does not mean you want sex at all. you can be asexual and have loving relationships with life partners no matter their gender. 💞
It's true, though. And if you happen to be aro as well, that is completely valid too. People who choose a romantic asexual partnership, people who choose to live asexually and aromantically with one or more best friends, and people who choose to live alone, are all valid and able to be whole complete people with whole complete lives, each person doing what works for them.
I'm also in the ace spectrum. Somewhere. And i need to tell you : you're "normal " and completely valid. You ain't sick or prudish. You're perfect the way you are and you'll find many people who will accept you.
I feel most people believe they’re a separate gender because the societal construct of gender is very limiting so people try to break out of it, instead of just accepting gender and making a new one they can also just acknowledge the construct for how stupid it is and go non-binary.
Mehressa Green First and foremost treat people how they’d like to be treated, most people don’t ask for much and gender diverse people are rarely if ever an exception, it doesn’t take much to learn or use a different word. Beyond that we get into the concepts of what things are, gender as a societal construct is based upon a two gender system in which characteristics, interests and traits are put into personality categories inspired by but not contingent on biological sex. The idea of deciding certain behaviours should be put into those categories is bullshit and instead of creating new categories we should instead dismantle the idea of categorising those characteristics, they don’t need to be categorised and shouldn’t be.
@@boglenight1551 ok the wording of that is a bit confusing, and I'm honestly not sure if it's offensive or not, but from the wording alone it seems like you don't really....get it, I guess? Not meaning any offence
I love when people go “oh that’s a really cool name!” Cause I always instantly respond “thanks, picked it myself.” And then just walk away. Everyone gets so confused.
I accidentally came out to one of my friends last week (i made a joke under my breath and he heard) and he reacted exactly how brian did and i just realised how lucky i am that he's the one that heard and not someone else :)
My mom always told me that nothing I could do would make her or my dad love me less. To me, that’s what love really is. It’s also how I knew it would be okay to tell them I’m asexual. As long as I’m happy, they’re happy. No exceptions.
Here are some things to say: "Hello" "How have things been going?" "A few of us are going to have a pint tonight, want to come?" I'm Ace, which confuses some people. People are people, no matter their sexuality, so I treat everyone the same. I would say that this is common sense, but we all know common sense is highly uncommon.
3:36 "Queer Google" Being in my 50's I know a lot of similar aged gay people that don't understand this stuff either. So don't assume that just because someone identifies with one of the LGBTQ+ letters. That they can answer all your questions.
Sid'istic Atheist this is very important! and also people need to remember that although someone may identify to a letter of the LGBT+ community, they cannot speak for everyone nor can they speak of the experiences of people identifying under another letter. also, great username, haha!
“Thank you for telling me your pronouns and name. How much of those two things and your identity are you comfortable with me sharing with x or y groups of people?”
My daughter came out to me at 12 and she"'ll be 20 in a few days. and my hubby, her sister, and I have always accepted her( both my girls are awesome). It's very irritating when my parents (her grandparents) tell me she going through phase and she'll grow out of it. I love my parents but they can be idiots and very close minded. My response to them is and always will be how the hell is being yourself considered a phase. I tell them you can either except she's gay or keep your mouth shut. Of course I wind up getting in an argument with them because I'm disrespectful. I'm a 45 year old woman defending my kid and I will do that to the day I die.
When people get the name/pronouns wrong, I'd much rather them just interject the right name/pronouns instead of making a big apology, asking for their patience bc it's a hard adjustment. It's ok. I'm not going to bite. But I also don't want to have to reassure you every time.
"even if all your friends are in relationships you don't have to be " is really great as an ace person (or equally for those aces who want to date "if you're comfortable with dating I can absolutely help find you a partner")
I wasn’t as sure of my sexuality in my first 2 relationships, and now that I know for sure I’m on the asexual spectrum I’m terrified of not finding anyone, especially since I’m in my mid 30’s now. I want to go on a date, but also pandemic and America? It’s a bummer I try not to think about...
I wish my parents would stop saying when you grow up and get a husband or like you can have friends over just not a boy I’m like I came out as a lesbian to you LAST YEAR
BobbyBobert ! oof oh boy, that sucks! i hate hearing "when you get a husband." i'm not out to my gram, but i've said before i don't want to have children, i'll adopt, and she goes "you just need to find the right man" and i'm like 😬 nope, not gonna change it
I remember when my friend came out to me when we were 15, and I was just like “oh okay. Cool.” He didn’t appreciate it. 😂 I try to be more receptive and less apathetic if someone is genuinely coming out to me about their sexuality or gender. Just because I don’t care doesn’t mean it’s not a big deal for them.
When I was at uni and in the LGB soc (mumble mumble years ago before more letters were added as standard) the automatic reaction to anyone coming out was hearty congratulations and then a quieter "how are you doing?". I also like a friend's standard response of "that matters as much to me as whether you like toast". Would love a time when coming out was no longer a thing....
@@Alina_Schmidt I get that. But I can talk about my the deliciousness thick-cut sourdough toast with my friends - and the amazingness of my girlfriend.
I've heard things like "That can't be a real thing, I don't understand it" or simply "I don't understand it". Well, I don't understand Einstein's law of relativity, but that doesn't mean that I say it doesn't exist.
Coming out as lesbian was easier then when I came out as on the Asexual spectrum I wish everyone was like this instead of asking me a thousand questions about it and not tell me that you haven't had sex how do u know you don't like it its not even about that also Jessica thanks for being a ray of sunshine and for educating people to make the world a better place
Don't despair. Accepting people are out there. I have never had sex with a man, and I know I would hate it. You have the perfect right to say the same thing about sex in general.
I needed to hear that. 😊 I’m pansexual but in a “straight” relationship. He used to be cool with it and supportive but now he seems threatened by it and thinks I’m going to leave him because I’ve been going “hard” on the “gay” thing. I bought a couple of gay pride things 🙄. It’s been frustrating.
Ily! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 You are inspirational and I just love u and Claudia and your dog's so much!!!!💖💖♥️❤️ Also I'm baby lesbian and you've helped me come out (to most people) too!
This was the conversation between me and Large last year when she flung herself out of the closet L: I’m Gender Fluid Me: Ok L: aren’t you shocked Me: Sweetheart, I’ve bought your clothes for the last 13yrs... I had a fair idea! L: [slightly miffed] humph... I’m also Bisexual! Me: Ok! I want a drink do you want a coke? I am not kidding they sulked for at least 36 hours because I wasn’t worried! I had children because I wanted to raise good people and their gender / sexuality doesn’t factor into the equation!
BRIAN’s NOT A DOUCHE AFTER ALL!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻! I still love Granny, I can’t help it, she is adorable 🥰! I also want to to say that the video you did about straight people being at PRIDE really helped me phrase questions to a married couple (who I care about very much) & one recently came out as Non-Binary. They have made their name similar to their birth name, but use -mi vs -mmy which made that easier, but thanks to your videos I was able to ask questions (once I had their ok) in a respectful way. Because of your collab with Ash, I learned how to ask what their preferred pronouns were instead of feeling awkward & saying something idiotic. Prior to this I’ve had Gay & Lesbian friends who kept the same pronouns, so I hadn’t needed to really think about it before! Of course, I screwed up a ton the 1st time & would slip up using 'he'/'him' & actually apologized so much that they laughed at me & said to STOP APOLOGIZING, they knew I was trying my hardest & that they even still slip-up b/c it’s new to them as well! Like you said at the end, they are still the same couple who I got to know & became friends with, but one happened to be keeping a secret due to the fear of the reaction of family & society! They haven’t changed their sense of humor, their amazing talents, their love of the earth, animals & teaching people how to protect those things, etc. They are just being their true selves publicly for the 1st time in their life...NOTHING ELSE HAS CHANGED! But I am so grateful that even though I am a straight, married woman who started watching you b/c of your chronic illness videos, that I watch ALL of your videos, to learn & educate myself!! So THANK YOU, Thank You for helping me to NOT be a big asshole douche! 🤗💜😘🐾🐾
I'm trans ftm. I'm going back to college in September but I've think I want to go by a different name than what I have done for the past year and a half at college. I also applied for the course with the name I don't want to use anymore. I don't know what to do..
I hope you find the answer. I wish I could offer advice but I can’t. All I can say that there is a stranger (me) supporting you, cheering for you on that first day back, and hoping you find the answers. Maybe the LGBTQ+ group on campus can offer more tangible advice. If there isn’t one there should be one in the closest major city to you. If not there maybe the HRC, glaad, or the advocate have resources? Stay strong. 🌈
If there’s a member of staff you can email/contact about using a different name that can be really useful. Either one/all of your teachers or someone who can add it to your records to make it official. 💙
Call administration and ask what their politics on Trans people are. Depending on where you are in the world some of them facilitates the name change. If the administration is too scary for you, ask the LGBT+ comity at your school if they have someone who can help you/come with you to be your support
I'd recommend either emailing each professor beforehand to let them know your preferred name to use in the class or showing up a bit early for every class on the first day to talk with them about it beforehand.
A former roommate of mine used to jokingly say "Liz, I can see you!" every time a "Bisexual Day of Visibility" or "Bisexual Awareness Day" came around. It was nice to know that he was comfortable joking with me and making me feel like my identity was valid and that doubting someone's bisexuality is silly.
Thanks for this! The video gave me motivation to keep on doing well in my college studies; I'm closeted, see, but most of my friends know i'm bi. I'm just scared to come out since my parents are homophobic. I'm planning to tell them once i've started living in my own home. Despite this i'm still so happy to be surrounded by such supportive friends, and a very faithful boyfriend.
Aww I hope you find some supportive people who will love you unconditionally and that those who don't now will in the future! In the meantime lots of support! 💕
My family has but one rule: Dont Be a Douchebag. I need to put it on a family crest or something. In all seriousness, though, to all of you out there who have never heard this, want to hear it, or could stand to hear it one more time: I AM SO PROUD OF YOU! I am proud of who you were that got you to this place, I'm proud of who you are at this very moment, and I will ALWAYS be proud of you. Even if I dont yet know you. You are amazing, valid, and absolutely incredible!
my favourite answer to someone coming out is "cool cool" that's it, no need for anything else. And you better believe that I will "adopt" any and every person in my life that doesn't get support from their family. I am your father now
After the niece of my boyfriend came out as transgender (boy --> female) and we met up I gave her a hand and told her 'Welcome to lgbtq+' :-) (As Im a bisexual. And my bf sister is a lesbian. Already a fun group of colors in that family)
I just had a friend today tell me "I knew you before, I knew you during, and I know you now, and you're still a great friend of mine, and I will always see you as YOU. We all have things we go through in life, it might change us, it might not. It's what makes us, us!"
I’m so grateful to the random stranger online who helped me figure out I was asexual. I was freakin out because I’m not attracted to men and I thought the only other option was lesbian (I’m a woman) but I was confused and panicking because I’m not attracted to women either! So I thought I Had to be lesinian and or there was something wrong with me. This women told me that I was describing asexuallity and I was able to then learn about it and realize hey that’s me!!! Thank you helpful internet stranger!! You could have been soo mean and unhelpful but you took the time out of your busy day to help me work out who I am!!
I love the way you present “comedy” into your videos while addressing serious topics. My wife and I seem to get, “ Oh you are married to each other, well, good for you”. At least we know the person is trying to be supportive. 😉
I just want to hear my mom NOT call me into her room to talk privately and tell me that my relationship is going to fall apart and ruin my life because I'm in highschool and NOT patronizingly ask me to explain my asexuality, or tell me that unlike my LITTLE SISTER who should explore her attraction to other genders I should try to settle down with a guy just because I still want to have kids. I'm panromantic and my sister is omnisexual but NOOOOOO I should try my best to find a MAN because if I'm not in a straight relationship I won't be as happy. Please, if she can't come up with something nice to say can I at least not talk about it??
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To be honest I just wish people would say 'I'm glad you felt you could tell me, this doesn't change anything between us'
Laura the Flerb YES THAT
Yes! Acknowledging that coming out is a risky thing to do, and that we're still safe afterwards, is so important.
Are you anything lgbtq+?
@@tristynthegreat yeah. I recently started identify as bisexual
Came here to write exactly this.
When I came out to my parents last summer, they were really supportive, but my mother is horrified and embarrassed that my dad now points out any time a lesbian is brought up in conversation. "Did you see the report on the Rachel Maddow show last night?" "Hey, Sadie! She's a lesbian!" I think it's hilarious though, and it let's me know that even if he doesn't fully understand, he's trying to let me know he supports me.
he's confused but he got the spirit
My father-in-law does the same thing with vegetarianism. Every time we're in a restaurant, he feels the need to let the server know, and then point out dishes we can eat. It would be annoying if it weren't so adorable.
Your dad is adorable, I must protect 😭💙
Aw that's kind of adorable
ooh! you could totally play into it if you master a poker face & nod along to give the impression that All Lesbians Have A Collective Hive Mind and All Lesbians Know All Other Lesbians And Must Be Held In Awe And Fear. or mention every straight person. or ask if he thinks they're decent enough to be worthy of dating you. /great for April Fools or a Trick instead of a Treat
"here's my credit card and pin number"!!! yessss! I laughed so hard at that one =)
Saaaame!! If only lmao 😂
Instead I got one year of my rich father looking at me having to pay 70€ per month for my HRT while being a student without once offering to help 🙃
Love the wigs!
' I know understand that bisexuality isn't a 'phase' and is equally valid as other letters of the alphabet.'
Emma Breach “I understand that bisexuality is valid no matter your dating history “
I used to be so self conscious about my hearing aids but since I found your channel I’m so confident thank you 😊
I wish more people (LGBTQ+ included) understood that it’s not their place to tell everyone what your sexuality is, if you want to tell someone you will, it’s not up to them.
PREACH! I always have to warn I’m semi closeted due to my dad’s clearly expressed inability to accept FOR HIS CHILDREN & bigotry. *Sarcastic: yay!* Oddly, other people being gay, lesbian or bisexual is no problem for my dad.
@@maryobrien6014 im a lesbian and my parents are the same way.
LadyRed L, I’m very sorry to hear that.
@@maryobrien6014 me too but it's okay I have people that love me
"It's okay if you're unsure. That's for you to figure out and I'll support you no matter what. In the meantime, what labels would you prefer I use? None at all is perfectly alright, too."
YAY you used my "I shall now stop embarrassing myself by making assumptions about other people's bodies" suggestion!
Notification squad! Hope you, Claudia, and the puppies are doing well❤
Them puppers r so cute
"if your family is not supporting you I will gladly be your (not so) cool but very supportive aunt" ❤️
Did you write the dialogue for the video? It was so funny and your character were adorable ! Have you ever try acting ? You just seem so relaxed and natural. Hello to Claudia and those cute little puppies! 🐶❤💓😎
The greatest thing my mom told me is that she loves me being her child regardless my sexuality and she wants me to lead a happy life. Those are the most important and supportive words.
Mom used to believe that i’m lesbian because i didn’t date guys. I dated some guys since that time, but my sexuality is still a huge question for me, because i used to fall in love both with guys and with girls. I still haven’t met the right person, though.
If you love a person, you do that because of a personality, not a gender or hair color or body shape or skin tone. You just love a person and nothing changes when you come to know his/her gender and sexuality. It’s as simple as that.
Just love your relatives and friends as they are and wish them happiness.
The fact that’s it’s the same people as the “What NOT to say” episode makes me like to think these fictional people changed for the better and now I have faith in humanity again!
Grandma Jessica is so precious and great!!
A friend in high school... one day said yah me and my girlfriend did.... I was wait you said girlfriend? She said yes is that an issue? I told her no just making sure i heard right. Keep going with your story.
Love you in all your different personalities! Great video ❤️❤️❤️
Brian's character development tho! Nice going Brian!
Your old lady voice is the greatest thing I've ever heard in the entire world.
Aaaaaahhhhh Jessie you're otherworldly! 😍
I feel like “I respect your identity even if I don’t fully understand it” holds the potential to end all war on Earth, but maybe that’s just me.
"Because i'm not a douche" love it!
Jessica: Being a lovely human being.
Me: I’m not a human
When my friend came out as bisexual (I was already out as a lesbian) I said cool welcome to the club. For my other friend who came out as bisexual (when I was not out) I just said cool. I might need to update my response
Oh and when the girl that I had my first crush on causally said she was pansexual I freaked out because I didn't know what that meant but said cool and googled it at home
Love how you have the same characters in this video 😂😂
Butch Jessica and Grandma Jessica are adorable. 💖
“you parents don’t accept you? Well, it’s their loss, you’re my child now”
“Here’s my credit card and PIN number”. LOL! 😂
This such a fab vid! So lovely to see a vid that is about kindness! 😘😘😘😘
Before I had a crush on a friend and she was super cute, anyway. One day I told her and one of the closest friends I had that I was a lesbian.
They were ok with it but after they started talking about who is my crush then?
I obviously didn't tell them and after 30 minutes I had to go so they kept trying to know my crush by text.
After I moved out and my best friend told me that my close friend told someone and now the hole school knows it :^)
Also, sorry for my bad English
Oh man both the bandana ppl are my type 😂
When i came out to my bff she just rolled her eyes and said: "no shit,Jane."
Turns out she knew i was gay before i knew.
Your old lady impression is ON POINT
Not only did she master her normal speaking voice, but she also learned how to do a few accents before she went mostly deaf. Jessica constantly impressed me with everything she does!
It was some serious Mary Berry vibes
Wow Brian had one hell of a redemption arc
FourandTwentyBlackbirds exactly what I was thinking
I am so here for Brian's redemption arc!
Yaasss! So nice to see his character growth from the last episode!
Bryan should get his own show
This comment made me laugh so hard
"It's okay that you don't really understand your sexuality right now, you don't have to commit to a label to be valid"
I really need to hear that myself a LOT. I’ve been beating myself up over figuring out whether I’m ace or gay and it’s been a major stressor.
@@mollyhats2330 (you can be both! 🙂🏳️🌈 )
YES!! This!!
Molly Hats don't worry about it! you can be both! being asexual does not mean you do not want a romantic partner, and being gay does not mean you want sex at all. you can be asexual and have loving relationships with life partners no matter their gender. 💞
I really needed this
"Your parents aren't supportive? Screw that. I'm your dad now."
Ari! My mom literally decided my trans best friend is her child now because his parents are terrible.
I'm like that with my friends. I'm am basically their mum now. 😂
My ex friend’s parents basically adopted me when I came out bc my parents aware anti LGBTQ+
Hey my name is Ari!!! Is that your name too or is that your channel name for a different reason?
are you Tony Stark?
omg glasses-with-hair-up-and-headband-Jessica is SMOKIN'
Ikr, life goals or wife goals amirite?
you saying “asexual people are complete and valid just the way they are” literally made me cry, that’s so nice, no ones ever said that to me before.
You are whole and valid just the way you are!
You are valid, lovely person!
It's true, though. And if you happen to be aro as well, that is completely valid too. People who choose a romantic asexual partnership, people who choose to live asexually and aromantically with one or more best friends, and people who choose to live alone, are all valid and able to be whole complete people with whole complete lives, each person doing what works for them.
You are loved. Period. Repeat. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
I'm also in the ace spectrum. Somewhere. And i need to tell you : you're "normal " and completely valid. You ain't sick or prudish. You're perfect the way you are and you'll find many people who will accept you.
I came out to my mom today!
Congratulations! I hope it went really well.
@@alicebergonzi3802 yeah she is supportive or rather doesnt care who I love!
@@alicebergonzi3802 and thank you :)
I'm so proud of you!
i hope it went well, congratulations! this is a big step and a big deal, and we're all proud of you 💞
Hopefully the other Brian will learn
Sanyu Kimuli , Maybe.
Rude
He has grown 🙌🏻✨
Now I want meme of 'daniel' and 'the cooler daniel'.
"My inability to understand the concept of more than two genders existing doesn't mean that they don't exist."
I feel most people believe they’re a separate gender because the societal construct of gender is very limiting so people try to break out of it, instead of just accepting gender and making a new one they can also just acknowledge the construct for how stupid it is and go non-binary.
Meee...I don't understand it. But then I realised that it's their identity first and it does not hurt me to respect that.
Mehressa Green
First and foremost treat people how they’d like to be treated, most people don’t ask for much and gender diverse people are rarely if ever an exception, it doesn’t take much to learn or use a different word.
Beyond that we get into the concepts of what things are, gender as a societal construct is based upon a two gender system in which characteristics, interests and traits are put into personality categories inspired by but not contingent on biological sex. The idea of deciding certain behaviours should be put into those categories is bullshit and instead of creating new categories we should instead dismantle the idea of categorising those characteristics, they don’t need to be categorised and shouldn’t be.
Phoenix Wyld
There are some people I know who I wish believed this... 😑
@@boglenight1551 ok the wording of that is a bit confusing, and I'm honestly not sure if it's offensive or not, but from the wording alone it seems like you don't really....get it, I guess? Not meaning any offence
I love when people go “oh that’s a really cool name!” Cause I always instantly respond “thanks, picked it myself.” And then just walk away. Everyone gets so confused.
your nick says that you are brilliant in choosing names :D
@@Melodyy182 I agree on that! 😂
Immortal Velociraptor is an excellent name indeed
Serilia aww thanks guys!
Lmao I do this! Also when I first changed my name, my other trans friend got (joke) mad that I got to the name first because he wanted it 😂
I love the dark wig and bandana Jessica. Strong Alex Vause vibes❤
me too!
Came here to say that too... very hot!
ALEX IS MY HEART
Defo the hottest haha
"...because I'm not a douche." Not sure why that made me laugh SO MUCH!!!!
Me too.
It reminds me of "Dusche" the German word for shower, ;-)
@@askialuna7717 in French the word for shower is douche.
"I'm sorry for the things I said/did before I knew this that may have been rude or hurtful. I know better now. Thank you."
I accidentally came out to one of my friends last week (i made a joke under my breath and he heard) and he reacted exactly how brian did and i just realised how lucky i am that he's the one that heard and not someone else :)
"I always\still love you" is something that people should say to lgbtq+ people
My mom always told me that nothing I could do would make her or my dad love me less. To me, that’s what love really is. It’s also how I knew it would be okay to tell them I’m asexual. As long as I’m happy, they’re happy. No exceptions.
I loved this Brian redemption story, what a wild character arc
Jessica I'm not sure we as humanity are worthy of the jewel that you are as a person but we're certainly grateful.
Here are some things to say:
"Hello"
"How have things been going?"
"A few of us are going to have a pint tonight, want to come?"
I'm Ace, which confuses some people. People are people, no matter their sexuality, so I treat everyone the same.
I would say that this is common sense, but we all know common sense is highly uncommon.
3:36 "Queer Google" Being in my 50's I know a lot of similar aged gay people that don't understand this stuff either.
So don't assume that just because someone identifies with one of the LGBTQ+ letters. That they can answer all your questions.
Sid'istic Atheist this is very important! and also people need to remember that although someone may identify to a letter of the LGBT+ community, they cannot speak for everyone nor can they speak of the experiences of people identifying under another letter. also, great username, haha!
“Thank you for telling me your pronouns and name. How much of those two things and your identity are you comfortable with me sharing with x or y groups of people?”
My daughter came out to me at 12 and she"'ll be 20 in a few days. and my hubby, her sister, and I have always accepted her( both my girls are awesome). It's very irritating when my parents (her grandparents) tell me she going through phase and she'll grow out of it.
I love my parents but they can be idiots and very close minded.
My response to them is and always will be how the hell is being yourself considered a phase. I tell them you can either except she's gay or keep your mouth shut. Of course I wind up getting in an argument with them because I'm disrespectful. I'm a 45 year old woman defending my kid and I will do that to the day I die.
When people get the name/pronouns wrong, I'd much rather them just interject the right name/pronouns instead of making a big apology, asking for their patience bc it's a hard adjustment. It's ok. I'm not going to bite. But I also don't want to have to reassure you every time.
ASEXUAL PEOPLE ARE COMPLETE AND WHOLE JUST THE WAY THEY ARE YES THANK YOU
"your teacher said what about you comming out ?. Oh i feel a serius meeting with the principal comming" - from my guardian, maby one day
I support lgbtq people. I'm not sure what all the letters mean but I support it.
I stan. Wish my grandmother was like that
"even if all your friends are in relationships you don't have to be " is really great as an ace person (or equally for those aces who want to date "if you're comfortable with dating I can absolutely help find you a partner")
And to aromantic people as well!
I wasn’t as sure of my sexuality in my first 2 relationships, and now that I know for sure I’m on the asexual spectrum I’m terrified of not finding anyone, especially since I’m in my mid 30’s now. I want to go on a date, but also pandemic and America? It’s a bummer I try not to think about...
You don't like a certain term? I won't use it again. Which term is more respectful? (How I learned the word intersex)
I'm sure other Intersex people other than myself will appreciate that knowledge xxx
Thank you, this made my intersex heart very happy!
Me: I’m bisexual
My parents:
YoU'rE tOo YoUnG tO kNoW
It'S jUsT a PhAsE
No YoU'rE nOt
We'LL sEe iN a FeW yEaRs
Me: alrighty then 😑
I wish my parents would stop saying when you grow up and get a husband or like you can have friends over just not a boy I’m like I came out as a lesbian to you LAST YEAR
BobbyBobert ! oof oh boy, that sucks! i hate hearing "when you get a husband." i'm not out to my gram, but i've said before i don't want to have children, i'll adopt, and she goes "you just need to find the right man" and i'm like 😬 nope, not gonna change it
Oof that's so annoying, I hope they start to understand soon!
I remember when my friend came out to me when we were 15, and I was just like “oh okay. Cool.” He didn’t appreciate it. 😂 I try to be more receptive and less apathetic if someone is genuinely coming out to me about their sexuality or gender. Just because I don’t care doesn’t mean it’s not a big deal for them.
When I came out to my mum she just said "well duh" and that was basically it 😂
These are so great! Although I am lgbtq+, it's always good to know what to say to other lgbtq+ friends to support them too :)
Brian is redeemed! Can I get an Amen! brothers and sisters? 😜
Amen!
When I was at uni and in the LGB soc (mumble mumble years ago before more letters were added as standard) the automatic reaction to anyone coming out was hearty congratulations and then a quieter "how are you doing?".
I also like a friend's standard response of "that matters as much to me as whether you like toast". Would love a time when coming out was no longer a thing....
I personally like the first one but the second one not so much. It would feel like there's no room to talk about it when it is important.
@@Alina_Schmidt I get that. But I can talk about my the deliciousness thick-cut sourdough toast with my friends - and the amazingness of my girlfriend.
I've heard things like "That can't be a real thing, I don't understand it" or simply "I don't understand it". Well, I don't understand Einstein's law of relativity, but that doesn't mean that I say it doesn't exist.
Vivien Leigh ha! i love it. "well, i don't understand gravity, so it doesn't exist." can we all magically start floating now?
Coming out as lesbian was easier then when I came out as on the Asexual spectrum I wish everyone was like this instead of asking me a thousand questions about it and not tell me that you haven't had sex how do u know you don't like it its not even about that also Jessica thanks for being a ray of sunshine and for educating people to make the world a better place
Don't despair. Accepting people are out there. I have never had sex with a man, and I know I would hate it. You have the perfect right to say the same thing about sex in general.
I love this version of Brian!! HES BACK AND BETTER THAN EVER
Congratulations on your marriage! Just because you married a man it doesn’t make your bisexuality any less valid!
I thought this was a response to Jessica being married and I was very confused for a few seconds lmao
This
if this is about you then congratulations on your marriage! you lovely bisexual person 💞
I needed to hear that. 😊 I’m pansexual but in a “straight” relationship. He used to be cool with it and supportive but now he seems threatened by it and thinks I’m going to leave him because I’ve been going “hard” on the “gay” thing. I bought a couple of gay pride things 🙄. It’s been frustrating.
Thanks
Round of applause for Brian’s personal growth from the last one 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Ily! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 You are inspirational and I just love u and Claudia and your dog's so much!!!!💖💖♥️❤️ Also I'm baby lesbian and you've helped me come out (to most people) too!
Daughter: mom and dad I like girls
Mom and dad: Oh really pumpkin well that's cool we support you and you're still our little girl no issues here.
@Louise Hayle This is what i wish my parents would have said to me when I came, I was only 13.
Proof that Jessica looks hot in EVERY style. I love her but hate her for it.
This was the conversation between me and Large last year when she flung herself out of the closet
L: I’m Gender Fluid
Me: Ok
L: aren’t you shocked
Me: Sweetheart, I’ve bought your clothes for the last 13yrs... I had a fair idea!
L: [slightly miffed] humph... I’m also Bisexual!
Me: Ok! I want a drink do you want a coke?
I am not kidding they sulked for at least 36 hours because I wasn’t worried! I had children because I wanted to raise good people and their gender / sexuality doesn’t factor into the equation!
My best friends reacted to my coming out by saying "Wait... you didn't know? Because we all knew, sweetie."
BRIAN’s NOT A DOUCHE AFTER ALL!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻! I still love Granny, I can’t help it, she is adorable 🥰! I also want to to say that the video you did about straight people being at PRIDE really helped me phrase questions to a married couple (who I care about very much) & one recently came out as Non-Binary. They have made their name similar to their birth name, but use -mi vs -mmy which made that easier, but thanks to your videos I was able to ask questions (once I had their ok) in a respectful way. Because of your collab with Ash, I learned how to ask what their preferred pronouns were instead of feeling awkward & saying something idiotic. Prior to this I’ve had Gay & Lesbian friends who kept the same pronouns, so I hadn’t needed to really think about it before! Of course, I screwed up a ton the 1st time & would slip up using 'he'/'him' & actually apologized so much that they laughed at me & said to STOP APOLOGIZING, they knew I was trying my hardest & that they even still slip-up b/c it’s new to them as well! Like you said at the end, they are still the same couple who I got to know & became friends with, but one happened to be keeping a secret due to the fear of the reaction of family & society! They haven’t changed their sense of humor, their amazing talents, their love of the earth, animals & teaching people how to protect those things, etc. They are just being their true selves publicly for the 1st time in their life...NOTHING ELSE HAS CHANGED! But I am so grateful that even though I am a straight, married woman who started watching you b/c of your chronic illness videos, that I watch ALL of your videos, to learn & educate myself!! So THANK YOU, Thank You for helping me to NOT be a big asshole douche! 🤗💜😘🐾🐾
THE CHARACTERS 😍 I LOVE THIS VIDEO SO MUCH!!!
Wow all these guys really grew as people❤️💛proud of Brian🙌
"What You SHOULD Say to an LGBTQ+ Person"
Featuring: mUlTiplE jEsSIcaS!
I'm trans ftm. I'm going back to college in September but I've think I want to go by a different name than what I have done for the past year and a half at college. I also applied for the course with the name I don't want to use anymore. I don't know what to do..
I hope you find the answer. I wish I could offer advice but I can’t. All I can say that there is a stranger (me) supporting you, cheering for you on that first day back, and hoping you find the answers. Maybe the LGBTQ+ group on campus can offer more tangible advice. If there isn’t one there should be one in the closest major city to you. If not there maybe the HRC, glaad, or the advocate have resources? Stay strong. 🌈
If there’s a member of staff you can email/contact about using a different name that can be really useful. Either one/all of your teachers or someone who can add it to your records to make it official. 💙
Call administration and ask what their politics on Trans people are. Depending on where you are in the world some of them facilitates the name change. If the administration is too scary for you, ask the LGBT+ comity at your school if they have someone who can help you/come with you to be your support
@@Kjata316 my college ain't got an equality and diversity officer let alone an lgbt+ group. And thanks mate.
I'd recommend either emailing each professor beforehand to let them know your preferred name to use in the class or showing up a bit early for every class on the first day to talk with them about it beforehand.
"I understand that polyamorous people aren't 'looking to sleep with lots of people' or 'unwilling to commit.'"
SAME
Omg I love the confused but supportive granny, "I don't know what all the letters mean, but I support it"
A former roommate of mine used to jokingly say "Liz, I can see you!" every time a "Bisexual Day of Visibility" or "Bisexual Awareness Day" came around. It was nice to know that he was comfortable joking with me and making me feel like my identity was valid and that doubting someone's bisexuality is silly.
Thanks for this! The video gave me motivation to keep on doing well in my college studies; I'm closeted, see, but most of my friends know i'm bi. I'm just scared to come out since my parents are homophobic. I'm planning to tell them once i've started living in my own home. Despite this i'm still so happy to be surrounded by such supportive friends, and a very faithful boyfriend.
Many hugs and hope it goes well when that day comes
Ah, hope it goes well for you!!
My girlfriend is trans and her name is Sarah so perfect video!
Aww I hope you find some supportive people who will love you unconditionally and that those who don't now will in the future! In the meantime lots of support! 💕
@@m_2967 Aww thank you! All the best to you to!
My family has but one rule: Dont Be a Douchebag. I need to put it on a family crest or something.
In all seriousness, though, to all of you out there who have never heard this, want to hear it, or could stand to hear it one more time: I AM SO PROUD OF YOU! I am proud of who you were that got you to this place, I'm proud of who you are at this very moment, and I will ALWAYS be proud of you. Even if I dont yet know you. You are amazing, valid, and absolutely incredible!
This feels weird because I just saw these characters literally being rude to Jessica in the other video. lol.
my favourite answer to someone coming out is "cool cool"
that's it, no need for anything else.
And you better believe that I will "adopt" any and every person in my life that doesn't get support from their family. I am your father now
i'm so proud of brian for the character development
After the niece of my boyfriend came out as transgender (boy --> female) and we met up I gave her a hand and told her 'Welcome to lgbtq+' :-) (As Im a bisexual. And my bf sister is a lesbian. Already a fun group of colors in that family)
I just had a friend today tell me "I knew you before, I knew you during, and I know you now, and you're still a great friend of mine, and I will always see you as YOU. We all have things we go through in life, it might change us, it might not. It's what makes us, us!"
"Asexual People are complete and whole just the way they are." I LOVE YOU BRUNETTE JESSICA.
I’m so grateful to the random stranger online who helped me figure out I was asexual. I was freakin out because I’m not attracted to men and I thought the only other option was lesbian (I’m a woman) but I was confused and panicking because I’m not attracted to women either! So I thought I Had to be lesinian and or there was something wrong with me. This women told me that I was describing asexuallity and I was able to then learn about it and realize hey that’s me!!! Thank you helpful internet stranger!! You could have been soo mean and unhelpful but you took the time out of your busy day to help me work out who I am!!
my BFF's have allready decided they're gonna come kidnap me so i dont have to come out to my abusive mother. gotta love friends
The bit around 2:40 where the person offers up their pin number and credit card made me laugh. If only!
I love the way you present “comedy” into your videos while addressing serious topics. My wife and I seem to get, “ Oh you are married to each other, well, good for you”. At least we know the person is trying to be supportive. 😉
Shout out to Bryan this time around
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
You have such a wonderful smile. It makes me very happy.
I’m not sure what all the letters mean but I support it
Brian has grown and learned so much since the last video. Well done mate.
2:51 "I support LGBTQ people! I'm not sure what all the letters mean, but I SUPPORT it!"
That's so lovely :D
I just want to hear my mom NOT call me into her room to talk privately and tell me that my relationship is going to fall apart and ruin my life because I'm in highschool and NOT patronizingly ask me to explain my asexuality, or tell me that unlike my LITTLE SISTER who should explore her attraction to other genders I should try to settle down with a guy just because I still want to have kids.
I'm panromantic and my sister is omnisexual but NOOOOOO I should try my best to find a MAN because if I'm not in a straight relationship I won't be as happy.
Please, if she can't come up with something nice to say can I at least not talk about it??