The Woman is often The Co-Watchman. You should consult her first because she may catch something you missed or she may notice something you haven't. Very important to choose your Women wisely.
Be transparent. As the “head of the household” it doesn’t mean “my way or the highway.” No. It means my best friend is always going to be consulted with every decision made. But as the head, I make the final call after that consultation. But it also means when that call is successful, WE succeed… not me. But if it isn’t successful, the leader takes ACCOUNTABILITY for the failure, fixes it, and moves forward.
What gives men the ability to make the "final call"? We're raised by the same mother and educated by female teachers (leaders) and women are raised to take care of households, children, community, prioritize education, etc. Where do black men learn leadership?
@@truettadevil, from working in leadership roles in different organizations: jobs, sports, community service, religious groups, summer camps, leadership forums, Future Business Leaders of America, Phi Beta Lambda, etc. Also, teachers aren't necessarily leaders. They have authority ,yes- but that's not the same as being a leader. Being a boss (person with authority) does not equal being a leader (person with a purpose that others will agree to pursue with you). Ideally, a leader is both. Responsibility matches authority. As for why men get the final say... From a religious perspective: because God/the gods said so and He/they know(s) better than we do. From a secular perspective: because the man will be blamed (read: held responsible) for the problems anyway.
@@rhysenfyneix7864 your first paragraph lists areas in which women are also leaders. I was VP and President of Future Business Leaders of America. Secondly, you didn't demonstrate how men, as a collective, God leadership positions in those areas. Black men are literally the most unemployed demographic. God was worshiped as She/Her for tens of thousands of years before the patriarchal religions made us believe the creator of life could be a He/Him. In ancient civilizations, women held prominent positions in government and were leaders of their village. Lastly, it's actual women who are blamed for everything that goes wrong. From who they chose to have a baby by, to what clothing they wore when they were assaulted. Men take no accountability for anything. Decenter Men... including Jesus.
As a leader you do have a responsibility to hear your followers to be a good leader. But you also have a responsibility when being led. We have a lot of conversations about how leaders should lead but most dont know how to be led.
Tripp!! Thank you for doing the work from the inside out and reaching back to help others by giving us the chance to make better choices and decisions in our lives.
I swear I love this dudes insight on leadership. Because so many people have the wrong idea of what leadership actually is. And it’s good to hear somebody give perspective on what it truly represents.
I agree to an extent. But in some circumstances, some decisions are time sensitive and executive decisions must be made. There needs to be an understanding that every decision cannot be consulted in the process and some choice will require trust in his decision making over time
This is his point. Where you have trust and understanding to where when this happens you got it. Like he stated lots just want power and control with no understanding.
I think the point is you need to establish that trust first. A lot of men do not establish that trust. Their thinking is they are entitled to the trust without doing any work to earn it.
I absolutely agree with this.. Always do preventative measures first.. This way you will have less problems later.. An if problems arrive later you will know how to solve them quickly and smoothly..
That's where the whole "behind every great man.." comes from. Communication. You lead better when you know what everyone's goal is. That's why you gotta pay attention to the women you lay with Another banger by Mr. NeverMiss
If yall actually consulted us we would! The problem is, yall don’t! You assume because you’re the man, we’re just supposed to follow. That’s not how reality and communication works.
@@KennNotKenMost definitely you are describing my former husband ….. It was always his way and when he started making Bad Decisions ( with our Mortgage loans) I knew I was in trouble…. I repeatedly kept telling him to talk to me about our future and our finances….
@@_Tree Unfortunately my husband was physically and mentally abusive….If any dude looked at me it was always my fault….He didn’t want to spend any of his money….And he couldn’t take “No” for an answer….
What he's saying here is just a lesson from Basic Leadership 101. It's what a good military leader is always doing. A good commander asks his sergeant from the beginning, "Here is our mission. What do I have to provide to _you_ for _us_ accomplish this mission?" He can't do that until he makes sure his sergeant actually knows what the mission is...he can't keep his sergeant in the dark. There is a fable in the military known as "Napoleon's Corporal" that is told in a couple of ways, but however it's told, it has the same moral. Napoleon would tell his generals what their mission and battle strategy was supposed to be. Then later, while they were in the war, he would go out into the field and talk to one of the corporals (the lowest rank with any authority) and ask, "Corporal, do you know our mission and battle strategy?" He expected to hear the same words he had told his generals. So, to put this back into marriage terms, if the husband has been accorded the leadership role in the marriage, he should be constantly communicating to his wife what the goal is and what his strategy is. When she tells him what she needs to accomplish that goal and strategy, he should be paying attention and providing it.
It means all parties involved in the household/relationship are consulted. Open,honest, transparent clear communication. Respect Trust. If you aren't out doing questionable things, it's highly unlikely you'd get caught
Now that's a whole word. Far too many of these men want to lead but don't have the capacity to. They feel it's beneath them to follow because they have no concept of actual leadership. Alot of them truly believe that just being a man makes them a leader but when you ask them something as simple choosing a place to eat, they're mad at the women for not knowing what she wants. Well, I want you to lead us somewhere, of your chosing, to somewhere for us to eat. In leadership terms, I'm asking you to make an executive decision. They want all the glory without the responsibility of putting in the work. That's not how leadership works. That's not how life works. You gotta put in the work.
Very good advice and if you picked correctly she will trust you enough to let you roll. There are some that you could shine a batman beam of the blueprints and have a three hour lecture and Still....loll
Heavenly Father I’m losing hope as a single mother. Both of my sons have special needs. I pray that you bless me with your love, grace, and strength, as I tirelessly care for my sons. I ask that You provide for my every need and sustain me in my daily struggles. Because Lord I’m overwhelmed struggling to pay rent each and every month struggling to buy groceries. I’m so ashamed. Lord hear my prayers.🙏🏾💕❤️
LORD IN THE MIGHTY AND ALL PROVIDING NAME OF JESUS, ANSWER YOUR DAUGHTER'S PRAYER. LORD YOUR WORD SAYS I'VE NEVER SEEN THE RIGHTEOUS FORSAKEN NOR HIS SEED BEGGING FOR BREAD. YOU ARE A GOOD, GOOD FATHER WHO LOVES TO PROVIDE FOR HIS CHILDREN.
What if she doesn't want you to ask her sometimes and just handle it because she feels like you asking her, is asking her to lead and/deal with stress that she doesn't want to deal with. But also wants you to ask her opinion on certain things before doing it to feel considered, without a clear distinction of when to ask her and not to ask her
He missed it on this one. When you ask many questions about how she wants things to be, she begins to think you don't know what to do. This is leadership. The captain communicates the destination. The crew decides if they want to get on the ship and help it get there.
It's just a gesture and nothing more. Men don't really lead the relationship, home, or family. Men are just allowed to think they are. So what he said makes sense: "Consult with her first." 😀
It is strange because we come up hearing from women that they want a man to take charge, make decisions without asking them “what do you want to eat” and they want to be able to turn their brain off. If you can translate what the difference is between what women say in one context with what they say in Tripp’s, and make it make sense to guys…you will be rich!
A lot of these “men” call themselves leaders, but they are not being led by God. A good man’s footsteps are ordered by the Lord. The only place some of these guys are leading these women is to hell!
I have no problems with what he said qualm would be some women. I view leadership roles the same way he does but alot of women don’t see it that bad think because you ask her questions and consult her then you not an effective leader. Saying stuff aren’t you supposed to know aren’t you the man ? Maybe sometimes we have effective leaders just not effective team members that are really committed to the team.
people today get married and refuse to be husband and wive there a huge difference between a husband and wife the change is so huge married couples don’t want to make the change men are motivated to give a woman needs to receive a man needs to create change women are sentive to injustice women are nurturers a man needs to to feel useful men love compliments women men want to feel useful so stop acting like you don’t need them women wants wrong with you if you feel you don’t need a man stay single e anessa
There's no point though. They object and refuse and rebel. So, no. Do what you want on your own. My plan is my bsns and I don't consult shit from nobody. Independence means...go do on your own, minus anybody. FFS
All of this supposed knowledge and "emotional maturity" and having a fu*kin answer for damn near any question, where's his wife?🤔 I need some more of these "relationship gurus" to be in long-lasting, loving MARRIAGES!! All of these single gurus that have all of this advice AREN'T MARRIED!! There's a reason for that, in my opinion. But he tickles the ear of women, so they hang on his every word. Well played bro, well played.
You must be trolling. You sound goofy and hating. Relationship or not doesn't make his points invalid. You just saying incel argument talking points that any sincere mature male advice he doing it just because he want females to like him. Right is right and wrong is wrong. Females are objects or things to be controlled pimping.
The Woman is often The Co-Watchman. You should consult her first because she may catch something you missed or she may notice something you haven't.
Very important to choose your Women wisely.
THAT’s DEEP! “ Consult her first!!!” And she won’t have to ask the ????🎉🎉🎉🎉
TRIPP U THE MAN❤
AwwwReady
Everybody wants to be in control, but few want to be a leader
So damn true….
Everybody wants to be chief, but no one wants to be Indian..
Gospel
Be transparent. As the “head of the household” it doesn’t mean “my way or the highway.” No. It means my best friend is always going to be consulted with every decision made. But as the head, I make the final call after that consultation. But it also means when that call is successful, WE succeed… not me. But if it isn’t successful, the leader takes ACCOUNTABILITY for the failure, fixes it, and moves forward.
Thank you. 🙏🏿
What gives men the ability to make the "final call"? We're raised by the same mother and educated by female teachers (leaders) and women are raised to take care of households, children, community, prioritize education, etc. Where do black men learn leadership?
Thank you
@@truettadevil, from working in leadership roles in different organizations: jobs, sports, community service, religious groups, summer camps, leadership forums, Future Business Leaders of America, Phi Beta Lambda, etc.
Also, teachers aren't necessarily leaders. They have authority ,yes- but that's not the same as being a leader. Being a boss (person with authority) does not equal being a leader (person with a purpose that others will agree to pursue with you). Ideally, a leader is both. Responsibility matches authority.
As for why men get the final say... From a religious perspective: because God/the gods said so and He/they know(s) better than we do.
From a secular perspective: because the man will be blamed (read: held responsible) for the problems anyway.
@@rhysenfyneix7864 your first paragraph lists areas in which women are also leaders. I was VP and President of Future Business Leaders of America. Secondly, you didn't demonstrate how men, as a collective, God leadership positions in those areas. Black men are literally the most unemployed demographic.
God was worshiped as She/Her for tens of thousands of years before the patriarchal religions made us believe the creator of life could be a He/Him. In ancient civilizations, women held prominent positions in government and were leaders of their village.
Lastly, it's actual women who are blamed for everything that goes wrong. From who they chose to have a baby by, to what clothing they wore when they were assaulted. Men take no accountability for anything.
Decenter Men... including Jesus.
I love this man on so many levels❤
a girl really just wants ta know what's goin' on.... tell me what the plan is and ask my opinion, THEN execute the plan 🥰
A lady who receives this from her man should be grateful cause these types are rare tbh🌹
I did that and was still cheated on and was seen as weak .
@@Tcmanolo He/she didn't deserve you too, just know that and never forget it❤
@@Paris-8So true! ❤
It could all be so simple....
Tripp, TRIPP; BOOM! Always right on point!
🌹💕All needed is “Open and Honest Conversations”!!💕🌹
I vote 🗳️ for President Tripp in 2025! 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Fully
I’m definitely voting 🔥😍😅
Communication is a key to success. Without it all is lost
MESSAGE: This man is very intelligent and full of knowledge. Thank you, my brother.
As a leader you do have a responsibility to hear your followers to be a good leader. But you also have a responsibility when being led. We have a lot of conversations about how leaders should lead but most dont know how to be led.
🎯
True
Tripp!! Thank you for doing the work from the inside out and reaching back to help others by giving us the chance to make better choices and decisions in our lives.
So True. Transparency ❤
I swear I love this dudes insight on leadership. Because so many people have the wrong idea of what leadership actually is. And it’s good to hear somebody give perspective on what it truly represents.
Tripp is my guys. That message can be applied is so many place. "WISDOM"
I agree to an extent. But in some circumstances, some decisions are time sensitive and executive decisions must be made. There needs to be an understanding that every decision cannot be consulted in the process and some choice will require trust in his decision making over time
This is his point. Where you have trust and understanding to where when this happens you got it.
Like he stated lots just want power and control with no understanding.
I think the point is you need to establish that trust first. A lot of men do not establish that trust. Their thinking is they are entitled to the trust without doing any work to earn it.
I absolutely agree with this.. Always do preventative measures first.. This way you will have less problems later.. An if problems arrive later you will know how to solve them quickly and smoothly..
That's where the whole "behind every great man.." comes from.
Communication. You lead better when you know what everyone's goal is. That's why you gotta pay attention to the women you lay with
Another banger by Mr. NeverMiss
True Tripp! Hopefully women are going to listen when we ask questions in order for the relationship to develop and evolve
If yall actually consulted us we would! The problem is, yall don’t! You assume because you’re the man, we’re just supposed to follow. That’s not how reality and communication works.
@@KennNotKenMost definitely you are describing my former husband ….. It was always his way and when he started making Bad Decisions ( with our Mortgage loans) I knew I was in trouble…. I repeatedly kept telling him to talk to me about our future and our finances….
@@susanhenderson9739 not every man is like that. Wouldn't be surprised if he was an old fashioned stubborn man
@@KennNotKen I believe in being partners, but only if each person is given the chance to
@@_Tree Unfortunately my husband was physically and mentally abusive….If any dude looked at me it was always my fault….He didn’t want to spend any of his money….And he couldn’t take “No” for an answer….
What he's saying here is just a lesson from Basic Leadership 101. It's what a good military leader is always doing. A good commander asks his sergeant from the beginning, "Here is our mission. What do I have to provide to _you_ for _us_ accomplish this mission?" He can't do that until he makes sure his sergeant actually knows what the mission is...he can't keep his sergeant in the dark. There is a fable in the military known as "Napoleon's Corporal" that is told in a couple of ways, but however it's told, it has the same moral. Napoleon would tell his generals what their mission and battle strategy was supposed to be. Then later, while they were in the war, he would go out into the field and talk to one of the corporals (the lowest rank with any authority) and ask, "Corporal, do you know our mission and battle strategy?" He expected to hear the same words he had told his generals.
So, to put this back into marriage terms, if the husband has been accorded the leadership role in the marriage, he should be constantly communicating to his wife what the goal is and what his strategy is. When she tells him what she needs to accomplish that goal and strategy, he should be paying attention and providing it.
This right here is golden! I wish more folks understood this
This is EXACTLY my perspective on marriage. Partnership in purpose: fulfillment of shared goals with specialized roles based on God-given strengths.
It means all parties involved in the household/relationship are consulted.
Open,honest, transparent clear communication.
Respect
Trust.
If you aren't out doing questionable things, it's highly unlikely you'd get caught
Now that's a whole word. Far too many of these men want to lead but don't have the capacity to. They feel it's beneath them to follow because they have no concept of actual leadership. Alot of them truly believe that just being a man makes them a leader but when you ask them something as simple choosing a place to eat, they're mad at the women for not knowing what she wants. Well, I want you to lead us somewhere, of your chosing, to somewhere for us to eat. In leadership terms, I'm asking you to make an executive decision. They want all the glory without the responsibility of putting in the work. That's not how leadership works. That's not how life works. You gotta put in the work.
Facts , you ( we are not in it alone ) I agree 100% . 👍
I love, love, love this man!!!! ❤❤❤.
The duty of a leader is to serve those who they are leading 💯💯💯💯 "M E S S A G E "
Ooooooooo Tripp you snapped on this one!! YESSIRRRR 🔥🔥🔥🔥
Thought process on point..
WHEW‼️🔥😫🙌🏽 Tripp never misses!
Preach!!! Amen
Priceless
Ohhhh soooooo true, you absolutely correct.
Mic drop!!!
Very good advice and if you picked correctly she will trust you enough to let you roll. There are some that you could shine a batman beam of the blueprints and have a three hour lecture and Still....loll
Communication and understanding, but to be of service 😮💨😮💨😮💨 they not ready for that conversation
#TRIP LET EM KNOW KEEP DROPPING THAT BEAUTIFUL KNOWLEDGE 🎯💯🔥🖤
Transparency ❤.
Heavenly Father I’m losing hope as a single mother. Both of my sons have special needs. I pray that you bless me with your love, grace, and strength, as I tirelessly care for my sons. I ask that You provide for my every need and sustain me in my daily struggles. Because Lord I’m overwhelmed struggling to pay rent each and every month struggling to buy groceries. I’m so ashamed. Lord hear my prayers.🙏🏾💕❤️
LORD IN THE MIGHTY AND ALL PROVIDING NAME OF JESUS, ANSWER YOUR DAUGHTER'S PRAYER. LORD YOUR WORD SAYS I'VE NEVER SEEN THE RIGHTEOUS FORSAKEN NOR HIS SEED BEGGING FOR BREAD. YOU ARE A GOOD, GOOD FATHER WHO LOVES TO PROVIDE FOR HIS CHILDREN.
Speak on it.
What if she doesn't want you to ask her sometimes and just handle it because she feels like you asking her, is asking her to lead and/deal with stress that she doesn't want to deal with. But also wants you to ask her opinion on certain things before doing it to feel considered, without a clear distinction of when to ask her and not to ask her
Amen 🙏🏾. Truth
So basically at this point King Tripp be the actual Messiah, fam! Fr fr
Is he single?! Damn...
A man can ask all the questions necessary and explain the process, women will still ask a million and one questions!
He missed it on this one. When you ask many questions about how she wants things to be, she begins to think you don't know what to do.
This is leadership. The captain communicates the destination. The crew decides if they want to get on the ship and help it get there.
Straight facts
It's just a gesture and nothing more. Men don't really lead the relationship, home, or family. Men are just allowed to think they are. So what he said makes sense: "Consult with her first." 😀
Amen
I just love me some Tripp 🖤
THIS IS THE MF ONEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So true
EXACTLY 💯 🎉
It's weird to me that "make plans together" needs to be said to adults who want successful relationships. People are not okay.
It is strange because we come up hearing from women that they want a man to take charge, make decisions without asking them “what do you want to eat” and they want to be able to turn their brain off.
If you can translate what the difference is between what women say in one context with what they say in Tripp’s, and make it make sense to guys…you will be rich!
Right ✅️
He's not wrong
💪🏾🖤🤴🏾💯💕
It takes a village!!
A lot of these “men” call themselves leaders, but they are not being led by God. A good man’s footsteps are ordered by the Lord. The only place some of these guys are leading these women is to hell!
Fact ❤
FACTS ++
Tripp da 🐐
I have no problems with what he said qualm would be some women. I view leadership roles the same way he does but alot of women don’t see it that bad think because you ask her questions and consult her then you not an effective leader. Saying stuff aren’t you supposed to know aren’t you the man ? Maybe sometimes we have effective leaders just not effective team members that are really committed to the team.
Real Talk Plain Simple Facts 💯 Respect The Code: Fact Amen 🚨😱🫨😲🤔🫡😍💯🥷
He started out as a solid brother. He is in full simp mode. People will always question when the struggle becomes uncomfortable, always
He's a simple because he's not pandering to the brothers.
Ok I hear you.🤔😲
@wandamajette5000 As if you had a clue. Men Don't need pandering. Women do.
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❤️🔥
That's real, What is his name?
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Triiiiiiiiiipppppppp!
people today get married and refuse to be husband and wive there a huge difference between a husband and wife the change is so huge married couples
don’t want to make the change men are motivated to give
a woman needs to receive a man needs to create change
women are sentive to injustice women are nurturers a man needs to to feel useful men love compliments
women men want to feel useful so stop acting like
you don’t need them
women wants wrong with you if you feel you don’t need a man stay single e anessa
NO, MEN ARE SUPPOSE TO CONSULT GOD 1ST
There's no point though.
They object and refuse and rebel. So, no. Do what you want on your own. My plan is my bsns and I don't consult shit from nobody. Independence means...go do on your own, minus anybody. FFS
All of this supposed knowledge and "emotional maturity" and having a fu*kin answer for damn near any question, where's his wife?🤔 I need some more of these "relationship gurus" to be in long-lasting, loving MARRIAGES!! All of these single gurus that have all of this advice AREN'T MARRIED!! There's a reason for that, in my opinion. But he tickles the ear of women, so they hang on his every word. Well played bro, well played.
He said he was non-monogamous at one point dude probably ain't even lock down or be locked down like that
Your eyes are so green. You should fix that.
You must be trolling. You sound goofy and hating. Relationship or not doesn't make his points invalid. You just saying incel argument talking points that any sincere mature male advice he doing it just because he want females to like him. Right is right and wrong is wrong. Females are objects or things to be controlled pimping.
And you'll still get questioned! 🤣 This is wishful thinking but in reality most don't wanna let men lead.
This man is the biggest panderer I’ve seen since Derrick Jackson 🤣
Bunch of BS when you're dealing with a scared modern woman.
DAMN. That's all I got. 💯🫡
Amen